A doctor in icu told me my mum, who was 93 was a waste of resources and that i should let her go. I said her written wishes are to try to live to be 100 if possible. I told the doc that he would not be the one to decide the time and date of her death. I stayed with her 24/7 excepting to go the bathroom and get food. To protect my mum, i contacted the hospital CEO and received assurance that she would in fact have every lifesaving procedure needed if she wanted it. She's now 97 and still volunteering. She makes blankets for the homeless. There are so many great docs who love my mum. Unfortunately, when it was a matter of life and death she had a really bad doc. Nobody in a health crisis should ever be treated so inhumanely in any area of medicine. On subsequent visits to the pacemaker clinic at the hospital and two unrelated visits they all treat mum Really well. The last 4 years have been a gift to her and everyone she knows. She's still safe at home with me.
Note: I recommend a well-worded kind but firm letter to the owner of the clinic. I think the feedback may help other women. The measuring of those follicles is so important for the creation of life. They have no right to deny anything that will lead to a life-giving procedure.
Thank you for sharing this. We went through a similar situation with my mom that did not have such a happy outcome. It has become even more since the whole Covid thing. Even with younger people
@@Suebearish well, this makes me cry. I know it's true and it's just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. If this ever happens again you have the right to request a patient advocate immediately who will fight for yours or your loved ones life and rights. I didn't know this until I contacted the hospital CEO. As soon as a patient advocate is called staff, including docs are all on their best behavior. I'm so, so sorry this information comes too late for your mom. Sending you big hugs and prayers.❤️
Hi both It’s no wonder people go mad especially if they insult you or make you feel small. The extra amount was for the consultant you had with your last child. I think that I would have spoken out . That was not very polite at all Alex. I really hope that you get to see someone who is more humane than her. Much love and respect from across the pond in Uk xx
@@rhianevans7189 I would have either asked for another tech or walked out immediately. We all see red when these injustices happen but it's very important to calmly and quietly state your position. When we get emotional they have the opportunity to use it against us,
I hate that any doctors office but especially OBs or Infertility Doctors would have insensitive staff. I have seen it myself and it is so frustrating! I have been with you since you adopted Callie and Kinsley was a little baby. I truly believe that your family and strength helped me stay positive when i faced Infertility myself. Thank you for being there for our community. You are amazing! 😊💖🌻
I’ve been a silent viewer. I would like to say, Alex I’m so sorry for the way you were treated. My heart sunk when I heard what she’d said. Hugs for you. That clinic needs an overhaul with staffing it seems. Love you and the Fam. You’re such beautiful people. 💖✨🌸🤍
You could teach doctors/technicians/clinics a lot about bedside manner. The psychological side is a big part of the infertility battle. I hope you find the best treatment for your family 😀
This hit home. When we started our infertility journey we went to a clinic that told us we would NEVER get pregnant unless we did IVF. We wanted to explore IUI first, but they refused. We didn’t have the 40k they quoted and we were crushed. We found a wonderful clinic that was so kind to us. We ended up doing ONE IUI and got pregnant with our first. We now have 3 kids and never did IVF. There should be specific training for clinics dealing with infertility, including excellent bedside manner. That’s the most important thing during this emotionally draining time. Thank you for always sharing your story with us. It’s been s pleasure following you all these years. ❤
I know so many people that pursued adoption while also pursuing a pregnancy via IVF or in-vitro and their family grew by two and I think your family would be so happy.
Yes I would only think that’s a bad idea If your family isn’t prepared to grow by two! But they seem to welcome the chaos and take everything in stride! It might just be what they need :) and they’ll be well on their way to the huge family she always dreamed of ❤
You can only do that through a private adoption which many states don’t allow. Adoption isnt about providing kids for families but families for kids . They can adopt an older child if they want more. Birth moms these days have so many choices. If it was me placing my baby ,I’d be asking all sorts of questions about finances , parenting style, every future plan for my child and if their adhd is even being treated . They have to prove they could do better than a birth mom and the other millions of people waiting. Why do they need to experience a baby so badly if they already have three times and once with special needs .? They realistically can’t afford to give the child more opportunities than birth mom could and they would never be picked. Especially as Alex acts more bipolar with each video, I don’t think she would pass an adoption mental Health eval today.
After the ultrasound tech comment, I would have said, "Obviously, you didn't complete your studies, because if you had, you'd realize that part of your title entails, kindness, compassion, going above & beyond to make the client feel positive, comfortable, & hopeful about what she is going through.Bad bedside manners are my pet peeve!! Wishing you all the best!
That’s good ! People like me would think of it on my way home. I did once walk out of a session with a psychiatrist and he followed me to the waiting where I proceeded to fire him loudly. He tried to tell me I couldn’t ! Just said watch me and walked out.
I'm so sorry you had to encounter such a hard situation. Sending you Love and Blessings knowing that all will be good for you Phillip. My heart and thoughts are with you. No one should ever be treated that way ever.
I know which clinic you’re referring to, I had to go there for outside monitoring as well, $100 fee and all. 🙄 Multiple doctors were just incredibly rude. I switched to TFI/Dr. Montville and girl, it is night and day. You deserve better! I’m so sorry you had to experience this.
Could you only pay part of the charge and explain to the billing person that you are not agreeing to the full amount because you only got part of the information your Dr. asked fo
Definitely not professional how you were treated. My fertility clinic charges clients $1,000 per cycle extra if they have their ultrasounds done elsewhere.
Health care is so different than the past. I can't speak for clinics, but the ED, I find pts are more rude more demanding, sense of entitlement. Reason why we leaving in droves.
I just love how y’all remain faithful and so full of hope, even in not so good times. You guys have been an inspiration to me in my daily struggles…❤️❤️
Hi Alex. I have found that there is definitely a different level of health care in the South compared to the West. I have done something I have never done before. 5 days ago, I walked out of a doctors office here in Alabama. Furious and in tears. "Gem's" are getting harder and harder to find and feeling like you have to fight tooth and nail every time you step foot in an doctor's office breaks you down. Never distrust that first instinct again. No one EVER needs to be treated like that. I am in the process of deciding whether to travel back to my Dr. or continue to try and find another here. I know it's exhausting and very frustrating.
Mississippi, Alabama, and Louisiana have the highest infant/maternal mortality rates in the country and have generally the poorest health care outcomes. My husband is battling cancer and I am very thankful that we live where there are top notch health care options.
Typically I'm just a quite bystander that has just enjoyed watching you guys originally just because your positivity and perseverance was so inspiring and cheering you on has brought me joy. Now after years of following you I've made my own little family and am finding the drive to follow in your homesteading footsteps. To get away from city living that I learned to get used to and back to the quiet of the country and find a healthier way to live for my family. Always in your corner and grateful for everything that you share.
Alex you and Phil are one amazing couple who care and are so compassionate about everything you do and you should not have been treated like that at all. God Bless you all.🙏🙏🥰🥰
I'm so happy to have found your videos again! I started watching 3-4 years ago at the start of my infertility journey, and am now 28 weeks with our miracle IVF baby! I can't believe how much your girls have grown, and your homestead looks beautiful, dug up by a pig and all 🥰
🫶🏼Absolutely love how positive you’re able to remain during this difficult time! You are a superior source for all IVF patients in search of an example to follow! Thank You for your transparency over the years…I cannot begin to tell you how you helped me cope with the aftermath of my failed IVF journey of 10+ years! 🥰 Much love to you and Phil and your adorable little girls! 😘
🌻 I’m so sorry you went through that. I used to work in healthcare as a scheduler and if I heard a patient had a bad experience I would report it and try to find them someone better even if it was a different clinic. I’m praying you find a better more kind hearted clinic/ultrasound tech!
I’m so sorry you experienced that! You are right about this world changing! I love you Alex! 🤗 Sending my love from Alabama! I have been with you a long time! I am 64 years old. Love you! 🌻🥰🌻
Alex, I am so sorry this happened to you! It’s the worst when you are in shock in the moment and then think of so many things you would have said. I was thinking that the blessing in it all is that your viewers will have the upper hand and be less shocked if they are mistreated from hearing your story and they will hopefully be able to stand up for themselves. You are such an amazing woman, I’ve admired your strength for years. 🥰🙏☀️❤️
So very grateful for you guys! I've been rewatching all of your last IVF cycle videos for tips and encouragement. Finally made it to my first IvF cycle and I remembered feeling so much more confident watching you do yours three years ago. I'm soooo very grateful for this channel and your beautiful family.
I love how you care for yourself with saying No when it doesn`t feel good to you! Love and care begins inside of me .... I am learning that more and more! To grow and offer connection for the inf. community is gorgeous and will also train the clinics. Lots of Love from Germany
I'm intrigued to hear more about what you're doing to support your health leading up to IVF. My own health journey began because of infertility. And excited to hear more about the community you're building. You are so right, the online community has changed so much in the last few years. There's still so much goodness in people, but sometimes the anger and tension is palpable
I really hope you report that tech. That is just heinous and so disrespectful. She should not be working there. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. 😢💔
❤I am going through the same with my 2nd husband whom has no children and I had my 3 daughters in 20s. I am now 38 and am praying for you and your family ALWAYS. I was so happy when you got pregnant. I know that God can do all things for us. We also did a tiny bit of homesteading but ended up giving it up for a while to save for our hopeful rainbow baby x 5 miscarriages. With God all things are possible.
Alex, I'm so sorry that happened to you. No one should be treated like that ever. I hope you find an awesome fertility clinic who will treat you well. Love you and your family 💞
❤️Alex, we were married 2 years before our 1st son was born. I'd given up and sent in papers to return to college when I, surprisingly, discovered I was pregnant. This was in the 70s before IVF, at least before I knew about it. Now, as a mother of 7, including twins, and a grandmother to 15, I watch your channel so admiring your determination and persistence. I don't think I would have had the tenacity you do. You have a beautiful family, 3 adorable girls and a kind and considerate husband. I pray you get the desire of your heart in growing your family even bigger. You and Phillip are wonderful parents. God willing, it will work out for the best. My motto is "I do my best and let God do the rest." God Bless.
I’m so sorry that you were treated like that. I have experienced so many situations especially post Covid and thought, wow how have we gotten here. People are so quick and have no patience. I’m just baffled. Love your videos and am constantly motivated from your videos. ❤
I’ve been following you since you first began IVF before the girls not knowing my experience 5 years later would be IVF 💗 Thank you for always sharing and being vulnerable.
Dear Alex, I’m so incredibly sorry you were treated so awfully. Sending you and your family so much love, and praying very much that you will find a wonderful gem of a new clinic 🙏💖
Same attitude, different pathology: I have an eating disorder and used to self-injure. Nothing worse than going to an ER and being met with, "eeeeew, why would someone do that to themselves." There are good, emotionally safe and warm practitioners out there--people who are in it for the right reasons.
I'm so sorry you experienced such shocking treatment. It never fails to astound me how some people can end up in roles they are so unsuited for. Compassion and kindness should be non-negotiable. Sending you positive energy and hoping you find a route that feels right for you 💞🌿
After my losses one piece of advice I gave friends was to remember you are the boss and the Dr and staff are your employees. You pay their salary. Also the squeaky wheel gets the oil. If you ask a question and don't feel satisfied then keep asking and insisting until you do. Yes Dr's have a great deal of knowledge but they don't know your body the way you do. 🧸🥰
I think you need to take your family to California to concentrate on the Fertility side of everything. It seems like your CA doc is the best of the the best. I will pray for you c and your entire family. 🙏
Ugh I am the same way! I feel like I don't stand up for myself because I am just such a nice person. I always think of standing up for myself after the fact. Also, my son was born with a Cleft Lip and Childrens Hospital did not take our insurance and wanted to charge us $37,000.00 to have the surgery. I realized our Healthcare system is in DESPERATE need of repair at that point. A needed surgery should not be life altering financially. We had to go out of state for my sons surgery and it took months of me researching places but he did get the best care he needed.
I am having issues with the medical profession at the moment as well. Not nearly to the calibre of infertility but I have an auto immune disease and my doctor of the last 15 years moved to another state so I now need to find another one and I didn’t realise how good I had it until now. She saw me as a person with a life that needed help not just a number that brings in the $$$. Finding a new GP has been a nightmare so my health has been neglected and I am struggling at the moment and it is your family and others like you (which not all on UA-cam are as caring and wonderful as your hopefully growing family, believe me) that are my solace and my escape. The place where I feel some peace from the constant struggle that my life has become. So thank you for still sharing your life and your beautiful family and I look forward to this community you are talking about and can’t wait to be a part of it. Good luck on your fertility journey and I will keep you in my prayers. 🐷🐮🐓❤️🙏🏻
I feel so bad that you were treated that way you guys are such beautiful people and parents that you deserve to have many more children and it's sad that some people they're only there for their paycheck and that's it they picked the wrong fields to go into keep pushing on
I need to have my first scan, I never thought I would be going down this path. Alex would you consider doing a sit down video on what to expect, to calm nerves etc from an internal ultrasound?
You are the poster child for patience, positivity, understanding, and empathy, so if this clinic riled you up this much, it's really gotta suck. How you were treated should never happen. That is simply disgusting and inexcusable. I hope you find some place that can and will work with your wonderful doctor, exactly the way it needs to be done. Much Love and many blessings.
Medicine is supposed to be about hope and healing, not pushing patients through an ever rotating door. Fifty years ago, when I went through nursing school, it was drummed into our heads how important and unique each individual patient is. How people in the medical field have changed over the years. It makes me so sad when I am made to feel like a number rather than a person with feelings and concerns. I sincerely pray you will take the time to write a letter addressing your feelings. After all, they will never learn unless someone has the courage to speak up. God be with you. 💜💜💜
Please keep doing your videos on you tube, I have followed you for years and don’t have instagram. Hope you find another clinic soon, you both deserve the best.❤😊
I have to take every negative medical experience and realize that is how I AM NOT MADE to be. But what scares me truly is how many medical diagnoses they've ignored in patients because it's easier to say "I won't do this " "they might be drug seeking" , etc. I will never forget one of the times I went to the ER and they told me they did not have a EEG machine. (I was having seizures!) When they discharged me I got to the elevator and there was a poster bragging about their state of the art equipment with a picture of someone hooked to an EEG machine, kid you not! I'm so sorry that the ultrasound tech treated you that way. They shouldn't be working on infertility patients with an attitude like that. Love you guys. 🥰
Had a thyroid issue, was told no your crazy. Now I am stuck with a permanent heart valve issue after a decade of doctors refusing to treat it. It was treated eventually thank God. I Had a diseased gallbladder, I heard oh you have an eating disorder that's why your sick to your stomach, took me years to get a doctor to diagnose me. Nearly Every female in my family had their gallbladder out, I did too, at age 14 had mine removed but not before I was put in my place by the "professionals" that know better. Ugh. I had a neck injury requiring emergency surgery, I heard oh you are a drug addict wanting drugs which is funny as after my gallbladder surgery i became sensitive and allergic to All pain meds and most antibiotics after my weeks in the hospital after I died during my first surgery. So with my neck I never once asked for any drugs, before, during or even after my neck surgery..I did not even take tylenol. I never even took ANY pain meds for any surgery or even after my cesarean sections decades before because Its not safe for me due to anaphylaxis allergic reactions, but still....I was treated as if I was STILL wanting pain meds. I had the neck surgery thankfully with a doctor who finally believed me, I was nearly paralyzed. But not before I was treated like I was lying. My list of medical malpractice issues is crazy. Be careful.....advocate for yourself...no one else will.
I trained for a minor in Standardized Patient Training which is actors interacting with physicians, doctors, and nurses in medical setting to help with their bedside manner! It’s not a widespread program yet, but it’s getting there. It was insane to me sometimes how they would speak to me, and a lot of people have anxiety or past trauma around medical situations so it can be very hard for people to find a doctor they feel comfortable around. Hopefully it will be a more popular program in the future!
Wow. I'm impressed. Never realized there was such a program. Thank you for being part of that. We've had one really bad doc but the rest have been great so if they benefitted from this type of program it's because of ppl like you.
I am older . But, I have watched your videos for years. And, know what love you spread everywhere God bless and know I support you in mind, heart and soul❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻❤️🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Alex, you are 100% correct in not going there again. Honestly, I would review and tell everyone of their lack of common courtesy so that nobody else has to endure it. I recently (yesterday) had to schedule an appointment for my niece by marriage for her first visit to the doctor in the USA. She found out she's pregnant! But she's from Brazil. She doesn't speak much English and trusted me to help bc I recently had a baby. It took several phone calls and most of the nurses (not sure if they are nurses) were nice and mostly helpful. The first intake nurse said, "thank you for helping to translate, it is much smoother this way." Kind of annoying, but ok. Then, I got to the OB scheduling nurse. Mostly everything was ok. She was annoyed that I kept asking to get in ASAP, "If she wanted to get in sooner, she should have called at 4 weeks instead of 9." Ok thanks, unhelpful. Just say sorry not possible at this time. "Well why hasn't she sought care yet?" She didn't have insurance until the 1st of March. No clinics, including this one, accept patients without insurance. Finally, I asked to make sure that I didn't have to go to be a translator (I know there is a service where they have translators attend phone calls and appointments with people who speak other languages), and I received in her perfect southern accent, "Well you better be here or she won't know what's happening to her." The amount of disdain in her voice over the fact that she doesn't speak English and I had the nerve to ask of her to use appropriate services to make sure that she got the necessary and DESERVED level of care that she is owed (and paying for) was shocking. In that moment I didn't have words and I wish now that I would have said something because who knows what she will be like to the next undeserving person who may not have an aunt to help. IF I have the opportunity to review, or speak to her, she will be told as much. I know that nobody is perfect and we all have our moments, but that was intolerant and absolutely left me feeling like she isn't safe.
Hi Alex! (And Phil & girls!) I always, ALWAYS watch to the end, of EVERY video, since way back in the California Condo! At the very start of your vlogs and the adoptions of both Kinsley and Callie. Your family vlog is in my top 5 I follow and the FIRST, I started following. Signing up for the newsletter right now! So excited! Can't wait to see what amazing things are coming down the pike,for your beautiful family. ❤❤❤
I really do miss you on ig but it makes sense that you take a step back from it regularly. I was struggling real badly emotionally and mentally at the beginning of 2021 and social media like ig played a big part in that :(
Thank you so much for sharing the real and the raw. These kinds of interactions seem to be par for the course with women's health care. Every time I go to my OB it's rough and impersonal, like you said, just a factory line where the money is all that matters. I wish there were midwives for infertility! Midwives care so much about the big and the small picture and take the time you need to feel comfortable and feel like a real HUMAN. Anyway, still hoping and praying for you to have another little one some day. 🙏
I am so sorry your interactions there were so awful. Having gone through infertility, I can't imagine being treated like that with all the emotion and hurt involved. Hugs and prayers for you! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
We love and support you. Don’t let anyone take away the joy of getting pregnant and adding to your family. You will find the right place that will share your outlook and provide endless care and support.
The problem with health care system today is that the people in it are no longer in a profession they are just going in for a job. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this person.
You have been such an example of a sweet, kind, patient wife and mother! I’m so sorry y’all are going through this! I’m a beginner homesteader and loving your vlogs!! I can’t wait for community! 💛💛
You are so correct. I had kidney cancer again this past summer. I think they were going to piss around and I had surgery 20 days from the day of the first suspicious ct scan. Which was really pushing it.
I've been following your family for years, I found you at the beginning of my infertility journey. It just floors me seeing Cassidy now because I still remember the video you posted when you and Phil found out she would be a cardiac baby and I remember the videos of her before her surgery. You would never know the rough start that she had based off where she is now. Modern medicine is incredible. Related to the ultrasound, I thought it would be standard to measure and count every follicle?! My fertility specialist counted and measured every follicle when I went through IVF. Not having that data, how would they even know what to expect for you, retrieval wise???? That clinic is bonkers.
👍 you got this you are truly an inspiration I'm on 12 years of Infertility and have not yet gotten my gift from God but I know it will come at it's time love you guys ❤️
I’m so sorry for the way you were treated. I was a nurse for 16 yrs and I always treated patients and families with kindness and respect. It hurts to be mistreated by medical personnel. I stayed to the end of your video. Thanks for sharing! 😌❤🐮🐷
Unfortunately it's not just infertility Dr's/places. It's all medical now day's. My 69 yr old was crying all day cause the dental place called and wanted more money after being told 3 times her insurance would over her at 100% and the lady laughed at my mom for being upset. Needless to say she will not be going back for any further work on her mouth. That's Not How You Treat People!! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you can find a place that accepts it. Its worth looking around. My helper was told the insurance would not cover the scan for her knee (1900kyd) but would cover the treatment 100% once diagnosed. It was cheaper for her to fly home (Jamaica) and have CT done and bring results back.
So sorry that happened. They should not do these surprise bills on people! It’s hard enough when you’re in pain. Then to get a crazy high bill! So stressful. 😢
You know a lot of people who get ultrasounds are finding out if they have life threatening diseases or may be recovering from very serious illness, cancers, all kinds of things. It's a bit narcissistic to think the infertility population are the most vulnerable. Having your 3 year old child have an ultrasound for some kind of cancer tops that I think.
You are right. Probably emotions heightened at the moment of filming, I’d agree with you completely though. There are many many more vulnerable populations getting difficult news. I know that to be very true myself.
I am so sorry that you have been treated so poorly by those that work at that clinic. That should never have happened. I hope that you are able to find a better one that will do what has been requested by your doctor soon! Infertility is such a sensitive situation and to have so many insensitive people working at an infertility clinic is unacceptable.
Not only does this apply to infertility it applies to literally any medical use case that puts families/people in situations that they need empathy. It’s one thing to have to pay a bill for sufficient care it’s a whole different story to request help and pay for that help and be downplayed. We’ve gone through it with my daughter’s allergy and skin concerns. Not to equate the two. Just to say - it is so heartbreaking when all you want is to do the right thing for your family and you’re met with no empathy and no answers 🥺. I’m so sorry Alex.
😢prayers for y’all in your journey.. I’m sorry you were treated so poorly. I pray you find a place that will treat you with respect. Love you and your family.
I keep thinking how great it would be if you could adopt a couple of siblings who desperately need a home. What a great place your homestead is to raise kids…❤
Bio or adopted, they are and will be great parents. I agree though, there ARE so many siblings out there who desperately need a home. An International adoption program like Taiwan has many young sibling pairs available to adopt. Many more adoption programs out there siblings are considered a special need due to many people not open to it due to cost Foster care adoption here in the USA has tons of siblings but it's harder to do. I have bio kids, I adopted internationally 4 times and did USA foster care for years.
My heart broke hearing what you went through. I’m sure you are not the only one and my heart broke for everyone else too. God bless you Alex for being so positive and encouraging still. ❤❤❤
How sad you were treated so horribly!!! I pray you find a caring fertility clinic that attends to your needs. There has Got to be one out there 🙏🏻 We will always love you 💖💖💖💖💖 and have your back!
❤love your honesty. God will bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing. Love your farm and gardens. My daughter has fertility issues and trying for three years and did a transfer in December and IT Worked this time. She has 1 embryo left and I can’t wait till they transfer it In acouple of years. They ended up with only 2 viable embryos. because of your u tube channel I new a lot of what she was talking about and what was to come. She is going to have a baby girl in September. I’m one excited grandma to be. Thank you again for sharing your story’s. God Bless y’all and am always praying for y’all. Love you guys. Your sister in Christ
Holy cow! I can not believe a professional in her position would ever say something like that with an attitude! Wow. I don’t have infertility issues but I’ve followed your family for years and have just fallen in love with you guys and love learning more from you as a whole.
Absolutely disgusting..that is terrible..no compassion..I would send a email to them n tell them how you were treated ..they need to told.. You are amazing love from Australia 🇦🇺
👍I can totally relate after having done 6 IVF cycles, multiple transfers and now starting my 7th IVF cycle. I’ve also have done outside monitoring and had to pay I believe close to $150 for it. It’s unfortunate but I think I struggle most with the rudeness among the staff I have encountered during the whole process. I feel like they have forgotten the process can be lonely, long and devastating for a lot of us. Kindness can mean the whole world to us at times.
I'm so sorry you had such a negative encounter. I am a retired nurse and I know there are people in the medical field that should not be there! You are such a positive person so I know you will find the right clinic and DR. I feel that maybe you should pursue the Dr that you know in CA. Many blessings to you and Phil!
We were totally blessed in finding our fertility and ivf team, i wish you were closer to us bc i would definitely recommend them 100%. I am totally heartbroken by the response you received from the sonogram person. I pray you find a dr and team that will be supportive and make you feel safe and comfortable in your journey.
I am so thankful that you are on UA-cam. I love watching you build a homestead. You are beautiful. God has surely blessed you with beautiful children as well. I hope and pray that he will provide another child for you if that is his will. God bless you ❤️
Alex u are truly incredible I wouldn’t have paid for that appointment the way u were treated is out right rude and not on at all I’m so sorry this happened to you looking forward to a new beginning with a new clinic.
wow. When its so unexpected sometimes you are caught off guard, not expecting to need to defend yourself or fight for care. Im so sorry you had that experience, but grateful really because it sent you in the right direction and gave you final clarity that they are not here to serve you, and they are not meant to be your path.
Love you girl hang in there the storm is almost over! I’m still here on the same journey and I feel your pain but it’s almost our time to shine. God bless you always and the fam looks great! I love the way your farm is turning out.
A doctor in icu told me my mum, who was 93 was a waste of resources and that i should let her go. I said her written wishes are to try to live to be 100 if possible. I told the doc that he would not be the one to decide the time and date of her death. I stayed with her 24/7 excepting to go the bathroom and get food. To protect my mum, i contacted the hospital CEO and received assurance that she would in fact have every lifesaving procedure needed if she wanted it. She's now 97 and still volunteering. She makes blankets for the homeless. There are so many great docs who love my mum. Unfortunately, when it was a matter of life and death she had a really bad doc. Nobody in a health crisis should ever be treated so inhumanely in any area of medicine. On subsequent visits to the pacemaker clinic at the hospital and two unrelated visits they all treat mum Really well. The last 4 years have been a gift to her and everyone she knows. She's still safe at home with me.
Note: I recommend a well-worded kind but firm letter to the owner of the clinic. I think the feedback may help other women. The measuring of those follicles is so important for the creation of life. They have no right to deny anything that will lead to a life-giving procedure.
Thank you for sharing this. We went through a similar situation with my mom that did not have such a happy outcome. It has become even more since the whole Covid thing. Even with younger people
@@Suebearish well, this makes me cry. I know it's true and it's just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. If this ever happens again you have the right to request a patient advocate immediately who will fight for yours or your loved ones life and rights. I didn't know this until I contacted the hospital CEO. As soon as a patient advocate is called staff, including docs are all on their best behavior. I'm so, so sorry this information comes too late for your mom. Sending you big hugs and prayers.❤️
Hi both
It’s no wonder people go mad especially if they insult you or make you feel small. The extra amount was for the consultant you had with your last child. I think that I would have spoken out . That was not very polite at all Alex. I really hope that you get to see someone who is more humane than her. Much love and respect from across the pond in Uk xx
@@rhianevans7189 I would have either asked for another tech or walked out immediately. We all see red when these injustices happen but it's very important to calmly and quietly state your position. When we get emotional they have the opportunity to use it against us,
I hate that any doctors office but especially OBs or Infertility Doctors would have insensitive staff. I have seen it myself and it is so frustrating! I have been with you since you adopted Callie and Kinsley was a little baby. I truly believe that your family and strength helped me stay positive when i faced Infertility myself. Thank you for being there for our community. You are amazing! 😊💖🌻
I’ve been a silent viewer. I would like to say, Alex I’m so sorry for the way you were treated. My heart sunk when I heard what she’d said. Hugs for you. That clinic needs an overhaul with staffing it seems. Love you and the Fam. You’re such beautiful people. 💖✨🌸🤍
Act do not react.
You could teach doctors/technicians/clinics a lot about bedside manner. The psychological side is a big part of the infertility battle. I hope you find the best treatment for your family 😀
This hit home. When we started our infertility journey we went to a clinic that told us we would NEVER get pregnant unless we did IVF. We wanted to explore IUI first, but they refused. We didn’t have the 40k they quoted and we were crushed. We found a wonderful clinic that was so kind to us. We ended up doing ONE IUI and got pregnant with our first. We now have 3 kids and never did IVF. There should be specific training for clinics dealing with infertility, including excellent bedside manner. That’s the most important thing during this emotionally draining time. Thank you for always sharing your story with us. It’s been s pleasure following you all these years. ❤
Wow. Just wow 😳
Good for you that you listened to your instincts.
I know so many people that pursued adoption while also pursuing a pregnancy via IVF or in-vitro and their family grew by two and I think your family would be so happy.
Yes I would only think that’s a bad idea If your family isn’t prepared to grow by two! But they seem to welcome the chaos and take everything in stride! It might just be what they need :) and they’ll be well on their way to the huge family she always dreamed of ❤
Actually a lot of adoption agencies ask you to go on hold if you are pursuing infertility treatments or get pregnant naturally.
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You can only do that through a private adoption which many states don’t allow. Adoption isnt about providing kids for families but families for kids . They can adopt an older child if they want more. Birth moms these days have so many choices. If it was me placing my baby ,I’d be asking all sorts of questions about finances , parenting style, every future plan for my child and if their adhd is even being treated . They have to prove they could do better than a birth mom and the other millions of people waiting. Why do they need to experience a baby so badly if they already have three times and once with special needs .? They realistically can’t afford to give the child more opportunities than birth mom could and they would never be picked. Especially as Alex acts more bipolar with each video, I don’t think she would pass an adoption mental Health eval today.
@@Speedyskull15 That was a very ugly response. If you don't like them, don't watch. But don't judge someone you have never met.
After the ultrasound tech comment, I would have said, "Obviously, you didn't complete your studies, because if you had, you'd realize that part of your title entails, kindness, compassion, going above & beyond to make the client feel positive, comfortable, & hopeful about what she is going through.Bad bedside manners are my pet peeve!! Wishing you all the best!
That’s good ! People like me would think of it on my way home. I did once walk out of a session with a psychiatrist and he followed me to the waiting where I proceeded to fire him loudly. He tried to tell me I couldn’t ! Just said watch me and walked out.
I'm so sorry you had to encounter such a hard situation. Sending you Love and Blessings knowing that all will be good for you Phillip. My heart and thoughts are with you. No one should ever be treated that way ever.
I cannot love this family enough! So very inspirational!❤️ Thank you Phil and Alex!!
I know which clinic you’re referring to, I had to go there for outside monitoring as well, $100 fee and all. 🙄 Multiple doctors were just incredibly rude. I switched to TFI/Dr. Montville and girl, it is night and day. You deserve better! I’m so sorry you had to experience this.
Hopefully she can switch to this one
Could you only pay part of the charge and explain to the billing person that you are not agreeing to the full amount because you only got part of the information your Dr. asked fo
TFI/Dr. Montville
Which one is she referring to so we can avoid?
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Healthcare in general has just gotten so rude over the last year. Staff at just about every office are so rude and uncaring. It is disgusting.
Definitely not professional how you were treated.
My fertility clinic charges clients $1,000 per cycle extra if they have their ultrasounds done elsewhere.
That’s because a lot of the staff are treated HORRIBLY and they’re burnt out
Health care is so different than the past. I can't speak for clinics, but the ED, I find pts are more rude more demanding, sense of entitlement. Reason why we leaving in droves.
@@jmonta21 Very good point!
@@jmonta21 that’s a reason, not an excuse. I didn’t make you be in that profession lol I’m just trying to get some dang care.
I just love how y’all remain faithful and so full of hope, even in not so good times. You guys have been an inspiration to me in my daily struggles…❤️❤️
Hi Alex. I have found that there is definitely a different level of health care in the South compared to the West. I have done something I have never done before. 5 days ago, I walked out of a doctors office here in Alabama. Furious and in tears. "Gem's" are getting harder and harder to find and feeling like you have to fight tooth and nail every time you step foot in an doctor's office breaks you down. Never distrust that first instinct again. No one EVER needs to be treated like that. I am in the process of deciding whether to travel back to my Dr. or continue to try and find another here. I know it's exhausting and very frustrating.
Mississippi, Alabama, and Louisiana have the highest infant/maternal mortality rates in the country and have generally the poorest health care outcomes. My husband is battling cancer and I am very thankful that we live where there are top notch health care options.
Typically I'm just a quite bystander that has just enjoyed watching you guys originally just because your positivity and perseverance was so inspiring and cheering you on has brought me joy. Now after years of following you I've made my own little family and am finding the drive to follow in your homesteading footsteps. To get away from city living that I learned to get used to and back to the quiet of the country and find a healthier way to live for my family. Always in your corner and grateful for everything that you share.
Hopefully this incident will be a blessing in disguise and be the nudge out the door you needed. I’m praying you will find the perfect clinic ❤
Alex you and Phil are one amazing couple who care and are so compassionate about everything you do and you should not have been treated like that at all. God Bless you all.🙏🙏🥰🥰
I'm so happy to have found your videos again! I started watching 3-4 years ago at the start of my infertility journey, and am now 28 weeks with our miracle IVF baby! I can't believe how much your girls have grown, and your homestead looks beautiful, dug up by a pig and all 🥰
Oh my stars!! Congratulations! Oh that’s so exciting! Yay I’m so happy you’re here!!
🫶🏼Absolutely love how positive you’re able to remain during this difficult time! You are a superior source for all IVF patients in search of an example to follow! Thank You for your transparency over the years…I cannot begin to tell you how you helped me cope with the aftermath of my failed IVF journey of 10+ years! 🥰 Much love to you and Phil and your adorable little girls! 😘
🌻 I’m so sorry you went through that. I used to work in healthcare as a scheduler and if I heard a patient had a bad experience I would report it and try to find them someone better even if it was a different clinic. I’m praying you find a better more kind hearted clinic/ultrasound tech!
I’m so sorry you experienced that! You are right about this world changing! I love you Alex! 🤗 Sending my love from Alabama! I have been with you a long time! I am 64 years old. Love you! 🌻🥰🌻
Alex, I am so sorry this happened to you! It’s the worst when you are in shock in the moment and then think of so many things you would have said. I was thinking that the blessing in it all is that your viewers will have the upper hand and be less shocked if they are mistreated from hearing your story and they will hopefully be able to stand up for themselves. You are such an amazing woman, I’ve admired your strength for years. 🥰🙏☀️❤️
Alex I love your heart of compassion, determination to help make a difference and your grit !
So very grateful for you guys! I've been rewatching all of your last IVF cycle videos for tips and encouragement. Finally made it to my first IvF cycle and I remembered feeling so much more confident watching you do yours three years ago. I'm soooo very grateful for this channel and your beautiful family.
I love how you care for yourself with saying No when it doesn`t feel good to you! Love and care begins inside of me .... I am learning that more and more! To grow and offer connection for the inf. community is gorgeous and will also train the clinics. Lots of Love from Germany
I'm intrigued to hear more about what you're doing to support your health leading up to IVF. My own health journey began because of infertility. And excited to hear more about the community you're building. You are so right, the online community has changed so much in the last few years. There's still so much goodness in people, but sometimes the anger and tension is palpable
I really hope you report that tech. That is just heinous and so disrespectful. She should not be working there. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. 😢💔
❤I am going through the same with my 2nd husband whom has no children and I had my 3 daughters in 20s. I am now 38 and am praying for you and your family ALWAYS. I was so happy when you got pregnant. I know that God can do all things for us. We also did a tiny bit of homesteading but ended up giving it up for a while to save for our hopeful rainbow baby x 5 miscarriages. With God all things are possible.
Alex, I'm so sorry that happened to you. No one should be treated like that ever. I hope you find an awesome fertility clinic who will treat you well. Love you and your family 💞
❤️Alex, we were married 2 years before our 1st son was born. I'd given up and sent in papers to return to college when I, surprisingly, discovered I was pregnant. This was in the 70s before IVF, at least before I knew about it. Now, as a mother of 7, including twins, and a grandmother to 15, I watch your channel so admiring your determination and persistence. I don't think I would have had the tenacity you do. You have a beautiful family, 3 adorable girls and a kind and considerate husband. I pray you get the desire of your heart in growing your family even bigger. You and Phillip are wonderful parents. God willing, it will work out for the best. My motto is "I do my best and let God do the rest." God Bless.
😊😊😊 I’m still here! Praying you find a good center to help you in the way your doctor wants things done!
I’m so sorry that you were treated like that. I have experienced so many situations especially post Covid and thought, wow how have we gotten here. People are so quick and have no patience. I’m just baffled. Love your videos and am constantly motivated from your videos. ❤
So sorry you had a bad experience! You deserve better! Hang in there and know your not alone in this struggle 🙏🏼❤️
I’ve been following you since you first began IVF before the girls not knowing my experience 5 years later would be IVF 💗 Thank you for always sharing and being vulnerable.
Dear Alex, I’m so incredibly sorry you were treated so awfully. Sending you and your family so much love, and praying very much that you will find a wonderful gem of a new clinic 🙏💖
Same attitude, different pathology: I have an eating disorder and used to self-injure. Nothing worse than going to an ER and being met with, "eeeeew, why would someone do that to themselves." There are good, emotionally safe and warm practitioners out there--people who are in it for the right reasons.
I'm so sorry you experienced such shocking treatment. It never fails to astound me how some people can end up in roles they are so unsuited for. Compassion and kindness should be non-negotiable. Sending you positive energy and hoping you find a route that feels right for you 💞🌿
After my losses one piece of advice I gave friends was to remember you are the boss and the Dr and staff are your employees. You pay their salary. Also the squeaky wheel gets the oil. If you ask a question and don't feel satisfied then keep asking and insisting until you do. Yes Dr's have a great deal of knowledge but they don't know your body the way you do. 🧸🥰
I’ve never thought of it like this. But your like 100% true.
I think you need to take your family to California to concentrate on the Fertility side of everything. It seems like your CA doc is the best of the the best. I will pray for you c and your entire family. 🙏
Ugh I am the same way! I feel like I don't stand up for myself because I am just such a nice person. I always think of standing up for myself after the fact. Also, my son was born with a Cleft Lip and Childrens Hospital did not take our insurance and wanted to charge us $37,000.00 to have the surgery. I realized our Healthcare system is in DESPERATE need of repair at that point. A needed surgery should not be life altering financially. We had to go out of state for my sons surgery and it took months of me researching places but he did get the best care he needed.
I am having issues with the medical profession at the moment as well. Not nearly to the calibre of infertility but I have an auto immune disease and my doctor of the last 15 years moved to another state so I now need to find another one and I didn’t realise how good I had it until now. She saw me as a person with a life that needed help not just a number that brings in the $$$. Finding a new GP has been a nightmare so my health has been neglected and I am struggling at the moment and it is your family and others like you (which not all on UA-cam are as caring and wonderful as your hopefully growing family, believe me) that are my solace and my escape. The place where I feel some peace from the constant struggle that my life has become. So thank you for still sharing your life and your beautiful family and I look forward to this community you are talking about and can’t wait to be a part of it. Good luck on your fertility journey and I will keep you in my prayers. 🐷🐮🐓❤️🙏🏻
I feel so bad that you were treated that way you guys are such beautiful people and parents that you deserve to have many more children and it's sad that some people they're only there for their paycheck and that's it they picked the wrong fields to go into keep pushing on
I would of been so angry with that woman talking to me like that. Your so strong. Take care. xx
I need to have my first scan, I never thought I would be going down this path. Alex would you consider doing a sit down video on what to expect, to calm nerves etc from an internal ultrasound?
❤️❤️❤️ stayed to the end! Can't wait to see what the future holds for you!
You are the poster child for patience, positivity, understanding, and empathy, so if this clinic riled you up this much, it's really gotta suck. How you were treated should never happen. That is simply disgusting and inexcusable. I hope you find some place that can and will work with your wonderful doctor, exactly the way it needs to be done. Much Love and many blessings.
Yes 100%
but this clinic will be still running and treating other woman like this. if they are not stop by someone
Medicine is supposed to be about hope and healing, not pushing patients through an ever rotating door. Fifty years ago, when I went through nursing school, it was drummed into our heads how important and unique each individual patient is. How people in the medical field have changed over the years. It makes me so sad when I am made to feel like a number rather than a person with feelings and concerns. I sincerely pray you will take the time to write a letter addressing your feelings. After all, they will never learn unless someone has the courage to speak up. God be with you. 💜💜💜
Please keep doing your videos on you tube, I have followed you for years and don’t have instagram. Hope you find another clinic soon, you both deserve the best.❤😊
I have to take every negative medical experience and realize that is how I AM NOT MADE to be. But what scares me truly is how many medical diagnoses they've ignored in patients because it's easier to say "I won't do this " "they might be drug seeking" , etc. I will never forget one of the times I went to the ER and they told me they did not have a EEG machine. (I was having seizures!) When they discharged me I got to the elevator and there was a poster bragging about their state of the art equipment with a picture of someone hooked to an EEG machine, kid you not! I'm so sorry that the ultrasound tech treated you that way. They shouldn't be working on infertility patients with an attitude like that. Love you guys. 🥰
Had a thyroid issue, was told no your crazy. Now I am stuck with a permanent heart valve issue after a decade of doctors refusing to treat it. It was treated eventually thank God.
I Had a diseased gallbladder, I heard oh you have an eating disorder that's why your sick to your stomach, took me years to get a doctor to diagnose me. Nearly Every female in my family had their gallbladder out, I did too, at age 14 had mine removed but not before I was put in my place by the "professionals" that know better. Ugh.
I had a neck injury requiring emergency surgery, I heard oh you are a drug addict wanting drugs which is funny as after my gallbladder surgery i became sensitive and allergic to All pain meds and most antibiotics after my weeks in the hospital after I died during my first surgery. So with my neck I never once asked for any drugs, before, during or even after my neck surgery..I did not even take tylenol. I never even took ANY pain meds for any surgery or even after my cesarean sections decades before because Its not safe for me due to anaphylaxis allergic reactions, but still....I was treated as if I was STILL wanting pain meds. I had the neck surgery thankfully with a doctor who finally believed me, I was nearly paralyzed. But not before I was treated like I was lying.
My list of medical malpractice issues is crazy. Be careful.....advocate for yourself...no one else will.
Dr. Hill and staff at Nashville Fertility Center were wonderful to us.
I trained for a minor in Standardized Patient Training which is actors interacting with physicians, doctors, and nurses in medical setting to help with their bedside manner! It’s not a widespread program yet, but it’s getting there. It was insane to me sometimes how they would speak to me, and a lot of people have anxiety or past trauma around medical situations so it can be very hard for people to find a doctor they feel comfortable around. Hopefully it will be a more popular program in the future!
Wow. I'm impressed. Never realized there was such a program. Thank you for being part of that. We've had one really bad doc but the rest have been great so if they benefitted from this type of program it's because of ppl like you.
I am older . But, I have watched your videos for years. And, know what love you spread everywhere
God bless and know I support you in mind, heart and soul❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻❤️🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Alex, you are 100% correct in not going there again. Honestly, I would review and tell everyone of their lack of common courtesy so that nobody else has to endure it. I recently (yesterday) had to schedule an appointment for my niece by marriage for her first visit to the doctor in the USA. She found out she's pregnant! But she's from Brazil. She doesn't speak much English and trusted me to help bc I recently had a baby. It took several phone calls and most of the nurses (not sure if they are nurses) were nice and mostly helpful. The first intake nurse said, "thank you for helping to translate, it is much smoother this way." Kind of annoying, but ok. Then, I got to the OB scheduling nurse. Mostly everything was ok. She was annoyed that I kept asking to get in ASAP, "If she wanted to get in sooner, she should have called at 4 weeks instead of 9." Ok thanks, unhelpful. Just say sorry not possible at this time. "Well why hasn't she sought care yet?" She didn't have insurance until the 1st of March. No clinics, including this one, accept patients without insurance. Finally, I asked to make sure that I didn't have to go to be a translator (I know there is a service where they have translators attend phone calls and appointments with people who speak other languages), and I received in her perfect southern accent, "Well you better be here or she won't know what's happening to her." The amount of disdain in her voice over the fact that she doesn't speak English and I had the nerve to ask of her to use appropriate services to make sure that she got the necessary and DESERVED level of care that she is owed (and paying for) was shocking. In that moment I didn't have words and I wish now that I would have said something because who knows what she will be like to the next undeserving person who may not have an aunt to help. IF I have the opportunity to review, or speak to her, she will be told as much. I know that nobody is perfect and we all have our moments, but that was intolerant and absolutely left me feeling like she isn't safe.
I'm so sorry that you're going through all this I hope you are able to find a loving caring compassionate clinic. With you till the and best wishes.
Hi Alex! (And Phil & girls!)
I always, ALWAYS watch to the end, of EVERY video, since way back in the California Condo! At the very start of your vlogs and the adoptions of both Kinsley and Callie. Your family vlog is in my top 5 I follow and the FIRST, I started following. Signing up for the newsletter right now! So excited! Can't wait to see what amazing things are coming down the pike,for your beautiful family. ❤❤❤
I really do miss you on ig but it makes sense that you take a step back from it regularly. I was struggling real badly emotionally and mentally at the beginning of 2021 and social media like ig played a big part in that :(
Thank you so much for sharing the real and the raw. These kinds of interactions seem to be par for the course with women's health care. Every time I go to my OB it's rough and impersonal, like you said, just a factory line where the money is all that matters. I wish there were midwives for infertility! Midwives care so much about the big and the small picture and take the time you need to feel comfortable and feel like a real HUMAN. Anyway, still hoping and praying for you to have another little one some day. 🙏
I am so sorry your interactions there were so awful. Having gone through infertility, I can't imagine being treated like that with all the emotion and hurt involved. Hugs and prayers for you! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
It seems like the $100 is kind of like a punishment for not using their doctor. 🦉
That’s what I thought. An ego penalty. 😢
I thought the exact same😢
We love and support you. Don’t let anyone take away the joy of getting pregnant and adding to your family. You will find the right place that will share your outlook and provide endless care and support.
The problem with health care system today is that the people in it are no longer in a profession they are just going in for a job. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this person.
You have been such an example of a sweet, kind, patient wife and mother! I’m so sorry y’all are going through this!
I’m a beginner homesteader and loving your vlogs!! I can’t wait for community! 💛💛
I had a kidney transplant a bit over a year ago and I now see our medical system differently. If you can't fight for yourself you will get lost!!!
You are so correct. I had kidney cancer again this past summer. I think they were going to piss around and I had surgery 20 days from the day of the first suspicious ct scan. Which was really pushing it.
I’m so sorry for the inconsiderate rude actions of others in such a hard trial. You’re inspiring!! 💓
I've been following your family for years, I found you at the beginning of my infertility journey. It just floors me seeing Cassidy now because I still remember the video you posted when you and Phil found out she would be a cardiac baby and I remember the videos of her before her surgery. You would never know the rough start that she had based off where she is now. Modern medicine is incredible.
Related to the ultrasound, I thought it would be standard to measure and count every follicle?! My fertility specialist counted and measured every follicle when I went through IVF. Not having that data, how would they even know what to expect for you, retrieval wise???? That clinic is bonkers.
Me too. When I did IVF 20 years ago, they counted and measured all of mine
👍 you got this you are truly an inspiration I'm on 12 years of Infertility and have not yet gotten my gift from God but I know it will come at it's time love you guys ❤️
Love you Alex ❤ stay strong ! I have four babies but I’d love to adopt in the future too
I’m so sorry for the way you were treated. I was a nurse for 16 yrs and I always treated patients and families with kindness and respect. It hurts to be mistreated by medical personnel. I stayed to the end of your video. Thanks for sharing! 😌❤🐮🐷
Unfortunately it's not just infertility Dr's/places. It's all medical now day's. My 69 yr old was crying all day cause the dental place called and wanted more money after being told 3 times her insurance would over her at 100% and the lady laughed at my mom for being upset. Needless to say she will not be going back for any further work on her mouth. That's Not How You Treat People!! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you can find a place that accepts it. Its worth looking around. My helper was told the insurance would not cover the scan for her knee (1900kyd) but would cover the treatment 100% once diagnosed. It was cheaper for her to fly home (Jamaica) and have CT done and bring results back.
So sorry that happened. They should not do these surprise bills on people! It’s hard enough when you’re in pain. Then to get a crazy high bill! So stressful. 😢
I am not part of the infertility group, but I have been with your family for almost 6 years now. I love your family.
Can you drive your whole family to California in your truck, Rent an rv in an rv park or be with family and stay until youve had treatment?
I´ve been part of this community for sooo many years and I´ll always be....love you guys ❤
You know a lot of people who get ultrasounds are finding out if they have life threatening diseases or may be recovering from very serious illness, cancers, all kinds of things. It's a bit narcissistic to think the infertility population are the most vulnerable. Having your 3 year old child have an ultrasound for some kind of cancer tops that I think.
You are right. Probably emotions heightened at the moment of filming, I’d agree with you completely though. There are many many more vulnerable populations getting difficult news. I know that to be very true myself.
💕much love to you and your family!!! No one should be treated that way…ever
More reason to go to your California clinic
I am so sorry that you have been treated so poorly by those that work at that clinic. That should never have happened. I hope that you are able to find a better one that will do what has been requested by your doctor soon!
Infertility is such a sensitive situation and to have so many insensitive people working at an infertility clinic is unacceptable.
Not only does this apply to infertility it applies to literally any medical use case that puts families/people in situations that they need empathy. It’s one thing to have to pay a bill for sufficient care it’s a whole different story to request help and pay for that help and be downplayed. We’ve gone through it with my daughter’s allergy and skin concerns. Not to equate the two. Just to say - it is so heartbreaking when all you want is to do the right thing for your family and you’re met with no empathy and no answers 🥺. I’m so sorry Alex.
I agree. This is a problem for sick dying people. Bills so unnecessary for people who it could be life or death
I agree. This is a problem for sick dying people. Bills so unnecessary for people who it could be life or death
😢prayers for y’all in your journey.. I’m sorry you were treated so poorly. I pray you find a place that will treat you with respect. Love you and your family.
I keep thinking how great it would be if you could adopt a couple of siblings who desperately need a home. What a great place your homestead is to raise kids…❤
Exactly why spend so much money on treatments when she could use that money to raise another kid in need
@@belenphillips9276 because that is what she wants. That's what her heart is telling her.
Bio or adopted, they are and will be great parents. I agree though, there ARE so many siblings out there who desperately need a home. An International adoption program like Taiwan has many young sibling pairs available to adopt. Many more adoption programs out there siblings are considered a special need due to many people not open to it due to cost Foster care adoption here in the USA has tons of siblings but it's harder to do. I have bio kids, I adopted internationally 4 times and did USA foster care for years.
Alex, I’m so sorry you had a terrible horrific experience at that clinic. Praying for you to find a clinic you love!
Please file a grievance at that fertility center. Get your money back
My heart broke hearing what you went through. I’m sure you are not the only one and my heart broke for everyone else too. God bless you Alex for being so positive and encouraging still. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your journey as raw as it is. You are helping so many others. With this world changing a community is needed now more than ever!
How sad you were treated so horribly!!! I pray you find a caring fertility clinic that attends to your needs. There has Got to be one out there 🙏🏻
We will always love you 💖💖💖💖💖 and have your back!
❤love your honesty. God will bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing. Love your farm and gardens. My daughter has fertility issues and trying for three years and did a transfer in December and IT Worked this time. She has 1 embryo left and I can’t wait till they transfer it In acouple of years. They ended up with only 2 viable embryos. because of your u tube channel I new a lot of what she was talking about and what was to come. She is going to have a baby girl in September. I’m one excited grandma to be. Thank you again for sharing your story’s. God Bless y’all and am always praying for y’all. Love you guys. Your sister in Christ
Holy cow! I can not believe a professional in her position would ever say something like that with an attitude! Wow.
I don’t have infertility issues but I’ve followed your family for years and have just fallen in love with you guys and love learning more from you as a whole.
I just love your family. Praying for you to find the right place to grow your family.
I am so sorry this happened to you ❤️. I met you one time in Target and you were the sweetest person ever!
Praying for you still as you are on this journey. I pray God leads you to the best place for your specific needs friend. ❤
🌺 I hate that you had to deal with someone so uncaring at that clinic! You deserve so much better
Absolutely disgusting..that is terrible..no compassion..I would send a email to them n tell them how you were treated ..they need to told..
You are amazing love from Australia 🇦🇺
👍I can totally relate after having done 6 IVF cycles, multiple transfers and now starting my 7th IVF cycle. I’ve also have done outside monitoring and had to pay I believe close to $150 for it. It’s unfortunate but I think I struggle most with the rudeness among the staff I have encountered during the whole process. I feel like they have forgotten the process can be lonely, long and devastating for a lot of us. Kindness can mean the whole world to us at times.
I'm so sorry you had such a negative encounter. I am a retired nurse and I know there are people in the medical field that should not be there! You are such a positive person so I know you will find the right clinic and DR. I feel that maybe you should pursue the Dr that you know in CA. Many blessings to you and Phil!
We were totally blessed in finding our fertility and ivf team, i wish you were closer to us bc i would definitely recommend them 100%. I am totally heartbroken by the response you received from the sonogram person. I pray you find a dr and team that will be supportive and make you feel safe and comfortable in your journey.
I am so thankful that you are on UA-cam. I love watching you build a homestead. You are beautiful. God has surely blessed you with beautiful children as well. I hope and pray that he will provide another child for you if that is his will. God bless you ❤️
Alex u are truly incredible I wouldn’t have paid for that appointment the way u were treated is out right rude and not on at all I’m so sorry this happened to you looking forward to a new beginning with a new clinic.
wow. When its so unexpected sometimes you are caught off guard, not expecting to need to defend yourself or fight for care. Im so sorry you had that experience, but grateful really because it sent you in the right direction and gave you final clarity that they are not here to serve you, and they are not meant to be your path.
🌼 Healthcare has really changed the past few years. It's unfortunate that the clinic treated you like that. Praying for you!
Love you girl hang in there the storm is almost over! I’m still here on the same journey and I feel your pain but it’s almost our time to shine. God bless you always and the fam looks great! I love the way your farm is turning out.
I'm sorry that was said to you Alex. My heart feels for you. Sending love your way❤️
I luv ur CA Dr. Fly back and forth. U don’t have to take rude and hurtful medical professionals. I’m with you.
stay strong, stand up for yourself, keep searching and build your community. i am here for you. i love your spirit.