I CAN'T HELP BUT FEEL EMBARRASSED...
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- Infertility is an unfair journey so many of us walk through. But there are some days where it just feels straight up embarrassing.
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Hi! We are Phil and Alex! After leaving California in an RV, traveling full time, and helping our littlest with an open heart surgery, we've settled down in Tennessee. We found our homestead land and are learning each day how to live a more sustainable life. We are a family grown through the miracle of Adoption & Infertility Treatments. Our precious daughters are Kinsley Grace (7 years old), Callie Jo (6 years old), and Cassidy Drew (2). Our passion is to encourage families through infertility, adoption and building stronger healthier families. Thank you for tuning in! We hope you are encouraged!
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Baby girl. That "embarrassment " is just proof that you still BELIEVE that all things are possible.... You are strong, you are good, do not feel embarrassed. All things are possible. 💚
I could not agree more & there are too many that have changed, worked etc it is not impossible as long as there is a God :)
Praying you get a miracle. It will happen! God Bless your beautiful family.
Amen! Never forget that with HIM all things are possible Alex! Never stop believing in miracles!!
Amen!! 💗🙏
Beautifully said! 🙌🏻
Alex, please don't be embarrassed. You've been hoping for something for years, and when you get even a glimpse of success it's hard not to get excited. We all love you guys and are praying for you. Your journey is so much encouragement for all of us going through the same storm. We'll cry with you!!
She has a natural child and two adopted kids. She has a nice husband and home. She needs to stop whining and move on
@@kaypowell407 or maybe you could stop whining and move on to another channel and stop trolling 🤷🏻♀️
@@kaypowell407 Wow. You would benefit from watching their videos. It's about so much more than that. I'm sorry you see things that way.
@@kaypowell407 agree 100%. You’re right
Just found out my mom has had her lung cancer come back. Quickly. Six months ago clear CT scan. If anyone can pray for her. For me.
Praying
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My husband’s came back too but caught it early. He is now 6 years in remission. Never lose hope. Plus they have made great strides with lung cancer treatments. Keep the faith. 💗
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16:33 I recognize this so much... you are not alone, Alex, and you make me feel not alone ❤️
I'm so sorry Alex! I will never understand why some of the best people in life can't easily have children, yet some of the worst monsters in the world can. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
I know you might feel embarrassed but you shouldn’t ❤ you’re a human with hopes and desires! Whether you’ve taken 1 test or a million, even little glimpses of hope are never something to be embarrassed about.
😭 gosh Alex you are so beautiful. You are such a lovely example of walking through the darkest days of infertility. Thank you for letting us into such a vulnerable moment and the rest of your day when you didn’t want to vlog. I cried watching you and listening to you describe how you felt as I could resonate so much with it. Thank you for being you 💛
Thank you , Alex, for being transparent and real. I'm sorry that you feel embarrassed but you are loved by your online family and most importantly God 💜
I’ve been in that situation so many times I know how it feels. I know the embarrassment you feel in yourself even when your not telling a soul. Thank you for openly reminding us we aren’t alone 😢
Infertility is the walk between hope and tempering hope. We walk that line every day of every cycle. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. I have been in this position way too many times and you have nothing to be embarrassed about it.
Don't be embarrassed. The amount of times I took pregnancy test and thought it had two lines only to find out I wasn't pregnant. Take time to rest and don't be so hard on yourself. Sending prayers
All infertility couples know that squinting and changing light to see if maaaaaybe..... The name you should call yourself is hopeful and faithful even when you want to throw in the towel because no matter how many times we squint... There's always that back of your mind hope.... And real, authentic, and honest... Which we really really appreciate. Hope is never foolish. You are loved!
Alex, I don't often comment, but this time I will because I want to offer comfort as much as I can. I'm an old lady now, but I remember and I put my arms around my daughter that I'm glad I had, because if I hadn't had her, I would have no children. I feel for you and I'm hopeful that you can stop being embarrassed. You are Alex and you are worthy of being loved.
Do not feel embarrassed! You being hopeful and sharing it with us, after all you have been through, gives SO MANY PEOPLE the reassurance that it is okay to have hope...even if the outcome is disappointing. There is absolutely NOTHING embarrassing about being hopeful and never losing that hope despite years of infertility! Hang in there. Sending prayers, baby dust, and all of the hope in the world to you from Ohio! ❤️❤️❤️
No embarrassment needed. But having a similar experience over a different matter I know there is a difference between what our hearts and brains feel. What’s so odd is, at 30 years old after having been told I could never have children and the day before a radiation test for my thyroid I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t believe it. Couldn’t believe it. My Dr told me that medicine cannot explain a God thing. I pray for peace for you. I have been blessed despite the science with God’s miraculous gift of motherhood and have two kind beautiful daughters. Even 15 and 18 years later I’m still in awe. It’s ok to share. So many people need to see this and know that it is normal and ok.
Good Lord! Never, never, never feel embarrassed over something like this. You are a human with hopes and fears and anxieties as are we all. My heart leapt into my throat for you, even though, as you've said, you weren't expecting a positive or anything like that but just that faint line leads to faint hopes for you and for all of us who are watching and joining in your lives. We love you all so much and we want your lives to be fulfilled and happy no matter how that ends up looking. Hugs
You have nothing to feel embarrassed about! You are so strong and brave to share your struggles. All along, your choice COULD have been to live in bitterness and self pity, resenting everyone with a different story. Instead, you have followed your passion from the Lord to come alongside others dealing with loss, hurt and delayed dreams. You inspire me everytime I watch your channel! Praying for you 💜
Having hope (and being extra cautious) is not embarrassing Alex. ❤️
I’ve never thought you were foolish, I’ve been following since before Cassidy. You are inspiring, a bright spot and real, I appreciate you!!
Oh my gosh. Without an x-ray it would have been so much less stressful! You needed to do the right thing and so you were extra cautious. It was painful and hard. You did the right thing and do not need to be embarrassed!
I want to thank you so much for sharing this... we are not alone in this. I want to thank you for being brave and talking about this very hard time. You are not alone. Do not feel embarrassed.
Thank you for sharing this even in the embarrassment and all of the completely valid feelings. ♥️ A moment of hope that flashed across your face… so much love for you, sweet friend. So grateful for your transparency ♥️
That is the best definition of depression I have ever heard. So true. I'm so sorry your having to deal with all the sorrows. God bless
I've been watching you guys since 2017 going through the ups and downs of infertility and good grief! This is just so cruel that anyone should have to deal with this. I can practically hear Satan laughing! I am so so sorry!
Never be embarrassed. You are a human with a heart.
Don’t be embarrassed. I hope you are so proud of yourself for being so strong but also so vulnerable.
I did not suffer from your kind of infertility but I do suffer from a different kind of fertility that’s not talked about much…due to a very complicated pregnancy, I could not have anymore children due to the high risk that another pregnancy would end in a uterine rupture. I had to have a horizontal incision and a vertical incision that crossed over each other which creates a weak point. I remember the shock and disappointment. It took a long time to accept. There was no 12 years of hope. It was just over. Have you met women experiencing this type of loss? It’s not infertility but having your fertility taken away through no fault of your own. Like you said at the end, fertility is such a gift. Hugs❤
Thank you from my bottom of my heart, we just had our 4th retrieval and found out yesterday that on day 3 that none of the ten embryos that were fertilized made it. We are tired of the heartache and knowing I’m not alone eases the pain a bit.
Ohhh Alex I wish I could come through the phone and just hug you. Please don’t be embarrassed ❤
Ugh I have had this happen so many times, It’s a strange embarrassment and crushing. Thank you for sharing this, honestly really feeling seen with vlog.
It’s not foolish, it’s faith! God surprises us all the time and of course you wouldn’t want to risk an X-ray if you had a tiny miracle in you! That shows how protective of a mommy you are! Sorry it took you on an emotional rollercoaster. Prayers for all of God’s surprises to come you and your family!! 💞
I feel this so deeply i wish i could take away the fear and embarrassment because this is something you should not have to feel this way we love you alex and are giving virtual hugs 🫂praying for a peaceful and loving future for ur family
Never stop believing in miracles! And thank you for sharing your heart. Infertility is lonely. Thank you for making me feel less lonely.
I love the fact that you're still excited and hopeful!! No reason to feel embarrassed.
I love how you allow yourself to feel sadness. Most people, myself included at times, do everything possible to NOT feel sadness and if you don’t feel your feelings, they just eat you for lunch. How could you not have hope? Of course, you do. You are human and that’s what we do: we hope.
Beautiful Alex don’t feel that way!!! I’m 29 years old and for years I felt that same way. After 8 years I finally had my son and felt like a dream!!! And we weren’t trying it was a miracle. Same will happen to you beautiful ❤❤❤
Alex thank you for being so real. Don’t be embarrassed nothing wrong with being careful and for feeling hopeful ….. God Bless you and your family
I stopped using first response because this kept happening to me and was heart breaking to see the line get excited and go get negative blood work. I’m sorry it’s hard to see the line and it’s such emotional roller coaster! Thank you for sharing and helping others that might be going through the same thing!!
I was holding my breath for 15 minutes straight. 😳🙏🏻 Never be embarrassed. We feel with you. Much love.
I just want to say I’m proud of you for sharing these intimate moments. I know you’re goal is to make those who are going through something similar- feel less alone but you’re also breaking stigmas. sitmags around miscarriage and infertility and emotion. I’m 20, I’m not thinking about kids right now but how many 20-something year olds or younger, like me, who watch your videos… how many of us are gonna struggling in similar ways that you do? and how many of us are gonna feel a little less pain because we’ve seen your story? how many of us are gonna feel a little bit better knowing we’re not the first to feel this? i don’t wish this on anyone but what a blessing it is that these kind of videos are out there for if/when it happens. thank you. keep doing what you’re doing 🫶
I’m so proud of you. That took a lot of strength to post this. Sending you love and baby dust. You are amazing!
Please NEVER feel embarrassed! I’ve watched y’all for a long time & I know your genuine and your heart is in such a good place ❤
I pray for your strength.
This broke my heart, I was holding my breath,hoping,just hoping for a miracle,for you to get that positive result you are searching for.....never ever be embarrassed...
Thanks for you honesty Alex. We have different life issues (you infertility, me widowhood), but same common issue of grief. Thank God for amazing friends who speak life into our hearts! And the goodness of Jesus, who is close to the brokenhearted ❤
There is no reason to be embarrassed. God can perform miracles any time. My prayers are with you guys!
Hope is never something to be embarrassed for.❤️
And on a lighter note, anyone who’s ever watched old episodes of “I didn’t know I was pregnant” has had it drilled into their head, over and over again, that if anything ever changes or even slightly gives you any reason whatsoever to entertain the barest hint of doubt, just take a pregnancy test.
God Bless your heart. Embarrassment is a word only fools should use. You are a great model for those going through infertility because I am sure there are many who have experienced the same thing and your video just validated that it’s ok to have hope ALWAYS! You have 3 beautiful girls, all success stories, and in God’s time you will have another. Again God Bless your heart for sharing real life so others can know it is okay ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are just too cute, Alex ❤️❤️❤️ Never be embarrassed for anything in your personality. You are so authentic and honest in your being and you are loved for being you ❤️❤️❤️ You deserve the best in this world ❤️
I have done the same thing multiple times, you are being smart, being protective, being cautious. You are incredible, you are brave, you are hopeful and have FAITH in miracles nothing to be embarrassed about anything. Proud of you for sharing this. Infertility is a lonely, dark path. Thank you for making me feel less alone. Love you
praying for another baby for you guys ❤
Thanks Alex for always choosing to share when it is hard . My husband and I and kids both have stomach issues. Hard day trying to eat stuff not feeling great after it.
This video was so raw and real ❤
Even though we have been diagnosed with infertility, each and every month I still have hope that a miracle will happen so I believe your emotions are completely justified. Infertility sucks and is hard but you’re doing a great job navigating through it 🫶
Alex DEFINITLY NO REASON to be embarrassed. Our bodies play jokes on us sometimes even if they are mean ones. You just rest up lady, you just had a rise and a big let down.❤❤
I have been watching you guys for years and my heart breaks for you but you two have shown me what it take it have strength and to believe. Sending you lots of love ❤
I’ve taken so many test that I thought were positive and turned out negative 😢 I feel you but there is always hope ❤
Alex the reason I subscribed to your channel was because I think you and Phil are an amazing couple and I too have had fertility issues and I never conceived, what you were doing there was been very careful so it is understandable not embarrassing and I'm so glad you put this vlog up as this means you care about us and yes there are things in life that don't go to plan and that means you are human, thank you my sweet and very kind Alex we love you
I appreciate your transparency and you didnt have to post this, but you did and it may help someone else. ❤ Youre a human being with human feelings, just like all of us. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some grace. Youre allowed to hope, wonder, wish and also to be disappointed. Sending you hugs friend. ❤❤
Oh Alex… there is a part of you holding on to the hope of possibilities, after all you have been through that is something to be proud of ❤
I was excited for you and God can still do anything even after 12 years he wants us to keep our hopes up❤ you are an amazing woman. Thank you again.
Absolutely no need to be embarrassed!! We love you and support you! Prayers for you and your journey 🙏🙏
I agree with your friend. Do not feel foolish. Do not feel embarrassed. If anyone is judging, then they should be embarrassed, they should feel foolish. I’ve been a follower of yours for YEARS!!! My heart breaks for you. Continuous prayers to you and your family.
My steps for yogurt
1) drive to store
2) put yogurt in cart
3) pay
4) bring home
5) eat
I give you so many props for doing this
My dear friend, ♥️ do not be embarrassed to still hold hope in your heart. God blesses us all the time and when we least expect it. I'm dealing with infertility at 37, I'm recently engaged and I don't know if I'll ever get to know motherhood. At least naturally. But I just had bariatric surgery to help with health and praying for my miracle. My mom had me at 42 in menopause after 20 yrs of infertility, my father was 50. So I'll keep praying for all of us!! Bless you Alex and the rest of your family.
Thank you for sharing and being so honest. I love watching your videos and am praying for you.
Praise God for the one pregnancy you got to experience, that many don’t get to. I know it’s disappointing but you have a family and so much joy. Keep enjoying the good.
It’s impossible to not have that glimmer of hope when both Brad & Rach and Rachelle & Justin had miracle naturally conceived pregnancies after years of infertility
I watch Rachelle & Justin and seeing that happen was pretty awesome!!! I would love for that to happen to Phil and Alex!!!
Same💞
Yes, and same thing happened to us. First 2 kids were through IVF with basically a 0% chance of natural conception (severe male factor). 10 months postpartum while still nursing, boom, suprise positive test without trying.
And beautykristi
Just keep the faith ..God is not finished with you yet
Don’t be embarrassed. You are not alone. You are human. You are hopeful. Each day brings new hope. I have walked your shoes. Your path is your own but your journey is shared. Big hugs.
Gracias Alex. Me ha pasado . 17 años esperando mi milagro.
Thanks Alex. It's happened to me. 17 years waiting for my miracle..
No way, your or anyone not foolish to be hopeful, I understand the feeling behind it and why, and you already understand this i know. I just want to encourage you are understood to have that hope and understood to feel expectant that it wouldn't. What you are is handling your own feelings healthfully and you help people with that beautifully. And its completely understandable for even after 20 years to think or feel what you did seeing a faint line, I can see as many can how these tests sometimes especially when faulty, can really mess with people emotions especially when people are struggling with infertility.
Its rather beautiful to see the hope you had still regardless, yes you said you didn't believe it but you do have that hope within you and that is amazing.
I hope yall can and will build yalls family in whatever way that comes as big as its on yalls hearts to do so. You and your family have been such encouragement and inspiration to me. I started watching before yall left in rv when yall were still working on it, I was looking into fertility I had concerns. I'm no longer concerned, about to be 3 babies in myself now.
Such blessing to be able to have a family, to adopt, to have babies too. Children are a precious blessing and need to be loved cared protected and taught the word of God and that they may chose and have the biggest blessing of all. Life and salvation in Christ.
I dont agree with some of yalls beliefs from a scriptural stance but regardless I love yall and hope the best for yall. ❤❤ God bless yall
Sweet Alex, you are truly an inspiration. You should not feel embarrassed for simply feeling those human emotions that God gave us to feel, even when it’s the hard ones. I’m just so proud of you for your vulnerability with us, even when you are not obligated to share. I tell my partner all the time when I watch your vlogs that I am watching my “second family” because you always make us feel that way. I love you guys and I am praying for your family always❤️ Keep inspiring the masses, you truly are doing SO much good in this world and that is what the world needs💕
Never fell embarrassed. You are just being a protective mama. I know in God’s time things will happen. Continue to pray and believe. My hugs and love sent your way.
I don't think you are a fool. I believe you are brave and strong and a fighter! It's easy to throw in the towel and say I'm done but it takes strength to endure and fight for what you want. You should never be embarrassed. Your girls will grow up knowing how amazing and strong their mom is!
Dear Alex please don't be embarrassed it's not an embarrassing thing to be disappointed. You have a yearning for more children and I do hope the God-bless us you. I hope that whatever time it takes God will touch you as he did Sarah in her old years and give her a child. I've watched you since you first got pregnant with Cassidy and continue to watch your life and your story. I'm 76 years old and I too feel your heart ache. Sharing your story is a blessing to us who watch you and your struggle. Hang in there, love your family.
Beautiful Alex you are such a inspiration darling! Dont list to the lies of the devil , you minister life and hope to others, you are such a blessing! ! Love the way you encourage others you are incredible and strong stay the cause as you are a champion!!!!!
Don’t be embarrassed. That hope is what got you Cassidy. We are all here for you.
I’ve had so many false positives this past year. Thanks for sharing. I want to just give you the biggest hug! Miracles do happen every day. Don’t feel silly, embarrassed or foolish. It’s real life with infertility. This is why you do this :)
You said it was almost your time of the month so obviously you're gonna be more emotional But you never have to be embarrassed or apologized for feelings feelings are real My heart goes out to you for years watching you go through the battles that you 2 are going through
I’m so proud of you for sharing with us. It’s never easy to share what we think is embarrassing. Even though it’s not now, I do hope and pray that you get your miracle baby. I have faith God will bless you again.
Don’t feel embarrassed at all!! It’s understandable the roller coaster of emotions you deal with.
It is not embarrassing ... it never STOPS hurting...no matter what.
Hope is an amazing thing...we all look at things and want them to be what we want....it is OK!
Just know that it is OK. You are amazing.
Please never feel embarrassed. I understand that you deal with disappointment, depression, and sadness with your infertility, but what you feel at that moment in time is real. My heart aches, and hurts for you with every vlog you create. I want you to know you are never alone, should never feel not worthy of compassion, because I have followed you and your family for quite some time now, and just care about you, your family, and your struggles. I have seen your good days, bad days, and everything in between. Life is a daily lesson, and you are dealt with certain cards, and it is how you handle them is what counts. We are human beings with feelings. I am continously amazed with your outlook on life in general. You and Phil have a beautiful family, homestead, etc, and have built a wonderful future. The Lord above never abandons us, but guides us through whatever situation we face. Hugs sent to you, and just know I will always be a supporter, a follower, and a "you tube friend". Let your love multiply and burn brightly. 🥰
You are one of the strongest ladies I know. I want you to know my story, my parents tried for 9 yrs. The adoptive my brother and a few months later (and my dad having surgery) my mom was pregnant with
ME. I lost my Bestfriend on 7/10/22 that was my dad. He was always positive and he was my BIGGEST FAN. I am your BIGGEST FRIEND! I am praying for you everyday. I wish that all we had to do is praying you would have 100 kids. You are amazing mom and god will help with this because he is the one Person that is on your side. 😘🥰💕😘🤗💕💗💗
Alex never be embarrassed with us,you are very loved by us out here and it’s never foolish to keep hope alive,Bless you 🙏💗
This is such a beautiful vlog ♥️. It took me back exactly 4 years (and 1 day) ago, when I took a test to make sure I could start my IVF medications. It was positive. Your reaction brought me to tears. The disbelief, the shock, but yet that little bit of hope that suddenly pops up... Don't feel embarrassed, please. We'll be there for you.
Alex, I hope you can give yourself some grace! It is ok to feel hopeful and wishful when looking at a pregnancy test even when you know the odds are not in your favor. I know growing your family is so strong on your heart, and I know that it will happen for you someday in some way. Be kind to yourself! ❤
I’m almost 63 and still grieving my infertility even though we adopted a beautiful baby boy. Varicocele surgery, ectopic pregnancies, failed IVF’s etc etc. why in this decade infertility is so common scares me! You can do this!
Oh Alex, I knew this wasn't a pregnancy announcement, but I was just praying and hoping too even though I am certain you wouldn't title the vlog as you did. There is NOTHING to be embarrassed about. Miracles do happen, and you've got some things working in your favor too.
I've not been here since the beginning but I've been here since shortly after Callie was born. And I can't wait to cry with you and Phillip soon when you get that positive pregnancy test.
Alex, you have nothing to be embarrassed about! Infertility sucks!! And that black dog analogy is perfect for so many different emotions. Might I suggest that by sharing your “black dog” moment, you can let other people love and pray on you, helping to pull that black dog back a bit. Please know that so many of us have our own black dogs to deal with that helping someone else dealing with theirs, helps us with our own black dog.
Honey, it's not embarrassing. It just freaking hurts. And that's ok. Trust me, I know all too well. ❤️
Gosh I wish I could take away your embarrasement. Your amazing and quit beating yourself up. I would love to be your friend and be there to give you support. I am long past having babies but it hurts to see you in pain. We all have our stories and for you to share yours is so brave. Be proud , be happy and giant hugs from Canada ....Hugs Nola
Alex please, please don't let this make you feel embarrassed or any of the other words. Anyone who has ever waited and wanted those two pink lines for years we crave it and just want to see it so bad. Love you alex!
Hi Alex,
You are NOT an embarrassment. You ARE strong, beautiful, encouraging & amazing. However, most importantly, this shows that you are human. You have had such a difficult road with your infertility journey & yet you always give HOPE. So thank you for being you and for being real.
Don't feel foolish Alex a friend of mine got pregnant after 18 years of infertility after having their first baby. Miracles happen ♥
My daughter became pregnant with baby # 3 naturally after 9 years of not doing anything to prevent . You have to be sure before having an x-ray
Rachelle and Justin are vloggers and they had to do IVF for their first 4 successful children and naturally got pregnant with their 5th baby. 🥰
My friend was 15 years between her children.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about! This is a very real thing! I have PCOS so I get it. I have been blessed with 5 children but sometimes it was really hard especially losing 3 in the process. There's a difference between someone having 2 and stopping them being forced to stop over something you can't control.
Don't be embarrassed, we are here for you. 🫂 a big hug for you.
I'm so sorry Alex😥Praying 4 u if it's ok. Please don't feel embarrassed. You're not alone. U have alot of people with u. Love, Prayers & Hugs.
I praying so hard you guys can have another baby!! I know you guys are trying your best and hopefully it will come true one day I have faith it will happen for you guys!! But don't feel embarrassed because you thought there was a line while it was negative sometimes it happens. I love you guys!
So incredibly proud of you for posting this video. I can’t fathom what you’re going through and watching it I’m still praying you get what your heart so desires. Think of us all as your therapy and remember that every video no doubt helps at least one person every single time!
Don’t be embarrassed, I’m sure you’re helping so many people!❤
I've seen that line. It is an emotional rollercoaster. I had taken my test on a Friday. I was about 2 days late which isn't super uncommon for me, and pretty much had a panic attack until I started my cycle on Sunday morning. My partner and I weren't even officially together yet, I was a few months away from getting my tubes removed. It was one of the most stressful things I've gone through.
Oh Alex … I want to hug you! Please don’t be embarrassed… totally understandable. We’ve all done it and that’s a normal reaction. ❤