MORE UNEXPECTED INFERTILITY RESULTS
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- I got to the point where I didn't think we could get any more bad news...well like always...I was wrong.
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Hi! We are Phil and Alex! After leaving California in an RV, traveling full time, and helping our littlest with an open heart surgery, we've settled down in Tennessee. We found our homestead land and are learning each day how to live a more sustainable life. We are a family grown through the miracle of Adoption & Infertility Treatments. Our precious daughters are Kinsley Grace (7 years old), Callie Jo (6 years old), and Cassidy Drew (2). Our passion is to encourage families through infertility, adoption and building stronger healthier families. Thank you for tuning in! We hope you are encouraged!
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Hey Alex! It’s always hard to get bad news. When I did IVF about 4 years ago at 28 my AMH was .73. We also had male factor. They ended up retrieving 9 eggs. That cycle ended up in me having my now 3 year old twins. Then, surprise! I got pregnant naturally about 2 years after they were born with no medical help. There’s always hope. I hope that gives you a little comfort. ❤
Oh that's wonderful news! My daughter is going through this journey so anytime I see something like this I give her an update to help her hold on to hope. Thank you for sharing
@@67jujub I’m sure your support means the world to her. Infertility is a grief that can be very lonely. I pray your daughter gets her miracle soon!
@@ashtron23 thank you so much 🥰 I always worry that I will be to intrusive. I try to be supportive & always watch everything I can to get more information.
Hey Phil and Alex, Kensley Grace,Callie Jo & Cassidy drew congelliere,
Do u guys think that I should start a UA-cam channel of my very own and what should I do in my videos should I do on my channel.
Alex you have the right to grieve when things don't go the way you expect. Continue to hope, believe and pray because miracles do happen. I will continue to pray for you guys. Stay positive sweetheart you guys are awesome for sharing. ♥️
One of my best friends had an IVF baby at 50. Many have not understood why they wanted to or how it could even happen “at that age”. Her son is turning 4 this year and they are so happy and full of life and so grateful for the miracle of modern medicine. You got this. So much love and prayer for all of you. ❤🙏🏼
as long as a woman have a period she can get pregnant. My friend has her first baby when she was 42 and the second 44 and she got pregnant very fast
I’m 44 soon to be 45 and I have a 6 month old sweet baby girl! God can do anything! I’ll keep praying and praising for what God is doing in your lives ♥️♥️♥️💙
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It is because you ARE so grateful for the children you have that you want more. My 3rd child was killed in a car accident when he was 6 weeks old. I struggled with infertility for 3 years after that before we conceived again. I was told I should be thankful for the children I had. Only those who go through infertility truly understand it. Sending hugs!!💞💞
I'm so sorry about your baby!
That is heartbreaking! I am so sorry you lost your tiny baby. Glad you were able to have another!
I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. What a heart break
I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️
I’m so sorry, I can’t even imagine your pain 😢
Sending prayers for your family’s growth🙏 I had cancer at 32, so no more pregnancies for me. We grew by four more kiddos because of Foster/adopt and I’m so happy with my little tribe if 7. I’m feeling so positive as to what your family will look like in five years. I love you Phil and Alex ❤❤
Beautiful comment. I wish you great health!
Thanks for being real and raw with us, Alex. Praying for you guys!
As someone who struggled with infertility, and will not ever have a child (I'm unable to adopt/foster due to health diagnosis), and who will always have empty arms, I want to be very clear....
You do NOT need to apologize for wanting more children. You do NOT need to apologize for sad days/weeks. You do not need to keep repeating how completely grateful, and blessed you feel to have your beautiful girls. I'm appalled at how mean some people can be to you, or anyone who is in pain. I pray that God brings you comfort, and more children! God bless the Congelliere family!
Your feelings are 100% valid! You never have to justify it mama, you're beautiful, amazing, as is your family 🥰❤️ Thinking of you all, sending you the most healing, happy vibes! Thank you for sharing all that you do, I absolutely adore your family ❤️
I've never dealt with infertility myself so I'm always nervous that I will say the wrong thing. All I know is that you are a wonderful family and no matter how a child enters your family they are blessed to be with you. I send you a ton of love and positive energy and prayers.
The fact that some people cannot understand that grief is an emotion that can occur with other emotions is beyond me. You can be grateful for the life you have but can also grieve for a dream that hasn’t come. ❤❤❤
I totally understand about the “be grateful for what you have” comments. I have 3 boys & always desperately wanted a daughter too. I gave up on that dream years ago, but I still grieve some days. I can’t talk about it with anyone or I get that same comment. I don’t understand how people can’t understand that having a dream for something, doesn’t take away the love & gratefulness for what you do have. ❤
I also have a low AMH, I just turned 40 last week. ... I don't remember exactly how low. I did 1 round of IVF with 10 eggs retrieved, ended up with 3 pgs normal embryos. Miscarried 1 of them, and have a 2 year old now. I found your channel when I started my IVF journey in 2018. You were a great support for me throughout my journey.....I had never even known anyone who had done IVF before. I'm also from California and my family moved to middle tennessee 15 years ago. I followed your move from California... and you ended up in tennessee just like we did. I actually am a surgical tech in labor and delivery where you ended up delivering Cassidy. Thank you for being there for me during my journey!
Alex and Phil, my heart truly goes out to you! I too struggled for 23 years with infertility. My husband and finally did IVF when I was 38 which resulted in 5 euploid embryos. The doctors could not believe that at my age I produced 5, but we did and I have a beautiful 21 month old boy and am expecting my second now at 42! Your journey is between you and God and the last I checked he is still in the miracle business! Lots of love, and prayers for piece and understanding through your ongoing journey! ❤
IVF is in the miracle business for those who can afford it. ( My intent is not to be unkind, just realistic.) I honestly do not believe a loving God is in the business of performing miracles for certain people and not others. Congratulations on your own IVF miracles!
I’ve never gone through IVF but suffered multiple miscarriages, it turned out I had elevated TSH as well as AMH at 0,75. I was put on Levothyroxine for my TSH men regarding my AMH there wasn’t much they could do. I started supplementing with DHEA as well as 3 mg Melatonin. Two cycles later I was so fortunate to get pregnant with our baby boy and I’m now 36 weeks pregnant.
I’ve heard of several women with AMH well below 0.7 with successful pregnancies!!
Best of luck to you! 🙏🏼💚
Hugs and baby dust ✨from Sweden 🇸🇪
Congrats!! Just came to say this sounds similar to my history. 7 or 8 miscarriages and during my last they discovered my thyroid levels were way out of range. They weren’t even on the scale. Once I started Synthroid and my Dr gave us the go I got pregnant! I never had an issue with getting pregnant just staying pregnant past 7 weeks. She’s almost 3 now ❤ I still find it so bizarre how your thyroid can cause all of that. I just wish we would’ve found it sooner but my Dr kept blaming my egg quality. Took 2 years and numerous miscarriages to get here, but it was worth it as crazy as it sounds.
I was 40 when I had my one and only child…after years of treatment I fell pregnant naturally and it was quite the shock but what a joy! Hang in there 😍
🤗 You're so right that you get to have a sad day. You & Phil get to decide how your family looks & how many children you have. I went through infertility after 2 children & couldn't have anymore. It was sad I ended up adopting an older child through foster care. I'll be praying for everyone going through infertility. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
I always imagined myself with a houseful of kiddos.
I was only able to have one - my amazing daughter.
However now, I'm blessed with that houseful of grandchildren!
Alex! I am so happy you are consulting with your previous doctor, when you told us that your face just lit right up! I hope she can help you develop a plan you feel really good about and confident in. She's awesome, you're awesome, Phil's awesome, your current kids are awesome- all signs point to your entire family being awesome forever. You have been a huge inspiration to me, and to so many others, I am so thankful I found your channel when I did. You are the Queen of Grace and Grit and you do a wonderful job of navigating through adversity! I feel very grateful that you share your story with us openly and vulnerably, I know that is not an easy thing to do. So, I want you to know I appreciate it because you have made me feel less alone, and more optimistic more times than I can count. Much love to you and to your whole farm family
I love this 💗
“Queen of Grace and Grit”! YASSS!
God put that desire in both your hearts, do you and minister to many going through Infertility. I’ve followed you for years because you brought me hope. Stay steadfast in your desires.
I’m like you…. I have 2 kids and want more and my family says be grateful lol. I’m extremely grateful especially going through infertility/IVF. Glad someone understands
You're so right. Infertility sucks. I've been blessed with 2 amazing sons with the help of IVF after 8 years of trying everything. I got only 2 fertilized eggs at my first attempt at IVF. Lucky for us, I became a mom. On the second attempt, got 3 embryos transfered, we got our second child. I struggled in my corner with my pain. We wanted to expend our family but It didn't work. At 38, I finally was able to grieve over our dream of a bigger family. My prayers are with you. Thanks for sharing. You're not alone. I can feel your pain.xox
I will continue praying for your family. I was 38 when I had my last, with a 20, 15, and 13 year old. I pray you will be able to grow your family, no matter how that looks
Hi Alex, I am so pleased that you are going to have an appointment with your wonderful Dr Hatch, even if it’s a vid appointment.
I have followed your lovely family & your journey so so long now & it made me so happy when Do Hatch was able to help you & Phillip grow your beautiful family. I smiled so much to myself when you said you have this appointment because if anyone can help it’s got to be the Dr with the appropriate name of ‘hatch’ I pray 🙏🏻 she helps you both ‘hatch’ some more of your own 🤰🏼👶🏼🤱👶🏼Sending so much love & hugging you tightly from deep within my ♥️, your friend Annie❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️
Sadly my arms were never able to hold my own child, due to cancer but of I have been blessed with ’family’ babies & friends children too💗
I have been following your family for quite a while. You are absolutely allowed to have a sad day. Don't let the negativity of social media stop you from helping those who need it. For every negative person on social media, you help 3 more feel better and less alone in their journey. I, personally, don't struggle with infertility, but I know people who do. It's not easy for them. I think you guys are incedible, and I am so very grateful that you shar your journey with us!! I pray for you and your family every day. Hug your family a little closer on the sad days, and take comfort in the fact that you are loved and you are not alone. Sometimes, it helps. ❤️❤️
I’m on the same boat of infertility, still trying for the first after 6.5 years. We got this alex! This infertility doesn’t steal my hope, yes I have sad days, good and bad results and anxiety with every step into this, but we continue to fight, we got this ❤
Infertility is not even a word in front the strength of a woman.. I was infertile once upon a tume 🤣🤣nd there was no hope at all it was confirmed and now afyer 12 years of that news m expecting 5 one 🤯
@@MyLondonLife wow! Amazing! Congratulations on your beautiful family 🙏🏽
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Wishing you all the best of luck! I second the "Be grateful for what you have" comment too. Some people just do not get it and they never will. You are allowed to feel sad, do not let anyone bring you down!!
I’ve never personally dealt with infertility, however, your journey has so much hope and love and that is great for others to see and be encouraged. I pray you are able to grow your family! I love watching my you all and wish you nothing but the best.
Alex, your heart is so big that you have room for more. Don't apologize ever for wanting to fill your heart to share your love. This makes you the beautiful person you are.
My mom was 40 when she had me. I was 40 when I had my 4th and last son. Prayers for you and Philip as always. ❤️🙏❤️🙏
Dont loose hope I started fallowing you guys when I was going thru my journey at 20 yrs old. Had my first son at 35 and now I have 5. 4 boys and my baby girl who is 18 months old. I had her at 42. Always praying for your family.
You are absolutely allowed to grieve and cry and be sad however much you need to! 💗🙏💗 I just had my rainbow baby and I am of course THRILLED, but I still grieve my previous miscarriage. I think I always will! Our hearts are big enough and have enough room to LOVE and be SO thankful for our existing family, but to still want more family and grieve lost opportunities. Prayers for you guys! The holidays definitely are the hardest time for grief triggers. Last Thanksgiving (and a few other family events) I had to find a private place to sob, and then I was able to go back and rejoin the group. That's ok if you have to do that too! 💗🙏💗
Please allow my 2 cents here. I'm feeling the need to be protective. I sooo feel you Alex! I have been watching for a while now and I soo enjoy all of your content. If I watch You tube, I look at the title and choose if i WANT to watch OR NOT. It is a choice that you do as you are the master of your own life. Just like Alex and Phil are the masters of THEIR own Lives. If you are Smart you will understand my 2 cents. If not please let me help you.
To the people who comment with rude unnecessary heartless remarks. Please keep your commemts to yourselves. You should be ashamed of your bullying. This kind loving family put themselves out there to share their lives with us and they are such a good family who share so much good and here you come and ruin it. Not only for Alex but for all of her family and even for all of us loyal and caring friends/ fans. IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Life is too short and we need more positive people with positive and kind words of encouragement. Show your support and appreciate this family with kindness. If you feel the need to be rude then you are in the wronge frame of mind for this channel. Its ok to have bad days but not ok to be soo hurtful. I Am sorry to make this soo long and to put out my blah blah blah but it is soo easy to just change the channel! Find what you like and be happy. Alex please block these people and do not let them get you down. If you want 10 or 15 or 20 children it is your own right to decide. I love this family and ALL that they share with us. They are humans with feelings and are learning life on their farm as they grow and share their lives with us. I am soo grateful for all that you share with us Alex and Phil and your 3 beautiful smart loving girls. Sending you love and Positive vibes from QUEBEC CANADA. Please excuse my french if there is any mistakes 😝😁😜
I raised my AMH levels from 0.52 to 1.07! I was doing weekly acupuncture, supplementing with vitamin D, and all thenother supplements recommended in the It Starts With The Egg book. I did end up getting pregnant naturally but lost it at 8 weeks. Still, it is very possible to raise it because its less of an exact count of how many eggs you have left total and more a count of how many eggs are ready to mature. So you can do things to take more eggs out of the vault and put them on that conveyor belt to maturity.
Have you looked into embryo adoption? You get embryos from a family that can’t use their remaining embryos and then do a transfer with those instead of your own. You get to be pregnant with your adopted child! It’s the next step I’m looking into and I’m so excited about it
Hi Alissa, if you have raised your AMH (same to me), why using donor eggs? My doctor never put that option to me, as my egg retrieval was 6 eggs which ended up being 5 mature blastocists.
I have better AMH levels now (I'm 39) than I was 36! How crazy is that? 👏🏻 🙋♀️🇪🇦
@@margaritablazquez389 lots of reasons, but mostly because I’ve had 4 miscarriages and I am done with the heartbreak of trying to use my own eggs. I think even though my AMH is raised there are other possible genetic issues going on. Also, I was told I would need to try multiple retrievals to get even one good embryo and I don’t have the money to do that. We don’t even have the money to do one retrieval! I also don’t want to put myself through the hormones of an egg retrieval. I am at peace with adopting an embryo and only paying the cost of a transfer and half the hormones being injected into my body.
@@catwmn14 I understand and respect your choice! I truly wish that donated egg would stick! Lots of baby dust! 🙋♀️🇪🇦
With you sister...33 here, the weight of time is always in the background. Praying for another blessing for you and Philip!
You are an amazing mom your children are polite, intelligent, and not afraid to try things. I pray your family grows in whatever way God sees fit.
My heart breaks for you Alex. I wish nothing but the best for you in your journey. May your family be blessed with several more children. You and Phil are incredible parents. Please ignore those that attack. Most of us support you fully and love your family and your story to pieces.
I pray that you never stop sharing 🙏 You have helped me so much over the years and I Love and Appreciate you guys ❤❤
I say to those who just cant understand how someone can be grateful for something but still want more, think of it like getting a lovely day, having a wonderful day. You can be very grateful for that day. Wanting more beautiful days does not make you less grateful for the wonderful day you just had. Everyone has different desires when it comes to families.
I've never had an infertility problem, yet I have followed you since the first baby came home! My husband and I have yours, mine and ours plus have added with foster/adopted kiddos. We just had our 20th grandbaby. We lost a grandbaby at 24 weeks last year and three days later my mom passed as 18 of us had covid. I will continue to pray for you and keep watching as your family grows!
I’ve been following y’all since the beginning of your journey!! Big hugs!! I was going through IVF and your videos were helpful to me, we did two rounds of IVF. I also had low AMH levels and was only able to make 7 or 8 eggs of each round. Only one embryo lasted and we are about to have a five year old daughter. I also would love to have more children but we don’t have any more funds for other IVF rounds, adopting etc.. I’m 42 now and started IVF when I was 35 & 36, we have our little one when I was 37. I admire your little family!! Happy Holidays!! Enjoy your family time for Thanksgiving & Christmas!! Much ❤️ love!!😊
Some people can’t understand the difference between being grateful and feeling like someone is missing from your family. Part of me is struggling to wrap my head around adding a 2nd but I have a very strong feeling that our family is missing a little boy.
My fiancé and I have been trying for 4 years! And it is heart breaking especially when you have had multiple losses, we want a big family as well, no matter what stage your in infertility is hard and I breaks my heart to know that I’ll have to deal with this again even after we do get our rainbow 🌈, praying for you and your family and hopefully you get as many little hands and feet added as you can! ❤
I am so sorry you have to struggle with hurtful people on social media! I continue to watch you guy raise your beautiful girls and raise them to be such amazing little humans! I hope and pray you are able to grow your family in whichever way it happens 🙏 ❤️
Alex, sweetheart, I appreciate you sharing your journey! As someone that has struggled with infertility & still aches for children although we have 1 precious adopted daughter who is now 20 years old, we adopted her when she was 27 months old from a horrific child abuse situation. Anyhow, although we are so incredibly thankful that God graciously placed her in our lives & allowed us to become parents in the way of adoption, it has never taken away the fact that we have always want to grow our family whether that be by birthing, adoption, embryo adoption, etc. That hasn't happened yet & due to financial reasons, sadly, it probably won't. =( It's okay to want more in your family & to want to wonder what your family might look like in the future. Who cares what the nay sayers say, "Be grateful for what you have." Here's the thing, apparently they haven't walked in OUR shoes one. single. day. of wondering if we were ever going to be parents, longing to have a child in any capacity of the word. Those people don't care & don't know what it is like to have aching arms to just hold your own child no matter how they come into your life to be yours. It's a physical hurt. I physically hurt to welcome another child. I long for that. My heart hurts badly knowing I have love for another child. My arms hurt in a way that is hard to explain to someone that doesn't know that pain, that heart ache.
I pray for you & Phil every. single. day that you can grow your family in any means that God sees fit because I know the physical pain of wanting another. God Bless you both. Just know that there are a lot of us here FOR YOU & LOVE YOU WHOLE HEARTEDLY & ARE THANKFUL THAT YOU SHARE YOU JOURNEY with us!! XOXOXOXO ~Crystal
Beautiful ❤
Hey Phil and Alex me and my fiance had several miscarriages but finally got blessed with our rainbow baby girl she will be 6 months old on November 18th I was 36 when I got pregnant with my rainbow baby girl and now I am 37 prayers for your family hugs from illinois
I am a mom of 3 and I completely understand your wanting to have more. When I was younger I had a vision of having 5 kids. My first pregnancy delivered at 21 weeks and I lost her. My second was at 35 weeks and she had issues landing her in the NICU. My 2nd was full term but I had a uterine rupture. I miraculously got pregnant with my last and the pregnancy was surprisingly smooth. When I had my last… something told me I was done. I knew my body couldn’t handle more. The reason i’m mentioning this is because I strongly believe when you feel so strongly whether it be one way or another… it must mean something. It’s like you KNOW that you’re not done. You’re next little one is just waiting for you!
I too hate that term “be great full for what you have”… just because we go through turmoil and appear fine doesn’t mean that we can’t be human and have moments like you’re having…
I've had result yielding low AMH and was devastated. Although the RE said there is nothing to increase it I started IF (intermittent fasting) and a heavier supplement regime. When I retested about 9-12 months later my AMH was higher!!!! I'm not sure if the original test was off or if the changes I made help along with some prayers.
Also, holidays are hard for me too. I'm currently fostering twins and I think that is my reason why I'll be "okay" this holiday season. I'm 41 and still hopeful.
I can't wait to watch your journey and how beautifully your family grows!
All those who don't want to grant you the space you need and deserve to sometimes be sad...they can take a hike.
You deserve the family you envisioned!
You're both amazing people and an incredible support for so many.
Sending you positive thoughts. You are an incredible family. Never ever apologize for how you feel for your infertility journey. We had issues many years ago. We adopted 2 beautiful children. No matter how you have or become a family you are truly blessed. Thank you for sharing your journey
Your heart is like a house will all those feelings living inside. You can be gretefull and sad at the same time, also when you don’t face infertility! Love you guys and your way of sharing and caring
My daughter had a second miscarriage yesterday.... Of course - now they need to wait to try again. "Getting pregnant" is not a problem, but she gets a tear in the placenta (chorionic tear - I may be spelling that completely wrong), but my heart breaks for them. I will see her in a few hours, and I have strict orders from her "NO CRYING MAMA" so I am praying to dry my tears and handle her sadness when they arrive.. As a mother, you know Alex, when our children hurt, physically or emotionally, we hurt right with them.. She is very stoic, I - weep at the drop of a pin. I went through years of infertility to get her, I pray she isnt facing other issues with starting her family.. She is 28, her husband is 35, they have time, but they also have heartaache....
People have a really hard time remembering that two things can be true at the same time. You can be grateful and also sad. Both things can be true. Also, when I was 35 my FSH was 14 and my AMH was low. A year later I conceived through IVF and my now perfect four year-old son is the result. When I was 38 I was gearing up to go to the fertility clinic for a follow up consult. In the meantime, I got pregnant naturally. So don’t let those numbers get in your head too much. But you already know that. IVF and numbers are some voodoo that can really mess with you. You’ve got this. Stay strong. And ignore those punks who are here to rain on your parade. Clearly, they have never been in your shoes.
LOVEEEEEEEEEE this video!! ❤
I’m so sorry that you are going through this struggle and felt like you couldn’t /didn’t want to share at one point because of the judgment and mean comments you were receiving .
I’m so glad you chose to keep sharing ur infertility journey because it has helped so many people( to include myself).
Also, you are spot on when you said infertility is harder during the holidays 💔
But we got this !! We will get through this together 🫶. I’m so excited you’re having another consult with Dr. Hatch …..CAN’T WAIT to hear about it and maybe hear her funny laugh again on the vlog 😂
I just started my cycle this morning. We have an a world wind of news the past two weeks. Plan was to go straight into IVF because of male factor, but an angle came down and now we are good enough to do our first IUI to see if it works. If not straight back to IVF. As of now I am sticking to my doctor but there could be a chance we have to switch due to insurance for next year.
For now we are on our way down the IUI path and praying that maybe our blessing comes. 💕 the holidays have started to be a struggle, but I am praying for good things and not letting others bring me down.
Hey Alex, I had my first IVF about 4 years ago when I was at the age of 29. They retrieved 21 eggs but only 4 embryos could be made. my AMH was 2.2 at that time. One of the embryos (grade A) resulted in a failed fresh cycle. And three more were frozen, but unfortunately all of them failed to implant. I just had my last embryo transfer 15 days ago. The bad news is not just that non of the embryos resulted in a life birth pregnancy but my AMH is also dropped to 1.1. Me & my husband are devastated. Praying for healing.. may God help anyone going through infertility treatment. It’s a real emotional, physical, and financial struggle.
Girl I used to get so sick of hearing “be grateful you at least had one.” 🙄🤦🏻♀️ Thankfully after 8 years, I had my baby girl. I don’t know how I ever did it without my girl. She was such a surprise and miracle for us. I pray for those that are still struggling. I remember it hitting me so hard. You got this ladies! ❤
I feel this all so deeply Alex. I am still in the empty arm phase, it’s been 8 years of infertility and I was 21 when we started and now 29. I am having similar feelings of now worried more about getting too old to have children. I know I am technically still young, but am much older than I thought I would be and still fighting to just start our family, let alone complete it. Thank you for sharing your heart. I have been here since before Callie was adopted and I found y’all when I was looking for someone in my shoes when I knew no one. There is so much purpose in your pain my friends ❤
So Alex shouldn't feel it so deeply. For Pete's sake she's got three beautiful girls her house is full! I for the life of me ever since I started watching their Channel wondered what she thinks she is missing. She has three children. A lot of people never have any. Maybe God is giving her these three children and that's all there's going to be yet three children is a lot. Be thankful for what you have and quit whining for what you don't. Most people have a lot less.
@@debjack5298 I am more than certain she is grateful for her beautiful girls. They always dreamed of a large family, she has said that since before Callie. It’s okay to have dreams and grieve when life doesn’t go as you hoped. She is valid in her hopes, dreams and sadness. The pain of someone like me waiting for children doesn’t negate her pain of wanting to expand.
Your feelings are so Valid! I'm so grateful for your family. I've followed you from the beginning and your raw honesty has and continues to help me through our infertility journey! Praying for you always! -Jessica
P.s. I'd love to get your soap recipes!
I push every tumb that i have and send alot hugs and love for all of you that goes through ivf journeys...god bless y'all and keep the head high❤❤❤
Just sending lots of love! I just turned 36 and have both one ivf kiddo and one that came to us without help (although not without heartbreak in between.) i’ve had several misscarriages and i have always hoped we would have just one more baby to love. But the longer it goes my husband who is 9 years older then me is hesitant to start over. So with that and with our history with infertility i’m just trying to find what would be right for us and to find acceptance in that answer. We do need those sad days. And it doesn’t take away from our love and gratefulness for the miracles we do have. ❤️
Sending so much love to you guys!! Often I just watch and enjoy your videos, but I'm going to try and comment more so that there are more positive voices in your comments! ❤
Our niece by marriage tried for 10 years and didn't have her baby boy till she was 39. She's the third one in our family to have gone through IVF. Hope you get what you want and ignore negative people. xx
I get really sad to see you and other people struggle for infertility. I am sending you guys so much love. You guys going to see Dr. Hatch since you guys were close to her and you guys feel comfortable with her hopefully it helps you guys. But praying you guys can keep growing your family!
Hey there! Going into the holidays is super hard when you feel like there’s a piece of your family missing. Seeing those around you with a little baby and wanting that so badly can really bring up so many difficult emotions. I often times find myself feeling guilty even feeling that way. I used to feel more envious, but I have come to a point of acceptance and just knowing that they have a family and it was their time to. The universe is working it all out and even though I don’t understand why we’ve gone through three years of infertility I just know that the right baby or babies are coming our way soon. The best advice I can give you that I have found is, “Be sweet to yourself.” and “If you are depressed you’re living in the past. If you are anxious you’re living in the future. If you are living in the present you will find peace.” We all have really hard days and that’s okay! It’s how long we keep ourselves in that head space that matters most. Feel those emotions, but don’t hold onto them too long. If you do, you may just miss out on life! I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers and if you can say a little prayer for ours as well whilst we wait for a match with our agency! 💜
Praying for you and Philip to help grow your family. You are amazing people. ❤
Your journey in everyway.....glad or sad... is giving to the world... ☆ your knowledge is important and very Nice to follow. I have been here since ... before all the kids ♡ Keep Up the good life.
My friend had low levels and had fertility treatment with low levels. I’m confident you will have another baby. Of course your grateful for you 3 girls. Having another child however you do that is a blessing and you are a great mom my prayers are with you from UK.
One ovary and diminished ovarian reserve. One cycle I had zero at retrieval. Amh was .3 We did the family planning at CCRM with Dr. Surrey & got our miracle. I unfortunately had a hysterectomy this year at 40. What a roller coaster!! Sending you all the love and joy you can find within! Wishing you all the sweetest things in life.
I almost cried at 'be grateful for what you have'. I hate this so much. I have two wonderful girls that I love like crazy, I also have a son and a daughter that did not make it. We've always wanted to have a big family but fertility struggle left me so broken :( I don't want my angel son to be my only son. It was supposed to be so beautiful, he was my firstborn and then 3 little girls. His life would have been insane being an older brother to three little sisters. Instead there is a void where my first two children should be. We are trying again but I'm thinking of giving up. As for the AMH levels, if you we've tested it in the past and it was ok, please retest. It's a very sensitive test and even transferring blood from one location to another can falsify the result.
I never had infertility but I still can see your struggle and your beautiful family amd empathize with you. I see your love and joy in your 3 kids and still understand the pain amd longing and struggle with so many unknowns.
You're allowed to be upset that you have infertility. It doesn't mean you love your 3 kids less. It just means you have to struggle amd fight so much harder to have gotten them and to get more in the future.
You know, the problem I see with today’s society, is that we only have empathy or compassion for people, when their beliefs align with ours… This goes across the spectrum of whatever believes, values and moral compass that people have..
I have been dealing with infertility my whole adult life. I’ve gone through all the medication‘s and IVF, frozen embryo transfers, but never to physically have a child of my own.
My husband and I were blessed to adopt our daughter in 2009, she’s 13 now. And every day I realize just how incredibly blessed we are and how God moved mountains for that adoption to take place.
Since then I have been at peace with my my fallen body’s inability physically to have children. That the adoption of my daughter was God‘s plan for my whole life, that was what he intended, that’s what His will was. After her adoption that feeling, that burning desire for children dimmed and was replaced by a gentle peace, that can only come from God.
If Alex still yearns for more children, that’s between her and God, her and her husband, her and her family. And that feeling to have more children is something that God placed there..nobody has a right to judge her
Alex, if you read this, I wish and pray for God’s grace, peace, understanding and love to guide your life, in whatever decision or path that you choose..
I basically just wrote the same advice to her, I guess great minds think alike 😊
I understand what you’re saying, but it comes across as ungrateful and obsessed. I have level 4 endometriosis and struggled with infertility for ELEVEN YEARS becoming a mom through my 5th round of IVF in 2019. To me, it feels like Alex has forgotten her original audience. She whines and complains about infertility when she already has 3 kids. How is that supposed to sound to someone who can’t have kids at all? It just feels obsessive, like she has built her entire identity and the Phil&Alex brand on being at the fertility clinic and they don’t know what to do with themselves apart from it. It’s between her and God until she chooses to share it with the internet and then viewers are entitled to have opinions.
@@sayhello5377 I see both sides and I also have felt that there is an unhealthy obsession (and at times has been a big turn off to watching some videos). I understand thier view but if only we could all accept God’s will and be at peace with that plan. I never could had children but was blessed to work in a career of over 25 years working with families and children with special needs. I still had yearned for a child of my own but having a job I loved replaced some of that emptiness as I felt this was the path God put me on and I am grateful. So instead of having my own family, I was able to work with hundreds of families helping them to navigate the world of special needs.
@@sayhello5377 and people dont realize that if they put themselves out on social media then they should also understand they will get comments and many are the ones she wont like. if she doesnt want comments dont put yourself out there. you cant control others and tell them what to say or post. it comes with the territory.
I had to leave to Barbados for IVF… it was a huge blessing. I have low AMH levels. First IVF I had 1 egg… it did not work… that egg was degenerative… we went back a few months later and I had 7 eggs, 5 mature and fertilized. 2 implanted, 2 didn’t make it to freeze, one in the freezer. Out of the 2 implanted, 1 made it to full term, he’s now 33 months today!! 😊 we want to do another entire round and try for more… praying so hard… my fertility clinic just did a video on us, it should be uploaded in the next few days ❤ Barbados fertility center ❤
Best wishes for you and your journey! Praying for you as always!
Once my AMH levels went down they never went back up, I started at 2 doing IUIs and by the time we did IVF my levels were below 1 but don’t remember the exact number. IVF was the only treatment that worked, we were blessed with two children after 4 cycles of IVF and even with the lowest AMH levels at that point in our journey ivf worked! So cheer up! There’s hope!
You are a blessing and a wealth of knowledge for those going through or gone through infertility. Don't let people to tell u how u should feel. Each of us that have truly went through this life altering time. We all have or had an idea of what our family would look like. So don't let them steal that dream from you!!!
Hugs and love for you. I had my daughter at 38. I'll pray for you and Phillip
Oh, Alex. I have been where you are. Dealing with the excruciating pain of infertility is a lifelong challenge. I am 60 years old and was blessed to have two sons through the miracles of adoption and IVF, and most of the time I don’t really think about the dark days before my sons were born. But I still feel the sting at certain times. Recently, my nephew and his new wife announced that they are expecting a baby only nine months after their wedding. I am happy for them and even a bit relieved that they won’t have to struggle to start their family, yet the deep wound has resurfaced as a painful and heart-wrenching envy that only those who have experienced the heartache of infertility can understand. 💔🙏
Hi Alex! After my stillbirth I had low egg count and got AMH level of 0.78. We ended up with 3 eggs retrieved and two blastocysts (one of them is sleeping in her crib right now😊)
Where I live, the docs don’t care much about AMH numbers. So please don’t be discouraged by your results!
I would also recommend to discuss DHEA supplementation with your doctor, and follow the plan suggested by “It starts with the egg”. It did help me improve my egg count!
Big hugs and love to you guys!! I cannot wait to see what God has planned for your family, I know it will be huge!
🦊 Hi Alex, let me first say Thank you for sharing your journey with infertility, and what you and your husband been through to have a family. I'm new to the infertility world. I been going through infertility now for almost two years now. I have been down for a couple of weeks now. Looking at your videos has made me feel like I'm not in this alone, so thank you so much for that, because some of my friends don't seem to understand how hard this is, and how hard this has been so far for us.. An having to put off on trying until the new year sucks too. So, Alex, thank you for given ideas to take my mind off of my infertility journey, and for giving me ideas to get me out of my funk that I have been in.
🦋 Also, I have to say Cassidy's was so very cute in this video. She is talking a lot more, and that's so very cute. I loved her little yellow rain boots, they were to cute. U can see that she is a mommy girl. Alex, thank you for being a very loving and caring person. 💛
When I went through IVF, my AMH was a .2. I know I have diminishing ovarian reserve. They retrieved only 2 eggs. One was not viable and the other is now a wild crazy 3 year old boy. You are very supported! Keep your head up and your heart open. Let yourself grieve and be sad, but at the same time rejoice in grace and thanks!
Hello Alex, from Toronto Canada. xo I experienced 1 miscarriage, but then I went on to have 3 amazing healthy daughters that I am so blessed to be their mom. If I can say while watching this vlog, you do not have to explain yourself for your family choices, you do not have to apologize to anyone unless there is a need to. Yes you are on a world wide platform, but no one can just show up and criticize you and your family, if so block them. I have been along on your journey since the adoptions of the girls and once in a while I'll go back and watch the "line across" video :)) I wish your family all the love and joy you deserve, and God willing you will have more wees one. God Bless. P.S. how are the 4 parents doing, I just adore them all
My heart goes out to you Alex, that people are telling you to be thankful for the girls you do have. Your dreamed of more. And your grieving broken dreams!
My 2 mos old heart baby passed away a month ago, and it’s been so hard to hear people tell me just to be thankful for the daughter I do have.
I’m so with you, I AM thankful for my daughter, but I’m grieving broken dreams of her having a baby sister.
I’ve been watching your videos, since our daughter was born with a CHD. I loved how much hope you gave me that our story would turn out like yours, and that someday our baby would be a healthy 2 yr old like Cassidy 🤍 sometimes God has a different plan tho. Hugs 🤍
It's OK to be sad. I had my 3rd baby at 36 after 9 months of trying and 1 miscarriage.
I count my blessings I had 3 beautiful children. I know friends who are going through infertility and it's heart breaking. So massive hugs to you all x
You are a blessing Alex! Keep on hoping, praying, not giving up on the vision God has put in your heart and within your soul!! Keep on being an encouragement to others!🙌🏻🙌🏻😍🤩
I love your channel, I have been watching for years and I know you are grateful for your girls. I have been through infertility and it’s hard, I now have four children and believe I’m blessed. You are blessed and yet you still have a right to want to grow your family, you are a loving family and I Pray for you to have more children.
I have never dealt with infertility but due to a inherited condition I had my tubes tied at 24 after our first 2 children. I grieved the loss of future children for many years afterwards and still think about their absence. Sending love and prayers.
Prayers for your family. I don’t know your struggle. But now being a grandparent of granddaughters going in their 20s, I am interested so if they have your problems I can be supportive. I was blessed with a son and daughter but had to face could not have more. My dream was to have 6. Prayers your dream of family being large comes true.
Hello family. Do not focus on your AmH. Keep moving forward with your plan. I was 38 AmH of .6
I did IVF I got 6-8 eggs. Quality is better than quantity any day ! Don’t let this ruin ur holiday season.
I have a perfect 3.5 month old baby boy at almost 40
AmH just says hey ur supply is getting low as it does when we age but they are still in there.
Go get ‘em !
It's the empty space. We had 5 children and I knew there were still empty spaces. I cried out to the Lord continually. I longed for the children that I knew should be filling those spaces. My heart ached for them. I had no idea how many spaces, but I knew there was a void. The Lord filled those spaces through the adoption of 8 more children. I pray that the Lord will fill your empty spaces in His time.
I love love love the fertility/infertility videos. Not that I don’t love farm life. I love when u do both. These help people because u have shared and been open and honest. Ignore the mean and nasty comments. Ur family will grow again.
U should not have to apologize for the beautiful family u have we was dealing with the same thing ur dealing with I have 3 beautiful stepdaughters and we have.twin boys now and we Was trying for 8years are boys r 2yrs old and now we are 8weeks pregnant again with triple and we never thought we was going to get pregnant and I am 45years old so do not loss hope Alex love you and ur beautiful family
The people who say " Be greatful for what you have" are the same people who don't understand what your going through. I am so sorry for all you and the hubby have to go through. Keep your head up.. I will be praying for you!!
10 eggs is still a really good number!
I have low AMH. We did IVF and got 12 egg’s at our retrieval (my husband has a balanced translocation). I was told that was very good considering my AMH number. It was helpful to do the follicle check that goes along with it because despite a low number, i had a lot of follicles.
I have been told by my naturopath that low vitamin D can cause your AMH to appear low.
Thank you for sharing your heart. Your definitely an inspiration! I don’t know infertility, but I do try my best to understand by watching videos etc.
I will continue to pray for you, and if its God will you get another amazing beautiful child to add to your family.
God bless you all ❤.
Hi Alex and Phil, all I want to say is that I don't where I would be, if I hadn't found your channel almost four years ago when I received my Premature Ovarian Insufficiency diagnosis. My AMH was 0.06 back then, and 0.03 last time I measured it. I froze for 4 years while trying to get out of debt and be able to afford IVF, we're starting our journey in a couple of weeks to see what the doctor says and go from there. This holiday will be bittersweet, we will get the chance to see my family after four years of being unable to travel back home, and meet 2 of my 3 nieces (my sister's), while we're on the empty arms phase.
I love your fertility videos and your farm videos, would love how to figure out how to do both a hospitality career and farm life and be able to afford fertility treatments.
Many blessings to you and your family, I feel you... ❤️❤️❤️
I know how you feel it took 12 years to have my daughter and I always wanted a big family and I get so annoyed when people say to me just be thankful for the blessing you have people don't understand how much that hurts sometimes
I’m so sorry you’ve been hit with these lab results. I’m excited for you to get back with Dr. Hatch! 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Miracles happen every day!
Don’t apologize Alex. You are allowed to have any feelings you want. I am on the same page-I could care less about the holidays while my marriage is a mess. I don’t even want to deal with it. Hang in there ❤
I am SO sad to hear that you are getting ugly comments on your channel 💔 You are a wonderful woman and an inspiration to many people all around our globe 🌍 If you can …try to ignore the bad comments and continue just to be the beautiful soul that you are 🙏❤️🌹 Warm hugs from a follower in Norway ❤️🥰🇳🇴
Alex, I think we all understand that you are grateful and you appreciate your kiddos. I think what most are trying to say, is don’t land and stay there. There is a season of grief, and a season of healing.
I was 43 when I became a mom for the first time.
I’m now 51, and still open to adoption. But for now, we have tabled it until after the new year.
What ever you do, we just don’t want you to camp in the sadness. Blessings