Advice to Young Men in Their 20s

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 736

  • @TheRoommatesPodcast
    @TheRoommatesPodcast  3 роки тому +71

    Be sure to hit the subscribe button and sign ip for Patreon here: www.patreon.com/theroommates

    • @lg2different
      @lg2different 3 роки тому +1

      I see women that act like dudes git females like it’s nothing 😡 an I’m not a ugly dude I go to gym I do cool money wise I got my own place I got decent credit smh this is dum

    • @arjhanesfahani8952
      @arjhanesfahani8952 3 роки тому +1

      PREACH HAFEEZ I REALLY NEEDED THIS!!

    • @neilray2599
      @neilray2599 3 роки тому +1

      I am in the same boat but some what different at the age of 28. Man life been so crappy beyond belief 😪 I hate my 20s bro. My plate is way overflowing. It's like I am raising two kids (my parents). On top of that not having any girl want me. Money is not there, I don't have my own place. Life is been hell and trash. I barely see a light at the end of the tunnel Hafeez. I see some light cuz of my therapist. Thanks to Kevin Samuels I even went to one after 8 years of dealing with mental health problems. Life is just beyond crappy. It's much more negatives than positives bro. But the therapy definitely helps and that's one of the key steps like Kevin the God father says. But ok bro I will listen to you and go with your advice. U been in the same shoes so I know ur not lying. Ur living proof of making it out of that part of life and becoming successful. I can't tell you how much I needed this bro. I really appreciate you bro, love u from the bottom of my heart. I am honesty crying and shaking writing this bro. 😢 it's hard to hold back emotions cuz finally I ran across someone who went through what I am going through since being 20 and who I look up to. I will play this video everytime I am down and in doubt and not happy. Thanks for the advise bro. It's really refreshing to hear this. From now on I will change my mindset. I never though of it that way even though I love God ask for his guidance, help, love, and forgiveness. U making me think know. 🤔. So this is where I am put by God ok gotcha bro I will start embracing it and enjoying it while continuing to improve myself everyday. Much love bro and may God bless you 🙏 ❤.

    • @arjhanesfahani8952
      @arjhanesfahani8952 3 роки тому +2

      @@neilray2599 Hey man god bless you and your life man if you are looking for an accountability partner or just someone to talk to man i am currently 22 years of age. However accountability is accountability man keep your head up as Tupac would say man!! Definitely hit me up on Patreon man if you are on the platform.. God bless you brother take care of yourself and your loved ones!!!👍👍👍

    • @neilray2599
      @neilray2599 3 роки тому +1

      @@arjhanesfahani8952 thanks bro I appreciate you 🙏. God bless you and your life too bro. I will keep my head up like Tupac says! I will bro means alot bro. I am not on patreon for this channel but I will join now. Means alot that you reached out bro 🙏. God bless your soul. I will see u on patreon soon.

  • @SafeTopps
    @SafeTopps 3 роки тому +870

    The frustrating thing about being a young man is no one really gives you a chance. You have to put in the work, ,and eventually profit from the results.

    • @jashonbass8350
      @jashonbass8350 3 роки тому +34

      I’m not exactly sure in what context you mean this but when it comes to money, get your foot in the door by taking the risk away from the person you want to give you an opportunity and show them that you can get great results and you’ll have no problem.
      The reality is that however old you are, there are younger men doing what you want to do. Don’t accept these stories you’re telling yourself (“because I’m young I can’t do XYZ”),
      you can. Take extreme ownership over the outcomes in your life and go do what you need to do to get what you want in life

    • @SafeTopps
      @SafeTopps 3 роки тому +1

      @@jashonbass8350 Hm, gotcha.

    • @truequotetheartist
      @truequotetheartist 3 роки тому +1

      This is FACTS.

    • @CHOPPASTRINGS
      @CHOPPASTRINGS 3 роки тому +2

      @@jashonbass8350 facts bro

    • @Northsmen
      @Northsmen 3 роки тому +2

      You’re just as useless as a 35+ year old woman

  • @DejiDigital
    @DejiDigital 3 роки тому +212

    "Don't compare yourself to who you see people being today, because you don't know who they were yesterday and you don't know what they'll be tomorrow" - Jordan B. Peterson

  • @refineme
    @refineme 3 роки тому +649

    I agree with this advice. Stop worrying about what others are doing. I loved my 20s and I’m turning 40. Do what makes you happy, work hard, build yourself up, get and grow skills, have fun, be kind and generous, love your family, and all good things will come. I stayed single and it was a great decision and waited for my 30s to settle down.
    19 - moved out and never moved back home
    23 - graduated college, got my first Corp job making 47k
    25 - promoted, 75k
    28 - bought a 5br/3ba house and lived alone. Had a new truck and car.
    29 - promoted, 100k. I renovated my house all on my own
    Looking back it was a lot of fun, being not married and tied down. It allowed me to grow the way I needed to before getting married and being a dad. The whole time I never tried to do what others were doing. Or rushing to find a wife. I did what made sense to me and made me happy. I still do what makes me happy, but I put my wife and kids first. And it’s nice that I’ve grown so much and have good earning where I can comfortably do that.

    • @GodesXsports99
      @GodesXsports99 3 роки тому

      What did u major in?

    • @refineme
      @refineme 3 роки тому +42

      @@GodesXsports99 Biochemistry, but most of my job skills are actually learned through experience and on the job. But I would have to say the most useful life skills I picked up was living and owning a home by myself in my 20s. Financial literacy, auto repair like changing a timing belt ore brake jobs, plumbing like replacing a water heater or replacing a grommet in a dishwasher, laying tile or hardwood floors, small engine repair… I’ve save so much money knowing how to do maintenance and diy repairs.

    • @kaso1325
      @kaso1325 3 роки тому +4

      @@refineme Where u learn how to repair things?

    • @ImFredoJr
      @ImFredoJr 3 роки тому

      Congrats! I’m turning 20 in February.

    • @v9swhap160
      @v9swhap160 3 роки тому +2

      @ka so youtube g we really got the cheat code

  • @Osigah
    @Osigah 3 роки тому +76

    I feel the same way. When I was 21 I was down feeling bad for myself in my parents house, broke unaccomplished etc. 5 years later Im in my own home with a great business and purpose in life. I just made my first million last week!

    • @benaugustt6862
      @benaugustt6862 2 роки тому +1

      Any advice to a 16 yr old ?

    • @BoomProductionsonthebeat
      @BoomProductionsonthebeat 2 роки тому +4

      @@benaugustt6862 keep going and don't stop for anyone or anything young nigga 💯

    • @malexakoh5301
      @malexakoh5301 2 роки тому

      I'm 22 any advice for me

    • @DoyinVoice
      @DoyinVoice Рік тому

      Congratulations 🎉

    • @colerainswaggify6387
      @colerainswaggify6387 Рік тому

      ​@@benaugustt6862 They never give you advice because they don't want you on your level. They'll try to sell you a dream to make you think they do, though.

  • @TheModernSamurai
    @TheModernSamurai 3 роки тому +343

    The superpower we have in our 20s is that nobody will fault you for driving a used car or living with your parents. Use this to your advantage. Resist the temptation to impress others!

    • @flyingknee23
      @flyingknee23 3 роки тому +18

      I mean... y'all better take advantage of it.

    • @ErnieF10
      @ErnieF10 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks

  • @theforesightseen1769
    @theforesightseen1769 2 роки тому +6

    Life is a difficult exam. Many fail because they want to copy others... not realizing that everyone has different exam questions.

  • @_teezy
    @_teezy 3 роки тому +105

    Not even lying . I’m 22 and this hit me hard.. I needed to hear this even if it was just for confirmation 💯

    • @MamboSinclaire
      @MamboSinclaire 3 роки тому +7

      Same.. it’s 12:43am here, 22.. felt like this for a sec, glad I came.. sometimes you forget simple things like “do not compare yourself to anyone” when you’re so “caught up” in your “problems”.. enjoy life.. you can work as hard as you want, eat as healthy as you want, but everyone has a due date. Who’s to say you’ll live till you’re 60? Live a life worth living. Enjoy the simple things

    • @seektruth5750
      @seektruth5750 3 роки тому

      I’m glad y’all realize, peace be with you 🍃

    • @davidaguirre9125
      @davidaguirre9125 2 роки тому +1

      U got 🕙 bro keep ur head up :)👍🙏

  • @SuperTillys
    @SuperTillys 3 роки тому +181

    The best advice we should all give to men regardless of age is to simply move forward and never look back!

  • @aleksandra7508
    @aleksandra7508 3 роки тому +272

    Thank you for this message. It really uplifted me . I'm 22 and I can't stop comparing myself to my friends. All of them are in long-term relationships, are at college or have a decent jobs. It feels like there is nothing going on for me
    Edit: Thank you for all the comments and likes ♥️ I wasn't expecting anyone to see this

    • @ashleeskhan4075
      @ashleeskhan4075 3 роки тому +13

      Same girl.

    • @jonathanromero-zn4xc
      @jonathanromero-zn4xc 3 роки тому +19

      I’m turning 22 next month and feel the same, so behind in life yet a senior in college and now double thinking/doubting my major (urban education)

    • @youssefjawhari1441
      @youssefjawhari1441 3 роки тому +10

      Just Marry a High Value Man Because You Are In You Prime Be feminine work in Any Job It doesn't matter as Long As You are in your twenties you're gonna find the right man don't lose hope

    • @aleksandra7508
      @aleksandra7508 3 роки тому +14

      @@youssefjawhari1441 It is easier to say than done. How am I supposed to find a high value man ? I don't drink and I don't go to the clubs. I also don't use dating apps ..

    • @youssefjawhari1441
      @youssefjawhari1441 3 роки тому +10

      @@aleksandra7508 i Respected you even more when you said that's You Are an angel Just Take care of your look's and body and add Value to a man who deserve like cooking and help him in his life and i promise you will change your life and have kids around you just go out a little bit and explore

  • @TheLazyMom
    @TheLazyMom 3 роки тому +359

    although your channel is geared towards creating better men, watching a lot of your videos makes me want to become a better woman

    • @hoodrichfem2wavyy294
      @hoodrichfem2wavyy294 3 роки тому +29

      That’s Wassup Shawty🤛🏾, keep Grinding & remember just work smarter not harder🎯Also get Mor Spiritual for Yourself❣️

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  3 роки тому +46

      Amen!! Love to hear this

    • @jamaldee2355
      @jamaldee2355 3 роки тому +4

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @mullena98
      @mullena98 3 роки тому +7

      Agreed 100% !! 😌

    • @emilyreyes2186
      @emilyreyes2186 2 роки тому +1

      this right here 🙌🏻

  • @jasminealexia
    @jasminealexia 3 роки тому +34

    Hafees! 😭 I’m so happy for you! You’re a real one for making this.. I remember when I was still living with my folks at 27 feeling like a scrub and my mentor/boss told me to take my time and don’t be in a rush to take on all these unnecessary bills just to be by myself. I had just bought myself a car and felt so behind in life but it’s really all a lie-the timeline of society! It will have you thinking you don’t measure up but greatness is already within you! You’re already successful! It’s a God-speed thing!

  • @ccgg5124
    @ccgg5124 3 роки тому +33

    Takes a real man to admit these things. You deserve the success you’re getting brother all the best in the future

  • @limuelmunoz8865
    @limuelmunoz8865 3 роки тому +31

    i can't thank you enough, podcast really is an eyeopener for a 25 year-old man like me, who's still in search for life purpose

  • @dayinthegrind688
    @dayinthegrind688 3 роки тому +9

    I'm 19 with this midset. Really needed to heat this!

  • @ernestotoscano6916
    @ernestotoscano6916 3 роки тому +25

    I needed to hear this. Im 20 right now lowkey depressed and frustrated with all these questions realizing that I’m just comparing myself to other successful people my age. God has a journey and a purpose for me. I just need to be in the present and focus on myself. I’ll check back on this vid in the future✌🏼 peace&love to anyone that reads this!

    • @Anonymous-zu8qt
      @Anonymous-zu8qt 2 роки тому +1

      @Ernesto toscano hey man how did it go? You said you’ll check back on us!

    • @nuttybangerz
      @nuttybangerz 2 роки тому

      Been a year brother, hope all is well!

  • @drof1462
    @drof1462 3 роки тому +11

    turning 20 this week so perfect timing

  • @bruce7244
    @bruce7244 3 роки тому +2

    I need to relax and be grateful more

  • @findmysoulgarden914
    @findmysoulgarden914 3 роки тому +138

    Keeping up with Jones' mindset. The grass is always greener on the other side until you realize that it is not! Focus on being your best self. Remember when the game is over all the game pieces go back in the same box, but it is how you played the game that will determine where you will go after your journey here on earth.✌️

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  3 роки тому +11

      Great Advice Shelley

    • @tamiressoares9303
      @tamiressoares9303 3 роки тому +4

      👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @findmysoulgarden914
      @findmysoulgarden914 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheRoommatesPodcast Thank you. I have to remind myself daily of this because it is sooo easy to take the bait!!! Been there!!! Have a super day!! A study, if you are interested, - When the game is over..by John Ortberg. It is on UA-cam.😁😁

  • @traevon.m.
    @traevon.m. Рік тому +1

    I am 24 years old and and I really needed to see this. I am always working on myself and my goals but I because of comparison and I don’t want to waste my twenties and I felt like I wasn’t where I thought I should be. God definitely needed me to see this video. Thank you so so much for this. 💯🙏🏾😪

  • @brianthornton8781
    @brianthornton8781 3 роки тому +8

    Hafeez I just want to say that I am a 26 year old man and this was much appreciated. I feel like most of the pressure from society is always on the man for the most part. I always feel like I need to grind harder and work and work because “I’m not where I need to be” but you just made me realize that I have to enjoy the journey. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Thank you brother for opening my eyes and changing so many lives.

  • @luisfigueroa6710
    @luisfigueroa6710 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you man! I’m about to turn 26 and I am still living with my parents. I’m working two jobs 7 days a week, saving and building my wealth while slowly paying off my student debt. This was a pick me up!

  • @mohammedhussain8138
    @mohammedhussain8138 3 роки тому +6

    I don’t comment on videos but your timing on this one is something else. Keep at it man

  • @tristanrollins417
    @tristanrollins417 3 роки тому +13

    “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Best thing I’ve heard in a while

  • @Martindhoang
    @Martindhoang 3 роки тому +54

    Been following this channel for a long time. This is one of the best episode. Thanks for sharing your story Hafeez

  • @youngkingdj1932
    @youngkingdj1932 3 роки тому +12

    I needed this video desperately. I Just graduated college this past spring thinking that I would be on verge of being a professional athlete, to me now not sure of what I wanna do since being a athlete didn’t work the way I wanted it to. I came back home to little to no friends and I was instantly depressed cause I believed that I was a failure. I am now realizing that I compare my life to others too often. People I knew in high school who are in (NFL, big time Job, married etc.) I know God is by my side. I needed this video 🙏🏽

  • @shootingbricks8554
    @shootingbricks8554 3 роки тому +12

    I limited social media exposure and it helped a lot. I don't waste time looking at others as much.

  • @josh-cb4ng
    @josh-cb4ng 3 роки тому +15

    crazy I turned 20 last month and been pursuing something for about a year and im still not were I felt I should be.Legit cried like 3 hours ago and this comes up.

    • @flyingknee23
      @flyingknee23 3 роки тому +4

      Bro, you're 20

    • @duobv7597
      @duobv7597 2 роки тому

      Keep going man, I'll turn 20 in a minth.. I'm getting ready

  • @jvmvrrashad
    @jvmvrrashad 3 роки тому +22

    Turned 29 back in June… last summer is when I moved out my parents house and literally you said everything that I was saying to myself then and now. This really hit me hard. I really needed to hear this. Thank you my brother🙏🏾 ✊🏾

  • @dxwxt
    @dxwxt 3 роки тому +2

    God Bless You Guys !!

  • @sazahmed4225
    @sazahmed4225 3 роки тому +8

    thank you, Hafez! I really needed that. I just moved out of my parents at 24 almost going 25 and within 3 months of living independent, I've been feeling horrible, constantly comparing myself.

  • @DeadshotGunner
    @DeadshotGunner 3 роки тому +29

    It’s tough having love for a girl when I’m trying to focus on my self. I know theirs things I want to accomplish and the balance of trying to achieve my goals and emotionally investing in this special person is such a battle mentally. I just started a new a career job, I’ve been investing pretty well and working out. Idk what to do with her but I have love for her.

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  3 роки тому +6

      The right one will come

    • @anabolicchicken4115
      @anabolicchicken4115 2 роки тому

      bro same lol. I'm doing good but those strong emotions just take you out of everything. Forward, always.

  • @cringelad3765
    @cringelad3765 3 роки тому +115

    17 years old and absorbing this knowledge. Appreciated big time guys. :)

  • @EuphoricOceann
    @EuphoricOceann 2 роки тому +3

    Dude I cannot explain to you how much I needed to hear this! 💯 I’m currently 20 on the verge of 21 in a couple of months And I’m about to get into trade school as an electrician and just leveling up isn’t easy, a very lonely path indeed but I see light at the end of the tunnel and Yah has me💯. Blessings to everyone feeling like they aren’t good enough or happy be you

  • @harlanwilkinson3142
    @harlanwilkinson3142 3 роки тому +55

    As a 29 year old, I needed this.

  • @dontatme3844
    @dontatme3844 3 роки тому +132

    I’m literally in the same spot you were when you were 29 bro except I’m 23. I’ve failed almost every endeavour I’ve set out upon but I’m not giving up (although many times I want to). I’m starting therapy soon which I’m hoping will help. I’m desperate to find my calling and discover what Gods plans for my life are. I’m also dealing with heartache from a women, similar situation to yours. I just want to be happy and find my purpose.

    • @thepeacemakerangel1239
      @thepeacemakerangel1239 3 роки тому +9

      I’m the same age as you. In the same position. Was smart academically but didn’t go that route. Not sure what life holds for me.

    • @PwnSomeNoobs32
      @PwnSomeNoobs32 3 роки тому +10

      Same her lads, 24. Gotta KeepGoing. Gotta push thru… not wish to ✊🏾💯

    • @nahomaberra9192
      @nahomaberra9192 3 роки тому +12

      I hope it all goes well for you brother. I was at a similar situation in my life where my soul was empty and I was depressed. It was until I developed a relationship with God that I found all that I needed. He is a loving Father that wants to lead His children and God is my everything honestly. When the world cast me out for nothing God was the one who wiped the tears off my face and welcomed me with loving arms. God is truly the greatest and I don’t even deserve to have Him as my Father. Attach yourself to God and it will be the greatest decision you will ever make in your life brother. Trust me because I was at the lowest of lowest and only God was there for me. Glory be to the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and to the end of ages.

    • @bg23allday1
      @bg23allday1 3 роки тому +4

      You gone get there bro keep pushing ✊🏾

    • @seanseedharie668
      @seanseedharie668 3 роки тому

      Trade stocks

  • @lifesjustfine
    @lifesjustfine 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you Hafeez. Im in my early 20s and feeling extremely behind my peers. Constantly worrying. I just found Christ and a lot of that worry is melting away and I’m beginning to transform. Your message really resonated with me. Needed that.

  • @SaynTrades
    @SaynTrades 3 роки тому +1

    I was about to say bro bro as. 29 year old African American man and parents still supported…. Wow bro you were blessed. As we all are in ways! Absolutely amazing video new sub

  • @ThatGuy-mf9ye
    @ThatGuy-mf9ye 3 роки тому +2

    I struggle sometimes with a general negativity despite the fact that, like you said, my life is objectively good and I've been blessed with more than I realize. Hearing somebody like you speak with so much passion and gratitutde for what you have been given really brings me back.

  • @marcus4646
    @marcus4646 3 роки тому +8

    16 years old here. Though this video wouldn't apply to me because I'm not in my 20s yet, I think the piece of advice you shared in this video will still help and benefit me for my future. The earlier the better.

  • @gabrielnewberry3329
    @gabrielnewberry3329 2 роки тому +5

    I really needed to hear this! I recently graduated college and I’m trying to figure out the hardest question: “what is my purpose in life?” I continuously ask myself this and never fail to get fearful that I’ll make the wrong decisions and harbor regret for missed opportunities. Sufficed to say, I haven’t really come up with an answer yet, but there have always been times where I compare my choices in life to other people and wonder if I’m doing the right thing. This is very toxic and dangerous, because this mindset either made me depressed or urged me to beat myself up and self-isolate. The reality is you never know what the other person’s life is like, and you close yourself off to the possibilities and new ideas that only you can bring to this world… I hate ranting so I’ll stop here, but either way thanks again for the video. This is great advice!

  • @Rsharif22
    @Rsharif22 3 роки тому +12

    I just turned 22 and i have excellent credit ,decent savings, a job and am looking into school for electrical work and i feel like I'm lagging behind my peers.

    • @Rsharif22
      @Rsharif22 3 роки тому +1

      @Maxey i have to keep telling myself that but socail media is the devil

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  3 роки тому +6

      You're doing just fine! Keep leveling up

    • @lmao3767
      @lmao3767 3 роки тому +3

      I'm turning 22 and don't have anything. You are good my guy, delete social media, you don't need that distraction.

    • @sour3000
      @sour3000 3 роки тому +1

      @@lmao3767 same. Turning 22 next month

    • @anthonywilliams855
      @anthonywilliams855 3 роки тому

      Your not though.......

  • @livixdrawsframes
    @livixdrawsframes 3 роки тому +28

    I'm in my late 20's and even I needed to hear this! Thank you Hafeez! God bless! :D :D
    And another thing! You are NOT any less of a human being if you don't have the wealth, fame and status of someone else!

  • @mcc5295
    @mcc5295 3 роки тому +1

    hafeez please do more & longer videos at night with this city view background . its awesome and makes me enjoy the video even more , i like the vibes

  • @theaccountable
    @theaccountable 3 роки тому +13

    Coming up on 4 years being in LA, and I've been having moments of feeling like maybe I need to go back to the east coast especially as of lately. I know my purpose I know what my god mission is but the loneliness of this journey of self growth can be overbearing at times especially when you live in a place like LA that is so based on comparison and masks. I can say genuine authentic relationships is what I truly desire but I also know that to find those people YOU HAVE to stay on this journey you have to keep pushing because even though it'll be hard and lonely you'll make it through and that tribe will come!

  • @northendtony
    @northendtony 3 роки тому +5

    I’m 17 and I feel lost. I’m not going to college this year because I have no idea what to study. I haven’t found my passion. I just don’t know. I’m going to get a job to start saving some money and go from there. Thank you for this video

    • @marlontrevon22
      @marlontrevon22 3 роки тому +1

      Because no one told me most men don’t flourish until mid 20s / 30s point is you have time

  • @chadrayon
    @chadrayon 3 роки тому +1

    Working my warehouse job at 27 trying to figure it out. Thanks for this touch on reality brother.

  • @tenwest6269
    @tenwest6269 3 роки тому +3

    Man I’m 29 right now and in the same boat. I started looking for my calling and started my flight training to be a pilot. I’m not at my destination yet, but success is all about the journey.

  • @ashleeskhan4075
    @ashleeskhan4075 3 роки тому +28

    I know that this channel and advice is geared for men but honestly, this is solid advice. I myself struggled with this. Thank you for the reminder. 👌

  • @kennymlogisticsconsultancy6863
    @kennymlogisticsconsultancy6863 3 роки тому +2

    My life was a whole mess, I was depressed, tired, comparing myself to my friends, it took me a whole different diversion to be where I am, only to be here and I have no more friends since they are afraid I moved too fast, just afraid out here of being alone

  • @christianchestnut1598
    @christianchestnut1598 3 роки тому +3

    I needed this, I have an overachieving mindset and it’s been detrimental. I just turned 20 but feel like I’ve failed, I constantly think about moving out of my parents section 8 home and starting over and getting away from the toxicity but that’s all they are, thoughts. I keep on thinking and forget to be in the moment and really count my blessings

  • @Hallowpoet
    @Hallowpoet 3 роки тому +1

    Soon to be 22 and im completely broke, no car, no credit established yet, but i have dreams and im not giving up, im doing this for me

  • @_Swill_
    @_Swill_ 3 роки тому +3

    This was all for me! Mad love from Nigeria! 🇳🇬

  • @Eric.D.
    @Eric.D. 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks man , I am about to turn 20 and this is the best message I could ask for , literally a game changer. Thanks for the early birthday gift, I am grateful 🙏

  • @sorjibattle
    @sorjibattle 3 роки тому +12

    Thank u brother for this message, I needed to hear this

  • @israelh.2259
    @israelh.2259 3 роки тому

    I’m 24 and been thru so much. I thank you for this video because i never stopped and soaked in what i have now. A mother that would give the world, a roof over my head, a bed that i can come back home to, a little savings account, a car that can get me from a to b with no issues. Comparing is the most toxic thing to do to your mental. Social media is a big influence in it as well. I thank you for this video and I’m happy i came across by it because I’ve been so worried and comparing myself to others that i haven’t stopped and soak in what i have now and the blessings i have now. Great video brutha. Thanks again!

  • @james271993
    @james271993 3 роки тому +1

    Hafeez is so real and transparent. Thank you for sharing.

  • @khwezimvuyana4092
    @khwezimvuyana4092 3 роки тому +1

    I'm so happy I have these conversations with myself.

  • @joelcervantes2208
    @joelcervantes2208 2 роки тому +1

    Frustrating thing is there’s so many advice I feel like I gotta go thru it all and live a life with no mistakes just tryna avoid the big ones I guess

  • @RY_2023_
    @RY_2023_ 3 роки тому +3

    I am a women and I just turned 29 and relate to this !

  • @BlackSmithSundays
    @BlackSmithSundays 3 роки тому +4

    Today is my 28th birthday & I needed to hear this. Thank you

  • @dominikadomis7430
    @dominikadomis7430 2 роки тому +1

    Remember time is worth much more than money. Stop blindlly chasing the money because when you reach your 60s and then you will think 'what I did for all this years.'This is why it is important to enjoy your life because you never know when your life will end. Do what makes you happy.

  • @Xzon39
    @Xzon39 2 роки тому

    Am 24, Hafeez just told me what nobody ever told me. and thank you Hafeez i wish you can see this, because you just changed somebodies life

  • @imjustchillman
    @imjustchillman 3 роки тому +4

    *Don't compare your Chapter 1 to other people's Chapter 20*
    I deleted my Facebook and Instagram 4 years ago. Never had Snapchat, never had Twitter.
    One of the best decisions I ever made. And I never looked back. All glory to God 🙌🙏
    Bless up yall.

  • @Immortal-sr8gq
    @Immortal-sr8gq 3 роки тому +41

    I am 25 years old and now I have 20k saving and a job I love. I am happy for what I have. I don't care about material things.

    • @sour3000
      @sour3000 3 роки тому +8

      20k savings! Woah!!!

    • @AniMeLoVeR23451
      @AniMeLoVeR23451 3 роки тому +1

      that wont help u in hell

    • @XxGLGxXBUNCH
      @XxGLGxXBUNCH 3 роки тому +6

      @@AniMeLoVeR23451 You should be supporting others of what they achieve. I’m 24 and I’m currently saving cause in the future when I have kids I want to help them for their future. @Immortal 666 keeep it up my man never give up on what your doing for your future

    • @activelifeg5237
      @activelifeg5237 3 роки тому +2

      Congratulations

    • @Energizer720
      @Energizer720 3 роки тому +1

      Used my life savings on a options bet

  • @jacdaniels3057
    @jacdaniels3057 3 роки тому +1

    Turning 22 in a month,and this is just what I needed.

  • @djefardeur7958
    @djefardeur7958 3 роки тому +1

    Happyness is a state of mind, it's not a car, a house, a job nor a girl. Once u understand that, your perspective change, u start appreciating life for what it is and u become grateful. True freedom starts in the mind !

  • @realestatemotivated
    @realestatemotivated 3 роки тому

    Love it. Not worrying about others and living for yourself is hard to do especially in today’s social media age but it’s so rewarding.

  • @Nadroj97
    @Nadroj97 3 роки тому +4

    Seemed like this was straight from the heart, much love and respect sir

  • @markpinkneyjr9991
    @markpinkneyjr9991 3 роки тому +1

    I'm only 20 and didn't realize how much I needed to hear this rn. Thanks man.

  • @Woodfitness00
    @Woodfitness00 3 роки тому +1

    I just turned 20 few months ago I really needed this bra seriously 💯

  • @SjonnyBB
    @SjonnyBB 2 роки тому

    Best advice there is! I’m 19 and stopped with social media 1 year ago

  • @RibsBjj
    @RibsBjj 2 роки тому +1

    You are right, let me tell a quick story about me. I'm 26 yrs old, at 24 I got my IT degree but wasnt sure if that was what I wanted at the time. So I took a yr to prepare to pass the series of tests that you have to pass to engage on the police of my country and I did great on the majority but on the last test (psychological one) I wasnt qualified.
    The most important thing I realized on this whole yr that I took to prepare was how capable I am and that I really should pursuit an IT career, but if I was focused on other people grind I wouldnt have learned that we walk diferent paths one may go point A to B and other A to C and then B, but in the end we should stay true to our self.

  • @OneSmoothOperator
    @OneSmoothOperator 3 роки тому +1

    Good video brother, not what I thought it would be about.

  • @Tjordzzz
    @Tjordzzz 3 роки тому +1

    well explained!

  • @Timothy_ross_
    @Timothy_ross_ 2 роки тому +1

    I’m only 18 but I really need this advice so I can prepare for my 20s and 30s

  • @Npcxbmoney
    @Npcxbmoney 3 роки тому +2

    I’m not even in my 20’s I’m 16 but I needed this just for a heads up

  • @grim789
    @grim789 3 роки тому +1

    Damn dude this hits home. I kept falling to drugs cause I hated my life and myself. I got sober a few months back got back to God and now I got a great job finally able to pay off some of my debt and working to saving and investing.

  • @m.i.awxrld8636
    @m.i.awxrld8636 3 роки тому +1

    i'm turning 20 in like 4 days perfect timing.

  • @BigDripBoi
    @BigDripBoi 3 роки тому +1

    Big facts watched it twice 2 days in a row

  • @hilaryslick
    @hilaryslick 3 роки тому +2

    This was what I needed! Going through a whole lot currently, to God be the glory, I trust the process and I know, I'm going to accomplish what God predestined for me.

  • @sheanthesheep8816
    @sheanthesheep8816 2 роки тому

    I’m glad I’m able to watch this as an 18 yr old, learned so much life lessons

  • @THEGAMERS-ro3yr
    @THEGAMERS-ro3yr 3 роки тому +1

    Good message

  • @Joshualibbyy
    @Joshualibbyy 3 роки тому +1

    I was really having a bad day after getting rejected by a girl I really crushed on I appreciate this video thank u

    • @rautmannalex804
      @rautmannalex804 3 роки тому +1

      Keep ur head up bro 👑 Every rejection brings gets you closer to ur real destination

  • @bennig4223
    @bennig4223 3 роки тому +1

    22 and this rings true

  • @dakaloernestmunonde6485
    @dakaloernestmunonde6485 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for the video.
    I am 22 and I am not where I want to be. I felt like my life had lost direction.
    This video has changed how I view things.

    • @jojo5774
      @jojo5774 3 роки тому +1

      Same here bro I'm 22 as well and planning on joining the air force so I can shape up mentally and physically as a Young Man and to take care of my family.

  • @SethKuroWilson
    @SethKuroWilson 2 роки тому

    the best pep talk of my life :,)

  • @theofficialkamikaze
    @theofficialkamikaze 3 роки тому

    I thank platforms like these because it helped in some many ways that I could’ve never imagined. I am 21 right now and going into my last year in college. I started this self development journey when I was 20 because I was tired of living a life with no found purpose. I’ve always felt as my life is different from everyone else but I was wasting my talents staying up late, doing nothing throughout the day, just wasting time. Once quarantine hit, I knew change had to happen. Now, im on this journey of becoming a basketball coach once I finish school, creating a performance coaching business, creating a brotherhood/sisterhood program for my high school, and dabbling in a bunch of other hobbies. Again, without channels like these mentoring us, I wouldn’t fully be where I’m at today. So I thank you and will continue to be grateful for people like this

  • @anioganesyan8034
    @anioganesyan8034 3 роки тому +1

    This put tears in my eyes.. in 2021 a man tlking like this is so refreshing.. i needed this today i was sitting al day thinking man im not were i need to be everyone having babies i am here newly single..

    • @DoyinVoice
      @DoyinVoice Рік тому

      Your beautiful and your path will work out accordingly don’t worry. Babies are a huge responsibility

  • @jakegillguitar
    @jakegillguitar 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this. It really hit me deep. I'm 23 and living an incredibly blessed life. I had to repent before the Lord for allowing the spirit of comparison to come in and steal my joy, make me anxious, etc. I'm very hard on myself, but this helped me to have grace for myself, and to just let go and truly enjoy the journey.

    • @ervin5219
      @ervin5219 3 роки тому

      Stay up bro 🙏🏿

  • @ddLoading
    @ddLoading 3 роки тому +1

    felt this video word from word 🙏🏾 thankful

  • @wayy2much311
    @wayy2much311 3 роки тому +3

    Appreciate the video, Im in a point in my life where this hit me hard. Its still difficult to beat that feeling of not being successful in life, deleting social media may delete 95% of that😂. Too many standards out here for a world filled with billions of people. Definitely subscribing👌🏾

  • @mbusigumede2033
    @mbusigumede2033 2 роки тому

    I've just turned 20 and I happen to come across this video, thanks for this message, now I'll keep in mind to enjoy my 20's to the fullest, focus on my life instead of everybody else's and most importantly to trust in God to direct me on where he wants me in my life

  • @shakennotstir93
    @shakennotstir93 3 роки тому +8

    Yes Hafeez, you hit it home with this video, right now i'm 28, and that has been part of my problem too, seeing everyone one I made friends with in High school, or anyone for that matter who are in their 20's and are just traveling all over the place, and that I want to get with girls so badly that's been making me feel some type of way. I've always been trying to tell myself, not to look at what anyone else is doing, to stay in my own lane, and to be grateful for what I have. Right now, I'm trying to get my path in motion with art, and graphic design.

    • @mario125ww
      @mario125ww 3 роки тому +2

      I feel the same way. I'm 23 and graduated from college and just applied to med school however I can't get girls at all. It's pretty lonely and literally everyone I know is married all ready. It's hard to focus on me when I see everyone else buying a house, car, and getting married. Practicing gratitude will help.

    • @swavyhighlights2770
      @swavyhighlights2770 3 роки тому

      @@mario125ww a girl is not everything bro. Work on yourself and if you wanna get married speak to your parents they might know someone. Get an arranged marriage

    • @activelifeg5237
      @activelifeg5237 3 роки тому

      @@mario125ww my guy your ok , girls will always be around the bush . Keep grinding , stacking your chips , build your credit , invest my king

  • @antoniodenny1715
    @antoniodenny1715 3 роки тому +1

    Yo this video helped me out a lot bro 😎 thankyou

  • @Bringbacon1805
    @Bringbacon1805 3 роки тому +5

    I have been following this channel for about a year now and all I can say that I’m blessed to have found it. My life has changed so much and I’m so grateful for Hafeez’s and Chris’s advice. Even though I don’t know them personally and they don’t know me, I can say that they’re men that I for sure won’t ever forget! Stay blessed and stay grinding everyone! Continue the great content fellas! 💪🏽👏🏽

  • @nateg4343
    @nateg4343 3 роки тому

    So grateful to have you here in this community to help young men and women like us thank you for relating to what we feel, it's encouraging!

  • @sweatyhomophobe7329
    @sweatyhomophobe7329 Рік тому

    Really needed to hear this brother.

  • @rodolfosalazar5270
    @rodolfosalazar5270 3 роки тому

    Today I turned 20 and have dedicated my efforts into establishing my career goals since 16. Thank you for the advise.

  • @jamaldee2355
    @jamaldee2355 3 роки тому

    I’m 27 and have felt terrible about myself thank you for this video 🙏🙏🙏