Yea, ive dealt with this before and it is normal OCD. Its called Real Event / False Memory OCD. The first thing you have to do is respond with this response in your brain. Yeah, I remember that event, but I am not going to figure it out and then you have to try and forgive yourself. Forgiveness is key because it helps your brain recognize that its nothing to bring up over and over again and help yourself move on, to avoid reassurance or constantly reviewing in a loop, continue with those steps and try not to “research” as a compulsion. I know because I’ve dealt with this exact thing. You can get through it, I promise. :)
This happens to me A LOT lately, especially yesterday. I really needed this video. It makes me doubt myself, my worth, my behavior (both past and present) and it's so scary and confusing. I feel extremely detached from myself and sometimes it gets very paralyzing like you said. I miss feeling comfortable with myself and loving and trusting myself and I miss not being scared.
I truly believe knowledge is power. The more I learn the easier it gets. It’s hard to not push away the thoughts when I’ve been doing that for 8 months and now I’m finally trying to let them be there,, it’s like a whole new ball game.
Thank you for making these videos I suffer through it so much everyday just countless different things I can’t even keep track of my head is just taking me over and I can’t even think for myself anymore. My doctors think medication is the answer and it’s hard even making this comment is making me cry because I’m suffering so much and in so much desperation of help with this I just can’t deal with it anymore and I’m glad I found your channel and you’re my last hope and I pray your channel can fix me because I have Autism and all this other stuff and I really need your help. Is there a way we can chat separately I’m 22 and suffering since I was born
I hate having ocd, I can calm down listening music all day, the problem is at night when everything is quiet, my anxiety is at 10000% so I need to put a radio station at low volume and that helps me to relax and sleep.
When I first started my journey on this channel, With your help i said " maybe, Maybe not" will NE ER work! How lame!!! Just this morning I stopped myself from doing a compulsion with: Maybe, Maybe Not!!
I started having intrusive thoughts last month and it makes me feel like a terrible person. Sometimes I have harm ocd sometimes POCD. I am just afraid i don't hurt children or myself. I look at my thoughts then for sometime I calm down but when I don't react it makes me feel like I am a bad person I am not reacting to these thoughts why ? So it makes me wonder am i having an ocd or am I a bad person? I hope everyone who is facing this situation gets better eventually
@@mohinikatiyar2514 no, you are not a bad person, try ERP, respond “differently” towards the thought so that it wont prioritize HOCD thoughts: “Thank you for sending me these thoughts OCD” “Maybe I am a bad person, you’re right, thank you OCD.” You’ll feel uncomfortable at first but it will help de-prioritize the thought and help break you out of the compulsion loop, look out for “reassurance and research compulsions, prayer confessions or confessions to family. They are common rituals performed by OCD sufferers to use it as temporary relief from bad thoughts.
no, you are not a bad person, try ERP, respond “differently” towards the thought so that it wont prioritize HOCD thoughts: “Thank you for sending me these thoughts OCD” “Maybe I am a bad person or maybe I am not, you’re right, thank you OCD.” You’ll feel uncomfortable at first but it will help de-prioritize the thought and help break you out of the compulsion loop, look out for “reassurance and research compulsions, prayer confessions or confessions to family. They are common rituals performed by OCD sufferers to use it as temporary relief from bad thoughts.
Sir, I am suffering from OCD for quite some time. Then I was afraid of cancer, then I was afraid of schizophrenia and becoming bipolar. Then last night I felt as if when I saw my mother, I felt like a ghost. I was very scared seeing her face. So please tell me it's OCd intrusive thought and others condition 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I think i have it too, because sometimes i even wonder do i really have HOCD because of its realness and the feelings it gives - the groinal response. But then i just realize i really have HOCD because i still do a lot of compulsions and avoidances when it comes to something that triggers me it
Thank you so much for these videos, they're unbelievably helpful and I've been using them to help my OCD during moments I find it hard to think clearly enough to remember my own treatment strategies. They always calm me down. Would you ever consider doing a video about metacognition OCD? I struggle with hyperawareness of time/my own thought patterns, and it's so intangible that it's very difficult to nail down what my obsessions/compulsions even are, and I often don't even realize that I'm making arbitrary rules for myself!
I wholehartedly agree with what you're saying. But I am a christian and sometimes obsess over if this stuff is "biblical" or not. How would you reconcile the biblical worldview with this video?
"if you liked this video" NO i HATED it because you told me to become okay with uncertainty 😭😭😭 (seriously though you videos are very helpful even (especially) when they scare the possibly ocd part of my brain)
What helps is identifying what areas of life are already uncertain for you. Ex: Waking up tomorrow, making it to work on time, your relationship lasting, etc. Write them down, and realize that what your OCD is uncertain of could be applied to the areas of your life you’re already uncertain of. It’s all relative, embrace the uncertainties of life and let the anxiety dissipate naturally
I wanted to take your course but I can’t afford that I’m 22 and living in an apartment by myself idk how I can come up with $296 bucks. I guess all hope is lost for me
I'm doing so much better these days, but I still ask myself this question! I keep thinking I made it up this whole time. I know I didn't though because I've been diagnosed several times by professionals.
Hi Nathan, I have a question about False Memory OCD. Can you have it even for a very recent event, like a very important conversation with someone?Can this type of OCD cause misunderstanding of what you said during the conversation or what someone really meant?Can you create false memories of what someone said just 5 minutes ago and change the entire meaning of the conversation?Can it even cause delusions and misinterpreations of some parts of the conversation while you are having it? Ps:It would mean so much if you reply.
I wanna say this here cuz I haven't seen anyone who has it experienced it, or any vids on UA-cam about it. I struggle with my entire identity. One of it is that I CANNOT go out into the sun whatsoever cuz if I get a slight bit tan, I'm gonna be thinking about it all the time. (My skin is naturally light gold) I'm gonna be worried and stressed that my friends/family will think badly about me if they see that I look a shade darker than, for example, what I have in an animated avatar. Idk it sounds kinda silly but it stresses me out a ton. Or if I my face looks lighter they'd think of mw badly as well, like, "she's lying about her skin colour, she looks lighter/darker here!" I just wish I can look my natural colour everywhere I go. My overall race too. I'm mixed but I struggle cuz it's like every "season" I look like different. Example: my skin colour looks different in different lighting/pics. Some people even genuinely think I'm not from my country depending on my hair or how I dress. (I wear wigs sometimes 4 fun) And I feel like if a friend sees my pics they're gonna judge me. It's SO strange! Idk why I began having these thoughts and it is very confusing and it makes me feel guilt. Oh and another one, my hands are lighter than my face and it stresses me out cuz I want my entire body to be the exact same skin tone forever
Guys I have ocd, but now I’m always overthinking and it hurts me a lot, these thoughts are always bad, it has made my memories blank, sometimes I think of the past and I can’t even feel I was the one in that past and even the people in my past I find hard to remember how they look…..
Im didnt clearly get a diagnosis but at this point i think i can diagnose myself lol Heres about why i think i have ocd: Soo when i was younger i was so scared of having an undiagnozed serious illness and i was everyday checking if i have any signs of some illness or smth Also it was pretty much gone and came back like 4 months ago or so and it was harm ocd and i was like crying having mental breakdowns every night because of the thoughts (this 1 thought in specific) and after that 1 thought A BUNCH MORE FOLLOWED and like my brain was so filled up i was destroyed from the inside untill i found out that ocd and intrusive thoughts exist. (Also once i stopped feeling anxiety from my intrusive thoughts and i thought that means i like the thought and i tried so hard to have anxiety and be sad but i couldnt) DO YEAAA i think thats ocd but still ive never been to a therapist Also rn i dont even know what i feel anymore
There is something I dont understand. My Therapist always says that ERP is simply not enough and that you also have to learn how to deal with the upcoming anxiety and the emotions when you expose yourself, especially when it is about Pure O. Here on this Channel and on UA-cam in generell everybody talks about ERP. But isnt it just a symptom? And why does nobody mention that you can learn to deal with the anxiety and the emotions when you expose yourself? For example by breathing exercises, Meditation or something else? And why does nobody talk about the fact, that intrusive thoughts are often a symptom of an underlying psychological issue? And that, once the habituation worked on a specific topic by doing ERP, the Symptons are very likely to shift to another topic if you dont take care of the underlying issues of the OCD? It makes me very angry that nobody talks about that. In my opinion ERP is a good first step when it comes to dealing with OCD, but it is by far not the whole work which has to be done.
Does OCD make you question yourself?
Yes. And those questions come up non stop (almost) and are often terrifying...
I cannot even express in words how grateful I am for your content.❤
yea yeah, i have this question
All the time
@@ocdandanxiety yes it does and quite frequently, although when going through treatment it has helped me get out of that questioning loop
Does anyone else worried that they were harmed in the past but can’t remember…?
Yea, ive dealt with this before and it is normal OCD. Its called Real Event / False Memory OCD. The first thing you have to do is respond with this response in your brain. Yeah, I remember that event, but I am not going to figure it out and then you have to try and forgive yourself. Forgiveness is key because it helps your brain recognize that its nothing to bring up over and over again and help yourself move on, to avoid reassurance or constantly reviewing in a loop, continue with those steps and try not to “research” as a compulsion. I know because I’ve dealt with this exact thing. You can get through it, I promise. :)
Because if you cant remember it, its most likely a false memory, or false alarm memory. (2)
Wait yeah im not the only one?
@@Poppomatic64 yea you aren’t alone. Trust me, there is a community of OCD sufferers like you that suffer with this exact thing.
I am worried that i harm someone in the past and i cant remember.
This happens to me A LOT lately, especially yesterday. I really needed this video. It makes me doubt myself, my worth, my behavior (both past and present) and it's so scary and confusing. I feel extremely detached from myself and sometimes it gets very paralyzing like you said. I miss feeling comfortable with myself and loving and trusting myself and I miss not being scared.
Same bro, don´t feel like im trusting myself anymore. Cant seem to live my life
I truly believe knowledge is power. The more I learn the easier it gets. It’s hard to not push away the thoughts when I’ve been doing that for 8 months and now I’m finally trying to let them be there,, it’s like a whole new ball game.
Thank you for making these videos I suffer through it so much everyday just countless different things I can’t even keep track of my head is just taking me over and I can’t even think for myself anymore. My doctors think medication is the answer and it’s hard even making this comment is making me cry because I’m suffering so much and in so much desperation of help with this I just can’t deal with it anymore and I’m glad I found your channel and you’re my last hope and I pray your channel can fix me because I have Autism and all this other stuff and I really need your help. Is there a way we can chat separately I’m 22 and suffering since I was born
I hate having ocd, I can calm down listening music all day, the problem is at night when everything is quiet, my anxiety is at 10000% so I need to put a radio station at low volume and that helps me to relax and sleep.
I do this thing too, always listening music or podcast. I'm starting to think it's a compulsion tbh.
But if i dont figure it out i get really sad and how can i be this irresponsible and leave it like that? The pain and sadness is so much
Insomnia and ocd equals bad depression
When I first started my journey on this channel, With your help i said " maybe, Maybe not" will NE ER work! How lame!!! Just this morning I stopped myself from doing a compulsion with: Maybe, Maybe Not!!
So proud!😊❤
I started having intrusive thoughts last month and it makes me feel like a terrible person. Sometimes I have harm ocd sometimes POCD. I am just afraid i don't hurt children or myself. I look at my thoughts then for sometime I calm down but when I don't react it makes me feel like I am a bad person I am not reacting to these thoughts why ? So it makes me wonder am i having an ocd or am I a bad person? I hope everyone who is facing this situation gets better eventually
@@mohinikatiyar2514 no, you are not a bad person, try ERP, respond “differently” towards the thought so that it wont prioritize HOCD thoughts:
“Thank you for sending me these thoughts OCD”
“Maybe I am a bad person, you’re right, thank you OCD.”
You’ll feel uncomfortable at first but it will help de-prioritize the thought and help break you out of the compulsion loop, look out for “reassurance and research compulsions, prayer confessions or confessions to family. They are common rituals performed by OCD sufferers to use it as temporary relief from bad thoughts.
no, you are not a bad person, try ERP, respond “differently” towards the thought so that it wont prioritize HOCD thoughts:
“Thank you for sending me these thoughts OCD”
“Maybe I am a bad person or maybe I am not, you’re right, thank you OCD.”
You’ll feel uncomfortable at first but it will help de-prioritize the thought and help break you out of the compulsion loop, look out for “reassurance and research compulsions, prayer confessions or confessions to family. They are common rituals performed by OCD sufferers to use it as temporary relief from bad thoughts.
Does anyone else have like anxiety were it feels like you said the things your worried about which makes you think you want to or is that just me?
YES I STRUGGLE WITH IS ALL THE TIME
Sir, I am suffering from OCD for quite some time. Then I was afraid of cancer, then I was afraid of schizophrenia and becoming bipolar. Then last night I felt as if when I saw my mother, I felt like a ghost. I was very scared seeing her face. So please tell me it's OCd intrusive thought and others condition 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I think i have it too, because sometimes i even wonder do i really have HOCD because of its realness and the feelings it gives - the groinal response. But then i just realize i really have HOCD because i still do a lot of compulsions and avoidances when it comes to something that triggers me it
Same im always wondering if its OCD or me being a bad person and its so exhausting
Thank you so much for these videos, they're unbelievably helpful and I've been using them to help my OCD during moments I find it hard to think clearly enough to remember my own treatment strategies. They always calm me down.
Would you ever consider doing a video about metacognition OCD? I struggle with hyperawareness of time/my own thought patterns, and it's so intangible that it's very difficult to nail down what my obsessions/compulsions even are, and I often don't even realize that I'm making arbitrary rules for myself!
It does get better :)
Yea that’s true but sometimes it just pops up on your brain and it’s pretty annoying right
@@beototbungong1560Yes at times, but definitely alot better to deal with it after using ERP
@@elizabethgrant6018 it does, trust. ERP treatment is a miraculous method and will help. 🙏
I just wanted to know that..does anyone from India(Kerala) suffer from OCD?.
Your video really helps us all !! Thank you
I wholehartedly agree with what you're saying. But I am a christian and sometimes obsess over if this stuff is "biblical" or not. How would you reconcile the biblical worldview with this video?
I don't feel anxious on having harmful thoughts.... But I'm feeling little discomfort with the fact that I don't feel anxious... Am I a bad person?
"if you liked this video" NO i HATED it because you told me to become okay with uncertainty 😭😭😭 (seriously though you videos are very helpful even (especially) when they scare the possibly ocd part of my brain)
What helps is identifying what areas of life are already uncertain for you. Ex: Waking up tomorrow, making it to work on time, your relationship lasting, etc. Write them down, and realize that what your OCD is uncertain of could be applied to the areas of your life you’re already uncertain of. It’s all relative, embrace the uncertainties of life and let the anxiety dissipate naturally
Im so worried that I’ve harmed someone in the past without knowing it
I wanted to take your course but I can’t afford that I’m 22 and living in an apartment by myself idk how I can come up with $296 bucks. I guess all hope is lost for me
I'm doing so much better these days, but I still ask myself this question! I keep thinking I made it up this whole time. I know I didn't though because I've been diagnosed several times by professionals.
Hi Nathan, I have a question about False Memory OCD.
Can you have it even for a very recent event, like a very important conversation with someone?Can this type of OCD cause misunderstanding of what you said during the conversation or what someone really meant?Can you create false memories of what someone said just 5 minutes ago and change the entire meaning of the conversation?Can it even cause delusions and misinterpreations of some parts of the conversation while you are having it?
Ps:It would mean so much if you reply.
Yes ocd can do this I've experienced something similar ocd will doubt anything
I wanna say this here cuz I haven't seen anyone who has it experienced it, or any vids on UA-cam about it.
I struggle with my entire identity. One of it is that I CANNOT go out into the sun whatsoever cuz if I get a slight bit tan, I'm gonna be thinking about it all the time. (My skin is naturally light gold) I'm gonna be worried and stressed that my friends/family will think badly about me if they see that I look a shade darker than, for example, what I have in an animated avatar. Idk it sounds kinda silly but it stresses me out a ton. Or if I my face looks lighter they'd think of mw badly as well, like, "she's lying about her skin colour, she looks lighter/darker here!" I just wish I can look my natural colour everywhere I go.
My overall race too. I'm mixed but I struggle cuz it's like every "season" I look like different. Example: my skin colour looks different in different lighting/pics. Some people even genuinely think I'm not from my country depending on my hair or how I dress. (I wear wigs sometimes 4 fun) And I feel like if a friend sees my pics they're gonna judge me. It's SO strange! Idk why I began having these thoughts and it is very confusing and it makes me feel guilt.
Oh and another one, my hands are lighter than my face and it stresses me out cuz I want my entire body to be the exact same skin tone forever
Thank you! With all of my heart!
I might have ocd or i might not 😅. It is only mild if i do and doesn’t affect to much of my daily life.
Guys I have ocd, but now I’m always overthinking and it hurts me a lot, these thoughts are always bad, it has made my memories blank, sometimes I think of the past and I can’t even feel I was the one in that past and even the people in my past I find hard to remember how they look…..
Im didnt clearly get a diagnosis but at this point i think i can diagnose myself lol
Heres about why i think i have ocd:
Soo when i was younger i was so scared of having an undiagnozed serious illness and i was everyday checking if i have any signs of some illness or smth
Also it was pretty much gone and came back like 4 months ago or so and it was harm ocd and i was like crying having mental breakdowns every night because of the thoughts (this 1 thought in specific) and after that 1 thought A BUNCH MORE FOLLOWED and like my brain was so filled up i was destroyed from the inside untill i found out that ocd and intrusive thoughts exist. (Also once i stopped feeling anxiety from my intrusive thoughts and i thought that means i like the thought and i tried so hard to have anxiety and be sad but i couldnt) DO YEAAA i think thats ocd but still ive never been to a therapist
Also rn i dont even know what i feel anymore
But i really feel i dont have ocd anymore but i never took any treatment
I was waiting for you to talk about meta ocd
Thank you!! Very helpful 😊
Thanku so so so so much for this video. I always ruminate a lot about this and it sometimes make things worse. It is very easy to make this mistake
Thank you sir god bless you
There is something I dont understand. My Therapist always says that ERP is simply not enough and that you also have to learn how to deal with the upcoming anxiety and the emotions when you expose yourself, especially when it is about Pure O. Here on this Channel and on UA-cam in generell everybody talks about ERP. But isnt it just a symptom? And why does nobody mention that you can learn to deal with the anxiety and the emotions when you expose yourself? For example by breathing exercises, Meditation or something else? And why does nobody talk about the fact, that intrusive thoughts are often a symptom of an underlying psychological issue? And that, once the habituation worked on a specific topic by doing ERP, the Symptons are very likely to shift to another topic if you dont take care of the underlying issues of the OCD? It makes me very angry that nobody talks about that. In my opinion ERP is a good first step when it comes to dealing with OCD, but it is by far not the whole work which has to be done.
What do you think the best thing is to do . I’m really stuck and I need someone to tell me
Thank you
Thanks
Why dont yo ever talk about pocd no more?