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Hi GUYS, IM enquiring about the cost of one on one sessions, Im in Australia. IM 57 with a tyoical childhood trauma situation story IM WANTING to change, thx and I resonate with your approach so thx for the life lessons
@@michaelteunis216 Hi Micheal - you can learn more about David's consultation via Zoom (including prices) on our website here: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ :)
Thank you. Yes, this is me. Avoid confrontation, don’t stand up for myself, etc. When I try to confront an issue with someone I am typically overly diplomatic, vague, and indirect, hoping that they will “get” what I am saying. Invariably, they do not, and I will either retreat and feel bad about myself for letting it slide or I get pushed (or push myself?) to the point of anger, at which point diplomacy goes out the window, I blast away, and I end up feeling bad about myself for losing my cool. Then I’m the “bad guy” and I end up apologizing to them even though they were the ones who were in the wrong. I intellectually understand what you are saying about creating feelings, although I know my inner child does not. He thinks of it like getting reflexes checked. When the doctor hits your knee with a hammer, you don’t create the reaction, it just happens. And even when you know it’s coming, you can’t not make your leg move, it just happens. So I need to understand this concept better. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
I don’t believe that anyone wants to be a door mat. I think that some people see the weakness of others and they take advantage of that because they are manipulating and controlling and they want to be in power. They are choosing to be unkind and that is not my fault, that is their choice. I do believe that we do have to change our core beliefs. But I would not take ownership of someone else’s choice. When I am being weak that is my fault and I will take ownership but it is not my fault when others are rude. That is their choice. And I am speaking my truth. I am slowly learning how to confront. It has taken me at least 15 years. I am not confrontational. I confront people and a few times they have still been rude and unkind. But most of the time things are worked out. So I will still confront, I do believe it is what I should do. I do believe what you are saying and I love listening to your lessons 🥰😊♥️
The story of the child's misconception about the "red light feelings" which perceived like an attack of burning arrows on him, in his heavenly world, in which it been should be bought up - this is a huge miracle to me and I feel so blessed to get this wonderful change of my understanding in my young age of 24. I was waiting for it so badly. Thank you. Namaste 22:20
I truly enjoy your videos. I resonate with most of the teachings and the teachings have immensely helped me be a better person. And when I feel like I am going back-I come back to re-watch the videos. I am a highly sensitive person.
Thank you so much for this lesson. I have had 2 issues with standing up for myself. The first is that all through my life my mom would say oh you shouldn't have said that that wasn't right or you'll upset that person ..so I never learnt to trust what I have to say. The second is that whenever I tried to stand up for myself I get overly emotional and I am then mocked for being too upset and taking things to seriously and not being able to take a joke ...
Hi Katerina, thanks for watching and sharing your story. As an adult, you can now take the reins and begin to parent and teach your Inner Child that speaking up and expressing her authentic thoughts and opinions is OK - develop this loving bond of trust with yourself. Leaning to balance your sensitivity so you don't 'swing to the extremes' is also important - have you watched this video ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html or listened to our guided meditation on sensitivity yet? ua-cam.com/video/MfYAf9M-1Y0/v-deo.html :) Alex + David x
you explained it so well!, really relateable.. as in adult child, caregivers would say that. yet i was told i was kind though, friendly.. 🤔 weird.. caregivers dont realize how they can confuse us".
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Thank you for letting me become the guiding light that I so desperately was looking for all this time. I‘m my light. It‘s a creative process, we‘re all in this together. I needed to realize what kind of beliefs were piled up in my headspace, now it‘s time to release!! Thank you Alex & David :)
"The Rain of Arrows".... Brilliantly put. The child creates the feeling, inbound. Disharmony separatedfrom feeling. THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH..... Confronting vs Confrontaion (speaking up) thankyou for teasing out the subject matter in the way you do🌹🙏🍁So helpful....The default equation (experiences) as the adult we can grow ourselves up. Managing the our sensitivity, instead of trying to manage the room❤🙏. Beautiful.
@@runwiththewind3281 good observation! The wu wei balance of appropriate assertion will be different for every person and for every situation - one size does not fit all. This is what makes life so interesting :)
I’m blown away again. Had to laugh nervously when you mentioned expecting life to be like all happy bunny rabbits jumping around 😂. Also when you mentioned that exactly how we are scared of being treated or what we expect is what we end up attracting. Food for thought. x
This one really covered a lot of subjects in one lesson. Yes, time to roll up the doormat and pay more attention to the law of attraction. Thank you again for these valuable teachings!
Watched this video again, watched a few videos over the weekend, trying to work my way out of me blocking myself down. I know it’s little Lizzie, running wild. This video, fantastic. I had to confront, to stand up for myself. Causing red light feelings. So, I did the golden thread. Asked why. Why and why. As always goes back to childhood. In this instance, red lights disappeared. I need to have more faith in myself. Hopefully, it will come eventually. Thank you for all the great life lessons. Xx 💜☯️🙏🏼
I just want to give the two of you the biggest and long lasting bear hug. I truly do. Thank you. Thank you for this wonderful, wonderful dialogue between the two of you. I cannot say Thank You enough.
This is some of the most useful information I've ever received. Thank you so much for putting this out there. It is hard to find the right tools to deal with the issues for me that keep resurfacing. This was extremely helpful. Blessings to you both.
You are Awesome! :-) Thank you! Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Hi @bripea7721, You're welcome! Leaning into these teachings can bring about profound understanding and clarity. Stay consistent and open-hearted on your journey. Kind Regards, David P.S. Join our supportive community here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Thanks for watching Martha :) ... the Law of Attraction issue is vital because it can be easy to slip into an unhelpful victim mindset if we allow the Inner Child to dictate our position. You are right that it can be equally important to reframe our thinking and the value we attach to words such as confrontation. We hope the video has helped you! Alex + David x
Its amazing how a seemingly trivial childhood event can have such a deep and profound effect . I did not stand up for myself most of my life and eventually became passive-aggressive and provocative and angry .Thank you very much for these lessons.
"liked ", I've grown & done much better & still we can always learn more ... your wife as the respresenting the " internal dialogue " is perfect, genius.. ! ya"ll are such a great team!! keep it up! 👏 😀
Hi Hayley Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! You may also find this video on 'living a spiritual life' helpful: ua-cam.com/video/OkVwBbz9Ees/v-deo.html And this video on setting authentic boundaries: ua-cam.com/video/rqIVrKkA1D4/v-deo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
💚❤ "Speak your truth in a compassionate way" wow! This is the recipe to success for us empaths. We tend to feel the negative feelings of others and tgen think that the discomfort is our own. ❤💚
Exactly what I have been pondering today. I was wondering how to be flexible and not resist in situations where I feel I need to speak my truth, where I instinctively know what I'm been asked to do, for example, is not in line with my life and path. I've struggled with confronting difficult issues for years and I usually run away. Your video has been really helpful. Thank you for all the videos you make and for sharing your lessons so openly.
Thank you again. It was amazing to watch the min 22:47. That's what I mean in my question about how I feel unstable when someone is confronting me. It was the first time I understood that people and environment those not make me feel bad... I am! So I can change that! I also liked in the end when you talk about how you work on your ability to speak for yourself all through your life... Is not a moment in time when you change... You workout like a muscle. I think that this is a mission in life.... That I and people like me come to this life to learn this... Is a life journey. 💐😀
Hi Ema, we're glad you found the video helpful. Yes, our feelings and emotions can be very powerful but we hope you can now see that YOU can take have control of them, no matter what's is going on in the outside world... It's good to hear that you are enjoying this learning process :) Alex + David x
I know one of my issues about not standing up for myself is I was 7 years old, staying with my grandmother for 3 months. She was making my sandwich ready for school which was vegemite. I hated vegemite back then and I told her I didn't like it. She told me too bad and I had to take those sandwiches. Then my teacher told me I couldn't go swimming that day unless I ate that sandwich. I told her to shut up then I got the cane.
Hi Lorraine Awareness is a positive first step in changing your life! Thank you for watching and commenting. We have many more videos on our channel that you will find helpful, for example, this video on setting healthy boundaries: ua-cam.com/video/rqIVrKkA1D4/v-deo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Thanks for your feeback and support John - we appreciate it! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Another great video and lots of light bulb moments ! Lots of things happened to me when I was around 7 years old and using the ‘equation’ analogy has really helped me understand how some belief systems came about - I’m not good enough, nobody believes me , for example . As a child I wasn’t able to process a lot of things but now I’m a responsible adult ,so I can ! Great work , thank you !
Hi Claire, we're glad the video was helpful. Yes, these faulty equations need to be rooted out and exposed before we can make lasting changes. Alex + David x
Sometimes my problem is knowing the truth. I can know there is a problem between another person and I. But for me the problem becomes trusting myself to see the problem clearly.
I have learned so much watching you. Thank you so much for putting this information out there. I feel like it needs to be required learning in school.. how much better and more emotionally developed would we all be? Wow.
bringing our sensitivity into balance, sensitively confront the situations, as the present and as we practice and hone the skill set...the gift of confident compassionate relating.🙏🌹❤☮🕊Thankyou both so much, opening my perspective with each video🙏❤🕊
I get your point that life isn't always harmonious although I would love it to be, it has led to disaster. Yet it really takes much time in between the time when you are trying to find a voice. The inner child has shrunk it's been in hiding, he/she has been in utter terror through abuse. When a person grows up in a family that is unloving and the child has been attacked and abused it is very challenging to find your voice. It takes a long time to find that voice and one has to feel safe to find it. To even find a place that the inner child feels safe can take much time. So when in an unsafe situation where you know people habitually don't listen to you, attack you because you are the sensitive one and you can't find the voice for yourself and the others are being irrational, angry, dismissal, fearful it is easier said than done, especially if you are in stressful and overwhelming circumstances and many things are calling for your attention. Very insightful thank you,
Hi Nicole, Thanks, I enjoyed reading your comments (I'm responding to your pre-edited comment). Your Inner Child seems to have Life Lessons to learn about time, finding her voice and valuing herself. Next time you do your Inner Child meditations (you could try the one I’ve done on UA-cam: ua-cam.com/video/2lhnEm8VCyM/v-deo.html ) ask her how much time is lost by NOT speaking up and finding her voice? Remind her that she is the creator of her emotions and it is her emotional and self-responsibility to value and respect herself above all. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our UA-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
I feel I am not heard over and over again, so I have resorted to distancing myself. Recently a friend for the past 2 weeks has been badgering me about spending time with her. I have told her over and over again, I am extremely busy right no I cannot come over, no I can't do this for you, no I can't , no, no no, over and over again. Finally I stopped answering my phone, I feel harassed or she maybe she is sabotaging my efforts of goals I have. I just don't know why, but I have resorted to stop answering my phone for fear of just blowing up if she asks something of me one more time. Its been a few days and I have finally had peace and quiet to work on the things I needed to do. I will call her for lunch when I get done with my tasks that I am involved in but not sure if I should bring it up at that time. At this point though I am still upset and don't ever want to experience this behavior again. I just don't know if this relationship should be. Telling her im under pressure to get this and that done did not phase her selfishness one bit.
I do understand what David's saying about respecting oneself but I also believe that the key aspect is to change what one identifies oneself as being. Do I identify myself as being deserving of disrespect or do I identify myself as having value and self-worth and not deserving it? This change of self-identification would enable one to no longer be worried about disapproval or abandonment (things that I think underpin anxiety about confrontation) because one approves of oneself and believes that one can survive without the sense of connection and relationship with the person who is treating them with disrespect. After all, such a sense of connection to such person is not adding any personal value to one's own life. One doesn't have to actually sever the relationship with that person, just change the nature of one's perception of needing the emotional connection to, and dependency on, them. The child may do. The adult does not.
This was such a great Video and has so helped me understand why I have always felt so fearful in standing up for myself .... great life lesson to learn! Now starts the work to change those old beliefs! Thank you 😊 you two are so awesome!
Finally got round to watching this. Amazing video as always. Love it. I will have to watch again, as I always do. Thank you for these life lessons videos. Soo important they all are. I’ve learnt soo much. , I know in my heart, deep down in my heart, Wu Wei , David & Alex, that I am thriving from your help. And I know, I will continue to grow, and gain confidence, 🙏🏼☯️💜 Xx
Here is what I struggle with: 1) When someone (or a group of people) at work is being rude, I just think it is sad that we have to "defend ourselves" as adults...I just find it so childish that I get frustrated that I even have to bring it up in the first place. Then, when I finally, I get flustered and trip over my words. 2) I also don't like the feeling that you can't have a "real" chat with these people about what you don't like. They just ask superficial and say they don't know what you are talking about and are extremely dismissive. Tough subject, no doubt.
Hi, That Cologne Guy, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process we demonstrate in many of our videos to find the root of the belief of people being "rude". This sounds like a childhood teaching, so there may be some Inner Child work you will have to do around this subject. Again we have many videos of the Inner Child concept.
Talking about disharmony. When she said “other people’s anger” and David sort of corrected her and said “just anger” that sort of triggered me lol I felt like I was being attacked for some reason. And like she was made to feel wrong and I felt bad for her but somehow took it as it was an attack on me. LOL just being transparent here. I know that probably sounds a bit dramatic and maybe even a bit scrutinizing like wow I noticed THAT in the midst of this conversation lol but I think it’s important to talk about this for me. Hope to get a response thanks 🙌🏽🙏🏼
This video hit home this one is a real struggle with me it's like you're reading my mind I think I'm going to have to do some on the phone therapy with this one it's an everyday struggle
Hi Raven - thanks for watching and commenting! You know we're here for you if you want one-to-one support. You can learn more about David's video call session here: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ x
As a Muslim there was a verse in the Quran that I couldn't understand. Quran 4;79 "Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself." When you said we create these red emotions because of core beliefs, I can understand this verse so much better.
Hi @amandalennon6247, Greetings to you! I'm glad you reached out. Yes, we are still conducting video sessions, and being in Australia is no barrier-we can connect across the miles. Your journey and willingness to engage are what matter most. If you're interested in participating or learning more, please feel free to reach out for further details or visit our website. Your path to resolving issues and embracing your Shen spirit is important to us, no matter where you are. Kind Regards, David
Hi @nancythran9353, It's natural to have moments where you think you should be more or do more, but it's important to recognise that you are enough just as you are. These feelings can stem from past experiences, but acknowledging your worth is a crucial step toward self-acceptance and resolving these issues. Remember, your journey is unique, and you're doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you have at this moment. If you're looking for a supportive community where you can explore these feelings and connect with others who understand, consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. You are valuable, and your experiences and feelings are valid. We're here to support you on your journey toward embracing your true self and recognising your inherent worth. Kind Regards, David
I have a weird one with this. Other people tell me I'm v assertive but I don't see it, so therefore I guess I don't believe it. I said this in a spiritual group one day, and the very next day a v unpleasant person verbally attacked me. I was shocked but I dealt with it, in fact I had her dangling on a string because I saw her ridiculous behaviour, so I do do it. Yet when it comes to a friend or close family member it's so much harder. I think I fear hurting them. I do do it but it takes much longer. But maybe that's not a bad thing because I go back and speak when the negative energy has dissipated so I'm not angry, not upset, and deal more sensitively, but that period in between makes me v anxious. Great video. Thank you. ❤
Having watched the rest of the video, I understand now. We were never allowed to respond to the abuser in the house. We knew we had to get out if the way, or what? We never found out cus we were too scared, so I've transferred that to those close to me. What will they say, what will they do, and the angry face must be my fault. Quick, run, get out of the way. Now it all makes sense. It's been my dearest wish for a long long time to be able to speak my truth, and now....with practice and handling of DD, we can get there. Thank you ❤❤❤❤ I never fail to learn, and in watching again at a later date , it goes in deeper. Blessings. ❤❤❤
Absolutely love what the two of you do 💯, but I would question your statement that the action of confrontation does not stem from a belief system (around 16 mins in)?
I would say 1. I love these videos you guys post. I find them extremely helpful. Some of them serve as reminders to me and other are new bits of info I enjoy thinking about and seeing whether or not it applies to me still. 2 I actually disagree with giving the words confrontation and confront to different meanings bc to me they are exactly the same word. I think when you guys describe what confrontation is to you, to me another better less confusing word to use would be attack. An attack on someone is when we’ve let our emotions take over and run the show because now instead of trying to fix whatever issue at hand we’ve started to try and hurt the other person as if we were sort of mentally or verbally attacking them. That is just my opinion on that. But other than I love your guys videos. Please never stop posting and sharing.❤️💘
Hi Swan Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hi David and Alex! Thank you for this wonderful video. I am often unable to put my feelings into words in the moment. When having a disagreement I can feel a sense of unease or discomfort creeping in, but I sort of freeze or turn rigid and I cannot find the words to express what I'm feeling. A couple of times I've felt so overwhelmed by anger that I could not speak. This reaction has caused me to feel disrespected, both in my personal and professional life, and angry at myself for not being able to speak my truth and letting people walk over me. I can analyze the situation later on and decipher what I was feeling and what I wanted to say, but in the moment I just get constricted. How can I learn to express myself in the moment?
Hello Dana, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I started a job with a clear intention Truth, Honesty & Self Responsibility. I left the job when I realized the managerial style and my temperament were not a match. I was reassured I misunderstood the manager who told me previously she wanted someone with thicker skin followed by she’s hard on her girls. I stayed because she respected my nature. It took a year and six months for her to forget about my disabilities, say inappropriate things to me and try to take advantage of me financially. I am now prepared to be the change when I return to work. I’m ready to be compassionate toward myself first & my manager 2nd. I’ve been enabling her workaholism & making excuses for her harmful comments. I’ve let it go too far. I thought I was bring compassionate. I was a doormat. Afraid to speak up because it could add to the burden. I’m tired of this. Judy in NJ
I find myself curious about how to move towards a place where I get that I am awesome. Without a doubt. It has been dawning on me, but I am not yet able to sustain the belief. I got it momentarily (opening up with my father about him labeling me as unlovable, and how my role in my pain was believing him. And he clearly was speaking from his own pain, not actually about any knowledge of who I am). And now remind myself when I experience being overwhelmed that I am awseome. And yet I do not experience this (lack of) belief as a choice. Rather as an invitation to meet the lack of belief with compassion. And I'm stuck there. Yelling "stop it" at myself stresses me out. I guess I don't really have a question, just muddling my way through my life questions.
Hi Megan, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I understand that you are saying that you still hold some doubt that you are awesome? If so, then please prove those doubts to me: "David, I am not completely and wholly awesome because…." Once you answer that question with honesty , truthfulness and integrity you will stop muddling through and start flourishing. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our UA-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
I feel so validated !! 😊 👋 if i were to say what was on my mind when i was little. some caregivers would talk over me or manipulate "i did this"xyz" to / for you". to justify whatever wrong thing..
100% right I get it logically at least present day and in most situations I can understand that disharmony around me is not personal and that if I let it be personal and get offended by it it’s because I’ve created a feeling of offense to it.. I suppose... but The child in me does not GET how someone else’s disharmony was not supposed to affect me. Nor do we understand how or why it wasn’t personal to me even when it was taken out on me..She doesn’t get it at all. Lol
Hi David, thank you. I'm new to your videos, so I'm still learning from them, but I like how you said you like us to ask questions. This is great. What I need to ask is, when a very strong, dominant, manipulative, controlling person starts pushing and demanding my time (this is a family member), I honestly get overwhelmed. This is not just something I imagine. I get so overwhelmed, it's hard to know how to deal with it. People like this often act like a victim when confronted, making the process quite difficult. So, to clarify.. how do I deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed?
Hi Orla, Thank you for your question. Remember, you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of them! I am not doubting that you create a red light feeling that you choose to call overwhelmed. My question would be: why are you creating that emotion? This will entail doing the Golden Thread Process that we demonstrating many of our videos. It is much more effective to understand why you create the emotion than trying to deal with something after you have created it. In your comments, the problem seemed to be how the other person may or may not act when you confront them with the situation. I would remind you that confronting is not confrontational. So it may be that you have to learn the delivery skills of speaking your truth. To answer the direct question that you posed at the end of your comments "how do I deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed?" The answer would be for you to not create those red light feelings! Perhaps watch this video and see if it offers more insight: ua-cam.com/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/v-deo.html We are also going to produce a video on 'emotional triggers' soon which also relates to this. :) Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our UA-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you so much David. That has really really helped me. I feel a relief just knowing that there is an solution to this problem. I get it and I agree that I must be creating these red light feelings, for who else could be? :) I will practice doing the Golden Thread Process to see can I get to my core belief. And, yes.. you're right, I was very concerned about how this person would react to me confronting her, as she is not used to people doing this. It makes sense what you are saying though, I was getting that feeling!!! and didn't even know that I had the power to confront her in a way that would work for me, where I remained in my truth, kept my boundary while also possibly even helping her to change. I am learning so much from these videos. Thank you, I will continue to watch the videos and take part in the facebook group as I can already see the change in my thinking. I'm very grateful.
Wisdom Hi you two wonderful, beautiful people. Thank you for all you do and all you teach us with your videos. It all makes so much sense while I am listening but then when I am in daily life situations I forget everything and I believe I am overwhelmed by other people and the games people play!!! Hey ho!! I think,instead of saying " Red lights" I'm going to start saying " Wu Wei Wisdom!!!" and see if that works!!!😂😂 Could you,at some point,make a video on learning the delivery skills to speaking our truth? Really need to work on that badly especially when dealing with manipulative and controlling people in my life. Thanks so much again, huge hugs to you both.xxxxxxx
So if someone punches me in the face and gives me a black eye, I’m creating that and it’s my responsability? I see responsability as my ability to respond and take care of that wound, but not all ”red light” feelings are self created. What is your take on this?
Hi Adam, your scenario does not relate to the video teaching. You are talking about someone physically attacking you which would cause you physiological pain. The teaching we give on red-light feelings relates to *emotional* feelings created by your beliefs and thoughts. 'Red light feelings' are uncomfortable or painful *emotions* NOT painful physiological sensations caused by physiological/biological damage, which is an entirely different issue. The principle of self-responsibility for your own safety and self-care would, of course, still apply. I hope this answers your question!
@@WuWeiWisdom Some years ago I worked at a centre where the management use to bully people. For 6 months the management was mistreating me and I knew the management had a short fuse. So, I decide to resign as an employee. My employer wanted me to talk to the management and my employer went on holiday. While my employer was on holiday I spoke to the management and the management became violent and abusive towards me. The manager trapped me in his office for 30 minutes while he used his authority to be violent and abusive towards me. I was sitting down and the manager was standing over me waving his fist in my face and punching the filing cabinet and the next day the abuse became more public in front of my co-workers. When my employer came back from his holiday I was too traumatized to talk to him because the manager knew where I lived. So, I worked my notice. I have become a much stronger person. Like Adam, I'm knew to all this Wu Wei.
Hi @nancythran9353, It sounds like you've had a challenging experience, and it's understandable that you would feel uncomfortable with confrontation, given your past. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and experiences, as they shape how you interact with the world today. Remember, it's okay to set boundaries and find peaceful, assertive ways to express your voice now. You deserve to be heard and respected. If you're looking for support or ways to share and learn about others' experiences in a positive environment, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community might be helpful for you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, and we're here to support you on your journey to finding and using your voice. Kind Regards, David
It’s more complicated when it’s a step parent and you’re afraid of the stepparent cutting off access to your father or mother. But you have to realize no one else is gonna stand up for you. If your parents don’t have enough balls to stand up for you, you have to do for yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
I dont have a problem telling my truth or standing up for myself. I hv a problem after that. The people say im being argumentative even when i say things very nicely. For example, i did not work a specific shift but there was a problem I was blamed for that shift (i didnt take out the garbage). I was taken back and said i dont really know anything about that bc i did not work that shift. I was told Im being argumentative. The more I say no im just telling you my truth that i was not there so i dont really know much about it...however, Ive made sure i do take out the garbage when it is my shift. It pissed them off. Or someone asks why i didnt do some assignment that i dont know anything about...i check my emails and im right thst i never received anything about it....i say i didnt do it bc i never received the request to do it....they tell me they sent it to me but i say im sorry...uf you resend i can do it but i honestly never received it...im being argumentative. I know its their problem but how can one deal with that kind of situation.
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i have a question: how should i respond to "i can't win" as a response? my husband (mental issues(depression), ptsd, sexually assaulted as a child, anger issues, health issues etc)...i've been going through a lot of personal growth work (journalling, facing inner child issues, listening to subliminals, resolving triggers etc) every time i think i am ready to try to have a decent conversation with my husband, when things start getting tit for tat - he always responds "i can't win" and i always respond "why are you trying to win? this isn't a competition"...which makes me stop engaging at all, becuz really, i don't need to win... but i would like to have a better response to that conversation stopper... thank you (caroline usa)
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. I noticed you asked that question in the community, let me know if the answers helped. Kind regards, David.
@@WuWeiWisdom I was golden threaded back to what is my need to be heard ..etc. I understand that I still have more self work to do... I'm not ready to engage with others who aren't on the same trajectory as me! Thank you!
Hello, I would respectfully disagree with that teaching. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
The less you speak your truth, the smaller your sphere of influence becomes. This is because you will be avoiding situations, opportunities and people - because you are afraid of speaking your truth.
While I appreciate that David is the Wu Wei teacher- I wish David allowed Alex more time to speak and finish her sentences. I cringe every time Alex is trying to speak but doesn't get the space. Maybe part of my being a HSP
It’s very difficult to listen to your message because you talk over each other and interrupt each other. Your information is good, but please try to be more cognizant.
Thinking the same. And when David gets impassioned about what we're doing wrong, it seems a lot like victim blaming and just makes me feel more powerless.
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This one hit home to me as has helped me tremendously, thanks so much❤
Hi GUYS, IM enquiring about the cost of one on one sessions, Im in Australia. IM 57 with a tyoical childhood trauma situation story IM WANTING to change, thx and I resonate with your approach so thx for the life lessons
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Thank you. Yes, this is me. Avoid confrontation, don’t stand up for myself, etc. When I try to confront an issue with someone I am typically overly diplomatic, vague, and indirect, hoping that they will “get” what I am saying. Invariably, they do not, and I will either retreat and feel bad about myself for letting it slide or I get pushed (or push myself?) to the point of anger, at which point diplomacy goes out the window, I blast away, and I end up feeling bad about myself for losing my cool. Then I’m the “bad guy” and I end up apologizing to them even though they were the ones who were in the wrong.
I intellectually understand what you are saying about creating feelings, although I know my inner child does not. He thinks of it like getting reflexes checked. When the doctor hits your knee with a hammer, you don’t create the reaction, it just happens. And even when you know it’s coming, you can’t not make your leg move, it just happens. So I need to understand this concept better. Thank you.
I needed this 10 yrs ago😭😩 Thank you for this one.
I am so grateful for lessons of this video. So resonate with my situations both at work and in personal relationships. 🙏🙏🙏
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
I don’t believe that anyone wants to be a door mat. I think that some people see the weakness of others and they take advantage of that because they are manipulating and controlling and they want to be in power. They are choosing to be unkind and that is not my fault, that is their choice.
I do believe that we do have to change our core beliefs. But I would not take ownership of someone else’s choice. When I am being weak that is my fault and I will take ownership but it is not my fault when others are rude. That is their choice. And I am speaking my truth. I am slowly learning how to confront. It has taken me at least 15 years. I am not confrontational.
I confront people and a few times they have still been rude and unkind. But most of the time things are worked out. So I will still confront, I do believe it is what I should do. I do believe what you are saying and I love listening to your lessons 🥰😊♥️
The universe lead me here, I'm on a sincere path to healing and change!
The story of the child's misconception about the "red light feelings" which perceived like an attack of burning arrows on him, in his heavenly world, in which it been should be bought up - this is a huge miracle to me and I feel so blessed to get this wonderful change of my understanding in my young age of 24. I was waiting for it so badly. Thank you. Namaste 22:20
I truly enjoy your videos. I resonate with most of the teachings and the teachings have immensely helped me be a better person. And when I feel like I am going back-I come back to re-watch the videos. I am a highly sensitive person.
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
Thank you so much for this lesson. I have had 2 issues with standing up for myself. The first is that all through my life my mom would say oh you shouldn't have said that that wasn't right or you'll upset that person ..so I never learnt to trust what I have to say. The second is that whenever I tried to stand up for myself I get overly emotional and I am then mocked for being too upset and taking things to seriously and not being able to take a joke ...
Hi Katerina, thanks for watching and sharing your story. As an adult, you can now take the reins and begin to parent and teach your Inner Child that speaking up and expressing her authentic thoughts and opinions is OK - develop this loving bond of trust with yourself. Leaning to balance your sensitivity so you don't 'swing to the extremes' is also important - have you watched this video ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html or listened to our guided meditation on sensitivity yet? ua-cam.com/video/MfYAf9M-1Y0/v-deo.html :) Alex + David x
you explained it so well!, really relateable.. as in adult child, caregivers would say that.
yet i was told i was kind though, friendly..
🤔 weird..
caregivers dont realize how they can confuse us".
thank goodness for his teachings , right!?
"im in the same boat ".
😲😖
This was an excellent episode. I truly appreciate this platform and your teachings.
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I AM CHANGING - I AM LEARNING - I AM GROWING NOW
Thank you for letting me become the guiding light that I so desperately was looking for all this time. I‘m my light. It‘s a creative process, we‘re all in this together.
I needed to realize what kind of beliefs were piled up in my headspace, now it‘s time to release!! Thank you Alex & David :)
You actually telling me im a wonderfull person made me cry xx
You are amazing!
This is really helpful to me. My inner child hates disharmony. What a blessing to know it doesn’t have to affect me. Thank You 😊
"The Rain of Arrows".... Brilliantly put. The child creates the feeling, inbound. Disharmony separatedfrom feeling. THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH..... Confronting vs Confrontaion (speaking up) thankyou for teasing out the subject matter in the way you do🌹🙏🍁So helpful....The default equation (experiences) as the adult we can grow ourselves up. Managing the our sensitivity, instead of trying to manage the room❤🙏. Beautiful.
Thank you for helping me understand me.
You're most welcome! Let us know if the video raises any insights or question for you. Alex + David x
there is an art to discrete asesertion. Caution needs be considered. I basically agree with the dialogue you have presented.
thank you for asking.
@@runwiththewind3281 good observation! The wu wei balance of appropriate assertion will be different for every person and for every situation - one size does not fit all. This is what makes life so interesting :)
I’m blown away again. Had to laugh nervously when you mentioned expecting life to be like all happy bunny rabbits jumping around 😂. Also when you mentioned that exactly how we are scared of being treated or what we expect is what we end up attracting. Food for thought. x
Glad you enjoyed the teaching and sharing your own thoughts. We really appreciate it! Alex + David x
This one really covered a lot of subjects in one lesson. Yes, time to roll up the doormat and pay more attention to the law of attraction. Thank you again for these valuable teachings!
Namaste ! xx
Hi Ellie, thanks for watching... hope you enjoy removing the old doormat and attracting positive people into your life! Alex + David x
@@sheiladevine3004 thanks for watching and commenting - we hope you enjoyed the teaching! Alex + David x
Watched this video again, watched a few videos over the weekend, trying to work my way out of me blocking myself down. I know it’s little Lizzie, running wild. This video, fantastic. I had to confront, to stand up for myself. Causing red light feelings. So, I did the golden thread. Asked why. Why and why. As always goes back to childhood. In this instance, red lights disappeared.
I need to have more faith in myself.
Hopefully, it will come eventually.
Thank you for all the great life lessons. Xx 💜☯️🙏🏼
Liz you are awesome... with love and patience your Inner Child will believe this too! 😀 A+D x
I just want to give the two of you the biggest and long lasting bear hug. I truly do.
Thank you. Thank you for this wonderful, wonderful dialogue between the two of you.
I cannot say Thank You enough.
Our pleasure! Kind regards, David.
This is some of the most useful information I've ever received. Thank you so much for putting this out there. It is hard to find the right tools to deal with the issues for me that keep resurfacing. This was extremely helpful. Blessings to you both.
You two are awesome! Thank you I just discovered your page today.
You are Awesome! :-) Thank you! Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
These videos are helping me so much. I am so grateful to you for making them, Thankyou both
Thank you so much, I'll lean into this
Hi @bripea7721,
You're welcome! Leaning into these teachings can bring about profound understanding and clarity. Stay consistent and open-hearted on your journey.
Kind Regards,
David
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Thank you so much for the reminder about Law of Attraction, and the dissemination of confronting and confrontation.
Thanks for watching Martha :) ... the Law of Attraction issue is vital because it can be easy to slip into an unhelpful victim mindset if we allow the Inner Child to dictate our position. You are right that it can be equally important to reframe our thinking and the value we attach to words such as confrontation. We hope the video has helped you! Alex + David x
I cant thank you enough. This is perfect for where I am now. I'm so happy I'm moving on and know I'm on the right path. Bless you. ❤
Its amazing how a seemingly trivial childhood event can have such a deep and profound effect . I did not stand up for myself most of my life and eventually became passive-aggressive and provocative and angry .Thank you very much for these lessons.
Hi Nuha El sayed, thanks for sharing your thoughts! We value your support. Alex + David x
"liked ", I've grown & done much better & still we can always learn more ...
your wife as
the respresenting the " internal dialogue " is
perfect, genius.. !
ya"ll are such a great team!!
keep it up! 👏
😀
Her internal dialogue is so spot on it’s kinda scary.. and also comforting.
Fabulous and profound insights, not everyone will like me, more important to speak my truth.
Hi Hayley
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Thank you so much for this strong information, wow so strong🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
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💚❤ "Speak your truth in a compassionate way" wow! This is the recipe to success for us empaths. We tend to feel the negative feelings of others and tgen think that the discomfort is our own.
❤💚
Exactly what I have been pondering today. I was wondering how to be flexible and not resist in situations where I feel I need to speak my truth, where I instinctively know what I'm been asked to do, for example, is not in line with my life and path. I've struggled with confronting difficult issues for years and I usually run away. Your video has been really helpful. Thank you for all the videos you make and for sharing your lessons so openly.
Thank you again. It was amazing to watch the min 22:47. That's what I mean in my question about how I feel unstable when someone is confronting me. It was the first time I understood that people and environment those not make me feel bad... I am! So I can change that!
I also liked in the end when you talk about how you work on your ability to speak for yourself all through your life... Is not a moment in time when you change... You workout like a muscle. I think that this is a mission in life.... That I and people like me come to this life to learn this... Is a life journey. 💐😀
Hi Ema, we're glad you found the video helpful. Yes, our feelings and emotions can be very powerful but we hope you can now see that YOU can take have control of them, no matter what's is going on in the outside world... It's good to hear that you are enjoying this learning process :) Alex + David x
I know one of my issues about not standing up for myself is I was 7 years old, staying with my grandmother for 3 months. She was making my sandwich ready for school which was vegemite. I hated vegemite back then and I told her I didn't like it. She told me too bad and I had to take those sandwiches. Then my teacher told me I couldn't go swimming that day unless I ate that sandwich. I told her to shut up then I got the cane.
Food for thought
This made me feel physically sick . . Such an accurate description, certainly of my life for as long as I can remember. Very helpful, thank you🙏🏼
Hi Lorraine
Awareness is a positive first step in changing your life! Thank you for watching and commenting.
We have many more videos on our channel that you will find helpful, for example, this video on setting healthy boundaries: ua-cam.com/video/rqIVrKkA1D4/v-deo.html
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you guys are so awesome !!! I also put my assumption in my head every day waking up.
Thanks for your feeback and support John - we appreciate it!
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Another great video and lots of light bulb moments ! Lots of things happened to me when I was around 7 years old and using the ‘equation’ analogy has really helped me understand how some belief systems came about - I’m not good enough, nobody believes me ,
for example . As a child I wasn’t able to process a lot of things but now I’m a responsible adult ,so I can ! Great work , thank you !
Hi Claire, we're glad the video was helpful. Yes, these faulty equations need to be rooted out and exposed before we can make lasting changes. Alex + David x
WHY DIDN'T I FIND THIS CHANNEL SOONER?!?? * recognises red light feeling... does the golden thread. AND RELAX :)
Thank you David and Alex for your common-sense, practical advice. A very helpful encouraging video.
Thanks for watching Carol, we're pleased to hear that you enjoyed the video! Alex + David x
Thank you for being so authentic and imparting knowledge that is the absolute truth 🙏
You are so welcome! x
Sometimes my problem is knowing the truth. I can know there is a problem between another person and I. But for me the problem becomes trusting myself to see the problem clearly.
I have learned so much watching you. Thank you so much for putting this information out there. I feel like it needs to be required learning in school.. how much better and more emotionally developed would we all be? Wow.
it realy helped me
Very Powerful Useful info.
"Everybody needs to speak their truth, compassionately. " yes!!
"the inner child will think the worst case scenario ".
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right!!
Wonderfull team. Rejält helpe Thanks för evry think.
Love and pease
bringing our sensitivity into balance, sensitively confront the situations, as the present and as we practice and hone the skill set...the gift of confident compassionate relating.🙏🌹❤☮🕊Thankyou both so much, opening my perspective with each video🙏❤🕊
Thanks for sharing! Kind regards, David.
I get your point that life isn't always harmonious although I would love it to be, it has led to disaster. Yet it really takes much time in between the time when you are trying to find a voice. The inner child has shrunk it's been in hiding, he/she has been in utter terror through abuse. When a person grows up in a family that is unloving and the child has been attacked and abused it is very challenging to find your voice. It takes a long time to find that voice and one has to feel safe to find it. To even find a place that the inner child feels safe can take much time. So when in an unsafe situation where you know people habitually don't listen to you, attack you because you are the sensitive one and you can't find the voice for yourself and the others are being irrational, angry, dismissal, fearful it is easier said than done, especially if you are in stressful and overwhelming circumstances and many things are calling for your attention. Very insightful thank you,
Hi Nicole,
Thanks, I enjoyed reading your comments (I'm responding to your pre-edited comment).
Your Inner Child seems to have Life Lessons to learn about time, finding her voice and valuing herself.
Next time you do your Inner Child meditations (you could try the one I’ve done on UA-cam: ua-cam.com/video/2lhnEm8VCyM/v-deo.html ) ask her how much time is lost by NOT speaking up and finding her voice?
Remind her that she is the creator of her emotions and it is her emotional and self-responsibility to value and respect herself above all.
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David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you so much for your reply and advice - it's very valuable.
I feel I am not heard over and over again, so I have resorted to distancing myself. Recently a friend for the past 2 weeks has been badgering me about spending time with her. I have told her over and over again, I am extremely busy right no I cannot come over, no I can't do this for you, no I can't , no, no no, over and over again. Finally I stopped answering my phone, I feel harassed or she maybe she is sabotaging my efforts of goals I have. I just don't know why, but I have resorted to stop answering my phone for fear of just blowing up if she asks something of me one more time. Its been a few days and I have finally had peace and quiet to work on the things I needed to do. I will call her for lunch when I get done with my tasks that I am involved in but not sure if I should bring it up at that time. At this point though I am still upset and don't ever want to experience this behavior again. I just don't know if this relationship should be. Telling her im under pressure to get this and that done did not phase her selfishness one bit.
I do understand what David's saying about respecting oneself but I also believe that the key aspect is to change what one identifies oneself as being.
Do I identify myself as being deserving of disrespect or do I identify myself as having value and self-worth and not deserving it?
This change of self-identification would enable one to no longer be worried about disapproval or abandonment (things that I think underpin anxiety about confrontation) because one approves of oneself and believes that one can survive without the sense of connection and relationship with the person who is treating them with disrespect.
After all, such a sense of connection to such person is not adding any personal value to one's own life. One doesn't have to actually sever the relationship with that person, just change the nature of one's perception of needing the emotional connection to, and dependency on, them. The child may do. The adult does not.
I was attracting narcissistic bosses.
I was calling myself a doormat.
I want this to change immediately.
I don’t always know how to speak my truth.
This was such a great Video and has so helped me understand why I have always felt so fearful in standing up for myself .... great life lesson to learn!
Now starts the work to change those old beliefs!
Thank you 😊 you two are so awesome!
Finally got round to watching this. Amazing video as always.
Love it. I will have to watch again, as I always do. Thank you for these life lessons videos. Soo important they all are. I’ve learnt soo much. , I know in my heart, deep down in my heart, Wu Wei , David & Alex, that I am thriving from your help. And I know, I will continue to grow, and gain confidence,
🙏🏼☯️💜
Xx
Thanks Liz! We really appreciate your support and we're glad you enjoyed the video :) x
Here is what I struggle with: 1) When someone (or a group of people) at work is being rude, I just think it is sad that we have to "defend ourselves" as adults...I just find it so childish that I get frustrated that I even have to bring it up in the first place. Then, when I finally, I get flustered and trip over my words. 2) I also don't like the feeling that you can't have a "real" chat with these people about what you don't like. They just ask superficial and say they don't know what you are talking about and are extremely dismissive. Tough subject, no doubt.
Hi, That Cologne Guy,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process we demonstrate in many of our videos to find the root of the belief of people being "rude".
This sounds like a childhood teaching, so there may be some Inner Child work you will have to do around this subject.
Again we have many videos of the Inner Child concept.
I really relate to this
THANK YOU FOR explaining so well & for examples David.
i wish i could meet ya"ll.
"online hugs"
Talking about disharmony. When she said “other people’s anger” and David sort of corrected her and said “just anger” that sort of triggered me lol I felt like I was being attacked for some reason. And like she was made to feel wrong and I felt bad for her but somehow took it as it was an attack on me. LOL just being transparent here. I know that probably sounds a bit dramatic and maybe even a bit scrutinizing like wow I noticed THAT in the midst of this conversation lol but I think it’s important to talk about this for me. Hope to get a response thanks 🙌🏽🙏🏼
This video hit home this one is a real struggle with me it's like you're reading my mind I think I'm going to have to do some on the phone therapy with this one it's an everyday struggle
Hi Raven - thanks for watching and commenting! You know we're here for you if you want one-to-one support. You can learn more about David's video call session here: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ x
Thank you for this ✨🙏🏾
Wonderful! Thank you.
As a Muslim there was a verse in the Quran that I couldn't understand. Quran 4;79 "Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself." When you said we create these red emotions because of core beliefs, I can understand this verse so much better.
Greetings and thanks are you still doing video sessions still, I’m in Australia.
Hi @amandalennon6247,
Greetings to you! I'm glad you reached out. Yes, we are still conducting video sessions, and being in Australia is no barrier-we can connect across the miles. Your journey and willingness to engage are what matter most. If you're interested in participating or learning more, please feel free to reach out for further details or visit our website. Your path to resolving issues and embracing your Shen spirit is important to us, no matter where you are.
Kind Regards,
David
I just feel I should be better! ! Like I'm not enough.
Hi @nancythran9353,
It's natural to have moments where you think you should be more or do more, but it's important to recognise that you are enough just as you are. These feelings can stem from past experiences, but acknowledging your worth is a crucial step toward self-acceptance and resolving these issues. Remember, your journey is unique, and you're doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you have at this moment.
If you're looking for a supportive community where you can explore these feelings and connect with others who understand, consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
You are valuable, and your experiences and feelings are valid. We're here to support you on your journey toward embracing your true self and recognising your inherent worth.
Kind Regards,
David
this is brilliant. superb. great
I have a weird one with this. Other people tell me I'm v assertive but I don't see it, so therefore I guess I don't believe it. I said this in a spiritual group one day, and the very next day a v unpleasant person verbally attacked me. I was shocked but I dealt with it, in fact I had her dangling on a string because I saw her ridiculous behaviour, so I do do it. Yet when it comes to a friend or close family member it's so much harder. I think I fear hurting them. I do do it but it takes much longer. But maybe that's not a bad thing because I go back and speak when the negative energy has dissipated so I'm not angry, not upset, and deal more sensitively, but that period in between makes me v anxious. Great video. Thank you. ❤
Having watched the rest of the video, I understand now. We were never allowed to respond to the abuser in the house. We knew we had to get out if the way, or what? We never found out cus we were too scared, so I've transferred that to those close to me. What will they say, what will they do, and the angry face must be my fault. Quick, run, get out of the way. Now it all makes sense. It's been my dearest wish for a long long time to be able to speak my truth, and now....with practice and handling of DD, we can get there. Thank you ❤❤❤❤ I never fail to learn, and in watching again at a later date , it goes in deeper. Blessings. ❤❤❤
Absolutely love what the two of you do 💯, but I would question your statement that the action of confrontation does not stem from a belief system (around 16 mins in)?
I would say 1. I love these videos you guys post. I find them extremely helpful. Some of them serve as reminders to me and other are new bits of info I enjoy thinking about and seeing whether or not it applies to me still. 2 I actually disagree with giving the words confrontation and confront to different meanings bc to me they are exactly the same word. I think when you guys describe what confrontation is to you, to me another better less confusing word to use would be attack. An attack on someone is when we’ve let our emotions take over and run the show because now instead of trying to fix whatever issue at hand we’ve started to try and hurt the other person as if we were sort of mentally or verbally attacking them. That is just my opinion on that. But other than I love your guys videos. Please never stop posting and sharing.❤️💘
thank you! thank you😢😢😢
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Alex + David x
Doing things to self is the thing that I don't get that easily. Self love ,self prioritise ,self respect etc is not clear to me practically.
Hi David and Alex! Thank you for this wonderful video. I am often unable to put my feelings into words in the moment. When having a disagreement I can feel a sense of unease or discomfort creeping in, but I sort of freeze or turn rigid and I cannot find the words to express what I'm feeling. A couple of times I've felt so overwhelmed by anger that I could not speak. This reaction has caused me to feel disrespected, both in my personal and professional life, and angry at myself for not being able to speak my truth and letting people walk over me. I can analyze the situation later on and decipher what I was feeling and what I wanted to say, but in the moment I just get constricted. How can I learn to express myself in the moment?
Hello Dana, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I started a job with a clear intention
Truth, Honesty & Self Responsibility.
I left the job when I realized the managerial style and my temperament were not a match.
I was reassured I misunderstood the manager who told me previously she wanted someone with thicker skin followed by she’s hard on her girls.
I stayed because she respected my nature.
It took a year and six months for her to forget about my disabilities, say inappropriate things to me and try to take advantage of me financially.
I am now prepared to be the change when I return to work. I’m ready to be compassionate toward myself first & my manager 2nd.
I’ve been enabling her workaholism & making excuses for her harmful comments. I’ve let it go too far. I thought I was bring compassionate. I was a doormat. Afraid to speak up because it could add to the burden.
I’m tired of this.
Judy in NJ
I find myself curious about how to move towards a place where I get that I am awesome. Without a doubt.
It has been dawning on me, but I am not yet able to sustain the belief.
I got it momentarily (opening up with my father about him labeling me as unlovable, and how my role in my pain was believing him. And he clearly was speaking from his own pain, not actually about any knowledge of who I am). And now remind myself when I experience being overwhelmed that I am awseome.
And yet I do not experience this (lack of) belief as a choice.
Rather as an invitation to meet the lack of belief with compassion.
And I'm stuck there.
Yelling "stop it" at myself stresses me out.
I guess I don't really have a question, just muddling my way through my life questions.
Hi Megan,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I understand that you are saying that you still hold some doubt that you are awesome? If so, then please prove those doubts to me:
"David, I am not completely and wholly awesome because…."
Once you answer that question with honesty , truthfulness and integrity you will stop muddling through and start flourishing.
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David
I feel so validated !! 😊
👋
if i were to say what was on my mind when i was little.
some caregivers would talk over me
or manipulate "i did this"xyz"
to / for you".
to justify whatever wrong thing..
100% right I get it logically at least present day and in most situations I can understand that disharmony around me is not personal and that if I let it be personal and get offended by it it’s because I’ve created a feeling of offense to it.. I suppose... but The child in me does not GET how someone else’s disharmony was not supposed to affect me. Nor do we understand how or why it wasn’t personal to me even when it was taken out on me..She doesn’t get it at all. Lol
Hi David, thank you. I'm new to your videos, so I'm still learning from them, but I like how you said you like us to ask questions. This is great. What I need to ask is, when a very strong, dominant, manipulative, controlling person starts pushing and demanding my time (this is a family member), I honestly get overwhelmed. This is not just something I imagine. I get so overwhelmed, it's hard to know how to deal with it. People like this often act like a victim when confronted, making the process quite difficult. So, to clarify.. how do I deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed?
Hi Orla,
Thank you for your question.
Remember, you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of them!
I am not doubting that you create a red light feeling that you choose to call overwhelmed. My question would be: why are you creating that emotion?
This will entail doing the Golden Thread Process that we demonstrating many of our videos. It is much more effective to understand why you create the emotion than trying to deal with something after you have created it.
In your comments, the problem seemed to be how the other person may or may not act when you confront them with the situation. I would remind you that confronting is not confrontational. So it may be that you have to learn the delivery skills of speaking your truth.
To answer the direct question that you posed at the end of your comments "how do I deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed?" The answer would be for you to not create those red light feelings!
Perhaps watch this video and see if it offers more insight: ua-cam.com/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/v-deo.html
We are also going to produce a video on 'emotional triggers' soon which also relates to this. :)
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David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you so much David. That has really really helped me. I feel a relief just knowing that there is an solution to this problem. I get it and I agree that I must be creating these red light feelings, for who else could be? :) I will practice doing the Golden Thread Process to see can I get to my core belief. And, yes.. you're right, I was very concerned about how this person would react to me confronting her, as she is not used to people doing this. It makes sense what you are saying though, I was getting that feeling!!! and didn't even know that I had the power to confront her in a way that would work for me, where I remained in my truth, kept my boundary while also possibly even helping her to change. I am learning so much from these videos. Thank you, I will continue to watch the videos and take part in the facebook group as I can already see the change in my thinking. I'm very grateful.
Glad it helped Orla 🙏
Wisdom Hi you two wonderful, beautiful people. Thank you for all you do and all you teach us with your videos. It all makes so much sense while I am listening but then when I am in daily life situations I forget everything and I believe I am overwhelmed by other people and the games people play!!! Hey ho!! I think,instead of saying " Red lights" I'm going to start saying
" Wu Wei Wisdom!!!" and see if that works!!!😂😂
Could you,at some point,make a video on learning the delivery skills to speaking our truth? Really need to work on that badly especially when dealing with manipulative and controlling people in my life. Thanks so much again, huge hugs to you both.xxxxxxx
So if someone punches me in the face and gives me a black eye, I’m creating that and it’s my responsability? I see responsability as my ability to respond and take care of that wound, but not all ”red light” feelings are self created. What is your take on this?
Hi Adam, your scenario does not relate to the video teaching. You are talking about someone physically attacking you which would cause you physiological pain. The teaching we give on red-light feelings relates to *emotional* feelings created by your beliefs and thoughts. 'Red light feelings' are uncomfortable or painful *emotions* NOT painful physiological sensations caused by physiological/biological damage, which is an entirely different issue. The principle of self-responsibility for your own safety and self-care would, of course, still apply. I hope this answers your question!
Wu Wei Wisdom thank you for the answer
@@WuWeiWisdom Some years ago I worked at a centre where the management use to bully people. For 6 months the management was mistreating me and I knew the management had a short fuse. So, I decide to resign as an employee. My employer wanted me to talk to the management and my employer went on holiday. While my employer was on holiday I spoke to the management and the management became violent and abusive towards me. The manager trapped me in his office for 30 minutes while he used his authority to be violent and abusive towards me. I was sitting down and the manager was standing over me waving his fist in my face and punching the filing cabinet and the next day the abuse became more public in front of my co-workers. When my employer came back from his holiday I was too traumatized to talk to him because the manager knew where I lived. So, I worked my notice. I have become a much stronger person. Like Adam, I'm knew to all this Wu Wei.
I don't like confrontation! When I was a kid no matter what I would do my aunt would cut me off! Never had a voice
Hi @nancythran9353,
It sounds like you've had a challenging experience, and it's understandable that you would feel uncomfortable with confrontation, given your past. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and experiences, as they shape how you interact with the world today. Remember, it's okay to set boundaries and find peaceful, assertive ways to express your voice now. You deserve to be heard and respected.
If you're looking for support or ways to share and learn about others' experiences in a positive environment, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community might be helpful for you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us, and we're here to support you on your journey to finding and using your voice.
Kind Regards,
David
It’s more complicated when it’s a step parent and you’re afraid of the stepparent cutting off access to your father or mother. But you have to realize no one else is gonna stand up for you. If your parents don’t have enough balls to stand up for you, you have to do for yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
Hello, Thank you for your comments and continued support. Kind regards, David.
I dont have a problem telling my truth or standing up for myself. I hv a problem after that. The people say im being argumentative even when i say things very nicely. For example, i did not work a specific shift but there was a problem I was blamed for that shift (i didnt take out the garbage). I was taken back and said i dont really know anything about that bc i did not work that shift. I was told Im being argumentative. The more I say no im just telling you my truth that i was not there so i dont really know much about it...however, Ive made sure i do take out the garbage when it is my shift. It pissed them off. Or someone asks why i didnt do some assignment that i dont know anything about...i check my emails and im right thst i never received anything about it....i say i didnt do it bc i never received the request to do it....they tell me they sent it to me but i say im sorry...uf you resend i can do it but i honestly never received it...im being argumentative. I know its their problem but how can one deal with that kind of situation.
Can you tell me how to payback you gratitude for showing subtleties of language emotions
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I think people need some tools, like breathing exercises, EFT, mediation, neurofeedback, EMDR
i have a question: how should i respond to "i can't win" as a response? my husband (mental issues(depression), ptsd, sexually assaulted as a child, anger issues, health issues etc)...i've been going through a lot of personal growth work (journalling, facing inner child issues, listening to subliminals, resolving triggers etc) every time i think i am ready to try to have a decent conversation with my husband, when things start getting tit for tat - he always responds "i can't win" and i always respond "why are you trying to win? this isn't a competition"...which makes me stop engaging at all, becuz really, i don't need to win... but i would like to have a better response to that conversation stopper... thank you (caroline usa)
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. I noticed you asked that question in the community, let me know if the answers helped. Kind regards, David.
@@WuWeiWisdom I was golden threaded back to what is my need to be heard ..etc. I understand that I still have more self work to do... I'm not ready to engage with others who aren't on the same trajectory as me! Thank you!
Sometimes when somebody is emotionally charged, you have to respond emotionally charged
Hello, I would respectfully disagree with that teaching. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
The less you speak your truth, the smaller your sphere of influence becomes. This is because you will be avoiding situations, opportunities and people - because you are afraid of speaking your truth.
This has a lot to do with my passive aggressive behavior
Hi Raven - have you watched our video on 'anger issues' yet? ua-cam.com/video/gfxRG3Jdv1A/v-deo.html
While I appreciate that David is the Wu Wei teacher- I wish David allowed Alex more time to speak and finish her sentences. I cringe every time Alex is trying to speak but doesn't get the space. Maybe part of my being a HSP
Hi Molly, thanks for your feedback, your comments have been taken on board. Kind regards, David.
Love your enemy
becauaei feel like a big empty cavern
It’s very difficult to listen to your message because you talk over each other and interrupt each other. Your information is good, but please try to be more cognizant.
Thinking the same. And when David gets impassioned about what we're doing wrong, it seems a lot like victim blaming and just makes me feel more powerless.