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I'm in my mid 50's and my father is 95. He is still as sharp as a tack. I realize now why I have struggled my entire life with self worth issues. I am only as good as the last deed I did for him. He has never validated my feelings nor allowed me to be an independent person who can disagree. My mother, God rest her soul, was the same way, minus the raging temper. I mention all of this because I revert back to a scared child when I am with him. I am always tense and watching my step. How to live in harmony, balance and flow when you must interact with a self absorbed, immature or narcissistic parent would be a great topic. Forever cutting them out of your life isn't an option, but it does trigger huge inner child issues nonetheless.
That was me before , now I am older and perhaps wiser. I dont live my life because of others anymore, it took me almost a lifetime to get where Iam today. Thank you for sharing with us .
I started speaking my truth and lost people who I thought were friends but it's better than compromising my self worth... I still have not arrived.... I am a work in progress. Thank You for the awesome video 📹
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Hi David and Alex.This video was amazing . It's made me realise that I've lived my life by other people's expectations for so long, in order to be liked .what a mistake.Now I have to find me .. what an eye opener..Love to you both..see you soon Xx Denise
This is honestly one of your best videos so far. And it came exactly at the right time... I'm pretty sure I'll rewatch it again and again. Thank you so much for this!
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My take away…I now realise that I am not lost but I’ve been here all the time. The path I have walked has been overgrown with vegetation and I now know how to remove it. Thank you to you both. Regards, Chris
My goodness the passion that David has for people to really grasp who they are is Amazing how could you not value yourself after listening to him lol! Great video.
This video was the most important one for me. I finally understand that it's about connecting to my authentic self, and not trying to find it. My mistake was thinking it had been lost or somehow annihilated, but knowing it has just been hidden beneath the many layers of 'untruths and denials' is a great relief. David's brilliant term "red light emotions" makes it so easy to identify when I'm denying my truth and by doing the golden thread work I feel confident that layer by layer I'll soon be connecting to my Shen. Thank you both - you really work so well together.
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i absolutely lost myself people pleasing and attention seeking. i realise i had low self worth and know the reasons why i used to behave that way. despite knowing all this, im still finding it difficult to find my true self. im making progress though and hopefully soon ill feel like myself again
Hi @dylanlawrenceholland3295, Acknowledging your past behaviours and their reasons is a significant first step towards understanding and embracing your true self. It's great to hear you're making progress! Remember, rediscovering your true self is a journey, not a destination. Celebrate each step forward and be kind to yourself during the process. If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your experiences and gain insights, consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Here, you can connect with like-minded individuals on similar journeys. Kind Regards, David
So valuable, thank you🦋 I'm starting work today on those lies... I've compromised myself for as long as I can remember. I'm trying to stand on my own two feet for the first time in my life.
I come back to this one almost every day. I have no idea who I am and I've struggled with this my whole life . This video really helps me. Thankyou so much.
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You guys are the absolute best!!! These videos are saving my life. I’m crying as I type this… I been a people pleaser all my life and I found myself unhappy. I been very sheltered as a child, wanting to please my parents. That lead me to want to please others as well and get validation on everything I do in life. I’m 30 years old and still pleasing others and lying to myself which is resulting into not knowing who I really am. I’m forever grateful of this video because I never knew I was wearing a mask this whole entire time. I thought there was something wrong with me. I know now that I have to unmask myself and find my true self by stop lying.This video was very awakening! Thank you again
I am looking for my identity, unfortunately some of my friends and family members don't like it! They like the easy going door mat I used to be. So I have conflict, loss of friendships, change of jobs etc. It's tough but I will find me and be happy. I just need to get through the changes and I will find my authentic self!
In my experience, not many people are following their own life journey. Most people are following someone else, who in turn is following someone else, who is following someone else, etc. In the end I didn't know who I was following anymore and realized most people aren't aware of whose path they are on either. Trying to figure out which path to take in life became so confusing I gave up trying because I didn't trust any of them. Taking my own path that is true to who I am became the only viable option in my mind because of that. But because no one around me really understands the path I've chosen it can get fairly lonely. No one gets why I had to distance myself from my family, quit my job, and leave the religion I grew up in. But my life is much calmer and I am much happier, even if it does feel like my chosen path is taking me farther away from the people around me.
Hi, We're deeply touched by your message and grateful for the opportunity to inspire you. It's our passion to share insights and practices that empower individuals to navigate their journey with grace, understand their Shen spirit, and resolve issues to find balance and harmony. Remember, your journey is unique, and every step you take towards self-discovery and inner peace is a testament to your strength and commitment. If you're ever looking for a space to share, learn, and connect our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community welcomes you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Together, we can continue to inspire and support each other. Kind Regards, David
26:20 OMG FINALLY, really, Really, REALLY? you want to teach people to bring to a conversation reasonable arguments AND own, sustained opinions! gorgeous, and very plausible! THANK YOU :) THE WOLRD needs this!!!!!!
One of the biggest things I catch to do is this rehearsing better talk to yourself rehearsing the steps that you need to take as a person of responsibility to move yourself in a healthier unless complex lifestyle simplifying it to reconstructing what others constructed for you as you sat and watched and before you knew it it become a comfort zone which the only thing a comfort zone is there's a place that you typically start degrading yourself as a human so taking the time to rehearse the new life that you choose to give to yourself but new boundaries that are enforced by yourself to start moving forward in a healthier way
Thank you… Iam going to be ending my relationship as my boyfriend of 10 years continues to lie to me about everything in life. We just got a new place and he is not helping me move at all. Just locks himself in the spare room with his dog! I want to have a one on one session David!! Crystal Budd
It's so interesting to revisit this video after listening to all of your newest videos over the last 10 months. I have grown and learned so much from you since first listening to this one that this time around I am able to take responsibly for my part in molding to others around me. Thank you. With all of the new growth I've acquired after studying your teachings, this is a whole new video! One of the best
Great video! Adults have more highly developed executive functions (cognitive abilities) than young children. We can now experience a major life change (loss, etc..) as a identity crisis or... do the work and experience the rebirth from a more grounded perspective. Dropping the masks, speaking our truth...the future holds so much potential. Sending support from Canada. Hope autumn brings wisdom and peace. The UK is one of the most inspiring societies on earth. Knowing Brexit will catalyze an identity change that will be navigated with ease and truth.
From cradle 2 now I haven't been good enough... you 2 are the greatest...sometimes I wonder if I'm really alive, and im a boy in a old mans body, I don't like my gray hair....it's gotten worse since I decided to live in my van...yep my choice. My bad. I was bullied since I can remember and I a photographic memory, it's still going on that's the main reason I chose VANLIFE my family has nothing to do with me and I love them so much it hurts, they Wouldn't visit me unless they wanted something. So they treat me like that I don't want to be around to continue to be hurt...I've always been a outcast, always trying to fit in but get let dn. I'm a nice (not an act) I'm REAL.but what does it get me. I need to find ppl. Like me that can relate I'm an INFJ, sure you know what that means, as well as a HSP.
Gosh, I'm having such an identity crisis I went to hit "like" halfway through and realized... Umm okay I guess I already watched this.. Cause like was already highlighted! Lol 🤦
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Phew!!! Great shen guidance led me here today. Was confronted by a v kind, but unsuitable offer for me today....red light city flashed up 😂😂😂. I knew what I wanted to say, but the fear of disappointing someone showed me where I needed to work. And anyway, at a time when things are so uncertain, how can we plan anything definite. But I did it, and i did it with sensitivity. So once again.....thank you!!! ❤❤❤❤
Well....ouch! A loving, honest life lesson that hit home. It made some important things clear, and it triggered questions. Will be talking to you soon. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom and love. xxx
Thankyou my fracture happened about ten years ago now. Well maybe further back and I have been progressing ever slowly, since. Learning bits and chunks aling the way. The watched the movie Runaway Bride in the 2007, it made me break out in tears on an airplane of all places!!! Profound recognition. I am so happy to have come across your videos and the perspective shifting messages they contain. As you both present the yin/yang you bring the magical ingredients for balanced understanding. In truest form. Blessings ❤🍁🙏 Thankyou again.
So far out of all these videos iv watched. I can identify with this one the most.when I was 12 I was attacked and for some reason in the trauma I wanted to be like an older cousin who was a heavy metal fan. I had the long hair,played the drums like him etc.it was something to catch on and belong to. But it really was an identity issue
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Oh my goodness! I am the woman who received the promotion. I try my best and then get scared if someone acknowledge it. I've actually caused myself to have to step down from a promotion because I started convince my boss I couldn't do it.
Thank you both for this video and the series of videos. At the start of the video I had so many red light feelings come up with almost everything that was being said. Now to do the work and follow the golden thread. Thank you
Listenened to near all of these life lesson videos and this is my first time to comment on here. I identify with this video more. I want to move thru and learn this life lesson
I think I just gave in my family with very little validation then I picked a man to marry who wanted me do and do for him. Noone except my grandmother cherished me truly. I thought that was just a grandparents role. Now I know I should have received it from my parents
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I would have to say that I am mainly living my authentic self. I speak my mind and truth. However, since I have reached connecting to self, finding my passion in life has been difficult. I watched the motivation video as well, and it really stems to passion in what I like to do. It has changed and what I need now is how to rediscover my passion. So one thing I am passionate about is the ancient mysteries. I could used this to teach others, but I am not motivated to teach others and I need to find something to get income. I am passionate for it within me, but when it becomes a job, it has lost its appeal. What do I do now? I am overwhelmed with building a healing school and there are so many things that need to be done and I don't want to do it all. I am having to study so much to learn what to do, I am finding I need external helpers to do other task so I can do what I am good with. Help!
David for the most part I agree with you on this identity crisis about knowing who you are within yourself and the authenticity. However the part that I question is 1. You are not getting the results that you would like and other people are and so therefore you have do look to them to see how are they doing it. For example If some of the women are all getting dates and you're not time after time after time you definitely start questioning yourself and so you see that They are all doing something different than you and so you make the decision whether you need to make that change. I don't mean right away and you have to make sure your values are looked at here you don't want to be attracting someone just for the sake of it. The 2nd thing more in my experience, I did think I was wonderful I did think I have a lot to offer I did think all of these things but when you're marketing yourself for your products or your services you have to benchmark....also when you have certain clients you do have to address some of those things. For me most things in my life have not worked out.... I'm good at doing a lot of different things but the outside world doesn't see it..... I mean people any immediacy see it and my past proves that I've done good jobs.... But I cannot seem to get a job that is at the level of my experience , etc...and so it DOES make you question yourself or ask why are others getting jobs like this when I cant seem to. Ive asked the universe many times for guidance and internally defined my vision but neither one works. Ive even contemplated...its not time or there are other things i have to learn etc. Lastly. Arent others suppised to serve as mirrors for us as well and we need from others? So you DO have to look and compare. Again i agree with most of what you are saying in being authentic, but do the pts i mentioned fit in here? Thnx
Thank you for this and other lessons. They're invaluable to me. I have become a lost in society's value I've no idea who I am. Today I had a lightbulb moment when realized I don't think any one other than myself have no value! Now I'm trying to find what believe I've not got a clue.I know I believe I'm not as good as other people and this is due to society leading me to believe looks, finance and status are what matters. Can any one help me identify where I find my beliefs?
Thanks for sharing Shelia, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I ask myself if I died tomorrow and had the ability to recollect, would I have been happy with how many days I’ve spent as my true self? More and more days the answer is yes and I know every day can be a yes.
When you trace the golden thread to the bottom....to "I am not enough" .. What is next in the recovery process? I know we need to "Stop it" :-), but are there any other strategies beyond that? I am able to trace it back to my the key core beliefs, but I can't seem to get past that.
I’ve been listening to every video I can and have the same road blocks on the next steps as well. My assumption would be we have to change the core belief to i am good enough,I am love able. I know it’s comes down to finding true love and acceptance of self. How do we know we that actually has shifted. I feel I do good and then I fall back in that pattern of shit I messed up by reacting because my nervous system was effected with trauma as a child. How do I not react when triggered. I’ve been aware and then I have pinch points where I get stressed and the old behaviors comes out again. I then have to apologize and humble myself it’s so challenging to stay regulated.
Totally me!!!!! I'm like a chameleon, change to fit every situation and always trying to do things to make people happy. Even to my own detriment. I have no focus and my life is a lie. I know my core belief is that I am not good enough /I have to do better/I need to be perfect to stop bad things happen and to make people like me. I'm recovering from an eating disorder. That was partly my identity but losing that and don't know who I am becoming.... I realise that I need to think more about what I want to do, who I want to be and how to become it. Easier said than done... I have begun a spiritual journey and started Yoga and meditation. It has given me a better understanding of myself but am accepted by the yogic community but mocked by family and friends. The only thing I have ever felt I did well was controlling my food and weight. How do I find out what REALLY will interest me and make me feel like I am being myself? Thank you so much for this video!!
Hi Clare thank you for sharing your personal insights. We're pleased to hear that the video has helped you! To begin to clarify your authentic passion/s why not try doing more of things that give you green-light feelings? ...or experiment with new activities to see which of those produce the green lights for you. Green lights are a great indicator that you are following your truth, passion and authentic purpose :) Alex + David x
@@WuWeiWisdom thank you for your advice. I will explore some new activities and interests and notice which ones do induce green light feelings and persure them!
That was a great video it's amazing the the things that I have seen just in the last 6 months what I mean by that is the improvements I've watched multiple of your videos and sometimes I watch him two three four five six times over and every time I do this I can see clearer than I could see the time before that it really comes down to acceptance of what I was and what I choose to be. At the beginning of this probably a year back I thought I had no problems I thought the world had big problems not me once I started putting down the things that was crippled in my life drugs alcohol unhealthy people unhealthy talk to myself a negative lifestyle but I have lived for so long today I thought it was normal which become that comfort zone and the sad thing about it there's nothing comfortable about comfort zone it should be called The Blind Zone because we're not comfortable we're just blinded by ignorance self ignorance it's okay to accept your faults even if some of the labels are so harsh but sometimes it pays to be disciplined to yourself but yet accepting that you were wounded vessel and the only way you can fix a wounded vessel is to be able to see the damage without seeing the damage how could you fix it life takes time that's why we've been gifted the years that you are given they're all different from one to another as we are all different but yet very close to being the same thank you so much for the videos and please forgive me of my shortness and the past I'm getting better and I think both of you for the help that you've given me to be able to see through a clear eye not the ones that I've given myself but the one that you have offered me simply hope for a new beginning with myself thank you both very much sincerely James
Hi David & Alex! I love each and every one of your videos so much! It’s amazing how thought-provoking your words and concepts are and how much I agree with them. Sometimes I’m even unaware that I share a belief with you until you put it into words and I think “oh my gosh, I agree!” :) I had two questions initially, but you answered my other one in full-depth at the end of the video, it was like you were reading my mind!! What’s your view on so-called “quarter-life-crises”? I’m 25 and can DEEPLY relate to this video and many of your other videos, and a few months ago I had all these signs of identity crisis, but of course, no menopausal symptoms. Is it just that I’m realizing and taking responsibility for it earlier than most? And if I stay on this path to find and maintain flow, should I be able to avoid a “mid-life crisis”? I hope I’ve made sense in all my words! Thank you in advance! 💛
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. When you say statements like "I'm not good enough" "I can't cope" "I'm unlovable/unworthy" these are lies, it's time to be truthful honest and have integrity with yourself. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
My proof is not that people don’t tell me “you’re not good enough” rather it’s that I don’t get enough people that matter to me telling me that I AM good enough... and even when I do hear it most times I don’t believe it and if I do when I find myself trying to remember what they said days later it’s like a dream as if the compliment or validation never happened
Jesus Christ loves you, sees you and says you are enough. He died for you because He said you are enough. No matter what anyone has said, did or you've done, said or will do. He says you are enough. I love you. If no one else tells you are enough, if you cannot tell you, you are enough He says it with every breath you take. It whispers she is beautiful, perfect and I love her. She is enough
I think this is an interesting topic and agree on some points… yet I disagree with david and here is why - telling someone to just stop doing it is just another influence simplifying a much more complex problem. Like telling someone who is depressed to just be happy, reaffirms we are not good enough if we can’t snap our fingers and atop doing it. I agree that there is personal responsibility required, but first there needs to be compassion and love for the trauma that caused it. I had narcissistic parents and sibling, and I would try to own my truth and then have one narcissist after another manipulate me and the more I tried to reason, the more I was getting shut down and hearing more of those untrue beliefs…years or a lifetime of abuse is not just an on / off button. The very essence of emotional abuse commonly includes invalidating the persons wants and needs. My first epiphany recently was that I do doubt myself a lot… you seemed to be frustrated with how many of your clients report that… well I think it’s the first step to taking responsibility and starting to look at it from even having a personal space.. Alex, I think you have a deeper understanding of the trauma that goes into this type of programming, and understand it can go way deeper than pop psychology of empty nesters and mid life crisis which happens to both the sexes. Some of us recognize a pattern that has been playing out, and need a gentle path to rebuild their esteem, observe where it’s showing up.. and then practice over time reprogramming and reparenting that inner child. It’s a suffering we passively choose out of continual disillusionment from others, social standards, all influences and we need to learn yes we do have a choice, and start practicing in small ways. I know that there is a lot of shame tied in this, so anyone trying to force us to be different is like the same nightmare we are creating in our own heads, and could trigger more shame if not met with sheer compassion for all the suffering that brought someone to completely lose themselves. Peace and grace to all others who struggle with this as a result of childhood neglect and trauma or abuse. 🕉
This is such a helpful video! I have a question; what if you feel like you have two ' yous' or two callings and your not sure which to choose? And you feel like they inherently oppose each other? Namely, teacher (focusing on others), or actress/singer (more ego based?) How do you know which path to take and which you really are? Can be very confusing! Thanks :) Emma
say you think you are 'not good enough' - and you are aware of it. and you know where it comes from. -how do you go about changing it? when this belief still causes uncomfortable feelings? even though you know logically you are good enough.
What if I just comparing myself with myself , what I was before and what I am now, I think all my beauty and all my energy feeds away. I am not myself at all when I look at a mirror, I asking myself who’s she?😢
Hello again Narges, As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I think I’m not enough because as a child I was constantly people pleasing. I used to instantly apologize at my uncles ex wife’s. I used to hold back my words because of fear that people would tell me “not now” or “Michelle shh” or simply scold me for talking or Dancing and I don’t wanna to be misunderstood but I also didn’t want to be in heard. I believe it started at my uncles ex wife’s house. And I believe I knew that I was going to have issues when I was older from staying there so often. I remember several instances but this one came to mind now there was a weekend I was being dropped off at my uncles ex’s house and I remember thinking “I hate going there and he knows it and I’m probably going to hate him for it in the future” I was like 9/10 but before that I remember voicing that I wanted to be a singer and an actress to multiple people in my family and there reactions were NOT “oh no you can’t do it” rather it just seemed as though On their face they didn’t believe it even if they said other wise. My uncles ex wife laughed and called me cute but then asked “no but what do you really wanna do like for a career? because you have to be realistic and always have a plan b” sounds silly but these are some of the reasons I believe I felt I had to people please?
Hi Chris, Thank you for sharing this with such openness. Recognising the influence of your mother’s behavior is an important first step. To connect with your authentic self, begin by focusing on what Wu Wei Wisdom calls aligning with your Shen spirit-your unique inner truth and natural authenticity. Here are some practical steps to start: 1. Pause and reflect - Practice mindfulness to observe your thoughts and actions without judgment. This helps you understand which behaviors might be learned patterns and which align with your Shen. 2. Challenge inherited beliefs - Ask yourself, “Do I believe this, or is it something I’ve adopted from others?” Replace anything that doesn’t serve your well-being with beliefs that resonate with your truth. 3. Set small, meaningful goals - Start exploring what brings you genuine fulfillment and take one small step each day to cultivate these interests or ideas. Remember, resolving these patterns takes time, patience, and self-compassion. If you’d like support on this journey, consider joining our free Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. P.S. Exciting News! I've launched David's Journal, my free newsletter where I'll share deeper insights into Wu Wei Wisdom, Taoism, and my personal journey. For exclusive access to upcoming projects and the chance to shape new content, a paid subscription is also available. Subscribe for free or join the inner circle: davidjameslees.com Looking forward to sharing this journey with you! Kind Regards, David
I truly appreciate Dave & Alex and all their videos I’ve watched & used to help take responsibility for my life. I have been wondering if people who haven’t spent 20+ years in recovery from multiple addictions & compulsions & years in therapy will be ready for Wu Wei? It’s taken that long for me to get to this place of receptivity. What do you do when your negative belief is founded? Ex: I am untrustworthy. As a child 8/9 yr old I lied, forged moms signature on poor test grades, cheated in school to look smart like other kids & stole money & food to feed food addiction as a child. Smacked in front of peers in catholic school and called a liar & Beat with a belt when I got home. I am unlovable: because I hurt my children worse than I was hurt as a child when I made a vow I would not when I grew up. What I can I tell my inner child?
There is no real or fixed you. We are constantly growing, learning & changing. So attaching to an identity is nonsense. You are your heart, everything else is constantly changing.
David do you think that just going directly to our childhood experiences of between the age of 5 and 9 and working on the experiences we had that is an approach which is useful or should we wait until we are experiencing red light feelings then do the golden thread?
If you know there's an issue to be addressed within your core beliefs related to childhood experiences there is no need to wait for the red light feelings to tell you this or for you to take action. :)
How about when you have learned how to not let yourself influenced by other people's opinions and such, you learned to believe in your self worth and yet you don't find your place in the world? When you know what you don't want and after a very long time of listening to yourself and paying attention to the world around you, having tried different jobs and countries to live, you vaguely know what you would like to be and do and have, but don't know how to find it, don't know where to be, what to do, where to live? (because the things that worked for you and you believed in for years do not work anymore for you? Respectively once you saw something, you cannot unsee it anymore). What do you do then? I took a year off to chill and find another direction, and still disoriented.
Regarding imposter syndrome, I often cite the words of the famous philosopher Stuart Smalley. "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me."
I think that this scene tells it correctly: ua-cam.com/video/ZS9SXH3DfT8/v-deo.html Danny Zucko has 3 options: 1 - be the establishment / societal / cultural (“do as the Romans do”), 2 - be anti-establishment (“T-Bird”), or 3 - be the authentic Danny Zucko. However, I think that he has another option: 4 - be “no one”. By being “no one”, Danny Zucko the authentic just becomes without him needing to enforce his own identity upon himself; the doing without doing, the doing without the thinking. The ultimate freedom. I love that idea! I think that that is the Taoist resolve to Danny Zucko’s identity crisis. Is that about right?
Great video! It takes a lot of self awareness for someone to get to the point of taking off their "social mask". You mentioned that if you speak your truth to your friends and they don't like it, then they are not your friends ...ok I understand that but what do you do when you speak your truth to your family and siblings and they don't like it and they give you the silent treatment, then what? One sibling wants to please the parents but gets upset at me when I speak my truth. How do you detach from this circumstance?
Can a person have fragmented memories that actually do not belong to him? Can a person have some skills , without ever remembering acquiring those skills?
I m someone who is suffering from social anxiety and other issues that makes me kind of complicated and different person earlier i was happy with who i m but my partner made me feel like i m complicated negative and serious kind of person i should change myself and become more chill now i m facing serious identity crisis i dont knw how to act what to say how to behave i dont knw who i m
How can you figure out what was said to me in my childhood when my whole childhood is sort of a blank? My narcissist father would imply that I was a bad person, and that is me thinking he did that because I always felt badly in his presence. By him implying this nobody new it was abuse or that it was him doing it. Is that the thing I need to reverse? Someone implying that I’ll never amount to anything?
Much in our society makes it difficult to be yourself. We are constantly being forced into molds. If we try to break out of the mold, we are punished. School does this. It is not that school is inherently bad. We need educations. But it is, nevertheless, a very rigid and controlling system. Work is even more problematic. You have to conform or you will be fired. You will not be able to feed yourself or your family. Think about all the robots at work. They don't see each other. Facades are so solidly in place in order to survive.
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It would be difficult to answer your question without more information as I'm unsure what you mean by putting my freedom in jeopardy. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
I hear you speaking of choice but it sounds like YOU have a choice. Kind of hinting at personal responsibility + choice = change. How much influence do you believe history has vs personal responsibility? An alcoholic has the same choice as a casual drinker when it comes time to stop drinking, however this choice seems harder. So in an identity crisis where does one find the personal courage to make difficult choices without identity?
Oh yes, its so easy, believe in yourself, stop caring what people think, live your life the way you want to. There is just one small problem for me.I am in a dissociative state. Its funny how someone like me ended up like this. I always liked everyone and everyone liked me, i got along with everybody. Now its been 4 years living like this. Not actually beeing there for people, disconnected from the world. Youre beeing silly come on its all in your head you are perfect they say. Am i?Anyway i learned that dissociation is a defense mekanism. What a great mekanism. Lets just take your whole world from you and leave you in a place where absolutely nothing matters and u cant connect to other humans but hey, youre alive and safe you know? Thats a great deal guys right? Participation matters.Honestly im starting to believe this is the way God trolls people. Anybody can give me a logical reason for living years in a dissociative state with absolutely no threats or danger?
@@WuWeiWisdom Hello, listen the video is about finding the real you, can you help me do that?, as i said im in a dissociative state probably depersonalization, i have processed my whole life from childhood every little trauma why am i cursed to live like this it doesnt make any sense? How can you stay 24/7 for years in this state this is crazy please help..
Thanks for the reply. You are correct about the subject of this video. I’m sure you understand that it is delivered in general terms on the subject, not meant to be a personal treatment plan for an individual.
I would be interested why you put yourself into these states? I don't understand what you mean by processed my whole life from childhood every little trauma.
I assume you would agree that we could not do this work through the comments section of a UA-cam video.
Why don't you seek some professional help on these very personal issues? I’m sure that will be able to find the answers you are looking for. David
@@WuWeiWisdom I know that this is not a therapy session but and thank you for your suggestion but let me tell u kind sir that we are talking about dissociation/depersonalization. From what i have read online there is not much information about it in USA or UK. You think that i would find a good proffesional in my country? A 3rd world country? I was just hoping u might have some knowledge about this topic, or make a video because im literally stuck in a tunnel and i just want to see the damn light again.
I do think you would be able to find a suitable therapist either in your country or online to be able to help with your personal issues and Life Lessons.
You seem to have done quite a lot of work yourself and you may only need a little help with your perceptions or word and phrase definitions in certain areas. Then you will be able to find your own truth, honesty and integrity path.
I'm sure that if you focus on your journey you will be able to bring yourself into a Wu Wei balance of health and well being. David
I'm dumb I can't get anything right. I'm always trying to get it right. I'M NOT DUMB I'M A JUST A LITTLE INSANE! CONFUSED AND UNSURE HOW TO GET IT RIGHT!!¡ I NEED SOME HELP!!!!!!!😩🙏🏽 I'M LOST!!!!! I NEED TO KICK MY FULL GROWN CHILDREN OUT OF MY HOUSE!!! I Can't SEEM TO NOT GET ME THEM TO GET OUT ON THEIR OWN!!!!I KEEP ENABLING THEM . IT'S HARD FOR ME TO STAND MY GROUND!!! I'M ALWAYS LETTING PEOPLE USE ME!!!!! MY THOUGHTS ARE SCRABBLE.!!!! I can't serve GOD the way I NEED TO!!!!
Thank you… Iam going to be ending my relationship as my boyfriend of 10 years continues to lie to me about everything in life. We just got a new place and he is not helping me move at all. Just locks himself in the spare room with his dog! I want to have a one on one session David!! Crystal Budd
Hi @scbuddoldschool5313, Thank you for sharing what you're going through. It sounds like a challenging time, and I truly respect your decision to honor yourself and your needs in this situation. Ending a long-term relationship, especially one where trust has been compromised, is never easy, but it’s a powerful step towards aligning with your authentic Shen spirit and creating the life you truly deserve. I'm glad you're considering a one-on-one session - I'd be honored to support you directly through this transition. Please visit my website to learn more about booking a session: www.davidjameslees.com And if you'd like, you’re welcome to join our supportive Wu Wei Wisdom community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ P.S. Exciting News! I'm launching David's Journal, my free newsletter where I'll share deeper insights into Wu Wei Wisdom, Taoism, and my personal journey. For exclusive access to upcoming projects and the chance to shape new content, a paid subscription is also available. Subscribe for free or join the inner circle: davidjameslees.com Looking forward to sharing this journey with you! Kind Regards, David
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I'm in my mid 50's and my father is 95. He is still as sharp as a tack. I realize now why I have struggled my entire life with self worth issues. I am only as good as the last deed I did for him. He has never validated my feelings nor allowed me to be an independent person who can disagree. My mother, God rest her soul, was the same way, minus the raging temper. I mention all of this because I revert back to a scared child when I am with him. I am always tense and watching my step. How to live in harmony, balance and flow when you must interact with a self absorbed, immature or narcissistic parent would be a great topic. Forever cutting them out of your life isn't an option, but it does trigger huge inner child issues nonetheless.
I understand how you feel. I had similar experience
That was me before , now I am older and perhaps wiser. I dont live my life because of others anymore, it took me almost a lifetime to get where Iam today. Thank you for sharing with us .
Thanks for sharing your story Mai-Britt and for all your support! Alex + David x
I started speaking my truth and lost people who I thought were friends but it's better than compromising my self worth...
I still have not arrived.... I am a work in progress. Thank You for the awesome video 📹
Thanks for sharing! Kind regards, David.
David and Alex, you two too are truly awesome! I cannot stop watching and listening to you both. Your message here is _so_ comforting. Thank you.
Your teaching is creating space within, where previously there was none. Thank you.
Wow, thank you. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
Hi David and Alex.This video was amazing .
It's made me realise that I've lived my life by other people's expectations for so long, in order to be liked .what a mistake.Now I have to find me .. what an eye opener..Love to you both..see you soon Xx Denise
Hi Denise, this is a very powerful realisation - thanks for sharing! Alex + David x
This is honestly one of your best videos so far. And it came exactly at the right time... I'm pretty sure I'll rewatch it again and again. Thank you so much for this!
Thanks for your kind feedback - glad the video helped you! :)
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Thank you for these videos David & Alex. . Wishing you best both in health and better life . Love from Sri lanka 🇱🇰 ❤️
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You are hard working, I will surely apply this
My take away…I now realise that I am not lost but I’ve been here all the time. The path I have walked has been overgrown with vegetation and I now know how to remove it. Thank you to you both. Regards, Chris
Love that! Kind regards, David.
My goodness the passion that David has for people to really grasp who they are is Amazing how could you not value yourself after listening to him lol! Great video.
This video was the most important one for me. I finally understand that it's about connecting to my authentic self, and not trying to find it. My mistake was thinking it had been lost or somehow annihilated, but knowing it has just been hidden beneath the many layers of 'untruths and denials' is a great relief. David's brilliant term "red light emotions" makes it so easy to identify when I'm denying my truth and by doing the golden thread work I feel confident that layer by layer I'll soon be connecting to my Shen. Thank you both - you really work so well together.
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i absolutely lost myself people pleasing and attention seeking. i realise i had low self worth and know the reasons why i used to behave that way. despite knowing all this, im still finding it difficult to find my true self. im making progress though and hopefully soon ill feel like myself again
Hi @dylanlawrenceholland3295,
Acknowledging your past behaviours and their reasons is a significant first step towards understanding and embracing your true self. It's great to hear you're making progress! Remember, rediscovering your true self is a journey, not a destination. Celebrate each step forward and be kind to yourself during the process. If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your experiences and gain insights, consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Here, you can connect with like-minded individuals on similar journeys.
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So valuable, thank you🦋 I'm starting work today on those lies... I've compromised myself for as long as I can remember. I'm trying to stand on my own two feet for the first time in my life.
I hope it’s going well! I’m trying to do the same
@@Ella-tf8yv Good for you Ella. Don't look back and put all your effort & energy into YOU.
Wonderful! Kind regards, David.
I come back to this one almost every day. I have no idea who I am and I've struggled with this my whole life . This video really helps me. Thankyou so much.
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Very powerful! Thank you!
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That’s about my favorite song. I’m in with the in crowd. I’ll be dancing 💃 in the golden thread no dread❤
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You guys are the absolute best!!! These videos are saving my life. I’m crying as I type this… I been a people pleaser all my life and I found myself unhappy. I been very sheltered as a child, wanting to please my parents. That lead me to want to please others as well and get validation on everything I do in life. I’m 30 years old and still pleasing others and lying to myself which is resulting into not knowing who I really am. I’m forever grateful of this video because I never knew I was wearing a mask this whole entire time. I thought there was something wrong with me. I know now that I have to unmask myself and find my true self by stop lying.This video was very awakening! Thank you again
LOVE LOVE LOVE The plug analogy!!! So true. Going to visualize plugging into myself!! Thank you!
I am looking for my identity, unfortunately some of my friends and family members don't like it! They like the easy going door mat I used to be. So I have conflict, loss of friendships, change of jobs etc. It's tough but I will find me and be happy. I just need to get through the changes and I will find my authentic self!
In my experience, not many people are following their own life journey. Most people are following someone else, who in turn is following someone else, who is following someone else, etc. In the end I didn't know who I was following anymore and realized most people aren't aware of whose path they are on either. Trying to figure out which path to take in life became so confusing I gave up trying because I didn't trust any of them. Taking my own path that is true to who I am became the only viable option in my mind because of that. But because no one around me really understands the path I've chosen it can get fairly lonely. No one gets why I had to distance myself from my family, quit my job, and leave the religion I grew up in. But my life is much calmer and I am much happier, even if it does feel like my chosen path is taking me farther away from the people around me.
Thank you for always inspiring me, ❤
Hi,
We're deeply touched by your message and grateful for the opportunity to inspire you. It's our passion to share insights and practices that empower individuals to navigate their journey with grace, understand their Shen spirit, and resolve issues to find balance and harmony. Remember, your journey is unique, and every step you take towards self-discovery and inner peace is a testament to your strength and commitment. If you're ever looking for a space to share, learn, and connect our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community welcomes you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Together, we can continue to inspire and support each other.
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🙏🏽 It’s exhausting. Thank you for this.
Thanks for watching and commenting. We hope you can now step off the Carousel and live your truth! Alex + David x
Thank you for everything. You've really helped me liberate from all the lies I told myself ❤
26:20 OMG FINALLY, really, Really, REALLY? you want to teach people to bring to a conversation reasonable arguments AND own, sustained opinions! gorgeous, and very plausible! THANK YOU :) THE WOLRD needs this!!!!!!
Excellent life lesson. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed the video Joan.
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One of the biggest things I catch to do is this rehearsing better talk to yourself rehearsing the steps that you need to take as a person of responsibility to move yourself in a healthier unless complex lifestyle simplifying it to reconstructing what others constructed for you as you sat and watched and before you knew it it become a comfort zone which the only thing a comfort zone is there's a place that you typically start degrading yourself as a human so taking the time to rehearse the new life that you choose to give to yourself but new boundaries that are enforced by yourself to start moving forward in a healthier way
Within 8 minutes you have described me and my life. Thank you for these great teachings!
Happy good Sunday morning wu Wei.
Wishing you a peaceful Sunday! :) ~ Alex + David
@@WuWeiWisdom brilliant. Every word in it's order.
@@runwiththewind3281 thank you! x
Thank you… Iam going to be ending my relationship as my boyfriend of 10 years continues to lie to me about everything in life. We just got a new place and he is not helping me move at all. Just locks himself in the spare room with his dog! I want to have a one on one session David!!
Crystal Budd
It's so interesting to revisit this video after listening to all of your newest videos over the last 10 months. I have grown and learned so much from you since first listening to this one that this time around I am able to take responsibly for my part in molding to others around me. Thank you. With all of the new growth I've acquired after studying your teachings, this is a whole new video! One of the best
Thank you for all the content you post. Every video I have watched has been so helpful.
Happy to hear that! Kind regards, David.
Great video! Adults have more highly developed executive functions (cognitive abilities) than young children. We can now experience a major life change (loss, etc..) as a identity crisis or... do the work and experience the rebirth from a more grounded perspective. Dropping the masks, speaking our truth...the future holds so much potential.
Sending support from Canada. Hope autumn brings wisdom and peace. The UK is one of the most inspiring societies on earth. Knowing Brexit will catalyze an identity change that will be navigated with ease and truth.
Hi Judith, thank you for sharing your personal insights :)
Sending love to you in Canada!
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From cradle 2 now I haven't been good enough... you 2 are the greatest...sometimes I wonder if I'm really alive, and im a boy in a old mans body, I don't like my gray hair....it's gotten worse since I decided to live in my van...yep my choice. My bad. I was bullied since I can remember and I a photographic memory, it's still going on that's the main reason I chose VANLIFE my family has nothing to do with me and I love them so much it hurts, they Wouldn't visit me unless they wanted something. So they treat me like that I don't want to be around to continue to be hurt...I've always been a outcast, always trying to fit in but get let dn. I'm a nice (not an act) I'm REAL.but what does it get me. I need to find ppl. Like me that can relate I'm an INFJ, sure you know what that means, as well as a HSP.
Gosh, I'm having such an identity crisis I went to hit "like" halfway through and realized... Umm okay I guess I already watched this.. Cause like was already highlighted! Lol 🤦
Where to even start? I have a very cluttered mind and so much going on. All of this resonates. Will keep listening 🥴
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Phew!!! Great shen guidance led me here today. Was confronted by a v kind, but unsuitable offer for me today....red light city flashed up 😂😂😂. I knew what I wanted to say, but the fear of disappointing someone showed me where I needed to work. And anyway, at a time when things are so uncertain, how can we plan anything definite. But I did it, and i did it with sensitivity. So once again.....thank you!!! ❤❤❤❤
Well....ouch! A loving, honest life lesson that hit home. It made some important things clear, and it triggered questions. Will be talking to you soon. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom and love. xxx
You're welcome Ellie. Thanks for sharing you feedback :) ~ Alex + David x
I had an alcoholic dad and a mom with some mental illness. So I think just not wanting to cause any waves and not having any self worth.
cant thank you guys enough for taking the time to do these videos
Thankyou my fracture happened about ten years ago now. Well maybe further back and I have been progressing ever slowly, since. Learning bits and chunks aling the way. The watched the movie Runaway Bride in the 2007, it made me break out in tears on an airplane of all places!!! Profound recognition. I am so happy to have come across your videos and the perspective shifting messages they contain. As you both present the yin/yang you bring the magical ingredients for balanced understanding. In truest form. Blessings ❤🍁🙏 Thankyou again.
So far out of all these videos iv watched. I can identify with this one the most.when I was 12 I was attacked and for some reason in the trauma I wanted to be like an older cousin who was a heavy metal fan. I had the long hair,played the drums like him etc.it was something to catch on and belong to. But it really was an identity issue
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Oh my goodness! I am the woman who received the promotion. I try my best and then get scared if someone acknowledge it.
I've actually caused myself to have to step down from a promotion because I started convince my boss I couldn't do it.
Thank you both for this video and the series of videos. At the start of the video I had so many red light feelings come up with almost everything that was being said. Now to do the work and follow the golden thread. Thank you
thankyou🙏❤🌹I see myself in this analogy, so helpful. 🙏❤🌹🕊thankyou again
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
Listenened to near all of these life lesson videos and this is my first time to comment on here. I identify with this video more. I want to move thru and learn this life lesson
Hi Josh, we're pleased to hear that this video in particular resonated with you. You are awesome! 🙏
I think I just gave in my family with very little validation then I picked a man to marry who wanted me do and do for him. Noone except my grandmother cherished me truly. I thought that was just a grandparents role. Now I know I should have received it from my parents
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I feel like you are discussing me in every session..!!!!
Thank you so much for this channel..God bless you!!💕💕
Simply Awesome! How do you find your passion?
I would have to say that I am mainly living my authentic self. I speak my mind and truth. However, since I have reached connecting to self, finding my passion in life has been difficult. I watched the motivation video as well, and it really stems to passion in what I like to do. It has changed and what I need now is how to rediscover my passion.
So one thing I am passionate about is the ancient mysteries. I could used this to teach others, but I am not motivated to teach others and I need to find something to get income. I am passionate for it within me, but when it becomes a job, it has lost its appeal. What do I do now? I am overwhelmed with building a healing school and there are so many things that need to be done and I don't want to do it all. I am having to study so much to learn what to do, I am finding I need external helpers to do other task so I can do what I am good with. Help!
David for the most part I agree with you on this identity crisis about knowing who you are within yourself and the authenticity. However the part that I question is 1. You are not getting the results that you would like and other people are and so therefore you have do look to them to see how are they doing it. For example If some of the women are all getting dates and you're not time after time after time you definitely start questioning yourself and so you see that They are all doing something different than you and so you make the decision whether you need to make that change. I don't mean right away and you have to make sure your values are looked at here you don't want to be attracting someone just for the sake of it.
The 2nd thing more in my experience, I did think I was wonderful I did think I have a lot to offer I did think all of these things but when you're marketing yourself for your products or your services you have to benchmark....also when you have certain clients you do have to address some of those things. For me most things in my life have not worked out.... I'm good at doing a lot of different things but the outside world doesn't see it..... I mean people any immediacy see it and my past proves that I've done good jobs.... But I cannot seem to get a job that is at the level of my experience , etc...and so it DOES make you question yourself or ask why are others getting jobs like this when I cant seem to. Ive asked the universe many times for guidance and internally defined my vision but neither one works. Ive even contemplated...its not time or there are other things i have to learn etc.
Lastly. Arent others suppised to serve as mirrors for us as well and we need from others?
So you DO have to look and compare.
Again i agree with most of what you are saying in being authentic, but do the pts i mentioned fit in here? Thnx
Thank you for this and other lessons. They're invaluable to me.
I have become a lost in society's value I've no idea who I am. Today I had a lightbulb moment when realized I don't think any one other than myself have no value! Now I'm trying to find what believe I've not got a clue.I know I believe I'm not as good as other people and this is due to society leading me to believe looks, finance and status are what matters. Can any one help me identify where I find my beliefs?
Thanks for sharing Shelia, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I ask myself if I died tomorrow and had the ability to recollect, would I have been happy with how many days I’ve spent as my true self? More and more days the answer is yes and I know every day can be a yes.
When you trace the golden thread to the bottom....to "I am not enough" .. What is next in the recovery process? I know we need to "Stop it" :-), but are there any other strategies beyond that? I am able to trace it back to my the key core beliefs, but I can't seem to get past that.
Me to. I need like a fucking map. A step by step guide. a tool box . 😣 Understanding just isnt enough.
I’ve been listening to every video I can and have the same road blocks on the next steps as well.
My assumption would be we have to change the core belief to i am good enough,I am love able. I know it’s comes down to finding true love and acceptance of self. How do we know we that actually has shifted. I feel I do good and then I fall back in that pattern of shit I messed up by reacting because my nervous system was effected with trauma as a child.
How do I not react when triggered. I’ve been aware and then I have pinch points where I get stressed and the old behaviors comes out again.
I then have to apologize and humble myself it’s so challenging to stay regulated.
Totally me!!!!! I'm like a chameleon, change to fit every situation and always trying to do things to make people happy. Even to my own detriment. I have no focus and my life is a lie. I know my core belief is that I am not good enough /I have to do better/I need to be perfect to stop bad things happen and to make people like me. I'm recovering from an eating disorder. That was partly my identity but losing that and don't know who I am becoming.... I realise that I need to think more about what I want to do, who I want to be and how to become it. Easier said than done...
I have begun a spiritual journey and started Yoga and meditation. It has given me a better understanding of myself but am accepted by the yogic community but mocked by family and friends. The only thing I have ever felt I did well was controlling my food and weight. How do I find out what REALLY will interest me and make me feel like I am being myself?
Thank you so much for this video!!
Hi Clare thank you for sharing your personal insights. We're pleased to hear that the video has helped you!
To begin to clarify your authentic passion/s why not try doing more of things that give you green-light feelings? ...or experiment with new activities to see which of those produce the green lights for you. Green lights are a great indicator that you are following your truth, passion and authentic purpose :)
Alex + David x
@@WuWeiWisdom thank you for your advice. I will explore some new activities and interests and notice which ones do induce green light feelings and persure them!
Let us know how you get on Clare! x
@@WuWeiWisdom I will do! 🙏🏻❤️
@Bettina Puskás thank you so much for your support sweetie
Plz explain Literature work impact on identity crisis and the role of literature language in multicultural society?
That was a great video it's amazing the the things that I have seen just in the last 6 months what I mean by that is the improvements I've watched multiple of your videos and sometimes I watch him two three four five six times over and every time I do this I can see clearer than I could see the time before that it really comes down to acceptance of what I was and what I choose to be. At the beginning of this probably a year back I thought I had no problems I thought the world had big problems not me once I started putting down the things that was crippled in my life drugs alcohol unhealthy people unhealthy talk to myself a negative lifestyle but I have lived for so long today I thought it was normal which become that comfort zone and the sad thing about it there's nothing comfortable about comfort zone it should be called The Blind Zone because we're not comfortable we're just blinded by ignorance self ignorance it's okay to accept your faults even if some of the labels are so harsh but sometimes it pays to be disciplined to yourself but yet accepting that you were wounded vessel and the only way you can fix a wounded vessel is to be able to see the damage without seeing the damage how could you fix it life takes time that's why we've been gifted the years that you are given they're all different from one to another as we are all different but yet very close to being the same thank you so much for the videos and please forgive me of my shortness and the past I'm getting better and I think both of you for the help that you've given me to be able to see through a clear eye not the ones that I've given myself but the one that you have offered me simply hope for a new beginning with myself thank you both very much sincerely James
Hi David & Alex! I love each and every one of your videos so much! It’s amazing how thought-provoking your words and concepts are and how much I agree with them. Sometimes I’m even unaware that I share a belief with you until you put it into words and I think “oh my gosh, I agree!” :)
I had two questions initially, but you answered my other one in full-depth at the end of the video, it was like you were reading my mind!! What’s your view on so-called “quarter-life-crises”? I’m 25 and can DEEPLY relate to this video and many of your other videos, and a few months ago I had all these signs of identity crisis, but of course, no menopausal symptoms. Is it just that I’m realizing and taking responsibility for it earlier than most? And if I stay on this path to find and maintain flow, should I be able to avoid a “mid-life crisis”?
I hope I’ve made sense in all my words! Thank you in advance! 💛
What does it mean when David says, stop lying to ur self ?
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. When you say statements like "I'm not good enough" "I can't cope" "I'm unlovable/unworthy" these are lies, it's time to be truthful honest and have integrity with yourself. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
My proof is not that people don’t tell me “you’re not good enough” rather it’s that I don’t get enough people that matter to me telling me that I AM good enough... and even when I do hear it most times I don’t believe it and if I do when I find myself trying to remember what they said days later it’s like a dream as if the compliment or validation never happened
Jesus Christ loves you, sees you and says you are enough. He died for you because He said you are enough. No matter what anyone has said, did or you've done, said or will do. He says you are enough. I love you. If no one else tells you are enough, if you cannot tell you, you are enough He says it with every breath you take. It whispers she is beautiful, perfect and I love her. She is enough
@@destinyschuett9673 thanks love I appreciate the sentiment. You’re very sweet.
I think this is an interesting topic and agree on some points… yet I disagree with david and here is why - telling someone to just stop doing it is just another influence simplifying a much more complex problem. Like telling someone who is depressed to just be happy, reaffirms we are not good enough if we can’t snap our fingers and atop doing it.
I agree that there is personal responsibility required, but first there needs to be compassion and love for the trauma that caused it. I had narcissistic parents and sibling, and I would try to own my truth and then have one narcissist after another manipulate me and the more I tried to reason, the more I was getting shut down and hearing more of those untrue beliefs…years or a lifetime of abuse is not just an on / off button.
The very essence of emotional abuse commonly includes invalidating the persons wants and needs. My first epiphany recently was that I do doubt myself a lot… you seemed to be frustrated with how many of your clients report that… well I think it’s the first step to taking responsibility and starting to look at it from even having a personal space..
Alex, I think you have a deeper understanding of the trauma that goes into this type of programming, and understand it can go way deeper than pop psychology of empty nesters and mid life crisis which happens to both the sexes.
Some of us recognize a pattern that has been playing out, and need a gentle path to rebuild their esteem, observe where it’s showing up.. and then practice over time reprogramming and reparenting that inner child.
It’s a suffering we passively choose out of continual disillusionment from others, social standards, all influences and we need to learn yes we do have a choice, and start practicing in small ways.
I know that there is a lot of shame tied in this, so anyone trying to force us to be different is like the same nightmare we are creating in our own heads, and could trigger more shame if not met with sheer compassion for all the suffering that brought someone to completely lose themselves.
Peace and grace to all others who struggle with this as a result of childhood neglect and trauma or abuse. 🕉
Everyone is in a identity crisis. No one is a real true self. In solitude one discovered the true self.
Because no matter what I do or how much I try, my relationships fail. It's self defeating!
This is such a helpful video! I have a question; what if you feel like you have two ' yous' or two callings and your not sure which to choose? And you feel like they inherently oppose each other? Namely, teacher (focusing on others), or actress/singer (more ego based?) How do you know which path to take and which you really are? Can be very confusing! Thanks :) Emma
Thank you 🙏🏼 😁
say you think you are 'not good enough' - and you are aware of it. and you know where it comes from. -how do you go about changing it? when this belief still causes uncomfortable feelings? even though you know logically you are good enough.
Peter Brennan I wonder the same thing also?
Hi Peter,
Thanks for your question. I believe I have already answered this question for you.
Why do you think you are "not good enough" when you know 'logically' (thinking) that you ARE good enough?
Which one of those is your true, authentic belief?
David
What do you do if you don’t remember your childhood at all? Or only rare bits and pieces?
What if I just comparing myself with myself , what I was before and what I am now, I think all my beauty and all my energy feeds away. I am not myself at all when I look at a mirror, I asking myself who’s she?😢
Hello again Narges, As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I think I’m not enough because as a child I was constantly people pleasing. I used to instantly apologize at my uncles ex wife’s. I used to hold back my words because of fear that people would tell me “not now” or “Michelle shh” or simply scold me for talking or Dancing and I don’t wanna to be misunderstood but I also didn’t want to be in heard. I believe it started at my uncles ex wife’s house. And I believe I knew that I was going to have issues when I was older from staying there so often. I remember several instances but this one came to mind now there was a weekend I was being dropped off at my uncles ex’s house and I remember thinking “I hate going there and he knows it and I’m probably going to hate him for it in the future” I was like 9/10 but before that I remember voicing that I wanted to be a singer and an actress to multiple people in my family and there reactions were NOT “oh no you can’t do it” rather it just seemed as though On their face they didn’t believe it even if they said other wise. My uncles ex wife laughed and called me cute but then asked “no but what do you really wanna do like for a career? because you have to be realistic and always have a plan b” sounds silly but these are some of the reasons I believe I felt I had to people please?
How did your parents treat you...this usually comes from parents
Haven't learned who i am. Act exactly like my narcissist mother. Ideas on being my authentic self with my own thoughts ideas feelings goals?
Hi Chris,
Thank you for sharing this with such openness. Recognising the influence of your mother’s behavior is an important first step. To connect with your authentic self, begin by focusing on what Wu Wei Wisdom calls aligning with your Shen spirit-your unique inner truth and natural authenticity.
Here are some practical steps to start:
1. Pause and reflect - Practice mindfulness to observe your thoughts and actions without judgment. This helps you understand which behaviors might be learned patterns and which align with your Shen.
2. Challenge inherited beliefs - Ask yourself, “Do I believe this, or is it something I’ve adopted from others?” Replace anything that doesn’t serve your well-being with beliefs that resonate with your truth.
3. Set small, meaningful goals - Start exploring what brings you genuine fulfillment and take one small step each day to cultivate these interests or ideas.
Remember, resolving these patterns takes time, patience, and self-compassion. If you’d like support on this journey, consider joining our free Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
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I truly appreciate Dave & Alex and all their videos I’ve watched & used to help take responsibility for my life.
I have been wondering if people who haven’t spent 20+ years in recovery from multiple addictions & compulsions & years in therapy will be ready for Wu Wei? It’s taken that long for me to get to this place of receptivity.
What do you do when your negative belief is founded? Ex: I am untrustworthy. As a child 8/9 yr old I lied, forged moms signature on poor test grades, cheated in school to look smart like other kids & stole money & food to feed food addiction as a child. Smacked in front of peers in catholic school and called a liar & Beat with a belt when I got home.
I am unlovable: because I hurt my children worse than I was hurt as a child when I made a vow I would not when I grew up.
What I can I tell my inner child?
You had a reason for doing that, and that was you got hurt..we r all so traumatised...it s such a same we cannot see how lovable we are
Always great content ! Thank you! Have any of your clients been hit by lightning? Wu wei
Thanks Dr Rik!
I was serious about the lightning question as i was struck twice. Your videos are a gteat help Thank You David and Alex
There is no real or fixed you. We are constantly growing, learning & changing. So attaching to an identity is nonsense. You are your heart, everything else is constantly changing.
Thanks 4 helping me find me
What about not speaking your truth because you're scared of being physically harmed?
Absolutely
David do you think that just going directly to our childhood experiences of between the age of 5 and 9 and working on the experiences we had that is an approach which is useful or should we wait until we are experiencing red light feelings then do the golden thread?
If you know there's an issue to be addressed within your core beliefs related to childhood experiences there is no need to wait for the red light feelings to tell you this or for you to take action. :)
Thanks David 👍
Thanks David 👍
Thanks David 👍
How about when you have learned how to not let yourself influenced by other people's opinions and such, you learned to believe in your self worth and yet you don't find your place in the world? When you know what you don't want and after a very long time of listening to yourself and paying attention to the world around you, having tried different jobs and countries to live, you vaguely know what you would like to be and do and have, but don't know how to find it, don't know where to be, what to do, where to live? (because the things that worked for you and you believed in for years do not work anymore for you? Respectively once you saw something, you cannot unsee it anymore). What do you do then? I took a year off to chill and find another direction, and still disoriented.
Brilliant!!
Regarding imposter syndrome, I often cite the words of the famous philosopher Stuart Smalley. "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me."
Good to hear that Mr Smalley is an inspiration for you! :)
I think that this scene tells it correctly:
ua-cam.com/video/ZS9SXH3DfT8/v-deo.html
Danny Zucko has 3 options:
1 - be the establishment / societal / cultural (“do as the Romans do”),
2 - be anti-establishment (“T-Bird”), or
3 - be the authentic Danny Zucko.
However, I think that he has another option:
4 - be “no one”.
By being “no one”, Danny Zucko the authentic just becomes without him needing to enforce his own identity upon himself; the doing without doing, the doing without the thinking. The ultimate freedom. I love that idea!
I think that that is the Taoist resolve to Danny Zucko’s identity crisis.
Is that about right?
Great video!
It takes a lot of self awareness for someone to get to the point of taking off their "social mask".
You mentioned that if you speak your truth to your friends and they don't like it, then they are not your friends ...ok I understand that but what do you do when you speak your truth to your family and siblings and they don't like it and they give you the silent treatment, then what?
One sibling wants to please the parents but gets upset at me when I speak my truth.
How do you detach from this circumstance?
Understand that just bcthey r siblings does not mean they r your friends. Our family usually is toxic unfortunately
Can a person have fragmented memories that actually do not belong to him?
Can a person have some skills , without ever remembering acquiring those skills?
I m someone who is suffering from social anxiety and other issues that makes me kind of complicated and different person earlier i was happy with who i m but my partner made me feel like i m complicated negative and serious kind of person i should change myself and become more chill now i m facing serious identity crisis i dont knw how to act what to say how to behave i dont knw who i m
You should change your partner, not yourself
How can you figure out what was said to me in my childhood when my whole childhood is sort of a blank? My narcissist father would imply that I was a bad person, and that is me thinking he did that because I always felt badly in his presence. By him implying this nobody new it was abuse or that it was him doing it. Is that the thing I need to reverse? Someone implying that I’ll never amount to anything?
No. You felt bad bc he did that. Yes you need to reverse that bc it s nbeen made your core belief
Much in our society makes it difficult to be yourself. We are constantly being forced into molds. If we try to break out of the mold, we are punished. School does this. It is not that school is inherently bad. We need educations. But it is, nevertheless, a very rigid and controlling system. Work is even more problematic. You have to conform or you will be fired. You will not be able to feed yourself or your family. Think about all the robots at work. They don't see each other. Facades are so solidly in place in order to survive.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Kind regards, David.
Vitally
Hello Katia, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
What about when you know who you are, but sharing your truth would put your freedom in jeopardy?
Hi Sweet Sonna,
Thanks for watching and commenting.
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I hear you speaking of choice but it sounds like YOU have a choice. Kind of hinting at personal responsibility + choice = change. How much influence do you believe history has vs personal responsibility? An alcoholic has the same choice as a casual drinker when it comes time to stop drinking, however this choice seems harder. So in an identity crisis where does one find the personal courage to make difficult choices without identity?
Oh yes, its so easy, believe in yourself, stop caring what people think, live your life the way you want to. There is just one small problem for me.I am in a dissociative state. Its funny how someone like me ended up like this. I always liked everyone and everyone liked me, i got along with everybody. Now its been 4 years living like this. Not actually beeing there for people, disconnected from the world. Youre beeing silly come on its all in your head you are perfect they say. Am i?Anyway i learned that dissociation is a defense mekanism. What a great mekanism. Lets just take your whole world from you and leave you in a place where absolutely nothing matters and u cant connect to other humans but hey, youre alive and safe you know? Thats a great deal guys right? Participation matters.Honestly im starting to believe this is the way God trolls people. Anybody can give me a logical reason for living years in a dissociative state with absolutely no threats or danger?
Hi Alotta,
Thanks for your general comments.
We would be pleased to answer any questions or comments about our video.
David
@@WuWeiWisdom Hello, listen the video is about finding the real you, can you help me do that?, as i said im in a dissociative state probably depersonalization, i have processed my whole life from childhood every little trauma why am i cursed to live like this it doesnt make any sense? How can you stay 24/7 for years in this state this is crazy please help..
@@rtn5405 Hi Alotta,
Thanks for the reply.
You are correct about the subject of this video. I’m sure you understand that it is delivered in general terms on the subject, not meant to be a personal treatment plan for an individual.
I would be interested why you put yourself into these states? I don't understand what you mean by processed my whole life from childhood every little trauma.
I assume you would agree that we could not do this work through the comments section of a UA-cam video.
Why don't you seek some professional help on these very personal issues? I’m sure that will be able to find the answers you are looking for.
David
@@WuWeiWisdom I know that this is not a therapy session but and thank you for your suggestion but let me tell u kind sir that we are talking about dissociation/depersonalization. From what i have read online there is not much information about it in USA or UK. You think that i would find a good proffesional in my country? A 3rd world country? I was just hoping u might have some knowledge about this topic, or make a video because im literally stuck in a tunnel and i just want to see the damn light again.
@@rtn5405 Hi Alotta,
I do think you would be able to find a suitable therapist either in your country or online to be able to help with your personal issues and Life Lessons.
You seem to have done quite a lot of work yourself and you may only need a little help with your perceptions or word and phrase definitions in certain areas. Then you will be able to find your own truth, honesty and integrity path.
I'm sure that if you focus on your journey you will be able to bring yourself into a Wu Wei balance of health and well being.
David
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We're glad you enjoyed the video Shana... thanks for watching! x
I'm dumb I can't get anything right. I'm always trying to get it right. I'M NOT DUMB I'M A JUST A LITTLE INSANE! CONFUSED AND UNSURE HOW TO GET IT RIGHT!!¡ I NEED SOME HELP!!!!!!!😩🙏🏽 I'M LOST!!!!! I NEED TO KICK MY FULL GROWN CHILDREN OUT OF MY HOUSE!!! I Can't SEEM TO NOT GET ME THEM TO GET OUT ON THEIR OWN!!!!I KEEP ENABLING THEM . IT'S HARD FOR ME TO STAND MY GROUND!!! I'M ALWAYS LETTING PEOPLE USE ME!!!!! MY THOUGHTS ARE SCRABBLE.!!!! I can't serve GOD the way I NEED TO!!!!
Thank you… Iam going to be ending my relationship as my boyfriend of 10 years continues to lie to me about everything in life. We just got a new place and he is not helping me move at all. Just locks himself in the spare room with his dog! I want to have a one on one session David!!
Crystal Budd
Hi @scbuddoldschool5313,
Thank you for sharing what you're going through. It sounds like a challenging time, and I truly respect your decision to honor yourself and your needs in this situation. Ending a long-term relationship, especially one where trust has been compromised, is never easy, but it’s a powerful step towards aligning with your authentic Shen spirit and creating the life you truly deserve.
I'm glad you're considering a one-on-one session - I'd be honored to support you directly through this transition. Please visit my website to learn more about booking a session:
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Looking forward to sharing this journey with you!
Kind Regards,
David