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I believe that without healing inner child, noway we could change our beliefs about ourself and world around us, and then we could be able to really change or choose our behavior
I don't know how I would cope with life without these videos (says my IC lol). This one really helped on a deep level. I still believe that I need more authentic and consistent intervention from myself and maybe my IC does need external help to assist?
What are the most common red and green light feelings .I'm unsure? I tend to be disconnected to my feelings and emotions because of abuse. I'm accustomed to disconnect from my body and reality / the Truth in the here and now and in my body. I'm used to denying my truth out of fear and protection.
OMG!!!! I can totally relate to this. A red light came on when David mentioned would you tell your own physical child they're not good enough because they only got a certain mark on their report. That happened to me as a child, so therefore I feel I have to be "Perfect. I have to be right, I have to be in control otherwise I get the red light of not being good enough.
Hi Leanne, thanks for your share - now you can re-parent yourself in a healthy way. You are good enough! You can learn more about Inner Child work and reparenting on our Inner Child video playlist here: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html Alex + David x
Once again, the wisdom I've gained from this one video at the time I needed it most is amazing. "You're not a sponge." David's quote had me laughing because it is so true and I've found myself more than a few times taking on others' emotions as my own.
Hi Rin Thanks for your feedback - we're pleased to hear you enjoyed the video! The sponge analogy is true. You should and can be 100% in control of what you let impact your internal emotional balance and wu wei. Have you seen our video on sensitive people? This may also help you, re. managing your emotional sensitivity: ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html Also, this video (an old one!) talks about a similar topic: ua-cam.com/video/spDD8efd4ig/v-deo.html Let us know what you think or if you have any more questions... Alex & David x
4 months of searching and watching videos and this has hit the nail on the head for me! Thank you so much! I've an issue with saying how I feel bottle it up and yes we know what happens. When you shake a can of coke when you finally try to release the pressure, it covers everyone around you.
Hi Mr McG Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! You may also find this video helpful: ua-cam.com/video/DY3jzYOvIwM/v-deo.html - in the video we talk more about anger being the energy of sensitivity being out of balance. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
This video gave me the insight and a deeper understanding about the anger within me, that I was looking for. Thank you both, I really love your Wu Wei Wisdom and communications.
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I’m DEFINITELY the hardest on myself. I know others don’t have those “perfect” expectations of me, it’s all how I want myself to be perfect according to my beliefs! I loved this video, thank you so much! You two are amazing! 💛
Acceptance!!! I like what she said about acceptance of the situation. Yes. Sometimes people just don’t want to hear it. It’s not personal. Move on. Change the subject. Calmly say or if it in an argument about something that needs to be hashed out then calmly breathe in and say “wait hang on I’ve got something to say” calmly. Remind yourself how many convos you’ve over heard or been a part of and didn’t want to be in it.
I want to thank you so much for putting words on to so many things that are confusing, like where do emotions come from, acknowledge feelings but talk in terms of thinking, observing...Because it is true that one can master his thoughts if we want to heal from them. I am right now viewing things though this angle. We have to be willing to do that first though. Great video, very clear .
Hi Paloma Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to comment. Here are some other videos on related topics that you may also enjoy: • How to Let Go of Old Hurt, Abuse, Injustice and Unfairness ➜ ua-cam.com/video/n5oJTu48aN0/v-deo.html • Inner Child Healing for Love Addiction, Codependency + Codependent Relationships ➜ ua-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/v-deo.html • The Inner Child Explained: How to Love Healing & Guide You Inner Child ➜ ua-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/v-deo.html • The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Explained ➜ ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Thank you for once again hitting the spot, I just resolved so many different issues in that time. Amazing and priceless. I feel so blessed to be able to wake up and have you there supporting me. You are Angel's. Thank you ❤❤❤😇😇😇😇
Hi NatureLover9162, I'm so grateful to hear that this video ranks among your favorites! 🌿❤️ Your appreciation truly warms our hearts. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. If you're ever looking for a community that shares your love for these teachings, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community might be just the right spot for you. Kind Regards, David
Thank you so much for this informative video tutorial. I wish I would have discovered and listened in five months ago. My anger issues helped to wreck the best romantic relationship I have ever had. Today, after four months of extensive psycho- and relationship therapy, I am trying to make amends and I hope, if I am lucky, get back together with my ex. Although very sad and grieving, I too am getting the psychological and anger management assistance I need. Again, I thank both of you for this eye-opening tutorial.
My greatest challenge right now is learning to be kind to unkind people. If I can master that concept-wow, talk about emotional regulation. What an awesome concept.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I will remember this the next time I am stuck in traffic. I don't have to be "smack bang in my wu wei"!!! Those words gave me such joy! Love to you both!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Kitty, we're glad you found the video helpful! Yes, wu wei found in 'the middle zone' - it's not a fixed or rigid point... because life is not fixed and rigid. Stay flexible! If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
You're both just radiant! I can't wait to see what this video will do in my life! I love the ideas I have been able to apply and the meditation is out of this world beneficial!! I always say that I am studying under both of you. You know, I don't think there's been a truer statement! Much love to you guys!
Hi Elizabeth, thank you so much for your kind comments and for taking the time to watch the video :) What was your most powerful takeaway from this video? If you use Facebook you would be most welcome to join our private Wu Wei Wisdom Community group where we share and offer support: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Golden Thread! Golden Thread! My most powerful take away was to identify the belief system behind my anger. I love that. Western psychology would ask how you think or feel. But here we're "going a level deeper" 😉 and looking at what we believe. Really great stuff guys!!! I think it is why I enjoy these videos so much! 😍
@@liz090833 yes! You can't change what you don't understand.. and this deeper understanding *only* comes from FINDING and OWNING the inauthentic core beliefs (the LIE/S) beneath the emotions. These are the crucial first 2 stages of the #GoldenThreadProcess :)
Thank you very much guys for this important teaching in my life. You know I understand now that my main problem is that I have not work enough to control my emotions. Now I would like you help me to control my emotions.
Hi Sena Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
resonates much with me. my issues , been facing it whole life. .. getting the clarity now! thanks. you both are so dedicated to your work. you are doing a great work for the cause of others well being. God bless.
That was amazing. Thank you. After suffering an injustice ysdy at the hands of a v over reactive person, I came to understand her sensitivity which I know is v heightened at this time, and the belief that came up for me, which I was able to extinguish. ❤❤❤ I was on that pendulum, just as you explained Alex, and now I'm back in the centre. So grateful. Blessings. ❤❤❤
Great video and teachings, thank you both. Can you say something about CEN - Childhood Emotional Neglect - and how it affects people as adults? Have an inspiring week and love xx
Hi Annie you are most welcome. Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment - we really appreciate it! Re. childhood neglect, have you seen our recent video on childhood trauma? You can watch here: ua-cam.com/video/yBYnJSsHrAw/v-deo.html ...and let us know if this video raised any important #LifeLessons or questions for you - we'll be happy to help if we can :) If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x If you'd like to learn more about our approach to the Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
Thanks for watching and commenting Maria... If you are experiencing red-light feelings when encountering 'angry people' they may hold an important Life Lesson for you. Perhaps this is something to meditate on? :) x
Thanks for your kind feedback - we appreciate it! Was there any particular point that resonated with you? Please feel free to ask us questions too! Alex & David x
@@WuWeiWisdom This is the first video of yours to which I have listened. I'm familiar with inner child. I was beating myself up irrationally today and realized I had a very angry unhappy inner child and was trying to find a way to deal with things. I really like your emphasis getting to the thoughts and communicating. I tend to try not to think because my mind is a dangerous place for me to be by myself. I'm calmer now than I used to be and in therapy so things will get better eventually. Thank you again for the great video. I have subscribed to your channel and clicked on the notifications bell.
@@JN25376 most of our clients struggling with emotional issues in adulthood have found that Inner Child work can be very helpful. The 'red light' emotions they experience in adulthood (eg. anger, frustration, stress, anxiety) track back to a childhood event/s and a related misunderstanding as a child which becomes buried in the core beliefs of the individual and how they view (and their expectations of) themselves and the world. When working one-to-one with clients we use the 'Golden Thread Process' to track back to and expose to this 'lie' within the core belief system and then do the Inner Child work to resolve and release this block once and for all. Have you seen our first video on the Inner Child? ua-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/v-deo.html Thanks for subscribing to our channel - we appreciate it! We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x If you'd like to learn more about our unique approach to the Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
Hi Raya We have done a video on this topic: ua-cam.com/video/Lp53Xhc42rI/v-deo.html Let us know what you think or if it raises any questions for you? Essentially the 'Ego' is what we teach as the Human Centred Mind / Inner Child - so when we mention these terms in any of our videos this what we mean. it is a vital part of you that should be balanced and harmonised alongside your 'spiritual energy' (Shen) - It cannot and should not be destroyed. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x p.s. If you'd like to learn more about our unique approach to the Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
I had never thought of repetitive anger or being constantly triggered as a form of self harm, until I watched this video. As I am flooded with fragments of memories of situations in which I overly punished myself, on a near daily basis, since I can remember.... Always feeling inadequate, unworthy, outcast, and brushed off. Anger is my default to everything. Seeing a happy family doing something together -anger. Seeing a man totally into his woman -anger. Seeing friends brave enough to move away and fulfill their dreams while I'm stuck here -anger. When I am spoken down to, in a condescending or dismissive tone, I shut down, then the anger follows. It has been that way my entire life, and I am going on 30. I want to stop all of this mental and emotional self-mutilation before I bring a child into the world. I come from a long line of dysfunctional women and relationships, and want to try something completely different. Then I found this channel, and I have learned so much.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education.
Remember, you are the creator of your emotions NOT the victim of them. And: You control your mind, your mind does NOT control you. I know that you will be able to make the changes in your beliefs that will make the changes in your life. David
I hope the video helped understanding of the root of the red-light emotion you are calling anger. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Kind regards, David.
Thanks for being a valued supporter of our channel Cheryl - sending positive Qi your way! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions andbroadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hi Amira Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! You may also find our other Inner Child videos helpful: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hi! I know I get angry at inappropriate situations because I interpret other people's actions as disrespecting me or ignoring my rights, even though I know for a fact it's not true, sometimes they're not even aware of my existence. I believe this stems from childhood when I was disrespected by my elder brother and other boys. But this knowledge doesn't do much to relieve the feeling - my inner child still interprets situations this way. I've been aware of this for years, but it hasn't changed. What can actually be done?
Hi Lauris, Thanks for your question. It seems as though you have started to do the Inner Child Work and Golden Thread Process, well done. You may need just a little more help to understand why that part of your mind we call the Inner Child does not want to accept and let go of the disrespecting you experienced from your siblings. Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
My mum barged into my room and forces conversation. It makes me soo angry that she doesn’t realise the disrespect. I chose to be angry because I feel violated. My beliefs are that I am expected to talk to her and please her even when it doesn’t serve me. After I’ve calmed down I told her my boundaries. I’m angry at myself for not putting my own foot down. I’ve learnt a lesson and will not engage in conversation that don’t serve me in the future.
my father is a very angry person, and when he'd get angry, he would always get his way. Being the eldest, I got the brunt of it, I was also a naturally angry kid, but I was not allowed to be angry, I was punished for expressing anger, even though my father was always allowed to. Now I'm in my 20's, I had major depression in highschool because I couldn't be angry, my father got better, but I would beat myself up for getting angry at anything, I refused to acknoledge that I was angry, always, so I had an anger problem to begin with, but covered it up creating a second major problem. Most painful years imaginable, I punished myself so badly for feeling things when I shouldn't. Went to therapy, one day, I felt a box open up inside me as I was driving back to work, all my anger spilled out, I had a new found confidence, new found passion, new found self worth, new found ability to stand up for myself but all from the core of anger. All the anger that had been locked up insode me is now my source of confidence. Now my anger is out in the open and it makes me feel powerful and great and right. It helps me stand up for my self an I don't want to give it up. But it IS not really good for my health. A few sisters down from me, I have a sister who also has anger problems, but she was able to identify that the she loves the anger cuz it makes her feel powerful at only the age of 15. She's far ahead of me in terms of emotional maturity on that end. Lucky her.
Hi Adara, Thank you for sharing your story I was interested in reading it. The fundamental principle here is: you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of them! You are correct, what is needed here is emotional education, there is nothing wrong with any emotion when you are in control of it and using it appropriately. I would suggest that you find a professional that you can work with to learn the techniques that are needed for you to be in balance and harmony. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
Wonderful as always, but the problem with using reason to analyze emotion, especially in the moment, is that strong emotion blocks reason. When I spin into an angry depression, reason is nowhere to be found.
Hi Joe Primal, thanks for watching! We value your support. You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD.html Alex + David x
A few months ago, I was trying to install my new dishwasher and nothing was going right. At one point, I couldn't find a tool that prevented me from going any further. I got SOOO angry that I couldn't contain it. I started SLAMMING things and made a big mess. The RAGE was out of control. My best friend was there so I felt very ashamed afterwards. Based on this video and your inner child child videos, there are two ways of looking at the cause of my outburst. The first is the "inner child" wound. In other words, I was reminded of something in my childhood, probably feeling incompetent, that set me off. In this video, however, you're suggesting that I should follow the golden thread and trace it back to a belief. Where do these two concepts, or ways of explaining my behavior, intersect? Thank you!
Thanks for your support - we really appreciate it! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
My inner child is so sad and angry she got neglected in her needs to shine as a acrobatics career and she was always left alone. Now she’s sabotaging my career path (I’m 38) I’m dragging on since years but sometimes really without motivation to get up. how to heal it? Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi A, thanks for watching and commenting! You may find our new video on 'the angry Inner Child' helpful for your healing journey: ua-cam.com/video/ja2w4DnUcZU/v-deo.html We also have many videos on our Inner Child playlist which explain how to begin to work with and heal the Inner Child: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html Alex + David x
What about irritability that is conditioned into your physiology? I’ve been trying to distract, assured myself that I can cope, etc and I’m doing other stuff knowing that the irritability is over something small. I’ve reached the logical point and gotten present. But it’s still here 3 hours later somehow as a stomach dropping unsafe feeling. I’ll look at other videos too
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. There are many videos that may help on this subject in the archives. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Good point! So thankful for y’all, talking to inner child has brought clarity to what I truly want without external influence. And no guilt! I’m in the fb group and it’s been great! life saving work honestly 👏 so thank you
i know i have a angry inner child. mine was caused by several traumatic events from the time i was 9 to 13 years old. My mom died of a heart attack when i was 9, my grandad died of a heart attack a week to the day after that, my brother died of a heart attack a year after that, my dad died of brain cancer a year after that, and my uncle died of multiple heart attacks 2 years after that. I buried my entire family before i was a freshman in high school. how could i talk to my inner child when i'm still angry and scared
Thank you so much for contacting us and sharing your sad story.
I would suggest that at some time you will have to communicate with that part of your mind we are calling the Inner Child.
I understand it is confused and cannot understand these traumatic sequence of events and it would require careful and compassionate handling. But, if not now, when?
Have you considered receiving some professional help? Even if it's just to get you started on the process of emotional education and healing.
I know that you are already aware that this needs to be addressed at some time, I hope that you peace and love that your family would have wanted for you.
Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
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I get red light feelings when I believe I have an inappropriate model for being a parent after surviving two suicidal parents and my physical child refuses to listen etc. I was always too scared to not do what I was told or play up. I practise being patient, consistent and pro active but sometimes feel that all the patience I have is not enough or I am being too permissive or harsh as a result of my nature?? I think I need to learn how to respond instead of react more but when I’m tired I find that difficult
What are the most common red and green light feelings .I'm unsure? I tend to be disconnected to my feelings and emotions because of abuse. I'm accustomed to disconnect from my body and reality / the Truth in the here and now and in my body.
Hi David. I’m the type that holds everything in and suffers in silence especially at parties. How do I communicate my feelings honestly without being offensive? Btw I love your videos. They are lifesavers! Ps my feelings are usually jealousy from comparing myself to others who have children because I couldn’t have any of my own. I really am jealous of my sister. She loves to show off and is really annoying. What can I tell my inner child to calm her down? I believe it’s quite hopeless. Please help. She’s really a very insecure and angry person. I despise her tremendously. She always ruins everything. So sorry for my rage. It’s coming out. She’s such a fraud. A very lonely pathetic inauthentic scared ugly angry person. She’s an animal. I hate her. I’m so glad she lives an hour away. Good buffer zone. If she lived closer we would have killed each other by now. Anyway thanks for listening. Annie R.
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Hey Martha, thanks as always for your support! You ARE truly awesome and it's a pleasure to know you :) Are there any other topics you'd like us to cover in our future Q&A videos? We'll be restarting recording them in March but we're welcoming suggestions all the time. Alex x
Hi Main, thanks for watching and commenting. You may also find this video on emotional triggers helpful: ua-cam.com/video/b6rhyu7WISQ/v-deo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I can't hug my inner child cause I blame them for feeling what they felt and believe that they were ugly, not loved and on and on, same as they are angry at me because I don't expect them and didn't safe them from fear and so on and on
Hi Peter, Thanks for your question. Now that you have found the core belief that is creating the 'red-light' feelings, you can consider other authentic alternatives to that belief that produce 'green-light' feelings of happiness, love and peace etc. in that situation. This process also involves working with your Inner Child. It is something I guide my clients through as part of the Golden Thread Process work I do with them. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos. David.
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
I found this video very patronising. Telling people what to do doesn't empower them. Saying to someone with identity and low self esteem issues 'Your awesome' can come across as very patronising. Anger is a very complex emotion. And whats with the 'Woo way' and 'yin and yang' - whose ever idea was this is pure ego. People have enough to focus on without having to learn a new way of saying something. Keep it simple (I.e. yin and yang = passive/aggressive). I've had alot of counselling, been on courses etc but what I've found most helpful is my gut instinct. Its simple and never wrong.
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I believe that without healing inner child, noway we could change our beliefs about ourself and world around us, and then we could be able to really change or choose our behavior
Good video. Thank you .
I enjoyed this immensely! I’m so glad I discovered you guys. I would LOVE more inner child meditations if possible! 💛
I don't know how I would cope with life without these videos (says my IC lol). This one really helped on a deep level. I still believe that I need more authentic and consistent intervention from myself and maybe my IC does need external help to assist?
What are the most common red and green light feelings .I'm unsure?
I tend to be disconnected to my feelings and emotions because of abuse.
I'm accustomed to disconnect from my body and reality / the Truth in the here and now and in my body.
I'm used to denying my truth out of fear and protection.
If someone belittles or disrespects me I feel furious.
OMG!!!! I can totally relate to this. A red light came on when David mentioned would you tell your own physical child they're not good enough because they only got a certain mark on their report. That happened to me as a child, so therefore I feel I have to be "Perfect. I have to be right, I have to be in control otherwise I get the red light of not being good enough.
Hi Leanne, thanks for your share - now you can re-parent yourself in a healthy way.
You are good enough!
You can learn more about Inner Child work and reparenting on our Inner Child video playlist here: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html
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When the student is ready, the teacher appears and stumbles on your channel. Appreciate you simplify and clarify the confusion in our mind.
Once again, the wisdom I've gained from this one video at the time I needed it most is amazing. "You're not a sponge." David's quote had me laughing because it is so true and I've found myself more than a few times taking on others' emotions as my own.
Hi Rin
Thanks for your feedback - we're pleased to hear you enjoyed the video!
The sponge analogy is true. You should and can be 100% in control of what you let impact your internal emotional balance and wu wei.
Have you seen our video on sensitive people? This may also help you, re. managing your emotional sensitivity: ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html
Also, this video (an old one!) talks about a similar topic: ua-cam.com/video/spDD8efd4ig/v-deo.html
Let us know what you think or if you have any more questions...
Alex & David x
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks, Alex & David. I have not watched those yet and will do so tonight!
@@RinAsami1 great! :) x
4 months of searching and watching videos and this has hit the nail on the head for me! Thank you so much! I've an issue with saying how I feel bottle it up and yes we know what happens. When you shake a can of coke when you finally try to release the pressure, it covers everyone around you.
Hi Mr McG
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment!
You may also find this video helpful: ua-cam.com/video/DY3jzYOvIwM/v-deo.html - in the video we talk more about anger being the energy of sensitivity being out of balance.
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In my experience the angriest people are usually the kindest and the ones who have been hurt the most
Just what I needed to listen to. Again and again.
I can do this!
One thing for sure is, David and Alex, you are truly awsome!
Thanks Lizzie 😊 xx
This video gave me the insight and a deeper understanding about the anger within me, that I was looking for. Thank you both, I really love your Wu Wei Wisdom and communications.
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I’m DEFINITELY the hardest on myself. I know others don’t have those “perfect” expectations of me, it’s all how I want myself to be perfect according to my beliefs! I loved this video, thank you so much! You two are amazing! 💛
Thanks for sharing!! Kind regards, David.
Acceptance!!! I like what she said about acceptance of the situation. Yes. Sometimes people just don’t want to hear it. It’s not personal. Move on. Change the subject. Calmly say or if it in an argument about something that needs to be hashed out then calmly breathe in and say “wait hang on I’ve got something to say” calmly. Remind yourself how many convos you’ve over heard or been a part of and didn’t want to be in it.
I want to thank you so much for putting words on to so many things that are confusing, like where do emotions come from, acknowledge feelings but talk in terms of thinking, observing...Because it is true that one can master his thoughts if we want to heal from them. I am right now viewing things though this angle. We have to be willing to do that first though. Great video, very clear .
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• The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Explained ➜ ua-cam.com/video/xIbpXtoD6t0/v-deo.html
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The work you do is so important. I want to thank you for putting this out there!
My pleasure! Kind regards, David.
Thank you for once again hitting the spot, I just resolved so many different issues in that time. Amazing and priceless. I feel so blessed to be able to wake up and have you there supporting me. You are Angel's. Thank you ❤❤❤😇😇😇😇
This is good stuff!!! Thank Alex and David.
One of my favorite videos!! Thank you so much…🙏🏻❤️
Hi NatureLover9162,
I'm so grateful to hear that this video ranks among your favorites! 🌿❤️ Your appreciation truly warms our hearts. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. If you're ever looking for a community that shares your love for these teachings, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community might be just the right spot for you.
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Thank you so much for this informative video tutorial. I wish I would have discovered and listened in five months ago. My anger issues helped to wreck the best romantic relationship I have ever had. Today, after four months of extensive psycho- and relationship therapy, I am trying to make amends and I hope, if I am lucky, get back together with my ex. Although very sad and grieving, I too am getting the psychological and anger management assistance I need. Again, I thank both of you for this eye-opening tutorial.
Great video!
Love and support from switzerland as well!
My greatest challenge right now is learning to be kind to unkind people. If I can master that concept-wow, talk about emotional regulation. What an awesome concept.
Well done. Thank you. Is there a discussion on vows and beliefs? Much peace.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I will remember this the next time I am stuck in traffic. I don't have to be "smack bang in my wu wei"!!! Those words gave me such joy! Love to you both!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Kitty, we're glad you found the video helpful!
Yes, wu wei found in 'the middle zone' - it's not a fixed or rigid point... because life is not fixed and rigid. Stay flexible!
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You're both just radiant! I can't wait to see what this video will do in my life! I love the ideas I have been able to apply and the meditation is out of this world beneficial!! I always say that I am studying under both of you. You know, I don't think there's been a truer statement! Much love to you guys!
Hi Elizabeth, thank you so much for your kind comments and for taking the time to watch the video :)
What was your most powerful takeaway from this video?
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Golden Thread! Golden Thread! My most powerful take away was to identify the belief system behind my anger. I love that. Western psychology would ask how you think or feel. But here we're "going a level deeper" 😉 and looking at what we believe. Really great stuff guys!!! I think it is why I enjoy these videos so much! 😍
@@liz090833 yes! You can't change what you don't understand.. and this deeper understanding *only* comes from FINDING and OWNING the inauthentic core beliefs (the LIE/S) beneath the emotions. These are the crucial first 2 stages of the #GoldenThreadProcess :)
You are both so brilliant! Love your videos ♥️
Thank you for these videos. I am finding this super helpful.
Thank you very much guys for this important teaching in my life. You know I understand now that my main problem is that I have not work enough to control my emotions. Now I would like you help me to control my emotions.
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I always say it, You are both amazing, your videos explain soo much. Always helpful.
Hi Lizze, thanks as always for your ongoing support and for being a valued member of our community! We appreciate it :)
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resonates much with me. my issues , been facing it whole life. .. getting the clarity now! thanks. you both are so dedicated to your work. you are doing a great work for the cause of others well being. God bless.
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
That was amazing. Thank you. After suffering an injustice ysdy at the hands of a v over reactive person, I came to understand her sensitivity which I know is v heightened at this time, and the belief that came up for me, which I was able to extinguish. ❤❤❤ I was on that pendulum, just as you explained Alex, and now I'm back in the centre. So grateful. Blessings. ❤❤❤
Thank you Dee! x
Great video and teachings, thank you both. Can you say something about CEN - Childhood Emotional Neglect - and how it affects people as adults? Have an inspiring week and love xx
Hi Annie you are most welcome. Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment - we really appreciate it!
Re. childhood neglect, have you seen our recent video on childhood trauma? You can watch here: ua-cam.com/video/yBYnJSsHrAw/v-deo.html ...and let us know if this video raised any important #LifeLessons or questions for you - we'll be happy to help if we can :)
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Wowzer, this one spoke to me Loud and clear. this is the place I'm worki g through, thankyou. Layer by layer.🙏❤🌹🕊
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
Very valuable video, thank you both. It is hard to deal with angry people for sure...
Thanks for watching and commenting Maria...
If you are experiencing red-light feelings when encountering 'angry people' they may hold an important Life Lesson for you. Perhaps this is something to meditate on?
:) x
@@WuWeiWisdom Yes!
@@marianeal3164 :) X
Excellent video. Thank you David and Alexandra!
Thanks for your kind feedback - we appreciate it!
Was there any particular point that resonated with you? Please feel free to ask us questions too!
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@@WuWeiWisdom This is the first video of yours to which I have listened. I'm familiar with inner child. I was beating myself up irrationally today and realized I had a very angry unhappy inner child and was trying to find a way to deal with things. I really like your emphasis getting to the thoughts and communicating. I tend to try not to think because my mind is a dangerous place for me to be by myself. I'm calmer now than I used to be and in therapy so things will get better eventually. Thank you again for the great video. I have subscribed to your channel and clicked on the notifications bell.
@@JN25376 most of our clients struggling with emotional issues in adulthood have found that Inner Child work can be very helpful.
The 'red light' emotions they experience in adulthood (eg. anger, frustration, stress, anxiety) track back to a childhood event/s and a related misunderstanding as a child which becomes buried in the core beliefs of the individual and how they view (and their expectations of) themselves and the world.
When working one-to-one with clients we use the 'Golden Thread Process' to track back to and expose to this 'lie' within the core belief system and then do the Inner Child work to resolve and release this block once and for all.
Have you seen our first video on the Inner Child? ua-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/v-deo.html
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Hi david and alexandra, please do a video about what is ego? and is it healthy to have no ego at all?
Hi Raya
We have done a video on this topic: ua-cam.com/video/Lp53Xhc42rI/v-deo.html
Let us know what you think or if it raises any questions for you?
Essentially the 'Ego' is what we teach as the Human Centred Mind / Inner Child - so when we mention these terms in any of our videos this what we mean. it is a vital part of you that should be balanced and harmonised alongside your 'spiritual energy' (Shen) - It cannot and should not be destroyed.
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I had never thought of repetitive anger or being constantly triggered as a form of self harm, until I watched this video. As I am flooded with fragments of memories of situations in which I overly punished myself, on a near daily basis, since I can remember.... Always feeling inadequate, unworthy, outcast, and brushed off. Anger is my default to everything. Seeing a happy family doing something together -anger. Seeing a man totally into his woman -anger. Seeing friends brave enough to move away and fulfill their dreams while I'm stuck here -anger. When I am spoken down to, in a condescending or dismissive tone, I shut down, then the anger follows. It has been that way my entire life, and I am going on 30. I want to stop all of this mental and emotional self-mutilation before I bring a child into the world. I come from a long line of dysfunctional women and relationships, and want to try something completely different. Then I found this channel, and I have learned so much.
Hi Kristen,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education.
Remember, you are the creator of your emotions NOT the victim of them. And: You control your mind, your mind does NOT control you. I know that you will be able to make the changes in your beliefs that will make the changes in your life.
David
Wonderful motivating people ❤️to you both , thank you being angrey nearly ruiened my life .
I wish I could have a session with you too how healing it could be.
I wish you could apply what they are saying What more do you “believe “ you need??
We are stock in emotions 😃🧘♂️🌈👏🏻Love this two 🍓🍄🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much for this video.
You're welcome Brett... if you have any questions please just ask us! 🙂
A+D x
I love your videos. I have cptsd and its difficult to navigate but Ive come a long way
I do suffer from anger issues ty for this
I hope the video helped understanding of the root of the red-light emotion you are calling anger. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Kind regards, David.
I just subscribed to your channel! I love your teachings! Thank you 😃
Thanks for being a valued supporter of our channel Cheryl - sending positive Qi your way!
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I’m sooo happy 😊 I find your Chanel 🙏👌👏❤️
Hi Amira
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you!
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Hi! I know I get angry at inappropriate situations because I interpret other people's actions as disrespecting me or ignoring my rights, even though I know for a fact it's not true, sometimes they're not even aware of my existence. I believe this stems from childhood when I was disrespected by my elder brother and other boys. But this knowledge doesn't do much to relieve the feeling - my inner child still interprets situations this way. I've been aware of this for years, but it hasn't changed. What can actually be done?
Hi Lauris,
Thanks for your question.
It seems as though you have started to do the Inner Child Work and Golden Thread Process, well done.
You may need just a little more help to understand why that part of your mind we call the Inner Child does not want to accept and let go of the disrespecting you experienced from your siblings.
Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
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David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you, David, I will do that!
My mum barged into my room and forces conversation.
It makes me soo angry that she doesn’t realise the disrespect.
I chose to be angry because I feel violated.
My beliefs are that I am expected to talk to her and please her even when it doesn’t serve me.
After I’ve calmed down I told her my boundaries.
I’m angry at myself for not putting my own foot down. I’ve learnt a lesson and will not engage in conversation that don’t serve me in the future.
my father is a very angry person, and when he'd get angry, he would always get his way. Being the eldest, I got the brunt of it, I was also a naturally angry kid, but I was not allowed to be angry, I was punished for expressing anger, even though my father was always allowed to. Now I'm in my 20's, I had major depression in highschool because I couldn't be angry, my father got better, but I would beat myself up for getting angry at anything, I refused to acknoledge that I was angry, always, so I had an anger problem to begin with, but covered it up creating a second major problem. Most painful years imaginable, I punished myself so badly for feeling things when I shouldn't. Went to therapy, one day, I felt a box open up inside me as I was driving back to work, all my anger spilled out, I had a new found confidence, new found passion, new found self worth, new found ability to stand up for myself but all from the core of anger. All the anger that had been locked up insode me is now my source of confidence. Now my anger is out in the open and it makes me feel powerful and great and right. It helps me stand up for my self an I don't want to give it up. But it IS not really good for my health. A few sisters down from me, I have a sister who also has anger problems, but she was able to identify that the she loves the anger cuz it makes her feel powerful at only the age of 15. She's far ahead of me in terms of emotional maturity on that end. Lucky her.
Hi Adara,
Thank you for sharing your story I was interested in reading it.
The fundamental principle here is: you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of them!
You are correct, what is needed here is emotional education, there is nothing wrong with any emotion when you are in control of it and using it appropriately.
I would suggest that you find a professional that you can work with to learn the techniques that are needed for you to be in balance and harmony.
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
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Wonderful as always, but the problem with using reason to analyze emotion, especially in the moment, is that strong emotion blocks reason. When I spin into an angry depression, reason is nowhere to be found.
Hi Joe Primal, thanks for watching! We value your support. You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD.html Alex + David x
A few months ago, I was trying to install my new dishwasher and nothing was going right. At one point, I couldn't find a tool that prevented me from going any further. I got SOOO angry that I couldn't contain it. I started SLAMMING things and made a big mess. The RAGE was out of control. My best friend was there so I felt very ashamed afterwards. Based on this video and your inner child child videos, there are two ways of looking at the cause of my outburst. The first is the "inner child" wound. In other words, I was reminded of something in my childhood, probably feeling incompetent, that set me off. In this video, however, you're suggesting that I should follow the golden thread and trace it back to a belief. Where do these two concepts, or ways of explaining my behavior, intersect? Thank you!
You guys are amazing! Thank you🙏❤️❤️❤️
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I just found you today, subscribed! Thank you
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My inner child is so sad and angry she got neglected in her needs to shine as a acrobatics career and she was always left alone. Now she’s sabotaging my career path (I’m 38) I’m dragging on since years but sometimes really without motivation to get up. how to heal it? Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi A, thanks for watching and commenting!
You may find our new video on 'the angry Inner Child' helpful for your healing journey: ua-cam.com/video/ja2w4DnUcZU/v-deo.html
We also have many videos on our Inner Child playlist which explain how to begin to work with and heal the Inner Child: ua-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html
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What about irritability that is conditioned into your physiology? I’ve been trying to distract, assured myself that I can cope, etc and I’m doing other stuff knowing that the irritability is over something small. I’ve reached the logical point and gotten present. But it’s still here 3 hours later somehow as a stomach dropping unsafe feeling. I’ll look at other videos too
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. There are many videos that may help on this subject in the archives. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Good point! So thankful for y’all, talking to inner child has brought clarity to what I truly want without external influence. And no guilt! I’m in the fb group and it’s been great! life saving work honestly 👏 so thank you
i know i have a angry inner child. mine was caused by several traumatic events from the time i was 9 to 13 years old. My mom died of a heart attack when i was 9, my grandad died of a heart attack a week to the day after that, my brother died of a heart attack a year after that, my dad died of brain cancer a year after that, and my uncle died of multiple heart attacks 2 years after that. I buried my entire family before i was a freshman in high school.
how could i talk to my inner child when i'm still angry and scared
Hi,
Thank you so much for contacting us and sharing your sad story.
I would suggest that at some time you will have to communicate with that part of your mind we are calling the Inner Child.
I understand it is confused and cannot understand these traumatic sequence of events and it would require careful and compassionate handling. But, if not now, when?
Have you considered receiving some professional help? Even if it's just to get you started on the process of emotional education and healing.
I know that you are already aware that this needs to be addressed at some time, I hope that you peace and love that your family would have wanted for you.
Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
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David
@stoogey. Sorry for all your loss. Please find a therapist and dedicate yourself for consistent therapy sessions. Hugs. All the best.
I get red light feelings when I believe I have an inappropriate model for being a parent after surviving two suicidal parents and my physical child refuses to listen etc. I was always too scared to not do what I was told or play up. I practise being patient, consistent and pro active but sometimes feel that all the patience I have is not enough or I am being too permissive or harsh as a result of my nature?? I think I need to learn how to respond instead of react more but when I’m tired I find that difficult
What are the most common red and green light feelings .I'm unsure?
I tend to be disconnected to my feelings and emotions because of abuse.
I'm accustomed to disconnect from my body and reality / the Truth in the here and now and in my body.
Hi David. I’m the type that holds everything in and suffers in silence especially at parties. How do I communicate my feelings honestly without being offensive? Btw I love your videos. They are lifesavers!
Ps my feelings are usually jealousy from comparing myself to others who have children because I couldn’t have any of my own. I really am jealous of my sister. She loves to show off and is really annoying. What can I tell my inner child to calm her down? I believe it’s quite hopeless. Please help. She’s really a very insecure and angry person. I despise her tremendously. She always ruins everything. So sorry for my rage. It’s coming out. She’s such a fraud. A very lonely pathetic inauthentic scared ugly angry person. She’s an animal. I hate her. I’m so glad she lives an hour away. Good buffer zone. If she lived closer we would have killed each other by now. Anyway thanks for listening. Annie R.
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Put my comment on FB, but thank you!! Another insightful, aha video!! I AM AWESOME! 💖
Hey Martha, thanks as always for your support!
You ARE truly awesome and it's a pleasure to know you :)
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Alex x
I have another issue I can't show anger because of I was punished when I was child for being angry
Kiitos.
Dear people:)Wu wei is not about doing. It's non-action. Be comfortable with not knowing and with wu wei. Thank you:)
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Thanks for your translation of Wu Wei.
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David
I get very angry very often due to my father
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I can't hug my inner child cause I blame them for feeling what they felt and believe that they were ugly, not loved and on and on, same as they are angry at me because I don't expect them and didn't safe them from fear and so on and on
what do you do when you have a red light feeling----then you find the core belief----but you still feel the red light feeling?
Hi Peter,
Thanks for your question.
Now that you have found the core belief that is creating the 'red-light' feelings, you can consider other authentic alternatives to that belief that produce 'green-light' feelings of happiness, love and peace etc. in that situation.
This process also involves working with your Inner Child. It is something I guide my clients through as part of the Golden Thread Process work I do with them.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos.
David.
Is this what happened to self aware narcissists? Angry inner children that feel wounded?
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Growing up not allowed to be angry or sad.
@cocoa-nuts2670 • 10 hours ago
Growing up not allowed to be angry or sad.
I found this video very patronising. Telling people what to do doesn't empower them. Saying to someone with identity and low self esteem issues 'Your awesome' can come across as very patronising. Anger is a very complex emotion. And whats with the 'Woo way' and 'yin and yang' - whose ever idea was this is pure ego. People have enough to focus on without having to learn a new way of saying something. Keep it simple (I.e. yin and yang = passive/aggressive). I've had alot of counselling, been on courses etc but what I've found most helpful is my gut instinct. Its simple and never wrong.
Hi Clare,
Thank you for your comments.
I’m pleased that you can rely on your gut feeling.
David
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I think this dude would rather make videos by himself.
Her stuttering makes me angry