A Lone Wolf Doesn't Get Rabies or Babies.

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  • Lone wolves don't get rabies. Or babies.
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  • @cosanostra803
    @cosanostra803 Рік тому +779

    Man I love being alone, and refuse to let people make me feel bad about it

    • @lewismcelroy6946
      @lewismcelroy6946 Рік тому +37

      Ive been single 31 years old as well. do not trust one word women say

    • @stopandsmelltheflowers26
      @stopandsmelltheflowers26 Рік тому +36

      @@lewismcelroy6946 Please decenter women. Also being alone is good but don’t let bitterness be the reason why you’re alone.

    • @salahuddinmuhammad3251
      @salahuddinmuhammad3251 Рік тому +10

      ​@@lewismcelroy6946yes I think your Viewpoint is based on bitterness anger or resentment of some type. Just the wording alone.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 Рік тому

      @@stopandsmelltheflowers26 Good advice!

    • @samuelponce1
      @samuelponce1 Рік тому

      Women are pretty dirty

  • @xavierbreath2227
    @xavierbreath2227 Рік тому +226

    Not all who wander are lost. Not all who are alone are lonely. Solitude is peace.

    • @2softbrowneyes
      @2softbrowneyes Рік тому

      Asè

    • @AntonioCarlos-mq2hk
      @AntonioCarlos-mq2hk 3 місяці тому

      I hope so. It is happening to me right now. I always decline my small inner circle friends invitation . I'm in my 50s now. I'm afraid one day I will start doing things that i love alone.

    • @xavierbreath2227
      @xavierbreath2227 3 місяці тому

      @@AntonioCarlos-mq2hk You are stronger and wiser than you think.

  • @r.p.2249
    @r.p.2249 Рік тому +222

    There is nothing wrong with being a loner. If you truly desire peace, then being alone is absolute.

    • @sloppyjonuts9162
      @sloppyjonuts9162 Рік тому +30

      Rather be alone than in poor company. Once you get into some of these cliques you lose your identity

    • @mariharrik5987
      @mariharrik5987 11 місяців тому +1

      @@sloppyjonuts9162 what about family

    • @keisi1574
      @keisi1574 11 місяців тому +8

      @@mariharrik5987 Family is even worse. They're people you didn't choose.

  • @TheMNBlackBear
    @TheMNBlackBear 10 місяців тому +11

    "Being alone is a superpower."
    That's absolutely right.

  • @amandafey
    @amandafey Рік тому +956

    I actually used to have a drinking problem when I was younger BECAUSE I tried to force myself to be more outgoing and extroverted. But I hated it and felt extremely uncomfortable doing it, so I'd drink. I now no longer drink, but I also avoid people MOST of the time, too. The negativity, backbiting, backstabbing, gossiping, drama, pettiness, and gross immaturity of others is what ALWAYS bothered me, A LOT.

    • @peaceonearth351
      @peaceonearth351 Рік тому +150

      Finding that adults are truly just grown-up children.

    • @wltdo6930
      @wltdo6930 Рік тому +21

      Me too

    • @user-eu3qy8uf7f
      @user-eu3qy8uf7f Рік тому +67

      I went through a phase of that false exteoversion. But I discovered the same b.s. gossip drama, nonsense and manipulation.
      One night eating out with these "friends I went to the bathroom and as I was coming back two of them had gone to the bar which was just around the hall from the bathroom. I stood,and heard every nasty word said about me. I was crushed.
      I sneaked to my car and drove away to home. I unplugged my phone so it would ring and ring and then changed the number.
      LUCKILY I didn't work with any of these people so didn't have to see them. I saw one in the grocery store 2 years later. Gave them a mean face and they KNEW better to approach.
      I'm that way to this day-a lone wolf.
      My birth family is that way too. Full of narcissistic dishonesty, cheats and always wanting money or resources. Entitled jerks at best. I don't speak to but one of them anymore.
      Now I love the freedom of doing me. I have one or two friends but I don't hang out with them in person anymore-just text or email.
      The pandemic helped me become aware of how much time and money and energy previously wasted on NOTHING of substance.
      Living life creatively and mostly alone and the BEST thing is the PEACE.

    • @dannyho6786
      @dannyho6786 Рік тому +35

      Same here, its like high school never ends !

    • @travislovelace7619
      @travislovelace7619 Рік тому +7

      Ditto

  • @susanservin1949
    @susanservin1949 Рік тому +1036

    After a 14-year abusive relationship, I'm happy being alone. Alone, not lonely.

    • @lunaimadog4723
      @lunaimadog4723 Рік тому +54

      Yes Madam! Alone, but not lonely. I love being alone than having someone making mess and telling me what to do.
      🕊️🍀♥️

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 Рік тому +65

      Most people make shitty partners and are not worth your time.

    • @tommyantoine-rg7gy
      @tommyantoine-rg7gy Рік тому +24

      I needed this my brother 🙏 . I just got out of a marriage 💔😢 and I always was a lone 🐺 wolf. Proverbs 21 verse 9 . You rather sleep on the roof 🏫 then being with a nagging wife.

    • @tommyantoine-rg7gy
      @tommyantoine-rg7gy Рік тому +10

      Love this ❤️ statement. Alone but not lonely

    • @the_gilded_age_phoenix8717
      @the_gilded_age_phoenix8717 Рік тому +16

      I've never known a wmn who wasn't in an abusive relationship. But, hey, they can be profitable!

  • @iBullyDemons
    @iBullyDemons Рік тому +16

    My GF just dumped me and this video popped up in my recommended.
    You have no idea how much I needed this man.

  • @Angelareadsalot
    @Angelareadsalot Рік тому +130

    Thank you for this, Tim. I’m a 47-year-old, lone she-wolf, never married, no kids. By choice, and I have baffled and been misunderstood by just about every human being I’ve ever come across in my life! Thankfully I’ve made it to an age where everyone has stopped trying to set me up with their cousin or telling me I’ll change my mind about kids. I’m not against marriage, it just needs to be the right person that will understand my need for space. I started solo traveling when I was in my early 30s and it transformed my life. Not sure if my need for solitude is nature or nurture …I was a very introspective, only child, and my father was a lone wolf as well. I do enjoy visiting with friends, volunteering, taking classes when I’m in the mood. But 90% of the time, I love the drama-free, peace and quiet of being alone with my hobbies. I find that people think I don’t like them or just think I’m being rude, especially as a woman, when I don’t invite them to do things with me, or accept every social invitation. It’s not that I don’t appreciate it or like spending time with them. I just don’t NEED it, and often need that alone time more, for my mental health. Thanks for being much more articulate than I am about this superpower we possess. Keep doing you!

    • @arethamorgan6613
      @arethamorgan6613 11 місяців тому +11

      @Angelareadsalot You pretty much sound like an "Introvert." I say this because I am one. I guard my alone time with a fierceness. My phone contacts are pictured, so I can choose whether I want to talk to them or not. I can't stand crowds, or meeting new people. Only to learn, that I don't like them after 5 minutes of talking with them. Let alone hang out with them. I have found people, to be very manipulating, especially women. I have plenty of hobbies which is a good thing. Those who know me, know my parameters. If you see me doing something, act accordingly. They know the drill. I have trained them to respect my privacy. Pop over if you want to. You can ring that bell and knock all day. I will just turn the TV up louder. Eventually they get the message. 🤣 So I can recognize those "Introvert" traits, they scream out loud. Lastly, unless a man could add to or enhance my life. In any way, fashion, shape, or form. What purpose would he serve anyway?

    • @Noonewillrecognizeyou
      @Noonewillrecognizeyou 11 місяців тому

  • @Locarb
    @Locarb Рік тому +585

    "It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are."
    Great video, Tim. 👍🏾

    • @RetireandGo
      @RetireandGo Рік тому +12

      Great quote! Thank you!

    • @zephyrr108
      @zephyrr108 Рік тому +7

      "It takes courage to grow up and say you watch WNBA."

    • @jamescheaye927
      @jamescheaye927 Рік тому +4

      @@zephyrr108bruh😂

    • @user-vo4wd9mj3n
      @user-vo4wd9mj3n Рік тому +2

      They are not mates. Not in the permanent or long term sense. No more than a dog ruts with another dog..

  • @moonbear5061
    @moonbear5061 Рік тому +58

    I am a lone wolf as well. Nothing wrong with it. Most people are needy, annoying and piss me off.

  • @dreamgaits
    @dreamgaits Рік тому +31

    I chose a childless life and got slammed all the way down the line for "being selfish". But as the years went by the same people would say "I love my kids but if I had it to do over again I would not have done it". Go figure.

    • @gintonicx6
      @gintonicx6 11 місяців тому +1

      😂

    • @UniqueGeekFreak
      @UniqueGeekFreak 10 місяців тому +4

      I hear this all the time
      Ppl pressured me into marriage, that I almost wanted to committ suicide, they asked all the time, tried to pair me with some green card visa guy or a drug addict they found on the streets (no disrespect to them really), it's just that they saw me as a nobody & I was of no value because I was unmarried or childless.
      These mf:ers now that they have family & kids, they tell me to not get married.
      I followed my gut instinct & my self worth haha
      Never a regret, most of them divorced or have men going on "business trips" so there's accepted infidelity ny those women & accepted tolerance of abuse
      I ate my fair share of shite my entire life to know where something is going

    • @almighty7709
      @almighty7709 10 місяців тому +2

      You guys make it seem like people don't enjoy being parents. I know a lot of happy parents. Idc, if you didn't want any, I just don't like the narrative that kids are always an issue.

    • @UniqueGeekFreak
      @UniqueGeekFreak 10 місяців тому

      @@almighty7709 i agree, i have met few some at least mothers who felt fulfilled & feel like the children and family life is everything to them.
      But the human being whatever they have or are, they find a way to make something good to be something to complain over or to be ungrateful for.
      Whether single/married family life it has its perks & downsets. If one can find peace in knowing this, that notjing is ever perfect or ultimate fulfilling. It will be easier to accept & be grateful for one's situation or life.
      My situation has always been that ppl pity me when they hear im alone & tend to make things worse, sometimes theyvthrive thinking they are better or to know im miserable, then they sometimes slip up telling it how it really is like, that they are unhappy. This is a female snake thing, stab in the back thing.
      Everyone thinks they will get a better life or find happiness once settled down, if one can understand life is what you make with what you have, it still could be lived in peace no matter what life situation. Peace

    • @abrax7811
      @abrax7811 2 місяці тому +1

      Stupid reply from people, what you hear

  • @larryreis7273
    @larryreis7273 Рік тому +59

    I am with you brother as a 71 year old young white guy. I have always been a lone wolf with the heart of a tiger. Thrive on.

  • @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby
    @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby Рік тому +228

    Single for 8 years, no kids, sober for 2 years, traveling, running a biz, hike and bike, nothing better then being wolf packed.

    • @-whackd
      @-whackd Рік тому +6

      Does that mean being in a group of friends?

    • @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby
      @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby Рік тому +3

      @-whackd lol naw, just slang talk sir.

    • @tipoftheiceberg7034
      @tipoftheiceberg7034 Рік тому +2

      Guarantee you're not actually happy.

    • @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby
      @tinadarealmilliondollarbaby Рік тому +5

      @tipoftheiceberg7034 another person can't give you happiness sir. I'm beyond happy and blessed. I come and go as I please, have friends here and there and keep it Fckn moving lol. I love it.

    • @lostvayne9146
      @lostvayne9146 Рік тому

      @@tipoftheiceberg7034 guaranteed your indoctrinated and controlled by societal pressures/influences to think the way you do.
      and you don't even know it. While you do your hardest to justify your existence.

  • @GMacII
    @GMacII Рік тому +123

    I once dated a girl who told me “you intimidate me” I asked her “why” she replied “because you don’t need me”. That’s when I understood that that was a HER problem and not a ME problem. I removed myself quickly.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 Рік тому +4

      Very interesting!

    • @martinmccrary3085
      @martinmccrary3085 Рік тому +2

      I agree 💯%

    • @Pondapple
      @Pondapple Рік тому +7

      This explains why some guys, after they break up with a woman, say to their friends, "She was too needy." It's never an attractive quality in a woman. And the smart women realize this at an early age and work on themselves instead of expecting a man to "fix" their life situation. But girls, if you arrive at that good stage in emotional maturity, watch out for guys who will try to use you and your strength. It's a sorry topic but I hope some women will read this.

    • @johnnie2638
      @johnnie2638 Рік тому +1

      Exactly.

    • @vmac8972
      @vmac8972 Рік тому

      That’s a huge red flag when she made it about herself and goes to show how modern western women are very narcissistic and self absorbing. You dodged that one real quick. Well done! As men we should never stoop down as simps and the second a woman makes it about HER we have to shut that shit down and board it and nail it shut. Lol

  • @godfatherofcinema
    @godfatherofcinema Рік тому +88

    No one coming out of abusive relationships should seek a partner. Seek to love yourself and your own company. Wish I’d known decades ago what this young man is articulating here. We seek someone to love us because we don’t love ourselves. This culture teaches us to be unhappy alone to make money off of us.

    • @Lonewolf-up4pc
      @Lonewolf-up4pc Рік тому +14

      I went out with a girl that got out of an abusive relationship and took no time to heal she went out with two different people after this abusive relationship and then later met me at the end of 2022 and all the signs were there that she hasn’t healed from her abusive relationship or the relationships with the two guys she was with after yet I still went for it thinking I could heal her and make it work . However all that trauma she had especially from the abusive relationship bled in our relationship that we had ! now we just broke up 3 weeks ago and I thought I could fix this girl, etc but I realize you can’t help someone if they don’t want to be helped. What’s crazy is she’s broken up with me like 6 times. 3 of them were serious break ups but she always come back but I think this time it’s officially over because now I don’t even want her to come back she became a completely different character towards the end of our relationship that I don’t see her coming back and it’s for the best .

    • @Earthtime3978
      @Earthtime3978 12 днів тому

      @@Lonewolf-up4pcalmost every woman says her past relationship was “ abusive.”

  • @moralebooster8437
    @moralebooster8437 Рік тому +36

    You do not have to be in a relationship to have fulfilling relationships! A pet, a couple best friends, chatting with people on the street... I consider myself to be in a working relationship with everyone in this world. Especially for those of us who have had unhealthy experiences in love with our parents or past partners, it can be a beautifully healing experience to be alone for as long as you want.

    • @mateaukalua4426
      @mateaukalua4426 11 місяців тому

      I don't like animals but I get what you're saying 😂.

    • @msemakweli133
      @msemakweli133 11 місяців тому

      ​@@mateaukalua4426Plants can be amazing company. Try some gardening - even a small patch, or potted ones. I, for example, probed the world of flowers (and I'm a guy). It is very interesting.

    • @Anger1037
      @Anger1037 5 місяців тому

      I love your point of view on the “relationship with everyone” that’s super awesome and thoughtful

  • @ETAonTheEUC
    @ETAonTheEUC Рік тому +324

    I'm a lot like you. A true loner. All my life I thought there was something wrong with me, but it's because this is what society told me. In reality, I basically don't have the same social needs as others. The older I get the more I realize I'm actually kind of blessed I don't

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey Рік тому +45

      No kidding! All these people NEEDING other people constantly must be such a drag.

    • @blossom1290
      @blossom1290 Рік тому +6

      ​@@amandafey fr I never feel lonely just bored. I taught it was strange sometimes. But I got a opportunity to have a good boyfriend anyway and I took it.

    • @sxwrtr918
      @sxwrtr918 Рік тому +14

      Same here. Being pushed and pressured as a kid/teen to be more social, made to feel like like there was something really wrong with me for preferring to be on my own or sometimes just hanging with one other kid who was like me. At 59 my loner energy has solidified and expanded, and I really dont care anymore what people think of it or how they react. I have a couple of good friends. Been through many relationships but found they were more trouble than they were worth. My cat is the bomb.
      So vindicating that after the 'demic there are so many accounts by social scientist types of crazy numbers of people depressed and traumatized after the isolation, loneliness, inability to socialize with friends and go out. While I feel for them, I cant help but snicker with a Cheshire Cat grin that all those who dismiss us lone wolves as weirdos, freaks, and question marks they can't figure out and are uncomfortable in that, were forced to live as we CHOOSE to live and enjoy doing so. Only they were woefully ill-equipped to deal. Its natural for us. But to them it was torture, agony. The loneliness, being with yourself without the distraction of other people or the pacifier of running to malls, buying, crowded bars, bodies, parties, gatherings, running to stand in line for the hot new restaurant, etc. They hadn't the slightest clue how to navigate the silence and their own company. Now there are scads of ads on radio/internet for all the 'McTherapists' and counselors that emerged from the woodwork smelling money and telling them, in soothing, sexless tones, that it's not their fault they're depressed, its been a rough couple of years, we're here to help. Oh, barf! Talk to one of us 'weirdos' for free. I dont know about me, but maybe so.e if us would deign to help you get past the terrible awful you've endured, poor babies.

    • @jhssmith2004
      @jhssmith2004 Рік тому +8

      well said. makes me feel o.k. to be a loner the way you express it.

    • @wlochataSwinka
      @wlochataSwinka Рік тому +5

      Me too bro, I can literally be alone for years.

  • @ironwork92000
    @ironwork92000 Рік тому +179

    As I grew older, I became more comfortable being alone. It gives me time to reflect.

  • @SANA4SPA
    @SANA4SPA Рік тому +16

    I wish I would have come across this video 40 years ago. This would have saved me from much pain and suffering.

  • @dadamager3000
    @dadamager3000 Рік тому +21

    I'm a 31 y/o loner and I totally get you. In this moment, I needed that energy from another lone wolf!
    This random video helped me realize that my goal right now is to rebuild a healthier network of relationships, a healthy pack of wolves

    • @jancsikus
      @jancsikus 10 місяців тому

      Even the lone wolves have to share some energy with each other sometimes :)

    • @OregonMikeH
      @OregonMikeH 6 місяців тому

      YOU'RE INVITED, GOOGLE'S: "OREGON MIKE H"

  • @mysticallavish1360
    @mysticallavish1360 Рік тому +338

    I'm a loner to, so was my dad. I'm 51, married, and like to spend time alone even though I'm married. My husband is like me, we chill separately often lol but in same home. We like our privacy and happy. ❤

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +96

      Sounds like a great marriage!

    • @MountainGirlwIPA
      @MountainGirlwIPA Рік тому +14

      I agree.

    • @exelmans8855
      @exelmans8855 Рік тому

      In ancient time, husband were not even living with their wives. The modern set up is a brainwash.

    • @janiececooper6758
      @janiececooper6758 Рік тому +35

      Does he have a brother lol seriously I have never met a man that gets this, I need lots of alone time but also quality connection perhaps on a weekly basis, I don't need every day, I think this is a healthy way to be married.

    • @mysticallavish1360
      @mysticallavish1360 Рік тому +14

      @janiececooper6758 his brother is married. I'm lucky I know. We both know it was written in the stars 🌟.

  • @thebluefalcons92
    @thebluefalcons92 Рік тому +288

    I’m 23 right now, and watching this gave me the chills man. You described my life perfectly, glad there’s someone out there I can relate to.

    • @kenn_foxx5563
      @kenn_foxx5563 Рік тому +14

      Same. And i remember at 24 was my last serious relationship and being single for 15 years after that. Had a few dates that turned relationship after that turned into nightmares after that so... i'm 44 now. It sucks but it's a better than being in love and the shit not working. That shit hurts a ton even when you are 40!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 Рік тому +2

      @kenn_foxx5563 Very true and age doesn't lessen the hurt feelings!

    • @JasnoGT
      @JasnoGT Рік тому

      Exactly!, same here and I’m his age.

    • @Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg
      @Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg Рік тому +1

      ​@kenn_foxx5563 That is absolutely terrifying, I can't understand how you can be half way through your life and can't find anyone good that wants you. I make almost 6 figs drive a convertible mustang and can't find anyone now, what do you say to your future self you see sitting in a death bed with not one person that cares about you slowly watching yourself lose your own mind and faculties?

    • @kenn_foxx5563
      @kenn_foxx5563 Рік тому +1

      @@Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg It is one of those uncomfortable thoughts that comes to mind sometimes yes. Anxiety sucks and what woman wants a guy with a mental illness?

  • @LoneWolfExplorer
    @LoneWolfExplorer Рік тому +47

    I grew up with no brothers or sisters, I was a lone wolf before I knew I was. Like you I had to learn to entertain myself growing up. I feel this makes us stronger as we are happy being on our own and don't need people to make us feel happy. I'm quite happy going off on a trip for two weeks on my own, I love meeting people and new experiences though but at the same time I'm quite happy being alone.

  • @megatron8461
    @megatron8461 11 місяців тому +6

    This lone wolf mentality is just what I need to cope with my stress. Plus, relationships are nothing but road blocks. All they do is railroad me.

  • @BrandonLeech
    @BrandonLeech Рік тому +122

    Here’s the thing too bro: if you’re a fairly well-adjusted guy who’s responsible, independent and self sufficient, not emotionally needy or has a bunch of addictions to feed, you aren’t going to NEED that many people to be happy. In fact it will be hard to find other people who are on your level because they tend to be the same way you are and don’t need a lot from other people. You’ll meet a lot of people who aren’t on your level and are just more trouble than they are worth to be friends or romantic partners with. Sad but true. You want be careful who you get involved with.

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey Рік тому +15

      I've noticed this as a female as well. I tend to always work on improving myself and my life, always have, but most other people don't. Many constantly make bad decisions. Then, I usually end up being their sounding board for ALL their problems, or they get hostile and jealous. That gets old REALLY FAST!!!!

    • @tonyc2570
      @tonyc2570 Рік тому +1

      Perfectly said ,Brandon Leech

    • @jamest2861
      @jamest2861 Рік тому +1

      @@amandafey There is no vice...like advice. Al Pacino (Devils Advocate)

    • @mikehunt4797
      @mikehunt4797 Рік тому +4

      ​@amandafey especially when you call get sick of their shit and call them out on it. That usually goes over well. 😂

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 Рік тому

      @@tblazer4932 Absolutely!

  • @MsGechi77
    @MsGechi77 Рік тому +114

    STAY FREE 🧡 People have a lot of problems.

    • @unassailable6138
      @unassailable6138 Рік тому +2

      You dont need to take in their problems with them. Keep the baby throw the bath water away. Just work on boundaries and as an introvert I'm a big fan of living apart from each other.

    • @imanjones3807
      @imanjones3807 Рік тому

      Yup

    • @tj3954
      @tj3954 Рік тому

      So true!

    • @rodriguezpedro01
      @rodriguezpedro01 Рік тому

      Unnecessary problems...

  • @davek5777
    @davek5777 Рік тому +50

    I'm totally with ya, Tim. Been a lone wolf for years now. 54 years old, never married and no children. Happy to have a fwb but other than that, enjoying my life. Peace to you, my friend.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +9

      Peace to you as well.

    • @datroof2262
      @datroof2262 Рік тому

      So you, too, are not a lone wolf.

    • @davek5777
      @davek5777 Рік тому +6

      @@datroof2262 I am. Just because i have a fwb doesn't mean I'm not.

    • @sloppyjonuts9162
      @sloppyjonuts9162 Рік тому +3

      Same. I just want FWB. That’s it. Low key stuff. Either way you put a gun to my head and tell me to go make friends or get a girl! You have a week. The trigger would be pulled. That’s how bad I suck at communicating

    • @JuancoPRoFlow
      @JuancoPRoFlow 11 місяців тому

      FWB?

  • @mikedee8876
    @mikedee8876 Рік тому +3

    I had 2 serious relationships in my life, and have been alone since I was 33....am 74 now.......peace and simplicity are most important to me.... women are the antithesis of that....Adam learned the hard way

  • @The_Real_JerBear
    @The_Real_JerBear Рік тому +35

    I’ll be 37 next month - no relationships, no children - and PLENTY of alone time. No social media noise - just me. I enjoy that.

    • @violetatcontentboutique7188
      @violetatcontentboutique7188 Рік тому

      The Dead make it ez to do that - yes Jer? ... until it's time to gather & party it up ...

    • @The_Real_JerBear
      @The_Real_JerBear Рік тому +1

      @@violetatcontentboutique7188 ???

    • @Hilary945
      @Hilary945 Рік тому +1

      I'll be 37 in December, I'm also not married, no kids. I like my freedom.

    • @The_Real_JerBear
      @The_Real_JerBear Рік тому

      @@Hilary945 ah, yes, the sweet bird of freedom. 😎

  • @jefesalsero
    @jefesalsero Рік тому +158

    "Most of the drama in your life came from other people." Exactly! Cutting out people who do not add value to your life and those who bring negativity or chaos is essential. Setting healthy boundaries is essential. Much happier having taken action on this in recent years - wish I had done so sooner. Having a good sense of self-worth and self-love is also very important.

    • @meredithheath5272
      @meredithheath5272 Рік тому +3

      👏👏👏💗💗💗🏆👑👑

    • @joesmith9216
      @joesmith9216 Рік тому +2

      NO, women, women today have no drama other than them selves.

    • @freedomformen2548
      @freedomformen2548 Рік тому +3

      I let go of a lot of friends because they simply couldn't live without a woman. And one thing you don't want when you're mgtow, that's a bossy woman chaining your boyfriend. So I never want to be friends with a couple again.

    • @lamiagarner8931
      @lamiagarner8931 Рік тому +1

      🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🙌🙏💪❤

    • @jrusvijr6988
      @jrusvijr6988 Рік тому

      Yes yes, true words . I could never understand why some think it's cute to disturb others😁😏😁

  • @Popchyk
    @Popchyk 11 місяців тому +11

    This video really spoke to me. Sometimes, when we are in our own little worlds it can be easy to forget that there are others out there, who are going through similar experiences, and I just find that tremendously encouraging and reassuring. Thank you for this :)

  • @rothberg4334
    @rothberg4334 11 місяців тому +5

    Being alone has its benefits, basically more time to accomplish your real goals. But it does get lonely at times.

  • @drewphillip2043
    @drewphillip2043 Рік тому +138

    I needed to hear this man. I am also a comfortable loner. Never feel the need to go out and do the things that society says I should be doing like partying, hookup culture, wasting money etc. Sometimes I get down about it, most times not. I think hobbies are key, the gym, good music, good food and quality ppl when you are around others. At 35, having not been in a relationship for about 15 years, have also realized it would take a very special person to get me to leave this life of freedom. Peace brother!

    • @Frank941
      @Frank941 Рік тому +13

      The longest period I have been single for in my adult life is five years. Best years of my life! I had a ripped body and absolutely freedom! I loved it!
      I relationship is like being in prison. I really don’t understand how people can choose this.

    • @officialaleksi
      @officialaleksi 11 місяців тому +6

      @@Frank941 I think a relationship should be an addition to your life that is positive never a prison. If you feel like that, then its the wrong one.

  • @baldeagle4710
    @baldeagle4710 Рік тому +13

    I was rejected by women from age 20-35. Used to feel depressed. Now I see people getting divorced around me and dealing with all kinds of complications and I feel like I dodged a hundred bullets. I love being alone and I know that no one can manipulate me. Saving a bunch of money. I could have been less picky and had a bunch of dates if I wanted to. But that would have been a waste of time and money. Marriage rates are down 50% for a reason. Most people suck.

    • @smeake
      @smeake Рік тому

      It’s because of no fault divorce being removed.

  • @PrinceDKEN-TATE
    @PrinceDKEN-TATE Рік тому +16

    I loved your segment. For me, I have not been in a real relationship in about 14 years. Being a lone warrior is more than a superpower. It's a blessing.

  • @yduvaa
    @yduvaa 11 місяців тому +8

    I just recently got out of a 4 year relationship and my ex was pursuing/dating someone literally days after we separated. Meanwhile I am taking this time to truly heal and focus on myself. In a way I feel a bit sad for her, because she's so terrified of being alone, she NEEDS that attention and validation. It makes me sad because she deserves better for herself.

  • @jayklark1749
    @jayklark1749 Рік тому +211

    I'm a loner, too. Going 46, never married, never had a girlfriend. I accepted it that I'm going to die alone. Being single wasn't by choice, just never attracted the opposite gender, and often rejected. So that's life for me.

    • @bodhixxx1
      @bodhixxx1 Рік тому

      there are people out there that are light speed ugly that no one kisses them on the lips no one touches their genitals they just wash it and then they die..........Louie CK

    • @Janika-xj2bv
      @Janika-xj2bv Рік тому +34

      I don't know you, but you have my respect.

    • @Athanasiospaschos2963
      @Athanasiospaschos2963 Рік тому +27

      Your not alone jayklark1749, im 29 never was in a Relationship, thats one of the Story😊

    • @danielbrucejohnson6218
      @danielbrucejohnson6218 Рік тому +23

      You don't have to be alone at all....I have been married 4 times , am single enjoy its peace
      I found the Lord in faith....he filled what no person could....I still would like a relationship , but now I am complete
      I encourage you not to be alone my friend

    • @PunyMortal
      @PunyMortal Рік тому +32

      37, same for me. I've been kissed once by a girl in 3rd grade and that's as close as I ever got to a woman. I could never imagine that a woman could like me, so I never tried. I've suffered from crippling shyness and low self-worth all my life. But I'm figuring things out as I get older. There's now a perspective I have on my life that I didn't have 10 years ago and it changed my priorities completely. I like myself much more now. Dying alone ain't so bad if you like youself.

  • @lesha6967
    @lesha6967 Рік тому +86

    I haven’t been in a relationship in 13 years. I just can’t settle and accept anything. I believe if I’m meant to have it will just flow and happen naturally. In the meantime I’m content being alone.

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 Рік тому +7

      Yup don’t settle. Better to be alone than in a bad relationship

    • @EJ-zs8ll
      @EJ-zs8ll Рік тому +2

      No you are lonely! Humans are lonely! But never alone because God is always with them!

    • @lesha6967
      @lesha6967 Рік тому

      @@EJ-zs8ll no YOU are lonely… I’m good honey

    • @jcarp2322
      @jcarp2322 Рік тому +1

      I can definitely relate.

    • @BIKENESS
      @BIKENESS Рік тому +1

      I agree 💯

  • @sagora3114
    @sagora3114 8 місяців тому +5

    As we get older it's harder to find others we genuinely click with. I think our developing opinions and tastes separate us...wrongly or rightly

  • @karenramos9143
    @karenramos9143 Рік тому +70

    I agree with you totally from one lone wolf to another, life is much less complicated and more comfortable to just be ourselves and avoid the drama.

  • @bettyeboop2942
    @bettyeboop2942 Рік тому +22

    I love being alone. The older I get I just stop dealing with people if they cause me drama. We are eventually all going to die alone so living by yourself is not a bad thing. I spend less money when I hang out with myself.🤣🤣🤣

  • @andrewvo8395
    @andrewvo8395 Рік тому +72

    I’m also a lone wolf. And I’m really good at it. I’m also really good at being social. In fact people think I’m an extroverted chatter box.
    But people drain me with their drama. Their complaints. Their requirements. Their desire to have me conform to who I need to be for them.
    It is a strength to be able to be your own best company. This way you don’t fall prey to the thirst of wanting to fit in and please others.

    • @mateaukalua4426
      @mateaukalua4426 11 місяців тому +2

      Exactly bro people don't understand.

    • @paulocoreas5171
      @paulocoreas5171 11 місяців тому

      Lone wolf aka cry babies lol

    • @octitawhythisnameistaken
      @octitawhythisnameistaken 10 місяців тому +2

      Some of my friends came back from another country. One permanent one for holidays. At the same time another old connection introduced himself. Next thing you know, i am being caught in ,,Can i borrow some money'' or ,,Why did he lied to me'' and similar >drama

  • @FoodTrucksForDummies
    @FoodTrucksForDummies 11 місяців тому +13

    Tim your saving lives out here. We appreciate you my UA-cam friend 🤍

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  11 місяців тому +2

      I appreciate you saying that!

  • @ZE308AC
    @ZE308AC Рік тому +157

    I've never had a relationship in my whole life😊

    • @VAL30007
      @VAL30007 Рік тому +23

      Same

    • @TheDevelopmentPOD._.
      @TheDevelopmentPOD._. Рік тому +20

      Same for me

    • @RetireandGo
      @RetireandGo Рік тому +18

      I mean as long as you are happy and living a healthy life not everyone will be in relationships. It’s fine , stay happy :-)

    • @meleciamartinez8469
      @meleciamartinez8469 Рік тому +4

      How??????

    • @tcdtboc8551
      @tcdtboc8551 Рік тому +16

      So long as you're happy they arent for everyone I hate that society puts so much emphasis on it as if you cant be happy alone.

  • @tammyt.9852
    @tammyt.9852 Рік тому +56

    OMG, the thumbnail title- "no rabies or babies" spoke to my soul! Valuing your solitude and recognizing having a spouse or kids is not the end and be all of a person's life. It's okay to want different.

    • @user-vo4wd9mj3n
      @user-vo4wd9mj3n Рік тому

      I think I always was this way deep inside even as a child. I never dreamed of having my own kids or walking down the aisle in a white dress. I thought something was wrong with me I just wanted to travel the world. Be happy. It was a long struggle. Not till I'm middle years yrs. but okay with it.

    • @user-kl9bi4jt4t
      @user-kl9bi4jt4t Рік тому +1

      Wow, that's some hardcore coping. You're denying yourself the greatest pleasures because youre not likable?

    • @tammyt.9852
      @tammyt.9852 Рік тому +1

      @@user-kl9bi4jt4t I'm very likeable. I Maybe parenthood is pleasurable for you. Frankly, I'll let you have all that joy! I'm good. However, since you feel the need to comment on other's personal life and reproductive choices tell me you're the time of person I know I would not like in real life. Let's keep it that way.

    • @user-kl9bi4jt4t
      @user-kl9bi4jt4t Рік тому +1

      @@tammyt.9852 Same thing as you: you're trying to get others to support your cope instead of making yourself better, but there's a time limit on your cope.

  • @Gamesso1slO0l
    @Gamesso1slO0l Рік тому +15

    stop, take a look around. You have the sun on your face, clean air in your lungs, wonderful woodland creatures around you who would love to share a meal with you, and you have the trees, magnificent wonderful trees, and fauna. Dude, look around, you're not alone.

  • @sammor2
    @sammor2 6 місяців тому +3

    I am a lone shewolf and very content.
    Went to Paris France late 90s people asked how can you travel so far and alone I said I'm never alone.
    My uncle said that when I was very young, I played by myself.
    I am now fit 70, yes, aged like red 🍷
    Like you said about your father, my mom was a loner and did not like to travel. My dad traveled around the world. I have pictures of hom riding camel's in Egypt.
    So I have the best from the best a loner who loves to travel.

  • @kyleotterman7010
    @kyleotterman7010 Рік тому +25

    This one is so real. The more you interact with people the more drama you eventually trade with. Everythings a bargain

  • @lindaschultz7900
    @lindaschultz7900 Рік тому +33

    Being a single woman is definitely a superpower. I would live in my own place and if I meet someone he can live up to 30 miles away in his own place. We can visit each other on the weekends. It's called LAT . . ." Living Apart Together". It's very popular in the UK

    • @m.w.njoroge7438
      @m.w.njoroge7438 Рік тому +3

      Linda, I think this is what I need. My extreme independence may not accommodate anything else. Also, it's a more interesting arrangement!🤷🏾‍♀️😄

    • @jimb3093
      @jimb3093 Рік тому +8

      I am so down for that! I am single with my own place. But finding someone like minded is a challenge. haha!

    • @jaytaylor1885
      @jaytaylor1885 Рік тому +5

      LAT? very cool, i haven't herd that before, but i like it

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey Рік тому +7

      My partner lives just a mile down the road from me, in his own house. We see each other almost everyday. It works for us.

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 Рік тому +1

      @@amandafey I'm glad it's working out for you guys.

  • @rori3dura
    @rori3dura 11 місяців тому +6

    finally a video where I can relate to. I love being alone! tired being around with some people with their BS, or just plain abusive.

  • @TonyFrazier-vo4yo
    @TonyFrazier-vo4yo Рік тому +5

    Hey Timothy, it's been a year since I commented on your videos. I have great news, I had finally conquered my fears by quitting my job! That's not all, I even moved to another country and doing what I love that is teaching English to primary students. Thank you so much for your video" Why I quit the American dream and why you should too" Timothy Ward. I am finally free from the rat race and living in a country where everyone is polite, supportive, and loving. That is my testimony.

  • @TinyMaths
    @TinyMaths Рік тому +80

    This is exactly me. AND, I always get people who are around me trying to push me into relationships . I'm not against relationships at all; I just don't crave that dynamic at the moment. I'm fiercely protective of my 'me time' and crave lots of it. So for now, a relationship definitely isn't on the cards.
    Being like this at 51 might also be a contributing factor. Upbringing might also be a factor for me; I was a lone wolf quite a bit as a child due to family circumstances. It was initially painful, but I grew to love the solitude, and activities/hobbies that lend themselves to that state.

    • @deathnsd6953
      @deathnsd6953 Рік тому +2

      ''and crave lots of it''

    • @Pondapple
      @Pondapple Рік тому

      I think it's usually the extroverts who will try to push you into relationships. They just can't conceive of a life enjoying solitude.

  • @self-carewithlia978
    @self-carewithlia978 Рік тому +95

    As a fellow introvert I totally understand enjoying your own company and not willing to have any drama in your life. But I do think it’s healthy to embrace more companionship which can be a challenge for us introverts! 🌻

    • @1x0x
      @1x0x Рік тому +5

      making friends with other introverts is amazing... the problem is we are all hiding at home lol

    • @Realvibes_963
      @Realvibes_963 Рік тому

      ​@@1x0xWell, let's get out of the house then! 😂😂

    • @Yamom395
      @Yamom395 Рік тому +5

      It’s not a challenge for us we just don’t like bs and people like us we like ourselves so we’re are transparent from first interaction. In a fake world we are intense to those who don’t know who they really are. The difference between us intro is we know exactly who we are while others try to be who they aren’t. Again bull poop

    • @shay7358
      @shay7358 Рік тому

      Fact!!!

  • @supertenor2767
    @supertenor2767 Рік тому +2

    I'm turning 50, in a month... Single, never married, no kids. I'm learning to be ok with it. No drama.

  • @pleaseleave2live
    @pleaseleave2live 4 місяці тому +3

    Man, this comes at a good time when decided to focus on myself and do me only. In the next few coming months, I will be living in my small bakkie and traveling all around South Africa as a lone wolf. I have all the characteristics of being a lone wolf as I go against most of what society believes in but I did not know that is called a lone wolf and introvert. I am embracing my real me, thanks to you sir Tim.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  4 місяці тому

      Good luck on your upcoming travels!

  • @rochelleking_
    @rochelleking_ Рік тому +60

    Greetings Tim! I'm a lone wolfette 😉. I can relate so much to this video! Gotta have my alone time. That walk looks peaceful

    • @RetireandGo
      @RetireandGo Рік тому +9

      It is a nice hike area, looks peaceful

    • @cchoi108
      @cchoi108 Рік тому +4

      Same here. UA-cam is way enough relationship for me. The cats are even too much company for me. I didn't choose to get the cats though they are strays who were born on my patio. Does anyone want four cats? I will fly over and bring them to you lol.

    • @gdust6579
      @gdust6579 Рік тому +3

      I'm a lone wolfette too. This video helps me feel less alone in lone wolfness

    • @mikuspalmis
      @mikuspalmis Рік тому

      @@cchoi108 😄

  • @T_Elle
    @T_Elle Рік тому +157

    So much of this describes me. I still think we introverts need to be able to communicate and share our points of view with others like us. Just like you did here Tim. Thanks! #IntrovertsUnited

    • @girlwithpearls
      @girlwithpearls Рік тому +13

      Yes being an introvert myself, I still.value relationships and community and love

    • @dobr4481
      @dobr4481 Рік тому +12

      The problem is we need people who understand us, throughout my life I've been made to feel I'm not normal because I'm quiet & don't enjoy socialising & mixing. When your own family doesn't even attempt to see things from your point of view or is just too insensitive, then you retreat further into yourself & end up resenting everyone & their happiness. It's a vicious circle unless you're lucky enough to have compassionate & understanding people around you.

    • @RainbowBandana
      @RainbowBandana Рік тому +2

      And that's the problem YOU STILL NEED people smh

    • @girlwithpearls
      @girlwithpearls Рік тому +4

      @robbyjacobs4436 yep... no matter what, we all need love and community.. this life comes with to many challenges along the way to be alone forever

    • @Emiliapocalypse
      @Emiliapocalypse Рік тому +1

      #IntrovertsUnitedButSeparately

  • @f0nziewashere
    @f0nziewashere Рік тому +6

    Completely fair take man don't take life too seriously. Just know that you're never truly alone even when we think we don't have any friends or anyone to hangout with. Realize that your piece of mind is far more important than what others think of you. Its truly freedom when you get to do what you want to do without someone else inputting their opinion about it.

  • @TimberGrappler
    @TimberGrappler Рік тому +8

    Been single off and on and struggling with this idea of being alone or being with someone and I believe God put this video in my queue today for a reason. Thanks brother ❤

  • @SophisticatedLunatic
    @SophisticatedLunatic Рік тому +43

    This video is so super relatable. I loooove being by myself. I don't look for a relationship anymore, because I don't see the point. It is so liberating!

  • @tomo.8096
    @tomo.8096 Рік тому +52

    I love this! So true. My alone time is my "re-charge" time. I used to think that I was simply a very selfish person and couldn't make the compromises needed to live with someone else. But I now try to be less hard on myself and accept that I'm hardwired to be content living alone. I can be very engaging and highly interactive in social situations. In fact, my job requires extensive social skills. Still, going to an empty home at day's end is a relief. Let's hear it for the lone wolves!

  • @DeeArtInNature
    @DeeArtInNature 11 місяців тому +5

    Yes, I can definitely relate! As a woman, it is hard to find a partner who loves to be the same way without having to feel insecure or needing to have someone on the side until you're ready to bond again. Someone once told me that my gift was loneliness. I didn't know whether I should have been offended by that comment or not but now that I'm older and wiser, I fully understand what it means to be alone without feeling lonely. Thanks for sharing!

  • @UltraK420
    @UltraK420 Рік тому +6

    You know, now I feel better about it. You're describing the lone wolf personality exactly as I would describe it. I'd like to add that people like us tend to be very private and we strongly value that privacy and our personal space, especially when we are doing an activity we enjoy and we're used to absorbing all of the experience without someone else interrupting our flow. I can't even focus enough on a task to do it at my best when somebody is with me and talking too much.

  • @HollistheHOBO
    @HollistheHOBO Рік тому +9

    I stopped consuming news media, talk radio, and alcohol, and my life became 95 % drama free.
    When I leave the rat race in Jan 2024 I think my life will then be 99 %.
    I will still have to go to the store and drive, so I have to interact with some others.

  • @Rocket9944
    @Rocket9944 Рік тому +25

    I think most of us that are "true" introverts can relate, I've always been this way, I can go in a movie theater by myself and watch a movie or go to a restaurant by myself ,it doesn't matter to me.
    I myself just find it odd that people always need to be around other people to make them happy. I find that the more someone wants to be around other people, the more narcissistic they are.

    • @Turanic1
      @Turanic1 Рік тому

      I can go to cinema alone and travel alone, but I hate going restaurants alone, hate wating when they bring food and then waiting when they bring the bill 😂

    • @PranaChi369
      @PranaChi369 Рік тому

      Yup!

  • @thedukeofpaducah9682
    @thedukeofpaducah9682 Рік тому +8

    Loved your video and view on societal norms and your lone wolf lifestyle. I'm a loner myself, and enjoy every minute of it.

  • @rickblasing1237
    @rickblasing1237 Рік тому +7

    oh man, i am so glad this video popped up for me. every word, every sentiment, i relate to 100%. makes me feel so less alone. i love my lone wolf existence, but lately, i've really been bothered by loneliness as I approach my mid 40's as well.

  • @RennLea
    @RennLea Рік тому +11

    I'm so happy that I never got married and that I allowed that voice in the back of my head to make me hesitate on following through on two engagements.
    It wasn't that I thought I could get anyone better or that I thought each person wasn't good enough but I knew in the end I didn't want to participate in having someone control my emotions and the direction of my day being controlled by another person. I didn't want to come home in a great mood but because my partner had a bad day I can't even truly finish my evening feeling great. I didn't want to participate in being the personal housekeeper, mommy or spend any part of my life being at my spouse's family members houses. Spending time with people I'm not related to because he's related to them. All of it very much feels like a living nightmare but that's just me I'm not judging anybody's decisions but I'm so glad I never did it.
    Also to any women reading this under 40, you've been lied to, life gets much better after 40 but you will have knee and back problems. Yes, the dating game does change and the options are cut in half but life is so full of other things besides being able to claim a man. It's so small and dismissive to have that be such an important part of your life.
    I can't speak from a man's perspective so that's why I'm speaking from a woman's perspective.

    • @haleyvanslyke6773
      @haleyvanslyke6773 2 місяці тому

      Omg, thank you so much for this. I’m 32 and have felt very similarly to you my whole life. Everyone has made me out to be crazy, but after 30 I realized it was ALL a lie

  • @tcdtboc8551
    @tcdtboc8551 Рік тому +36

    24 and I'm staying single till death theres no such thing as a soul mate. There is just the person you partner up with to attempt to go through life together. I hate how brainwashed people are when it comes down to romantic relationships. They have and always will be status symbols more than anything else. I'm fine alone and I dont have regrets.

    • @advicepirate8673
      @advicepirate8673 Рік тому +2

      Why the bitterness though? Why the dismissive superiority? Seeing things in such a negative way only damages your own well being, and I would posit that you wouldn't be seeing things in that that light if you didn't still somehow consider Other people's insecurity to be Your problem. Bitterness is the emotional investment that never pays back out.

    • @rabidzombie01
      @rabidzombie01 Рік тому +1

      There are soul mates. But you won't get along every second of every day man. Gotta put that work in and find a traditional girl...not the wokies.

    • @RozayMalikOG
      @RozayMalikOG Рік тому

      Same

    • @Jsteelies
      @Jsteelies Рік тому +2

      Keep that attitude up and I think you'll meet someone when you least expect it. That's what I'm doing. Just live your life and if you meet someone great. If not oh well. I think it's the right attitude to have. Especially in this world we're living in. Fill your life with fun things and hobbies. Go explore the world... Go live for crying out loud. There's so much more to life than women. Scrape your knees, get dirty. Have fun... Once you've filled your life with all those fun hobbies and things you enjoy. Maybe just maybe by then you'll have met someone who enjoys those things too. That's my philosophy and I'm sticking with it. I am never never never searching or looking for someone though. Never going on the prowl again. That's for the desperate folk who absolutely need someone. That's not the right mindset! So yeah, fill you life with fun people, activities, hobbies, a job you enjoy... That's a fulfilling life. If you happen to find a woman to ride along with you awesome.

    • @tcdtboc8551
      @tcdtboc8551 Рік тому

      @@advicepirate8673 I'm not bitter, you may interpret the comment as bitter because text has no way of properly conveying emotion. It's ironic that you're talking about insecurity when you're likely one of the many people that can't accept that there are single people who can be happy. Relationships are not for everyone, not everyone is marriage or parent material and that backwards way of thinking only ends up causing people to spend their lives searching for something that may not even be for them.

  • @RyanKleindienst
    @RyanKleindienst Рік тому +2

    Just found your channel Tim. This video spoke to my soul and inspired me to continue being my true self. Keep Going!

  • @petert7248
    @petert7248 Рік тому +4

    Tim. It's refreshing to hear your thoughts. There are a lot of people in the world who find themselves alone, for one reason or another. We're conditioned by society to feel that there's something wrong with it. But there is a time and season for everything, even being alone.

  • @nollylove29
    @nollylove29 Рік тому +11

    Tim you absolutely read my mind. I've been married twice and now I'm divorced and I tell you what I I really hated living with them. I hated sharing the bathroom I hate it there in the closet. I hate it sleeping in the same bed. Simply because I'm such a loner the closeness was suffocating to me. But I thought something was wrong with me and there was nothing wrong with me. Now that I'm single I feel the same way you do. If I ever get back into a relationship I'm not living with you if we do make that mistake we're going to live in separate rooms with separate bathrooms kind of like a duplex. I will never again share so much space with somebody and give up my peace of mind. I love the idea of living apart together. If he lives across the street that would be fantastic. And hopefully he's a loner just like

  • @machellec5721
    @machellec5721 Рік тому +18

    Lone wolf here too. Glad you brought this up! I have had more drama in my life than I care to discuss. The last few years, I have been alone and not lonely at ALL. I dig it with no drama and just me enjoying my peace and quiet. Didn't think there were many out there like me. Glad it's not just me being a hermit. LOL

  • @timmyheatz12
    @timmyheatz12 Рік тому +3

    I can definitely relate alot Tim. Back in my adolescents and 20s, I've always cared about others think bc my inner circle was little to nothing. But im exiting my 30s and entering my 40s where I'm @ peace with this loner life. I'd prefer lonely walks over miserable walks any day bud. Thanks for inspiring video Tim. 💯🌌🙏🏽

  • @kenwoods9247
    @kenwoods9247 Рік тому +2

    Your show is Fire! Keep it coming!

  • @waedjradi
    @waedjradi Рік тому +17

    Man, sometimes I feel bad for being this way haha but GEEEEZ I love being alone! I go where I want, when I want, etc. When you are with a group, freedom dissipates. When you're alone, you're free. Especially if you don't bother yourself with thoughts.

  • @amyduro1967
    @amyduro1967 Рік тому +21

    I was not in a relationship for most of my life until I was 53. Then I got married to someone who had also been single for decades. We spend a lot of time together but also several days a week apart. We have separate rooms. We don’t need to be together all the time. It’s going ok. I think I like it. Having a good relationship with yourself is the most important thing. If a relationship with someone else supports your relationship with yourself, then it’s worth some effort. You are doing some great work helping people see new healthy ways of being. I wish you every success in your journey. ❤
    Ps, are you in Maine? Looks familiar there.

    • @exelmans8855
      @exelmans8855 Рік тому +6

      That’s the normal way. A couple is not supposed to share beds.

    • @amyduro1967
      @amyduro1967 Рік тому +2

      @@exelmans8855 a lot of people can’t afford more than one bedroom - I didn’t have more until I moved from a city to a rural area, so I’m very grateful that I can at this time. I think it’s probably different for some, but I could never deal with being with someone else all the time. I need my space to think without interruption.

    • @Watchmechowdown
      @Watchmechowdown Рік тому

      Where you all have sex?

    • @charrua59
      @charrua59 Рік тому

      Explain that a little please .Most couples sleep together in same bed. Is that not normal?

    • @amyduro1967
      @amyduro1967 Рік тому

      @@charrua59 it’s not as common as tv and the movies show - especially as people get older. But, like I said above, not everyone can afford more rooms. Of course it doesn’t matter what other people do - we all should do what works best for us.

  • @artmccarthy3268
    @artmccarthy3268 11 місяців тому +3

    Outstanding, just outstanding video. I also haven't been in a relationship in over 10 years. Freedom is priceless.

  • @denny720
    @denny720 Рік тому

    I love your positive energy, Thank you for brightening up my day and letting me know it’s okay to be alone. 🙏🏽

  • @petergorm
    @petergorm Рік тому +17

    I'm a loner myself. It wears me out being in a group of people. I much rather be in my own company, for all the same reasons you mentioned. Great video. Cheers from Denmark

  • @MsMaxinejoy
    @MsMaxinejoy Рік тому +22

    6:16 You can go on tour trips, Tim. I went to Portugal in April 2023 by myself. I went on a tour WITH thirty plus people. I was never alone but had my OWN room. Had lots of fun, diverse age groups.

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey Рік тому +4

      Travel groups/retreats ARE great 👍

  • @kmiller0402
    @kmiller0402 11 місяців тому +1

    I feel you 100% You have the gift to be happy alone. Love your channel ❤

  • @TimPQF
    @TimPQF Рік тому +2

    So very true. Being a self-contained unit and a person who can find deep and meaningful satisfaction without requiring much of anything from others (or whatever is already a part of your environment) is an amazing ability. I think it has a lot to do with being your own best friend and having that kind of positive and rewarding relationship with yourself. Nothing wrong with enjoying the company of others from time to time, just as long as it is an interaction by choice and not obligation/circumstance. Love the video and channel! Thank you!

  • @robinferguson8911
    @robinferguson8911 Рік тому +33

    Everything you said....100 percent me too. I've just been lucky enough to find someone who is perfectly fine with me being a lone wolf, happy to let me do my own thing, happy to be with me when I'm bringing him along. He's not a lone wolf himself though. He's actually a homebody and very involved with people at work and in the community. He's just super relaxed and content in his own life and not threatened at all by my need for space. Contentment with who you are is such a good feeling. All the best to you Tim! This one really hit home for me.

  • @rohanwilliams72
    @rohanwilliams72 Рік тому +6

    I feel like I became selfish with my attention. I prefer to give it to myself cause I'm worth it. I selectively choose who I share my energy with, and when I do it's mostly to deliberately try and lift them up, not because I need something. I'm solid being alone and like you enjoy it immensely.

  • @adamsenior5929
    @adamsenior5929 Рік тому +10

    This strikes a chord, I remember at primary school and choosing to sit at one of the desks alone, and not with other groups, and then getting funny looks from visiting teachers coming into class, as though I'd done something wrong 😂 completely my choice

  • @elijaholson.worm1
    @elijaholson.worm1 11 місяців тому

    Your laugh has a laughing so hard it hurts kinda vibe to it when you laugh at yourself I sense pain from your self reflectiveness but also a lot of strength love the video !

  • @DanielAdamG
    @DanielAdamG Рік тому +26

    It’s great to hear I’m not the only one out there enjoying being alone ☺️ it feels so peaceful 🙂

  • @Topg1
    @Topg1 Рік тому +11

    I’m a bit of a loner. Intimate relationship scare me. I like traveling with my friends ( for support and safety). There’s nothing like sitting in a room watching movies or playing video games by myself. Alone but not lonely.

  • @fatmike5879
    @fatmike5879 Рік тому +1

    First time watching and I'm a lone wolf too fam. I agree with you about traveling, as well as other things. Keep going!!! 💯💯💪🏾💪🏾

  • @JPJamminn
    @JPJamminn Рік тому +2

    Sheesh this really resonated with me Tim! 😮🙌 Thanks

  • @GuardianAngel..
    @GuardianAngel.. Рік тому +4

    Where My Lone Wolf 🐺 Squad at!!? Oh there You are.

  • @shehitmewiththeiamnothappy2484
    @shehitmewiththeiamnothappy2484 4 місяці тому +3

    I turned 40 last month. A realisation I finally had but still struggle with is “ it’s ok for being how I am, and I don’t need to apologize to people for existing and my choices. I enjoy being a bachelor by choice I enjoy no kids I enjoy less stress and no I’m not broken. No I’m not depressed no I’m not “ poor him” nope. I’m good. I’m actually really good. I love my life and won’t allow anyone anywhere anymore to make me feel like a broken defective man for not having a wife and kids. I’m good. I took care of everybody and everyone around me, worrying nonstop about my siblings. I am good now.

  • @valerierogers9609
    @valerierogers9609 Рік тому +11

    Close relationships are very rare special things, and mine died a decade ago. I lived just fine, read books, drink tea, good wine, have cupboard filled with happiness, go for walks with my best friend now 🐕. It's peaceful.

    • @exelmans8855
      @exelmans8855 Рік тому

      I cannot stand dogs.

    • @Alibo400
      @Alibo400 Рік тому

      @@exelmans8855I’m sure they can’t stand you either

  • @KayDay21
    @KayDay21 6 місяців тому +1

    I grew up in a big(ish) family 2 brothers and 1 sister. Im the second of 4 always had people around. Lots of people always gravitated to me and still do. I was in all the clubs. Choir,band and cheerleading so I grew up different than you but i feel like you do today. Even when i look back on my life growing up... the way people saw/see me is the opposite of how i truly feel. I just want to be left alone and it seems impossible for people to fathom whether it be loved ones or strangers. Thank you for make this page and expressing a side that doesn't get expressed much online or otherwise. People always think there os something wrong of you don't enjoy the constant company of others.

  • @melissarose2213
    @melissarose2213 9 місяців тому +2

    I love your videos, thank you for being honest and genuine! And please know that you are not the only one! Not in the job issue, not in the relationship issue, society does not like us because we are not the norm and it scares the shit out of them. So they have to shame us and tell us we better get our act together or we'll be alone forever and never be able to retire!

  • @Samiyo
    @Samiyo Рік тому +26

    I can relate 100%. I am a loner by choice, and glad that I do not have to deal with drama. However, at times some people will misunderstand you. and come up with their own conclusions about your character. Especially when it comes to the work place. Many will get upset that I will not socialize after work with them etc.

    • @oldskoolmusicnostalgia
      @oldskoolmusicnostalgia 11 місяців тому +1

      Stuff like that was what prompted we to leave behind the office life and jump on the first opportunity I had to work remotely. Yet it's nice to have colleagues for the chatter and small talk but that does not ultimately override all the trouble.

    • @Samiyo
      @Samiyo 11 місяців тому

      @@oldskoolmusicnostalgia I understand completely

  • @greedykidify
    @greedykidify Рік тому +6

    Lone Wolf since day 1. I love it

  • @diemcarl5546
    @diemcarl5546 11 місяців тому +2

    Thx a bunch, Tim! From a loner to a loner ✊ You're a human and humane, and these two are the most precious traits in today's wicked and crooked world. Peace and love ✌️❤️

  • @Rayna429
    @Rayna429 9 місяців тому +2

    Ah this is an awesome find! I'm on the other side of 'wondering' and just 'being' fabulous in my solitude! Peace of mind is the fountain of youth: I literally hide my age which is ridiculous at my big ole age of 50. I strongly feel if you're living your life out loud peacefully, with no regrets then there is nothing else to be done; it is your path, accept it with arms wide open and make the best of it!.... (with a smile and a hearty laugh; frowning gives you wrinkles)