Todd is a beast. He actually explains the psychology and social context behind what’s being said. Too many pick up artists give a plan A plan B plan C approach without actually knowing anything.
I like how eloquently he responded to your mundane question about differences between approaching different girls based on race. His response was so much more accurate to the differences....it’s not because she’s black or white it’s because of her experiences how she was raised etc....don’t stereotype because you don’t want to be put in a bubble then why do it to women?
Lmao, ya'll always to quick shit on Pickup and call it manipulation. You learn how to do every single thing in life. Meeting women should be one of them, instead of being creepy about it. At the end, everybody wins. Enough with the stigma. There is good and bad in every sphere in life. This was a very good episode Hafeez. We appreciate the good content.
Todd has been putting me on game for years. He's the only "PUA" who doesn't come off as gimmicky or coked out of his mind. His style of game helped me out so much because he shows you can be a bit lower energy and still control social situations.
Everybody is talking about how much of a master Todd is - but can we take a moment to appreciate how good of an interviewer Hafeez is? Conversations like that are only possible if the partner has the ability to lead an interview in the manner he does! He is prepared for his guests, he has the ability to give engaging, open questions, he elaborates on his thoughts but then gives room for his interviewée to really elaborate themselves! In the end it makes it really compelling to listen to for the audience!
@TripJay21 You might be surprised as I give advice that a lot of women hate! I'm always open to oppositional dating and relationship advice. I welcome the conversation for sure. I will NEVER cosign the "hook-up" culture though! It's mentally damaging to people, men and women. I heard him talk about his "open" relationship with his child's mother and I don't agree with that as it truly benefits HIM more than her! I wonder what would happen if she did decide to date other men (i.e: better men than him!)?
Attractiveness and looks is important but I find it interesting how it's always the #1 for these guys then complain about failing relationships. I'm not saying date Rosie O'Donnell but if you cant hold a conversation but she's a dime piece, we'll i guess you deserve what you get.
THANK YOU. I can’t believe how this guy is “getting away with” generalizing that models and 10s and hot girls are all “bad”. It’s rly ignorant and childish
I hear u. Maybe he doesn’t generalize in other areas but when it comes to the way he talks about models and hot girls it’s bogus. A talk he gives to a bunch of dudes in another vid- He harps on this story abt spending the night w 2 models and proceeds to harshly criticize everything about them. Painting them out to be total trash to make a point about models in general. And it’s rly unfortunate bc there’s going to be a bunch of dudes who eat this up and missing out on women w certain professions which aren’t always long term. FOR SAKE OF ARGUMENT and not ego (my name isn’t on my profile etc)- A few of my girlfriends that I model with and I are all getting quality educations, date good guys who aren’t male models and just authentic good people - who are sometimes physically “untraditionally attractive”, ones at harvard, one is a lawyer, Myself a therapist and so on. So for people who say don’t watch it then/why do you care... It manifests in our lives. We end up having frustrating interactions with dudes who in some way or another express this negative opinion about us and it becomes our responsibility to disprove it. It’s really doing a disservice to men who are minimizing their dating pool.
This is my second time watching this interview. I enjoyed it even more this second time I watched it. You do an excellent job of pulling out great info from your guests. Would love to see you interview Coach Kyle. He used to be a student of Todd. And, he has his own unique style of game which is based upon some of Todd's concepts.
What Todd said 43:30 is so on point, I have and seen countless of other guys behave that same way - get very excited about some girl who showed the faintest of interest. I also agree with guys getting overly invested because of a lack of options, one thing I've thought about when I find myself "lonely" or craving a relationship is this - "do I actually want a GF or do I just want convenient sex" - to be honest, I can't tell anymore.
Ladies and roommates,we have just hit a next level shit up in here. This guy has been the one who sticks in the trenches,making the calls to people and getting the nos,other homie has his own stuff going. But brother no matter what any of these people criticizing in commentsyself included,but while your actually doing. Proud of ya fam,keep learning,keep working, and keep putting that foot forward cause it inspires me too.
"across the board in life, but especially in game, is if you truly accept who you are and are okay with it, it's very very hard to lose a social interaction like to lose I mean like to be low value in a social interaction if you really are okay with who you are." (59:40 - 1:00:05) - Todd Valentine To anyone watching this, the quote above is perhaps the strongest piece of advice Todd has ever given. If you apply it correctly, you can become socially indestructible within my opinion. More often than not people are told, "Be yourself!" This advice is honestly helpful, but without a properly detailed explanation of its meaning, people can lose themselves in applying it. From my experience, I have found being yourself is to align yourself with your beliefs and passions. When learning game, I would copy Todd's lines like, "You look like trouble." There is nothing inherently wrong with this line, but if it is used un-authentically when you do not actually think the girl looks like trouble, here I believe it becomes unauthentic. You would not be spontaneous and neither would you be passionate saying it. If you look at the girl and preferably think she looks sweet, cute, mischievous, --- say that instead. In game, there are strong risks of embarrassing yourself, and maybe even making yourself feel guilty through others disliking you. If you however, don't think or feel what you did was wrong, never lower yourself because of it: There are 8 billion people in the world, all of whom could be potential friends or romantic partners. If these hypothetical group of people do not like you, who are probably assholes in the first place, it wasn't meant to be; go find a crowd which genuinely appreciates you, there is PLENTY of them.
The one video of this guy that has stuck with me the most is when he talked about being polite. If i'm ever a douche bag, i'm embarrassed and i know it's always a sign of weakness. being polite and considerate
This is what podcasts are all about yall. Please forgoe others personal to your individual values and opinions,and the way you choose to see things. We come together to have open decorem and hear others out that we don't agree with and that's ok, it's got to be how were moving forward with each other. Great shit man..
Such good advice for guys. I have been so discouraged with the character of the guys that I have been in contact with. It is so important for guys to remember that good women do not want a guy who is interested in all the girls. We understand that you are a person too, how else do you meet someone unless you just start somewhere.
( 52:00 ) This is interesting. There was a study made how the subject could only choose one prize from a group of 3. The subjects had a hard time choosing 1 but after a week they were asked if they would like to change their prize and they were less likely to change because they had history w/ it. This also applies to wemdn to an extent.
Junior Ducatel Where are you from? I’m in Charlotte, NC and I feel similar to how you feel only in regards to men. I know they’re out here but 👀....lol.... 🤷🏾♀️
Todd V is so insightful! I love his videos. I’m not surprised to hear he’s in an open relationship. He’s a guy open to real discussions and setting his own boundaries. Great conversation!
I wish there were more women like you that try to understand first, instead of shaming. I'm not lying when I say that Todd and the other OG puas are saving lives. Both men and women of all sexualities look to them for guidence, myself included. But most women in the comment section just think of themselves.
21:00 That was such a sharp/harsh stereotype. One thing I would say is be careful, because when you think of someone in a certain light - before even getting to know them - even the way you speak to them changes! You might unintentionally end up approaching the black woman in a more aggressive way because you subconsciously think she's not warm. Well of course it'll backfire, and then you'll walk away thinking "exactly, I called it. She was not cool". Kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy you unknowingly engineered. A lot of black women actually struggle with this (that is, seeing men approach other women nicely and respectfully, but then approach them with significantly less respect and charisma). It's sad, and I see it a lot.
I just started going out. Slow progress for massive compounding returns. Glad I found this talk. Specially Todd, I kinda have a road map on how to keep going.
Please don't use this as a roadmap. Ok I am noticing by the comments that a lot of people who watched this are early 20ish. Baby let me tell you I'm 40 and even men want to have a "good" woman in their life when they get old. Don't play games. Work on yourself. Set the proper boundaries and limitations. Live the life you want to live and you will meet the person you want to be with. If you believe you are deserving of a healthy relationship with a good woman you will get that. Don't start this bs because believe me when I say it may be fun at 20 but it is sad at 40 50. And since that is what you have practiced for the last 20-30 years your mindset isn't just going to switch because you want to settle down. You will find "the one" and sabotage it subconsciously because you are so use to treating and thinking of women in such a way. Then you will blame her but it was really you. Yes you get hurt being the good guy but you also get hurt being the bad guy. The strategy he is talking about only works in real life if you have a lot of money or you are dating bottom buck insecure women. Then what type of person are you if you have to pay for female attention or prey on the weak?
@@pembertonbray4603 Please leave this poor guy alone. Most men already know about your advice. If it worked we wouldn't be here. You are only hurting men with that or worse, encouraging men not to learn how to attract women. Todd has been approaching ALL types of women from all over the world for 20 years straight. He outranks you in terms of real world advice.
@@rubenjr4908 No dear bullshit just attracts alot of flies. You have no idea how much dating I've done. If I've played Todd's little game or if I'm a nun. People gravitate to want validates their behavior even if it's shit. It's easier than attempting the problem is you.
It's so shameful; many people do this but don't know. As a black woman, sometimes I've been on dates with white guys (okay, this only happened once), and toward the end he was like, "I thought you'd have a lot of sass and 'attitude', but you're really nice - it's a pleasant surprise". And then it hit me! Before meeting me 1-1, he already had assumptions placed on me based on the profile of the stereotypical angry black woman. I was like damnnnn. I'm sure he didn't mean it in a bad way at all, but his statement exposed his preconceived notions regarding people like myself (which he had projected onto me before we had even met for a first date).
What are some good go-to's early in an interaction if you're having trouble thinking of something to say? Not necessarily canned lines, just general things that easily lead to more conversation. For example, I think a good one is "I thought you looked interesting and wanted to say hi, ..." and then follow it up with pretty much anything unique or interesting you can observe about her like her choice of clothing or hairstyle or hair color or her demeanor or the way she carries herself, etc. It's very easy to just kind of improvise something on the spot and I think lines like these that have very intuitive follow ups can be pretty helpful for someone who's maybe just starting out. It might not be the best approach or the coolest or whatever, but it's something you can sort if build off of instead of just having an awkward interaction where you don't know what to say.
I have an answer for the last question on this podcast. Texting is for setting dates. Shouldn't really text much outside of that. Also, communication is like a game of tennis. Back and forth. It's best to wait for her to respond before sending another text. Otherwise you'll come off as needy.
Great podcast. I also think that not only do guys get more attached to a girl because they have fewer options, but also guys are attracted to a girl's physical appearance so you don't really need much time to get to know her, whereas for a girl she's more attracted to other characteristics in a guy (eg. money, social status, personality, etc.) so the short interaction you have with a girl isn't gonna to showcase enough of that for her to be attracted to you.
Thanks for doing this interview with Todd V. Last recommendation helped me with texting occasionally because you just never know. It would be cool for you to interview Valentino Cohen. He is one of the best in dating and life advices.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast your show's "brand" has always been very positive and safe. Its works for you guys but I'm surprised you were open to having Todd on here as I imagine pickup is not seen kindly among your viewers.
It would be interesting to have James Marshall from "The Natural Lifestyles" on your podcast. He is in the same industry as your guest and he does many amazing things with his crew. Shout out to Todd! Keep up the good work.
Travis Shops you guys are stupid Todd is insanely logical and pragmatic he dosent put women on a pedestal he digs deep into their behavior and emotions and finds out why they behave like they do. In a Dating context. I’ve seen Todd and ams they preach the same things. I’ve seen a bunch of other teachers as well and they all kinda say the same things in different ways.
I would agree that a woman would be ten times more devastated at getting rejected by a man because of female self esteem. However, what most women fail to realize is that the ratio or chances of actually getting rejected by a man is significantly low compared to the other way around. Men are scared because we take all the risk and the chances are way higher of a rejection. Women are scared because each rejection is like death defying, but it doesn’t really matter if the odds are strongly in your favor. How many men can you think of that has a decent looking women approach him automatically thinks to himself “uhhh no thanks” it’s too rare.
4:00 "Why is there a misconception that all guys are so naturally good with women?" Me: *looking around to see who has this misconception* My friends and I definitely don't! I mean, try being a woman for a while - you'll see how weird AF the dating scene is! No one assumes that men are naturally good at dating (maybe they do, but not women). In fact, we want them to get dating advice and be better. Many men think they're fine without dating advice and that they're game is spot on, when it couldn't be farther from the truth. Anyways, in the long run, most people end up fine and partnered, so I guess it's all good.
I think its what beginners think, since they see other guys with girls ( even if they're bad, they still get girls ) so the beginner thinks that other guys are naturally good with women.
With all the dating apps and social media out there the dating scene is pretty much a game of musical chairs. You got a handful of tall attractive dudes getting competed over by ALL the females all hoping to sit down with him (settle). Meanwhile the other 90% of guys only get to watch the game from afar. My guess is you are complaining that these tall attractive dudes are not approaching you all while the other 90% of guys below 184 are approaching you all the time but because they lack in your standards they are "creepy". My attractive guy friends never approach because they don't have to. They get spammed on dating apps and have more matches than they know what to do with. No one cares if they are creepy. Its all just looks. Its only the 90% bottom of guys that have to learn game over decades just to have a possibility of landing a hot girl, and even then, these hot girls will just leave a normal guy at the drop of a hat if a tall hot guy comes along.
@@Exascale "90% bottom guys" - you're such a sheep, copy pasting shit you've heard, and making it sound like its a real problem. Wake up, we're not living in a gray internet quotes world
So maybe it is because I'm 40 and the roommates are 20ish but and this is to all of you men. Words chose says a lot about you. Using the word girl 100+x's, women just a handful of times, men/guys always and boys never. You will never find quality if you see women as girls. So much I could say just about that mindset but I don't have the time.
It's not that deep tbh. Guys don't use "girls" as a demeaning way towards women like women do with "boys". They pretty much use girls/women interchangeable bc we don't really look at words that deeply in typical conversation.
@@ablebodied175 You may not but if you read the comments on this alone a lot of men do and they are purposely using it, among other terms to demean women.
@@ablebodied175 they try so hard cuz they have don't *know* what'll work. Thinking if you restrict the words to control your mindset is more likely to just increase how seriously you take yourself... Which is not attractive.
Dear Hafeez (Roomate Podcast), I don't know if you guys have made any content on this (as I am new to your channel), but I have sort of a "unique" issue with women finding me to be a player or intimidating. I'm not a jerk or flashy in my appearance. I speak well, keep a fresh line-up and beard trim, and I don't make a ton of money, yet, it's hard for a lot of women to take me seriously. I think most of them may be very insecure about themselves and their SMW rank maybe getting to them or whatever. Please send me a link to something related to what I am going through. Thanks.
Best advice I received was “The worst thing she can say is no”. 14 years later it’s actually “ The worst thing she can say is Hell No”, but still the same concept lol
He’s just relating to his own experiences. Not just black women but most native New York girls are way colder than your stereotypical southern white girl.
21:00 Yeah Hafeez, stay away from stereotypes bro, especially against your own women. That part of the video was hella cringey. There's PLENTY of warm black girls from the south, and there's plenty of not so warm white girls from the south. I can't speak for the north since I'm not from there.
Todd is very considerate and makes a point to prioritize his family above everything. I’ve met his girlfriend and she’s very cool and open minded. They’ve been dating for years and can tell they’re happy together
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Haven't seen Chris in a few of these. Hope he's doing alright.
Keep up the good work y'all.
The Roommates Podcast how can I get in contact with you when it comes to bring Strategic Gentlemen on your podcast?
I originally came here for Todd but this dude's interview skills are amazing! You've earned yourself a subscriber my guy.
A Talking Afro Agreed.
That's interesting...what would you say are a couple of things that make his interviewing skills amazing for you?
Todd is a beast. He actually explains the psychology and social context behind what’s being said. Too many pick up artists give a plan A plan B plan C approach without actually knowing anything.
I'm convinced Todd only owns one shirt. The rest of his closet is womens bras and underwear
Ty for making me laugh I was having rough morning
If you look closely youll notice he has around 3 or 4 shirts :D
Gold
Great freaking comment!
Also big ups for him to get girls even without high fashion clothes
Lol
todd motivates me so much so laid back and down to earth
I like how eloquently he responded to your mundane question about differences between approaching different girls based on race. His response was so much more accurate to the differences....it’s not because she’s black or white it’s because of her experiences how she was raised etc....don’t stereotype because you don’t want to be put in a bubble then why do it to women?
Yes!
Todd is a true alpha male. Even "Marriage" on his own terms and rules. A true man of abundance
"Compare yourself only to your previous self" man thats deep
Seth Kun you need some jordan peterson in your life
@@adunnou2075 dont worry man i already know him 3 years ago
Haven't watched yet but already know its gonna be good
Your movie is hilarious. Did the virgin meet the girl later
Best movie of 2020
#VirginSquad
You knowing bout Todd kind of explains a lot lol
Budddddy 😄
Lmao, ya'll always to quick shit on Pickup and call it manipulation. You learn how to do every single thing in life. Meeting women should be one of them, instead of being creepy about it. At the end, everybody wins. Enough with the stigma. There is good and bad in every sphere in life. This was a very good episode Hafeez. We appreciate the good content.
#Truth
It is like make up. Men prefer women who cares about her body. I think women prefer men who take charge and dont act like their pussy.
People calling PUA manipulation need to explain what makeup is, what the mental games women play are etc.. gynocracy is strong in society today
@@eget4144 , facts.
@Tee Abdul, exactly.
ive been coached by Todd . hes the real deal
And did you fawk ?
Thank god his wisdom has been bestowed upon you. Now you know to avoid those models and 10’s! They’re all bad news!!
Did you get results?
Todd is a living legend at this point.
Todd is for sure the one of the greatest of all time in the dating game
fols adetola he is the no1 that Rsd talks about
Hes the goat.
Todd is the only one left that is the purest form of “dating”
Millennials Empowerment i agree, however I really liked RSD Max too, but that is dead now so now ToddV is the only one left
@@naitsirk32 yeah RIP Max, really liked his stuff.
Josua Stangl me too dude, very relatable and no nonsense attitude
James tusk, Aaron Alexander, Deepak Wayne & AMS are all pretty good
Anyone remember Julian from RSD? 😂
Todd has been putting me on game for years. He's the only "PUA" who doesn't come off as gimmicky or coked out of his mind. His style of game helped me out so much because he shows you can be a bit lower energy and still control social situations.
Yoooooo y’all got Todd??? I’m soo stoked for this!!!🔥🙏🏿😭
you enjoyed
The Roommates Podcast I did it was a great episode! You guys keep doing your thing! I’m very happy I found you two!
@@Justfitz1 !
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Todd is one of the few remain pickup guys that actually know what they're talking about
Everybody is talking about how much of a master Todd is - but can we take a moment to appreciate how good of an interviewer Hafeez is? Conversations like that are only possible if the partner has the ability to lead an interview in the manner he does! He is prepared for his guests, he has the ability to give engaging, open questions, he elaborates on his thoughts but then gives room for his interviewée to really elaborate themselves! In the end it makes it really compelling to listen to for the audience!
Love the authenticity and return of interest from this conversation. Great interviewer and Todd is remarkable.
Awesome conversation! I have never heard of Todd V and now I am going to check him out.
I've been following Todd V for years but I've never heard of Stephan Labossiere till this past month. Do you follow him as well?
@@razzdiamond6447 yes, I do. I have a couple of his books as well. We have a similar style of coaching, for sure.
@TripJay21 You might be surprised as I give advice that a lot of women hate! I'm always open to oppositional dating and relationship advice. I welcome the conversation for sure. I will NEVER cosign the "hook-up" culture though! It's mentally damaging to people, men and women. I heard him talk about his "open" relationship with his child's mother and I don't agree with that as it truly benefits HIM more than her! I wonder what would happen if she did decide to date other men (i.e: better men than him!)?
@@BetterLoveMovement I'll be sure to check out the both of you. I'm very open to hearing different ideas on dating and social interaction in general.
@@razzdiamond6447 thank you! Please check out my podcast and videos on UA-cam. This discussion is giving me some content for my next video for sure!
Todd is so great, his ideas actually work,great stuff, thank you
thank you
Attractiveness and looks is important but I find it interesting how it's always the #1 for these guys then complain about failing relationships. I'm not saying date Rosie O'Donnell but if you cant hold a conversation but she's a dime piece, we'll i guess you deserve what you get.
THANK YOU. I can’t believe how this guy is “getting away with” generalizing that models and 10s and hot girls are all “bad”. It’s rly ignorant and childish
E K trust me, Todd is the least generalizing person out there, dude is hyper nuanced in actuality. Can’t get a good grasp of him in one interview
I hear u. Maybe he doesn’t generalize in other areas but when it comes to the way he talks about models and hot girls it’s bogus. A talk he gives to a bunch of dudes in another vid- He harps on this story abt spending the night w 2 models and proceeds to harshly criticize everything about them. Painting them out to be total trash to make a point about models in general. And it’s rly unfortunate bc there’s going to be a bunch of dudes who eat this up and missing out on women w certain professions which aren’t always long term. FOR SAKE OF ARGUMENT and not ego (my name isn’t on my profile etc)- A few of my girlfriends that I model with and I are all getting quality educations, date good guys who aren’t male models and just authentic good people - who are sometimes physically “untraditionally attractive”, ones at harvard, one is a lawyer, Myself a therapist and so on.
So for people who say don’t watch it then/why do you care...
It manifests in our lives. We end up having frustrating interactions with dudes who in some way or another express this negative opinion about us and it becomes our responsibility to disprove it. It’s really doing a disservice to men who are minimizing their dating pool.
@@ErK61 so Todd did really hurt your ego uh? No one cares about models. Get over it.
Todd is the GOAT of the PUA community
This is my second time watching this interview. I enjoyed it even more this second time I watched it. You do an excellent job of pulling out great info from your guests. Would love to see you interview Coach Kyle. He used to be a student of Todd. And, he has his own unique style of game which is based upon some of Todd's concepts.
I've spotted a lot of similarities in Coach Kyle's teaching. No surprise he was Todd's student. Very cool :D
What Todd said 43:30 is so on point, I have and seen countless of other guys behave that same way - get very excited about some girl who showed the faintest of interest.
I also agree with guys getting overly invested because of a lack of options, one thing I've thought about when I find myself "lonely" or craving a relationship is this - "do I actually want a GF or do I just want convenient sex" - to be honest, I can't tell anymore.
Bro, this was an excellent interview. You posed some quality questions to Todd who is a very cerebral guy. Great work!
This is such alignment I was watching Todd V a year and a half ago before I got into self improvement
You look worn man!
"Thank you I appreciate that"
Shit test, passed
Hahahah
todd is a LEGEND! most sophisticated dating coach out there
Ladies and roommates,we have just hit a next level shit up in here. This guy has been the one who sticks in the trenches,making the calls to people and getting the nos,other homie has his own stuff going. But brother no matter what any of these people criticizing in commentsyself included,but while your actually doing. Proud of ya fam,keep learning,keep working, and keep putting that foot forward cause it inspires me too.
"across the board in life, but especially in game, is if you truly accept who you are and are okay with it, it's very very hard to lose a social interaction like to lose I mean like to be low value in a social interaction if you really are okay with who you are." (59:40 - 1:00:05)
- Todd Valentine
To anyone watching this, the quote above is perhaps the strongest piece of advice Todd has ever given. If you apply it correctly, you can become socially indestructible within my opinion. More often than not people are told, "Be yourself!" This advice is honestly helpful, but without a properly detailed explanation of its meaning, people can lose themselves in applying it. From my experience, I have found being yourself is to align yourself with your beliefs and passions. When learning game, I would copy Todd's lines like, "You look like trouble." There is nothing inherently wrong with this line, but if it is used un-authentically when you do not actually think the girl looks like trouble, here I believe it becomes unauthentic. You would not be spontaneous and neither would you be passionate saying it. If you look at the girl and preferably think she looks sweet, cute, mischievous, --- say that instead. In game, there are strong risks of embarrassing yourself, and maybe even making yourself feel guilty through others disliking you. If you however, don't think or feel what you did was wrong, never lower yourself because of it: There are 8 billion people in the world, all of whom could be potential friends or romantic partners. If these hypothetical group of people do not like you, who are probably assholes in the first place, it wasn't meant to be; go find a crowd which genuinely appreciates you, there is PLENTY of them.
OMG I cant believe someone agreed with me on this I always say that. Romance is Masculine/ man thing way more than it is a feminem thing
I can’t believe they actually got him on the podcast 😂😂. It’s like watching 2 shows at the same time
The one video of this guy that has stuck with me the most is when he talked about being polite. If i'm ever a douche bag, i'm embarrassed and i know it's always a sign of weakness. being polite and considerate
This is what podcasts are all about yall. Please forgoe others personal to your individual values and opinions,and the way you choose to see things. We come together to have open decorem and hear others out that we don't agree with and that's ok, it's got to be how were moving forward with each other. Great shit man..
Nice podcast, to the point and encompasses most of todd’s beliefs and ideas.
You asking some dam good questions my brotha
Big Todd fan but had never heard of the podcast host. Pleasant surprise, seems super chill
Such good advice for guys. I have been so discouraged with the character of the guys that I have been in contact with. It is so important for guys to remember that good women do not want a guy who is interested in all the girls. We understand that you are a person too, how else do you meet someone unless you just start somewhere.
( 52:00 ) This is interesting. There was a study made how the subject could only choose one prize from a group of 3. The subjects had a hard time choosing 1 but after a week they were asked if they would like to change their prize and they were less likely to change because they had history w/ it. This also applies to wemdn to an extent.
This was insightful- Todd’s a good speaker
Just found this podcast because of Todd. That was a great episode
This was me just 24 hours ago! Great podcast indeed!
Coming across eligable & attractive women with character on the regular would be so so so nice.
Junior Ducatel Where are you from? I’m in Charlotte, NC and I feel similar to how you feel only in regards to men. I know they’re out here but 👀....lol.... 🤷🏾♀️
Same goes for men 👍🏼
Todd V is so insightful! I love his videos. I’m not surprised to hear he’s in an open relationship. He’s a guy open to real discussions and setting his own boundaries. Great conversation!
I wish there were more women like you that try to understand first, instead of shaming. I'm not lying when I say that Todd and the other OG puas are saving lives. Both men and women of all sexualities look to them for guidence, myself included. But most women in the comment section just think of themselves.
Y’all Got Todd? Hell Yeaahh ! Way to step it up 🔥
This isn't the crossover we ask for... but it's the one we needed
Todd V gives the best dating advise.
I feel like both of these guys prepared well for this interview
Bruh im gonna start watching this podcast regularly. My dudes got Todd v.
Lol
21:00 That was such a sharp/harsh stereotype. One thing I would say is be careful, because when you think of someone in a certain light - before even getting to know them - even the way you speak to them changes! You might unintentionally end up approaching the black woman in a more aggressive way because you subconsciously think she's not warm. Well of course it'll backfire, and then you'll walk away thinking "exactly, I called it. She was not cool". Kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy you unknowingly engineered. A lot of black women actually struggle with this (that is, seeing men approach other women nicely and respectfully, but then approach them with significantly less respect and charisma). It's sad, and I see it a lot.
MyAkachi Very true! That was a disturbing part of the video...
Yea idk what he was talking about lol
Agreed. I was completely turned off by the entire series just by that one racist statement.
So glad you caught this. What an idiot statement from the host.
I just started going out. Slow progress for massive compounding returns. Glad I found this talk. Specially Todd, I kinda have a road map on how to keep going.
Please don't use this as a roadmap. Ok I am noticing by the comments that a lot of people who watched this are early 20ish. Baby let me tell you I'm 40 and even men want to have a "good" woman in their life when they get old. Don't play games. Work on yourself. Set the proper boundaries and limitations. Live the life you want to live and you will meet the person you want to be with. If you believe you are deserving of a healthy relationship with a good woman you will get that. Don't start this bs because believe me when I say it may be fun at 20 but it is sad at 40 50. And since that is what you have practiced for the last 20-30 years your mindset isn't just going to switch because you want to settle down. You will find "the one" and sabotage it subconsciously because you are so use to treating and thinking of women in such a way. Then you will blame her but it was really you. Yes you get hurt being the good guy but you also get hurt being the bad guy. The strategy he is talking about only works in real life if you have a lot of money or you are dating bottom buck insecure women. Then what type of person are you if you have to pay for female attention or prey on the weak?
Tyree Bray I’d rather take dating advice from someone that has experience vs someone who has just lived a lot of years
@@pembertonbray4603 Please leave this poor guy alone. Most men already know about your advice. If it worked we wouldn't be here. You are only hurting men with that or worse, encouraging men not to learn how to attract women. Todd has been approaching ALL types of women from all over the world for 20 years straight. He outranks you in terms of real world advice.
@@rubenjr4908 No dear bullshit just attracts alot of flies. You have no idea how much dating I've done. If I've played Todd's little game or if I'm a nun. People gravitate to want validates their behavior even if it's shit. It's easier than attempting the problem is you.
@@folatooreal8582 Who says I don't have many years of dating experience. I've probably been dating longer than you've been alive.
Todd can see 2 seconds into the future
Jordan Peterson was the psychologist you were trying to think of that said we have more female ancestors.
And possibly Bret Weinstein
He's not even close to be the first person to talk about that.
Thats is one hour free info for anyone. Thank you.
Shame that Todd had to be the one to tell you not to stereotype regarding the black girl from NYC Hafeez smh
It's so shameful; many people do this but don't know. As a black woman, sometimes I've been on dates with white guys (okay, this only happened once), and toward the end he was like, "I thought you'd have a lot of sass and 'attitude', but you're really nice - it's a pleasant surprise". And then it hit me! Before meeting me 1-1, he already had assumptions placed on me based on the profile of the stereotypical angry black woman. I was like damnnnn. I'm sure he didn't mean it in a bad way at all, but his statement exposed his preconceived notions regarding people like myself (which he had projected onto me before we had even met for a first date).
True!
@@MyAkachi i just have to ask what brings a girl to a redpill chanel featuring a pua ? i just never understood that
@@zainvirk97 UA-cam recommendations man. Leading me to interesting places 😂 hahah.
Todd:
Hafeez: hahaha yeah yeah hahaha yeah
36:03
Great Interview!
Todd is the GOAT.
What are some good go-to's early in an interaction if you're having trouble thinking of something to say? Not necessarily canned lines, just general things that easily lead to more conversation.
For example, I think a good one is "I thought you looked interesting and wanted to say hi, ..." and then follow it up with pretty much anything unique or interesting you can observe about her like her choice of clothing or hairstyle or hair color or her demeanor or the way she carries herself, etc. It's very easy to just kind of improvise something on the spot and I think lines like these that have very intuitive follow ups can be pretty helpful for someone who's maybe just starting out. It might not be the best approach or the coolest or whatever, but it's something you can sort if build off of instead of just having an awkward interaction where you don't know what to say.
I have an answer for the last question on this podcast. Texting is for setting dates. Shouldn't really text much outside of that. Also, communication is like a game of tennis. Back and forth. It's best to wait for her to respond before sending another text. Otherwise you'll come off as needy.
I see someone had watched the videos of coach corey :D
@@alexforce9 , true. 😃
Great podcast. I also think that not only do guys get more attached to a girl because they have fewer options, but also guys are attracted to a girl's physical appearance so you don't really need much time to get to know her, whereas for a girl she's more attracted to other characteristics in a guy (eg. money, social status, personality, etc.) so the short interaction you have with a girl isn't gonna to showcase enough of that for her to be attracted to you.
Really a great interview
He's good with his words. I agree with much of what he said
This was a beautiful podcast episode
thank you
great interview, thanks!
Good conversation. May have to listen to this again.
Todd V has deep understanding of game. Surprised to hear he has a kid now.
He probably had one because he wants to be a father. He seems pretty mature. He probably planned it
Todd always dropping gems!
16:57 this part is so good.
Thanks for doing this interview with Todd V. Last recommendation helped me with texting occasionally because you just never know. It would be cool for you to interview Valentino Cohen. He is one of the best in dating and life advices.
Holy shit y'all got Todd on here, here I was thinking this show was too milk toast
Okutox milk toast ?
Jeremy Thomas joke for milquetoast
milk toast??????
@@TheRoommatesPodcast your show's "brand" has always been very positive and safe. Its works for you guys but I'm surprised you were open to having Todd on here as I imagine pickup is not seen kindly among your viewers.
@@spiritpill641 very safe for work/middle of the road. Todd isn't the sort of guest I'd expect on a show like this.
Todd is the real deal
I really like this man, impressed
This could honestly apply to girls as well, for girls that want to learn how to approach guys . Interesting
I know for a fact gay men learn from Todd to pickup men as well. Just use these powers for good.
Nah
Todd is the best
You got Todd .....
Yeah boy!!!
Eh Todd. Where is Owen and Julian and the gang. We were obsessed with RSD back in the day... really helped if you take it all in.
the one and only todd
It would be interesting to have James Marshall from "The Natural Lifestyles" on your podcast. He is in the same industry as your guest and he does many amazing things with his crew. Shout out to Todd! Keep up the good work.
Get Aplha male strategies on here!!!!
Julius Byes I can’t think/see AMS being interviewed by the host. He sounds/acts feminine and goofy. Just don’t feel they ready for that red pill shit
Todd still talks about women from a pedestalized perspective .. Alpha Male Strategies will come on here & go into detail about these broke hoes
AMS isn’t well spoken...Rom Wills would be a better guest
As soon as he says dick these bitches to sleep... The women here will start having heart attacks lol
Travis Shops you guys are stupid Todd is insanely logical and pragmatic he dosent put women on a pedestal he digs deep into their behavior and emotions and finds out why they behave like they do. In a Dating context. I’ve seen Todd and ams they preach the same things. I’ve seen a bunch of other teachers as well and they all kinda say the same things in different ways.
I would agree that a woman would be ten times more devastated at getting rejected by a man because of female self esteem. However, what most women fail to realize is that the ratio or chances of actually getting rejected by a man is significantly low compared to the other way around. Men are scared because we take all the risk and the chances are way higher of a rejection. Women are scared because each rejection is like death defying, but it doesn’t really matter if the odds are strongly in your favor. How many men can you think of that has a decent looking women approach him automatically thinks to himself “uhhh no thanks” it’s too rare.
bruh Todd's marriage seems like paradise. Almost too good to be true lol
4:00 "Why is there a misconception that all guys are so naturally good with women?"
Me: *looking around to see who has this misconception* My friends and I definitely don't! I mean, try being a woman for a while - you'll see how weird AF the dating scene is! No one assumes that men are naturally good at dating (maybe they do, but not women). In fact, we want them to get dating advice and be better. Many men think they're fine without dating advice and that they're game is spot on, when it couldn't be farther from the truth. Anyways, in the long run, most people end up fine and partnered, so I guess it's all good.
I think its what beginners think, since they see other guys with girls ( even if they're bad, they still get girls ) so the beginner thinks that other guys are naturally good with women.
@@RSVDCN this makes sense too!
With all the dating apps and social media out there the dating scene is pretty much a game of musical chairs. You got a handful of tall attractive dudes getting competed over by ALL the females all hoping to sit down with him (settle). Meanwhile the other 90% of guys only get to watch the game from afar. My guess is you are complaining that these tall attractive dudes are not approaching you all while the other 90% of guys below 184 are approaching you all the time but because they lack in your standards they are "creepy". My attractive guy friends never approach because they don't have to. They get spammed on dating apps and have more matches than they know what to do with. No one cares if they are creepy. Its all just looks. Its only the 90% bottom of guys that have to learn game over decades just to have a possibility of landing a hot girl, and even then, these hot girls will just leave a normal guy at the drop of a hat if a tall hot guy comes along.
@@Exascale "90% bottom guys" - you're such a sheep, copy pasting shit you've heard, and making it sound like its a real problem.
Wake up, we're not living in a gray internet quotes world
Truf
Great video !!! Just could u up the volume a bit please thank you.
Yooooo this is gold !!
Is he the only host from here on out? I hope the co host is doing okay...😕🙁
he's coming back dont worry
So maybe it is because I'm 40 and the roommates are 20ish but and this is to all of you men. Words chose says a lot about you. Using the word girl 100+x's, women just a handful of times, men/guys always and boys never. You will never find quality if you see women as girls. So much I could say just about that mindset but I don't have the time.
It's not that deep tbh. Guys don't use "girls" as a demeaning way towards women like women do with "boys". They pretty much use girls/women interchangeable bc we don't really look at words that deeply in typical conversation.
@@ablebodied175 You may not but if you read the comments on this alone a lot of men do and they are purposely using it, among other terms to demean women.
thank you for sharing. Will keep in mind
@@ablebodied175 they try so hard cuz they have don't *know* what'll work. Thinking if you restrict the words to control your mindset is more likely to just increase how seriously you take yourself... Which is not attractive.
Girls is 1 syllable
Women is 2 syllables
Where is Chris?????
Don't worry, he's coming
@@TheRoommatesPodcast dont play wid me Roommates... my Jamaican self will dun you! 🇯🇲🇯🇲 Anyways, blessings
For all the people who disagree with him about his marriage views, can you explain what you disagree with so we can have a discussion?
Dear Hafeez (Roomate Podcast), I don't know if you guys have made any content on this (as I am new to your channel), but I have sort of a "unique" issue with women finding me to be a player or intimidating. I'm not a jerk or flashy in my appearance. I speak well, keep a fresh line-up and beard trim, and I don't make a ton of money, yet, it's hard for a lot of women to take me seriously. I think most of them may be very insecure about themselves and their SMW rank maybe getting to them or whatever. Please send me a link to something related to what I am going through. Thanks.
Best advice I received was “The worst thing she can say is no”. 14 years later it’s actually “ The worst thing she can say is Hell No”, but still the same concept lol
Why is "no" the worst thing?
Simo Maserati counter question, what something worse that she could say?
@@0knucklehead0 idk you sound like you the professional😂 I was just curious
Simo Maserati 😂. Well if I think of something worse, I will let you know
get the fuck away from me you ugly monster
FINALLY!
someone is addressing the proverbial elephant in the room.
#doublestandards
#egoandpride
#lackofaccountability
HAFEEZ...Black girl vs. White girl ...smh NOT cool man 👎👎👎 (I'm glad Todd tried to clear that up.)
Kyle D Follow your own advice you weirdo. It’s always weird when people reply to all the comments that trigger them.
He’s just relating to his own experiences. Not just black women but most native New York girls are way colder than your stereotypical southern white girl.
Great job by both of you
the Goat time
The music is too loud during your introduction bro.
How have i never seen this...Todd v is liiiit
21:00 Yeah Hafeez, stay away from stereotypes bro, especially against your own women. That part of the video was hella cringey. There's PLENTY of warm black girls from the south, and there's plenty of not so warm white girls from the south. I can't speak for the north since I'm not from there.
You need to get Corey Wayne on this podcast to help assist w/ your dating questions
Hopefully, he doesn't bring on Donovan Sharpe or Rollo Tomassi. Not Donovan Sharpe (Mr. Red Pillar, himself), please!!!
Jorge Garcia-Figueroa rollomtomassi would still be better than Corey Wayne at the end of the day
Not really into the ‘I’ve a kid and a girlfriend but because of my career I date other girls’ but if it works good for him.
Pitchy Peach
I agree, I hope he actually really loves her and fully provides for her and treats her better than the other women he’s dating.
@@brandyrazo9608 .....and wears protection.
Dumfries Spearhead
That too :/
Todd is very considerate and makes a point to prioritize his family above everything. I’ve met his girlfriend and she’s very cool and open minded. They’ve been dating for years and can tell they’re happy together
Todd is sharp as a razor 🪒