Yeah I will say he kinda sucks. I wasn't prepared for my daughters (and even now when one of them started her period...) but I love them to death. Let me tell you it was hard explaining to my eldest daughter what was going on with her body since she wanted me to explain for her (daddy's girl), while my wife was just laughing her ass off
@lillia2479 my eldest is a tomboy and she helps me (read tries to) when I work on our cars or fix something around the house. While our youngest girl is a girly girl. She always loved to do tea parties and the rest of us always played along. Even whenever she declared me a "princess" and my wife as the evil dragon who captured me. My voice box nearly gave out when I had to try to mimic a princesses voice. Once again my wife was laughing her ass off.
@@wickedashley when I had my previous gf move in we split expenses like electricitt, food and internet. I would never expect someone Im not married to to be paying off my mortgage as that is an investment that benefits only me. It would be selfish and entitled to expect her to pay down my investment when there is no guarantee that we will remain together.
Story 1: That first commenter needs to go touch grass. Nobody violated the custody agreement. The daughter is a minor and not bound to obey a court order. If anything the father is in deep shit because he was the custodial guardian and lost his own child.
It would NOT be a problem for mom. OP left WITHOUT the mother’s knowledge. This would go back on the father. OP was in his care and essentially ran away from the dad. Mom had NOTHING to do with it.
S1: OP just ran away from her accommodating family because she didn't feel as loved as everyone else who was there all the time. I get the desire but it is a betrayal nonetheless. S2: biological programming will probably override his initial feelings and fall in love with his baby girl. Otherwise the guys a total loser of a human being S3: OP complaining that if he's a woman he wouldn't be expected to pay rent. That's probably true but so what? Life's unfair and guys have to accept that early S4: sometimes you just need to get away from your family for a few years to reset expectations. OP is on the right track S5: this is why you don't get divorced easily. It's difficult to build a new family onto a fractured one
All the comment on story 2 were probably all women any man would tell you that OP's BIL was processing his disappointment about not having a boy. Given time he would have processed his dissapointmet and moved on but OP's confintation caused him to not be able to deal with his dissapointmet in a healthy way causing him to lash out.
If you're not gonna be happy with either a son or a daughter then don't have a gender reveal party. The videos of men behaving disgustingly at these parties is ridiculous, how immature, feel sorry for these women having babies with such morons.
Any real man and father will tell you the fact that he even had any disappointment to begin with is the problem. Then lashed out like a child when confronted over his bad behavior. And THEN as an even bigger boy, he is blaming others as an excuse to not being a father to his child.
Yeah I was thinking the same. Probably already had his ideal son in his head, planning their future together and then he died when hearing it would be a girl. More likely than not he would have gotten over it but OP kept poking the bear while he was still grieving so he lashed out in anger
Lol what a perfect example of men proving how inherently crappy men are. Its only a few that arent, and those men get snatched up fast, which is why the rest of us are out of luck and stuck with shitty guys until we finally divorce. I hope that woman figured out she's better without her "husband" soon
A child's biological sex (male or female) is determined by the chromosome that the male parent contributes. Males have XY sex chromosomes while females have XX sex chromosomes; the male can contribute the X or Y chromosome, while the female must contribute one of their X chromosomes.
Why do you even have these parties if you act that way. Do they want to show the video to the kid one day so they mentality abuse by showing how unloved and unwanted they are?
Story 1, does OP ever have a conversation with dad about this? As an older teenager(graduating soon), there are times where you’re forced out of your comfort zone by your parents, and instead of accepting the situation and making the best of it, you plant your feet and refuse to try. My dad signed me up for hockey tryouts senior year when I hadn’t wanted to do it, and you know what? I loved it, it was an experience that I’m glad I did looking back. And I even wish I did it earlier. OP sounds like she was put on the team, then gave zero effort to improve as a player and teammate, and when that happens, coaches, in this case dads family, will stop putting effort into helping you because there’s no drive.
No. You are projecting. You cannot become one of the family when you are not able to be around and they don't put forth that effort to actually include you. The step-kids all have their own tight click. They don't include them unless they have to. It requires actually stepping out and talking to the individual not just "Ok you come over and talk if you want." The family that isn't getting the kid for the day to day stuff seriously has to MAKE THE EFFORT. It is 100% on THEM. THEY have to be super comforting, super open, happy to pull you in. I had a cousin in the exact same situation and so many people told her the same thing you just did here. Uh no. The dad's family for her, was the same as in this story. Not bad or nasty...but they treated her like kids do the introverts in grade school, no one put forth any effort to get to know them. They were completely adrift and no one really cared. Yeah they weren't made super uncomfortable, but they also weren't welcoming or accommodating. You feel like you don't belong, and everything that comforts you is elsewhere.
A man unprepared to father a daughter is not a man worth staying with.
Yeah I will say he kinda sucks. I wasn't prepared for my daughters (and even now when one of them started her period...) but I love them to death. Let me tell you it was hard explaining to my eldest daughter what was going on with her body since she wanted me to explain for her (daddy's girl), while my wife was just laughing her ass off
@@Arricov Aww. That's such a sweet story. ❤
@lillia2479 my eldest is a tomboy and she helps me (read tries to) when I work on our cars or fix something around the house. While our youngest girl is a girly girl. She always loved to do tea parties and the rest of us always played along. Even whenever she declared me a "princess" and my wife as the evil dragon who captured me. My voice box nearly gave out when I had to try to mimic a princesses voice. Once again my wife was laughing her ass off.
@@Arricov 😆❤️
That's insane. A partner helps pay the bills. The mortgage is part of the bills.
My thought exactly. “A big thing we need to work through”. I would dump him. That’s insane.
@@wickedashley when I had my previous gf move in we split expenses like electricitt, food and internet. I would never expect someone Im not married to to be paying off my mortgage as that is an investment that benefits only me. It would be selfish and entitled to expect her to pay down my investment when there is no guarantee that we will remain together.
The Mortgage story- OP is a gold digger. The new girlfriend story- keep the homewrecker away from your family.
Story 1: That first commenter needs to go touch grass. Nobody violated the custody agreement. The daughter is a minor and not bound to obey a court order. If anything the father is in deep shit because he was the custodial guardian and lost his own child.
Hold on why did they not ask her what she wanted? Also just wanted to say the last comment on story 1 was really sweet.
Story 3: OP's girlfriend did find a roommate to help pay the mortgage, OP. How does he think he gets to live rent free?
Story 3 is a crying kid. Pay and dont cry😂😂😂
It would NOT be a problem for mom. OP left WITHOUT the mother’s knowledge. This would go back on the father. OP was in his care and essentially ran away from the dad. Mom had NOTHING to do with it.
S1: OP just ran away from her accommodating family because she didn't feel as loved as everyone else who was there all the time. I get the desire but it is a betrayal nonetheless.
S2: biological programming will probably override his initial feelings and fall in love with his baby girl. Otherwise the guys a total loser of a human being
S3: OP complaining that if he's a woman he wouldn't be expected to pay rent. That's probably true but so what? Life's unfair and guys have to accept that early
S4: sometimes you just need to get away from your family for a few years to reset expectations. OP is on the right track
S5: this is why you don't get divorced easily. It's difficult to build a new family onto a fractured one
All the comment on story 2 were probably all women any man would tell you that OP's BIL was processing his disappointment about not having a boy. Given time he would have processed his dissapointmet and moved on but OP's confintation caused him to not be able to deal with his dissapointmet in a healthy way causing him to lash out.
If you're not gonna be happy with either a son or a daughter then don't have a gender reveal party. The videos of men behaving disgustingly at these parties is ridiculous, how immature, feel sorry for these women having babies with such morons.
Any real man and father will tell you the fact that he even had any disappointment to begin with is the problem. Then lashed out like a child when confronted over his bad behavior. And THEN as an even bigger boy, he is blaming others as an excuse to not being a father to his child.
Yeah I was thinking the same. Probably already had his ideal son in his head, planning their future together and then he died when hearing it would be a girl. More likely than not he would have gotten over it but OP kept poking the bear while he was still grieving so he lashed out in anger
Lol what a perfect example of men proving how inherently crappy men are. Its only a few that arent, and those men get snatched up fast, which is why the rest of us are out of luck and stuck with shitty guys until we finally divorce. I hope that woman figured out she's better without her "husband" soon
No updates is a useless pathetic story to read.
Its only useless if you only listen to the stories on YT. The conversations are happening on Reddit where the OP sometimes replies to comments there.
A child's biological sex (male or female) is determined by the chromosome that the male parent contributes. Males have XY sex chromosomes while females have XX sex chromosomes; the male can contribute the X or Y chromosome, while the female must contribute one of their X chromosomes.
Why do you change the stories to make them all positive little learning experiences
Why do you even have these parties if you act that way. Do they want to show the video to the kid one day so they mentality abuse by showing how unloved and unwanted they are?
Story 1, does OP ever have a conversation with dad about this? As an older teenager(graduating soon), there are times where you’re forced out of your comfort zone by your parents, and instead of accepting the situation and making the best of it, you plant your feet and refuse to try.
My dad signed me up for hockey tryouts senior year when I hadn’t wanted to do it, and you know what? I loved it, it was an experience that I’m glad I did looking back. And I even wish I did it earlier.
OP sounds like she was put on the team, then gave zero effort to improve as a player and teammate, and when that happens, coaches, in this case dads family, will stop putting effort into helping you because there’s no drive.
No. You are projecting.
You cannot become one of the family when you are not able to be around and they don't put forth that effort to actually include you. The step-kids all have their own tight click. They don't include them unless they have to. It requires actually stepping out and talking to the individual not just "Ok you come over and talk if you want." The family that isn't getting the kid for the day to day stuff seriously has to MAKE THE EFFORT. It is 100% on THEM. THEY have to be super comforting, super open, happy to pull you in.
I had a cousin in the exact same situation and so many people told her the same thing you just did here. Uh no. The dad's family for her, was the same as in this story. Not bad or nasty...but they treated her like kids do the introverts in grade school, no one put forth any effort to get to know them. They were completely adrift and no one really cared. Yeah they weren't made super uncomfortable, but they also weren't welcoming or accommodating. You feel like you don't belong, and everything that comforts you is elsewhere.