Here's My Advice for Anyone Who's Feeling STUCK | Mel Robbins
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- Опубліковано 19 сер 2021
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While recording the audio version of my new book - The High 5 Habit - something crazy happened. I was reading one of my favorite chapters in the book - Chapter 10 - when Rachel (@rachh.ro on Instagram) walked into the studio. She had just quit her job and this chapter was EXACTLY what she needed to hear.
Chapter 10 is the true story of a 25 year old Uber driver in Dallas, with a dream of being an Oscar winning actor who creates opportunities for other Black and Latino men who want to be actors. I was his passenger and when he learned that I was about to launch a daytime talk show, he asked me for advice on achieving his dream. Naturally, I asked him a question - “if you dream of being an actor, what on earth are you doing in Dallas?”
And then...the real coaching (er...ass-kicking begins!)
Eduardo had $700 in his bank account, a friend with a couch he could crash on in LA and nothing keeping him in Dallas. He wasn’t only driving in circles in Dallas - he was talking in them! He had nothing but excuses and fear, which I was having none of it.
Chapter 10 is where I teach you how to flip your fear into a high five attitude. I show you how to get out of your way and start moving toward what you want. And how, using a notebook, a three week timeline and some simple science - you can stop thinking and get moving on your goals too.
Yes, the universe will send you signs. But YOU need to follow them. When you finally take that leap - THAT’S when the crazy magical stuff happens.
Want to read, or listen to Chapter 10? Good. You should. It’s exactly what you need to hear too. If, like Eduardo and Rachel, you’ve got big goals and you are frustrated with your lack of movement - it’s time to look yourself in the mirror, get honest about what you WANT, and make it happen. #High5Habit
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Your self worth is getting up, showing up and doing the things that scare you but you love to do.
Some solid words, love this Mel...
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@@melrobbins I can't wait to read your new book🙂. I know the book will be a huge success.❤️
High🖐️ Mel.
Love Ahmer.
I love when you said, "Your album may not get a million downloads, you may not change anyone's life, but the point of doing it anyway is that there is something inside you that currently dies if you don't. It's not about the album, it's about giving yourself the permission, the self worth/selflove, and having that part of you come alive and be expressed."
Yes. Finally someone says it.... The goal is not unachieved if you don't be number 1
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Gold!! Pure gold❤️❤️❤️
Yes that was gold! Do it anyways, it is something I will take to my students when they start to fear speaking up in conflict!
Yes! That got me ❤️
For me the issues are the fear of not being able to put food on the table for the kids. Right now my life belongs to my job and my family with very little time for myself. I'm stuck in a cycle and it's burning me out. Thanks for these videos letting me know that there's still hope.
I'm in the same boat as you. I'm starting with a side gig and seeing where it goes. One day I want to be self employed. Keep going and look at the big picture
What is keeping you stuck?
There's also a lot to be said for putting food on the table and providing for your family. That's a good thing. It takes a lot to do that so give yourself some credit and appreciate what you have and what you have done.
My biggest dream is now to recover from post-covid. I'm constantly tired and doing my everyday job is a big burden.
I agree with this thinking and that’s what has led to me releasing two books and creating my own UA-cam channel. I put myself out there and whatever happens from here is up to forces bigger than me, but I have the satisfaction of doing it.
I am so proud of you, those are all huge accomplishments
@@melrobbins thank you.
Mel Robbins I have an excellent job working for a wonderful boss and board at a small school district that I graduated from. I get 7 weeks off every year (unpaid) but good pay. But... I've been drawn to something else. I'm getting bored with this job. No fulfillment. I want to help a certain group of people with health and wellness and life transition into adulthood. Am I crazy to want to leave this ideal job that I'm in?
i'm crying watching this, i feel like Mel Robbins is speaking straight to my heart, empowering my almost discouraged soul...
I quit my business last year , I hated my life. I spent 12 months doing a post graduate course on compassion and mindfulness at the age of 55. I am starting a blog October helping people understand life through my past mistakes and what I have learnt. Also starting a UA-cam making films about wonderful people living their own lives; my first film is two weeks. Haven't learnt a single penny but buzzing albeit very scared.
Yeah, when I do the things I want to do, I have a similar feeling of being selfish. I feel like I have to take care of everyone else in my family, even to the point of having absolutely no free time, otherwise, I'm a bad person.
I guess I just need to remind myself that I am just as important as everyone else and I also deserve happiness and to be taken care of :)
Getting stuck thinking about that thing you want to do and not moving forward to get there because of fear and lack of confidence, can be a game killer. 🙏🏽
THIS story about Eduardo was amazing!! The ability for people to put into motion and follow their dreams -the reality of retracting and pulling back when fear comes in - it can be so overwhelming when we have not seen someone else do it before us - envision your future, find people who are already doing it - if you feel the excitement and vibrations of joy - you are on t. e right path!
Yes SO true!!
I loved this video, it resonated with me so much, as always. I found over the past couple of years listening to Mel's encouragement, I managed to start being creative and having my voice heard. I have wanted to start video's for 8 years, finally I found the courage and inspiration to start on my journey of discovery. I say this to myself every day now -
By daring to start creating, you have already succeeded. be proud of all the numbers - even the tiny ones - we all have to start somewhere, don't wait to be at thousands to be proud, be proud every time someone clicks/likes/watches/subscribes...
Mel has been, and continues to be a massive inspiration, guide & super supportive of us all.
You are right. 2 weeks ago I spontaneously quit my job, because it was unbearable. 1 week later I knew that I was going to move into a total different career direction. A direction that I always wanted to go, but gave up a long time ago. Now everything is falling into place and I am going to do what I always wanted to do and everything started with a really heartbreaking day at the office, where I thought everything was against me... actually everything was for me, I just didn't know it yet.
Hey how is it going for u now after quitting previous job?
It's lovely of you that you took your time to coach this young girl. You surely made her day!
I had something last year (an interview with a well-known man) that spoke so loudly to me. Now, I am an author and building my public profile slowly but surely. You, Mel, are also one of the top people I have put in my "circle" to kick me up the butt when I need it, and you do so thank you for every piece of advice you put out into the world for me and others to hear. I love you Mel 💖💖💖💖
Wow. Perfect timing to hear this. Thanks Mel. And thanks for being real and showing you're just like the rest of us💕
This is an important message for all who have self doubt. Thank you!
Thank you Mel for this! As I was on the fence on how to give my notice as it really needed to be done, after watching your video, I listened to jazz music and just sent in my notice!!!
Thank u I was feeling the same resistance , n was feeling dead, by not doing what I really want to do, because of the apprehension that I will succeed or not, wasn't living in my present moment, because of the fear of failure !!!
U told exactly what I have doing !!
Thank u 🥰🥰
I love this!! I needed this thank you so much for sharing!! 😍🎯🤩
Mel, launch a podcast, please.
I can't believe she doesn't have one already!
I believe she did launch something similar with Sony, but it got cancelled due to low rating.
@@TiPiPiRiT it wasn't a podcast, it was a TV show, but it was aired at 6 am in sime parts in the country or 9 am. I used to record it. It was a great show. I went to two of the recording right before the pandemic hit.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today!!! Thank you!!!!
Just when I was going to give up on a song I'm working on. Thank you Mel!
Thank you for this! My passion is cooking and adventure so A few years back I opened up a food truck (Orale taco grille)and have only been running it part time because I’m scared to dive in 100% But I found myself not having anytime for anything Because I also work a full-time job which I have always despised but I’ve never had the guts to leave due to my fear of not making it in my business but after hearing this I’m going to quit my job and dive 100% into my business thank you!
That's awesome, best of luck!!!
Thank you here’s the link to my farewell video ua-cam.com/video/4-I3dE1EtBw/v-deo.html
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Everything about this!! I needed to hear ✨ thank you!
This is great since I'm stuck currently wanting to go in a direction I've been wanting to for years but am afraid of failing. "You have to let go about what's going to happen." Such great advice about self worth, being your authentic self and doing the things your scared to do but love. It reminds me of a quote from Barbara Sher: "Feel the fear and do it anyway."
Can't wait till Mel launches her podcast.
What did you decide to do? Did you make a big decision?
That’s magical! Just a few days ago I felt stuck on the self-help topic on UA-cam (I should use my time better creating content) and then I started to watch music, dance and meditation videos and bam: the only advice video in my recommendations today was yours. I’m assuming that’s a sign. Maybe I should do more meditation, dance and music content because it makes people happy (me, too). Thank you for inspiring me! ❤️🧘♀️🌸
Mel, I am literally crying!!! So so so amazing& helpful 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️ I felt like I was taking off in 2019!!!2 sold out Carnegie halls, successful new CD release… and then Covid happened and I hit the wall! Since the first week of the lockdown, I started weekly little livestream concerts on my FB page, and still going strong 75 weeks later- my biggest issue is I feel like it all means nothing, and no matter how hard I try to get the industry to notice I am doing this, they have their blinders on!! I don’t know of any other classical pianist playing one different program a week live but I just can’t get pass the small lovely following and reach the “gate keepers” who can help me get to the higher levels!! Anyway….. thank you for this! Thank you so much for the reminder❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 can’t tell you how much I needed this! Love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You can get some inspiration from lindsey stirling she is a violinist and she took it to an all another lavel she makes a video/movie style clip production to her music maybe you can do something similar
Yep...no excuses. That's why I called my business: Stronger Than My Excuses! Thanks again Mel! Can't wait for the audible book.
Mel Robbins is just pure brilliance. And that young lady’s music actually does sound good.
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Blessed and loved. My entire body tingled throughout this message. Sag 🌞 🥰
EXCELLENT 💖 and her song sounds amazing 🤩
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Mel!
I really needed to hear this! Thank you.
Why actually
Mel means a emotion for me 🤍✨
I need you!!! I need you as my coach!!!! You are freaking real and I love your advice!
One year later and Mel's Podcast really is number 1 ....!!!!
I love you Mel.Im in the same situation very stressful job.Im not happy anymore. I'm ready for new Amazing opportunities 😌🙌🙏
Me too! 🙌 May you receive what you need and what inspires you. 💓
YES!!! When the job no longer fits your lifestyle, does not support you, does not allow you to grow - it is time to go and taking that decision is a powerful one - so many people feel trapped and have a long list of reasons as to why they can't leave
This couldn't have come at a more perfect time! I quit my job last week
curious - was it because of a toxic workplace?
This is so helpful. Thank you!!!
Needed this video my soul mate I have been with for 20 years that I love left me saying they found someone else and no contact for 90 days then after that email only. They left me with no money and sadness beyond I cried and was shaking all night I just want to focus on the UA-cam channel I started but not even sure how to do that feeling pain inside, I just needed to get this out.
I loved her song at the end
I feel my soul pulling me forward:
"Come along for a wild ride
where the things you want
explode out into the world from your inside."
I feel the call to go
and I want to join in,
I can already see the fruits of my labour with great expectation,
but somewhere within myself I resist.
"I am not sure I am worthy of my wants" I insist.
The friction builds between where I am and where I want to be,
the cognitive distance drowns me.
What is this fear of my soul becoming alive?
Why do I starve the things that want to thrive?
After careful consideration I concede.
"I have got to give in to this great need."
While I am in the act my soul sets on fire,
burning ablaze, freeing my earthly desire.
It's homeostasis, peace, and harmony,
I feel these feelings quite markedly.
But when I stop I wonder again if I am worthy of my want,
After all, I know I am no great savant.
And when I dig further I find the root:
I have got to give these great expectations the boot.
What if I give it my all and it adds up to nothing?
My great embarrassment will lead to more than just blushing.
On the public stage, I will shrink away cussing.
But when I am in the act I feel so fine,
and feeling fine is like catching a glimpse of the divine.
So, I continue on following the call of my soul,
because following that call is my only worthy goal.
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Hahaha, this is my primitive poetry inspired by this conversation. Thanks Mel!
Wonderful!!! Beautiful voice lady!
Thank you Ms Mel. 🙏💕🌹you are good 🎯🎯🎯 🙏☮️💟♥️♥️♥️😘
THANK YOU!!!!
This Is way todo real. So Good thank you
Thank you Well said
With the podcast, Mel, can you start by releasing audio of your UA-cam videos on a podcast platform? You could have shorts for shorter episodes and themed sections for the longer ones. I'd listen in a heartbeat. Thank you for what you're doing and I think this interview would be a great first episode of a podcast! 👍
what a great video!
Honestly, I loved your video. However, question that I would like to ask you is; how to cope up with the feeling that there are others who are depandant on you (like your parents), wife or kids and be fearless. Most of us hates our job, however decides to stick to it because they do not have any room to escape. Somebody said, one should save enough, how that's even possible when your family have the expenses and depanding on you to cover it.
thank you!!
Awesome talk 🤍🤍🖤🖤🖤🤍🤍
I LOVE MEL😍😍😍
Omg same I quit my job! I want to work with you! I quit to write my book brewing inside me though 👍💛😘👐🤞
Wow!
i dont't know what I want to do in my life but definitly I want to quit my job becouse it killing my...
Right On 👍😎💗
When you don't have a job. Magical things happen too. Like getting kicked out of your own house, magical walk of shame when the card declines, friends and women suddenly dissappearing off the planet...
yep Im going to quit my job open my own company, I got alot of money from my dead dad last year....I;m going for it
Hey @Mel Robbins!!
#askmel
What is your actual story?
You said you were a lawyer, you said took up a dozen of different jobs, you felt unsatisfied, you said you were in debt but what did the complete picture look like? The elaborate one, the picture whose traces are only visible to us.
What led you to take up business and how it all happened to start?
Where did you leave the wrong track and how did you turn to the right one?
I humbly request you to acknowledge the request.
Also sending you lots of love🥰
Take care
So odd because I recently turned 26 and also believe I should be in southern Cali
Great video! Where can I find the uncensored version of this?!
Why actually
Wow😍
I desperately want to leave my job. What's keeping from doing it is that I can't guarantee earning enough to contribute to my family.
Whats the name of that song please
It's not about.the album it's about the desire and the dream in you that u wanna.make.happen.. that's like boom
Can you preorder on audible though? 😬 I have like 10 credits
I was just going to ask the same thing!
We are working on the pre-order page for audible!
OMG not just a light bulb - it was the stadium light - it's the expression not the result holy shit. If you need me I will be at my keyboard writing FINALLY getting it out regardless of result.
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"Magical things happen when you quit your job!"
The magic: *UNEMPLOYMENT!!!*
Unemployment is *your* fear not The Magic.
I don’t think that was Mel’s point, perhaps you should study more of her work! It’s quite remarkable 🙏🏻
I'm 28, married, 2 kids and a 3rd on the way. I work for the post office. The money is there. The dreams and happiness are not.
One obstacle here. Who can afford to live in NY or LA? To lead the average person to these expensive states to follow their dreams is not practical advice. They will need to find a work around to make their dreams come true.
He was driving uber with a dream...can be done in NYC & LA by sleeping in your car, having roommates, weekly motel or studio apartment...it's about moving without excuses....this is my truth
I need a mentor
I thought she said never to quit your job on another video.
Mel is…hotttt!
...i feel lost and stuck, though in Christian faith, i feel lost and non motivated....:-/😔...
aka God
This type of advice comes from privileged people and is aimed at privileged people. If you have no financial safety net, you can't just 'quit your job' - it would be absolutely stupid to do that. It is also much harder to look for jobs when you're unemployed. Not to mention people with responsibilities like children etc.
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LikE, I mean liKe I LiKe want to LiKE win sinGinG cause album LikE...
Mel plz adopt me as an apprentice
What kind of woman you are looking for ? Tiktokers ?
And I have no home or spouse
None of this is necessarily true.
Mel was great here as usual. But the person with all the like like like like like every other word. Grow up and speak properly. Had to give up with this.
Strange….. I just watched a video of yours not too long ago where you instructed NOT to quit your job on a whim. That you disagreed with Gary V’s advice of quitting your job. In that video, you stated your opinion was to keep your day job until you had a steady income from a side hustle. Now in this video you’re saying quitting your job will make magic happen.
Make up your mind, hypocrite!
Ok people don’t quit your job with no other income for your self
If you're a therapist or a life coach, or whatever, you could start by getting Future J-Lo here to stop saying "Like, Like-like" every half a sentence.
Rude! Maybe she was simply nervous?!
Wow! Just how profoundly did you miss the point of this video!!🤷🏻♀️
Tired of this boomer advice. Not everyone can just pick up and move to a city with no job. It’s pathetic
She can't like say a full sentence without like saying 'like' .... she needs to listen to herself!!
This is a bunch of bullshit. It has nothing to do with feeling. It's about stopping to be lazy, and starting to work hard. The girl in this video is never gonna make it if she keeps listening to this.