TED subjects are good, but almost every video and news report can communicate the key points in 5 minutes or less, instead of wasting 10-20 minutes for everyone when they could be DOING something useful.
@@PeopleHealthTru I think that there are topics that deserve more time to not just express the key points because to make people act, you need to emphatize with them, make them feel like they need to change.
Gosh darn it. This video made me wash my hair at 2 in the morning.... I'm disabled so that's hard for me... But... I felt the urge as my hair was mingling a d went for it. My hair is now lovely.
@Risa J I only read half of this book... why? Because I forgot it in the seat pocket when I flew across the Atlantic... And you know what? When I realized this I was so HAPPY... Why? Because I knew that someone was going to find it and get to read it and I felt nothing but joy. I came to this site so I could buy it and finish the last half, but I already know enough about this book and this author ..... to rate it 5 stars... I'd give it 11 if there were 10. It's so exciting to be finding that the path to a place I'd once visited temporarily, as if on a vacation, was actually a place that I can now live. The only thing more exciting than that is wanting to share this discovery with so many others... I'm risking becoming a pain on Facebook talking about this author... He is full of Humility and backs away from any notion that he or anyone can do unto any other. This is a Process that only you can take on for you. Daniel Anderson is a guide for you to enable your own journey to a place that is so incredible you'll be awed and probably even suffer a wave of fear that you might ever loose what you gained it is so precious. Thankfully he teaches us how to transcend that kind of fear so we are able to recover from it! If you want to gift people you love... his books would be a way to accomplish that and, if they are not ready to read them, they might give them to someone who would... they are truly a gift to the world. p.s. name of this book is "kit for emotional stability" by Daniel Anderson
@@lourdandreilingat2903 the way people have negative thoughts about themselves, like "don't apply for that job, you'll never get it" or "don't bother going on a diet you'll fail in a day", you wouldn't hang out with someone who said those things to you in conversation so you should not say them to yourself either.
I am visiting this video again. The first time I watched it I was depressed in my old job. I felt burnout, super stagnant. I have always wanted to change to a new job, but did not have enough courage to do so because I feared instability. And one day I saw this, and I practiced the 5 second rule. I am today in my new job, with better pay, better environment. GLAD I FOUND THIS TEDTALK.
1. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time. 2. You're never going to feel like it 3. You are not fine 4. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change 5. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be 6. YOU HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE
"Action leads to motivation" This is so true! Two weeks ago I forced myself to stop procrastinating (after years and years...and years of trying) and started being productive. I hated it at first but after 3 days of changing bad habits and doing other things other than just being on the internet I started to LOVE the feeling of satisfaction I got everytime I did some hard work. I really feel like I can do anything, after two weeks! I'm never going back to the dark mindset I was in before. I'm enjoying life now and I'm really excited about the future. I know I have a long way and it's not easy but this is the new me. You just need to experience both feelings (feeling of disappointment after you do something to screw yourself and the feeling of satisfaction you get when you do some hard work that you know is beneficial for you) I can assure you that you will choose that feeling of satisfaction everytime.
"you wouldn't hang out with ppl who talk to you the way you talk to yourself" Damn that hit. I watched way too many motivational talks and whatsoever but for the first time I feel like this actually changed something inside. I don't wanna feel sorry for myself anymore and I sure as heck don't wanna feel stuck in my own life. Thank you sm for this❤️
"I don't care how you feel. I care about what you want. And if you listen to how you feel when it comes to what you want, you will not get it. Because you will never feel like it."
"when you turned 18, nobody tells you it's your job to parent yourself" god, this hit. It's so true and the change is so sudden, you'll just notice people around you stop caring as they did when you were a child.
Parents do not necessarily stop caring. They just don't want to fight an 18-y-o who will inevitably say, "I'm 18 now, You can't make me do anything I don't want to do."
I think they stop responding to you like you're a child and allowed or expect you to figure things out yourself first, then they'd be there as support... just my 2 cents🙂
She felt at home however the audience gets uncomfortable with her actions. I have learnt a thing from it. You don't have to care what others think of your actions as long as you believe in what you are doing. She was truly remarkable.
@@whatfurqanknows it depends on the type of a person you are and how you want to lead the life, for someone who enjoys solitude or is an introvert, too much of not caring can work in situations but someone who wants to socialize and make connections, you can't go the path of too much carelessness.
That’s the whole point though… getting uncomfortable. It just drives home the message even more than if she were to simply stand on stage and speak from a distance.
acgillespie Truth is... all the stupid people will believe she is smart and knows her stuff simple because she had happy *boobies* people today have been made to be stupid like this.
Summary - -Think about what you want - Be selfish and specific -Don't tell yourself you're 'fine' - you probably convinced yourself that the thing you truly want, you're 'fine' not having it -You're never going to 'feel like it', don't hit snooze on your ideas -It's your job to make yourself do the things you don't want to do, so that you can be everything you're supposed to be -FORCE yourself to change your routine - anything that's a break from your routine is going to require force -Feeling stuck/dissatisfied with your life is a signal that one of your most basic needs aren't being met - the need for & -Get out your head -Get past your feelings -Get your comfort zone -Don't think too much, do something fast before you end up pulling the "emergency brakes" -Act on your ideas or impulse
“How Did the rose Ever open its heart And give to this world All its Beauty? It felt the encouragement of light Against its Being. Otherwise, We all remain Too Frightened” ― Hafez
Same, I had no idea because she seems so solid. I think she made it in two seconds, which explains why the words/pictures are so simple, but that adds to the effectiveness. No fancy graphics, just Mel and her life and real examples. She's very good at using anxiety energy to get her point across, I think alota ppl treat all anxiety as bad (as opposed to just over-anxiety). I suffer from it at times, but breathing exercises are great.
It was good at 1.5 and when I read your comment I realized it. She is so slow and grade school at real-time speed. Her stats are true of every nub of corn. Yawn. And life is. Life is competition. Life eats life. The order and safety of humanity eats all the other forms, killing the biosphere. Haha. We won't change.
What I gathered from this video: 1. "You are never gonna feel like doing it." So just do it now. 2. When you get the idea to do sth, stop thinking and do it within 5 seconds. 3. You gotta be your own parent. Force yourself to do the things you don't want to do. 4. Don't ever hit the snooze button on your alarm. (I used to do that, but just felt more tired after sleeping 10 minutes longer again and again) So, really. Don't hit the snooze button and just rip away the blanket, swing your feet into your slippers and start your day. 5. Take a walk outside right now. (which btw I did, was planning on it anyway but glad I did it earlier than planned)
"When you feel stuck or dissatisfied in your life, it's a signal. And it's not a signal that your life is broken. It's a signal that one of your most basic needs are not being met. Your need for exploration."
"All day long you have ideas that could change your life, could change the world, could change the way you feel. And what do you do with them? Nothing!" She is so right! I needed to hear this. I love this statement now!
+Your World Within *And none of it will change our future for the better. It will only make it easier for you to ignore climate change, deny responsibility for children getting raped in Africa and make you feel better when you hear that your colleque just jumped off the Golden Gate bridge... HAVE A NICE TrIP! x(*
To everyone who is experiencing a difficult situation: To shoot an arrow you have to pull it backwards. So when life drags you back with some troubles, it means it's going to launch into something better.
This is how a professional presents. She was focused on her audience, a thought I had well before she mentioned that everything she does is for you. Most presenters are so focused on their material or themselves they fail to remember they are presenting to people. Audiences can connect with Mel because she's real, wasn't trying to be the perfect presenter, and spoke in plain language.
Sure, yet everyone strive to ride a ferrari, have membership in 5 stars Spa, have huge appartment in luxurious estate. So basically you need to get out of your comfort zone to get in your comfort zone lol
lmao same. i want to quit social media, i have told everyone i have quit social media, but i come and watch what my brain calls "useful videos". i know my brain is fooling me, yet i am unable to stop it.
@@CalmDown-so3ye i mean in the 2000s it wasnt this bad, i think. algorithms which show you what you want to watch and infinite scroll are the crux of today's problems
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 yeah like 5-6 years ago I remember me and my friends watch what's popular or we had channels love most and we waited videos from them like a TV series
The problem is, the school system actually destroys this part of the mind for many people. We're taught for years on end, to stop, think, analyze, ruminate... but it turns out we have intuition and gut impulses that can allow us to be spontaneous and confident in what we do... and not always see our failures in the form of an F or 40%. We're taught to work our butts off, then take long breaks. We're taught to follow a routine and do things that don't interest us for hours and hours to make some number. So when it's all done and we're in the real world, many of us simply don't know HOW to go about even framing our mind for this way of thinking. You're lucky if you had great parents, teachers or friends that fostered this part of you, and to people like this, it's easy. It's as simple as just doing it, and they don't understand why people procrastinate or have analysis paralysis. I used to be a very creative and spontaneous child, and by the end of high school I was just another robot. It has taken me years to even realize what happened to me, and now I'm a few years deep into trying to find my natural human side again. I know she has a small amount of time to get across a big topic, but for talks like this to be really effective IMO, they have to share a type of detox method with tangible things to do. Mindfulness meditation is so crucial for many of us. You can't be happy or operate in the "now" if you're constantly future tripping or thinking about your past. Again, the school system gears you to think of the future. Graduation will save you. Post-secondary will save you. Work will save you. Making tons of money will save you. Finding love will save you. Learn to live in the present, and learn to calm your mind so that the natural river of thought can flow without obstructions caused by everyday mundane tasks or negative thoughts. That's how you'll find out what you really want, and what to do to get it. Social media and pornography are killers. Bad diets, lack of exercise, and lack of PLAY are killers. Many people don't even realize how important it is to to PLAY. Play catch, play at a gym, play with friends. When we think of the road to accomplish something major, we think that ALL that time we'll have to be working and it's daunting. Because that's what it was like in school. But in reality, if you learn to work a bit, then play a bit, you can continue on the road to your goals with a freer mind. Anyway, I don't have all the answers, and I'm in the struggle myself. But I just thought I'd share with everyone some of the things I've come to learn. I see a lot of comments saying that it's easier said than done. And really, I agree. Very few speakers are tackling the tangible everyday things that are plaguing the mind needed to even be receptive to these types of speeches.
TheBoomshine I can actually feel that right now, after a year of high school, I'm not funny anymore, I don't care about friend or girls at all, I'm just kinda meh, thank's for the comment, it might change my life, any extra help?
SickChip I'd say just make sure to take time out to hang with friends, play outside, do things you love... don't just sit around at the computer all day or over study. Don't cram or do all-nighters, try to set a certain amount of work time, and then some YOU time. It's really tough, I know it is. There's just so much work to do. If I could do it all over again, I'd know that I don't want to be a brain surgeon or engineer and just settle for moderate marks instead of over achieving in everything. And instead of thinking that school is my only source of education, I'd educate myself in LIFE. Talk to all sorts of people, pursue my passions, learn an instrument. Cause after high school the world is much different. There are more fulfilling things than grades or huge paychecks. Follow what you love because society is a trap. I think Mark Twain once said, "Don't let school get in the way of your education". Great quote. All the best, my friend. Try to keep that little fire alive in you, don't let the system take it from you. If it means getting that sleep and only studying half the material, or failing a quiz or two because you went for a bike ride instead, do it. Trust me, the world won't end. It'll only do the opposite. :)
TheBoomshine didnt watch to much of this but i agree. While im attending college now I think school does a horrible job in some areas because school can brainwash you to think this is all you need, Go to school and you are fine. Nope, you aren't, school is just a bonus. Many parents are undoubtedly having way too much faith in school, they ignore their children more because they think they are taken care of in school, as if it is the answer to everything. In reality, you can have all the knowledge in the world but without a heart for something it doesn't matter worth shit. Parents need to think before having kids.
TheBoomshine you got it DOWN!! The world needs people like you to speak up more. Do you have a blog? I'm gonna check out your channel, I'll be disappointed if there is nothing there :) I am probably going to copy and paste your post here into Notepad. Much love.
Vê o video da Mel Robbins sobre a técnica dos 5 segundos; isso irá ajudar-te a não procrastinar o sono. É mais ou menos isto: força-te a começar a meter na cama antes de acabares de contar 5 segundos.
5 second rule - when you have an impulse, you must take physical action within 5 seconds, or your mind will hit the emergency brake (stop you from doing it/talk you out of it). So, the next time you have an impulse to do something (something positive of course), count down from 5 to 1 and then do it! Take action.
I think the part that hit me the most was the autopilot vs. emergency break. As soon as she explained it my brain immediately jumped to a dozen different occasions where I've reflected on my own decisions and came to the exact same conclusion: If I just do it, it happens, but if I waver for even a short period of time (5 seconds), I'm almost guaranteed not to try whatever it is.
For the scared public speakers out there, notice how much she stutters, gets her words wrong and says "sorry, I mean" and yet STILL delivers an amazing powerful speech while still seeming reliable, engaging, smart, passionate, funny, etc. It doesn't matter if you mess up!
I have listened to this lecture like 50 times over the last 7 years. It never gets old, i appreciate it every time. And i use it with my patients when they tell me they don't wanna fix their diet.
I watched this video about 6 years ago but nothing seemed to click. I probably wasn't ready to accept it then. Just got around to reading your book. It is so refreshing to see how much you have included the audience in your book. Its probably the first book that I have read as such. In just one day of having starting to read and not even finishing it I have managed to do things that I have been putting off for years. The only regret is why have I not done this earlier
I searched "how to get over depression" and I got here. I took a bowl of spaghetti and sat down to watch it. Half way through the video I'm crying telling myself "I'm not fine" with spaghetti falling out of my mouth.
I was in tears.... and it came from somewhere much deeper... NOT the throat... it was not sadness or happiness... it was CONNECTION to what she is saying ,,,, SO grateful for having heard this.
@@nooneinparticular8383 Not nice one! This world is deluded! Do you fear the unknown? No, you cannot fear something you don't know, you can fear letting go of what you know! Awareness is the way to freedom and life. Pay attention and observe the present moment, how can you enjoy the moment if you're not in the moment? Drop your illusions, opinions, concepts, prejudges, labels, expectations, drop them all and wake up. Happiness lyes within you, you don't need to be rich, you don't need to be successful, you don't need friends, you don't need anything to be happy because a human being's natural state is happiness. Look back to when you were three years old, where was your happiness coming from? Friends? A career? Success? Money? Power? No. Your happiness is within YOU. Wake up out of the condition you were put in. Again, your happiness is within YOU.
@@angiedonams1266 Try reading about self-awareness and self-trust. Research shows those who are self-aware are more fulfilled, less likely to cheat, lie or steal, have stronger relationships, are more promotable and professional at what they do. You've got to put yourself in the driver's seat and trust yourself, don't keep trusting what everyone else says about you.
A.J. Nelson yes! And it’s a relief to me. I’m always screwing my self over in school and it makes me stressed and disappointed in myself.. but I realize that I’m not the only who is struggling with this or just other situations. Us people who are struggling are still trying to understand and learn how to manage things properly without any problems. Learn from it.
I have noticed how silencing my emotions a little bit and truly listening word for word what someone has to say, how much easier and calmer the atmosphere is. Always listen completely before speaking.
Such an awesome talk. In a nutshell: Action leads to motivation - not the other way around. And, feelings are signals that a basic need is not being met. Don’t sit in complacency with these feelings - investigate them and take action to improve your situation and to work towards your goals and desires.
"if you have to , force yourself to do what you have to do " ..that is the message I got ....I actually got up, took a shower , went to the gym , worked out ,and now I am glad I forced myself tot actually get up from the couch. Her message is actually powerful
Her message as described in the video is a simple one but effective nonetheless. As you just described it no one is coming to take you by the hand and force you to go to the gym so you have to force yourself, and in doing so you have just taken the first step to building a healthy habit.
This is definitely one of the best talks I've heard. Referring to the emergency brake she spoke of, our minds detect discomfort when you hesitate to do something e.g. get out of bed in the morning. And when that hesitation is made, that's what triggers the brake. You can apply that to anything. If you just get up and don't think about it, there's no hesitation, therefore no trigger.
This reminds me of the brilliant book "Man's Search for Meaning" by Victor Frankl. You cannot control your environment and you may be in the worst situation but you hold the power to decide what to do in each moment. It is empowering to recognise that each moment is an opportunity to exercise this human dignity that we are all gifted.
Mel Robins 5 sec rule has helped me a lot in last one year. From striking a conversation with my dad to making a phone call to my friend, I have applied this rule enormous times. The good thing is as you start doing it, it becomes your habit to answer someone without hesitation , you start replying assertively. Though m yet to completely overcome this feeling of being stuck but m on it and it has helped me a lot . Thanks Ma'am.
It was very inspiring when she says that." Your problem is not ideas, your problems you don't act on them" We always say that we will do this and this and this but we end up in a situation we do nothing except dreaming
I have chills bumps all over my body. Yesterday I almost took my life again. Couldn't see past my past and my mind wouldn't move. It's now thinking forward. Sitting on the edge of my bed cause i know, it's time for change.
What a fantastic speaker I’ve been listening to her last few years and came across this old talk and was fascinated by her stage performance and delivery . Goo Mel Robbins love you!!!
Wow this is so true! Especially where she starts at 16:20 . “When you start feeling dissatisfied, it means one of your psychological needs are not being met.” This took me a LONG time to learn!!
"Action leads to motivation" This is so true! Two weeks ago I forced myself to stop procrastinating (after years and years...and years of trying) and started being productive. I hated it at first but after 3 days of changing bad habits and doing other things other than just being on the internet I started to LOVE the feeling of satisfaction I got everytime I did some hard work. I really feel like I can do anything, after two weeks! I'm never going back to the dark mindset I was in before. I'm enjoying life now and I'm really excited about the future. I know I have a long way and it's not easy but this is the new me. You just need to experience both feelings (feeling of disappointment after you do something to screw yourself and the feeling of satisfaction you get when you do some hard work that you know is beneficial for you) I can assure you that you will choose that feeling of satisfaction everytime.
To stop procrastinating you just need need to turn off your phone and start doing the important things you need to do, even if you don't like it. After some time you will forget about your phone 👌
5:05 - fine 6:16 - convinced yourself you’re fine without the things you want 8:59 - inner snooze button analogy 9:58 - in any area you want to change, this is the fact
9 years later and this is still one of the if not THE best TED self motivation talk in my opinion. She has really gone on to become quite the success story herself. I love Mel Robbins.
I can’t believe how much this video has helped me. I love how she’s without any mercy, she’s so blunt with everyone. I wish my parents were like this and that I was brought up with this mentality. But yet again, now it’s my own turn to make a difference in my everyday patterns and sort out inner voices from good ones and bad ones 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Maria Running, your parents probably wanted too, but maybe you positioned them to not let them. So don't wish your parents were like Mel. Children reject parents advice a very high percent of the time and just maybe you were one of those kids.
This Tedx Talked CHANGED MY LIFE. Incorporating the 5 second rule helped me act, accomplish more and be the best version of myself. I shared how it helped me with my weight loss journey after having 2 under 2 babies. I have Mel Robbins to thank!
This is the last motivational video I'm watching for the next three months and I'm going to apply every last thing she said and see what happens. And I will be back.................
Omg I love this woman. She's so real. We all need a real person in our lives. It's refreshing and if we could just get that little push from someone so energetic and ready for life!! Definitely needed this now. Thank you! Mel Robbins!
Needed this! I live in my head and stay scared to death of everything. I’ve created so many phobias that when I’m not working, I don’t want to be around people. I literally have panic attacks to go shopping in a big store. It takes all my energy to work in the public every day. I’m very passionate and great at working. I have so many goals, if I could just get out of the habit of pulling emergency brake. She’s so right about everything she said. Very enjoyable and encouraging. We need more people like this!
I feel your pain , I’ve been like this for 30 years. It’s something that never goes away, I just learn to manage it better. Running, meditation, prayer helps. Maybe get on antidepressant if you have too.
1. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time. 2. You're never going to feel like it 3. You are not fine 4. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change 5. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be 6. YOU HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE
I watched this Tedx Talk 4 years ago and that's the first video to ever change my life. Robbins is who we should be looking up to. I'm so glad I discovered her when I was 13.
-Think about what you want - Be selfish and specific -Don't tell yourself you're 'fine' - you probably convinced yourself that the thing you truly want, you're 'fine' not having it. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time. -You're never going to 'feel like it', don't hit snooze on your ideas. -It's your job to make yourself do the things you don't want to do, so that you can be everything you're supposed to be. -Force yourself to change your routine - anything that's a break from your routine is going to require force. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change. -Feeling stuck/dissatisfied with your life is a signal that one of your most basic needs aren't being met - the need for. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be. -Get out your head. -Get past your feelings. -Get your comfort zone. You have to force yourself to be uncomfortable. -Don't think too much, do something fast before you end up pulling the "emergency brakes" -Act on your ideas or impulse "When you listen to how you feel about what you want you will not get it because you will never feel like it."
A lot of people in the comments seem to be deeply examining her speech, but I'm going to take away the main lesson I learned.. That when I want something, I need to just go for it, and stop making excuses. At the end of the day, I don't want to regret not doing everything possible to live my dream life.
@@somyaupadhyay9975 maybe it's because she was so upfront. So direct. Ruthless if you will. That is what "scared" me too in the first minutes. But tbh that's also the thing making her so great.
Damn. This one hit the core. I have always wanted to start a digital business but the excuses I make hold me back and I don't feel like l’m living my life. This is a boost!! 🔥
*You are so right, I even downloaded it and some other tedtalk videos, converted them to Mp3 format and uploaded to my mobile phone. So I can listen whilst I am on the move*
To anyone who feels life is pathetic or it sucks.. just know you are doing your best and you are special no matter what the enemy brings to you.. do not allow fear doubt to mess up your life.. you are worth more than you believe or think
In highschool 3rdQ recently I've been having a thoughts to kill myself but it's wrong making me procastinate more I think it started 2month ago What should I do( note:please don't involve others to the sulution I'm really weak at that part
she was so comfortable, she was talking to them as a friend. I've never seen a ted talk amazing like this.
Absolutely! Engaging!
Killed it!
TED subjects are good, but almost every video and news report can communicate the key points in 5 minutes or less, instead of wasting 10-20 minutes for everyone when they could be DOING something useful.
watch more ted i gues
@@PeopleHealthTru I think that there are topics that deserve more time to not just express the key points because to make people act, you need to emphatize with them, make them feel like they need to change.
Gosh darn it. This video made me wash my hair at 2 in the morning....
I'm disabled so that's hard for me... But... I felt the urge as my hair was mingling a d went for it.
My hair is now lovely.
2 am or not, sounds like a win to me!
Kerami Roberts amazing haha
Beautiful
I am watching it at 2 a.m. And i want to change my life right now
That's really amazing
"You'll never hang out with the person who talks to you like you talk to yourself" hit read hard
Wow! I like that mindset. So true!
Because thoughts are not social interactions, they are not comparable and saying they are is childish.
@Risa J
I only read half of this book... why? Because I forgot it in the seat pocket when I flew across the Atlantic... And you know what? When I realized this I was so HAPPY... Why? Because I knew that someone was going to find it and get to read it and I felt nothing but joy. I came to this site so I could buy it and finish the last half, but I already know enough about this book and this author ..... to rate it 5 stars... I'd give it 11 if there were 10.
It's so exciting to be finding that the path to a place I'd once visited temporarily, as if on a vacation, was actually a place that I can now live. The only thing more exciting than that is wanting to share this discovery with so many others... I'm risking becoming a pain on Facebook talking about this author...
He is full of Humility and backs away from any notion that he or anyone can do unto any other. This is a Process that only you can take on for you. Daniel Anderson is a guide for you to enable your own journey to a place that is so incredible you'll be awed and probably even suffer a wave of fear that you might ever loose what you gained it is so precious. Thankfully he teaches us how to transcend that kind of fear so we are able to recover from it! If you want to gift people you love... his books would be a way to accomplish that and, if they are not ready to read them, they might give them to someone who would... they are truly a gift to the world.
p.s. name of this book is "kit for emotional stability" by Daniel Anderson
what does this mean? can someone explain this. thanks
@@lourdandreilingat2903 the way people have negative thoughts about themselves, like "don't apply for that job, you'll never get it" or "don't bother going on a diet you'll fail in a day", you wouldn't hang out with someone who said those things to you in conversation so you should not say them to yourself either.
Can’t remember who said it but: “The pain of regret is worse than the pain of discipline.” 🙏🏼
Kept searching for someone on the right grid and there you are
Jim Rohn
Maybe not originally ? but Joyce Meyer says it
'Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever could'...
I really needed to read that right now
Thank you °°
i have tried so much and failed so much, I swear idk what to do anymore
Too much failure will cause doubt and the cycle continues, trust me
I didn't fail. I just found 10,000 ways that won't work. -Thomas Edison
@@SwordMeadow KEEP TRYING UNTIL YOU GET IT RIGHT ✅ 💯
NEVER GIVE UP . WHEN WE STOP LEARNING WE STOP GROWING
I am visiting this video again. The first time I watched it I was depressed in my old job. I felt burnout, super stagnant. I have always wanted to change to a new job, but did not have enough courage to do so because I feared instability. And one day I saw this, and I practiced the 5 second rule. I am today in my new job, with better pay, better environment. GLAD I FOUND THIS TEDTALK.
Lolo Lulu until you are fired
This is what I'm going through right now
Good for you Lolo I am proud of you. and you should feel proud of yourself too.
Ignore Kris, it's stories like your's that motivate us all.
That's awesome!
1. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time.
2. You're never going to feel like it
3. You are not fine
4. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change
5. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be
6. YOU HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE
it's the "YOU HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE" for me.
@@msay8790 if you unmask I'll do it. 😊
@@MrTeslatube mask offff
You've changed my life!! ❤
"Action leads to motivation"
This is so true!
Two weeks ago I forced myself to stop procrastinating (after years and years...and years of trying) and started being productive. I hated it at first but after 3 days of changing bad habits and doing other things other than just being on the internet I started to LOVE the feeling of satisfaction I got everytime I did some hard work. I really feel like I can do anything, after two weeks! I'm never going back to the dark mindset I was in before. I'm enjoying life now and I'm really excited about the future. I know I have a long way and it's not easy but this is the new me.
You just need to experience both feelings (feeling of disappointment after you do something to screw yourself and the feeling of satisfaction you get when you do some hard work that you know is beneficial for you) I can assure you that you will choose that feeling of satisfaction everytime.
Tomorrow is near, yet so far away. Choose this day to love unconditionally, and be happy within
Richard A . Blair Fx
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He will guide you through the process of investing
@lukumanassanalhassan9431 Everybody has been talking about (Richard A. Blair Fx) so I'm not surprise you mentioned him again is this his contact
I really need to write him up
Help i'm stuck on the TED self-help playlist
I feel ya, it is fine for tonight doing research but I'm gonna be sorry tomorrow LOL
🤣🤣🤣
There are MUCH BETTER self help playlists!
@@moondancer9066 which ones?
You're not alone
She’s the kind of person i want to have as a friend when I’m feeling down. So straightforward.
True dat, her Enough is out of this world...
Isn’t she telling YOU to be that person? Perhaps you should watch this again.
Be your OWN FRIEND
Is what she would say
Woahhh how I wish Hahahahahah
I have a friend that is pretty straightforward... isn't it cool 😁
"You wouldn't hang out with someone who spoke to you the way you speak to yourself" brilliant
This is why I dont hang out with people. They inevitably say the things to you they say to themselves. 🤷
My favorite Mel quote!
does that means it bothers your inner self when someone dont reciprocate the same way you want to be treated?
"you wouldn't hang out with ppl who talk to you the way you talk to yourself"
Damn that hit. I watched way too many motivational talks and whatsoever but for the first time I feel like this actually changed something inside.
I don't wanna feel sorry for myself anymore and I sure as heck don't wanna feel stuck in my own life.
Thank you sm for this❤️
I’m with you !!!❤ We got this!!!! ✊🏾
"I don't care how you feel. I care about what you want. And if you listen to how you feel when it comes to what you want, you will not get it. Because you will never feel like it."
A valuable point there
aye cute photo right there
powerful words imo
True
Damn bro.
"when you turned 18, nobody tells you it's your job to parent yourself" god, this hit. It's so true and the change is so sudden, you'll just notice people around you stop caring as they did when you were a child.
What if that 18 year old chap had done so in advance:)
Since i was born i had to parent myself xD rip me but true, it somehow gets even harder
@@aurora_boketto7746 That's sad. I hope you have someone who remembers to take care of you.
Parents do not necessarily stop caring. They just don't want to fight an 18-y-o who will inevitably say, "I'm 18 now, You can't make me do anything I don't want to do."
I think they stop responding to you like you're a child and allowed or expect you to figure things out yourself first, then they'd be there as support... just my 2 cents🙂
I have social anxiety but today I'll begin to force myself to overcome it. I want to feel happy and free so I'm starting today, wish me luck!
I am sure you can do it, All the Best!!
Good luck! I have the same problem, i'll take the risks 5,4,3,2,1
Luisa Cruz i am gonna do it too.. how are you doing now?
I hope things worked out for you!
You are awesome and I'm sure you can do it.
Best Wish!
She felt at home however the audience gets uncomfortable with her actions. I have learnt a thing from it. You don't have to care what others think of your actions as long as you believe in what you are doing. She was truly remarkable.
is too much not caring and believing yourself regardlessly healthy?
@@whatfurqanknows it depends on the type of a person you are and how you want to lead the life, for someone who enjoys solitude or is an introvert, too much of not caring can work in situations but someone who wants to socialize and make connections, you can't go the path of too much carelessness.
I don't like the way she points her finger at the audience. It is impolite and rude.
I don't like that you don't like it.@@tuanlong6876
That’s the whole point though… getting uncomfortable. It just drives home the message even more than if she were to simply stand on stage and speak from a distance.
"Treat yourself as if you were someone you are responsible for helping." -JP
😐😐😐😟Damn thks for this; this will help me a lot with my self love journey as I try so hard to cope with a low self imagine 😢
Quote Dr. Jordan Peterson
An excellent speaker.
Look up his latest book:
“12 Rules for Life - An Antidote to Chaos”
Yes!
"Your problem isn't ideas. Your problem is you don't act on them."
I kinda do sometimes 😅
Yeah should of delt with you today next time I see you
@@Rajina.p yes....we was so lazy.
this idea right here, will not be acted on by most
@@robertsteelejr5200 howyo,,,🥺
Three words that I learned that changed my life. Persistence overcomes resistance.
secondsunn Very very true, consistent action for long enough can change everything.
secondsunn so true!!
soldforfree Three words I learned from this video. Hot ass Milf
Ryan Davis Amen. But let's definitely remember that if you want to go after that, DONT HESITATE. #HomeWrecking
acgillespie Truth is... all the stupid people will believe she is smart and knows her stuff simple because she had happy *boobies* people today have been made to be stupid like this.
Summary -
-Think about what you want - Be selfish and specific
-Don't tell yourself you're 'fine' - you probably convinced yourself that the thing you truly want, you're 'fine' not having it
-You're never going to 'feel like it', don't hit snooze on your ideas
-It's your job to make yourself do the things you don't want to do, so that you can be everything you're supposed to be
-FORCE yourself to change your routine - anything that's a break from your routine is going to require force
-Feeling stuck/dissatisfied with your life is a signal that one of your most basic needs aren't being met - the need for &
-Get out your head
-Get past your feelings
-Get your comfort zone
-Don't think too much, do something fast before you end up pulling the "emergency brakes"
-Act on your ideas or impulse
you snooze you lose
❤
I’m 80 , have Alzheimer’s, this lady has just blown my mind with this presentation .Thanks Mel , I love you .
mine too
good wishes for you
We love you best wishes
My wishes.
i hope u forget this watch it again and i get to see the same comment posted again
"If you're in your head, you are behind enemy lines." One of the best quotes I've ever heard.
Summary " “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” ---- Toney Robbins
“How
Did the rose
Ever open its heart
And give to this world
All its
Beauty?
It felt the encouragement of light
Against its Being.
Otherwise,
We all remain
Too
Frightened”
― Hafez
@@kiaweking that's beautiful.
Adrianna Wilhite haha right?!
@Adrianna Wilhite
Nobody, not even he, would say he didn't "steal" anything. He just knew a good idea when he saw it.
@Adrianna Wilhite THANK YOU omg I was thinking the same thing
It is crazy to know that she described this as a 20-minute panic attack on her podcast. She was so confident and could have fooled me.
is that what was happening? She almost gave me one! Pfew... Hey, I still listened to the whole thing and actually didn't snooze my alarm today.
Knowing this enriches even more her lecture
I wanted to know what it looked like… and it looks like success to me! I live in a panic attack- maybe I could do at least something with my life lol
Same, I had no idea because she seems so solid. I think she made it in two seconds, which explains why the words/pictures are so simple, but that adds to the effectiveness. No fancy graphics, just Mel and her life and real examples. She's very good at using anxiety energy to get her point across, I think alota ppl treat all anxiety as bad (as opposed to just over-anxiety). I suffer from it at times, but breathing exercises are great.
Do you know what episode that is? Would love to hear it.
This woman was born to public speak, Best TED talk I've seen in a while, I was engaged the entire time!!!
It was good at 1.5 and when I read your comment I realized it. She is so slow and grade school at real-time speed.
Her stats are true of every nub of corn. Yawn.
And life is. Life is competition. Life eats life. The order and safety of humanity eats all the other forms, killing the biosphere. Haha.
We won't change.
dreamervanroom Ok edgelord
I agree, this could have easily come across as preachy, like a few other TED talks unfortunately do. She is very engaging.
She has interesting information but is obnoxious in regards of look and character
Pavel baller Bro her character is what made this presentation interesting
What I gathered from this video:
1. "You are never gonna feel like doing it." So just do it now.
2. When you get the idea to do sth, stop thinking and do it within 5 seconds.
3. You gotta be your own parent. Force yourself to do the things you don't want to do.
4. Don't ever hit the snooze button on your alarm. (I used to do that, but just felt more tired after sleeping 10 minutes longer again and again) So, really. Don't hit the snooze button and just rip away the blanket, swing your feet into your slippers and start your day.
5. Take a walk outside right now. (which btw I did, was planning on it anyway but glad I did it earlier than planned)
I'm proud of you, random stranger. Very cool.
Thank you! Not all heroes wear cape :)
Thank you guys. I feel like someone just gave me a heroes cape like a prize. Haha
Thanks so much for sharing your notes!
Thank yooou
I learnt from ur note more than the speach
It was too long and boring
"When you feel stuck or dissatisfied in your life, it's a signal. And it's not a signal that your life is broken. It's a signal that one of your most basic needs are not being met. Your need for exploration."
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what a minute?
"All day long you have ideas that could change your life, could change the world, could change the way you feel. And what do you do with them? Nothing!" She is so right! I needed to hear this. I love this statement now!
lets learn life programming: Could = -1. (Error) Should = 0. (False or Stop) Need = 1. (True or Start)
Well did you change?
There is so much wisdom packed into this 21 minute and 39 second speech that I can't handle it...
It's 21:40
+Your World Within There was like 2 things that were practically applicable in the whole video and it was basically just, 'Take action.... NOW!'
+Your World Within *And none of it will change our future for the better. It will only make it easier for you to ignore climate change, deny responsibility for children getting raped in Africa and make you feel better when you hear that your colleque just jumped off the Golden Gate bridge... HAVE A NICE TrIP! x(*
+Your World Within I'm having hard time processing my feelings towards this woman :|
the wisdom of years of social construct and narcissism, packed for an affordable price and a Instagram follow click.
To everyone who is experiencing a difficult situation:
To shoot an arrow you have to pull it backwards. So when life drags you back with some troubles, it means it's going to launch into something better.
this is powerful. thank you so much for sharing.
@@s.s.7705 Glad you like it. Wishing you all the best.
this comment is so nice
@@kashika_strawberry.lipstic4624 Thank you. Wishing you all the best.
@@mindbodyrelaxation6828
"I don't care about how you Feel, I care about what you Want!"
This quote has just stuck in my mind....
yah same
if we all adopt this mindset then no one will care about no one
Pioneer 37 ii
So good!
I don't 100 agree with that. Simple Example: I want to kill someone. So, should I ignore the feelings?
My favourite quote.
"Self pity solves nothing"
Aka feelings sorry for yourself is normal, reflect sure, but start doing something about it.
This is how a professional presents. She was focused on her audience, a thought I had well before she mentioned that everything she does is for you. Most presenters are so focused on their material or themselves they fail to remember they are presenting to people. Audiences can connect with Mel because she's real, wasn't trying to be the perfect presenter, and spoke in plain language.
But she needs wardrobe counseling
@@mathrodite i suppose it's her usual image, as u could notice she feels a quite confidently
Comfort is your worst enemy!
Wise words.
This is so true I strive for constant comfort it has made me a total of 260pounds I'm misserble
So true
Sure, yet everyone strive to ride a ferrari, have membership in 5 stars Spa, have huge appartment in luxurious estate. So basically you need to get out of your comfort zone to get in your comfort zone lol
You mean comfort zone, right?
This is how I get over a break-up. Watching TedTalks. Damn this helps.
it sure does.
which ones may I ask? for a friend of course
+Gumby blue go watch can money buy happiness, old but gold.
That's exactly what I am doing these days
lol whats are the odds 😂
I'm having a UA-cam TED talk marathon to help my UA-cam addiction. Seems to be a legit way to do it. 💯
lmao same. i want to quit social media, i have told everyone i have quit social media, but i come and watch what my brain calls "useful videos". i know my brain is fooling me, yet i am unable to stop it.
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 we are consumers of an infinitive content let's hope the internet dies...
@@CalmDown-so3ye i mean in the 2000s it wasnt this bad, i think. algorithms which show you what you want to watch and infinite scroll are the crux of today's problems
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 yeah like 5-6 years ago I remember me and my friends watch what's popular or we had channels love most and we waited videos from them like a TV series
The problem is, the school system actually destroys this part of the mind for many people. We're taught for years on end, to stop, think, analyze, ruminate... but it turns out we have intuition and gut impulses that can allow us to be spontaneous and confident in what we do... and not always see our failures in the form of an F or 40%. We're taught to work our butts off, then take long breaks. We're taught to follow a routine and do things that don't interest us for hours and hours to make some number. So when it's all done and we're in the real world, many of us simply don't know HOW to go about even framing our mind for this way of thinking. You're lucky if you had great parents, teachers or friends that fostered this part of you, and to people like this, it's easy. It's as simple as just doing it, and they don't understand why people procrastinate or have analysis paralysis.
I used to be a very creative and spontaneous child, and by the end of high school I was just another robot. It has taken me years to even realize what happened to me, and now I'm a few years deep into trying to find my natural human side again.
I know she has a small amount of time to get across a big topic, but for talks like this to be really effective IMO, they have to share a type of detox method with tangible things to do. Mindfulness meditation is so crucial for many of us. You can't be happy or operate in the "now" if you're constantly future tripping or thinking about your past. Again, the school system gears you to think of the future. Graduation will save you. Post-secondary will save you. Work will save you. Making tons of money will save you. Finding love will save you. Learn to live in the present, and learn to calm your mind so that the natural river of thought can flow without obstructions caused by everyday mundane tasks or negative thoughts. That's how you'll find out what you really want, and what to do to get it. Social media and pornography are killers. Bad diets, lack of exercise, and lack of PLAY are killers. Many people don't even realize how important it is to to PLAY. Play catch, play at a gym, play with friends. When we think of the road to accomplish something major, we think that ALL that time we'll have to be working and it's daunting. Because that's what it was like in school. But in reality, if you learn to work a bit, then play a bit, you can continue on the road to your goals with a freer mind.
Anyway, I don't have all the answers, and I'm in the struggle myself. But I just thought I'd share with everyone some of the things I've come to learn. I see a lot of comments saying that it's easier said than done. And really, I agree. Very few speakers are tackling the tangible everyday things that are plaguing the mind needed to even be receptive to these types of speeches.
TheBoomshine I can actually feel that right now, after a year of high school, I'm not funny anymore, I don't care about friend or girls at all, I'm just kinda meh, thank's for the comment, it might change my life, any extra help?
SickChip I'd say just make sure to take time out to hang with friends, play outside, do things you love... don't just sit around at the computer all day or over study. Don't cram or do all-nighters, try to set a certain amount of work time, and then some YOU time. It's really tough, I know it is. There's just so much work to do. If I could do it all over again, I'd know that I don't want to be a brain surgeon or engineer and just settle for moderate marks instead of over achieving in everything. And instead of thinking that school is my only source of education, I'd educate myself in LIFE. Talk to all sorts of people, pursue my passions, learn an instrument. Cause after high school the world is much different. There are more fulfilling things than grades or huge paychecks. Follow what you love because society is a trap. I think Mark Twain once said, "Don't let school get in the way of your education". Great quote. All the best, my friend. Try to keep that little fire alive in you, don't let the system take it from you. If it means getting that sleep and only studying half the material, or failing a quiz or two because you went for a bike ride instead, do it. Trust me, the world won't end. It'll only do the opposite. :)
TheBoomshine didnt watch to much of this but i agree. While im attending college now I think school does a horrible job in some areas because school can brainwash you to think this is all you need, Go to school and you are fine. Nope, you aren't, school is just a bonus.
Many parents are undoubtedly having way too much faith in school, they ignore their children more because they think they are taken care of in school, as if it is the answer to everything. In reality, you can have all the knowledge in the world but without a heart for something it doesn't matter worth shit. Parents need to think before having kids.
TheBoomshine you got it DOWN!! The world needs people like you to speak up more. Do you have a blog? I'm gonna check out your channel, I'll be disappointed if there is nothing there :) I am probably going to copy and paste your post here into Notepad. Much love.
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I need a TEDx video about how to stop watching TEDx videos, seriously i need to sleep
Lets recap......... Fine equals Fuck and she didn't say how much we have to pay for her to moon us. But....... not every seminar will be perfect.
I totally feel u.
Just do it.... you feel the impulse? Then do it.
Vê o video da Mel Robbins sobre a técnica dos 5 segundos; isso irá ajudar-te a não procrastinar o sono. É mais ou menos isto: força-te a começar a meter na cama antes de acabares de contar 5 segundos.
I like your response : ))
5 second rule - when you have an impulse, you must take physical action within 5 seconds, or your mind will hit the emergency brake (stop you from doing it/talk you out of it). So, the next time you have an impulse to do something (something positive of course), count down from 5 to 1 and then do it! Take action.
what about a 15 minute nap before that?
Very True.
If its for Allah and is a positive thing i would do it in less then 5 seconds, jk fbi dont come to my house your not invited LOL
@@paulgoogol2652 hahahaha, I was thinking the same :)
Crumpaloo this isn’t funny
11 years later, I watched this and went on a walk in a snowy beautful winter day. Thanks for the motivation.
I think the part that hit me the most was the autopilot vs. emergency break. As soon as she explained it my brain immediately jumped to a dozen different occasions where I've reflected on my own decisions and came to the exact same conclusion: If I just do it, it happens, but if I waver for even a short period of time (5 seconds), I'm almost guaranteed not to try whatever it is.
I think she's the most dynamic TED speaker I've ever listened to. Amazing.
For the scared public speakers out there, notice how much she stutters, gets her words wrong and says "sorry, I mean" and yet STILL delivers an amazing powerful speech while still seeming reliable, engaging, smart, passionate, funny, etc. It doesn't matter if you mess up!
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yeah because they'll get me even if I succeed
@@RakedLeaf 🙄
@@YDAh88 bro you don't know anything so don't mock me watch out for the vans or color coordinated attacks
@@RakedLeaf what 😂
I have listened to this lecture like 50 times over the last 7 years. It never gets old, i appreciate it every time. And i use it with my patients when they tell me they don't wanna fix their diet.
Self-sabotage due to confusing emotions is probably by far why most people end up not achieving their full potential !
Smartest comment I've seen
It isn't them?!? It is me?
So true! We often confuse fear or uncomfortableness with a sign that we’re heading in the wrong direction if it it takes us out of our comfort zone.
Exactly!
Short version: You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time.
Well said. Thanks
Yeah really. Good advice; but long winded.
Thank you for the short version - too much talking for my like.
yep yep yep I hears ya....
English lessons on the agenda
Very short version: just do it.
So, basically... "DO IT! Just DO IT! Don't let your dreams be dreams!"
My god ....U Dame right ... thnx honey
but with context.
Thank you Shia
Yes, dreams are Wonderful, but nothing ever happens or completed without Action.
Yesterday you said tomorrow, so just do it
I watched this video about 6 years ago but nothing seemed to click. I probably wasn't ready to accept it then.
Just got around to reading your book. It is so refreshing to see how much you have included the audience in your book. Its probably the first book that I have read as such.
In just one day of having starting to read and not even finishing it I have managed to do things that I have been putting off for years.
The only regret is why have I not done this earlier
What’s the book ?
I searched "how to get over depression" and I got here. I took a bowl of spaghetti and sat down to watch it. Half way through the video I'm crying telling myself "I'm not fine" with spaghetti falling out of my mouth.
You are amazing and you are great . 1, 2, 3,4, 5!
If not connect with me for more friends support - I believe in you
Huggie💛
Aww it’s gonna be okay wish you luck
Did the same thing..
hope you feeling better now
I was in tears.... and it came from somewhere much deeper... NOT the throat... it was not sadness or happiness... it was CONNECTION to what she is saying ,,,, SO grateful for having heard this.
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My life has changed from this, goals have been achieved, I'm happier
What goals if you will like to elaborate
said nobody ever.
For real? !
Would you mind sharing a short story of what happened? 😀
She’s like a mom to me i really needed to hear her words to become a better version of myself i love her
"If you feel dissatisfied or stuck in your life, it is a signal that one of your most basic needs are not being met."
Nice one!
@@nooneinparticular8383 Not nice one!
This world is deluded! Do you fear the unknown? No, you cannot fear something you don't know, you can fear letting go of what you know!
Awareness is the way to freedom and life. Pay attention and observe the present moment, how can you enjoy the moment if you're not in the moment?
Drop your illusions, opinions, concepts, prejudges, labels, expectations, drop them all and wake up.
Happiness lyes within you, you don't need to be rich, you don't need to be successful, you don't need friends, you don't need anything to be happy because a human being's natural state is happiness.
Look back to when you were three years old, where was your happiness coming from?
Friends? A career? Success? Money? Power? No.
Your happiness is within YOU. Wake up out of the condition you were put in.
Again, your happiness is within YOU.
I feel stuck and pretty much dissatisfied in ma life but I don't know wat to do abt it.
@@angiedonams1266
Try reading about self-awareness and self-trust.
Research shows those who are self-aware are more fulfilled, less likely to cheat, lie or steal, have stronger relationships, are more promotable and professional at what they do.
You've got to put yourself in the driver's seat and trust yourself, don't keep trusting what everyone else says about you.
You are the captain of your ship throuout your life, get out of your comfort zone , it's the truth
She just seems like a fun aunt... Idk
lmao, ikr. the type that gives you lots of money on your birthday, and takes you on spontaneous trips to disneyland
Yo she's my godmother
O...M...G...Change yer life...lol
Right! Aunt Mel!
I have an aunt exactly like this one! Upbeat, fun, positive, loving, etc!
Sadly I see her maybe once in 5 years or so...
Reading comments made me realize where not alone and most of us feel the same in life.
A.J. Nelson yes! And it’s a relief to me. I’m always screwing my self over in school and it makes me stressed and disappointed in myself.. but I realize that I’m not the only who is struggling with this or just other situations. Us people who are struggling are still trying to understand and learn how to manage things properly without any problems. Learn from it.
Yes, you're right.
Yes. Lets make some improvement
I have noticed how silencing my emotions a little bit and truly listening word for word what someone has to say, how much easier and calmer the atmosphere is. Always listen completely before speaking.
Such an awesome talk.
In a nutshell:
Action leads to motivation - not the other way around.
And, feelings are signals that a basic need is not being met. Don’t sit in complacency with these feelings - investigate them and take action to improve your situation and to work towards your goals and desires.
"The physical force required to change our behavior!" love it!
Yes, there is some truth to that. Like that Seinfeld episode where George does the exact OPPOSITE of what he normally does...
@@itspossibleonline7167 Oh, yes.
so if i am not motivated to start how i first take action at all?
Contradictory
@@cautarepvp2079 you'll never feel like it. You just force yourself. At least that's what she says.
"if you have to , force yourself to do what you have to do " ..that is the message I got ....I actually got up, took a shower , went to the gym , worked out ,and now I am glad I forced myself tot actually get up from the couch. Her message is actually powerful
Better to shower after the gym
Simple but not easy
Her message as described in the video is a simple one but effective nonetheless. As you just described it no one is coming to take you by the hand and force you to go to the gym so you have to force yourself, and in doing so you have just taken the first step to building a healthy habit.
10 minute meditation
her five second rule is great
This is definitely one of the best talks I've heard. Referring to the emergency brake she spoke of, our minds detect discomfort when you hesitate to do something e.g. get out of bed in the morning. And when that hesitation is made, that's what triggers the brake. You can apply that to anything. If you just get up and don't think about it, there's no hesitation, therefore no trigger.
She is an amazing speaker, I love when she said "I'm counting on you, you got stuff to do!"
Someone once said, "When you're in a deep hole, the first step in getting out of that hole is to stop digging.
Thank you, I really needed to read that right now
Sometimes i just really need to read something like this
Wooow....this should be at the top
is insane but we are said and we don't change nothing
Woooow😲😲
This reminds me of the brilliant book "Man's Search for Meaning" by Victor Frankl. You cannot control your environment and you may be in the worst situation but you hold the power to decide what to do in each moment. It is empowering to recognise that each moment is an opportunity to exercise this human dignity that we are all gifted.
As one of my favorite high school teachers said, "all the fun happens just outside your comfort zone"
and he (she) was tooootaly right. Just go out of your comfort zone! It sounds like a-super-coach-who-is-gonna-tell-you-how-to-life,but this is true.
I feel like one step for me is to know what are my comfort zones. Then if I catch myself resorting to them then I know what to do
L R Your gut will tell you when you are out of your comfort zone. It is the prime indicator and why we usually avoid acting on an idea.
Mel Robins 5 sec rule has helped me a lot in last one year. From striking a conversation with my dad to making a phone call to my friend, I have applied this rule enormous times. The good thing is as you start doing it, it becomes your habit to answer someone without hesitation , you start replying assertively. Though m yet to completely overcome this feeling of being stuck but m on it and it has helped me a lot .
Thanks Ma'am.
It was very inspiring when she says that."
Your problem is not ideas, your problems you don't act on them"
We always say that we will do this and this and this but we end up in a situation we do nothing except dreaming
1. Press this number 9:14
2. Wait 2 seconds
3. Repeat the process
😂😂😂
Ahahahahahhahahaha
Ahahahahahahahaha
Yuki Hiraoka Fernández underrated
LMFAO
She's so energetic, I went back to bed to rest in behalf of her
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She must’ve missed the Ted talk on the importance of sleep
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Today I literally woke up. I felt my vital energy. Thank you Mel Robbins.
I think she could be the most natural and talented speaker I've seen so far.
it's great, feels like she is talking to her kids
Felt the same way
I love listening to her books on audible. She's so relaxed.
Her confidence and presence is admirable. It must have taken a lot of practice to speak this well.
I saw in another video she said this was her first time speaking like this! Amazing
@@gdaymates431 wowee, what a natural.
Exactly my same thoughts. She’s a really great public speaker and I aspire to get to this level of public speaking.
Yes yes
I have chills bumps all over my body. Yesterday I almost took my life again. Couldn't see past my past and my mind wouldn't move. It's now thinking forward. Sitting on the edge of my bed cause i know, it's time for change.
I’m proud of you!
You are strong! I believe in you! You have the power to change your life
One step at a time :), self care is practice makes progress. Don’t worry about doing it fast or perfect
You can do it!!
@@haleystewart7900 thanks a million. Made me smile
What a fantastic speaker I’ve been listening to her last few years and came across this old talk and was fascinated by her stage performance and delivery . Goo Mel Robbins love you!!!
Wow this is so true! Especially where she starts at 16:20 . “When you start feeling dissatisfied, it means one of your psychological needs are not being met.” This took me a LONG time to learn!!
Happy for you. Why don't you read the book too. It has impacted me a lot and changed my mindset totally.
"Action leads to motivation"
This is so true!
Two weeks ago I forced myself to stop procrastinating (after years and years...and years of trying) and started being productive. I hated it at first but after 3 days of changing bad habits and doing other things other than just being on the internet I started to LOVE the feeling of satisfaction I got everytime I did some hard work. I really feel like I can do anything, after two weeks! I'm never going back to the dark mindset I was in before. I'm enjoying life now and I'm really excited about the future. I know I have a long way and it's not easy but this is the new me.
You just need to experience both feelings (feeling of disappointment after you do something to screw yourself and the feeling of satisfaction you get when you do some hard work that you know is beneficial for you) I can assure you that you will choose that feeling of satisfaction everytime.
Leticia Gonzalez Congratulations!
@@kamaramikel7291 Thanks! :D
How did you stop procastinatiing?? (helppp)
How to stop procastinating
To stop procrastinating you just need need to turn off your phone and start doing the important things you need to do, even if you don't like it. After some time you will forget about your phone 👌
I loved her self confidence and the way she speaks to the audience.I really found this video helpful 👏
What a scary woman.
@@vanDijkedits864 hahaha she was confidently scary , she did it amazing 🙌🏽
5:05 - fine
6:16 - convinced yourself you’re fine without the things you want
8:59 - inner snooze button analogy
9:58 - in any area you want to change, this is the fact
9 years later and this is still one of the if not THE best TED self motivation talk in my opinion. She has really gone on to become quite the success story herself. I love Mel Robbins.
I can’t believe how much this video has helped me. I love how she’s without any mercy, she’s so blunt with everyone.
I wish my parents were like this and that I was brought up with this mentality. But yet again, now it’s my own turn to make a difference in my everyday patterns and sort out inner voices from good ones and bad ones 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
I wish Mel would take it a step further and walk down into in the audience and just start slapping people and pinching them too.
Maria Running, your parents probably wanted too, but maybe you positioned them to not let them. So don't wish your parents were like Mel. Children reject parents advice a very high percent of the time and just maybe you were one of those kids.
She has a mid-west personality for sure, they have an internal toughness yet very outgoing and friendly.
Yet so full of lofe
yeah, but she should'nt have talked with those words. And she used a lot the word sxx, which is kind of disturbing.
This Tedx Talked CHANGED MY LIFE. Incorporating the 5 second rule helped me act, accomplish more and be the best version of myself. I shared how it helped me with my weight loss journey after having 2 under 2 babies. I have Mel Robbins to thank!
"you have life changing ideas for a reason and its not to torture yourself" I think every artist / creative person needs to hear this
This is the last motivational video I'm watching for the next three months and I'm going to apply every last thing she said and see what happens. And I will be back.................
Rahul Saini looking forward to hear how it was
Rahul Saini PERSEVERE!!!!!!
same
Rahul Saini You're inspiring!!!
When you come back can you tell us how's it's been
I rewatched this video after 5 years and it is awesome to see how much I've grown ever since. Thanks Mel
Omg I love this woman. She's so real. We all need a real person in our lives. It's refreshing and if we could just get that little push from someone so energetic and ready for life!! Definitely needed this now. Thank you! Mel Robbins!
I tell everyone like it is I get into allot of trouble but at the end of the day I'm happier I didn't holds it in
Hi Wendy Looking forward to sharing our tany
Needed this! I live in my head and stay scared to death of everything. I’ve created so many phobias that when I’m not working, I don’t want to be around people. I literally have panic attacks to go shopping in a big store. It takes all my energy to work in the public every day. I’m very passionate and great at working. I have so many goals, if I could just get out of the habit of pulling emergency brake. She’s so right about everything she said. Very enjoyable and encouraging. We need more people like this!
I feel your pain , I’ve been like this for 30 years. It’s something that never goes away, I just learn to manage it better. Running, meditation, prayer helps. Maybe get on antidepressant if you have too.
Mel is so full of energy! She practises the 5 second rule so that the brakes don't kick in. Love it, Mel!
Her speech is very inspiring. Absolutely love her personality & energy.
Same here!
If 11 million people were this unsatisfied 9 years ago .... just imagine 2020 😳
LITERALLY.
In USA
A billionaire said, "I do what you don't wanna do to be where you wanna be."
1. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time.
2. You're never going to feel like it
3. You are not fine
4. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change
5. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be
6. YOU HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE
I was thinking the same thing!!
Seeing someone that is that good at public speaking is impressive. Great advice too. 👍
poor public speaker ... and i bet worse in private or personal ...OMski
I watched this Tedx Talk 4 years ago and that's the first video to ever change my life. Robbins is who we should be looking up to. I'm so glad I discovered her when I was 13.
Her book "5 second rule" was very motivating. It was like having an American power mum in my back to push me forward.
5,4,3,2,1 You are awesome!
I found it the same like U. Great book
Patrick Goppold I'll check it out, thanks for the referral!
Patrick Goppold
What’s an “American power mum”?
my mom is d same n i totaly disagre with that philosophy It worths pondering on WHY our moms have that philosophy why they developed it n we dont?
Patrick Goppold glaubsch ja selber nid
8 years on and this video is still as relevant as ever
Absolutely
not anymore...
-Think about what you want - Be selfish and specific
-Don't tell yourself you're 'fine' - you probably convinced yourself that the thing you truly want, you're 'fine' not having it. You're never going to feel like changing. Stop waiting for a perfect time.
-You're never going to 'feel like it', don't hit snooze on your ideas.
-It's your job to make yourself do the things you don't want to do, so that you can be everything you're supposed to be.
-Force yourself to change your routine - anything that's a break from your routine is going to require force. Waking up earlier is a representation of the physical force required to change.
-Feeling stuck/dissatisfied with your life is a signal that one of your most basic needs aren't being met - the need for. You have to do what you don't want to do, so you can be everything you're supposed to be.
-Get out your head.
-Get past your feelings.
-Get your comfort zone. You have to force yourself to be uncomfortable.
-Don't think too much, do something fast before you end up pulling the "emergency brakes"
-Act on your ideas or impulse
"When you listen to how you feel about what you want you will not get it because you will never feel like it."
A lot of people in the comments seem to be deeply examining her speech, but I'm going to take away the main lesson I learned.. That when I want something, I need to just go for it, and stop making excuses. At the end of the day, I don't want to regret not doing everything possible to live my dream life.
Sums it up
That was the longest Nike commercial I've ever seen.
LOL
I was thinking the same thing! XD
LMAO
Yes!
Cin Rose very smart comment ☺
Wow, that was inspiring. **Goes read the comments**
Ikr!!!!! Same
you got me!
Comments are inspiring too sometimes :D
And then realise people don't like her. I honestly feel it's one of the best ted talk I have EVER seen. I don't understand why people didn't like her.
@@somyaupadhyay9975 maybe it's because she was so upfront. So direct. Ruthless if you will. That is what "scared" me too in the first minutes. But tbh that's also the thing making her so great.
Damn. This one hit the core. I have always wanted to start a digital business but the excuses I make hold me back and I don't feel like l’m living my life. This is a boost!! 🔥
If you are in your head you’re behind enemy lines..... profound!
"I'm so happy because today
I've found my friends
They're in my head"
-- Nirvana
What a fantastic speaker! I'm inspired. Not just by the content, but the delivery.
my thoughts too !
there was no content...
Me too
This is one of the most boring Teds I have yet come across!
Her message is powerful and exactly what one needs to hear when your life is out of bounds
*You are so right, I even downloaded it and some other tedtalk videos, converted them to Mp3 format and uploaded to my mobile phone. So I can listen whilst I am on the move*
To anyone who feels life is pathetic or it sucks.. just know you are doing your best and you are special no matter what the enemy brings to you.. do not allow fear doubt to mess up your life.. you are worth more than you believe or think
In highschool 3rdQ recently I've been having a thoughts to kill myself but it's wrong making me procastinate more I think it started 2month ago
What should I do( note:please don't involve others to the sulution I'm really weak at that part
when life seems like it's falling apart , it's just 'falling into place'...OMski
Are u alive @@nicoleasi2656
I watched this high and it was life changing
+perilsofmelancholic :)
facts lol
how did it change your life
i cant lol jk
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL