You’re the only one who can change your life, job, body or relationships | Mel Robbins

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  • No one's coming to push you to do it, to decide that you are enough or to claim the happiness and success that's yours… But here I am, telling you that I want to be your coach in my new 5-week coaching program Launch with Mel Robbins. After 5 weeks with me, you're gonna remember who you are and you're gonna have the tools to go create whatever the heck you want next.
    Learn more ➡️ www.melrobbins.com/launch
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    No one is coming.
    It's true.
    No one is coming to do the work to change your life, your job, your body or your relationships.
    Whenever I feel stuck, frustrated or lost I tell myself "no one's coming."
    It is not only true - it's very motivating. It always makes me (as my mother says) "pull up my big girl panties" and just face whatever it is I don't wanna deal with.
    And yet…
    Once you make that decision to change… Always and I mean always ask for help.
    I was just reminded of that because of a text I received literally five minutes ago (I'll tell you the story in the video) and it made me want to reach out to you...
    It's true, "no one is coming" ... and if you're ready to pull up your big person panties and face your problems and do the work to start this next new chapter...
    Here I am.
    I will be you coach.
    I'm serious.
    For the next five weeks, I am leading a five week daily coaching program called Launch with Mel Robbins.
    As your coach, I'll bring the energy, positivity and give you the structure and accountability you need right now
    Just imagine how different your life would feel if on June 13 you just finished five weeks of coaching with me, Mel Robbins as your coach.
    After 5 weeks with me, you're gonna remember who you are and you're gonna have the tools to go create whatever the heck you want next.
    No one's coming to push you to do it, to decide that you are enough or to claim the happiness and success that's yours… But here I am, telling you that I want to be your coach
    Learn more ➡️ www.melrobbins.com/launch
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    We launch, together - Monday May 9th. xo
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  • @sandrazires3661
    @sandrazires3661 2 роки тому +184

    Every single morning when I wake up I hear Mel’s voice say “Nobody is coming, get up.” ❤️

    • @emh8861
      @emh8861 2 роки тому +2

      😭

    • @lotusstar347
      @lotusstar347 2 роки тому +9

      Loved this!

    • @jayjaya5957
      @jayjaya5957 Рік тому +5

      Beautiful 😍

    • @TheJimbo1791
      @TheJimbo1791 6 місяців тому

      Me too, then I hear Jehova´s witnesses knocking on the door.

  • @Joybells2798
    @Joybells2798 2 роки тому +276

    I finally started loving myself. I have made a few major life style changes including: exercising, resigning from a toxic job and accepting the end of a piss poor long term relationship. It’s all about me. I am responsible for me. I love me and I want the best for me! It’s personal and all about me. I also got off the social media grid and removed toxic friends and family from my life. I can finally breathe.

    • @Joybells2798
      @Joybells2798 2 роки тому +47

      I got a job offer today after 4 months. I am finally winning again!

    • @desireesalas5820
      @desireesalas5820 2 роки тому +11

      @@Joybells2798 Congrats!

    • @MyOver50
      @MyOver50 2 роки тому +5

      Such awesomeness!!

    • @thekingjamesversion
      @thekingjamesversion 2 роки тому +5

      Congratulations!

    • @lg2573
      @lg2573 2 роки тому +3

      Good on you that’s awesome

  • @marielcrook2031
    @marielcrook2031 2 роки тому +131

    From my Grandmma's autograph book over 130+ years ago . . . "Love many, trust few; Always paddle your own canoe". 💖

    • @shannonhpolson
      @shannonhpolson Рік тому +4

      that's brilliant! I love that.

    • @lorim1234
      @lorim1234 Рік тому +1

      @@shannonhpolsonthat saying used to be written in year books back in the 80’s :)

    • @tatiediallo9909
      @tatiediallo9909 Рік тому +1

      Love it

    • @octaviamoore5194
      @octaviamoore5194 Рік тому +2

      Your granny is a wise woman 💞 God bless.

    • @Dhji876
      @Dhji876 Рік тому +1

      Love this!

  • @veronikafernandes2670
    @veronikafernandes2670 2 роки тому +196

    When no one is coming means letting go of the bullshit and politics and accepting the fact that in this life we are alone and its up to you to decide what matters and just do it

    • @birdlover7776
      @birdlover7776 2 роки тому +7

      Yes

    • @TheBeatdownBros
      @TheBeatdownBros 2 роки тому +6

      @@birdlover7776 perfect

    • @TheBeatdownBros
      @TheBeatdownBros 2 роки тому +6

      Well said

    • @natural1863
      @natural1863 2 роки тому +3

      Well said ‼️

    • @site_is_down
      @site_is_down 2 роки тому +7

      I truly agree with this! No one's responsible for our own life than us.. I hope people who can see the good comments in here can find the courage to let go of someone else's expectations and someone's toxicity on us.

  • @newnece09
    @newnece09 2 роки тому +261

    I’m retired and now I’m selling my home to join the Van life. It’s a big deal and I’ve felt the fear of changing my life and move from my home town and hit the unknown road.I have to let go of all my stuff. 68 years of stuff! I needed to hear this tonight Thank You Mel 🌹

    • @user-wu4en7ck1i
      @user-wu4en7ck1i 2 роки тому +7

      A brave decision !

    • @SheriLatulip
      @SheriLatulip 2 роки тому +11

      Happy Retirement!

    • @SheriLatulip
      @SheriLatulip 2 роки тому +10

      Cheap RV Living

    • @sl4983
      @sl4983 2 роки тому +5

      You're going to live in a van? How does that work?

    • @newnece09
      @newnece09 2 роки тому +43

      I buy a van and travel. I can stay at RV parks and friends or family driveways as I visit. Just for a few years then probably build a tiny house on my nieces property. I need a change. See the USA 🇺🇸 and Canada 🇨🇦 and maybe Mexico or South America. Just want to go with the flow

  • @MsMcrowe
    @MsMcrowe 2 роки тому +39

    I understand the "it's too late" mentality. I am 57 and feel like all the things I have most wanted secretly in my thoughts are now out of reach. I have realized that live happens and before you know it you are 57 and you have lost touch with what you want the most, the life you want, the body you want, etc. NO ONE is going to come into your life and make things happen! Thank you, Mel, for your motivation and reminder that YOU have to make the changes and stop waiting for it to happen. It really is a DECISION! Thank You

    • @jennybelcourt3835
      @jennybelcourt3835 Рік тому

      Mary good for you

    • @jcm5171
      @jcm5171 Рік тому

      That speaks volumes to me. I have always tried to do it alone. Not good. I want to exercise, start working via Internet, do agility with my dog, go no contact with my narcissistic mother who is killing me -- I am so done with enduring. I'm 68 years old and have been depleted and depressed for years and, yes, I have just realized that no one's coming. I have studied all I could about Narcissism and Gifted adults (I was recently diagnosed) and I have started therapy. You know so much, Mel. You are terrific.

  • @leitanewman8991
    @leitanewman8991 2 роки тому +30

    I'm so sick of saying "I gotta" this and "I gotta" that. I need to say "no one is coming" and push through that crippling feeling of being overwhelmed.
    Thank you for all that you do ❤️

  • @lynettebowers77
    @lynettebowers77 2 роки тому +29

    Nobody is going to make sure I’m happy , I am responsible for my own happiness

  • @carrieknoth4346
    @carrieknoth4346 Рік тому +8

    Watching from Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. In a nut she'll, this is the video that snapped me out of a mega depression. I've been waiting and waiting and wasring my life for two decades. This one video in particular has been life changing. I could go on and on about it.

  • @kjmav10135
    @kjmav10135 2 роки тому +30

    I’m doing this! :) Moving to Chicago in a couple of weeks. I resigned my current job and told my landlord I wouldn’t be continuing the lease. I am confident that the job I want will be in Chicago for me. Already in the middle of interviews for it. I don’t even have it yet. After several months of hand-wringing and longing, I finally just had to tell myself “GO!” Out there without a net, except for my friends. They are my net. I’m scared out of my wits, and excited!

    • @kjmav10135
      @kjmav10135 2 роки тому +3

      @Joey Barszcz Thanks Joey! I was offered and accepted a GREAT job with a rock-solid company last Thursday. My last day at my old job was Friday. I move on Saturday. My house is happy chaos. Boxes everywhere! I was born and raised in the NW Suburbs, so I’m coming home!

    • @Joybells2798
      @Joybells2798 2 роки тому

      @@kjmav10135 congratulations

  • @aidasark3771
    @aidasark3771 2 роки тому +40

    Had a breakdown last night and realized no one is coming. The odd thing is I’ve been doing ALL the work the last several years and my life has drastically improved BUT in my subconscious I always thought that someone is coming to help make things easier. And that thought has been holding me back ❤

    • @jopic100
      @jopic100 Рік тому +8

      Hey , I hope you are doing awesome now , I just saw your comment and I wanted to say that my hole life I feel and strongly believe that i need help from People around me , that I need their support and I Always feel so insecure of myself .. till 1 day all of a sudden my neighbour Said to me : You have been doing everything by yourself all your life , you are so stuborn and everything that comes to your mind you make it happen , but its just your own feeling that blocks you and makes you think that you need someones support , you only feel insecure and ask for their advice and support but no matter what they say to you , you allways go ahead and do it anyway ... So it made me realize thats the truth ... Maybe its the truth for you also 😏

    • @sunshinedeakin5541
      @sunshinedeakin5541 Рік тому

      I hear,feel you,,,,,can totally relate!!! 😌🙏💛🥰🤗

    • @sarahmc8309
      @sarahmc8309 Рік тому +5

      It’s okay to ask for help . Not everyone can do everything all on their own 24/7 hours bath also leads to toxic mindset . I was the same and always did things myself but sometimes when gets too much I didn’t ask for help . I’m a single deaf women and sometimes it is okay ask for some help get your feet up !

  • @josephkaminer2337
    @josephkaminer2337 2 роки тому +41

    Thank you so much Mel! I'm 63 years old and have literally failed at everything in life. I recently waisted eleven years in total failure and stagnation. And the pandemic certainly didn't and doesn't help. I had to literally ask myself the question, "whether I wanted to continue living or not." And the answer was yes. But you have to be realistic in your goals and expectations also. Many situations and opportunities are no longer available to you, so you must plan towards things that are realistically available and possible for you at this time and stage in your life. And like I heard in a movie once, " Baby steps." Downsize your expectations and concentrate on small changes towards a happier existence. And your definitely right when you say, "No one's coming!" Personally I have no family or friends to depend on in my effort! And although its hard to here that no one is coming to save me, its also good to know. Because I need to go forward and do things on my own to get to a happier existence through my own efforts! The calvary is not coming to save the day. I don't really know what to do to, or how to, accomplish this better existence I want and need. But I'm going to start somewhere to try and achieve it! My work and social situation is intolerable! It's just not working! Pandemic or no pandemic! Life is one big adjustment. And you just have to constantly adapt to stay on course, like a ship in a storm! Thanks for the discussion because its a real beginning for me!

    • @annisechetelat9026
      @annisechetelat9026 Рік тому +5

      I've been anchored for too long, myself. I'm around your age and know where you are coming from in a lot of ways. BEEN THERE too and my ME is lacking strength. Just watched the video and it at least started my thinking process.

  • @wandai.7038
    @wandai.7038 2 роки тому +76

    Mine is realizing how much I try to push myself into people's lives and feel bad when they aren't as forthcoming as I am. No one is coming! Create my own happiness and activities. Volunteer more and give back. Be happy - again - in my own skin. See friends and family as accessories and not my main sources of happiness and fulfillment .

    • @xocoolchickxo
      @xocoolchickxo 2 роки тому +6

      I love this comment1 I'm going to save this because I relate so much. take care of yourself 💗

    • @wandai.7038
      @wandai.7038 2 роки тому +2

      @@xocoolchickxo Thank you!

    • @two-sixteen1937
      @two-sixteen1937 2 роки тому +5

      "See friends and family as accessories and not my main sources of happiness and fulfillment." I like how you worded that, Wanda. I totally agree. One of the things I like best about accessories is that they are removable.

    • @site_is_down
      @site_is_down 2 роки тому +3

      Good job on that! It's now time to finally be free from trying to please everyone in order for us to be happy - as we are our own happiness 💙

  • @evelynmarin8464
    @evelynmarin8464 2 роки тому +21

    When no one is coming means I have no excuses to fall back on, that I am truly the only person in charge of my own happiness. I have realized this in the last two years. I have had no one to hold my hand anymore and I truly saw I was the only person who truly cared about my happiness.

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Рік тому

      Hello! How are you doing?

  • @yurila50tonagomez98
    @yurila50tonagomez98 2 роки тому +5

    Hi! I just found you, and I was shocked that you know exactly what I am thinking, and exactly how I am feeling. I am so lost, and I don’t know what to do with myself. After years of being my mother’s caregiver (along with my sisters), she passed from alzheimers. Well, now I have lost my purpose. I will continue to watch you. I am going to start a change

    • @Joybells2798
      @Joybells2798 2 роки тому +1

      6 years ago I was in your shoes. Allow yourself to feel every emotion. Finally, I have found my purpose and managed to find comfort. Praying for you. Self care is important.

  • @sissy2011100
    @sissy2011100 2 роки тому +50

    Hi Mel- watching from Anaheim California!!! This always hits me between the eyes! “ no body coming to save you” ouch & get it together! It hits hard🌐

  • @wendystarrbrothers9316
    @wendystarrbrothers9316 2 роки тому +8

    I wish I could afford to participate in the launch. But it's just me now, and every bit of money I make, goes to bills, IRS and pets. My divorce almost killed me. 2 years I sat in a pity pool of self hatred and misery. But I finally said enough is enough at the beginning of March of this year. I was lucky to find a job that I love, working with kids and their disabilities, helping them to prepare to work in jobs out in the community. And its the best feeling to give to others, which has been a big part of my healing. I still have days that I wake up with anger, hurt and self doubt. So every morning I put my ear phones in and pull you up. And Holy heck. You give me that extra push I need to get myself out of the funk. I'd love more, I need more. But priorities. I do thank you for what you give here. You've help me more than you could ever know. High 5, and a 5. 4. 3. 2. 1.
    God Bless

    • @SheriLatulip
      @SheriLatulip 2 роки тому +4

      Giving is the key it gets you out of your head God Bless you for helping those young adults it takes a special person of heart to do that.

  • @lisadixon3431
    @lisadixon3431 2 роки тому +69

    Watching from Monroe, LA. I’m 53 also and in a rut! I feel like I just dont have the energy anymore to get things done.

    • @Changeworld408
      @Changeworld408 2 роки тому

      Hang in there Lisa, 54 yr male with teenagers and wife unemployed and fearfull for looking for new employment, fear of lack, bad sleep. Never felt so much dispair because i had enough of two yrs of covid nonsens, gevernment tyranny and employers tyranny. Now this ukraine lies in the media (giving the impression that Putin is full out war and my country is embracing ukrainians as if they where the lost son while people like me don't touch a dime and people are being harassed by employers(take the jab, put on yr face diaper and obey and behave like a robot. I hope the astrologers are right and we are entering aquarius and this is only the patriarchy gripping us by the troat to keep there power. I hope all tyranny will end and people will be free, safe and peacefull(no more stress about bills) and caring for planet and other species and making people feel enjoying their lives in stead of wanting to escape this tyranical place.
      You are for sure a beautifull being meant to enjoy yr life and feel love from family, friends, . We are worthy beings, YOU ARE OKE (lorie Ladd)

    • @sl4983
      @sl4983 2 роки тому

      .

    • @doloreshayden1274
      @doloreshayden1274 2 роки тому +9

      I'm 57, feel the same, RN quit 11/21, got real estate,life, health license but,ughhhh

    • @Goddibaba
      @Goddibaba 2 роки тому +2

      Hang in there, Lisa

    • @1maybeline
      @1maybeline 2 роки тому +2

      @@doloreshayden1274 Congrats on the change you made! Finding clients is the hardest part. You'll have to start some sort of marketing strategy to get the clients. Keep going!

  • @compilations1
    @compilations1 Рік тому +13

    I’ve had this thought many times recently. I’m 54 and have a daughter and I’ve realized I’m totally alone in this world and this video has been even more eye opening. Thank you

    • @jdao6131
      @jdao6131 4 місяці тому

      I am just watching this video - I know it’s old but I read your comment and wanted to send you a virtual hug. I am going on 52, have 1 daughter and although we have the best relationship I sometimes feel alone. This video hit me as well - time to live life and do what makes us happy 🫶🏻🤗

  • @mcmjr405
    @mcmjr405 2 роки тому +114

    I’m in Dallas, Texas. I love the audio of “no one is coming…” it’s often exactly what I need and say to myself before I count 5-4-3-2-1.

    • @pootypump7440
      @pootypump7440 2 роки тому +1

      I don't think most need a preachy UA-cam video to know that. But make a video, hey views and cash... I get that

    • @dianezemliak5606
      @dianezemliak5606 2 роки тому +1

      I'm a counter too...... it helps me push through almost anything!!

  • @jessicaestes
    @jessicaestes 2 роки тому +57

    I am in the middle of a career change and your videos lately have been my fuel. Thank you and lots of love to you from sunny Florida!

    • @ana05shetty
      @ana05shetty 2 роки тому +2

      Same with me .

    • @doloreshayden1274
      @doloreshayden1274 2 роки тому +3

      Florida here also, it may be sunny, but, I have a cloud over me

    • @ebazileyes1475
      @ebazileyes1475 2 роки тому +2

      @@doloreshayden1274 Don't claim it...it will get better!

    • @SephoraQueen2k
      @SephoraQueen2k 2 роки тому +4

      Same here, I’m ready for my new beginning

    • @djw8504
      @djw8504 Рік тому

      Hello from crazy weather Florida!!🤪😁

  • @anastaciaperriello7113
    @anastaciaperriello7113 Рік тому +14

    YES!! THIS is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! 💯 % I kept thinking I need a miracle, simply because fear and depression have kept me making the same poor choices over and over, and I keep getting the same crappy results. I think about how desperate, lost and stuck I feel every single day--and today was no exception. I was thinking I need to make changes in my life; I just couldn't do any of this on my own. So you've also helped me realize that I don't have to do it alone, I can ask for help from those who've been there and changed their own lives. Thank You 💗

  • @farahmohammed1963
    @farahmohammed1963 2 роки тому +2

    No one is coming…. A sobering & stark realization. Enough of the drama, blame-gaming & hand-wringing! Enough!! I am SO DONE with what is!!! I’m getting real: No one is coming! Thank you!!🌺

  • @Peaceonearthrn
    @Peaceonearthrn 2 роки тому +11

    Funny. I went from being "the coach" and person inspiring people to finding myself needing a new path! I will continue to listen.

  • @cognitivespecialist
    @cognitivespecialist 2 роки тому +12

    I agree. I feel we don't emphasize enough how WE are responsible for OUR own life. We depend and hope on things and other people .We need to count on ourselves. The rest is a bonus .

  • @sissy2011100
    @sissy2011100 2 роки тому +13

    I want to push my candle business from the garage to create & publish a website & sell online 🕯

  • @melissagarland3876
    @melissagarland3876 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you Mel. You bet I so needed to hear that. No one is coming. How scary. Scares the crap outta me. Tells me I gotta get to work. Out of a 28 year marriage and 5 year divorce...I've sat, literally sat stagnant for 5 years plus waiting for someone to come. I didn't even realize that til now. Until you said it. Its time for me to take control and launch. I need help. Starting from ground zero. Don't know where I'm going but I know I don't want to stay here. Stuck. Please take me with you! Thanks Mel! ~Mel :) Reno, NV

    • @juliebryant3968
      @juliebryant3968 2 роки тому

      Yes no one is coming...and she isn't going to help either...

  • @d.w.7114
    @d.w.7114 2 роки тому +6

    No one can save me or fix me. I must pull myself out of the loneliness, sadness, and depression that I am currently stuck in.

  • @facilissima4454
    @facilissima4454 2 роки тому +13

    I left medical school and now I am first year university again, but in a new subject. I don’t have motivation to study, I don’t have energy, I procrastinate and I feel so lazy. I waste time all day and I have 8 exams in June, I am not prepared for none of them. These words were exactly what I needed to hear.

    • @Jane5720
      @Jane5720 2 роки тому +3

      Facilissima You’re wasting a lot of time and a lot of lotta money by going to school and not paying attention

    • @ebazileyes1475
      @ebazileyes1475 2 роки тому

      Take a run and work up some sweat to get your energy and spirit recharge!! And tell yourself "Today is the day my determination starts! Keep saying it until you feel that burning desire. Don't waste your money And sweep all negative away. All the best. 🌍

  • @Nickodecadence
    @Nickodecadence Рік тому +4

    I always tell this to myself "no one is coming to save myself, it is just me that will do the work" thank you Mel

  • @rebekah518
    @rebekah518 2 роки тому +22

    I’m having that moment Mel! NO ONE IS COMING! And I am freaking over the crap!, thank you

  • @nomsamhlontlo4760
    @nomsamhlontlo4760 2 роки тому +29

    I was thinking about the exact same thing yesterday and today this video comes up. It feels like this message is meant for me. I'm done with self sabotage! NOBODY IS COMING

    • @decemberlotus
      @decemberlotus 2 роки тому +1

      But everyone's watching

    • @site_is_down
      @site_is_down 2 роки тому +1

      You are now free and you can now free yourself from everyone who tries to steal your sunshine away from you! Do your own, be your own, for your own. Live free, Nomsa!

  • @DianeKieckeRealtor
    @DianeKieckeRealtor 2 роки тому +2

    I can’t seem to stop vaping and although I don’t think I’m an alcoholic, I drink a couple glasses of wine each night and I stay up to late and then I ruin my morning by getting up to late.
    I’ve been going through a divorce for 3 years now. We lost our son 7 years ago and I found out my husband has had affairs throughout most of our marriage. Mel, you are so right, no one is coming, it is all about me.
    Thanks for this great talk, I needed it. God bless you!

  • @juliecampbell8966
    @juliecampbell8966 2 роки тому +15

    Am in Sydney Australia and for the last three years I want to start to ride my horse again! The one thing that silence the mind and provides me with so much joy and fulfilment. We have had so much happening and I drive and walk past my beautiful horses every day feeling like a failure and imposter and I just can't seem to find my path back to the passion that makes my heart full. I hear you and this message...I am making the decision to go and get him out of paddock and do e feeling guilty and unworthy of this beautiful animal ❤️

  • @lesbiacandelaria9354
    @lesbiacandelaria9354 Рік тому +39

    I know that I’m one of thousands writing to you…I would’ve loved to listen to this in live but today is December 8, 2022 and I’m so lost and just realized there’s nobody that can understand me nor coming to guide me; that I have to do this on my own. I wish I could have you as my personal coach. I’m broken in every area. I wish I could go back in time when I wanted to go to St Thomas and take my Nursing Board on my own, but I listened to my mom when she told me that I couldn’t go by myself because it was dangerous and I didn’t know anyone….I listened to those words and could never got my license, after all the years studying. That’s been more than 30 yrs. I don’t want to listen to any other voices and beed to be strong and sure of my acts. I’m 62 yrs now and I’m frustrated doing things that I don’t like. I want to start over again….

    • @karlareyes4688
      @karlareyes4688 Рік тому +5

      You can still have the life you wanted. Don't give up. Believe me when I tell you you're not alone. I'm struggling too with so many things in my life, I'm overwhelmed but listeing to this has helped me realize the power to change my circumstances is in my hands. No one's coming but that doesn't mean we're alone. We can come out stronger and enjoy life the way we want. Blessings to you 😊🙏🏼

    • @epiphanydurham-arrives9256
      @epiphanydurham-arrives9256 Рік тому +7

      Boy I can relate to that so much. I'm sending positive vibes out to you that you're doing better now.

    • @TheJimbo1791
      @TheJimbo1791 Рік тому +7

      I am totally broken as well. And I mean deep shit. Lets not give up, even though it seems like hell.

    • @yawaafghani5205
      @yawaafghani5205 Рік тому +3

      You are not alone, there millions having regrets in life , but you must move on because you don’t want to regret NOT MOVING on,, enjoy whatever u have now because no matter who you ended up becoming

    • @shannonhpolson
      @shannonhpolson Рік тому +5

      @@TheJimbo1791 take one step. Just one step today. And one step tomorrow. The momentum that will build over time is amazing. You can do it.

  • @justagirljean1111
    @justagirljean1111 2 роки тому +2

    Started back to university in Jan to finish my bachelors degree. I’m 50! I’ve been plugging away at it here and there and damnit I will finish. In one year I’ll check this off my list and I’ll feel so great. But it’s not easy with a career and kids at home. Also need to face a divorce that have been resisting. It’s time to be healthy. No one will do this for me and boy have I wished! I will survive. I will be better. I already am. Thx Mel for keeping it real!!! I need the hard truth sometimes. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @realjackpile
    @realjackpile Рік тому +1

    Thanks, Mel. You're such a bright light. Now 58 and I can't get my startup off the ground after three years. Immrunning out of money and watch other people and friends have high net worth and I'm behind the curve and harder to get a job. So much self pity. I sometime can't get out of bed. I had so many dreams when younger. And have 1 of 2 daughters estranged me and my wife. So much self pity. No one cares. I feel so sad and frustrated. Friends disappear. Cry. And I care so much for others.

  • @reneeschramm7023
    @reneeschramm7023 2 роки тому +5

    SOOOOOO needed to hear this message this morning!!!! "Letting go and deciding it's time for a change is easier than gripping on to stuff that's no longer meant to you" Thanks Mel!

  • @susanmensching7235
    @susanmensching7235 2 роки тому +6

    I have started an amazing journey and I have you to thank Mel I have read your books and started the journaling and the ideas started flowing. The self doubt started in…stopped! I reached out to people, friends , asked for the chance, the job, the opportunity, and everyone was so supportive. I have shared you to colleagues who need you. No one’s coming…that’s fine because I’m not there. Im launched. You’re amazing Mel love your light!

  • @renakirsch2804
    @renakirsch2804 Рік тому +1

    Mel, I feel like you are speaking directly to me. Everything you say is exactly what I need to hear. Not just this time either. Every time you speak it’s like it’s meant for me. So I want to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. You’re 5-4-3-2-1 got me out of bed in the morning and then got me over my depression! I can’t believe such a simple tool did it. I am so optimistic that you are going to help me get unstuck and actually DO something to change my life. You make so much sense to me. Keep doing your thing because you are so good at it. Oh and I will pray for you to feel less lonely. I am way too familiar with that feeling as well. Blessings to you!!! ❤

  • @rainbow616
    @rainbow616 2 роки тому +2

    It's like a weight is lifted off of me by you saying out loud all the things I have been feeling especially the last 2 years! To know that I'm not the only one. 🙏❤

  • @jeanettedudley2063
    @jeanettedudley2063 2 роки тому +4

    You know you are right everything you said I can relate .now I need to do the work. Thank you.

  • @jeffdonk8458
    @jeffdonk8458 2 роки тому +3

    Absolutely!!! I've waited for someone to come long enough. Nobody is going to make my life better. There is only one person I can rely on to have my best interests at heart,...that's me!!

    • @jeffdonk8458
      @jeffdonk8458 2 роки тому +1

      The high five thing works, It feels stupid at first but once you do it for a couple of weeks you see how much it works to build the self confidence you need.

  • @JackieOgle
    @JackieOgle Рік тому +1

    I just started following you. Thank you. I have been angry and frustrated for a long time about things I felt were out of my control no matter how I tried. I really see I can do it. I know things need changed and I can change me. Not others.

  • @alisonhillis9849
    @alisonhillis9849 2 роки тому

    Love you Mel, your authenticity is refreshing. Keep being who you are - the world needs you! ♥️

  • @junebenson6497
    @junebenson6497 Рік тому +7

    I have been going through a lot of new physical & mental pain and I was asking for help from the Universe and the Lord. I came across your video, Mel, and I said this was meant for me. This video is exactly what I needed to hear, yet people in my life have been saying this to me for what feels like forever. I have to admit when I hear "No one is coming" I feel my heart sink because to me it means no one cares. Yeah, I'm hard on myself, have anxiety so bad that I worry about things so much that I can't make a decision so I give up.
    "No one is coming" is the phrase I needed to hear but also being told to not do it all on my own made me feel better. I've been stuck in a cycle of progress where I spend the money for voice over Masterclasses, buy the course, do the course-work...but then something happens that I don't know how to handle and I give up. I can feel myself right on the edge of success if I just push myself that little bit, if I stay with it and push myself through it...but I get scared (of being successful and my life changing overnight and I'll be happy) and give up. I have so many issues with self-esteem; confidence; believing in myself; trusting I can do it even though I have done that exact same thing in the past; I can't make a decision on anything without thinking it might be the "wrong" one so I never make that decision, I never take that first step. I'm extremely hard on myself and impatient, I am trying to be satisfied with the "little steps" because my entire life (39) I've tried going after what I wanted in one giant leap just to have it bite me in the ass and make me start all over again.
    I'm 39 still living with my dad in the house I grew up in, in the room I had when I was 12...no job, no boy-friend (ever), no social life (the pandemic has blessed me with social anxiety), no single friends to go socialize with, more physical pain I've ever been in, working through the horrible withdrawal symptoms of Cymbalta. Yet, I'm doing okay and my brain doesn't let me recognize the good shit I've been able to do despite all the crap I'm dealing with. My "All or Nothing" "Black & White" thinking has been ruining my life because I can't convince myself there's more than one way to do something; I feel like I'm running out of time to enjoy my life working with my voice to help people (animation is my dream job yes, a singing Disney Princess, yes I sing :) 🎶🎶
    I know I don't want to be stuck in this life anymore but I'm too scared to do what I need to to get where & what I want, the hard work scares me and that's another reason I give up. There's so much of life I'm missing because I'm scared shitless to make a mistake, scared shitless to even take the first step, scared shitless that what if I make a wrong decision and won't have enough time left in my life to fix it and do what I want to do.
    Adhd too :). I missed LAUNCH for this year but I am on the waiting list for 2023!
    Mel, you are the kind of coach I need, someone who tells me "No one is coming" but gives me the tools to help myself. I signed up for RESET and will start tomorrow!
    I hope to make it to your 2023 LAUNCH coaching, boy I really need it!

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Рік тому

      My thoughts exactly..... I was watching videos on UA-cam until I came across your lovely profile. How are you doing?

  • @analiciahazelby4945
    @analiciahazelby4945 2 роки тому +6

    No one's coming means that I need to own up to everything that I'm doing in my life. It means that the product of my life is a result of my own actions and now one else's. So, if I want to change my life, I need to change my actions and get my tushie into high gear!!!

  • @fastingwithcarla
    @fastingwithcarla Рік тому +1

    I had to kick my own butt to start taking off the weight and get my blood pressure under control. I'm down over 50lbs while seeing positive changes in my blood pressure. I'm even teaching myself to share my journey on youtube. Old Carla would be in awe of this new me and I love that I was able to stand up to myself and cut the excuses. No one is coming. Thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @Tribunal1023
    @Tribunal1023 Рік тому +1

    This was the most accurate description of the frustration I’ve been feeling. Thank you for the reminder that no one is coming for me. My life is my responsibility. Not my husband’s, not my family or friends. Thank you.

  • @christinemariequigless
    @christinemariequigless 2 роки тому +5

    change your life to change your life! One of my favorite phrases. thank you!

  • @Emi-ze6yy
    @Emi-ze6yy 2 роки тому +14

    So very important to remind yourself of this with some humor and kindness and fire. No one is coming and that's a good thing! Another person doesn't understand your wants and wishes and thoughts like you do. But it can be tricky and murky sometimes. I hope you're all giving yourself moments of grace when the fire under the ass lowers to a just a spark for a while, like mine.
    💕

  • @rmuscat1276
    @rmuscat1276 2 роки тому

    I needed to hear no ones coming for about 10 yrs ago... bcuz I got complacent, thanks! You reminded me I'm responsible for everything that happens to me.

  • @delythtuffrey3037
    @delythtuffrey3037 2 роки тому +2

    I am in north wales. I’ve lisent too numerous videos Everything you say makes sooooo much sense. I love the 54321 your so insberational thankyou mel 💕

  • @mary-loucard3533
    @mary-loucard3533 2 роки тому +12

    I really needed to hear this today. I am and have been going through a self induced hell. You just swore and I love it. Thank You Mel😎

  • @kendramoritz7937
    @kendramoritz7937 Рік тому +5

    This is one of my favorites. No one is coming is so huge for me. I feel like for so long I felt like someone should rescue me. Then I realized I was right, but it had to be me. Thanks Mel!

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Рік тому

      I was watching videos on UA-cam until I came across your lovely profile. How are you doing?

  • @irmasaiz7002
    @irmasaiz7002 Рік тому +1

    You can’t imagine how much I relate with this!! I’m listening your podcast and I really love them, I promise, but I found this today suddenly and I feel there must be a synchronicity reason to find it today because I swear, Mel, it’s exactly said to me. So I am so grateful! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @tabithajustice3495
    @tabithajustice3495 Рік тому +2

    It makes me want to love myself more, it makes me want to be kind to myself.. It makes me want to PUT IN THE WORK! I Needed to hear this. 34 year old mother of five kids. Stay at home mother for the last 10 years, that did not graduate high school. Who has struggled mentally the last 4 years. I felt like I was going to die, and I was stuck.. mentally and physically drained.. I just got my first job that is not fast food in my life. And again.. I have not worked in 10 years. I have been getting up early and exercising every day for 2 weeks. And every day only gets better. Your videos are incredible!!

    • @nanasabia
      @nanasabia Рік тому

      You are increíble. I admire you as a Woman and human being..

  • @d.w.7114
    @d.w.7114 2 роки тому +10

    It sounds like I missed this much needed opportunity to be coached by you. I’m going to keep watching your videos to help motivate myself and transform my life to where I want to be.

  • @staceyet4176
    @staceyet4176 Рік тому +3

    I did need to hear no one’s coming ! Your channel came into my life at the perfect time & I’m doing the work 🙏

  • @sashasivtsov6958
    @sashasivtsov6958 Рік тому

    That is so true, Mel, no one is coming. I have to show up for myself first.
    I am grateful for your videos, you are my best friend and a Great Coach!
    Your wisdom is valuable beyond any measure!
    Love your sessions!
    💖💖💖

  • @Talking_with_Fen
    @Talking_with_Fen Рік тому

    Hey Mel, I have only recently started listening and watching you and wanted to thank you for being you and helping me on this next leg of my journey. I will be looking forward to your 2023 registration to come up. I am playing catch up now on all your videos. You rock !! thank you, Fenella

  • @deborahfragiorgi6791
    @deborahfragiorgi6791 2 роки тому +4

    You said something just now that is completely me. I don’t reach out to ANYONE! When I was 25 (I’m now 52) I reached out to my sister about a terrible stalking situation I was going through with an ex boyfriend and I needed help. She said to me “I have enough going on in my life, I can’t worry about what is going on in yours.” That was the last day I reached out to anyone. I felt if my sister didn’t care about me, nobody is going to care about me. I have suffered with depression and eating disorders since I was 22.

    • @zz-ic6vy
      @zz-ic6vy 2 роки тому +2

      This sounds so painful experience. I feel sorry.

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 Рік тому

      Omg. I was watching videos on UA-cam until I came across your lovely profile. How are you doing?

  • @tracyg4071
    @tracyg4071 2 роки тому +5

    Mel, I'm 50 and a recent widow. I am stuck, I get lonely and have low energy with so many things to do and can't start alone.i never been alone before. I got a hole to get out of and nobody's coming. I found you today on social media. I relate with everything you are saying. I'm going to take your advice and see where it goes. If it helps I'll lyk. Nobody is coming when I asked for help tho . Thank you for the advice.

  • @robindhicks1830
    @robindhicks1830 2 роки тому +1

    Mel; I will be ordering some of your books from Amazon soon, very soon. Thank you for what you do for people. You have been a big help to me !!! I cannot express how much you have helped me, thank you so much.

  • @jdoc7627
    @jdoc7627 2 роки тому

    You rock. I am sitting at the beach taking in the scenery listening to you. Taking a tech camp and go for a cool retail tech job. Because I can thought I am freaked out. You are really inspirational. Your the Real deal. You are on your own you have domain over your life.

  • @samanthadarr7097
    @samanthadarr7097 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for being so real, honest, and open to helping others.

  • @annarehmet9334
    @annarehmet9334 2 роки тому +3

    Hi Mel. Thank you so much for your support. I'm whathing you from Poland. No one 's comming means for me that if I want a change in my life I shouln't wait for someone to come to resque me. ME, I CAN MAKE A CHANCE AND ONLY ME. It made me czy at first but it's so true. If I want my life to be different , who would know that? Noone:) thank you . You're so true . That 's inspiring.

  • @sharoncarr2878
    @sharoncarr2878 Рік тому +2

    Thank you, thank you and thank you again Mel! You are brilliant! Prayers answered! I just found you today! Within the last few years (especially within the past year)I have felt really stuck in my life, since raising kids, hitting menopause, etc. I want to be ready to launch. I missed your 5 week coaching this year but I hope to be a part of it next year. I am truly grateful that I found you today at a time in my life when I needed to hear these words. "No one is coming" is so powerful and scary to me at the same time. I really need to come to terms with that statement and manifest the future that I want. That needs to sink in for me. I will be ordering your book and starting the Reset program! Thank you!

  • @jillwagner7118
    @jillwagner7118 2 роки тому

    Thank you 🙏🏻 This resonated with me. I use your phrase as a reminder when my work desk is overwhelming. It gets me to just keep going.

  • @Jet-xk7ss
    @Jet-xk7ss 2 роки тому +13

    Exactly what I was feeling tonight

  • @stephaniecombs8438
    @stephaniecombs8438 2 роки тому +11

    I love you Mel! I've dreamt of just meeting you and getting to ask you a single question. This launch is a dream come true, I immediately went to sign up! Although I'm not able to do join (currently unemployed). I just want to tell you how amazing you are and how incredible this will be for so many people! And thank you, thank you for all your free content, it means the world to me to be able to be inspired by you. Good luck!

  • @robertmeyer8387
    @robertmeyer8387 2 роки тому +1

    I live on Long Island - I’m in AA, I see a therapist and these are huge steps I took in my life.
    I’m 60 years old and stuck in my job and I want to take off!! I feel so stuck in this job.
    I know I could do it being sober and having a great therapist. I love listening to you. You are so real! You have helped me so much with 5 second rule and high five! You’re great!

  • @cherylborrelli6916
    @cherylborrelli6916 Рік тому

    I just came across this video today and I really needed to hear this thank you. I'm going through some changes and love listening to you for guidance

  • @rainbow616
    @rainbow616 2 роки тому +8

    This is EXACTLY what I'm dealing with right now. Or rather, have been dealing with for a long time now so I'm so HAPPY that I found your video. 🙏❤

    • @deborahcoward9869
      @deborahcoward9869 Рік тому

      This phrase is life changing. Thank you! I gotta do the work.

  • @michellegehrmann1419
    @michellegehrmann1419 Рік тому

    I finally talked to family about my life and they have been helping me. I am so grateful.

  • @CR-pf1es
    @CR-pf1es 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this talk, I have been feeling very lonely but I have all I need...keep asking myself why feeling so lonely (yes single, empty nested...), well finally after a long pandemic, music events are opening up and I know being solo I can still make friends, and maybe meet a nice man...but not going to stress over that, I want to feel good on my own, yes alone I can still be ok...thank you for sharing all your insights, the good energy...

  • @tigre7739
    @tigre7739 2 роки тому +10

    Yes I feel these things a lot of them that have been mentioned exactly! And yes for myself also that overwhelming feeling of loneliness it's hard sometimes and is a tough one to bust through!

    • @susanburchill4878
      @susanburchill4878 2 роки тому +6

      It’s good to know that my feelings of isolation and loneliness are not unique; Letting go of the past is a decision- time to wake up . Thank you Mel. You are the real deal.

    • @sueallen3071
      @sueallen3071 Рік тому +1

      Just get started. Find your passion

  • @stacyming543
    @stacyming543 2 роки тому +5

    I stay alone listening to my affirmations and done mirror work I forgive myself, I love myself and made me happy. Today while coming from the beach selling off all my juices.on my way to work I manifest two jobs. First I got a job offer where people would kill for, then I got a call for an interview that I was waiting for 5 months. I always was to become a business woman I start my juices 3 week ago everyone loves it but not much profit but I love it and I know how to save.. Thank you.

    • @soulyhealth
      @soulyhealth 2 роки тому

      Thats awesome Stacey. Im right into juicing and love it too. Good luck with your juice business. X

    • @stacyming543
      @stacyming543 2 роки тому +2

      Update, I passed my interviews yesterday.

    • @soulyhealth
      @soulyhealth 2 роки тому

      @@stacyming543 well done! That's fantastic.

  • @yt662511
    @yt662511 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Mel
    I'm in South Africa and this msg was all I needed to "wake up" and admit that "no one is coming" and that I have to do what I have to do to live the life I want to live. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
    I am grateful and blessed.💜

  • @Besotted85
    @Besotted85 Рік тому

    Your an awesome person, and a most wanted voice! Happy for all your work Mel! Thanks!

  • @tellervosyrjakari1052
    @tellervosyrjakari1052 2 роки тому +7

    Hi Mel! I’m watching you from Jyväskylä, Finland 💖 Totally love you!!!! You are allways giving me huge load of inspiration!!!!

  • @JOTYYY
    @JOTYYY 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this message Mel it was exactly what I needed and it made me emotional and empowered!😁

  • @lesliepomer5900
    @lesliepomer5900 2 роки тому +2

    Hi Mel from Toronto, ON Canada....I went back to University and graduated twenty-two years ago as a mature adult. It's never too late if you have all your faculties and reach out to others to help you advance academically. I did want to write Children's Books but haven't reached this goal. I feel I do not have the necessary skills. Step by step as you suggest Mel. You are a fabulous coach!!
    No one is coming to my rescue....your message is very clear.

  • @lindadee34
    @lindadee34 2 роки тому

    THANK YOU for repeating the statement over and over that "no one's coming for you" because I'm one of those people that needs to hear this over and over!

  • @uditvlogs7779
    @uditvlogs7779 2 роки тому +4

    Love from INDIA TEAM MEL ROBBINS.No one has never made me feel like this in my entire life,that fire that was missing ,i was looking for it everwhere.Finally found it.MY journey started with reading 5 seconds rule,then i implemented 5 seconds rule in my life.It is very powerful tool.The rule in itself is so powerful that it can shape your life the way you want.I am able to grab opportunities in my life because of 5 seconds rule.Now i am able to approach people,who can help me to my path towards success.I have just completed with training 2 of Spring reset.First i read 5 seconds rule book in digital form,because in past i had a give up atitude towards book.So i read it in digital form first and now i had finally received the physical book of 5 seconds rule.I will keep this book with me everywhere i go.I have decided that this book is in itself so powerful that it would do wonders in my life and will brin g all the courage and confidence that i needed in my life.I am doing great with Spring reset training.After completing trainings i will take out all the actions i would have written in the work book and will make it part of my life.Thank You Mel Robbins.I have a Vision board on my desk and it is full of your 5 seconds Rule Implementation tool given by you.Thank you.Everyday as i face mirror i give myself a High 5 and talk to that person in the mirror that has done so much for me and has always been my side no matter what.High 5 Mel Robbins.

  • @rosiew8-fenn
    @rosiew8-fenn 2 роки тому +22

    Watching from England! I want to stop getting anxious - especially about things out of my control - as in world events right now xx

  • @mayahaidar2248
    @mayahaidar2248 2 роки тому +4

    Hello Mel❤ a Syrian big fan watching you from UAE

  • @mariasammy8643
    @mariasammy8643 2 роки тому

    Yes your so right. Someone needed to tell me the honest truth. Your just right. I must help myself because no one going to do it for me. I will think about your words Ms Mel Robbins. Thankyou for being honest

  • @queenofpeaceandlove1413
    @queenofpeaceandlove1413 2 роки тому +1

    I love your tough love motivation. I really needed it. Being a single parent, divorcee no one to help me or push me. I love this tough love. Thanks so much!

  • @susanburchill4878
    @susanburchill4878 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you Mel. You have helped more than you know!!

  • @lynelleclark1813
    @lynelleclark1813 2 роки тому +3

    I connected with you in just the right time and because of the questions you asked during the reset videos I already sent out my first query letter to a publishing house and got a response. I couldn't believe it. Though my book was not accepted I felt truly energized and continues to send out query letters to literary agents as we speak. before this I always found a reason or excuse not to. But the kick in my bud helped me to take the next step. Thanks, a mil, all the way from South Africa.

  • @gagrlntxworld6641
    @gagrlntxworld6641 Рік тому

    I've just discovered you recently and wow your videos are really powerful and helping me so much with where I'm at in the life right now. 'No one's coming' to me means it's up to me to change the course of my life, etc.

  • @raysy4500
    @raysy4500 Рік тому

    Thank you Mel for having been one of the inspirational person that help me go on in life, your 5 second habit is wonderful.....

  • @adonnaowens1524
    @adonnaowens1524 2 роки тому +8

    Hello Mel ❤ I'm here in Detroit. You have been a pure blessing to me from the start of Covid. You just don't know how you've helped me mentally. I thank and appreciate you. And this video here was definitely for me!!! Thank you Thank you!!

    • @Goddibaba
      @Goddibaba 2 роки тому

      Happy for you, Owens

  • @lavernewebb7308
    @lavernewebb7308 2 роки тому +4

    I’m reminded of the lyrics, we are one because you are describing me
    Thank you Mel. My problem seems to lack of energy JUST to have a morning and evening cleaning routine
    I feel like you gave me the slap in the face that I needed and then you gave me the biggest hug

    • @lavernewebb7308
      @lavernewebb7308 2 роки тому +1

      Lastly, I won’t forget that nobody is coming

  • @korriechampagne9020
    @korriechampagne9020 2 роки тому

    I love you Mel Robbins!!!!!?! Everything you say is so me.!!! You are amazing for putting it out there and letting me know I'm not alone that you have the same issues. I need your help now more then ever. So thank you for sharing n helping me with your hope n honest way of dealing with life love love love you!! Keep up the great work 👍

  • @evekko10
    @evekko10 9 місяців тому

    It explains the lonely feeling...no one is. coming. Asking for help is hard. Love you Mel

  • @atejoy3585
    @atejoy3585 2 роки тому +3

    I definitely and literally crying while watching this video of yours Ms.Mel I Thank God because I found you by His Grace I Thank God because He uses you to get the answers and solutions that I wanted to know from Him and I really need this exact encouragement and pushing to go get a life that I want all this time of my life. Thank you Ms. Mel Highly recommended this works of you to all people out there. Best wishes and Thank you Ms. Mel ❤❤❤

  • @inainoslo3011
    @inainoslo3011 2 роки тому +25

    I grew up without a father(not my choice)he has another life. I always thought one day he would eventually come back and save me from my grief about not having him in my life. It’s been 35 years. He is not coming I know that now.

    • @Lacantantesedivierte
      @Lacantantesedivierte 2 роки тому

      Only children are envious of those who have siblings...not all families are great.. many have a bad father..and you are fantasising! Be happy

    • @pandapower3369
      @pandapower3369 2 роки тому +3

      I am so sorry you are going through this. My daughter's father is toxic and abusive, she is a young adult and no longer has a relationship with him. It pains me that you have hurt for so long. You deserve a beautiful life! Go get it!

    • @pjsopinion8028
      @pjsopinion8028 2 роки тому +1

      The pain of that sounds so hard to come to terms with. As “they” always say, you are stronger than you think. am rooting for you! Sending blessings, love and light to you. 🙏🏻❤️🌞

    • @halah.2073
      @halah.2073 2 роки тому

      💛💛💛

    • @paulaw9764
      @paulaw9764 2 роки тому

      His loss xx

  • @suebernardi6704
    @suebernardi6704 Рік тому +1

    Mel you are very inspiring and motivating!!! Your no- nonsense approach and telling it like it is in a manner that is EMPOWERING!!! Thank you! ✨💜