Dr. Sax is so right on! Why do you think we have school shooters? Take the electronics away from the kids and give them chores to do! Derelict parents are everywhere in America! You’re destroying our future!
I think in general if families and especially children pay attention to the popular culture such as TV and movies etc., they will be brainwashed into believing their parents are idiots and that they as children know what’s right for themselves. (As an easy example watch Disney and see how bossy the little girls are on these cartoon shows.) So we as parents have to decide, are we going to subject our children to this popular culture? And that, for serious parents, will ultimately mean we need to live apart from the popular culture.
I am the father of seven children and I've been non authoritarian most of the time, especially the last 15 years. I am my younger daughter's best friend and she is mine, the same with my 18 y/o son. I believe that when they are young we seem to do the parenting well but that is BS, as when they become teenagers if they have something to rebel against they will do it and if they are submissive it is not a good sign. I am anti-authoritarian in terms of punishments or rewards. My children respect me because I respect them first and I exert a leadership based on knowledge, awareness and congruent example, not on "consequences". If they like me is because I'm sincerely happy, creative, joyful, authentically loving, and they listen to me just because and when I know what I'm talking about and I don't expect anything else.
Mario Quesada Aren’t you as parent the authority? Do you make decisions for them like what dinner will be, or do they make their own decisions, do they tell you how things will be? That’s a prevalent way to parent these days.
so my father is not capable of standing on his ground and now hes disabled and cant one parent alone stand their ground for the family? is it the siblings role to do this to take control of the missing father and what about families who only have one parent? he mentioned how it takes two to stand ground for social growth and reducing depression but one parent alone cannot do this especially if there working all the time. i agree spending the family time has this power but alot of our parents cannot compete with children outgrowing and having more knowledge then there parents. but thats why we have to teach kids to become humble.
If we can't keep up with the culture and knowledge, why would our children listen to us? By fear of our reactions or of being punished or humiliated? When we know what we talk about children will listen sooner or later. If we want them to learn responsibility they have to face the natural consequences of their actions (not by punishment or reward) . Listen to Alfie Kohn
Mario Quesada I think in general if families and especially children pay attention to the popular culture such as TV and movies etc., they will be brainwashed into believing their parents are idiots and that they as children know what’s right for themselves. (As an easy example watch Disney and see how bossy the little girls are on these cartoon shows.) So we as parents have to decide, are we going to subject our children to this popular culture? And that, for serious parents, will ultimately mean we need to live apart from the popular culture.
It doesn't help either that most popular movies today portray women as the heroin of the story, the one person who will sacrifice their life for betterment of all, absolutely nothing wrong with women being a hero except that she does this while there is plenty of "men" available and more than capable to give their lives!(I can list several movies). What message is this sending to our boys and girls today? This behavior is not normal and it's confusing people today because our innate programming as "men" is that of "provider and protector" of our families, this is why more men go to war, more men take most dangerous jobs etc. etc. in the words of Dr. Sax we are living in a "toxic culture".
very insightful.. I am gonna read your book. Thanks a lot.
Dr. Sax is so right on! Why do you think we have school shooters? Take the electronics away from the kids and give them chores to do! Derelict parents are everywhere in America! You’re destroying our future!
I think in general if families and especially children pay attention to the popular culture such as TV and movies etc., they will be brainwashed into believing their parents are idiots and that they as children know what’s right for themselves. (As an easy example watch Disney and see how bossy the little girls are on these cartoon shows.) So we as parents have to decide, are we going to subject our children to this popular culture? And that, for serious parents, will ultimately mean we need to live apart from the popular culture.
I am the father of seven children and I've been non authoritarian most of the time, especially the last 15 years.
I am my younger daughter's best friend and she is mine, the same with my 18 y/o son.
I believe that when they are young we seem to do the parenting well but that is BS, as when they become teenagers if they have something to rebel against they will do it and if they are submissive it is not a good sign.
I am anti-authoritarian in terms of punishments or rewards. My children respect me because I respect them first and I exert a leadership based on knowledge, awareness and congruent example, not on "consequences". If they like me is because I'm sincerely happy, creative, joyful, authentically loving, and they listen to me just because and when I know what I'm talking about and I don't expect anything else.
Mario Quesada Aren’t you as parent the authority? Do you make decisions for them like what dinner will be, or do they make their own decisions, do they tell you how things will be? That’s a prevalent way to parent these days.
so my father is not capable of standing on his ground and now hes disabled and cant one parent alone stand their ground for the family? is it the siblings role to do this to take control of the missing father and what about families who only have one parent? he mentioned how it takes two to stand ground for social growth and reducing depression but one parent alone cannot do this especially if there working all the time. i agree spending the family time has this power but alot of our parents cannot compete with children outgrowing and having more knowledge then there parents. but thats why we have to teach kids to become humble.
I am African.
African parenting style doesn't negotiate with the children as such!
We 're the parents and we remain the parents.
Period!!
If we can't keep up with the culture and knowledge, why would our children listen to us? By fear of our reactions or of being punished or humiliated?
When we know what we talk about children will listen sooner or later.
If we want them to learn responsibility they have to face the natural consequences of their actions (not by punishment or reward) .
Listen to Alfie Kohn
Mario Quesada I think in general if families and especially children pay attention to the popular culture such as TV and movies etc., they will be brainwashed into believing their parents are idiots and that they as children know what’s right for themselves. (As an easy example watch Disney and see how bossy the little girls are on these cartoon shows.) So we as parents have to decide, are we going to subject our children to this popular culture? And that, for serious parents, will ultimately mean we need to live apart from the popular culture.
It doesn't help either that most popular movies today portray women as the heroin of the story, the one person who will sacrifice their life for betterment of all, absolutely nothing wrong with women being a hero except that she does this while there is plenty of "men" available and more than capable to give their lives!(I can list several movies). What message is this sending to our boys and girls today? This behavior is not normal and it's confusing people today because our innate programming as "men" is that of "provider and protector" of our families, this is why more men go to war, more men take most dangerous jobs etc. etc. in the words of Dr. Sax we are living in a "toxic culture".
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Time to grow up, Simon.