The answer to OP's father ask is simple "sure dad, I will give you twice as much as you gave me for college". A shame that even when doubled, zero still zero.
Better than my idea of telling him OP will relinquish his college fund, though combining the two angles might increase the impact, S it would be triple the amount of zero.
Hearing further, I would tell his dad's lawyer "you are aware that I did not go to college right? Well, tell my dad that I will contest the will for up-to twice what is in my college fund, as that is only fair as it was saved with all the love he had for me." Won't do much, but will get his lawyer to find out how he's being used.
So daddy's precious boy's struggling now? Sounds like a personal problem He bet on the wrong horse, he doesnt get to piggyback off of OPs success now Edit: Wait soooo dad was setting up a test to see if OP would waste money on his golden boy after he made it clear he didn't care about OP? OP made the right call not helping these clowns
I had a vaguely similar background - youngest of three siblings by six years. An unwelcome intrusion into their lives and a magnet for my mother's attention - which they resented and bullied me for. Here's where the stories diverge. I was Angry with my father and my siblings for years - till I started fighting back. I used to take beatings from my brother and his friends - and my father sometimes till I reached the point where it didnt matter. If you didnt fight you'd get beat and if you did fight you'd get beat - but if you fought back, at least you'd get a few licks in before they got you - and that was good for your self respect. Eventually, even though my siblings would still beat me in a fight, the bang on the nose, or the bust lip.... or whatever small pain Id deliver to them, made me a less easy prey and they gradually left me be. There comes a time when you have to stick up for yourself in life and make your own way. Parents arent perfect, siblings arent perfect - and neither are you. Stop complaining about things being 'unfair'. Nothing under the sun is 'fair'. Get on your own purpose, spend time at the gym and the swimming pool or running track. Get a job, or train for a job that has potential for promotion and improvement. Dedicate yourself to doing the best work possible every single day. Work overtime, do everything you can to Be That Guy. Stay away from Thots and dating sites and keep hold of your money because you'll need every penny you can save. If you do these things - work ahead of pleasure, library ahead of bar and money safe in the bank.... then opportunities will come looking for you. Keep on your purpose, work and exercise and discipline - then you will look back in around five years and think... Thanks for those hard lessons to swallow, but they gave me the inner fire to prove everyone wrong and get there by myself. By then you'll be on your way to real success, just keep up the work ethic and you'll be able to watch it happen, like magic. Give up your jealousy and resentment. Make it into energy for your purpose and success in life.
With all the stories that I have seen on UA-cam about entitled parents favoring the golden child over the other children it honestly didn’t surprise me one bit that OP’s dad decided to contact OP after all those years to ask OP for money to bail his favorite son out of trouble. Not to say he was sorry but instead to get OP to fix his favorite child’s problems because of the success that he saw OP achieve. Every single horrid thing that he did from hating on OP just because he only wanted one child to have an affair with his secretary was not but another stain on the history of humanity. As far as I am concerned it is NTA for OP. And as far as OP should be concerned neither should he give those who treated him horribly for years anything nor does he owe them shit. Because he shouldn’t have to give something to those who wouldn’t even appreciate it. And while I guess I shouldn’t be surprised it still is ridiculous to me that instead of figuring out some way to help his favorite son OP’s “father” decide to look at OP’s success and then decide that since he was doing so well then he thought that there would be some sort of reason for OP to be obligated to help the favorite son. It wasn’t OP who was the one who got into trouble because of some gambling debts but instead it was his brother. So not his circus not his monkeys. So OP should just let his wrenched brother and far worse “father” work this problem out amongst themselves and pursue any legal means of preventing them from ever bothering him again as well as making sure that they can’t do anything to him without any legal repercussions.
I used to have a father like this until the day i had enough and i Showed him just how much tougher I was than his favorite little boy never told me to Toughing up again
NEVER contemplate giving large money for an addict. Gambling is an ADDICTION. So you need to step back. You also are not doing your due diligence if you don't look into addiction.
Bad father bullying one child and making other one rotten, but in this case mother was present. I can't but feel if Azula got the same help as Zuko that she would've turned out better, in the end she was only 14.
@@user-xd9le4hj7d He's not entitled to $100k for college, he's not entitled to a big investment in an obviously risky business venture. He hated his father and brother before he knew there was no college fund, and was only cordial because he thought there was one (by his own admission).
@fl-ri- Honestly with how his father and brother treated him it's understandable. Honestly the only thing that wasn't smart was expecting his father, who obviously favored his brother, would have a college fund set aside for him. They were so obvious with their disdain for OP that he really shouldn't have expected his father would actually be a decent father.
have to say, the first part of the story op is not also the good guy precisely. i mean, the dad didnt want a second kid, he still had to have the second kid opposite his wishes, that second kid didnt also love his dad a lot, in fact op pretty much says that he is talking to his dad because he wants the college money from him, so basically, i hate you, but im going to act like i dont until you give me money, then i m going NC with you. that was op's plan from the beginning. then turns out that the dad was smarter than to do that and that caused the NC but without money first. my point being, op was being a snake those years, if he felt like his dad was a pos, he should have act upon that feeling from the beginning, instead of acting like a son just because of money. i dont know, i dont feel like the son acted clean there then comes the part were the dad is also not the good guy, in fact, i think the dad was never the good guy here, with the affair and all that of course, and him hating the kid from the start, but just wanted to say, just because there is a bigger villain in the story doesnt mean that the op is a paragon of morality either in short, this story is a lot more grey than it sounds... there are of course darker shades of grey here and there, and of course this story is one were i wouldnt mind other pov from the other characters, rashomon style. all in all is a story about a bunch of people that are all more or less well off now, but have to still be trying to inconvenience the others
The real villain in this story is his mother!!! Why do people always minimize women’s roles in screwing up children’s lives? She brought a child into a situation where he wasn’t wanted and WATCHED as he was mistreated. Let’s say the father wished to have the first child even though they were in a dire financial situation, but she didn’t take every precaution to guarantee another child would be made. She put her wants over her husband’s and what they could afford!!! I have read so many Reddit posts about people growing up in horrible situations yet they deify their mothers and demonize everyone else. They are not realizing that everything starts and stops with their mothers. Ask Sigmund Freud!!!
The answer to OP's father ask is simple "sure dad, I will give you twice as much as you gave me for college". A shame that even when doubled, zero still zero.
Better than my idea of telling him OP will relinquish his college fund, though combining the two angles might increase the impact, S it would be triple the amount of zero.
Hearing further, I would tell his dad's lawyer "you are aware that I did not go to college right? Well, tell my dad that I will contest the will for up-to twice what is in my college fund, as that is only fair as it was saved with all the love he had for me."
Won't do much, but will get his lawyer to find out how he's being used.
It's the AUDACITY for me!!!
UnFUCKINGbelievable!!!🤬🤬🤬
So daddy's precious boy's struggling now? Sounds like a personal problem
He bet on the wrong horse, he doesnt get to piggyback off of OPs success now
Edit: Wait soooo dad was setting up a test to see if OP would waste money on his golden boy after he made it clear he didn't care about OP? OP made the right call not helping these clowns
And OP can and should contest the will.
The scary part is that his brother is a doctor now, people's lives are in his hands... yikes
I had a vaguely similar background - youngest of three siblings by six years. An unwelcome intrusion into their lives and a magnet for my mother's attention - which they resented and bullied me for.
Here's where the stories diverge. I was Angry with my father and my siblings for years - till I started fighting back.
I used to take beatings from my brother and his friends - and my father sometimes till I reached the point where it didnt matter. If you didnt fight you'd get beat and if you did fight you'd get beat - but if you fought back, at least you'd get a few licks in before they got you - and that was good for your self respect.
Eventually, even though my siblings would still beat me in a fight, the bang on the nose, or the bust lip.... or whatever small pain Id deliver to them, made me a less easy prey and they gradually left me be.
There comes a time when you have to stick up for yourself in life and make your own way. Parents arent perfect, siblings arent perfect - and neither are you.
Stop complaining about things being 'unfair'. Nothing under the sun is 'fair'.
Get on your own purpose, spend time at the gym and the swimming pool or running track. Get a job, or train for a job that has potential for promotion and improvement. Dedicate yourself to doing the best work possible every single day. Work overtime, do everything you can to Be That Guy.
Stay away from Thots and dating sites and keep hold of your money because you'll need every penny you can save.
If you do these things - work ahead of pleasure, library ahead of bar and money safe in the bank.... then opportunities will come looking for you. Keep on your purpose, work and exercise and discipline - then you will look back in around five years and think... Thanks for those hard lessons to swallow, but they gave me the inner fire to prove everyone wrong and get there by myself.
By then you'll be on your way to real success, just keep up the work ethic and you'll be able to watch it happen, like magic.
Give up your jealousy and resentment. Make it into energy for your purpose and success in life.
What a screwed up father, why does he think one child is better than the other?
Well, if the tag is any indication, it's better the dad blew his savings rather than his golden child...
With all the stories that I have seen on UA-cam about entitled parents favoring the golden child over the other children it honestly didn’t surprise me one bit that OP’s dad decided to contact OP after all those years to ask OP for money to bail his favorite son out of trouble. Not to say he was sorry but instead to get OP to fix his favorite child’s problems because of the success that he saw OP achieve. Every single horrid thing that he did from hating on OP just because he only wanted one child to have an affair with his secretary was not but another stain on the history of humanity. As far as I am concerned it is NTA for OP. And as far as OP should be concerned neither should he give those who treated him horribly for years anything nor does he owe them shit. Because he shouldn’t have to give something to those who wouldn’t even appreciate it. And while I guess I shouldn’t be surprised it still is ridiculous to me that instead of figuring out some way to help his favorite son OP’s “father” decide to look at OP’s success and then decide that since he was doing so well then he thought that there would be some sort of reason for OP to be obligated to help the favorite son. It wasn’t OP who was the one who got into trouble because of some gambling debts but instead it was his brother. So not his circus not his monkeys. So OP should just let his wrenched brother and far worse “father” work this problem out amongst themselves and pursue any legal means of preventing them from ever bothering him again as well as making sure that they can’t do anything to him without any legal repercussions.
I used to have a father like this until the day i had enough and i Showed him just how much tougher I was than his favorite little boy never told me to Toughing up again
The father and the son doing the sword fight hahahahah
If you do help them…make them sign a contract with the exact time limit to pay you back on it.
Isn't it amazing how all these literally talk just like a self help book author writes? 😑
Spoiler alert - real people don't talk like this.
NEVER contemplate giving large money for an addict. Gambling is an ADDICTION. So you need to step back. You also are not doing your due diligence if you don't look into addiction.
They can skip the wedding but I'd have told the lawyer that's fine I'll still get a fair share when I sue in probate court challenging the will.
8:25 why am i thinking of Zuko and Azula but if Azula was the older child?
Bad father bullying one child and making other one rotten, but in this case mother was present. I can't but feel if Azula got the same help as Zuko that she would've turned out better, in the end she was only 14.
Well, because the dad, like Ozai, is a massive piece of crap who could stink up the entirety of Ba Sing Sei just by standing in it.
I have no words gambling is a choice. I would not help a gambler. Food, gas, yes !Maybe. Gambling h*ll no!😊
You can skip to 7:30. FFS thanks for wasting 7 minutes on saying the same thing over and over.
OP sounds mega entitled ngl
How?
@@user-xd9le4hj7d He's not entitled to a college fund, he's not entitled to investment for an obviously risky venture.
@@user-xd9le4hj7d He's not entitled to $100k for college, he's not entitled to a big investment in an obviously risky business venture. He hated his father and brother before he knew there was no college fund, and was only cordial because he thought there was one (by his own admission).
@fl-ri- Honestly with how his father and brother treated him it's understandable. Honestly the only thing that wasn't smart was expecting his father, who obviously favored his brother, would have a college fund set aside for him. They were so obvious with their disdain for OP that he really shouldn't have expected his father would actually be a decent father.
1 minute and 20 seconds in, and I am guessing OP is an affair baby.
Edit: guess not, but it did read as he was one.
have to say, the first part of the story op is not also the good guy precisely. i mean, the dad didnt want a second kid, he still had to have the second kid opposite his wishes, that second kid didnt also love his dad a lot, in fact op pretty much says that he is talking to his dad because he wants the college money from him, so basically, i hate you, but im going to act like i dont until you give me money, then i m going NC with you. that was op's plan from the beginning. then turns out that the dad was smarter than to do that and that caused the NC but without money first. my point being, op was being a snake those years, if he felt like his dad was a pos, he should have act upon that feeling from the beginning, instead of acting like a son just because of money. i dont know, i dont feel like the son acted clean there
then comes the part were the dad is also not the good guy, in fact, i think the dad was never the good guy here, with the affair and all that of course, and him hating the kid from the start, but just wanted to say, just because there is a bigger villain in the story doesnt mean that the op is a paragon of morality either
in short, this story is a lot more grey than it sounds... there are of course darker shades of grey here and there, and of course this story is one were i wouldnt mind other pov from the other characters, rashomon style. all in all is a story about a bunch of people that are all more or less well off now, but have to still be trying to inconvenience the others
The real villain in this story is his mother!!! Why do people always minimize women’s roles in screwing up children’s lives? She brought a child into a situation where he wasn’t wanted and WATCHED as he was mistreated. Let’s say the father wished to have the first child even though they were in a dire financial situation, but she didn’t take every precaution to guarantee another child would be made. She put her wants over her husband’s and what they could afford!!! I have read so many Reddit posts about people growing up in horrible situations yet they deify their mothers and demonize everyone else. They are not realizing that everything starts and stops with their mothers. Ask Sigmund Freud!!!
This is a stupid take. You should feel bad for writing it.
In what world are people minimizing womens role in screwing up their kids life? Ffs that happens all the damn time
@@ylvalundgren7409 didn’t happen this time