i would have told them,fine i wont go then,i will work,and save up money,and in 2 to 4 years i will go to trade school,and don't expect me to help you out financially when you need money in the future,in fact give all your money to the golden child,don't do me any favors.
The main point is equal treatment of children. At the onset, the parents were already shady. They should have asked the elder brother to repay them since he was already working, or to pay for OP's tuition fees. Then, OP could have in turn give financial support back to his parents. The dad's point that he has to think of his own retirement is such an obvious cop-out since he could have always get his older son to pay back what they spent on him. Also, dad should have been looked at it as investing in this own future by investing in OP.
Hopefully the older brother and the sperm donor lose all of their money in the older brother’s business and the mom gives the sperm donor the boot and cleans him out in divorce and alimony.
I am of the opinion that your parents hold 0 responsibility towards your college. If they want to invest, then great. Also, if they pay for one child, then they do lock themselves into that expectation for all their children. It is an extreme debt for anyone. I will give the OP props in saying that he would have been fine if they were honest. That is the biggest issue with the parents in this situation. The fact that they couldnt even give their own child the respect of honesty. Most likely to just save face. The father is not a good father, no matter what he says. He clearly has a favorite, which is wrong.
I remember a wise man once said "it is ok to have a favorite, it's human nature. You just can't show it." In other words, have your favorite, but give an equal share, equal options to all children. Tuitions for all, boasting for all, pride for all.
out of this entire story, dad using his dying brother as an excuse would be the end of the relationship, he was using the illness of a dying brother/uncle to cover up a bloody business deal
Having to pay medical bills and college tuition feels bizzare to me. I'm Polish. Healthcare and University is free where I live. OP and his family would never had this situation here.
is not really. she is a pos just like the rest of them. is just that when she saw op was going NC she suddenly remenbered "oh right, i do have 2 kids!". too little to late if im to be honest here, i get it that op didnt really want to go NC either, because lets be real, is not something easy, even when in these stories people usually go NC a lot. op is 17 also, a very hard moment to go NC, because you really cant see your life very well at that point, and going NC without being able to know what you are going to do next month is hard. but it was deserved to go NC. the NC was deserved on all of them, including the mom, because she was part of the problem, even more than the brother if i tell you the truth, the brother is just the golden child after all, he doesnt know any better, he is just acting as he has been told to act his whole life, entitled to everything. the brother is just doing what the dad and the mom have taught him to do. the dad is continuing the same road, the mom has suddenly realized that it was wrong, but only because it started having consecuences that she didnt like. in my opinion, op should have continue with his friend's parents and pay them back after finishing college if he could deal with it emotionally, bur he cant (and that is not something bad, as i have said, NC is hard to do and more with people like your parents) that entire family, including the mom, are not worth it, and op has simply forgive the mom because is easier on him to forgive a pos and still have some family
Dad and brother are completely AH’s. Dad handled this poorly and lied an awful lie. Dad and brother obviously are self absorbed narcissists. Mom came clean but she should have been honest with OP before that conversation about tuition. Ithink it’s okay to have some student loans and OP was willing to do so for the family. Dad should have been honest but the lies is what ruins relationships. Dad has a golden child and was willing to sell out his youngest for that child. I hope the therapist can fix the marriage and Dad realizes what a crappy person he is got treating his boys so different and putting his wife in a terrible situation.
It seems the whole thing flew over year head. Correct, no one is entitled to anything. however, there's many points in this story that was plain. 1) Lying to and deceiving your child for what??? 2) If you aren't going to help both children don't favor one over the other and double down when ya get called out about the lie you told that came crumbling down. 3) If one parent knows it's wrong stand for right and not just let things get to the point where it's divorce worthy. Should have shut that mess down from the start.
If you have means and you do it for one child but don't for another they have right to be upset, sure parents don't have to pay but children also don't have to have contact with their parents. If they didn't want to spend money they shouldn't have spent it on the first one either. This is just treating one as a unimportant add on.
@@denis3208 I'm so glad you added that in!!! Yes yes yes and they be whining to folks why their children don't have contact or want anything to do with them.. hello narc parents meet consequences!
the story is not about that what happens here is: 1-brother gets collegue paid, op expects similar treatment 2-he doesnt get that treatment, reason being a family menber is sick and the money goes there instead 3-op is ok with that 4-op later finds out that parents are going to invest in brother bussiness and they are hiding the fact from him (also exposing the lie that there was not money in point 2) 5-op is NOT ok with that. 6-more things happen thing is, this is not a story about some guy that feels entitled to money, this is a story about someone that is getting opposite treatment as his own sibling and kept in the dark about it by his own parents for no reason at all
This is one of the worst examples of ChatGPT 🤦♂️
I was about to say this. The “OP” keeps repeating and cycling through the same things over and over.
I mean the story could be real, but it was definitely written by chatgpt
This channel used to just steal videos and dub them over with an AI voice, so no surprise he's doing this lol
There was no real conflict in the story, my parents didn’t pay for college but I understood why, rinse and repeat 🤦♂️
@@erichinkle7891 I think his parents didn't pay for college but he understands, not sure though might need to hear it a few more times 🤣
Tf did bro mean when he said that he understands why they did it because it was for family. HE is FAMILY isn’t he?!
Bruh this guy is a verbal merry-go-round. No doubt AI
When it comes to receiving money, never assume anything.
i would have told them,fine i wont go then,i will work,and save up money,and in 2 to 4 years i will go to trade school,and don't expect me to help you out financially when you need money in the future,in fact give all your money to the golden child,don't do me any favors.
Being fair it’s different at that age especially when your brother got the help and parents never even tried warning him
The main point is equal treatment of children. At the onset, the parents were already shady. They should have asked the elder brother to repay them since he was already working, or to pay for OP's tuition fees. Then, OP could have in turn give financial support back to his parents. The dad's point that he has to think of his own retirement is such an obvious cop-out since he could have always get his older son to pay back what they spent on him. Also, dad should have been looked at it as investing in this own future by investing in OP.
Hopefully the older brother and the sperm donor lose all of their money in the older brother’s business and the mom gives the sperm donor the boot and cleans him out in divorce and alimony.
I am of the opinion that your parents hold 0 responsibility towards your college. If they want to invest, then great. Also, if they pay for one child, then they do lock themselves into that expectation for all their children. It is an extreme debt for anyone. I will give the OP props in saying that he would have been fine if they were honest. That is the biggest issue with the parents in this situation. The fact that they couldnt even give their own child the respect of honesty. Most likely to just save face. The father is not a good father, no matter what he says. He clearly has a favorite, which is wrong.
OP should leave them both to fend for themselves in retirement, it isn’t like they’ll have anything for OP to inherit.
@@PastorRapture⁰0
I remember a wise man once said "it is ok to have a favorite, it's human nature. You just can't show it."
In other words, have your favorite, but give an equal share, equal options to all children. Tuitions for all, boasting for all, pride for all.
out of this entire story, dad using his dying brother as an excuse would be the end of the relationship, he was using the illness of a dying brother/uncle to cover up a bloody business deal
Having to pay medical bills and college tuition feels bizzare to me. I'm Polish. Healthcare and University is free where I live. OP and his family would never had this situation here.
Well you are lucky . But the rest of the world is not Polish so we pay out of pocket.
Your mom is awesome ❤❤
is not really. she is a pos just like the rest of them. is just that when she saw op was going NC she suddenly remenbered "oh right, i do have 2 kids!".
too little to late if im to be honest here, i get it that op didnt really want to go NC either, because lets be real, is not something easy, even when in these stories people usually go NC a lot. op is 17 also, a very hard moment to go NC, because you really cant see your life very well at that point, and going NC without being able to know what you are going to do next month is hard. but it was deserved to go NC. the NC was deserved on all of them, including the mom, because she was part of the problem, even more than the brother if i tell you the truth, the brother is just the golden child after all, he doesnt know any better, he is just acting as he has been told to act his whole life, entitled to everything. the brother is just doing what the dad and the mom have taught him to do. the dad is continuing the same road, the mom has suddenly realized that it was wrong, but only because it started having consecuences that she didnt like.
in my opinion, op should have continue with his friend's parents and pay them back after finishing college if he could deal with it emotionally, bur he cant (and that is not something bad, as i have said, NC is hard to do and more with people like your parents)
that entire family, including the mom, are not worth it, and op has simply forgive the mom because is easier on him to forgive a pos and still have some family
Starting to think oldest bro isn’t the mom’s son
More likely, the younger son is not the father's? Dad's a wad, no matter what.
I agree youngest may not be dads and everyone knows but him.
Dad is a jerk
he is an ahole,oh well he is only getting older and sicker,good luck getting any help with money later.
Dad and brother are completely AH’s. Dad handled this poorly and lied an awful lie. Dad and brother obviously are self absorbed narcissists. Mom came clean but she should have been honest with OP before that conversation about tuition. Ithink it’s okay to have some student loans and OP was willing to do so for the family. Dad should have been honest but the lies is what ruins relationships. Dad has a golden child and was willing to sell out his youngest for that child. I hope the therapist can fix the marriage and Dad realizes what a crappy person he is got treating his boys so different and putting his wife in a terrible situation.
(If its not a chatgpt) i know why his dad didnt want give him money
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why ?
Because He is only her son
@@mukymakazuki2218 Affair child ?
This is almost certainly chat gpt good lord!!!
I know this is fake, but, why does every person always complain about their parents not paying for their college?? In this economy?? Bud…
It seems the whole thing flew over year head. Correct, no one is entitled to anything. however, there's many points in this story that was plain. 1) Lying to and deceiving your child for what??? 2) If you aren't going to help both children don't favor one over the other and double down when ya get called out about the lie you told that came crumbling down. 3) If one parent knows it's wrong stand for right and not just let things get to the point where it's divorce worthy. Should have shut that mess down from the start.
If you have means and you do it for one child but don't for another they have right to be upset, sure parents don't have to pay but children also don't have to have contact with their parents. If they didn't want to spend money they shouldn't have spent it on the first one either. This is just treating one as a unimportant add on.
@@denis3208 I'm so glad you added that in!!! Yes yes yes and they be whining to folks why their children don't have contact or want anything to do with them.. hello narc parents meet consequences!
the story is not about that what happens here is:
1-brother gets collegue paid, op expects similar treatment
2-he doesnt get that treatment, reason being a family menber is sick and the money goes there instead
3-op is ok with that
4-op later finds out that parents are going to invest in brother bussiness and they are hiding the fact from him (also exposing the lie that there was not money in point 2)
5-op is NOT ok with that.
6-more things happen
thing is, this is not a story about some guy that feels entitled to money, this is a story about someone that is getting opposite treatment as his own sibling and kept in the dark about it by his own parents for no reason at all
if they were smart they would start saving money,when he was born,1000 dollars each month over 18 years is a lot.