Well said. And given the mother abandoned OP to go on vacation with her new family; if someone got wind of that, they would contact social services to remove him from her, place him in foster care, and then with a kind and loving adoptive family.
Well, depends on the kid! If the kid is an a-hole then that is justified, but according to the description this guy wasn't. It's not like you sign your life away when you have a kid, hell the best parents IMHO are those who (while willing to make sacrifices for their kids) don't give up on being their own person, with hobbies, even dreams! Yes, you might not get as far as you might have without a kid and you should (within reason) do a lot for the kid, but you should also not always put yourself second! Hell, my own father (note: I hate my lying, cheating, thieving mother, so yeah I am quite focused on my dad) had hobbies (he still does! Hell, the guy has more stamina than I do and he's 65 (!)) while raising me (with my stepmother).
@@danacarter9147 Yes this sucks - my own mother did something similar! She went on rehab after surgery and basically left me with the key to her apartmen, her dog and a few hundred bucks for food! I made it about a week (loved being on my own for a while)...after that I called my dad to fetch me (I had no driver's license and no car back then) and he did...I dropped the key off with a neighbour my mother designated as "she'll help you if need anything" (would have talked to the neighbour, but she was not there when I rang) ps: Wouldn't social services call the father (joint custody - which would then give him custody if she's removed from joint custody, right?) to get him?
I was taught various guns and knives by the age of 10. There's PLENTY a 16 year old can do to defend his home turf with that knowledge. You are the weak spot in this one, sad to say.
@@zarroth you're wrong because we don't know if he's done self defence or trained to fight. how the hell would an inexperienced kid be able to fight armed robbers? seems you are the weak spot, sad to say
@@zarroth huh? I was taught various guns and knives from age 8, doesn't mean I had complete access to the guns, a knife can only do so much if there's multiple people which there usually tends to be. Your brain is the weak spot of your life
@@girl1213 Except the "reason" was all based on a lie. That is the point they were making above. Essentially he was being an ass only to find out he had not reason to be
I would reply saying "you spent three years around me infront of my mum and alone, in those three years did you ever think this is wrong? That I have never done or acted in anyway like how she described, how your own kids hated me because of what you told them but they never came to you about me treating them wrong. You may have been lied to but your actions are your own, you are an adult and you chose not to change in years. Your kids however are still children and their faults still lay with you, they watched you be cruel and thought that is the right way to treat others. I hope they can grow up and change and be better than the pair of you" If op sends something like that it might remind him he made his own kids just as bad as him over something between adults and didn't correct it in years.
The new man is jealous of the attention that you get from mom. He will sabotage you, every chance he gets, watch your back. Also he wants to be the only grown male telling your mom what to do.
The mum using the fact that she sacrificed so much as emotional manipulation is disgusting not only that every parent sacrifice's for their kid it doesn't make her special.
I think if we dig further we'd find it's only the dad who made sacrifices to live in the same city. The mom probably never got any big job opportunities or a romantic relationship either. Men normally knows when a woman is nuts. That stepfather Jake didn't know because he's a 42 years old man child. That's why he didn't treat op bad because he isn't a bad man but also not an adult either.
Reminds me of something I was thinking about a few weeks ago. I'd been joking with my little brother about how he "owes me his life" because I saved his life twice when he was a toddler. Right as I said that though, I was disgusted with myself for saying it, even as a joke. I didn't save him so that he'd be indebted to me, I did it to save him. My brother, who's currently 9, doesn't owe me shit, and I told him as much right after making that joke. The fact that this mom tried to say "I gave up so much for you" is disgusting.
To begin with, isn't going to vacation with her family, and without OP, the definition of ABANDONMENT OF A MINOR, also the treatment towards OP from Jake and Co. count as a form of abuse?
@@kos2919 i was asking because, wouldn't that be enough to file a report to the police? Because así de from abandonment it could potebtially count as endangerment of a minor as well. Dad should have called the police as well aside from demanding( and obtaining) full custody. After all the mother is a monster for subjecting her child to all that.
@@Chuckakhan Indeed! Don't make MY mistake! My own mum is similar to that mother and I frankly never sued her...should have, but my own dad is too good-natured and always talked me out of it (I don't get my dad! She cheated, she hurt him, she used me to hurt him, too (note: He had full custody, but she had visitation, so she used that to hurt him by for example flying to France with me, without telling him first and by allowing me to basically go wild while I was staying with her, so I came back expecting the same freedoms at home, which my dad of course didn't grant, which led to many - partially even justified IMHO because having strict rules sucks if none of your friends do - arguments and fights! Still, he didn't want me to take her to court, something I'll never understand!)
Not the mother only, both her and her bf. They both severely neglected the kid, abandonned him alone, in a house, which was then robbed so security isn't on point, went no contact after an argument, the kid could be dead in that same house for all they knew. Jail.
There is a high probability that he would have been there when it was robbed, and he could have been injured or killed. But all she cares about is the items taken....bye mom, see you never
I wouldnt give a single f**k about the things stolen from my house when on a vaccation, because every physical belonging will be replaced by the insurance company in mere days anyways and as long none of my relatives got involved/hurt it is manageable. i will definitly rethink security stuff if its that easy to get into my home, but i will never think "why didnt you defend the TV with your life, its gone now"🙄 unbelievable "parent".
Dad set up the robbing. Son has been abused for years, Dad knows the house is empty for a week. Dad knows where the key is hidden. Dad said he would "take care of everything." Dad is a good Dad.
"You should have been home when the robbers came after seeing me and my new husband and kids leave for vacation! Maybe you'd scare them off, maybe you'd get killed. Now we'll never know and we lost the TV. This is all your fault!" - Mother of the Year.
Her logic was that robbers will usually stay clear of a house with clear signs of activity, which is not wrong tbh. But her behaviour and abandonment of her kid is still abject and she fully deserved to have her house emptied. Robbers probably saw the house completely left alone and got a payday for it.
OP's dad should go full scorched earth. Full custody, no visitation and she has to pay child support. Jake is massive C U Next Tuesday. Not even bothering to talk to OP? He didn't even try to establish a relationship? Well OP's mom is proof that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness
There was one story on Reddit where an OP (who was a cop) arrested a guy for SA’ing his teenage stepdaughter. And when they told the girl’s mother what her husband had done, the woman asked the cops to take her daughter away instead.
The mom is the particularly bad one in all of this but the fact that Jake didn’t sit down with him even once for a whole three years to try to fix things with him is also pretty insane.
He is a type of person who once hearing that some talked crap behind him, doesn't confront and sort things out. Tis not a good habit to have and not a crime itself. Many people have this bad habit of just sulking and not working out on solutions, so we cannot say this to be criminal act.
@@cosmicchad4752 He should have at least formed his own opinion of the only 13 year old son of the woman he's marrying. Sure, some kids are just jerks, but a 42 year old man should know by that age that a lot of kids make trouble growing up for all sorts of reasons, not just because they like making trouble even if the mom thinks otherwise.
@@Ollybollyk Yeah, honestly the sane response to that would have been "he's a teenager afraid he's being replaced by a man with 2 other sons close to his age. I need to make extra effort to make him feel included". Then again, if the mom kept lying and discouraging any idea of reaching out...
So here is something i don't understand- If Jake thought OP was this terrible horrible delinquent why DID he decide to leave OP alone in his house for a whole week? why didn't they go on their holiday when OP was with dad or demand OP go back to dad while they went away? As for mom's 'she wanted them to be a HAPPY family' how could they be a happy family when she was sowing distrust and suspicion?
@mnomadvfx There's a good chance it is, but humans are inconsistent quite often. Sometimes because they're leaving something out, they're emotional and can't write quite right, etc. But there is a good 50/50 chance it's AI.
Mom is an evil tart, but Jake! He's a complete ah! This started when op was 13y/o. In 3 yrs he didn't realize his wife was lying? He was complicit in mistreating a child. What a dummy.
@@sephiroth661 Exactly what I thought. The "adult" person should have talked to the child. Regardless of what they were told, that would have solved all of this mess.
The email (a written evidence) is pretty damning itself, if op was pettier he could've used it to screw over Jake's divorce because of the knowing mistreatment can be used against his children. Was probably only apologizing in email to save his ass during the divorce proceedings
@@eeveestrainer4677Of course he isn't he should try to talk with him and ask way he ,, don't like him and his kids " Than OP will said the truth but this probably ended merriege much earlier.
Even worse given the fact that she was the cause of it all, and he wouldn't have been treated like that to begin with if she didn't pin him as the reason why Jake's sick mother couldn't live at her house, instead of just being honest.
it sounds to me she used her son to score points with her new husband,and he was just dumb enough to believe her blindly,regardless of what his own eyes and ears told him.
Its probably for the best Jake communicate on the same level he always communicated on to him. It would be embarrasing to talk to him after being so clearly manipulated for so long.
So Mom is mad at OP for leaving the house??? She ABANDONED HER CHILD!!!! And what’s worse, what is OP was home when the robbers came???? She is just as bad as her husband
The audacity she has to talk about "safety" while not even thinking about OP's safety. Like what makes her think some 16yr old guy would be able to do if a group of armed huge robbers broke in. It would have just put OP and his life in grave danger. Just shows how she cares more about her marriage and the stuff her husband(ex) provides/has over her own son's life. Such a horrible excuse of a human being is she
Exactly! What ‘safety is she to talking about when she didn’t even discuss being gone? If he had been home, worse than a missing tv would be the least of the argument happening and what we are listening to, real or not.
The mother pitted everyone against each other and then it blows up in her face. Also blaming her child that it is their fault a break-in occurred…. Mother of the year right there… OP sounds too serious for his age but that happens when you have to raise yourself.
Three letters CPS. You abandoned your child for a damn week to relax. It a good thing OP did leave cause, I'd fear what would have happened if he actually stayed in that house. Plus like OP said, your a 43 year old man, grow up
This isn't to excuse any of the abuse that kid went through and will sound harsh, but I find it disgusting that you would think to elevate it to that level while he had so many other options available. He already had a strong enough support network that he was aware of that he hadn't even tapped yet. People need to handle their own problems when they can, involving the government is just asking for something to go terribly awry. Arbitrarily using something like CPS for vindictive or insouciant reasons only takes resources away from those who truly have no other options and could lead all the way to a death since there is nothing too petty that police won't end someone over. But you're definitely right about the stepdad. After he decided on marriage he should have made regular efforts to smooth over his issues with the OP, given he was part of the package.
@@PrinceAlhorian It is within the realm of possibility if this is real she was watching true crime shows then remembered home alone and said yep that will fix everything and was going around in public to sketchy places talking on the phone Loudly who when and how she will be the perfect mark full details the entire scout report it fills in all questions and plot holes, even if it's not real it's likely enough that it has probably happened so many times since home alone came out its why there way stricter rules on depends left alone.
I don't know why people keep on saying Jake should have just talked to him when all Jake had to do was pay attention because with all his mama said that he was doing and saying would have not added up actions speak louder than words
@@vianjelosthis doesn't make any sense either. If a kid is constantly causing trouble at school wouldn't the said school try to contact the parents and find out what's going on or ask the parents to take action? Or if he was a delinquent like his mother portrayed him, he would've gotten at least a couple of suspensions in those 3 years.
@@Dustin81tbh I think he kinda does. Not for leaving him at home but rather for the silent treatment. He only ignored OP because he was repeatedly told OP was a thug that had it out for him and would harm his mother if they met. He was so heavily manipulated that he never even observed OP's behavior. Jake is a victim too.
My Mom used to tell me that her Husband didn't want me around. Made a big deal out of it, as if he'd mistreat her or something. I plainly asked her Husband about it. (He'd always been welcoming to me.) He looked shocked when I mentioned it. He told me that she has been telling him not to invite to functions & he's been ignoring her. She looked like she wanted to fight him afterwards. Psycho shit, for Attention & Control. She's a Narc & I'm the Black Sheep. Yeah, they divorced not long afterward. With those types of issues you have to take it to the source to air out. It breaks whatever bubble of control that's supposed to be gained by keeping you away from speaking to the other person.
When I married a woman with children, I committed myself to them as much as to their mother. Now, they are all grown, and have children of their own. My marriage didn't last, but my relationships with my step-kids is really strong to this day. I love them like they're my own, I would lay down my life for any one of them.
Wow. Did she use the phrase "apologize to me and my family?" You don't just leave. You don't just leave without saying anything. You certainly don't portray your own child as a selfish beast who is to blame for everything. Though points to Jake for at least apologizing. He didn't handle this well, but that at least was a decent thing to do. But this mother is a narcissistic monster.
If I was OP, his father, or Jake then I would question everything about her. 1. Is OP's father actually his real biological father? 2. Did his father and mother sacrifice better jobs to stay near each other? 3. I wonder if OP's was dating a lot of men that he didn't know about, then it would make sense for her to create a story about OP to hide her history and it was also used to block Jake's mother from moving in. 4. Jake told OP about his mother and father giving up a lot for OP, he felt she was a saint and even though she was a single mother changed his criteria and accepted her. This would explain why he felt like being with her was not rushing into things. 5. Jake would have been confused as to why she was so against his mother moving in when she is so caring, finding out that OP is a monster (according to her lies) would have been devastating. 6. I would not be surprised if a lot more shady information was uncovered about her if OP, his father, and Jake have a discussion about everything. She is so good at manipulation that no one questioned her, not spoke up and even now she is creating a new image of herself as a victim. 7. If 2 or more separate people say a person is a monster then they likely are, but if it's only one person who keeps you informed and they try to isolate you from them and their friends then you need to thoroughly question that persons motives and try to find out the truth
People are so naive. The mother is the covert abuser that receives it's supply on watching what is happening and playing both sides. She thinks she has hands clean so there is no guilt on her. What Jake is telling OP is what his mother tells him. She is also creating the situations where Jake has the power to attack OP. She is the middle man and strategist. Edit: The "I made so many sacrifices for you" tactic using vague, distant and unproven situations is a classic for abuser worldwide.
Wow the mum totally neglects her son and she expects her son to be ok with it, also her new husband and his kids are abusing OP by sending him to Coventry for no reason. I'm so glad that OP has a decent dad and he can turn to him, OPs mum is the useless one and caused all the hate in the new family situation, if I was OP I'd go NC with his mum and let her deal with the consequences that her actions caused and of that means she spends the rest of her life alone and miserable then so be it it's what she deserves
How’s a fully grown Middle Aged man got beef with a 16 year old 🥲 is the stepdads frontal lobe still underdeveloped as he’s behaving like a teenager. And the mums “sacrifices” are not answerable by the child, as a parent you choose to make sacrifices for your kid as a big part of parenthood is being selfless.
'It's a matter of safety!' Yeah, the KID'S safety! If the place had been robbed while the kid was IN the house? What would have potentially happened? What if the kid had gotten hurt? What if the thief had had a gun? What if he'd been killed? What would she have said then? I guess it would have been the kid's fault. An absolute terrible mother and person.
While I don't blame Jake for believing his partner and being mad with OP, I DEFINITELY fault him for at least not talking to him about ANYTHING. The moment he heard OP allegedly had something to say about his mother and children, he should've confronted OP and the truth would've came out much sooner. I mean why would even still bring your kids to live with a person who, allegedly, hates them and talks bad about them??? Like this whole scenario sounds so unrealistic, especially with the other kids being involved because you KNOW kids can't hold water
Jake already doesn’t sound like the considerate guy. He propose OP and his mom move in with him, with his sick mother after a few months. Not a good sign for a father to not only move a kid doesn’t even know into his mom, but with someone who sick (even if they have a nurse). Both of those elements are not something you should do when yo still trying to figure out how serious the relationship.
This reminds me so much of my mother. She left my dad for a new man but loved to lie about and come up with all sorts of stories. She wouldn't defend us when he yelled at us for no reason and expected us to be sympathetic. I was 14 and am glad I decided that I would stay with my dad. It was hard enough to visit. I feel for OP.
People need to teach their children that it is okay to talk to them about people hurting them, even if it is the other parent hurting and abusing them. That witch was emotionally abusing her child, and she let a man abuse her child for her gain.
Honestly, this woman is absolutely messed up and I’m so happy OP at least has a wonderful father to look after them. Because I agree this woman made her bed now she has to lie in it. She doesn’t get to try and make your out to be her personal skape goat then expecting the OP to want to stick around to play happy family with her much as expect her soon to be stay with her, she lied when she could’ve just been honest with him, but made her out the punching bag. People this manipulative, toxic,selfish don’t deserve to have children.😓
At first I thought Jake was the bastard here but after hearing the lies that your own mom said about you, she’s the real asshole here and good on Jake for apologizing to you at least. Good for you for sticking up for yourself kiddo, and you’re better off being with your dad if you ask me
How actually mental it is that a fully grown adult literaly ignores his step child & involves his own children in the same kind of behavior AND the mom just lets that happen because of the old I raised you card? Call cps ffs
Honestly felt she was a trash mom from the moment he said how he was being treated and his mom allowed it and now that we know the reason i feel even more so. Im glad the mom got her karma.
When the house got robbed he could of been killed, a few belongings got stolen and she didn't even consider that fact that she could of came home to him dead after the robbery.
If you are forced to spend time with her (due to being a minor) just ignore her and not talk to her the way she forced you to live due to her lies. The fact that she was not charged for neglect and abuse shows either she had a good lawyer or you and your dad are good people who didn't force the issue.
She left a 16-year-old alone in a house while they slept. Imagine trying to tell a judge that you abandoned your underage child at home while they were asleep. never told them you were going on vacation without them. They ran to their dads for shelter and you believe that they should pay because your house was robbed. I wonder if Mom sacrificed anything to stay in that town? She acts like she sacrificed nothing. I bet the Dad was the only one that gave up careers and maybe love for the son. If you had sacrificed for a child all that time. You would never marry someone who was even slightly hostile toward your kid. How desperate are you to have a man that you don't run when he suggests moving in together after 3 months?
Parents never sacrifice anything for children, any parent who believes such is immature and a narcissist and probably shouldn't have children as they see the responsibility of raising kids to be a job or chore and that mentality is wrong and broken.
Shoulf apologise. "I am sorry that you are so blind to see how terrible of a mother you are, and that you abandoned a literal child on their own for a week without telling them anything. I'm sorry you ignored my calls, and didn't call me back when you got to the hotel like you said, I'm sorry your actions caused you to be robbed, I'm sorry that you will soon have to pay my dad child support since I'm still a kid and living with him full time". See, apologies can help get things off your chest
His “ mother “ , I use that term loosely, knew about Jake’s animosity towards her son BEFORE she married him , and she still did. She tried to emotionally manipulate her son telling him she passed up numerous men to put him first, yet she married a scum bag who hated her child. You need to cut her out of your life, she chose a new family over you and doesn’t give a damn about you . Stay with you father, he loves you .
That Jake probably hates that he has to share your mom's affection and time, there is douchebags who get with women who have kids and then "complain" about them showing their kid affection and spending time with the kid!
He was kind enough to lock the house up. I would probably not have bothered. I was a horrible and angry kid around this age. I know i would have lashed out if my mother pulled something like this.
The mom really tried to talk "safety" of their house?? What about OPs safety should they have been present when the robbers broke in and were the violent type? What if something else happened?? Disgusting
Admittedly, he shouldn't have left the key under the plant pot if the house was going to be empty for a week (I presume that's how the thieves gained entrance) but that's nothing in light of the way the OP was treated for years, all at the instigation of his mother. I'm glad the stepfather apologised and didn't forgive the mother for it, but surely he saw with his own eyes that the OP was always polite and well-behaved. It's a shame the OP didn't tell his father everything sooner but I understand that at that time he still wanted a relationship with the mother who he thought loved him. I just hope the OP is doing well emotionally and mentally now.
Here's the thing why should a MINOR worry over a home and take the spare key himself when he shouldn't be the one looking over a home when he's underaged
@@BernadetteAnneChua Even as a teen I knew not to leave the key outside. I wouldn't have gone to check on the house (not my responsibility) but there's no need to invite thieves in.
I genuinely want to give that kid a hug, he had to be the mature one out of the 2 crazy adults on his mother's side. He never lashed out or was hateful, he just wanted a good enough childhood
Trusted and counted on child to bear with her new husbands and his children's passive aggressive behaviour for years. Trusted and counted on a literal teenager to live alone and keep her house safe? Cuz she claims She sacrificed enough already. Yeah she is manipulative as hell
My mom didn't lie but she tried to get me to live with her and her boyfriend who beat her years later she was saying how she always wanted me to live with them so I told her very bluntly he beat you all the time right her: yeah me: what the fuck did you think would happen to me? Her crying I never thought of that yeah you were selfish and my grandparents and I both always said no I was very aware as a kid and I knew it would have been miserable.
Nah, too much drama. Maybe he could just reply to confirm that it happened and then post the screenshot online. Let everyone know she was the crazy one. Hopefully that also help with Jake's divorce. Leave her with nothing, not even her new family.
Sad part is that only reason OP got an apology or any answer is the fact that woman had a spoonful of conscience. She could have easily burried the leads if she kept her mouth shut and just removed OP from her life.
if someone ever does something that horrible to you and asks for forgiveness, you say to them "hey, if you were in my position, would YOU forgive you?"
Thats honestly pretty bad advice. 9/10 times they would say yes simply because they want you to forgive them as it's the easiest route back to the status quo.
What kind of hirrible dad moves his kids in with a child he believes to be a juvenile delinquent who hates his kids and old people? If Jake really believed all that then he would be knowingly putting his kids in harms way.
Nah but if i dated a woman and she even THOUGHT about treating my kid like that, instant break up and blocked, no questions asked. Who the fuck lets a complete STRANGER treat their children like that?
Well it seems the Mom had enough love for OP in her heart to not disown him, and admit that she lied about him to her Husband... But not enough to NOT do it in the first place, and allow him to be mistreated through having to deal with the passive emotional abuse from her husband, and his two sons, via the silent treatment for over 3 years... ALL BECAUSE she didn't want to tell her SO that she didn't have the room to house his sick mother, so she blamed him for it, because it didn't make her look as bad, and made it look like she was doing her a favor by keeping her out of her house. She was completely selfish throughout all of it, she chose her own image over her own son, and allowed him to take the fall. Good on Jake for owning up to it, and apologizing for it, though he should've had the maturity to talk to OP about it in the first place. Furthermore, good on him for divorcing her ass after finding out she lied about HER OWN SON. I can't imagine how guilty he would've felt about treating him the way he did (as well as telling his sons to do the same), when he didn't even do anything wrong. Hell, I would too! I'm sure the other reason for the divorce would be because if she was willing to lie about her own kid, and then allow me, and my own kids to mistreat him just so she could cover her own ass... What else was she willing to lie about? Was probably the question, and the other major reason for why he made the decision to divorce her, ontop of the guilt of having mistreated her kid over that lie. So anyway, if I were OP, I would forgive her, but I would never forget about how she lied about me to her boyfriend (just so she didn't have to tell him she didn't have enough room for his Mother, who is also sick) and allowed me to be mistreated for years, because of it, and how took him telling her to disown me after leaving the house, after they left for a week long road trip, and didn't bother telling me about it until I called her to ask where they had gone, since they couldn't be bothered to tell me about until after, then blames me after they got robbed, even after I told her how pissed I was, and how I was leaving to go to my Dads, but she kept hanging up, and made it clear she didn't want to talk to me, or hear what I had to say (so for that reason, I wouldn't have bothered texting her either). The thing that irks me the most is that it never had to be this way, if she was honest to Jake from the get go, but she was too selfish, and too cowardly to do that, and while I may Forgive her, I would never forget that, and I could never get close to her ever again (at least not for a very long time), after she betrayed me like that, over something that could've been resolved in a much more harmless manner that didn't involve anyone taking the fall, much less ME, her own damn Son. Absolutely Deplorable.
I'm so sorry! Your mother made a choice to have you, and her sacrifices were her choice as well. She treated you terribly, and you did nothing to deserve any of this. Not Jake's abuse, not his kids' silent treatment and not your mom's gaslighting. I'm really sorry you had to go through all that, and thankfully you had your dad.
Yeah nah.. The mom is a horrible person. OP owes her nothing, and Jake is a dick to mistreat a teenager on her word. He should of tried to get to know OP himself.
Wtf is a teen to do in the event of a break in? Just because he was home doesn't guarantee that the break in wouldn't have happened. I fucking hate adults who do this kind of bullshit.
"trust and Safety" yes leave your son alone in the house by himself because he's supposed to ward off robbers xD. Whether he believed her lies or not, the cognitive incompetence to think the 16 year old boy was somehow terrorizing her boyfriends when he had done literally nothing to him is astounding.
I do have a playlist on youtube called "Holy Shit" where I put story vids like these into it, but only when it gets to a point where I say, "Holy Shit" its very self-explanatory, but might I just add, Holy Shit.
Who else is sick of the "ungrateful" argument in real life. No matter what you do, you're never treated with respect and when you stand up for yourself or do something wrong, you're "ungrateful". The person has clearly suffered more than you, you can't comprehend how much they've sacrificed. You just have to learn to deal with it, no matter how they act.
This kinda hits home for me. I have a narcissistic mother who emotionally manipulated me to make choices that were to my detriment for many years, even as an adult. It's a shame that you can only love your mother because she's your mother but not because she's a great and wonderful person. If she were a complete stranger, I would have nothing to do with her.
Just wow! So sad to hear this from a young child adolescent child. I hope you are doing well. Stay with your Dad and forget about your Mother. Prayers to you 🙏
that mom is an evil narc. Anyone who dates someone new and ignores their kid for their new life is evil
Well said. And given the mother abandoned OP to go on vacation with her new family; if someone got wind of that, they would contact social services to remove him from her, place him in foster care, and then with a kind and loving adoptive family.
both are narcist.... sorry stepdad does not get a pass on his behavior
Not only did she mistreat her son, she mistreated Jake by lying to him.
Well, depends on the kid! If the kid is an a-hole then that is justified, but according to the description this guy wasn't. It's not like you sign your life away when you have a kid, hell the best parents IMHO are those who (while willing to make sacrifices for their kids) don't give up on being their own person, with hobbies, even dreams! Yes, you might not get as far as you might have without a kid and you should (within reason) do a lot for the kid, but you should also not always put yourself second! Hell, my own father (note: I hate my lying, cheating, thieving mother, so yeah I am quite focused on my dad) had hobbies (he still does! Hell, the guy has more stamina than I do and he's 65 (!)) while raising me (with my stepmother).
@@danacarter9147 Yes this sucks - my own mother did something similar! She went on rehab after surgery and basically left me with the key to her apartmen, her dog and a few hundred bucks for food! I made it about a week (loved being on my own for a while)...after that I called my dad to fetch me (I had no driver's license and no car back then) and he did...I dropped the key off with a neighbour my mother designated as "she'll help you if need anything" (would have talked to the neighbour, but she was not there when I rang)
ps: Wouldn't social services call the father (joint custody - which would then give him custody if she's removed from joint custody, right?) to get him?
The the fuck is a 16 year old Gonna do against robbers while alone
Manned the 7.62 machine gun?
besides exist? LOL
I was taught various guns and knives by the age of 10. There's PLENTY a 16 year old can do to defend his home turf with that knowledge. You are the weak spot in this one, sad to say.
@@zarroth you're wrong because we don't know if he's done self defence or trained to fight. how the hell would an inexperienced kid be able to fight armed robbers? seems you are the weak spot, sad to say
@@zarroth huh? I was taught various guns and knives from age 8, doesn't mean I had complete access to the guns, a knife can only do so much if there's multiple people which there usually tends to be. Your brain is the weak spot of your life
This was so embarrassing on Jake's part. Imagine not only having beef with a teenager, but finding out you were doing it for NO reason 💀
Exactly. Wtf what kind of mom is that.
_*turns on the meat grinder_ all right boys :D time to prep dinner
No, there's a reason
It's called "because I want to show you that I can make you miserable" reason. It's a power play
@@girl1213 Except the "reason" was all based on a lie. That is the point they were making above. Essentially he was being an ass only to find out he had not reason to be
Jake was acting like an ass to punish a child only to find out he’d turned into an ass and that was his fundamental character now.
In a few years, it'll be "Why doesn't my son come to visit me?".
what i don't understand,if she dosen't like her son,why does she want him around.
Prior to these events, it's so she doesn't have to pay child support. It was clear that the dad was the better parent all along.
@@runeingebretsen8378 either money or to save face
@@runeingebretsen8378 Probably want someone to care for her in her old age.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Regardless instead of talking to op Jake decided to give him the silent treatment for years. I say don't respond. Also go no contact with her.
How do you spend years with the kid and not notice all the supposed bad behavior?
I would reply saying "you spent three years around me infront of my mum and alone, in those three years did you ever think this is wrong? That I have never done or acted in anyway like how she described, how your own kids hated me because of what you told them but they never came to you about me treating them wrong.
You may have been lied to but your actions are your own, you are an adult and you chose not to change in years. Your kids however are still children and their faults still lay with you, they watched you be cruel and thought that is the right way to treat others. I hope they can grow up and change and be better than the pair of you"
If op sends something like that it might remind him he made his own kids just as bad as him over something between adults and didn't correct it in years.
Jake is a morron. He believed the mother while living with the kid and not witnessing any misbehavior.
@@Dustin81 One word (woman) they like toxic because it's not boring.
The new man is jealous of the attention that you get from mom. He will sabotage you, every chance he gets, watch your back. Also he wants to be the only grown male telling your mom what to do.
The mum using the fact that she sacrificed so much as emotional manipulation is disgusting not only that every parent sacrifice's for their kid it doesn't make her special.
I think if we dig further we'd find it's only the dad who made sacrifices to live in the same city. The mom probably never got any big job opportunities or a romantic relationship either.
Men normally knows when a woman is nuts. That stepfather Jake didn't know because he's a 42 years old man child. That's why he didn't treat op bad because he isn't a bad man but also not an adult either.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Female solipsism is a feature of women, not a bug. This is basic observable reality
Reminds me of something I was thinking about a few weeks ago. I'd been joking with my little brother about how he "owes me his life" because I saved his life twice when he was a toddler. Right as I said that though, I was disgusted with myself for saying it, even as a joke. I didn't save him so that he'd be indebted to me, I did it to save him. My brother, who's currently 9, doesn't owe me shit, and I told him as much right after making that joke.
The fact that this mom tried to say "I gave up so much for you" is disgusting.
Those aren't sacrifices, they are obligations
To begin with, isn't going to vacation with her family, and without OP, the definition of ABANDONMENT OF A MINOR, also the treatment towards OP from Jake and Co. count as a form of abuse?
Yes.
The silent treatment is a form of Passive Emotional Abuse.
Why do you think the ex-husband win the full custody? Men usually fail to gain custody unless the women effed up hard
@@kos2919True, but if the women are unfit, they lose custody, when the kids go into the foster care system.
i was wondering this too
@@kos2919 i was asking because, wouldn't that be enough to file a report to the police? Because así de from abandonment it could potebtially count as endangerment of a minor as well.
Dad should have called the police as well aside from demanding( and obtaining) full custody.
After all the mother is a monster for subjecting her child to all that.
Your mother needs to be taken to court for abuse!!!
And libel
@@Chuckakhan Indeed! Don't make MY mistake! My own mum is similar to that mother and I frankly never sued her...should have, but my own dad is too good-natured and always talked me out of it (I don't get my dad! She cheated, she hurt him, she used me to hurt him, too (note: He had full custody, but she had visitation, so she used that to hurt him by for example flying to France with me, without telling him first and by allowing me to basically go wild while I was staying with her, so I came back expecting the same freedoms at home, which my dad of course didn't grant, which led to many - partially even justified IMHO because having strict rules sucks if none of your friends do - arguments and fights! Still, he didn't want me to take her to court, something I'll never understand!)
Op probably could get their mom on pain and suffering.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Not the mother only, both her and her bf. They both severely neglected the kid, abandonned him alone, in a house, which was then robbed so security isn't on point, went no contact after an argument, the kid could be dead in that same house for all they knew. Jail.
There is a high probability that he would have been there when it was robbed, and he could have been injured or killed. But all she cares about is the items taken....bye mom, see you never
If she tries to sue even a delusional judge would've laughed her out of the house because what was she thinking leaving a minor to watch the house
I wouldnt give a single f**k about the things stolen from my house when on a vaccation, because every physical belonging will be replaced by the insurance company in mere days anyways and as long none of my relatives got involved/hurt it is manageable. i will definitly rethink security stuff if its that easy to get into my home, but i will never think "why didnt you defend the TV with your life, its gone now"🙄 unbelievable "parent".
After hearing what she did to op I wouldn’t be surprised if his dad let the word slip
His ex was out of town.
Dad set up the robbing. Son has been abused for years, Dad knows the house is empty for a week. Dad knows where the key is hidden. Dad said he would "take care of everything." Dad is a good Dad.
Lol, if the kid was under 17 he should have reported his mother to Children's Aid for abandoning him, then go to his father's.
"You should have been home when the robbers came after seeing me and my new husband and kids leave for vacation! Maybe you'd scare them off, maybe you'd get killed. Now we'll never know and we lost the TV. This is all your fault!" - Mother of the Year.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
Her logic was that robbers will usually stay clear of a house with clear signs of activity, which is not wrong tbh.
But her behaviour and abandonment of her kid is still abject and she fully deserved to have her house emptied.
Robbers probably saw the house completely left alone and got a payday for it.
Classic single mums
@@mortaldao8044she isn't even single
Why would he fight his real dad anyway?
OP's dad should go full scorched earth. Full custody, no visitation and she has to pay child support. Jake is massive C U Next Tuesday. Not even bothering to talk to OP? He didn't even try to establish a relationship?
Well OP's mom is proof that a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness
There was one story on Reddit where an OP (who was a cop) arrested a guy for SA’ing his teenage stepdaughter. And when they told the girl’s mother what her husband had done, the woman asked the cops to take her daughter away instead.
@@Mia-dt3gl Why? What happened next? Is that girl alright now?
@@smsff7 that was how the story ended.
@@smsff7 I'm wondering the same thing, too.
What a crappy mother to treat your kids this way.
The mom is the particularly bad one in all of this but the fact that Jake didn’t sit down with him even once for a whole three years to try to fix things with him is also pretty insane.
He is a type of person who once hearing that some talked crap behind him, doesn't confront and sort things out. Tis not a good habit to have and not a crime itself. Many people have this bad habit of just sulking and not working out on solutions, so we cannot say this to be criminal act.
Well what reason would he have to NOT believe what he was to
@@cosmicchad4752 He should have at least formed his own opinion of the only 13 year old son of the woman he's marrying. Sure, some kids are just jerks, but a 42 year old man should know by that age that a lot of kids make trouble growing up for all sorts of reasons, not just because they like making trouble even if the mom thinks otherwise.
@@Ollybollyk Yeah, honestly the sane response to that would have been "he's a teenager afraid he's being replaced by a man with 2 other sons close to his age. I need to make extra effort to make him feel included". Then again, if the mom kept lying and discouraging any idea of reaching out...
So here is something i don't understand- If Jake thought OP was this terrible horrible delinquent why DID he decide to leave OP alone in his house for a whole week? why didn't they go on their holiday when OP was with dad or demand OP go back to dad while they went away?
As for mom's 'she wanted them to be a HAPPY family' how could they be a happy family when she was sowing distrust and suspicion?
Jake is an abusive jerk, and he just wanted a punching bag.
bet she talked him into it like "i told him that if he fucked up i'd disown him" type of shit
I had the same thought. If he's a bad kid, then why leave him with everything? That's not how that works.
They're AI stories, don't expect continuity or sense.
@mnomadvfx There's a good chance it is, but humans are inconsistent quite often. Sometimes because they're leaving something out, they're emotional and can't write quite right, etc. But there is a good 50/50 chance it's AI.
Mom is an evil tart, but Jake! He's a complete ah! This started when op was 13y/o. In 3 yrs he didn't realize his wife was lying? He was complicit in mistreating a child. What a dummy.
Jake is a gullible fool never once did he think I’ll talk to my step son regardless of what the mom was saying
@@sephiroth661 Exactly what I thought. The "adult" person should have talked to the child. Regardless of what they were told, that would have solved all of this mess.
Jake is an adult he should have tqlked to op instead of mistreating him
The email (a written evidence) is pretty damning itself, if op was pettier he could've used it to screw over Jake's divorce because of the knowing mistreatment can be used against his children. Was probably only apologizing in email to save his ass during the divorce proceedings
@BernadetteAnneChua no he made it clear jake was fine with him until his mom started lying about it
@BernadetteAnneChua the fact that the mom lied continously makes her look worse in a divorce. She was the reason for friction in the home.
I agree Jake is not innocent in this
@@eeveestrainer4677Of course he isn't he should try to talk with him and ask way he ,, don't like him and his kids " Than OP will said the truth but this probably ended merriege much earlier.
Mother's like this are worthless. Neglecting their kid for the new man and his family smfh
Even worse given the fact that she was the cause of it all, and he wouldn't have been treated like that to begin with if she didn't pin him as the reason why Jake's sick mother couldn't live at her house, instead of just being honest.
8 in 10 of all violent criminals in prison come from single mother homes
These mothers are pathetic! And for a grown man to ignore his partner’s child is absolutely embarrassing
also what kind of mama's boy is he,for wanting his mother to live with him and his new wife.
@@runeingebretsen8378 it's not really that surprising to want to take care of your sick parent.
Op was 16, reckless endangerment of a minor, intentional abandonment of a minor.
it sounds to me she used her son to score points with her new husband,and he was just dumb enough to believe her blindly,regardless of what his own eyes and ears told him.
Obviously that doesn’t matter to mommy dearest as long as she gets his golden rod.
Wow. People growing up weak AF if they can't handle being on their own for a bit at the age of 16.
Sad and pathetic state.
@@JoybuzzerX Take that one up with law enforcement since nowadays laws are more strict
Jake should've apologized in person. Felt the unease in knowing he played a part in emotionally abusing a child.
jake is only angry he got manipulated....his actions show him to be just as evil as her
Its probably for the best Jake communicate on the same level he always communicated on to him. It would be embarrasing to talk to him after being so clearly manipulated for so long.
She deserves a heartfelt apology. "I'm sorry you're my mother." 😮💨
So Mom is mad at OP for leaving the house??? She ABANDONED HER CHILD!!!! And what’s worse, what is OP was home when the robbers came???? She is just as bad as her husband
She's 100% worse
She was infinitly worse
The audacity she has to talk about "safety" while not even thinking about OP's safety. Like what makes her think some 16yr old guy would be able to do if a group of armed huge robbers broke in. It would have just put OP and his life in grave danger. Just shows how she cares more about her marriage and the stuff her husband(ex) provides/has over her own son's life. Such a horrible excuse of a human being is she
Exactly! What ‘safety is she to talking about when she didn’t even discuss being gone? If he had been home, worse than a missing tv would be the least of the argument happening and what we are listening to, real or not.
had i been OP i would have texted her back "going back to dads, all the windows and doors are open, oh no...." then blocked her
The mother pitted everyone against each other and then it blows up in her face. Also blaming her child that it is their fault a break-in occurred…. Mother of the year right there…
OP sounds too serious for his age but that happens when you have to raise yourself.
Three letters
CPS. You abandoned your child for a damn week to relax. It a good thing OP did leave cause, I'd fear what would have happened if he actually stayed in that house.
Plus like OP said, your a 43 year old man, grow up
step father is just as guilty as mom and should be investigated along with mom
This isn't to excuse any of the abuse that kid went through and will sound harsh, but I find it disgusting that you would think to elevate it to that level while he had so many other options available.
He already had a strong enough support network that he was aware of that he hadn't even tapped yet.
People need to handle their own problems when they can, involving the government is just asking for something to go terribly awry.
Arbitrarily using something like CPS for vindictive or insouciant reasons only takes resources away from those who truly have no other options and could lead all the way to a death since there is nothing too petty that police won't end someone over.
But you're definitely right about the stepdad.
After he decided on marriage he should have made regular efforts to smooth over his issues with the OP, given he was part of the package.
Mom really blamed bro for not stopping the robbery. If he stayed there he was a dead man.
I believe that was the idea.
@@PrinceAlhorian It is within the realm of possibility if this is real she was watching true crime shows then remembered home alone and said yep that will fix everything and was going around in public to sketchy places talking on the phone Loudly who when and how she will be the perfect mark full details the entire scout report it fills in all questions and plot holes, even if it's not real it's likely enough that it has probably happened so many times since home alone came out its why there way stricter rules on depends left alone.
She plays to many damn games. I couldn’t be with her either
Acting more childish than the teenager. And the teenager being more of a responsible adult than the grown woman.🤦♂️
I don't know why people keep on saying Jake should have just talked to him when all Jake had to do was pay attention because with all his mama said that he was doing and saying would have not added up actions speak louder than words
jake is only angry he got manipulated. he is just as scummy as mom
The supposed problem child was polite and kept to himself for 3 years.
@@petervanettinger2566 this tbh, only Apologized because the lawyer was probably asking questions about OP
The mom kept lying that OP got in trouble at school..so they probably thought he acted one way in front of them but another behind their backs.
@@vianjelosthis doesn't make any sense either. If a kid is constantly causing trouble at school wouldn't the said school try to contact the parents and find out what's going on or ask the parents to take action? Or if he was a delinquent like his mother portrayed him, he would've gotten at least a couple of suspensions in those 3 years.
Mom and Jake are evil. OP is a good kid but an absolute doormat. Pops is the real OG
Jake isn't evil the mother lied to him and made horrible story about her own son!
@@SungJinWu_ Yet he still treated him poorly while the OP never showed him any bad behavior. He doesn't get a pass on this
@@Dustin81 honestly if someone told me that I would do that same but atleast I would have confirmed that instead of just treating him like that
@@Dustin81tbh I think he kinda does. Not for leaving him at home but rather for the silent treatment. He only ignored OP because he was repeatedly told OP was a thug that had it out for him and would harm his mother if they met. He was so heavily manipulated that he never even observed OP's behavior. Jake is a victim too.
It’s just a huge misunderstanding and op is straight up mentally weak. Or it’s just me who has an extremely lonely life and major trust issues.
My Mom used to tell me that her Husband didn't want me around. Made a big deal out of it, as if he'd mistreat her or something. I plainly asked her Husband about it. (He'd always been welcoming to me.) He looked shocked when I mentioned it. He told me that she has been telling him not to invite to functions & he's been ignoring her. She looked like she wanted to fight him afterwards. Psycho shit, for Attention & Control. She's a Narc & I'm the Black Sheep.
Yeah, they divorced not long afterward.
With those types of issues you have to take it to the source to air out. It breaks whatever bubble of control that's supposed to be gained by keeping you away from speaking to the other person.
When I married a woman with children, I committed myself to them as much as to their mother. Now, they are all grown, and have children of their own. My marriage didn't last, but my relationships with my step-kids is really strong to this day. I love them like they're my own, I would lay down my life for any one of them.
Wanted to have a "happy family" when you told your husband your child hates your mother in law and he refuse to talk to your child
The Mother is an AH. Who put their kid through that! No way! Cut ties!
Wow. Did she use the phrase "apologize to me and my family?"
You don't just leave. You don't just leave without saying anything. You certainly don't portray your own child as a selfish beast who is to blame for everything. Though points to Jake for at least apologizing. He didn't handle this well, but that at least was a decent thing to do.
But this mother is a narcissistic monster.
If I was OP, his father, or Jake then I would question everything about her. 1. Is OP's father actually his real biological father?
2. Did his father and mother sacrifice better jobs to stay near each other?
3. I wonder if OP's was dating a lot of men that he didn't know about, then it would make sense for her to create a story about OP to hide her history and it was also used to block Jake's mother from moving in.
4. Jake told OP about his mother and father giving up a lot for OP, he felt she was a saint and even though she was a single mother changed his criteria and accepted her. This would explain why he felt like being with her was not rushing into things.
5. Jake would have been confused as to why she was so against his mother moving in when she is so caring, finding out that OP is a monster (according to her lies) would have been devastating.
6. I would not be surprised if a lot more shady information was uncovered about her if OP, his father, and Jake have a discussion about everything. She is so good at manipulation that no one questioned her, not spoke up and even now she is creating a new image of herself as a victim.
7. If 2 or more separate people say a person is a monster then they likely are, but if it's only one person who keeps you informed and they try to isolate you from them and their friends then you need to thoroughly question that persons motives and try to find out the truth
Ohhh wow 😮 The triangulation is strong in this one
People are so naive. The mother is the covert abuser that receives it's supply on watching what is happening and playing both sides. She thinks she has hands clean so there is no guilt on her. What Jake is telling OP is what his mother tells him. She is also creating the situations where Jake has the power to attack OP. She is the middle man and strategist.
Edit: The "I made so many sacrifices for you" tactic using vague, distant and unproven situations is a classic for abuser worldwide.
Wow the mum totally neglects her son and she expects her son to be ok with it, also her new husband and his kids are abusing OP by sending him to Coventry for no reason. I'm so glad that OP has a decent dad and he can turn to him, OPs mum is the useless one and caused all the hate in the new family situation, if I was OP I'd go NC with his mum and let her deal with the consequences that her actions caused and of that means she spends the rest of her life alone and miserable then so be it it's what she deserves
I have been there before, was spoken to about things I had no idea about. I had to trip the wire in front of her to find out why Mother was mad at me.
@@jnicoulakos it's so wrong when parents abuse their kids this way 😢
@@emily.letsendbslintheuk554 This is so true, Father wonders why I'm low contact with them.
How’s a fully grown Middle Aged man got beef with a 16 year old 🥲 is the stepdads frontal lobe still underdeveloped as he’s behaving like a teenager.
And the mums “sacrifices” are not answerable by the child, as a parent you choose to make sacrifices for your kid as a big part of parenthood is being selfless.
I’m more than 50% sure the dad is responsible for the break in 😂
'It's a matter of safety!'
Yeah, the KID'S safety! If the place had been robbed while the kid was IN the house? What would have potentially happened? What if the kid had gotten hurt? What if the thief had had a gun? What if he'd been killed? What would she have said then? I guess it would have been the kid's fault. An absolute terrible mother and person.
While I don't blame Jake for believing his partner and being mad with OP, I DEFINITELY fault him for at least not talking to him about ANYTHING. The moment he heard OP allegedly had something to say about his mother and children, he should've confronted OP and the truth would've came out much sooner. I mean why would even still bring your kids to live with a person who, allegedly, hates them and talks bad about them??? Like this whole scenario sounds so unrealistic, especially with the other kids being involved because you KNOW kids can't hold water
Jake already doesn’t sound like the considerate guy. He propose OP and his mom move in with him, with his sick mother after a few months. Not a good sign for a father to not only move a kid doesn’t even know into his mom, but with someone who sick (even if they have a nurse). Both of those elements are not something you should do when yo still trying to figure out how serious the relationship.
Safety, what about OPs safety had he been home when the house was robbed.
if he had been home,he could have ended up hurt or worse,by the robber(s).
That mother belongs in Jail for neglect and mental cruelty. Should have told his Dad. Heartbreaking.
100% his mom now wishes she agreed to cut ties with OP and maintain her lie
This is why my son is not with his mother. I always feared some bs like this would happen
This reminds me so much of my mother. She left my dad for a new man but loved to lie about and come up with all sorts of stories. She wouldn't defend us when he yelled at us for no reason and expected us to be sympathetic. I was 14 and am glad I decided that I would stay with my dad. It was hard enough to visit. I feel for OP.
Giga chad dad response:
"Im going to take care of everything for you now"
Loved hearing that lol
People need to teach their children that it is okay to talk to them about people hurting them, even if it is the other parent hurting and abusing them.
That witch was emotionally abusing her child, and she let a man abuse her child for her gain.
Honestly, this woman is absolutely messed up and I’m so happy OP at least has a wonderful father to look after them. Because I agree this woman made her bed now she has to lie in it. She doesn’t get to try and make your out to be her personal skape goat then expecting the OP to want to stick around to play happy family with her much as expect her soon to be stay with her, she lied when she could’ve just been honest with him, but made her out the punching bag. People this manipulative, toxic,selfish don’t deserve to have children.😓
At first I thought Jake was the bastard here but after hearing the lies that your own mom said about you, she’s the real asshole here and good on Jake for apologizing to you at least.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself kiddo, and you’re better off being with your dad if you ask me
How actually mental it is that a fully grown adult literaly ignores his step child & involves his own children in the same kind of behavior AND the mom just lets that happen because of the old I raised you card? Call cps ffs
Honestly felt she was a trash mom from the moment he said how he was being treated and his mom allowed it and now that we know the reason i feel even more so. Im glad the mom got her karma.
What a sorry excuse of a "mother". Good on the father for actually BEING A DECENT PARENT.
The mom is the definition of a self inflicted wound!
Sheesh, she threw her own son under the bus for a guy? That's just low.
When the house got robbed he could of been killed, a few belongings got stolen and she didn't even consider that fact that she could of came home to him dead after the robbery.
news flash, if your mom leaves you without telling you with a jerk, she does not really love you.
If you are forced to spend time with her (due to being a minor) just ignore her and not talk to her the way she forced you to live due to her lies. The fact that she was not charged for neglect and abuse shows either she had a good lawyer or you and your dad are good people who didn't force the issue.
She left a 16-year-old alone in a house while they slept. Imagine trying to tell a judge that you abandoned your underage child at home while they were asleep. never told them you were going on vacation without them. They ran to their dads for shelter and you believe that they should pay because your house was robbed.
I wonder if Mom sacrificed anything to stay in that town? She acts like she sacrificed nothing. I bet the Dad was the only one that gave up careers and maybe love for the son.
If you had sacrificed for a child all that time. You would never marry someone who was even slightly hostile toward your kid. How desperate are you to have a man that you don't run when he suggests moving in together after 3 months?
There are those in this world that don’t deserve to be parents, this lady is one of em.
Parents never sacrifice anything for children, any parent who believes such is immature and a narcissist and probably shouldn't have children as they see the responsibility of raising kids to be a job or chore and that mentality is wrong and broken.
So the lad has been punished for, something, for three years!! Ouch.
Shoulf apologise.
"I am sorry that you are so blind to see how terrible of a mother you are, and that you abandoned a literal child on their own for a week without telling them anything. I'm sorry you ignored my calls, and didn't call me back when you got to the hotel like you said, I'm sorry your actions caused you to be robbed, I'm sorry that you will soon have to pay my dad child support since I'm still a kid and living with him full time". See, apologies can help get things off your chest
This kids dad dodged the biggest nuclear bullet ever. Good on Jake for apologizing and bailing tf out.
Should never treat your child like this. Terrible parents raise terrible people.
His “ mother “ , I use that term loosely, knew about Jake’s animosity towards her son BEFORE she married him , and she still did. She tried to emotionally manipulate her son telling him she passed up numerous men to put him first, yet she married a scum bag who hated her child. You need to cut her out of your life, she chose a new family over you and doesn’t give a damn about you . Stay with you father, he loves you .
That Jake probably hates that he has to share your mom's affection and time, there is douchebags who get with women who have kids and then "complain" about them showing their kid affection and spending time with the kid!
He was kind enough to lock the house up. I would probably not have bothered. I was a horrible and angry kid around this age. I know i would have lashed out if my mother pulled something like this.
The mom really tried to talk "safety" of their house?? What about OPs safety should they have been present when the robbers broke in and were the violent type?
What if something else happened?? Disgusting
Should have told dad years ago, Mom dont care and guilt trip op with her bs. Mom is filth
Admittedly, he shouldn't have left the key under the plant pot if the house was going to be empty for a week (I presume that's how the thieves gained entrance) but that's nothing in light of the way the OP was treated for years, all at the instigation of his mother. I'm glad the stepfather apologised and didn't forgive the mother for it, but surely he saw with his own eyes that the OP was always polite and well-behaved. It's a shame the OP didn't tell his father everything sooner but I understand that at that time he still wanted a relationship with the mother who he thought loved him. I just hope the OP is doing well emotionally and mentally now.
Here's the thing why should a MINOR worry over a home and take the spare key himself when he shouldn't be the one looking over a home when he's underaged
@@BernadetteAnneChua Even as a teen I knew not to leave the key outside. I wouldn't have gone to check on the house (not my responsibility) but there's no need to invite thieves in.
I genuinely want to give that kid a hug, he had to be the mature one out of the 2 crazy adults on his mother's side. He never lashed out or was hateful, he just wanted a good enough childhood
I agree with OP.
Trusted and counted on child to bear with her new husbands and his children's passive aggressive behaviour for years.
Trusted and counted on a literal teenager to live alone and keep her house safe?
Cuz she claims She sacrificed enough already.
Yeah she is manipulative as hell
Abandonment off child
My mom didn't lie but she tried to get me to live with her and her boyfriend who beat her years later she was saying how she always wanted me to live with them so I told her very bluntly he beat you all the time right her: yeah me: what the fuck did you think would happen to me? Her crying I never thought of that yeah you were selfish and my grandparents and I both always said no I was very aware as a kid and I knew it would have been miserable.
I can completely understand OP
I’d take that email to the police as proof of his mistreatment of OP and have him charged with a slew of abuse allegations.
Nah, too much drama. Maybe he could just reply to confirm that it happened and then post the screenshot online. Let everyone know she was the crazy one. Hopefully that also help with Jake's divorce. Leave her with nothing, not even her new family.
Sad part is that only reason OP got an apology or any answer is the fact that woman had a spoonful of conscience. She could have easily burried the leads if she kept her mouth shut and just removed OP from her life.
if someone ever does something that horrible to you and asks for forgiveness, you say to them "hey, if you were in my position, would YOU forgive you?"
Thats honestly pretty bad advice.
9/10 times they would say yes simply because they want you to forgive them as it's the easiest route back to the status quo.
@@Zaheer_Zafar_Zawhereeveryouare when they say yes you slap them across the F'n face "forgive me then"
What kind of mother does that? Lady you made that bed. Now sleep in it cupcake.
What kind of hirrible dad moves his kids in with a child he believes to be a juvenile delinquent who hates his kids and old people? If Jake really believed all that then he would be knowingly putting his kids in harms way.
Nah but if i dated a woman and she even THOUGHT about treating my kid like that, instant break up and blocked, no questions asked.
Who the fuck lets a complete STRANGER treat their children like that?
The way so many parents choose their new relationships over their children is honestly scary
Is it just me, or does it seem like a lot of single dads are WAY better at looking after/raising their children than most single moms?
Well it seems the Mom had enough love for OP in her heart to not disown him, and admit that she lied about him to her Husband...
But not enough to NOT do it in the first place, and allow him to be mistreated through having to deal with the passive emotional abuse from her husband, and his two sons, via the silent treatment for over 3 years...
ALL BECAUSE she didn't want to tell her SO that she didn't have the room to house his sick mother, so she blamed him for it, because it didn't make her look as bad, and made it look like she was doing her a favor by keeping her out of her house.
She was completely selfish throughout all of it, she chose her own image over her own son, and allowed him to take the fall.
Good on Jake for owning up to it, and apologizing for it, though he should've had the maturity to talk to OP about it in the first place.
Furthermore, good on him for divorcing her ass after finding out she lied about HER OWN SON.
I can't imagine how guilty he would've felt about treating him the way he did (as well as telling his sons to do the same), when he didn't even do anything wrong.
Hell, I would too!
I'm sure the other reason for the divorce would be because if she was willing to lie about her own kid, and then allow me, and my own kids to mistreat him just so she could cover her own ass... What else was she willing to lie about? Was probably the question, and the other major reason for why he made the decision to divorce her, ontop of the guilt of having mistreated her kid over that lie.
So anyway, if I were OP, I would forgive her, but I would never forget about how she lied about me to her boyfriend (just so she didn't have to tell him she didn't have enough room for his Mother, who is also sick) and allowed me to be mistreated for years, because of it, and how took him telling her to disown me after leaving the house, after they left for a week long road trip, and didn't bother telling me about it until I called her to ask where they had gone, since they couldn't be bothered to tell me about until after, then blames me after they got robbed, even after I told her how pissed I was, and how I was leaving to go to my Dads, but she kept hanging up, and made it clear she didn't want to talk to me, or hear what I had to say (so for that reason, I wouldn't have bothered texting her either).
The thing that irks me the most is that it never had to be this way, if she was honest to Jake from the get go, but she was too selfish, and too cowardly to do that, and while I may Forgive her, I would never forget that, and I could never get close to her ever again (at least not for a very long time), after she betrayed me like that, over something that could've been resolved in a much more harmless manner that didn't involve anyone taking the fall, much less ME, her own damn Son.
Absolutely Deplorable.
Yo this would have been heaven for me I usually don't like it when people try to talk to me too often I'm such a big introvert
I'm so sorry! Your mother made a choice to have you, and her sacrifices were her choice as well. She treated you terribly, and you did nothing to deserve any of this. Not Jake's abuse, not his kids' silent treatment and not your mom's gaslighting. I'm really sorry you had to go through all that, and thankfully you had your dad.
The mother is a textbook narcissist and the son is the supply / scapegoat.
I'm glad he recognized how abnormal their relationship was.
He wanted your mom to himself and wanted your mom to raise his kids and not you, the fact that your mom let it happen is very telling
Yeah nah.. The mom is a horrible person. OP owes her nothing, and Jake is a dick to mistreat a teenager on her word. He should of tried to get to know OP himself.
Wtf is a teen to do in the event of a break in? Just because he was home doesn't guarantee that the break in wouldn't have happened. I fucking hate adults who do this kind of bullshit.
Sounds like the mom didn't sacrifice relationships for OP, she just has shitty choices in men who didn't commit.
"trust and Safety" yes leave your son alone in the house by himself because he's supposed to ward off robbers xD. Whether he believed her lies or not, the cognitive incompetence to think the 16 year old boy was somehow terrorizing her boyfriends when he had done literally nothing to him is astounding.
I do have a playlist on youtube called "Holy Shit" where I put story vids like these into it, but only when it gets to a point where I say, "Holy Shit" its very self-explanatory, but might I just add,
Holy Shit.
Who else is sick of the "ungrateful" argument in real life. No matter what you do, you're never treated with respect and when you stand up for yourself or do something wrong, you're "ungrateful". The person has clearly suffered more than you, you can't comprehend how much they've sacrificed. You just have to learn to deal with it, no matter how they act.
This kinda hits home for me. I have a narcissistic mother who emotionally manipulated me to make choices that were to my detriment for many years, even as an adult. It's a shame that you can only love your mother because she's your mother but not because she's a great and wonderful person. If she were a complete stranger, I would have nothing to do with her.
A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family, but s woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.
It shocks me that the mother would still date a man who treats her kid this way. Wth.
That's how she wanted it, she's the one that got him to treat her son like that.
Just wow! So sad to hear this from a young child adolescent child. I hope you are doing well. Stay with your Dad and forget about your Mother. Prayers to you 🙏
that is not your mom, that is a demon.