@@nammi895 Just because you find them to be unoriginal does not discredit the value found within these points. You'll come to realize their truth, whether now or in 30 years.
1. Women respect and appreciate men and their masculinity. 2. She has a great relationship with her father. 3. She has solid values. And they are somewhat close to yours. 4. She has her own hobbies and her own interest. 5. She's got high-quality female friends. 6. She talks respectfully about her peers and friends. 7. She takes resposibilities for 11:4511:4711:49 her actions. 8. She treats you with respect and communicates your value. 9. She encourages to be better as a ( man, father, boyfriend, friend, profession) [later in the relationship]
It's so nice to hear this perspective instead of just the usual "red flags" to look out for! Sending this to my brother and other single guy friends who keep asking me to '"find them a wife" -- even some of my husband's friends who ask "do you have any single friends?" ..... it's really hard to know what to say because yes, I do - and yes, those women also want to be introduced to marriage-minded quality men, but they're really intentional about living their faith and while all of these men truly want to be husbands and fathers and start a family but they're not strong in their faith ... and I don't think anyone should compromise on that - would love a video on that!
Definitely can’t judge a woman based on her relationship with her Dad. Some Dads dont give their daughters the opportunity to have a good relationship with their Dad. I didn’t have a good one but I respect men!
I love the masculine. I love what men have to offer. However I do not have an appreciation for my abusive narcissistic father. I do understand it’s good to look for a woman who has a healthy relationship with her father but it shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Having strong boundaries to that kind of relationship is the “green flag”. Especially if she conscious of how it’s affected her and made an effort to heal. She’s “closely connected to family” this list does not give credit to those who have healed from toxic family situations and set boundaries.
Exactly, I think there's probably less than 10% of women out there who actually had a good father/daughter relationship so by putting that as a condition (one she had literally no power over at any point) they are just making sure they will probably never find "the one":)) which may be better actually, singlehood isn't that bad
I have found that the vast majority of people who come from toxic family situations are not in your shoes. They have not healed, and are not doing the work. That is why me and many other men will continue to avoid all women coming from situations like that.
you can't heal when men keep taking advantage of you, that's one of the main reasons I just chose to stop trying dating, it's draining and toxic and I attract only fucked up selfish men@@MKULTRA_Victim_
I was married to a beautiful wonderful woman for 40 years until she passed. You are spot on with your "green flags". Loyalty had to be my favorite attribute
Great relationship with her Dad. This one is interesting for me cause I've been involved with two women who looked to have a great dynamic with their Dad but as time went on, it looked more and more like an enmeshed relationship that lacked boundaries and felt like at times, that I was a third wheel or secondary option for her.
This point really is problematic I think. As a woman, you can select your friends, but you cannot select your father. If you have had no luck with your dad, it is not your fault at all and does not say anything about your value as a woman! Also, like the experience you mentioned: what looks like a "great relationship" and great closeness from the outside, can in reality be enmeshed, toxic, abusive etc. !
@@fiction589 very true.. but good to learn that when a man asks me about how things were with my father I'd rather say great now... in order not to land in his bin. Like trash or better suicide right away, no more value I have for a man lol. BTW, what if his mother was sh****...? Should I ask that then?
@@fiction589i agree. It’s important to deal with the load of a not so god father. But otherwise it’s totally not the daughter’s fault if her father wasn’t good. Being responsible and taking care of your emotions is key
It's not fair to say that about having a great relationship with your dad.. not everyone's dad stuck around.. not everyone has good family behind them. It's not my fault I don't have a great relationship with my dad. My dad is a selfish man who put alcohol and drugs before his kids.
I totally hear you ... I grew up in a similar situation. I am working on my issues with men because like how this person pointed out I've spent decades hating men. I am working on unraveling those issues and developing trust that there are good men out there.
@@musicianwren9248 I actually really like men.. probably too much.. I need to learn how to love myself and not rely on men and others in general for my validation and happiness 😕 so maybe it affected me in the opposite way to you..
Standards (or lack thereof): "Can I get this woman's attention, and, can I get laid". Funny to hear, but so true. And maybe this was the underlying cause of relationship failure in the last forty years. It certainly applies to myself.
The guy I'm dating was going to help neighbors cut a tree down. He was loading all kinds of ropes and chains and chainsaws in his truck when I was there. I told him that I liked that he was helping other people, but I loved ❤ his courage and strength. He melted over that comment.
Very well done clear concise. Only feeling is not too be too focused on the Robust life but a happy person on their own. Positive. Dream passions are cool but being a joy to be around is far greater quality that will serve all well.
I’m engaged and I’m really glad I found your videos. Great place to check in with myself and prepare for a marriage with the input of a married UA-camr I resonate with.
To me, the most significant Green-Flag is the last one, She encourages you to be a better version of yourself and doesn't try to "fix" or "train" you to be who she thinks you should be.
I like what you have to say. I feel like I'm learning. Thank you. I just want to say that some of us didn't have fathers that stuck around. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate the masculine. I can and do you see the value in having man in my life. That being said I'm also an independent woman because that's the way my life is turned out. I made some bad choices in the past in men and so I'm doing it on my own. I guess you said that women want men that are high earners. That doesn't seem really that important to me. However I don't want to have to carry someone. As a single mother I'm already caring for a family on my own financially for the most part. There are things that men can do for me that I cannot do for myself. However those things have very little to do with physical sustenance. Sometimes we're forced to be independent women either by circumstance or own choices or both. I think a woman who has done the work, in other words is emotionally intelligent recognizes that masculine energy compliments feminine energy. This idea that is in opposition to feminine energy is toxic masculinity. I love and appreciate gentle protection. I like to feel vulnerable and small in my man's arms. I think nice guys deserve a chance. I think short guys deserve a chance. However that being said I'm a chubby woman and I seem to attract a lot of players always have even when I was thin. So I've decided to take a break from dating and now I'm on UA-cam looking for videos. I need to do some growing and work on myself. Not just physically because no matter how little I eat I'm always going to be thick, but also emotionally, because the reality is I'm calling the type of men to me and I need to figure out why. It's either full on commitment right away which scares me or guys that just want to get laid. I have higher standards than that. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Your videos are much appreciated thank you
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I found this channel about a week ago, listening to our content every day and learning so much. I just realized the girl I’ve been spending a lot of time in yan and having a lot of difficulty with hates men. even though she sells on the first person, she loves and trust somethings happened where I could see how dark that side of her and I’ll easily be returned to me whenever I make a mistake. I have to slowly get emotion attached because this relationship is costing self-esteem.
Feel like I need a glossy here. Quality ? High caliber ? Masculinity? Respect ? HIGH VALUE ? seems to me allot of room here for conformation bias and expecting the other to convince you who you are.
Agree with all of it, and can confidently say I embody these green flags -- some innately and some after inner and outer work. Except my dad has been dead for a looooong time and chose not to have a healthy relationship with his family so.... coo.
Just remember why many women dislike men, and look at how badly women have been treated all throughout history. Be the good guy who shows a woman that masculinity respects femininity and uplifts and genuinely likes women (not just in a sexual way) and does not put women down. As for the father part, well, many people have had fathers that are not so great, so don't hold it against a woman if she doesn't have a great relationship with her father.
Getting to actually experience a woman with these green flags is such an incredible and beautiful experience. Once you've had it, you never settle for less.
These are basically traits that define an adult... The basic motto for me is that you should be building yourself well both physically and mentally first and then the person that you share your life, your dreams with should be such an adult in character that she/he will appreciate those values and share theirs' with you.. And then that would actually be the way to building up a future together as a whole..
On the topic of a woman's father, what if she doesn't have a relationship with her father because he chose drugs over his own daughter?? So because a woman then doesn't have a relationship with her father that would then say she isn't worthy of a partner's love??
I agree. He was a little off on this one because this is many peoples reality. I think what he is trying to say is that is boils down to respect for the male gender.
I agree as a man, I think the biggest point is someone who respects other men. One thing I had to deal with with my fiance is her dad is alcoholic and her mom bosses her dad around, while she was showing that behavior to me I won't put up with it. So in that respect I would say don't treat men the way your mom treated them or pick them.
@@tru_kru_bahbee24 I do agree, he should add that to the video as he pretty much is saying it's a red flag if they don't have a good relationship. Some people don't get the opportunity to have a relationship at all with a parent because of their own choices. I respect men who respect me. If they don't respect me I will respectfully walk away without a word.
I am a woman who does not have a "great relationship" with her father. The reason is... probably my father. He only initiated contact after I turned 18 and in general, I am his only contact person now. He has no close friends or wife. So.... I wonder, what does this relationship really say about my value as a woman? 🤔🤔🤔
It just says you don't have this one particular green flag, and that's all :) It doesn't barricade you from the thousands of other positive traits you could have, especially those you have true control over. Having "daddy issues" (groan) is not the red flag we've been led to believe. If you've managed to make a good life for yourself in spite of a crappy or absent parent, that's a big green flag in and of itself!
One of the most important traits in a woman is she can validate herself internally. If she needs external validation ( attention aka validation from others, validation from alcohol, drugs or other substances ) you will have nothing but pain and suffering.
What do you mean with the term "high value woman"? On the face of it I really don't like it because it seems very judgmental or moralistic. I assume it consists basically of having certain traits that make for a healthy relationship as opposed to not having those traits or having less of them. But that doesn't make the women themselves any more or less valuable an sich. Could you clarify? Is it just a blanket statement that could also be phrased as "women who would actually make you happier in the long run"?
Okay, so as a woman who has had a very difficult relationship with her father, im afraid that men are going to see your video and jump to the conclusion that any girl with daddy issues is not worth dating at all. I really hoped you would atleast mention that there are women willing to address their issues and are going to therapy etc. Rest are wonderful, but this one definitely, i would want you to speak on more, because the nature of a relationship with a parent is not exactly something that we can control. We can CHOOSE to manage its affects. Similiarly, i can't just ask a man on a date what his relationship is like with his mom, and if the answer turns out to be anything negative, write them off as low value men. Isn't that judgemental and presumptuous?
I'm going to write a fairly long reply, I hope that you read it all, and can respond if you agree or disagree. I think you're misunderstanding slightly. He's mentioning these as rules of thumb, not extremely specific rules that you are required to follow. As the other commenter mentioned, within the dating market, it is generally better to be safe than sorry. Especially when it comes to something so important that will impact the rest of your life and rest of the other person's life. These decisions can't be made easily, as they hold an extreme amount of weight. I understand that you've had issues with your relationship with your father. Of course I don't know to what extent - as a young adult male (I don't think I quite qualify as a man yet - still working on that, that's why I watch these videos :)) - I've had a bit of a rocky relationship with my own father. We have quite different views on certain topics, and that has really put a strain on our relationship for a number of years. Yet regardless of this, we were able to make amends and now our relationship is great. The main point in the video isn't "any woman that has ever had any issues with their father or rather parents in general, completely avoid them like the plague", I think rather it's from a standpoint of "Don't be pursuing someone who actively - at this exact point in time - has issues that they aren't able to resolve or aren't attempting to address". If you are already working on that by going to therapy and through other methods, awesome! That means you want to put in the effort to better yourself as a person - which is one of the green flags he mentioned later in the video. I'll finish by saying this: no one is perfect. No one is going to be every green flag that has ever existed. We are all flawed, we all have things that we can change or improve. The important thing is that you're high enough caliber, as he stated, for the other person to be able to benefit or improve from being in a relationship with you. Being in a relationship needs to be a net positive for both parties involved. That is the most important aspect - and I think the takeaway that most people would probably benefit the most from genuinely understanding.
What if she had all of these but is a single mom of three. 😅 I started seeing her and fell in love thinking it wasn't a big deal. Now I'm not sure. I'm 39 and have no kids.
Guys this is the kind of men woman want to marry. Masculine, calm, wise, clean. You can follow Andrew Tate or others, but this is a better example. May God bless him and his wife.
As a man I can tell you you're wrong. But because you can't find a man it must be our fault. The men I know that look for that kind of woman aren't exactly the sharpest tools in the shed themselves.
@@danielcain1003 Men say they want intelligent and independent women, but I’ve found men go for the dumb bimbos. They’re intimidated by successful women. Look at all the successful and powerful men, do they choose an equal? No. They choose a plastic surgery laden trophy wife. Every date I’ve gone out on, men talk all about themselves and never ask anything about me. They try to impress me with their Porsches, Rolex watches, etc. I don’t care. I can buy my own. I want a quality man who is smart, funny, honest, loving and caring. I don’t care what you drive, or what you have on your wrist. I care about what’s in your heart.
@@RooKangaRoo Have you ever been out there dating men? Unless you’re gay, the answer is no. I have, and I can tell you that men are not looking for quality women. They want to be smarter and more successful. They are intimidated by a successful woman. All they want is a tall skinny dumb blonde to hang off their arm for their ego.
Only issue with her having a great relationship with her dad is you might not measure up to her views of her dad. I have had this issue and I am a decent guy. She wanted a copy of her dad.
which is why that particular point is moot in most cases. Less than 10% of women probably have good relationships with their fathers in the world so to put that as a must have is a bit ridiculous and only serves to shrink the dating pool to nothing...not to mention it's not her fault she had a shitty dad :)) why the fuck would you hold anyone accountable for something they had literally no hand in?
@@Iamam313 yeah the true gem can only be found in a shrunk dating pool, so let's be picky to the utmost.... and pretty she's got to be, sexy, erotic, rich. Oh young, I forgot.
Nice vid, but I have to say I really despise the term ‘high value woman’ or person. Let’s not over financialise relationships, even if just in terms of vocab. It also makes you sound like the red pill and pink pill crowds
You bet, that’s great. The main thing is that she either has a solid relationship with a male figure / care taker in her life, or can speak to the work she’s done to heal and work through the pain of not having healthy men in her life.
I feel like this could sort of be summed up by saying to date a woman with a developed masculine side.... I get how that could be sensible although it is sort of all about how she will make your life smooth & easy. Not necessarily about what her innate value is & what transformative properties she can bring.
I absolutely agree with everything he said in this video. However, before you put a standard on someone else, you better have that standard for yourself first. You can’t be overweight and think you deserve someone who takes care of their health. You can’t be sleeping with multiple women and think you deserve someone with self respect and self control. It’s important you find a woman who doesn’t hate men for sure, and saying these things are important to you is 100% ok to say, but I heard this guy refer to women as chasing “pussy” 😕 which is a clear indication that he doesn’t value or respect women as people, but sees them as objects. Therefore, I would never date this guy, but I’m sure the response is “you hate men”… no, I don’t want a man who doesn’t value women, but that has nothing to do with men who actually do. And trust me, I had a man who I was drinking with stop going to far because he “didn’t want me to feel used” translated to “you are a person of value not an object”. I never forgot that guy. That was a good man, but obviously a lot of you boys wouldn’t be that strong or empathetic, so you don’t get to be on the same level as him. That was called emotional intelligence, he was self aware and able to control his impulses and see people as people.
Let me know what stood out to you from this video.
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Everything.
I'm watching this as a woman to think about what I can improve about myself
So what you learned ?
I didn't learned a shit from this video, all banal points
@@nammi895 Just because you find them to be unoriginal does not discredit the value found within these points. You'll come to realize their truth, whether now or in 30 years.
1. Women respect and appreciate men and their masculinity.
2. She has a great relationship with her father.
3. She has solid values. And they are somewhat close to yours.
4. She has her own hobbies and her own interest.
5. She's got high-quality female friends.
6. She talks respectfully about her peers and friends.
7. She takes resposibilities for 11:45 11:47 11:49 her actions.
8. She treats you with respect and communicates your value.
9. She encourages to be better as a ( man, father, boyfriend, friend, profession) [later in the relationship]
shout out to ladies who doesnt have best relationship with their dads and still learning to be gentle and loving
This man says that's a beauifuful thing to hear
It's so nice to hear this perspective instead of just the usual "red flags" to look out for! Sending this to my brother and other single guy friends who keep asking me to '"find them a wife" -- even some of my husband's friends who ask "do you have any single friends?" ..... it's really hard to know what to say because yes, I do - and yes, those women also want to be introduced to marriage-minded quality men, but they're really intentional about living their faith and while all of these men truly want to be husbands and fathers and start a family but they're not strong in their faith ... and I don't think anyone should compromise on that - would love a video on that!
Greaat to find a married influencer giving out advice
Definitely can’t judge a woman based on her relationship with her Dad. Some Dads dont give their daughters the opportunity to have a good relationship with their Dad. I didn’t have a good one but I respect men!
I love the masculine. I love what men have to offer. However I do not have an appreciation for my abusive narcissistic father. I do understand it’s good to look for a woman who has a healthy relationship with her father but it shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Having strong boundaries to that kind of relationship is the “green flag”. Especially if she conscious of how it’s affected her and made an effort to heal.
She’s “closely connected to family” this list does not give credit to those who have healed from toxic family situations and set boundaries.
Shutup dude
Exactly, I think there's probably less than 10% of women out there who actually had a good father/daughter relationship so by putting that as a condition (one she had literally no power over at any point) they are just making sure they will probably never find "the one":)) which may be better actually, singlehood isn't that bad
I have found that the vast majority of people who come from toxic family situations are not in your shoes. They have not healed, and are not doing the work. That is why me and many other men will continue to avoid all women coming from situations like that.
you can't heal when men keep taking advantage of you, that's one of the main reasons I just chose to stop trying dating, it's draining and toxic and I attract only fucked up selfish men@@MKULTRA_Victim_
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The same could be said for green flags for a man. I like a man who builds others up!
Men are the target audience here honey. Sit in the back and listen.
this is about us. why do y’all do this
I was married to a beautiful wonderful woman for 40 years until she passed. You are spot on with your "green flags". Loyalty had to be my favorite attribute
Great relationship with her Dad. This one is interesting for me cause I've been involved with two women who looked to have a great dynamic with their Dad but as time went on, it looked more and more like an enmeshed relationship that lacked boundaries and felt like at times, that I was a third wheel or secondary option for her.
That sounds very dysfunctional to me.
This point really is problematic I think. As a woman, you can select your friends, but you cannot select your father. If you have had no luck with your dad, it is not your fault at all and does not say anything about your value as a woman! Also, like the experience you mentioned: what looks like a "great relationship" and great closeness from the outside, can in reality be enmeshed, toxic, abusive etc. !
@@fiction589 very true.. but good to learn that when a man asks me about how things were with my father I'd rather say great now... in order not to land in his bin. Like trash or better suicide right away, no more value I have for a man lol. BTW, what if his mother was sh****...? Should I ask that then?
@@fiction589i agree. It’s important to deal with the load of a not so god father. But otherwise it’s totally not the daughter’s fault if her father wasn’t good. Being responsible and taking care of your emotions is key
It's not fair to say that about having a great relationship with your dad.. not everyone's dad stuck around.. not everyone has good family behind them. It's not my fault I don't have a great relationship with my dad. My dad is a selfish man who put alcohol and drugs before his kids.
I totally hear you ... I grew up in a similar situation. I am working on my issues with men because like how this person pointed out I've spent decades hating men. I am working on unraveling those issues and developing trust that there are good men out there.
@@musicianwren9248 I actually really like men.. probably too much.. I need to learn how to love myself and not rely on men and others in general for my validation and happiness 😕 so maybe it affected me in the opposite way to you..
The more of the videos I see on this channel, the more I think it would be good for women to watch all of these as well.
Thank you! I am dating an avoidant and this actually helps me know how to best support him and make him feel safe and seen.
most of these i was aware of but a few of these i flat out ignored and paid dearly for as time progressed. excellent list!
She supports me and encourages me to grow into the man I want to be (for us both). That's huge
Standards (or lack thereof): "Can I get this woman's attention, and, can I get laid". Funny to hear, but so true. And maybe this was the underlying cause of relationship failure in the last forty years. It certainly applies to myself.
The guy I'm dating was going to help neighbors cut a tree down. He was loading all kinds of ropes and chains and chainsaws in his truck when I was there. I told him that I liked that he was helping other people, but I loved ❤ his courage and strength. He melted over that comment.
Very well done clear concise.
Only feeling is not too be too focused on the Robust life but a happy person on their own. Positive. Dream passions are cool but being a joy to be around is far greater quality that will serve all well.
I’m engaged and I’m really glad I found your videos. Great place to check in with myself and prepare for a marriage with the input of a married UA-camr I resonate with.
Thank you for this video, as a man there were things that i wasn't looking for before, but now i'm surely going to be more aware of those things
To me, the most significant Green-Flag is the last one, She encourages you to be a better version of yourself and doesn't try to "fix" or "train" you to be who she thinks you should be.
I like what you have to say. I feel like I'm learning. Thank you. I just want to say that some of us didn't have fathers that stuck around. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate the masculine. I can and do you see the value in having man in my life. That being said I'm also an independent woman because that's the way my life is turned out. I made some bad choices in the past in men and so I'm doing it on my own. I guess you said that women want men that are high earners. That doesn't seem really that important to me. However I don't want to have to carry someone. As a single mother I'm already caring for a family on my own financially for the most part. There are things that men can do for me that I cannot do for myself. However those things have very little to do with physical sustenance. Sometimes we're forced to be independent women either by circumstance or own choices or both. I think a woman who has done the work, in other words is emotionally intelligent recognizes that masculine energy compliments feminine energy. This idea that is in opposition to feminine energy is toxic masculinity. I love and appreciate gentle protection. I like to feel vulnerable and small in my man's arms. I think nice guys deserve a chance. I think short guys deserve a chance. However that being said I'm a chubby woman and I seem to attract a lot of players always have even when I was thin. So I've decided to take a break from dating and now I'm on UA-cam looking for videos. I need to do some growing and work on myself. Not just physically because no matter how little I eat I'm always going to be thick, but also emotionally, because the reality is I'm calling the type of men to me and I need to figure out why. It's either full on commitment right away which scares me or guys that just want to get laid. I have higher standards than that. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Your videos are much appreciated thank you
Well said!
you might have a hormonal imbalance or some other illness that causes the weightloss problems, I recommend you look into the carnivore diet, I'm the same and that's helped me a lot. Good luck
I found this channel about a week ago, listening to our content every day and learning so much.
I just realized the girl I’ve been spending a lot of time in yan and having a lot of difficulty with hates men. even though she sells on the first person, she loves and trust somethings happened where I could see how dark that side of her and I’ll easily be returned to me whenever I make a mistake. I have to slowly get emotion attached because this relationship is costing self-esteem.
Love the video! These lists are very concise and comprehensive. keep up the good work.
Fantastic points, thank you! Last one especially hits close to the heart! ❤
Feel like I need a glossy here. Quality ? High caliber ? Masculinity? Respect ? HIGH VALUE ? seems to me allot of room here for conformation bias and expecting the other to convince you who you are.
Agree with all of it, and can confidently say I embody these green flags -- some innately and some after inner and outer work. Except my dad has been dead for a looooong time and chose not to have a healthy relationship with his family so.... coo.
Just remember why many women dislike men, and look at how badly women have been treated all throughout history. Be the good guy who shows a woman that masculinity respects femininity and uplifts and genuinely likes women (not just in a sexual way) and does not put women down. As for the father part, well, many people have had fathers that are not so great, so don't hold it against a woman if she doesn't have a great relationship with her father.
Getting to actually experience a woman with these green flags is such an incredible and beautiful experience. Once you've had it, you never settle for less.
These are basically traits that define an adult... The basic motto for me is that you should be building yourself well both physically and mentally first and then the person that you share your life, your dreams with should be such an adult in character that she/he will appreciate those values and share theirs' with you.. And then that would actually be the way to building up a future together as a whole..
Subcribed solid content man!🎉
Fantastic list. Thank you.
Excellent points!
Thank you!
On the topic of a woman's father, what if she doesn't have a relationship with her father because he chose drugs over his own daughter?? So because a woman then doesn't have a relationship with her father that would then say she isn't worthy of a partner's love??
I agree. He was a little off on this one because this is many peoples reality. I think what he is trying to say is that is boils down to respect for the male gender.
I agree as a man, I think the biggest point is someone who respects other men. One thing I had to deal with with my fiance is her dad is alcoholic and her mom bosses her dad around, while she was showing that behavior to me I won't put up with it.
So in that respect I would say don't treat men the way your mom treated them or pick them.
@@tru_kru_bahbee24 I do agree, he should add that to the video as he pretty much is saying it's a red flag if they don't have a good relationship. Some people don't get the opportunity to have a relationship at all with a parent because of their own choices. I respect men who respect me. If they don't respect me I will respectfully walk away without a word.
@@jdkayak7868 Sounds like she needs to do some healing work. Hopefully, she works through it!
Nice shirt brother
I am a woman who does not have a "great relationship" with her father. The reason is... probably my father. He only initiated contact after I turned 18 and in general, I am his only contact person now. He has no close friends or wife. So.... I wonder, what does this relationship really say about my value as a woman? 🤔🤔🤔
It just says you don't have this one particular green flag, and that's all :) It doesn't barricade you from the thousands of other positive traits you could have, especially those you have true control over.
Having "daddy issues" (groan) is not the red flag we've been led to believe. If you've managed to make a good life for yourself in spite of a crappy or absent parent, that's a big green flag in and of itself!
One of the most important traits in a woman is she can validate herself internally. If she needs external validation ( attention aka validation from others, validation from alcohol, drugs or other substances ) you will have nothing but pain and suffering.
I have a question.. like what if her parents are divorced and she lives with her mother ? Does 2nd point be included for this too ?
Great video
Very interesting, useful and informative video Sir👍😊💯
Brilliant!
What do you mean with the term "high value woman"?
On the face of it I really don't like it because it seems very judgmental or moralistic.
I assume it consists basically of having certain traits that make for a healthy relationship as opposed to not having those traits or having less of them. But that doesn't make the women themselves any more or less valuable an sich.
Could you clarify? Is it just a blanket statement that could also be phrased as "women who would actually make you happier in the long run"?
What if her Dad chose to not be in her life though
I’ve been married twice and divorced. Both wives lied and cheated. Now I’m paranoid about trusting women again.
Okay, so as a woman who has had a very difficult relationship with her father, im afraid that men are going to see your video and jump to the conclusion that any girl with daddy issues is not worth dating at all. I really hoped you would atleast mention that there are women willing to address their issues and are going to therapy etc. Rest are wonderful, but this one definitely, i would want you to speak on more, because the nature of a relationship with a parent is not exactly something that we can control. We can CHOOSE to manage its affects. Similiarly, i can't just ask a man on a date what his relationship is like with his mom, and if the answer turns out to be anything negative, write them off as low value men. Isn't that judgemental and presumptuous?
better be safe than sorry.
I'm going to write a fairly long reply, I hope that you read it all, and can respond if you agree or disagree.
I think you're misunderstanding slightly. He's mentioning these as rules of thumb, not extremely specific rules that you are required to follow. As the other commenter mentioned, within the dating market, it is generally better to be safe than sorry. Especially when it comes to something so important that will impact the rest of your life and rest of the other person's life. These decisions can't be made easily, as they hold an extreme amount of weight. I understand that you've had issues with your relationship with your father. Of course I don't know to what extent - as a young adult male (I don't think I quite qualify as a man yet - still working on that, that's why I watch these videos :)) - I've had a bit of a rocky relationship with my own father. We have quite different views on certain topics, and that has really put a strain on our relationship for a number of years. Yet regardless of this, we were able to make amends and now our relationship is great.
The main point in the video isn't "any woman that has ever had any issues with their father or rather parents in general, completely avoid them like the plague", I think rather it's from a standpoint of "Don't be pursuing someone who actively - at this exact point in time - has issues that they aren't able to resolve or aren't attempting to address". If you are already working on that by going to therapy and through other methods, awesome! That means you want to put in the effort to better yourself as a person - which is one of the green flags he mentioned later in the video.
I'll finish by saying this: no one is perfect. No one is going to be every green flag that has ever existed. We are all flawed, we all have things that we can change or improve. The important thing is that you're high enough caliber, as he stated, for the other person to be able to benefit or improve from being in a relationship with you. Being in a relationship needs to be a net positive for both parties involved. That is the most important aspect - and I think the takeaway that most people would probably benefit the most from genuinely understanding.
Shout out to all the women with green flags
Positive relationships with men is really important.
If the family has a history of divorce, run.
What if she had all of these but is a single mom of three. 😅 I started seeing her and fell in love thinking it wasn't a big deal. Now I'm not sure. I'm 39 and have no kids.
Like your shirt.
Where's it from?
I like the video but he unironically used the word high value woman. It’s giving alpha bro
Likes men and masculinity
Well it seems I'm green flag walking on earth 😂
Thanks for this video ☺️
Guys this is the kind of men woman want to marry. Masculine, calm, wise, clean. You can follow Andrew Tate or others, but this is a better example. May God bless him and his wife.
As a woman, I can tell you that men are not looking for high value and high caliber women. They want the ditzy aerobics instructor.
As a man I can tell you you're wrong. But because you can't find a man it must be our fault. The men I know that look for that kind of woman aren't exactly the sharpest tools in the shed themselves.
@@danielcain1003 Men say they want intelligent and independent women, but I’ve found men go for the dumb bimbos. They’re intimidated by successful women. Look at all the successful and powerful men, do they choose an equal? No. They choose a plastic surgery laden trophy wife. Every date I’ve gone out on, men talk all about themselves and never ask anything about me. They try to impress me with their Porsches, Rolex watches, etc. I don’t care. I can buy my own. I want a quality man who is smart, funny, honest, loving and caring. I don’t care what you drive, or what you have on your wrist. I care about what’s in your heart.
As a man, I can tell you that your perspective isn’t as complete as you think it is.
@@RooKangaRoo Have you ever been out there dating men? Unless you’re gay, the answer is no. I have, and I can tell you that men are not looking for quality women. They want to be smarter and more successful. They are intimidated by a successful woman. All they want is a tall skinny dumb blonde to hang off their arm for their ego.
@californiadreamin your username tells a lot... Maybe try outside your ethnicity?
I respect men only on condition that he respected me first.
Only issue with her having a great relationship with her dad is you might not measure up to her views of her dad. I have had this issue and I am a decent guy. She wanted a copy of her dad.
which is why that particular point is moot in most cases. Less than 10% of women probably have good relationships with their fathers in the world so to put that as a must have is a bit ridiculous and only serves to shrink the dating pool to nothing...not to mention it's not her fault she had a shitty dad :)) why the fuck would you hold anyone accountable for something they had literally no hand in?
@@Iamam313 yeah the true gem can only be found in a shrunk dating pool, so let's be picky to the utmost.... and pretty she's got to be, sexy, erotic, rich. Oh young, I forgot.
My lady has alot of green flags. But lacks any interests… just reality tv tbh it pisses me off
Nice vid, but I have to say I really despise the term ‘high value woman’ or person. Let’s not over financialise relationships, even if just in terms of vocab. It also makes you sound like the red pill and pink pill crowds
She has a good relationship with her grandparents and grandpa especially but not the best with her dad. How do you feel about this?
You bet, that’s great. The main thing is that she either has a solid relationship with a male figure / care taker in her life, or can speak to the work she’s done to heal and work through the pain of not having healthy men in her life.
@@ManTalks that sounds better lol
I feel like this could sort of be summed up by saying to date a woman with a developed masculine side.... I get how that could be sensible although it is sort of all about how she will make your life smooth & easy. Not necessarily about what her innate value is & what transformative properties she can bring.
What about having a clear understanding of values, having good friends, and having hobbies is masculine?
Hmm, you might wanna watch a video on how to look for a better shirt :D
What if shes has male friends, she"s her 50s, never married, and she has ex partners as friends
This whole high value saying is gone TOO FAR!! ITS OVERUSED
3:20 Ouch 😵
I absolutely agree with everything he said in this video. However, before you put a standard on someone else, you better have that standard for yourself first. You can’t be overweight and think you deserve someone who takes care of their health. You can’t be sleeping with multiple women and think you deserve someone with self respect and self control. It’s important you find a woman who doesn’t hate men for sure, and saying these things are important to you is 100% ok to say, but I heard this guy refer to women as chasing “pussy” 😕 which is a clear indication that he doesn’t value or respect women as people, but sees them as objects. Therefore, I would never date this guy, but I’m sure the response is “you hate men”… no, I don’t want a man who doesn’t value women, but that has nothing to do with men who actually do. And trust me, I had a man who I was drinking with stop going to far because he “didn’t want me to feel used” translated to “you are a person of value not an object”. I never forgot that guy. That was a good man, but obviously a lot of you boys wouldn’t be that strong or empathetic, so you don’t get to be on the same level as him. That was called emotional intelligence, he was self aware and able to control his impulses and see people as people.