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Real shit here. It means that neither you or her have to demonstrate nothing more to prove your value as a partner. There's just one thing left to do: enjoy your time together.
Eh... I thought the same when I was with my ex. I've never been a guy that talks a lot, in fact I have very little to say... she on the other hand was (and still is obviously) a logorroic type of person, which is fine for me since I like listening to people talking. At the time we both thought it was great to be like this because I would've basically filled her desire to talk about things by listening to her. Spoiler: at the end she realized it wasn't exactly like that on her mind... she basically NEEDS to talk all the time, even for hours about little things just to not think (even for a second) how she feels bad with herself or other bad things that usually happen with her family... yeah basically she realized that we were incompatible... I don't want to get too much into detail but we broke up peacefully because we weren't talking anymore like the old times.. literally there wasn't much to say most of the time, I was still deeply in love with her but she wasn't anymore... so we had to broke up the relationship... Don't get me wrong, we are still friends and all kind of things. We talk, play, watch tv series, films... the fact is that after a year and a half happened a few things (VEEEERY BAD THINGS) with our group of friends and we started to talk more after a very long time... and yeah, I fell in love again, but she didn't.. for well, obvious reasons. So here I am.. with my heart DEEPLY broken, so broken that I am now depressed eheh... these things always hurted me so much, damn. And to be honest she's even worried about me, since we are veeery close to each other... God I love her so much, I wonder.. I hope that in the distant future we will be together again... I hope...
I don't know if this is a green flag, but most of my lasting relationships where those where I found myself being dorky around them and not feeling like I needed to hide that side of me from them.
^ YES THIS I was a total dork in front of my now-bf because I honestly never thought we'd date and so I didn't care what he thought, lo and behold he fell in love with my true self and tomorrow's our 8 month anniversary of dating 🥰🥰
I feel like this is common sense, how could a relationship possibly last if you have to disguise yourself to maintain it? Are you going to lie for the rest of your life?
@@onlinechaosgremlin - Man, even the response to you about referring to friendships is missing something lmfao. Y'all, there are tonnes of people in non-mongamous relationships who this applies to just as much lmfao.
A green flag i noticed is that they don’t make you feel all excited and give you butterflies in your stomach like crushes do They make you feel warm and peaceful and whenever you’re with them it feels like home
Yeah it's really nice when you feel all excited and are usually blushing like that in the first 4 or 5 months when the relationship is just blossoming, and then it's even nicer when you get to know each other a lot and you feel like you'll always have them to rely on, at that point they feel like ' home '. One of the best feelings someone can feel is that ^^
@@lonesomeraineful of course not! That's a great thing, it just means you trust your partner a lot and that you two have genuinely put in great work for the relationship, but I feel like when you've been dating for a while, it really enhances the trust levels even more and you two know it'll last ( if it's a healthy relationship) 💗🏳🌈
@@saintmarybulicek567 no, do not ever give that man another chance. He’s been going behind the back of the woman who birthed his children. Im so sorry you’re going through this, but you’re so much better off without him. The fact that he even felt the need to look for someone new to flirt around with should tell you that HE is the one that turned his back on you. You’re not the one who turned your back at him, you’ll never be the one who let him down even in the process of filing for divorce. He made his bed, now he can lay in it. On his own. I wish you and your children so much love, strength and happiness ❤️
Yes. If you mean that you can keep your phone out without any nervousness. But if you say “let me go through your phone” I’m out even if I didn’t really do anything. In my head that seems controlling. Now... if I hand you my phone without you asking when I want to show you something that’s fine. Different strokes for different folks.
Natural flow of conversation is a huge green flag for me. I spent too much of my time with guys who would reply with one word or K and it felt like I was pulling teeth to get the conversation going.
I hate that! Also have way too much experience with guys just answering as lazily as possible ¨How was your day? or ¨How are you feeling?¨ answered with a plain ¨Good¨ while someone else might actually give a more nuanced answer that lead to a conversation
@@bonsoircestmoi.348 Sometimes they are uninterested sure I've been in this situation with some ladies where I was catrying the whole conversation. All I would get for an answer was "ahah" "lol" and stuff like that. At some point I would stop answering, since I didn't know how to continue the dialogue. They messaged me again to ask me "Why aren't you answering ? I miss our talk... Bah blah blah" Some people are interested, but they can't hold a conversation maybe by fear of being ridiculous or saying a stupid thing. I don't know
@@nemeo8391 Yeah, I don’t know what to make of women who only give one word replies, however, it’s impossible to have a lasting conversation with them.
@@michaelsmusic3532 bro what you said this in some other thread and just copy and pasted this here too 😂 I don't think you actually even paid attention to the comment and don't self advertise please because people who are genuinely interested in your music will find their way to you. Good luck with your music tho! :)
Green flag: when have a big disagreement, if they keep a good faith argument with you and can respect your thoughts without agreeing with them, they're a keeper.
@@garrettlauderbaugh312 definitely. I was in a relationship like that and, soon after I ended it, I looked back and couldn’t believe I had actually put up with that level of immaturity.
Yeah… I met someone with all those green flags, it felt like we were meant to be, everything seemed so easy and we just clicked as friends, lovers and partners…. Until I found out he was married and wasn’t planning on getting a divorce. Yup.
One more thing that may be a good green flag is if they complement you out of nowhere. This should apply to all dates not just first. My boyfriend get me a complement when I needed and sometimes out of nowhere. I think this a good thing for both people should do in a relationship. It just shows the other person much you care for them and why you like/love them.
Compliment*. To complement someone means to complete them (i.e. "complementary"). I wouldn't have corrected your spelling if it didn't confuse me for a good minute lol.
@@nomoretwitterhandles Hi. I didn’t know it spelt wrong. I have dyslexia. I’m leaving it as is. It most for those who want to post but are scared; if their scared to be corrected for the bad grammar or scared of there’s spelling. I want other to share and speaker Knowing there’s others that make mistakes out there too. Thank you for letting me know it’s spelt incorrectly. Next time I will do better. Best wishes.
@@bellablue5025 No worries. I just wanted to let you know so you can know for next time! Education matters a lot, and I fully believe that education should be way more thorough. It's not your fault if you didn't know how to spell something, and especially not if you have dyslexia. That's why I also explained the difference and gave a relative word! It makes it so much easier that way imo. You have a good week!!
When my husband first met my cat, she bit him (she has never bitten anyone before.) He forgave her, and was patient getting to know her. He never held a grudge or said anything bad about the incident. When I saw how forgiving he was, and how he respected her space, I knew he would do the same for me. And I was right. When I’m in a bad mood, he doesn’t hold it against me or thing that I’m mean, he respects that I have bad days and supports me. And I do the same for him.
I kind of have a similar experience with one of my families older cats, his name is ironically cuddles and while me and him are not cuddly in the slightest we have grown a mutual respect over the past couple of years. he understands when I won’t budge on something and vice versa and we acknowledge our mutual understanding every so often by me making eye contact with him and then gentle patting his head. You sound like you got a keeper in your husband there Celby. Patience and understanding can be a rare trait these days
But I have this believe that dogs & cats are good judge of character. So if dog is ever violent to a stranger I would stay clear lool just because normally she is always an attention seeker from everyone
I'm 100% sure I've found The One. The things he did differently from all my exes during the "not yet dating but starting to get really interested"-phase included him being concerned how his actions affected me and not hesitating to show affection in public. Also being extremely transparent with me about EVERYTHING. All green flags in my book.
I'm in the same boat. He's lovely and all of my close friends refer to him as "a walking green flag" after some of the sweet and adorably well matched things hes done. He's an amazing match for me and watching videos like this help him understand what he's doing right and WHY it matters. Still, he'd do them either way. it's just who he is.
I feel like two of the main green flags that you should seek for is that they support you, and that they help you when you need them. My boyfriend has gone above and beyond for me, from things like buying my favorite drink and taking it to my house when I was upset (he loves like 30 minutes away) or that time when my bird got hurt, and he was willing to drive for almost two hours for me to get a vet that could see her
That guy is bending over to RIDICULOUS levels to the point most guys might think he's being used and you're going to financially abuse him later. DON'T screw him around because you've got an unbelievably good one.
The first green flag difference between a narc or sociopath and a real green flag is if they just mirror all of your likes and opinions vs having a healthy mix of agreement, indeference, and disagreement.
These green flags are great because of how well these all tie into long lasting relationships, and they all help to communicate on the long journey of a marriage
I went on a date once. Then I got a text from my dad so I asked if it would be okay for me to check it. I hadn't heard from him for a day (he was with his girlfriend), and my date said yes. I opened it. Smiled, responded, and then muted my phone. My date got pissed that I smiled and immediately guessed I was talking to another prospect. Yeah, red flag. Sorry, you said it was okay. I explained before I opened it.. And it's the first date. Chill
Just imagine how jealous that guy would be in a relationship... I mean, I can see where it comes from, he's obviously got self-esteem issues. Very insecure. But that's his issue, he has to deal with that before he can be able to establish a relationship.
That happened to me once, but i just said "it was someone special?" and she showed me it was her mom, i felt amazing, that she had the confidence to show me that. We didn't work as a couple, but she's my friend to this day
On my boyfriend and I's first date we literally just talked for 9 hours straight, like we met at a park at like 6pm and both went home at around 3 in the morning even though it felt like we'd only talked for two hours maybe c:
I feel like this is what every partner should try to achieve with their beloved one. Not your general small silly first date talks. If I feel like she wants to talk to me about more deep things, I'll be reciprocating that feeling all day long. And because we can talk all kinds of crap, it's all good since we're doing this together.
Number 5 is a bit of a funny case for me. My sweetheart suffers from ADHD and often multitasks and tinkers around. But she made sure to clarify that first thing when we started dating. So if we're having a lazy moment or a casual talk, she'll often drift off and lose herself in her games or videos, and I know it's not out of malice. Curiously enough, if we're hooked on a subject, we can talk for hours and retain that feel-good engagement. All in all, communication is always the key!
I'm AuDHD and my partner is ADHD and we'll just both play games while talking (parallell play anyone?) and it ends up leading to some really in depth conversations since there's no expectations between us regarding eye contact and visible engagement. He'll tell me if he's bored or distracted and vice versa, and that communication is what matters
Oh yes, I suspect I have ADHD and I feel the same way. Sometimes it's even easier for me to focus on a conversation if I'm doing something (not intellectually demanding) on the side. My family has always ruled it off as me being rude, not paying attention, not listening and not respecting those I listen to and that always felt unfair to me. On the other hand, if I'm really engaged in the conversation, I often lose track of everything else around me. Hmm. Seems like my family has trouble leading engaging (for me) conversations, now that I think about it.
On Valentine's Day a person on the street gave us a rose while we were eating dinner, and it was my boyfriend's idea for us to pass the rose onto our waitress from the both of us (in a completely platonic way) because she was sad about working such a long shift on Valentine's day. Very wholesome.
One green flag I have found is if you feel comfortable to open up to your partner. That while yes having fun should always take priority, that being able to speak about a serious topic or fear you have without being judged is also a great way to know a keeper
@@Picca65 You can always ask, if done properly. Something like "What do you think about hobbies? do you have one? Im thinking about starting to do something to occupy my mind, but I cant decide what and I would like your opinion". People are different, some will only open up if they feel like you really care about the information they have.
I agree with you. And many people fail to realise this. If someone doesn't consider you physically attractive, then even if you do have these qualities they won't see you than more than a friend.
@@KPR0308 Sometimes it is like this and they'll find you physically attractive and have great sex with you, but they'll still choose to be with someone else! Life is a box of chocolates lol
as someone who is in a long term relationship right now, this is definitely accurate! even after nearly 5 years they still make me laugh and smile all the time, and we never run out of things to talk about. never settle for less, you deserve someone who will listen and really respects and cares for you!!
I feel bad that I can't remember things well, cause then it makes people think I don't listen or care, when In all actuality I just have a very very bad memory
Same but a green flag from this could be if your partner knows and accepts that about you. Mine was a little worried at first but as he got to know me and see I did that with everything he realized it didn't mean I wasn't interested. Now he just laughs and says, "Babe we talked about this already, I said...." or he will poke at me with a, "I'm not telling you, should have remembered 😜"
@@Z5Z5Z5 I feel 3 of these flags are based on how you feel which isn't a good call, when they touch your hand and you get full of warmth and good feelings they didn't do that, your brain did, by registering you wanted that touch on you so bad you wanted reward for it, when hours feel like minuets, that's your brain compartmentalizing your time into something -you- enjoy. Also lets be all real here for a moment and the other 3 of these six flags use to be proper edict. Hell aren't the sociopaths that beat their wives really good to waiters and public workers? Are they not very attentive?
Stop talking and just look at them until they look up at you. Just stare for awhile, keep a serious face, as if to say, "I'm going to stand up and ditch you with the bill if you don't get off the phone. Pay attention or pay for your own food."
Or you can legit get up and walk away. Pay your portion of the bill at the bar. That’ll be a well-deserved lesson for people who think it’s ok to disrespect you.
I’m in a long distance relationship. We met when we were 14-15 yrs old. Something clicked and we were best friends since. We started dating in December. Best decision I’ve ever made. He’s my twin flame, we can look at eachother and just know what we’re thinking or feeling. We have a lot to learn about eachother but we can sit in silence and still be comfortable and happy. We smile and joke around with one another, so much we complain our faces hurt. We send super long lovey dovey and reassuring paragraphs to eachother. We always make sure the other is safe and eats/drinks water. We communicate and love everything about eachother. I’ve finally found the one after all these years of dating the worst people.. 😭❤️
I often have conversations with my father that last for hours and are very fun, we talk about everything and anything from justice to how we would have done a movie we didnt like. One day after commenting how much I like those talks he told me: "If you ever find a girl with whom you can have a chat like this, thats the one for you."
it's not whether they have that 'value' or not, it's how youz manage it together. you can even end up disagreeing. They might not have considered putting the trolley away in their old family.
The *NATURAL* one is so very true. I am a very verbal person, and by that I mean I squeak. I make a lot of noises (not just squeaks) but I tend to try and contain them more so when around people I am not comfortable or friends with. With my boyfriend, I don't feel the need to hold back my little sound effects; he actually finds it cute. I
I do this too and I feel like I have to work to not do it when around my peers who I'm not in a for real friendship with (sometimes I do it on impulse and I accidentally make some sound effect like "AGHGHK" and/or flinch if someone taps me to get my attention or something). But when your friends or crush find it funny then it's a good thing. My high school crush and I did this ALL the time and I think I got it from her lol. Some people will say it's cringy but screw it, it's just something we do. It's like saying ow.
All of these are literally my partner. We've been together for over 4 years, and we still have the same connection we had on the first date. On our first date, we went for a walk around campus and eventually decided to grab lunch at one of the restaurants that were around. We ate, then literally talked for hours. We had been talking for like 2 or 3 hours, when he realized his class was about to start, so I walked him there. We texted every single day nonstop after that, and went on more dates most days every week. I knew from that first date that there was something between us, and now I'm 100% confident I've found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and he's told me the same thing ❤️
omg right!! i think the cute animations plus the soothing narration also make it easy and fun to learn about this stuff and it makes me feel safe and like i'm not alone in wanting to learn about these things which makes it all even cuter🥺🥺🥺
I've never been interested in anyone before, until I began developing feelings for my friend. She's always so kind and funny and comforting, none stop she smiles and hugs and loves in an effort to make everyone happy and I can't help but fall in love with her. Maybe I'll come back in the future to say if we ever get together
Another green flag is that they’re willing to make sacrifices for you. Their time, their energy, and their preferences will be pushed to the side momentarily to do what you suggested to do. This means that they treat what you enjoy with respect, and are willing to do something with you that they may not enjoy as much. But make sure to return the favor, and ask what they would like to do on your next date!
When you fall in love you dont find the need to be on your phone. Can you imagine someone other than your phone becoming your priority? That's what love is haha
All good, so long as you pay attention to WHY they talk about their mother how they do. I'm a survivor of child abuse, I won't pretend to love the person who abused and traumatized me.
@@lucienfortner841 of course, I'm entirely with you on this. General rules are only okay if you know how to identify the specifical cases where they don't apply.
Anyone else think the girl with purple hair in the beginning looks like that ghoul girl from Tokyo ghoul that wanted to eat the main character no just me ....ok
Something I love about my current relationship is that if we have an assumption in our head, we seek clarity first before acting on that assumption. Even if we're like SUPER convinced of one idea, we've not once exploded on the other until we talked first. Hence.. we haven't argued once in our 10 months of dating, super proud of it B)
People have always been the ones to ask me out, and it's usually only ever online. I've probably had 4 people ask me out in the span of a year and I've been hit on many times. I learned from psychtogo's other videos that I have a naturally attractive personality
I’m autistic and struggling to find my way with dating. These videos help so much. Some of the points might be obvious to most people but for autistics they can be hard to grasp sometimes. I really appreciate these videos
I can relate. I have not actually taken any real autism diagnosis tests, but I think I may be somehow "from the spectrum". Neither have I got any dating or relationship experience with 32 years. Maybe someday in the future...
Ayeeee, i love how you made a video on something positive about dating. I feel like I havent seen a positive thing about dating in so long, everything is about people being unfaithful and red flags that it's getting discouraging. This was refreshing to watch, thanks.
Watching this video gave me the extra confirmation that my relationship with my boyfriend is healthy. I decided to watch this just to see what is was like and I’m very glad I did. This relationship is the first that isn’t long distance and it’s funny how I already felt comfortable and trusted him enough on the first date, he and I were very nervous. 😂 The more he and I talked the more I liked him and it was only a few days before we felt and knew that we liked each other a lot so we decided to be gf & bf. Before him and previous relationships I thought I had a type but as I got older I realized that I don’t. It’s been five months now and I’ve never felt like this with anyone else and whoever reads this I hope you’ll find someone who will make you just as happy and peaceful ☺️💕
What if you though you found that and now after longer is actually better than before in comunication and everything, but feeling wise you don’t know what to do and feel like there’s things you don’t know about their personality even. Maybe it was the pandemic but if you could give your take on this
@@june2921 them you gotta keep talking with them!! It cna take several years even to learn their full personality, if something is bothering you or you are very curious about something just ask them! Don't be shy!
1. You can talk for hours but it seems like minutes 2. They actively listen to you 3. They're kind to the waiter 4. Being around then feels natural 5. They're not distracted by their phone 6. You find yourself smiling all the time
So I have a crush on my best friend. I KNOW they’re my soulmate, I just don’t know if I wanna date them or not. On one hand I want to date them, and on the other hand I wanna stay best friends. Please help- Edit: I told them how I feel and they didn’t like me back. But we’re still friends and I’m glad I told them anyways :D and I’m kinda glad we didn’t date cuz I think we’re better as friends anyways lmao
I remember went on a first date at the cafe with a man, first thing I notice was I felt extremely comfortable with him, we forgot the time whiling talking and sharing soo much about ourself until it evening though the date was afternoon. He even went on to ask me if I want to have dinner with him since it already evening 😅. But I refused, he’s okay with it and immediately ask for second date 🥰✨ i can’t stop smiling. It’s been 7 months now I’m still with him
I am too distracted by my brain to worry about how you want to dress. For example, ua-cam.com/video/CiBmD0Zr07s/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/BJlkkOIFjx4/v-deo.html
Do you like who you are when you are with them is HUGE this is a great way to see if their behaviour and attitude is bringing out positive or negative characteristics in yourself and helping you be the best version of yourself
I have been told I doubt myself and tend to think the worst of my interactions with people. I just assume people don't like me as a general rule. Once I started challenging that belief of mine I found I could connect with people. It's a daily struggle, and when people say I'm a nice person and they like being around me I'm still like “wtf?”
@@apseudonym a business coach once taught me that we must be careful of the stories we tell ourselves. When we hear a comment or see a facial expression, we might very well be imagining negative intent or otherwise accidentally misinterpreting the actions of others. Some of us have been trained over time to seek hidden meanings in people's words... and this makes it very hard to ever stop. But the cost of false positives is high. Because you will always assume the worst, and that can drive away people who care. Try to look into what your specific insecurities are. Write down the ways that you believe you are inadequate. Then go out and do some research, talk to friends, talk to therapists, and see how often you are projecting your own insecurity onto other people's actions incorrectly. Noticing it happening is the first step. Next, examine the ways in which you consider yourself inadequate. Whose values are you really judging yourself by? An ex? A parent? A childhood bully? Very often, we internalize other people's value systems and negative judgments. But you can control your own values. This may illuminate many things about yourself which you perceive as failures, but which either are actually not failures or which also have significant upsides to them that you're ignoring or downplaying. The next step is learning to accept every part of yourself, including things that you have power to change, and things that you do not have power to change. Then change the things you can change. And accept the things you cannot. In my own experience, these are the steps toward loving yourself, toward confidence, toward better relationships with yourself and with others. Good luck on your journey, friend!
I had my first date yesterday. It's my first time meeting him after talking for a month in fb. We met at 1pm then we lost track of time not realizing it's already 8pm. All of the green flags given in the video are done. I hope he's the one, I've been wanting to have someone in my life for a long time. And yes, we're both guys. 🌈
Update: we're on our 3rd month of exclusively dating and feels so amazing. I've never been this genuinely happy with someone. I already met his family and soon he'll meet mine. Can't wait for us to become in an official relationship. 💕
This video made me feel so happy (and grateful) for what i have with my husband. It is possible to find *your* person, and remember that all of these behaviors go both ways. Active listening, nit checking phones, laughter, calm.
I found these things in my boyfriend. On the first time we talk, we talk for hours and then he sleeps for an hour or two and wakes up to speak with me again. I love him so much. I feel and I see that he loves me so much as well.
I literally dated a guy who later turned out to be a stalker -_- ...I mean he read me and understood me properly before meeting me and he has a crazy side. If I didn't meet his ex and then did a background check...well -___-
@@zer0x715 Initially I felt bad for him coz he was actually caring n all. I was going through rough time n he came at the right time. But his history and well he had schizophrenia and it's a genetic thing. So I broke up on phone and for now, he took it well. Lockdown helped too. My Job is from home.
A green flag that i have with my girlfriend: even if they don't like something you make (small things like talking while you're watching the tv and stuff) instead of saying that you're anoying, they come up with something so both of you can be happy and you don't feel forced or sad
Hello fellow psych2goers, it is I, A time traveler,,, (Found this in the dating playlist. I hope it actually is unlisted and I'm not just embarrassing myself rn)
Só lembrando que relacionamento é uma via de mão dupla: quem recebe também deve dar. Não é bom esperar encontrar a pessoa perfeita quando nós não somos perfeitos. Bom identificar os pontos positivos nos outros. E em si mesmo? E seus pontos negativos? Lembre-se: aprender é crescer!
This is the Amazing grace. John 3:16 "For God loved the world that he sent his only begotten son so that whosoever believes in him will not perish but have everlasting life" . For God didn't send his son to condemn the world but through him they might be saved... God loves you 💕so much that he suffered, died and rose from the dead to pay the punishment of your sins. All you gotta do is ask for forgiveness 🙏 (read the 10 commandments)and trust/believe in the finished work of The lord Jesus Christ on the cross. You will be saved from the eternal damnation of Hell and be granted eternal life in Heaven... The end is Nigh🔥. Jesus is coming soooon. Jesus is lord🤴🏽 ua-cam.com/video/BA7pdABvpnc/v-deo.html (amazing grace) ua-cam.com/video/ZsBhvSMQUk4/v-deo.html ( love letter) ua-cam.com/video/5RMLaLX-WXw/v-deo.html (testimony)
I feel like these green flags are for people that are in a relationship where the other side is not super introverted and shy, because they actually have to talk 😂
That post feels a bit personal so this might help. 1st, the video is about dating - a date is in no way a relationship. It is a way to see if you match well with someone. So, changing your point of view from relationship to dating is going to be helpful. 2nd, seeing the date as a chance to evaluate a person makes you demand from yourself to give them something to evaluate, too. So, one will not reject you because you are shy or introverted but because they feel you are hiding something or stalling the conversation. Being shy can be cute. Being weird is not. So, dating is about playing. While playing the only weird thing is not to play. So, do play, in your own peculiar way and you'll find your match,who will appreciate exactly what you give to them, not what you hide.
@@laurenmtz7014 I'm only 100% honest with two people, and we've been friends since primary school. I'm really introverted now, so I don't make new friends easily.
I was talking to my sister's crush and asked him when he would ask her out. He said, "Maybe when I get my license". That was so sweet, and now my sister is waiting very patiently for the time to come!
Green Flag 1- "You can talk for hours but it seems like a minute!" (1:06) Green Flag 2- "They actively listen to YOU!" (1:27) Green Flag 3- "They're kind to the waiter" (2:14) Green Flag 4- "Being around them feels NATURAL" (2:50) Green Flag 5- "They're not distracted by their phone" (3:15) Green Flag 6- "You'll find yourself smilling ALL. THE. TIME." (3:47)
It's honestly a relief to finally hear someone talking about reasons TO actually be with someone in any capacity, because I am starting to feel lately that I hear nothing but horror stories and red flags left, right and center. It's starting to make me feel that there is no such thing as a person without a red flag (Which is true given no one is perfect or flawless) and yet there's the whole "rose tinted glasses make the red flags look like flags" thing, but I mean, without that happening, how are you supposed to ever feel something extra about someone? You're supposed to find someone whose positives outweight the negatives for you. That's how it works right? I'm not sure I would know from experience yet but I just don't know what it is we SHOULD be aiming for when everyone spends so much time going "nope not that" and "nope not this" all the time. It's tiresome only looking for the red flags.
*Finally talking about green flags. These days we focus on too much negativity, people are brainwashed by advertising propaganda* about perfect, fresh, clean and beautiful barbie/ken life, even bosses of companies work so hard they feel they are not good enough, and we don't know what's right when everything is wrongly incorrect. We all want to feel loved and respected. 😂👁️🤙
It's so funny that ALL of those green flags were there on the first date with my partner! We talked so much that we forgot time and ended up looking on the clock when it already was way past midnight 😂 It was such a good feeling being around him that we decided to go on our second date on the next day, because we found each other so interesting. Our relationship is the best I've ever had and I hope it'll last forever 🥰
Ohhhh, my classmate had a crush on me last year and he liternally confessed 4 times, even after I said I'm not interested and even my friends had to tell him-
@@Karosei0713 yeah problem is they're my friend but not really and I'm not gonna go "hey _insert other friend- can you tell them to leave me alone and that I don't like them?
meeeeee....I'm that red flag girl, and I'm so sorry for everyone who encountered me, and I had a huge crush on them :( I confessed online but not in person but basically spied on them until they moved far away.
If you really want to help them you could teach them boundaries, good emotional management skills, ect. Not everyone who's creepy or comes off clingy or obsessed are trying to be that way. Some people don't have/ haven't learned healthy dating social skills because they grew up in an abusive/toxic home, or maybe they were in foster care. What bothers me is that people make fun of/avoid people who are unhealthy or toxic, but they never teach those who are like that how to become healthier. It also bothers me that people just.. Throw other people away whether they're toxic/unhealthy or not. That's why relationships don't last because people don't work through things with each other anymore.
My girlfriend got nervous butterflies on our first date , and was giggling a lot even for no specific reason, it was adorable, i didn’t get that wrong , most likely took as green flags because she was so engaged with me and happy to talk and know more about me , and I think that is normal for girls to feel like that the first time , and personally I was pretty stressed , we’ve both communicated well about this , and when I was with her , man everything changed , I felt so great and chill with her , it did last 3 hours and I felt like it was only few minutes .. I really believe she’s my ultimate love. 💕💕💕
My boyfriend and I had all of these green flags on our very first date :3 almost 2 years later, I can say they've been a pretty good indicator of a good match and, maybe more importantly, a healthy and respectful relationship ❤️
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now. This is my first relationship ever at 21 and he’s already been in 3 relationships before me. I’ve learned, and am still learning, to not get quick to anger. I get annoyed easily and in the beginning of our relationship, I would get super mad at him whenever we had bumps in our relationship, but he never yelled at me. It takes a lot to get him mad unlike me. He has and always has been very calm whenever we have arguments. I also learned that simply just talking solves a lot as well. If I have something on my mind and it get to the point where it affects my communication to talk to him, I usually give myself a prep talk for when I say what’s wrong,. Or if he has done or said something, before hand I would give him the silent treatment, now I talk too him openly. Even though I still struggle with that from time to time.
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If you both can be silent around each other and still feel good and not bothered, that is a huge green flag my friend.
Real shit here. It means that neither you or her have to demonstrate nothing more to prove your value as a partner. There's just one thing left to do: enjoy your time together.
I feel like you just inadvertently quoted Pulp Fiction
@@according_to_rizo Why do you think so?
Y E S !
Eh... I thought the same when I was with my ex. I've never been a guy that talks a lot, in fact I have very little to say... she on the other hand was (and still is obviously) a logorroic type of person, which is fine for me since I like listening to people talking. At the time we both thought it was great to be like this because I would've basically filled her desire to talk about things by listening to her. Spoiler: at the end she realized it wasn't exactly like that on her mind... she basically NEEDS to talk all the time, even for hours about little things just to not think (even for a second) how she feels bad with herself or other bad things that usually happen with her family... yeah basically she realized that we were incompatible... I don't want to get too much into detail but we broke up peacefully because we weren't talking anymore like the old times.. literally there wasn't much to say most of the time, I was still deeply in love with her but she wasn't anymore... so we had to broke up the relationship...
Don't get me wrong, we are still friends and all kind of things. We talk, play, watch tv series, films... the fact is that after a year and a half happened a few things (VEEEERY BAD THINGS) with our group of friends and we started to talk more after a very long time... and yeah, I fell in love again, but she didn't.. for well, obvious reasons. So here I am.. with my heart DEEPLY broken, so broken that I am now depressed eheh... these things always hurted me so much, damn. And to be honest she's even worried about me, since we are veeery close to each other... God I love her so much, I wonder.. I hope that in the distant future we will be together again... I hope...
“or, they’re secretly a spy”
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1. Talk for hours
2. Actively listen to you
3. Kind to waiter
4. Feel natural around them
5. Not distracted by phone
6. Find yourself smiling
thanks!
Thank you :)
Thanks
Sounds like the last girl I dated which led to nowhere 🤔
@MarianTheBeat Yeah I think I'll call the dating customer service and open a ticket 😂
I don't know if this is a green flag, but most of my lasting relationships where those where I found myself being dorky around them and not feeling like I needed to hide that side of me from them.
^ YES THIS I was a total dork in front of my now-bf because I honestly never thought we'd date and so I didn't care what he thought, lo and behold he fell in love with my true self and tomorrow's our 8 month anniversary of dating 🥰🥰
Haha "most of my lasting relationships" is a logical contradiction.
@@onlinechaosgremlin I thought the same, but there is a possibility he/she refers to friends in general.
I feel like this is common sense, how could a relationship possibly last if you have to disguise yourself to maintain it? Are you going to lie for the rest of your life?
@@onlinechaosgremlin - Man, even the response to you about referring to friendships is missing something lmfao. Y'all, there are tonnes of people in non-mongamous relationships who this applies to just as much lmfao.
A green flag i noticed is that they don’t make you feel all excited and give you butterflies in your stomach like crushes do
They make you feel warm and peaceful and whenever you’re with them it feels like home
Yeah it's really nice when you feel all excited and are usually blushing like that in the first 4 or 5 months when the relationship is just blossoming, and then it's even nicer when you get to know each other a lot and you feel like you'll always have them to rely on, at that point they feel like ' home '. One of the best feelings someone can feel is that ^^
@@user-by1xj9uz3e Is it bad it didnt even take us 4 or 5 months to feel like home to each other?
@@lonesomeraineful of course not! That's a great thing, it just means you trust your partner a lot and that you two have genuinely put in great work for the relationship, but I feel like when you've been dating for a while, it really enhances the trust levels even more and you two know it'll last ( if it's a healthy relationship) 💗🏳🌈
It's been 2 years and I still feel like I fall for him over and over again
Feels like home 🥰
"They aren't distracted by their phone."
Long distance relationships: I'll pretend i didn't see that.
@@saintmarybulicek567 no, do not ever give that man another chance. He’s been going behind the back of the woman who birthed his children. Im so sorry you’re going through this, but you’re so much better off without him. The fact that he even felt the need to look for someone new to flirt around with should tell you that HE is the one that turned his back on you. You’re not the one who turned your back at him, you’ll never be the one who let him down even in the process of filing for divorce. He made his bed, now he can lay in it. On his own.
I wish you and your children so much love, strength and happiness ❤️
@@saintmarybulicek567 That's horrible. I'd file for divorce or confront him first to find out why he's doing it.
@@lineavictoria2631 it’s a bot, an ad the “hacker” sent out
@@zerotoanime3953 dw, it’s an ad, the story is fake and it’s a bot the “hacker” scam artist uses
@@secondfavoritecolors2993 oh ok
When they don't care about their cell phones when they are with me, that means everything...
When they exist, it means everything to me.
Agreed
Yes. If you mean that you can keep your phone out without any nervousness. But if you say “let me go through your phone” I’m out even if I didn’t really do anything. In my head that seems controlling. Now... if I hand you my phone without you asking when I want to show you something that’s fine. Different strokes for different folks.
Have you met someone like that yet?
Wish my wife would when we’re home.
Natural flow of conversation is a huge green flag for me. I spent too much of my time with guys who would reply with one word or K and it felt like I was pulling teeth to get the conversation going.
I hate that! Also have way too much experience with guys just answering as lazily as possible ¨How was your day? or ¨How are you feeling?¨ answered with a plain ¨Good¨ while someone else might actually give a more nuanced answer that lead to a conversation
Yeah but then you get tinder matches like me who write an entire essay just to say hello lol
@@DenDarEmi You can't blame someone not to be interested in you, sometimes I get lazy answers too but that's it
@@bonsoircestmoi.348 Sometimes they are uninterested sure
I've been in this situation with some ladies where I was catrying the whole conversation. All I would get for an answer was "ahah" "lol" and stuff like that. At some point I would stop answering, since I didn't know how to continue the dialogue.
They messaged me again to ask me "Why aren't you answering ? I miss our talk... Bah blah blah"
Some people are interested, but they can't hold a conversation maybe by fear of being ridiculous or saying a stupid thing. I don't know
@@nemeo8391 Yeah, I don’t know what to make of women who only give one word replies, however, it’s impossible to have a lasting conversation with them.
As someone who feels this way towards my best friend, I feel like these are green flags for any relationship, not only romantic ones.
Exactly! These are just examples of being a decent human being. This is NOT what should define a life partner.
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Was just gonna make this comment. This is how I am w/ my friends. They love it - I love it.
Exactly! :)
Agree! I always think about my twinsister while listening to the narrator.
LOL i love how she says, "if they actively listen to you then that's a green flag, OR THEY MAY BE A SPY!." XD
Are...you a spy? 😳
@@SupahSmashBrotha96 uhh-
*frantically throws milk and jars of piss at my dates just to be sure*
@@dcmonnie what kinda of milk u talking bout buddy???????????????
@@breadinabox1449 it’s a TF2 joke
Green flag: when have a big disagreement, if they keep a good faith argument with you and can respect your thoughts without agreeing with them, they're a keeper.
@@michaelsmusic3532 mate can you please stop spamming those comments? It's annoying
Me and my best friend have done that before, and we're still close even though I had to transfer schools
@@bunheadsan1930 Ok, sorry if I upset you
Red flag: When you have a disagreement, they fail to realize that people can have different opinions and thinks you are personally attacking them
@@garrettlauderbaugh312 definitely. I was in a relationship like that and, soon after I ended it, I looked back and couldn’t believe I had actually put up with that level of immaturity.
Yeah…
I met someone with all those green flags, it felt like we were meant to be, everything seemed so easy and we just clicked as friends, lovers and partners….
Until I found out he was married and wasn’t planning on getting a divorce. Yup.
Dang I'm so sorry to hear that :(((
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Had us in the first half
Haha sike
Im sorry to hear that. Try to stay strong, you'll find someone better someday
"Does it feel like everyone who asks you out has red flags?" You guys are being asked out?
yeah bold of them to assume that people are actually interested in me 🤣
I was about to say that lol. Must be nice lol.
TRUE
Bruh, my cousin had THREE boyfriends in the 1st grade
Bruh like I-
The moment I knew this vid wasn’t for me 😂
Waiter: *breathes*
Me: Thank you
Me apologizing whenever the waiter makes a mistake- or overusing “it’s okay!!”
@@teatime7720 It does 😊 thank ypu for doing that
lmao SAAAAME
lol sameeeee
@@Zoe-cv1jo Hello Zoe ... to which reply are you replying to ? Be careful when you reply to a reply ... could get caught in a wormhole !
~ Peace
A refreshing way to approach the “dating world”......so tired of hearing about all of the 🚩
amen!
No one's perfect you take the good with the bad unless those red flags are a bit too much
Couldn't have said it better myself ☺️ 🥰🥰🥰this comment and video - just mmm mmm mmm🤗🤗🤗
I swear I thought the same when it popped up.
YESSS
One more thing that may be a good green flag is if they complement you out of nowhere. This should apply to all dates not just first. My boyfriend get me a complement when I needed and sometimes out of nowhere. I think this a good thing for both people should do in a relationship. It just shows the other person much you care for them and why you like/love them.
Yep. If you give and don’t get, walk away immediately
It depends. If it's a sincere one I'm in. But many guys tend to say cheesy stuff like 'hey pretty lady' when they don't even know you and I hate it
Compliment*. To complement someone means to complete them (i.e. "complementary"). I wouldn't have corrected your spelling if it didn't confuse me for a good minute lol.
@@nomoretwitterhandles Hi. I didn’t know it spelt wrong. I have dyslexia. I’m leaving it as is. It most for those who want to post but are scared; if their scared to be corrected for the bad grammar or scared of there’s spelling. I want other to share and speaker Knowing there’s others that make mistakes out there too. Thank you for letting me know it’s spelt incorrectly. Next time I will do better. Best wishes.
@@bellablue5025 No worries. I just wanted to let you know so you can know for next time! Education matters a lot, and I fully believe that education should be way more thorough. It's not your fault if you didn't know how to spell something, and especially not if you have dyslexia. That's why I also explained the difference and gave a relative word! It makes it so much easier that way imo.
You have a good week!!
When my husband first met my cat, she bit him (she has never bitten anyone before.) He forgave her, and was patient getting to know her. He never held a grudge or said anything bad about the incident. When I saw how forgiving he was, and how he respected her space, I knew he would do the same for me. And I was right. When I’m in a bad mood, he doesn’t hold it against me or thing that I’m mean, he respects that I have bad days and supports me. And I do the same for him.
I kind of have a similar experience with one of my families older cats, his name is ironically cuddles and while me and him are not cuddly in the slightest we have grown a mutual respect over the past couple of years. he understands when I won’t budge on something and vice versa and we acknowledge our mutual understanding every so often by me making eye contact with him and then gentle patting his head. You sound like you got a keeper in your husband there Celby. Patience and understanding can be a rare trait these days
My hamster did this to my husband. Drew blood and everything. 😭 He was so cool about it, and still liked her after the incident.
Aww
“Mrs. Mittens can see higher on the aural plain and is an excellent judge of character. Your husband is a bad man.” - Cat/Dog ppl
But I have this believe that dogs & cats are good judge of character. So if dog is ever violent to a stranger I would stay clear lool just because normally she is always an attention seeker from everyone
Me being the most single person ever: interesting...
I can relate, it sucks being single, but it’s better than being with someone who doesn’t love you.
same omg
Same
I so agree with you, your not alone..
Same hahahah
IS THAT A TOKYO GHOUL REFERENCE AT THE BEGINNING?
yes I think lol
maybe? :D
RUN IF SHE IS A GHOUL
@@Psych2go dream smp and anime fans? OwO
THAT"S WHAT I WAS THINKING TOO
I'm 100% sure I've found The One.
The things he did differently from all my exes during the "not yet dating but starting to get really interested"-phase included him being concerned how his actions affected me and not hesitating to show affection in public. Also being extremely transparent with me about EVERYTHING. All green flags in my book.
I'm in the same boat. He's lovely and all of my close friends refer to him as "a walking green flag" after some of the sweet and adorably well matched things hes done. He's an amazing match for me and watching videos like this help him understand what he's doing right and WHY it matters. Still, he'd do them either way. it's just who he is.
So happy for you both stay blessed
How have things been going between you two?
I hope you’re doing well.
There’s something really satisfying about this art style
I know right??
It’s simple and cute!
It's so calming
Green flag: when they fight with you to make relationship better not to win the fight..
This goes for all age groups.
🤔
not distracted by phone, be kind to waitress, and actively listen are basic human decency i think
Tip your fedora to any ladies you see too.
Honestly it should be but in this day and age, more often than not people don’t care about strangers
Exactly
umm no? i don't feel obliged to give my time to any random stranger who asks for it
True that. But now how do you know if they doing it coz it's the right thing to do or if they doing it coz they trying to impress you? 🤔
I feel like two of the main green flags that you should seek for is that they support you, and that they help you when you need them. My boyfriend has gone above and beyond for me, from things like buying my favorite drink and taking it to my house when I was upset (he loves like 30 minutes away) or that time when my bird got hurt, and he was willing to drive for almost two hours for me to get a vet that could see her
That guy is bending over to RIDICULOUS levels to the point most guys might think he's being used and you're going to financially abuse him later. DON'T screw him around because you've got an unbelievably good one.
@@OffGridInvestor I would never!! We have been together for 6 years, and hopefully will stay strong for a very very long time Xd
all manipulative sociopaths: *makes notes*
The first green flag difference between a narc or sociopath and a real green flag is if they just mirror all of your likes and opinions vs having a healthy mix of agreement, indeference, and disagreement.
@@PR0XIDIAN taking notes intensifies
@@PR0XIDIAN thiiiisssss
@@michaelsmusic3532 blow it out ur ass buddy
@@than9025 You have some serious issues dude, seek professional help would be my opinion
2:44 Whoever animated this part deserves all the chicken wings they want.
Lol I don’t like chicken wings that much. But ur right I love this animation!
Chicken wing chicken wing hot dog and ballony chillin with my homies
No I want
@@iknowobamaslastname2674 no me
Am I dating : No
Will I watch the video? : Yes
Same
Same lol
Same
I feel called out
I can relate to what you wrote here, sooooo me too :) lol
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These green flags are great because of how well these all tie into long lasting relationships, and they all help to communicate on the long journey of a marriage
I went on a date once. Then I got a text from my dad so I asked if it would be okay for me to check it. I hadn't heard from him for a day (he was with his girlfriend), and my date said yes. I opened it. Smiled, responded, and then muted my phone. My date got pissed that I smiled and immediately guessed I was talking to another prospect. Yeah, red flag. Sorry, you said it was okay. I explained before I opened it.. And it's the first date. Chill
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Big red flag! Glad you didn't continue to date them! They've got serious issues.
Just imagine how jealous that guy would be in a relationship... I mean, I can see where it comes from, he's obviously got self-esteem issues. Very insecure. But that's his issue, he has to deal with that before he can be able to establish a relationship.
Yea, no. He’s an L
That happened to me once, but i just said "it was someone special?" and she showed me it was her mom, i felt amazing, that she had the confidence to show me that. We didn't work as a couple, but she's my friend to this day
On my boyfriend and I's first date we literally just talked for 9 hours straight, like we met at a park at like 6pm and both went home at around 3 in the morning even though it felt like we'd only talked for two hours maybe c:
bot replies are sad.
That's a sign of a good person, you can talk to each other and listen to each other without realising how fast time is going by
That was literally me & my boyfriend. We only planned the 1st date to be like 2 hours and we ended up being out til like 3am and talking :)
That’s so cuteee :D
I feel like this is what every partner should try to achieve with their beloved one. Not your general small silly first date talks. If I feel like she wants to talk to me about more deep things, I'll be reciprocating that feeling all day long. And because we can talk all kinds of crap, it's all good since we're doing this together.
“Sometimes you’ll be the right person for someone who is not ready for the right person.”
Is that a good thing?
Man, in just one sentence you just made me realise i should let go, after maybe 6 months of thinking...
@@SupahSmashBrotha96 auch
Facts
Ouch.... I feel this.....
Number 5 is a bit of a funny case for me. My sweetheart suffers from ADHD and often multitasks and tinkers around. But she made sure to clarify that first thing when we started dating.
So if we're having a lazy moment or a casual talk, she'll often drift off and lose herself in her games or videos, and I know it's not out of malice.
Curiously enough, if we're hooked on a subject, we can talk for hours and retain that feel-good engagement. All in all, communication is always the key!
I'm AuDHD and my partner is ADHD and we'll just both play games while talking (parallell play anyone?) and it ends up leading to some really in depth conversations since there's no expectations between us regarding eye contact and visible engagement. He'll tell me if he's bored or distracted and vice versa, and that communication is what matters
Oh yes, I suspect I have ADHD and I feel the same way. Sometimes it's even easier for me to focus on a conversation if I'm doing something (not intellectually demanding) on the side. My family has always ruled it off as me being rude, not paying attention, not listening and not respecting those I listen to and that always felt unfair to me.
On the other hand, if I'm really engaged in the conversation, I often lose track of everything else around me.
Hmm. Seems like my family has trouble leading engaging (for me) conversations, now that I think about it.
On Valentine's Day a person on the street gave us a rose while we were eating dinner, and it was my boyfriend's idea for us to pass the rose onto our waitress from the both of us (in a completely platonic way) because she was sad about working such a long shift on Valentine's day. Very wholesome.
That is so lovely ❤
aww, thats so nice ❤
thats a keeper!
One green flag I have found is if you feel comfortable to open up to your partner. That while yes having fun should always take priority, that being able to speak about a serious topic or fear you have without being judged is also a great way to know a keeper
What when you're always the first to open up about stuff?
@@Picca65 You can always ask, if done properly. Something like "What do you think about hobbies? do you have one? Im thinking about starting to do something to occupy my mind, but I cant decide what and I would like your opinion". People are different, some will only open up if they feel like you really care about the information they have.
And remember, you can have all of these qualities and still not be the one your crush wants.
Love can be a fickle and crazy thing.
Why do ya have to cut onions like dat?
Cmon why you gotta do dis?
I agree with you. And many people fail to realise this. If someone doesn't consider you physically attractive, then even if you do have these qualities they won't see you than more than a friend.
@@KPR0308 Sometimes it is like this and they'll find you physically attractive and have great sex with you, but they'll still choose to be with someone else! Life is a box of chocolates lol
this is exactly me and my ex. I treated him so well but he broke up with me anyway :v
as someone who is in a long term relationship right now, this is definitely accurate! even after nearly 5 years they still make me laugh and smile all the time, and we never run out of things to talk about. never settle for less, you deserve someone who will listen and really respects and cares for you!!
May I ask you a question?
So you still love your partner as it was on beginning? Or feelings changed, transformed into something different?
Preach
Yes, but remember you need to be that for them as well. To find the right person you need to be the right person.
*Sees Rize.*
Me, shouting like a soldier: *"RED FLAG! RED FLAG!"*
I hope Kaneki watches this video for next time ❤️
Same
Looolz! The red flag I'd still ignore 🤦🏾♂️
Y E S
Yessss
I feel bad that I can't remember things well, cause then it makes people think I don't listen or care, when In all actuality I just have a very very bad memory
Same bro. Same.
Nah, its just that you dont care
Im jokijg lol
What about writing some notes about people you love, mate? Good luck!
Same but a green flag from this could be if your partner knows and accepts that about you. Mine was a little worried at first but as he got to know me and see I did that with everything he realized it didn't mean I wasn't interested. Now he just laughs and says, "Babe we talked about this already, I said...." or he will poke at me with a, "I'm not telling you, should have remembered 😜"
"It's a green flag. Go."
I legit cried. That was so sweet.
I can relate to what you wrote here, sooooo me too :) lol
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We need more videos about green flags cuz people really be searching for the red ones only
yeah and the media is filled with he doesn’t like me back or he likes someone else, i wish i can see some more of these videos on social media:)
When they have all these at the beginning of the relationship but then completely change toward the end of it
S i g h
Yeah I'll never get it.
Honeymoon stage, or they just wanted sex?
@@Z5Z5Z5 I feel 3 of these flags are based on how you feel which isn't a good call, when they touch your hand and you get full of warmth and good feelings they didn't do that, your brain did, by registering you wanted that touch on you so bad you wanted reward for it, when hours feel like minuets, that's your brain compartmentalizing your time into something -you- enjoy.
Also lets be all real here for a moment and the other 3 of these six flags use to be proper edict. Hell aren't the sociopaths that beat their wives really good to waiters and public workers? Are they not very attentive?
Yea especially when that tell you they have a girlfriend and they've been cheating on them
thats stressful but people change
There's nothing worse in a date than being with a person who is constantly checking their phone while you are talking or engaging with them...
So rude. I kinda dislike it when my friends do it too.
Stop talking and just look at them until they look up at you. Just stare for awhile, keep a serious face, as if to say, "I'm going to stand up and ditch you with the bill if you don't get off the phone. Pay attention or pay for your own food."
Or you can legit get up and walk away. Pay your portion of the bill at the bar. That’ll be a well-deserved lesson for people who think it’s ok to disrespect you.
My boyfriend does this when we hangout..
Do the same back to them. And they will get it, trust.
"...everyone who is asking you out..."
I think I need to work on this one first.
Same
I can relate to what you wrote here, sooooo me too :) lol
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I’m in a long distance relationship. We met when we were 14-15 yrs old. Something clicked and we were best friends since. We started dating in December. Best decision I’ve ever made. He’s my twin flame, we can look at eachother and just know what we’re thinking or feeling. We have a lot to learn about eachother but we can sit in silence and still be comfortable and happy. We smile and joke around with one another, so much we complain our faces hurt. We send super long lovey dovey and reassuring paragraphs to eachother. We always make sure the other is safe and eats/drinks water. We communicate and love everything about eachother.
I’ve finally found the one after all these years of dating the worst people.. 😭❤️
I often have conversations with my father that last for hours and are very fun, we talk about everything and anything from justice to how we would have done a movie we didnt like.
One day after commenting how much I like those talks he told me:
"If you ever find a girl with whom you can have a chat like this, thats the one for you."
If we go grocery shopping and they put their cart back. I'mma start saving up for a ring.
Haha
People don't do that?
Go to Germany, almost everyone does that.
@@malas.7276 lol truuuue
it's not whether they have that 'value' or not, it's how youz manage it together. you can even end up disagreeing. They might not have considered putting the trolley away in their old family.
The *NATURAL* one is so very true. I am a very verbal person, and by that I mean I squeak. I make a lot of noises (not just squeaks) but I tend to try and contain them more so when around people I am not comfortable or friends with. With my boyfriend, I don't feel the need to hold back my little sound effects; he actually finds it cute. I
I do this too and I feel like I have to work to not do it when around my peers who I'm not in a for real friendship with (sometimes I do it on impulse and I accidentally make some sound effect like "AGHGHK" and/or flinch if someone taps me to get my attention or something). But when your friends or crush find it funny then it's a good thing. My high school crush and I did this ALL the time and I think I got it from her lol. Some people will say it's cringy but screw it, it's just something we do. It's like saying ow.
I make little sound effects too that I can’t control and it annoys most people which I can see why but they always make a big deal about it.
All of these are literally my partner. We've been together for over 4 years, and we still have the same connection we had on the first date. On our first date, we went for a walk around campus and eventually decided to grab lunch at one of the restaurants that were around. We ate, then literally talked for hours. We had been talking for like 2 or 3 hours, when he realized his class was about to start, so I walked him there. We texted every single day nonstop after that, and went on more dates most days every week. I knew from that first date that there was something between us, and now I'm 100% confident I've found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and he's told me the same thing ❤️
Why is the art so cute in theese videos
Thank you
omg right!! i think the cute animations plus the soothing narration also make it easy and fun to learn about this stuff and it makes me feel safe and like i'm not alone in wanting to learn about these things which makes it all even cuter🥺🥺🥺
She's a really talented Artist
I agree !!
Hi um, STOP LIKING THIS COMMENT
I've never been interested in anyone before, until I began developing feelings for my friend. She's always so kind and funny and comforting, none stop she smiles and hugs and loves in an effort to make everyone happy and I can't help but fall in love with her.
Maybe I'll come back in the future to say if we ever get together
Awww I wish the best for you! ^^
glad I'm not the only one falling for my friends 😅
I wish I had friends like that...
@@naikou1633 I crush on my friends as well but they're all straight bruh
@@jichuturtlerabbitkimsaysya5223 yeah I have a crush on someone but she’s straight. She is also my friend lol
my heart is literally melting, “it’s a green flag, go!”
I can relate to what you wrote here, sooooo me too :) lol
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"Does it feel like everyone who asks you out has red flags?"
You're funny, thinking people ask me out.
Another green flag is that they’re willing to make sacrifices for you. Their time, their energy, and their preferences will be pushed to the side momentarily to do what you suggested to do. This means that they treat what you enjoy with respect, and are willing to do something with you that they may not enjoy as much. But make sure to return the favor, and ask what they would like to do on your next date!
Ponte en contacto con él ahora en WhatsApp y su nombre es Wilson Thomas, ese es el nombre del hombre poderoso, ok número de WhatsApp: +2347041592580.
@@petermoody9909 ¡Es peligroso poner su información en línea! (Especialmente tu nombre). ¡Ten cuidado!
or they are a simp
@@Finalizor haha funny simp word I’m laughing so hard 😐
*if they treat you right you should also treat them right*
Or, they’re secretly a spy
Me: 🕵️♂️ 🧐 🤓 😎 🔎 👁 🦅 👀
@@Psych2go How’d you do that emoji?
@@matineeman3038 be a member
@@umusuarioqualquer777 Oh ok
@@Psych2go patreon emoji is so cute 0mg
When you fall in love you dont find the need to be on your phone.
Can you imagine someone other than your phone becoming your priority? That's what love is haha
Yeah exactly armyyy!!!
When you have social anxiety.. you need to see your phone when you go blank
Well damn haha i fell in love with dude who lives in another country so phone it is
@@lucylu5241 that's great😆☺
Best of luck❤
My crush has all the greenflags,she's so kind to everyone and she listens,she's caring, everything!
Green/red flag : the way they talk about their mother and how they treat animals
Yes!
All good, so long as you pay attention to WHY they talk about their mother how they do. I'm a survivor of child abuse, I won't pretend to love the person who abused and traumatized me.
@@lucienfortner841 of course, I'm entirely with you on this. General rules are only okay if you know how to identify the specifical cases where they don't apply.
hell yea
Bingo!
Anyone else think the girl with purple hair in the beginning looks like that ghoul girl from Tokyo ghoul that wanted to eat the main character no just me ....ok
Yeah I think that's a reference, the cafe is also similar
Lol you’re right
I was thinking the same thing!!! And the plate of meat too....
@@MVPerry WEEB POWAH!
Bruh that was my first thought
Also MVPerry pog
Green flag (if you're looking for a long term relationship): to have similar aims/values in life.
Something I love about my current relationship is that if we have an assumption in our head, we seek clarity first before acting on that assumption. Even if we're like SUPER convinced of one idea, we've not once exploded on the other until we talked first. Hence.. we haven't argued once in our 10 months of dating, super proud of it B)
"Do you feel like everyone who has asked you out has red flags"
Me who hasn't had anyone ask me out for my entire life: *interesting*
I can relate to what you wrote here, sooooo me too :) lol
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People have always been the ones to ask me out, and it's usually only ever online. I've probably had 4 people ask me out in the span of a year and I've been hit on many times. I learned from psychtogo's other videos that I have a naturally attractive personality
Tokyo Ghoul in a nutshell
ThIs MiGhT bE tHe OnE.
I like the Reference
DUDE I WONT SIMP ON THAT ONE
YABA
#ruiningthecomment
Haha yeah lol
I’m autistic and struggling to find my way with dating. These videos help so much. Some of the points might be obvious to most people but for autistics they can be hard to grasp sometimes. I really appreciate these videos
Same, I understand what you are going through.
Best wishes to the both of you, may God bring you both, the perfect person . Cheers!
I'm not yet sure if I am autistic because I didn't took any actual test but some online test tell me that I have aspergers syndrome
I can relate. I have not actually taken any real autism diagnosis tests, but I think I may be somehow "from the spectrum". Neither have I got any dating or relationship experience with 32 years. Maybe someday in the future...
I'm autistic (high functioning) and had a 4 year relationship so it's definitely doable. Embracing your differences is what makes you who you are
Ayeeee, i love how you made a video on something positive about dating. I feel like I havent seen a positive thing about dating in so long, everything is about people being unfaithful and red flags that it's getting discouraging. This was refreshing to watch, thanks.
Watching this video gave me the extra confirmation that my relationship with my boyfriend is healthy. I decided to watch this just to see what is was like and I’m very glad I did. This relationship is the first that isn’t long distance and it’s funny how I already felt comfortable and trusted him enough on the first date, he and I were very nervous. 😂 The more he and I talked the more I liked him and it was only a few days before we felt and knew that we liked each other a lot so we decided to be gf & bf. Before him and previous relationships I thought I had a type but as I got older I realized that I don’t. It’s been five months now and I’ve never felt like this with anyone else and whoever reads this I hope you’ll find someone who will make you just as happy and peaceful ☺️💕
What if you though you found that and now after longer is actually better than before in comunication and everything, but feeling wise you don’t know what to do and feel like there’s things you don’t know about their personality even. Maybe it was the pandemic but if you could give your take on this
Thank you for letting me know not to give up just yet
@@june2921 them you gotta keep talking with them!! It cna take several years even to learn their full personality, if something is bothering you or you are very curious about something just ask them! Don't be shy!
1. You can talk for hours but it seems like minutes
2. They actively listen to you
3. They're kind to the waiter
4. Being around then feels natural
5. They're not distracted by their phone
6. You find yourself smiling all the time
So I have a crush on my best friend. I KNOW they’re my soulmate, I just don’t know if I wanna date them or not. On one hand I want to date them, and on the other hand I wanna stay best friends. Please help-
Edit: I told them how I feel and they didn’t like me back. But we’re still friends and I’m glad I told them anyways :D and I’m kinda glad we didn’t date cuz I think we’re better as friends anyways lmao
i mean, cant it just be both?
@@onlyjohann3665 you got a point there
@@colorfulquesadilla377 i hope they like you back!
im in the same situation as you, but i do want to date them
@@onlyjohann3665 thanks! I hope they like you back too!
@@colorfulquesadilla377 i already told her... she doesn't, at least im glad she didnt just stop talking to me
I remember went on a first date at the cafe with a man, first thing I notice was I felt extremely comfortable with him, we forgot the time whiling talking and sharing soo much about ourself until it evening though the date was afternoon. He even went on to ask me if I want to have dinner with him since it already evening 😅. But I refused, he’s okay with it and immediately ask for second date 🥰✨ i can’t stop smiling. It’s been 7 months now I’m still with him
"Has an odd obsession with cat outfits"
I- I feel called out-
“Cat girls are running my life” lol
@@jen7917 uwu
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SAME AHAHAH
“Chicken wings, does that anyone else hungry?” LOL
Did it make you hungry? :)
@@Psych2go made me hungry 😆
IT MADE ME HUNGRY LOL! I LOVE HUNGRY HOWIE'S CHICKEN WINGS!
HECK I JUST LOVE CHICKEN WINGS MINE OR HUNGRY HOWIE'S LOL!
@@janellarogers1117 SIS, this comment made my day! Idk why. You just have a positive vibe! Thank you!💞
Wait.. am I the only one noticing the Tokyo Ghoul reference?
Yeah.. that date didn't end so well..
THATS WHAT I THOUGHT OMG
Legit, when i saw that i was like hell no don't date her kid.
What are you talking about? He just went through true mental and physical suffering for more than 2 years. I don't see any harm in that
Lamo
Do you like who you are when you are with them is HUGE this is a great way to see if their behaviour and attitude is bringing out positive or negative characteristics in yourself and helping you be the best version of yourself
Something to note for ppl with depression if you’re constantly worried if they like you or if you feel like you’re faking it chances are you’re not
This
Gracias
I have been told I doubt myself and tend to think the worst of my interactions with people. I just assume people don't like me as a general rule. Once I started challenging that belief of mine I found I could connect with people. It's a daily struggle, and when people say I'm a nice person and they like being around me I'm still like “wtf?”
@@apseudonym a business coach once taught me that we must be careful of the stories we tell ourselves. When we hear a comment or see a facial expression, we might very well be imagining negative intent or otherwise accidentally misinterpreting the actions of others. Some of us have been trained over time to seek hidden meanings in people's words... and this makes it very hard to ever stop. But the cost of false positives is high. Because you will always assume the worst, and that can drive away people who care.
Try to look into what your specific insecurities are. Write down the ways that you believe you are inadequate. Then go out and do some research, talk to friends, talk to therapists, and see how often you are projecting your own insecurity onto other people's actions incorrectly.
Noticing it happening is the first step.
Next, examine the ways in which you consider yourself inadequate. Whose values are you really judging yourself by? An ex? A parent? A childhood bully? Very often, we internalize other people's value systems and negative judgments. But you can control your own values. This may illuminate many things about yourself which you perceive as failures, but which either are actually not failures or which also have significant upsides to them that you're ignoring or downplaying.
The next step is learning to accept every part of yourself, including things that you have power to change, and things that you do not have power to change. Then change the things you can change. And accept the things you cannot.
In my own experience, these are the steps toward loving yourself, toward confidence, toward better relationships with yourself and with others.
Good luck on your journey, friend!
@@apseudonym I can relate to that
I had my first date yesterday. It's my first time meeting him after talking for a month in fb. We met at 1pm then we lost track of time not realizing it's already 8pm. All of the green flags given in the video are done. I hope he's the one, I've been wanting to have someone in my life for a long time. And yes, we're both guys. 🌈
omg!! he seems like he's a keeper!
haha def a keeperrr
Update: we're on our 3rd month of exclusively dating and feels so amazing. I've never been this genuinely happy with someone.
I already met his family and soon he'll meet mine. Can't wait for us to become in an official relationship. 💕
@@reny9351 ahhhhh that's awesome! KEEP US UPDATED :)
I hope you have a great long lasting relationship :)
"You find yourself similing all the time"
Bish i do every time i meet basically anyone 😅😂
This video made me feel so happy (and grateful) for what i have with my husband. It is possible to find *your* person, and remember that all of these behaviors go both ways. Active listening, nit checking phones, laughter, calm.
Just started dating someone and they are full of green flags 💚
Good for you!
:) Yey!
awwwwwww❤ all the best
*Me, watching this even tho I know damn well I'll be single forever*
You'll find someone someday bro, in the meantime...
SINGLE SQUAD!!! WHERE YOU AT?
same bro, we will find our queens soon
Same TvT
That's rough buddy.
Same. To be fair, I'm not exactly looking either.
is everybody gonna ignore that in the first example, across the table is Rize Kamashiro from Tokyo ghoul???
I found these things in my boyfriend. On the first time we talk, we talk for hours and then he sleeps for an hour or two and wakes up to speak with me again. I love him so much. I feel and I see that he loves me so much as well.
*"Jokes on you, I am attracted to spies"*
Edit: spys --> spies
I feel called out
That would make good content
I literally dated a guy who later turned out to be a stalker -_- ...I mean he read me and understood me properly before meeting me and he has a crazy side. If I didn't meet his ex and then did a background check...well -___-
@@rocketlioness oh damn, sorry to hear that..
You alright?
@@zer0x715 Initially I felt bad for him coz he was actually caring n all. I was going through rough time n he came at the right time. But his history and well he had schizophrenia and it's a genetic thing. So I broke up on phone and for now, he took it well. Lockdown helped too. My Job is from home.
A green flag that i have with my girlfriend: even if they don't like something you make (small things like talking while you're watching the tv and stuff) instead of saying that you're anoying, they come up with something so both of you can be happy and you don't feel forced or sad
So... compromise? :D
@@summero-my5in yes uwu
i am the gf
@@littlesnek2301 HEWWO BABEEEEE
@@somebody3150 hi my precious and sweet honeybun
Hello fellow psych2goers, it is I,
A time traveler,,,
(Found this in the dating playlist. I hope it actually is unlisted and I'm not just embarrassing myself rn)
You got it.
Woah, one month ago! A true fan 😤💕
Só lembrando que relacionamento é uma via de mão dupla: quem recebe também deve dar. Não é bom esperar encontrar a pessoa perfeita quando nós não somos perfeitos. Bom identificar os pontos positivos nos outros. E em si mesmo? E seus pontos negativos? Lembre-se: aprender é crescer!
I started my first relationship a couple of weeks ago and have been binging Psych2Go’s dating videos. They tell me I think he’s a keeper!😊
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@@keyboardevangelist um okay?
I feel like these green flags are for people that are in a relationship where the other side is not super introverted and shy, because they actually have to talk 😂
Even as an introvert, if I'm with someone and I feel comfortable with them, I'll become more talkative
We're both introverts and can talk to each other for England 😂
That post feels a bit personal so this might help. 1st, the video is about dating - a date is in no way a relationship. It is a way to see if you match well with someone. So, changing your point of view from relationship to dating is going to be helpful.
2nd, seeing the date as a chance to evaluate a person makes you demand from yourself to give them something to evaluate, too. So, one will not reject you because you are shy or introverted but because they feel you are hiding something or stalling the conversation. Being shy can be cute. Being weird is not.
So, dating is about playing. While playing the only weird thing is not to play. So, do play, in your own peculiar way and you'll find your match,who will appreciate exactly what you give to them, not what you hide.
@@laurenmtz7014 I'm only 100% honest with two people, and we've been friends since primary school. I'm really introverted now, so I don't make new friends easily.
This. XD My husband is introverted AF (so am I), and it takes the right mood and topic for us to talk for hours. He's still a keeper though.
I was talking to my sister's crush and asked him when he would ask her out. He said, "Maybe when I get my license". That was so sweet, and now my sister is waiting very patiently for the time to come!
0:20 Touka's at table Rize with Kaneki 🙂 🥰
Green Flag 1- "You can talk for hours but it seems like a minute!" (1:06)
Green Flag 2- "They actively listen to YOU!" (1:27)
Green Flag 3- "They're kind to the waiter" (2:14)
Green Flag 4- "Being around them feels NATURAL" (2:50)
Green Flag 5- "They're not distracted by their phone" (3:15)
Green Flag 6- "You'll find yourself smilling ALL. THE. TIME." (3:47)
It's honestly a relief to finally hear someone talking about reasons TO actually be with someone in any capacity, because I am starting to feel lately that I hear nothing but horror stories and red flags left, right and center. It's starting to make me feel that there is no such thing as a person without a red flag (Which is true given no one is perfect or flawless) and yet there's the whole "rose tinted glasses make the red flags look like flags" thing, but I mean, without that happening, how are you supposed to ever feel something extra about someone? You're supposed to find someone whose positives outweight the negatives for you. That's how it works right? I'm not sure I would know from experience yet but I just don't know what it is we SHOULD be aiming for when everyone spends so much time going "nope not that" and "nope not this" all the time. It's tiresome only looking for the red flags.
*Finally talking about green flags. These days we focus on too much negativity, people are brainwashed by advertising propaganda* about perfect, fresh, clean and beautiful barbie/ken life, even bosses of companies work so hard they feel they are not good enough, and we don't know what's right when everything is wrongly incorrect. We all want to feel loved and respected. 😂👁️🤙
Well said
You are kenough
It's so funny that ALL of those green flags were there on the first date with my partner! We talked so much that we forgot time and ended up looking on the clock when it already was way past midnight 😂
It was such a good feeling being around him that we decided to go on our second date on the next day, because we found each other so interesting. Our relationship is the best I've ever had and I hope it'll last forever 🥰
sending virtual hugs to everyone who needs it stay safe and stay possitive everyone! 💡:)
*Sends virtual hug*
Thank you, loved them
Thank you! I need those
Thank you!
why are people so nice on the internet ;w;
"..or, has an odd obsession with cat outfits"
that's a green flag, _cosplayers _*_unite_*
HAHAHAH YESSSS
You are goddamn right.
Is your PFP one of the pigeons from Hiveswap?
nyaaaaaaaaa!! :3
Hell yeah
Here's a red flag: they keep bothering you after you reject them and keep "confessing"
Ohhhh, my classmate had a crush on me last year and he liternally confessed 4 times, even after I said I'm not interested and even my friends had to tell him-
@@Karosei0713 yeah problem is they're my friend but not really and I'm not gonna go "hey _insert other friend- can you tell them to leave me alone and that I don't like them?
meeeeee....I'm that red flag girl, and I'm so sorry for everyone who encountered me, and I had a huge crush on them :( I confessed online but not in person but basically spied on them until they moved far away.
@@Minniekitty thats kinda creepy ngl
If you really want to help them you could teach them boundaries, good emotional management skills, ect.
Not everyone who's creepy or comes off clingy or obsessed are trying to be that way. Some people don't have/ haven't learned healthy dating social skills because they grew up in an abusive/toxic home, or maybe they were in foster care. What bothers me is that people make fun of/avoid people who are unhealthy or toxic, but they never teach those who are like that how to become healthier. It also bothers me that people just.. Throw other people away whether they're toxic/unhealthy or not. That's why relationships don't last because people don't work through things with each other anymore.
My girlfriend got nervous butterflies on our first date , and was giggling a lot even for no specific reason, it was adorable, i didn’t get that wrong , most likely took as green flags because she was so engaged with me and happy to talk and know more about me , and I think that is normal for girls to feel like that the first time , and personally I was pretty stressed , we’ve both communicated well about this , and when I was with her , man everything changed , I felt so great and chill with her , it did last 3 hours and I felt like it was only few minutes .. I really believe she’s my ultimate love. 💕💕💕
My boyfriend and I had all of these green flags on our very first date :3 almost 2 years later, I can say they've been a pretty good indicator of a good match and, maybe more importantly, a healthy and respectful relationship ❤️
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now. This is my first relationship ever at 21 and he’s already been in 3 relationships before me. I’ve learned, and am still learning, to not get quick to anger. I get annoyed easily and in the beginning of our relationship, I would get super mad at him whenever we had bumps in our relationship, but he never yelled at me. It takes a lot to get him mad unlike me. He has and always has been very calm whenever we have arguments. I also learned that simply just talking solves a lot as well. If I have something on my mind and it get to the point where it affects my communication to talk to him, I usually give myself a prep talk for when I say what’s wrong,. Or if he has done or said something, before hand I would give him the silent treatment, now I talk too him openly. Even though I still struggle with that from time to time.
You sound like me.
Bonus Green Flag:
They aren't Rize
Bonus green flag
They're not my ex
@Keiko Kennedy yessss, thank you!
I was looking for this comment, thank you xD
What's Rize, I didn't get it?
@@piyushsharma3991 It’s a reference to a character named Rize from the anime Tokyo Ghoul