Life is Difficult. How to Handle it...
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2017
- This weeks video is inspired by a book: The Road Less Travelled, by M. Scott Peck. amzn.to/2iBiMjQ
The book begins with the statement "Life is difficult". It is our failure to understand this, believing that my life should be easy and problem-free is the root of suffering. Life is not meant to be easy, and is a series of problems which can either be handled or ignored.
Discipline is required to solve life’s problems rather than ignore them. Most people avoid the pain of solving their problems.
In The Road Less Traveled Peck describes 4 Aspects of Discipline:
Delaying gratification: Sacrificing present comfort for future gains.
Acceptance of responsibility: Accepting responsibility for one's own decisions.
Dedication to truth: Honesty, both in word and deed.
Balancing: Handling conflicting requirements. Scott Peck writes of an important skill to prioritize between different requirements - bracketing.
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To overcome is to get stronger... "Life is a constant struggle, not only against forces around us, but above all against our own ego. We can never afford to rest on our oars, for if we do, we soon see ourselves carried downstream again. " ~ The Universal House of Justice, Baha'i Faith
That book has helped me a lot and many people around me too. I often have an extra copy to offer to someone
@@ConorNeill indeed, I should read it again. I remember chapter 4, about Grace, is meanningful and compelling
Several value bombs here. "Delaying gratification" is a big one. This has truly motivated me to move my ass! Thanks a lot my friend.
The discipline to face our core problems....just beautiful.
I've sticked it on the inside of my door.
I love the quote: "The discipline to face the problems and deal with it right now!" Thanks Conor!
Conor you are exceptional as always, sharing this with us shows what a person you are....
That end was so brilliant your thoughts are always so well organized and your talks deliver an impactful message. Thank you. May God always bless you and keep you safe!
Thank you Conor! It is impressive how your videos and opinions are relevant to patients'- physicians' communication field. I am a Greek oncologist, working in Thessaloniki. At this moment, I treat a wonderful Irish lady, who lives in Greece for twenty years. I have learned many things from this relationship. And some of your videos have helped me a lot to approach and get familiar to the Irish mentality.
Connor, as I do cardio on my elliptical, I came here with much on my plate lately. You did not disappoint. Life is hard and moving forward is a choice. With that said, embrace life and take steps whether they are small or big. Of course this elliptical seems to not adhere to this state of mind. But it was my answer to get away and get my necessary fitness requirement in. Thanks for the positivity that was also needed Connor. Attitude workout done too.
I don't know but this is exactly what my mind is thinking about why life is so difficult.. listening this gave me motivation and an understanding that life will be challenging we need to be strong enough to deal with it.
Excellent advice. Thanks, Conor! It’s so true that avoiding problems creates more problems. Been there myself.
I’ve been looking for this topic . Thank your for posting this.
It is amazing that everytime I listen to one of your videos, you speak about my problems.
Thank you for reminding me what to do :-)
Conor, thank you once again for an incisive analysis of life's problems, and how to remediate them. Life is full of opportunities, but unless we clear away the issues blocking clear thinking, we won't be effective. Excellent talk!
Best Regards,
John A. Lombardi
Maryland
Thanks Connor for your valuable 👍 advices... really it works......
Everything you mentioned in this video is very true. Actually today I have some tough matters to deal with, but I hadn´t been gutsy enough to face them until this morning when I saw your video.
Thank you for your wise words Conor!
Cruz
Great advice. Thanks
Very helpful advice! Thanks a lot! Wish you more blessings! 🙂
Brilliant video showcasing what we tend to do by avoiding tough things in life.... Eye opener for me....
You changed my view. Thank you. I'll try the book.
Excellent Neil, take my gratitude for sharing your wisedom.
Thanks Conor!!
Amazing! Thanks for sharing
Glad you enjoyed it!
Excellent video
Denial leads to suffering... we should focus as according to stephen covey.... First thing first
Thank you! Something I needed to hear today.
Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!
Always useful. Thanks from Alcarràs, Lleida, Catalunya
Great video Conor. We can be so creative in building these layers of excuses, as you put it, that we can get to a stage where we cannot tell the woods from the trees. Keep up the good work.
I have been growing a lot;-). Congrats on the videos, you are really coming into your own, flywheel effect is really kicking in.
Impressed with clarity of thoughts.Keep up the good work boss
Lovely 👍.
Hi Conor great video. You posted this video on the same day my report as rejected at work hard to redo it again. I was discouraged but your video comforted me and gave me the courage to redo the report.
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Great inside! Thanks Neill , just like always, your advice is a nice breeze in a very hot day, or a cold bottle of water to quenched my thirst! Keep up the good work good man!
Salvador G that's great salvador!
hi Mr conor,
i followed you since 8 months ago really i like all your videos i learn a lot of things from you thank you very much
Most great conversation that guide for life ...Sept 10 , 2019/2562
Nice topic for a video with a gorgeous and expensive house in the background :)))))))
Good massage sir
nice jumper : the MASTERS logo
What a beautiful house and grounds!!
Oh boy, making sure to watch this video in the evening. The title is so much my life. Maybe you've got some nee input for me. I always learn from your videos. So I do high hopes in this one. Yes my friend, NOW you're under pressure :-D
Hi Conor,
giving you a wisdom cause you've talked a lot about discipline in all your videos, so I guess, it's an important attitude for you:
"Discipline starts right there where unpleasure ends."
Life is hard, but I am too! Nice day 4 ya!
Bota difícil nisso....(portuguese!). Very difficult indeed....Good morning...
Fine
Thank you for the video, what’s the background song when you were on the mountain top of Ireland?
Life is not difficult if you have knowledge and if you are strong
Hello from Az,
First time finding you on utube.
My name is Eileen. I am 64.
Where do I start to make a new life for myself NOW when I live on $730 a month SS. I live with my ex husband and it is tenuous at best.
But I have no car, and no opportunities from friends and or family at this time. My ex gambled away any of value that I had( all my jewelry) we lost the house to forclosure , and my car went to pay one of his debts. He was suicidal and went out and cleaned houses to pay bills. We were almost homeless 4 years ago.
I was a housewife for the 18 years we were married and have extreme anxiety, so I was happy to be home. But the marriage failed and I had tried to move on then. But it came out that he had been addicted to gambling and there was NO $$ in the equity of the house for either of us.
This has traumatized me sooo much that I didn’t think I was going to live thru it. I have been trying to heal my mind, deal with extreme anxiety and try to help my ex with his mental status. I literally had NOWHERE to flee if I would have. Not even a great ol’ Auntie with a house and family.
It’s 4 1/2 years later. My 45 year old son is suicidal after the death of my mother and his beloved uncle last year. He was her caretaker and when she passed his income was gone. He cannot find work. But is searching.
My ex just lost another job yesterday. We do not want to live together anymore. I wouldn’t mind.. but he feels trapped. I would love to fall in love again.. find all the riches and experiences that life can bring. I am sooo willing to learn and grow.
Something is brewing in me and I want to LIVE!!!!!
Life is more than hard. And I don’t know how, or where to start..
Thanks for reading my testimony.
don't think for one minute you can solve EVERY problem some you may have to accept and change your attitude towards.. ijs i.e. unhappy in loveless marriage BUT he's a great father and husband I'm just not in love with him.. never have been can't rip my family apart because of it so I just make the best of it and keep it moving🚶♀️
Sir Conor, you are awesum, i am following you past few months and infact i too have my You Tube Channel and i made a video on accepting Life is hard and we must accept it, once we do that everything is normal. We have to accept it. I am from India. I like and follow your creation. Thanks
Puneet Kachhawaha yes its great
Gr8
Neill is great
Like the scenery- do you know how some parts Ireland survived the famine? What we enjoy doing is sometimes delayed by what we need to do first.😊
@@ConorNeill Seamoss is know as Irish Moss because of the history surrounding the the famine in Ireland- source (Oral history from families that migrated to US from Ireland. as you know the tradition of chronological family information passed on for Generations . 😊
"There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings" Dostoyevsky.
Those sufferings give us the oportunity to grow and take from them the better of they.
Sorry for my English but I effort to improve day by day.
Always It's a pleasure learn from you!!
Thanks
Omar
Old video...
Yet still valuable, I wish i could make it's point work in my case, but I guess im to deep into living life being sure that i'm a piece of sh*t
heh
whoever reads this I hope U're stronger than me ;D have a good life m8
Sits beside a huge mansion "Life is difficult af"
Life is hard if I'm living far from God