76yo. Thank you Mel, Matilde and Grey. This conversation gave expression to much of my experience, as have other episodes of Made It Out. It’s thrilling to hear young, articulate, funny, thoughtful, self-aware accounts of shades of queerness. it gives me confidence. It feels like a gift.
It’s the highlight of my day every time you guys post! 🙌🏼 I continue to be so impressed with every friend/guest you have on by their openness, vulnerability, and confidence about their story and how inspiring and relatable it is.
I was quite confused by this one, the whole gender discussion until Grey said 'Im a Female, but I'm not a women' , that kinda clicked for me. This is exactly why whilst sometimes gender discussions make me feel uncomfortable, it's important... This was a good one and I'm glad I stuck around ! Thank you both 😊
Absolutely delusional👄You cannot be female and simultaneously not be a woman. Personally, when i denied reality for an entire year in 2009, i was placed in a mental institution and pumped full of drugs😋 Yall could use it😊
@@ribbrascalit’s actually really simple, to the point I think a toddler could understand. Don’t think about it too hard, might actually start to understand something for once! Uh oh!
Fabulous episode. I have to watch it again & again. Such an important conversation. Be who you are today, feel free to to change it when it feels right for you. Make room for who & how you are being. Love this conversation. ❤❤
25:05 Honestly, that’s something I needed to hear. I’m definitely dealing with feeling betrayed by my conservative family members, and I honestly never knew how to deal with it.
It does feel awkward to change your name. But it shouldn't be. If you don't connect to it, you should change it. Our birth name doesn't mean true name. It's just a name chosen for us by our parents. We should fully embrace exploring names & finding one (or more🤷) that we feel connected to & meshes with our authentic self 😘✨️🌈🧡 Always look forward to new episodes! You gals are doing such a fantastic job with this podcast. Thank you! 💐 Happy birthday Grey 🎂🍨🎉
This is a different episode for me. I'm trying to understand all the terminology that is used these days. I screw it up on a regular basis but I am trying. Living in the Bible belt I have to admit one is not exposed as much here as other parts of the country. I grew up in a very conservative family and a very religious family. I have struggled with many of the same issues Grey has my whole life. People as a whole are afraid of change end of being different. The fear of being an outcast is stronger than the yearning to be who you are in some cases. Hope this makes sense. Happy birthday Grey. You have a beautiful smile. As always thanks for taking us along for the ride.
Im discovered last year that im non binary and gender fluid this made so much sense to me after struggling for years ❤❤❤ thank u 🌈 cant wait to buy merch i hope we get hats and hoodies
I get that. I was never confident or felt like I fit in. Those years in small town school's and raised sheltered that was never talked or heard about. I'm now 49 and came out 3 years ago. I'm fully feeling comfortable it what I wear now. I look back and I do see that if I knew more I would've found myself sooner. I'm married now to a woman and jumped in fast. I feel like I missed out on experiencing other woman and wish I found myself earlier. Don't get me wrong I love my wife and wouldn't do anything to mess it up. She knows how I feel and she feels the same. Love you guys.
This is such perfect timing. I was just discussing the topic of gender fluidity with my parents and couldn’t really explain it to them. You guys really helped me understand this a bit more and the way you kept saying "if you want to go back you can and if you want to stay non binary then that's fine too" that was really comforting.
Hey Mel; i love &appreciate you for coming up with this podcast! I can't stop watching the stories these beautiful ladies are presenting to us. I wanna migrate to Canada and that's where i feel,i will be able to come out of the shit closet that has trapped me for who I am. Stay blessed 💕
We love you Grey! I am absolutely obsessed with Mal's guests. They all bring something different yet foundation-ally the same in the gay community. I love it.
This episode was so insightful and great! As always! I'm now very excited to go find Grey's books, I'm really curious about their poetry. 🙌 Also, I've heard someone else say "I'm female, but I'm not a woman" before a couple of years ago and it really resonated with me. I think it was also someone who identified as non-binary. It was interesting to hear Grey say it and remind me of it. I still struggle with this myself, I just changed my pronouns on Instagram for like... the third time. 😂 I'm thinking to just keep "they/she/he" so I can change my mind whenever I want... Basically, I just don't care about the pronouns others use when referring to me. It's a process. ✨ Thank you for another amazing episode, hope you have a great day whenever you're reading this. ❤️
I think you'd love a convo with a sapphic trans woman. I think there's a lot of commonality in queer experiences, and sapphic trans women would be so novel and recognizable to so many other experiences you regularly touch on.
Made it Out, makes every Tuesday a little bit more special. Learning so much from these podcasts. Grey is just so lovable and I hope they have memorable (in a good way😀) 30th Birthday. 🎈🎉🎂🥂🍻♥ To be trans is to take a journey from our Cis beginning and find ourselves. The idea we go from one binary position to another and that's all the choice you get is thankfully drifting into the past. The journey is ours and ours alone, we can go in any direction we want, we can stop n start, plus keep on moving with no set in stone ending... just the journey. Far more trans people are gender queer than I think people realise. x
Hey! Love the pod helps me a lot with my english. I was thinking that you could also invite non-lesbian people who still have something to say on the topic. For example parents who had to gontrough hard times because their gay child was abused. Lawyers or workers from human rights organizations. Maybe supportive sorority leaders or priests, it would be so interesting I think! Keep up the good work team and make Mal laugh a lot because it is so fine fine
This podcast touched me deeply, on so many levels. Felt so seen and accepted. Thank you for making space for us. This is the first podcast/UA-cam interview video (of any creative) I know I will watch/listen to repeatedly.
For real. This podcast is my lifeline! I am a few months younger than Grey, and their story has been the most relatable so far ❤ I would love to see even more guests with gender differences!
Oof. This podcast is making me realize maybe my obsession with being hot or attractive was my coping mechanism for the way I would look and feel about girls. I would think to myself, “is it gay to be focused on girls and have these feelings? No, I must just wanna be like them.” But the truth is I don’t have to be hot. That sounds so obvious but I guess it was my way of hiding. I definitely have always felt very fluid in the way I dress. Love basketball shorts. Love sports bras. Love dresses.
I think that these kind of feelings are very deeply due to the fact that our spirit is gender-free. We have reached the point of spiritual evolution where we already want to transcend matter. Conservative religions do not represent true spirituality, so they clash with what is happening. The grammatical changes, however, are very confusing and unnecessary because they are something physical, tangible as well. We should allow everyone to see us as they feel it without meaning an offense. It is simply "their perception", not ours. It should not affect us. We are consciousness embodied in a circumstantial vessel-body that came to experience this dual-physical dimension, but duality is an illusion. Just live and love while you are here, how and whoever you want!
27:50 I've always said a man will never understand women as much as women understand women, and vice versa. It's hard to understand straight relationships.
76yo. Thank you Mel, Matilde and Grey. This conversation gave expression to much of my experience, as have other episodes of Made It Out. It’s thrilling to hear young, articulate, funny, thoughtful, self-aware accounts of shades of queerness. it gives me confidence. It feels like a gift.
It’s the highlight of my day every time you guys post! 🙌🏼 I continue to be so impressed with every friend/guest you have on by their openness, vulnerability, and confidence about their story and how inspiring and relatable it is.
This podcast is the Ben & Jerry's of lesbian fluidity.I just can't get enough!
I was quite confused by this one, the whole gender discussion until Grey said 'Im a Female, but I'm not a women' , that kinda clicked for me. This is exactly why whilst sometimes gender discussions make me feel uncomfortable, it's important... This was a good one and I'm glad I stuck around ! Thank you both 😊
Female = biological sex..
Woman = social construct of gender
It's incoherent nonsense.
@@ribbrascal don't let the door hit you on the way out honey 👄
Absolutely delusional👄You cannot be female and simultaneously not be a woman. Personally, when i denied reality for an entire year in 2009, i was placed in a mental institution and pumped full of drugs😋 Yall could use it😊
@@ribbrascalit’s actually really simple, to the point I think a toddler could understand. Don’t think about it too hard, might actually start to understand something for once! Uh oh!
Fabulous episode. I have to watch it again & again. Such an important conversation. Be who you are today, feel free to to change it when it feels right for you. Make room for who & how you are being. Love this conversation. ❤❤
Geez... it's wild how similar two very different individuals journeys can be.
LOVE your ghost / u haul routine at the end; so very funny. OH, love you too. Bernie 🥰
I fucking love this podcast. It gets released every Tuesday morning where I live and I always start my day with it ❤ so grounding, funny, emotional!
25:05 Honestly, that’s something I needed to hear. I’m definitely dealing with feeling betrayed by my conservative family members, and I honestly never knew how to deal with it.
It does feel awkward to change your name. But it shouldn't be. If you don't connect to it, you should change it. Our birth name doesn't mean true name. It's just a name chosen for us by our parents. We should fully embrace exploring names & finding one (or more🤷) that we feel connected to & meshes with our authentic self 😘✨️🌈🧡
Always look forward to new episodes! You gals are doing such a fantastic job with this podcast. Thank you! 💐 Happy birthday Grey 🎂🍨🎉
This is a different episode for me. I'm trying to understand all the terminology that is used these days. I screw it up on a regular basis but I am trying. Living in the Bible belt I have to admit one is not exposed as much here as other parts of the country. I grew up in a very conservative family and a very religious family. I have struggled with many of the same issues Grey has my whole life. People as a whole are afraid of change end of being different. The fear of being an outcast is stronger than the yearning to be who you are in some cases. Hope this makes sense. Happy birthday Grey. You have a beautiful smile. As always thanks for taking us along for the ride.
Im discovered last year that im non binary and gender fluid this made so much sense to me after struggling for years ❤❤❤ thank u 🌈 cant wait to buy merch i hope we get hats and hoodies
Happy birthday Grey .lots of blessings 🎉
This podcast is so fantastic. I take a lot away from it every episode. Thank you Mal for facilitating beautiful queer authenticity. #lesgirl
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RESTLESS BABY GREY 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊
As a femme male I really appreciated what Grey had to say.
I get that. I was never confident or felt like I fit in. Those years in small town school's and raised sheltered that was never talked or heard about. I'm now 49 and came out 3 years ago. I'm fully feeling comfortable it what I wear now. I look back and I do see that if I knew more I would've found myself sooner. I'm married now to a woman and jumped in fast. I feel like I missed out on experiencing other woman and wish I found myself earlier. Don't get me wrong I love my wife and wouldn't do anything to mess it up. She knows how I feel and she feels the same. Love you guys.
This is such perfect timing. I was just discussing the topic of gender fluidity with my parents and couldn’t really explain it to them. You guys really helped me understand this a bit more and the way you kept saying "if you want to go back you can and if you want to stay non binary then that's fine too" that was really comforting.
YAYAY HAPPY BIRTHDAY GREY!!! 30 is the new 29!!!
Hey Mel; i love &appreciate you for coming up with this podcast! I can't stop watching the stories these beautiful ladies are presenting to us.
I wanna migrate to Canada and that's where i feel,i will be able to come out of the shit closet that has trapped me for who I am. Stay blessed 💕
Happy Birthday Grey🎉😊
We love you Grey! I am absolutely obsessed with Mal's guests. They all bring something different yet foundation-ally the same in the gay community. I love it.
Happy birthday Grey lot and blessings🎂 🎉🥳 Thank you Mel for the lovely podcast I really like your show.
Happy Birthday Grey. Good episode. Grey was articulate, insightful and open.
Lovely!!! I identify with Grey so much this was great. And great talk on stand point with parents still learning.
This episode was so insightful and great! As always! I'm now very excited to go find Grey's books, I'm really curious about their poetry. 🙌
Also, I've heard someone else say "I'm female, but I'm not a woman" before a couple of years ago and it really resonated with me. I think it was also someone who identified as non-binary. It was interesting to hear Grey say it and remind me of it. I still struggle with this myself, I just changed my pronouns on Instagram for like... the third time. 😂 I'm thinking to just keep "they/she/he" so I can change my mind whenever I want... Basically, I just don't care about the pronouns others use when referring to me. It's a process. ✨
Thank you for another amazing episode, hope you have a great day whenever you're reading this. ❤️
I think you'd love a convo with a sapphic trans woman. I think there's a lot of commonality in queer experiences, and sapphic trans women would be so novel and recognizable to so many other experiences you regularly touch on.
Was waiting for the podcast as usual like every Tuesday 🌈♀️♀️💕👭
I share it with my long distance gf always
This show is my new Ellen show. Love it. Right @mathilde. So you're next?
Ellen show!!! What an honor. And yes..... SOOOOOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@hiportugal ❤️
Made it Out, makes every Tuesday a little bit more special. Learning so much from these podcasts.
Grey is just so lovable and I hope they have memorable (in a good way😀) 30th Birthday. 🎈🎉🎂🥂🍻♥
To be trans is to take a journey from our Cis beginning and find ourselves. The idea we go from one binary position to another and that's all the choice you get is thankfully drifting into the past. The journey is ours and ours alone, we can go in any direction we want, we can stop n start, plus keep on moving with no set in stone ending... just the journey.
Far more trans people are gender queer than I think people realise. x
it scares me how much i can relate to Grey while having literally nothing in common. i feel like such an imposter
I love so much this podcast!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAYYY GREYYYYYY
This one definitely resonated with me. Working on my own name change
The picture of Grey with her dad says it all ♥
Hey! Love the pod helps me a lot with my english. I was thinking that you could also invite non-lesbian people who still have something to say on the topic. For example parents who had to gontrough hard times because their gay child was abused. Lawyers or workers from human rights organizations. Maybe supportive sorority leaders or priests, it would be so interesting I think!
Keep up the good work team and make Mal laugh a lot because it is so fine fine
Thank you for this podcast it's made me feel stronger about who I am more confident in who I am thank you very much
Happy birthday Grey ✌️✌️
ANOTHER great episode!
Was waiting for this 😢
Grey is so wholesome and cute, I think I just fallen in love.
Aw this resonated so much with me ❤❤
YAY TUESDAYS 🎉
Resume @16:30
Thank you for this show…
This podcast touched me deeply, on so many levels. Felt so seen and accepted. Thank you for making space for us. This is the first podcast/UA-cam interview video (of any creative) I know I will watch/listen to repeatedly.
Props to that Uber driver!!!!
I love ur laugh ❤
holy shit, theyre my dream partner. people like this are so hard to find!
i’ve relistened to this 3x just because of how much i realized i can learn about non binary experiences
thank you for having this incredibly thoughtful conversation!
Hey girl part I love it😂😂😅
As a baby gay this is like going to lesbian school
📝
For real. This podcast is my lifeline! I am a few months younger than Grey, and their story has been the most relatable so far ❤ I would love to see even more guests with gender differences!
Oof. This podcast is making me realize maybe my obsession with being hot or attractive was my coping mechanism for the way I would look and feel about girls. I would think to myself, “is it gay to be focused on girls and have these feelings? No, I must just wanna be like them.” But the truth is I don’t have to be hot. That sounds so obvious but I guess it was my way of hiding. I definitely have always felt very fluid in the way I dress. Love basketball shorts. Love sports bras. Love dresses.
The way I feel is like, I'm female AND a woman and I was assumed male when I was born.
As a transgender lesbian musician I’d love to see more trans and nonbinary creators on the pod. 🌈
(づ*ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)づ ❤I've been waiting for this!
I think that these kind of feelings are very deeply due to the fact that our spirit is gender-free. We have reached the point of spiritual evolution where we already want to transcend matter. Conservative religions do not represent true spirituality, so they clash with what is happening. The grammatical changes, however, are very confusing and unnecessary because they are something physical, tangible as well. We should allow everyone to see us as they feel it without meaning an offense. It is simply "their perception", not ours. It should not affect us. We are consciousness embodied in a circumstantial vessel-body that came to experience this dual-physical dimension, but duality is an illusion. Just live and love while you are here, how and whoever you want!
Por que todas usan gorra?
27:50 I've always said a man will never understand women as much as women understand women, and vice versa. It's hard to understand straight relationships.
I have 9 pet snakes! ❤
omg how is this possible!
I'm a binary trans woman lesbian demiromantic asexual, and I feel seen when I see stuff like this with other gender queer lesbians! I love it!
I can't share a tooth brush no no no 🙌
😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹
this was a great episode!
Also, I gotta say HAPPY BIRTHDAY GREY 🤍
I'll definitely be looking to buy the new book! Hope it does amazing! ☺