Overcoming Bad Inner Voices
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- Опубліковано 3 тра 2016
- All of us have deeply unhelpful inner voices inside us, dragging us down with criticisms and unfair accusations. Wisdom involves learning how to replace them with more benevolent guides.
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'All inner voices used to be outer voices'
Mind. Blown.
Hanz zimmer trombone sound effect
Yeah, I don't buy it. Inner voices can be completely irrational constructions of our own psyche, which aren't necessarily directly based on input from others.
Agreed, the voices come from ppl who said hurtful things to us as a child at least mine are
Inner voices aren't always from people that have said bad stuff to you, but probably from just indirect comments either to you or to others that are close to you. Sometimes it may just be trigger words themselves. I do believe that words of bad influence from others in your life does have a big part in it.
I think it's that and retaining bad experiences/failures that hurt us. We internalize them and let them take refuge instead of fending them or not believing in them. Hard to do as a child when everything is gospel. Possible to work on as an adult but takes a lot of work. My two cents after working on them for some time now. 🙏
One suggestion I would provide is, speak to yourself the same way as when you speak to your best friend; With kindness, understanding, and encouragement
Gabriel Medina THIS
This is great advice.
Gabriel Medina that's truly great advice !! thank you for that I'll always remember that 👍
Gabriel Medina what if me and my best friend are always being rude to each other, like we're fighting or something like it.
Gabriel Medina I never liked this advice. My friend bitches to me about something bad going on with her literally at least once a day. Many of these things are indeed shitty and I pity her. And I honestly don't know if things will look up for her. Do I tell her this? Of course not. I just tell her to hang in there but deep down I'm a lot more pessimistic about her situation. It's hard to talk to yourself objectively when you know the real deal of what's going on
hipnhappenin I think your taking the advice in the wrong context. ..the whole thing is about stopping negative /bad thoughts and replacing them with kind thoughts instead and it's a great concept to treat your own thoughts like how you would speak to your best friend...
I once heard that when we hear the negative voices in our minds, it’s helpful to try and identify whose voice it is. Is it your mother’s voice, or your boss’s voice. Try it, it’s amazing to be able to put a name to the voices going around in your head.
I tried it and I was shocked by how many other people’s voices had been internalised, and how much attention I paid to them.
Nowadays, I try to develop the habit of saying to myself, “ah, that’s my mum’s voice telling me I can’t do this because I’m not good enough.” Once I’ve identified the voice I respond with another voice, my own voice and say “no, mum, I get to decide what I can and can’t do, and for the record, I was always good enough, and I’m sorry that you never realised that.”
Excellent video 👏👏👏
Ruth Jones I imagine the voice to be some kind of shape shifter whose goal is to bring me down by shifting into people in my environment.
I know whose voice it is, but I canNOT counter it or withdraw attention from it - I’ve been trying that for at least 55 years (I’m 57). The mechanisms for doing so appear to be absent or at least completely inaccessible/unfindable. Please help.
I find it's my voice though
@@ThePartyProfessors me too. Triggers my anxiety
who's voice is telling me to kill myself, nobody has said it to me before
I don't even consider that option anymore, but there's a voice that constantly spams this idea, and I am in constant internal conflict with it..
Dear people who suffered emotional neglect in childhood and also everyone else,
You in no way were responsible for the fallacies of your parents. When we are abused as children we tend to think we don't deserve love and kindness from people around us and end up sabotaging their efforts. Remember that you are unique, you are beautiful, you are lovable. Love yourself unconditionally, shower yourself with love for being you. See you will make mistakes but if you love yourself you will find the strength to say "It's okay, its human nature to be like this". The assurance from yourself will give you joy even when things go very wrong. You will be your own lover, friend and parent, glowing with inner warmth, helping people discover their own glow and helping them love themselves. This will give you the zeal to live, and even in darkest times, you will be grateful for your existence.
Love yourself the way you want people to love you and never once will you feel that life is not worth living.
Keep glowing,
Love,
Human,
Earth,
2019
P.S: The message of self-love is urgent. It might prevent someone from committing suicide, it helped me.
Edit: Had a good happy cry after reading all your comments. You are all nice, kind and beautiful people. You deserve your own generosity. Love you all.😘
Thank you so so much for this comment that you wrote. I really needed that, you made me cried reading this.
Thank you.
Thank you
Thank you for helping me not to harm myself and stay on this planet. ❤️🥺🙏🏾🙌🏾
Helped me before and seeing it again now is so encouraging.
I was thinking bout it.. thank u
I've noticed that when you lack sleep, it can get a bit more difficult to keep the inner voices under control (maybe? Or it's just me)
Just you
Weed will help with anxiety
Totally
It's the Arm e.
Lack of sleep, is like mild insanity
Another way of overcoming negative self talk is to assume that all criticisms and insults are questions rather than statements. For example, change "you are useless" to "are you useless?". Because the usefulness of a person can only be determined by them self, then other people do not have the power to determine your worth, therefore it was always a question, and not a fact.
Sbeast thank u
Ah this is a nice idea :) thank you
Sbeast yes I find that identifying and questioning unhelpful thoughts is a very effective way to interrupt them. so often the thoughts that bring me down are not true. I have gotten better at stopping them from getting in the way using a very similar method to what you describe. it is slow and takes a lot of practice, but it's beginning to make a difference after many months.
Good tip. Thanks
Hey you. Thanks. (A real thanks)
While it's interesting to think who's voice has been embedded in me, I think it's even more interesting to think who has MY voice inside their heads.
do you have children?
I like this .
True. We all need to be mindful of what we say to others
Now THAT‘S a truly terrifying thought...
Interesting question... but I have an answer to it for myself. Hope you find yours, Penguin.
All the lines sampled by Porter Robinson:
0:21 - "Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging, calling for you to run those final few yards, "You nearly there, keep going! Keep going!..""
0:32 - "...it will all be okay in the end."
2:21 - "They come to feel like things we are saying to ourselves."
4:45 - "Now, these voices have become our own..."
2:28 - "The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind, and unhurried way..." -- Sampled in Porter's Secret Sky Set, Apr. 24, 2021
In Porter Robinson's Second Sky Festival 2022: Nurture Live, he added "and if it's not ok, then you are not done yet"
lol i thought i was the only one that noticed this xD
@@DaveEuson is that quote in this video?
@@DaveEuson "And if it isn't okay, then it isn't the end yet." and it is not in the video unfortunately
This video finds me in a very hard time in my life, and I respect and thank you for it
Same had horrible night, still in bed in the afternoon, this video helped in some way of washing all that away.
+Kobi Tzarfati same
+Kobi Tzarfati I came here tosay the same. The video felt very close to home. I stopped watching it withing minutes, couldn't handle the emotions. I will watch it later when I am not this emotional.
+Kobi Tzarfati Life has a way of doing things like this, doesn't it ^^
+Kobi Tzarfati I don't know you Kobi Tzarfati, but I hope that everything turns out well for you, because you deserve a happy life in which you feel valued and contented with who you are and what you have.
My inner voice is asking why this artist has such an infatuation with leg hair.
+Sardonicous1 HAHAHA
same hahaha
It makes me uncomfortable 😨😥
lol maybe this artist loves cactus and wanted to show his love for them by putting them on a person. I show my love for German expressionism by creating a similar style in my videos when I animate certain things.
lmao, maybe because her inner voice is saying I like my natural legs but the media makes it out to be disgusting
"An inner voice was once an outer voice" - This line has changed my life. I first watched this video in 2016 while I was struggling with anxiety and insecurities. Upon watching this I was able to pinpoint exactly where my anxiety came from and was able to mentally detach myself from that. I started distracting myself from my anxiety with more productive habits and with the course of 3 months I was able to almost completely obliterate my insecurities and nearly all my anxiety both of which I had been struggling with for over 6 years. Thanks so much :)
I wish I could talk to you. I had a debacle in my studies in 2012. And it's now 2020 I still cry every night. I have tried committing things which I don't even wanna remember. But this detaching thing I have been trying since a few months watching Jordan Peterson videos. And now I find this and your comment. We share the same journey I feel. I wish I could talk to you.
Wherever you are... Know that you have inspired me! ❤
Wow! This is so encouraging, thanks for sharing your story❤️
Beautiful story! Happy to hear that.
You're comment was what I needed today, I'm now more motivated than ever!! We all will get through this as you did Congratulations 😊
Porter Robinson fans will be rushing in soon.
Edit (4-26-21): This video was sampled by Porter Robinson in his track "Mirror", the sampled section in question is at 0:20 - 0:35.
We already here lol
Yup we are already here
Keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going
Why!? I wanna know! Haha
@@Sarafara7 Check out Porter's song "Mirror" - it uses samples from this video at the end and in general is themed around the idea of the inner voice.
This video made me realize that when I become a parent, I'll do anything in my powers to try and stress my kids as little as possible. Thank you for that
This will result in non-resilient, narcissistic children. Children need to learn to cope with stress and tackle difficulties in a healthy, encouraging way. Overprotection against stress will not do that for them. It will only teach them that everything will just come their way and once life hits them with unavoidable difficulties they won't know how to deal with them and will most likely resort to avoiding responsibility, blaming others, and possibly not taking feelings of and consequences for others into account.
Yo guys I said as little as possible. Being rough on the kids in just the right way is best. Every mature person knows that. Chill :D
I achieved it with my son. After a difficult and dysfunctional childhood I broke the chain and became the parent that I needed my parents to be. He is a very happy, stable, positive, successful, smart and caring individual. It can be done and it will make you proud.
@@annab8189 How old is him ?
Wait until they have to leave the house!
You, School of Life, are a good voice to have inside one's head.
Rum Ham no kidding :)
And the comments too.
Because guys have a right to hairy legs. I agree and shave daily!
I read this in the narrarators voice hahah
2:28 Sad Machine (Nurture Live Edit) "The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind and unhurried way. It should feel as if a sympathetic arm were being put around our shoulder, by someone who's lived long, and seen a great many sad things." speaking of someone who's lived a long time.. avanna! "The girl who's slept a hundred years" i find this so incredibly beautiful. its as if in porters struggle to differentiate from worlds, he found comfort in avanna. gosh T~T
I loved this line in the Sad Machine live edit! I was going to go to Nurture live in Seattle, but could not. But watching nurture live on UA-cam still gives me an amazing feeling with that line
3:09 is where my tears start streaming down. I often push people away from me because my bad inner voice keep telling me that I have no one to hold on to. Believing that people only see my failures but that is not true at all. I do have real people that never gave up on me, no matter what. 😭💖 Im so happy it’s on my recommendation, thank youu 🥺
I used to draw and to paint. I made a self portrait impressionist style, at that time I was seeing someone. Then, it ended and that person told me that my painting was garbage that I didn't know how to paint and that person knew people that could paint a thousand times better than me. I got rid of the painting and my drawings. Every time that I tried to pick up the pencil all I could hear was that person's voice belittling my portrait. Then after years had passed, I saw an episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog titled "Perfect" and that fish's voice telling Courage that there is no such thing as "perfect" got me into drawing again, and every time I start to hear that person's voice the fish's voice drowns it. There is no such thing as "perfect."
oh, damn, sounds like i gotta watch that EP of Courage the Cowardly Dog...
(i have issues with perfectionism, it makes my ADHD life hell)
+marcy唯美 I have started drawing, then I feel like I have to stop because they don't look "perfect" but I continue to draw hearing that Fish's voice telling me that "there is no such thing as perfect." And my drawings have improved, watch that episode, practice makes perfect.
that is so cool. I have to watch that episode, maybe the fish will come to my aid as well haha. No, seriously, I completely understand what you mean. How it takes but one mean comment on a random day to hinder your belief system and fill you with crippling doubt. It's easy to say to "shake it off", but sometimes it cuts so deep that that is simply not possible. You're lucky you found a way out.
I was taught the same thing, except that other people will always be better, so that's why you should quit. It's taken me many years to overcome that voice. and sometimes it still gets the better of me.
Bacchanali remember that episode it a shame the show ended
I feel like this channel is one of the most constructive and important channels on UA-cam
Actualized.org is the most important for me followed by School of Life
I started "Why brains don't exist" on actualized.org. Stay away if you value rational thought. It is total woo woo for magical thinkers.
Dialogue with the Stars genuinely
Kurzgesag is as good
remember God loves you! and created you to do great things may it be well with u and may God be with u and us all in the mighty name of Jesus Amen! when I was down God brought me up to look up to Him for help! May we live for over a hundred years with long life, good health and prosperity to glorify the name of the Lord God in Jesus' mighty name Amen! remember u are loved! as God says: for I know the plans i have for you plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope and a future, Thank God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Who is the narrator? She has such a calming and mature voice.
@byyzgk 47...asmr'ish...lol. Thanks.
Did you ever find out who it is?
"All inner voices used to be outer voices" was like a lightning bolt in the darkness. A lot of things made sense in an instant.
So perfectly appropriate to my situation right now. The hardest part is overcoming that overwhelming belief that the words of said positive voice are nothing more than wishful thinking at best and a boldfaced lie at worst. How on earth did I end up so far down here? Thank you for this.
What a splendid movie.
Ah, you have come to the nuance of the issue and seen the "happiness trap" before you fell in. The positive voices are no more or less real than the negative ones. Neither are of greater or worse value. Whenever you have a negative thought temper it and think about it rationally before believing it, but crucially do the same with any positive thoughts. A fantastic book with many practical tools in this area is called "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. I've found it to be very useful.
Thanks mom for always being so negative around me, panic attacks and severe depression have ailed me since 4th grade
Don't worry, you're not alone. I feel that way too.
Same, my parents ruined me tbh but I am trying to be better.
I had my first panic attack in 2nd grade. I thought I was dying in the classroom. Didn’t know how to ask for help
My mom was a non caring person, she didnt give a damn
My mum did the same to me she shouldn't of had me, If you can't be a strong inspiration to your kids why have any. Selfish reasons probably just so I can run about after there selfish arses when there old
My inner voice tells me "I'm a loser, I hate myself, I wish I was dead, I want to die, I hate life" it's not fun.
“SOMETIMES EVEN TO LIVE IS AN ACT OF COURAGE.” ― SENECA
Just hang in there and don't give up. Learn to be your own best friend.
💝
You aren't the only one. Since oneself is the worst enemy.
I feel you, I hope we can all make it through, which will be a great deal of an achievement.
It's simply a thought. doesnt make it true.
So this was the voice clip in Porter Robinson's "Mirror", and it's quite a beautiful video.
Oeh, I didn't know he made a new song. Thanks!
FELLOW GIORNO FAN AND PORTER FAN?? WOO
By watching this video i realised that my inner voice comes from my father, and that scares me a lot.
It should be the key to change, cut the strings.
And you can overcome them,you deserve so much better to live the life you suppose to live🤗
Me too, but my father voice in my head doesn't criticize me, it always tells me how good I am and how bad everything else are, told me to stopp caring and trying. The inner voice that always picks on me is my mother and my own. That sometimes make me wonder does his own voice in his head do the same thing to him.
i failed in something where i was admired bcs of my inner voice that was actually a voice of my father....now when i am awere how stupid it was and why i let myself to fail with doing nothing...i don’t know how to forgive myself, i really don’t know how to do that ...
SAME :( im literally just cried just now
Sad is when the voice of the mother is the most mean, angry, hateful, mad one.
How to replace that?
+Isabelle Layla hang around nice people who appreciate you and learn to accept yourself for all your strengths and weaknesses. Push yourself to achieve things you never thought you could and do something that will help to build your confidense.
Yeah thank you. I am mostly ok and happy, only when I make mistakes even silly ones like dropping something from my hand or knocking down something is when that hateful voice comes out laughing at me telling me that I'm stupid or idiot or worthless and so on. I had two maternal figures in my childhood, both were hateful, mad, bitter and angry, super criticizing and judgmental pretty much hating everybody and everything including themselves.
+Isabelle Layla I'm sorry to hear that sounds awful
Thank you, me too.
+Isabelle Layla i kinda share the same Situation as you... just hang on and try to be independent asap and grow distance to toxic members of your daily life routine. surround yourself with people who makes you feel save and who heals you from the damage caused by the bad.
This sample from Porter: so good. Good video as well
*It will all be okay in the end*
The goal is clear: become that old dude on the bench who's chillin' in the chaos
@@zeviandavis6689 Everyone keeps mentioning that guy to me, I don't watch Avatar but I'm gonna have to watch a best of Uncle Iroh now.
@@leoisforevercool watch the whole show while you're at it, it's a good trip.
I have managed to rid my criticizing, mean and negative self voices with a diligent self-love and compassionate new mindset, self-awareness and patience. I mean, life is hard enough! Why should I contribute to that hardship? We should all be our own best friends :)
Seek & you shall Find I am currently in that process of self exploring and putting more love in my life. For several years I have forgotten myself, and little by little negative voices came. Now I’m nearly all good :) the power of the mind is amazing, especially when it’s based on a positive and loving energy.
I know it's been a year but it woupd be nice if you can help me with this process......
Well said! Oh, I am critical on myself but it's productive to me. It's constructive criticism. Just wailing away on negatives is what's useless. I've had some overbearingly blunt coaches that were professionals at colorful criticism. Strange to say, I love blunt coaches like this. I don't trust those that are way too flattering. If it's constructive criticism, it can be helpful. My nastiest of red-ink spilling teachers were strangely my favorite ones too. I took their remarks with a grain of salt. You can always ignore their opinion.
So the inside voices come from outside. So all I need is someone to be positive/ loving to me? If that's the case I'm royally fucked.
The "voices" can be silenced. Used to had them. They've mostly gone now.
Actually, they can be silenced, but you should not try to do it consciously. You should not try to focus on negative thoughts and try to silence them. Instead, you should accept them as a part of your own inner self, and try to train them, to actually invoke them so at the end you will become numb to them. See ERP therapy and/or wiki on OCD for more info. The best way is, though, to see a therapist on your own and talk to him/her.
It helped me a lot to overcome instant raging thoughts... they are still there, but I can cope with them little bit more rationally then before. :)
I hear voices in my head and they are saying Fuck Chump ooops I mean Trump and the system is rigged against all of us.
First and easiest step in such a process: Look at who you know and if those people are the same people as the voices inside you, and check if anyone else you know also is bad for you.
Family are very often the bad voices inside, and they tend to still have contact with us beyond our inside voices.
Is being Royally Fucked a good or bad thing? I get it may be a subjective answer.
This hit so hard right now i‘m crying at 4am in my bed. But also I just love that this channel is so well loved and watched. Isn‘t it beautiful that we all share these emotions? That we all aren‘t all perfect? In this world full of hate, reading the comments of all of you just restores my faith in us humans. Thank you all ❤️
I miss real human interaction, which is very hard for me, being isolated is the worst thing... and to be unable to find a way out. This channel and comments helps, but still ... people seems so far away from each other. Maybe its just me.
I love this channel it's a big big reason for who I am today , It literally saved my life when everything went to shit and actively thought me how to be a decent human when no one else including my parents did .
The bad inner voices in my case, are all my own voice. I have no memories of people being specially rude or mean at me, but I always have bad inner voices.
+Rarity Sparkle in my case, i am still not sure if it is my own voice or other's.
+Rarity Sparkle but i really want it to be my own voices
Ammar Hafiz Why? 0:
Rarity Sparkle i seriously think that the voices are from other's and myself ofcourse
nop there must be always an outer influence
Whenever I'm stressed, I always have both positive and negative voices at the same time, arguing constantly about everything, to the point where I can't focus on anything or even talk without a reason. It's never just the negative one keeping me down, but the dissonance of constant self-conflict that makes me want to cry or escape a situation to wait until I calm down.
Funny, I usually have negative and positive thoughts at different moments, but not long ago the inner critic said something with his scolding voice, when a sharpe, even angrierr new voice, made him shut up !
I was quite surprised, like Wow ! who's that one ?
Same I thought I was going crazy. Turns out it’s normal and you just have to learn to quiet your mind. I do mindfulness meditation every now and again
This reminds me of the section of Harry Potter where you have to develop powerful positive thoughts to help fend off the dementors.
Brian Daley I'm pretty sure JK Rowling created the Dementors as a symbol for her struggle with depression so yeah similar I guess
Wow that’s a perceptive interpretation of the dementors! I will use that next time I’m besieged by my inner demons. Thanks 😊
I love that
Yes, you're right. A Patronus. (TQ JK Rowling)
oh man i'd be so doomed if i encountered Dementors lol, i can't think of powerful enough memories other than bad ones
Mirror by Porter Robinson lead me here, and I really needed this with my struggle
Just in time, I really need this video. Got a crapton of insecurities right now and its destroying me.
Try REBT therapy
The fact that this video is relatable to almost all of us goes to show how similar we are to each other. Yet, we keep dividing ourselves with gender, the color of our skin, race and what not.
+Nomad K We are the same but still unique. Not everyone wants friends, regardless of gender, the color of our skin, race and what not.
***** Thanks :)
I agree with you so much! We all go through so much. We all feel pain. We are all so similar yet for some reason the mind/ego separates us apart. I try to create positive animations to inspire people. Hopefully one day we do all get a long alot better :)
This made me cry. I heard so much of my own inner voices in this. "You screw everything up. Why can't you make a right decision for once? This is what you get when you're stupid."
Thank you, Mrs. Miltemore. Your voice cuts to this day.
Porter...
Thank you for leading me here.
What I noticed, for me, is that I immediately started characterizing my parents as the people who had no faith in themselves, therefore couldn't have faith in me. But I need to remember that it's my influence that will affect others, including my kids. It's important to realise how I affect others.
"An inner voice always used to be an outer voice."
I honestly can't think of a single person who said any of the things my inner voices have said.
No one has ever said "you're ugly" or "you're pathetic" or "you can't do anything right" to me. At least, not to my face.
Same here, but I think we might have perceived others to think about us that way when we were younger, solely through their actions, so that it became a core belief nonetheless.
For example, I was very shy and insecure in school, so I never managed to find a girlfriend while others had it very easy to find one. That experience probably taught me that I'm ugly and inadequate and whatever, and shrank my self worth even more so that I had even less of a chance.
But it was probably not the reason why I didn't succeed...
Sometimes it is from mood disorders, like depression and anxiety, but sometimes, the bad voices are just based on feeling like the opposite of what is expected of you from society.
Sometimes seeing other people succeed based off of the things you've been told successful people do, or sometimes not being grounded in yourself, and making constant comparisons might cause you to internalize messages that are harmful to you.
The inner voice repeats what it feels outer voices meant and amplifies them.
littleblueclovers communication is a lot more then just words lol.
maybe it could be from what other people say to each other and you just compare yourself to those people
I might not be the best, but I am the best I have
Franky Lee YES
Well said good one ♡
wow! I love it! it’s true 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Achievement is not synonymous with love.
How am I 41 and this is news
I really needed to see this video. My voices get so bad that they end up playing every mistake I make in my head over and over again. They even tell me to hit myself. I've created a nervous tick where I hit myself in the head whenever I feel like an idiot for something I did in the past or if I made a stupid mistake. It's difficult, and sometimes even unbearable, but this video helps me. Thank you for offering your voice to me. I'll be sure to use it in those situations.
Doing mistakes and getting rejected is a good thing, because you can trace those ass holes who do that, I personally do "mistakes" on purpose to lure the predators into fake weaknesses.
Sorry bro. That sucks.
Please call a doctor immediately. I'm not a doctor but your symptoms sound quite serious
Also the art of forgiveness includes forgiveness of self. I'm not kidding get help NOW.
BasedLink I don't think I do. It's not like I actually have voices in my head. I guess you could say it's more like I'm my own bully.
I have been using youtube since ages but your channel, hands down, is my favourite one. Such amazing uplifting content! you guys deserve way way more views and likes.
I agree! I recently just discovered this channel and I love it. It's awesome that people out their put so much positive energy in this world. I can only hope the videos I create do the same thing one day :)
I promise to not become the people who were the harsh punitive outer voices that haunted me in the most critical years of my life.
"The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind and unhurried way. It should feel as if a sympathetic arm were been put around our shoulder by someone who had lived long and seen a great many sad things, but wasn't enbittered of panicked by them."
Along with "Why we hate cheap things", the one on being anxious, "In praise of the quiet life" and (last not least) the one rehabilitating "wisdom" are absolute keepers and should be pondered and listened to several times. This one is in that league. Many others are good but these are really excellent and essential (_I_ think).
The voices that have help me lately, are the voices of this channel.
Nice video. Reduce overthinking to relax the mind. Feed trash and trash will come out. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, avoid storing bottled up emotions, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils and within the nostrils for 10-15 minutes or more. You can sit on a chair or lay down anywhere, be as still as possible, eyes closed but no deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. Make it a lifetime habit to observe your breath before sleep, when travelling, when reading, at the workplace etc, if needed with eyes open. Best wishes--Counsellor.
This is fascinating. I've thought about the fact that my negative inner voice literally speaks the way my older sibling talks to me.
Thank you for confirming this. Time to get some distance and re-frame everything.
Me, too! After 50 years of dealing with an older sibling who always put me down, minimized anything I did right and refused to respect my boundaries, I was forced to cut off contact. It's been almost 10 years now and finally, I no longer hear his voice screaming negativity when things go wrong...or that I'm an imposter when things go well. Sadly, we haven't been in contact for almost a decade and I still miss the big brother I wish I had had, but I know I'm much stronger and mentally healthy than I ever could have been with him in my life (and his voice in my head). I hope you can salvage some kind of relationship with your sibling, Leo, but don't feel guilty if you cannot. You must do what is most healthy for yourself!
@@jmccoomber1659 Thank you, I wish you the best as well! Maybe one day our siblings will do some reflection and work on themselves so we can regain contact with them. Sending love your way. :)
this was helpful :) the voices hinder studies as exams are coming closer and closer. I will try to smother them with the the encouraging voices .
+kaustubh Good luck with your exams. You'll do your best.
+Mikarukaja! dunno, it was helpful with the question "What's a synonym for suicide?"
Got my exams coming up too - people always think that at a young age you don't have a care in the world, but it's not as if these exams determine if you get a good job which will lead on to better jobs and pretty much change the entire course of your life. Way too much pressure.
Yes! We all need the encouraging voice in our head to lead us. I can only hope the videos I create encourage people to live a more fulfilling life :)
i felt that this video was made solely for me. :")
+The School of Life This was probably your best video ever!
right
+nu mi Same :)
+The School of Life What a truly beautiful video
nu mi i felt so too
So that is why it is so important to surround yourself with kind and gentle speaking people..
The best way i think I’ve said this in the past to make it clear is “the second we realize that people do what they do bc they hate themselves, is the second we will love ourselves and have compassion for others”. I came to this insight after a very hard 6 months search into psychology, philosophy, physics, religion and myself, combined with the 37 yrs of my life experience
Wow
I really enjoy this woman's voice. It's so peaceful and loving. It's like a warm blanket to my cold thoughts. Thank you "The school of life".
This...hit home harder than I was expecting. I'm finally coming to terms with myself and my attributes, and this is an important step for me to overcome to put myself back on track.
I can only sincerely thank the producers of this, you are truly amazing people.
5:15 “Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I've ever known.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters
Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging calling for you to run those final few yards. You’re nearly there - keep going keep going keep going keep going. It will all be okay in the end.
This....this video made me cry.
Well done.
It's the Arm e.
This should be taught in school... Thank you! This is very helpful!
My inner voices are exhausting and debilitating. Glad I saw this video. Hope it sticks with me.
"Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging. Calling for you to run those final few yards. You're nearly there. Keep going (keep going). It will all be ok in the end."
"Its not the voice of all the others, you've only said it to yourself. I dont know what you want from me."
What a way for porter to express his inner thoughts. Nurture told a really good story about learning how to overcome self doubt and explaining the self harming thoughts that go through the mind while also being an insanely good album production-wise.
It's overwhelming sometimes how personal these messages feel.
This is hands down the best channel on youtube. I feel as if the people who create these videos actually care about our mental and physical well being as well as our knowledge and continued learning.
+The School of Life thank you this helped me so much, I've been depressed for a very long time and didn't know what to do now I do know
Beautiful narration of a timely narrative. And I LOVE the artwork; the hairy legs were just perfect 👌🏽 particularly in an era when regardless of gender, people are being shamed for having body hair! Like it’s the worse possible character flaw. The hairy legs really underscore the meanings of the story. Thank you 🙏
Specially if u were in a relationship with a Narcisist , you really need to separate these voices from yourself. this is the path of redemption.
Can't thank you enough. This is a problem that has plagued me for years. Sometimes it's overwhelming and ends up exhausting me.
Did anyone else cry a little?
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Me:(
was about to
0:21 I think Porter Robinson may have watched this video
ya he sampled it lol
What song are you referring to?
so many of these so called motivational speakers just Steal their material from UA-cam.
@@alieniverson8139 mirror
Keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going,
*It will all be OK in the end*
Thank you... I'm in tears... This made me accept myself(though not fully), and made me so comfortable and reduce the depression and anxiety I have... Thank you again...
Anxiety and depression which is induced by judgement and chronic loneliness is the worst scenario any human would want to escape. Hopefully the society will realise and help their fellow beings.
It's so easy to say such things, to offer assistance and compassion. You say it very nonchalant,
"We humbly offer this voice, as one of the more helpful ones we might take on board".
But it hits deep when you think about it. Whenever I'm in trouble, I can think of this stranger in UA-cam, telling me tips on how to be better to myself.
Although it might seem like such things wouldn't carry much meaning with them, the fact that someone is willing to just give out empathy, and love in this place fills me with warmth.
For someone like me, who can be unbearably rough on myself, is beyond words.
Thank you, dear voice.
I cannot possibly comprehend how someone can dislike such videos...
Thank you for another marvellous post. 🙌🏼😌😊
I was raised by quite nervous and stressed parents hovering around all the time making sure I never got hurt. They were doing their best, I'm sure but is has left me with quite little faith in myself. Having understood all these reasons recently and trying not to be so hard on myself, this video was so fantastic new point of view, thank you so much School of life:)
In hundred years videos of this kind may very well be placed in museums under " early 21. century art".
I was just thinking about that!
+Nidhi Ramakrishnan sure u was liar
vule92994 actually that will be memes
If you are here, watching this video and reading the comments, you are in the right place. You will be able to overcome, be patient my child and grow like the mighty oak.
this is so beautiful. wiping tears off of my pillow now. thank you.
ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS OF ALL TIME
I agree! I love this video so much. School of Life has inspired me so much to create videos
+robertjames12 I'm really happy for you, but let me finish. But Beyonce has one of the best videos of AWL da timez!
+robertjames12 I agree. This one I could watch multiple times. I gets right to the nub.
What a sparkling gem of wisdom!
Can't thank the School of Life enough for being one of my better inner voices :)
+The School of Life Can you make a video on depression thanks. ☺
Thanks Porter.
i was looking for this one
I am going to listen to this everyday. Thank you, The School of Life!!
So within your head is the voice of every person you've ever know.
"quantum entanglement"
"Collective Unconscious" and Carl Jung
Adam Sanchez all's our brain does is store information, billions and trillions of terabytes stored in our DNA apparently. however most things are stored subconsciously which is like putting everything in a safe and forgetting the password. decipher your dreams to understand your subconscious... that's my opinion ,take it or leave it 😏😛
no bs I need a dream decoding video now.
"known"
Please put subtitles in your videos. Sometimes the voices are too low to hear with clarity
+Mauro F Madero hey, try clicking the box that says "CC" inside (lower right corner of the video, or directly across the play button). Sometimes it's not the most helpful subtitles but I think it works for The School of Life and most videos.
I would suggest subtitles too! I want to share your videos with friends but they're Spanish and their English level might not be good enough to understand it. And even if it's also written on your website, I think it would be useful :)
youtube has a captions option, although it does sometimes jumble the words, but it helps. to access it, click anywhere on the screen, and a top menu will cascade down. Look for a line of three dots, and click on it. You should get a pop-up menu with a captions option. :)
The UA-cam subtitles work really well on their videos, try using them. But I can always understand them they speak pretty loud and clear...
Click the gear icon in the lower right of the video. Click subtitles, choose your language and you should be all set. :)
I remember watching this video years ago and being so impressed. Thank you School of Life
Woe bot brought me here the day after I went to the Porter Robinson concert where he played the song sampling this. It honestly was a bit of whiplash hearing it again!
School of Life, you are one of my best inner voices.
It's fascinating to read the comments to this video and see how many people have similar anxious thoughts and discouraging inner voices. Surely we can't all be doomed and unworthy. Maybe things won't be amazing and maybe we're not all fantastic people. But then again, maybe they will and maybe we are. Most likely we are perfectly decent but flawed personalities who will at the very least be okay.
I went through a certain training the required you to get pepper sprayed so you know what it feels like and you had to defend yourself. The amount of negative thoughts I had was insane! Your body thinking it's going to die and you doubt so many things. When all of it past I reflected and realized all the bad things I went through mad me so much stronger mentally. I felt like I had so much more in me then I realized. I can only hope that the videos I create on my channel inspires people the same way this channel has inspired thousands!
“It is the voice of a person who loves you for being you outside of achievement”
I don’t have a person in my life like that. Sorry self
Hugs
Same
I believe you can imagine/invent/become this voice for yourself. What I've found works for me is to try and love myself as I would love my child(ren). If they used the words I'm saying to myself, how would it make me feel? What would I tell them? If I saw their partner treating them the same way mine is treating me, would I talk to them like I'm talking to myself, or would I recommend they get out of destructive relationships. What if I saw them having a moment of nihilism where there was no purpose and no hope, would I tell them they might as well not exist because that's what I tell myself? If it's not okay to tell these things to someone you love, why is it okay to talk to yourself this way?
Porter, I love you.
I am amazed that so many other people have this brutal tendency like I do. For a long time I was aware of the voice and not being able to change it. What's helped me a bit is trying to internalize positive things more in general, since I readily absorb negative things. I have some great people in my life so I WRITE DOWN encouraging things they say and positive affirmations in general. I write them, and reread them, and try to internalize them. They're collected on little slips of paper in a box in my house though I'm sure a portable notebook would work fine as well.
The CBT method of recognizing the recurring negative thoughts of the voice, discrediting it, and trying something else (what would you say to a friend?) can be helpful. I put it in practice by writing the common negative thoughts down notecards and turning them over. I time myself and try to quickly flip it and write something more positive/constructive on the other side, drill-style. I guess for me I have to physically put it into practice. But they say of course neurons that fire together wire together, so putting it with something I enjoy (writing) has been helpful. Good luck to everyone else who's dealing with this issue.
I just made a video on this topic....maybe you'd be interested in seeing it?
rkgk1517 Thank you do much for the tips sir!
rkgk1517 A great idea! Thanks!
I always think inner voice is more of the super-ego judging the other two.
+Chen Anna Qinyi Exactly what i was thinking, That inner voice is the Ego's most lethal weapon it has.
The School of Life is one of my helpful voices! Thank you for making these videos, I can not begin to express how much they help me think critically about myself and others. Much love from Tennessee, USA!
Living with two friends 2 years ago, literally made me go insane in my own mind, for 2 years straight! and during the pandemic as well.
Being depressed in my 4 wall bedroom not wanting to even communicate with them leave my room, or the house, made me so uncomfortable and down on myself that I have ever felt! In my entire life! I had no f close family nearby. Never felt so alone in my life. Worst feeling ever and I don’t wish that upon no one.
1 year since moving out and I feel ok, been meditating a lot too help me *calm down* I suffer from panic attacks, massive sweating, scalp and face sweating too. Anxiety is just over the roof
Thank you for this
This was one of the best videos of The School of Life as this video gives out both 'the definition' and 'the solution' to the problem unlike other videos where emphasis is more on 'the definition'. Please do make more like these.
this video was lovely and all but i dont know why im crying now
I cry after watching these videos sometimes too. Its ok :)
Same😢
You're a good person, that's why!
I wish I could cry over these videos. :(
you're grandma glasses and you😍😍😍
I was telling my sister today that i ordered something wrong online, which was a waste of money, just 10 dollars. But i literally got so upset that i told myself i don't deserve to live. My sister told me she took the wrong driving route the other day and she literally cried because she couldn't do anything. Knowing she did the same thing as me, i just wanted to hug both of us and keep us safe. Because i realised we both were suffering even now for our father's abuse and it was his voice. And i know it's the same for her, because even though she's frugal, the minute i told her what i did, she just said it's alright, it happens, which i know she wouldn't say to herself.
This video and comments are very helpful. Im going through a horrible series of tragedies making me feel exceptionally weak and self conscious. (What did i do wrong?) Keeps swirling around. Everything id been working to build has crumbled to nothing and its hard to accept what i have to do. I know now whats most important. Not the goal, not entirely the journey, but the way we grow through life