5 Things I Wish I Had Known About My Husband As A New Bride
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- Опубліковано 5 гру 2022
- There are things we all wish we knew before we got married!
Weather you are young and newly married, or you have been married for many years, I hope this video can help and encourage you in your journey. 🥰
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Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
by Emerson Eggerichs
I believe there is a workbook that goes with this too.
The Nothing box video;
• The Tale of 2 Brains
You and your husband are the internet parental figures this generation needs
Amen to that
Truue
Agreed ❤
Yep same here
Amen
I am 81 male -- this was the best video ever. This should be a MUST WATCH before every wedding and every six months after. Bless you for sharing.
As a 31 year old young lady, wife and mother I agree
Strange how the priority has been on touching us how to serve our employers and countries but not so much on how best to serve our spouses
Grateful for content like this!
I'm only sixty it took me a long time to find and understand. I have the perfect understanding woman now.🥰
50th anniversary for me last week
Im still learning . ❤❤.
Shes not easy to read....lol
I want to say as a homegrown city boy from the rougher side of town, it’s really refreshing and inspiring to see you guys doing what you’re doin! Growing up in Atlanta you don’t get to see healthy examples of relationships/ marriages and especially good solid men. And I’m learning so much from you guys at 23, you’re even helping me patch things up with my daughters mother whom I hope to marry one day. Keep it up and thank you guys 🙏
May you have success and a beautiful family that you desire in the mighty name of Jesus Christ 🎉❤
God speed brother wishing you success.
one of the biggest things is mental health, find out if she has any personality disorders or problems, those cannot be fixed for the most part. sometimes its better not to try and 'fix' something
God bless you ❤
@@86thsamurai thank you very much ❤
I am an extremely independent lady in a blue collar job, and I have been told from outside sources that I am a sigma. I’m working with myself currently to practice being a more feminine woman. I am always learning what it means to be a woman, and it is good to hear advice in this format, being so straightforward. please don’t tiptoe around the potential feelings of your audience too much. they’ll either like what you say and stay, or hate it and leave. those of us interested will benefit greatly from your bluntness.
Sigma isn’t a male thing. As someone from the generation that uses it, sigma kinda just means someone who can handle themselves, is confident, and able to be a go getter that lives their life, regardless of what others think
@@lunarlightasmr4660 I guess I could have composed that better. I am proud that I have been labeled as a sigma for sure, and because it was an outside source I am happy to adopt the title.
I don’t see it as an either/or. I am just learning how to embrace more opportunities to be feminine :)
@@mailejordan7241 oh, understood. And honestly? Same, I am as well. I’m currently trying to find more ways to embrace and honor my feminine, while also still being true to ‘me’ and the way I like to go about the world. A bit tricky, at times, but it’s definitely worth it and such a liberating feeling!
No such a person as a sigma female, term is used by women about men. If a sigma male does exist you’ll never get to know one. As far as regaining your femininity, good luck.
@@danziegner really? Most of the people I hear say ‘sigma’ are the guys I have as friends, and sometimes like the dudes on my campus, but I’ve never heard one of my friends ever describe a guy as sigma? But maybe it’s just not a thing for women in my area/college 🤷♀️c
Before getting married -
- Do not expect your husband to change for the better once you're married and with kids, because they often don't. It's just too hard for one thing to constantly go against the grain of their own personalities. That doesn't mean it's not possible to change, or that people never change, but don't put put all your hope on or make commitments thinking that good change is a guarantee.
- When trying to decide if to have kids or if to marry someone, and if you have doubts, ask yourself - what are his actions? Not what he says, but what does he actually end up DOING? It's easy enough to tell someone you love someone, most people like to hear it, but if it's not followed by actions, then the person you're with is either confused about what love is, or doesn't actually love you but is with you for other reasons. It's hard to realise that because you want to trust them and believe them, but you need to focus on the hard evidence. Ask yourself 'What kind of evidence have I witnessed to far that would lead me to think that he's going to be xyz once he's my husband or a father?' If you have witnessed experienced far more negative actions than positive (addiction issues, mood problems, bad with money, cheating, generally irresponsible) ..........then the likelyhood that this will change once you're married is very, very small. You are taking a huge risk by proceeding further. In fact, if you listen to many women, they will say their husbands changed for the worse when they had kids, simply because they knew their wife was vulnerable and not likely to leave. If he's neurotic, moody and bad tempered now with you......just wait and see what he'll be like with lack of sleep and kids screeching around the house. Women often find out that their choice was a bad one when it's too late.
- It is not your job or spiritual duty to rehabilitate badly behaved or abusive men, to the cost of your own health or even safety. They are not your child. Do not take the responsibility of his bad childhood or parenting on your shoulders, or think you have to put up with awful behaviour or your needs not being met because you feel sad for him and his childhood or mental problems. If you want to rehabilitate something, try upcycling or painting some old furniture, or renovate a house. If you want to nurture, have kids. If you want to heal and develop, become a therapist of lifecoach (and then at least you'll be paid for it). Don't be one of those women who reach 50 and realise that all their efforts were all for nothing and he never actually did improve.
- If he doesn't take care of you nicely when you're ill, bin him. Some men view women as household appliances and do not like it at all when they malfunction. Many women find that out the hard way - when they have children, when they have to have na operation and need someone to step up so they can take it easy and heal after that. Some men will ignore their poor wives and leave them to handle everything by themselves, even if they've been told to rest by the doctors. Or those men might reluctantly 'help' you whilst sulking or giving you the silent treatment as your punishment for having to provide this service. Some men are mean with their money, but others are mean with their time and support. These are the types that expect you to dote on them when they're ill but they won't return the favour.
- Look up the meaning of 'strategic incompetence' and 'mental load'. Hopefully knowing about those two will help you avoid them.
Never marry anyone and expect to change them. That’s a YOU issue.
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“Have grit, and give Grace.” Well said! Words to live by. You are an awesome role model for wives everywhere.
From a happily married man for 52 years.
It’s so refreshing hearing a girl explain these dynamics and show how she’s made amends with them. Just so cool y’all found so much maturity in your own souls.
It’s encouraging to see a married couple going strong. Commitment is rare, and true love to go with it is even more so.
I'm a liberal and open minded 38 years old guy from Brazil and I'm very thankful for having the opportunity to watch you and your husband talking to a camera in such a vulnerable and honest way right, in front of my face! Your opinions and advices about such controversial subjects are so agreeable and useful, that almost scares me!! I'm so happy that I've found you this channel!!
You sound so sweet, and humble. I started on your husbands channel-mostly for my husband to listen to. I’m glad you started your own, I’d like to be the kind of wife a husband values and I’m excited to hear more from you. Mamas United!! ❤
Mama’s united!!! I just love that!!! 😍
I'm relearning to be a "Good Husband".. whether I use it or not...🤔😘🤠
@@drycreekmomma looking good mama❤️
Outstanding advice. My wife and I have been married 60 years. Even though she has an anxiety disorder and was taught by her mother to despise her husband (because of her bad marriage) I could never walk out on my wife or divorce her because I would be turning my back on my God; and I can never do that. We both have a strong faith in God, and that is the foundation of our marriage. When you want to please God and be obedient to His commands, you treat your spouse and others with love and respect. This along with tolerance and understanding will solve a multitude of problems.
Thank you Richard. Good words, great in fact. I hope for your sake that you were able to get her out of that programming from her mother.
It also makes you a simp.
@@timesthree5757 staying faithful to His wife how does that make him a simp? As men we are called to love our wives like Jesus Christ loves the Church. Based on his comments it makes a true Man.
Well said! It is a commitment to God to love and be faithful to my husband, not just to my husband!
@@david19897 it sounds like a nightmare. I don’t put up with that crap from other men. Why am I gonna put up with that from women?
I’ve got enough going on to put up with that kinda headache.
Look I’ll just live in my backwoods dipping my chew, drinking my shine and have peace in my house thank you.
I am a male, we are married for 40 years. You spoke wisdom, I was wondering why you were so cautious. You are spot on, I can not add anything more to your list. Lovely to listen to you both. May GOD Bless your work. Thank you.
I’m a 52 yr old male,recent divorcee from the uk and I learnt a lot from your reflections here. I loved to hear your traditional values on marriage, thank you
Thank you so much for commenting! And for the encouragement! 🙂
@@drycreekmomma OK, I was a bit nervous coming on here as a male but my bud, Ade broke the ice for me, thanks Ade.
You remind me of my Grandmother, a lot, Deanna. I mean of how she must have been, back in those days when at 17, she was a teacher of a classroom full of rowdy kids at various ages. I would like to hear some stories of how you delegated your most precious gifts to the kids themselves, as aids.
That hands on, On-the-Job-Training, Experiential Learning curve is tapped into right out of the chute and that is the WAY is flourishes.
Divorce is a very tough thing and I was surprised I couldn't even find a support group in the suburban area I live in. Even some of the larger churches had NOTHING to offer. Have u tried any such path?
@@DALE959595 well said
@@jaimhaas5170 I didn’t Jaim in my case I knew through the short term pain of the divorce and the wreckage it creates especially when there’s children, that better times were ahead and I kept my sights on that.
I think your channel is a very important addition to your husband's channel . The young women of today I think should learn from your experience . I think it can literally save their lives . Thank you so much and keep doing what you're doing, I think it is very important. But yet another addition to all the hard work you do
I have been with my wife since 1982. I believe that our success was in large part that we never used sex as a weapon and only rarely would one of us turn down the other’s advances. Satisfaction on both sides was important too. We also never fought over money even when money was short. We have always been great friends and have never denigrated the other. We have been two people sharing our lives together and so we have our own things but do them in the same place and never feel ignored if the other is busy with their activities. I think you have hit the nail on the head with your advice and I hope it helps others.
Thank you and Dwayne for speaking about what many of us have experienced or things we need to hear. I’ll be 72 in a few weeks, will have been married to my wife for 52 years come next week. Both of your perspectives are spot on many times. Dwayne’s unashamed defense of manhood, what it means to be a man is what drew me to him…and just now discovering your channel with this video makes me appreciate what you 2 are doing even more. I agree in part with a couple things you said but because we are not all cut from the same cloth I thot I’d share something from a different perspective. I do have a nothing box, where I appear to need to just empty myself and recharge but the truth is most of the time I’m just wanting to sort things out without any input or influence from anyone else, wife included. So, there are wheels turning but I’ve shifted to neutral so that nothing appears to be moving.
Secondly, as far as intimacy goes I am the kind of man who appreciates a woman who slips her hand into mine, gives me a hug and/or for no reason except as an expression of her love towards me. That is one awesome thing that attracted me to my wife 52+ years ago. Those things disappeared early in our marriage and that intimacy was replaced with a weekly “ritual”…you know, kids in bed, Saturday night, perhaps a glass of wine and wham, bam, thank you ma’am.
Once we became empty nesters the “ritual” has continued. I have had conversations many times with my wife about how I appreciate simple efforts of affection that may or may not lead to sex…I try to hint at that by giving her a romantic kiss or cuddle beside her on the couch. The response I get is she makes me feel immature or less manly. She may bring up other people and say “do you think Bob and Linda behave like this?” Most times she’ll just take my hand and say “I know what you want” and we head to the bedroom. That’s not what I always want but I seldom want to start an argument or a discussion…again…about how much I appreciate spontaneous intimacy. If she would become more intimate and it results in sex then fine but I would feel more loved from those simple acts than from “ritual” weekly sex.
She has always been receptive when she knows I’m “in the mood” so it’s not like there is a lack of sex in our relationship, but there is a lack of intimacy. The “ritual” of sex lacks any expression of love, it’s just a device to bring us physical pleasure. It makes me feel like I’m missing out on something. Do you think I am being difficult or am I the exception and not the rule of how normal men feel?
I loved and appreciated this! I am 54 year old woman, no children and never married. Even so, there is lots of wisdom and honesty here for me. So refreshing. The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine takes many forms and you two display a beautiful expression of each. This made me proud to be a woman and a human being. Thank you for your courage for being so frank. ❤️
This was very lovely. I have a wonderful beautiful Mama of my own that I love very much, but we don’t get to have conversations like this normally, so this is a blessing. I’m a young single Christian woman and having folks like yourself speak wisdom into my life is such a gift. Keep doing your thing Mama! Look forward to seeing new videos!
What a pleasant comment 😊 Thank you so very much 💝
Beautiful name you were given.. awesome comment
How do we say… You and Your Husband are the kind of hard-working-devoted Americans that made and continue to make our country great. Keep making videos please.
I can't believe this was in my recommended. I didn't want this video to end because it resonated with me and validated so much of what I feel and undoubtedly what we all feel to some degree. It is frustrating, but at the same time, fascinating just how different men and women are in just about every aspect. I had never heard of the "nothing box" so I am super interested to look more into it! Conversations like these are so crucial for understanding ourselves and our partners better and ultimately having fulfilling relationships with those we love despite how challenging they can be at times. Thank you for this!
"What are you thinking about?"
I started using alternative (if he looks troubled in my eyes, probably just inside nothing-box😅) "You remember I'm here if you want to talk about something, right?" and then just leave it.
That gives him space.
Thank you ma'am, your content is much needed and appreciated❤️
I’m a young bride and I’ve watched this video and your husbands. Spot on wisdom. I would love your take on what respecting your husband means in terms of action.
Misty I have a combined 40 years of marriage and I had the same question. You think I would know after two husbands but honestly it is a bit of an ambiguous word and I would like to know more specifically how it looks/acts between Deanna&Dewayne.(writing from my husbands account)
This was much needed. My husband and I have chosen to do traditional marriage roles (he works, I stay home with the babies, cook from scratch, and am starting homeschool) and it can seem so hard in this day to find anyone who can give guidance on this type of marriage. Being in the throes of baby/toddler years it’s hard to think it will get easier and not feel that “envy” you talk about. I would love to hear more on these topics and how you dealt with raising the children, roles in parenting, and finding grace as a traditional mother and to not feel like you’re continually failing 😅 please more videos! 🙏🏻
Once kids get to being 6-8 it gets easier🎉 Then ya end up with many pets too😂
You are never failing. You are doing your best with love. Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself grace as that is also how your babies will grow to see themselves. As they get older the challenges will ebb and flow. Sending you hugs, strength and love💕✨
There are endless permutations on defined role (or traditional) marital arrangements, so all stories deserve scrutiny. My wife and I were partners for 30 years making and retailing candy. We started out living in the building with the business, had children, and then bought the house next door to make room for both the growing family and the growing business. Home life and business life were literally a Blendtec "Will It Blend?" demo. The 90's and 00's were the last hurrah for getting something other than rote indoctrination from a rust belt public school so we'd have to figure a way to add in homeschool doing it today, but every day, every family interaction living in an ongoing business is it's own homeschool. Anyway, once that single digit age is gone (in a flash when looking back), many of the stay-at-home moms I've observed would put their extra time to a home based side-hussle to be available for the OH-SO important teen-age years - especially when raising children in a city environment.
Homeschoolmom here. Turn on children bi able songs Music is a good stress reliever, lots prayers. The most stress re Liv er is both take time to be to get t her, on decision s. Time with nothing but together in the word... not my will but Your Wil. And time for adult aloneness. Many deep de ceiver s. Trust and truth keeps the cement stable. Even in worst hurricanes. Kindness and charity which is not love it is charity will relay a coming understanding in ways not realized in moment. Your special, moms and dads are important for us all. My time is soon ending, stay strong you will make it in whatever the dream, loving thoughts warmly sent.
It helps as you teach your older kid or kids some responsibility by having them help take care of the little one or ones. But don't forget to let the older one be a kid too.
I gotta comment again, Please don’t be cautious with what you say I feel as women we need to be able to have open conversations about marriage in its entirety! I’m looking forward to more videos from you, as I have never had a legit woman role model. However, I somehow still managed to hold the same traditional views and was married just over a year ago. Thank you so much!!
It made me tear up when you said ‘he wants to see all of you, give him that, and you will feel beautiful. Try it.’. I need to get out of my own head full of insecurity and try it
married almost 34 years; kids and grandkids. you are SPOT ON...every comment you made! Thanks Deanna!
I've been listening to Dwayne for a cpl months. Today is first time I've listened to Momma! WoW!!!
Love the content of this video.
You 2 serve America. I hope everyone subscribes
6:24 I appreciate you talking about this so much! I feel seen with that and not alone! Also please say your peace because you will find your audience because you do say what you mean. Thank you as a young women without a mother to talk to. ❤ I’m really excited about this channel.
"He wants to come home and see you." ❤ amen, momma.
I love your perspective!♡ I didn't get married until I was in my 60s. A "sigma male" fell madly in love with me. He even rescued me from a fruitless relationship. He is an amazing partner and yet it's been challenging for me. I would say judgement and comparisons are our worst enemies. I'm glad I trusted him. I love him to bits.
You, my dear, are spot on!! I was with my wife for nearly 30 years, until she passed on, and much of what you offer as insights, we learned over the course of our marriage. Respect and love should be given and received in equal doses, but...tempered and molded to each person's "needs". A good beginning!!
I love this momma. I grew up with a single grandmother and my husband a single mother. We’re still learning after getting married at 19&21. Now 23&26. With 3 boys. We love this life. We’ve watched all our friends married in the timing of our relationship divorce. We are searching out community with neither sides of our family very active. And we’re trying everyday to be the couple others can turn to for help. We want to see marriages thrive. And families restored. Love your slow sit down video. And your wisdom. And I took a lot from it. Thank you!!! Look forward to your next video!🫶🏼
I am a single woman with no children and I really got a lot out of this video and enjoyed your company. I never heard of the "sigma" personality type before, so thanks for mentioning that. I can relate totally. Thank you! PS My "mommas" name is Deanna too.
Beautiful! I love this presentation, having been married for 52 years (she passed away two years ago) oh how I miss that wonderful, loving, caring woman who raised and homeschooled our 5 children. All your points are right on target. God has and continues to bless you.
This is a great video Deanna. My husband and I have been married for 25 years, and I agree with everything you've shared. Sometimes, as women, it's very difficult to get out of our own minds how we view ourselves. We dealt with that for years. I would not have a high opinion of myself, so it was hard for me to receive my husband in the way he intended. It took a lot of prayer, and my husband's commitment to the Lord, and our marriage, to come full circle.
I came here from Dewayne. I’ll stay for mama. Much love from your neighbour to the north. Enjoy your winter.
The respect thing really is huge. It goes hand-in-hand with being treated fairly. I can show the utmost devotion to the woman I love, but it wears me down and breeds resentment if I don't get the respect I feel I deserve. I was never able to adequately put this into words in my past relationships, but I really just didn't feel respected or like my opinion or feelings mattered. And for someone who rarely speaks unless it's to say something of import, not being listened to and actually heard was a huge slap in the face to me. With my new relationship, ensuring I felt respected as an equal partner was a prerequisite.
The nothing box, physical aspects of a relationship...also very true. You totally nailed it. Even the envy thing. I would get judged for not doing some chores around the house, but everything else I did around the house or for our relationship was taken for granted and ignored until I was gone and they realized just how much I did. Even when you do try and help out with the chores your partner usually does, it doesn't help when they criticize how you accomplish those tasks, which happens often in relationships.
And you're right, a man picks a woman that he wants because he wants her. I wrestled with the jealousy of women I was with, even when I only wanted them. I was content just to be with them and around them, but their insecurities disturbed the balance of things. Yes, men have that physical appetite. And (pardon the metaphor) a man can work up that appetite anywhere, but a good man will always prefer to eat at home with a woman who loves and respects him.
Thanks so much for your input. There is a lot of truth to what you said here and I think your words carry a lot of value for anyone who is trying to make things work by finding out HOW they work.
Being married is a life long learning process. Dating is not the same as raising a family. Our society has not been kind to women who are not involved in the outside work force. Husbands need to express their thsnkfulness for all their w ives do that benefut the children and keep the household going.
Thank you so much for your last point and your obvious current understanding! My story is tragic, but married 17 years. Currently ending in her affair and divorce. However! Your comment about him having the blinders on all day actually brought tears to my eyes! For 24 years I have had eyes only for this girl I love and married! I chose HER! Not only did I always consider it my duty to not notice other women, it truly became a natural way of being. But alas, coming home to her and giving her all that attention and energy that I was saving for her alone was met with rejection, refusal, denial… I’m not just talking about sex, I’m referring to any sort of affection or attention along those lines. I saved it all for her, and she refused it. If any other marriages can be helped by your video, or even possibly my own comment, this is why I’m here and applauding you! Ladies, that part of him is for you alone and he’s saving it for you! You ought to be jealous of it if he ever strays from you in that regard, but please don’t reject and refuse it from him when he offers that energy and attention to you!
I've been following your husbands channel since back when there were only a couple hundred followers and have really loved every video. I'm looking forward to this side of the stories, too. The two of you remind me of my wife and I but a bit further down the trail of life then we are yet. It's wonderful to find a couple who have wisdom to share. Thank you 🤠
Thank you!! I can’t wait to pursue a similar traditional marriage and family with my current boyfriend! This advice was amazing, I’d love to see future videos about motherhood and parenting too ❤️
Thank you so much! I will definitely share some of those! 🥰
After 42 + years of marriage I agree with all you said. Every point made is true. When we stop fighting against our husband's inborn traits, our marriage and physical intimacy is great. Yes, after 42 years of marriage, our physical intimacy is strong as ever. And, we have been through many life difficulties together.
Forgive your dear man when he isn't perfect to you. No man is perfect.
Thank you! This is so realistic and relatable. Married for 12 years and feeling a little lost. This brings it back down to earth and makes our troubles seem not so big.
Marriage is hard! But so worth it…just keep communicating with each other and remember why you got married! 💗
@@drycreekmomma I think that is a very good question! 'Why do you want to get married and what does that look like.' Right then and there ...should open up to some very good honest and truthful conversation.
There is something very special that comes through you and your husband's words. I'm very glad you started your own channel. Thank you for sharing your grace with us!
Oh my gosh I'm so excited you made your own channel!! This was all excellent advice thank you! I'm a 25 year old woman and I most days I get into my nothing box after work, but I feel like that'll change when I become a mom because that job is 24/7 for the rest of your life and there is no off the clock lol
I wish someone had told me that it was okay to be alone and to “get away” from my kids once in a while…don’t loose your identity! Be a great wife and mom but take care of yourself too 💝
Spot on ! Married 35 years. Sometimes ya gotta fake it ladies.keep going every day.no one has a perfect life. For better for worse. Kids grow up and leave.do not put your kids before your husband.
Been married for 12 and a half years. My wife and I went through Love and Respect for our pre marriage counseling. I'm glad we did.
Hey momma, just hearing you talk made me feel comfortable. I'm glad you made a channel, I look forward to learning from a lady with a lot more wisdom and life experience than myself.
Thank you! ☺️
Finally hearing another woman say things I completely and whole heartedly believe in. Thank you so much for making this video. Truly, truly grateful 🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️
Been watching your husband's channel, Dry Creek Wrangler School, for a little over a year off and on (First video I seen of his was him talking about his cowboy boots and how since he's gotten older, he's had to switch the type of boot he wears and he was smoking a cigar, kinda reminded me of my father from the way he talks to his clothing.) and I like what he teaches and what he talks about so I subscribed to him months ago. The other day I was watching a video and he mentioned that you have a channel now so I decided to hop over here and watch this video (which is helpfully seeing it in a woman's perspective) and then to let you know that you have my subscription as well! :) Thank you for being you :D
Very beautiful spoken! I wish I had seen it 20 years ago! Maybe I wouldn’t have left the father of my child. (Who now watches your husband videos and is changing so beautiful in his way of living!) Thank you for sharing! 🙏
Wishing you and your husband much more loving years together!
You're doing great! I studied philosophy before college and during college, but now - 10 years later - the things I've learned are finally making sense. You and your husband are both a blessing, and far more helpful than I think you realize. Just showing up and talking about anything is enough. It feels like talking to a friend; and some of us don't have very many friends.
If you keep making videos, you'll begin to understand your audience better and be more comfortable. You're already doing a great job.
I have been married for 50 years. I have found respect, trust , friendship, truth and love are the most important. Be accepting of each other shortcomings. It is very hard but to not give up. I loved your video.
The Pastor who did the talk about the “nothing box” is Mark Gungor from Wisconsin. My wife and I did a couple’s Bible Study and watched the video. It is great and very funny.
THANK YOU! You have a great start for your video. I have enjoyed you husband's videos for a long time. I was married for 34 years, my wife passed away 27 years ago. In our time together we both learned many things about each other. Thankfully we started out as best friends and were still that way at the end of her life. My personality is probably like your husband's, I have lived alone for 27 years I am OK with it. I am thankful I was given a good wife. The definition of love is willing the best for the other person. Put them first before your self. Wishing You Both Well !
I'm a Former Soviet Union native living in Central Asia and love both of yours wisdom and sound advice. There is so much beauty in simplicity.
Wow! 31 years of marriage, that’s incredible. I’ve just gotten engaged and I truly appreciate you and your husbands advice. I’ll take all the help I can get
Thanks Deanna, great wisdom. I would just add, after experiencing many unhealthy relationships myself, that young women-any women-need to realize how important it is to spend time NOT being sexually involved with a man to see what his character is like, how he treats his parents, children, animals and you. Is he angry or abusive? An addict? Avoids taking responsibility for his actions? A cheater/womanizer? Narrowing that down, if they actually find someone that isn't one or more of those things, then they can have something to work with, and employ the wisdom you've shared. Blessings!
Im a clinical social worker who has provided a lot of marriage counseling. This video is excellent. Def worth sharing widely. Of all the things you mentioned, the most important factor in the development of a solid relationship is respect. Relationships where one partner demeans the other is a recipe for sadness.
Thank you Deanna for these videos. As a man, it's always great to learn a woman's wisdom on dating, marriage, and family life.
"Have grit and give grace" Love it. I sometimes put sayings by the front door for my kids to see as they leave the house. This is going to be the next one! Thank you.
We just celebrated our 49th wedding anniversary 3 months ago and I need to have my wife introduced and hear the explanation to the "Nothing Box" by Deanna today! I have never been able (perhaps never tried) to explain to my wife my "Nothing Box".
I went through a divorce recently at 24 years old and you and your husbands videos are giving me a lot of perspective. Thank you.
My husband introduced me to dry creek wrangler and I’ve watched so many videos. I got so excited when I saw you started your own. So crazy to see Dry Creek grow so rapidly! Keep doing yalls thing 👏🏻👏🏻 me and my husband love yalls content. We aren’t cowboys and never will be but we love the old fashioned country life and the wisdom it brings!
I’ve been married 32 years I agree 100% with what you’re sharing.
Wow! I stumbled upon your husband's channel first today, watched the "5 things" video there with my wife, and then this one came up as a suggestion.
Don't ever apologise about being boring - I would describe the style of you and your husband as serene and fulfilling. I could literally feel my blood pressure and pulse lowering.
We've been married coming up 25 years, through the forge a few times over the years, and happier together now than ever.
Keep up the brilliant work, both of you, and Merry Christmas from Australia!
That’s the exact same way I discovered this video. Her no frills, salt of the earth advice is exactly what’s needed for relationships today.
I like the expression through the forge, not heard that one. Says it well
"Momma", The book is "Her Love and His Respect" such a beautiful book for couples. I too love the encyclopedia of wisdom that your husband shares with us. I love hearing from both you and him. Thank you for sharing as well.
I am so so so happy you made your own channel! I am a momma of a three year old and an 11 month old, and newly married this summer, but been together with my husband for 5 years. I am so so so looking forward to your videos about raising kids and being married, because I have no one in my life who could teach me those lessons or be a role model. So extremly grateful for you, it's like you're an answered prayer.
These were really helpful reminders, thank you! I’m a homeschool mom of 7 in Texas. Our kids are ages 14 down to 3, almost 4. 🥲 My hubby is one who is fine in his own world, doing his own thing… and our paths of interest don’t cross much (we were engaged after dating 3 months, and married 6 months later, started having babies right away and it’s made it hard to learn about each other as we go). I’m curious about the sigma thing! That gives me something to think about, and I appreciate your encouragement.
Oh yes as A man in my early 30s The physical drive is very strong for my wife and sometimes I feel like I’m being pushy but she doesn’t understand that it is a physical urge it can actually be painful . We can’t help it it’s the way we are wired Especially with the one we love it is very strong
I'm so glad you started this channel! I love your husband's videos, and I love the videos you've done together, but I didn't realize how much I needed a Dry Creek Momma exclusive channel! Keep up the good work! :)
Hi Deanna, its Samantha from Alaska Horseman. I am so happy you created a channel! I look forward to watching your content. My husband and I have loved these marriage talks you and Dewayne are doing. Much appreciated and much needed advice! I am wishing now that I wasn't in my prodigal days when I knew you two because I missed out on a lot of wisdom and mentorship that was right next door, literally! But the Lord works in His timing and it took Him a while to get to me! I am now married to a wonderful man and we have 4 kids and bought a little place in Delta Junction. God bless you and your family, you've been such a blessing!🙌 thank you!
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Hey there girl! Thank you so much for your encouraging words! You inspired me to start this channel…I remember how hard you worked on the ranch but you still always stayed feminine and you’re a beautiful person! Congratulations on your marriage and your babies🥰 Enjoy them! Blessings to you! 💖
Thank you, Deanna, for allowing all of us to learn and grow with your earned wisdom. Married 24 years, 2 kids, and a daughter-in-law, (23, 21, & 21 now), and a 2 year old grandson. All of us are sigmas. Makes for a very odd household, especially when the kids were teens. I wish I had understood this in my 20's(I'm 41 now), but better late than never, right?
I'll be sharing both yours and Duane's channels with my son and his wife, and my daughter. We all need a guide, and you 2 are great at it!
Thank you so much 😊
Love your advice and love that you have started your own channel! Marriage is hard and your advice is fantastic, makes us all feel that we are not the only one struggling with the rollercoaster of marriage, thanks so much Momma!
My husband and I love to watch Dewayne’s channel and I’m so excited for your channel! I absolutely loved this video. My husband and I have a more traditional marriage like you all, he works outside the home and I stay home with three toddlers full time. I definitely needed this video, we are young couple married 5 years but together 9, we have grown up together and grown together over these years, and it’s nice to hear the same views and values.
Married for 15 years, spot on with the physical! Great words of wisdom! Just beautiful! ❤
Spot on from a husband married to my best friend of a bit over 20 years.
This is so awesome Deanna! I love hearing your perspective along with your husband. You two are so relatable and give great advice. Love that you have your own channel now!
As a young woman with dreams of marriage and family, I've found all your videos including your husband's so helpful. I'm always worried about not being a good enough wife or mother and I haven't even started yet. Thank you, I'm glad you started this channel. ❤
Wow, you are going to be just fine. How I know? Because you are self aware and you’re preparing yourself ahead of time by listening to people like Deana. That’s better than most.
I worry about the same thing as a man.
Keep the videos coming, they are sooo helpful!! Would love to see some on tips for keeping a home and cooking.
I will definitely be sharing some of that! 🏠 🥘
What a fine lady to have by your side... Wise words for a weary generation.
So much to think about here. Thanks for taking the time to share. I like how you shed light on when we feel uncomfortable about why our partner isn't responding the way we think they should. Glad you have a good marriage!
Always remember what brought you together. Communication is key. Being equally yoked is important. Respect, Love and Joy and appreciating none another
Thanks for facing your fear of being in front of the camera to share your thoughts, feelings, insights, and experiences. Hearing your perspective is powerful!
The comment about respect vs love is sooo helpful to me. This is the first place I’ve heard it mentioned and it immediately explains so many conflicts I’ve had and witnessed in my life. Thanks for sharing
you and Dwayne have helped me in ways that some people in my family haven’t, whether it’s because they don’t know the words to string along or they don’t know how; anyway, y’all have been a godsend and are such wonderful people. I hope you and him the best, and I will always continue to support the both of you. I’m glad you created your own channel and I’ll be tuning in to better understand the opposite perspective of life and everything that comes with it. thank you again to you both, and happy holidays!
You're my new UA-cam Favorite Mama. Sincerely Seriously. Your honesty and a true example of woman and male relationship info . Wisdom shared Thank you. My hubby are 32 years in together. I have been trying so hard lately and getting .....well....I needled this / you. I think many people do. Thank you. Real eyes, Realize Real Lies. Y'all are the Truth ! 💯👍🏻👍🏻😍 ty both. Ahh yes, I am new here on both yalls channels today. I feel like I scratched off a winning lottery ticket
I am so excited about this channel! I am so happy you started one. Thank you.
Tonight I happened to stroll across Duane’s channel which had led me to yours. I can not tell you how much I have learned in such little time and how much I anticipate this helping my fiancé and I grow our relationship. Thank you for what you are doing and keep the videos coming.
Wow! Im a California city girl that married a Wyoming fella who grew up on a dairy farm. He told me he goes to his empty box and I didnt believe him. Also, I agree with taking care of his needs. If I ever denied him I would deny myself!! Women who play games or use that as a game are just hurting their relationship with their husband.
Congratulations and best wishes on your new channel! Although widowed for nearly 10 years, I can appreciate your words of wisdom from a woman’s perspective! I love both your channels and I look forward to checking out future content, it’s a wonderful thing for women and men to support each other as we navigate this journey called life! Thank you very much! ❤️🕊🙏
I'm excited to hear your side of things! I recently discovered your husband's channel and I enjoy it. I am so far removed from the type of life you live but I love watching your life. I live in a metropolitan Canadian city and these tips are helpful!
So excited for your channel. There are very few out there who talk from heart and experience like this. Thank you🙏🏼
Good morning. I'm a new subscriber here from Virginia. I feel blessed to have found this channel. I can't describe it exactly but to watch and listen to you and your husband on real life topics just calms me down almost instantly; and I feel so much better in getting on with my day/life. You are relaying ideas and explanations about things many of us are struggling with. Just want to say thank you and please keep up the great work.
Great video, I would love to hear about how you homeschooled and some advice. Primarily advice on the teens (middle school) as I am taking that on with my younger sister right now. Public school did a number on her and pulling her back in at home is doable and it will be successful, I know I trust it, but it is definitely not easy.
I will try to share some tips! Thanks for the idea! 📝
Yes to the homeschooling topic! It's a touchy one these day. As farming family that homeschools, it's hard to find solid advice from people who have already been there and done that. Many resources on here today are mommas who are in the thick of it now. Which is great! Don't get me wrong. But to hear from someone who has come through to the other side, would be a great blessing.
1st, I think it’s cool y’all started a channel for you. Been married (this time) for 16 years, and understanding marriage doesn’t completely take away your independence (within reason) is important. I think it’s healthy to do some things without the other, and it opens opportunity to new conversation.
Y’all hit the nail on the head on so many topics that unfortunately a lot of young folks aren’t taught nowadays.
I’ve watched a lot of videos on the other channel, and feel it’s safe to say your husband and I have quite a bit in common. If I’m correct, he’s a lucky man to have you!
I think it’s great what y’all are doing with the channels. It’s refreshing to find raw content that comes from the heart with good intentions!
I wish y’all the best on your UA-cam success, and hope y’all take advantage of some of the monetization opportunities avail.
oh this was LOVELY! thanks a ton!!! this is the type of content I aspire to create soon as I gain wisdom in this very specific area of life :)) much peace and love to you both 🤗🤗
Thank you for the book and video recommendations, I really appreciate you sharing these along with your humble personality
Very happy you started this channel - I loved the video you did together on "traditional marriage". I got nothing to do with horses and I randomly stumbled across the "how to deal with loneliness" video and I've been subbed since, always looking forward for any new uploads! Much love from Hungary
Thank you for starting this channel! I am loving your videos. It's so refreshing to see down to earth people talking about down to earth things. Keep this going ma'am, we are looking forward to more and more content. Love you!
This video was super helpful for me! I'm engaged and getting married at the end of this October and have been trying to soak in as much helpful info as I can going into marriage! I know it's going to be a transition and maybe even a struggle for a time but I think being more aware of how each person works will ultimately help in the end. God bless!