How to actually make people like you.
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- welcome to the second episode of the social skills series, and let's talk about charisma...
Charisma consists of three elements: presence, warmth, and power...
And we will try to understand each one of these elements well...
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Being charismatic is like a cheat code to life, everyone just seems to be drawn to you and everyone likes you somehow 💀. Even getting girls doesn't seem that challenging once you have charisma down
Facts!
And being an introvert is nothing but a curse
wrong. Charismatic people have other people hate them too. It is not about being liked by everyone nor caring if someone likes you. It is about making some hating your guts and others to love and respect you deeply. Being in the middle that no one has no opinion of you or being just "liked" by everyone doesn't mean anything.
@@helloworld2054not true we are powerful in our own way
@@Arel_Kursatyou’ll always be hated by people. Well nothing new
This channel is the real deal.
Confidence isn't sth you just act; you have to be confident from the inside.
I think most people struggle with that because they hate parts about themselves and don't wanna come off as arrogant/selfcentered.
@montee3766 true, but self centered people are so because their self seem is low and they feel the need to compensate with an external sense of self importance. In short, they need their lives, everyone and everything in them, to revolve around them in order to feel important, because deep down they don't.
So arrogance and self centeredness is not tied to self love or being comfortable with yourself, it's the oposite
Before Jesus, the world was full of sin; wicked in all that it had done. God could've destroyed the earth, but he decided not to. He decided to send his son, Jesus Christ, to take on the price for our sin, and through him, we are saved!
So, come to know Jesus, not as a religious figure, but as your Lord and God!
no way bro.
Over time I’ve become more charismatic, and tbh it literally all comes down to liking yourself. If you feel good about yourself other people will migrate towards you. It doesn’t mean to brag or have a massive ego, but if you feel good about yourself people will think the same of you
Absolutely true bro.
Can you explain more
@@appletechpro4u506if you are confident, have pride in yourself, are happy/content and like yourself as a person other people will feel this energy and start treating you like that too
I’m still working on this, I know it varies from person to person, but out of curiosity how long was this process for you, roughly?
Facts
I really needed a video like this because everyone seems to hate me
and after this video and hundreds like it, still nothing changes
@@m3c4nyku43I think you got to atleast give it a try once or twice i mean it's been a few minutes only
@@m3c4nyku43 how many people you start talking to or u just consuming content and doing mental masturbation also if your beliefs is it's not going to work and people hate me or don't like me that's exactly will happen.
oh the misery
everybody wants to be my enemy
Me Too Bro 🙂
I was really silent, unconfident and didnt have a ton of friends, so i started to watcj people and see what makes them likeable and liked, alot of the things mentioned in the video are things i spectated
Good Job in making a Video wich mirrors my thoughts about the topic
Good job by taking action and not blaming something
@@koen4261 You blame something because you’re bad? or you’re talking in general.
How To Win Friends And Influence People mainly teaches you to stroke others ego's, which doesn't make them respect you, rather the opposite, it makes them act narcissistic towards you
It's always a balancing act
You don't need to suck their toes all the time. Playing with flattery, banter and humor will make them like you. That book taught us about the flattery part.
I thought this was gonna be one of those generic videos on rizz and charisma but this guy is the real deal he helped me a lot.
Rizz on 2025💔
One thing I’ve learned from experience is to treat everyone like your friend. Talk about anything. Remember that person you never talk to? Say something to them. Anything. Ask them how their week was, how school/work is going, anything.
hey thank you alot for sharing this, because i always treat strangers as strangers! but now i will view them differently and possibly make new friends.
Personally I wouldn't go up to them and say something, but yeah
If my social battery is really full during that day then i could probably talk to a random srranger
Whenever I hear the word charisma instantly the image that comes to my mind is Ryan Gosling dude is the living manifestation of charisma
Nah
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Really! My son thinks that too. Maybe it's a generational thing. I don't see it
@saraf9081 dude have u not seen him he is so good looking and his aura is so charming
Pre coke conor mcgregor dominates everyone in the game of charisma
As someone with autism, I really liked this video as I've struggled socialising for my whole life. Thank you!
I can relate.
I really feel for people like you I have adhd and I struggled a lot thank the lord its so treatable but i still sometimes struggle people dont tell us how much we have to go through it will all pay off in the end thought buddy 👍👍👍👍
steven hawking ahh
@@Glock_Exility >Anime pfp
Same. It hurts to the core.
I thought i wasn't characasmatic enough and kinda hated myself for it, but when I watched the video, I just learned that I've been doing this unconsciously. Thank you for this video for making me gain more confidence!
Ik and having this kind of personality makes it easily to make friends with people but sometimes people take advantage of you
Remember anxiety is a hell of an enemy
I believe that being a lovable person with acceptance, and having people naturally drawn to you, is something innate that cannot be changed.
im pretty naturally charismatic and ppl tend to like me but every time i talk to someone i find attractive i become a different person that isn't confident or funny or interesting. my friends tell me to act nonchalant but i realized its just being comfortable, chill, and not trying to supress emotions to be unnatural.
great vid!
Same
This is amazing work, man! As an introvert, I have always felt I do not have enough charisma, and that people don't like me in general. Thank you for sharing these ideas.
I feel like an alien trying to learn how to communicate with humans.
Yeah these things are basic communication skills
You might be on the spectrum if you think that way
This man needs an award
I've watched quite a few self-improvement videos so far and THIS is the only one that I actually deem helpful. Thank you.
The more I watch these videos.. I am reminded to be myself. Thank you!
I've been struggling with social skills for a long time. Nothing was useful until this series. Thank you soooooo much dear. ❤❤❤
6:11
My biggest problem I felt personally I had was lack of self-confidence. I think I’m a good well-mannered person, but I’ve felt too shy and not comfortable in social gatherings and others i feel can sense it & that naturally prevents them from having conversations. I hope to somehow, someway learn to use what I just gained advice of from this video 👍🏼
Spot on what I wanted. Simple, straight to the point and no bullshit. Keep up the good work man, the full chart at the end of the video is very much appreciated.
Fr bro this is genuinely helpful
Things that helped me improve my dating life:
Started cold approaches (even when I was scared).
Watched videos like this one to get inspired.
Read the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish (it helped me understand women better).
Worked on my social skills by talking to everyone, not just girls.
Focused on my career to feel more secure about myself.
How do you get social skills? I'm fucked I can't even talk to boys my age, let alone girls
@@miyou3playz_yt389me too 😊
Don't buy the book. this is a bot comment. notice the 1k likes and only 1 reply.
Read real books. this is a scam.
@@miyou3playz_yt389damn your cooked
You just had the looks
"Be a good listener"
I felt so guilty after that line
Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, I'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.
Since my 12-year relationship ended, I know how hard it is to say goodbye to someone you love. But I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I finally went to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, and he helped me win back his love.
It's fascinating! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor and how can I get in touch with one most effectively?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked father obah eze up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
@@ZabRashii spiritual bullcrap. The only thing that can bring someone back is talking to them, nothinhg more
Please continue this series! What I've learned from these two videos are far greater than any...
Playing sports ( be it indoor or outdoor) helps a lot. People like a person who has something going on in their lives. If possible engage in indoor clubs, or join a sports ( golf), and participate in competition. It changes your aura and personality.
This is so helpful bro i started taking notes🙏😭 im tired being an introvert friendless people pleaser and i wanna stop this and make a change
Same
Yeah
Bro this video really helped me. I was always overthinking and planning every conversation. Until I watched this and got really confident
Bruh I learnt to be confident you literally just have to.. do it. BUT you also have to be honest with yourself as much as you can. That way it’s not false confidence or you’re not trying to be someone you’re not. Be confident, be kind.
People love when you love them.
i know this channel is probably geared towards men or teenage boys but as a teenage girl you’re getting me into my dark feminine tomie sigma patrick bateman era ❤
loved the video and graphics, your voice is very soothing to listen to, earned yourself another sub, can’t wait to see more of you pop up on my feed
girl what are u talking abt u need to start normalmaxxing
''Seduction is simply the ability to make people feel comfortable with who they are around you''. This quote from 'Charmflow Secrets' sums it up perfectly. Confidence isn’t about being loud, it’s about being secure in who you are, and people naturally respond to that kind of energy.
I’m an introvert but I always been good at making new friends. But talking, always had a hard time approaching a girl. Till I met my best friend and he’s always been charming. One day he told me, “Pay attention. Have confidence. Don’t come off as an a$$hole.” All it took was a little big brother advice and it came easy
I’m a charismatic person (and not because I say so it’s because of people are keep telling me that all the time) and I can say this bro here knows what’s he is talking about.
Helping others
Lift them up with words
And be assertive when you need
This is exactly how the power of charisma are created
Well done brotha 🔥
Your channel is actually really effective and efficient in some way possible, so impactful that i recommended your channel to my friends for them to elevate their social status and not be a boring type of person they themselves dont even wanted to
Did this dude really change my life in 11 minutes?
Hello Dark Needle, im a new subscriber to your channel and your explanation to the topic is very nice. I'm an 14 year old boy who has gone through betryal from my friends. Whenever I go talk to my friends, it's just that they don't care about me and they ignore me. They never talk to me and make me feel alone. But while surfing through UA-cam, i found your video and found it really beneficial. I'm gonna start changing my life and making it better thanks to you. I will start caring about myself more than them. Please make more wonderful videos like these.
Presence :
Listening
Comfortable and be yourself
Warmth :
Nice
Kind
Be enthusiastic
The power of giving
Acceptance
Understanding
Honesty
Authentic as well
I think easiest way to make someone like u are be respectful to them and be kind and try to make comfortable
I just realised i lacked the 3rd one. I dont know how to confront people. Sometimes I dont even know that others are treating me wrong. That might be the reason people take me for granted and some see me as a pushover. As a result I just started to overthink if that person is tryna use me or if that person crossing the line or not. I really appreciate this video tho.
entertaining and hilarious episode. PROTIP: EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. ONE CANNOT JUST APPLY WHAT THEY SEE IN UA-cam.
How to win Friends and influence people is actually very useful you have to use the information genuinely as it says in the book. If you're not genuine then it won't work. They aren't tricks to manipulate people their advice to help you get along with people better.
How to win friends and influence people? More like how to win becoming a massive pushover for others
@tylerd.1 you've never read it have you? It's not about being a pushover in fact often it's about controlling the situation in a loving way.
@@tylerd.1 you've never read it have you? It is not about being a pushover. It's about controlling the situation and a loving way.
I deal with a lot of regrets and demons inside me. Like depression and s***dal thoughts. I tried s****de like 3 times now. I think it really messed me up mentally.
That being said, I still made friends. Even got a Christmas present from a girl for the first time! She’s really cool for that. I’ll never forget it for as long as I live.
I believe what helped me be more charismatic is being myself. No lying about my life. Accepting not everyone is going to like me and that’s ok. I’ll just move forward. I also got sober. No smoking 🚭. That helped me think more clearly about who I really am. I think I’m making good progress. Still working on it.
You got this man🎉 you’re doing great and I’m so happy for you you got a Christmas present from a girl for the first time✨ stay strong 💪🏼
Comments like this always light my heart up. Keep it up man
Bro, what are you eating? Serotonin is produced in the gut. Make sure you eat a lot of raw fermented food and meat, trust me, it'll make you feel much better.
Seriously? What food ,suggest me too@kalabarigamohancharan
why u suicidal
Sounds like be a natural human that’s confident
I needed a video like this, primarly because....I do believe other people like me, but...not necessarily enough to really feel close enough I think? I feel like the main issue like this -and also the part of the video I'd struggle the most to apply directly- is me not often having anything to say/add to the majority of conversations of people around me, and also a general difficulty in properly expressing myself/conveying my thoughts/feelings fully, especially when speaking. I feel as though the -almost irrational?- fear of judgement from other people makes me insecure to just express whatever from my mind, especially if it risks being something irrelevant at best or inappropriate or even hurtful towards others at worst (while also potentially not having the emotional availability to realise when I'm taking it too far even though I just mean it as banter). Still a good video though, thanks for sharing
They like you but not enough for a friendship or relationship 🚬
Ik exactly how u feel. Ive noticed that really it has to do with the friend group you are with; not entirely but it does have a big impact. Like expressing yourself is hard whenever the ppl u are with won't support u in what u are expressing. And maybe u could try to find find someways to better express yourself that is more relatable to the ppl u are with; finding a person that can relate to u might help.
watching this video makes me realize that not only I am the problem, but actually, most people are way worse at communication than I thought.
this channel is a goldmine
1 trick - always agree to him no matter what he say just agree the more you agree the better his understanding of you reach
I have used this listening thing a lot and have noticed that most people only want to talk and hence a good listener can always get favors easily ....
I usually call everyone by their name (its not common here in India) , Ask questions about things they told me earlier , always try to be empathetic(although I have zero empathy) , use sentences like "that must have felt bad , wow thats tough " etc these sentence make the other person feels bigger and tougher .
I am socially anxious so listening is my default setting lol
This really works,I tried it once and I have 4 new friends 😂
Bro you crush it! By far the best and most practical video I have ever seen about social skills! Let's go!
Thanks brother! Glad you liked it!
I'm going to try this and make more friends because i am done playing video games all day (i will check back in 6 months) 😊
I wanna here now
"if you want to be with him, he will want to be with you" I wish
I love this. I think we often forget that communication is a two-way street. It's not just about expressing yourself, but also understanding how to really listen and connect with others. I actually came across some similar ideas in Charmflow Secrets, and it was eye-opening. The way they talk about balancing assertiveness with empathy makes such a difference in building genuine connections.
2:30 this is like the best advice ever. thanks so much
Can't lie... How to Win Friends and Influence People revolutionized my life.
The Dark Needle I started the social skills journey with the exact same books that you gave example of in a row. Hell yeah ofc none of them worked and I felt desperate for a moment. Then I realized your channel :)
And then realised that his videos also don't work.
@@m3c4nyku43 lolll bro if that were the case i would feel devastated after all that research.
@@m3c4nyku43 it does work actually for me
This video literally cured my autism. 10/10
I really need the dedicated video on power (the third phase on charismatic). Well, I appreciate all your effort.
Power!
@@nonsoiskingPOWERRRRR
Well most of the things are already given in how to win friends and influence people and it genuinely helped me , you just need to implement those ideas
Best charisma video ever! Keep up with the good work, seriously
only half way through and this is the learning style i need, i stg im processing everything lmfao. thanks for this
It is interesting what you’re teaching. I hadn’t even paid attention to these and I naturally do everything in the presence aspect already and other aspects already!
Thank you.
> Listen to people and nod
> Hate the same things they hate
> Laugh at their jokes
You'll be seen as a brother by many in no time, this is how you make friends
So basically be a hive mind NPC.
@m3c4nyku43 No, the NPCs don't give a shit about other people's mood and emotions, they don't have their own opinion. I for example hate sports, football especially and have no issues saying that
@Chud-mb7gl But isn't what you said, especially the "hate the same things they hate" part, also not having your own opinion? Or should you "wear a mask" (be fake) when you're with them?
This is just being a yes man and having no opinions of yourself
Apart from the 2nd point, I can get by these tips
Exactly! I relate to the struggle of forming connections, especially when it feels like a constant battle. My journey started similarly-reading all the “how-to” guides but not feeling any real change. It wasn’t until I explored the psychology behind social interactions that things began to shift.
Humor plays a vital role here too; sometimes it’s easier to laugh at the awkward moments rather than overthink them. I found that joining the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x made a significant difference. Just remember, embracing your quirks and genuinely listening can make all the difference in how others perceive you. Keep pushing forward; you’ve got this!
Your Video are good quality and you're using formal language
Those script must be taking time to construct
Keep up man
You are great brother no one making video like you your knowledge is beyond them
This reminds me I'm actually doing pretty well, thank you!
This video is actually so useful. Thank you so much bro!
8:21 I finally understand why everyone seems drawn to me, but that I absolutely hate most. I have always followed the acceptance+understanding+honesty rule spontaneously, but no one I know actually does. The worst part about this is they'll say "it's just my opinion" when just insulting my own. sometimes it's really dumb topics (lets take the football exemple), but as it accumulates, it feels very hard to carry at the end. it feels like nobody actually listen to me or respect me like I respect them. I keep drawing poeple in and i know a lot lot of poeple, but i dont like any of them because they're all...well. i guess i could call them judgmental, as it seems the most close adjective i found to a person who doesnt respect the acceptance+understanding+honesty rule. i tried talking with them about it but they'll always pull out the 'it's just my opinion' phrase. i dont want them to agree with me, i just want them to not be rude. its sad. what's the point of attracting poeple if none attracts me?
you shouldnt care if theyre rude. you dont need anyone to follow the same rule or be charismatic because you dont need anyone,,,
the point in attracting people isnt actually attracting people, its finding worth in yourself and being happy alone. u dont need anyone to attract you because youll die alone either way, but ure not alone cus u got urself
The way u explain things just make everything so much easier , thankyou for this vid and not gatekeeping!!
what if I want to fart?
Lmao 🤣
rip it as loud as u can broski😭
Tell em before u do that or ur just slip it silently or u can fart in diff room if u want
Then fart as much loud as you can.
Let it rip
Hey man you give actual good advice. All the other guides never end up teaching anything but yours are always a great help. Keep up the good work! Just subbed.
hi ! just wanted to say i loved your video (the explication, the drawings and everything) so could you make a video about comfort and/or self confidence ? i do feel comfortable and confident when i'm at home with my family but i feel so uneasy at school, i feel like everyone's talking about me and laughing about me, when i try to talk to people even in class projects they ignore me, yet i still love myself and tho i have flaws i still think i'm a nice person (i was raised and taught extreme politeness) and i just want to have friends (good friends ofc) that i could have fun with. on the worst side i may have social anxiety, school fear or paranoia, but i like to enjoy life and be carefree, so i don't know i would like to understand why people avoid me and why that makes me so much uncomfortable... so if you need an idea for a video 😊
Confidence is really the most important thing, and it's not even about being cocky and full of yourself, it's that quiet, calm kind of confidence. I just read 'Charmflow Secrets' and it's crazy how much assertiveness changes how people respond to you. While reading the book I also learned that seduction doesn't have to be manipulative and deceitful, as long as the seducer makes their intentions clear. It is really a knowledge that stays with you forever.
Bro i swear u r a gift from the God. Keep up the great work. Ngl im gonna donate the first piece of money i'm gonna earn when i get a job. Ur the goat🐐
Appreciate the support, brother. Glad I can help!
I was wondering why people suddenly became drawn to me, turns out when I started feeling confident I started doing all of this subconsciously.
Really beautiful video. for those who need to improve their self, i really like this video really tell us how to be a guy in any group. Thank you for making
Thanks for making this series, it's very helpful and I like the fact that you say different things and not the same old phrases like "smile" or "make eye contact" etc. Tsm :)
Glad you enjoy it!
chat she called me "bro" am I cooked?💀
No
There is still hope
Means she a homie, homies always let you hit, if they don’t, they ain’t real homies
No broo
Well it mean she's comfortable with you. It depends on the type of person they are
Incest is illegal bro
Half a million people watched this bro I'm so concerned
This really works,I tried it once and I have 4 new friends 😂 7:44
This video wasn't a waste of time at all worth it thanks brother you got a new subscriber
The key points of the video:
Listen, be comfortable
Think good about someone to share that comfortable feeling, Giving is powerful, but dont impose it, accept, be honest and understanding.
Be confident in yourself, have a strong personality.
read the book how to be a leader or something like how to be a leader that people want to actually follow its like he's talking that book
This guy is spitting facts I just subscribed even though this is the first time am watching his video. I like originality
I need this because I just exist and people don't like me and I never knew why
Do you know it after this video?
If you only knew how bad things really are. It's not your fault though.
It's true that being a good listener works a lot and the video is legit.I am using it for a year now
This video is amazing man🔥
I already have these stuff, but I'm watching because why not 😂😂
U earned yourself a subscription with that one 👍
finally a guide where it's actually about being a nice person
this video can help to form a great personality, crazy video
Appreciate you!
sometimes i accidentally do this like all of these
it's pretty scary sometimes because i can just be looking at the clouds and people just walk up to me smiling and very clearly start a conversation
but it has made me some friends so im not complaining
this video is for autistic people who dont understand how to interact socailly.
so very helpful for me
Wrong. Social skills is for everyone.
Yes, it helped to multiply our social skills' value (0 x 10% = 0)
@@m3c4nyku43 nah mate you multiplied by 10% 💀 even though it's *0 so it doesn't change anything but you basically multiplied by 0.1 so this video worsened your social skills
What if people around you doesn't like the action of yourself being "comfortable"?
I was wondering how so many people remember me so I clicked here
I'm from Nigeria 🇳🇬
I love your videos
hey
@@malgwisavage6808 hey
I have an OUTSTANDING video idea for you, here it is. Make a video where you give us an example of you encountering a girl and having a conversation with her while teaching us what techniques and tricks you've applied. It's the ultimate example and will keep learned hooked and attached while learning in the best way possible.
U cant ask the teacher to appear in exam (also coaches don't generally play)
tbh that's a great idea
as a people pleaser person, I think applying the power make take some time for me...
Ur video is very useful for who is introvert, like me.tnx
Glad it could help, brother!
hey
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