I started teaching yoga and whenever I tell people to have gratitude for their bodies I choke up a little. It has made me start to realize the ways I’m not compassionate to my own body. How we treat ourselves does change the way we move in the world. The attunement from love and kindness inside and out is real!
Hi. Your video just popped up in my recommended and I have some thoughts. Firstly, I cannot overstress the importance of having good self-esteem. Having a positive view of ourselves is critical for every area of our lives. Our relationships, our productivity - all of it - relies on us having a good view of ourselves. Otherwise we will fall prey to the selfishness of others who have bad intentions or our own self sabotage. We also have a relationship with ourselves 24/7 every moment of every day - until we die. So it is very important that we get along with ourselves. We cannot escape from ourselves although we can try with addictive behaviours such as excessive spending, gambling, sex, drugs, alcohol, eating disorders - you name it? I've tried it. It doesn't work and it just leaves you feeling more ashamed. And what underpins addictive behaviours? Shame and a need for escape. That critical voice in our heads? The one we think is our own? It came from other people being critical and cruel towards us which we then internalised and made part of ourselves. But it's a lie and it's bullshit. I've been bullied, used and abused my whole life and abandoned. Then I abandoned myself when I chose to engage in certain behaviours. It wasn't a conscious choice but it was still a choice. And it is not a choice I will be making again. Now I choose to view my strengths and weaknesses in a more balanced way. There's a difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is "I did something wrong and I want to make it right." Shame is "I am wrong and I can do no right." Do you see how one mindset can lead to personal growth while the other leads to a hopeless struggle with oneself? I have adopted a growth mindset meaning I can improve things, if I want, and accept what I cannot change. So finally? Don't allow the hate from others to shackle you to the past. Nothing annoys your enemies more than them seeing us do well. Realise the self-hatred came from outside, choose not to believe it, and develop a healthy level of narcissism. By that I mean if someone is over stepping onto our boundaries? It's perfectly ok for us to say "You're stepping on my toes, asshole, now fuck off!"
thanks for so much for all your reflection and insight! I really like how you worded what you said about guilt vs shame. I'm glad it sounds like you are getting to have a much better relationship with yourself!
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I started teaching yoga and whenever I tell people to have gratitude for their bodies I choke up a little. It has made me start to realize the ways I’m not compassionate to my own body. How we treat ourselves does change the way we move in the world. The attunement from love and kindness inside and out is real!
Thanks so much for sharing this!
Hi. Your video just popped up in my recommended and I have some thoughts.
Firstly, I cannot overstress the importance of having good self-esteem. Having a positive view of ourselves is critical for every area of our lives. Our relationships, our productivity - all of it - relies on us having a good view of ourselves. Otherwise we will fall prey to the selfishness of others who have bad intentions or our own self sabotage. We also have a relationship with ourselves 24/7 every moment of every day - until we die. So it is very important that we get along with ourselves.
We cannot escape from ourselves although we can try with addictive behaviours such as excessive spending, gambling, sex, drugs, alcohol, eating disorders - you name it? I've tried it. It doesn't work and it just leaves you feeling more ashamed. And what underpins addictive behaviours? Shame and a need for escape.
That critical voice in our heads? The one we think is our own? It came from other people being critical and cruel towards us which we then internalised and made part of ourselves. But it's a lie and it's bullshit. I've been bullied, used and abused my whole life and abandoned. Then I abandoned myself when I chose to engage in certain behaviours. It wasn't a conscious choice but it was still a choice. And it is not a choice I will be making again.
Now I choose to view my strengths and weaknesses in a more balanced way. There's a difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is "I did something wrong and I want to make it right." Shame is "I am wrong and I can do no right." Do you see how one mindset can lead to personal growth while the other leads to a hopeless struggle with oneself? I have adopted a growth mindset meaning I can improve things, if I want, and accept what I cannot change.
So finally? Don't allow the hate from others to shackle you to the past. Nothing annoys your enemies more than them seeing us do well. Realise the self-hatred came from outside, choose not to believe it, and develop a healthy level of narcissism. By that I mean if someone is over stepping onto our boundaries? It's perfectly ok for us to say "You're stepping on my toes, asshole, now fuck off!"
thanks for so much for all your reflection and insight!
I really like how you worded what you said about guilt vs shame.
I'm glad it sounds like you are getting to have a much better relationship with yourself!
good video! happy you made it. also your channel is cool :)
thank you so much for the kind works :)
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thanks for the feedback! I will keep that in mind for future videos