Dating Ethiopians & Eritreans | Advice | Key Dating Tips! የፍቅር ጓደኝነት ምክሮች

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 25 січ 2025

КОМЕНТАРІ • 631

  • @Dusterbugless
    @Dusterbugless 3 роки тому +40

    I got me one. She’s not going nowhere. She got me for life

  • @kingnarhmusic
    @kingnarhmusic 2 роки тому +5

    Wow.. this has been super insightful!! It's the similarities between Ghana and Ethiopia for some of the things lol.. awesome video

  • @erikmurray3661
    @erikmurray3661 2 роки тому +37

    I've been binge watching Ethiopian traditional dance today and Yo I'm just awestruck by the shoulder popping,and how everyone is having a good time smiling nobody fighting or jealous like over here in The US . Just gorgeous people.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому +5

      haha @shoulder popping. Before the Harlem shake, we did the up and down shimmy. I'm glad you are enjoying watching various cultural videos. You should go over there one day.

    • @BuddhaNature
      @BuddhaNature 2 роки тому +2

      @@LilaTalks Lol two different dances

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +3

      Thank you!!! When the Harlem shake came out in the 1990s I was like oh it kind of looks like our traditional dance with a twist.

    • @hhh1200
      @hhh1200 Рік тому +2

      @@LilaTalks passport bros aren't looking for wives. this is not going to age well inviting them to your cities/countries.

    • @markellwilliamswhite3715
      @markellwilliamswhite3715 7 місяців тому

      ​​​@@LilaTalks love your videos sister keep it up just traced my dad's family back to the harar and deder region we are Oromo and Wolaytta descent and my mom's side is Nigeria igbo and Cameroonian descent and from Spain always was told on my dad side we was from ethiopia but being americanized since the early beginning of the 1900s to the 1990s i didnt believe them or our stories until 4 to 6 months ago when i did four dna test from different companies that all confirmed this since I'm like the Tiffany Haddish version of a Americanized Ethiopian Oromo 😂 since me and my dad's family and his parents all look very similar to her we dont have the typical accepted common look most expect so i never would claim it until watching your videos on the language there which fascinates me the most and the traditions and dances i use to try so hard dance and became a dancer in my younger years as a high schooler actually had a dance crew in and out of school i hope you can make videos on diverse topics and more on the culture and dances too and regions this is great stuff already ❤ and we traced a relative born in Ethiopia born there in 1881 so from that time to tye 1900s to 1990s majority of our family came to the Americas and settled here we still too have alot of them mainly in Ethiopia in the Oromo regions and in the Central and East.

  • @Foulon0215
    @Foulon0215 Рік тому +19

    Everyone thinks I’m Ethiopian, even Ethiopians! LOL. I LOVE IT! As a result I started to explore Ethiopian culture; the food and music. I’m actually from the Caribbean but I’m really flattered to be confused for Ethiopian.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +4

      haha, that's great it got you interested in the culture. It's complex and beautiful

  • @omaralo4957
    @omaralo4957 4 роки тому +60

    As a Somali I like Ethiopians Eritreans Culture and they have beautiful woman

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +13

      Thank you! I think there are a lot of similarities between our cultures.

    • @yo-ma7701
      @yo-ma7701 3 роки тому +8

      well, our people were considered one at one point but religion divided us.

    • @swarthysoul
      @swarthysoul 3 роки тому +1

      Somalian women are peng too

    • @isaiahkenny3544
      @isaiahkenny3544 2 роки тому +4

      That's because your Ethiopian originally before you and Eritreans sold out and sided with the Italians

    • @skengman6258
      @skengman6258 2 роки тому +7

      @@isaiahkenny3544 no we’re not 😂

  • @mr.ifeoluwa4591
    @mr.ifeoluwa4591 3 роки тому +11

    Thanks for information I'm currently dating an Ethiopian woman....sidenote, the decor in the background is very nice!

  • @realistic07
    @realistic07 4 роки тому +28

    Great video! I've been to Ethiopia three different times and I love the people, food and culture

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      Thank you! Thanks for watching.

  • @fer18tes
    @fer18tes 3 роки тому +11

    Wauw I haven't met many Habeshan people who are half ethiopian and half eritrean 🇪🇹🇪🇷but that's a good thing for now since we're no longer at war but that also was an very informative interview about both our culture

    • @bobbyschannel349
      @bobbyschannel349 3 роки тому +4

      I met a lot of them. Ethiopian/eritrean.

    • @EmeralDiamonds
      @EmeralDiamonds 2 роки тому +1

      There are plenty

    • @isaiahkenny3544
      @isaiahkenny3544 2 роки тому +4

      Man ya'll all Ethiopian at the end of the day

    • @justdoit5260
      @justdoit5260 2 роки тому +2

      @@isaiahkenny3544 keep dreaming....read the real history of eritrea!then talk about it.

    • @Chatelaine0
      @Chatelaine0 9 місяців тому

      @@isaiahkenny3544 Could you stop spamming and commenting everywhere with your false information. We are distinctly different despite having an umbrella regional way of customs. Eritrea was always an independent Kingdom and Axum was mainly Eritrean+Tigray/Afar...not the entire of Ethiopia! So get a grip of yourself and read a bit more.

  • @DaCleva1
    @DaCleva1 11 місяців тому +5

    I find it interesting how this video cam across my feed knowing how much I find Ethiopian and Eritrean women beautiful.What is the universe trying to say to me?🤔😂🤣

  • @fantastic1231
    @fantastic1231 5 місяців тому +2

    Wonderful our beautiful 😍 sister !! Thank you for explaining our beloved ancient Ethiopia 🇪🇹 and Eritrea 🇪🇷 in such a great way!!! Greetings from your Ethiopian brother from Minnesota!

  • @SuitedforGaming
    @SuitedforGaming 2 роки тому +7

    few things bring me more joy than winning that fight to pay the bill. Especially when its family at the table. Undisputed champ.

  • @IbrahimElKing9
    @IbrahimElKing9 Рік тому +11

    I can't lie. Ethiopan girls are the baddest , and i'm not being biased just because i'm habesha 😊

    • @aswler
      @aswler 2 місяці тому

      why, how

    • @IbrahimElKing9
      @IbrahimElKing9 2 місяці тому

      @@aswler What do u mean just look at them

    • @hadismis6573
      @hadismis6573 11 днів тому

      እነዚህ ጥቁሮች ሀበሻ ላይ ትኩረት ያደረጉበት ምክንያት ገብቶሀል? ... እኛን መሆን ስለሚፈልጉ ነው ። እኛን መሆን ብቻ ሳይሆን ደማቸውን ከኛ ጋር መቀላቀል ነው የሚፈልጉት ። ያንን ለማድረግ ደሞ የተለያዩ ቪድዮዎች በመስራት ጠጋ ጠጋ ብለው ህብረተሰቡን ለማማለል እና ስነልቦናውን ለማሸነፍ ይሞክራሉ። ከምንም ነገር በላይ የሚፈልጉት ድሞ ሴቶቻችንን ነው ። እነዚህ በመልካቸው ራሳቸውን የጠሉ ለማንስ ይበጃሉ? በመልካችን እና በከለራችን ወደውንስ ምንስ ይጠቅሙናል

  • @clemonscg
    @clemonscg 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you for the information. I live around Ethiopians and some Eritreans and I had wondered why they would be shy except for the elders than when I had traveled to the countries to see the culture. Some things I had knew already but several things that you mentioned, I didn't know. As for dating, I never tried to talk to them to date, but I am more focusing on who they are as a person and I had enjoyed the warmth and loving experience in their countries. Thank you once again. I am looking forward to seeing your other video

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      Thank you for taking the time write this comment. I'm glad to hear you found the video helpful to learn about our culture. People can take this video as a "dating" video or simply a 101 Habesha culture video, Great for when you travel there too. Good point! Thank you.

  • @mastermorris6606
    @mastermorris6606 3 роки тому +13

    Hello. Love the Ethiopian food and culture. It felt familiar to me. People say I look Ethiopian. Always wanted to date an Ethiopian woman, but they seem so distant. I have started to interact with the culture again. Love your video. I am in Atlanta.

  • @MegaBladerunner007
    @MegaBladerunner007 2 роки тому +11

    This is a valuable niche for you to cover as there are many Ethiopians and Eritreans in the DMV where I reside. I get the impression they do not like to mix/date others. Maybe I will learn otherwise by watching your videos. Also, the fact that western customs are influencing the culture is disappointing. I think the seasoned traditions and customs maintained thus far in Ethiopia and Eritrea have contributed to the longevity of the strong family structures.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +1

      Yes, there are a lot of Ethiopians and Eritreans in the DMV area. This is where I reside as well, which prompted me to make these dating videos to due so many inquiries on the topic. Just like any community (even within America), people tend to be more familiar with those from their own community (speaking the same language, customs, etc).

    • @Chatelaine0
      @Chatelaine0 9 місяців тому +4

      We have no hatred or hostility. We just prefer to stick to our own men bec. we know exactly what principles and values they were raised with so there is no time being wasted to date and establish trust and what not. Our women are not cut to be stuck in long-winded aiming no-where relationships. Sorry if that sounds harsh. Also, many Habesha men are groomed to value family and their families have probably put some savings away for the long awaited day when they will get married to a good and virtuous woman they can entrust to carry forward their bloodline. We take this all seriously and cannot waste it on relationships that are not founded up on firm footings. I hope I don't sound harsh.. we are super friendly and welcoming but the three things we don't mess with are God, our families, and our properties.

    • @MegaBladerunner007
      @MegaBladerunner007 9 місяців тому +1

      @@Chatelaine0 With all due respect, I don't think hatred or hostility is an issue. I would not expect that from a people purporting to be Christian. But then again Christians do have a history of committing nefarious deeds despite what their bible tells them to do. We can study the Christain Crusades as an example of this.
      What the issue seems to be, from an outside observer, is a perceived feeling of superiority to anyone who is not Ethiopian or Eritrean. This manifest itself as "your good but not as good as me." That can be problematic because good people with good traditions and family values, capable of love and compassion can be found all over the world regardless of their nation of origin. The important thing to note is that these qualities come from within a person and while they can be the result of a bloodline or ethnicity, this is not always or every time the case.
      Perhaps if more Ethiopians and their neighbors tried being open minded, discerning of character and accepting of other cultures as not less than but just different, this perception would not persist.

  • @EliteJamaican
    @EliteJamaican 2 роки тому +3

    You’ve been very clear and decisive love your editing the video and it was very funny I enjoyed it 🇯🇲

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much! I really appreciate your comment. It's not easy to edit videos, so I'm really glad you enjoyed this video.

  • @satprepegyptcairo8000
    @satprepegyptcairo8000 26 днів тому

    Every facet of this video was beautiful and professional! You've made me want to visit Addis Ababa now. I wish you every success!

  • @jojom6657
    @jojom6657 11 місяців тому +2

    When you say Christian you mean Orthodox? Do you guys also go by a different calendar than the West?

    • @hawialmaw7367
      @hawialmaw7367 16 днів тому

      Yes, the orthodox tewhado Church follows its own calendar

  • @leexandradelarama7487
    @leexandradelarama7487 Рік тому +1

    I’m here because I’m currently dating an ethiopian who’s from Sweden 💓 Thank you for this tips Lila ❤

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +1

      My pleasure! Thanks for tuning in. I wish you the best.

  • @herrututt1396
    @herrututt1396 2 роки тому +11

    I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT UR TALKING ABOUT IM AMERICAN AND JUST MARRIED MY ETHIOPIAN GF NOW MY WIFE AND EVERYTHING U R SAYING IS 100% CORRECT

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому +3

      She lost, bad habesha.

    • @herrututt1396
      @herrututt1396 2 роки тому +5

      @@howtotieatie5845 I WON GOOD BLACK AMERICAN ✊🏾💪🏿🐅🔥⛓️

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому

      @@herrututt1396 It's a win for you, because you hate yourself but she has vanished without a trace. Nothing strong about you, you might have strong body but you are very known by killing each other.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +1

      Congratulations! and thank you for validating my points! I appreciate you letting me know.

  • @TheJacob5676
    @TheJacob5676 2 роки тому +3

    Thanks for the info, I'm recently single and live in the dmv. I've always admire the ethiopian people. They are generally are the nicest people.

  • @towardtheosis
    @towardtheosis 4 роки тому +20

    This is incredibly useful intel! I have been smitten by Ethiopian women since I worked alongside a habesha gal a few years ago. Her spirit was so very warm and inviting, and, in meeting other Ethiopian woman since, I've learned that this is a pretty common quality among the culture! I'm also Eastern Orthodox by faith, so meeting a gal who is Ethiopian Orthodox would be a tremendous benefit.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +2

      I'm so happy to hear you found the video helpful and thanks for sharing your experience! I do think we are very hospitable and warm people :) As I mention, religion is really important to most Ethiopians and Eritreans, so the fact that you are Eastern Orthodox helps to have something similar with that person. Thanks for watching and commenting.

  • @Wiolek95
    @Wiolek95 5 місяців тому

    Great and very informative video! I am astonished with the amount of things that are just like in Poland (huge amounts of food, hospitality, asking many questions, showing respect to the elders and not showing too much affection around the family) that's really heartwarming to watch.

  • @kevinjenkins2108
    @kevinjenkins2108 2 роки тому +2

    Great Video. I married a Kashmiri woman 30+ years ago and everything you shared applies.

  • @BlueFlame_l.o.g
    @BlueFlame_l.o.g 2 роки тому +2

    I love the way you break it down and explain everything. This is very interesting. Great insight, Thank You

  • @SalaryNathan7
    @SalaryNathan7 2 роки тому +10

    I am considering dating a Ethiopian woman because I am wanting to meet become friends with and hopefully marry a woman from a different culture because I have a vision for the family that I want to start and I’m not fond of what I find in American culture as far as the mindset of relationships and family. So thank you very much this video was very helpful I will subscribe for more contact

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому +8

      We don't need a contamination, go away

    • @johndough5365
      @johndough5365 2 роки тому

      Very telling how you are running away from disgraceful black African american culture and trying to cleanse your family tree while habesha women run towards it. It shows our sisters in the West are lost. Very sad state of affairs.

    • @yesthisisyoursign
      @yesthisisyoursign Рік тому

      @@howtotieatie5845 😭😭😂

  • @JayRocko
    @JayRocko Рік тому +6

    I so love Ethiopians women - one day my dreams may come true to date; and maybe one day marry a Ethiopian woman-- I am Dominican and Nigerian

    • @robertepps2834
      @robertepps2834 Рік тому +7

      Why don't you marry a Nigerian sister? They are just as Beautiful.

    • @JayRocko
      @JayRocko Рік тому +1

      @@robertepps2834: lol.. they are on my list as well

  • @youngsavagefury7138
    @youngsavagefury7138 4 роки тому +12

    Ethiopian have beautiful hair and they aren't very shallow as people think. I see young Ethiopians dating older men. That was a shock to me

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      Interesting. Are they older Ethiopian men or American men?

    • @youngsavagefury7138
      @youngsavagefury7138 4 роки тому

      @@LilaTalks American

    • @hervekalundu2978
      @hervekalundu2978 3 роки тому +4

      I don't think it's being shallow, it's a mating strategy

    • @zizodbest
      @zizodbest Рік тому

      And what's wrong with dating am older man.? Don't push your culture on to others. It's normal in most cultures around the world.

  • @marcoblack4874
    @marcoblack4874 2 роки тому +3

    Hey I just recently watched your video it was great and informative! I'm in the Washington DC area and wondering where the best place to meet a Ethiopian/Eritrean women would be?

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому +2

      Welcome to the area! You can meet Ethiopians and Eritreans all over the DMV area, especially in the Silver Spring Downtown, Maryland area.

    • @marcoblack4874
      @marcoblack4874 2 роки тому +1

      @@LilaTalks Ok thank you !! That is a big help. I'm not to far from the Silver spring area. Any restaurants or hang outs that are hot spots?

    • @dawitjenbere9329
      @dawitjenbere9329 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@LilaTalksyou are doing prostustus business women very shame on you, I think you don't have good family you are narssistic centre of attation

  • @Haileambesa
    @Haileambesa Рік тому +1

    Nice video, but please make one to the diaspora who wants to date girl in Ethiopia. I am dealing that are some cultural perspectives very different but I don't understand 😅 thanks

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Oh wow, what seems to be the problem. I think this video explains some of the main differences between Western cultures vs. Habesha culture.

  • @uchennanwosu4625
    @uchennanwosu4625 Рік тому +5

    Bravo! Ethiopian culture is very similar to my Igbo culture from Nigeria. Family is central. Dating is practiced, but it is foreign. Usually, it's courtship then marriage. There is protocol for marriage that involves family. The only challenge I would have marrying an Ethiopian is language. I would have to learn the language, and I would highly recommend the woman learn Igbo. Very interestingly, my father's mother's family looks Ethiopian. I never really inquired to know their history.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I find some cultural similarities with Nigerian culture (strong pride and identity, family expectations, etc..)

    • @mikelary6071
      @mikelary6071 11 місяців тому +2

      Hey lila, do you really understand what these kinds of videos will do to the habesha culture? Your creating a slipery slope, your essentially inviting other cultures to break us apart. Why would you?

  • @ouangadougou
    @ouangadougou 3 роки тому +5

    Pretty good video but I thought that you left out a very big part of dating advice when getting to know a Habesha woman.. what about trying to learn a bit of the language? I think that is a very key piece of dating advice that you left out. Nothing speaks greater love for a woman's culture then at least learning a few words. Communication breaks all international romance barriers.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  3 роки тому +1

      You are absolutely right! I don't speak my parent's native tongue so that's probably why I missed that very important point. Thank you!

  • @MrBphinson1977
    @MrBphinson1977 6 місяців тому +17

    To all the fellas out there in hot pursuit of a lovely Habesha. This is what I did to win major respect and bonus points with my significant other and her family. I took African Studies as a minor at university. I wrote my capstone seminar research paper on Abyssinian history. I visited Ethiopia in person as a tourist. I watch Tigrayan news. I'm actively learning the language (Amharic and Tigrayan). I eat the traditional food as much as possible. I volunteer for and support initiatives of the Tigray Region. I learned every aspect of the culture that I can, each and every day. Total cultural immersion. I learned the history, the geopolitics, the politics, the culture, etc. Every possible thing that you can learn, then learn it. This has worked very well for me and I gained major credibility with my Habesha and her family. Best of luck! ☺️

    • @hove785
      @hove785 5 місяців тому

      bravo! I respect that :)

    • @Tony_Anthemz
      @Tony_Anthemz 5 місяців тому +1

      I appreciate that.... I'm planning my first trip to Ethiopia this December for 2 weeks...

    • @Wiolek95
      @Wiolek95 5 місяців тому

      I would add two things to that:
      1. Apart from eating traditional food it's good also to be able to cook it, my Habesha man is over the moon when I prepare his cultural dishes for him!
      2. Try finding similarities in your cultures. From my experience it's great to cherish what we share in common (I never would have though that Slavic culture here in Eastern Europe is sooo much alike the values of Ethiopian culture and that the perception of family and life are that similar) so it's always nice to celebrate these similarities together because it creates a sense of safety and unity.

    • @alazarmt
      @alazarmt 5 місяців тому +1

      You're dumb to go through all that for any type of female.

    • @PapiYoppia
      @PapiYoppia 4 місяці тому +1

      Bro had to grind a lot 😂😂😂

  • @WA-fc9gc
    @WA-fc9gc Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the great video. I can easily share it with those who are interested in learning my culture. I am a habesha from 🇨🇦

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Okay, nice! I hope it helps people understand our culture from my perspective, American born.

  • @leslysaint-louis4405
    @leslysaint-louis4405 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing. Ethiopians women are
    very pretty and conservative but they are very difficult to catch.

  • @douglasedwards4697
    @douglasedwards4697 2 роки тому +4

    Hello lila, thanks you for the video, I live in the DMV area and th Ethiopian community is very strong here. I know how to approach an Ethiopan woman that may catch my attention, thanks again for the information 🙂

  • @simhaogunanibesa9759
    @simhaogunanibesa9759 2 роки тому +2

    Great perspective 👏🏽 Thanks ✊🏾

  • @pauljones8289
    @pauljones8289 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so so much very informative. I’m 58 black American divorced man looking to meet a Ethiopian woman

  • @Zakariah1971
    @Zakariah1971 11 місяців тому +6

    Ethiopia produces the most beautiful black people on the planet. Even the men are gorgeous. Eritria is a close second. Passport time. 😍

    • @Jafar.Jamal-175
      @Jafar.Jamal-175 5 місяців тому

      There is no difference between them but a bit of history

    • @Zakariah1971
      @Zakariah1971 5 місяців тому

      The difference is Ethiopians r smokin hot. Great bitter diet too! Masha (Tribe of Benjamin) took an Ethiopian to wife while a fugitive for murder from Pharaoh even though she was a Hamite. 😍

    • @dawitjenbere9329
      @dawitjenbere9329 4 місяці тому +1

      We are not black

    • @sub4mc1r
      @sub4mc1r 4 місяці тому +1

      We are not black

    • @hawialmaw7367
      @hawialmaw7367 16 днів тому

      ​@@dawitjenbere9329 What😂 we are black

  • @demarcomendes
    @demarcomendes 2 роки тому +2

    Such an amazing video, and so accurate.

  • @lornedurham6690
    @lornedurham6690 Рік тому

    Thank you for your input. Much better information from you than coming from a man. I dated an Ethiopian woman once but didn't understand the culture very well. Looking to try again. I love their culture and values. Thanks

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Thanks for your positive feedback and sharing your dating experience with Ethiopian women.

  • @vincentjones1165
    @vincentjones1165 3 роки тому +12

    What’s up Lila I’m African American and just recently subscribed to your channel. Love the energy and enthusiasm you bring. I would love 💕 to Date a Habesha woman and want a video to go more detail on how to approach and what are the do’s & don’ts or is it like dating a typical woman because our cultures are different..holla back

    • @bobbyschannel349
      @bobbyschannel349 3 роки тому +14

      Of course you do. Because African-American men have a need to date non African American women and get upset at the other women who have no interest in them.

    • @queenthia2734
      @queenthia2734 2 роки тому +11

      @@bobbyschannel349 So true. You hit the nail on the head with that comment.

    • @consciousawakening4799
      @consciousawakening4799 2 роки тому

      African American men are the only men of any culture shamed for exercising there agency and choosing to date women of other cultures. Goes to show how AA men’s free will is never considered and they simply must be beholden to a culture that as of today is not the most advantageous when it comes to marrying and long term relationships.

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому

      African American self haters, We don't want you to contaminate us in Habesha community. Go to your African American women.

    • @yesthisisyoursign
      @yesthisisyoursign Рік тому +9

      @@bobbyschannel349 ikr us Eritrean and Ethiopian women don’t want men that hate their own women 💀

  • @vernonrobinson1685
    @vernonrobinson1685 3 роки тому +5

    This sounds like you need wholesome values.
    I plan on visiting Lalilbela hopefully in 2023

  • @BodyStudios
    @BodyStudios 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm in Rwanda how can I get connected to a Ethiopian girl that I can marry immediately?

  • @denises233
    @denises233 2 роки тому +7

    Do the men love hard. I’m currently get to know a men of that culture. He soooo nice and affectionate. We agree to take it slow but sometimes it seems like we attract each other real hard

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому +5

      That's awesome! It sounds like you have a good one on your hands because typically they are very nice, but not generally affectionate. But regardless of cultural norms/stereotypes, people are people so I'm glad you met someone that makes you feel special 😀

  • @timhoward5
    @timhoward5 4 роки тому +12

    *I came in contact with a lot of Ethiopians. They are my favorites. I prefer a non-Americanized Ethiopian.*

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +1

      Oh interesting, and why do you prefer non-Americanized Ethiopians?

    • @timhoward5
      @timhoward5 4 роки тому +14

      @@LilaTalks One, I do NOT like the western culture, morals, laws, and logic. Two, I like Easternize culture---they are the orginals and they got it right! Western culture or individualism, hypocritical, and matriarchy. They lack morals, values, standards, respect, and understanding. Their priorities are not in order. Eastern culture, especially East Africa, gets it. I'm not saying that they are perfect but their priorities are in order. Eastern culture are family oriented and people are first. They have family oriented. They have morals, values, standars, respect, they are patriarchy. The have self-respect

    • @julianfelix7164
      @julianfelix7164 4 роки тому +2

      Patronizing

    • @misslady5263
      @misslady5263 3 роки тому +3

      @timhoward5 admiration is fine and dandy, question is do YOU practice this ways of life yourself…or do you just want someone raised in traditional culture that you’ll just eventually act western around anyways?

    • @timhoward5
      @timhoward5 3 роки тому +3

      @@misslady5263 I am that way which is why prefer them.

  • @ZetaZintendo
    @ZetaZintendo Рік тому +1

    I'm from Texas and what Lila is say reminds me of how I was groomed to be respectful and give southern hospitality. Being polite and cordial. Thank you sister for helping me understand more of the culture 👍

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for watching and your input. I personally tend to date American men from the South, but live in big cities probably for the same points you mentioned 👆🏽. I find southern men to be family oriented, respectful and warm.

  • @ervinalexander1734
    @ervinalexander1734 Рік тому +1

    Great video I do plan to visit Ethiopia this year

  • @jojom6657
    @jojom6657 11 місяців тому +1

    We do not meet boyfriends/girlfriends in our culture and we kiss 3 times as well and we are mostly orthodox as well. We also financial support our family back home. Elders are taken care off till the end. My mom spens 6 month with us in the U.S, every year. My culture is very pushy when it comes to food, hahaha. 80% of our culture appears to be the same. Fascinating! I'm from Macedonia. Macedonia men feel offended if you as the women he took out pays.

  • @mika274
    @mika274 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for this information. Not American or African but i am fascinated by the horn of Africa, given that i came on contact with these people recently.
    Really warm, friendly and quickly accepting once there is some level of cultural compatibility.

  • @hime800
    @hime800 18 днів тому

    I didn’t hear you tell them to bring something when visiting family. Did I miss that?

  • @roolyfe
    @roolyfe 2 роки тому +11

    As a Kenya 🇰🇪 I would like to date an Ethiopia 🇪🇹 woman. My roommate back in college says have deep pockets

    • @Axiom61
      @Axiom61 2 місяці тому

      Your college roommate lied to you. As an Ethiopian woman if you have money and don't have love, respect, immerse in the culture I wouldn't be interested !

    • @roolyfe
      @roolyfe 2 місяці тому

      @ let me see your fave troll 🧌! I’m married

    • @Axiom61
      @Axiom61 2 місяці тому

      @@roolyfe what you does being married have got anything to do with this lol. have a blessed union

  • @shewitghirma5589
    @shewitghirma5589 3 роки тому +50

    Habesha people should stick together and improve our lives together.

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому +14

      YES, WE HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER AND WE DON'T NEED TO MARRY OUT OF OUR RACE ASWELL.

    • @anthonyloveanthonylove2159
      @anthonyloveanthonylove2159 2 роки тому

      I know this western girl claimed to be half Eritrea half Ethiopia is promoting and inviting outsiders to come for sex tourism

    • @kennykross3306
      @kennykross3306 2 роки тому

      ​@@howtotieatie5845 but u always marry white men and arab men ,hypocritical habesha man.

    • @gulledahmed2954
      @gulledahmed2954 2 роки тому

      @@howtotieatie5845 sure

    • @ctpc24
      @ctpc24 Рік тому +12

      Why not? we all African I want a habesha

  • @willdrob80
    @willdrob80 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m hypnotized by Ethiopian women!😍 Addis Ababa is on my shortlist of places to visit.😎👍🏾💯

  • @drewalhanifa4452
    @drewalhanifa4452 Рік тому +1

    Great info. Very informative.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      I’m glad you found the video helpful.

  • @louisnd4154
    @louisnd4154 Рік тому

    I loved the video. Just a concern that I love parents to come visit but what if the Mother inlaw is not the good type. 😢. This is very tricky. I better find out more about her parents during dating before marriage.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Thank you and yes, it’s really important to get a sense what type of family you are potentially marrying into and these goes for any culture. Are they open minded? Accepted? Liberal vs. Conservative? etc.

  • @CreightonMichael
    @CreightonMichael 2 роки тому +1

    Hmmm. Helpful 😊 but seems more focused on the culture introduction part of things 😏

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому

      Thanks for watching and you are right. This is more of a cultural 101 video that provides an introductory view of the dating customs and behaviors.

  • @sethrocket1523
    @sethrocket1523 Рік тому +4

    Also, another disclaimer... not all Americans only see their immediate family as family. The Afro-American community does have extended family.... including friends we grew up with. We consider them family. Even though not all of our communities are like that, many of us are.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому +3

      Thanks for your comment. I agree with you to a degree. I think there are some sub-set communities within America (particularly the black community or folks from the south) that I've observed have a more extensive extended family. But if I am generalizing, most Americans, tend to keep things pretty tight within the immediate family. For example, an Ethiopian or Eritrean wedding may have 800 people and that is somewhat normal. It isn't about having money, it's about the close family and friend connections.

  • @AD-mw6ne
    @AD-mw6ne Рік тому

    hey, can you do some videos on values systems, upbringing of children, how Ethiopians and Arik trans feel about other countries in Africa? thanks

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Wow that’s a very interesting topic. I have a video about my personal Black experience and my upbringing as an Ethiopian Eritrean America. But as for speaking on African trans, I feel I wouldn’t be able to adequately talk on that subject. I’ll just say that most African countries are very strict and religious when it comes to individuals sexuality and identified gender. Just like anywhere, but especially in Africa, people’s lives would be endangered if they express their identity in a certain way.

  • @paulrozko4815
    @paulrozko4815 2 роки тому +1

    I am from Kansas, USA
    Could I fly out to Ethiopia and meet a girl to marry? How difficult would that be ?

  • @NOCDIB
    @NOCDIB 3 роки тому +5

    I'm American but I live in Sweden now and I must say that in the US I only saw women from the Horn of Africa dating only men from their culture or white men but never African American men. In Sweden, they're actually more curious about Black Americans but they still generally date in the same pattern.

    • @anthonyloveanthonylove2159
      @anthonyloveanthonylove2159 2 роки тому +3

      Do you know what African American mean ? It means Zimbabwe, Ghana, Burkinafasu hell no we want our children to be beautiful

    • @kennykross3306
      @kennykross3306 2 роки тому

      ​@@anthonyloveanthonylove2159 what?

    • @justdoit5260
      @justdoit5260 2 роки тому +2

      @@anthonyloveanthonylove2159 stop mannnnn!how can we say like that?it's individuals choice and you don't seem like eritreans or ethiopians,,,you are trying to put a bad image of your idiocy in those people's brain.

    • @anthonyloveanthonylove2159
      @anthonyloveanthonylove2159 2 роки тому +1

      @@justdoit5260 ok why would a person from another country do that ? You know it deep down we look nothing like the west Africans
      saying West Africans are saying are the same people is like saying Chinese and Indians are the same people.

    • @justdoit5260
      @justdoit5260 2 роки тому +2

      @@anthonyloveanthonylove2159 i got u everybody knows it we look a little bit different from them but we all are black africans.....is it fair to say that let's be honest dear?

  • @bakaiwekolweabdias5300
    @bakaiwekolweabdias5300 Рік тому

    Hey I am a Cameroonian and as I always dream is to get married to a foreign lady. Senegal, Ethiopia, etc
    But if Lila can help me to the right path chosen the best of will be glad.
    Thanks again, merry Christmas and happy new year

  • @AurelioB3rd
    @AurelioB3rd 3 роки тому +3

    What do Ethiopian women think of Mexican-American men?

    • @AurelioB3rd
      @AurelioB3rd 2 роки тому +2

      @አደዳይ ኣባይ ፩፫ Well, thanks for your response. The reason I asked because there is this woman at my church that is Ethiopian that I wanted to get to know. I did approach her but she wasn’t interested. So now I’m interested in Ethiopian women.

    • @kennykross3306
      @kennykross3306 2 роки тому

      ​@@AurelioB3rd Ethiopians generally like black men not a small little bitty mexican.

  • @neilevans8196
    @neilevans8196 2 роки тому +2

    Hello my name is Neil Evans. I am getting married to a beautiful Ethiopian woman. We met online and I am in the process of bringing her and her 2 kids to America

    • @alimo3011
      @alimo3011 Рік тому +1

      Uff not trynna scary u but be extra cautious dude.

  • @michaeltaylor520
    @michaeltaylor520 3 роки тому +6

    Ethiopians are verry friendly toward strangers

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  3 роки тому

      I think so too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • @EmmyTsav
    @EmmyTsav Рік тому

    Nice, makes me wanna connect with Eritrean girl. don't know how & where to find any though.

  • @muhammadal-hashimi2487
    @muhammadal-hashimi2487 5 місяців тому +4

    The term "Habesha" does not mean "burnt skin. " It means a person who is of "mixed origin," specifically, a mixture of ancient Sabean peoples and cultures from what is now Yemen with indigenous peoples in the Highlands of what is now called Ethiopia. The mixture formed the Tigrinya, Tigre, and Amharic speaking people of the northern highlands of Ethiopia. The term "Ethiopia" has a different etymological origin than "Habesha." The term "Ethiopia" comes from the ancient Greek language, and it means "burnt skin." Over time, the Habesha people co-opted the term and started calling themselves Ethiopians. Then, in the middle of the 19th century, the Amhara faction of the Habesha--now Ethiopians--launched an aggressive imperial expansion on non-Habesha, non Ethiopian peoples such as the Oromo people and forced on them an Ethiopian political identity. This imperial expansion was begun by Menelik II, the Amhara king who crowned himself emperor after he forced millions of non-Habesha people into a greatly expanded territory now known as Ethiopia. Most of the peoples in Ethiopia today are non-Habesha nor do they consider themselves Ethiopians! They are only Ethiopians in the political sense because they live in a state called Ethiopia, a political and state identity that was forced on them. This historical reality is at the root of the ethnic tensions in Ethiopia today!.

    • @Axiom61
      @Axiom61 2 місяці тому

      You mentioned what happened worldwide. Going forward is the way that going downward and walking in the past while sacrificing innocent civilians. You miss this part in your paragraph and just so you know I am a Proud Ethiopian with an Oromo background, and I love my Habesha families. At the end of the day genetics win than a term and genetically we are the same for the most part! Stay safe

    • @DestaDemissie-e4v
      @DestaDemissie-e4v 15 днів тому

      People are talking about dating not politics. As politics your explanation come.from slavery and inferior mind

  • @drewalhanifa4452
    @drewalhanifa4452 Рік тому

    Wow. That was great and I did have fun. Peace and Blessings.

  • @aimepacifique6725
    @aimepacifique6725 Місяць тому

    I’m attracted to Ethiopian girls, especially their features, culture and music which is why I’m watching you. But honestly, I believe I can date anyone from anywhere, as long as we connect on a deeper level and share good chemistry. Beauty isn’t everything to me. I appreciate beautiful girls, but if someone has a bad heart, poor character, or is aggressive, that’s a dealbreaker. For me, it’s all about the vibe and the connection we share.

  • @benwilliams7502
    @benwilliams7502 2 роки тому +1

    Awesome video I really learned a lot.

  • @sotokaimon6311
    @sotokaimon6311 2 роки тому +2

    I am in a similar situation I was born in America to west Indian parents. I to know the situation with families. So can you ( the host ) and I date ? 💝

  • @anthonyxoxoable
    @anthonyxoxoable 2 роки тому +2

    Learned alot thanks for sharing ❤️🙏🏿

    • @laohpaul7819
      @laohpaul7819 2 роки тому +1

      I'm from papua new giunea.I play call of duty and I met friend ,I mean she's a girl.And I like her she is talkative and share alot with me,that make me like her so much.

  • @mr.content266
    @mr.content266 2 роки тому +2

    from Africa but not Ethiopia live in Tanzania but the culture quitely similar to alot of the tribes.

  • @maxamedmuxudincade3100
    @maxamedmuxudincade3100 11 місяців тому +1

    Yakanyere haftey bitsahami u helped me alot,

  • @travelinben1966
    @travelinben1966 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for the advice.You are stunning by the way.💘❤

  • @johng5295
    @johng5295 4 місяці тому

    Awesome. Great content.

  • @meckynapoli
    @meckynapoli 12 днів тому

    I am impressed. Thank you!

  • @kasimwaalidjecle223
    @kasimwaalidjecle223 4 місяці тому +1

    By the way she is talking only Habesha people which is AMHARA AND TIGRAY but not whole Ethiopia and Eritre

  • @craigblaylock3913
    @craigblaylock3913 4 роки тому +4

    I love the Ethiopian Habesha culture!!!!! Culture is very important!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I met a Habesha lady and Im planning to marry her. Your video is very helpful!!!!!! Thank you!!!!!!!

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      Wonderful! I'm happy for you. Thank you for appreciating our culture. I wish you the best of luck with your special lady. :)

    • @anthonyloveanthonylove2159
      @anthonyloveanthonylove2159 2 роки тому

      She is using you m8t, only marry the westernised once like the one on this video

  • @isaaceidise1994
    @isaaceidise1994 6 місяців тому

    Cool..but how do they relate to foreigners who's visiting

  • @shallenemcgrath
    @shallenemcgrath Рік тому

    I'm a writer and I found your video very informational. Thank you for posting it.

  • @ajayiolugbenga3595
    @ajayiolugbenga3595 4 місяці тому

    I am a Nigerian, and I love and always dream of dating an Ethiopian beauty. I am planning to visit Ethiopia but I learned they are not too receptive to Nigeria, Please advise me

  • @darrenwalgate8449
    @darrenwalgate8449 Рік тому

    I'm English and looking for an Ethiopian or Eritrean lady ....any ideas where I can look for a lady ?

  • @hardyho
    @hardyho 5 місяців тому

    Very good advice. I met a girl in France whom I thought was the most beautiful creature ever. I don't know if I did something wrong but after a short period of interest in me, she suddenly " had to go". Since I had to return to the States, I lost track of her. I'd love to go back and try to find her, but I don't want to mess it up.

  • @Swaggwitclass
    @Swaggwitclass 3 роки тому +2

    Where can I meet Ethiopian/Eritrean women in Houston?

    • @Bossknowwassup
      @Bossknowwassup 2 роки тому

      Just go to the homeland. The women will be much better there modern day women in America aren’t a guarantee.

    • @howtotieatie5845
      @howtotieatie5845 2 роки тому +1

      @@Bossknowwassup shut up

    • @Sophia-angel
      @Sophia-angel 10 днів тому +1

      @@howtotieatie5845traveling to another country to meet women 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @dignityputnam6641
    @dignityputnam6641 2 роки тому +1

    This was great, thank you!

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  2 роки тому

      Awesome! Thank you so much for letting me know. I really appreciate it!

  • @abdiqanihashi484
    @abdiqanihashi484 7 місяців тому

    Yes!!! Some useful Intel. My future spouse here I come 🤩

  • @nathanmedia5778
    @nathanmedia5778 3 роки тому +2

    Well done. Thank you Lila

  • @Charly300-c3c
    @Charly300-c3c 11 місяців тому

    I think this advice is 98% any African society and traditional approach to marriage ❤
    From Nigeria

  • @KaiWenFranklin
    @KaiWenFranklin 2 роки тому

    Wow very beautiful lady and I would love to visit Ethiopia one day.

  • @jdecayet
    @jdecayet Рік тому

    I'm sold! Where can I meet my significant other Ethiopian or Eritrean?

  • @Traveladdictkny
    @Traveladdictkny 4 місяці тому +1

    What I learned traveling it’s best just to go to a place and enjoy that place for what it is go to Ethiopia enjoy Ethiopia for Ethiopia, and if Luv finds you then it’s meant to be, but don’t force it if you don’t find love at least you got to enjoy a beautiful country😊

  • @273VIPER
    @273VIPER 5 місяців тому

    I met an Ethiopian woman many years ago and she was drop dead gorgeous. WOW!

  • @Daribrahim
    @Daribrahim Рік тому

    You are so cool! I love the way you explain it❤❤❤

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  Рік тому

      Thank you!

    • @Daribrahim
      @Daribrahim Рік тому

      @@LilaTalks Much love from🇨🇦💯❤️🙌🏾

  • @jeanclaudesangnyuy3524
    @jeanclaudesangnyuy3524 3 роки тому

    How do I get to shake your hand lila 🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • @fearfears570
    @fearfears570 2 роки тому

    Good information! Thank you!

  • @addisethio494
    @addisethio494 4 роки тому +3

    New subie here ..i have a feeling that you hit 100k subies very soon.
    Good luck konjo.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      Whoa! Thank you so much! I appreciate the support and the positive encouragement. Many Thanks Addis.

    • @addisethio494
      @addisethio494 4 роки тому

      @@LilaTalks You r welcome ! I dont know may be this sound irrelevant for you but sometimes if you need a break from serious issues.. do Ethiopian or Eritrean music video reaction the audience is very Huge..just a suggestion :).

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому

      @@addisethio494 Thank you Addis, your suggestions are not irrelevant! I always want to hear what people suggest I should do next. This is still a relatively new channel so I very much welcome and encouragement the feedback. I don't really watch Habesha music videos so I'll have to check that out, thank you!

    • @addisethio494
      @addisethio494 4 роки тому

      @@LilaTalks Thank you for the response. I understand its relatively new channel . and that is exactly why i suggested you to do some reaction videos sometimes so that you could attract more youtube family to your channel because you deserve more views and subscribers as your channel is very educative and constructive that one can learn alot from it.
      PS: let me know if you need some habesha music recommendation. i think i can help :)

    • @artdefiesgravity8013
      @artdefiesgravity8013 3 роки тому

      @@LilaTalks I agree! I really appreciate your calm & classy approach to introducing people to our culture ... way too many people are misinformed 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @natiseyoum8337
    @natiseyoum8337 2 роки тому

    Wow Lila i love it your picture are my phone screen sever.

  • @timhoward5
    @timhoward5 4 роки тому +2

    *What's the different between the Eritreans and Ethiopians?*

    • @filmont9383
      @filmont9383 4 роки тому +8

      Ethiopia has 80+ ethnic groups and Eritrea has 9. You have 4 ethnic groups who live on both sides of the border. When people talk about similarities, they are referring to Habesha people. The main Habesha ethnic groups are Tigrinya and Amharic. We speak different languages but our food and culture are very similar.

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +6

      @@filmont9383 pretty much covered it all! I would like to add that at one time the two countries were one, but Eritrea got its independence in 1991. Fun Fact - The northern part of Ethiopia in the Tigray region, speak Tigrinya like Eritrea.

    • @marori1037
      @marori1037 4 роки тому +3

      Languages/ethnic groups are the difference. Eritreans don’t speak Amharic. Amharic is the major language of Ethiopia .
      The war started because Eritreans were forced to use Amharic in schools, newspapers, military, and all Eritrean languages like Tigrinya were publically banned. Most older Eritreans of the war era speak Amharic though because they learned it in primary school or moved to Addis Ababa-there is not much beef especially in this regard many have intermarried and in the diaspora, Eritreans/Ethiopians try to avoid political arguments and just go by the catch all term “Habesha”.
      Another difference is Eritrea borders Sudan/Red Sea so many Eritrean Muslims speak Arabic. I don’t think Arabic is spoken in Ethiopia and neither is Tigre (another Semitic Eritrean language very similar to Geez and Tigrinya and Arabic). However, Tigrinya (Eritrean language) is spoken in Ethiopia by Tigrayans- a region of Northern Ethiopia that borders Eritrea.
      Another minor language difference is Italian. Eritrea was once a colony of Italy from 1890- 1945 so you will find very old
      Eritreans who speak Italian as well as see Italian foods like cappuccino, spaghetti, and Italian pastries and architecture in Asmara. Along with the Orthodox Church, Catholicism is more present in Eritrea because of this while Pentecostal Christians are more prominent in Ethiopia.
      However, Eritrea may share stronger ties with Italy but Ethiopia has stronger ties to Israel due to its ancient Jewish population in Amhara regions known as Beta Israel who lived in places like Gonder and Wollo for thousands of years. Lots of Ethiopian Jews moved to Israel and still live there

    • @LilaTalks
      @LilaTalks  4 роки тому +3

      ​@@marori1037 ​Wonderful! Thank you so much for your comments! My dad and many other Eritrean family members all speak Italian. In fact, I didn't even know for the longest time that the word macchina means car in Italian. I thought it was our word. Thanks for sharing your insights and providing additional context to this reply. Many Thanks!

    • @BF-bb5us
      @BF-bb5us 2 роки тому

      @@marori1037 we certainly do not share stronger ties with Italy! We have maintained our languages and cultures and italian is not even an official language. Apart from architecture there is no other similarities.

  • @elindil9303
    @elindil9303 2 роки тому +1

    Blessed to know your channel