Yes exposing someone on SM for something he couldn't control... then expecting him to still come after u drag him. In this economy, we need our jobs. Especially health insurance. Poor guy
He showed more effort into trying to make a set date/time in showing ACTUAL GENUINE interest!!..😮... I've been married to my elementary school crush since I was 16, n we just celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary however we've been together for 26yrs,.. n considering the fact that I've lived more of my life WITH him then WITHOUT... I can confidently say that I'd be lucky if my hubby remembered my bday, let alone being able to plan ahead for just "us" time!😮🤔😂 unfortunately I happen to fall in love with an extremely hyperactive,(child at ❤️) mentality with pretty disruptive OCD triggers/episodes, PLUS he hates going to the doctor so ive had to struggle hard with trying to keep up a strong relationship esp after all these years! Anyhoo, if I were the girl from the first story, I'd be forever embarrassed n ashamed of myself for acting out so immaturely n impulsive, yes who else can safely say the guy dodged a bullet, maybe it was the universe trying to warn him, ya know 🤷🏻♀️😫😵💫🤦🏻♀️🫨
my guess is the "company" is fake. Its not too hard to make up some company or pose as an existing one on LinkedIn. He was definitely gonna ghost her after that 1 month.
4:17 “I picked up some shifts so I had money” So she understands needing a job to have money, yet expects him to jeopardize his job to come see her? The hypocrite.
@@Ana-ho8dy lol 😂🤣😂 riiigghhhtt! Cuz women NEVER do that.... Did you ALSO pick the bear? Take a look in the mirror. I will give you 1 key difference though. Women love choosing the bear and saying how they "don't need men" and 10 minutes later either asking for help from a man or making a tiktok about how they need a man to help them. I guarantee that are FAR more tiktoks, UA-cam shorts, Facebook shorts of women whining about needing a man than there are men doing that. Again y'all are independent and strong until it gets just slightly too tough and you have to put some effort into it.
I feel like shampoo girl needs to contact Blake's company and send them all the correspondence between them. His bosses need to know what he's doing to potential employees
First girl could have garnered the sympathy she seems to want without blasting him like that. Like ending it with "His work denied his time off request" would have still gotten the emotional response without burning that bridge
100% exactly this. I TOTALLY get the disappointment but her posting the video without the reason and ALONG WITH THE BLACKMAIL TEXTING TO HIM was so immature.
Regarding the girl confronting her guy's friend... I'm female and, being a veteran, I have a lot of male friends. One of my friends started seeing a girl and she was uncomfortable with our friendship. My friend let me know, so I arranged to meet her. I suggested we go out for lunch, just us two girls, so should could get to know me. We did and, over the course of the afternoon (we got on, so it ended up being a long lunch! 😂), I found out 2 things: 1) She was lovely; 2) She was insecure because her ex had cheated on her with someone he told her was his friend. I could've told her it was her problem and not mine, but that would have been really disrespectful to my friend and would've shown no empathy to a girl taking time out to get to know me. So, instead, I suggested we find a solution until I'd earned her trust. We set up a group chat. Within a few months, she felt more secure, we all texted normally again, and I had earned a new friend. Cut to last year and I was very proud to be a bridesmaid at their wedding 😎 Moral of the story: as a friend, it's your job to do right by your friend. If their new partner is psycho and tries to oush you out of the picture, tell them and stand firm. But if your friend really likes their new partner, find a solution (not for the partner, but because you value your friendship). And, you never know, you might end up with a new awesome friend, like I did 😊
I'm really proud of that 2nd girl. It took me a long time to realize that some jobs I had in the past were really unprofessional. I was uncomfortable but didn't know enough or better to say or do anything. I didn't want to lose my job or make anyone mad
Here’s the thing about the girl confronting her friend, she should never have put herself in that position. You tell the boyfriend you’re not comfortable with it and he needs to handle it, and if he doesn’t you walk away from both of them. She’s texting HIS phone. HE needs to be the one to tell her it’s not ok. Then the girlfriend doesn’t get her hands dirty at all, and isn’t subjected to any bullcrap the other girl is going to say.
Exactly. He falls to him to address and correct the friend's behavior so his gf isn't left feeling uncomfortable or awkward. Some new gf's will be all "dump your friend". That happened, and I'd only gone out with the girl once. She wanted me to not even hang out with a friend I'd known for years; we called each other brother and sister. New girl never even met my friend and said I wasn't gonna remain friends with "my sis" if I was with her. I told her right off 1) one date isn't a relationship, 2) you don't get to tell me who my friends are, and 3) rest assured, there won't be a 2nd date. Take care!
as a girl, if that’s if that’s my close friend im going to confront both of them.. especially if she is the one being inappropriate/disrespectful. im mot going to tell him to put a stop to it and then act like theres nothing wrong towards her. especially cause then she could be like “why didn’t she tell me herself”. you are supposed to feel close enough in your friendship to be able to set boundaries w your friends
We didn't really catch the beginning of that conversation. She may have already confronted her boyfriend about it and the friend may have brought it up with her.
Oh so true! I knew someone like this (now ex bestie fooling around with my now ex bf) and took the smile off her face with itching powder, which how I found out she was the other chick he was seeing because she called me thinking she caught an STD and was wondering if I had caught anything. 1+1 = Gotcha!😈😈
Defamation of character is a lawsuit waiting to happen (alluding to someone being a possible serial killer with bodies in her basement... BRUV) and that can reflect horribly on the business in question. Y'all need to be mindful that words matter. There's a dang good reason why we have laws against this sort of behavior.
I'm a 41yr old Aussie Diesel mechanic here in Queensland Australia, I'm abit rough, short beard, drive a 4x4 ute, have a custom trike, usually covered in grease and oil and dirt most days, work for a big transport company here as well, have my own work shop and 3 other mechanics beside me as well... but as soon as I get a notification that a new Charlotte video has dropped its tools down, stop what ya doing, and everyone in the workshop crowds around the 70' flatscreen for abit of Charlotte time 😂😂 keep up the good work darl, love ya vids 👌
"I'm not insecure in my relationship with my man, I'm getting suspicious of your intentions when YOU won't respect my boundaries in my relationship with my man" bring in the man and see what he says.
As a man I would of been mad, that's my friendship your messing with... It is your insecurity that you need to deal with, if you can't deal with it, you communicate to me and we work it out or I make a choice between a friend or our relationship... This isn't the way!
@@captainnoname7690 I admit I'm a little confused by your comment. Are you saying if your friend was messaging your girlfriend behind your back, you would pick your friend over your girlfriend? Or if you were my man you would think I was insecure with my friend and dump me bc I'm insecure?
@@carlamarlene2927 sry, I mean I would want my gf to come to me and then together after talking about it, we make a decision about my female friendships and what we do about them together.
I find it so disturbing that bartender chick says she "doesnt want to make fun of someone on the spectrum", I'm autistic and I don't want fake niceness when you're dealing with me, if you're not gonna treat other people with basic respect then whats the point? This absolutely cannot be what people think we want 😂
For people like her, unfortunately, it’s really not about what others want but about what she can acceptably get away with socially. It’s performative sensitivity, and it’s sadly very common.
She only doesn't want to make fun of someone on the spectrum because it's not politically correct and she doesn't want to get hate. She's fine making fun of anyone else, and that would include autistic people (with the gross presumption she can tell just by looking at them) if she wasn't afraid of backlash. She just wants positive internet points. Most people have met people who are autistic and not even known. Hell, many autistic women don't know until they're diagnosed in adulthood (speaking from experience). Maybe just... don't make fun of people? Whether you think they're autistic or not.
As a high masking, late diagnosed female with autism, My favourite lines by ableist a holes is " but you don't look autistic" along with " my family member is autistic so you must be faking because you don't have the same look or the exact same autistic traits as my family member" it's like people's family members get diagnosed and then they immediately forget that Autism is on a spectrum.
@@jordangann7438 Yes! Or when they ask 'what does he do?' & I'm like 'wut' and they say 'You know, like is he really good at math or does he play an instrument? I know someone who has it and they are really good at "_____" So I'm like 'he's really good at minding his business and being completely innocent & happy!' (They don't have to know he's 23 but really more like a nonverbal 3) It's like just cause you watched 1 movie or your family member/friend has it, they aren't all the same! It's called a spectrum for a reason!
That part. I don’t want to hate on people on the spectrum… • proceeds to hate on the ONE group of people that would rather you honestly rail on us than fake niceness • Sometimes I don’t understand NT ppl…
Charlotte I love how you end these videos with positivity or some ASMR. I just feel so good afterward. Like I get my cathartic release from all the drama and then you just melt all the stress built up by the drama away at the end.
I’ve bartended for a number of years, it paid for my schooling. And in those last years I’d get tipped for my waters. It was because I’d always dress it up to look like a mixed drink, and they were thankful for it. Showing a bit of kindness goes a long ways for the most part.
The bartender in my opinion she’s an asshole, and there’s been a lot of videos as of late that I’ve come out about her and what she’s really about and it’s not being a nice person 😂
Water should be tipped, though. Not exorbitant tips, but leave the bartender something, even if you aren't drinking alcohol. They are still on their feet for a long time & have to serve you & clean up after you. You don't even have to pay for the water, so it doesn't cost much to leave them a couple/few bucks before you leave. But THIS bartender is pretty whack. & the hair is straight outta '93 😅
I was a bartender for a very long time. It's completely normal for people to come in just to relax by themself or hang out with their friends and not drink alcohol.
Yeah I dated a bartender for a few months and he’d invite me to come hangout while he was working. I’d just sit t the bar and talk with him and drink water because I didn’t need to have a drink every time I was there (at least 3x a week) some times it’s just fun to go to the bar and hangout.
yaeh and beeng on the soectrum myselph, I know I have too be carfull with alcohol. it is eseyer for us too becoming adicked and harder to let go of a habit. and some of us have medications to handle serten problems and thy dont mix weii with alcohole. in sweden we have entire alcoholefree coctaile bars
My husband and I used to frequent a local veteran bar and neither of us drink alcohol. We used to sit and drink a pop or two a couple times a week. Nothing wrong with it.
@@Dragonlover33I think it's cheeky to only ever get water and never buy ANYTHING. That seems like taking advantage. No one has to drink alcohol but she could buy another drink.
I’m literally remaking my house, full in paint and dust and just realised I have spent 15hrs just listening/wathing your content!!! You’re turning me into an addicted!!! 😂😂😂 Love to see how much you have grown, specially with the fact that I follow you since you had around 80k or 100k!!! Go girl!!!!
Why go to the police though? What are they going to do? There was no personal information or anything about the person in question so what does she expect the police to do? She will just be wasting their time.
But there's something I don't understand. Isn't the water free? Isn't a customer that takes a seat, orders only water and doesn't even tip just a nuisance? I'm genuinely confused about this one because I'm not from the US and I don't know how this works. Most places in my area either charge cover charge that includes one drink (can be soft) or require you to order at least one real drink (not water since it's free, and again, it can be a soft drink). I agree that the bartender is cyberbullying the poor girl but I don't understand how they're a customer if they're not paying anything.
If it wasn't about her, she wouldn't have made the response video. She deflected saying it was about her "friend" who had never been mentioned in the first video at all, lmao. Also, she admitted she is the water girl, but she's wrong in the fact that to be a customer, you do actually need to pay for things. Since she refuses to do so, she is not a customer. At all. She's a loiterer. But go off boo
@franciscoflamenco I'm not even sure if it's really cyberbullying because no real information was given. Water girl responded and ousted herself. Also, water is free, so she is a nuisance that just takes up space at the bar. 😂
I'm more worried about her little boys. She seems to be including them in her dating/love life as well as posting it for everyone to see. She doesn't need to be dating right now; she needs to be staying off the internet and taking care of her kids.
The “call me crazy” and then the pesto popping in on the side is SO underrated!! That is peak humor!! A little Easter egg for us viewers! Praise these editors!!❤
Why doesnt she go visit him? When I was dating my husband if he couldnt make it out to me, I would figure out a way to get to him. Been together for 22 years, married for 15. And we still both put in effort for the other one
I genuinely think that she thought he would like all of the pr, like he would turn it into an online campaign to get more people to his band page. However I feel like she's a little too caught up in being a content creator and forgetting that those who have to sign in with a manager for a job don't get to just make whatever schedule and do whatever they damn well please throughout the day. She done fucked up and it's going to be a little bit until she realizes it.
Right? It goes both ways. If it were the case that she really liked this guy, they would have worked on figuring out another way, or she would have offered an alternative. Instead she reacts in the most disrespectful manner , which would be a turn off to anyone that she can't handle a difficult situation with any grace and understanding.
My bff followed my bf all night pulled him into a room, sat on his lap while I was on the dance floor said she had a dream about him. After years of this I snapped, not only did my bf question that she was a friend but I told her we were laughing at her all night and she looked like a mess. She hasn't done it since, has been happily married for 12 years and still to this day apologizes over the passed. I do not regret staying her friend she means the world to me but she did change a whole 360.
I literally just had to deal with a “friend” who was trying to slid into my HUSBANDS DMs. They like dated when they were in school. He and I have been married for 30 yrs. I find out she’s been trying really hard to get with him. Because of my health she will be a better “fit” for him. And I should step back and let her have him🙄 When she finally stopped hinting and just said it to him. He laughed at her and told her no way. The amount of gaslighting she tried with me and bringing my health into it was sickening. At the end of the day he’s my best friend and husband. And she’s out in the cold. 🥶 Some people though 😑
I’m very lucky. Also very proud that he stood up for me/us. I think what gets me is how long she tired. And he’s in is own world and had no clue😂. Took her laying it out for him and just saying some toxic stuff. He told her she can go back where she came from…… the past. Because I am his present and future. I’m lucky and she’s nasty. lol
I never understood why people would WANT what i have. Like you think he would feel the same about you?! Why werent yall together in the first place?! Some people are so lonely and jealous😅
I love how your Husband told this toxic woman to go back to the past. I have a lot of health issues but I know that my Husband would react just like yours did, I'm so happy that I found my forever. X
Unfortunately, the charm works on some people in vulnerable spaces which is why they do it. They can also be delulu and pretend on their world that they were picking up on cues and were being misled.
purposefully dragging someone on the internet before even meeting them and then using the hate train to threaten them into seeing you is one of the most entitles, delulu things I've ever heard. dude dodged a death bullet
I'm a non drinker (I just never cared for it) so I'm everyone's favorite DD. 15- 20 years ago bartenders loved me. I always got free soda and water, they always thanked me for being that friend. Now (increasingly over the last 5 years or so) I get attitude and a non alcoholic drink is the most expensive thing in the bar. Crazy. (Not everywhere of course but WAY too often)
Yeah feel this way too, it’s shitty. I’m a young non-drinker, 24. So I drive my friends around constantly lol but I don’t mind. I love taking care of them and making sure everyone gets home safe. I take pride in being a hawk about my friends drinks & making sure they stay away from creeps at the club. I wish I got that same kind of respect from others though. My friends are lovely & know me. But sometimes they’ll bring in other people or boyfriends or we meet people out and about. And they can be so rude about me not liking alcohol. I also routinely get people who are shocked that I’m not in recovery…no I’m not a former addict. I just don’t care for alcohol! 😂
To be fair, water and no tip in this economy is basically wasting a bartender's time. You aren't contributing to the bars revenue in any way yet are using the staffs time and the bars resources. If you come in with a group of friends that's one thing as you allow them to safely order more drinks overall. However if you alone enter, order water, then just leave you A) take up one of the limited seating spaces B) create at minimum 1glass in need of cleaning and C) at least 10 minutes of staff time based on a single glass. All without providing any income to the bar or tips to the waiter. If you don't buy at least one drink, alcoholic or not, then you are abusing a privilege. It's also why a lot of small cafes in my area (popular walking spot for tourists) only let people use the bathroom if they make a purchase. A cafe is only required to provide toilets for customers and unless you buy something you aren't a customer. Same thing with some bars in my area as well.
@@KestralKuthule I agree with everything you just said. As a non drinker I have definitely never gone to a bar alone ever. Now that you bring it up I just assumed people didn't go to bars and drink water alone. That's an odd concept to me, I know the girl in this story did it, but I figured it was made into such a big deal because it's odd. Never been a bartender. Fascinating that it's actually a thing, so strange.
@@KestralKuthule All of this is crazy to me because bars are not a privilege. It’s a service and people can choose not to use it. And water is a human right & need so I don’t understand why it would be mandatory for someone to order and alcoholic drink. If someone thinks their bar is a privilege, they should charge money at the door. This thought process is mind boggling.
13:53 my boyfriend has been my best friend since kindergarten, he was an odd kid who’s only friends were his cousins, we went to separate elementary schools, but my mom babysat his little brothers. I never had any issues with him talking to other girls because he simply didn’t have other friends that weren’t related to him other than me. But I love him with all of my being ❤❤❤
As someone who's worked in retail and service for over a decade, I acknowledge that we do gossip about strange customers. But to put it online?? Especially when that person is a regular and likely to find out?? That's just taking things way too far. Plus, after seeing that, I'd be uncomfortable having her serve me, I'm sure a lot of other people feel the same, so she's screwing herself and the business she works for 🤦♀️
Yes! And as someone who worked in restaurants: If you go to a bar or restaurant & only order water & you stay for awhile, you should leave a tip. You're using the server's time & you're taking up a spot in their station that could be taken by a customer who will be ordering & leaving a tip. (And if you're getting a free glass of water, drink it & leave. Most places in the US will kick you out if you're not a paying customer, unless you're with someone else who is ordering.)
12:02 as someone who has primarily male friends from highschool, I’ve NEVER had one of their partners tell me not to text them because I don’t do shady shit. It’s easy to have a friendly relationship with a dude without being weird. I’ve never sent these guys flirty shoulder pics because these men are like my brothers! I guarantee you that girl saw him romantically because it’s not hard to be platonic and not overstep bounds
100% agree with this, but on the flip side you can do all of this and try to make it clear that nothing shady is going on, but the girl can be extremely possessive, and can see you as problem which has happened to me before, the girl hated me no matter how much I tried to make make it clear that me and him were like siblings, anytime me and him had plans with either us by ourselves or in our friend group she would have a “problem” with something and have to back out, and we confronted her about it and she played the victim, and in the end she made him choose between her and our friend group and he choose me and our friend group because he didn’t need her drama, and even after that she played the victim but she lied consistently on us when all we did was just be nice to her and welcome her into our group, but I do agree with you, male and female can just be friends with no strings attached.
@@quantumleap1491 you cannot send flirty shit to your male friends in relationships and pretend it isn't shady smh. You must be the "friend" she was talking about
@@GabrielleTollerson where did I say I was flirting? Nowhere is where, when me or my other female friends tell our male friend we love him it’s a brother relationship, men can have female friends without strings attached, if me and him hang out it’s us acting like dumbass 12 year olds because we are comfortable with the opposite sex, there are women like myself who don’t care the sex of the person and can become friends with anyone I grew up around male and female friends, girls who haven’t are just awkward around guys, and I have a Bf who I love with my whole heart and I would never cheat on him he rescued me from a bad situation, and as a 27 year old I am too old to cheat and act like a teenager in high school I am dating to marry and have a family, and no my bf and best friend don’t have issues with each other because there is trust, we talk like adults and understand each other and most of the time we all hang out together, so stop using your teen girl tik tok drama ideology on adults because if adults do what you claim that’s childish.
Ex bartender here and I promise we are not all like her.. Most of us appreciate the sober people who come into the bar. I’d never expect a tip for water either. I personally loved my regulars and never cared what they ordered or didn’t order. ❤
In college, the local bars gave free sodas to the designated driver. I rarely drink, but I enjoy going out with friends. I've never had an issue with bartenders or waitstaff.
Agreed. Her entitlement is wild. I worked at a bar attached to a bowling alley and if I cried and moaned every time I fetched a water, I would just be sobbing all day. I did bulk order bottled water for customers, but that's only because I thought the tap water was gross and felt bad serving it to kids. Not for money.
I appreciate how hard the bartenders & servers work. They deal with a lot. I always tip for water when it’s served to me. You take care of me; I take care of you.
Isn't the expectation that a customer purchase something? Like maybe some apps from the kitchen or a virgin cocktail or something? Cuz otherwise isn't it loitering?
also don't care what they order, love regulars, dont expec ttips but appreciate them and me personally I would tip for a water as well but i work hospitality so i know the hussle
I'm glad to see a response to that bartender's tiktoks. She's always given me the ick. There was another story recently about her toxicity too, basically encouraging people to commit credit card fraud.
Regarding the girl doing an internship with the boss crossing boundaries, I mistakingly acquired a 3 year long stalker once from some job interview. He had my application so he knew my number, my address, everything! He finally tried to break into my home at 3 am one morning and was caught by the police. Be careful ladies!
Hold up, so you are telling me that she's actually excited about seeing him and when life happens, which is does, instead of rescheduling and keeping things happy and fun, she instead makes a video basically turning this guy into a monster and scaring him off and he's the bad guy? H'wat?
She even sent him a little snippet of her fake “mad face” typing furiously on the computer 🤢🤢🤢. Then she had to reenact all of those happy moments. What a phony weirdo CRAZYYY.
The universe was looking out for him, by getting her to reveal she is the type of person who IMMEDIATELY first instinct is to manipulate and create flying monkeys. He dodged a nuclear bomb
One of my best friends is a single guy, I'm married, have been for 7 years. Him and my husband have now become friends also. What makes our relationship ok is that we don't cross boundaries! He'll tell me about girls he's dating or whatever, and I'll talk vaguely about a disagreement my husband and I had to get his opinion as a man and as someone who knows my husband. He's NEVER tried to slide into anything, never been inappropriate etc. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, BUT everyone needs to be respectful of everyone else, PERIOD! If he wasn't, we wouldn't continue our friendship
Yep! I had a guy best friend and people would talk (he didn't flaunt his homosexuality and that was completely his choice), but my husband knew that he had nothing to worry about and why. I was never alone with him anywat, and we rarely texted/talked and it was never anything inappropriate... BUT one chick (the wife of my husband's coworker who happened to live near to our apartment in the same complex) ASSUMED we had an open marriage (again, rumors), rarely talked to me, but had no problem flirting with my husband IN FRONT OF ME AND OUR KID. I wanted to punch her face but my husband said, "It's time for y'all to go (6 of us were playing cards at our house; my husband and I, his coworker and coworker's wife, my girl best friend and my guy best friend) because he knew I was about to tell her off (at minimum, but without telling her my guy friend was gay) and he saved her. She tried messaging me saying that I was "disgusting" 😂 (I think she was actually mad we weren't having a "good time" with her!😂) "for having such double-standards" in MY marriage. 😂 I showed my husband the message, we both blocked her, and after he had a private talk with his buddy, we never heard a peep out of her again. I'm glad I never had to worry about my friends with my man...I have great friends, and I am one, because I would NEVER make them uncomfortable with me and because it is wrong, no matter what the circumstances or rumors are!
As someone who has just realised in middle age that I am on the spectrum. I have always been awkward in social situations by not talking or over sharing and then beating myself up for it. The bartender has just confirmed why I beat myself up and that people do notice my behaviour. Good thing the diagnosis has given me freedom to be me and not care anymore 😊
Good, because it was so disgusting that they kept using it as an insult. Even Charlotte being offended by it made me angry. People need to knock that off.
Same, I'm 57 and spent most of my life not getting why I didn't get people and had some interesting times growing up, I finally figured it out in my 40's. It's still weird sometimes but so much better now I can just be me 💜
@@bunyipdragon9499 the funniest thing is I’ve worked in disability for 20 years and I was always told I was a natural with understanding and communicating using body language. It never occurred to me it was because I was neurodivergent 🤣
idk - I live on a tiny island - we all know each other and are all friends with eachother - we do txt eachother, maybe not cutsie, but certainly about plans or whatever and we do hangout - all in rotation with eachother. I think it depends on the situation
I worked in a pub for years and there would be the odd sober customer that would make our pub their regular. People go to pubs to offload all the time or meet up with their drinking buddies or whatever. I took that job very seriously esp my regulars they would feel very comfortable sitting at the bar chatting away knowing they could tell me anything and they wouldn’t be the talk of the town next day. And that’s why some pubs do a lot better than others it’s not because of the other customers it’s the staff.
i work in a coffee shop, and sometimes we'll get people come in who maybe dont like coffee or tea, or maybe cant afford our prices (fair) and if they are with a friend, i'll always offer them some water, just so they dont feel left out and so they have a cup to drink from. just ordering water isn't a big deal. i'd only say it's a big deal if you are a complete ass to the staff, or if it's super busy and you're maybe taking up a table that a paying customer could be using. but if it's quiet, you do you.
I also think it's different if someone is hanging out with their friends versus just coming by themself. But yes, when it wasn't busy I often appreciated having something to do
I had a roommate once that sat me down and asked me not to touch her boyfriend who was also a roommate because it made her uncomfortable. I had one time pulled a piece of food out of his hair that he was struggling to grab after I had pointed it out. She acknowledged that she realized it was her insecurities and it was something completely innocent but asked me to respect this boundary. So because I respect other people’s boundaries I never touched him again.
On one hand, that's nice of you, on the other hand, you are helping her keep unhinged Behavior. I would be very scared to date someone who told my friends and roommates that they couldn't.... touch me. That is severe personal issues of hers that she is throwing onto everyone else's plates and expecting them to uphold. I feel very sorry for your roommate, he is going to lose lots and lots of people and his life. It's not the they can't touch him thing, it's the dating a woman who would tell your friends and roommates that they can't touch you.
@@B.Harper7 she wasn’t toxic and is a really good person. She was going to therapy and acknowledged it was her issue. She needed to feel comfortable in our home and wasn’t like this with his female friends. They’re still together and very happy. I understand the concern but she worked on herself to get better and doesn’t have that insecurity anymore. If she wasn’t actively working on herself that would be a problem but she never isolated him.
As a former bartender I’ve tipped on water numerous times! I was tipped as well for providing water too. The bartender is providing a service no mater what is in the glass.. it’s a no brainer what the rude server was trying to convey but she clearly isn’t a nice or kind person to bully and post about her clients online..so it makes sense why she hasn’t received a tip! 🤣
I always order water at the bar. At one point I was being shamed by the bar owner, but I was the DD a lot, or just didn’t want to drink that night🤷🏻♀️. One night a guy came up to me, he was also sober, and we were in the same group of servers, anyways he told me,”It’s okay to just order a water you’re just being safe.” He was just finishing up his DUI. He was probably 26, but this man was WISE! I never felt bad about drinking water at their bar, and getting home safely every night. I just don’t think anyone in a bar should ever just shame people for ordering water. I’ll still tip though because it was an industry bar, and I was in the industry.
I’m really proud for the last girl who stood up for her friend that had a nasty TikTok posted online regarding untrue, made up, and malicious rumors. I give her a lot of credit for not only admitting her past transgressions but that she’s doing much better and is a kinder person now. Kudos to you girl!
Depending on how big the city is etc how would they even be able to tell? Do they know everyone? I mean unless the guys have been regulars in this specific bar they might just not go back to that bar. Maybe they didn't like the bar, maybe they didn't like the bartender. XD
@@abbienicholson6022 From what she's saying, Michelle had made that up. Or at the very least she's saying it's a fake story the bartenders at Uncle Jesse's made up about her friend and Michelle is posting it online to further spread these false rumors. Basically Michelle shared one of the inside thoughts out loud. Working in customer service oriented jobs I know that people have a habit of making up stories about their regulars. This girl just reminded Michelle that she can't openly and publicly spout misinformation about a person without the possibility of a defamation lawsuit coming into play.
The water drinking at the bar story hit home a bit. My husband is allergic to alcohol and only ever likes drinking water. He hates coffee and tea and used to drink juice or sodas but cut those out because of the excessive sugar in them. Therefore, he only drinks water. When he was dating online, he felt stuck not being able to meet people in bars or coffee shops. He felt it would seem strange to girls online to meet up with a guy who isnt drinking at all. He felt it would seem preditory and chose to meet ppl in other places. We met at dinner and it was lovely but it is sad that people feel they can't be in a bar if they aren't drinking.
I lost my kidney to cancer so I chose to not drink to try to save the only one I have left. Also I’m a terrible drinker I too am allergic and have such a slow metabolism I don’t feel the effects till 12 hours later and by then I have essentially binge drank myself into oblivion because I wasn’t having any effects. So I chose not to drink. I can’t tell you how many times people who claim to be my friends would bully and badger me into drinking when I told them no and it makes me sick and usually I end up in the hospital. People really need to learn what respect is. I learned who my real friends were and who was just messing with me or wanting my stuff “when you die” so essentially I tossed them all and yes I’m alone but I’m so much happier and less miserable every day.
I'm a bartender and we purchase our drinking water, but it's a free service for our guests, so we do prefer customers to actually purchase something, and not just get water or we would be losing money. We do offer non-alcoholic drinks though, also no-sugar ones.
@@SaitoKat92if you’re bar isn’t full, you are NOT losing money. This is a very tired narrative. I worked in & ran multiple very popular, typically very busy bars & restaurants over the years, and VERY rarely did the water drinkers actually affect business. Unless they’re taking up a spot in a packed establishment, you aren’t actually affected. Period. You’re just mad someone isn’t racking up a bill. They’re not taking anything away from you, they aren’t preventing anyone who wants to come in from doing so. You’re choosing to be irritated by someone who isn’t doing anything to you. That’s a choice. The people that actually, REGULARLY, screw industry workers over are the ones that take up whole tables, buy ONE cheap drink, & nurse it for HOURS & HOURS as they sit there talking, completely aware & unconcerned that the place is packed and there’s a line out the door. THOSE people have the biggest impact on business & take home. The water drinkers, by far, are more often than not older people who are just lonely and want to still have some sort of social interaction, even if it’s just sitting and watching others socialize. EVERYTHING is expensive now, and these folks on fixed incomes just want to feel like they’re still a part of things. I have never, and will never, fault people for wanting & needing that. We are isolating these people from being able to have basic social interactions, and we see the impact with the increasing number of elderly folks suffering from severe depression. Start looking at them as people who probably really need that interaction, & how much it means to them for just a brief interaction with you, & stop looking at it as them taking something from you - especially when that’s just not the case the vast majority of the time. Also, if you politely bring it to their attention if you ARE packed & need their spot, and let them know there’s people patiently waiting for that spot, 9/10 they’ll move - and they often just are unaware, they’re not trying to cause issues. More than a few times, I’ve grabbed a chair or two from a back room & put it next to wherever I’m at, and let them sit there instead, so I can free up the needed space. It doesn’t hurt me to do this. As I said in my other comment posted in the main thread, some of the funniest & sweetest customer interactions I’ve had over the years has been with these exact people. Stop looking at these people & assuming they’re trying to pull one over on you. If you automatically assume someone is a problem, that’s all any of these individuals are ever going to be for you, even when they’re not.
Bartender story: bringing autism into it was ableist as hell and disgusting. Just because we are a different neurotype doesn't mean that we're weird or have a penchant for locking people up in our basements. her excuse for bringing it up was also really weak. Why would she think to bring it up "just in case" people would if she herself wasn't already thinking that it could be the underlying reason?
The responder and Charlotte were worse because they took it as an insult and never corrected it. The first girl may have just been referring to her blank facial expression in the phone picture. Most likely she was being insulting, though, some to think it over… considering her other behaviors.
She said that she’s NOT on the spectrum… sounds like she was trying to clear up that she wasn’t making fun of someone on the spectrum… that she just thought the person was weird… not clinically diagnosed with a condition…
I’ve been a Bartender at many places, from high end, to dives. I love my water drinkers. They are awesome. You don’t have to go to the bar to drink. It’s the social interaction. They always do tip me though. Just a five. I appreciate it. In actuality, they are taking up real estate on bigger tips. I love my sober drinkers though. They sometimes help you make it through the night. ✨
The situation with the two girls talking about the girl being "insecure in the relationship" had it happen to me! She gaslit me to the extreme and called up my boyfriend. He ended up dumping me over it - best thing to happen to me, though.
Dodged a bullet... You deserve a better boyfriend and better friends. My best friend's girlfriend struggled understanding how close we are, so she invested time in our shared hobby to get to know me. I'd never want to make her feel crazy or worried, she means way too much to my bestie for that. We never ended up being friends, too little common ground, but she build a strong bond of trust with me. I'd expect my best friend to do the same for my boyfriend if that's something he needed.
CHARLOTTE!!! I just want to let you know how awesome your community is!!! I left a comment in your last video about a friend who passed away after a MAJOR internet scam. I had several ppl reach out in kindness! It was very sweet! The community is a reflection on the content creator! Thank you for being awesome and 'collecting' awesome!
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne the video Charlotte posted 2 days ago had someone talking about an overseas scam. One of my besties fell for one. He racked up 300k in debt. He passed away 2 weeks after telling his partner. Idk if he took his own life or if it was natural. Last summer I lost my kitty on a Friday, my bestie passed the next Friday and my gramma passed away the Friday after that. It was so tough but the kindness of strangers here in the Charlotte community was really sweet and uplifting! ❤ I wanted to let Charlotte know she's got a fabulous community!😊
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne the wording is a little off bc UA-cam has deleted my reply a cpl times so I'm hoping this wording will be 'safe' I left a comment in the vid she posted 2 days ago that talked about an overseas scam. I 'lost' my bestie 2 weeks after telling his partner about the 300k he owed to the scammer. IDK if his passing was natural or... not. Last August, I 'lost' my kitty on Fri, I 'lost' my bestie the next Friday and I 'lost' my gramma the following Fri. It was so tough! I wanted to let Charlotte know how awesome her community was as ppl reached out w nothing but kindness! ❤❤❤
When I go to a bar I only drink water cause I don’t like drinking. When did drinking water become abnormal. What a world we live in. Thanks for supporting us water drinkers ❤❤❤❤
I live in Australia and have gotten this since before I was 18 (legal drinking age) simply because no I don't want to act a fool and lose all co-ordination, dignity and respect nor deal with creeps trying to take me home, I'm just there to have a non-alcoholic drink and socialize for a few moments with some friends and go back to my family before the friends get rowdy.
I don’t think it’s about the water as such, I think she was only ordering the “free tap water”… And if that’s the case, I don’t think it’s fair to the establishment-to sit there and order free water every night. Of course I could be wrong but otherwise it wouldn’t make any sense😅
@@soude85 That's quite odd to me, where I am we can order water any time and the bartender is usually giving a sigh of relief because it means we're not getting roaring drunk, and also is legally obliged to have water available.
Poor guy in the 1st story. She didn't leave any room for him to come visit later when he can get time off. I can't believe he was sweet enough to even try visit her.
From a server's pov... if you are asking somebody to get you something- even if it is free- and you are taking up a table that a paying customer could be sitting in, you should leave SOMEthing for that server. They still got you what u asked for, missed out on a paying customer, and still have to clean up after you. Or maybe that's just what I would do. 🤷♀️
I have a brother from another mother for over 30 years. We were never romantic ever and he really is like a brother. He and his wife are good friends of mine. I honestly talk to him more than her because we grew up together and known him my whole life. Most of our conversations are about people we know and our kids. I knew him before her obviously. However; if she ever said "hey I am uncomfortable with how much you and Jason talk" or said she was uncomfortable- I would respect that immediately! Why, because I respect and love them both and I ain't about to be responsible for any discord in THEIR marriage or lives. She never has because there are boundaries that you just don't cross, even as friends.
I have a couple close male friends. None of them live near me. I knew them before they got into relationships with their (now) wives. Never once did the gf/wife EVER feel the need to call me out for being close with her husband. One of my guy friends has always been like a brother to me. We give each other advice and provide perspective and feedback to each other on various topics. The other guy friend I was actually interested in at one point in time, but he never was. We remained friends, but when he started dating his wife, I pulled back on communicating with him a bit and ALWAYS made sure to include her in any communications I had with him because she knew our history and that I **used to** be into him, and I didn't ever want to give her the wrong impression of our relationship. It's called respect.
Bar story: Obviously this is a very specific situation but I use to go to a bar or restaurant alone when my ex was being violent so I had people around me . But, sometimes I couldn’t get my wallet before I ran out.
13:30 "...even if you've been friends with him for a long time..." Disagree. If I'm friends with someone and they start dating a person, and then that person doesn't want me to talk to them anymore, idgaf. You don't get to decide who I can be friends with, especially not someone I've known for years. The girl in the video was definitely being weird, so I agree with you about that. But nah bro. That ain't a one size fits all situation.
as someone who is autistic and who has family members who are autistic, I hate it when people say " I wouldn't make fun of someone if I knew they were on the spectrum/autistic" because you do not know. If you think you can somehow sense when someone is autistic, you are wrong
exactly. Also, being "on the spectrum" or any other kind of neurodiverse IS not and definitely SHOULD not be an insult. It's a disability (often invisible) and it's just as disgusting to make fun of it or "speculate" about it like making fun of someone in a wheelchair or with diabetes etc.
My son is autistic and you would never know. Autism isn’t bad. It’s a different way of thinking and all the diff thinkers are the ones who go n do great things. That’s what I told him and even gave examples (when he got picked on in school) now he’s riding a scholarship to be a video game developer n designer. He’s awesome in so many ways and a very interesting n fun person.
I'm in my 30s and I'm just now potentially being diagnosed with autism after going for a different diagnosis. I've lived what I thought was a normal life all my life.
As a mom who is SICK of hearing “but he doesn’t LOOK autistic” Like for one, educate yourself 🤦🏼♀️ I know they are trying to be nice, but just stahpppppppp
Sober queen here, and if Michelle the Bartender were based in DC, I might think she was talking about me. Most Friday nights, my BFF and I would go to our favorite bar because we liked to get dressed up, but especially because we liked TO DANCE (and occasionally flirt). Believe it or not, there's more to do at a bar than drink. I wasn't even drinking waters. I was drinking (and paying for) Red Bulls, dancing my little butt off on the dance floor with my friend (who was buying alcoholic beverages). Then I hear through a 3rd party that this specific bartender "doesn't trust" me and my friend because we don't drink and she thinks we're sneaking airplane bottles into the bathroom. He explains to her that I'm several years sober, and she says she doesn't trust people who go to bars but don't drink. Mind you, this 3rd party was a guy I started dating who was a regular there... so... even though she was married (like Michelle here)... I just think she didn't like me hanging around this guy.
Not to mention, likening someone on the spectrum with some serial killer is absolutely unacceptable. My husband is on the spectrum and one of the sweetest men out there. I have friends--male and female--on the spectrum and they do not deserve that sort of trashy sort of connection.
THIS!!!! When she followed up “serial killer” with “on the spectrum” I actually had to pause. I’m also autistic and literally feel bad if I even hurt a bug. Thinking anyone who is potentially dangerous is autistic is such a disgusting and false statement
Who else noticed when Charlotte said “Call me crazy” the little bottle of Pesto pop-up on the left side of the screen? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m dyin over here! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣shout out to the editor👏🏼
I used to tend bar (in the 90's). There was a group of about 15 people that came into our bar every couple weeks on a Saturday. They were coming from an AA meeting. They'd drink coffee all night, have me running back and forth to refill their coffees that they'd spend 75 cents on. At the end of the night they'd leave a couple dimes and some pennies on the table. I got so fed up, I just stopped waiting on them. Twenty-six cents for a whole night of running back and forth for them, having to clean up their messes, definitely not worth it. I totally understand!!! Especially if they aren't spending any money on water and taking up a table and not tipping. No one is working for free!!! I wouldn't and neither should u!!!
It sucks because people are acting like taking up a paying customers spot is no big deal, but it is, wait staff and bartenders make $3.75 an hour here in Florida. The bar expects their pay to come from tips, so yes, someone just drinking water is having the staff pay out of their pocket to just sit. Get a juice, get a coffee , or YES, tip on a water! You are in a place of business and expected to spend money?!?!?!?! Sacre blu mon ami!!!!! How crazy!!! /sarchasm
The bartender thing. When i worked in the restaurant business we had a guy come in everyday, take up a table and only drink water and stare at people. When we were slow it was fine, but qhen we had a line out of the door , it was actually pretty annoying. The server lost so much money from that guy chilling in her section for hours on end. I felt so bad
look. If you are at a bar, you should buy *something*. It does not need to be an alcoholic drink. But you are using their space and getting to hang out. They are providing a service for you. Usually, they get paid for that service by their customers buying alcohol for more than it would be if they bought it at a liquor store. If you don't buy alcohol, you need to buy something else! :)
Yes, you should still tip for the water. Being sober isn't the problem, mad props for that! You're taking a place at the bar & utilizing their services, especially if you're not ordering anything else.
I am not much of a drinker, BUT there are times when I hung out drinking water or soda and enjoying social vibes. However, I always make a point to tip. The reason being, I am taking up retail space. Someone is still checking in with me, refilling my bev. It keeps things positive and builds relationships with the staff.
I wouldn't have a problem with a girl being friends with my boyfriend but if they were hiding their conversations/texts like that girl was....no there's something going on and that's why she's gaslighting
I'm not judging on that until I can scour the internet and find more info. They both said that the friend has been friends with the boyfriend for over 10 years. She absolutely could be acting like a shady biatch, but I commented above that my brother's ex-girlfriend acted like this and tried to ruin every female friendship and relationship with female family members that he had. It's taken years to heal the shit that she caused. Yes, I think she should have shown her the phone, 100%, but she looks like she's trying not to cry and just laughing instead to me. If anything it would be manipulation, that's not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a long-term multi-step process. I'm thinking that if girlfriend has been acting like this over everything, and every time she sees her she says "show me your phone", at some point you're going to snap and say "no what is wrong with you I'm just friends with my friend, you're the one who happens to be dating my friend". I see it both ways but I'm going to go internet sleuthing LMAO now I'm invested hahaha 😆
@@B.Harper7I agree in regards to not showing msges, sometimes women are so insecure that they think everyone is trying to mess with their bf. I've had the wives of farmers I've worked with, friends partners accuse me of doing something. But men deserve to have friends they can talk to without it being spread around and may not feel comfortable talking with the gf, esp if it's been a long term friendship. I have several male friends, because I find I get along with guys more, and we have convos regularly, they tell me things they can't tell their gf because it's as far as it goes. Zero interest from me or them in regards to anything more. Just good friends. I'd be pissed if my bf demanded I stop talking with friends, red flag to me
@@B.Harper7I'm with you on all this. I think people who have been burned like this before are biased to automatically side with the gf who wanted to see the texts but if the other girl was friends with the bf before she became friends with the gf then probably her loyalty as a friend lies with him as it should. It was hard for me to say from that video if it looked like she was devious and up to something or if she had just had it (if this wasn't the first time she had been accused by the gf) and kinda like you said was smiling her way through it out of discomfort. Plus what if she and the bf as close friends had talked about something serious that had nothing to do with the gf? Like if the girl had talked to him about something she was going through, that isn't the gf's business. Her not wanting to show her private conversation doesn't by default mean she was up to no good. I think a little more benefit of the doubt could've been given for this one. Especially too bc the third friend was the one filming which means if this wasn't fake it has either happened before or gf was going on for a bit before the recording started.
@@B.Harper7Also if you find anything during your deep dive, please share 😅 I also wonder if it really was a smirk and she sucks or if the gf has some things to work through.
@@B.Harper7 yeah I totally agree. If the girl number 2 has been friends with the boy first, before girl number 1 and boy got together, then it is totally a red flag for a partner to want you to stop talking to their friends just because their the opposite gender.
My ex had a friend who was a girl and I asked him to stop hanging out with her without me around and he flat out said no and they kept running around without me for months before I left. On the other hand, I had a guy friend who got a new girlfriend and I became really good friends with her. My friendship always respected her and I became better friends with her than with him in the end. Always respectful and that is how it should be.
The water drinker! My cousin always drank water when all us girls went out to the bar to go dancing, she was our DD and we greatly appreciated her for that!
@@leslieortenzi8875you have no idea what the situation here is. Neither did the bartender. That is the point. The bartender is the problem, not the water drinker.
I only drink pop/soda or pineapple juice or lemon water because I don't drink. One of my best friends he drinks pineapple juice or pop/soda because he drives.
Also associating being on the spectrum with even near being a murderer or that neurodivergence is just a scary thing that could mean criminal is infuriating. Yeah that bartender is the worst.
I know! ones she just mentioned being on the spectrum i got really mad! Cuz she dont know shit! Im on the spectrum myself...! And when people are talking about people on the spectrum like that or use it as an insult, it really pisses me off!
12:25 the idea of entering someone's life and telling them that their pre-existing platonic friendships need to change is a massive overstep imo. Sure, if they're doing stuff that makes you uncomfortable or they were literally making out and shit, that should 100% be a conversation, but I feel like the appropriate person to be having that conversation with is your partner. If you can't trust them to create boundaries with their friend, you have no business being together. Having a meeting with the friend who is being too friendly (or "friendly") with your partner and telling them to back off comes off as territorial and communicates to the other person that you view your partner/their friend as too stupid or untrustworthy to create their own boundaries, and that this is an argument you already lost with them. That starts the argument with them feeling as though your partner/their friend is positioned on the same side of the argument against you. If your partner is someone worthy of your time, it's mad disrespectful to them, and if they're not, then you're just fighting an inevitability. Whenever someone tells me their partner isn't allowed to have friends of the opposite gender, a very large part of me writes them off as controlling, jealous, and sexist. Clearly that isn't always going to be the case, but it does show a staggering lack of trust in your partner, and I have to wonder how much they'd try to isolate their partner if they found out they were bisexual. I used to know someone like that who constantly cheated on her boyfriend but kept him on a tight leash because she was afraid that he would cheat on her. I should also note that none of that applies to the less common bad actors that have been told to back off by your partner but won't back off without some sort of united front. It's also worth noting this is less about the video, that's why the timestamp is placed before the conversation in the middle lol
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again……. If a company asks you to sign a non-disclosure agreement, it’s because they have something they don’t want disclosed. It’s a red flag, do not take the job.
Definitely not always true. Worked for a company where employees had to sign NDAs because we manufactured products for mega corps and Dept of Defense (various militaries around the world). They don’t want you sharing the ins and outs of those products with others. Most company’s who require NDAs do so to try and protect their proprietary products/processes.
I'm glad I'm not the only woman who feels this way. I was friends with a guy and I had a thing for him. Then he met this girl that he was crazy about and she and I became friends so I stepped back from messaging and hanging out with him. I miss him, but they're happy! Some people think I'm crazy for stepping back, but I feel like it's the respectful thing to do. Treat others as you want to be treated. Also, that first guy needing his job because he has health issues is so American it's disgusting. I relate with that so hard.
The friend talking to her friends boyfriend is TERRIFYING. All she does is gaslight the entire conversation and it’s awful. I feel bad for anyone that has that girl in their life.
My ex boyfriend was a DJ for weddings and was friends with the photographer. When we moved in together I found photos of girls from weddings that had private parts showing or popping out of their dresses. Needless to say I was disgusted so I shredded them and moved out.
My best friend was also my ex, we dated in high school and absolutely we were better as friends than lovers. The last relationship he had, she was terribly insecure about his past as he definitely got around quite a bit. In turn she told him we couldn't be friends anymore. I was devastated but I respected his relationship. He deserves love and happiness and I absolutely want him to have that. A few months after they got together, he was hit by a car and passed away. When I tell you, my heart was broken... he took a piece of me when he left this world. But because he was in a relationship at the time, I wasn't allowed to mourn or grieve for him... because in her eyes I was reduced to an ex, rather than the close friends we were. It still hurts me, nearly 10 years later, that we lost him. The world was a brighter place with him in it. Having the friendship stolen away without ever getting to say goodbye, I still cry for him. Sometimes, we're genuinely just friends... I would have been her best friend too if she had just been open to letting me in.
I'm so sorry... Being insecure is one thing but she really doesn't sound like a good person at all. The audacity she has shown is quite disgusting... I'm getting really angry for you...
@@lalune1235 I'm confused as to why she couldn't grieve for him. It seems very sad after 10 years she hasn't let this go. He made a decision to be in his current relationship and wanted to focus on that. It's rude of you to pass judgement on his decision and then blame it on his current girlfriend. If he was up front with her to begin with then he should have refused but still ultimately he chose to end contact to pursue his new relationship. It happens all of the time. Get a grip on yourself. Getting angry for others is a complete waste of time. He was a grown man who made a decision. It's sad he died but it happens. It's not the new girlfriends fault.
@@sarahkelley9045 it is more rude to tell others how they should feel. I'm not angry that the friendship ended on such terms. It happens and I know that 3 people are involved in this decision. But I am angry that she tried to intervene with the mourning process of others ignoring that they were best friends and tell her that she was nothing but an ex. Everybody is allowed to grieve. What would you feel if someone said such kind of a thing to you? If you don't see a problem with that, then so be it. I am not fine with such kind of behavior.
@@lalune1235 I wouldn't allow anyone else to affect me like that or stop me from grieving, attending a service etc. Again, she chose to allow this his current girlfriend to interrupt her grieving process with her words. She was clearly in great pain as well. To diminish the current girlfriends pain just because she didn't know him as long is ridiculous. Death makes people weird. Especially on the moment or shortly after. She is still holding on after 10 years and still blaming somebody else. She doesn't need your anger on her behalf. She needs to get over it. It's been 10 years and she's still blaming someone else for a choice she made. We allow people to treat us poorly. This lady has allowed it for 10 years. Your anger doesn't serve anyone. Not even you. Waste of energy. That's not a judgement. It's a fact. ✨✌️
As a non drinker I do still tip my waitress/bartender they did provide a service, especially if I'm there to see a band and she's navigating the crowd back and forth with my water.
The “if” implies that it is conditional, meaning not every case is the same. I used to serve and had tables stiff me on tip for a $30 bill and an hour and a half of table time. Tipping is just a way to allow businesses to pay people less than minimum wage.
My drink of choice is Crown Royal & Coke but I will alternate with a glass of water. I tip $1 per drink, including the rounds of water because I like my water with a wedge of lime - so it actually takes slightly more effort to add a lime wedge than to just add a stir straw. 😅 All of the waitresses knew to bring me a printout of the evening’s drinks on my tab at the end of the night so that I could accurately tip them $1 per drink, regardless of what the drink was. I used to be a cocktail waitress and I always take care of them. 💕
As a former bartender, WHO TF DOES THAT BAR TENDER THINK SHE IS, I would have never! Some of my favorite regulars drank water, and were 9 times out of 10, offering free DD service to others to make sure they got home safely! One lady and her husband were at my bar daily, even during the busiest weekends and hours, they drank water, or soda, and would gladly friend anyone in the bar, they danced like they were drunk, but they weren’t, they were everyone’s favorite….if someone like Michelle made fun of them, I’d have defended them too!
@Burger_pants listen, as Charlotte has pointed out in numerous videos, *we know* when something shady been goin' down. The BF likely isn't entirely innocent, but the girl on the floor is *definitely* gaslighting.
@Burger_pants If she's not doing anything wrong ,why not let her friend check the phone?? She talks to him BEHIND her back. That is where the problem lies.
My husband's best friend is a girl and she's the greatest gift. I would never give two shits about the fact that they have private messages and phone calls, they do all the time. Also, she's a fan, so if she reads this comment, love ya bb!
11:42 If my male friend’s gf had issues with me and my male friend talking/texting/etc. I would NOT have called her insecure. I would have tried to suggest solutions to making her feel more comfortable with me. That’s the right way to go about! No fighting just love, respect, and support. At the end of the day I want my friend to be happy with his woman. Even if we have been friends longer I would not place my friendship above their relationship. That is just straight up selfish.
Yes exposing someone on SM for something he couldn't control... then expecting him to still come after u drag him. In this economy, we need our jobs. Especially health insurance. Poor guy
She knew he wasn't coming but still made a video with her child saying how excited she was. He made a lucky escape.
Yea and she left soooo much out like tf, I hope her fanbase turned
@@Felix_hobi omg she’s just all types of loose in the bolts! What a messy human being.
He showed more effort into trying to make a set date/time in showing ACTUAL GENUINE interest!!..😮... I've been married to my elementary school crush since I was 16, n we just celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary however we've been together for 26yrs,.. n considering the fact that I've lived more of my life WITH him then WITHOUT... I can confidently say that I'd be lucky if my hubby remembered my bday, let alone being able to plan ahead for just "us" time!😮🤔😂 unfortunately I happen to fall in love with an extremely hyperactive,(child at ❤️) mentality with pretty disruptive OCD triggers/episodes, PLUS he hates going to the doctor so ive had to struggle hard with trying to keep up a strong relationship esp after all these years! Anyhoo, if I were the girl from the first story, I'd be forever embarrassed n ashamed of myself for acting out so immaturely n impulsive, yes who else can safely say the guy dodged a bullet, maybe it was the universe trying to warn him, ya know 🤷🏻♀️😫😵💫🤦🏻♀️🫨
There's definitely still some ppl telling her she dodge the bullet. @@Felix_hobi
The first guy dodged a Nuclear Missile. I hope he comes to realize how extremely lucky he is
Oh yeah that was lucky for him cause she instantly showed she’s a nutcase
Oh yeah, came here to say this. He is one lucky mf.
Agreed! She showed her true colors quickly! He’s lucky!
Absolutely. Chick was probably a stage 5 clinger and bunny boiler.
Crazy baby momma vibe, she's psycho. Dodged a major mistake.
I'd be calling and emailing the company in the internship company and reporting him for harassment. Hell no
my guess is the "company" is fake. Its not too hard to make up some company or pose as an existing one on LinkedIn. He was definitely gonna ghost her after that 1 month.
This! No way would i put up with that creepy inappropriate behavior
There is no company.
He was the “owner“ of the company
Either an MLM or he was a straight up se* offender.
She actually smirking while gaslighting. She knows what shes doing and she is enjoying it
4:17 “I picked up some shifts so I had money” So she understands needing a job to have money, yet expects him to jeopardize his job to come see her? The hypocrite.
Yaaassss this is what I was thinking! She literally is a hypocrite 😂
His job and potential his health since he said he has some issues n he needs the health insurance from the job.
That describes most women really
@@maloydonedidit2903y'all like to say "Not ALL men" but loooooove to generalize women, huh?
@@Ana-ho8dy lol 😂🤣😂 riiigghhhtt! Cuz women NEVER do that.... Did you ALSO pick the bear? Take a look in the mirror. I will give you 1 key difference though. Women love choosing the bear and saying how they "don't need men" and 10 minutes later either asking for help from a man or making a tiktok about how they need a man to help them. I guarantee that are FAR more tiktoks, UA-cam shorts, Facebook shorts of women whining about needing a man than there are men doing that. Again y'all are independent and strong until it gets just slightly too tough and you have to put some effort into it.
I feel like shampoo girl needs to contact Blake's company and send them all the correspondence between them. His bosses need to know what he's doing to potential employees
Unless the company is sus to begin with.
More likely there was no "company" to begin with.
Might not even be a real job application… sounds creepy and scammy
@@sowi-reeikuddye5732 Agreed. The phone call thing is a redflag.
So true. Since it was on LinkedIn, maybe she can make a post warning other potential interns, or even contact LinkedIn that there's a scammer. Idk
First girl could have garnered the sympathy she seems to want without blasting him like that.
Like ending it with "His work denied his time off request" would have still gotten the emotional response without burning that bridge
100% exactly this. I TOTALLY get the disappointment but her posting the video without the reason and ALONG WITH THE BLACKMAIL TEXTING TO HIM was so immature.
More like attention rather than sympathy.
First guy should thank his job for protecting him from accidentally dating a PSYCHOPATH
Things do happen for a reason.
Regarding the girl confronting her guy's friend...
I'm female and, being a veteran, I have a lot of male friends. One of my friends started seeing a girl and she was uncomfortable with our friendship. My friend let me know, so I arranged to meet her. I suggested we go out for lunch, just us two girls, so should could get to know me. We did and, over the course of the afternoon (we got on, so it ended up being a long lunch! 😂), I found out 2 things:
1) She was lovely;
2) She was insecure because her ex had cheated on her with someone he told her was his friend.
I could've told her it was her problem and not mine, but that would have been really disrespectful to my friend and would've shown no empathy to a girl taking time out to get to know me. So, instead, I suggested we find a solution until I'd earned her trust. We set up a group chat. Within a few months, she felt more secure, we all texted normally again, and I had earned a new friend.
Cut to last year and I was very proud to be a bridesmaid at their wedding 😎
Moral of the story: as a friend, it's your job to do right by your friend. If their new partner is psycho and tries to oush you out of the picture, tell them and stand firm. But if your friend really likes their new partner, find a solution (not for the partner, but because you value your friendship). And, you never know, you might end up with a new awesome friend, like I did 😊
Awesome story.
That’s really sweet 😊
You are very mature and this is a great story. Thanks for sharing!
Great story, thanks for sharing. It’s a wonderful way to make sure you still maintained your original friendship as well as making a new one.
I want a friend like you!
They guy who couldn't get the time off clearly dodged a bullet. He should thank his supervisor.
Imagine feeling SO HURT that you send an army to hate the guy that hurt you unintentionally. This girl is psycho and he dodged a bullet.
I'm not even sure she was that hurt, just attention seeking.
It was more like a nuclear missile. 😂
She'd never even met him, how hurt could she have been? Extreme reaction to what should have been just mild disappointment.
I've had friends like her. Dropped them.
She was NOT HURT.
I'm really proud of that 2nd girl. It took me a long time to realize that some jobs I had in the past were really unprofessional. I was uncomfortable but didn't know enough or better to say or do anything. I didn't want to lose my job or make anyone mad
Those dramas don't need an emergency exit, they need an ejection seat. 🤣
Hahaha! I've needed one few times in my life.
Without the parachute lol
😂God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven❤
Ejecto seato cuz!
Omg, so true!!!
Here’s the thing about the girl confronting her friend, she should never have put herself in that position. You tell the boyfriend you’re not comfortable with it and he needs to handle it, and if he doesn’t you walk away from both of them. She’s texting HIS phone. HE needs to be the one to tell her it’s not ok. Then the girlfriend doesn’t get her hands dirty at all, and isn’t subjected to any bullcrap the other girl is going to say.
Exactly. He falls to him to address and correct the friend's behavior so his gf isn't left feeling uncomfortable or awkward. Some new gf's will be all "dump your friend". That happened, and I'd only gone out with the girl once. She wanted me to not even hang out with a friend I'd known for years; we called each other brother and sister. New girl never even met my friend and said I wasn't gonna remain friends with "my sis" if I was with her. I told her right off 1) one date isn't a relationship, 2) you don't get to tell me who my friends are, and 3) rest assured, there won't be a 2nd date. Take care!
Exactly what I was thinking... why isn't her boyfriend addressing the situation
as a girl, if that’s if that’s my close friend im going to confront both of them.. especially if she is the one being inappropriate/disrespectful. im mot going to tell him to put a stop to it and then act like theres nothing wrong towards her. especially cause then she could be like “why didn’t she tell me herself”. you are supposed to feel close enough in your friendship to be able to set boundaries w your friends
We didn't really catch the beginning of that conversation. She may have already confronted her boyfriend about it and the friend may have brought it up with her.
Yes. Exactly.
The smile while arguing on the blond's face tells you all you need to know. She's LOVING the drama she's caused.
this
Bro her face is so punchable
Oh so true! I knew someone like this (now ex bestie fooling around with my now ex bf) and took the smile off her face with itching powder, which how I found out she was the other chick he was seeing because she called me thinking she caught an STD and was wondering if I had caught anything. 1+1 = Gotcha!😈😈
@@rustyhowe3907nice tactic I probably would've done a pepper condom deal but that works😂
She never got her ass whipped by other girls
Defamation of character is a lawsuit waiting to happen (alluding to someone being a possible serial killer with bodies in her basement... BRUV) and that can reflect horribly on the business in question. Y'all need to be mindful that words matter. There's a dang good reason why we have laws against this sort of behavior.
I'm a 41yr old Aussie Diesel mechanic here in Queensland Australia, I'm abit rough, short beard, drive a 4x4 ute, have a custom trike, usually covered in grease and oil and dirt most days, work for a big transport company here as well, have my own work shop and 3 other mechanics beside me as well... but as soon as I get a notification that a new Charlotte video has dropped its tools down, stop what ya doing, and everyone in the workshop crowds around the 70' flatscreen for abit of Charlotte time 😂😂 keep up the good work darl, love ya vids 👌
Hey Pete, you'll have lots of o/s visitors if your not careful 😆 From Nth East VIC 🇦🇺
@@bunyipdragon9499 I dont mind 🤷♂️🤣🤣
@@Mechanic.Pete41 didn't think so, I was being silly 😜
Wish I lived in Australia 😅
I dig the visualization!❤
"I'm not insecure in my relationship with my man, I'm getting suspicious of your intentions when YOU won't respect my boundaries in my relationship with my man" bring in the man and see what he says.
Good point 👍🏽 I wonder how the bf acts w/ the friend & if the gf addressed the problem w/ him too 🤔
I would of had to be held back from throwing hands at the peroxide piece of 💩
As a man I would of been mad, that's my friendship your messing with... It is your insecurity that you need to deal with, if you can't deal with it, you communicate to me and we work it out or I make a choice between a friend or our relationship... This isn't the way!
@@captainnoname7690 I admit I'm a little confused by your comment. Are you saying if your friend was messaging your girlfriend behind your back, you would pick your friend over your girlfriend? Or if you were my man you would think I was insecure with my friend and dump me bc I'm insecure?
@@carlamarlene2927 sry, I mean I would want my gf to come to me and then together after talking about it, we make a decision about my female friendships and what we do about them together.
I find it so disturbing that bartender chick says she "doesnt want to make fun of someone on the spectrum", I'm autistic and I don't want fake niceness when you're dealing with me, if you're not gonna treat other people with basic respect then whats the point? This absolutely cannot be what people think we want 😂
For people like her, unfortunately, it’s really not about what others want but about what she can acceptably get away with socially. It’s performative sensitivity, and it’s sadly very common.
She only doesn't want to make fun of someone on the spectrum because it's not politically correct and she doesn't want to get hate. She's fine making fun of anyone else, and that would include autistic people (with the gross presumption she can tell just by looking at them) if she wasn't afraid of backlash. She just wants positive internet points. Most people have met people who are autistic and not even known. Hell, many autistic women don't know until they're diagnosed in adulthood (speaking from experience). Maybe just... don't make fun of people? Whether you think they're autistic or not.
As a high masking, late diagnosed female with autism,
My favourite lines by ableist a holes is " but you don't look autistic" along with " my family member is autistic so you must be faking because you don't have the same look or the exact same autistic traits as my family member" it's like people's family members get diagnosed and then they immediately forget that Autism is on a spectrum.
@@jordangann7438 Yes! Or when they ask 'what does he do?' & I'm like 'wut' and they say 'You know, like is he really good at math or does he play an instrument? I know someone who has it and they are really good at "_____" So I'm like 'he's really good at minding his business and being completely innocent & happy!' (They don't have to know he's 23 but really more like a nonverbal 3) It's like just cause you watched 1 movie or your family member/friend has it, they aren't all the same! It's called a spectrum for a reason!
That part. I don’t want to hate on people on the spectrum…
• proceeds to hate on the ONE group of people that would rather you honestly rail on us than fake niceness •
Sometimes I don’t understand NT ppl…
Charlotte I love how you end these videos with positivity or some ASMR. I just feel so good afterward. Like I get my cathartic release from all the drama and then you just melt all the stress built up by the drama away at the end.
Thank you, Charlotte
I’ve bartended for a number of years, it paid for my schooling. And in those last years I’d get tipped for my waters. It was because I’d always dress it up to look like a mixed drink, and they were thankful for it. Showing a bit of kindness goes a long ways for the most part.
That bartender was insane. She's disgusting. 😂
The bartender in my opinion she’s an asshole, and there’s been a lot of videos as of late that I’ve come out about her and what she’s really about and it’s not being a nice person 😂
Water should be tipped, though. Not exorbitant tips, but leave the bartender something, even if you aren't drinking alcohol. They are still on their feet for a long time & have to serve you & clean up after you. You don't even have to pay for the water, so it doesn't cost much to leave them a couple/few bucks before you leave. But THIS bartender is pretty whack. & the hair is straight outta '93 😅
@@lucycarlisle9120 Absolutely disagree. Why should you tip for something that’s free? And ESPECIALLY tip people who are judging you 24/7 apparently???
If you are there every day ordering a water, you should tip because they are providing a service and asking if you need anything else.
12:00 the grin on the “friend’s” face that pops out briefly at times is duper’s delight. Narcs use it when gaslighting and they think they’re winning.
Yeah, that girl gave me the ick… 😖
I agree!!! That's what killed me
I literally JUST came to make a comment about duper's delight!
It can be nervousness if you come from abuse, etc. Clearly not with the girl in the video.... but yeah
Yeah, she thinks she’s the shit but she ain’t even the fart.
I was a bartender for a very long time. It's completely normal for people to come in just to relax by themself or hang out with their friends and not drink alcohol.
Yeah I dated a bartender for a few months and he’d invite me to come hangout while he was working. I’d just sit t the bar and talk with him and drink water because I didn’t need to have a drink every time I was there (at least 3x a week) some times it’s just fun to go to the bar and hangout.
yaeh and beeng on the soectrum myselph, I know I have too be carfull with alcohol. it is eseyer for us too becoming adicked and harder to let go of a habit. and some of us have medications to handle serten problems and thy dont mix weii with alcohole. in sweden we have entire alcoholefree coctaile bars
My husband and I used to frequent a local veteran bar and neither of us drink alcohol. We used to sit and drink a pop or two a couple times a week. Nothing wrong with it.
@@Dragonlover33I think it's cheeky to only ever get water and never buy ANYTHING. That seems like taking advantage. No one has to drink alcohol but she could buy another drink.
That story was so unnecessary and disrespectful.
I’m literally remaking my house, full in paint and dust and just realised I have spent 15hrs just listening/wathing your content!!! You’re turning me into an addicted!!! 😂😂😂
Love to see how much you have grown, specially with the fact that I follow you since you had around 80k or 100k!!!
Go girl!!!!
I can think of far worse addictions lol wtg on the house
That bartender being like “well she’s never ordered anything but water from ME”
Yeah girl, she caught your vibe and said “absolutely not”
Why go to the police though? What are they going to do? There was no personal information or anything about the person in question so what does she expect the police to do? She will just be wasting their time.
@@paige8453 because its technically cyberbullying
But there's something I don't understand. Isn't the water free? Isn't a customer that takes a seat, orders only water and doesn't even tip just a nuisance?
I'm genuinely confused about this one because I'm not from the US and I don't know how this works. Most places in my area either charge cover charge that includes one drink (can be soft) or require you to order at least one real drink (not water since it's free, and again, it can be a soft drink).
I agree that the bartender is cyberbullying the poor girl but I don't understand how they're a customer if they're not paying anything.
If it wasn't about her, she wouldn't have made the response video. She deflected saying it was about her "friend" who had never been mentioned in the first video at all, lmao. Also, she admitted she is the water girl, but she's wrong in the fact that to be a customer, you do actually need to pay for things. Since she refuses to do so, she is not a customer. At all. She's a loiterer. But go off boo
@franciscoflamenco I'm not even sure if it's really cyberbullying because no real information was given. Water girl responded and ousted herself. Also, water is free, so she is a nuisance that just takes up space at the bar. 😂
Girl in the first story is going to be online is a month like 'I don't understand why I can't keep a relationship."
I'm more worried about her little boys. She seems to be including them in her dating/love life as well as posting it for everyone to see. She doesn't need to be dating right now; she needs to be staying off the internet and taking care of her kids.
IKR 😂
@@s.b.sieber2007 I'm worried as crazy as she is that she would or does hurt them!
As someone who has been a bartender & a server, never talk about customers with anyone other than your co workers. No matter what
Why though? Really, is it because itll get back to them?
@@Beepbopboop19 You want people to talk about you behind your back? Well that’s a YOU choice.
You don't need to talk about them period do your job get your check go home and stop talking about others..
If names aren’t mentioned, it’s really not a huge deal.
13:10 "Call me crazy, but I've never liked store bought pesto" Who else noticed that little detail?
Love you editor! (forgot ur name sorry ;-;)
Good catch did not notice!!
The “call me crazy” and then the pesto popping in on the side is SO underrated!! That is peak humor!! A little Easter egg for us viewers! Praise these editors!!❤
I laughed out loud at that!!!😂😂😂
I died laughing when it popped up 😆
Loved this 😂
I _immediately_ called that clip up in my brain when she said "call me crazy" 😆 The little pesto jar was the savory cherry on top!
The woman in the first story was giving off major bunny boiler vibes. Dude is lucky that he couldn’t get off work.
He should thank his boss for the rejection after showing him the video.
Bunny *what* vibes??!
the heck is a bunny boiler?
They're talking about Bunny boiler vibes like the woman in the movie Fatal Attraction who boils the bunny
"I will not be IGNORED, DAN!" 😅
Why doesnt she go visit him? When I was dating my husband if he couldnt make it out to me, I would figure out a way to get to him. Been together for 22 years, married for 15. And we still both put in effort for the other one
Because she's crazy.
My guess is the kid. It's hard traveling with a child.
@@ashassassin Fair enough, but that should make her more understanding of his situation, since she also has situations holding her back from travel.
I genuinely think that she thought he would like all of the pr, like he would turn it into an online campaign to get more people to his band page. However I feel like she's a little too caught up in being a content creator and forgetting that those who have to sign in with a manager for a job don't get to just make whatever schedule and do whatever they damn well please throughout the day.
She done fucked up and it's going to be a little bit until she realizes it.
Right? It goes both ways. If it were the case that she really liked this guy, they would have worked on figuring out another way, or she would have offered an alternative. Instead she reacts in the most disrespectful manner , which would be a turn off to anyone that she can't handle a difficult situation with any grace and understanding.
My bff followed my bf all night pulled him into a room, sat on his lap while I was on the dance floor said she had a dream about him. After years of this I snapped, not only did my bf question that she was a friend but I told her we were laughing at her all night and she looked like a mess. She hasn't done it since, has been happily married for 12 years and still to this day apologizes over the passed. I do not regret staying her friend she means the world to me but she did change a whole 360.
I literally just had to deal with a “friend” who was trying to slid into my HUSBANDS DMs. They like dated when they were in school. He and I have been married for 30 yrs. I find out she’s been trying really hard to get with him. Because of my health she will be a better “fit” for him. And I should step back and let her have him🙄 When she finally stopped hinting and just said it to him. He laughed at her and told her no way. The amount of gaslighting she tried with me and bringing my health into it was sickening. At the end of the day he’s my best friend and husband. And she’s out in the cold. 🥶 Some people though 😑
Props to your husband for his integrity and loyalty. 🫡
I’m very lucky. Also very proud that he stood up for me/us. I think what gets me is how long she tired. And he’s in is own world and had no clue😂. Took her laying it out for him and just saying some toxic stuff. He told her she can go back where she came from…… the past. Because I am his present and future. I’m lucky and she’s nasty. lol
I never understood why people would WANT what i have. Like you think he would feel the same about you?! Why werent yall together in the first place?!
Some people are so lonely and jealous😅
I love how your Husband told this toxic woman to go back to the past. I have a lot of health issues but I know that my Husband would react just like yours did, I'm so happy that I found my forever. X
Unfortunately, the charm works on some people in vulnerable spaces which is why they do it. They can also be delulu and pretend on their world that they were picking up on cues and were being misled.
purposefully dragging someone on the internet before even meeting them and then using the hate train to threaten them into seeing you is one of the most entitles, delulu things I've ever heard. dude dodged a death bullet
No it was a major Nagasaki atomic bomb
For real!! She's batshit!
@@twoprayingbuddhas892 ooh definitely!
I would say a bad case of poor mental health but entitled sounds true as well.
I'm a non drinker (I just never cared for it) so I'm everyone's favorite DD. 15- 20 years ago bartenders loved me. I always got free soda and water, they always thanked me for being that friend.
Now (increasingly over the last 5 years or so) I get attitude and a non alcoholic drink is the most expensive thing in the bar. Crazy. (Not everywhere of course but WAY too often)
Yeah feel this way too, it’s shitty. I’m a young non-drinker, 24. So I drive my friends around constantly lol but I don’t mind. I love taking care of them and making sure everyone gets home safe. I take pride in being a hawk about my friends drinks & making sure they stay away from creeps at the club. I wish I got that same kind of respect from others though. My friends are lovely & know me. But sometimes they’ll bring in other people or boyfriends or we meet people out and about. And they can be so rude about me not liking alcohol. I also routinely get people who are shocked that I’m not in recovery…no I’m not a former addict. I just don’t care for alcohol! 😂
I was in Ibiza about 10 years ago. Even back then, mineral water was 12€ in the club, gin tonic 14€...
To be fair, water and no tip in this economy is basically wasting a bartender's time.
You aren't contributing to the bars revenue in any way yet are using the staffs time and the bars resources.
If you come in with a group of friends that's one thing as you allow them to safely order more drinks overall. However if you alone enter, order water, then just leave you A) take up one of the limited seating spaces B) create at minimum 1glass in need of cleaning and C) at least 10 minutes of staff time based on a single glass. All without providing any income to the bar or tips to the waiter.
If you don't buy at least one drink, alcoholic or not, then you are abusing a privilege.
It's also why a lot of small cafes in my area (popular walking spot for tourists) only let people use the bathroom if they make a purchase. A cafe is only required to provide toilets for customers and unless you buy something you aren't a customer. Same thing with some bars in my area as well.
@@KestralKuthule I agree with everything you just said. As a non drinker I have definitely never gone to a bar alone ever.
Now that you bring it up I just assumed people didn't go to bars and drink water alone. That's an odd concept to me, I know the girl in this story did it, but I figured it was made into such a big deal because it's odd. Never been a bartender. Fascinating that it's actually a thing, so strange.
@@KestralKuthule All of this is crazy to me because bars are not a privilege. It’s a service and people can choose not to use it. And water is a human right & need so I don’t understand why it would be mandatory for someone to order and alcoholic drink. If someone thinks their bar is a privilege, they should charge money at the door. This thought process is mind boggling.
13:53 my boyfriend has been my best friend since kindergarten, he was an odd kid who’s only friends were his cousins, we went to separate elementary schools, but my mom babysat his little brothers. I never had any issues with him talking to other girls because he simply didn’t have other friends that weren’t related to him other than me.
But I love him with all of my being ❤❤❤
13:11 that store bought pesto jar peeping through the screen when you say "call me crazy" - GENIUS EDITING!
As someone who's worked in retail and service for over a decade, I acknowledge that we do gossip about strange customers. But to put it online?? Especially when that person is a regular and likely to find out?? That's just taking things way too far. Plus, after seeing that, I'd be uncomfortable having her serve me, I'm sure a lot of other people feel the same, so she's screwing herself and the business she works for 🤦♀️
Yes! And as someone who worked in restaurants: If you go to a bar or restaurant & only order water & you stay for awhile, you should leave a tip. You're using the server's time & you're taking up a spot in their station that could be taken by a customer who will be ordering & leaving a tip. (And if you're getting a free glass of water, drink it & leave. Most places in the US will kick you out if you're not a paying customer, unless you're with someone else who is ordering.)
12:02 as someone who has primarily male friends from highschool, I’ve NEVER had one of their partners tell me not to text them because I don’t do shady shit. It’s easy to have a friendly relationship with a dude without being weird. I’ve never sent these guys flirty shoulder pics because these men are like my brothers! I guarantee you that girl saw him romantically because it’s not hard to be platonic and not overstep bounds
100% agree with this, but on the flip side you can do all of this and try to make it clear that nothing shady is going on, but the girl can be extremely possessive, and can see you as problem which has happened to me before, the girl hated me no matter how much I tried to make make it clear that me and him were like siblings, anytime me and him had plans with either us by ourselves or in our friend group she would have a “problem” with something and have to back out, and we confronted her about it and she played the victim, and in the end she made him choose between her and our friend group and he choose me and our friend group because he didn’t need her drama, and even after that she played the victim but she lied consistently on us when all we did was just be nice to her and welcome her into our group, but I do agree with you, male and female can just be friends with no strings attached.
@@quantumleap1491 you are insane amd you gaslight
@@quantumleap1491 you cannot send flirty shit to your male friends in relationships and pretend it isn't shady smh. You must be the "friend" she was talking about
@@GabrielleTollerson where did I say I was flirting? Nowhere is where, when me or my other female friends tell our male friend we love him it’s a brother relationship, men can have female friends without strings attached, if me and him hang out it’s us acting like dumbass 12 year olds because we are comfortable with the opposite sex, there are women like myself who don’t care the sex of the person and can become friends with anyone I grew up around male and female friends, girls who haven’t are just awkward around guys, and I have a Bf who I love with my whole heart and I would never cheat on him he rescued me from a bad situation, and as a 27 year old I am too old to cheat and act like a teenager in high school I am dating to marry and have a family, and no my bf and best friend don’t have issues with each other because there is trust, we talk like adults and understand each other and most of the time we all hang out together, so stop using your teen girl tik tok drama ideology on adults because if adults do what you claim that’s childish.
@@GabrielleTollerson Where you even got the flirting part from the message above?..
I had never even heard the word gaslight until the Johnny Depp trial !😂
Ex bartender here and I promise we are not all like her.. Most of us appreciate the sober people who come into the bar. I’d never expect a tip for water either. I personally loved my regulars and never cared what they ordered or didn’t order. ❤
In college, the local bars gave free sodas to the designated driver. I rarely drink, but I enjoy going out with friends. I've never had an issue with bartenders or waitstaff.
Agreed. Her entitlement is wild. I worked at a bar attached to a bowling alley and if I cried and moaned every time I fetched a water, I would just be sobbing all day. I did bulk order bottled water for customers, but that's only because I thought the tap water was gross and felt bad serving it to kids. Not for money.
I appreciate how hard the bartenders & servers work. They deal with a lot. I always tip for water when it’s served to me. You take care of me; I take care of you.
Isn't the expectation that a customer purchase something? Like maybe some apps from the kitchen or a virgin cocktail or something? Cuz otherwise isn't it loitering?
also don't care what they order, love regulars, dont expec ttips but appreciate them and me personally I would tip for a water as well but i work hospitality so i know the hussle
The little pesto bottle when she said "call me crazy" I can't 😂😂😂😂
I SAW
The editing is on point! 😂
Thank you for pointing it out! I cackled 😂
I'm glad to see a response to that bartender's tiktoks. She's always given me the ick. There was another story recently about her toxicity too, basically encouraging people to commit credit card fraud.
Regarding the girl doing an internship with the boss crossing boundaries, I mistakingly acquired a 3 year long stalker once from some job interview. He had my application so he knew my number, my address, everything! He finally tried to break into my home at 3 am one morning and was caught by the police.
Be careful ladies!
Hold up, so you are telling me that she's actually excited about seeing him and when life happens, which is does, instead of rescheduling and keeping things happy and fun, she instead makes a video basically turning this guy into a monster and scaring him off and he's the bad guy? H'wat?
He dodged a massive bullet here
She even sent him a little snippet of her fake “mad face” typing furiously on the computer 🤢🤢🤢. Then she had to reenact all of those happy moments. What a phony weirdo CRAZYYY.
She's definitely one of those manipulative emotional abuser types. They suuuuuck.
The universe was looking out for him, by getting her to reveal she is the type of person who IMMEDIATELY first instinct is to manipulate and create flying monkeys. He dodged a nuclear bomb
😊😊😊@@Lemana28021989
One of my best friends is a single guy, I'm married, have been for 7 years. Him and my husband have now become friends also. What makes our relationship ok is that we don't cross boundaries! He'll tell me about girls he's dating or whatever, and I'll talk vaguely about a disagreement my husband and I had to get his opinion as a man and as someone who knows my husband. He's NEVER tried to slide into anything, never been inappropriate etc. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, BUT everyone needs to be respectful of everyone else, PERIOD! If he wasn't, we wouldn't continue our friendship
Exactly.
Yep! I had a guy best friend and people would talk (he didn't flaunt his homosexuality and that was completely his choice), but my husband knew that he had nothing to worry about and why. I was never alone with him anywat, and we rarely texted/talked and it was never anything inappropriate... BUT one chick (the wife of my husband's coworker who happened to live near to our apartment in the same complex) ASSUMED we had an open marriage (again, rumors), rarely talked to me, but had no problem flirting with my husband IN FRONT OF ME AND OUR KID. I wanted to punch her face but my husband said, "It's time for y'all to go (6 of us were playing cards at our house; my husband and I, his coworker and coworker's wife, my girl best friend and my guy best friend) because he knew I was about to tell her off (at minimum, but without telling her my guy friend was gay) and he saved her. She tried messaging me saying that I was "disgusting" 😂 (I think she was actually mad we weren't having a "good time" with her!😂) "for having such double-standards" in MY marriage. 😂 I showed my husband the message, we both blocked her, and after he had a private talk with his buddy, we never heard a peep out of her again. I'm glad I never had to worry about my friends with my man...I have great friends, and I am one, because I would NEVER make them uncomfortable with me and because it is wrong, no matter what the circumstances or rumors are!
As someone who has just realised in middle age that I am on the spectrum. I have always been awkward in social situations by not talking or over sharing and then beating myself up for it. The bartender has just confirmed why I beat myself up and that people do notice my behaviour. Good thing the diagnosis has given me freedom to be me and not care anymore 😊
Good, because it was so disgusting that they kept using it as an insult. Even Charlotte being offended by it made me angry. People need to knock that off.
😊 Good for you! And I'll bet you're totally awesome!
Same, I'm 57 and spent most of my life not getting why I didn't get people and had some interesting times growing up, I finally figured it out in my 40's. It's still weird sometimes but so much better now I can just be me 💜
@@bunyipdragon9499 the funniest thing is I’ve worked in disability for 20 years and I was always told I was a natural with understanding and communicating using body language. It never occurred to me it was because I was neurodivergent 🤣
@@maggieb4736 thank you. I think I’m quirky in a funny way 😆
idk - I live on a tiny island - we all know each other and are all friends with eachother - we do txt eachother, maybe not cutsie, but certainly about plans or whatever and we do hangout - all in rotation with eachother. I think it depends on the situation
I worked in a pub for years and there would be the odd sober customer that would make our pub their regular. People go to pubs to offload all the time or meet up with their drinking buddies or whatever. I took that job very seriously esp my regulars they would feel very comfortable sitting at the bar chatting away knowing they could tell me anything and they wouldn’t be the talk of the town next day. And that’s why some pubs do a lot better than others it’s not because of the other customers it’s the staff.
Right? Imagine someone who doesn’t drink still might crave human interaction. What an idea…🤦🏼♀️
@@KDu400 what??
i work in a coffee shop, and sometimes we'll get people come in who maybe dont like coffee or tea, or maybe cant afford our prices (fair) and if they are with a friend, i'll always offer them some water, just so they dont feel left out and so they have a cup to drink from. just ordering water isn't a big deal.
i'd only say it's a big deal if you are a complete ass to the staff, or if it's super busy and you're maybe taking up a table that a paying customer could be using. but if it's quiet, you do you.
I also think it's different if someone is hanging out with their friends versus just coming by themself. But yes, when it wasn't busy I often appreciated having something to do
I had a roommate once that sat me down and asked me not to touch her boyfriend who was also a roommate because it made her uncomfortable. I had one time pulled a piece of food out of his hair that he was struggling to grab after I had pointed it out. She acknowledged that she realized it was her insecurities and it was something completely innocent but asked me to respect this boundary. So because I respect other people’s boundaries I never touched him again.
On one hand, that's nice of you, on the other hand, you are helping her keep unhinged Behavior. I would be very scared to date someone who told my friends and roommates that they couldn't.... touch me. That is severe personal issues of hers that she is throwing onto everyone else's plates and expecting them to uphold. I feel very sorry for your roommate, he is going to lose lots and lots of people and his life. It's not the they can't touch him thing, it's the dating a woman who would tell your friends and roommates that they can't touch you.
@@B.Harper7 she wasn’t toxic and is a really good person. She was going to therapy and acknowledged it was her issue. She needed to feel comfortable in our home and wasn’t like this with his female friends. They’re still together and very happy. I understand the concern but she worked on herself to get better and doesn’t have that insecurity anymore. If she wasn’t actively working on herself that would be a problem but she never isolated him.
Im subscribed to the bartender, she is so chill. There's likely more to the story then what's said. She had such a good rep at uncle Jessie's
A true friend will respect when you tell them that you are hurting them.
As a former bartender I’ve tipped on water numerous times! I was tipped as well for providing water too. The bartender is providing a service no mater what is in the glass.. it’s a no brainer what the rude server was trying to convey but she clearly isn’t a nice or kind person to bully and post about her clients online..so it makes sense why she hasn’t received a tip! 🤣
Your services should be paid by the bar/company not someone getting water that takes less than a minute for you give them
@jc1487 When I took a break from drinking, went to a bar & tipped 3$ on free water. She still took the time to service me as she would others...
@@autumn1734lol nah you don't tip on water. I'm sorry that you have some weird guilt, but it's not normal
@@LoveGigi99they don't want to make a livable wage because they make so much more in a day in tips
That rejection for time-off was a major blessing in disguise. It really helped him dodge a nuke there.
I always order water at the bar. At one point I was being shamed by the bar owner, but I was the DD a lot, or just didn’t want to drink that night🤷🏻♀️. One night a guy came up to me, he was also sober, and we were in the same group of servers, anyways he told me,”It’s okay to just order a water you’re just being safe.” He was just finishing up his DUI. He was probably 26, but this man was WISE! I never felt bad about drinking water at their bar, and getting home safely every night. I just don’t think anyone in a bar should ever just shame people for ordering water. I’ll still tip though because it was an industry bar, and I was in the industry.
I’m really proud for the last girl who stood up for her friend that had a nasty TikTok posted online regarding untrue, made up, and malicious rumors. I give her a lot of credit for not only admitting her past transgressions but that she’s doing much better and is a kinder person now. Kudos to you girl!
I’m still stuck on the fact that they haven’t seen any of the guys she’s gone home with. Does seem sorta suspicious
Depending on how big the city is etc how would they even be able to tell?
Do they know everyone?
I mean unless the guys have been regulars in this specific bar they might just not go back to that bar.
Maybe they didn't like the bar, maybe they didn't like the bartender. XD
@@abbienicholson6022 From what she's saying, Michelle had made that up. Or at the very least she's saying it's a fake story the bartenders at Uncle Jesse's made up about her friend and Michelle is posting it online to further spread these false rumors.
Basically Michelle shared one of the inside thoughts out loud. Working in customer service oriented jobs I know that people have a habit of making up stories about their regulars.
This girl just reminded Michelle that she can't openly and publicly spout misinformation about a person without the possibility of a defamation lawsuit coming into play.
Michael Raleigh is a bit problematic
Nothing was made up they said it's literally just rumors that the other bartenders theorize.
The water drinking at the bar story hit home a bit. My husband is allergic to alcohol and only ever likes drinking water. He hates coffee and tea and used to drink juice or sodas but cut those out because of the excessive sugar in them. Therefore, he only drinks water. When he was dating online, he felt stuck not being able to meet people in bars or coffee shops. He felt it would seem strange to girls online to meet up with a guy who isnt drinking at all. He felt it would seem preditory and chose to meet ppl in other places. We met at dinner and it was lovely but it is sad that people feel they can't be in a bar if they aren't drinking.
Doesn’t bars have nonalcoholic drinks anymore? Ours does o.O
I lost my kidney to cancer so I chose to not drink to try to save the only one I have left. Also I’m a terrible drinker I too am allergic and have such a slow metabolism I don’t feel the effects till 12 hours later and by then I have essentially binge drank myself into oblivion because I wasn’t having any effects. So I chose not to drink. I can’t tell you how many times people who claim to be my friends would bully and badger me into drinking when I told them no and it makes me sick and usually I end up in the hospital. People really need to learn what respect is. I learned who my real friends were and who was just messing with me or wanting my stuff “when you die” so essentially I tossed them all and yes I’m alone but I’m so much happier and less miserable every day.
I'm a bartender and we purchase our drinking water, but it's a free service for our guests, so we do prefer customers to actually purchase something, and not just get water or we would be losing money. We do offer non-alcoholic drinks though, also no-sugar ones.
@@SaitoKat92if you’re bar isn’t full, you are NOT losing money. This is a very tired narrative.
I worked in & ran multiple very popular, typically very busy bars & restaurants over the years, and VERY rarely did the water drinkers actually affect business.
Unless they’re taking up a spot in a packed establishment, you aren’t actually affected. Period. You’re just mad someone isn’t racking up a bill. They’re not taking anything away from you, they aren’t preventing anyone who wants to come in from doing so.
You’re choosing to be irritated by someone who isn’t doing anything to you. That’s a choice.
The people that actually, REGULARLY, screw industry workers over are the ones that take up whole tables, buy ONE cheap drink, & nurse it for HOURS & HOURS as they sit there talking, completely aware & unconcerned that the place is packed and there’s a line out the door.
THOSE people have the biggest impact on business & take home.
The water drinkers, by far, are more often than not older people who are just lonely and want to still have some sort of social interaction, even if it’s just sitting and watching others socialize. EVERYTHING is expensive now, and these folks on fixed incomes just want to feel like they’re still a part of things. I have never, and will never, fault people for wanting & needing that. We are isolating these people from being able to have basic social interactions, and we see the impact with the increasing number of elderly folks suffering from severe depression.
Start looking at them as people who probably really need that interaction, & how much it means to them for just a brief interaction with you, & stop looking at it as them taking something from you - especially when that’s just not the case the vast majority of the time.
Also, if you politely bring it to their attention if you ARE packed & need their spot, and let them know there’s people patiently waiting for that spot, 9/10 they’ll move - and they often just are unaware, they’re not trying to cause issues.
More than a few times, I’ve grabbed a chair or two from a back room & put it next to wherever I’m at, and let them sit there instead, so I can free up the needed space. It doesn’t hurt me to do this.
As I said in my other comment posted in the main thread, some of the funniest & sweetest customer interactions I’ve had over the years has been with these exact people.
Stop looking at these people & assuming they’re trying to pull one over on you. If you automatically assume someone is a problem, that’s all any of these individuals are ever going to be for you, even when they’re not.
Bartender story: bringing autism into it was ableist as hell and disgusting. Just because we are a different neurotype doesn't mean that we're weird or have a penchant for locking people up in our basements. her excuse for bringing it up was also really weak. Why would she think to bring it up "just in case" people would if she herself wasn't already thinking that it could be the underlying reason?
The responder and Charlotte were worse because they took it as an insult and never corrected it. The first girl may have just been referring to her blank facial expression in the phone picture. Most likely she was being insulting, though, some to think it over… considering her other behaviors.
@BeeWhistler nope. The bartender has a Bee in her bonnet over a customer only ordering water
She said that she’s NOT on the spectrum… sounds like she was trying to clear up that she wasn’t making fun of someone on the spectrum… that she just thought the person was weird… not clinically diagnosed with a condition…
@@Stylestudent, she just shouldn't have mentioned it, period.
@@maggieb4736 why?
I’ve been a Bartender at many places, from high end, to dives. I love my water drinkers. They are awesome. You don’t have to go to the bar to drink. It’s the social interaction. They always do tip me though. Just a five. I appreciate it. In actuality, they are taking up real estate on bigger tips. I love my sober drinkers though. They sometimes help you make it through the night. ✨
The situation with the two girls talking about the girl being "insecure in the relationship" had it happen to me! She gaslit me to the extreme and called up my boyfriend. He ended up dumping me over it - best thing to happen to me, though.
Good riddance, you're better off without both of them!
Dodged a bullet... You deserve a better boyfriend and better friends. My best friend's girlfriend struggled understanding how close we are, so she invested time in our shared hobby to get to know me. I'd never want to make her feel crazy or worried, she means way too much to my bestie for that. We never ended up being friends, too little common ground, but she build a strong bond of trust with me. I'd expect my best friend to do the same for my boyfriend if that's something he needed.
@@esmee6308 Absolutely agree. I now have a wonderful boyfriend and cut ties with any of those affiliated in that friend group.
@@raindropsandfeathers2245 Glad to hear it! Couldn't have been easy at the time.
I mean, I get both sides, but someone absolutely can lack confidence to the point that they get jealous of their SO's friends.
CHARLOTTE!!!
I just want to let you know how awesome your community is!!!
I left a comment in your last video about a friend who passed away after a MAJOR internet scam.
I had several ppl reach out in kindness! It was very sweet!
The community is a reflection on the content creator! Thank you for being awesome and 'collecting' awesome!
I love this!!
Hope you're doing okay❤
J'ai pas compris ton commentaire tata Alice 😊
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne the video Charlotte posted 2 days ago had someone talking about an overseas scam.
One of my besties fell for one. He racked up 300k in debt. He passed away 2 weeks after telling his partner. Idk if he took his own life or if it was natural.
Last summer I lost my kitty on a Friday, my bestie passed the next Friday and my gramma passed away the Friday after that. It was so tough but the kindness of strangers here in the Charlotte community was really sweet and uplifting! ❤
I wanted to let Charlotte know she's got a fabulous community!😊
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne the wording is a little off bc UA-cam has deleted my reply a cpl times so I'm hoping this wording will be 'safe'
I left a comment in the vid she posted 2 days ago that talked about an overseas scam.
I 'lost' my bestie 2 weeks after telling his partner about the 300k he owed to the scammer. IDK if his passing was natural or... not.
Last August, I 'lost' my kitty on Fri, I 'lost' my bestie the next Friday and I 'lost' my gramma the following Fri.
It was so tough! I wanted to let Charlotte know how awesome her community was as ppl reached out w nothing but kindness! ❤❤❤
When I go to a bar I only drink water cause I don’t like drinking. When did drinking water become abnormal. What a world we live in. Thanks for supporting us water drinkers ❤❤❤❤
I live in Australia and have gotten this since before I was 18 (legal drinking age) simply because no I don't want to act a fool and lose all co-ordination, dignity and respect nor deal with creeps trying to take me home, I'm just there to have a non-alcoholic drink and socialize for a few moments with some friends and go back to my family before the friends get rowdy.
I don’t think it’s about the water as such, I think she was only ordering the “free tap water”… And if that’s the case, I don’t think it’s fair to the establishment-to sit there and order free water every night.
Of course I could be wrong but otherwise it wouldn’t make any sense😅
@@soude85 That's quite odd to me, where I am we can order water any time and the bartender is usually giving a sigh of relief because it means we're not getting roaring drunk, and also is legally obliged to have water available.
@@soude85nah that’s not true at all - a bartender
Some people don't understand going to a bar and be sober just to meet friends.
Poor guy in the 1st story. She didn't leave any room for him to come visit later when he can get time off. I can't believe he was sweet enough to even try visit her.
Yeah she totally ruined even seeing him again. Really immature and a little too obsessive IMO
From a server's pov... if you are asking somebody to get you something- even if it is free- and you are taking up a table that a paying customer could be sitting in, you should leave SOMEthing for that server. They still got you what u asked for, missed out on a paying customer, and still have to clean up after you. Or maybe that's just what I would do. 🤷♀️
Exactly!
Not a server, but I 100% agree with you.
And clean the glass that your water was in!
Well said
I have a brother from another mother for over 30 years. We were never romantic ever and he really is like a brother. He and his wife are good friends of mine. I honestly talk to him more than her because we grew up together and known him my whole life. Most of our conversations are about people we know and our kids. I knew him before her obviously. However; if she ever said "hey I am uncomfortable with how much you and Jason talk" or said she was uncomfortable- I would respect that immediately! Why, because I respect and love them both and I ain't about to be responsible for any discord in THEIR marriage or lives. She never has because there are boundaries that you just don't cross, even as friends.
This 🥰
I have a couple close male friends. None of them live near me. I knew them before they got into relationships with their (now) wives. Never once did the gf/wife EVER feel the need to call me out for being close with her husband. One of my guy friends has always been like a brother to me. We give each other advice and provide perspective and feedback to each other on various topics. The other guy friend I was actually interested in at one point in time, but he never was. We remained friends, but when he started dating his wife, I pulled back on communicating with him a bit and ALWAYS made sure to include her in any communications I had with him because she knew our history and that I **used to** be into him, and I didn't ever want to give her the wrong impression of our relationship. It's called respect.
The first video, WOW……he dodged a bullet and should be super thankful she showed her TRUE colors!!!
Bar story: Obviously this is a very specific situation but I use to go to a bar or restaurant alone when my ex was being violent so I had people around me . But, sometimes I couldn’t get my wallet before I ran out.
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13:30 "...even if you've been friends with him for a long time..." Disagree. If I'm friends with someone and they start dating a person, and then that person doesn't want me to talk to them anymore, idgaf. You don't get to decide who I can be friends with, especially not someone I've known for years.
The girl in the video was definitely being weird, so I agree with you about that.
But nah bro. That ain't a one size fits all situation.
as someone who is autistic and who has family members who are autistic, I hate it when people say " I wouldn't make fun of someone if I knew they were on the spectrum/autistic" because you do not know. If you think you can somehow sense when someone is autistic, you are wrong
And people need to stop using it as an insult! They all used it that way and I’m so angry about it.
exactly. Also, being "on the spectrum" or any other kind of neurodiverse IS not and definitely SHOULD not be an insult. It's a disability (often invisible) and it's just as disgusting to make fun of it or "speculate" about it like making fun of someone in a wheelchair or with diabetes etc.
My son is autistic and you would never know. Autism isn’t bad. It’s a different way of thinking and all the diff thinkers are the ones who go n do great things. That’s what I told him and even gave examples (when he got picked on in school) now he’s riding a scholarship to be a video game developer n designer. He’s awesome in so many ways and a very interesting n fun person.
I'm in my 30s and I'm just now potentially being diagnosed with autism after going for a different diagnosis. I've lived what I thought was a normal life all my life.
As a mom who is SICK of hearing “but he doesn’t LOOK autistic”
Like for one, educate yourself 🤦🏼♀️ I know they are trying to be nice, but just stahpppppppp
Sober queen here, and if Michelle the Bartender were based in DC, I might think she was talking about me. Most Friday nights, my BFF and I would go to our favorite bar because we liked to get dressed up, but especially because we liked TO DANCE (and occasionally flirt). Believe it or not, there's more to do at a bar than drink. I wasn't even drinking waters. I was drinking (and paying for) Red Bulls, dancing my little butt off on the dance floor with my friend (who was buying alcoholic beverages). Then I hear through a 3rd party that this specific bartender "doesn't trust" me and my friend because we don't drink and she thinks we're sneaking airplane bottles into the bathroom. He explains to her that I'm several years sober, and she says she doesn't trust people who go to bars but don't drink. Mind you, this 3rd party was a guy I started dating who was a regular there... so... even though she was married (like Michelle here)... I just think she didn't like me hanging around this guy.
Not to mention, likening someone on the spectrum with some serial killer is absolutely unacceptable. My husband is on the spectrum and one of the sweetest men out there. I have friends--male and female--on the spectrum and they do not deserve that sort of trashy sort of connection.
Yes! Pure ableism, and they all did it.
RIGHTTT!!!
a lot of people do that and equate being on the spectrum to violence. It makes me sick!
THIS!!!! When she followed up “serial killer” with “on the spectrum” I actually had to pause. I’m also autistic and literally feel bad if I even hurt a bug. Thinking anyone who is potentially dangerous is autistic is such a disgusting and false statement
I have quite a few friends with autism , and they seem to be more empathic than my neuro typical friends!
Who else noticed when Charlotte said “Call me crazy” the little bottle of Pesto pop-up on the left side of the screen? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m dyin over here! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣shout out to the editor👏🏼
I used to tend bar (in the 90's). There was a group of about 15 people that came into our bar every couple weeks on a Saturday. They were coming from an AA meeting. They'd drink coffee all night, have me running back and forth to refill their coffees that they'd spend 75 cents on. At the end of the night they'd leave a couple dimes and some pennies on the table. I got so fed up, I just stopped waiting on them. Twenty-six cents for a whole night of running back and forth for them, having to clean up their messes, definitely not worth it. I totally understand!!! Especially if they aren't spending any money on water and taking up a table and not tipping. No one is working for free!!! I wouldn't and neither should u!!!
Amen to that! I am a server and totally agree!
So you shit talked your customers as well?? Wtf? Don't have shit on the menu if you don't want to do that
It sucks because people are acting like taking up a paying customers spot is no big deal, but it is, wait staff and bartenders make $3.75 an hour here in Florida. The bar expects their pay to come from tips, so yes, someone just drinking water is having the staff pay out of their pocket to just sit.
Get a juice, get a coffee , or YES, tip on a water!
You are in a place of business and expected to spend money?!?!?!?! Sacre blu mon ami!!!!! How crazy!!!
/sarchasm
water WATER, it's not that difficult to clean up. I get the alcohol, but water...?😐
True. Either way, it’s on the establishment, allowing someone to patronize with buying anything and requiring staff to depend on tips.
The bartender thing. When i worked in the restaurant business we had a guy come in everyday, take up a table and only drink water and stare at people. When we were slow it was fine, but qhen we had a line out of the door , it was actually pretty annoying. The server lost so much money from that guy chilling in her section for hours on end. I felt so bad
look. If you are at a bar, you should buy *something*. It does not need to be an alcoholic drink. But you are using their space and getting to hang out. They are providing a service for you. Usually, they get paid for that service by their customers buying alcohol for more than it would be if they bought it at a liquor store. If you don't buy alcohol, you need to buy something else! :)
Yeah, I do think it’s a bit odd to never buy anything ever. I mean, get some snacks once in a while?
Yes, you should still tip for the water. Being sober isn't the problem, mad props for that!
You're taking a place at the bar & utilizing their services, especially if you're not ordering anything else.
Guys who get smeared online should start filling lawsuits for damages. She used his band which could effect his future earnings negatively.
He has receipts he probably could for defamation. Half a million people bullying you and making your mental health bad...
You know gals get smeared too, right?
He definitely has a case for slander.
She gave him all the proof.
Yes, and the revenge pron lawsuits taking down pervert exboyfriends. It's time
You are exactly right. He could and should sue.
The more I watch UA-cam the more relieved I am that I don't do social media outside of occasional Facebook scroll.
I am not much of a drinker, BUT there are times when I hung out drinking water or soda and enjoying social vibes. However, I always make a point to tip. The reason being, I am taking up retail space. Someone is still checking in with me, refilling my bev. It keeps things positive and builds relationships with the staff.
I wouldn't have a problem with a girl being friends with my boyfriend but if they were hiding their conversations/texts like that girl was....no there's something going on and that's why she's gaslighting
I'm not judging on that until I can scour the internet and find more info.
They both said that the friend has been friends with the boyfriend for over 10 years.
She absolutely could be acting like a shady biatch, but I commented above that my brother's ex-girlfriend acted like this and tried to ruin every female friendship and relationship with female family members that he had.
It's taken years to heal the shit that she caused.
Yes, I think she should have shown her the phone, 100%, but she looks like she's trying not to cry and just laughing instead to me.
If anything it would be manipulation, that's not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a long-term multi-step process.
I'm thinking that if girlfriend has been acting like this over everything, and every time she sees her she says "show me your phone", at some point you're going to snap and say "no what is wrong with you I'm just friends with my friend, you're the one who happens to be dating my friend".
I see it both ways but I'm going to go internet sleuthing LMAO now I'm invested hahaha 😆
@@B.Harper7I agree in regards to not showing msges, sometimes women are so insecure that they think everyone is trying to mess with their bf. I've had the wives of farmers I've worked with, friends partners accuse me of doing something. But men deserve to have friends they can talk to without it being spread around and may not feel comfortable talking with the gf, esp if it's been a long term friendship. I have several male friends, because I find I get along with guys more, and we have convos regularly, they tell me things they can't tell their gf because it's as far as it goes. Zero interest from me or them in regards to anything more. Just good friends. I'd be pissed if my bf demanded I stop talking with friends, red flag to me
@@B.Harper7I'm with you on all this. I think people who have been burned like this before are biased to automatically side with the gf who wanted to see the texts but if the other girl was friends with the bf before she became friends with the gf then probably her loyalty as a friend lies with him as it should. It was hard for me to say from that video if it looked like she was devious and up to something or if she had just had it (if this wasn't the first time she had been accused by the gf) and kinda like you said was smiling her way through it out of discomfort. Plus what if she and the bf as close friends had talked about something serious that had nothing to do with the gf? Like if the girl had talked to him about something she was going through, that isn't the gf's business. Her not wanting to show her private conversation doesn't by default mean she was up to no good.
I think a little more benefit of the doubt could've been given for this one. Especially too bc the third friend was the one filming which means if this wasn't fake it has either happened before or gf was going on for a bit before the recording started.
@@B.Harper7Also if you find anything during your deep dive, please share 😅 I also wonder if it really was a smirk and she sucks or if the gf has some things to work through.
@@B.Harper7 yeah I totally agree. If the girl number 2 has been friends with the boy first, before girl number 1 and boy got together, then it is totally a red flag for a partner to want you to stop talking to their friends just because their the opposite gender.
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My ex had a friend who was a girl and I asked him to stop hanging out with her without me around and he flat out said no and they kept running around without me for months before I left. On the other hand, I had a guy friend who got a new girlfriend and I became really good friends with her. My friendship always respected her and I became better friends with her than with him in the end. Always respectful and that is how it should be.
i think the girlfriend doesnt have an issue with the fact that she was texting her bf, it was WHAT she was texting
The water drinker! My cousin always drank water when all us girls went out to the bar to go dancing, she was our DD and we greatly appreciated her for that!
She's awesome for that! But this is totally different since she's not even with any paying and tipping customers!
That isn't even remotely the same as this situation, not at all....glad ya'll had a DD though so you could have fun😊
@@leslieortenzi8875you have no idea what the situation here is. Neither did the bartender. That is the point. The bartender is the problem, not the water drinker.
I only drink pop/soda or pineapple juice or lemon water because I don't drink. One of my best friends he drinks pineapple juice or pop/soda because he drives.
Yeah, but I bet she ordered food or something, soda, tea
Also associating being on the spectrum with even near being a murderer or that neurodivergence is just a scary thing that could mean criminal is infuriating. Yeah that bartender is the worst.
I know! ones she just mentioned being on the spectrum i got really mad!
Cuz she dont know shit! Im on the spectrum myself...!
And when people are talking about people on the spectrum like that or use it as an insult, it really pisses me off!
My son and I are also on the spectrum, that line got my hackles up. I'm a sober mamma because i have kidney disease. I literally can't drink.
12:25 the idea of entering someone's life and telling them that their pre-existing platonic friendships need to change is a massive overstep imo. Sure, if they're doing stuff that makes you uncomfortable or they were literally making out and shit, that should 100% be a conversation, but I feel like the appropriate person to be having that conversation with is your partner. If you can't trust them to create boundaries with their friend, you have no business being together. Having a meeting with the friend who is being too friendly (or "friendly") with your partner and telling them to back off comes off as territorial and communicates to the other person that you view your partner/their friend as too stupid or untrustworthy to create their own boundaries, and that this is an argument you already lost with them. That starts the argument with them feeling as though your partner/their friend is positioned on the same side of the argument against you. If your partner is someone worthy of your time, it's mad disrespectful to them, and if they're not, then you're just fighting an inevitability. Whenever someone tells me their partner isn't allowed to have friends of the opposite gender, a very large part of me writes them off as controlling, jealous, and sexist.
Clearly that isn't always going to be the case, but it does show a staggering lack of trust in your partner, and I have to wonder how much they'd try to isolate their partner if they found out they were bisexual. I used to know someone like that who constantly cheated on her boyfriend but kept him on a tight leash because she was afraid that he would cheat on her.
I should also note that none of that applies to the less common bad actors that have been told to back off by your partner but won't back off without some sort of united front.
It's also worth noting this is less about the video, that's why the timestamp is placed before the conversation in the middle lol
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again……. If a company asks you to sign a non-disclosure agreement, it’s because they have something they don’t want disclosed. It’s a red flag, do not take the job.
Definitely not always true. Worked for a company where employees had to sign NDAs because we manufactured products for mega corps and Dept of Defense (various militaries around the world). They don’t want you sharing the ins and outs of those products with others. Most company’s who require NDAs do so to try and protect their proprietary products/processes.
It depends. I worked at an ice cream shop and they had company recipes they needed to protect, etc so all employees had to sign a form of NDA.
I worked at a dispensary that made even the lowest level employees sign NDAs. It was horrific.
thank you, captain obvious
I'm glad I'm not the only woman who feels this way. I was friends with a guy and I had a thing for him. Then he met this girl that he was crazy about and she and I became friends so I stepped back from messaging and hanging out with him. I miss him, but they're happy! Some people think I'm crazy for stepping back, but I feel like it's the respectful thing to do. Treat others as you want to be treated. Also, that first guy needing his job because he has health issues is so American it's disgusting. I relate with that so hard.
People can be platonic friends. But obviously not when crushes are involved.
The friend talking to her friends boyfriend is TERRIFYING. All she does is gaslight the entire conversation and it’s awful. I feel bad for anyone that has that girl in their life.
My ex boyfriend was a DJ for weddings and was friends with the photographer. When we moved in together I found photos of girls from weddings that had private parts showing or popping out of their dresses. Needless to say I was disgusted so I shredded them and moved out.
That blonde girl doing the texting in the third video is so smug. She knows she got to the girlfriend and is doing it on purpose
She is smug because she is right. She can't control the BF so she tries to control the friend. Let them both go.
Were they friends? Or is she the boyfriend's longtime friend?
@@allisonisisif u think the blonde girl is right, ur weird.
@@allisonisis if shes actively flirting with her boyfriend of course she needs to be confronted about the issue.
It was all staged.
My best friend was also my ex, we dated in high school and absolutely we were better as friends than lovers.
The last relationship he had, she was terribly insecure about his past as he definitely got around quite a bit. In turn she told him we couldn't be friends anymore.
I was devastated but I respected his relationship. He deserves love and happiness and I absolutely want him to have that.
A few months after they got together, he was hit by a car and passed away.
When I tell you, my heart was broken... he took a piece of me when he left this world. But because he was in a relationship at the time, I wasn't allowed to mourn or grieve for him... because in her eyes I was reduced to an ex, rather than the close friends we were.
It still hurts me, nearly 10 years later, that we lost him. The world was a brighter place with him in it. Having the friendship stolen away without ever getting to say goodbye, I still cry for him.
Sometimes, we're genuinely just friends... I would have been her best friend too if she had just been open to letting me in.
I am so sorry. That is devastating. My condolences.
I'm so sorry... Being insecure is one thing but she really doesn't sound like a good person at all. The audacity she has shown is quite disgusting... I'm getting really angry for you...
@@lalune1235 I'm confused as to why she couldn't grieve for him. It seems very sad after 10 years she hasn't let this go. He made a decision to be in his current relationship and wanted to focus on that. It's rude of you to pass judgement on his decision and then blame it on his current girlfriend. If he was up front with her to begin with then he should have refused but still ultimately he chose to end contact to pursue his new relationship. It happens all of the time. Get a grip on yourself. Getting angry for others is a complete waste of time. He was a grown man who made a decision. It's sad he died but it happens. It's not the new girlfriends fault.
@@sarahkelley9045 it is more rude to tell others how they should feel. I'm not angry that the friendship ended on such terms. It happens and I know that 3 people are involved in this decision. But I am angry that she tried to intervene with the mourning process of others ignoring that they were best friends and tell her that she was nothing but an ex. Everybody is allowed to grieve. What would you feel if someone said such kind of a thing to you? If you don't see a problem with that, then so be it. I am not fine with such kind of behavior.
@@lalune1235 I wouldn't allow anyone else to affect me like that or stop me from grieving, attending a service etc. Again, she chose to allow this his current girlfriend to interrupt her grieving process with her words. She was clearly in great pain as well. To diminish the current girlfriends pain just because she didn't know him as long is ridiculous. Death makes people weird. Especially on the moment or shortly after. She is still holding on after 10 years and still blaming somebody else. She doesn't need your anger on her behalf. She needs to get over it. It's been 10 years and she's still blaming someone else for a choice she made. We allow people to treat us poorly. This lady has allowed it for 10 years. Your anger doesn't serve anyone. Not even you. Waste of energy. That's not a judgement. It's a fact. ✨✌️
As a non drinker I do still tip my waitress/bartender they did provide a service, especially if I'm there to see a band and she's navigating the crowd back and forth with my water.
Exactly! I just commented basically the same thing.
This ^
The “if” implies that it is conditional, meaning not every case is the same. I used to serve and had tables stiff me on tip for a $30 bill and an hour and a half of table time. Tipping is just a way to allow businesses to pay people less than minimum wage.
Y’all expect way too much for doing nothing.
My drink of choice is Crown Royal & Coke but I will alternate with a glass of water. I tip $1 per drink, including the rounds of water because I like my water with a wedge of lime - so it actually takes slightly more effort to add a lime wedge than to just add a stir straw. 😅 All of the waitresses knew to bring me a printout of the evening’s drinks on my tab at the end of the night so that I could accurately tip them $1 per drink, regardless of what the drink was. I used to be a cocktail waitress and I always take care of them. 💕
As a former bartender, WHO TF DOES THAT BAR TENDER THINK SHE IS, I would have never! Some of my favorite regulars drank water, and were 9 times out of 10, offering free DD service to others to make sure they got home safely! One lady and her husband were at my bar daily, even during the busiest weekends and hours, they drank water, or soda, and would gladly friend anyone in the bar, they danced like they were drunk, but they weren’t, they were everyone’s favorite….if someone like Michelle made fun of them, I’d have defended them too!
The gaslighting girl .. omg.. her face just says it all. That little smirk she has 😡😡😡😡
found the girl who wont leave your bf alone after you ask her to stop^@Burger_pants
It's still a weird way to see her mimic throughout the whole conversation.
Yeah she knows what she’s doing. I’d end the friendship all together.
@Burger_pants listen, as Charlotte has pointed out in numerous videos, *we know* when something shady been goin' down. The BF likely isn't entirely innocent, but the girl on the floor is *definitely* gaslighting.
@Burger_pants If she's not doing anything wrong ,why not let her friend check the phone?? She talks to him BEHIND her back. That is where the problem lies.
My husband's best friend is a girl and she's the greatest gift. I would never give two shits about the fact that they have private messages and phone calls, they do all the time. Also, she's a fan, so if she reads this comment, love ya bb!
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Was I supposed to read it in a "wrestling announcer" voice? I hope so 😂
11:42 If my male friend’s gf had issues with me and my male friend talking/texting/etc. I would NOT have called her insecure. I would have tried to suggest solutions to making her feel more comfortable with me. That’s the right way to go about! No fighting just love, respect, and support. At the end of the day I want my friend to be happy with his woman. Even if we have been friends longer I would not place my friendship above their relationship. That is just straight up selfish.