I was a traditional homemaker for 25 years until widowed. My husband considered my work as important as his, we both got a personal allowance, plus he treated me. If I ever referred to his income as “your money”, he reminded me, “ it’s our money”.
I think the difference with that is - that was a choice you both made and there was no expectation of you getting a job. Your job was being the homemaker (which no one is saying is wrong - can be a great thing!) for her tho the guy was a bum, he fell into hard times loosing his job and enjoyed her looking after him he carried on acting that way for 5 years - he was manipulating the situation. For 5 years she’s aired the problem out to him and he’s carried on. She’s not his mom and she didn’t agree to it and he kept saying he was gonna get a job
@@sallystorm2640But you don't know that. He may have actually been doing all the house work and doing his best to get jobs, and getting discriminated against in a society that is often kinder to Black women than Black men. Besides, if he says he has been paying all the credit cards, and she says she has been paying them all, who do we believe? We can't trust anyone without seeing the receipts. Homemaker work is also work.
That's the type of traditionalism that works. The type of trad wife he wanted were the ones ever obedient, but utterly depressed, on a cocktail of pills and plotting the husband's demise.
I was married on my 21st birthday, and had a child at 22 and one at 23. He started being jealous of the kids and controlling. Four years after having the children, he came home one day from work and informed me that he took our money out of our joint account and opened one up with just his name. He told me that I'm going to have to beg him for money now. The next day when he went to work, I changed the locks on the doors, asked my landlady to put only my name on the receipts. I kicked him out, and this was after I asked him to go to marriage counselling and he said nothing was wrong and didn't want to. I never looked back. I'm 50 now and engaged to a wonderful man
Yay! Good for you bestie! I was in a similar situation, divorced now, 46… I have two young adult children, making my own living in my own house. Been dating the same guy for four years now. He has primary custody of his two young children so it’s complicated, but it’s good!
Wonderful response, ma'am, so good, but im wondering what happened to your ex; did he do something after what you did??? I hope it wasn't something bad.
The best part about the Katherine Asplundh story is that followers of the saga all changed their handles to some variation of "Katherine Asplundh" so she couldn't have ANY usuable variation. HUNDREDS of people did this. Pure gold 🎉😂
"The only Asplundh in the US"😂😂😂😂😂 Like, yeah? Asplundh is not even an American name😂 She's just another American who can't possibly imagine things existing anywhere else in the world.😂😂
@@Good.Morning.Petty.Potatoes I've been good! It's summer time so the family is always out at the beach or something. So I always miss the lives. But I love and miss all of the OKOP Fam! ❤❤❤
Lool, you will be surprised how bum guys will argue like that however when you let them too much into your life sometimes you do got to bite the bullet in some circumstances just to remove them
@mistypedhi people sometimes say that when listening to irrational people talk and do ridiculous things. I don't blame them because it's trying to give a person benefit of the doubt. However if this was satire then he needs to find a new career..
My husband who was a retired Navy chief was about the most macho of macho men in appearance and in his vocation. When I told him I wanted to go on a Euro Rail train ride through about ten countries in Europe, he had no desire to go but he told me he had no problem if I wanted to go without him. So I did. I took my grown niece and we were gone for about 10 days and he was totally cool with that. It's just that after 20 years in the Navy, he had no desire to do any more extended traveling but he understood that I had not spent 20 years in the Navy and I had not done any traveling and he didn't mind my going without him. I didn't actually mind either. I would have PREFERRED to go with him but my niece and I had a great time too. If he had told me, "I'm not paying for a trip for you to go to Europe because you should be satisfied with just the basics", I'm pretty sure we never would have lasted for the 31 years we were married...very happily, I might add. This guy is nuttier than a fruit cake!
@AbsurdExistence-p4 but it is their money??? My Dad worked at sea 6+ months a year. My mother worked part time, kept the house running etc and that allowed him to work the long hours he did and she initially supported him through his study which allows him to earn the money he does... so bit of give and take works out fair. The husband probably has his own things he enjoys.
That last man has all the signs of an abuser. Isolating from friends, holding the purse strings and not allowing an independent source of income, gaslighting like he invented it…. Good grief, I hope no poor woman ever marries him.
He'll figure out that fundie girls are raised to be submissive, barefoot-and-pregnant, no-opinion marionettes and he'll find a barely legal one to marry.
Yeah that’s not a stay at home, those moms can still meet up with friends and other moms and have their hobbies. She was right he wants someone he can totally control!
He's probably on some incel forum right now, calling women horrible names and saying he needs a (white) woman "assigned" to him to produce children for him. If we're lucky, he'll stay online. If we're unlucky, he'll start with the physical harm.
The "traditional man" is extra creepy when he said his wife shouldn't have friends, that her whole life should be taking care of the family. So, not only financially dependent but also socially isolated?? I'm surprised there was room in the restaurant with that giant red flag waving. 😮
A calm woman is a done woman. Erica’s calmness was life me! She never got out of character. She is unbothered on a different level. I probably would have hung up… she did amazingly! Go Erica!!!
@@Emily-vb2yi If that was true then why couldn't she pay her credit card debts? She had enough money to go on endless shopping sprees so why couldn't she pay her debt
i got a call about my ex bf, while we were still together. His friends had a party that he went to and he got way too messed up. They called me to come collect him. I called my friend, who was a taxi driver and off we went. I walked in, and he was comatose on the couch. Passed right the eff out. I'm 5 foot 3, very petite. They were all looking at me, like what's she going to do? I leaned forward, grabbed the collar of his shirt, the waist of his jeans and threw him over my shoulder. Stood up and marched off to the taxi with him over my shoulder like a toddler. Chucked him in the car, slammed the door and off we went. lol Don't mistake the strength of a fed up woman. We have super human strength when we need to.
I’m 5’3, 90 lbs, and I carried my 120 lb dog for a half mile because some little kid couldn’t comprehend “no, you can’t pet him”, i have a disability weight restriction of 30 lbs, never underestimate a woman scorned 😂
@@divahc1 If I were to guess, and I could be wrong, it means that they have a medical disability that makes it so that they can't/shouldn't normally lift more than 30 lbs.
Back in 5th grade there was a pick me girl who always tried to play up how tiny and petite she was with all the boys. She tried to impress a cute boy who complimented her shirt by saying "thanks, I've had it since kindergarten," cleary trying to draw out a you're so tiny compliment. It backfired on her when the cute boy responded "wow you must have been a fat kindergardener." She just stood there in awkward silence 🤣
My favorite part of the Katherine Asplundh situation is that after that was revealed people on Instagram changed their name to every possible variation of her name so she couldn't use a different version of it.
Awe, bummer. I was totally going to try to change my handle, for 💩's and 😁's. 🤣 But thanks for saving me a crap ton of time trying to find an available handle of some variation of something she would want. 😂😈
If a woman is supposed to stay home, no friends, concentrate solely on household management and raising children AND have her own income then what does she need his sorry ass for?
14:24 *Edit* the clip discussed has been removed, without any aknowledgement. Domestic violence, no matter the gender should be reported. That was terrible. I'm actually super disappointed that Charolette not only didn't address it but even joked about it!
@@toidIllorTAmII think they’re talking about the black girl sitting in her car giving a story time about a first date with a guy who was definitely cheating.
The Provider dude is giving me the chills, the ick, all of the things.... men of 2024, please step up to be an equal part of parenting and partnership, these are not mom-solo-jobs
When I was 20, I had a boyfriend who was like 25-26, and he refused to get a job. I was paying for shit and my dad was PISSED and told me I deserved better. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long, and he was even more salty than the dude in this video when I dumped him. I'm also thankful for my dad for telling me to get rid of his lazy ass. 😌
@@lfishrdYou've absolutely never dated someone with flaws? Not even for a week? It's part of growing up. A rit of passage. And ee hope that we'll make better choices in the future because we've learned something from our mistakes! Sadly, some of us go on to make different mistakes with disappointing results...
As a man who was beat to within an inch of my life by me ex fiance from a decade ago, you should have called the police. That man needs authorities to rescue him. People ridiculed me for being hit and r*ped. When I tried asking for help the first time, I was laughed at. Thank god the neighbor called the cops and as they went to arrest me they saw the blood and the bruises. They apologized and got me out of there. She was a small pretty woman, so she had community service. They couldnt put those cuffs on her, like they tried to with me. DO NOT MAKE LIGHT OF ABUSE!
How does a man get raped? I am truly confused. I understand that a woman can throw stuff at ya, and use weapons. But otherwise a man can usually overpower a woman very easily. How did this even happen?
shit is so fucked. women who are abusers need to be held just as accountable as men. and men who are victims need to be taken seriously too. no one deserves to be treated that way, and DAMN SURE, no one deserves to have the wounds salted by being laughed at for the abuse they've endured or ridiculed. i'm so sorry you had to go through all that, but i hope you know it wasn't your fault. you didn't do anything to deserve that.
@@chrisw443 I’m worried about one of my bosses. He has a smile at work, but we see the bruises. We ask and he comes up with lame excuses of his kids playing. Maybe he’s actually in a secret fight club. Doubt it. He’s also been showing up to work drunk. I’d bet a week’s paycheck he’s being abused. But I’ve no idea how to help.
@@dragletsofmakara1120 I'm not sure of your gender, but if you are a guy maybe try to pull him aside and have a private conversation with him. First stressing that you are most importantly really worried about him and don't want him to feel ashamed if he needs help. Maybe try getting him to open up by talking about when someone was abusive towards you, whether mentally or physically if you have had something similar happen. If you are a woman, maybe see if you can get one of the guys to talk to him. I just feel like he will feel extra ashamed to admit anything to a woman, and might be more open to talking to another guy. Especially if the guy approaches him in a way thay says he can relate to something like that to get him to open up.
5:50 the audacity of him getting aggressive, yelling and playing victim and still posting it thinking he will get sympathy and thinking he is in the right.... oof. Erika is a queen, i love her pfft. Glad she left him.
The last guy he wants a traditional marriage when it benefits him. And he wants a modern relationship when it benefits him. But when either of those things benefits the woman in this situation no that don't work for him. Typical these little boys who want to go on about how they want a traditional marriage, but they are nowhere near a traditional man.
A certain segment of men will go on about how women have to submit to them, but pass over the part where they have to be the type of man a women would be willing to submit to in the first place.
To be fair, I know older men like that, too. They don’t do “women’s work” but are happy to retire early on nothing and live off their wives’ salaries. Meanwhile the poor wives are working two jobs and doing all the housework. I don’t know why these women put up with it.
@@nekk-ra7080yes! I'm pretty submissive to my husband but it's because while dating he made decisions that was best for both of us and I saw he took my needs, wants and opinions into consideration. When I don't agree with him we discuss things and he usually sees why I think my idea is better or he shows me why his is. So I don't question him often because it's what I would do. I was not like that in other relationships because they only did what was best for them. In my marriage we're both happy, in previous relationships just the guy was happy and didn't seem to understand why I wanted to leave him.
When you are done and start doing your shadow work, you should not always be calm. My ex-husband thought that I would never leave. He would sabotage things so I couldn't leave. So I as I worked at my departure buying all new stuff, I ramped up the campaign to make make him want me to go. When he finally told me he wanted me gone, I had already signed a lease. The look on his face was priceless! When I am done there's no fixing it.
Made something similar with my boss/employer. He was a total ahole and told me i would never try to quit, because i wouldn't get a new job.... Well, i went quiet. When i found a better place to work, i quit immediately. You should have seen his face, when i gave him the papers....🤣👍🏼
@@AutumnBreezers Lmao! What makes sense is you thinking this was the first time in the 8 years of marriage that she told him that she was going to remove his name from her cards. Was there anything about Erica that made you REALLY believe that was her VERY first time telling him that she is SICK of his sh*t? Yeah, your comment is what makes sense. 🙄🤣🤣 Btw, when you're married, it's not that easy to get someone to leave especially if both of you own the home together, it takes time especially depending on the laws in your state.
@@AutumnBreezersmaybe that “bum” should’ve gotten some money when someone told them to. Stop trying to live off other peoples money and then get mad when they’re tired of basically taking care of you like they’re your parent. If you need something that’s extremely serious, then get a job.
I cannot believe no one called the police on behalf of that man! Oh my God! He's in an abusive relationship, where's the empathy? That was so hard and scared to listen to.
Sounds like when Derek fell off his job, he became too comfortable grifting off Erica. She finally got wise to it, and scooted. Good on her. No woman should tolerate this.
@@vharemnbut see, the fact that this is a fake story makes it feel like....this does happen, but it will be easy to say it is just fake because of fake af stories like this one.
The girl in the car tellin the account of the first date shenanigans how he asked what she doing “I’m coping ” genuinely hysterical she told it all so well!😂😂😂😂
How would you feel is she was a he and his date was a woman that got dragged out of the car and took a beating? Then she waves to him as she was being taken away by her abuser, even though all he did was sit in the car while she got beat up. Then it was him that had to cope with her getting beat up? Still funny? If something is wrong for one gender it is wrong for both.
@@craigburghardt8604 🫢🤦♀️ “coping” not laughing (fkn hysterically) when he contacted her after waving calmly&happily after the “beat down” (think was a joke) “lady talking didn’t laugh about the “beating more the waving then the lil message sent about what you doing?! -she was coping! But you’re so correct dude Ya either man or woman! However I strongly stand by my comment the lady is awesome I like her I hope that is ok with you! Yes yes yes yes yes of course both ways I agree man or woman cheating on someone it is still not acceptable to be beaten in the true sense of the word! I do feel the fact his girlfriend lifting him out the car, the storyteller using excellent communication story telling skills, theatrical faces was fkn AWESOME! A very funny account of the AWFUL first date! So even as the troll you are or may be! I will waste my precious life explaining my comment to yourself. Please do understand that I don’t advocate for violence to men, women by either sexes, non sexes, dogs,cats, furry’s, or anything else that breathes, runs on batteries, can be inflated or straight from the box deflated if the user so wishes. Again just to be very clear to you, if twas man, woman, any other woke, BS political self serving fake fkn argument inducing point you’d like to discuss please do hesitate to contact me. Regards I don’t give a fk
My parents had a traditional marriage: mom stayed home with their eight kids, she cleaned and cooked. Dad worked, sometimes two jobs, and bought her almost everything she asked for. They've been married 50 years as of June.
My parents had a traditional marriage until we 3 kids were in school full time, then my mother went back to work. Both of my parents had full time jobs until they retired. They will have been married 57 years this October. One way doesn't work for all. You do what works for you.
I’ve been with my Husband 20 years now with 8 kids. I stay home, and have never wanted for anything either. Bless your parents! In this day and age that milestone is almost unheard of ❤
Charlotte saying "That is a Flex" to the lady with an engineering degree made my day! As I too, have an engineering degree and could care less about my ring size
Unless this man is Jewish (we don’t embalm so we bury people as soon as possible and sometimes it’s only 2 days), this is some bullshit. And I’m 99.9% sure it’s just some bullshit. His poor planning is not Erica’s emergency 🤷🏻♀️
You've gotten SO MUCH MORE CONDIDENT SINCE YOU GUYS GOT ENGAGED! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I've been a fan since I was maybe 17, 18 and I'm 24 now and still think you're SO FUNNY! I'm so happy Mike FINALLY smartened up and locked it down! You deserve all the happiness in the world, Potato Queen!🫡 👑 🥔
The engineering degree comment was literally so real! As an aerospace engineer, I WILL BRAG ABOUT IT UNTIL THE END OF MY DAYS! SCREW YOUR SMALL FINGERS!
This new era of people posting stuff when they're the problem in the situation will never not make me laugh. I am SO GLAD this stuff wasn't around when I was a kid.
imagine being so delusional you post shit like this thinking that you're 100% in the right, only for the internet to eviscerate you cuz nope, you 100% WRONG. could never be me
"Find a way to take your money back from the government." Neither me nor the water I was drinking was prepared for such a bold statement 😂😂 The kicker is, generally to have taxes in the first place, one first has to work.
@@lisasteel6817 I can’t imagine him not being okay with her leaving the house to hang out with a friend, yet being cool with other guys seeing her OF content.
A whole man reaching 50 and still hyperdependent on this woman's money AND have an attitude about it! The lack of responsibility and audacity gets me! Everytime!
So a woman “hyperdependent” on her man’s money should have been shamed by society this whole time, too, right? Just because one partner is a financial dependent doesn’t mean they’re trash or disgusting or an embarrassment or evil. And, managing finances together is really difficult. It still doesn’t mean the dependent partner is bad for being a dependent.
@alexia3552 Those are your assumptions honey, not mine. I'm just stating that he is a man who is, if this isn't fake, portraying himself to be an opportunist. If he was a woman I would feel the same way. Literally has nothing to with gender. Also, where exactly in the comment did I imply anybody should be ashamed by society? He uploaded this video himself?
Every time I see a vid like this, it affirms my choice to remain single & live alone. I work, own my home, pay my own way & will never have that kind of drama in my life. More power to the ppl who want that for themselves though. To each their own.
I mean, I am all for whatever makes people happy. But don't let fake Storytime videos on tiktok, or content on social media in general, shape your idea of what is happening out there.
She said driving was an optoon and he didn't deny it. He just didn't like it. It was like he was using the timing as a guilt trip. He sounded angry, but he didn't sound surprised. He threatened to kick her out of their !!! house if she didn't put him back on. He threatened to pawn off her belongings that were in their !!! house. He didn't care about her, he just wanted access to her credit cards.
@@siobhanturner6234 Worst. Joke. Ever. Okay, that's an exagerration. He could push somebody in front of a train and that would definitely be worse of a joke. But really. I thought jokes were supposed to be funny. What kind of lame comedy have you been watching that you think this counts as a joke?
While on a video chat date, a man told me he did not want to wait a month to go on an old-fashioned, in-person date. He stated, "You are not a high value enough woman to make requests or make anyone wait for you." He was saying this from his bedroom, in the basement of his parent's house. I was sitting comfortably in my home, which I own outright. I laughed and laughed, and then I went through how he had misunderstood the situation. I suggested fewer basement video chats and more touching grass. I also suggested better photos and a less shitty attitude. I told him I would be blocking him. He asked if we could at least be friends. 🤦♂️ I ended the video and immediately took a nap. Oh, these youngsters. That type of nonsense will wear an elder out. 😂
I've been a stay at home mom and wife for 12 years and my husband provides and helps me with kids and home. I don't even understand how this guy even thinks that 😂 its sad! as Charlotte would say, the delulu strong in this one! 😮
The last story is the byproduct of a generation of men who DID grow up seeing their moms be the traditional housewife and work a full time job while their dad’s either had a part time job or no job. I myself experienced this growing up and know many others who did too. Now men think it’s how things should be rather than realizing it was for survival.
THIS THIS THIS THIS!!!!!! My brothers do this to their significant others because my mom did everything she could for us to distract us from the fact that we were SO poor. She cooked dinner EVERY night, cleaned the ENTIRE house while we’d be at school, etc. now. My brothers expect that from every woman they are with and it is ruining their relationships 🤷🏻♀️
As one of that 1970s-80s generation of working (middle class) women: yes. Too many of us did it all because we let ourselves be guilted about not being at home with our kids. Even if we said we were raising our sons to be modern men, they saw us tolerating their dads NOT doing so. They wanted the two income lifestyle we provided though.
It's like when Kylie Jenner was suing Kylie Minguoe for the name Kylie because she decided that she could only be the only Kylie. Judge laughed at her and threw out the case.
@@gojira54 I didn’t even know that happened but also I don’t really follow the celebrity gossip like a lot of people do. Lol that shit crazy I’m the only Kylie I bet she shit her pants when she realized it was a VERY popular name in the early 2000’s.!
Prince thought this way too that's why his name became a freaking symbol so he just became the artist formerly known as Prince because how are you supposed to pronounce a symbol that's not a language😂😂😂 rich people are so out of touch
So much to unpack, that man's mom's funeral is a once in a lifetime thing. I'm sure she got fed up with his behavior, but she could've brought up the issue after the funeral, but clearly, he has a track record of taking advantage of his lady. I hope he wises up bc we can waste our own time very quickly.
My guess is that he already knew for several days about his Momma’s funeral and so did she… and she told him time and time again that he needed to pay his own way. Not just for the trip to the funeral but many other things. She probably told him she was done way before his Momma passed. He: “Fine! I’ll just put it on the card then!” She: “No you’re not! I’ve warned you months ago!” He: “Watch me!” Aaaaand she proceeds to take him off the card after having done what needs doing to nope out of there.
Dude that story with the man that got beat, are we entirely sure that he wasn't in some kind of danger? Like, kidnapped and mostly under coercion? Like, is he good???
@@11thShadowDragon I would’ve been worried, not that he was being kidnapped since he smiled at her on the way out but that he was being abused by his gf or wife or whoever.
Guy in the last dating story is either a Libertarian or a sovereign citizen. Both those types like to say paying taxes is the government stealing from you while at the same time entitled to services from the government.
It's even funnier because Charlotte has already covered this story and watched some of Assplant's TikToks. 😂😂 I guess vids can blend together when she has to watch so many. Oh well, Charlotte is still gorgeous and thriving. I'd watch her retell for a 3rd time. xD
@@lilaross-cz8zrMeh. He's using his mother's funeral as a guilt trip to blackmail his wife. Loving sons don't do that. Loving sons are also more sad that their mothers are dead and not obsessed with money. He could have asked for a plane ticket, but he demanded that he be put back on the credit card. And he waited until the day before to even try booking a flight. That's pretty last minute. So it's not like he loved his mother anyways.
When he threated that she'd be "out" when he came back and she told him not to come back and he could stay at his mother's house because nobody was there and he'd have all the room he needs.....SAVAGE
"That's your Momma...my Momma's right here"....Did she seriously say this to him? ! That was incredibly cruel to say, and completely crossing the line. They both will be better off without the other. He was wrong for his entitled behavior towards her income, and she had reached the point of enough. I do applaud her for putting her foot down and not allowing him to financially abuse her any longer.
But I love that she did because it shows he isn't a victim and we see the other side of the story he's leaving out. Watching I thought, oh he doesn't work much and she's done paying but that was my assumption, it could have been she was being mean because some women are but, an he was using her and got burned.
Wait until she explains it to a judge. She's not gonna be prepared for the reaction. Unless there were very specific circumstances, there is no "his money" and "her money" when you get married. There is only community money. It doesn't matter that she was making all the money and he was barely paying for anything. What matters is that they were married and then she just cut him off financially with no warning and did so right before a family emergency. Judges take a dim view of actions like that.
@@Mewse1203actually you can still have my and your money in a marriage and concepts like alimony and sometimes even spliting the assets, depending on the laws in your area, Don't take any effect till after certain amount of time of being married. Depending how their situation was set up, he might really have no rights to her money. And if he does have a chance to split assets, he might want to think very carefully because then in that case she gets half the house. Even if they don't split assesys if she was paying the mortgage or doing upkeep, she might still have a right to the house.
That guy on the date talking about his woman staying home is exactly how my ex husband was. Over 20plus years since our divorce and he still can't figure out why nobody will stay with him.
Erica if u happen to see this, 👐👋👋🤜 props to u for the way u handled this and for being a roll model for younger women on how to know your worth and how to handle a situation where u might be being taken advantage of, even if its someone close like your husband. U didnt yell or act a fool like he did and u did it all extremely fair. We can see you are a sweet and generous young lady and i wish u happiness and love in your future. ❤
This has gotta be some sort of pattern for the married couple. She (the wife) didn’t seem surprised at all and he acted so chill and normal about the whole thing
@@craigburghardt8604but you have to understand that he was basically not even basically he is literally cheating on her so what is she supposed to do and I agree with that she shouldn’t have to grab him like
@@allisoncastlefr it’s like he has done it many times and at this point I don’t think the wife is so used to it that she kind doesn’t care in a way idk 🤷🏻
I used to work with a young Latino couple (unmarried but with kids) and I found out that when they come home from work, after picking the kids up, he literally locks them in their apartment while he goes out with his buddies and hang out at the bar til she calls him for dinner!! On their days off, she’s home with the kids while he’s driving around with his friends, doing What he wants but he’ll take them shopping and drop them off at home and be gone til the next morning! He says that’s what Puerto Rican men do and she’s not allowed to complain. She ended up leaving him when she found out he had more kids and was being sued for child support
I have to admit, I’ve met a few Puerto Rican guys, and all of them have been fuckboys. They’re charming, but so much drama. I’m not saying they’re all like that, but that’s what I’ve seen. I’m saying this as a Hispanic.
My husband worked with several latino men and they wouldn’t even let their women have their own male relatives phone numbers in their phones but only one of them didn’t cheat on his woman ( or at least he didn’t openly admit to cheating) the rest thought it was funny to brag about how badly they treated women.
No he’s worried about saying good bye to his mom as he should be only people who lost a parent knows how hard it is to deal with this wasn’t the time or place for her shit she didn’t like it she should’ve been left u don’t wait til he down and out to kick him further then to say oh well my mom is here had he snapped and did something to her he’d been the monster yet her selfish ass is the one making a joke out of his mothers death it’s sad that people on here think the way she handled the situation was cool and funny I think it’s sad and it just shows how selfish people really are cause it was all cool when she thought buying a relationship means he won’t make mistakes and when he do act like he not allowed to cause u pay for ish please she played herself
@lil...it's not her responsibility. It's his. He might consider getting on his phone and calling some family members for help. If not, he should get in his car and drive. It's not up to her to take care of him. It's up to him to take care of him.
Nope. Erica is still acting like a child and thinks she doesn't have to pay her debts. So why couldn't she pay her debts but can go on an endless shopping spree
@@dakotakulha8376 bro wtf are you even talking about. she can do whatever she wants with her OWN MONEY. funny how you’re talking about homegirl instead of the loser who tries to borrow money from his own woman. get tf outta here w your butthurt goofy ass lol
I had a husband like that - he didn't work our entire marriage except the last 6 months. I still had to pay his car insurance, and his fuel to get back and forth to work. After he refused to contribute to our house and raising our kids, it was OVER
@@KK-ol3bf i understand your pov … but in this situation we do not know what happened in the past. Maybe he was providing for his family, maybe he payed for all her expenses … we just don’t know. Don’t jump to the conclusions one side of the story is pushing you in.
That actually made me so sad for that girl, it’s so hard to also depart from those you love, but being the sole provider is some hard shit. She sounds and looks exhausted I hope she gets the life she deserves!!! ❤️
My friends out there, and this is talking from the experience of someone who has been in abusive relationships twice. NEVER talks about what you consider green flags or red flags to your new date. NEVER talk about what your exes did to you and what you dont wanna have done to you again. NEVER give them that kind of information. If they ask, "What's your stance in blah?" Turn it around to them and ask them to tell you first. We tend to be open books, thinking that our dates will be honest back, but instead, they might be there fishing for information about how to mirror you, lovebomb you, and appear like a perfect match. If you let them be themselves and get their opinions out first, they can't build a mask, and you will be able to see if true compatibility there or if its just lovebombing. My therapist from the abused womens group told me that info, and it changed my life. Take care out there! The dating pool has a lot of lovely people, but the waters are also full of sharks.
yeah. I mean there is no survey that you can give or take on a first date to be sure the other person is not a bad person. you can ask those questions, but don't take the answers as a guarantee of past or future behaviors. pay attention. I mean she found out on the first date, so pretty efficient!
Good advice!!! Thanks Much appreciated and I will keep this in mind going forward Too many of my past relationships were with horribly narcissistic men who love bombed and mirrored me at the early stage… And then their truth came out much later at which my mind was so messed with that it was easy to be gaslit and manipulated Looking back it’s unbelievable to me that as intelligent and independent as I am I was still able to lose myself under the narcissistic abuse Took me awhile to turn things around from that and begin to heal and find my inner strength and truth once again But still working on be able to trust in others again ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
This is actually a really good point although Leo in mind that if the person is neurodivergent, that is how they show their interest. Watch for micro expressions or ones that don’t match what they are saying. Joy rather than grief, mistimed illustrators, Even the pace might be off, a slow pace for an anxious sentiment. Dupers delight, a quick slight smirk, is one to get familiar with. Truth is, that liars are caught by people they have repeated interactions with because everyone has a different baseline and when you are meeting new people, you are already in an accommodating state of mind.
@TheBaumcm im neurodivergent myself, and lovebombing and overshearing and mirroring is something I've had to work on in therapy too for that same reason. I mean, it requires no effort for me to open up and dump my special interest on anyone who gives me an ear, but i need to be weary of ulterior motives. Neurospicy people are also super easily duped and fall into abusive relationships and start justifying behavious because of our rejection sensitivity a lot of times. But also as my therapist said, there are also abusive neurodivergent people. Just take your time to know people and move slowly, if they love you, they will accept going slow. If they pressure you they are not good for you. Impulsivity and self control are a hard thing to train :_D
@@nannadie I will say this , and not as a criticism. For me, as a guy, women who give good feedback are the best ones to date. Every person has different likes and dislikes and a different set of past experiences. a person who is very entitled or unreasonable is normally what is thought as hard to deal with. For me at least someone who is super reasonable is as well. The don't give you good feedback when you are entering a territory that they don't like, so the burden is upon you to just ...."sense"... that they are unhappy when they give little outward signs of it. Even if you want to be reasonable and strike the right balance between each person's likes, it is harder to do if you don't get good feedback. a common example is if you like certain restaurant and she doesn't really, but goes along to be reasonable because you like it and pretends to have a good time for your sake. then later on , when she can't take she blows up when she can't stand going there again. the easiest person to deal with is the one who lets you know that you are stepping on their toes the first time, and not in a irate manner, so you can learn and modify your behavior so that both can be happy. other wise , they are making the other person responsible for not doing things they don't know annoy their partner. I think people who don't want to make a mountain out of a mole hill are good intentioned, but sometimes are unnecessarily unhappy because the other person might also think a molehill and easily avoided in the future. so two things I try: 1) if I see my potential partner do something I find annoying I ask myself: "if they did this in ever case where the situation comes up , can I stand it for a life time?" if not, I politely give feedback. 2) if I give feedback, I pay attention to how it is received. if they make no real effort (even if they are not perfect, but they are trying is not in this category) then it is not a good match. Doesn't make them any bad word, just not a good match. like protecting yourself is 100% fine. but giving good feedback and then watching how it is received is just good communication. a lot of people say communication is important, btu then don't do this. I hope this makes sense what I am trying to say. not a criticism or even directly related to your point, but my personal experience that came to mind after reading your comment and thought it might be useful because being in a good relationship is not as simple as "finding the right person". and every person who is not for you is not some variation of sociopath or predator. if you don't communicate your needs and dislike at some point, you are not giving the other person a chance to take them into account, so yo have to strike the right balance.
Asplundh is a Swedish surname that means “aspen grove” and it is quite common here in Sweden, although spelling it with an H is rarer and “more American”, I guess. But it’ so funny that she thinks it’s some kind of unique name, because it really isn’t. And now she made it “famous” for all the wrong reasons. Way to go, girl.
I'm so used to the same red flags I'm ashamed to say I actually sided with the man, until I saw Erica's video. The only thing I disagree with is her timing, as someone who has lost their mother, that shouldn't have been done around his mother's funeral. There would have been more suitable times for her to cut him off 🤷🏻♀️
@@riatruthseeker9489 The problem is that there will not be a better time to cut him off. I know, I've been there. There is always something going up (or down) in their life and they need money all of the freaking time. And in the long run it sadly becomes your love language, to buy him something or to help him with money. He has alternatives, he can drive, and then he can work to earn his own money. Mine was "too depressed" to work, but didn't want to see a therapist even with my financial help. I helped him because he had animals and I loved them. And because he had a difficult life, yada yada. But so have I. So I chose to help myself. Kudos to the girl who finaly had the guts to ditch him.
Wow…that first video really made me realize that I’m clearly still vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. I was totally about to comment like “well that timing is horrid, the day before his mom’s funeral?? Really girl? And you’re not going to his mom’s funeral with him??” But then I start reading the comments and y’all are obviously spot on…why is he booking a flight the day before? Why does he need HER card and HER money? Where’s his money? Clearly I need more therapy and practice to improve my radar 😂
I’m still on his side. 🤷♀️ I get her point, I really do, but what a horrid thing to do to someone trying to attend their mom’s funeral. My husband is a d$ck (we are separated) and I would still give him money if he needed to get to his mom’s funeral. Doing what she did just causes bad feelings and resentment, making a divorce that much more difficult. As for why he waited until the day before? Could be several reasons. Some funerals happen quickly. I had about 2 days to plan to get to my dad’s. Maybe he was hoping for a flight deal, maybe he had to arrange around work, who knows?
Girl you are not alone, I thought the same thing like, poor guy, that girl should have been more empathetic. But after seeing the comments, everyone is raising valid questions. Especially I didn't think how much of a red flag it is that he was recording himself and playing the victim card. Like if ericka took him off of her credit card, instead of recording he should've found another way to get the money, as there are more important things to do like attending his mom's funeral.
Recognition that you might have a problem is the first step towards healing and new habits. ❤ It may be LOVE or it might only be a CRUSH that feels really good. Some people settle for users, abusers and losers because they don't want to be alone. My mom joined a new church and a group of ladies invited her to be part of their clique. She was thrilled. They were all married and because mom wasn't, it was expected that she would be at all events, plan events, do the heavy lifting. They were allowed to say "I have to check with Bob, first" "I can't go because Steve and I are busy." Mom didnt have that excuse. Eventually, a man at her church who had been part of group activities asked her to marry him. They hadn't dated one on one, but she agreed. She wanted to be married like everyone else, it had been a long time since she had dated and I was in another state. He turned out to be an emotional abuser. She denied physical abuse. I didn't believe her and couldn't prove it. She developed COPD and was given 2-3 years. I fully believe he OD'ed her, but cant prove it. Never settle. Never be afraid to leave because of your pride.
@@dyingstars5685 But they do plan funerals, usually you have time to book a plane ticket and accommodations, so why didn't he book it earlier? A funeral isn't something to procrastinate on any bookings needed but this man did from the sounds of it. Though I will admit- girl did NOT need to be so insensitive about it. Doesn't matter how long she's been checked out of the relationship, you don't lose the ability to feel empathy or sympathy and be nice.
@@dakotakulha8376 I don't know, there's several reasons, Im just saying neither is necessarily the "good" person in the scenario, neither are right, for separate reasons.
Housewife/ homemaker/ caregiver should NEVER be a 24/7 job. Everyone needs alone time, getaway time, their own social time, hobby time, rest time etc. That last guy was nuts!
My uncle was on wife #2. Not only did she have to drive an hour & half to and from work, but she had to pay the mortgage, for groceries, school supplies for her son, etc. When my mom and I went to meet him in Richmond, my uncle paid for mine and my mom's meal, but his wife had to pay for her own and her own son's meal. They were even going to Kings Dominion that day and she had to pay for her and her son, while he only paid for himself. I really liked that woman and don't blame her for walking away from the marriage!
Felt bad at first on the first guy cause she was basically saying "womp womp"to his mom's funeral,until he kept going on about that card and decided to wait on booking a flight the day before the funeral 👀.He clearly recorded it to look like the victim by showing her at the most done with him.
Absolutely playing victim, my female friend did something SOOO similar, expecting her mans money, not going to work, just being entitled to everything....and then had a shocked reaction to being dumped. The fact she even tryied to get sympathy from the friend group was actually head spinning when it happened 😂
I am amazed by how these social media posters think their filtered, plastic fake faces look good. They look ridiculous! Love that Charlotte keeps it real.
"Stay at yo mama house, ain't nobody there" is fuckin SAVAGE
The gasp I guspped 😂
It's absolutely abhorrent is what it is
@@matiekae0414it’s fake. He’s a comedian.
Yoooooo facts 😂😂😂 She was done with his bs
The gasp I gasped then I busted out laughing 😂😂
I was a traditional homemaker for 25 years until widowed. My husband considered my work as important as his, we both got a personal allowance, plus he treated me. If I ever referred to his income as “your money”, he reminded me, “ it’s our money”.
I think the difference with that is - that was a choice you both made and there was no expectation of you getting a job. Your job was being the homemaker (which no one is saying is wrong - can be a great thing!) for her tho the guy was a bum, he fell into hard times loosing his job and enjoyed her looking after him he carried on acting that way for 5 years - he was manipulating the situation. For 5 years she’s aired the problem out to him and he’s carried on. She’s not his mom and she didn’t agree to it and he kept saying he was gonna get a job
@@sallystorm2640But you don't know that. He may have actually been doing all the house work and doing his best to get jobs, and getting discriminated against in a society that is often kinder to Black women than Black men. Besides, if he says he has been paying all the credit cards, and she says she has been paying them all, who do we believe?
We can't trust anyone without seeing the receipts.
Homemaker work is also work.
That's the type of traditionalism that works.
The type of trad wife he wanted were the ones ever obedient, but utterly depressed, on a cocktail of pills and plotting the husband's demise.
That's the kind of alpha male this chump THINKS he is.
That’s the way my husband is. But some people aren’t like that. And from the sounds of it he’s not a home maker he’s just a bum
I was married on my 21st birthday, and had a child at 22 and one at 23. He started being jealous of the kids and controlling. Four years after having the children, he came home one day from work and informed me that he took our money out of our joint account and opened one up with just his name. He told me that I'm going to have to beg him for money now. The next day when he went to work, I changed the locks on the doors, asked my landlady to put only my name on the receipts. I kicked him out, and this was after I asked him to go to marriage counselling and he said nothing was wrong and didn't want to. I never looked back. I'm 50 now and engaged to a wonderful man
Good on you, that's classic abuser set up he tried on you.
Someone was putting all this in his head. Can be anyone 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Yesssss ma'am 👏
Yay! Good for you bestie! I was in a similar situation, divorced now, 46… I have two young adult children, making my own living in my own house. Been dating the same guy for four years now. He has primary custody of his two young children so it’s complicated, but it’s good!
Wonderful response, ma'am, so good, but im wondering what happened to your ex; did he do something after what you did??? I hope it wasn't something bad.
The best part about the Katherine Asplundh story is that followers of the saga all changed their handles to some variation of "Katherine Asplundh" so she couldn't have ANY usuable variation. HUNDREDS of people did this. Pure gold 🎉😂
"The only Asplundh in the US"😂😂😂😂😂
Like, yeah?
Asplundh is not even an American name😂
She's just another American who can't possibly imagine things existing anywhere else in the world.😂😂
@@BlueWolf350 in Sweden Asplund is a really comon namn.
@@marie-louisewidenroth5531she honestly should have known that, if she’d shown any interest in her husbands background.
(She just knew he had money)
the dedication! ahhahahaha i love the pettiness HAHAAH
Hi it's me Catherine Asplainedh, how are you Kath? Not seen you for ages
That whole "Where you at?", "Minding my business!", was pure GOLD! 😂😂😂
Rachel the axe 🪓! How have you been? Haven't seen you on the OK channel for a minute. This is Nichole btw 😅
It was *chefs kiss* perfectly timed!!!
I replayed that part and clapped my heart out for Erica ❤
@@Good.Morning.Petty.Potatoes I've been good! It's summer time so the family is always out at the beach or something. So I always miss the lives. But I love and miss all of the OKOP Fam! ❤❤❤
@@rachelhatchet We miss you too! I'm so glad I found you on here! 💛
Dude: "I'm so hurt right now."
Erika: Oh sorrow, sorrow, prayers..😂
🤣🤣💀
I am starting to understand why my grandma told me to never say exactly how much I have in the bank. It can attract some nasty people...
@@laughingcorrpseholly4136 😂😂
@@fmor2779 right?! like even the tone in his voice screamed entitled!
😂😂😂😂😂
"here's the deal, put my name back in them cards and then we're done!" Whoa! What A DEAL!! can't believe she didn't jump on that!
Lool, you will be surprised how bum guys will argue like that however when you let them too much into your life sometimes you do got to bite the bullet in some circumstances just to remove them
Someone else said he is a comedian..Derek Gaines I think ?
@mistypedhi people sometimes say that when listening to irrational people talk and do ridiculous things. I don't blame them because it's trying to give a person benefit of the doubt. However if this was satire then he needs to find a new career..
Because he will never leave her alone
Now imagine a man telling his wife to get a job/put money in the account before she can fly home to attend her mom’s funeral.
My husband who was a retired Navy chief was about the most macho of macho men in appearance and in his vocation. When I told him I wanted to go on a Euro Rail train ride through about ten countries in Europe, he had no desire to go but he told me he had no problem if I wanted to go without him. So I did.
I took my grown niece and we were gone for about 10 days and he was totally cool with that. It's just that after 20 years in the Navy, he had no desire to do any more extended traveling but he understood that I had not spent 20 years in the Navy and I had not done any traveling and he didn't mind my going without him. I didn't actually mind either. I would have PREFERRED to go with him but my niece and I had a great time too. If he had told me, "I'm not paying for a trip for you to go to Europe because you should be satisfied with just the basics", I'm pretty sure we never would have lasted for the 31 years we were married...very happily, I might add. This guy is nuttier than a fruit cake!
That is what a marriage should be. ❤
@AbsurdExistence-p4 but it is their money??? My Dad worked at sea 6+ months a year. My mother worked part time, kept the house running etc and that allowed him to work the long hours he did and she initially supported him through his study which allows him to earn the money he does... so bit of give and take works out fair. The husband probably has his own things he enjoys.
@AbsurdExistence-p4s she never said anything about money, tho? she just said she traveled without him
That last man has all the signs of an abuser. Isolating from friends, holding the purse strings and not allowing an independent source of income, gaslighting like he invented it…. Good grief, I hope no poor woman ever marries him.
He'll figure out that fundie girls are raised to be submissive, barefoot-and-pregnant, no-opinion marionettes and he'll find a barely legal one to marry.
Yeah that’s not a stay at home, those moms can still meet up with friends and other moms and have their hobbies. She was right he wants someone he can totally control!
Unfortunately, there are enough women with a very low self worth that he will find someone.
@@Brandy-yn5vt yep! The girl in the video was correct in calling him a modern-day slaver
He's probably on some incel forum right now, calling women horrible names and saying he needs a (white) woman "assigned" to him to produce children for him. If we're lucky, he'll stay online. If we're unlucky, he'll start with the physical harm.
I am crying her calmness is part of her saying ‘I’m done’
"stay at your momma's house, ain't nobody there" 🤯
This is the comment I was looking for!!!!
The way I was gasted lol
This was brutal! Woman was over him
I GASPED when she said that ooooof
@@NewEasterWhoDisif he didn’t mooch off her she wouldn’t have to be “toxic”😂
He bought a really expensive suit before she took his name off the card... He was wilding out before he got caught!!!
The "traditional man" is extra creepy when he said his wife shouldn't have friends, that her whole life should be taking care of the family. So, not only financially dependent but also socially isolated?? I'm surprised there was room in the restaurant with that giant red flag waving. 😮
😂 like Dustin Poynter? 😂 he's hilarious
What exactly does she get out of the relationship? This man is delusional if he thinks he’ll find a wife who’ll agree to that
I want to know in what world traditional man thinks he will even get a second date with that view. 😂
He's not a "traditional" man no matter what he said or you may think what he's saying. He's an abusive man.
He will provide sperm and misery.
A calm woman is a done woman. Erica’s calmness was life me! She never got out of character. She is unbothered on a different level. I probably would have hung up… she did amazingly! Go Erica!!!
Not really, It's more of a selfish brat. She couldn't even pay her own debts so why should sshe own a credit card
@@dakotakulha8376 She paid for everything though he didn't pay for really anything for 5 years
@@Emily-vb2yi If that was true then why couldn't she pay her credit card debts? She had enough money to go on endless shopping sprees so why couldn't she pay her debt
@@dakotakulha8376 😂😂😂
@@Emily-vb2yithat part.
"RIP, but I'm not going" is my life motto.
We need this on a shirt lol
I'm stealing this for myself!
Omg i want that on a tshirt😂
So staged. This is not drama. It is an act. Why would someone film a conversation with their other half when their mother has just died?
feels to good to be true somehow lol
"Where you at?" "minding my business" almost made me spit my coffee out 😂
"Once a woman has checked out. She is checked out." Yes.
That part!!! She been lol
i got a call about my ex bf, while we were still together. His friends had a party that he went to and he got way too messed up. They called me to come collect him.
I called my friend, who was a taxi driver and off we went.
I walked in, and he was comatose on the couch. Passed right the eff out.
I'm 5 foot 3, very petite. They were all looking at me, like what's she going to do?
I leaned forward, grabbed the collar of his shirt, the waist of his jeans and threw him over my shoulder. Stood up and marched off to the taxi with him over my shoulder like a toddler.
Chucked him in the car, slammed the door and off we went. lol Don't mistake the strength of a fed up woman. We have super human strength when we need to.
I’m 5’3, 90 lbs, and I carried my 120 lb dog for a half mile because some little kid couldn’t comprehend “no, you can’t pet him”, i have a disability weight restriction of 30 lbs, never underestimate a woman scorned 😂
@@notericforeman hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!! 👏
The strength of anger😂
@@notericforemanWhat do you mean by a "disability weight restriction", please?😊
@@divahc1 If I were to guess, and I could be wrong, it means that they have a medical disability that makes it so that they can't/shouldn't normally lift more than 30 lbs.
Back in 5th grade there was a pick me girl who always tried to play up how tiny and petite she was with all the boys. She tried to impress a cute boy who complimented her shirt by saying "thanks, I've had it since kindergarten," cleary trying to draw out a you're so tiny compliment. It backfired on her when the cute boy responded "wow you must have been a fat kindergardener." She just stood there in awkward silence 🤣
🤭🙈😭😂🤣.
😂😂😂
OH MY GOD 💀
As a petite 5’1 woman with dimples… I get so tired of hearing “you’re so tiny!” lol cause I know they really meant the height 😅😂
I thought he was going to say, “All families go through hard times!”
3:45 “minding my business” 😂😂😂😂😂 ERICA IS QUEEN!!! HAIL QUEEN ERICA
My stomach hurts from gigglin
My tummy hurts from gigglin
The "I'm not coming back if you do X" is a special kind of laugh when the person answers "That's the whole point"
My favorite part of the Katherine Asplundh situation is that after that was revealed people on Instagram changed their name to every possible variation of her name so she couldn't use a different version of it.
The internet can be so beautiful sometimes lmfao 😂 get wrecked kathy!!!!!!
This is so funny 😂
Awe, bummer. I was totally going to try to change my handle, for 💩's and 😁's. 🤣 But thanks for saving me a crap ton of time trying to find an available handle of some variation of something she would want. 😂😈
I love when the entire internet comes together in massive petty action.
I’m delighted!! 🤣😂🤣😂
If a woman is supposed to stay home, no friends, concentrate solely on household management and raising children AND have her own income then what does she need his sorry ass for?
The sperm donation to make the kids
Because women need to be controlled duh! How else are we going to make decisions without a man?!
Where are you getting these details?
Exactly what I would have said... "If I can do ALL of that myself, why even put up with you? You're providing literally nothing."
@@nstitchesThe last guy saying “She can’t earn her own money, I won’t provide for her, she can’t go out, she can’t have friends…”
14:24 *Edit* the clip discussed has been removed, without any aknowledgement.
Domestic violence, no matter the gender should be reported. That was terrible. I'm actually super disappointed that Charolette not only didn't address it but even joked about it!
Sometimes she looks at things as jocks too often. She should start digging deeper in such matters.
Time stamp? There's like 3 stories here
@@toidIllorTAmIright I don’t understand what is being said here?
@@toidIllorTAmII think they’re talking about the black girl sitting in her car giving a story time about a first date with a guy who was definitely cheating.
The Provider dude is giving me the chills, the ick, all of the things.... men of 2024, please step up to be an equal part of parenting and partnership, these are not mom-solo-jobs
When I was 20, I had a boyfriend who was like 25-26, and he refused to get a job. I was paying for shit and my dad was PISSED and told me I deserved better. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long, and he was even more salty than the dude in this video when I dumped him. I'm also thankful for my dad for telling me to get rid of his lazy ass. 😌
You chose him 😂
@@lfishrd Uh, I was a dumb 20YO and didn't know he didn't have a job until like a month in. 20 year olds are notoriously clueless anyway.
Never pay for a boyfriend or girlfriend. Wait till you’re married.
@@lfishrdYou've absolutely never dated someone with flaws? Not even for a week? It's part of growing up. A rit of passage. And ee hope that we'll make better choices in the future because we've learned something from our mistakes! Sadly, some of us go on to make different mistakes with disappointing results...
It's good that you learned this young.
As a man who was beat to within an inch of my life by me ex fiance from a decade ago, you should have called the police. That man needs authorities to rescue him. People ridiculed me for being hit and r*ped. When I tried asking for help the first time, I was laughed at. Thank god the neighbor called the cops and as they went to arrest me they saw the blood and the bruises. They apologized and got me out of there. She was a small pretty woman, so she had community service. They couldnt put those cuffs on her, like they tried to with me. DO NOT MAKE LIGHT OF ABUSE!
How does a man get raped? I am truly confused. I understand that a woman can throw stuff at ya, and use weapons. But otherwise a man can usually overpower a woman very easily. How did this even happen?
shit is so fucked. women who are abusers need to be held just as accountable as men. and men who are victims need to be taken seriously too. no one deserves to be treated that way, and DAMN SURE, no one deserves to have the wounds salted by being laughed at for the abuse they've endured or ridiculed.
i'm so sorry you had to go through all that, but i hope you know it wasn't your fault. you didn't do anything to deserve that.
@@chrisw443 I’m worried about one of my bosses. He has a smile at work, but we see the bruises. We ask and he comes up with lame excuses of his kids playing. Maybe he’s actually in a secret fight club. Doubt it. He’s also been showing up to work drunk. I’d bet a week’s paycheck he’s being abused. But I’ve no idea how to help.
the way if it happened to a woman people wouldn't even question calling the police smh
@@dragletsofmakara1120 I'm not sure of your gender, but if you are a guy maybe try to pull him aside and have a private conversation with him. First stressing that you are most importantly really worried about him and don't want him to feel ashamed if he needs help. Maybe try getting him to open up by talking about when someone was abusive towards you, whether mentally or physically if you have had something similar happen. If you are a woman, maybe see if you can get one of the guys to talk to him. I just feel like he will feel extra ashamed to admit anything to a woman, and might be more open to talking to another guy. Especially if the guy approaches him in a way thay says he can relate to something like that to get him to open up.
'' from a distance, I'm supporting you from a distance '' 😂😂😂😂🎉
Yeah like the support he gave her by willingly paying HER DEBT on her cards
@@dakotakulha8376 Did you watch the rest of the video? She paid most of it, he paid a couple of times throughout YEARS of him using her cards.
@@sunnyandthechlo Sorry but still don't believe her. Women are pathological liars. Ever since the law caters to women, women think it's ok to lie
5:50 the audacity of him getting aggressive, yelling and playing victim and still posting it thinking he will get sympathy and thinking he is in the right.... oof. Erika is a queen, i love her pfft. Glad she left him.
The last guy he wants a traditional marriage when it benefits him. And he wants a modern relationship when it benefits him. But when either of those things benefits the woman in this situation no that don't work for him. Typical these little boys who want to go on about how they want a traditional marriage, but they are nowhere near a traditional man.
A certain segment of men will go on about how women have to submit to them, but pass over the part where they have to be the type of man a women would be willing to submit to in the first place.
FOR REAL!!!!!!!!!
To be fair, I know older men like that, too. They don’t do “women’s work” but are happy to retire early on nothing and live off their wives’ salaries. Meanwhile the poor wives are working two jobs and doing all the housework. I don’t know why these women put up with it.
@@nekk-ra7080yes! I'm pretty submissive to my husband but it's because while dating he made decisions that was best for both of us and I saw he took my needs, wants and opinions into consideration. When I don't agree with him we discuss things and he usually sees why I think my idea is better or he shows me why his is. So I don't question him often because it's what I would do. I was not like that in other relationships because they only did what was best for them. In my marriage we're both happy, in previous relationships just the guy was happy and didn't seem to understand why I wanted to leave him.
@@WomanRoaring That's the right way to do things. Glad you found one of the good ones!
When you are done and start doing your shadow work, you should not always be calm. My ex-husband thought that I would never leave. He would sabotage things so I couldn't leave. So I as I worked at my departure buying all new stuff, I ramped up the campaign to make make him want me to go. When he finally told me he wanted me gone, I had already signed a lease. The look on his face was priceless! When I am done there's no fixing it.
When women are finally done, they are DONE.
Made something similar with my boss/employer.
He was a total ahole and told me i would never try to quit, because i wouldn't get a new job....
Well, i went quiet.
When i found a better place to work, i quit immediately.
You should have seen his face, when i gave him the papers....🤣👍🏼
She probably had him off the credit card for awhile, but he didn’t know until the day before the funeral when he tried to use it.
That could have been communicated earlier to him then.
@@mowgli7_ Why? clearly he was a bum that wasn't pulling his own weight. Screw him! This was a perfect example of F--- around and find out!
@@AnonymousMomOf2So instead of getting rid of the 'bum' you would just cause hate & discontent in your home - Yeah, that makes sense.
@@AutumnBreezers Lmao! What makes sense is you thinking this was the first time in the 8 years of marriage that she told him that she was going to remove his name from her cards. Was there anything about Erica that made you REALLY believe that was her VERY first time telling him that she is SICK of his sh*t? Yeah, your comment is what makes sense. 🙄🤣🤣 Btw, when you're married, it's not that easy to get someone to leave especially if both of you own the home together, it takes time especially depending on the laws in your state.
@@AutumnBreezersmaybe that “bum” should’ve gotten some money when someone told them to. Stop trying to live off other peoples money and then get mad when they’re tired of basically taking care of you like they’re your parent. If you need something that’s extremely serious, then get a job.
I cannot believe no one called the police on behalf of that man! Oh my God! He's in an abusive relationship, where's the empathy? That was so hard and scared to listen to.
That’s what I’m saying. I don’t like cheaters either but that doesn’t mean he deserves to get beat
Sounds like when Derek fell off his job, he became too comfortable grifting off Erica. She finally got wise to it, and scooted. Good on her. No woman should tolerate this.
I have never ever supported a man. You ain't got no money, you don't get no honey.😂
But if it was the other way around and she was living off of his money, people wouldn't be saying all of that.
@@oonachestnut509ok but it's not, so what now ?
@@vharemnbut see, the fact that this is a fake story makes it feel like....this does happen, but it will be easy to say it is just fake because of fake af stories like this one.
@@Rose_Castle im trying to figure out where i said the story was fake ?????
The girl in the car tellin the account of the first date shenanigans how he asked what she doing “I’m coping ” genuinely hysterical she told it all so well!😂😂😂😂
But I wonder If she waved back👋🏻
Yeah, she was great!
She was soooo funny!! Her faces!!
How would you feel is she was a he and his date was a woman that got dragged out of the car and took a beating? Then she waves to him as she was being taken away by her abuser, even though all he did was sit in the car while she got beat up. Then it was him that had to cope with her getting beat up? Still funny? If something is wrong for one gender it is wrong for both.
@@craigburghardt8604 🫢🤦♀️ “coping” not laughing (fkn hysterically) when he contacted her after waving calmly&happily after the “beat down” (think was a joke) “lady talking didn’t laugh about the “beating more the waving then the lil message sent about what you doing?! -she was coping!
But you’re so correct dude Ya either man or woman!
However I strongly stand by my comment the lady is awesome I like her I hope that is ok with you!
Yes yes yes yes yes of course both ways I agree man or woman cheating on someone it is still not acceptable to be beaten in the true sense of the word!
I do feel the fact his girlfriend lifting him out the car, the storyteller using excellent communication story telling skills, theatrical faces was fkn AWESOME!
A very funny account of the AWFUL first date!
So even as the troll you are or may be!
I will waste my precious life explaining my comment to yourself.
Please do understand that I don’t advocate for violence to men, women by either sexes, non sexes, dogs,cats, furry’s, or anything else that breathes, runs on batteries, can be inflated or straight from the box deflated if the user so wishes.
Again just to be very clear to you, if twas man, woman, any other woke, BS political self serving fake fkn argument inducing point you’d like to discuss please do hesitate to contact me.
Regards I don’t give a fk
My parents had a traditional marriage: mom stayed home with their eight kids, she cleaned and cooked. Dad worked, sometimes two jobs, and bought her almost everything she asked for. They've been married 50 years as of June.
❤
I didn't know that this existed in the real world! Cheers to them!
My parents had a traditional marriage until we 3 kids were in school full time, then my mother went back to work. Both of my parents had full time jobs until they retired. They will have been married 57 years this October. One way doesn't work for all. You do what works for you.
I’ve been with my Husband 20 years now with 8 kids. I stay home, and have never wanted for anything either. Bless your parents! In this day and age that milestone is almost unheard of ❤
good for all of you....but you are no more special than those that DONT have that family dynamic. get off your high horses.
It’s the ‘mindin my business’ 😂
Charlotte saying "That is a Flex" to the lady with an engineering degree made my day! As I too, have an engineering degree and could care less about my ring size
Having an engineering degree is a definite flex!
Why is he only sorting flights the *Day before* the funeral...??
We all know what kinda dude does that.
He’s so entitled he recorded himself. She’s so done lol
This!! He is mooching of her, and I bet he is mooching of everyone he can
Not all of us get a week to sort out details for a funeral. That’s what you get from this? I feel there is more important things to criticize here.
Unless this man is Jewish (we don’t embalm so we bury people as soon as possible and sometimes it’s only 2 days), this is some bullshit. And I’m 99.9% sure it’s just some bullshit. His poor planning is not Erica’s emergency 🤷🏻♀️
@nicolegilbert7410 yes, but also it's his mum. Surely you sort out getting there asap?
She did the relationship equivalent of "You can't fire me, I quit!".
You've gotten SO MUCH MORE CONDIDENT SINCE YOU GUYS GOT ENGAGED! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I've been a fan since I was maybe 17, 18 and I'm 24 now and still think you're SO FUNNY! I'm so happy Mike FINALLY smartened up and locked it down! You deserve all the happiness in the world, Potato Queen!🫡 👑
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The engineering degree comment was literally so real! As an aerospace engineer, I WILL BRAG ABOUT IT UNTIL THE END OF MY DAYS! SCREW YOUR SMALL FINGERS!
Literally just watched good night oppy. Cried like a baby. Hats off to you all! ❤ And my law degree says hi 😅
Yesss!!! Congratulations on your accomplishments!
Congrats! Can I flex my MSc in Maths? That was the most expensive hobby for 4 years (part time) and did nothing for my career yet...
Screwing small fingers doesn’t sound like much of a good time TBH.
This new era of people posting stuff when they're the problem in the situation will never not make me laugh. I am SO GLAD this stuff wasn't around when I was a kid.
imagine being so delusional you post shit like this thinking that you're 100% in the right, only for the internet to eviscerate you cuz nope, you 100% WRONG.
could never be me
"Find a way to take your money back from the government." Neither me nor the water I was drinking was prepared for such a bold statement 😂😂
The kicker is, generally to have taxes in the first place, one first has to work.
The only thing I could think was that he was telling her to commit tax fraud...
Maybe he was saying he own't legally marry his partner, she has to pretend to be single to get welfare benefits and SNAP to feed the kids?
@@sunnyandthechloI was wondering if he was expecting her to start up an OF account.
@@lisasteel6817 I can’t imagine him not being okay with her leaving the house to hang out with a friend, yet being cool with other guys seeing her OF content.
@@sunnyandthechlo I know right!
Dude the way your face dropped when you said "like a child" yeah exactly 😮
To know which armpit is more stinky is the height of self-awareness!
My hubby has one stinky pit too! He won't even need deodorant until Ol' Stinky acts up!
@@leslieortenzi8875😂😂😂
It's the right for me, lol
Try a benzoyl peroxide face or body wash on the pits. The one for acne. Let it sit fora couple of minutes then rinse. It works wonders. Trust me.
@@TheMarymwangi i use bicarbonate nd that works too
A whole man reaching 50 and still hyperdependent on this woman's money AND have an attitude about it! The lack of responsibility and audacity gets me! Everytime!
So a woman “hyperdependent” on her man’s money should have been shamed by society this whole time, too, right? Just because one partner is a financial dependent doesn’t mean they’re trash or disgusting or an embarrassment or evil. And, managing finances together is really difficult. It still doesn’t mean the dependent partner is bad for being a dependent.
The hypocrisy oh god !! WHY THE FUCK IS IT OKAY WHEN WOMEN DOES IT
@alexia3552 Those are your assumptions honey, not mine. I'm just stating that he is a man who is, if this isn't fake, portraying himself to be an opportunist. If he was a woman I would feel the same way. Literally has nothing to with gender.
Also, where exactly in the comment did I imply anybody should be ashamed by society? He uploaded this video himself?
Every time I see a vid like this, it affirms my choice to remain single & live alone. I work, own my home, pay my own way & will never have that kind of drama in my life. More power to the ppl who want that for themselves though. To each their own.
I managed to get a good man that loves to provide and spoils me whenever he can.
Definitely, you don't need 'someone else' to make you happy when you can make yourself happy! As long as you're healthy, who cares? You do you bestie
I mean, I am all for whatever makes people happy. But don't let fake Storytime videos on tiktok, or content on social media in general, shape your idea of what is happening out there.
I’m so glad she posted her side 😂
"I'm coping", "Minding my business are the best taglines"😂😂
My narcissistic manipulation radar is going OFF with that first man! My gut is SCREAMINGGG
It’s a joke! He’s a comedian! 😂
@@siobhanturner6234verbal or any kind of abuse is not a joke
@@siobhanturner6234 His wife responded with a part 2. He might be a comedian but she seemed dead serious with her response.
She said driving was an optoon and he didn't deny it. He just didn't like it. It was like he was using the timing as a guilt trip. He sounded angry, but he didn't sound surprised. He threatened to kick her out of their !!! house if she didn't put him back on. He threatened to pawn off her belongings that were in their !!! house. He didn't care about her, he just wanted access to her credit cards.
@@siobhanturner6234 Worst. Joke. Ever.
Okay, that's an exagerration. He could push somebody in front of a train and that would definitely be worse of a joke.
But really. I thought jokes were supposed to be funny. What kind of lame comedy have you been watching that you think this counts as a joke?
While on a video chat date, a man told me he did not want to wait a month to go on an old-fashioned, in-person date. He stated, "You are not a high value enough woman to make requests or make anyone wait for you." He was saying this from his bedroom, in the basement of his parent's house. I was sitting comfortably in my home, which I own outright.
I laughed and laughed, and then I went through how he had misunderstood the situation. I suggested fewer basement video chats and more touching grass. I also suggested better photos and a less shitty attitude. I told him I would be blocking him. He asked if we could at least be friends. 🤦♂️
I ended the video and immediately took a nap. Oh, these youngsters. That type of nonsense will wear an elder out. 😂
Why did I instantly think "Omg, did this person have a date with that creep Alphadom" 😂😂
I've been a stay at home mom and wife for 12 years and my husband provides and helps me with kids and home. I don't even understand how this guy even thinks that 😂 its sad! as Charlotte would say, the delulu strong in this one! 😮
The last story is the byproduct of a generation of men who DID grow up seeing their moms be the traditional housewife and work a full time job while their dad’s either had a part time job or no job. I myself experienced this growing up and know many others who did too. Now men think it’s how things should be rather than realizing it was for survival.
THIS THIS THIS THIS!!!!!! My brothers do this to their significant others because my mom did everything she could for us to distract us from the fact that we were SO poor. She cooked dinner EVERY night, cleaned the ENTIRE house while we’d be at school, etc. now. My brothers expect that from every woman they are with and it is ruining their relationships 🤷🏻♀️
As one of that 1970s-80s generation of working (middle class) women: yes. Too many of us did it all because we let ourselves be guilted about not being at home with our kids. Even if we said we were raising our sons to be modern men, they saw us tolerating their dads NOT doing so. They wanted the two income lifestyle we provided though.
I like the phrase "beautiful bouquet of bright red flags". So poetic! 😂
It's like when Kylie Jenner was suing Kylie Minguoe for the name Kylie because she decided that she could only be the only Kylie. Judge laughed at her and threw out the case.
Or Paris Hilton trying to copyright "That's hot"
....... when Grandma's have been saying that for over a century before she thought of it
@@melrobertson2743 FOR REAL 😂😂
😂
@@gojira54 I didn’t even know that happened but also I don’t really follow the celebrity gossip like a lot of people do. Lol that shit crazy I’m the only Kylie I bet she shit her pants when she realized it was a VERY popular name in the early 2000’s.!
Prince thought this way too that's why his name became a freaking symbol so he just became the artist formerly known as Prince because how are you supposed to pronounce a symbol that's not a language😂😂😂 rich people are so out of touch
So much to unpack, that man's mom's funeral is a once in a lifetime thing. I'm sure she got fed up with his behavior, but she could've brought up the issue after the funeral, but clearly, he has a track record of taking advantage of his lady. I hope he wises up bc we can waste our own time very quickly.
My guess is that he already knew for several days about his Momma’s funeral and so did she… and she told him time and time again that he needed to pay his own way. Not just for the trip to the funeral but many other things. She probably told him she was done way before his Momma passed.
He: “Fine! I’ll just put it on the card then!”
She: “No you’re not! I’ve warned you months ago!”
He: “Watch me!”
Aaaaand she proceeds to take him off the card after having done what needs doing to nope out of there.
@@eddavanleemputten9232 I think you're right. They've clearly talked about this for quite some time.
That’s kinda how I feel. I sort of feel bad for him but I also feel bad for her. Lots lots lots to unpack as you said.
"What am I doing? I'm coping!" Using this one when I need it.
Dude that story with the man that got beat, are we entirely sure that he wasn't in some kind of danger? Like, kidnapped and mostly under coercion? Like, is he good???
Yeah, she watched him be abused. If that was reversed, she would have had a very different reaction
@@11thShadowDragon I would’ve been worried, not that he was being kidnapped since he smiled at her on the way out but that he was being abused by his gf or wife or whoever.
"I'm supporting you from a distance" 😂😂😂
Erika is the woman I aspire to be😂
Guy in the last dating story is either a Libertarian or a sovereign citizen. Both those types like to say paying taxes is the government stealing from you while at the same time entitled to services from the government.
The funny thing about the Asplundh drama is that people went on insta and took every possible variation of the name!😂😂 Epic!
YES I saw that aswell!
It 👏🏻 was 👏🏻 epic 👏🏻.
It's even funnier because Charlotte has already covered this story and watched some of Assplant's TikToks. 😂😂
I guess vids can blend together when she has to watch so many. Oh well, Charlotte is still gorgeous and thriving. I'd watch her retell for a 3rd time. xD
@@SaintShion Which video?
“Stay at your mommas house, ain’t nobody there” 😂😂
I was soooo weak!!! 😂😂😂
thats not funny...making fun that somebody can no longer see there mother as they died. thats such an awful thing to say , you people are sick.
@@lilaross-cz8zrMeh. He's using his mother's funeral as a guilt trip to blackmail his wife. Loving sons don't do that. Loving sons are also more sad that their mothers are dead and not obsessed with money. He could have asked for a plane ticket, but he demanded that he be put back on the credit card. And he waited until the day before to even try booking a flight. That's pretty last minute. So it's not like he loved his mother anyways.
And he could have drive to her funeral
Oh shi+ that went over my head🤣🤣🤣🤣
When he threated that she'd be "out" when he came back and she told him not to come back and he could stay at his mother's house because nobody was there and he'd have all the room he needs.....SAVAGE
"That's your Momma...my Momma's right here"....Did she seriously say this to him? ! That was incredibly cruel to say, and completely crossing the line. They both will be better off without the other.
He was wrong for his entitled behavior towards her income, and she had reached the point of enough. I do applaud her for putting her foot down and not allowing him to financially abuse her any longer.
I hate that she feels like she has to explain her self to the internet because he wants to play victim
But I love that she did because it shows he isn't a victim and we see the other side of the story he's leaving out. Watching I thought, oh he doesn't work much and she's done paying but that was my assumption, it could have been she was being mean because some women are but, an he was using her and got burned.
Wait until she explains it to a judge. She's not gonna be prepared for the reaction. Unless there were very specific circumstances, there is no "his money" and "her money" when you get married. There is only community money.
It doesn't matter that she was making all the money and he was barely paying for anything. What matters is that they were married and then she just cut him off financially with no warning and did so right before a family emergency. Judges take a dim view of actions like that.
True but I love that she did it! We were all guessing that he was probably the lunk but she brought the tea.
@@Mewse1203 shut up male
@@Mewse1203actually you can still have my and your money in a marriage and concepts like alimony and sometimes even spliting the assets, depending on the laws in your area, Don't take any effect till after certain amount of time of being married. Depending how their situation was set up, he might really have no rights to her money.
And if he does have a chance to split assets, he might want to think very carefully because then in that case she gets half the house.
Even if they don't split assesys if she was paying the mortgage or doing upkeep, she might still have a right to the house.
That guy on the date talking about his woman staying home is exactly how my ex husband was. Over 20plus years since our divorce and he still can't figure out why nobody will stay with him.
Was he not like that while yall were dating?
@TheAsianslovetechno yes, but i was young and stupid and he kept me isolated.
Stay at home wives, never stay at home. Watching this video from the school parking lot, waiting for kids to get done with band camp
The girl in that last video was smart, figuring all this out before it goes any further. Run girl, run.
Erica if u happen to see this, 👐👋👋🤜 props to u for the way u handled this and for being a roll model for younger women on how to know your worth and how to handle a situation where u might be being taken advantage of, even if its someone close like your husband. U didnt yell or act a fool like he did and u did it all extremely fair. We can see you are a sweet and generous young lady and i wish u happiness and love in your future. ❤
It was sweet and generous of her to say "That's your Momma, my Momma's right here"?
I’m shocked at the fact the man who got yanked out of the car by his wife STILL went to text the girl like SIR ARE YOU CRAZY
This has gotta be some sort of pattern for the married couple. She (the wife) didn’t seem surprised at all and he acted so chill and normal about the whole thing
Maybe he and his wife get off on the drama. It could be their kink.
No he is living with abuse, likely trying to escape. Consider if he was a she instead, does that change things? Should it?
@@craigburghardt8604but you have to understand that he was basically not even basically he is literally cheating on her so what is she supposed to do and I agree with that she shouldn’t have to grab him like
@@allisoncastlefr it’s like he has done it many times and at this point I don’t think the wife is so used to it that she kind doesn’t care in a way idk 🤷🏻
The way he tries to bargain as if he's still got some kind of leverage!
When he started recording he had every confidence that he would be putting Erica IN HER PLACE!
Whoopsie!
My left armpit smells worse than my right too girl 😂 I'm always asking my husband why that is! So funny and relatable.
I used to work with a young Latino couple (unmarried but with kids) and I found out that when they come home from work, after picking the kids up, he literally locks them in their apartment while he goes out with his buddies and hang out at the bar til she calls him for dinner!! On their days off, she’s home with the kids while he’s driving around with his friends, doing What he wants but he’ll take them shopping and drop them off at home and be gone til the next morning! He says that’s what Puerto Rican men do and she’s not allowed to complain. She ended up leaving him when she found out he had more kids and was being sued for child support
@@robbinruffino1201 What in the creep?? I knew a Puerto Rican guy who would leave his (17 year old) gf with the kids for days but he was just nuts.
I have to admit, I’ve met a few Puerto Rican guys, and all of them have been fuckboys. They’re charming, but so much drama. I’m not saying they’re all like that, but that’s what I’ve seen. I’m saying this as a Hispanic.
My husband worked with several latino men and they wouldn’t even let their women have their own male relatives phone numbers in their phones but only one of them didn’t cheat on his woman ( or at least he didn’t openly admit to cheating) the rest thought it was funny to brag about how badly they treated women.
He's more worried about his name on the card, then this relationship imploding.
Well, no, he's more worried about being able to make it to his own mother's funeral.
No he’s worried about saying good bye to his mom as he should be only people who lost a parent knows how hard it is to deal with this wasn’t the time or place for her shit she didn’t like it she should’ve been left u don’t wait til he down and out to kick him further then to say oh well my mom is here had he snapped and did something to her he’d been the monster yet her selfish ass is the one making a joke out of his mothers death it’s sad that people on here think the way she handled the situation was cool and funny I think it’s sad and it just shows how selfish people really are cause it was all cool when she thought buying a relationship means he won’t make mistakes and when he do act like he not allowed to cause u pay for ish please she played herself
@@yoyohaylifuneral tomorrow and no flight booked.
@@lilmona3760 i have lost both of my parents and if that was a real event i side with her.
@lil...it's not her responsibility. It's his. He might consider getting on his phone and calling some family members for help. If not, he should get in his car and drive. It's not up to her to take care of him. It's up to him to take care of him.
The amount of times he stuttered while tryna think of some thing to "hold above her head" 😂😂😂😂 im embarrassed FOR him
That part!!! 😂😂😂😂
The ramp up to "I expect her to STEAL FROM THE GOVERMENT" 😂😂😂
Good for mfin Erica!
“naw. call yo daddy.”
😂😂😂😂😂
Nope. Erica is still acting like a child and thinks she doesn't have to pay her debts. So why couldn't she pay her debts but can go on an endless shopping spree
@@dakotakulha8376 bro wtf are you even talking about. she can do whatever she wants with her OWN MONEY. funny how you’re talking about homegirl instead of the loser who tries to borrow money from his own woman. get tf outta here w your butthurt goofy ass lol
I had a husband like that - he didn't work our entire marriage except the last 6 months. I still had to pay his car insurance, and his fuel to get back and forth to work. After he refused to contribute to our house and raising our kids, it was OVER
@@KK-ol3bf i understand your pov … but in this situation we do not know what happened in the past.
Maybe he was providing for his family, maybe he payed for all her expenses … we just don’t know.
Don’t jump to the conclusions one side of the story is pushing you in.
Erika was so calm through that whole messy....I want calm lessons from Erika. Erika has skills.
Me too. However I think she might just have been exhausted
Me too
As a lesbian Charlotte just made me feel things I've never felt before 13:39 girl caught me off guard
Bro seemed unfazed by that beating... she must've had tiny hands. 😂😂😂😂
The audacity to take his name on HER credit cards! 😂😂 you go girl! Love it! ❤ he thinks he is a catch! 😂
Ayyyyyyeee "Minding my business" is literally my go-to phrase for everything when somebody is bothering me asking me to do something LOL
That last one with the date i would be HOLLERING over the crowd for the check to embarrass the fuck out of this man.
Charlotte’s petty monologue about the small fingers lady is what I live for. 😂😂😂😂
Erica is so done with his 💩💩😅😅" My mama is here"🤣🤣🤣
Asplundh is a Swedish name. It means "aspen grove". Have no idea how common the name is outside Sweden but at least 4-5000 Swedes share the name.
that's so cool!
Also, I'm not sure how common it really is in the states, however there are quite a few in Canada.
I went to school with a guy whose last name was Asplund or Asplundh. I don’t think it’s unique to that family.
That actually made me so sad for that girl, it’s so hard to also depart from those you love, but being the sole provider is some hard shit. She sounds and looks exhausted I hope she gets the life she deserves!!! ❤️
My friends out there, and this is talking from the experience of someone who has been in abusive relationships twice. NEVER talks about what you consider green flags or red flags to your new date. NEVER talk about what your exes did to you and what you dont wanna have done to you again. NEVER give them that kind of information. If they ask, "What's your stance in blah?" Turn it around to them and ask them to tell you first. We tend to be open books, thinking that our dates will be honest back, but instead, they might be there fishing for information about how to mirror you, lovebomb you, and appear like a perfect match. If you let them be themselves and get their opinions out first, they can't build a mask, and you will be able to see if true compatibility there or if its just lovebombing. My therapist from the abused womens group told me that info, and it changed my life. Take care out there! The dating pool has a lot of lovely people, but the waters are also full of sharks.
yeah. I mean there is no survey that you can give or take on a first date to be sure the other person is not a bad person.
you can ask those questions, but don't take the answers as a guarantee of past or future behaviors.
pay attention.
I mean she found out on the first date, so pretty efficient!
Good advice!!!
Thanks
Much appreciated and I will keep this in mind going forward
Too many of my past relationships were with horribly narcissistic men who love bombed and mirrored me at the early stage…
And then their truth came out much later at which my mind was so messed with that it was easy to be gaslit and manipulated
Looking back it’s unbelievable to me that as intelligent and independent as I am I was still able to lose myself under the narcissistic abuse
Took me awhile to turn things around from that and begin to heal and find my inner strength and truth once again
But still working on be able to trust in others again ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
This is actually a really good point although Leo in mind that if the person is neurodivergent, that is how they show their interest. Watch for micro expressions or ones that don’t match what they are saying. Joy rather than grief, mistimed illustrators, Even the pace might be off, a slow pace for an anxious sentiment. Dupers delight, a quick slight smirk, is one to get familiar with. Truth is, that liars are caught by people they have repeated interactions with because everyone has a different baseline and when you are meeting new people, you are already in an accommodating state of mind.
@TheBaumcm im neurodivergent myself, and lovebombing and overshearing and mirroring is something I've had to work on in therapy too for that same reason. I mean, it requires no effort for me to open up and dump my special interest on anyone who gives me an ear, but i need to be weary of ulterior motives. Neurospicy people are also super easily duped and fall into abusive relationships and start justifying behavious because of our rejection sensitivity a lot of times. But also as my therapist said, there are also abusive neurodivergent people. Just take your time to know people and move slowly, if they love you, they will accept going slow. If they pressure you they are not good for you. Impulsivity and self control are a hard thing to train :_D
@@nannadie I will say this , and not as a criticism. For me, as a guy, women who give good feedback are the best ones to date. Every person has different likes and dislikes and a different set of past experiences. a person who is very entitled or unreasonable is normally what is thought as hard to deal with. For me at least someone who is super reasonable is as well. The don't give you good feedback when you are entering a territory that they don't like, so the burden is upon you to just ...."sense"... that they are unhappy when they give little outward signs of it. Even if you want to be reasonable and strike the right balance between each person's likes, it is harder to do if you don't get good feedback.
a common example is if you like certain restaurant and she doesn't really, but goes along to be reasonable because you like it and pretends to have a good time for your sake. then later on , when she can't take she blows up when she can't stand going there again.
the easiest person to deal with is the one who lets you know that you are stepping on their toes the first time, and not in a irate manner, so you can learn and modify your behavior so that both can be happy. other wise , they are making the other person responsible for not doing things they don't know annoy their partner.
I think people who don't want to make a mountain out of a mole hill are good intentioned, but sometimes are unnecessarily unhappy because the other person might also think a molehill and easily avoided in the future.
so two things I try:
1) if I see my potential partner do something I find annoying I ask myself: "if they did this in ever case where the situation comes up , can I stand it for a life time?" if not, I politely give feedback.
2) if I give feedback, I pay attention to how it is received. if they make no real effort (even if they are not perfect, but they are trying is not in this category) then it is not a good match. Doesn't make them any bad word, just not a good match.
like protecting yourself is 100% fine. but giving good feedback and then watching how it is received is just good communication. a lot of people say communication is important, btu then don't do this.
I hope this makes sense what I am trying to say. not a criticism or even directly related to your point, but my personal experience that came to mind after reading your comment and thought it might be useful because being in a good relationship is not as simple as "finding the right person". and every person who is not for you is not some variation of sociopath or predator.
if you don't communicate your needs and dislike at some point, you are not giving the other person a chance to take them into account, so yo have to strike the right balance.
Asplundh is a Swedish surname that means “aspen grove” and it is quite common here in Sweden, although spelling it with an H is rarer and “more American”, I guess. But it’ so funny that she thinks it’s some kind of unique name, because it really isn’t. And now she made it “famous” for all the wrong reasons. Way to go, girl.
How did he have that kind of audacity...to raise his voice and demand that she put him back on the card...I would have hung up.
That was a panic response. He sees his $weet £ife slipping away.
It’s his house , not hers .
Right, I was thinking, why hasn't she hung up yet? 😂
@@D1991-r3n If he can't afford a flight, he probably can't afford the mortgage either.
@@D1991-r3n the house is in both of their names with HER paying the mortgage 😑
😂😅 That last one...time to excuse myself to the lady's room and climb out the window lol. Stiff him with the meal.
The way I actually felt the narcissistic manipulation- That first man NEEDED to go💀 Proud of Erica for ✨moving in the shadows✨
The way his lips were flapping I could tell he’s been lying and bs-ing for yeeeeears 🙄
He sounds just like Lee Hammock! Who is a Narc out there telling exactly what Narcs are like.
I'm so used to the same red flags I'm ashamed to say I actually sided with the man, until I saw Erica's video. The only thing I disagree with is her timing, as someone who has lost their mother, that shouldn't have been done around his mother's funeral. There would have been more suitable times for her to cut him off 🤷🏻♀️
“Let me explain something to you…” 😡🙄😡
@@riatruthseeker9489 The problem is that there will not be a better time to cut him off. I know, I've been there. There is always something going up (or down) in their life and they need money all of the freaking time. And in the long run it sadly becomes your love language, to buy him something or to help him with money. He has alternatives, he can drive, and then he can work to earn his own money. Mine was "too depressed" to work, but didn't want to see a therapist even with my financial help. I helped him because he had animals and I loved them. And because he had a difficult life, yada yada. But so have I. So I chose to help myself. Kudos to the girl who finaly had the guts to ditch him.
Wow…that first video really made me realize that I’m clearly still vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. I was totally about to comment like “well that timing is horrid, the day before his mom’s funeral?? Really girl? And you’re not going to his mom’s funeral with him??”
But then I start reading the comments and y’all are obviously spot on…why is he booking a flight the day before? Why does he need HER card and HER money? Where’s his money? Clearly I need more therapy and practice to improve my radar 😂
I’m still on his side. 🤷♀️ I get her point, I really do, but what a horrid thing to do to someone trying to attend their mom’s funeral. My husband is a d$ck (we are separated) and I would still give him money if he needed to get to his mom’s funeral. Doing what she did just causes bad feelings and resentment, making a divorce that much more difficult.
As for why he waited until the day before? Could be several reasons. Some funerals happen quickly. I had about 2 days to plan to get to my dad’s. Maybe he was hoping for a flight deal, maybe he had to arrange around work, who knows?
Same here 😂
Watch more stories like this. Or How people munipulate.
Girl you are not alone, I thought the same thing like, poor guy, that girl should have been more empathetic. But after seeing the comments, everyone is raising valid questions. Especially I didn't think how much of a red flag it is that he was recording himself and playing the victim card. Like if ericka took him off of her credit card, instead of recording he should've found another way to get the money, as there are more important things to do like attending his mom's funeral.
Recognition that you might have a problem is the first step towards healing and new habits. ❤ It may be LOVE or it might only be a CRUSH that feels really good. Some people settle for users, abusers and losers because they don't want to be alone.
My mom joined a new church and a group of ladies invited her to be part of their clique. She was thrilled. They were all married and because mom wasn't, it was expected that she would be at all events, plan events, do the heavy lifting. They were allowed to say "I have to check with Bob, first" "I can't go because Steve and I are busy." Mom didnt have that excuse. Eventually, a man at her church who had been part of group activities asked her to marry him. They hadn't dated one on one, but she agreed. She wanted to be married like everyone else, it had been a long time since she had dated and I was in another state. He turned out to be an emotional abuser. She denied physical abuse. I didn't believe her and couldn't prove it. She developed COPD and was given 2-3 years. I fully believe he OD'ed her, but cant prove it.
Never settle. Never be afraid to leave because of your pride.
He’s spending her money and waiting till the MOST EXPENSIVE TIME to buy a plane ticket??? He thinks he’s a teenager with wealthy parents 😭
No one plans on a death. Lol ffs.
@@dyingstars5685 But they do plan funerals, usually you have time to book a plane ticket and accommodations, so why didn't he book it earlier? A funeral isn't something to procrastinate on any bookings needed but this man did from the sounds of it.
Though I will admit- girl did NOT need to be so insensitive about it. Doesn't matter how long she's been checked out of the relationship, you don't lose the ability to feel empathy or sympathy and be nice.
@@artemis_justiceaizawa5978 Yet, why couldn't Erica pay her own debts?
@@dakotakulha8376 I don't know, there's several reasons, Im just saying neither is necessarily the "good" person in the scenario, neither are right, for separate reasons.
@@artemis_justiceaizawa5978 It's kinda weird how women always play the victim in every scenario in order to make them feel like they are right
He has a lot of nerve to demand his lady pay for his flight. If he can’t afford it then he can’t go!!
Housewife/ homemaker/ caregiver should NEVER be a 24/7 job. Everyone needs alone time, getaway time, their own social time, hobby time, rest time etc. That last guy was nuts!
This^ deserves more likes!!!
My uncle was on wife #2. Not only did she have to drive an hour & half to and from work, but she had to pay the mortgage, for groceries, school supplies for her son, etc. When my mom and I went to meet him in Richmond, my uncle paid for mine and my mom's meal, but his wife had to pay for her own and her own son's meal. They were even going to Kings Dominion that day and she had to pay for her and her son, while he only paid for himself. I really liked that woman and don't blame her for walking away from the marriage!
Felt bad at first on the first guy cause she was basically saying "womp womp"to his mom's funeral,until he kept going on about that card and decided to wait on booking a flight the day before the funeral 👀.He clearly recorded it to look like the victim by showing her at the most done with him.
Absolutely playing victim, my female friend did something SOOO similar, expecting her mans money, not going to work, just being entitled to everything....and then had a shocked reaction to being dumped.
The fact she even tryied to get sympathy from the friend group was actually head spinning when it happened 😂
I am amazed by how these social media posters think their filtered, plastic fake faces look good. They look ridiculous! Love that Charlotte keeps it real.