EP 70 - Managing Dysphoria without Transition - with Anna
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- Anna is a Boston-based musician that has lived with gender incongruence her whole life. After trying medical transition, she decided to move away from this treatment approach for her condition, even after seeing some benefits. Regardless of her approach moving forward, she seeks to reestablish a new relationship with what it means to be a female both physiologically and socially at this very moment in her life. In this, she identifies as a feminist, and someone in solidarity with transsexual people.
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Hi everyone in the comments,
I'm the guest in the video and would like to add a side note to this interview. If you're someone who has GD - there are people who understand you out there based on personal experiences, and see you as someone who is fully human beyond all labels. Don't rush in or out of anything- take it at your own pace. Please don't let anyone try to push you down or around for trying to comprehend the depth of your humanity- its a process, and it isn't easy- often it involves watching videos like these and drawing your own conclusions. It's trial and error: you will make mistakes and good decisions, there will be people on your journey who will bully you- and that bullying can actually be disguised as compassion, or may be outwardly be causticly presented.There will be people who will question you out of love in some of your decisions- recognizing the difference can be challenging. Western doctors and strangers are going to try to act like they have all the answers to the complexity of your personhood, and present solutions to problems that sometimes aren't problems at all. It's worth listening to different opinions and taking all of them with a grain of salt. In this video, I don't have all the answers, but I do have some objective concepts to lean on, and then some concepts that are subjective and evolving. One persons story is not everyones story in a particular demographic, and stories evolve. Please, take everything on the internet, and off of it, with a grain of salt. The best you can do is talk to people in person, ask them questions, hear their stories, share your own even if it is evolving, and veer away from the shame you have about being human. Thanks for reading and I hope this video was insightful in some way.
Great ep y'all! Anna is very reasonable and thoughtful, and the etiology-informed discussion was great too.
9:30 - That's how I felt. I'm happy with my transition (mtf) but I had so many issues and I don't feel they were investigated at all really.
At 10:30.. this is where the “gender affirming” model really bothers me. I’ve had an impossible time finding therapists who are willing to go into any actual depth. I don’t know if they’re afraid of the politics or just not actually familiar with the subject, but it’s doing a huge disservice to people looking for help who need the space to understand themselves and their motivations before jumping to drastic measures.
Minute 38:00 wow I honestly hadn't realized that "women don't have paraphilias" was a thing! That's like saying women aren't sexual beings. It honestly makes no sense.
Hi there, no one in this conversation said "women don't have paraphilias", rather the contrary. Some paraphilias seemed to be expressed differently dependent on sex.
Women don't have the power to shape the world around their sexual desires. Men do.
Big Aron treads professionally in dangerous waters regarding licensure. Little Aron identifies with the word "autogynaphilia" frequently as if using the word more will cause it to become an accepted medical term? Flaunting the word, personality disorder de-transitioners, conspiracy theories and half wrong too much of the time. If as a professional Big Aron supports what he concludes as research like the made up word "Autogynophilia" as a medical term he's a good example why therapists hold opinionated bias. It is my understanding the word was invented by an online questionnaire. It did not constitute a valid study or research like the research coming forth eventually on United States follow up of early 1970-1999 gender clinic HBS DSM III transexuals. I was a participant. Thorough and solid but surely these two may find a flaw to argue. I am still available for a GDA interview? Ten surgeries, intersex, no regrets. Never heard back from Gender Dysphoria Alliance. Do they have a biased ideology misinformation narrative? Opinions are ok for licensed professionals. A professional providing misinformation as truth becomes a fine line. Not impressed with the lack of self responsibility pushed on this network. "They" made me do it, nobody told me or the I was groomed into hormones and surgery. Wish both had my HBS background. They couldn't be whining now because they would not have qualified with the level of testing I underwent. I guess they would be happier? Its ok to have a female body just a different kind of woman right? Little Aron would have been a smear on a men's bathroom wall in the U.S. Deep South had they tried to live as a man for a year before hormones. Spoiled weenie generation causing more harm. Truth will shake itself out eventually but these two are not doing service to the Elder generation who paved HARD roads so they or trans kids might walk a little easier.
10:50 - With me, I've seen paper fortune tellers more comprehensive than the amount of therapy and investigation and psychological exploration I got.
20:00 - I think the "born in the wrong body" narrative was a phenomenological explanation of the experience but then the next generation took it literally. I think that happened evermore with every generation that went by.
Only at 3:30 so far but it sounds a lot like my childhood but in the other direction.
26:00 - I honestly thought that AGP was literally all about arousal.
26:18 - Do go on... Please tell us what one is. xD
1:56 - This! Specifically this.
I wonder if there could be like auto-ception or something.
Like if someone went ftm then was autogynephillic. This stuff all really needs so much more looking into.
I know I can feel a sort of interest or coolness in the idea of like LARPing as a boy or something now that I've been transitioned like 7 years or something. I don't know if that's a sort of Inception style auto-phillia or not but it is relaxing that I don't feel the need to always not seem anything like a teen boy or anything at all.
Perhaps it's just me being more relaxed about it all now but who knows, they never investigated with me.
[edit] But I couldn't feel that way if I had like facial hair, male pattern baldness, or a flat chest.
But if I looked like a boy from a visual kei band in the 2000s then that would be alright sometimes to play around with. But they all look pretty girly anyway to be honest lol.
I suppose I just wouldn't mind looking like a girl dressing as a boy sometimes, and maybe not even a boy dressing as a girl sometimes.
I dunno though. Maybe it's just me being a lot more relaxed and secure now. Perhaps it's even as I age. Who knows.
It's really been interesting to think of AGP as a non-sexual thing. I've never thought about it in that way at all. It's sort of breaking my brain.
Nope. I listened further and it doesn't sound like an auto-phillic thing with me.
I think I've always kept that side of me separate from my social interactions and that.
31:50 - LOL I'd never heard of someone stealing the brother's clothes!