Gender Identity Disorder: The Untold Stories | Gregory Mak | TEDxCUHK
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- Опубліковано 4 вер 2018
- Transgenders - whilst a subject of more discourse in the modern day, many people remain unaware of this topic, or their needs. Dr. Gregory Mak’s speech focuses on his experience in treating patients with Gender Identity Disorder - from his initial motivations to enter a rather stigmatized field, the people he has helped in his journey, to the social, biological and psychological treatments to alleviate these individual’s gender dysphoria - he provides a medical insight into this condition that outlines the journey from lost, to found, and everything in between. He outlines how, before we can provide adequate social support, we must view these people under a new light - just as he did, all these years ago.
Dr. Gregory Mak first graduated from MBBS in HKU in 2003, and has since then arduously pursued his interest in the psychiatric field, earning his Masters in Research in Medicine in the same year and qualifying as a psychiatrist in 2011 upon receiving his FHKCPsych and FHKAM (Psychiatry). Whilst he specializes in helping a variety of patients with psychiatric disorders, he is most well-known as one of the foremost experts in the diagnosis of transgender individuals (Gender Identity Disorder), hoping to shed light on this still very stigmatized group of individuals from a psychiatric perspective. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Growing up in a conservative environment I wanted to understand this topic better. I can say this video showed me one thing, empathy. As someone who’s struggled with anxiety, panic attacks and depression, I can’t even imagine what this might be like. My heart goes out to all of those struggling❤
He was doing fine until he said you can completely get rid of it with surgery. Yes you can treat dysphoria but it never fully goes away
Trevor Walker hmmm i’m pretty sure someone like myself with a dysphoria diagnosis from multiple medical professionals would know more about this topic than you. Btw loving yourself and suffering from dysphoria are two different things. I’ve learned to love myself but i’m still dysphoric every day. Ur point doesn’t really make a lot of sense
Trevor Walker well if you’d actually read my previous reply’s you’d understand how. I see ur not willing to change your mindset though so i’m just going to go on and ignore the fact that you seem to have a problem with how I live my life
F freaks
@@rpower204 since you go through this in your everyday life what in your eyes would be the solution to treat dysphoria properly
@@threzzy_ having loving parent that dosent feed you random bs like this lmao
Just found this. Sharing it on my FB. Thank you for sharing!
The lack of helping them to understand WHY, from a psychological viewpoint, these individuals feel as if they were born in the wrong body. The psychological aspect NEEDS to be the emphasis because the suicide rate of those who have transitioned is STILL as high as it was BEFORE. The likelihood of suicide is about 4x higher than the general population
Gnarly
That’s because either purposely or unintentionally through lack of understanding of the issue trans people have to deal with a lot of horrible comments and treatment from others which could cause trauma. I have a trans friend who told me when she was in high school they teased her so badly about it then found cockroaches and forced her to stay still while letting the cockroach crawl on her. I mean this very obviously is a bad case of being bullied. I feel like this must be a mental disorder however all the rest of us need to treat these people with the same kindness and respect as everyone else. In addition we need to learn a little about it and know how to talk to them in a way that is not hurtful. I mean think about it. What if you were them and someone said something very rude, hurtful, alienating to the point that they began to hate themselves so much that they commit suicide. Im not going to lie, i don’t even know exactly what not to say. It is still fairly new that they have come out of hiding and secrecy. You know the golden rule, it doesn’t matter who u are u deserve respect and kindness always. They didn’t ask for this any more than i asked for asthma. We need to remember that. If we can do this we can decrease the high suicide rate in my opinion.
@@danielleschoenlau7861 people being unaccepting can't possibly be the only reason people postoperation are 4x more likely to attempt suicide
Maybe because society has told them to do this while they know it's wrong in their own hearts. sad sad state of affairs for the world.I think i should have horns coming out my head, does that make me a rhino? No. Use your heads people.
Thank you so much Dr. I am writting a paper on Gender Dysphoria. Your lecture is inspiring and thought provoking. Also you just confirmed my suspision; the DSM does in fact induce headaches!
Shezus H. Nice how is your paper going?
@@Lauren-gs1eh pretty good, Ty for asking. This may sound off but I happened to catch some of Pose on Netflix and briefly incorporated a bit into the history section.
The show, although campy, is historically accurate, and portrays real world structural health determinants relevant to the community.
Fake gender studies paper that wont get you any jobs.
@Retired Ronda Lousey it's hardly "learnt" if a child shows symptoms of it from early childhood, and continues to do so into adolescence. What would you do then? You'd just ignore that child, as they don't fit with your linear, flawed view.
Retired Ronda Lousey can we not call it a mental illness? It's incorrect information. Also, good luck with the paper!
The surgeries are only cosmetic. They cause irreparable scaring. And they can damage or destroy the abluty to orgasm, and definitely reproduce. All, rather than address the underlying issues causing self hatred? I agree that love and compassion are our main roles as a society. But, I didn't agree that changing the body so radically is actually a solution. I feel like we fail these special souls when that is all we have to offer them. It feels like a money grab for the medical community to me. It doesn't actually change ourcomes. It's a complex and saddening situation for sure. But we can at least try to be kind.
I have GID and i am unofficially diagnosed by a psychiatrist since the insurance companies dont allow it in the DSM because there not enough research done on GID and honestly i dont experience much gender dysphoria at all unless i begin to integrate or take HRT(which i know i need to heal from GID) and associate with my actual gender. Other wise i mostly just suffer from dissociation similarly to people with DID and memory issues. Hopefully this will help people understand the difference between gender dysphoria and gender identity disorder because they are VERY different conditions to be diagnosed with. 🏥 I was hospitalized 16 times and put in a straight jacket & injected with medicine that made me unconscious at the beginning of my transition process but things have gotten better ober the past 12 years since then. ☺️🥳
You are likely crazy but not trans. Borderline or schizo something.
Wow, CUHK
This type of talk is rare in Hong Kong
A beautiful talk. You brought tears to my eyes. Thankyou
I have a neighbour who has the body of a man but obviously feels like a woman because she dresses like a woman. As a man she's not hansom so as a woman she's a pretty rough looking woman. Whenever I see her walk by or ride her bicycle all I can think to myself is,"there goes an extremely courageous human being" Imagine how difficult her life must be and how much easier life could be if she gave up and dressed like a guy ? But she did that she wouldn't be true to herself. Now that's integrity taken to the extreme. My God that's brave.
Felixq78 She wears a dress but I don't see how it makes her brave because even as a man she'd be harassed for wearing dresses (and identifying as a man). You're implying that because she's a trans woman wearing a dress she must face a lot of backlash, so it begs the question why would she choose to transition anyway if she could have chosen to remain a man and not face backlash? The answer is because it's not about identity it's about the dress. If she were to still identify as a man and wear a dress she would be harassed in the exact same way as she would as a trans woman. Just ask any drag queen. But for women it's normalized in society to wear dresses. It just sounds like internalized sexism and unwillingness to accept one's gender nonconformity because society punishes non conformity. It's not an identity, it's a costume.
@@thebeatles102998 'but for women its normalized in society to wear dresses.'
I disagree. This is because dress were made to show off certain female features. So if a guy wears a dress, it would look weird because he doesnt have female features.
If she dresses as a man, the society treats her better
If she dresses as a woman, dysphagia treats her better
I guess she would rather be discriminated against than suffering from dysphoria
Damn, this must be so hard to go through... I can't even imagine how horrible it must feel to be stuck in a body that doesn't fit your gender. Even though there is nothing physically wrong with these people, there IS a whole lot that feels wrong, and in the end, that's the only thing that matters. Of course there IS treatment, there ARE ways to change your body, but still, it means going through a process which I am sure isn't all easy and painless. Best wishes and lots of love to everyone suffering from this condition.
Thank you
Thanks
For them though, the "suffering" is a blessing
Many people continue to live because they pray that one day they can receive treatment... Hormones, top surgery, bottom surgery...
Thank you, I am a trans male and I am still in a female body, one day I can dream to have enough money to get the body that was meant for me. Thank you for supporting people like me, wish you the best.👍
Today I decided I want to be a cheeta. I feel I should have never been born a human male. I am a cheeta. I Will now wear only cheeta print clothes and walk on all fours. Might growl and chase people. Am I crazy or am I a cheeta?
Good talk. People need to be enlightened and we need to end all hate and vilification of trans people.
@Violent Sun Yes people do
@Violent Sun How are you going to tell me who I hate?
7pcp7 no we need to outlaw it
paul sturgess sturg gaming Outlaw what? what is "it"? do we outlaw a whole group of people? how do you propose we do that, genius?
Most of the hate is coming from trans people.
If ADD can be considered a mental illness, then how isn’t this? I’m not against anyone.. I’m just saying. Albert Einstein had ADD.. doesn’t mean he wasn’t a genius.
Sorry fellow human they are perfectly fine they just have that think called freakisem sindrom
That was my thought exactly.
Thank you, Gregory Mak, for helping us!
By soreading misinformation
@Kuggie Bear Calling someone mentally ill does not help anyone who is, despite your intentions. It's up to themselves to realize it.
@@dhhddysyshshhddhd3108 c'mon, you watched the entire TedTalk and you don't believe that they are people just trying to be accepted as another part of society?
@@Dappersworth I free I prefer the term freaks
So this is about feelings not facts?
Thank you for your so very admirable conviction: "They are just people, like you and I". This is powerful. I am so proud of you because I am also from HK and I can see you are the light in the darkness. There are now better terms such as gender expansive or gender euphoria. Having said, there are now queer people who can be neither (male) nor (female) and LGBT has become LGBTIQ+ Go! Dr. Mak, keep up your good work
What do you mean they can be neither male or female?
Wonderful ted talk! This made me very emotional! 😢 They need us regardless of your point of view! ❤ It's hard enough to go through this, but it's even harder to be outcasted too by society! 😢 I may not understand what you're feeling, but I see you, I hear you and I accept you! 💓 Sending love to those struggling! 💕
Thanks 😔❤️❤️
u fine
Thank you 🥲
If it can be fully recovered by surgery, why are the suicide rates still so high after the surgery?
Because of society, hate and discrimination. A lot of trans individuals lose family members and friend before/during/after transition. If suddenly the people you love and love you, hate or disagree with you as a person, you would feel isolated, alone and depressed.
Anna Vestergaard don’t understand how people don’t get that it’s very simple
@@Ed-sz3wq the high rate of suicide cant be fully attributed to 'society'
@@thu4050 Current studies on the rate of suicide do attribute it to societal factors. Could it be other things? Sure, but there's no data to really show this.
@@annavestergaard84 there's no data that show connection between getting bullied as a trans that lead to suicide. In fact, statistics showed that there's no connection between bully and suicide
The untold ones are my favorites.
The toxicity of this comment section shows how adverse our culture is towards accepting people who are different. Discrimination is a real monster and it's everywhere, not just hiding in the recesses. It makes me sad. I am a cis gender male that had a recently deteriorated relationship with a partner that identifies as they/them and is dealing with gender dysphoria. We broke up for more than a few reasons, gender dysphoria exacerbated our relationship. I wish I could have been there to help them more. These issues are hard to deal with, but burying them does nothing to help.
We need more people like you in the world
Are you agreeing with this video or disagreeing? I am confused
@@awsomespecs they're agreeing with the video.
Thanks for your story & respectful sensitivity Eddie M.
@Le-Johnny For real.
I feel like most of the people in this comment section did not even watch the video. The ignorance/lack of empathy really shows.
Really think you for correcting us master back door pirate
@@johanmany6059 thank*
Welcome I'm here always if you need help just ask my friends calls me helpee mc helps
@@johanmany6059 lol
what does master back door pirate even mean dude. it doesnt even show up when i search it up. how are you gonna insult people if you talk like that. Thats ✨embarrassing✨
You are truly a human being as a doctor. Wow. So deep your compassion because of the suffering you have seen. I had to stop with lower surgery before I ended up with a permanent indwelling catheter... I had ten surgeries but it was time to stop... Was my need to stand at a urinal worth the consequence? I Paid for all of that myself and it drove me nuts to have a balance on my credit card because of "emergency" complications that required immediate costly intervention or I would have gone septic. NO REGRETS over 25 years now. I knew at 5 I would just fix it one day. I have never waivered. Wouldn't go back for all the gold on earth. You better believe I would have done the surgeries MYSELF if I could have. Weeds need to be pulled out by the roots. Transgendered and high functioning autistics are higher evolved than others. I have lived many years now. Something is to be said for how "suffering" turns people into better human beings. If they don't commit suicide from overwhelm or give into anger. My good mentor and friend Alecia Brevard did her own surgery with a knife on her kitchen table. Her book is so funny as she used "vet" materials to get the job done. I am a horrible skeptic about things in life and so are my parents...but my family knew this wasn't my fault and it wasn't their fault either. If "I" had not been the one to experience it first hand, "I" might have dismissed trans people as "mentally ill." There is a difference in someone who is mentally ill saying they are TS vs someone who is TS being classified as "mentally ill" strictly because of the trans issue. Anyone who judges us better "hope" there is not a God because judging people because of their gender diversity is not aware God allows such things to occur in nature. Medical science today can help us better fit into a surgically altered body and hormones allow us to experience life as we truly identity. I went through A LOT but it was nothing compared to Trans people in 3rd world countries. Look at how a country treats its LGBT people. It will give you an overall idea of just how wealthy or progressive and quality of life and living really is for the people of that country. Education or compassion is NOT generally something a 3rd world country has. Thank you doctor from one human being to another.
you need help dude. so many illusions you cling to...
Get help your feeding lie you know your sick assume lmao
“Transgendered are higher evolved than others”.
Wow.
I take no issue with adults who have gender dysphoria. But hasn't our society gone over the top to affirm and "accept" to the detriment of children and their view of themselves? Totally get that they are people too, just would insist that children not be encouraged to choose their gender until they've at least reach the age of 18 or 21.
or we can pump childrens cartoons full of pro trans content tee hee
It’s funny how DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) is labeled as a mental illness but this isn’t. People with DID have many alters that are from one of the two genders and sometimes species. People with DID need help and most of them in fact do get help. How is this any different? You’re dissociating yourself from the truth.
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Isn't dysphoria a mental illness?
@@E.Mulchi it is
He literally says it's a mental illness in the talk. Pay attention.
DID stems from trauma. It can be cured, too, to a certain degree. Gender Identity Disorder isn’t always caused by trauma, nor can it be cured.
What a time to live in!
a time of snowflakes
@@LBJTV Agreed
Al you misspelled "acceptance," but ok
Prronce11 _
A time of feeding into and not treating psychological illnesses
Far.E literally check DSM-5, you sorry excuse for moldy bread. GENDER DYSPHORIA IS NOT A MENTAL ILLNESS
I don't agree with this point of view. People are regretting doing the surgery as well. So just experimenting on them. Will see later the outcome.
Thanks Gregory mark now I do I rewrite this multiverse how?
By taking yourself out of it, or changing yourself.
immediately sobbing, im so glad i came out oh god
Good good, now go back in
@@hulahula6182 ??
Wow the mirror is possessed
Thank so much for a great talk going to share it with my parents to help them understand my dysphoria and gender identity
i thought he was HAN from 2 broke girls
COMPLETELY, FULLY by surgery?
I was giving you a chance until then. Jesus christ that is insanely simplistic and unrealistic.
No one asked
What about treating gender dysphorics like other dysphorics and helping them accepting their body as it is? This talk is only affirming which certainly and quite rightly would not be the case with other types of dysphoria. You keep saying 'they are just people like you and I' - yes but psychiatry and psychotherapy which only affirms is not treating them like you and I.
that wouldn't make them as much money
well said...
Money
Let’s make a comparison of this with body dismorphia. Both of the patients are obviously perceiving their body in an altered way, far different from reality. Both of em have that problem with their identity and how they are perceived. Isn’t this like incentivising those bigorexia guys to take more steroids and go deeper into their fake reality? I really have my compassions for those diseases but if I was a psychiatrist I wouldn’t treat it the way this gentleman does, I think it is even more cruel and it is just the “easier” path. People need to see reality and we should help them see that and try to make them self accepting and not enraged people with complete alternate realities. It probably is harder this way but it is the correct way to really solving the problem.
We cannot ignore the problem and even worse legitimise the problem and propagate it. We are taking very bad steps for the future of our society and I hope there will be psychiatrists that really can treat the root of the problem for these people. Let’s wake up
I don't think these are comparable. I don't think identity plays into body dysmorphia. Those that suffer from this are already in the appropriate body via gender. They have issues with their physical bodies (perpetually and irrationally feeling too small or too big) whereas gender dysphoria includes the physical and the mental. Those with gender dysphoria need the appropriate body first, and foremost, to feel less dysphoric and therefore, their mental health improves. With body dysmorphia, the battle of feeling as if in the incorrect body in regards to gender, isn't even an issue. Both struggle with body image, but trans face one more barrier in reaching a healthy state of mind.
The reality is that my gender dysphoria symptoms are much improved thru my use of modern HRT therapy. The reality is that, after transitioning for almost two years, when I look in the mirror, my appearance matches who I actually see myself as. I tried psychotherapy in the past yet is was never effective. I don't see how psychotherapy alone could be as effective as HRT for easing my gender dysphoria.
You say this person had 1 surgery ongoing every year .....Then you say it's the only mental illness that can be treated by surgery .... That doesn't add its not being treated only encouraging self harm instead of actually helping them.
Its like my polycystic ovarys, I take hormones to bleed but my weight and health overall wont change if I not eat well and exercise. The easiest way will never be more effective.
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How can I know whether I have a depression or gender dysphoria?
you sad or want to be the other gender?
If you are struggling or concerned about anything that affects your optimal heath seek professional assistance. Regardless of the complaint. Don't worry about labeling your woes just concern yourself with being healthy. ❤
Shezus H. Nice ok boomer
@@PikaBolaChan can't you be both?
MattMan Reviews no.
I enjoyed the information but disagree that surgery is a good solution. You did not talk of the many who have committed suicide because of their unhappiness after surgery and the risks involved. This should be addressed.
With such a happy heart i pray someone finds the cure
We do not need "cured." We need transition, support, and acceptance.
@@ericapelz260 No, Go for the brain, not the body and life
The cure is transitioning.
@@Warhead-ds4dc Nah
@@ericapelz260 so they can look like you?
No other group in society gets whatever they want ... children with scoliosis come second to these mens surgeries.....ugh
This is world is so big, but no one is doing anything to cure gender dysphoria. So suicide is the last option remains for me
You guys can only comments but don't raise your voices for such mental illness
I hate myself and why am i in this world
Sometimes i think i am alien because i am not like other men
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You are valid.
@@zendynamite9058 😭😭😭
People can't cure gender dysphoria for you. In your case, gender dysphoria is a result of some sort of trauma causing you to completely reject the male identity you used to have as a child. The only way for you to be mentally healthier is to work on yourself. You have to save your own self. It may sound harsh but it is true. If somebody were to try to save you, you would become dependant on them, and being dependant on a person is not healthy.
Hello Hamza where are you from I know how you feel I feel the same
I see you and I hear you! ❤
I get there are truly a very small group of people with this very real issue, but how are we going to separate those with this real issue vs those caught up in the cult of pop CULTure?
Detransition rates are extremely low. Seems like we already do a really good job at sorting out before we allow people to transition.
Exactly.
@@E.Mulchi the suicide rate is also high still, so is the vetting really that good?
@@E.Mulchi what are the facts on detransitioners??? In the UK our fender clinic doesn't do follow ups, so we have no idea
@@alyssahubbell5160 the suicide rate isn't that high when they get proper help: majority are fine, the only studies saying otherwise refer to them not getting help processing the trauma gender dysphoria has induced, which is normal: let alone that their enviorment also plays a big role
I feel like this and think about this every second of the day, I'm often so depressed and sad that I'm so poor, and know if I was rich it would make my life so much better, but if i was to come out as being rich, my poor friends & family might look at me differently and not want to be friends and I'd just be lonely with lot's of cash, I really don't know what I should do 😥
If one day you can afford surgery, my advice is to DEFINITELY go through it. Listen to me bud, this isn’t a phase. You will ALWAYS feel this way. And guess what? No matter how close you are to your family and friends, it will never make it any better. So I’m telling you, when you can afford it, do it. The ones who stay in your life are the real ones. And the ones that leave you only loved you conditionally. And who wants toxic conditional love in their life? You will find other people who will love you for who you are and accept you and make your life a happier life.
@@maryamkhalifa1087 That is very bad to tell him that. He needs to seek psychological help not mutilate his body.
Maryam Khalifa it's better to keep your delusional ideas that have no scientific backing whatsoever to yourself. you might just have ruined that person's life a little further
@@maryamkhalifa1087 The suicide rate before and after is the same you're just supporting mass delusion
Maryam Khalifa bad advice when this is such an individual thing
If it can be fully cured by surgery....why are there sooooo many detransitioners?
the lack of professional distance in him is disrurbing to say the least. You do not get so inloved with your patince it is highly unprofessional, you loos the distance you need to still be able to see the problem. It is our job (in the health care system) to help them and not give in on their problems.
"Transgenders"
What is "pre-assigned birth gender?!?!?!" This is the kind of meaningless jargon that is part and parcel of a whole new, multi-billion dollar industry which capitalizes on the miseries of the affluent!
...what
I LOVE this point of view!! But I am not comfortable treating/viewing someone condescendingly, I don’t think they would like that either.
because the truth hurts.
Truth hurts
If someone has an illness we have to let them know that they need a valid treatment
Not tell them to embrace their identity and embrace a pseudoscientific cure
@@Clyrk its funny cuz being male or female isnt even a harsh truth. its just a basic truth that everyone knows cuz it's obvious. like 2+2=4
@@MsDudette21 ikr...
@@MsDudette21 the reason why it hurts is. Well for me I associated the terms "girl/woman/she" with negative experiences that I had. So I figured everything will be solved if I run away from these. Spoiler: it didn't work. After 5 years I snapped back to reality and I'm starting my healing process to accept myself and will untie all these negative associ cations
And yeah telling someone who is so consumed by their belief it hurts to accept something you thought you could change, you can't actually change.
But for me it's fine, I know reality hurts and I'm ready to face that
If it's not a disorder, then health insurance shouldn't cover meds or surgeries mwahahahaha
Yes they should because it has to do with their health, mentally and physically
HF Network nope. Insurance companies can now argue that it's cosmetic. Someone might have a real crooked nose that could be fixed through plastic surgery, and while their mental health "might improve" with getting a nose job, it's not a true health issue. It's cosmetic. Just like you can't change genders. It's just a cosmetic surgery of lopping off your dong.
@@TheNecessaryEvil Exactly.
Holden Declan so your saying it is a disorder?
@@killertruth186 not exactly because they don't cut it off... they turn it inside out 🤣
The team of psychologists who worked with the big psychologist Dr Joseph Niccolosi of USA , may help the victims of gender identity disorder ! Surgery is not a solution, it is better to make strong your biological identity lost maybe because of childhood abuse or trauma . Many patients got recovery without surgery !
Some people that are lucky will overcome their gender dysphoria or they didn't have it in the first place, but please don't invalidate those who have needed it to simply be comfortable in their own skin, trust me it can be very difficult.
@@richardcabanas1360 Clinging to a false reality for sanity will only create more frustration for yourself in the long run.
@@Dappersworth how can u say that? did you ever experience transitions?
@@viridian9673 I don't have to to know
calling it as a pathology shouldn't represent a problem.
of course they're people, the problem here is how bad we regard the word pathology/illness, diverse
go ahead and promote multiple personality disorder and bipolar while your at it. if someone said to me my bipolar disorder is fine and the problem is everyone else i would have never received the help i needed. this is a chemical inbalance not a mindset. you should be promoting your patients to be comfortable with whom they are. not telling them to make irreversible mutilations to themselves that they will later regret. this is deplorable and disheartening that a psychiatrist would abuse his patients in such a way.
Exactly. And that will make mood swings just a simple spectrum.
aisling i think you missed my point in the medical field there should be no political correctness. if i came and said i was a dog i would expect to be put in counseling and medicated, not told that i can be a dog and should chew bones, lie in a tiny doghouse while someone pats my back. this doctor heard the story of a confused man with what i would deduce is a lack of testosterone causing an in balance in the chemicals the brain which is probly the route of this man in a womens body thing, no different than the dog scenario. if what you saying is this man said these things just to be politically correct that means he's abusing patients by not properly diagnosing and treating the very problem they came to him for. someone needa to stand up and say ya its crazy that your a man and think your a women you need help..
I agree with you completely.
surgery willl still not change there gender. we need to do research to try to find treatment plans
@Aisling That is why I hated WHO's (I had forgot about that organization name, so I had searched it up) decision.
Which they have nothing to gain for no longer recognize Gender Dysphoria as a mental disorder.
Which it was rigged from the start.
I have met many trans people (lots of female to male) and after my collective personal experiences, I know that I can't handle the emotional issues. It's too much for me to deal with. I empathize but I know I can't handle it.
Just out of curiosity what is overwhelming to you about it? I am not judging , u can be honest.
The reason i ask is maybe we just need a little education about the subject in order to be able to be friends with them.
@@danielleschoenlau7861 I’m pretty sure he means that they usually carry emotional baggage that translates into certain attitudes, personality and personal views that sometimes clash with other people’s.
I tried telling myself I own a NASCAR, tried modifying my car. Somehow it just doesn't feel or perform like one at the end of the day I'm still depressed.
But it would be wrong to hurt or abuse someone just because he wants a NASCAR. And if modifying the body of the car causes chance of life threatening accident due to messed up aerodynamics and esthetic then I suppose I shouldn't be doing it and learn to accept facts. There is more to life than a NASCAR.
Please understand that these are actually very different examples, going through gender dysphoria is terrible, and it can make one want to die for just feeling those symptoms in the first place, trust me. Not trying to hate, just hoping you would understand.
Are you comparing a human to a car?
@@jeasterbunny its a metaphor dum dum. Modifying yourself doesnt fix you. You need to see help
Lamon Lanon So if you want dyed hair, that’s still modifying yourself. Or makeup. Or Plastic surgery. Or any surgery.
I identify as a dolphin but will die if I live in the water
Brave???? That word has lost its worth.
I have a problem. Im a rich person trapped in a poor mans body. When i spend my great moneys on boats, they always send me bills and retake the boats. I tried to adopt a child and they told me I couldnt afford to care for children. Damn my natural poor body. damn it that i know im rich but only on the inside.
I am a giant man trapped in a little man's body. I want to be a pro wrestler but my doctor refuses to prescribe enough steroids to change my body to the one I was meant to have. Talk about discrimination. All I want is to be super strong like I was suppose to be.
that's sad but that doesn't exist: it has no science or biology behind it like transgenderism does.
I guess you should begin your transition by making money
People need to accept themself and the body that they are born with. This is the main issue.
I also think people need to be happy and proud of themselves. They may only be this way, if they transition to another gender. Confining people to anything, let alone gender, will cause Great Depression and sadness
As someone who was trapped into this belief for over 5 years...I'm so glad I finally woke up and realized that my problem lies somewhere else. I will talk with my mother to get therapy to accept myself as a girl and untie my problems that I've been running away from for all these years - I've been there and been offended and denying reality...my mom brought me back, thank you mom
@@jace2279 that’s cos your dysphoria came from trauma.
That's why they transition, to become themselves.
I want to but I can’t
The book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels does a great job addressing depression.
@Josh from Bakersfield I doubt that should be a first resort, maybe for long term
@Josh from Bakersfield I doubt that should be a first resort, maybe for long term
So Lets give to the anorexic people meds to be more and more skinny and empowered exquizofrenic people that the voices in their head are real and frendly
When humanity evolves, we will look back at the DSM and feel profound shame. The good that the book brings is of convenience, but not worth all the harm that comes along. It’s unthinkable.
No
God forgive this nation...
@Tears for Fear’s We have the will to be whatever and whoever we want. Unfortunately, some people choose to be democrats lol
CatFishesCatfishingCatfish Religious people are no better than leftists tbh
@@djpendejo7636 nah i disagree.
Dj Pendejo
1. Not all people who claim to be religious are actually practicing the faith. Not all people in one religion should represent the whole religion, because the church cannot control every single person. So if you ever had a bad experience from a “religious person”, they must have not been practicing the faith at all.
2. I prefer conservatives, because even if you have a different opinion from them, they wont all go violent and name-calling on you or shaming you for a different opinion. I am basing this based on the many protests I see from the left side or democrats, (not on every single person from the left side though...)
@The Void that speaks God but we are born in sin and shape in iniquity
Funny how I'm being made sleepy and then being convinced that the problem is that the person is born in the wrong body. That is the problem huh?
to understand humen we are going to have to understand human being with evidence and the truth defined. sympathy and empathy dose not help in order to define human being .
Empathy and sympathy are parts of human nature tho
@@mizu2052 it does explain some but it’s not everything.
@@YAYforYE ofcourse not. But both are very important in order to understand human nature, pretending one or the other is not important would be silly.
@@mizu2052 which you to define humane nature? thats primally.
@@YAYforYE sorry what? Idk if you are fluent in english or not but your sentence doesnt..make sense-
Does gender dysphoria ever exist alone in a person without comorbidity?
300bpm I like how you came on this video just to respond to EVERY comment with hate.
@@biggiechungus1294 It's not hate.
Arran Vid no it really is. People are going after trans people who are just trying to live their best lives.
Biggie Chungus how is that hate. having a civil discussion is suddenly hate now? you don't agree with his views and have no scientific backing to support any of of these claims and the only way you can now invalidate an argument is to say it is hate. damn that is childish. girl you wouldn't know hate if it was handed on a silver platter to you
Prronce11 _ where? how? why? what the f are you blabbering man. do you even know what hate is lol.
@HF Network
You are so sick dude, how could you get so lost...
Really how could he get so lost a f king over 100 genders and you don't want him to get lost trying to understand every single one of freaks
Does anyone else think the obsession comes from them thinking what they want to do can only be done by the opposite gender? So if a boy wants to play with dolls but feels he cant so he says he is a girl.
No it honestly just comes from wanting to be what you want to be without hurting anyone
@@24POWERS Although, they are hurting themselves.
@@24POWERS I want to 6 foot tall doesn't mean I can be. Or I wanna be iq200 and that's also doesn't mean I can have it. What you want isn't equal to what you have.
Timon I there's a difference between that and gender dysphoria. If you can't see that, than take your own advice and get help
@Arran Vijayadurai sure, but that person isn't trans, that's not what being is
Nicely described the entire situation of LGBT group: They are simply people like us
Ppl like us with a disorder who needs treatment
_____________Virtue signalling master class.
Broken bone? Fully recoverable with surgery? That’s a lie!
Enablers
where?
It’s histrionic personality disorder
Herro, evolution of people infect, compromise me, you and I. Now imagine psychosis.
Love the ‘Herro’ 👌😂
He is an Ideologist, otherwise he would help them not confirm them in their error.
Great racket for psychiatrists who diagnose gender dysphoria then turn their patients over to surgeons who make even more money.
And how does he explain the detransitioners?
Most detransitioners do not detransition out of regret. They detransition due to safety/social/financial/health concerns.
@@nooneanonymous3340 THANK you you are aboslutely correct.
@@nooneanonymous3340 or they realize they made a mistake......
@@jbenno7021 95-97% of people who transition never regret doing so.
There was a clinic (one of the earliest) that did talk therapy with youth and the majority (most) of the patients eventually decided they were their given gender. But then activists complained and the hospital didn’t want the heat because it was bad for business and so they hired people to spend a whole day creating a review containing tons of false information to get the clinic shut down. And that is disheartening. The patients and their families were overwhelmingly thankful for the help they received. But social justice warriors got it shut down. And the medical industry is taught to go along with it now. Big money maker for sure.
Alyssa= Cis gendered hate troll.
@@kriskabin ok
What clinic was it ?
This is untrue. Many of these so called "talk therapy" institutions have been shut down because they made a difficult situation worse for the patient. This kind of "therapy" is NOT therapeutic. It is dangerous and increases the already high risk of suicide in these folks. There is quite a bit of actual research at this point. Please read it.
I can't believe UA-cam allows so much hate speech on one video
No different that Twitter trans people suppressing how straight people feel about being forced to date trans
Shut up , do you want to live in a society where only politically and socially correct opinions are allowed to be voiced ? Joke
@@LonelyJuan no one is forcing you date trans people.
@@nooneanonymous3340 Tell that to everyone who got pissy about “super straight”. Mfs were demanding straight men date trans women or they would be “canceled” for transphobia.
@@LonelyJuan
"I don't want to date a trans person"
ok
"STOP OPPRESING ME"
Is he seriously comparing a bone fracture (which limit you physically and is something that needs to be fixed as a problem for your health) with a mental disorder (which "treatment" is unnecessary and in the end doesn't even fix the problem but become more like a lie of comfort) ?
Flora Bay look at dsm-5 and check your facts, cuz I'm too tired to keep repeating myself
Modern day
Sodom and Gomorrah!
ZigM4 666 says the person with a 666 in their name
Satan is actuality deceiving them
no shes not
No, _you're_ the ones being deceived by a children's book.
CA Cole god I wish I had satan on my side. That'd be cool.
Sail hatan!!!
So you believe these people to be delusional yet you believe in delusions yourself lmao
Surgery doesn’t cure dysphoria, only Jesus can. Pray and ask Him to help you find truth and deliverance. He will help you because He loves you. John 3:16.
ah yes sky daddy will cure all problems.
anyway it does help
I’m super straight
Christian and born with Gods love
Cringe.
Cringe
@DORA Cringe
@DORA Yes
If it can be fully cured by surgery....why are there sooooo many detransitioners?