Having parents or a parent to move back home to, is a big blessing one shouldn’t take for granted. Take your time to heal, recharge and replan your life, that’s what I am currently working towards ….much love❤❤
I’m very grateful for my family as I too just went through a divorce and had to move back in with them. I feel like I’ve failed and I’m embarrassed to even admit that. I’ve never been in a situation like this before so I really don’t know how to deal with it.
@@Cmfrs503I am in the same boat as you and it sad because I have a child a few months old. Divorce came out of the blue because he showed his true color after the baby was born and treated me the worse way possible at my weakest with post partum. I think of divorce as closing this chapter in my life and starting a new.
I could not agree more. Grace - imo you have a career in documentary film making or possibly writing...because the creativity, editing skill and storytelling here are PHENOMENAL. I have shared this several times and others agree.
I love how you don’t add music to the background; and it’s just your voice it makes it feel a lot more authentic and not edited the way life actually is.
Thank you so much for this feedback! I considered adding music, but I feel like music can really dramatize and invoke a lot feelings and I just wanted it to be more raw. I'm so glad you see the vision/feel the same!
I did this at 32, everything had come crashing down. First I severely depressed and in psychiatry for a while. But then things were so calm and new that I just let everything disappear from the past and started over new. No pills. No drugs. No alcohol. These things only make you worse. You need rest, good food, good talks, and mild exercise. And then slowly you can get a good life again. Be a good version of yourself. And from there on you can slowly look for a better job, a good relationship, and joy in life. I am very stable now, happy, in a good relationship, with more money, a great health, just three years later.
I'm 32 and I needed to read this. I'm proud of you. ❤ I am in the void of the crash myself. Healing from the inside out. Seeing my future self shining.
That advice 👌 the simplest prescription-yet one that hurts the most because you don't numb anything out. You just fucking feel. Everything. But you gotta feel it to heal it. 🌱
I am currently 27 going thru the exact same thing. Lost everything I have this year even my hair😭 moved in with my mom no job no car broke up with someone I'm still in love with. It's really painful in this moment to look back at my old pictures of when I thought I had it all and was so content with life. Trying to find comfort and security in this new time is so hard!! I feel like a hermit crab with no shell! Best wishes and love to everyone ❤
U know when you’re down u tend to feel like ur the only person going through all of these things! But I am going through all of this and I’m almost 40…I know when I was 27 I thought that was “so old” but trust me it sneaks right up on you so fast…and it feels even worse to be feeling like I lost everything in my life when now I’m so much older..but I relate to everything you speak of, so I guess age is irrelevant…I don’t know if we are collectively just really going through some kinds of transformation or transition but it’s like something hasn’t been right for the last 4-5 years and I can’t even put my finger on it exactly, that’s what makes it even more strange…but either way I’m trying to just push forward and stop reminiscing on the past- I just can’t help but feel like I wish I would have at least appreciated everything so much more because I really didn’t know how dark things can get…glad to have found this post and video…feeling a little less alone always helps a little cheers
I'm so sorry to hear everything is so hard right now.. That's so much to be going through all at once. When it rains it tends to pour, but I just try to imagine that it's watering the soil to sprout new life and that the next chapter will be brought to life with all the character I gained and lessons I learned in the last chapter. You will grow and this will pass and you will get through this. Sending all the love and light to you ❤️
please dont take this badly. i would be so grateful to be living in your 'rock bottom'. i am a recovering heroin addict. i grew up in government housing. i cant go back to my parents. my dad lives in a one bedroom government appartmnt. no room or money to keep me. i was sex trafficked due to my addiction. my versoin of starting over was living in a hostel for 2 years and going to college, getting this flat. after a million relapses i sit here alone. playing my guitar. in pain trying to withdraw off medication. just be grateul that you got to experience that at all, so few people do. there is so much suffering in the world
I’m so sorry to hear your story, that’s heartbreaking and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I am very grateful for everything I have in my life, and I hope the next chapter of yours brings you peace and healing ❤
yeah tbh as soon as this started I was like the fancy ass bathroom makes me feel immediately disconnected from this. I grew up in a horrific family and am in recovery also. I'm sure this video is great but I gotta hear from people I can relate to
@@JordynHealing it's understandable that you cant relate but money doesn't bring happiness, it only brings security and stability. we're all still humans with emotions, illnesses and life is hard for everyone. you can do this!!!!
@@JordynHealing I completely understand where you're coming from, I used to feel the same way. But even though our personal experiences can be very different, there are many aspects of the human experience that are similar for all of us. Pain, loss, heartbreak, loneliness- these feelings are all very similar for everyone. Different people have different capacities based on their upbringing, culture, genetics, and all kinds of other things; so although our loss or pain may be incredibly far off from each other, it may still feel relatively the same to each of us due to our capacity. I'm not saying you should watch my video by any means, but just some food for thought. I used to cut hair for the homeless in Baltimore and I would listen for hours to heartbreaking stories and I'd learn from them. I've also spent afternoons with billionaires and had conversations with the prime minister of Anguilla over a drink at the Four Seasons and I learned something from them as well. I try to listen and learn from people of all walks of life, not just people that have similar experiences to me. If I polarize people and can't listen to what they have to say because they are different from me, then I live my life in an echo chamber and it leaves little room to grow my understanding of the world around me. Anyway, it's all love and I really am so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I genuinely wish you all the best on your healing journey ❤
I hope you know how cathartic and validating this video is for many people. Even if the effect lasts a short while, no one takes a moment of calm in a storm for granted ❤
Aw thank you so much for saying that. Means so much more to me than you know that something I made could help anyone feel validated or better in some way, even for a moment. ❤
Paul once said in Philippians 4:12-13 “ I know what it is to have little, and I know what it is to have plenty. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being well-fed and of going hungry, of having plenty and of being in need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”
This year I got off all social media platforms and only watch UA-cam. Recently though I found myself thinking I wish creators on UA-cam were a little more authentic, emotionally vulnerable and transparent about life in general. This video restored my faith. I NEEDED to see this video, as much as you needed to make it. Thank you for sharing something that clearly thousands upon thousands of people have longed for.
This is beautiful. I just left a 10 year relationship with someone I thought I was going to grow old with, I went through some really dark days feeling like this can’t be real. I’m living someone else’s life, this can’t be my life. But then I remembered - I lost my dad in 2019 and I endured purely out of survival and knowing I get to carry his memory with me everywhere. So now that is how I view the life ahead of me, I’ve never been so excited to live. I wish you nothing but love on your journey! ❤
I typed out a long depressing paragraph about myself and my life. I have so many wonderful, helpful and encouraging videos saved and downloaded to my playlist. I'm 43yo, while all of this is wonderful my ass will be the same woe it's me internally yet fake being confident within 2hrs. To anyone reading (if anyone actually does), we have to face our demons, accept ourselves completely. Love ourselves unconditionally. Idk you, but I love you. My heart hurts, but hopefully better days are to come. Good luck with your journey.
Been living with my mom for almost 3yrs (She also lives in Maryland. I moved in with her at 32) now. I too, in some ways, am still healing from a break up that took place in 2020 with someone I was with for 9yrs. I grieve that old life SO MUCH! I’ve been unemployed for almost 9months now and life has thrown some unfortunate experiences my way. Life has truly indeed sucked ass over the past 3yrs since having to move back home. But I strangely found this video to be comforting and it found me right on time in my journey. This was beautifully well done. It resonated so deeply. Thanks for sharing what seems to be your gift of visual storytelling. And also, thanks for the reminder that this too shall pass. Love & light to you🌹✨
Wow thank you so much for sharing that, I'm so glad this could help in some small way. That compliment about visual storytelling means more to me than you know, so thank you so much for saying all this 🥹 Genuinely wishing you the best on your healing journey. All the love and light to you too ❤️
I went through the same around your age . It’s your Saturn return. I thought I lost everything but really my whole identity revolved around my partner and his life. I was codependent. The following 3 years were really hard but rewarding. I found myself . I built my own life separate from that of any Man. Life is 10x better now than it has ever been .
@@NatiiiStyle 1000% self worth. I didnt think I had what I took to make it in life on my own. So I kept playing it small and hid behind my partner. I had a lot of trauma around being seen (my parents were really unstable and abusive ) so hiding and making myself small was the only way I wouldn’t get hurt. There’s no real secret . It’s just hard work and healing.
Im at the same stage in Life, struggling, no Friends, battling the emptiness of feeling unatached to anything. Your video made me feel like im not alone. Thank you for that.. I think we are warriors. Warriors of Life Who want to find purpose, and clarity too.. keep Up the good work. Greetings from Spain , hoping we can turn the Page soon...
❤ I'm so sorry you're going through all that right now, but you're not alone. I wish you all the clarity and peace and comfort in this next season of your life! You got this 🫶🏼
Love how this was suggested to me. A few days ago, I read a quote “When you first meet people, you learn where they are, not who they are.” 2024 has been rough to many people. Hope everyone is doing as well as they can.
UA-cam suggesting this to me at this time in my life is absolutely astonishing. As for the video itself… absolutely beautiful, brilliant, and incredible. I loved and absorbed every single second and I wish you peace and happiness on your journey of life. ❤
im literally in the same boat... 28... traveled the world for 7 whole years.. then everything was ruined and i had no choice but to move back in with my parents. my mental health battle has been gruesome. this is so provoking and i am grateful to have watched this today. thank you for sharing this ♥
I'm glad this video could help in some way, that's a huge adjustment and I'm sure it's hard as hell.. Sending you all the love and wishing you all the best in this next season of your life ❤
I'm only three minutes in but I had to pause to say I have literally never watched a youtube video this good. It feels like I've watched a whole movie. This came to me at the right time
There was no reason why the UA-cam algorithm brought this vid into my feed, but I am so thankful for it. Thank you for making this video, for sharing it & for your humanity.
I know that feeling and desire of wanting a chapter in your life to change so badly. I’m living it now and it’s depleting. That feeling of waking up every morning and wondering and praying is this the day it’s going to change?? We only have so much control if any really. We go through life with these expectations that if we work hard enough and do enough we will be complete. No life doesn’t work that way. It’s filled with uncertainty. Ups and down and we have to try to manage it the best we can. Thank you for this post because many people out there relate and get it. Be kind and compassionate to yourself - is what I’m trying to do. Live for today it’s all we’ve got. ❤️
I'm 27 years old in the same situation as you ... Lost my love my best friend.. im jobless , living at my parents house , this really helped soothe my anxiety and depression , go bless you grace !
I'm so sorry you're going through so much, and I'm so glad to hear this video could help even in a small way. I genuinely wish you all the best on your healing journey- you got this ❤️
This was such a humble reminder - especially about showing more empathy towards others and yourself, we have no idea what other people are going through yet we quickly judge others based off of a tiny glimpse we see. No need to compare or judge, we are all struggling, grieving, and recovering in our own ways and it’s so important to be there for each other. Thank you for the message ❤
OH MY GOD. 40 seconds into this video and it all resonates with my life. I moved to Mexico with my partner and our relationship just fell apart. I am now about to move back home with my parents to heal... jobless and shifting timelines. Thanks for being so real and relatable and sharing your story
Idk why UA-cam recommended this to me so randomly on a Thursday night but it speaks volumes to my chapter in life right now too. I’m 27 just had to move back in with my parents, forcing me and my boyfriend to do long distance. I’m unemployed with no car and have $40 to my name after paying my phone bill today. Like you I am the biggest critic to myself and being way more harsh and judgmental to myself when I could also show myself some compassion- because after all I didn’t get here to 27 by being deaf blind or stupid (I say this as a joke not literally). But it’s been really tough to take an outside view of my life with a step back to gain perspective on this chapter of my life currently. And watching this video just helped me feel a little less alone and encouraged me to take a breath. Some people might have looked at me through out my journey and thought I’m normal and had all my life together when that’s far from the truth. I moved out at a young age and strived to do it on my own only to 10 years down the line end up being back at home. Sometimes I feel like a failure and like these mistakes I’ve made along the way will forever define me but I keep trying to remind myself that this too shall pass and there has never been a point in my life that I can say that God has forsaken me. Even in really tough situations. So big hugs to you from the Midwest, may God continue to bless our hearts minds and souls along our journey of life and cheers to this chapter in life that id also like to call “bittersweet, but more sweet” ❤
I am 22 and I feel like I was given a reset but I also want to speed the time up. This video just help me realize to enjoy this moment, because life is about to get amazing but challenging. I am about to have everything I ever wanted. And for me to be okay that some friendships have expired or even family members. This video really help me change my perspective on this chapter in my life rn
I'm so glad it resonated with you and could help you in some way. This comment means so much to me, thank you for taking the time to write it and I wish you all the best on this next chapter of your life ❤️
Thank you for sharing this! I relate so much to you. I was a digital nomad and full-time traveller with a "perfect life", and now I'm unemployed and living with my mum. It's a struggle, but I know this won't be forever. It's just a chapter.
Yeah it’s a really REALLY hard shift to make.. I’m sorry you’re also going through it right now, but you’re right, it will pass and I hope the next chapter brings you so much joy 🫶🏼
Honestly thank you for this.. I'm 28, living with my parents, recently quit my toxic job, no calls back yet, no luck finding an apartment yet.. not gonna lie its felt embarrassing, and like i've "failed" at life some days. Watching your video/ all the comments of other brave people sharing where their at definitely makes me feel less alone.
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm going through same situation, jobless and broked after 6 years of a perfect relationship. It's so hard to recover and show off everyday, but we'll manage it! wish you all the healing you need, sister!
Wow you really were living my dream life. I find strength and comfort in Jesus. I understand how hard the breakups feel. It’s physically traumatic so I hope you bounce back,no matter how long it takes 😢
I'm 27, moved back in with my parents, and also started over. I've lived in 2 countries and visited over 17 other countries. No one knows that about me from the outside looking in. I look like a loser to the eyes of society, but this video made me feel seen. Thank you.
Thank you UA-cam algorithm. I am struggling heavily with self judgement and being critical of others, because that was the only thing i was taught growing up. This video is very healing and liberating
I completely understand. I was also raised in a very critical environment and taught to judge myself and others. Reprogramming is hard as hell, but you're not alone. So glad this could help in some small way- you got this ❤️
Me too!!! One day when we are in a "better position" we will most likely look back at ourselves now and wish we had been nicer to ourselves during this hard time!
I lost *everything* once. Looking back I see how I slowly built up my new life around me like a castle, a fortress, and eventually a kingdom. It was so hard and I still grieve over those I lost. But my life changing for the better had so many movie type moments it was insane. To anyone going through this, you have such a story to tell and one day you’ll have an even better one.
I'm venting here after watching this video...... I'm 32 years old, male, with 2 awesome amazing kids..... Been married for 10 years..... and yesterday it all came crashing down..... My wife and I have decided to mutually get a divorce..... There was no animosity, no hatred towards eachother....we just recognized we fell out of love a long time ago... and have been trying to hold on for whatever reason and trying to get back to that love but nothing is working.... It feels bitter sweet because I really imagined my whole life with this woman......and it died.... I know when it died and I know why, but I kept trying.....we both did...... I've been grieving in my own way and shes been doing the same.... For now we're living in the same house cordially with our 2 kids but in different rooms..... I live in the basement we just renovated in out guest room down there and shes in what used to be our room now her room.... We're looking into what we need for divorce so we're taking our time to get it all done ourselves and when we're ready we'll go for it since we agree we don't want it to be messy and want it to be fair as possible and we trust eachother for that at least... I keep having moments where something triggers my emotional response to the whole thing and I see flashes of our lives together over the last 10 years..... This really sucks and it hurts alot..... But We both understand that we're unhappy and that we want eachother to be happy...... My advice to people is take your time to know the one you think you love, do marital counseling to find out the sacrifices that need to be made in a marriage and if youre willing to go through that, understand that respect and honesty and support above all is needed for this to work if one of those is missing it wont work, and make sure the things in your closet are taken cared of because if not thats whats going to be the downfall of the marraige..... That was our problem.....she had things that she didn't heal from and it caused her to not do or be the person she said she was the idea of the person I thought I was falling in love with. And this isnt me dogging her on this this is me stating it like this because we both agreed after countlless marital counselings and arguements and repeating the cycle over and over again that was the one thing that kept coming up. and she couldn't let what happened to her in the past go and wasn't willing to seek the help when she needed to and no matter what I did to help her I couldn't help her. I still care for her, I still want to co parent with her, I will always respect her as the mother of my children, but I can't be with her anymore and she can't be with me anymore. It hurts to go but it hurts more to stay and see the other in pain because of it. I will forever support her and pray she finds healing and peace and love somewhere out there.....
NO, dont do that. Both of you need to fight for your marriage. Divorce is not the answer. Try to get a relationship with Jesus, he can heal you and your family.
If there’s no unfaithfulness and no abuse stay together. Feelings of being in love ebb and flow in all relationships. Your children will suffer if you split houses and time between you. New partners will be introduced and you won’t have control over that. If at all possible get a Christian counselor. You can rekindle the love.
Hello, beautiful stranger. I usually never reply to UA-cam videos, but this video was everything I needed to see today. I feel like I’m at rock bottom as well. These last few days have been especially hard. My best friend admitted a few days ago she slept with my ex, whom I still love. I have no job at the moment, I’m on the other side of the world, and I heard yesterday that my dad has cancer. It’s very hard, and I feel so many emotions that are almost overwhelming. Thank you so much for giving me perspective. You have a beautiful view on life, and I totally agree with you. Wishing you, and everyone on this page all the best. Be gentle with yourself, and be gentle with others.
Dang it’s weird this was recommended to me tonight. What a wild couple years I’ve been on. Major highs making 100ks of dollars, trips around the world. To ultra lows losing everything giving away the rest and doing something stupid to end up having daily psych appointments 😬It’s been rough. But I’m still trying to find my way and I’m sure I will eventually. Anyone else out there don’t give up we got this. 💪🏼 Loved listening to this though. Love from a fellow Baltimore native.
I personally believe that this is one of the most impactful videos on the internet. Thank you. I needed to hear this very badly. I hope you are finding peace along your journey.
Empathy is important, but so is allowing yourself to be angry at people who hurt you, whether they intend to or not. You get a snapshot of people's existence, but that may be all that you get, and if someone takes their problems out on you instead of taking responsibility, then they aren't necessarily worth your respect
You're absolutely right-empathy and boundaries have to go hand in hand. While understanding others' struggles is important, I know it’s also crucial to protect your own well-being. This video wasn't meant to excuse people's hurtful actions, only to understand them. It’s okay to feel anger and to recognize when someone’s actions are harmful, but knowing that "hurt people hurt people" and that their actions are probably coming from a place of pain helps you to feel your feelings and then let them go and not harbor resentment, which only hurts you. Hope that makes sense ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing, it's like you were inside my head, so many similarities, addiction, breaking up with my partner, starting afresh, selling my house, being so hard on myself, especially at the bottom. Thank you.
Thank you for beings so transparent. I’m at a new phase of life being 49 and experiencing an emotional, hormonal imbalance what I refer to as an invasion an abduction of the person I used to be.. Hearing your video helped me realize it’s a phase, a chapter and I will make it through. Probably not as fast as I’d like to, but it’s temporary. Thank u for sharing! Good luck to you as you navigate through where you are and to where you want to be.
"maybe they were abused and being abusive is all they know." as someone who just got out of an abusive relationship with someone who was abused their entire life, this really hit.
So much wisdom in this video ! I'm 34 and back at my dad's after living abroad and travelling. I catch myself judging myself too often. So this video really helps to see it from a higher perspective. Thank you ❤
This video is exactly what I feel and where I’m at. I needed this. I truly hope this blows up or at the very least, continues to reach those who need this.
I couldn’t control my eyes while I was watching this. Thank you so much, I really needed to hear everything you said. You made me feel understood without knowing anything about my life story ❤❤❤❤❤❤
The future is daunting and I’m living my life with no sense of direction, avoiding taking action towards my future. And honestly, I’m unhappy with how I’m spending my life, I feel like I will have no memories and that my childhood has ended now that I’m almost 17 and having to apply for University in October…
Oh hun, I understand where you're coming from, but when I was 17 I was extremely sheltered and had barely any memories either. My childhood is not something I remember fondly at all, and I'm sorry you didn't get the experience you may have wanted either, but I've experienced so much cool shit in my adult years. Everything that has been worthwhile in my life happened after I turned 18. I get being unsatisfied with your life, trust me, but I promise this chapter will end soon and the next one will begin and you have sooooo many episodes to get through and so much life to experience. Your story is just beginning ✨🫶
You deserve a million subscribers just for this vid alone. And I know you will get there along with other joys you'll be experience again in life. Can't wait to see that episode of your life! :)
The hardest thing to do is to START writing the rest of your movie. I am going through a rut right now, feeling depressed as the days go by with no jobs calling back. I am my biggest critic to myself as well. I graduated college in December and am always judging myself because I’m not in a 6 figure job rn… but like she said, she had to step back to see that she actually has everything she needs. We can’t be so hard on ourselves whenever we are in a rut, take this time to visualize you being successful, being happy, and helping others achieve this. I hope everyone who watched this video feels a breeze brushing through their body and a voice telling you it’ll all be okay. We got this! 💪🏽
It takes a lot of courage to share what you're going through, and I admire your honesty. The pressure to have it all figured out, especially right after college, can be so overwhelming.. But you sound like you've got the right mindset! You're not alone, and yes we do got this ❤️
I'm guessing I'm a decent deal older than you, and comparing your "rut" to the rut I've been stuck in for ages now is like comparing a pothole to the Mariana Trench. While I believe this woman means well, she at least lived a pretty idyllic life many would kill for, for a while there, some of us still haven't even begun the first "act" of our lives, which becomes more disheartening as you move into your 30's and beyond. Also, I'm a regular looking man and not an attractive woman with the option of a sugar daddy. I guess my point is, just be glad you achieved your degree and have a base to work from.
The extent to which I relate is insane. 28, with parents. Broke up with fiancé last year. Spent earlier this year in Hawaii, Bali, etc. digital nomad stuff. Coaching business finally taking off. But now I’m home and it sucks. Sucksssss. But this morning I woke up and said, fuck it, im changing my reality and my self image.
I totally get it-sometimes the contrast between where you've been and where you are now can feel overwhelming. But that decision to change your reality and self-image is powerful. You've already done so much and this new chapter can be just as transformative or even more! Life's possibilities are endless, just gotta keep pushing forward-you're on the right path! ❤️
I’m going through something similar too. For anyone in a similar boat, the rut will pass with time. Im utilizing my time the best I can to get me to my next step. Now I have goals and direction, all I need to do is put in the work. My advice to you guys if you’re stuck, is to keep trying new things. Learn new skills and value your time. Don’t waste it mindlessly consuming.
Thank you for sharing so authentically and vulnerably. This happened to me at 27 as well and shattered me into a thousand pieces. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Your awareness is beautiful. Travel gently on this next chapter of life
I feel like 9:13 was the most insightful part for me. It’s so easy to get attached to emotions. Feeling joy is hard to move on from, and feeling sad makes you think joy will never come again. I’m trying to be more reflective during this time of my life- I’m working a job I don’t like, I’ve left uni and moved back in with my parents and ended a 5 yr relationship. It’s so hard to not just wake up every day and not try, judge myself and think myself unworthy of even making a decent meal for myself. This video has reminded me to try, and that I’m worth trying for even during my low. Sending love to everyone who is waking up every day and just trying. ❤️
❤️ I'm sorry it's so much right now, but you got this, and you're definitely worth trying for! I'm proud of you for trying, I know how hard that can be at times.
You've got this girl. My FYP suggested this and I've never seen your content before.... Thank you for sharing the deep parts of your soul with our world. Big Hugs.
This was really insightful and therapeutic. I am 30 and live at home. I left a really stressful job a year ago and have been between jobs since. I am so grateful that I have a roof over my head and that I have been given the time to detox from an environment that had me in constant fright or flight. It has been a struggle to work through my anxiety around work, but I know it is temporary. I know it is a true gift to be given the time to learn and grow. I am taking advantage of resources. I won't be in this state forever.
I know it may seem overwhelming right now but you're right, you definitely won't be in this chapter forever, it will pass! Your perspective is beautiful though and I really wish you all the best on your healing journey- you got this ❤️
Beautiful video! I think the darkest moments help us to grow and learn. You can also find reasons to be happy in almost every situation. I hope things get better for you soon, and you should be very proud of yourself for making this! One day you'll look back and be glad everything happened the way it did.
I would LOVE a morning and night routine video from you !! Your editing is AMAZING and your hair looks so healthy and your skincare seems to be working really well. inspiring 🤩
This is me and this video made me cry. I had it all. I lost it all. I’m lost. Thank you for reminding me that this isn’t the end. And for reminding me someone out there needs to hear my story too. I hope you’re doing better. We all need this message.
Grace, this video is beautifully made, the narration is incredible and your videography is stunning. I love how the video asks questions and encourages the viewer to do the same. Your recent life changes are part of the narrative but they are a backdrop to a wider philosophical view of the world, not narrow navel gazing or victim/blaming. You are hugely talented and, as others have said, your skills and potential as a film maker are huge. This film was a real treasure - taking the viewer in a reflective journey into their own soul. Thank you for your work on this and for making this film freely available xx
Girl this is beautiful I'm so glad UA-cam suggested this to me! I've been going through a VERY similar season. Watching this was actually so helpful for me because looking at you I have full confidence that it's all going to work out. But looking at MYSELF being my own greatest critic I'm like "I'M DOOMED" HAHAHA. It reminds me to take that objective step back and look at myself and my life and see it for the season it is and have confidence in my path. xo
This comment means so much to me thank you!! I’m so glad it resonated with you and could help you in some way. Trust me I get it, I’ve hit rock bottom and had to start over more times than I care to admit and every time I tell myself I’m doomed and my life is over but it never is. This is just a small part of your story and I really wish you the best on your next season 🥰🫶🏼
Very well said. I once read that life is nothing more than a collection of experiences. Good or bad. And that is really all we have. I appreciate you 💪🏻
welcome home. (fellow baltimorean ♥️) and welcome home, to your body, your heart, your mind, your soul. in all of its seasons and changes, you are still home, in your body. you are loved and appreciated by every version of yourself thus far, and the many versions to come are waiting for you, adoring and admiring all that you are, have been, and will become. you are so strong, and so delicate too. multifaceted and grand. decided and small. a mere particle of the world, and the entire world to yourself. your cells, bones, and organs marvel at your being. they deem you worthy just as you are.... you are never alone love. you can always hold your own hand and know you are safely kept with yourself.
Thank you for being so open and honest. Not many people would talk about their struggles. I just broke up with my ex, had to move across the country back to my family with no car and no job so I related to this video. Thanks you 🙏
I never knew how to put it into words, you spoke what I knew was happening, yet I was derailing for the most part, not accepting, distracting myself, not sitting with it. Your video grounded me. And you were empathetic. It's okay, this too shall pass. This too shall pass. Just because we sometimes can barely recognise who we are vs who we were.. doesn't mean today isn't worth living. Thank you, Grace. I'm holding your hand through this.
You'll probably never see this, but I have to ask - did you just get the idea for this video (and then put it together the way that you did...with all the incredible insights and concepts)...all by yourself?? THIS IS AMAZING...I mean seriously, this is a work of art on several levels. It brings to mind one of my favorite quotes of all time: " “Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Because at some time in life you will have been all of these.” - George Washinton Carver. I have no idea how this got recommended, but I'm so blessed and thankful it did. You should be so proud of yourself, incredible.
This was beautiful…thank you for sharing your journey and reminding each of us to remember that this is just a page in the book of our lives, not the ending of of our story.
I currently relate to so much of what you shared in this video, especially the part about moving forward from a version of yourself that seemed to have it all. I’m also 27 so it’s nice to know someone else can relate to what I’m experiencing right now. Thank you so much for being vulnerable enough to share this.
I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. I've been there, countless times. But it will pass, and you'll find clarity, and then you'll probably lose it again and feel lost once again. It's a part of the journey of life. You don't have to have it all figured out. Just focus on one small step in front of the other, you're so young and you have SO many more episodes to get through. You got this ❤️
4:50 That was the most honest and relatable thumbs up I've ever seen on UA-cam. 😂😭💖 I'm going through a hard time myself - again - and it sucks so much. But we still have some tomorrows to fill (actually "todays" or "nows") and hopefully they will be happier and brighter. Much love and strength to you from Berlin. 🙏🏼💫
What if you could share the stories of others as beautifully as you have done here, showing equality in commonality? How lovely it would be to see my fellow humans in similar circumstances, struggles, and triumphs-but in realness. I guess what I mean is that I yearn to see her or him who feels as I do, but I would never have known or assumed. I loved your vision and execution. Thank you for sharing. I loved it. I hope it is just the beginning.
Thank you so much for this beautiful compliment! And I completely agree with you and would love to be able to see all of the many different stories from people I've met and those I haven't. I think everyone's unique experience in this world is film-worthy.
It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.
1000%
Tyler … that you ?
We have the exact same briefcase. If yah know, you KNOW.
yep, learned it the hard way
In Tyler we trust
this video is more than a journal entry, it’s the beautiful truth of life
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Well said 🖊 it really is
Grateful for my fyp suggesting this
Grateful for your support 🫶🏼
one of the best videos i’ve ever watched
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Yeh i really needed this🙏
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Having parents or a parent to move back home to, is a big blessing one shouldn’t take for granted.
Take your time to heal, recharge and replan your life, that’s what I am currently working towards ….much love❤❤
Amen 🙏🏽
Absolutely agree! I'm very grateful to be here while I heal and re-adjust my plans and my life. Much love to you too ❤
Thank you for saying this!! 100% and a lot of people take this for granted.
I’m very grateful for my family as I too just went through a divorce and had to move back in with them. I feel like I’ve failed and I’m embarrassed to even admit that. I’ve never been in a situation like this before so I really don’t know how to deal with it.
@@Cmfrs503I am in the same boat as you and it sad because I have a child a few months old. Divorce came out of the blue because he showed his true color after the baby was born and treated me the worse way possible at my weakest with post partum. I think of divorce as closing this chapter in my life and starting a new.
This might be one of the most incredible videos i've ever seen
🥹 wow thank you so much!
I could not agree more. Grace - imo you have a career in documentary film making or possibly writing...because the creativity, editing skill and storytelling here are PHENOMENAL. I have shared this several times and others agree.
I agree.
A cinematic piece 🤌
I love how you don’t add music to the background; and it’s just your voice it makes it feel a lot more authentic and not edited the way life actually is.
Thank you so much for this feedback! I considered adding music, but I feel like music can really dramatize and invoke a lot feelings and I just wanted it to be more raw. I'm so glad you see the vision/feel the same!
I feel the same way too ..
I did this at 32, everything had come crashing down. First I severely depressed and in psychiatry for a while. But then things were so calm and new that I just let everything disappear from the past and started over new. No pills. No drugs. No alcohol. These things only make you worse. You need rest, good food, good talks, and mild exercise. And then slowly you can get a good life again. Be a good version of yourself. And from there on you can slowly look for a better job, a good relationship, and joy in life. I am very stable now, happy, in a good relationship, with more money, a great health, just three years later.
I'm 32 and I needed to read this. I'm proud of you. ❤ I am in the void of the crash myself. Healing from the inside out. Seeing my future self shining.
Thank you for sharing. I also needed to hear this 💕
That’s what’s up!!
That advice 👌 the simplest prescription-yet one that hurts the most because you don't numb anything out. You just fucking feel. Everything. But you gotta feel it to heal it. 🌱
love to hear this! ❤️
I am currently 27 going thru the exact same thing. Lost everything I have this year even my hair😭 moved in with my mom no job no car broke up with someone I'm still in love with. It's really painful in this moment to look back at my old pictures of when I thought I had it all and was so content with life. Trying to find comfort and security in this new time is so hard!! I feel like a hermit crab with no shell! Best wishes and love to everyone ❤
U know when you’re down u tend to feel like ur the only person going through all of these things! But I am going through all of this and I’m almost 40…I know when I was 27 I thought that was “so old” but trust me it sneaks right up on you so fast…and it feels even worse to be feeling like I lost everything in my life when now I’m so much older..but I relate to everything you speak of, so I guess age is irrelevant…I don’t know if we are collectively just really going through some kinds of transformation or transition but it’s like something hasn’t been right for the last 4-5 years and I can’t even put my finger on it exactly, that’s what makes it even more strange…but either way I’m trying to just push forward and stop reminiscing on the past- I just can’t help but feel like I wish I would have at least appreciated everything so much more because I really didn’t know how dark things can get…glad to have found this post and video…feeling a little less alone always helps a little cheers
Peace be with you, sister ❤.
Same, except at 35
I'm so sorry to hear everything is so hard right now.. That's so much to be going through all at once. When it rains it tends to pour, but I just try to imagine that it's watering the soil to sprout new life and that the next chapter will be brought to life with all the character I gained and lessons I learned in the last chapter. You will grow and this will pass and you will get through this. Sending all the love and light to you ❤️
We’re gonna get through this.
please dont take this badly. i would be so grateful to be living in your 'rock bottom'.
i am a recovering heroin addict. i grew up in government housing. i cant go back to my parents. my dad lives in a one bedroom government appartmnt. no room or money to keep me. i was sex trafficked due to my addiction.
my versoin of starting over was living in a hostel for 2 years and going to college, getting this flat. after a million relapses i sit here alone. playing my guitar. in pain trying to withdraw off medication. just be grateul that you got to experience that at all, so few people do. there is so much suffering in the world
I’m so sorry to hear your story, that’s heartbreaking and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I am very grateful for everything I have in my life, and I hope the next chapter of yours brings you peace and healing ❤
yeah tbh as soon as this started I was like the fancy ass bathroom makes me feel immediately disconnected from this. I grew up in a horrific family and am in recovery also. I'm sure this video is great but I gotta hear from people I can relate to
@@JordynHealing it's understandable that you cant relate but money doesn't bring happiness, it only brings security and stability. we're all still humans with emotions, illnesses and life is hard for everyone. you can do this!!!!
@@jessicarosesmith3948 you got this!
@@JordynHealing I completely understand where you're coming from, I used to feel the same way. But even though our personal experiences can be very different, there are many aspects of the human experience that are similar for all of us. Pain, loss, heartbreak, loneliness- these feelings are all very similar for everyone. Different people have different capacities based on their upbringing, culture, genetics, and all kinds of other things; so although our loss or pain may be incredibly far off from each other, it may still feel relatively the same to each of us due to our capacity. I'm not saying you should watch my video by any means, but just some food for thought. I used to cut hair for the homeless in Baltimore and I would listen for hours to heartbreaking stories and I'd learn from them. I've also spent afternoons with billionaires and had conversations with the prime minister of Anguilla over a drink at the Four Seasons and I learned something from them as well. I try to listen and learn from people of all walks of life, not just people that have similar experiences to me. If I polarize people and can't listen to what they have to say because they are different from me, then I live my life in an echo chamber and it leaves little room to grow my understanding of the world around me. Anyway, it's all love and I really am so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I genuinely wish you all the best on your healing journey ❤
I hope you know how cathartic and validating this video is for many people. Even if the effect lasts a short while, no one takes a moment of calm in a storm for granted ❤
Aw thank you so much for saying that. Means so much more to me than you know that something I made could help anyone feel validated or better in some way, even for a moment. ❤
Paul once said in Philippians 4:12-13
“ I know what it is to have little, and I know what it is to have plenty. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being well-fed and of going hungry, of having plenty and of being in need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
I literally live by Philippians 4:13. I guess God wanted me to find this video, so I can see this comment. I’ve been going through some things lately.
I literally just wrote this down to post on my wall this morning ❤️
Beautiful bible verse with a powerful message
This verse hit deep in my current situation, more than you can imagine. Thank you ❤
This year I got off all social media platforms and only watch UA-cam. Recently though I found myself thinking I wish creators on UA-cam were a little more authentic, emotionally vulnerable and transparent about life in general. This video restored my faith. I NEEDED to see this video, as much as you needed to make it. Thank you for sharing something that clearly thousands upon thousands of people have longed for.
wow thank you so much 🥹 this comment means so much to me, I really appreciate your support ❤️
Same. I also got off is socials and mainly watch/listen to podcasts/ted talks, etc.
This is beautiful. I just left a 10 year relationship with someone I thought I was going to grow old with, I went through some really dark days feeling like this can’t be real. I’m living someone else’s life, this can’t be my life. But then I remembered - I lost my dad in 2019 and I endured purely out of survival and knowing I get to carry his memory with me everywhere. So now that is how I view the life ahead of me, I’ve never been so excited to live. I wish you nothing but love on your journey! ❤
That's a beautiful perspective and I wish you all the light and love as well! ❤
@@Leavetheguntakethecannoli 💚❤️
I wish you so much luck and love on your journey ahead 💜
I typed out a long depressing paragraph about myself and my life. I have so many wonderful, helpful and encouraging videos saved and downloaded to my playlist. I'm 43yo, while all of this is wonderful my ass will be the same woe it's me internally yet fake being confident within 2hrs. To anyone reading (if anyone actually does), we have to face our demons, accept ourselves completely. Love ourselves unconditionally. Idk you, but I love you. My heart hurts, but hopefully better days are to come. Good luck with your journey.
Hey, I'm here to talk if you need someone. I'd love that for myself too
thank you, your heart will feel better soon, it loves you so much it beats every second to keep you alive 🩷🩷 i love you too
Had such a shitty day and was being so mean to myself when I found this. This is giving big sis energy to a big sis. Thanks for seeing me stranger. :)
❤️ love that so much thank you too
Been living with my mom for almost 3yrs (She also lives in Maryland. I moved in with her at 32) now. I too, in some ways, am still healing from a break up that took place in 2020 with someone I was with for 9yrs. I grieve that old life SO MUCH!
I’ve been unemployed for almost 9months now and life has thrown some unfortunate experiences my way. Life has truly indeed sucked ass over the past 3yrs since having to move back home. But I strangely found this video to be comforting and it found me right on time in my journey. This was beautifully well done. It resonated so deeply. Thanks for sharing what seems to be your gift of visual storytelling. And also, thanks for the reminder that this too shall pass. Love & light to you🌹✨
Wow thank you so much for sharing that, I'm so glad this could help in some small way. That compliment about visual storytelling means more to me than you know, so thank you so much for saying all this 🥹 Genuinely wishing you the best on your healing journey. All the love and light to you too ❤️
I went through the same around your age . It’s your Saturn return.
I thought I lost everything but really my whole identity revolved around my partner and his life. I was codependent.
The following 3 years were really hard but rewarding.
I found myself . I built my own life separate from that of any Man.
Life is 10x better now than it has ever been .
Tell me your secret to do it! Is it to build selfworth first...?
You go girl. It's YOUR life. I'm happy for you and you should be proud and happy for yourself
What helped you go through all of it?
@@NatiiiStyle 1000% self worth. I didnt think I had what I took to make it in life on my own. So I kept playing it small and hid behind my partner.
I had a lot of trauma around being seen (my parents were really unstable and abusive ) so hiding and making myself small was the only way I wouldn’t get hurt.
There’s no real secret . It’s just hard work and healing.
@@sur7322 it’s going to sound corny but I knew my struggle was part of my learning journey and I knew there was something better for me.
I’m 33 and starting over‼️Thank you for this video… it’s truly a blessing
❤️ you got this!
Im at the same stage in Life, struggling, no Friends, battling the emptiness of feeling unatached to anything. Your video made me feel like im not alone. Thank you for that.. I think we are warriors. Warriors of Life Who want to find purpose, and clarity too.. keep Up the good work. Greetings from Spain , hoping we can turn the Page soon...
❤ I'm so sorry you're going through all that right now, but you're not alone. I wish you all the clarity and peace and comfort in this next season of your life! You got this 🫶🏼
This is what I needed to hear
Love how this was suggested to me. A few days ago, I read a quote “When you first meet people, you learn where they are, not who they are.” 2024 has been rough to many people. Hope everyone is doing as well as they can.
Love that quote! Hope you're doing well too ❤️
UA-cam suggesting this to me at this time in my life is absolutely astonishing. As for the video itself… absolutely beautiful, brilliant, and incredible. I loved and absorbed every single second and I wish you peace and happiness on your journey of life. ❤
wow thank you so much! 🥹 Wish you all the peace and happiness on your journey as well ❤️
im literally in the same boat... 28... traveled the world for 7 whole years.. then everything was ruined and i had no choice but to move back in with my parents. my mental health battle has been gruesome. this is so provoking and i am grateful to have watched this today. thank you for sharing this ♥
I'm glad this video could help in some way, that's a huge adjustment and I'm sure it's hard as hell.. Sending you all the love and wishing you all the best in this next season of your life ❤
This video deserves millions of likes and views,
Real truth of life.
wow thank you so much 🥹❤️
I'm only three minutes in but I had to pause to say I have literally never watched a youtube video this good. It feels like I've watched a whole movie. This came to me at the right time
Aw thank you so much! That’s so sweet and I appreciate the support 🫶🏼
I really appreciate you being this vulnerable and sharing your experience with everyone in this way.
Thank you so much for your support ❤️
No because truly you're story telling and commentary is so gentle yet so hooking. You're flow is just chefs kiss
Aww thank you this is so kind 🥹❤
There was no reason why the UA-cam algorithm brought this vid into my feed, but I am so thankful for it. Thank you for making this video, for sharing it & for your humanity.
🥹 thank you ❤️
I know that feeling and desire of wanting a chapter in your life to change so badly. I’m living it now and it’s depleting. That feeling of waking up every morning and wondering and praying is this the day it’s going to change?? We only have so much control if any really. We go through life with these expectations that if we work hard enough and do enough we will be complete. No life doesn’t work that way. It’s filled with uncertainty. Ups and down and we have to try to manage it the best we can. Thank you for this post because many people out there relate and get it. Be kind and compassionate to yourself - is what I’m trying to do. Live for today it’s all we’ve got. ❤️
I'm 27 years old in the same situation as you ... Lost my love my best friend.. im jobless , living at my parents house , this really helped soothe my anxiety and depression , go bless you grace !
I'm so sorry you're going through so much, and I'm so glad to hear this video could help even in a small way. I genuinely wish you all the best on your healing journey- you got this ❤️
You have no idea how much understanding and compassion and live this gave me for myself and where I am right now, just holding on another day.
I needed this. Miraculous timing. Comforting to know I’m not alone. Thank you for this new perspective.
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This was such a humble reminder - especially about showing more empathy towards others and yourself, we have no idea what other people are going through yet we quickly judge others based off of a tiny glimpse we see. No need to compare or judge, we are all struggling, grieving, and recovering in our own ways and it’s so important to be there for each other. Thank you for the message ❤
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Currently in a similar "rock bottom" moment. This was comforting to watch. Thanks for creating and sharing
I’m sorry you’re going through it, but I’m glad this could help even a little bit. I know it’s hard right now but this will pass, you got this ❤️
Hey, I hope you are okay now
OH MY GOD. 40 seconds into this video and it all resonates with my life. I moved to Mexico with my partner and our relationship just fell apart. I am now about to move back home with my parents to heal... jobless and shifting timelines. Thanks for being so real and relatable and sharing your story
❤️ thank you for sharing your story and making me feel less alone too!
Idk why UA-cam recommended this to me so randomly on a Thursday night but it speaks volumes to my chapter in life right now too. I’m 27 just had to move back in with my parents, forcing me and my boyfriend to do long distance. I’m unemployed with no car and have $40 to my name after paying my phone bill today. Like you I am the biggest critic to myself and being way more harsh and judgmental to myself when I could also show myself some compassion- because after all I didn’t get here to 27 by being deaf blind or stupid (I say this as a joke not literally). But it’s been really tough to take an outside view of my life with a step back to gain perspective on this chapter of my life currently. And watching this video just helped me feel a little less alone and encouraged me to take a breath. Some people might have looked at me through out my journey and thought I’m normal and had all my life together when that’s far from the truth. I moved out at a young age and strived to do it on my own only to 10 years down the line end up being back at home. Sometimes I feel like a failure and like these mistakes I’ve made along the way will forever define me but I keep trying to remind myself that this too shall pass and there has never been a point in my life that I can say that God has forsaken me. Even in really tough situations. So big hugs to you from the Midwest, may God continue to bless our hearts minds and souls along our journey of life and cheers to this chapter in life that id also like to call “bittersweet, but more sweet” ❤
I am 22 and I feel like I was given a reset but I also want to speed the time up. This video just help me realize to enjoy this moment, because life is about to get amazing but challenging. I am about to have everything I ever wanted. And for me to be okay that some friendships have expired or even family members. This video really help me change my perspective on this chapter in my life rn
I'm so glad it resonated with you and could help you in some way. This comment means so much to me, thank you for taking the time to write it and I wish you all the best on this next chapter of your life ❤️
Thank you for sharing this!
I relate so much to you. I was a digital nomad and full-time traveller with a "perfect life", and now I'm unemployed and living with my mum. It's a struggle, but I know this won't be forever. It's just a chapter.
Yeah it’s a really REALLY hard shift to make.. I’m sorry you’re also going through it right now, but you’re right, it will pass and I hope the next chapter brings you so much joy 🫶🏼
Honestly thank you for this.. I'm 28, living with my parents, recently quit my toxic job, no calls back yet, no luck finding an apartment yet.. not gonna lie its felt embarrassing, and like i've "failed" at life some days. Watching your video/ all the comments of other brave people sharing where their at definitely makes me feel less alone.
You're definitely not alone and I really wish you all the best on this next chapter of your life ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I'm going through same situation, jobless and broked after 6 years of a perfect relationship. It's so hard to recover and show off everyday, but we'll manage it! wish you all the healing you need, sister!
Wishing you healing as well, thank you! ❤️
Wow you really were living my dream life. I find strength and comfort in Jesus. I understand how hard the breakups feel. It’s physically traumatic so I hope you bounce back,no matter how long it takes 😢
Thank you!
I'm 27, moved back in with my parents, and also started over. I've lived in 2 countries and visited over 17 other countries. No one knows that about me from the outside looking in. I look like a loser to the eyes of society, but this video made me feel seen. Thank you.
trust me I get it, I too look like a loser to society lol but we're not and you're not alone. I see you and feel seen too so thank you ❤️
Thank you UA-cam algorithm. I am struggling heavily with self judgement and being critical of others, because that was the only thing i was taught growing up. This video is very healing and liberating
I completely understand. I was also raised in a very critical environment and taught to judge myself and others. Reprogramming is hard as hell, but you're not alone. So glad this could help in some small way- you got this ❤️
Me too!!! One day when we are in a "better position" we will most likely look back at ourselves now and wish we had been nicer to ourselves during this hard time!
I lost *everything* once. Looking back I see how I slowly built up my new life around me like a castle, a fortress, and eventually a kingdom. It was so hard and I still grieve over those I lost. But my life changing for the better had so many movie type moments it was insane.
To anyone going through this, you have such a story to tell and one day you’ll have an even better one.
Girl I can’t. I’m crying and can’t see my screen. Just know this came at a time I needed it most
this was beautiful and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for making this
I'm venting here after watching this video......
I'm 32 years old, male, with 2 awesome amazing kids.....
Been married for 10 years.....
and yesterday it all came crashing down.....
My wife and I have decided to mutually get a divorce.....
There was no animosity, no hatred towards eachother....we just recognized we fell out of love a long time ago...
and have been trying to hold on for whatever reason and trying to get back to that love but nothing is working....
It feels bitter sweet because I really imagined my whole life with this woman......and it died....
I know when it died and I know why, but I kept trying.....we both did......
I've been grieving in my own way and shes been doing the same....
For now we're living in the same house cordially with our 2 kids but in different rooms.....
I live in the basement we just renovated in out guest room down there and shes in what used to be our room now her room....
We're looking into what we need for divorce so we're taking our time to get it all done ourselves and when we're ready we'll
go for it since we agree we don't want it to be messy and want it to be fair as possible and we trust eachother for that at least...
I keep having moments where something triggers my emotional response to the whole thing and I see flashes of our lives
together over the last 10 years.....
This really sucks and it hurts alot.....
But We both understand that we're unhappy and that we want eachother to be happy......
My advice to people is take your time to know the one you think you love, do marital counseling to find out the sacrifices that need to be made in a marriage and if youre willing to go through that, understand that respect and honesty and support above all is needed for this to work if one of those is missing it wont work, and make sure the things in your closet are taken cared of because if not thats whats going to be the downfall of the marraige..... That was our problem.....she had things that she didn't heal from and it caused her to not do or be the person she said she was the idea of the person I thought I was falling in love with. And this isnt me dogging her on this this is me stating it like this because we both agreed after countlless marital counselings and arguements and repeating the cycle over and over again that was the one thing that kept coming up. and she couldn't let what happened to her in the past go and wasn't willing to seek the help when she needed to and no matter what I did to help her I couldn't help her.
I still care for her, I still want to co parent with her, I will always respect her as the mother of my children, but I can't be with her anymore and she can't be with me anymore. It hurts to go but it hurts more to stay and see the other in pain because of it.
I will forever support her and pray she finds healing and peace and love somewhere out there.....
NO, dont do that. Both of you need to fight for your marriage. Divorce is not the answer. Try to get a relationship with Jesus, he can heal you and your family.
This was beautiful, thanks for sharing. Glad you have peace and trust between you both. Wishing you well 🥹
If there’s no unfaithfulness and no abuse stay together. Feelings of being in love ebb and flow in all relationships. Your children will suffer if you split houses and time between you. New partners will be introduced and you won’t have control over that.
If at all possible get a Christian counselor. You can rekindle the love.
Please do not listen to these delusional people telling you to stay together for the children or God.
Hello, beautiful stranger. I usually never reply to UA-cam videos, but this video was everything I needed to see today. I feel like I’m at rock bottom as well. These last few days have been especially hard. My best friend admitted a few days ago she slept with my ex, whom I still love. I have no job at the moment, I’m on the other side of the world, and I heard yesterday that my dad has cancer. It’s very hard, and I feel so many emotions that are almost overwhelming. Thank you so much for giving me perspective. You have a beautiful view on life, and I totally agree with you. Wishing you, and everyone on this page all the best. Be gentle with yourself, and be gentle with others.
Dang it’s weird this was recommended to me tonight. What a wild couple years I’ve been on. Major highs making 100ks of dollars, trips around the world. To ultra lows losing everything giving away the rest and doing something stupid to end up having daily psych appointments 😬It’s been rough. But I’m still trying to find my way and I’m sure I will eventually. Anyone else out there don’t give up we got this. 💪🏼 Loved listening to this though. Love from a fellow Baltimore native.
I personally believe that this is one of the most impactful videos on the internet. Thank you. I needed to hear this very badly. I hope you are finding peace along your journey.
Empathy is important, but so is allowing yourself to be angry at people who hurt you, whether they intend to or not. You get a snapshot of people's existence, but that may be all that you get, and if someone takes their problems out on you instead of taking responsibility, then they aren't necessarily worth your respect
You're absolutely right-empathy and boundaries have to go hand in hand. While understanding others' struggles is important, I know it’s also crucial to protect your own well-being. This video wasn't meant to excuse people's hurtful actions, only to understand them. It’s okay to feel anger and to recognize when someone’s actions are harmful, but knowing that "hurt people hurt people" and that their actions are probably coming from a place of pain helps you to feel your feelings and then let them go and not harbor resentment, which only hurts you. Hope that makes sense ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing, it's like you were inside my head, so many similarities, addiction, breaking up with my partner, starting afresh, selling my house, being so hard on myself, especially at the bottom. Thank you.
Thank you for beings so transparent. I’m at a new phase of life being 49 and experiencing an emotional, hormonal imbalance what I refer to as an invasion an abduction of the person I used to be.. Hearing your video helped me realize it’s a phase, a chapter and I will make it through. Probably not as fast as I’d like to, but it’s temporary. Thank u for sharing! Good luck to you as you navigate through where you are and to where you want to be.
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I’m sorry you’re going through so much and I really do wish you the best on your healing journey ❤️
"maybe they were abused and being abusive is all they know." as someone who just got out of an abusive relationship with someone who was abused their entire life, this really hit.
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So much wisdom in this video ! I'm 34 and back at my dad's after living abroad and travelling. I catch myself judging myself too often. So this video really helps to see it from a higher perspective. Thank you ❤
I don't think I have ever connected to anything on UA-cam more. Thank you for sharing. Keep your head up. Views like this are invaluable and needed.
Wow thank you so much ❤
This is so relatable. She gives me strength ❤
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever watched. Grateful for the algorithm. Please keep making videos 🙏
That’s so kind thank you so much for your support! 🥹🫶🏼 I’m working on my next one now!
Great video. Exactly what I needed, as I'm going through the same thing. Your words are healing. Thanks!
This video is exactly what I feel and where I’m at. I needed this. I truly hope this blows up or at the very least, continues to reach those who need this.
Thank you so much!! So glad it resonated with you 🫶🏼
Same.
I couldn’t control my eyes while I was watching this. Thank you so much, I really needed to hear everything you said. You made me feel understood without knowing anything about my life story ❤❤❤❤❤❤
The future is daunting and I’m living my life with no sense of direction, avoiding taking action towards my future. And honestly, I’m unhappy with how I’m spending my life, I feel like I will have no memories and that my childhood has ended now that I’m almost 17 and having to apply for University in October…
Oh hun, I understand where you're coming from, but when I was 17 I was extremely sheltered and had barely any memories either. My childhood is not something I remember fondly at all, and I'm sorry you didn't get the experience you may have wanted either, but I've experienced so much cool shit in my adult years. Everything that has been worthwhile in my life happened after I turned 18. I get being unsatisfied with your life, trust me, but I promise this chapter will end soon and the next one will begin and you have sooooo many episodes to get through and so much life to experience. Your story is just beginning ✨🫶
You deserve a million subscribers just for this vid alone. And I know you will get there along with other joys you'll be experience again in life. Can't wait to see that episode of your life! :)
The hardest thing to do is to START writing the rest of your movie. I am going through a rut right now, feeling depressed as the days go by with no jobs calling back. I am my biggest critic to myself as well. I graduated college in December and am always judging myself because I’m not in a 6 figure job rn… but like she said, she had to step back to see that she actually has everything she needs. We can’t be so hard on ourselves whenever we are in a rut, take this time to visualize you being successful, being happy, and helping others achieve this. I hope everyone who watched this video feels a breeze brushing through their body and a voice telling you it’ll all be okay.
We got this! 💪🏽
It takes a lot of courage to share what you're going through, and I admire your honesty. The pressure to have it all figured out, especially right after college, can be so overwhelming.. But you sound like you've got the right mindset! You're not alone, and yes we do got this ❤️
I'm guessing I'm a decent deal older than you, and comparing your "rut" to the rut I've been stuck in for ages now is like comparing a pothole to the Mariana Trench. While I believe this woman means well, she at least lived a pretty idyllic life many would kill for, for a while there, some of us still haven't even begun the first "act" of our lives, which becomes more disheartening as you move into your 30's and beyond. Also, I'm a regular looking man and not an attractive woman with the option of a sugar daddy. I guess my point is, just be glad you achieved your degree and have a base to work from.
What a beautiful, honest video! Thank you for your openness! Sending peace and love to you!
The extent to which I relate is insane. 28, with parents. Broke up with fiancé last year. Spent earlier this year in Hawaii, Bali, etc. digital nomad stuff. Coaching business finally taking off. But now I’m home and it sucks. Sucksssss. But this morning I woke up and said, fuck it, im changing my reality and my self image.
I totally get it-sometimes the contrast between where you've been and where you are now can feel overwhelming. But that decision to change your reality and self-image is powerful. You've already done so much and this new chapter can be just as transformative or even more! Life's possibilities are endless, just gotta keep pushing forward-you're on the right path! ❤️
Your Voice over is so well written. Absolutely on Point.
I’m going through something similar too. For anyone in a similar boat, the rut will pass with time. Im utilizing my time the best I can to get me to my next step. Now I have goals and direction, all I need to do is put in the work. My advice to you guys if you’re stuck, is to keep trying new things. Learn new skills and value your time. Don’t waste it mindlessly consuming.
Thank you for sharing so authentically and vulnerably. This happened to me at 27 as well and shattered me into a thousand pieces.
Be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Your awareness is beautiful.
Travel gently on this next chapter of life
I feel like 9:13 was the most insightful part for me. It’s so easy to get attached to emotions. Feeling joy is hard to move on from, and feeling sad makes you think joy will never come again. I’m trying to be more reflective during this time of my life- I’m working a job I don’t like, I’ve left uni and moved back in with my parents and ended a 5 yr relationship. It’s so hard to not just wake up every day and not try, judge myself and think myself unworthy of even making a decent meal for myself. This video has reminded me to try, and that I’m worth trying for even during my low. Sending love to everyone who is waking up every day and just trying. ❤️
❤️ I'm sorry it's so much right now, but you got this, and you're definitely worth trying for! I'm proud of you for trying, I know how hard that can be at times.
@@grvcecvstrosending love your way❤️❤️❤️
You've got this girl. My FYP suggested this and I've never seen your content before.... Thank you for sharing the deep parts of your soul with our world. Big Hugs.
❤️ thank you so much, you got this too :)
This was really insightful and therapeutic. I am 30 and live at home. I left a really stressful job a year ago and have been between jobs since. I am so grateful that I have a roof over my head and that I have been given the time to detox from an environment that had me in constant fright or flight. It has been a struggle to work through my anxiety around work, but I know it is temporary. I know it is a true gift to be given the time to learn and grow. I am taking advantage of resources. I won't be in this state forever.
I know it may seem overwhelming right now but you're right, you definitely won't be in this chapter forever, it will pass! Your perspective is beautiful though and I really wish you all the best on your healing journey- you got this ❤️
What a beautiful mindset to have.. really needed to hear this
You're stronger than you think...✌️
I am so glad that I watched your video and that it randomly popped up on my UA-cam feed .
Thank you ❤
You filmed this video so well! This feels like a Netflix show amazing!
Oh wow thank you so much! That's such a nice thing to say, really glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
I needed this more than I knew. Thank you for making this video and expressing what you’re going thru in life. Thank you so much.
Beautiful video! I think the darkest moments help us to grow and learn. You can also find reasons to be happy in almost every situation. I hope things get better for you soon, and you should be very proud of yourself for making this! One day you'll look back and be glad everything happened the way it did.
Aw thank you so much for your words of encouragement! Means so much to me. And I agree with you 100% 🫶🏼
I needed this today
also being 27 and jobless, this made me feel like im not alone
You’re not ❤️
I would LOVE a morning and night routine video from you !! Your editing is AMAZING and your hair looks so healthy and your skincare seems to be working really well. inspiring 🤩
Thank you for your vulnerability, sending you a hug full of healing energy.
Thank you for the kind support 🫶🏼
This is me and this video made me cry. I had it all. I lost it all. I’m lost. Thank you for reminding me that this isn’t the end. And for reminding me someone out there needs to hear my story too. I hope you’re doing better. We all need this message.
i needed this today, thank you
Thank you for watching and telling me that, means a lot 🫶🏼
Grace, this video is beautifully made, the narration is incredible and your videography is stunning. I love how the video asks questions and encourages the viewer to do the same. Your recent life changes are part of the narrative but they are a backdrop to a wider philosophical view of the world, not narrow navel gazing or victim/blaming. You are hugely talented and, as others have said, your skills and potential as a film maker are huge. This film was a real treasure - taking the viewer in a reflective journey into their own soul. Thank you for your work on this and for making this film freely available xx
You’re young and will thrive again ❤ wishing you the best!!
Girl this is beautiful I'm so glad UA-cam suggested this to me! I've been going through a VERY similar season. Watching this was actually so helpful for me because looking at you I have full confidence that it's all going to work out. But looking at MYSELF being my own greatest critic I'm like "I'M DOOMED" HAHAHA. It reminds me to take that objective step back and look at myself and my life and see it for the season it is and have confidence in my path. xo
This comment means so much to me thank you!! I’m so glad it resonated with you and could help you in some way. Trust me I get it, I’ve hit rock bottom and had to start over more times than I care to admit and every time I tell myself I’m doomed and my life is over but it never is. This is just a small part of your story and I really wish you the best on your next season 🥰🫶🏼
Very well said. I once read that life is nothing more than a collection of experiences. Good or bad. And that is really all we have. I appreciate you 💪🏻
welcome home. (fellow baltimorean ♥️) and welcome home, to your body, your heart, your mind, your soul. in all of its seasons and changes, you are still home, in your body. you are loved and appreciated by every version of yourself thus far, and the many versions to come are waiting for you, adoring and admiring all that you are, have been, and will become. you are so strong, and so delicate too. multifaceted and grand. decided and small. a mere particle of the world, and the entire world to yourself. your cells, bones, and organs marvel at your being. they deem you worthy just as you are.... you are never alone love. you can always hold your own hand and know you are safely kept with yourself.
Thank you for being so open and honest. Not many people would talk about their struggles. I just broke up with my ex, had to move across the country back to my family with no car and no job so I related to this video. Thanks you 🙏
I actually needed to hear this today. Thank you so much. Power to you
So glad it could help you! Thank you for your support 🫶🏼
I never knew how to put it into words, you spoke what I knew was happening, yet I was derailing for the most part, not accepting, distracting myself, not sitting with it. Your video grounded me. And you were empathetic. It's okay, this too shall pass. This too shall pass. Just because we sometimes can barely recognise who we are vs who we were.. doesn't mean today isn't worth living. Thank you, Grace. I'm holding your hand through this.
You'll probably never see this, but I have to ask - did you just get the idea for this video (and then put it together the way that you did...with all the incredible insights and concepts)...all by yourself?? THIS IS AMAZING...I mean seriously, this is a work of art on several levels. It brings to mind one of my favorite quotes of all time: " “Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Because at some time in life you will have been all of these.” - George Washinton Carver. I have no idea how this got recommended, but I'm so blessed and thankful it did. You should be so proud of yourself, incredible.
Aw you're too kind thank you so much! ❤️ your support and encouragement means more to me than you know 🫶🏼
This was beautiful…thank you for sharing your journey and reminding each of us to remember that this is just a page in the book of our lives, not the ending of of our story.
So so beautiful. This video needs to be played for the world.
Wow what a kind thing to say thank you so much ❤️
I currently relate to so much of what you shared in this video, especially the part about moving forward from a version of yourself that seemed to have it all. I’m also 27 so it’s nice to know someone else can relate to what I’m experiencing right now. Thank you so much for being vulnerable enough to share this.
Needed this video so badly. 23 and completely lost now
I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. I've been there, countless times. But it will pass, and you'll find clarity, and then you'll probably lose it again and feel lost once again. It's a part of the journey of life. You don't have to have it all figured out. Just focus on one small step in front of the other, you're so young and you have SO many more episodes to get through. You got this ❤️
4:50 That was the most honest and relatable thumbs up I've ever seen on UA-cam. 😂😭💖 I'm going through a hard time myself - again - and it sucks so much. But we still have some tomorrows to fill (actually "todays" or "nows") and hopefully they will be happier and brighter. Much love and strength to you from Berlin. 🙏🏼💫
Yep. This was needed. Thank you ❤
So glad it helped in some way ❤️
Yes girl 👏🏾That was the greatest short clip I’ve seen a very long time ❤ congratulations can’t wait to see what’s next on your journey 🎉❤
What if you could share the stories of others as beautifully as you have done here, showing equality in commonality? How lovely it would be to see my fellow humans in similar circumstances, struggles, and triumphs-but in realness. I guess what I mean is that I yearn to see her or him who feels as I do, but I would never have known or assumed. I loved your vision and execution. Thank you for sharing. I loved it. I hope it is just the beginning.
Thank you so much for this beautiful compliment! And I completely agree with you and would love to be able to see all of the many different stories from people I've met and those I haven't. I think everyone's unique experience in this world is film-worthy.