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  • @esteehanvey5647
    @esteehanvey5647 Рік тому +336

    you guys picked a really good interviewer - he is very empathetic and supportive while giving these people space to process.

    • @clairetuohy9712
      @clairetuohy9712 Місяць тому +10

      I came to the comments to say something similar!! He was very good, very sensitive, very understanding

    • @theajitsinghrajput9055
      @theajitsinghrajput9055 24 дні тому

      No you said that this interview is good ,I don't know why uk people not take name of pakistan muslim, take name of asia 🌏, this is hypocrisy or uk geopolitical strategy is more important than girls of country. Tell me how uk better than india. If this event happen in india then whole british media show indian people evil ,

    • @SamanthaKelley-g4f
      @SamanthaKelley-g4f 15 днів тому +1

      I absolutely agree!

  • @wyldevoices
    @wyldevoices Рік тому +127

    OMG. My heart breaks for her. And I am so absolutely livid. The police and the counselor she spoke with after the first rape completely failed her. What an incredible survivor.

    • @lynnzij1231
      @lynnzij1231 24 дні тому +1

      The police had no choice. As mentioned by her, if she calls it 'rape' she has to testify against perpetrater. She didn't want to testify, HER CHOICE.

  • @charmainepriestman915
    @charmainepriestman915 Рік тому +255

    I wish I could take away this young womans pain 💔
    Young lady you are a Phoenix. You rose from the ashes and found the strength and courage to tell your story.
    Sending you love, light and my utmost admiration.

    • @angelamurray157
      @angelamurray157 Рік тому +1

      Im confused

    • @Angel-j8e
      @Angel-j8e 6 місяців тому +4

      All we can do now is make a stand it’s happening now and l believe all these gangs and people in power will be exposed.

    • @RamK-bd7sg
      @RamK-bd7sg 26 днів тому

      You are a good person

  • @rebeccajohnson4130
    @rebeccajohnson4130 Рік тому +217

    As a therapist, I am incredibly thankful that this beautiful young woman had the strength to carry on, and survive this horrific abuse!!! I am also so impressed by the interviewers empathy and genuine ability to listen, put her at ease, and help her to be able to share her journey through this hell and back! Tysm for both of you to bring awareness to this heinous situation!!! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️😞😞😞

    • @vibrationsofhealinglove
      @vibrationsofhealinglove Рік тому +3

      @rebeccajohnsob4130 i too am a therapist and a clinical trauma support specialist

    • @zagreb2012
      @zagreb2012 6 місяців тому +1

      What is beautiful and strong about 18 yold being groomed by gang 😅

    • @Sandyoo6026
      @Sandyoo6026 12 днів тому

      @@zagreb2012she’s strong for coming out and spreading awareness. As she said at the start of the video she wanted to commit suicide but instead she stayed strong and here she is❤

  • @SherriLambert-c4i
    @SherriLambert-c4i Рік тому +71

    Ben, you are such a compassionate, huge hearted man. Your voice is calming and your gentleness is a comfort to your guest(s) as always. This just seemed so hard for her. You make my heart smile.

  • @rottingsun
    @rottingsun Рік тому +223

    I love that she names the perpetrators- that has to take such strength.

    • @krob2327
      @krob2327 Рік тому +1

      She’s a spy

    • @lindafletcher4419
      @lindafletcher4419 Рік тому +27

      @@krob2327 Don't be so ridiculous

    • @shaheedbhaghatsingh3974
      @shaheedbhaghatsingh3974 5 місяців тому

      Why is there no mention that these are Pakistani Abdool groomong gong members who have plagued the entire UK?

    • @MelodyPaxton
      @MelodyPaxton 24 дні тому +3

      Ffs. Love the names? How about the missing part? Muslim, Pakistani is missing here.

  • @Alizardlovesyou
    @Alizardlovesyou Рік тому +175

    Her suicide note was an apology, which sheds new light on how often she apologizes through out telling her story.

    • @louiselouise8133
      @louiselouise8133 7 місяців тому +13

      Heartbreaking this, she said she feels guilty about letting him in the door, I wish I could give this poor young woman a huge hug, so so upset right now

    • @qiuwbr091
      @qiuwbr091 5 місяців тому +14

      The suicide note she wrote while she was trying to pass her test- don’t you think that might have alerted a psychology professor? 😮

    • @bevflaxman-binns9786
      @bevflaxman-binns9786 Місяць тому

      @@louiselouise8133I cried through most of this story, and normally I am not a crier but I so wanted to hug her ❤

    • @dietlindvonhohenwald448
      @dietlindvonhohenwald448 Місяць тому

      @@louiselouise8133
      they used a small child to commit the crime of rape, by knocking on her door.
      So evil. “Religion of peace” ☠️

    • @Raven4508
      @Raven4508 25 днів тому +7

      Victims of rapes, sexual abuse, domestic abuse do a lot of apologising...

  • @audreykane4946
    @audreykane4946 Рік тому +205

    What a harrowing story. This woman will save lives sharing her story. She is the epitome of strength

  • @meganthememe130
    @meganthememe130 Рік тому +52

    this interviewer is amazing. he really makes the effort to not pressure her

  • @Jessica-i6p
    @Jessica-i6p Рік тому +93

    What a woman - honestly. It takes such strength to be able to share such a horrific story so openly with the world. I don’t doubt that her openness will save other women directly through her work as a nurse and indirectly through interviews like this. Truly inspirational ❤

    • @MsDunn-x6o
      @MsDunn-x6o 7 місяців тому

      I am sure she is being paid well for this interview, but the whole situation is crazy and scary. I would have ran for the hills.

  • @0Flow0
    @0Flow0 Рік тому +403

    Her story stayed with me from the original video because it was so shocking and unbelievable. It was good to hear more about it. She's so brave for telling her story

    • @lesliewind338
      @lesliewind338 Рік тому +6

      I have watched several videos that were victim-reporting videos. This video stands out for her story and her manner. I will remember her reporting forever.

    • @HillbillyYEEHAA
      @HillbillyYEEHAA Рік тому

      Sex trafficking normally ends with hundreds of people raping 1 girl or woman. It's not far fetched.

    • @rashedhashlamon7546
      @rashedhashlamon7546 Рік тому +2

      Referring to your own words to describe what your mind is processing... You know why her story "stands out" and sounds "unbelievable"?... The reason is because her story is mixed with lies. I don't believe her. It's obvious to me.

    • @emperorhideyoshi3223
      @emperorhideyoshi3223 11 місяців тому

      @@rashedhashlamon7546how is she lying

    • @MrPokerblot
      @MrPokerblot 26 днів тому

      @@rashedhashlamon7546it’s probably a result of being a pdf oneself 🤔

  • @annikajacobsen5205
    @annikajacobsen5205 10 місяців тому +19

    I am so incredibly sorry that you went through this, i cannot imagine your pain. None of it was your fault! People let you down, and you were so alone🥺 The strenght you showed in getting away, reporting it, and speaking out is incredible. Hope you truely get healing and get to live a good and happy life❤️

  • @highlandergrog6041
    @highlandergrog6041 Рік тому +35

    “Of course”
    It’s such a powerful and healing phrase. When you share the worst things that have happened to you and the other person said “of course.” It makes you feel like “ohhh, of course I was terrified…anyone put in that situation would feel the same way. Thank you to you and everybody you’ve interviewed. Interviewee and interviewer you’ve helped more people than you can imagine, keep doing what you do!!!

  • @Natacha_tormey
    @Natacha_tormey Рік тому +197

    No need to ever feel shame. You were the victim and a strong survivor who is bravely speaking out to help others. Really informative and interesting interview that sheds light on terrible crimes that I didn’t know much about. All the best to this lovely lady and I’m sure she will help many other survivors ❤

    • @chanalexa6923
      @chanalexa6923 Рік тому +16

      It breaks my heart that she keeps apologizing for nothing😢

    • @ryantate6447
      @ryantate6447 Рік тому +16

      Terrible, it's disgusting how the authorities turnt a blind eye due to fear of being called racist

    • @lonsdaleslipons9570
      @lonsdaleslipons9570 Рік тому +5

      ​@Ryan Tate pretty much modern day society

    • @upendasana7857
      @upendasana7857 Рік тому

      @@ryantate6447 Rubbish,this stuff happen with plenty of white boys in gangs and wrong'uns too.Unfortunately many men and young boys raoe abd assault young girls and women.Maybe focus on the men who do this of all sectsors of society rather than making it a race issue.
      Look at how you or friends around you or men talk about women and treat women,this behaviour is all too common and exists in all sectors of society.

  • @elizabethannferrario7113
    @elizabethannferrario7113 Рік тому +92

    From one nurse to another your one brave soul , no need to be ashamed i am beside you every step of the way ! in fact i am very proud of you !

  • @waytooboring-
    @waytooboring- Рік тому +21

    stories like these make me feel as though there’s no light in this world, truly and honestly, this is horrifying beyond words can ever describe. i’m so sorry this happened to you

    • @ArkadiaTube
      @ArkadiaTube 11 місяців тому +1

      We would not be alive today without the intelligent, caring humans that create solutions. We all can choose to be light bringers despite the suffering.

  • @ShellTramaine
    @ShellTramaine Рік тому +21

    What an incredible story of survival and courage. This woman is a hero! I also want to thank the interviewer for his sensitive and thoughtful demeanor and his ability to give a safe space to Kate. It takes respect and skill to do that.

  • @kshunatona
    @kshunatona Рік тому +133

    What a gift that she ended up in Mental Health Nursing. I hope this career helped her understand what happened to her and help others in need. She should hold no blame or responsibility for what happened to her. Being naive and not worldly is an innocent place and she was blessed to come f that place. And above all she’s a survivor and no one can take that from her! Bravo to her and all survivors….without you we will never learn and grow! ❤😢😊

    • @syon600
      @syon600 Рік тому +1

      What a great woman. Agree she came from an innocent place....and is blessed to come from that place. Unfortunately the level of pathology/ deviance in the population make such individuals obvious targets to predators with Eagle eyes who prey on them, traumatising and thus destroying them. I count myself in the traumatised group.

  • @rachaelghostcat8584
    @rachaelghostcat8584 Рік тому +96

    I hope this lady finds love and good fortune for what's happened to her. She's one strong woman!

  • @bajan_dw
    @bajan_dw Рік тому +928

    I'm saddened by her constant excuses for William. He sounds just as abusive as the other men she's encountered, but she seems unable to see it. I pray she heals completely 😢🙏🏾

    • @Anti_NWO-WEF
      @Anti_NWO-WEF Рік тому +75

      This very often happens because in her mind that was initially her friend and because she's such a kind hearted person, also studying psychology...she felt pitty for William as he was at a special needs school etc...making excuses for him. He was the only one (guy) whom was kind to her. But William was scared for this gang as well... It's like a coping mechanism to at least still have a person that was good. I have only watched half so I don't know whether William ever graped her as well but if not than the above happens a lot. 😢 I do agree with you 100% though!

    • @gregzeng
      @gregzeng Рік тому +18

      When William learning eventually what had been happening to her, he did what many decent adults around her also did.
      Eventually they encouraged her to report to the police etc. Everything worked as well as could be expected, over all.

    • @cheese_and_crackers3270
      @cheese_and_crackers3270 Рік тому +28

      I really cant get my head round why she didnt leave town after the first rape! It doesnt make sence to me.

    • @colettejaques2559
      @colettejaques2559 Рік тому +53

      ​@@cheese_and_crackers3270well educate yourself

    • @colettejaques2559
      @colettejaques2559 Рік тому +6

      @@Anti_NWO-WEF SHE was wearing rose colored glasses...it's that simple. PhD

  • @carolineb7796
    @carolineb7796 20 днів тому +11

    Kudos to the interviewer in how he approached this with the right degree of empathy, encouragement and respect. Kate is incredible, and my heart breaks for what she endured

  • @DianeLee999
    @DianeLee999 Рік тому +204

    That terrible sinking feeling when you realize that your life has taken an awful turn… there is a feeling of resignation from all your hopes and aspirations. I want this young lady to know that her message reaches deep and clear to other victims/survivors of trauma, and to thank her for her demonstrated desire to help others. I hope that she will come to know how strong and beautiful she really is. 🌈💜🇺🇸

    • @brandonfree3059
      @brandonfree3059 Рік тому

      The police masons and hospitals are trafficking women. JFK North Palm Beach Florida drugs rapes and tortures and experiments on young girls and homeless people any woman they can get their hands on they will rape to the point of having no skin down there and you’ll be held long enough to not get a forensic rape exam or a toxicology report while the staff does Satanic ritual abuse on all the people in the hospital behind closed doors all day all night and feed you human meat this is not a joke. The police that are involved in the masons that are in on it think this is fun to then follow the women or anybody who survives afterwards and keep them silent no one is pressing charges and there is so much abuse in that facility it has to be shut down. Elderly are also being extorted of their money & houses bf dying inside there.

    • @gabriellemateljan7765
      @gabriellemateljan7765 Рік тому +7

      So much of what you have said resonates with me as does this brave woman’s feelings of feeling different and in one moment life as I knew it changed. Bless this woman for speaking out.

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Рік тому

      i live in leeds road bradford3 mirpuri gangs musli8msw pkies abuse oldme3n diswable get target by t5hese

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Рік тому +4

      in bradford police dont doe anyt5hi9ng

    • @katiescott2975
      @katiescott2975 Рік тому +5

      The police system is very flawed as is society and i wish people could do more to change things before people get damaged.

  • @lulumoon6942
    @lulumoon6942 Рік тому +28

    😍Former longtime Victim Advocate here: The articulate grasp Kate has on the personal & systemic factors of these crimes is STUNNING! I pray that she continues to heal and find the peace she deserves. 👍🙏🕊️

    • @susancunningham7933
      @susancunningham7933 26 днів тому +1

      Agree, she is very intelligent and so strong. Sending you much love and light. Great human being.

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 Рік тому +73

    It sounds like a Stockholm syndrome.
    She was at wrong place at the wrong time when it all started. William was probably the main culprit who sold her to his "friends". What a heartbreaking story.

    • @youtubeillegallydeletesacc1525
      @youtubeillegallydeletesacc1525 6 місяців тому

      I guess. Because I damned sure was wondering what her problem was. 😒🤨

    • @Vingul
      @Vingul 6 місяців тому +1

      "William", was it? I'm sure he was English...

    • @bunnystarflower7711
      @bunnystarflower7711 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Vingul this lady has been so brave enough to waive anonymity and tell her story, she has named others. For you to use this women’s terrible experience and imply she is lying to try and push your own agenda is sick.

    • @Vingul
      @Vingul 3 місяці тому +2

      @@bunnystarflower7711 I’m not implying that she is lying, I’m implying that «William» is a fake name, just a stand-in for a real name, that’s all.

    • @bunnystarflower7711
      @bunnystarflower7711 3 місяці тому

      @ why would you assume that? What would she possibly have to gain. Jumping on a victim like this is awful behaviour

  • @JuneJeffries-j7s
    @JuneJeffries-j7s 22 дні тому +7

    Very courageous lady to speak out,I hope you find peace and happiness in your coming years.Respect to you.

  • @fookinavocado
    @fookinavocado Рік тому +67

    I'm only at the beginning of this story, but it's very interesting hearing her continuously defend "william" (who seemed to be the conduit into this horrific lifestyle) like he wasn't part of the problem (despite potentially being a victim himself)

  • @DuchessOfFlamingos
    @DuchessOfFlamingos Рік тому +95

    William was never her friend. He had a specific role to play in this gang.

    • @TP-ym7sy
      @TP-ym7sy 27 днів тому +8

      Yeah imagine how different her life would have been if she’d never met him.

  • @alexlief2072
    @alexlief2072 Рік тому +71

    Wow! What this lady went through was tremendously terrible and I think she's incredibly brave. I'm very proud of the fact she done this episode, I wish her the best 💖.

  • @lilyluvslemons
    @lilyluvslemons 11 місяців тому +89

    William was aware of how dangerous his gang friends were. Yet he led Kate into the wolfs den. William embodies the saying “wolf in sheep’s clothing.”
    My heart goes out to Kate, I wish her all the strength and healing to continue advocating. She is powerful and so so strong.

  • @pocogpubg7100
    @pocogpubg7100 28 днів тому +30

    from india... i get to know about this scandal by youtube... very disappointed, inhuman... the girls deserve justice..

    • @dipdipu
      @dipdipu 17 днів тому +4

      Being a man, I am terrified hearing every thing she has gone through She is better than a man, her courage is untouched

  • @soniauk4284
    @soniauk4284 Рік тому +39

    What an incredible woman - such strength and resilience through such a horrific crime.
    Just want to give her a big hug 🙏❤️🤗

  • @pattyfluegel7816
    @pattyfluegel7816 Рік тому +16

    Thank you for sharing your story. I work with victims of sexual abuse. It helps me to hear your bravely spoked first hand account of being groomed, and broken...things my clients have also been through and are working to process so that they can live now. I wish you all the healing available. You did nothing wrong. I am so very sorry this all happened to you.

    • @vibrationsofhealinglove
      @vibrationsofhealinglove Рік тому +1

      @pattyfluegel7816 survivor turned professional clinical trauma support specialist myself

  • @jessicadenningfamily
    @jessicadenningfamily Рік тому +21

    Thank you for speaking for so many of us.
    Your honesty shines light into the hearts of those who have been marginalized and isolated by abusers.

  • @mariaryan8519
    @mariaryan8519 Рік тому +98

    what an absolute powerful lady . I am a survivor too . keep shining bright . we change so many lives . I would love to chat with you Kate . Best wishes moving forward .

    • @georgielancaster5258
      @georgielancaster5258 Рік тому

      😊😅

    • @Oliver-Closeoff
      @Oliver-Closeoff Рік тому +2

      It seems all women are powerful, strong, survivor victims. Quite contradictory.

    • @Poolie716
      @Poolie716 Рік тому +6

      ​@@Oliver-CloseoffStay classy bruh

    • @anna4lease587
      @anna4lease587 Рік тому

      @@georgielancaster5258 whats funny ding bat ?

  • @madcatter972
    @madcatter972 11 місяців тому +4

    As a survivor & a clinician myself, I'm so struck by your strength & courage. Also your beautiful & kind soul, which really shines through in spite of the horror & heartbreak you went through. The interviewer (who was awesome, btw!) is right - you're a very special person. Thank-you for sharing your story & raising awareness. I wish you well, you so deserve it. ❤

  • @Stitchybecca482
    @Stitchybecca482 2 місяці тому +5

    What an incredible woman. To not only have survived but to have made a career for herself and still do what she can to help others. I hope that one day she realises how amazing and special she is. I also loved this interviewer. His kindness and genuine care came across. He let her tell her story while looking after her. One of the best interviews I’ve seen even if the content was hard to listen to.

  • @MuseandherFeelings
    @MuseandherFeelings Рік тому +7

    You are so strong and dont even know how you speaking your story is also speaking out for other women who went through this. I'm currently getting my doctorate in psychology and I would love to help so many women who have gone through any type of abuse. This is just motivating me even more❤

  • @courtneystewart8006
    @courtneystewart8006 Рік тому +53

    This content is so important to share as it helps viewers recognize and understand what has happened to them or see warning signs that could save them from harm. The interviewer is very respectful and encouraging which allows these survivors to feel safe sharing their stories. So much strength and resilience in this woman and I hope she continues to get therapy to process it all over time.

  • @sandstar8185
    @sandstar8185 Рік тому +4

    You are so brave to use your unique and insightful position to frame your story. Not many women could be as clear. This will help both victims and other sufferers understand how trauma affects a person, how to get out of it against all odds- AND yet- so graciously use it to help themselves and others. You are a hero. Thank you for sharing Kate! I hope you do ‘Never give up!’

  • @noavocadoanymore
    @noavocadoanymore Рік тому +51

    Harrowing. She is so brave and must know how many girls she will be educating and saving moving forwards.

  • @DanaJunkin
    @DanaJunkin Рік тому +11

    This is absolutely horrendous! I’m so sorry you endured this for so long. I don’t even want to call you brave or strong because those words feel so hollow. I am in awe of your courage to speak up and tell your truth and share your abuse.

  • @angiemarriott
    @angiemarriott Рік тому +16

    Powerful interview. She is such a brave woman and the interviewer was a kind gentleman.

  • @generalmanager384
    @generalmanager384 Рік тому +23

    You never need to apologise for other people's actions. You are a beautiful strong woman.
    I wish you nothing but happiness for the rest of your life 🌻

  • @catherinegrace2366
    @catherinegrace2366 Рік тому +54

    I appreciate the support shown this brave and beautiful woman. Thank you all!
    We need to support survivors and this is what it looks like.
    I appreciate this woman’s bravery and God bless her for surviving such horrific obstacles. Bless her Lord Jesus.

    • @KAhmed
      @KAhmed Рік тому

      yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

  • @courtnirose516
    @courtnirose516 Рік тому +6

    This woman's bravery and strength is nothing short of extraordinary... period!!! There is no other way to describe or say about the warrior I just listened to!!! An absolute inspiration in every imaginable sense!!

  • @LADYJKAYE
    @LADYJKAYE Рік тому +5

    What a powerful disclosure about your experience. . Thank you for your courage & decision to bring it to Light..

  • @jainealston9868
    @jainealston9868 21 день тому +2

    What a brave lady ❤ I applaud your courage in wanting to support others going through the journey you have been through whilst battling your own trauma. You are amazing 🙏🪷 I wish you and all other survivors peace 🙏🪷💕🌻

  • @Samfl0wers
    @Samfl0wers Рік тому +39

    I honestly hope that she has the most wonderful life from now on. I know that's unrealistic but what happened to her and others is more than deeply disturbing, I have no words. I truly hope the universe sends her everything she needs and wants. She deserves to live her best life.

  • @seagypsiesbellydancers3047
    @seagypsiesbellydancers3047 Рік тому +5

    Very very sad, the interviewer is absolutely fantastic, so empathetic and gentle. Xx

  • @SarahjaneEarney
    @SarahjaneEarney 19 днів тому +2

    Amazing lady! So proud of her sharing her story to others. X

  • @paulauxerre2450
    @paulauxerre2450 20 днів тому +5

    It breaks my heart to hear her having the need to apologize

  • @nicksterp2805
    @nicksterp2805 Рік тому +41

    You're so incredible Kate. I don't even know how you finished your studies. So strong and brave. I don't know how you even talk about it publicly. You deserve the best future.

    • @patriciarowe6685
      @patriciarowe6685 Рік тому +7

      More people need to talk about it otherwise it will stay underground.

    • @NothingByHalves
      @NothingByHalves Рік тому +5

      I know how she finished her studies - she compartmentalised.
      I did the same for my 'A's.
      I don't know how she only failed one, though. I got two Ds!
      She is incredible though, I agree. Very strong and brave.

  • @briellemarsh
    @briellemarsh Рік тому +17

    Incredibly brave to share her story yet again. I cannot imagine the pain this must bring Kate every time she shares this for awareness. Sending an abundance of love and light. May the rest of your life be filled with the most peace and support as possible.

  • @tapashyarasaily1373
    @tapashyarasaily1373 Рік тому +88

    William was the real culprint...he wasnt just a broken man. he was the reason why she came in contact with the others. he must ve been truly diabolical to do this to her.

    • @billybobdog3815
      @billybobdog3815 Рік тому +17

      William was the bait that's how grooming gangs work they always have to have a introducer and William was just as fearful of them as she explained

    • @prunelle9051
      @prunelle9051 9 місяців тому +7

      Yep, that's how they do it... they sent ''the covert fragile one'' but in reality he's truly dangerous and most probably sociopathic like the others. This type is the feeder grooming you to trust him... until your ''ready'' or in a sufficient state of confusion not to think that something bad is about to happen, even though your instincts are telling you otherwise.

    • @punyashloka4946
      @punyashloka4946 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@prunelle9051no I don't think so, she Clearly said he was also afraid.

    • @zagreb2012
      @zagreb2012 6 місяців тому

      Yeah right he was.. ​@@punyashloka4946

  • @caitlynmorris55
    @caitlynmorris55 Рік тому +29

    I found it shocking that you said you’re shy because I feel like you’re incredibly well spoken and I loved listening to your videos about your story. The fact you showed immense strength during and after such traumatic experiences in truly inspiring! Your story shows other people you can recover and be happy again.

  • @lisar7364
    @lisar7364 Рік тому +64

    She still has a long way to go in healing. She still has a scripted excuse for William. William led her to the Lions Den. Just horrible. I pray there is justice some where along the way against each of the perps. So sorry you had to go through all of this.

    • @kateelysia1
      @kateelysia1 Рік тому +28

      At the end of the day William was the same age as me, just a lost teenager, I can’t blame him anymore than I can blame myself. He didn’t rape me. The rapists are the perpetrators, we were just teenagers caught up in a terrible system that was not on our side. It is not good psychology to continue to hold on to grudges. He shows remorse, I forgive him and I forgive myself. I don’t forgive them, the men who raped me, who do not have any remorse for what they did.

    • @lisaliza7009
      @lisaliza7009 Рік тому +9

      ​@@kateelysia1 We are just mad on your behalf Queen 🎉

    • @MPPG663
      @MPPG663 Рік тому +15

      ​@@kateelysia1Of course there's an appropriate place for understanding and forgiveness, but that understanding and forgiveness does not mean painting over the facts.
      Perhaps William was afraid. Perhaps he was naive. Perhaps he is remorseful...
      But it seems quite obvious that he wasn't ignorant. He knew what would happen and what was happening.
      Accountability is not evidence of holding a grudge.
      Wishing you and evey person who has emerged from any darkness lasting healing.

    • @punyashloka4946
      @punyashloka4946 6 місяців тому

      ​@@MPPG663 if she has forgiven him, then we should leave it here. William was also teenager , who was from broken family. So may be he was also lost just like her.

    • @MPPG663
      @MPPG663 6 місяців тому +1

      @punyashloka4946 It's evident from my comment 9 months ago that the issue was "left."
      It's not my story, but it is a comment section. Obviously, I'm going to share my thoughts.

  • @John-lq5kz
    @John-lq5kz Рік тому +55

    6 and a half years for destroying multiple life's. Absolute joke the UK justice system.

    • @Antonia-w6s
      @Antonia-w6s 11 місяців тому +7

      It’s still happening now

  • @user3567tgyhzz
    @user3567tgyhzz 25 днів тому +3

    Wow. My compliments for Kate and Paul for a very important and informative documentary. I am so sorry that Kate had to go through this hell, but at least know that you are helping many other women by coming out, describing, and explaining what this all feels like. I hope you will heal and get through this. Paul is correct, you are strong. Thank you.

  • @kirstymoss9810
    @kirstymoss9810 Рік тому +9

    Thank you for sharing such a painful traumatic story, i know there will be many people who will gain strength and healing through being able to access help by hearing it. I absolutely resonate with the assertion that you can live a real life free from mental health issues after abuse, as a survivor that was what allowed me to keep going snd refuse to give up, the promise of having a real life, not just one as a victim. ❤❤

  • @kashbassey9149
    @kashbassey9149 25 днів тому +2

    So very proud of this young woman for being so courageous
    Sending you love & hugs...

  • @richardmabe4186
    @richardmabe4186 24 дні тому +4

    Impossible to imagine everything Kate has gone through through. I hope she finds the help needed to recover and her evil abusers get everything they deserve.

  • @believeable1965
    @believeable1965 Рік тому +24

    She is still spiritually connected to William. Praying for her deliverance.

    • @MPPG663
      @MPPG663 Рік тому +8

      Yup, the way she excuses him and believed he was into her is an indication that she's rewritten the story to cope.

  • @joannebutzerin6448
    @joannebutzerin6448 Рік тому +25

    They are taught that they are better than other people and have the right to abuse them. I am glad she told what they did. Very brave of her, and few victims can explain it so well. Admire her.

  • @patbrumph6769
    @patbrumph6769 Рік тому +27

    Wow! This has really been informative, a truly great interview. Kate is an extraordinary person to be able to speak so matter of factly about so personal and devastating an assault. She really puts to shame the critics who condemn , "Well, why didn't you scream, fight back, run away, go to the police, tell someone. Why didn't you? Why didn't you? Why didn't you? Well, if you had only, but you didn't." How does a person explain the fear, confusion, self-blame, guilt, shame, and other complex emotions and mental processes involved in such a horrible experience. Kate did a great job explaining all these things and was able to keep herself together while doing it.

  • @matthewlynas5089
    @matthewlynas5089 Рік тому +5

    What a wonderful human being, such strength in coming through such horrors and now engaging with those in need.

  • @sunny9233
    @sunny9233 Рік тому +31

    This woman is amazing. Thank you for shedding a light and exposing these monsters 👏

  • @Yggdrasil1844
    @Yggdrasil1844 Рік тому +9

    When she said she was 18 and then said She said she was mature too. I cry in married at 16.

    • @PoppyKat72
      @PoppyKat72 22 дні тому +1

      I moved out at 17 and was expected to be an adult 😢

  • @karolinakorona1584
    @karolinakorona1584 Рік тому +30

    She made a very good point, often victims of coercion don't seem like a kind of person you would like to help. She unashamedly smashes the Hollywood's idea of a victim, the romanticised version that you would so much want to save, and paints the reality with ugly, rough, but pure truth. Very brave woman. Very honest interview. She teaches us that people in those kind of situations are extremely confused and it takes a lot of effort to help them. We need to help them. In truth we should help all of them, victims and abusers alike. That's where William comes in. We don't, they only go back to what they know. Great woman. Great interview. Wish you all the best!

  • @OurTube_TheOriginal
    @OurTube_TheOriginal Рік тому +6

    Brilliant woman in heart and soul and mind. Her insights amazing. The interviewer asks good questions, approaches this sensitively and i like how he said “story, experience” (it is an experience….story is related and not synonymous)

  • @carolinadecarvalho461
    @carolinadecarvalho461 10 місяців тому +2

    Such a beautiful strong soul. I feel very lucky and grateful for your courage to talk about the topic of grooming and rape. It is so important what you do. Thank you thank you ❤

  • @sophiaisabelle027
    @sophiaisabelle027 Рік тому +34

    We appreciate videos like this. They're genuinely insightful.

    • @thewayoftheinterceptingfis4194
      @thewayoftheinterceptingfis4194 Рік тому

      Insightful? To be constantly reminded how weak vulnerable pathetic we the white community we can't even protect her own children from ethnic minorities for fear of a word get a grip man insightful

  • @pauldavies9314
    @pauldavies9314 Рік тому +55

    police and your community let you down, you deserve every compliment for fighting through this and trying to help prevent it happening elsewhere ❤

    • @brandonfree3059
      @brandonfree3059 Рік тому

      The police masons and hospitals are trafficking women. JFK North Palm Beach Florida drugs rapes and tortures and experiments on young girls and homeless people any woman they can get their hands on they will rape to the point of having no skin down there and you’ll be held long enough to not get a forensic rape exam or a toxicology report while the staff does Satanic ritual abuse on all the people in the hospital behind closed doors all day all night and feed you human meat this is not a joke. The police that are involved in the masons that are in on it think this is fun to then follow the women or anybody who survives afterwards and keep them silent no one is pressing charges and there is so much abuse in that facility it has to be shut down. Elderly are also being extorted of their money & houses bf dying inside there.

    • @sandyschneider6792
      @sandyschneider6792 Рік тому +10

      She was essentially used by the police too!

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Рік тому +6

      I really hope things have improved where the police response is concerned. Sadly, SA is a huge problem all over the world, and there needs to be some type of reform in how victims are treated, how we teach our children about the danger or warning signs, etc.

    • @pamelalandon2423
      @pamelalandon2423 Рік тому

      The British Police don't do much against the Muslim Immigrant Males.

    • @upendasana7857
      @upendasana7857 Рік тому

      @@zxy78267 Yes very true,the police are supposed to be better trained and more aware of grooming and sexual abuse and should always take reports of rape seriously whether they think they will reach court or not.just because the burden of proof and process is a difficult one should not mean that they simply allow a victim or reported victim to go without following up or offering support and proper counselling.
      They completely failed her and sadly continue to fail those who report sexual violence and DV,they should be on it straight away and have proctocols in place to support victims.
      They more or less sent her off to be abused again and again.

  • @RecoveryRose
    @RecoveryRose Рік тому +19

    Thats just horrible, that she had to hide away from her flat. The flat is supposed to be a safe haven. And that William is criminal. Prayers for her complete and total healing. 🙏

  • @J.alexandra-3
    @J.alexandra-3 Рік тому +30

    This is a truly Heartbreaking and Devastating story. God bless you Kate, such an incredibly strong and resilient woman. 💛

  • @jacobmyers8878
    @jacobmyers8878 Рік тому +5

    We are proud that you are coming forward , we are with you , and we wish you speedy healing

  • @carolinekloppert5177
    @carolinekloppert5177 Рік тому +6

    Dear Kate,, your account fills me with horror as I can completely imagine the incidents you describe. It goes to my gut as I've experienced a kind of parallel dynamic, if less bad and less big. It was not even a gang, just a bunch of young men with toxic levels of hatred against women. They leave you feeling so humiliated you do blame yourself. It is so important that you've articulated your experience and the ambiguity around consent and disempowerment, the breaking of your will. It would help other people who are blaming themselves. I hope things are going well with you now., you're a beautiful flame of illumination in such entrapping darkness.

  • @amyniemann9564
    @amyniemann9564 Рік тому +23

    I’m sorry this happened to you, truly very sorry. I went through some childhood trauma myself and relate to many things you said. You are worthy and good. You are strong and your heart to help others is a blessing.

  • @elly8806
    @elly8806 9 місяців тому +9

    My heart breaks for her apparent need to apologize. She has absolutely nothing to apologize for!

  • @Elong.
    @Elong. Рік тому +54

    I’m glad that she studied psychology is school. With her experience she’ll be able to help so many. God bless her❤

    • @dianebarron8362
      @dianebarron8362 Рік тому +1

      Question Do men think women like and need sex like they do ? BECAUSE WE DON'T ! ! !

  • @careygilchrist1972
    @careygilchrist1972 Рік тому +13

    Thank you for your story and on going will to help and inform others as well as better yourself!
    I’m very greatful to have come across this! You have given me the courage and strength to respect myself more and to help others to do the same!
    I’m damaged from my life and suffer extreme depression, ptsd and anxiety! I know I do not have to live my life anymore as a victim but as a person who knows what comes from wrong intentions and trauma!
    I can be a person who can give back to the ones that cannot give anything for themselves at this time!
    Thank you 🙏 ❤

    • @zxy78267
      @zxy78267 Рік тому

      It is very hard to overcome SA. There are a lot of survivors out there who are surviving, but not without painful memories and anger, regret, etc. I'm angry that the system at the time for me was not a victim positive system. If you weren't attacked by some heinous person jumping out of an alley who also beat you to a pulp, it wasn't an assault. Almost no one my age reported it because we knew we'd be put on trial more than the perpetrator. I think things have improved a little bit, but we have a long way to go.

  • @aishabenmoussa557
    @aishabenmoussa557 Рік тому +4

    Thank you so much for being such a strong person and sharing your story. You will have helped so many people. Sending you love 🌺❤️🌺

  • @melmell8109
    @melmell8109 4 місяці тому +4

    Thanks for being so courageous and speaking out so other people are aware of this pack mentality

  • @aycha2445
    @aycha2445 Рік тому +8

    You are very brave sister and an inspiration to other victims ..turning such a bad experience into something which could help others shows your incredible strength and goodness of your heart which is incomparable....hats off to you sis....and shame on the police for failing their job and may those animals who did wrong with you die a miserably painful death....

  • @helenh493
    @helenh493 Рік тому +33

    Poor girl.. I felt bad for her, and disgust for those guys. She was soo naive, she didn't realize William was a part of this rape gang, whether he was "in" this gang or one of the "come-on" (patsy) guys, setting up these lone, naive girls or not, he was a part of it and knew what was going on, and was going to happen. This showed immediately when that rapist told William what he did (or had her do to him), even though he did worse. It was part of the "Good guy, Bad guy" plot. They do all of this to make the young and naive feel off balance and like it was their (the girls) fault. So they will be afraid to report it to anyone, parent or authority. Then they'd gang rape, and start selling her out.. so to speak. It can actually happen to much younger girls then her. But its very sad and disgusting that this happens to anyone.

  • @stephanieprice8916
    @stephanieprice8916 Рік тому +8

    💞Kate,
    Never stop moving forward.
    Keep fighting the good fight.
    We all have a purpose, a calling.
    Keep your chin up and be proud of everything you have achieved and accomplished. Your courage is admirable.
    I want to thank you for not giving up on yourself.
    Much Love and Respect,
    a small town in Texas.

  • @bananamiriam
    @bananamiriam Рік тому +4

    Thank you for telling your story, I feel less alone

  • @mobeensarwar5420
    @mobeensarwar5420 2 місяці тому +4

    so sad story, i started weeping while listning/watching this podcast.

  • @aylanevzat235
    @aylanevzat235 25 днів тому +4

    Lovely lady. It’s almost like she’s blaming herself for letting him in but I completely understand when you feel put in a corner and intimidated. I hope she heals💖💖

  • @lovearttherapyalways
    @lovearttherapyalways Рік тому +41

    What monsters live amongst us...harming women that way!Courageous woman! I hope God restores her completely!

    • @RyanS406
      @RyanS406 Рік тому +5

      “God” let this happen, grow up

    • @lovearttherapyalways
      @lovearttherapyalways Рік тому +2

      @@RyanS406 God does not remove free choice that people choose evil or good. God is good and one day there will be justice. And you grow up yourself there buddy boy!

    • @gems5638
      @gems5638 Рік тому +2

      God is ready to swoop in and help with healing despite sitting back and having no control over these evil things. As if. Can’t you just wish some one your best without bringing religion in.

    • @danip6648
      @danip6648 Рік тому +1

      @@gems5638 Why be so upset about my response which contains my faith. If you ever are willing to humble yourself to know the truth and God's Word, read Psalm 37. God will not only swoop in at the appointed time but will judge and judge righteously! God bless you, humbly!

    • @DC3Refom
      @DC3Refom 8 місяців тому

      you xan thank the cult of psssylyyyum

  • @annfeltman8298
    @annfeltman8298 Рік тому +8

    This woman is so brave and kind. William is such a coward and doesn’t deserve her as a friend

  • @kellyreilly-robinson2130
    @kellyreilly-robinson2130 Рік тому +18

    You are an amazingly brave human and I hope you thrive ♥️

  • @mayabrown3741park
    @mayabrown3741park 2 місяці тому +4

    18 year old girls should not be allowed to live by themselves- they need to be protected. Lord have mercy! She was so vulnerable. 😢 Prayers for her ❤

  • @katiescott2975
    @katiescott2975 Рік тому +3

    Thanks for sharing Kate. You are and will help many other survivors.

  • @EastWind785
    @EastWind785 Рік тому +3

    I’m so impressed with Kates courage in coming forward to describe this horrendous abuse. Though it chills me to know now how these gangs and damaged abusive men operate, with the weak following the more aggressive thinking that women deserve this. I hope that Kates witness will bring a positive and progressive change in society, policing, and mental health services to enable women to feel safe to come forward and get help

  • @wingedpearloyster
    @wingedpearloyster Місяць тому

    Hi Kate, thanks so much for speaking about what you went through and helping us to understand. You are such an amazing, inspirational person - and I think you are helping many other people through talking about your experience. Good luck with your journey!

  • @gregzeng
    @gregzeng Рік тому +11

    Long retired social worker now. This story is extremely common, world wide. Here in Australia, we started our Males Against Sexism groups, Sydney October 1975.
    This male event is so strong, that we could not do anything with this city of the Australian feminist movements.

  • @jumblyman
    @jumblyman 5 місяців тому +12

    It is well established Pakistani-British Muslim men OVERWHELMINGLY committed these crimes yet I'm 40 minutes in and you're blithely glossing over this fact. The truth is painful but must be confronted, you do a terrible disservice to this brave young woman with your cowrdice in not confronting the cultural and religious factors in this abuse. Shame on you.

    • @MichelleStaunton-l4b
      @MichelleStaunton-l4b 4 місяці тому +1

      I agree!

    • @Geva555
      @Geva555 Місяць тому +1

      You're right..

    • @reddiesel88
      @reddiesel88 18 днів тому

      I noticed that as well that truth missing that it was Islamic grooming gang shouldn’t be covered. An absolutely horrific ordeal for the children needs to be truly identified. As Islamic teaching lead.

  • @evled8519
    @evled8519 Рік тому +10

    It's clear the government does NOTHING to stop and fight all of these, and society tolerates this by thinking it's a 'personal issue', but in reality, it's a mass issue and a system that is allowed to exist.

  • @963ag
    @963ag Рік тому +7

    As horrible as the perpetrators are, what is even more horrible is that in many countries and cities, the authorities deal with such things with total impunity and corruption is rampant. Oftentimes there is no prosecution, and victims are prevented from even filing a report. The entire process of justice and healing demands change - in many places it is very broken. ( I am in Texas, U S.A.)

  • @lindaford5605
    @lindaford5605 Рік тому +4

    Kate your fighting the right fight. I showed this to my baby at 15. ❤❤❤❤❤💐💐💐