It’s okay to share your emotions and frustrations. I wanted to be married in my early 20s and it didn’t happen. Spent the next 16 years dateless and celibate. A month before turning 40, I met a wonderful man and we got engaged 3 months after meeting each other and married within a year. God saved the best for me. I can look back now and laugh at how I allowed myself and others to frustrate me about living a vibrant single life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ UPDATE: I am expecting my first child at 41. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Boy I needed this. I WAS married 16 years ago. I've basically been celibate and practically dateless for 16 years now. I'm living saved, I'm serving and giving faithfully in ministry. I got ordained in December. I am SO tired!
I just got married last year at 40 after all 13 years of praying and waiting. Im still healing from the anger and bitterness of the long wait. I regret not putting myself out there sooner. I used to talk bad about people on dating sites because I thought it was thirsty. Covid struck, and the only option I had was to go online. Then, I met my husband. God is good. Be open to every way to meet someone. Whether it's in-person or online. Please be humble so God can lead you. Pray that God will protect you and give you disernment when you go online and meet someone in-person. Don't be entitled, be humble. Put yourself out there and take steps, in faith, pray every step of the way but take some steps. Trust The Lord.
@herro004...What is/has been your approach to healing from the anger and bitterness? I'm 43 and in the same situation you were. I'm particularly frustrated, because I had reached a point of peace and happiness in my single life, just me and God. When I wasn't even looking, 3 different prospects surfaced. Long story short, they all disappeared by the end of the year. Losing those relationships was particularly painful, because I allowed myself to be vulnerable--something I hadn't done in a LONG time. Me: Why Lord!? I wasn't looking for this! I didn't ask for any of it either! I was cool just You and me! Make this make sense! 😡 ...so please share what your healing process has been like, because I could certainly use some tips.
Honestly I am just grateful he said “you’re safe here”. And he stated it multiple times. In the black community we NEED to bring honesty, and safety in our churches. Because if you cannot turn to the people in your congregation who can you turn to?
Blessings, have you tried changing up your daily routine to possibly meet new people in your area? Basically, if your only exposed to the same people every day, it limits your exposure to other people. Even pursuing things you love to do in different ways with confidence and intentions to meet new people could give you different results.
Sooo true! I talk about this with my church family/Christian friends all the time. It's so important to be vulnerable and honest with with one another about how we're feeling/what we're going through. It's common to ask someone "How are you?" "Oh, I'm blessed and highly favored! Living abundantly in the light of the Lord" - but... how *are* you? The question was not answered lol. It's great that we know who we are in Christ, but this earthly life is very human and our emotions need to be revealed so that we can find true healing and not just using the Word to suppress how we truly feel. There's no shame in expressing what God already knows how we're feeling. Such a word that quote was, honestly.
This was so good! I truly remember my “frustrated being single prayer” for my husband to show up and it truly works. Celebrating 3 years of marriage this year.
Ohweeee this is for meeeeee!!! Im 40 years old..."Church girl" all my life and never had a real relationship. Bitterness and frustration is real...sighhhhh
@@mia8009 oh yes I’m learning in early 20s it’s not even a guarantee that you will get married . No point , I’m not living because you don’t know your future !!!
Same age and church girl too. Blessings zig zagging all around the prayer for marriage lol smh and I’m grateful AND I am frustrated AND God is good AND I want to be married 🙌🏾🙏🏾
@@NomsLoots A little Jesus "Glitter" Lol. In this, season I have been encouraging myself in the lord By declaring I will prepare my heart for the things God has for me. God has got some things for you, they are tailor-made just for you and no one will/can take them away prevent them, or even block them. So, with the honest sentiment of frustration and impatience delight yourself in the lord and remember that God is who He says He is. Good.
I do volunteer work with special needs kids, and it’s very humbling to say the least, it really puts things in perspective. Alotta Christians have taken a few scriptures and ran with the idea that God wants us to have prosperous lives where all of our heart’s desires are fulfilled. This is not what the Christian faith is about, and shame on all these prosperity preachers who continue to tell people that their “blessing” is right around the corner. As soon as we can get out of this thinking and just be grateful for salvation and eternal life, then anything else God decides to bless us with in this life will be a bonus!
Amen This what I've said to people and they think I'm a SLACKER NO YOU HAVE TO WORK AND HAVE SOMEWHERE TO LIVE.....BUT TO BE THANKFUL, HAPPY AND IN HIS GRACE ALL THAT'S FREE.... I'M GONNA CONTINUE TO REMAIN HUMBLE AND HELP ANYONE I CAN GOD BLESS YOU.
You are so right. I had to learn that lesson the hard way as well mad, tired, frustrated, confused, feeling forgotten, overlooked, complaining to God etc. Then God taught me through prayer, bible study and reading the bible he's given me so much already especially what is really important. I couldn't stay in that state of worrying about marriage when being single has definitely been a blessing beyond what I knew. Now I'm mentally and spiritually fine. Praise be to God 51 yrs old single, no kids, love my job, love my home life, love solitude, no health issues. Where I am is where he wants me to be. I'm focused on God and Jesus nothing else matters.❤ Stay encouraged single ladies. God knows what he's doing trust him for he sees all those troubled hearts. Repent, pray and spend time with God, ask him to give your heart contentment, your spirit peace and your soul rest and be grateful for what you already have.
This is truth, recognizing that God is not a genie nor will our “performance of righteousness” guarantee that we will get our desires. I think most of us have to adjust our heart posture and get in alignment with God and His will for our lives.
Yes, by not answering the question and not giving her the answer she was looking for.. He told her to pretty much keep praying and don’t let that hope go.. Just like so many other Singles out there, we have to come to a point. Saying, to ourselves “ What if God doesn’t send or if I don’t meet someone? Will I be okay and content with it ?“
Wow I needed this, mid-30's and sick of being told (by married people) that the marriage will come because what if it doesn't. And I just hate that Jesus isn't enough for me. He deserves all of me. 😢
This is hard but ask Him to be enough over and over and over until your heart/mind catches up with your words. I PROMISE you He won't deny making the feeling of Him being enough happen for you. I may be married now but I did it before marriage and it felt like withdrawal from an addiction.😢 My heart hurt like heck as I was breaking up with the emotional attachment and physical desire to be in a relationship. I cried myself to sleep many nights and then started turning off movies and music that stirred up those desires. It was a lonely place at first but then it turned into a desire for the Lord and his purpose for my life that I couldn't shut off. It became something wonderful! ❤️ So much so that I felt like my husband coming was a distraction to the good thing I had going on with the Lord. Prayers lifted for you daughter of the King. God’s got great plans for your life outside of or in addition to being wife. Either way it's better than you could ever hope for. 🙏🏼✝️
Psalm 77 has been IT for me this year because whew chile 😮💨 I’ve been reading through the Psalms as well & it has been SO freeing to see that God dedicated an entire book to letting me know that it’s okay for me to not only feel my emotions & make them known to Him, but for Him to even go as far as to provide LANGUAGE for me to express them??! He’s so kind & i’ve never felt so free in my sufferings/hardships!! It honestly makes it a little easier because I don’t have to pretend like it’s all okay because as you said Uncle Tim, sometimes (a lot of times) it’s just not & that’s okay.
I don’t think I’ve ever read Psalm 77 until I watched this segment (not sure why either but), I love how you said that God even provides the language for us to express our frustration. Wow, that’s so powerful. There’s a book by Christian writer Sheila Walsh called “It’s Ok Not To Be Okay”, phenomenal piece of work. Check it out if you’re interested! Blessings 🙏🏿
I love that he said, “I don’t have an answer for that, and I’m not gonna fill one in“ People are so quick to answer you in their “spirituality” that they forget their humanity. It’s sickening! But for the young lady who asked that question though, I’m right there with her, so I empathize heavily. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I think the only difference is, that my desire lies a little more on the side of actually feeling genuinely loved, and appreciated, for who I am, because I feel like if I attained that, I might feel a little more patient in my waiting to be married, but that’s just my two. Cents . I pray everyone receives the best that God has for them.
This is true!! I cried out to God and asked Him where is my husband. He came a couple of months later.. celebrating nine almost ten years this year. So yes, God doesn’t want your fake prayers tell Him the truth tell Him what’s on your heart.
@@jenetrajackson6794 I recommend 2819 church sermon Called & Discrouraged, God exists and He even exists when are prayers aren’t answered and His grace is enough for the specific problems we face. It’s hard when you feel and believe Gods not answering your frustration, but try telling God I’m struggle to believe you exist right now
Wow! That's where I find myself. It's going on 8 years, and I've been mad, tired, and frustrated. But I refuse to accept and settle with and for just anyone. So I'll just wait on the Lord and His timing. My faith has kicked in, and I see myself already married, and it is a beautiful sight. We have to see it in the spirit before we see it in the natural. I have faith that it's going to happen for me SOON!!
Let's keep waiting this year is my ninth year I've prayed fasted declared all of it but God is just quite I also won't settle for less I God has my Holy Spirit filled husband his grooming him as well just like His preparing me 😊♥️
I’ve been divorced since 1997! (It’s not a typo) I’ve had relationships but God wasn’t at the center. No wonder they didn’t work out! Now, my life is on track, thanks to The Basement and Tim’s anointed, Godly wisdom!! 🙏❤️ I know God has the right man for me and I’m happily waiting on His divine timing! 🤗
Amen! This is what I’m living rn and I trust in God sooooo much! I share the same frustration that our good sister expressed in the video but I won’t settle with just anyone! God won’t let me and I’m trusting Him in that process every step of the way. Frustrated and all!
This was one of the greatest breakthroughs in building my relationship with God: learning to be raw and honest with my feelings and knowing that He can handle it. There is space for every part of your soul - the parts that are whole and those that are still in need of healing. He's such a good friend and good father all at once.
What I know about God for sure is if you open up and be honest with God, He will open up and be honest with you and by His grace He will sustain you in His response if you choose to surrender.. 🙏🏽❤️
We believe a lot of lies about relationships specifically which keeps us in that position and we don’t want to admit it. So keep praying, but also ask God if there’s any steps he wants you to take in actualizing what you desire. Faith without works is dead is true in every situation
It's a rough and a hard place to be in especially when you really desire a Kingdom marriage Been listening to @Jerry flowers preaching and he says sometimes it's not that people have lost their faith in God People are tired exhausted in waiting for God's timing Tired of being misunderstood Sometimes when it comes to marriage. That longing to have someone is real It's even more realer when you know you don't have another option but to wait.
A Word I needed to hear. I struggle between being honest with God and being grateful for what I have. I feel bad for voicing my frustrations. I am with you sis! I desire a husband NOW but I know everything will work out in God’s perfect timing. Our husbands are coming 🫶🏽
I REALLY AND TRULY NEEDED THIS😭 THANK YOU LORD FOR BEING MY EVERYTHING & ALLOWING ME TO SEE THIS VIDEO & HEAR THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WAITING FOR MY KINGDOM SPOUSE. I STILL BELIEVE & TRUST YOU LORD IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN AMEN AMEN 👏❤💪💯
Wow! No one but God put this video on my timeline. Her question to his response about ppl throwing the Jesus glitter is ALL ME. Because God loves me and knows I was not going to talk to anyone about my frustration because of the Jesus glitter, he sent this video. Her braveness HELPED so many women who are waiting on God to send their husband 🙌🏾🙏🏽💜 I was blessed and relieved by his response 😢🙌🏾 if I hear one more Jesus glitter response, IM going to SCREAM 🔊🔊
I can definitely relate and I can appreciate that he didn’t make up an answer for her and said I don’t have the answer to your question and I’m not going to fill in the blank if God didn’t already tell you.
I feel that girl so much I know I'm young and only 19 but I desire a Godly relationship it's hard when everyone around me is dating and in Godly relationships and even engaged currently it's just difficult at times.
I was baptized for the first time March 17th. I’ve promised to practice discipline to build up my discernment. Last night was difficult because I’ve been pent up. Im so happy this clip was dropped! Perfect timing and I’ll definitely get into Psalms!
Astilynn girl I am excited for you! Yes the frustration gets REAL and you just want to scream to the top of your lungs! During this walk we really have to depend on God because we definitely can’t do it by ourselves. Girl I am cheering you on. If you have the desire to live for him that desire can happen!
I thank God that He moved on my wife to attend this night. I was blessed by the message that the Holy Spirit gave through Tim. Thank you Tim for being obedient and reading Psalm 77. That psalm hit home and got real personal for me. I almost got up to start running! Instead I reacted with a what you heard was a grunt. 😄 I have been going through and coming out for a few mounting years of frustration. God continues to show me that even in my troubles He remains the all that I need. To God be all the glory!!!!!!!!!!!
I know how she feels, I’m so happy I met my FAITH with Action & started positioning myself to be found. My husband found me, pursued me, proposed at 9 months & we’ll be married 2 years in two more days!God also blessed us with a beautiful boy who will be a year in May!🎉🩷💍🥰
Im sick and tired of idiots acting like struggling with singleness is out of the ordinary. Like they are above that feeling. Only self righteous people who haven’t been single very much tend to brush over it as if people should just ‘get over it so easily.'
Annnnd !!!!!! Why have I never? Heard your teachings before? Annnnnnnd Hallelujah today has been so amazing that I saw you Interviewing jackie hill perry and now this God is so good.🙌🏾🔥🎺
Thank you. I almost skipped this bc singleness isnt my problem im frustrated about. And as a newer believer in a deep season of life, i started reading Job and then Psalms because they are saying all the things that I cant. And not only was this question what i have been struggling with the last few days, with anxiety waking me up and impacting everything I do, your response was the reassurance I needed that Im not the only one who feels this.
It isn't. Some people are called to singleness despite having the desire to marry. Not all of our desires are from the lord and not every desire he will fulfill as the word says our hearts are deceitful and wicked. Part of me wants to ask if I'll be married or not and if not I want God to remove the desire.
God said it not good for a man to be alone Gen 2:18 I believe God planted the desire in us for marriage coz that the only way to multiply His Godly Kingdom Gen 3:16 talks about this desire but the timing belongs to God we need to wait in Him as He teaches us how to handle ourselves in marriage for His purpose not for our selfish reasons...why did He create male and female if it not for marriage....the singleness comes in coz Paul talks about staying as you are bcoz he has seen what was happening some of us can't handle marriage coz we're not Spiritual grown we think it all about me while marriage is about us just like Christ Who came to serve not to be served....
The scriptures doesn't tell to wait for Marriage but to choose and choose wisely. Incorrect teaching has cause many women to stay stuck. The other part is if men aren't seeking a wife or desire to be Married , then it will be a long time. I suggest getting out and live life to the full and be at peace.
@Maggs3 He who finds a Wife, finds a good thing. Do they desire or want to be Married? If yes, go out and seek a Wife. Again, you won't find a scripture that says "wait for Marriage" like you're in a waiting room, waiting for someone to come call you.🤷🏾♀️ It is a "Choice" not a commandment. Choose wisely and Marry well.
Thank you. I don’t know when waiting on the Lord like Father Christmas became a thing. A lot of people would do better to find and choose someone and get on with it. Also need to decouple purpose in Christ with purposeful marriage because lots of folk are waiting for b before they think they’re entitled to a.
Wow, that was really good and it was definitely something I needed to hear. I love his realness and mentioning of the psalms, I need to get to reading. God is so gracious and compassionate. He wants to hear our honest thoughts, expressed with respect to His sovereignty yes but Jesus experienced all that we go through and is not without the heart to understand our frustrations. Thank you sir!
Be honestly frustrated about what you ain't getting yet but is God's time and not your time. As much as I understand her frustration there are times you ain't getting it yet because God knows you will choose out of desperation and pain instead of peace and preparation. Amen sis, you'll get him one day! He prays for you too!
I feel you sis🙏🏽, I’ve been married once for over 10+ years…and for my 2nd time around🙏🏽 I vowed to do it Gods way…..My first and only divorce hurt badly so bad that I was SO READY to recommit to the Lord 🖐🏽🖐🏽
@@lollian2782 Gods way surely protects us from a lot of things. I’ve seen it for myself in my own life. Life is filled with of ups and downs and it will never be perfect here on earth.
been married at 20 yrs old and divorced within less than a yr during the marriag, so i lived a promiscuous lifestyle or sexual immortality afterwards, and guess what? im single still! for almost 2 yrs ive been celibate and im not frustrated at all, nor do i get the urge of craving a man. Im so glad God has allowed me not to feel the urge in wanting one so bad. I see women who feel sad and emotional over this, and im not judging them. I just hope that it doesn't become time-consuming and mentally exhausting to where u r ignoring your Calling on your life. God will provide. My advice is to pray against sexual dreams/lust and do your own deliverance prayers and not to allow yourself to think about craving a husband. If he comes, he'll just come
I watched this video as I’m traveling cross country it’s about 2:30 in the morning and every woman has the same question. I just found it very interesting tht as you arrive to the end of your response that you had no answer I was literally crossing through Groom, Texas at the cross. it’s like a huge cross that you can view from the highway. synergy and confirmation
It's been 3 years of intense wilderness for me in this area. I voice my human experience with God and then remember His goodness. I've done this so many times. Venting is relieving until the heaviness settles on me again. It's so hard to go to bed at night with hope that tomorrow might be different only to go to bed the next night knowing it was just a repeat of yesterday. I will be turning 50 next month, and really wonder how long this will go on.
That frustration is apart of the development of your relationship with God. That's how you transition from an arranged marriage to falling in love. I deal with this as well. I tend to create a callus so that I can get over the problem but he wants to deal with it with you. All so you see the parts of his grace that you haven't seen before.
I needed this. I be holding onto this “good attitude” like I’m trying to out my best foot forward and it looks like a smile on my face even when I’m not feeling like it but then at some point I’m just blah. I feel this rage from bottled up emotions that i didn’t know I had been suppressing and I hadn’t expressed it so then it comes off so bad after holding onto this mature and calm and poised version of myself when I really want to scream
Hey friend, I have been there. Don't give up. When we apply for jobs, we put in applications in and send out resumes. Put yourself out there and pray that God will guide you as you take steps in faith. But take steps...Exhaust every option, whether it's online and in-person. Do both, that's my only regret. I cared more about how I was supposed to meet my husband rather than exhausting every option God has given us. I met my husband online in 2020 during Covid. Your husband is out there.
My response to the question is, "she must interrogate why she feels the desperate need to get married?". The Kingdom of God is about His will, let to allow marriage to be His directive not our demand. All the people that are referred to in marriage and stuff, none of them prayed for marriage. Let it be God who directs you to marriage if it is within His will for your life. Stay in the prayer room, fellowship with Him and He will give direction on each and every matter for your life.
Remove the word but when you're standing in faith because it shows doubt. I also believe that you should put action with your faith! Purchase something for your future spouse in faith and make a space for him in your home while you're waiting for him in the natural!
Lost my husband 8 years ago to homicide. I have been mostly alone. I fell in love again, but he turned out to be a cheater and a BEATER. Beat me severely. I wonder why, but I have no answers. Please pray for me that someday, God will bring me the man He chooses. TY.
Made me tear up. Mainly because I fully understand this😢 Aww Tim did well by pushing her to be brutally honest and vulnerable. Necessary chat even if it pertains something other than that.
Also, not to feed into delulu land, but you may find your husband when you LEAST expect it. But right now, just focus on God and your relationship with Him. He’s working in the midst, and sometimes we might not always understand His plans, but it’s alllllllllways right at the end of the day 🙏🏾‼️✝️
You’re still soooo young! Get out and live life, it’s very short. Travel, see the world, work out and try new activities and clubs/groups! Find your happinesses within yourself.
This is what I’ve learned. Not only pray, but move, and be still and know that He is God at the same time. Don’t expect something to happen right away when you move. Stay planted. Be consistent and Trust the Lord. God is good. He is also sovereign. If He’s not giving it to you now, it’s for a good reason. He’s protecting you, or there is something else for you to learn. But don’t let that stop you from putting yourself out there at the same time. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Repeat that to yourself. He knows the plans He has for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and future. Jeremiah 29:11. Live a righteous and pure life first and foremost. The same God who created sex, created purity. Matthew 6:33. Be pure outside of marriage and pure inside of marriage. It will give you quicker results. Purity is of body and of the heart. You can be physically puree, but have an impure heart. God did not create you with a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and self-control. Have self control in all areas of your life, it will speed up the process. By speed up, I mean you will be on time and not delayed. Don’t get weary in doing good bc at just the right time you will get a harvest. Stay planted. Serve at church consistently, go to small groups, get involved. Meet people and spark small talk to make new friends. Life is about connection. It will heal your heart
ASAP...once we realize NOT EVERY person wiĺl get married & embrace singlehood, life would be alot more fulfilling. The world is FULL of unsuccessful unions because ppl REFUSE to embrace "A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE" as a single. God's grace is sufficient in ALL areas of life. Marriage is NOT NECESSARY & SHOULD NOT be our goal.
@nappyqueen86 well then now you have to come to terms with maybe kids aren't in the cards for you. Kids or marriage. Those are things we can't control.
@@nappyqueen86 Having kids isnt necessary. So many kids in the foster care system. "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being"
Good question! Sarah became a mother at 90 years old. GOD promised Abraham that she would be a mother of all nations. But in your case let's hope you won't have kids at 90. Hopefully you will have them much earlier than that even though you feel the clock is ticking. Keep your faith alive. Don't Stop believing GOD for your spouse. You might even meet him tomorrow or maybe next month. Keep believing and trusting GOD. His timing is not ours. ✌🏽
@@DJ_Ndiks having children out of wedlock might be the option for me which is unfortunate cos it will have me cut of from the church and isolated but I literally have friends who can’t have kids now cos they waited for a godly man all their life and he never came
I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, it may not be God's plan for you. Thankfully, He removed my desire for kids, but He never removed my desire for a husband. I got married at 34. And here I am at 39, single again. My husband turned out to be a narcissist. I've given up on finding love. And I don't think I will ever truly be happy. Honestly, what gives me solace is knowing that the world will end soon.
@PoSHEmediaglobal Girl, DO NOT have kids out of wedlock. Before I wasn't living for God ( still not perfect no) I didn't care if I had kids or not but now that I have 2 it's so important you have a support system beyond family. Also when the baby comes peoples true colors show my mom became more toxic qnd my kids dad proved to be incompetent and a deadbeat( no he had no prior kids so there was no way to know until I had our child) The struggle to pay my bills, keep a roof over me and my kids head and try to go to nursing school ( still debating) is so intense it's literally driving me insane. So please take this as a warning -- don't. .please don't. When you have kids out of wedlock you're on your own even with child support they can pay when they want and it'll take forever to have their checks garnished. It's a struggle when it's out of wedlock my friend married a good man she's a sahm and is able to vacation and be home with her baby and not have to worry. This is how it should be. Being a mom out of wedlock is a struggle I don't wish on anyone.
God says in His word He gives us the desires of our hearts. He wouldn’t give you that the desire for nothing, especially if it’s in line with the word.
I don’t agree. If you have the desire and the word says it, you will certainly have it. One of the biggest things I had to gain revelation in was my mouth. Words create realms. What are we saying in and out of our prayer closet. ?? The spiritual realm is more alive than this natural what are we speaking? Do you know we could be so close? Yes hope deferred makes the heart sick, but I believe that we can defer to a higher place of faith for what we desire.
There was ALOT not said but I really appreciate as what was said regarding being honest. The word that was not said was transparent. Alot of people in the body ain't. Ofcourse, keeping it at 'it is a journey.' Psalms yeah man. Jesus said some stuff too lol We gata pray for the body. Last note - everyone ain't in the same specific type season - that was missed.
Sighs.. I can relate to this woman! Whew!! 😢😅😮 I am beyond tired, weary, frustrated and heavy with my prolonged season of singleness. I have no peace nor happiness. I think it may be time for me to accept that I will never get married and that is not what God has for me. No matter how much I hope, wish, pray, believe in faith, try to get me together. Love has never located me and I'm starting to question my worth and also I just may be a woman who is destined for singleness no matter how much I desire it. It's very frustrating and my heart is so broken and hardened against myself and at God. I don't want to be like this tho! I gotta move on and life my life even without a spouse or kids
I UNDERSTAND! I’m like Lord what else do I have to do, what else do I need to learn. Why all the false starts? Someone comes into my life and just as quick as they come they leave! I’m a single mother, have been her entire 15 years of life. I’ve desired marriage for the wrong reasons initially, but then as I began to learn more about Gods intention for marriage my reasons changed and aligned with Gods. So I’m like Lord I literally want what you want! I feel I’ve made marriage an idol and im asking God to help me want the gift giver more than the gift bc perhaps marriage is not my portion.
@brittaneiwayne4519 DON'T Give Up GOD Will answer your prayers and fulfills your hearts desire especially if your heart's desire aligns with His words. Consintrate on building yourself up in all other areas of your life. When you least expect it GOD will bring your husband to you.
God brought to me someone I did not pray for, and it has been very painful because what He gave me is not what I would consider the best and I feel so crushed. I started to wonder if this is what it means to live in His will instead of my will. To allow His will through my life for something He wants to use my marriage for that I would not have wanted. Only time will tell why He gave me a Gomer and not a Man of God who is principled.
This was good ❤️my depression medication is NOT working im tired of being single.. a single mom at that. Sometimes I just wonder has God forgot about me.
This is why I've grown to believe God is unfair and cruel. He gives us desires, tells us to ask in faith , and then we wait for months or years, and still somehow, we're left to suffer and can still be denied help. God picks and chooses whom he's good to.
“Sometimes your soul needs to cry out, & sometimes it’s not hallelujah “ 🔥😭
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It’s a lamentation 😢
Whew! I needed this! David did this.
It’s okay to share your emotions and frustrations. I wanted to be married in my early 20s and it didn’t happen. Spent the next 16 years dateless and celibate. A month before turning 40, I met a wonderful man and we got engaged 3 months after meeting each other and married within a year. God saved the best for me. I can look back now and laugh at how I allowed myself and others to frustrate me about living a vibrant single life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
UPDATE: I am expecting my first child at 41. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Boy I needed this. I WAS married 16 years ago. I've basically been celibate and practically dateless for 16 years now. I'm living saved, I'm serving and giving faithfully in ministry. I got ordained in December. I am SO tired!
I'm turning 38 tomorrow, still single, I desire to be in a relationship, but I know I ain't ready.. but this gives me hope for when that day comes.🥰
Happy for you 🥹 there’s still hope but until then I appreciate the time spent with him 😊
Thanks for sharing!!
@@joseysoseyHappy Birthday 🎉
I just got married last year at 40 after all 13 years of praying and waiting. Im still healing from the anger and bitterness of the long wait. I regret not putting myself out there sooner. I used to talk bad about people on dating sites because I thought it was thirsty. Covid struck, and the only option I had was to go online. Then, I met my husband. God is good. Be open to every way to meet someone. Whether it's in-person or online. Please be humble so God can lead you. Pray that God will protect you and give you disernment when you go online and meet someone in-person. Don't be entitled, be humble. Put yourself out there and take steps, in faith, pray every step of the way but take some steps. Trust The Lord.
This is so wonderful to hear. May I ask what online dating app you used?
@herro004...What is/has been your approach to healing from the anger and bitterness? I'm 43 and in the same situation you were. I'm particularly frustrated, because I had reached a point of peace and happiness in my single life, just me and God. When I wasn't even looking, 3 different prospects surfaced. Long story short, they all disappeared by the end of the year. Losing those relationships was particularly painful, because I allowed myself to be vulnerable--something I hadn't done in a LONG time.
Me: Why Lord!? I wasn't looking for this! I didn't ask for any of it either! I was cool just You and me! Make this make sense! 😡
...so please share what your healing process has been like, because I could certainly use some tips.
I hope she knows her transparency and vulnerability is impacting millions. The B-Side is exactly what we need right now. Whew!
literally!!!
This!!!!!!
Honestly I am just grateful he said “you’re safe here”.
And he stated it multiple times.
In the black community we NEED to bring honesty, and safety in our churches.
Because if you cannot turn to the people in your congregation who can you turn to?
Amen! 👏🏼👏🏼
Amen🎉
Ive been single my entire life. Will turn 37 this year. And by single I don't mean non married. I mean.. alone. I empathize with her. It's hard.
I’m 37. Same here. It is hard.
It’s a choice. You have been given full authority. You either create life or death,it rests on you.
@@MmeMpolokengplease stop
Me too 37 and want to be married
Blessings, have you tried changing up your daily routine to possibly meet new people in your area? Basically, if your only exposed to the same people every day, it limits your exposure to other people. Even pursuing things you love to do in different ways with confidence and intentions to meet new people could give you different results.
He said “Don’t let go of the frustration. It means you’re human.” 😭😭😭
A whole WORD!!!!!!
Sooo true! I talk about this with my church family/Christian friends all the time. It's so important to be vulnerable and honest with with one another about how we're feeling/what we're going through. It's common to ask someone "How are you?" "Oh, I'm blessed and highly favored! Living abundantly in the light of the Lord" - but... how *are* you? The question was not answered lol. It's great that we know who we are in Christ, but this earthly life is very human and our emotions need to be revealed so that we can find true healing and not just using the Word to suppress how we truly feel. There's no shame in expressing what God already knows how we're feeling. Such a word that quote was, honestly.
@@oshinofalakoju5749 wheeewww!!! 😮💨🙌🏾🙌🏾 yes!! All of this EXACTLY!
This was so good! I truly remember my “frustrated being single prayer” for my husband to show up and it truly works. Celebrating 3 years of marriage this year.
Same! I waited on God 8 years. My husband and I will be married 3 years next month.
@ccmediamogul8673 how long did u pray before he showed up and how did u meet him if I can ask
Ohweeee this is for meeeeee!!! Im 40 years old..."Church girl" all my life and never had a real relationship. Bitterness and frustration is real...sighhhhh
You better go live you are middle aged 😂😂😂
@Ilovebeauty513 😂😂😂😂 oh I started around 35...learned alot to get out the cult...
@@mia8009 oh yes I’m learning in early 20s it’s not even a guarantee that you will get married . No point , I’m not living because you don’t know your future !!!
Same age and church girl too. Blessings zig zagging all around the prayer for marriage lol smh and I’m grateful AND I am frustrated AND God is good AND I want to be married 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Pray fast and go online with prayer put yourself out there more prayerfully God has done it for me at 57yrs
I am the Camera Lady. I was in the room. Great stuff.
When she finally said what she wanted to say you can feel the weight of the words my Gooodneesss.
Righttt, I felt for her 😕
She spoke my heart 🥹
@@NomsLoots A little Jesus "Glitter" Lol. In this, season I have been encouraging myself in the lord By declaring I will prepare my heart for the things God has for me. God has got some things for you, they are tailor-made just for you and no one will/can take them away prevent them, or even block them. So, with the honest sentiment of frustration and impatience delight yourself in the lord and remember that God is who He says He is. Good.
@@dillonhall3344 oh Dillon 🥹. Thank you for this beautiful message! God bless us both ♥️✨
It’s the changing the “but” to “and” for me.
Yes!!! 😭
It so good!✨
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I do volunteer work with special needs kids, and it’s very humbling to say the least, it really puts things in perspective. Alotta Christians have taken a few scriptures and ran with the idea that God wants us to have prosperous lives where all of our heart’s desires are fulfilled. This is not what the Christian faith is about, and shame on all these prosperity preachers who continue to tell people that their “blessing” is right around the corner. As soon as we can get out of this thinking and just be grateful for salvation and eternal life, then anything else God decides to bless us with in this life will be a bonus!
Amen This what I've said to people and they think I'm a SLACKER NO YOU HAVE TO WORK AND HAVE SOMEWHERE TO LIVE.....BUT TO BE THANKFUL, HAPPY AND IN HIS GRACE ALL THAT'S FREE.... I'M GONNA CONTINUE TO REMAIN HUMBLE AND HELP ANYONE I CAN GOD BLESS YOU.
You are so right. I had to learn that lesson the hard way as well mad, tired, frustrated, confused, feeling forgotten, overlooked, complaining to God etc.
Then God taught me through prayer, bible study and reading the bible he's given me so much already especially what is really important. I couldn't stay in that state of worrying about marriage when being single has definitely been a blessing beyond what I knew.
Now I'm mentally and spiritually fine. Praise be to God 51 yrs old single, no kids, love my job, love my home life, love solitude, no health issues. Where I am is where he wants me to be. I'm focused on God and Jesus nothing else matters.❤
Stay encouraged single ladies. God knows what he's doing trust him for he sees all those troubled hearts. Repent, pray and spend time with God, ask him to give your heart contentment, your spirit peace and your soul rest and be grateful for what you already have.
Exactly! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@alewis4941 Amen
This is truth, recognizing that God is not a genie nor will our “performance of righteousness” guarantee that we will get our desires. I think most of us have to adjust our heart posture and get in alignment with God and His will for our lives.
I am glad he didn’t answer her question with false lie. If God didn’t answer yet. Keep waiting and asking..
This... Just by curiosity I opened the video ad Watched, waiting to listen a false answer... Tired of those Who speak before God.
Right! I’m tired of Jesus glitter being thrown at me! I just keep it to myself …betwn me & God!
But did he actually answer the question??
Yes, by not answering the question and not giving her the answer she was looking for.. He told her to pretty much keep praying and don’t let that hope go..
Just like so many other Singles out there, we have to come to a point. Saying, to ourselves “ What if God doesn’t send or if I don’t meet someone? Will I be okay and content with it ?“
Wow I needed this, mid-30's and sick of being told (by married people) that the marriage will come because what if it doesn't. And I just hate that Jesus isn't enough for me. He deserves all of me. 😢
Whew!!!! This!!! 😢😮😮
This!❤❤❤❤
This!!!
This is hard but ask Him to be enough over and over and over until your heart/mind catches up with your words. I PROMISE you He won't deny making the feeling of Him being enough happen for you. I may be married now but I did it before marriage and it felt like withdrawal from an addiction.😢 My heart hurt like heck as I was breaking up with the emotional attachment and physical desire to be in a relationship. I cried myself to sleep many nights and then started turning off movies and music that stirred up those desires. It was a lonely place at first but then it turned into a desire for the Lord and his purpose for my life that I couldn't shut off. It became something wonderful! ❤️ So much so that I felt like my husband coming was a distraction to the good thing I had going on with the Lord. Prayers lifted for you daughter of the King. God’s got great plans for your life outside of or in addition to being wife. Either way it's better than you could ever hope for. 🙏🏼✝️
It is not that he not enough for you. You love Him. You just desire to be married and that is a good thing. Be gentle with yourself ❤
Psalm 77 has been IT for me this year because whew chile 😮💨
I’ve been reading through the Psalms as well & it has been SO freeing to see that God dedicated an entire book to letting me know that it’s okay for me to not only feel my emotions & make them known to Him, but for Him to even go as far as to provide LANGUAGE for me to express them??! He’s so kind & i’ve never felt so free in my sufferings/hardships!! It honestly makes it a little easier because I don’t have to pretend like it’s all okay because as you said Uncle Tim, sometimes (a lot of times) it’s just not & that’s okay.
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I don’t think I’ve ever read Psalm 77 until I watched this segment (not sure why either but), I love how you said that God even provides the language for us to express our frustration. Wow, that’s so powerful. There’s a book by Christian writer Sheila Walsh called “It’s Ok Not To Be Okay”, phenomenal piece of work. Check it out if you’re interested! Blessings 🙏🏿
So true! I just read that again and i immediately felt my shoulders release frustration!
@@michaelfaulkner5839
I like Sheila W. I’ll have to check that book out..
I love that he said, “I don’t have an answer for that, and I’m not gonna fill one in“
People are so quick to answer you in their “spirituality” that they forget their humanity. It’s sickening!
But for the young lady who asked that question though, I’m right there with her, so I empathize heavily. I’ve never had a boyfriend.
I think the only difference is, that my desire lies a little more on the side of actually feeling genuinely loved, and appreciated, for who I am, because I feel like if I attained that, I might feel a little more patient in my waiting to be married, but that’s just my two. Cents .
I pray everyone receives the best that God has for them.
This is true!! I cried out to God and asked Him where is my husband. He came a couple of months later.. celebrating nine almost ten years this year. So yes, God doesn’t want your fake prayers tell Him the truth tell Him what’s on your heart.
Thank you for sharing your testimony.
I'm still frustrated but I'll keep this on replay.
Same! And I’m going to start reading Psalms from the beginning.
Me too sis! Sometimes I wonder if he even exists...
@@jenetrajackson6794 I recommend 2819 church sermon Called & Discrouraged, God exists and He even exists when are prayers aren’t answered and His grace is enough for the specific problems we face. It’s hard when you feel and believe Gods not answering your frustration, but try telling God I’m struggle to believe you exist right now
Wow! That's where I find myself. It's going on 8 years, and I've been mad, tired, and frustrated. But I refuse to accept and settle with and for just anyone. So I'll just wait on the Lord and His timing. My faith has kicked in, and I see myself already married, and it is a beautiful sight. We have to see it in the spirit before we see it in the natural. I have faith that it's going to happen for me SOON!!
Let's keep waiting this year is my ninth year I've prayed fasted declared all of it but God is just quite I also won't settle for less I God has my Holy Spirit filled husband his grooming him as well just like His preparing me 😊♥️
Child that part
I’ve been divorced since 1997! (It’s not a typo) I’ve had relationships but God wasn’t at the center. No wonder they didn’t work out! Now, my life is on track, thanks to The Basement and Tim’s anointed, Godly wisdom!! 🙏❤️ I know God has the right man for me and I’m happily waiting on His divine timing! 🤗
Amen! This is what I’m living rn and I trust in God sooooo much! I share the same frustration that our good sister expressed in the video but I won’t settle with just anyone! God won’t let me and I’m trusting Him in that process every step of the way. Frustrated and all!
Amen🙌🏾
I love how he validated her. God will do the same when we are open with how we feel. I appreciate this transparency 💕
This was one of the greatest breakthroughs in building my relationship with God: learning to be raw and honest with my feelings and knowing that He can handle it. There is space for every part of your soul - the parts that are whole and those that are still in need of healing. He's such a good friend and good father all at once.
What I know about God for sure is if you open up and be honest with God, He will open up and be honest with you and by His grace He will sustain you in His response if you choose to surrender.. 🙏🏽❤️
We believe a lot of lies about relationships specifically which keeps us in that position and we don’t want to admit it. So keep praying, but also ask God if there’s any steps he wants you to take in actualizing what you desire. Faith without works is dead is true in every situation
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This morning I finally accepted I’m avoidant. I need to work on this.
I love this!! I pray that God meets her where she is and fulfill her in ways that are greater than her understanding 🙏🏾
Going on 8yrs, still learning to be more content but the desire is still relevant. Glad I make music💜
It's a rough and a hard place to be in especially when you really desire a Kingdom marriage
Been listening to @Jerry flowers preaching and he says sometimes it's not that people have lost their faith in God
People are tired exhausted in waiting for God's timing
Tired of being misunderstood Sometimes when it comes to marriage.
That longing to have someone is real
It's even more realer when you know you don't have another option but to wait.
Man, I wanted to hug her so bad!! Bless her heart 🥹🩷🫂
I love David! He was so real and authentic! He embodies the true human experience while living and loving God!
Sis, thank you for asking the question most of us have. Tim, thank you for the answer we all needed to hear!
Yesssss🙏🏽
absolutely love how he was patient with her.
A Word I needed to hear. I struggle between being honest with God and being grateful for what I have. I feel bad for voicing my frustrations. I am with you sis! I desire a husband NOW but I know everything will work out in God’s perfect timing. Our husbands are coming 🫶🏽
I REALLY AND TRULY NEEDED THIS😭 THANK YOU LORD FOR BEING MY EVERYTHING & ALLOWING ME TO SEE THIS VIDEO & HEAR THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WAITING FOR MY KINGDOM SPOUSE. I STILL BELIEVE & TRUST YOU LORD IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN AMEN AMEN 👏❤💪💯
I love the transparency 😊
How he pulled that question out of her is amazing. ❤❤❤it
Not the answer I wanted to hear AND I needed to hear it! Thank you!
Wow! No one but God put this video on my timeline.
Her question to his response about ppl throwing the Jesus glitter is ALL ME.
Because God loves me and knows I was not going to talk to anyone about my frustration because of the Jesus glitter, he sent this video.
Her braveness HELPED so many women who are waiting on God to send their husband 🙌🏾🙏🏽💜
I was blessed and relieved by his response 😢🙌🏾 if I hear one more Jesus glitter response, IM going to SCREAM 🔊🔊
I can definitely relate and I can appreciate that he didn’t make up an answer for her and said I don’t have the answer to your question and I’m not going to fill in the blank if God didn’t already tell you.
I really needed to here this I'm so frustrated with alot tired of being alone. So thank you ❤
I feel that girl so much I know I'm young and only 19 but I desire a Godly relationship it's hard when everyone around me is dating and in Godly relationships and even engaged currently it's just difficult at times.
I was baptized for the first time March 17th. I’ve promised to practice discipline to build up my discernment. Last night was difficult because I’ve been pent up. Im so happy this clip was dropped! Perfect timing and I’ll definitely get into Psalms!
Astilynn girl I am excited for you! Yes the frustration gets REAL and you just want to scream to the top of your lungs! During this walk we really have to depend on God because we definitely can’t do it by ourselves. Girl I am cheering you on. If you have the desire to live for him that desire can happen!
I thank God that He moved on my wife to attend this night. I was blessed by the message that the Holy Spirit gave through Tim. Thank you Tim for being obedient and reading Psalm 77. That psalm hit home and got real personal for me. I almost got up to start running! Instead I reacted with a what you heard was a grunt. 😄 I have been going through and coming out for a few mounting years of frustration. God continues to show me that even in my troubles He remains the all that I need. To God be all the glory!!!!!!!!!!!
I know how she feels, I’m so happy I met my FAITH with Action & started positioning myself to be found. My husband found me, pursued me, proposed at 9 months & we’ll be married 2 years in two more days!God also blessed us with a beautiful boy who will be a year in May!🎉🩷💍🥰
How did you position yourself?
Im sick and tired of idiots acting like struggling with singleness is out of the ordinary. Like they are above that feeling. Only self righteous people who haven’t been single very much tend to brush over it as if people should just ‘get over it so easily.'
I feel this sister!!!! And I'm 52 yo. Thanks for saying sitting with our feelings with God....
Annnnd !!!!!!
Why have I never?
Heard your teachings before?
Annnnnnnd
Hallelujah today has been so amazing that I saw you Interviewing jackie hill perry and now this God is so good.🙌🏾🔥🎺
This is goooodddd. I love how her frustration question was turned to remember how good God Still Is.
Thank you. I almost skipped this bc singleness isnt my problem im frustrated about. And as a newer believer in a deep season of life, i started reading Job and then Psalms because they are saying all the things that I cant. And not only was this question what i have been struggling with the last few days, with anxiety waking me up and impacting everything I do, your response was the reassurance I needed that Im not the only one who feels this.
At this point I don't believe marriage is everyone portion. There are so many ready and willing women still unmarried
It isn't. Some people are called to singleness despite having the desire to marry. Not all of our desires are from the lord and not every desire he will fulfill as the word says our hearts are deceitful and wicked. Part of me wants to ask if I'll be married or not and if not I want God to remove the desire.
Yep
God said it not good for a man to be alone Gen 2:18 I believe God planted the desire in us for marriage coz that the only way to multiply His Godly Kingdom Gen 3:16 talks about this desire but the timing belongs to God we need to wait in Him as He teaches us how to handle ourselves in marriage for His purpose not for our selfish reasons...why did He create male and female if it not for marriage....the singleness comes in coz Paul talks about staying as you are bcoz he has seen what was happening some of us can't handle marriage coz we're not Spiritual grown we think it all about me while marriage is about us just like Christ Who came to serve not to be served....
I can relate AND I needed to hear that this morning AND I will be reading this scripture AND listening to this mssg again.
I am Human! Amen!
The scriptures doesn't tell to wait for Marriage but to choose and choose wisely. Incorrect teaching has cause many women to stay stuck. The other part is if men aren't seeking a wife or desire to be Married , then it will be a long time. I suggest getting out and live life to the full and be at peace.
Practical advice
Even the men are waiting instead of seeking 😂
@Maggs3 He who finds a Wife, finds a good thing. Do they desire or want to be Married? If yes, go out and seek a Wife. Again, you won't find a scripture that says "wait for Marriage" like you're in a waiting room, waiting for someone to come call you.🤷🏾♀️ It is a "Choice" not a commandment. Choose wisely and Marry well.
Thank you. I don’t know when waiting on the Lord like Father Christmas became a thing. A lot of people would do better to find and choose someone and get on with it. Also need to decouple purpose in Christ with purposeful marriage because lots of folk are waiting for b before they think they’re entitled to a.
Wow, that was really good and it was definitely something I needed to hear. I love his realness and mentioning of the psalms, I need to get to reading. God is so gracious and compassionate. He wants to hear our honest thoughts, expressed with respect to His sovereignty yes but Jesus experienced all that we go through and is not without the heart to understand our frustrations. Thank you sir!
Wow that is exactly how I feel. I'm ready to be chosen and nothing yet. Clearly the one I have chosen is not ready so I have to unchose him.
Thanks for the courage to ask this question sis I needed this 😅❤
Be honestly frustrated about what you ain't getting yet but is God's time and not your time.
As much as I understand her frustration there are times you ain't getting it yet because God knows you will choose out of desperation and pain instead of peace and preparation.
Amen sis, you'll get him one day!
He prays for you too!
What if the husband never comes? Sometimes it never happens, for whatever reason.
I feel you sis🙏🏽, I’ve been married once for over 10+ years…and for my 2nd time around🙏🏽 I vowed to do it Gods way…..My first and only divorce hurt badly so bad that I was SO READY to recommit to the Lord 🖐🏽🖐🏽
And doing it Gods way does not guarantee a happy outcome either. But we make it through. That’s life.
@@lollian2782 Gods way surely protects us from a lot of things. I’ve seen it for myself in my own life. Life is filled with of ups and downs and it will never be perfect here on earth.
Really needed to hear this thank you so much and to the young lady who asked the question, thanks for your honesty sis you certainly aren’t alone ❤️
been married at 20 yrs old and divorced within less than a yr during the marriag, so i lived a promiscuous lifestyle or sexual immortality afterwards, and guess what? im single still! for almost 2 yrs ive been celibate and im not frustrated at all, nor do i get the urge of craving a man. Im so glad God has allowed me not to feel the urge in wanting one so bad. I see women who feel sad and emotional over this, and im not judging them. I just hope that it doesn't become time-consuming and mentally exhausting to where u r ignoring your Calling on your life. God will provide. My advice is to pray against sexual dreams/lust and do your own deliverance prayers and not to allow yourself to think about craving a husband. If he comes, he'll just come
This blessed me!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!
I watched this video as I’m traveling cross country it’s about 2:30 in the morning and every woman has the same question. I just found it very interesting tht as you arrive to the end of your response that you had no answer I was literally crossing through Groom, Texas at the cross. it’s like a huge cross that you can view from the highway. synergy and confirmation
Amen woman
Her gift of vulnerability, is where I am. Lord help andddddddd I too am upset.
It's been 3 years of intense wilderness for me in this area. I voice my human experience with God and then remember His goodness. I've done this so many times. Venting is relieving until the heaviness settles on me again. It's so hard to go to bed at night with hope that tomorrow might be different only to go to bed the next night knowing it was just a repeat of yesterday. I will be turning 50 next month, and really wonder how long this will go on.
That frustration is apart of the development of your relationship with God. That's how you transition from an arranged marriage to falling in love. I deal with this as well. I tend to create a callus so that I can get over the problem but he wants to deal with it with you. All so you see the parts of his grace that you haven't seen before.
👏🏾 well said. I’ve lived this out recently
I love this response!
Being there was the best part! Glad they posted it!
I needed this. I be holding onto this “good attitude” like I’m trying to out my best foot forward and it looks like a smile on my face even when I’m not feeling like it but then at some point I’m just blah. I feel this rage from bottled up emotions that i didn’t know I had been suppressing and I hadn’t expressed it so then it comes off so bad after holding onto this mature and calm and poised version of myself when I really want to scream
Hey friend, I have been there. Don't give up. When we apply for jobs, we put in applications in and send out resumes. Put yourself out there and pray that God will guide you as you take steps in faith. But take steps...Exhaust every option, whether it's online and in-person. Do both, that's my only regret. I cared more about how I was supposed to meet my husband rather than exhausting every option God has given us. I met my husband online in 2020 during Covid. Your husband is out there.
Glad I came across this video, I felt that young lady's frustration. I'm in the same boat...
My response to the question is, "she must interrogate why she feels the desperate need to get married?". The Kingdom of God is about His will, let to allow marriage to be His directive not our demand. All the people that are referred to in marriage and stuff, none of them prayed for marriage. Let it be God who directs you to marriage if it is within His will for your life. Stay in the prayer room, fellowship with Him and He will give direction on each and every matter for your life.
This was so goood, grateful for her vulnerability
All I need to know is when is the B-side coming up north?!! I would love to sit in a live taping!!
Sometimes your soul just needs to cry out!!! Annnnd it’s not hallelujah! Whew!!! 🙌🏾
Remove the word but when you're standing in faith because it shows doubt. I also believe that you should put action with your faith! Purchase something for your future spouse in faith and make a space for him in your home while you're waiting for him in the natural!
Somethings need to be done when led by the Spirit of God, otherwise we waste our times and we will be resentful to God.
Lost my husband 8 years ago to homicide. I have been mostly alone. I fell in love again, but he turned out to be a cheater and a BEATER. Beat me severely. I wonder why, but I have no answers. Please pray for me that someday, God will bring me the man He chooses. TY.
Made me tear up. Mainly because I fully understand this😢 Aww Tim did well by pushing her to be brutally honest and vulnerable.
Necessary chat even if it pertains something other than that.
I see that you’re a God loving person. He is faithful to bring your man.Hang in there my sister,keep loving your God and worship Him!!
Where can I watch the full video? I really LOVE the way Pt. Tim is discussing topics!
@chebet125 Thanks a bunch
Also, not to feed into delulu land, but you may find your husband when you LEAST expect it. But right now, just focus on God and your relationship with Him. He’s working in the midst, and sometimes we might not always understand His plans, but it’s alllllllllways right at the end of the day 🙏🏾‼️✝️
This is excellent advice on honest prayer Mr. Ross. Thank you 🙏🏽
Loved her vulnerability. Love Tim.
28 years old and I’m tired of waiting. I’ve been single all my life. Tired of crying. Just tired.
You’re still soooo young! Get out and live life, it’s very short. Travel, see the world, work out and try new activities and clubs/groups! Find your happinesses within yourself.
This is what I’ve learned. Not only pray, but move, and be still and know that He is God at the same time. Don’t expect something to happen right away when you move. Stay planted. Be consistent and Trust the Lord. God is good. He is also sovereign. If He’s not giving it to you now, it’s for a good reason. He’s protecting you, or there is something else for you to learn. But don’t let that stop you from putting yourself out there at the same time. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Repeat that to yourself. He knows the plans He has for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and future. Jeremiah 29:11. Live a righteous and pure life first and foremost. The same God who created sex, created purity. Matthew 6:33. Be pure outside of marriage and pure inside of marriage. It will give you quicker results. Purity is of body and of the heart. You can be physically puree, but have an impure heart. God did not create you with a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and self-control. Have self control in all areas of your life, it will speed up the process. By speed up, I mean you will be on time and not delayed. Don’t get weary in doing good bc at just the right time you will get a harvest. Stay planted. Serve at church consistently, go to small groups, get involved. Meet people and spark small talk to make new friends. Life is about connection. It will heal your heart
💯 Thank you for this timely post. 😱
This blessed me!
YESSSS! In the almighty Jesus Amen! That part letting your soul cry out.
Are any of you following scripture, praying, fasting and seeking God's heart? Or are you seeking an answer from man?
ASAP...once we realize NOT EVERY person wiĺl get married & embrace singlehood, life would be alot more fulfilling. The world is FULL of unsuccessful unions because ppl REFUSE to embrace "A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE" as a single. God's grace is sufficient in ALL areas of life. Marriage is NOT NECESSARY & SHOULD NOT be our goal.
I agree however, if you want biological children marriage is necessary.
@nappyqueen86 well then now you have to come to terms with maybe kids aren't in the cards for you. Kids or marriage. Those are things we can't control.
@@nappyqueen86 Having kids isnt necessary. So many kids in the foster care system. "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being"
What do I do with my desire for kids when the clock is ticking
Good question! Sarah became a mother at 90 years old. GOD promised Abraham that she would be a mother of all nations.
But in your case let's hope you won't have kids at 90. Hopefully you will have them much earlier than that even though you feel the clock is ticking. Keep your faith alive. Don't Stop believing GOD for your spouse. You might even meet him tomorrow or maybe next month. Keep believing and trusting GOD. His timing is not ours. ✌🏽
@@DJ_Ndiks having children out of wedlock might be the option for me which is unfortunate cos it will have me cut of from the church and isolated but I literally have friends who can’t have kids now cos they waited for a godly man all their life and he never came
I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, it may not be God's plan for you. Thankfully, He removed my desire for kids, but He never removed my desire for a husband. I got married at 34. And here I am at 39, single again. My husband turned out to be a narcissist. I've given up on finding love. And I don't think I will ever truly be happy. Honestly, what gives me solace is knowing that the world will end soon.
@PoSHEmediaglobal Girl, DO NOT have kids out of wedlock. Before I wasn't living for God ( still not perfect no) I didn't care if I had kids or not but now that I have 2 it's so important you have a support system beyond family. Also when the baby comes peoples true colors show my mom became more toxic qnd my kids dad proved to be incompetent and a deadbeat( no he had no prior kids so there was no way to know until I had our child) The struggle to pay my bills, keep a roof over me and my kids head and try to go to nursing school ( still debating) is so intense it's literally driving me insane. So please take this as a warning -- don't. .please don't. When you have kids out of wedlock you're on your own even with child support they can pay when they want and it'll take forever to have their checks garnished. It's a struggle when it's out of wedlock my friend married a good man she's a sahm and is able to vacation and be home with her baby and not have to worry. This is how it should be. Being a mom out of wedlock is a struggle I don't wish on anyone.
@@Kontroversial84Damn you post got really eerie and depressing twds the end.
This is how I feel.
Some of us have to reconcile the fact that we may never receive our hearts desires on this side of eternity
It’s a choice. We have been given full authority
Facts!!
Bingo..
God says in His word He gives us the desires of our hearts. He wouldn’t give you that the desire for nothing, especially if it’s in line with the word.
I don’t agree. If you have the desire and the word says it, you will certainly have it. One of the biggest things I had to gain revelation in was my mouth. Words create realms. What are we saying in and out of our prayer closet. ?? The spiritual realm is more alive than this natural what are we speaking? Do you know we could be so close? Yes hope deferred makes the heart sick, but I believe that we can defer to a higher place of faith for what we desire.
This is so helpful 🙏🏾
There was ALOT not said but I really appreciate as what was said regarding being honest. The word that was not said was transparent. Alot of people in the body ain't. Ofcourse, keeping it at 'it is a journey.' Psalms yeah man. Jesus said some stuff too lol
We gata pray for the body. Last note - everyone ain't in the same specific type season - that was missed.
I needed more of this
“Everyday ain’t good…God is good… all the time, but not my life”
No answer..💯
Sighs..
I can relate to this woman!
Whew!!
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I am beyond tired, weary, frustrated and heavy with my prolonged season of singleness.
I have no peace nor happiness.
I think it may be time for me to accept that I will never get married and that is not what God has for me. No matter how much I hope, wish, pray, believe in faith, try to get me together. Love has never located me and I'm starting to question my worth and also I just may be a woman who is destined for singleness no matter how much I desire it.
It's very frustrating and my heart is so broken and hardened against myself and at God.
I don't want to be like this tho!
I gotta move on and life my life even without a spouse or kids
I UNDERSTAND! I’m like Lord what else do I have to do, what else do I need to learn. Why all the false starts? Someone comes into my life and just as quick as they come they leave! I’m a single mother, have been her entire 15 years of life. I’ve desired marriage for the wrong reasons initially, but then as I began to learn more about Gods intention for marriage my reasons changed and aligned with Gods. So I’m like Lord I literally want what you want! I feel I’ve made marriage an idol and im asking God to help me want the gift giver more than the gift bc perhaps marriage is not my portion.
@brittaneiwayne4519 DON'T Give Up GOD Will answer your prayers and fulfills your hearts desire especially if your heart's desire aligns with His words. Consintrate on building yourself up in all other areas of your life. When you least expect it GOD will bring your husband to you.
Same I am struggling and frustrated with this. Been single for far too long!
AND SOMETIMES ITS NOT HALLELUJAH
Man, Tim, U are a sho'nuff Voice to/for the Masses! Love U Brotha!😏😌
Right on tone
God brought to me someone I did not pray for, and it has been very painful because what He gave me is not what I would consider the best and I feel so crushed. I started to wonder if this is what it means to live in His will instead of my will. To allow His will through my life for something He wants to use my marriage for that I would not have wanted. Only time will tell why He gave me a Gomer and not a Man of God who is principled.
This was good ❤️my depression medication is NOT working im tired of being single.. a single mom at that. Sometimes I just wonder has God forgot about me.
God hasn't forgotten about you. He loves you and always will. You may need to switch medication or dosage. Speak to a psychiatric nurse.
This is why I've grown to believe God is unfair and cruel. He gives us desires, tells us to ask in faith , and then we wait for months or years, and still somehow, we're left to suffer and can still be denied help. God picks and chooses whom he's good to.
Aww I just love time ross- such a gentle spirit
@@tlcore007 thank you
@@BreaStevens My pleasure! What's your instagram?
That was Beautiful! ❤🕊️🙏