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  • @RebeccaZungEsq
    @RebeccaZungEsq  2 роки тому +43

    Want to learn more about the narcissists' weak spots and about how you can beat them? Come join me on my free webinar, the 3 MUST HAVE Secrets to Communicating with Narcissists right here: www.rebeccazung.com/live

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  2 роки тому +10

      I'll be there for you!

    • @marywillett7560
      @marywillett7560 2 роки тому +6

      Dementors

    • @HopeEducationServices
      @HopeEducationServices 2 роки тому +3

      I keep singing up for this because i loved learning from you last weekend and I cannot seem to get on!

    • @hominidaetheodosia
      @hominidaetheodosia 2 роки тому +7

      She has isolated me, made me homeless and is trying to abuse the system to kill me- please help, I have disability’s I register myself as vulnerable but the system is ignoring me. I’m in the UK but I’m messaging you because no one else’s videos seem to even come close..

    • @julietcrowson3503
      @julietcrowson3503 2 роки тому +3

      @@hominidaetheodosia do you have an advocate? mental health advocate or good friend...if it's domestic abuse, then that's a crime and for the police to help you. Don't let her have everything - you need to survive too and do well. She needs therapy too. We all need to have therapy.
      You're not alone Remember this and that people do get through these difficult days if trauma, being bullied etc.
      God helps me. Plan your recovery.

  • @yukio_saito
    @yukio_saito 2 роки тому +418

    01:04 1. They are greedy
    03:00 2. They are jealous
    04:15 3. They just don't see other people's points of view
    05:46 4. They cannot take criticism at all of any kind
    06:50 5. They are just paranoid
    07:51 6. They're liars

    • @kassha49
      @kassha49 2 роки тому +21

      That about sums it up 🤔👍🏾

    • @yomofoindahouse
      @yomofoindahouse 2 роки тому +11

      Totally.

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 2 роки тому +31

      ​@@yomofoindahouse True. However, it's a paradox because narcissists believe that these characteristics help them maintain their fake self. Narcs see them as assets, not flaws, that enable their fictitious persona to live, develop, and prosper in their bizarre world of manipulation and exploitation.

    • @caseteamcouture8633
      @caseteamcouture8633 2 роки тому +7

      Spot on!!!

    • @lindamaxwell9120
      @lindamaxwell9120 2 роки тому +6

      Yep-good summation!

  • @azaramoon4027
    @azaramoon4027 2 роки тому +242

    I sometimes feel sad that Ive had to spend so much of my life, wasted on narcissists.

    • @cheryallenjenkins9800
      @cheryallenjenkins9800 2 роки тому +15

      I hear you,although, its time to move on to a healthier relationship, with yourself

    • @cindieann6365
      @cindieann6365 2 роки тому +9

      Me too. 🙏

    • @cindieann6365
      @cindieann6365 2 роки тому +5

      @@cheryallenjenkins9800 Yes true 🙏

    • @beckymedvetz228
      @beckymedvetz228 2 роки тому +6

      So true

    • @geraldineekhator5428
      @geraldineekhator5428 2 роки тому +13

      Well I was brought up to believe that it may seem like you have wasted your time and life on them but it brings you strength of character and closer to God.

  • @back2thebasicsx
    @back2thebasicsx 2 роки тому +157

    Words and actions don’t match. Another weakness 🧐

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +6

      They are “the opposite man” doing the best & most opposite that they can, they’re the opposite man! LOL

    • @caseteamcouture8633
      @caseteamcouture8633 2 роки тому +2

      Giiiiiiirrrllllll PREACH!!!!!!!

    • @tlove6932
      @tlove6932 2 роки тому

      Definitely.

    • @nothril
      @nothril 2 роки тому +5

      It's called a lie🤭

    • @marendagholson670
      @marendagholson670 Рік тому +2

      Yes they lie and believe it themselves!

  • @ericadraper7472
    @ericadraper7472 2 роки тому +13

    1.Greedy
    2. Jealous
    3.don't see others points of view
    4.cant take criticism
    5.paranoid
    6.Liars
    And they are soul suckers

  • @marissacotton1127
    @marissacotton1127 Рік тому +29

    Facts!!!! Can NEVER take criticism but got the damn nerve to be super judgmental and giving out criticism to ppl around them ESPECIALLY the “target” they’re feeding off of!!!💯

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @johnlawyer1138
    @johnlawyer1138 2 роки тому +17

    Narcissists have huge ups and downs. When they feel they're winning they press their luck and bully. When they feel pressure they act out of fear and win take any deal even a bad one. They later try to change the deal. No deal is honored.

  • @pammysk302
    @pammysk302 2 роки тому +62

    Such liars, nothing they won’t lie about! Thanks for this

  • @bernitacenteno1326
    @bernitacenteno1326 2 роки тому +40

    " A narcissist is at their worst right before they are ready to give up. " said Attorney R.

  • @steveorick2271
    @steveorick2271 2 роки тому +6

    Smartest thing you can do is if possible is to never have anything ever to do with them and ignore them like they are non existent.theres too many good people out there to have anything to do with them

  • @christinehaberern9253
    @christinehaberern9253 2 роки тому +71

    Energy vampires..soul suckers. Longest divorce negotiation in history!!!! Patience is a virtue✊✌️💞🙌🦋

    • @dilciaenid57
      @dilciaenid57 2 роки тому +1

      I’m praying for my safe and final exit 🙏🏼

  • @donnarella1
    @donnarella1 2 роки тому +96

    I would have no problem disconnecting from a narcissist in my life but when it’s a family member it’s very tough.

    • @cindieann6365
      @cindieann6365 2 роки тому +1

      Yes true it tough🙏

    • @balancedplans3007
      @balancedplans3007 2 роки тому +6

      Yes it’s tough but not impossible

    • @deborahclarke1751
      @deborahclarke1751 2 роки тому +1

      Very true. My adopted son is a Narcissist.

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 2 роки тому +6

      You can think about losing them in the same way you would a loved one to a catastrophic disease. Unfortunately, humans die, and narcs are dead inside in many ways - and there's absolutely nothing we can do about it but let them go and move on with our lives, finding joy in wholesome and rewarding ways.

    • @jacquelynallen488
      @jacquelynallen488 2 роки тому

      I like your perspective. What if the person had undiagnosed Aspergers? Would you change anything in the relationship if you knew about it?

  • @mortalfairytale3184
    @mortalfairytale3184 2 роки тому +30

    Compliments, stroking their ego, this is a weakness and they will be putty in your hands.

  • @jeremyjjet4909
    @jeremyjjet4909 2 роки тому +18

    That’s a huge week spot to anyone that wants to evolve. They will never grow

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +2

      Yes but only we know they don’t grow/change. they don’t know & they don’t care

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 2 роки тому +38

    It was/is greed, money, telling lies, control, jealousy of "others", or subjugation in no particular order....😱

  • @sunrisemiller2319
    @sunrisemiller2319 2 роки тому +12

    This is so true. Some call them vampires. The worst things are that they have not enough empathy. That makes them extremely egocentric.
    If you want to talk to them it's impossible. You can't improve any relationship with them. Because they never listen to you. Any advice or even a question is taken as criticism. And they do not allow any criticism because they strongly believe that they are perfect so no improvement necessary for them. But they punish you for anything they perceive as criticism. Very they twist fact to blame you for things they did wrong. And also they lie often and hide informations as a daily habit. Maybe they want to train lying as much as possible to become really good in it.
    You have to stay really close to your own beliefs and values without discussing it with them. And you have to set boundaries for them. If you learn it you become a stronger person.
    Best wishes to you.

  • @tad1111
    @tad1111 2 роки тому +25

    It's kind of sad when you know all these things about them and you sit back and watch them. How paranoid they are and how jealous they are and they're mentally ill, but you can't help them and they don't want to be helped, and the way they act they make you hate their guts. There's nothing you can do about it except be aware of them and don't play into their games.

    • @lucybraun8969
      @lucybraun8969 Рік тому

      Yes, it's super important to stand firm in the knowledge that you can't help them. They actually have developed brain chemistry that prevents them from changing.

    • @Bommi09
      @Bommi09 Рік тому +1

      I agree totally! I used to think that they want help, that they can learn and change, and that I could offer them the help and support to change, but uh uh 🙄 they are incapable of any good 😌. It is terrible when the narcs are part of the family 😿

    • @lucybraun8969
      @lucybraun8969 Рік тому +1

      @@Bommi09 It's a nightmare when they are family. My narc brother bullied my mom into becoming trustee of her estate!

    • @tonyalynne3380
      @tonyalynne3380 Рік тому +1

      This really is a great comment! 🎉 I absolutely agree. Watching them at work is disgusting.

    • @tad1111
      @tad1111 Рік тому +2

      @@tonyalynne3380 It's very frustrating, you can't do anything about them. Except don't react to thier crazy things they do and say.

  • @larissabrewington9065
    @larissabrewington9065 2 роки тому +15

    They Talk In Circles Because They Are Disorganized - "That's not what I meant" "That's not what I said." That's a weakness because it means that they have no strategy. You can completely ruin them (especially if they're a co worker or someone you need to track your time with) if you document every disruptive, abusive incident you have with them. When or if you need to talk to a supervisor or someone 'in charge', you will have back up and they won't, because they're DISORGANIZED people.

  • @sheilaamunez8768
    @sheilaamunez8768 2 роки тому +13

    I am not surprised that they are too paranoid of their surroundings because this all goes back to them being untrustworthy, even to their own selves! So sad that they have lost their minds.

  • @beccapears7573
    @beccapears7573 2 роки тому +50

    Hey Rebecca, the biggest weakness they have is they know everything. Ask um...they'll tell you. In negotiations of any kind it is their downfall.

    • @nataliatorkhova8793
      @nataliatorkhova8793 2 роки тому +6

      Is not about that.
      I think they just talk it.
      In fact they are very limited in life understanding and situations.
      But they are good at talking and harass you verbally.
      They know they are dumb believe me.
      They understand this drawback.
      They just act it out.

    • @Radar1zmgkz
      @Radar1zmgkz Рік тому

      Agreed. They are an expert about any subject and will let you know it without regarding your talent or expertise.

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 2 роки тому +156

    Other weak spots: They can't stand to be alone for a lengthy time. They are perfectionists toward others, which can make their fly monkeys bail on them. They assume nobody's going to do their due diligence on them. The only tool they have for covering their tracks is smoke and mirrors. In a court setting, they let their track records become public records. They are insecure about their appearance, and come up with phony looks to hide their imperfections. Their smiles rarely look genuine if you look closely at them in photos; there's a certain stiffness to them. They let their mistreatment of others get caught in photos and on audio. They have tantrums, sometimes even in front of several people. They can overindulge themselves with money, getting themselves into financial hot water. They count too much on their charm to get themselves through with people who aren't easily charmed. They can overdo the victim role to where others tire of it. Their incessant need to be put on a pedestal comes to be seen as immature over time, so they often have to sever ties with those who come to see through them. The more of the opposite sex they go through, the less respect they garner.

    • @mellie1022
      @mellie1022 2 роки тому +18

      My husband is like this. Always do everything for others. Any project, electrical, plumbing, whatever, he'll get it done for anyone else even someone he just met because he loves praises from people. BUT at home I can't get him to clean his own garage or pick.up his tools off the floor. The garage has been a mess for ever and everytime I clean and organize it he trashes it the next day "claiming to look for something". He hates when I get something done or create something, like a bar I made out of an amoir. He'd rather something not get done than for me to do it because then if someone asks about it he can't take credit. He loves to take credit for things that I start and didn't need his help. He constantly needs to be told he is doing a good job. He tears me down so he won't look as bad. Soul sucking for sure

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +9

      @@mellie1022 please protect yourself. Once you see them for what they are, you will be discarded in the meanest, most inhumane ways. Some of narcs are capable of extreme rage and harm to anyone who dares to leave them. You may be shocked how vengeful he may suddenly become. Make a plan. Get out swiftly, secretly & safely. Don’t wait. They do not change for the better. If you have children, get them out ASAP to a safe place. I had no idea what drama would unfold. I would not have believed it.

    • @randydavis7718
      @randydavis7718 2 роки тому +4

      Lucky has a very insightful response.

    • @peterknyk1942
      @peterknyk1942 2 роки тому +4

      @@mellie1022 Yup! They criticize your accomplishments or over analyze them or want to change everything about them thinking that you will really appreciate their input! What a drag!

    • @peterknyk1942
      @peterknyk1942 2 роки тому +8

      @Lucy Braun their photos reveal just who they are....

  • @andrescosetti927
    @andrescosetti927 2 роки тому +73

    Vanity and public image is the other big weakness. Attacking their image and exposing them for the frauds they are seems to hit home. In the middle of a divorce from one…

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +3

      I wish you peace and joy. They will become some of your most cherished freedoms on the other side.

    • @sandywichmann9292
      @sandywichmann9292 2 роки тому +1

      So am I, divorcing that POS. Unfortunately, the laws in my country are rather on his side.. Good luck to you!

    • @andreaslandgren1472
      @andreaslandgren1472 2 роки тому

      Good strategy

    • @PrettyToez07
      @PrettyToez07 2 роки тому +2

      Yes, agree. Their shortcomings are a weakness as well. Poking fun at or exposing their failures will cause an injury.

    • @joannhamilton5109
      @joannhamilton5109 2 роки тому +3

      Absolutely all about public image. And soul suckers!

  • @_savesoil4200
    @_savesoil4200 2 роки тому +13

    Narcissists enter in your life because there is lack of self love and self respect. They use your weaknesses against you. Do Louise Hay's exercise daily, which means whenever you see yourself in the mirror say to yourself "I love you", be soft, gentle, forgiving, respectful and kind with yourself. Treat yourself as you treat your child. And never allow anyone to put you down. Good luck. Much love to all of you. 💖 🙏

  • @susannahschannel6643
    @susannahschannel6643 2 роки тому +92

    Totally soul-sucking liars who only want what someone else has ... until they get it then it's on to the next victim/possession/objectified person.

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 2 роки тому +3

      They lie for a variety of reasons, one of which is that the truth isn't good enough for them. Lying feeds their grandiosity because it allows them to remake reality in ways that correspond to their grandiose expectations of the events that shape their lives as well as caters to their sense of entitlement. Simply put, their denials of reality prove that they are unique individuals. The truth is for the regular Joe, not for the high and mighty narcissist, according to them.

    • @carolnahigian9518
      @carolnahigian9518 2 роки тому +3

      my Ciusin Windy will CREATE A SCENE at a birthday- Shower or funeral-- you WILL KNOW SHE IS THERE! OR Else!!

    • @andreaslandgren1472
      @andreaslandgren1472 2 роки тому

      Aint it the truth

    • @jolly7728
      @jolly7728 2 роки тому

      The soul-sucking world you describe is as real for the narcissist as the rational world we normal people live in. From the narc's perspective, there's nothing fake about them. They believe they are "normal" and we are freaks and thus deserve to have our souls sucked out of us. Push back hard and don't give them your best self ever. ASAP completely escape from them, which should be our end end, and be confident and wise about restarting the next positive chapter of your life.

  • @Grrrroar44
    @Grrrroar44 2 роки тому +143

    Total soul suckers! You’re putting out really important helpful work Rebecca. Thank you so much for doin what your doin! 🙏

    • @tinawashnieski2715
      @tinawashnieski2715 2 роки тому +5

      Mega soul suckers!!!!

    • @Zeitgeistmusic997
      @Zeitgeistmusic997 2 роки тому

      There's no way to suck a soul. That's a very ignorant statement. You're either born with a soul or you're not born with one. It's like putting cake mix in the over and forgetting the eggs. After it's done baking you can't go back and add what was missed

    • @tamarafox429
      @tamarafox429 2 роки тому +2

      Wow ..thank you for the wisdom

    • @priscilla.colburn444
      @priscilla.colburn444 2 роки тому +2

      @@Zeitgeistmusic997 A SOUL SUCKER is a NARC that is jealous of JESUS.
      A NARC wants WHAT YOU HAVE GIVEN YOUR ALLEGIANCE TO.

    • @diane-monaloucks8505
      @diane-monaloucks8505 2 роки тому +1

      Helpful and great work

  • @underdogrescueofflorida2313
    @underdogrescueofflorida2313 2 роки тому +13

    When frightened and drained it is difficult to know how to use weapons of negotiation. All one wants is to flee.
    I learned to simply think this is a BULLY and bullies fall apart when confronted that they will be exposed as one

    • @kkelly7313
      @kkelly7313 2 роки тому +3

      Look after yourself ❤

  • @melissahoffman1506
    @melissahoffman1506 2 роки тому +17

    I’ve been completely drained by a couple of narcs in the past but never again! Soul suckers is right. Tyvm

  • @lindamaxwell9120
    @lindamaxwell9120 2 роки тому +7

    Soul suckers freak out when they hear me laugh on the phone or with a server or child-as if to say how dare I enjoy life outside of their narrow narcissism? Keep sharing and caring! ❤️❤️❤️🌼🌸🌺

  • @kkelly7313
    @kkelly7313 2 роки тому +14

    Emotional vampires!!
    The narcissist that I had a relationship with years ago ended up becoming a lawyer, so he felt like he had all the power. Deep down he was such an insecure coward.

    • @lindamaxwell9120
      @lindamaxwell9120 2 роки тому +2

      Husband #2 was a lawyer and he made sure everyone knew it and what “big” cases he was handling! I did use it against him one night when, in the middle of a rant, I asked my 8-year-old daughter to call 911 and tell them her stepdad won’t let her go to sleep. That threat silenced him. Divorce soon followed and I was able to get off ant-depressants immediately! 💊

  • @WildStar2002
    @WildStar2002 2 роки тому +20

    Complete soul-suckers! Emotional black-holes! Thank you so much Rebecca for putting all these excellent videos out for us! So helpful!

  • @crusherone628
    @crusherone628 2 роки тому +6

    You nailed it Rebecca. I would add that their arrogance, sense of invincibility is a huge weak spot too. That may lump into your six things already. The more I figured out my spouses patterns, the more brazen and obvious it was. In my case, the longer it went, the more bolden my spouse became due to the attitude of being untouchable. Currently going through a divorce after 21 years. My spouse took our kids on vacation out of state for 15 days (currently there) with no communication with me on whereabouts etc. Divorce cooling off period is up in 5 weeks. I filed 40 days ago and no response to my terms as of yet. And proven infidelity going on while there. I am staying calm, cool and letting my attorney handle it. I just keep telling myself you have to get through darkness to see the sunrise. You are awesome Rebecca!

  • @harperlewis1526
    @harperlewis1526 2 роки тому +30

    Rebecca NAILED it on this one: all 6, 100%!!

  • @pjf3837
    @pjf3837 2 роки тому +49

    Soul sucker. They could be justifiably paranoid in some instances because they may have made quite a few enemies.

    • @tanyad3052
      @tanyad3052 2 роки тому +6

      In my opinion paranoid isnt even the word I dont know what the word is but ive been dealing with it 10 years and its like somehow he gets things in his mind and believes his own lies..

    • @Ravenheart_
      @Ravenheart_ 2 роки тому +4

      @@tanyad3052 The word is delusional, and it's super common with cluster B personality disorders. They very honestly believe their own lies, especially after some time has passed since they first told the lie. This even happens with lies they tell themselves, and have never told aloud to anyone else. After a while, they will remember it as historical fact.

  • @randydavis7718
    @randydavis7718 2 роки тому +15

    Emotional Vampires! !! Another Excellent Video Rebecca.

  • @celesterahma7591
    @celesterahma7591 2 роки тому +18

    Soul Suckers to the extreme, thank you for your wisdom.

  • @tamorajones7146
    @tamorajones7146 Місяць тому

    That tone hearing is absolutely correct. You ain’t have to say it like that. I know when somebody’s calling me a liar? Like what?

  • @funnyman8459
    @funnyman8459 2 роки тому +5

    Seems like my narcissist is never content. Nothing is ever enough enough for them and then when I point it out the defensive angry wall comes up. Sad how greedy they are and also how blind to it. I guess it comes down to entitlement.

    • @joannhamilton5109
      @joannhamilton5109 2 роки тому +1

      Yes!!!!! Entitlement sums up a huge flaw of theirs!!!

  • @catlady6938
    @catlady6938 2 роки тому +7

    My ex had a terrible memory, so I was always catching him out on his lies. Yep they are soul suckers, energy vampires.

  • @coggsy100
    @coggsy100 2 роки тому +26

    Absolute soul suckers...Great points Rebecca, I got 3 yups, and 3 f#%* ya’s! This was one of your videos where I said , “God ya!”. I had a breakthrough thanks to you when I was able to be the third person and stay totally calm while they flipped out. Thank you so much!

  • @user-lu3wg9ch8y
    @user-lu3wg9ch8y 7 місяців тому

    Dr.Zung, Myself I have delt with a Narcissist for 61 years. I experienced EVERY form of Narcissist, abuse of EVERY form also. I HAVE finally had enough! And YOU know exactly what I mean. So last night ( and you and I do also). somehow Phil Collins music video showed up on my screen. I can't stop listening to it!! I implore you to listen to it. Hear every word. You'll know what I mean when you listen.

  • @LiLiperspectives4me
    @LiLiperspectives4me 2 роки тому +6

    This is so true, my husband don’t accept no advice for the good you can’t play with them easily offended

  • @goldilocks3593
    @goldilocks3593 2 роки тому +31

    The only real weakness I could detect (although yes, these are all weaknesses) in the high functioning psychopathic narcissist I knew professionally was that he NEEDS that professional mask to maintain supply. That is definitely major leverage if used strategically.

    • @treytucker5619
      @treytucker5619 2 роки тому

      Professional mask like being a doctor?

    • @treytucker5619
      @treytucker5619 2 роки тому

      I’m greedy kinda

    • @treytucker5619
      @treytucker5619 2 роки тому

      I am not really jealous 🤔

    • @treytucker5619
      @treytucker5619 2 роки тому

      I miss 50% of others point of view. It’s hard sometimes

    • @treytucker5619
      @treytucker5619 2 роки тому

      Critics are helpful a lot of the time. I’m starting to think I’m not a narcissist.

  • @markpavlakovich3019
    @markpavlakovich3019 2 роки тому +4

    They are also self qualifying experts on anything they need be in the moment. You'll need a counter, ready for this....they'll pull this move in every conversation. They don't need facts, they make up all the facts they need.

    • @collectivemindsunique7945
      @collectivemindsunique7945 Рік тому

      Yep, this one ☝️ here is so true and frustrating. Feelings and delusions are facts

  • @Texaslonestargal
    @Texaslonestargal 2 роки тому +24

    Dear Rebecca, I want to let you know how much I appreciate the knowledge that you have to impart for those of us who are facing court with a narcissist. I respect you so much. Please keep your videos coming as they are helping untold numbers of people understand what we are facing and how to best prepare for the upcoming battle for freedom and justice. I wish you Godspeed and continued success in all you do. Thank you and God bless you. ❤️

  • @psychoshamrock
    @psychoshamrock 2 роки тому +4

    I'd like to add not only lies outright that physically come out of their mouths, but they LOVE to lie by omission. They will conveniently "forget" to say something, do something, or tell you something critical to a situation just to maintain superiority and power. It comes off as petty, catty, "mean girls" tactics, but it's true. I'm currently dealing with 2, waaaay past their 50s, and they could be sitting in a high school cafeteria with the sh*t they're pulling right now. Childish and meant to throw you off your true path. They literally are the perfect liars.

  • @angelamiller9112
    @angelamiller9112 2 роки тому +8

    I have been watching alot of your videos lately , and omg can I say after being in a relationship for 23 years I never could figure out what was the problem. I literally am sad to know this , he is literally everything you say and I get it now ! Soul suckers is the best way to explain them . The sad thing is they get worse as they get older .

  • @simoner615
    @simoner615 2 роки тому +4

    Yes, they do suck the energy out of you. Thanks to people like you I realise I'm not alone or crazy.Thank you so much.

  • @billde12
    @billde12 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for the information. I have a daughter with a narc. Been in legal battles ever since. This person sucked the life and money out of me

  • @sonjabryant2567
    @sonjabryant2567 2 роки тому +2

    And everything is all about them never no one else.

  • @sousababyonSquidoo
    @sousababyonSquidoo 2 роки тому +3

    Yes, they are soul-suckers. And, they don't know when to stop, especially if they're greedy (or feeding some addiction). Thank you so much, Rebecca! You have helped MANY ppl.

  • @tonyscoffeehouse
    @tonyscoffeehouse 2 роки тому +9

    ty' so much for the advice on dealing with those, "soul suckers"

  • @PhiliciaHall
    @PhiliciaHall Рік тому +1

    I got a narcissistic person as a Forman. He hits on all of the signs. I called him out on more then a few of his lies and he got aggressive, wanting to fight.

  • @Bootchie2023
    @Bootchie2023 2 роки тому +1

    Soul suckers! Inside & out!! Once you see the narc's weaknesses, you can't unsee it, not will you ever respect, regard them with anything but contempt, animosity and hostility.

  • @quantumpotential7639
    @quantumpotential7639 2 роки тому +15

    Just say NO to energy and soul sucking vampires. Let us pray 🙏. Thanks

  • @nicolasenikxy6306
    @nicolasenikxy6306 2 роки тому +7

    This is my ex completely!!!!! Silly little lies for no reason and when I call him out he twists with more lies or that I heard it wrong! Do they lie to others or just their partners/ex partners?
    I sing 🎶 Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies when he’s around!
    He used to hate (still does) when I liked a different car someone else was driving. His car was apparently the best 😂
    He’s even jealous of kids!

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +3

      They lie constantly. To everyone, including themselves. To add some variety & plausible deniability they lace in some tiny bits of truth. When they get caught, they point to the tiny truths to distract others from all their enormous lies.

    • @nicolasenikxy6306
      @nicolasenikxy6306 2 роки тому

      @@ajbunches825 Completely right there!

    • @andreaslandgren1472
      @andreaslandgren1472 2 роки тому

      Sounds horrible

  • @randystache78
    @randystache78 2 роки тому +2

    My court date was today. 16 years trying to please someone who doesn't even know how to make themself happy. Sad day, but im feeling that weight lifting already.

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +1

      Sending a prayer your way. Those days were hard but it gets so much better. Two things helped me more than anything else: gratitude and prayer. If you are creative, make something. Preferably something she wouldn’t approve of. LOL

  • @R.H.S.U
    @R.H.S.U 2 роки тому +1

    Their greatest weaks spot is shown when you self develop, they just dont know what to say, how to react without exposing their jealousy, and when you become that confident they also know you'll destroy them with your words

  • @sandyrudy9846
    @sandyrudy9846 2 роки тому +27

    would you consider making a video about narcissism in teenagers/children? i’m 16 and have had a lot of trouble with a best friend of mine for quite a while, and she has shown a lot of the narcissistic behaviours that you’ve described in your videos like love bombing, devaluing, discarding and as well as explaining away things she has done with plausible deniability. i’m finding that the more i learn from your videos, the more i am beginning to recognise these traits in a lot of people my age 🤷🏿‍♀️💗

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +7

      You are so far ahead of the game since you are learning early! If you see a lot of strong narcissistic behaviors, you’ve got to start moving yourself away. If you don’t allow yourself to be a high-value source of supply, your friend will vanish but you may experience the hurtful devaluation and discard on the way out. Save yourself that pain. People often say things like you shouldn’t judge others. In this case, they’ve judged you-as an ego filling supply for them. Just be less available. Learn what they value as a supply & stop doing it. You won’t have to leave & they may replace you which will lessen their devaluation & discard.

    • @kirabarsmith9353
      @kirabarsmith9353 2 роки тому +3

      Get away and NEVER go back to that which didn't work.

    • @christymckee8133
      @christymckee8133 2 роки тому +6

      Well, teenagers, y'all are somewhat inherantly narcissistic because of your age and life experience. Good for you for educating yourself though. Worry about you. Set your own boundaries. If anyone youre in any kind of relationship with crosses your boundaries then you know who to hold close and who to keep at more of a distance. Be true to you and know its not ever any of your business what another thinks about you. Theres givers and takers in this world and a taker can sense a giver like a shark senses a drop of blood in the ocean. People who dont take accountability for their actions are takers, though theyll try giving their bs to anyone willing to take it...

  • @anonlarson2875
    @anonlarson2875 6 місяців тому

    My Alcoholic sister! When she said greed, I knew it! Bad mouths our only other sibling that died in 2019 (she cleaned out our parents home and gave everything to her children) while buddying up to her family to bash me for my sins. She lives in a $500,000 house that they paid in full w cash.

  • @balancedplans3007
    @balancedplans3007 2 роки тому +3

    Dynamic shifted! 💪

  • @mellie1022
    @mellie1022 2 роки тому +3

    Soul sucker for sure!!! And the TONE thing..omg everything I say has a tone. I speak slow and low and calm now when dealing with him. He still finds a tone.

  • @brooke5395
    @brooke5395 2 роки тому +8

    I made a shirt and sell it in my store on ebay... it says "Don't flip the script. Burn it and write a new one."

  • @claude7122
    @claude7122 2 роки тому +2

    "Soul suckers"
    This is so true for the 6 weaknesses I can see it everytime I meet this narcissist.
    *** Another weakness I have seen is that they turn around and leave in the middle of a conversation if they don't win the argument or it's not something they agree on.***
    and comes back on the subject via phone or emails - that they hate doing because it shows and leaves a trace of their lies.

  • @williamsaloka9043
    @williamsaloka9043 2 роки тому +1

    You are so very spot-on with this! My Narcissists are my Sister and her Husband. Horrible people that actually are convinced they are the "good guys". All of the weak-spots apply, especially Greed, Jealousy, and Lying. It's very sad how they operate. We have gone no-contact since March 2022, and it will stay that way from now on. So toxic. It will be their downfall, for sure.

  • @claudiabottom4086
    @claudiabottom4086 2 роки тому +7

    I love your narc lessons. I like how you actually give things you can do. Like you their lies, paranoia and dislike of criticism against them by making strategies. Great ideas.

  • @tracynewton3083
    @tracynewton3083 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you. When i quit my job because of the bosses flying monkeys. She said, "what about money" enough said. Respect to anyone standing UP💵🤑💰😂👆👆

  • @michiganmymichigan
    @michiganmymichigan 2 роки тому +2

    They took everything but my Soul, and my hope.

  • @saritamajumdar2549
    @saritamajumdar2549 2 роки тому +1

    I completely agree with this line that such toxic souls are energy suckers.
    I think you as my soul sister, thank you so much for guiding the souls who are into the process of awakening, how they need to deal with a toxic soul and not depleate their soul power while dealing with them. 😊🙏

  • @treytucker5619
    @treytucker5619 2 роки тому +3

    I’m watching this to learn to be kinder to people

  • @yellowquantum4240
    @yellowquantum4240 2 роки тому +6

    Awesome spot on! I have done sales and I am in business for myself. My business partner is a malignant narcissist not a liar but all 5 for sure. I have done 6 years of psychoanalysis therapy to deal with that sucking energy that depletes. Today our relationship has improved by 90% I learned the patterns...🤔👍

  • @jennrobi38
    @jennrobi38 2 роки тому +1

    I like that term: “ Soul suckers” so appropriate. They suck all the oxygen out of the room.💁🏻👌🏻

  • @alemayehuwoldemichael585
    @alemayehuwoldemichael585 10 місяців тому

    Absolutely true, you know them as I do!
    We are life long acquainted people..
    I had them my goodness,

  • @nolandeangelis7699
    @nolandeangelis7699 2 роки тому +4

    Soul suckers is accurate,,all my brothers have gray hair except one,,I didnt get the gray hr instead I got the no hair,,and going bold is a drag..the other brother left the family dynamic 8 years ago,,went no contract with our toxic parent..he has more life in him then the rest of us combined,,happy,,glowing hes doing great.. thx again for the informational videos,,helps a lot..

  • @dancindebs1
    @dancindebs1 2 роки тому +9

    I sent a letter within 48 hours to both my lawyer and mediator. My lawyer neglected to tell me he did not get the requested financial information. He told me after I signed, like 5 minutes. At stake is about three hundred thousand dollars. My husband used identity theft to embezzle two hundred plus thousand dollars and stick me with the bills. I suspect he did the same and stole his fathers house, all I wanted was verification of which Person owned the house, did he steal his fathers house?

  • @fmart1590
    @fmart1590 Рік тому

    Your content is such great help Rebecca. I was currently experiencing Gashlight & Mirroring by a Narcissist. I keep on checking all your content yes everything resembles the character of a Narc that spying & stalker my social media acct. She's already copying everything that is on me from the way that I dress up to the skills that I have. She wants me to get mad & respond to what she is doing. Luckily I saw your vlog, I eventually deactivated my acct. No Contact is the best way to fight back the Narc.

  • @tammygrogan4563
    @tammygrogan4563 Рік тому +1

    Soul suckered! Very draining! Everything in this video is true!

    • @oscarwilliamson1128
      @oscarwilliamson1128 Рік тому

      Tammy Grogan,You look cute,Hope you are not with a narcissist….

  • @PinkPowerAllyTreasureHunter
    @PinkPowerAllyTreasureHunter 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for the tip!!!

  • @jamesnoonan9302
    @jamesnoonan9302 2 роки тому +2

    The fact that they always put themselves above others can be a weakness. They may use it so befriend you at some point, like say someone was rude to you, they may say "oh they are so rude in this place", and for a second that protects you. But, soon you will realize they do this with everyone, and absolutely no one is up to their standards, and you can only imagine they say things about you when you are not around. If people catch on to this it can be to their detriment.

  • @katenhydris1226
    @katenhydris1226 11 місяців тому

    Have no Inner sense of self value is one of the core qualities of Narc people!

  • @annettekeel5252
    @annettekeel5252 2 роки тому +3

    SOUL SUCKER.
    You are so awesome! I appreciate you.

  • @wannariddle9510
    @wannariddle9510 2 роки тому +3

    Soul suckers absolutely, love this👍👍👍

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 Рік тому

    Mom left me all her jewelry. Her doing so sent a message. She left the narcissist all her everyday dishes, which also sent a message. He had a very long history of sponging food from her. Not only would she pay for the food, but would go to very elaborate lengths to prepare meals for the narcissist. After consuming these elaborate meals, the narcissist would then leave huge sinkfuls of dishes for my 91-year-old mom to stand on her bad knee and scrub up after him. It was disgusting to witness this scenario play out day after day. So, yes, she sent him an insulting message loud and clear by leaving him all those dishes. But do you think he was happy for me that she left me her fine jewelry? Hell, no! On the day of her funeral, he bullied me out of a ring so he could feign to a fly that he had received it from her, and then buy off the fly monkey by gifting the ring to her!. He bullied me by threatening to withhold from me estate assets that he, as trustee, was obligated to disburse to me. Mom's last words to me: "We've gotta' get that bumb!" And we will, in due time, and when it's safe.

  • @grahamalastairkrebs2241
    @grahamalastairkrebs2241 Рік тому +1

    I Turned the table on my Narsistic husband. 🙌🙌🙏🙏

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      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 місяці тому

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  • @Zeitgeistmusic997
    @Zeitgeistmusic997 2 роки тому +7

    These individuals don't understand what they are. They purposely lack self awareness because that's a crucial part of their onky purpose to exist which is to cause unnatural negativity. All the while they're seeing things as them finding their way....they ignore that they never get better and amount to making the same mistakes for the same reasons in different situations. It's all apart of Satan's plans. No spiritual warriors should be surprised to see it in motion. A fact is an observable phenomenon so you can observe everything I just typed in their day to day dealings.

  • @retiredcatlady
    @retiredcatlady 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for your videos

  • @GhaniSahar
    @GhaniSahar 2 роки тому

    Learnt tremendously about the weak spots of narcissist,,ur so impressive power of expression impressed me,,thank you,,stay tuned sweet friend 🥰

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 Рік тому

    Yes, his jealousy is slowing him down. It moved him into love-bombing mode, alternating with very incriminating letters he has written me that reveal just how awful he's really been.

  • @jdpowerzz22
    @jdpowerzz22 2 роки тому +4

    I share with my identical twin sister a huge Narcissist an energy sucking, lying, very insecure evil step mom. Who's been in therapy for 36 years & has PTSD from her brother...she claims from her childhood. She's controlling our Dad by not allowing us to speak with him privately & makes rules that we cannot yell or or talk about any emotions while talking over the phone.
    We are at a crucial standpoint because we decided we had enough & have stopped all communication. We feel it's time to negotiate boundaries that she has taken great advantage of.
    What are your thoughts? 🤔
    It's a shame she is so insecure & cold AND VERY resentful. She puts on a good front but her game is over. We realized also our father has fueled her fire.
    ♥️ your views & vids 🙏🏼

    • @rebcczung8996
      @rebcczung8996 2 роки тому +1

      Contact me on Whatsapp for consultation

    • @jdpowerzz22
      @jdpowerzz22 2 роки тому

      @@rebcczung8996 💀😷

  • @noreensirianni3135
    @noreensirianni3135 2 роки тому +3

    #5, "Soul Suckers"

  • @goddessunivers3122
    @goddessunivers3122 2 роки тому +2

    Have been watching you start of this year, you are really helping to understand everything about these demon possessed narcissists! In separation, and all his flying monkeys (family) coming at me through all sorts of nasty accusations, that I have STD, that they feel sorry for my kids, that I'm a horrible mother and so on!

  • @peterw4338
    @peterw4338 2 роки тому +2

    Yep, she has all six plus an odd one. No differentiation in emotions. eg: I missed the train = Scream, end of world + tantrum 15 mins.
    Cousin died = Scream, end of world + tantrum 15 mins
    Problem with computer = Scream, end of world + tantrum 15 mins throw computer.
    When she makes a mistake, you can almost hear her think "How can I blame someone."

  • @scoobydoowhereru1480
    @scoobydoowhereru1480 2 роки тому +4

    I'm Glad I Found You. You are God sent💯🌹🙏🏻💪🤗

    • @jackpetersen7545
      @jackpetersen7545 2 роки тому +1

      Maryann Dicesari,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

    • @scoobydoowhereru1480
      @scoobydoowhereru1480 2 роки тому

      @@jackpetersen7545 Not exactly, My Husband is passed away and I'm a widow as of January But his mom lives around the corner and won't put the house in my name and I'm stuck paying all my survival benefits for me n my kids into the house and I barely have enough money to live but can't even sell the house because it's not in my name. I need my license but I do have a plan. My Father says enough is enough and he going to help me n my kids move back to PA hopefully in a year or so. But because of that I am stuck in bad situations trying to make money for My Children's Christmas so I'm babysitting on the side but some weird old men keep asking me on dates I just say NO u know.?

    • @jackpetersen7545
      @jackpetersen7545 2 роки тому +1

      @@scoobydoowhereru1480 You deserves better.I am Jack from USA 🇺🇸.You?

    • @scoobydoowhereru1480
      @scoobydoowhereru1480 2 роки тому

      @@jackpetersen7545 samw

    • @jackpetersen7545
      @jackpetersen7545 2 роки тому

      @@scoobydoowhereru1480 Are you on WhatsApp so we can always talk?

  • @johnhatch220
    @johnhatch220 2 роки тому +4

    I have had a strong empathic capability all my life (very much so in my youth) to the point where I had to learn to dumb it down just to cope, and I have not had to deal much with narcissists in my life as when I have picked up any hint of that in a person (it was such a disgusting thing to me) I would just try to avoid any interactions with them, but now my sister has 'hooked up' with a person that (I strongly suspect) is a covert narcissist, and I have noticed something a little creepy. empathic impressions (at least for me) are not something I can tune and focus and get solid documentable data from, but if I were to use an analogy of a visible light telescope looking at a night sky with patchy clouds, then some things you get a better or worse picture of (to some degree based on obstructions) but this guy (empathically speaking) is kind of like a black hole that doesn't seem to show up at all except as an occlusion to what I would normally sense from my sister when he is in close proximity to her. it isn't distinct enough to be dogmatic about it, but I have not yet 'sensed' anything directly from him, and that (though not unheard of) is somewhat unnerving on its own. thanks for your video's, and hang in there : )

  • @hr3800
    @hr3800 2 роки тому +2

    You are GREAT 🍀✊🍀

  • @marieforet2631
    @marieforet2631 2 роки тому +1

    7# they are so vain … can’t pass a mirror without checking themselves out… my narc had several several mirrors in his apartment… at first didn’t think much about it … I thought he was kidding when he was in the mirror saying “damn you so handsome “ “nobody can get better than this “ you are the one and only” … making sweet eyes and blowing kiss to himself … he couldn’t pass a mirror without looking at himself …like I stated I really thought he was kidding then I thought he had an affirmation routine he was doing … at the end I realized he was in love with himself and NOT cable of loving no one else but HIMSELF !!!

  • @hominidaetheodosia
    @hominidaetheodosia 2 роки тому +6

    She has isolated me, made me homeless and is trying to abuse the system to kill me- please help

    • @tomikioshaw6513
      @tomikioshaw6513 2 роки тому +3

      Baby start praying everyday any minute and continue move on and help yourself within and out... Praying for you!!

    • @ajbunches825
      @ajbunches825 2 роки тому +2

      I agree with Tomikio. The first awakenings had was that he couldn’t take my serenity, peace and even joy if I didn’t let him. And my faith and my gratitude were mine-not his. As a Catholic, I learned why Mary told us to pray the Rosary. It was and is the best anxiety fixer EVER! You can’t say it without concentrating and by the time you are done, peace, quiet & calm fill your soul.

    • @terrylawrence8362
      @terrylawrence8362 2 роки тому

      See the authorities...go to police asap!

    • @hominidaetheodosia
      @hominidaetheodosia 2 роки тому +2

      @@terrylawrence8362 - no offence but I think that may be the worst advice ever in the case of narcissists because- yes I actually did that and you know what happened--- I got arrested!
      In the case of these people you can’t go to the authorities because they manipulate them it’s extremely dangerous DO NOT do this!!!!
      The fact is there’s a handful of cutting edge psychologists in the world who actually understand fragile (sometimes called covert) narcissism in all its aspects properly.
      The police however well-meaning are simply not equipped to deal with this problem!!!
      If you’ve suffered abuse and trauma they will pick up on the fact that you are suffering from PTSD and therefore acting frantically and assume that you are the problem.
      Game set and match narcissist!

    • @kirabarsmith9353
      @kirabarsmith9353 2 роки тому +1

      @@terrylawrence8362 Cops are usually narcs too. Do you want to bring MORE narcs into the situation? Yikes...

  • @snowartmom
    @snowartmom 2 роки тому +4

    Soul suckers! I need to remember that when I let them occupy my mind, they win. Don’t let them live rent free in your mind. Fill your mind with happy, positive, thoughts. 😀🌻❤️🦄🍁🦋🌞🌈🥓🎨🌅💕

    • @jackpetersen7545
      @jackpetersen7545 2 роки тому

      Vickie Snow,You are beautiful 🌷🌹,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

  • @allowedtotalk8910
    @allowedtotalk8910 2 роки тому +1

    The best for me is no contact as much as possible because they suck the life out of you. We go through a healing process and one step for that is to stay away from them or find another job. I know it is difficult for some.

  • @delorestaylor8114
    @delorestaylor8114 2 роки тому +1

    The mirroring of the narcissist makes me sick. You feel like the inner you has been highjacked by a dark shadow

  • @lisamitchell8321
    @lisamitchell8321 2 роки тому +3

    I call him a drainer