Well not to be rude but 1600 calories is not starving, and it sounds like this diet was actually helping you. When you loose weight theres always a stalling period, especially when your also gaining muscle at the same time. A better way to judge your weight loss is measuring by measuring tape around your arms, legs and stomach. Idk for me I pretty much fluctuate between 8-10 lbs of water weight or PMS water retention. Calories in and calories out does work, its basic laws of nature, no one is the exception to the rule. Some people just take longer for the loss.
What they should have done is referred her to a kind and caring nutritionist who could have worked with her instead of staring at her without caring. Increasing protein to curb hunger while decreasing calorie intake, etc. Someone in your corner goes a long way. OR..I dunno..she knows her body more than we do and maybe we can be quiet.
H.C.Brown I agree. I started my weight loss journey eating 1700 calories. Now I'm at 1200. I also work out 45-60 mins every day. I dont feel like im starving. No diets, just eat everything, but better and every once in a while i binge. There has been some slight plateaus but keeping with it and staying active helped me push through it. I'm down quite a bit of weight and I'm happy about it, happy with myself, and happy with my life.
H.C.Brown I was thinking the exact same thing also I had not heard her say she was taking any vitamins during that time to help. Also sge said she wasn’t enjoying life anymore but she made food her life. That wasn’t stopping her from going out in traveling places and seeing different things. Enjoyment in life does not equal food but for her it did and that’s sad.
I have also had the weight loss surgery. It sounds like she was doing everything she shouldn't have been doing. I had mine a year ago and I'm down 200lbs. I had none of the issues she had because I followed instructions from my surgeon. She mentioned eating sugar which is a giant no no on these surgeries. I love Kandy, but if you can't follow instructions strictly, this surgery is definitely not for you. Also, sometimes it is a metabolism issue, which is what my problem was.
My surgery in 2002 was a wonderful experience. I lost 125lbs. Sorry yours went so bad. My relationship with food changed. I no longer used food for enjoyment. I found that life can be great without overeating.
"Food is not fun anymore; food is not good anymore; I am not enjoying my life." That sentence highlights your entire weight problem. Food is not for enjoyment, it is for nourishment. You think of food as your life, so if you don't enjoy eating, you don't enjoy your life. That is so unhealthy. You need to find other sources of fulfilment and enjoyment in your life besides food. Food should not be your focal point in life, it should be sustenance and that is it. You will never be successful in your weightloss if you don't get psychological help to deconstruct and rebuild your relationship with food.
Food can be great fun, even when looking at eating healthily. Most of my favorite foods are very healthy. The caveat however is: you need to know how to prepare healthy foods, and I have a feeling that many people nowadays don't really know how to cook.
That is the best and most honest comment. I see a therapist for my binge and exercise addiction and this is so true. Food is not for pleasure it's to sustain your body. It's a struggle everyday but this I try to remember.
Emily Anne Beryman that's great! It absolutely is a struggle everyday! I have struggled with being overweight my whole life. I have a serious addiction to food - sugar in particular and food addiction has been proven to be chemically the same as drug addiction in the effects on the brain. Sugar itself is 8x more addictive than cocaine! And it's in everything, it's advertised all the time and is everywhere you go! I have only just been able to get a handle on my food addiction and have been able to lose 50lbs over the past year. For the first time in my life, I am not overweight and I've never been healthier or happier. I can do so much now and I feel so free. It's definitely hard but it can be improved with the right level of commitment, psychological support and support from friends and family. :)
Not trying to spread hate, but i think you claiming to be healthy at your size is as bad as the 5'10 anorexic models who weigh 80 lbs claiming to be healthy. Not saying I dont love your fashion videos and your body positivity but its flat out wrong to pretend anyone can be healthy at that weigh, just like no one should ever be 80 lbs (obviously for little people who may be shorter this is different and there are exceptions but I think you understand what I'm saying). I really appreciate what you do and your body positivity, but pretending this is a healthy lifestyle is just as toxic as those models who are anorexic pretending they're healthy as well. Please remember body positivity is not about wether your body looks good but that your body IS good no matter how it looks. Im not trying to tell you to lose weight or how to live your life, but I think when you flat out deny that you're unhealthy youre doing the same thing as the overly skinny models and are hurting the body positive movement as a whole by being the exact same thing the movement strives to eliminate, just on a different extreme.
Wow. I’m so sorry. I didn’t know this when I sent my reply earlier. I had the sleeve surgery in 2015. I’ve loss 444 pounds in 18 months. I was 616. Now I’m 172
1600 cals of just meat and lots of veg is so much food. Idk how you would be starving eating that much food? Cabbage and zucchini and mushrooms are basically zero cals
She probably felt more hungry because those are empty calories because you’re right they have no calories in them so you can eat and eat and eat cabbage but you don’t feel full from it. Well not if you’re used to eating light and let’s face it at the weight she is she would have been pulling anywhere from 3000 to 3500 cal a day so to go from that to that she probably wasn’t feeling full.
Wtf??? Are u anorexic or something? 2000 cals is the norm for women? Y'all out there saying 1600 cals is too much exposing y'all danm food disorders....
Sadly, when you get to have a big problem like this you need extreme solutions. If she was starving the problem is probably in her mind. She have excuses for her problem. I am overweight, trying to lose weight, and I know I need to change my habits. It is not about starving, or hating cabbage. Is about not filling your mind with food. Find enjoyment in somerhing else, not obsessing over food.
@@Andre-ws3oh 2000 calories probably came about when people were more active naturally. We sit all day at work, drive everywhere, don't workout, don't hand wash clothes, vacuum instead of sweep, and all of our other little conveniences now. We should adjust our calorie intake based on our level of activity. The average person that's not actively working out probably doesn't require 2000 anymore.
You're either lying to your audience or lying to yourself. At your weight it's impossible to not lose weight, let alone gain weight, at that level of intake and exertion.
i'm just trying to figure out... how are y'all gonna tell her what she's saying is right or wrong? it's her life ,have you done your research about diabetes or studied her life .. if so show me the receipts.. i'll wait 🤦🏾♂️💀
That's actually not exactly true. Health issues can definitely make it very hard to lose weight, and some medications can make you gain weight rapidly and set your body up to store fat.
I've been having a hard time recently with depression and anxiety, right now I'm lying in my bed listening to my dog snoring in a village 50 miles north of London in the UK., I've been awake since Wednesday morning (it's now Friday morning) Insomnia really does a number on me about twice a month, during these times I usually go 3 days and nights without sleep. You have been keeping me company, a warm, kind wonderful woman (don't panic, I'm not coming on to you, happily married 😅 ) but truly you've been helping to prop me up tonight and I'd like to thank you. 😘
I am an athlete. I’ve don6 figure competitions. A bit of advice. With all respect I promise. Don’t focus necessarily on what healthy foods to eat over junky foods to eat. You have an eating disorder, a particular relationship to food. Whether you find a comfort for it, like a blanket or underline emotional issue and it gives you comfort or past traumas or even the love for the flavor. You need to dig deep inside and resolve what is triggering you to over eat. Honestly you might not figure it out immediately but there’s a drive coming from somewhere. If you deal with the issue it will help you with your relationship with food. I absolutely love your channel, you are beautiful and kindhearted and no matter what kind of “flaws” someone has , the personality, the heart and good soul someone has will always outshine anything about us that we feel or society feels that are flawed. Keep being amazing girl and p.s….. you ARE cool 😎,, ya know because sometimes you say you’re not but… we all know you’re one of the cool kids
I mean...food is meant to be enjoyed, everyone has fun when they are eating good food. Some people just have too much fun and don’t know how to limit themselves.
Food is actually something that should be fun and enjoyed. We just need to make sure that we are eating healthy delicious foods in correct portion sizes, while also getting enough physical activity to keep at a healthy weight.
I was 325 at my heaviest I have pcos, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, liver problems and I'm down to 187 (still on most meds) and have about 20 pounds left to go. My endocrinologist has been an amazing help and support
I know how hard it is to lose weight, I'm struggling by myself and I know for a fact, that everyday I'm lying to myself to feel better.. Some people might have gene defects or other illneses, but the fact that if you are strict and really want to lose weight will help you to do so. I'm a very lazy person and I love eating sweets and oh my god I love ice cream, but I dont feel confortable in my body. Alot of overweight people tell themselfs, "Ah, I accept my body and being overweight is ok, I dont have to prove you guys anything" Is the biggest excuse WE make! I know that you think about your journey and you see how much work and effort you need to put in and you think, "Nah it's too much, I lost it anyway and it is too late.." Sadly there is no other way than go through exercises and eating healthy. Hey you're amazing and beautiful, do it for yourself and for your children! YES, you don't need to prove anyone anything but to yourself. It is not healthy at all being that overweight. One day you might not wake up because you're body is sturggling too much. We need to stop searching for excuses and accept that we need to change something, not today not tomorrow, NOW! I wish you all the best!
this is a speach of giving up...don't give up..you lost weight once you just have to maintain that weight. I have PCOS, I have insulin resistance, I have all that..but I didn't gave up...I lost 12 kg so far..I know I will never be skinny but I don't want to be fatter...fat kill's you..And let's be honest from a fat girl to another..it's not pretty..it's not pretty during summer when you sweat or when you sleep with your man or when you try on outfits and when you get skin rashes or smell..you can't be healthy when your fat..nobody died from fat, they died from complications developed by fat..All I want to say is just don't give up! You can do it!!! don't stress your body going to the gym 5 times a week..when you have high levels of cortisol you would not lose fat...I am not hating or something...stay strong and stay beautiful :)
It's not about the size of what you see is about the levels of important hormones cholesterol ect that is unhealthy or in till you heard it from her actual doctor and also you can be skinny and have diabetes so your comment just sounds dumb
Dumping happens when you eat too fast or you eat the foods you now cannot have after surgery, it has NOTHING to do with too many carbs. I had the same surgery as you did last November and I am down 62 pounds. I also have PCOS and its working. Your body WILL absorb vitamins, were you taking vitamins every day? Sadly you're giving misinformation about this surgery. It would have worked if you has have followed it and eaten the better high protein foods. A gastric bypass is a tool, it isn't a get out of fat card. You still have to work for it and it's worth it! I adore you and love your videos but this really could have worked for you if you were ready to change your life. ♥
@@peggystoutemorin4529 You mean stubborn & can't be told anything, even by medical professionals. Dr Now would sort through all of the BS & clear things up in 3 minutes. Lol
I absolutely love you. We all have to find our paths and what works for us. I was 350 pounds and I stopped dieting and have lost 120 pounds by not dieting. I eat only when I am hungry and stop just shy of full. I am like you with my love of chicken and veggies and yes I do eat fruit too. I have pcos and my endocrinologist told me it takes a lot more work for us to lose weight. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. Thank you for your honesty and for being authentic. :-)
I'm so glad you posted this. My mom pushed me into gastric bypass in 2006 and now I weigh slightly more than I did when I got the procedure done. I still vomit up food and don't absorb the good nutrients that I eat. The surgery severed nerves in my leg and it's constantly numb. Sure, at one point I was within 20 lbs of that 'goal weight' but then I got depressed when I realized I'd never be able to have the extra skin from the drastic weight loss removed and I felt even worse about my body. We're all on our own paths and I'm very thankful you're willing to share yours! Thank you babe! 😘 ps. I love all your videos, so thanks for the entertainment!
I used to be bullied constantly for my weight all throughout childhood and high school. They drove me to starve myself for 6 months and I lost 150 pounds. People are awful and nobody should have any opinion of others' bodies. I love your positivity and watching your videos makes my day.
Let me start by sayin....You are awesome...You are beautiful....you said something that I'm taking with me....Don't let food and the scale rule my life....thanks for sharing. I enjoy your channel....
I don't understand something. If ur eating veggies and eggs in the morning and protein and veggies at lunch, no way ur weren't losing weight ...i think your not being honest.. loving your body is great but being overweight like you is not healthy . You must of been binge eating in between your breakfast and lunch ?
I'm so deeply sorry for some of the judgmental comments below, even by people who think they are trying to be helpful! I loved one comment in particular which was "being fat is easy" OMG that is such an ignorant thoughtless thing to say and it always amazes me to think people are so shortsighted. Your story, your journey is very similar to my own and I know and understand what you have been through I know how friggin hard it is to be obese, I know the struggles, the constant judgement and silent shame. Thank you for sharing and I think you are AMAZING to have such a generosity of spirit to share this journey when so many can be so needlessly cruel. I have so much respect for you and hope that you can see that you are helping other people like you and like me feel less lonely and isolated and more accepted and worthy 💕💕💕💕
All those people are insecure. I've noticed most people that shame others for appearances are projecting their insecurities. Those people are annoyed she's happy.
I lost 150lbs after my divorce. Then the quarantine hit and I lost my job, and I had a lot of loved ones pass away in one year, and I gained a lot of it back. (Like double digits, and none of them had anything to do with covid, so I slipped into a huge depression.) Last year, I had enough, packed up all my belongings, and moved across the country to start over. Since February, I have lost 60lbs, now bringing me back to the same weight I was when I gave birth to my son 27 years ago. The fluctuation of weight over the years has taken its toll on my body, and I find I struggle more with that than the weight now. I wish I had your confidence. I have been single for 8 years because in my head, I am convinced no one will want me because of the way my body looks now. Part of me knows it's crazy, but it's a mental glitch I just cannot seem to overcome. You're an inspiration to people like me, so I'm glad I stumbled across your channel. Hopefully one day, I can be as secure in myself as you. That's a goal.
I've recently started a life changing journey myself! I started off at 344 pounds and in 7 months have lost 50 pounds. What I have noticed about myself and my weight loss is that I hit that plateau every 15 pounds.... SO I started alternating from low calorie to no carbs every 15 pounds! That plateau isn't that long now since I figured it out. Also my workout habits change throughout the week. I can not stick to one workout all week, I change it every day. One day Zumba the next day I walk 4 miles at the park and then I do Cize it up. It's worked for me so far. It sucks to have to fight this battle and the only one that knows how hard it is, is the one fighting it! Don't give up! I love you're videos and you seem like a nice person! Keep your head up my fabulous darling!
When you have that kind of surgery you're not supposed to eat sugar and your stomach is so small now you don't eat much food because not a lot fits. So you have to eat smaller meals more times a day And it's normal to lose that much weight because that is what the surgery is designed to do. Plus when you are that weight it's normal to loose a lot. And it's hard but we are responsible for our health and weight and no one else. You have a food addiction and an emotional attachment to food. That has to be fixed first. If you stall you can't quit. And not because oh you need to loose weight for the looks but for health reasons. It took you a lifetime to gain it it's gonna take you a long time to lose it. Food is not meant to be purely enjoyment it's our fuel. It's not about feeling good in your own skin it's about living long enough to enjoy being in your own skin.
I think a lot of the terrible things that people comment on your videos are rooted in their own fear. Let's be real: very few people want to be super morbidly obese; it's not healthy and it's not within the parameters of average in our society. Rather than just going on their merry way and either maintaining the healthy weight that they're at or working on losing weight for themselves, they act out and post rude-ass comments. Just know that things that people say to you are a reflection of them and not you; from your videos you seem like a kind person who doesn't deserve to be verbally abused just for existing and daring to have a UA-cam channel. I hope that you're able to get back to it and find some greater measure of success in pursuing weight loss and live a long, happy life.
@AnalogWinter Congratulations on mind f her. You just turned around in told her things she said in her video. Are you trying to be nice or kiss ass? People do say some mean things but she does know she's not healthy you just can't read in between the lines. Oh and she does have a hot temper.
Losing weight is not rocket science & you are not a medical mystery. Regardless of whether or not you have weight loss surgery, PCOS, or any other thyroid or metabolic disorder, the concept STILL remains the same: calories in versus calories out OR burn more than you consume, and you are not an exception to this principle. However just because it's a simple concept, doesn't mean it's easy. It takes discipline, self-control, will power, determination, and consistency. Dr. Now would sort through the BS & clear all of this up in 3 minutes. Many obese people are concerned with losing weight "too fast" or "too much", however that's not a problem, it's the solution, therefore it should be the least of your worries.
Hey, Kandy! We share a very similar story. I went on my first diet at age 4, have done every fad diet/diet pill/support group known to man over the years. I had GB about 12 year ago. We had the same procedure. I too had rapid weight loss, followed by weight gain, iron infusions, B12 shots, etc. I have my moments, but like you I am finally OK with being fat. I will never completely give up, and would LOVE to be your partner on a season of Biggest Loser..LOL! But I will NOT continue to go through life miserable because the world wants to judge and expects for me to dedicate my life to being thin. You are a beatiful person. Keep sharing!
go keto! its not a diet, its a lifestyle change, were doing it now and its actually amazing Ive never had so much energy, the meals and snacks are filling and satisfying better than any other "diet" weve tried before!
I don't understand why people feel so free to comment on, and care so much, about how much another person weighs. No one is making them gain weight so why do they care?
Please. Just please. Aside from people sharing their own struggles, the amount of comments one finds on any of these types of videos that contain even a modicum of genuine concern or "empathy" is minuscule. Absolutely no need to pretend that the vast, vast majority of comments about weight aren't rooted in sheer disgust for overweight people.
I came across your clothes try on video and I just want you to know I love you and your personality! Such a strong beautiful person! I just want to hug you. There are so many people in this world struggling with the same thing you are and Im sure your an inspiration to them. Not very many people have the guts to share to the public something they struggle with. And there are people out there who are so mean when they really shouldn't be. If your happy then that is all that matters. If somebody wants to be bald and that makes them happy then that's great. People need to quit being so rude and judgemental. Anyways your amazing!
I came upon your site b/c I wanted to see what people had to say about Lularoe. There was something about your personality that I really liked. Thanks for sharing your weight journey. Again I really liked how you talked. So I have subscribed to your site and am looking forward to more vlogs.
To maintain a weight in the 440-510 range you are eating way more than 1600 calories a day. But to her 1600 will feel like she is starving. I hope she re-thinks giving up. Her life expectancy at the size she is at is 50-55 max. It's almost too late
These negative comments can eat my ass. Live your life, do your best, keep sharing your experience. It's a very brave thing to put yourself out there for criticism or praise. Here's some praise. ❤️
Paige Way I think she meant her husband didn’t know anything about the surgery and how to push her like her mom did. Not that he didn’t know she had it he just didn’t know how to care for it.
I follow your channel all the time. I FOUND this today and i have NO words to say. You have left me both speechless and loving MYSELF MORE!! TY so much for being who you are, What you have gone through and sharing!!
I appreciate your ability to not be ashamed of your weight and to be proud of trying on cute clothing and show us everything, even what doesn't fit. I feel a lot of shame about my obesity and I don't like wearing a lot of what is in fashion these days. I would never wear leggings and I have a problem with most skinny jeans. I appreciate you sharing your story. But for some of us, what we learned as a child is hard to overcome. I learned that fat is hideous and overweight people should do everything they can to hide their bodies. I was taught that fat people shouldn't wear bathing suits or go to the beach. Even shorts and sleeveless tops are a no-no. I know my parents weren't consciously teaching me these things but all the years of overhearing their comments about others has lead to my own shame. I am glad there are people out there that can be overweight and happy. I don't know if it is even possible for me.
I admire that you have accepted who you are. I think many of us struggle with that whether it be about our weight, feeling different, feeling stuck in bad relationships, etc. Thanks for your candor.
I lost 78 pounds I had gained from child birth. I did it by cutting my portions in half and drinking mostly water and or lemonade and only treating myself to a dessert once a week. I'm very proud about that. And I have PCOS and a bunch other problems especially with my thyroid. But I had my eye on the prize and boy it feels good to be thinner. Recently I'm working on losing about 30 pounds more. I go to snack has been almonds natural, and dried fruit. My husband and I are both doing the keto diet the best we can. Thanks for sharing your struggle. I think we both came to this conclusion that we just want to be as healthy as we possibly can be for our children. I recently joined a gym and I absolutely love going. My husband has a work out business located in the same area as his business and so he goes there three times a week to work out and talk about nutrition. It really is wonderful.
scientifically speaking- to lose body fat, you have to put your body in a caloric deficit. if you are maintaining weight or gaining, then you are consuming too many calories. it doesn't matter who you are or what you eat (healthy or processed) calories are calories and fat loss is 100% calories in bs calories out. calories consumed VS calories spent. I've lost over 100 lbs counting g calories in 1 year. I started at 320 lbs and am now 215 and still consistently losing 2lbs per week by putting my body in a caloric deficit. its science. the type of food doesn't matter. its portion size and portion control that is key when losing body fat.
OH GOD NOT 45 MINUTES OF EXERCISE PER DAY 😫 you have to push through it. Good diet and exercise IS THE WAY TO HEALTH FOR EVERYONE. You can’t just decide that healthy living doesn’t work for you haha.
Wow! Here I am tearing up at 2 am cause I can't sleep, you amaze me with how u see yourself and how you learned to accept who you are, I struggle with that daily, I have had very few positive influences in my life which caused me to hate myself more and more as I got older, again wow! We need more people like you, screw those trolls in your comments, your health isn't affecting their lives one bit, your weight isnt either, they are bored sad people who can't find anything better to do. Love your channel btw! Keep being you girl!
You seriously are an inspiration to me! I’ve been really sick the past few years and have put on a lot of weight from it and I’ve been hiding from people because of it, but hearing you and seeing your videos I’m starting to go out and face people and not worry about what they think and I can be happy and have some cute clothes even though I’m heavy right now! I have my story and reason to why I’m heavy and it shouldn’t Matter to others and I see that now!! Thank you and keep being awesome please !! You are awesome and so beautiful!!
Kandy, hi! First, thanks for sharing. It's always good to share our story, experiences, victories and sorrows. It makes us embrace what happened and learn. But this isn't your "story". You are much more than your weight and, even though you have a hard time losing weight, it doesn't mean it's impossible! Though, the more you wait, the harder it'll be. Try to think of this as not your image, but as your health. It's not only diabetes, but it's your heart, your joints, your lungs. Unfortunately, food will be a medicine for you, so you'll have to be very careful with it. Exercize is a great part of it and you have to know that when you gain muscle, you'll gain weight, cause muscle weights more than fat (which was probably what happened when you gained 5 pounds) It's going to be a slow process, because your body is used to it. Have patience. Don't give up. You need at least one year for your body to get used to the new diet. I watched the whole video and I saw what you said in the end. Still, I felt like leaving this message to you, because, sometimes, we need a little reminder. But, yes, you're awesome anyway. Good luck.
I just need to say that you are so strong and brave for sharing your experiences. I think it's disgusting that people have to sit here and judge you when they don't even know you and haven't walked a mile in your shoes love!! Stay strong, Stay healthy, and Stay kind❤️💙
You are lying pure and simple. There are no fat people in famines around the world and there were no fat people in concentration camps. Why? Because they were not eating too enough maintain weight. If 1600 calories (allegedly, I know you are eating much more) is keeping you fat, eat less. I have struggled with my weight for many years and have actual diagnosed thyroid issues and trust me.. eat too much for your body=FAT, eat much less=NOT FAT. Simple. Eating less work every single time, try it for real this time.
I listened to your story and I feel sorry that your life has not gone the way you hoped. I believe every word you said. Not all of us can loose weight no matter how hard we try, but there are many out there who tend not to believe thats true, and we try hard to convince them because they make you feel fat shamed and that you are a liar. Kandy I think your a great women, your strong and fierce and you face life head on. Don't change for anyone, and ignore the ignorant people, they add nothing to your life. Keep doing what you do, be happy and enjoy every minute because life is very short. I think you look great, your attitude is excellent and you seem to be a very nice person, I wish you the best life has to offer and I hope to see more of your blogs.
We're going to need a food log that includes drinks, sauces, condiments, snacks, cooking oil. Five days at the gym could mean anything. Walking on a treadmill barely burns any calories. Also, everyone that has ever successfully became fit has encountered plateaus. Which they continue on until it passes. Nothing special.
Ackbar Norad lol.. so many people don't realize the soft drinks keep the weight on amd those condiments are full of fat and the way the food is cooked in oils . You're 💯 % right about the food log she probably wasn't watching all those little things that kept her from losing
No, we don't need a food log. What she eats is between her and her doctor/nutritionist, no one else. As for walking, it sure beats the heck out of laying in bed, watching UA-cam like I am right now. 😎
AngelKitty4OU you're not understanding why a food log is important when a person complains they tried dieting and exercise and never lose weight. There's a reason why and a food log helps a dietician to see why.
Yaass Queen if she burns more than what she intakes yes it will. Of course she's going to lose weight burning more calories than what she intakes. How do you figure not so?
Use the My Fitness Pal app! I have hypothyroidism and high blood pressure and I have been fat all my life. I use the app to monitor my calorie intake. My highest weight was 234 at 5'1" and I have issues with self-loathing and depression stemming from years of molestation done to me by different men throughout my childhood. I eat when I'm bored, sad, stressed, basically for any emotion though not really out of hunger. Sometimes I eat just to do something, to try and grasp pleasure. I feel like food is one of the few things I can control but the reality is _it controls _*_me_* ... it's as if I'm trying to physically fill a void that is present in my soul. It cannot be done through physical means. I think about it every waking moment, but most of the time I derive no pleasure from it and only makes me feel worse. One day I had enough of this disgusting cycle so I got a gym membership and downloaded the app and thought what the heck, I'll try it out. I fucking hate physical activity 😂 I'm the laziest piece of shit on the planet but I despise being fat even more. I personally restrict my calories down to ~1,200 and go to the gym 4x a week. I've lost 40 pounds so far and my goal is to lose 100 total. You can do it! It's soooo easy to underestimate the calories one is ingesting, believe me. The app is free and it's a great tool and couldn't recommend it enough. Best of luck ❤️
🌸Hello🌸 Kandy first let me say you are the BOMB!!! KA-BOOM KA-BOOM!!! love that you were able to share your story and that now all that matters is you. You are awesome it took me a while (also my to my wonderful support my hubby)to get that thur my head that I'm a nice person and being plus size doesn't change who I am in the inside. unfortunately do that I am a severe diabetic I need to lose the weight it will help with the neuropathy in my legs and also the gurd pain that I have in my chest. I will never be a XL but I want to live a great and long life with my husband. Can't wait too see more videos. love ya.
What an honest and touching video. I relate so much about trying to lose and your body says, "hell no I'm staying here". Have peace with who you are because you're a pretty cool girl. I watch your video's because you encourage people to be kind, accepting, and it's important to remember you haven't lived anyone else's battles in life so stop judging. Good health, long life and joy to you sweety.
You lost 40 pounds in two months with only dietary changes before surgery. I think that should be the main point of this video. I hope that is something that resonates.
It's not easy. I'm morbidly obese and I lost 50 pounds this year. This month I haven't lost an ounce. It's kind of normal to go a few months without losing weight. It's happened before. I restricted further. I was starving and my hair started falling out. Didn't move the scale and I almost fell off the wagon. This time I took a week to eat more calories instead of restricting to lower my stress level and went back to my normal calories (25 percent deficit no less) Sometimes the hardest thing to do is be kind to ourselves.
Familliar Nori Well done on your weight loss. I hope you're still doing well. I think sometimes people end up eating too little and the body goes into starvation mode. You sound like you found the answer by eating a bit more and giving yourself a break in every sense.
Your story is so moving! I also had insulin resistance after my daughter birth every time I ate it was sheer terror. Heart racing could not breathe.. I’m very proud that you are on your journey and wish you the very best ❤️
Bravo kandy girl,l loved this video.Thank God lm a new subby,and completely adore you. I feel you for standing in your truth. The only one you have to be honest with is you.Fuck all the haters,screw them.Baby girl l too have been fluffy for the majority of my life, age 63 and you're teaching me that you are a force to be reckoned with.Keep up the confidence,the strength,the love of one self and the l dont give a fuck attitude.Beautiful girl,you have no idea how inspirational you are.Love you girl.Keep those videos coming.
Hi Kandy, thank you for sharing your experiences with us! You continue to inspire me, keep doing what you're doing girl oh, I think it's wonderful to promote body positivity and self-love! I had the sleeve surgery a little over a year ago and I still have struggles too , due to many health conditions. Well I am rambling on I just wanted to say how great I think you are much love, please keep uploading your videos and Vlogs and keep inspiring us all!!
What do you mean "it's not as easy as calories in calories out" when you lost 100 pounds doing just that? So you stalled and gained 5 pounds... that's very normal. 1600 calories and starving? You are very misinformed. I weigh about a third of you (and I'm still overweight) and I eat 1300 calories or less to lose weight the healthy way. I'm not starving and I've gained small amounts during my journey but that makes me try that much harder. I feel sorry for you because apparently no one is being brutally honest with you. You will die. Your body isn't made to function like that.
Thank you for your story. As someone who lost half of her small intestine I know all about not absorbing nutrients from the food. I had a hernia...excuse me I have a hernia that had been fixed many times (5) and keeps opening up. It no longer can be fixed. In 2013 I had a severe pain that turned out to be a bowel obstruction and my small intestine was dying fast. The doctor said if I had of waited 2 more hours I would have died. Losing that much intestine is really bad for the body. I have to take shot for thymine and b12. I have to get iron infusion often and I developed hypothyroid problems. I fight daily just to keep my levels up. Vitamin d is a big problem too. I've had 4 blood transfusion because I was so sick from my levels being so low. You stay strong❤
Girl you are so strong! Im 34 been married 13 years and have 6 kids. i had sleeve surgery march 2017. When i started i was 435lbs. i decided on surgery because with my last birth the dr messed up my back bad and i need back surgery and no Dr would do it at my weight. Day of surgery i was 365lbs, and im 9 1/2 months out and im 242lbs. Its by no means been easy. At 5 months out i had my gallbladder removed and was super sick from 3 months out until they took it out. then got bile reflux once it was out. then at 7 months out i got tons of kidney stones had to have them taken out and passed a few on my own fuckin awful pain. My hair is falling out like crazy and i have so much extra skin i could reconstruct a 5 year old. But i dont regret any of it! Its my journey. We all have a different journey to travel and while it may not be fun or easy its our to travel. And fuck the people talkin shit. As long as you are happy with yourself thats all that matters. I wish you nothing but the best and i really love your attitude towards life and what you are doing.
Lynn Pech Torres I’m reading this 2 years after you wrote it I hope you are still doing well with your weight loss but I had to tell you i literally laughed out loud about reconstructing a 5 year old out of the excess skin. 😂
1.600 calories is the maximum I can eat without gaining weight. I don´t have a car and run around a lot, additionally I work out every day. Without all the activity I can consume 1.150 calories to stay at my weight. I´m sorry that you have to deal with this weight issues - I think if you are used to eating a lot you have a really hard time if you restrict calories and it must feel like starving. I get that. But it is a pretty normal amount of calories. Anyway, I hope you manage to lose some weight and be more healthy.
Love your videos and honesty! I too lost about 125 pounds (and struggle with PCOS) doing EXACTLY what you described! I was obsessed, I had to be. Got pregnant gained most back, and suffered Postpartum Depression because of it. It's been 15 months, I'm trying so hard to love myself for the first time, losing weight didn't do it. Thanks for being a body positive role model.
Thank you for sharing your story! I have had very similar struggles. PCOS is no joke and has almost ruined many women's health, myself included. Those who think it's not possible to truly put in the effort and not lose weight, please research PCOS. It's real
Thanks for sharing your story! I had Gastric Bypass surgery 10 yrs ago. 🤣 My lowest weight was 175 lbs. I now weight 210. I know how it feels to eat next to nothing but can't lose weight. I have always been the fluffy one that reminded the rest of the family of the heavy side of the family. PISSES ME OFF! But I have had to realize that I will ALWAYS be the heavy one. 😕 😑 At 46 yrs old I had to have a pacemaker put in because my body wasn't absorbing enough nutrients to keep my heart going. SO... I just gotta "do me" the best I can & be grateful to be alive, no matter how much I really don't care to continue LIFE. I have a beautiful, intelligent 23 yr old son, so as he finishes his Ph. D. in Psychology/Sociology, I live life FOR HIM! *GOD BLESS YOU!* 😊
Bigger people should be able to lose weight more quickly and easily than a person who is closer to their ideal weight. It's just very confusing that you would stop your weightless journey because you plateaued. Everyone plateaus, but you just have to change up your work-outs to work your body out in different ways. Trying a bunch of diets, but not sticking to it is what makes you not keep the weight off. There is just no way that you could be in the morbidly obese category and be healthy. That is a lie and whoever told you that should be out of your life.
The more you exercise the hungrier you become. At least in my experience. My 1st husband, when I gained weight from 125 to over 300 from Lithium within 4-5 months, was a feeder & narcissistic abuser. I divorced him, started jogging on a track at the Y & bike riding & lost some weight but was ignorant of what benzos really did & bulimia with episodes of starvation messed me up. I'd purge when only eating a piece of cake. I held on to body dysmorphia even after getting to under 150 lbs. Thank you for your honesty & beauty! You are helping so many people! I'm learning to enjoy food again despite hiatal hernia surgery soon...the TIF procedure. Some days I can barely eat when it acts up & will have to eat mush for a month or so.
I love your story! I have health issues myself, but I have trouble gaining weight and sometime needs feeds to help maintain my weight.. I have cystic fibrosis and we have absorption problems... thank you for sharing your story! 💕
You are very brave. I hear your struggle and frustration. We all should be compassionate and empathetic. I'm glad you have made the decision to be positive. You go girl.
I think you're SOFA-KING (see what i did there? Lol) AMAZING! You are incredibly beautiful, even more so within. I love the message you're spreading. Keep doing you Boo-boo. 😁🦄
I follow your channel all the time. I FOUND this today and i have NO words to say. You have left me both speechless and loving MYSELF MORE!! TY so much for being who youbare, What yiu ave gine through and sharing!!
yoo.. it's just like.. 1600 calories is plenty of food and the reason that doctors thought you were lying is that would be the only logical explanation. its hard and food is an addiction for sure but once you learn to fuel your body and not your mind with food, its easier to control. people who comment here feel empathy for you and your situation but have a right to be skeptical of your story. the truth is that if you eat too much you gain weight and if you eat less you lose weight. it is that simple. you've been checked and re-checked for some medical anomaly that would excuse you from this rule but you aren't excused. living at a size like this is pushing your body to its farthest limits. push your mind in the same way to save yourself. your health can only decline at this weight--humans were not meant to live at such a large size. and it really is a simple fix. eat less. learn to have healthier relationships with everything around you, focusing on the way that you relate to food and body image. you have every right to be confident and feel good. but! it is crucial to face the music here because your life probably depends on it. i wish you all the best
Dawn Randazzo it depends on what kind of calories you’re eating! If you eat 1800 calories of fruit snacks, you’ll probably feel crabby and hungry. If you eat 1800 calories of lean meat, whole grains, fruit, and lots of veggies and drink an assload of water- 1800 is enough
Alli M I wasn't eating fruit snacks, I was eating all the right foods. Plain oatmeal and a banana for breakfast, Apple and peanut butter for morning snack, chicken breast salad with low cal dressing for lunch, handful of carrots with a tablespoon of light ranch, lean meat and veggies for dinner and a cup of skim milk and a sugar free pudding for evening snack. It was between 1800-2000 calories and I was miserable and hungry and lightheaded all the time and didn't lose a single pound.
1600 calories is actually a low amount of calories for any adult woman. It's even at the lower end of acceptable during weight loss programs. 1600 calories per day will ALWAYS be a part of a very aggressive and non-sustainable weight loss program. You've got your basal metabolic rate that depends on a lot of factors, and it's just how many calories your body needs to keep functioning at a basic level. It's higher than most people think. I'm not disputing that her doctors are probably assuming that she's not being truthful, I just get worried when I see people who think 1200-1600 calories per day, is sustainable, because of weight loss apps that calculate things for fast weight loss versus permanent weight loss. 1600 may be doable for some people, but not for everyone, and definitely doesn't suit anyone long term in terms of maintaining ones weight.
I got PCOs too. Been struggling with being a bit overweight most of my life. But when I do make an effort, I lose weight. For me, a low carb diet is what works the best. At my highest, 320lbs, I found out I had diabetes, PCOs makes it easier to become diabetic due to insulin resistance. Lost almost 100lbs since. I build muscles easily, due to the pcos causing a bit of excess testosterone, so when I keep an decently strict exercise regime, I really notice how my body build itself up, and it happens fast! And that is so much fun! You got so much to win in being healthier. Food is still fun, but it's not supposed to be a comfort or something to turn to when things are hard. I love food, making food, talking and cooking food. But, I do not cry on it's shoulder anymore.
Erm, several things caught my attention - 1) a whole zuchinni for breakfast? 2) 1600 calories and starving? How? You name foods that just don't add up to 1600 - so you were eating smth else that gave calories and kilos but no energy
Some people are just not meant to be thin. 2 friends of mine died after gastric bypass surgery. I wish they were here and fat rather than thin and dead. :-(
Thank you for sharing your story, I'm advocating for you, and I know you don't need me to but it makes me so angry that people feel entitled to offer you unsolicited "help" or are just plain mean. Keep up the good work, you are inspiring so many people just by living your truth.
I feel bad for laughing but when you said you were starving at eating 1,600 calories I was like... isn't that the amount of calories a woman is supposed to have
Isabella M. Actually it's not. That's for men. But really your caloric intake is based on your height. Someone who is 5'0 shouldn't be eating as many calories as someone who is 6'0.
1600 kcal is an average for women yes. Most women don’t need more than 1600-1800 kcal a day. Mens is at 2300 kcal. But yes, that is a totally normal intake, and you don’t need more than that.
I have PCOS and no cysts either. It's a horrible disease or whatever it's called. By the time they diagnosed me, I'd had it so long that I had developed type 2 diabetes from the insulin resistance. I know the struggle. You are a very strong woman and brave and I send you lots of love.
Here's the thing, you will lose on 1600 calories but it is very common for people to get into phases where they don't lose anything... It is referred to as stalls. These stalls can last a few weeks or a few months but if a person continues doing everything right the stall will end and they will go back to losing. That's why many doctors encourage their patients not to get too discouraged if they go through a long period of stalling. And, people can actually 'gain' weight during the stall but if you talk to the doctor the weight gained (2-5 lbs) is very commonly water weight an bloating and it isn't actual weight gain. That is why a lot of doctors tell their patients to not weigh themselves all that much especially during a stall because it does lead to discouragement and the person giving up.
hi. not 100% correct. there is me for example. i wasn't aware my thyroid wasn't even working. and i gradually started a weight gain even though i dont eat as much but always took in under 2,000 calories. I work 7 days a week and constantly moving. i went to the gym. then the symptoms became more known to me. and i went in to the doctor they said hey heres some thyroid medicine and heres some birth control to fix the other issues... hmmm im still rapidly gaining weight despite 1 hour in the gym and light meals throughout the day. fast forward these past 2 months i quit birth control i quit the thyroid medication.. and suddenly ive dropped 15 pounds. i really honestly can not even tell if i should trust doctors or not. they say my thyroid was bad and yet.. here i am losing weight... after i quit the drugs that were prescribed to me.
Eliza Georjeux thyroid problems are complicated. They put you on medication but they should have been having you come in to do blood tests toake sure you are on the right dosage. If you aren't on the right dosage the medication will not work. Also, sometimes getting a second opinion helps because your issue might not be solely thyroid related but once the doctor saw there was something wrong with the thyroid they centered on that and didn't look into anything else.
Oh come now. I find it a little too hard to believe; a person who is “outside all the time” and so sports-orientated can be so overweight. All that muscle building through baseball, volleyball, and wrestling would enable the body to burn it off easily. Unless they were eating like an elephant. I’m at the gym 5 days a week for strength training and cardio and I’m a size 6.
You are so cool and super honest to your subs and most importantly, to yourself. Long tough road but happy you are happy with yourself now. Thanks for sharing! 🌸
There is no such thing as being prediabetic. Either you’re a diabetic or you’re not. YOU ARE NOT HEALTHY! Why do obese people think they are healthy? You’re far from it. You really need to watch an autopsy of an obese person. The fat is not just under your skin with your major organ sitting under your fat every single organ in your body is completely covered in fat. Your heart is the worst. Your heart is just swimming in fat. It’s like you take a plastic heart and then take some play dough and wrap it around the heart. That is what the heart and all other major organs are like. Yes you should be happy and live your life no matter your size but you need to be trying as hard as you can to keep trying to lose fat. I wish obese people would stop thinking they are healthy and stop being in denial how about their health. Believe it or not you have one food in the grave. If you don’t have serious problems now just wait! Those problems are right around the corner. So sad that your health and body don’t mean more to you. Good luck!
Thank you for sharing your struggles and so many others struggles, myself included. I know firsthand the craziness that PCOS can wreak on your body ~ emotionally, physically, and everything in between. You ARE awesome! And beautiful, inside and out. Love you, girl! 😘
How the hell can you have PCOS and not have cysts? It's PolyCYSTIC Ovarian Syndrome. Without the cysts, you just have what? Ovarian Syndrome? What is that? Weight = calories in vs calories expended. Period. Even if you have PCOS or thyroid issues, that means an additional 20 or 30 pounds. Not hundreds. You are eating too many calories and not moving enough. That's the answer and it's not a mystery.
I was aware of the last bit, but I guess the name is misleading. Huh! I just know when I was diagnosed with it, I had all sorts of cysts in my ovaries.
Aja Warnock the comment section is full of EXCUSES! I am a bit of an expert actually. A degree in kinesiology, personal trainer and nutrition and wellness training. You do not become this obese unless you are overeating and not moving. Calories in Vs Calories out! The people who have had true lasting success are the people who accepted this as fact and kept going when they hit plateaus.
unfortunately from a biology perspective, the notion that weight gain is strictly calories in v.s. calories out is very antiquated. it has it's place, and there is truth to it, but in the science world, is no longer considered to be the beginning and the end of the issue. The full understanding of the endocrine system and related dysfunctions, (endochrine triangle, hyperadrenia, insulinoma, Hashimoto's disease, Addison's disease... etc.) is needed to go beyond broad applications of nutrition advice and concepts that may apply to many, but will never apply to all. this is my field of specialty. i do believe that people should continue to exercise past plateaus, at least three days/ week, even if weight loss is not happening, because of the various benefits including, but not limited to, cardiovascular health, lung capacity, stamina, muscle building, bone density, digestive aid, and circulation, (blood and lymph).
Hey Kandy! I just subscribed to your channel. I enjoy your videos so much, you are such a beautiful person inside and out. Your confidence and positive attitude is inspiring for plus size women like myself who are struggling to have love and accept themselves. Thank you for sharing your story❤
anothergrill yup you can comment whatever you want. But you are opening yourself up to reply’s also. There is absolutely no reason to comment nasty comments on this video. No reason at all. You open yourself up to the repercussions of commenting rude things. You are not above anyone. You are not above her. If you don’t like it...DONT. WATCH. It’s very easy to not comment. It takes a special kind of person to actively comment random useless mean comments for no reason except to be fucking rude.
well actually considering everybody has a right to do whatever they want there IS a reason to comment anything rude or not. I have some advice for you though, if it bothers YOU that much and YOU just hate seeing mean comments YOU can just NOT LOOK at the comment section at all! What a concept right? :)
I came across your channel a couple days ago, I have been binge watching your videos. I love love LOVE this video. You are such a kind, easy going person. Keep being awesome!!
I think you're an awesome person Kandy! It's DEFINITELY not EASY to lose weight! All we can all do is our BEST for ourselves and not worry about what other people think!
I think your awesome! All my life I was thin until I got put on antidepressants, I gained 100 pounds in less than a year. Serious. I have tried so many times to taper off my meds., but I can't handle it. I guess I need the drug for ocd. Makes me sad how people judge us by our appearance when they really have no fucking clue.
It seems to me that your doing everything right, your eating healthy and getting plenty of exercise. I'm not a thin fit lady by any stretch of the imagination. I will very briefly tell you my story. When I was 16 I almost broke my back, and for the next few years I found it very hard to exercise, but being young I did keep the weight down, fast forward 15 years and marriage and 2 children I was about 4stone overweight. My husband was invited to a colleagues wedding, he really wanted to go but no way was I going to let his work friends see me the way I was. So in four months I lost 4 stone. They way I did it almost killed me, my body went through so much trauma. I looked amazing for the wedding, but everyone said I lost the weight way to fast. My doctor told me my body would now store any fat it could in case I were to put it through this trauma again. I'm now sat with so much scar tissue of fat around the area of my back that I now take 8 strong pain killers a day, and even light exercise causes me intense pain. I'm about 5 stone overweight and can't do a thing about it. As soon as I started to eat a very sensible diet after loosing the weight, I gained weight, because I'd vertically starved myself for four months, as well as exercising for hours a day. My husband would scream at me to stop the diet, but I wanted to look slim for that wedding. Obviously there is a lot more to this story than I've written here. I only found your channel days ago, but I think your lovely with a great confidence I'd love to have. Xxxxxxxxxxx
Well not to be rude but 1600 calories is not starving, and it sounds like this diet was actually helping you. When you loose weight theres always a stalling period, especially when your also gaining muscle at the same time. A better way to judge your weight loss is measuring by measuring tape around your arms, legs and stomach. Idk for me I pretty much fluctuate between 8-10 lbs of water weight or PMS water retention. Calories in and calories out does work, its basic laws of nature, no one is the exception to the rule. Some people just take longer for the loss.
What they should have done is referred her to a kind and caring nutritionist who could have worked with her instead of staring at her without caring. Increasing protein to curb hunger while decreasing calorie intake, etc. Someone in your corner goes a long way. OR..I dunno..she knows her body more than we do and maybe we can be quiet.
H.C.Brown I agree. I started my weight loss journey eating 1700 calories. Now I'm at 1200. I also work out 45-60 mins every day. I dont feel like im starving. No diets, just eat everything, but better and every once in a while i binge. There has been some slight plateaus but keeping with it and staying active helped me push through it. I'm down quite a bit of weight and I'm happy about it, happy with myself, and happy with my life.
1600 is plenty!
H.C.Brown I was thinking the exact same thing also I had not heard her say she was taking any vitamins during that time to help. Also sge said she wasn’t enjoying life anymore but she made food her life. That wasn’t stopping her from going out in traveling places and seeing different things. Enjoyment in life does not equal food but for her it did and that’s sad.
I have also had the weight loss surgery. It sounds like she was doing everything she shouldn't have been doing. I had mine a year ago and I'm down 200lbs. I had none of the issues she had because I followed instructions from my surgeon. She mentioned eating sugar which is a giant no no on these surgeries. I love Kandy, but if you can't follow instructions strictly, this surgery is definitely not for you. Also, sometimes it is a metabolism issue, which is what my problem was.
My surgery in 2002 was a wonderful experience. I lost 125lbs. Sorry yours went so bad. My relationship with food changed. I no longer used food for enjoyment. I found that life can be great without overeating.
"Food is not fun anymore; food is not good anymore; I am not enjoying my life." That sentence highlights your entire weight problem. Food is not for enjoyment, it is for nourishment. You think of food as your life, so if you don't enjoy eating, you don't enjoy your life. That is so unhealthy. You need to find other sources of fulfilment and enjoyment in your life besides food. Food should not be your focal point in life, it should be sustenance and that is it. You will never be successful in your weightloss if you don't get psychological help to deconstruct and rebuild your relationship with food.
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Food can be great fun, even when looking at eating healthily. Most of my favorite foods are very healthy. The caveat however is: you need to know how to prepare healthy foods, and I have a feeling that many people nowadays don't really know how to cook.
True true
That is the best and most honest comment. I see a therapist for my binge and exercise addiction and this is so true. Food is not for pleasure it's to sustain your body. It's a struggle everyday but this I try to remember.
Emily Anne Beryman that's great! It absolutely is a struggle everyday! I have struggled with being overweight my whole life. I have a serious addiction to food - sugar in particular and food addiction has been proven to be chemically the same as drug addiction in the effects on the brain. Sugar itself is 8x more addictive than cocaine! And it's in everything, it's advertised all the time and is everywhere you go! I have only just been able to get a handle on my food addiction and have been able to lose 50lbs over the past year. For the first time in my life, I am not overweight and I've never been healthier or happier. I can do so much now and I feel so free. It's definitely hard but it can be improved with the right level of commitment, psychological support and support from friends and family. :)
Not trying to spread hate, but i think you claiming to be healthy at your size is as bad as the 5'10 anorexic models who weigh 80 lbs claiming to be healthy. Not saying I dont love your fashion videos and your body positivity but its flat out wrong to pretend anyone can be healthy at that weigh, just like no one should ever be 80 lbs (obviously for little people who may be shorter this is different and there are exceptions but I think you understand what I'm saying). I really appreciate what you do and your body positivity, but pretending this is a healthy lifestyle is just as toxic as those models who are anorexic pretending they're healthy as well. Please remember body positivity is not about wether your body looks good but that your body IS good no matter how it looks. Im not trying to tell you to lose weight or how to live your life, but I think when you flat out deny that you're unhealthy youre doing the same thing as the overly skinny models and are hurting the body positive movement as a whole by being the exact same thing the movement strives to eliminate, just on a different extreme.
Wow. I’m so sorry. I didn’t know this when I sent my reply earlier. I had the sleeve surgery in 2015. I’ve loss 444 pounds in 18 months. I was 616. Now I’m 172
Holy Cow! How are you feeling. I would love to talk to you more about it if you want to email me. KandyFoxxy@gmail.com
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1600 cals of just meat and lots of veg is so much food. Idk how you would be starving eating that much food? Cabbage and zucchini and mushrooms are basically zero cals
Emily Lane Emily Lane, since you're so wonderful and have life figured out, everyone else's that is, why don't you go watch a make up video.
She probably felt more hungry because those are empty calories because you’re right they have no calories in them so you can eat and eat and eat cabbage but you don’t feel full from it. Well not if you’re used to eating light and let’s face it at the weight she is she would have been pulling anywhere from 3000 to 3500 cal a day so to go from that to that she probably wasn’t feeling full.
Wtf??? Are u anorexic or something? 2000 cals is the norm for women? Y'all out there saying 1600 cals is too much exposing y'all danm food disorders....
Sadly, when you get to have a big problem like this you need extreme solutions. If she was starving the problem is probably in her mind. She have excuses for her problem.
I am overweight, trying to lose weight, and I know I need to change my habits. It is not about starving, or hating cabbage. Is about not filling your mind with food. Find enjoyment in somerhing else, not obsessing over food.
@@Andre-ws3oh 2000 calories probably came about when people were more active naturally. We sit all day at work, drive everywhere, don't workout, don't hand wash clothes, vacuum instead of sweep, and all of our other little conveniences now. We should adjust our calorie intake based on our level of activity. The average person that's not actively working out probably doesn't require 2000 anymore.
You're either lying to your audience or lying to yourself. At your weight it's impossible to not lose weight, let alone gain weight, at that level of intake and exertion.
Yeah, if all of this is true, NASA desperately needs to study her to solve the problem of fuel storage!
DrNordo exactly what I was thinking. Excuses.
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i'm just trying to figure out... how are y'all gonna tell her what she's saying is right or wrong? it's her life ,have you done your research about diabetes or studied her life .. if so show me the receipts.. i'll wait 🤦🏾♂️💀
That's actually not exactly true. Health issues can definitely make it very hard to lose weight, and some medications can make you gain weight rapidly and set your body up to store fat.
I've been having a hard time recently with depression and anxiety, right now I'm lying in my bed listening to my dog snoring in a village 50 miles north of London in the UK., I've been awake since Wednesday morning (it's now Friday morning) Insomnia really does a number on me about twice a month, during these times I usually go 3 days and nights without sleep. You have been keeping me company, a warm, kind wonderful woman (don't panic, I'm not coming on to you, happily married 😅 ) but truly you've been helping to prop me up tonight and I'd like to thank you. 😘
I am an athlete. I’ve don6 figure competitions. A bit of advice. With all respect I promise. Don’t focus necessarily on what healthy foods to eat over junky foods to eat. You have an eating disorder, a particular relationship to food. Whether you find a comfort for it, like a blanket or underline emotional issue and it gives you comfort or past traumas or even the love for the flavor. You need to dig deep inside and resolve what is triggering you to over eat. Honestly you might not figure it out immediately but there’s a drive coming from somewhere. If you deal with the issue it will help you with your relationship with food. I absolutely love your channel, you are beautiful and kindhearted and no matter what kind of “flaws” someone has , the personality, the heart and good soul someone has will always outshine anything about us that we feel or society feels that are flawed. Keep being amazing girl and p.s….. you ARE cool 😎,, ya know because sometimes you say you’re not but… we all know you’re one of the cool kids
Food isn't supposed to be "fun". It's supposed to keep you alive.
I mean...food is meant to be enjoyed, everyone has fun when they are eating good food. Some people just have too much fun and don’t know how to limit themselves.
Food is actually something that should be fun and enjoyed. We just need to make sure that we are eating healthy delicious foods in correct portion sizes, while also getting enough physical activity to keep at a healthy weight.
I was 325 at my heaviest I have pcos, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, liver problems and I'm down to 187 (still on most meds) and have about 20 pounds left to go. My endocrinologist has been an amazing help and support
You're NOT healthy though. It's impossible to be healthy at your weight. Do whatever you want with your body and your life. But be real...
You can be not healthy as a thin person as well. Stop body bashing it makes you look like a loser .You dont know if she has a medical problems or not.
I know how hard it is to lose weight, I'm struggling by myself and I know for a fact, that everyday I'm lying to myself to feel better.. Some people might have gene defects or other illneses, but the fact that if you are strict and really want to lose weight will help you to do so. I'm a very lazy person and I love eating sweets and oh my god I love ice cream, but I dont feel confortable in my body. Alot of overweight people tell themselfs, "Ah, I accept my body and being overweight is ok, I dont have to prove you guys anything" Is the biggest excuse WE make! I know that you think about your journey and you see how much work and effort you need to put in and you think, "Nah it's too much, I lost it anyway and it is too late.." Sadly there is no other way than go through exercises and eating healthy. Hey you're amazing and beautiful, do it for yourself and for your children! YES, you don't need to prove anyone anything but to yourself. It is not healthy at all being that overweight. One day you might not wake up because you're body is sturggling too much. We need to stop searching for excuses and accept that we need to change something, not today not tomorrow, NOW!
I wish you all the best!
this is a speach of giving up...don't give up..you lost weight once you just have to maintain that weight. I have PCOS, I have insulin resistance, I have all that..but I didn't gave up...I lost 12 kg so far..I know I will never be skinny but I don't want to be fatter...fat kill's you..And let's be honest from a fat girl to another..it's not pretty..it's not pretty during summer when you sweat or when you sleep with your man or when you try on outfits and when you get skin rashes or smell..you can't be healthy when your fat..nobody died from fat, they died from complications developed by fat..All I want to say is just don't give up! You can do it!!! don't stress your body going to the gym 5 times a week..when you have high levels of cortisol you would not lose fat...I am not hating or something...stay strong and stay beautiful :)
You can not be that size and be “healthy”
I beg to differ
It's not about the size of what you see is about the levels of important hormones cholesterol ect that is unhealthy or in till you heard it from her actual doctor and also you can be skinny and have diabetes so your comment just sounds dumb
You honestly need to be educated before you comment....
You're right. They base it off of metabolic health. She can beg to differ all she wants, but there's a reason you don't see 70 year old rotund people.
Chloe Would that’s exactly right!
Dumping happens when you eat too fast or you eat the foods you now cannot have after surgery, it has NOTHING to do with too many carbs. I had the same surgery as you did last November and I am down 62 pounds. I also have PCOS and its working. Your body WILL absorb vitamins, were you taking vitamins every day? Sadly you're giving misinformation about this surgery. It would have worked if you has have followed it and eaten the better high protein foods. A gastric bypass is a tool, it isn't a get out of fat card. You still have to work for it and it's worth it! I adore you and love your videos but this really could have worked for you if you were ready to change your life. ♥
@Purple Amethyst She's a very headstrong person.
@@peggystoutemorin4529 You mean stubborn & can't be told anything, even by medical professionals. Dr Now would sort through all of the BS & clear things up in 3 minutes. Lol
I absolutely love you. We all have to find our paths and what works for us. I was 350 pounds and I stopped dieting and have lost 120 pounds by not dieting. I eat only when I am hungry and stop just shy of full. I am like you with my love of chicken and veggies and yes I do eat fruit too. I have pcos and my endocrinologist told me it takes a lot more work for us to lose weight. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. Thank you for your honesty and for being authentic. :-)
I'm so glad you posted this. My mom pushed me into gastric bypass in 2006 and now I weigh slightly more than I did when I got the procedure done. I still vomit up food and don't absorb the good nutrients that I eat. The surgery severed nerves in my leg and it's constantly numb. Sure, at one point I was within 20 lbs of that 'goal weight' but then I got depressed when I realized I'd never be able to have the extra skin from the drastic weight loss removed and I felt even worse about my body. We're all on our own paths and I'm very thankful you're willing to share yours! Thank you babe! 😘 ps. I love all your videos, so thanks for the entertainment!
I used to be bullied constantly for my weight all throughout childhood and high school. They drove me to starve myself for 6 months and I lost 150 pounds. People are awful and nobody should have any opinion of others' bodies. I love your positivity and watching your videos makes my day.
Let me start by sayin....You are awesome...You are beautiful....you said something that I'm taking with me....Don't let food and the scale rule my life....thanks for sharing. I enjoy your channel....
I don't understand something. If ur eating veggies and eggs in the morning and protein and veggies at lunch, no way ur weren't losing weight ...i think your not being honest.. loving your body is great but being overweight like you is not healthy . You must of been binge eating in between your breakfast and lunch ?
No. PCOS reals havoc on your metabolism.
You’re amazing and an absolute inspiration to me. I’ve been fat shamed for years and it’s not ok. Thanks for sharing such a powerful message xx
I'm so deeply sorry for some of the judgmental comments below, even by people who think they are trying to be helpful!
I loved one comment in particular which was "being fat is easy" OMG that is such an ignorant thoughtless thing to say and it always amazes me to think people are so shortsighted.
Your story, your journey is very similar to my own and I know and understand what you have been through I know how friggin hard it is to be obese, I know the struggles, the constant judgement and silent shame.
Thank you for sharing and I think you are AMAZING to have such a generosity of spirit to share this journey when so many can be so needlessly cruel.
I have so much respect for you and hope that you can see that you are helping other people like you and like me feel less lonely and isolated and more accepted and worthy 💕💕💕💕
All those people are insecure. I've noticed most people that shame others for appearances are projecting their insecurities. Those people are annoyed she's happy.
“1600 calories I was starving all day” welcome to how normal people don’t stuff their faces all day long
Marie Hicks most people need around 2000 cals
No, most people don't. People are far more sedentary than we used to be.
its average for most people but at her size she just has to eat 500 calories than she normally would and she would still lose weight.
People are so quick to judge. You’re beautiful! Your spirit is beautiful!! You keep doing you!! 😍😍😍
I lost 150lbs after my divorce. Then the quarantine hit and I lost my job, and I had a lot of loved ones pass away in one year, and I gained a lot of it back. (Like double digits, and none of them had anything to do with covid, so I slipped into a huge depression.) Last year, I had enough, packed up all my belongings, and moved across the country to start over. Since February, I have lost 60lbs, now bringing me back to the same weight I was when I gave birth to my son 27 years ago. The fluctuation of weight over the years has taken its toll on my body, and I find I struggle more with that than the weight now. I wish I had your confidence. I have been single for 8 years because in my head, I am convinced no one will want me because of the way my body looks now. Part of me knows it's crazy, but it's a mental glitch I just cannot seem to overcome. You're an inspiration to people like me, so I'm glad I stumbled across your channel. Hopefully one day, I can be as secure in myself as you. That's a goal.
I think you are the first obese person I have met on UA-cam who says it as it is without right or wrong.
you are so amazing.
I've recently started a life changing journey myself! I started off at 344 pounds and in 7 months have lost 50 pounds. What I have noticed about myself and my weight loss is that I hit that plateau every 15 pounds.... SO I started alternating from low calorie to no carbs every 15 pounds! That plateau isn't that long now since I figured it out. Also my workout habits change throughout the week. I can not stick to one workout all week, I change it every day. One day Zumba the next day I walk 4 miles at the park and then I do Cize it up. It's worked for me so far. It sucks to have to fight this battle and the only one that knows how hard it is, is the one fighting it! Don't give up! I love you're videos and you seem like a nice person! Keep your head up my fabulous darling!
When you have that kind of surgery you're not supposed to eat sugar and your stomach is so small now you don't eat much food because not a lot fits. So you have to eat smaller meals more times a day And it's normal to lose that much weight because that is what the surgery is designed to do. Plus when you are that weight it's normal to loose a lot. And it's hard but we are responsible for our health and weight and no one else. You have a food addiction and an emotional attachment to food. That has to be fixed first. If you stall you can't quit. And not because oh you need to loose weight for the looks but for health reasons. It took you a lifetime to gain it it's gonna take you a long time to lose it. Food is not meant to be purely enjoyment it's our fuel. It's not about feeling good in your own skin it's about living long enough to enjoy being in your own skin.
I think a lot of the terrible things that people comment on your videos are rooted in their own fear. Let's be real: very few people want to be super morbidly obese; it's not healthy and it's not within the parameters of average in our society. Rather than just going on their merry way and either maintaining the healthy weight that they're at or working on losing weight for themselves, they act out and post rude-ass comments. Just know that things that people say to you are a reflection of them and not you; from your videos you seem like a kind person who doesn't deserve to be verbally abused just for existing and daring to have a UA-cam channel. I hope that you're able to get back to it and find some greater measure of success in pursuing weight loss and live a long, happy life.
@AnalogWinter Congratulations on mind f her. You just turned around in told her things she said in her video. Are you trying to be nice or kiss ass? People do say some mean things but she does know she's not healthy you just can't read in between the lines. Oh and she does have a hot temper.
Losing weight is not rocket science & you are not a medical mystery. Regardless of whether or not you have weight loss surgery, PCOS, or any other thyroid or metabolic disorder, the concept STILL remains the same: calories in versus calories out OR burn more than you consume, and you are not an exception to this principle. However just because it's a simple concept, doesn't mean it's easy. It takes discipline, self-control, will power, determination, and consistency. Dr. Now would sort through the BS & clear all of this up in 3 minutes. Many obese people are concerned with losing weight "too fast" or "too much", however that's not a problem, it's the solution, therefore it should be the least of your worries.
Hey, Kandy! We share a very similar story. I went on my first diet at age 4, have done every fad diet/diet pill/support group known to man over the years. I had GB about 12 year ago. We had the same procedure. I too had rapid weight loss, followed by weight gain, iron infusions, B12 shots, etc. I have my moments, but like you I am finally OK with being fat. I will never completely give up, and would LOVE to be your partner on a season of Biggest Loser..LOL! But I will NOT continue to go through life miserable because the world wants to judge and expects for me to dedicate my life to being thin. You are a beatiful person. Keep sharing!
I am so glad I am not alone. I don't see many people talk about the negative side effects of GB over the long term.
go keto! its not a diet, its a lifestyle change, were doing it now and its actually amazing Ive never had so much energy, the meals and snacks are filling and satisfying better than any other "diet" weve tried before!
I don't understand why people feel so free to comment on, and care so much, about how much another person weighs. No one is making them gain weight so why do they care?
Please. Just please. Aside from people sharing their own struggles, the amount of comments one finds on any of these types of videos that contain even a modicum of genuine concern or "empathy" is minuscule. Absolutely no need to pretend that the vast, vast majority of comments about weight aren't rooted in sheer disgust for overweight people.
I came across your clothes try on video and I just want you to know I love you and your personality! Such a strong beautiful person! I just want to hug you. There are so many people in this world struggling with the same thing you are and Im sure your an inspiration to them. Not very many people have the guts to share to the public something they struggle with. And there are people out there who are so mean when they really shouldn't be. If your happy then that is all that matters. If somebody wants to be bald and that makes them happy then that's great. People need to quit being so rude and judgemental. Anyways your amazing!
I came upon your site b/c I wanted to see what people had to say about Lularoe. There was something about your personality that I really liked. Thanks for sharing your weight journey. Again I really liked how you talked. So I have subscribed to your site and am looking forward to more vlogs.
Thank you so much Grace!
To maintain a weight in the 440-510 range you are eating way more than 1600 calories a day. But to her 1600 will feel like she is starving. I hope she re-thinks giving up. Her life expectancy at the size she is at is 50-55 max. It's almost too late
fuck the haters, they don't have to live your life. You're Beautiful !!! ❤❤❤
These negative comments can eat my ass. Live your life, do your best, keep sharing your experience. It's a very brave thing to put yourself out there for criticism or praise. Here's some praise. ❤️
"My husband didn't know anything about this" no hate, but you probably should've told him...
Paige Way I think she meant her husband didn’t know anything about the surgery and how to push her like her mom did. Not that he didn’t know she had it he just didn’t know how to care for it.
I follow your channel all the time. I FOUND this today and i have NO words to say. You have left me both speechless and loving MYSELF MORE!! TY so much for being who you are, What you have gone through and sharing!!
The current science says eat whole food, plant based. Exercise is nice but only the food matters in weight management and health.
I appreciate your ability to not be ashamed of your weight and to be proud of trying on cute clothing and show us everything, even what doesn't fit. I feel a lot of shame about my obesity and I don't like wearing a lot of what is in fashion these days. I would never wear leggings and I have a problem with most skinny jeans. I appreciate you sharing your story. But for some of us, what we learned as a child is hard to overcome. I learned that fat is hideous and overweight people should do everything they can to hide their bodies. I was taught that fat people shouldn't wear bathing suits or go to the beach. Even shorts and sleeveless tops are a no-no. I know my parents weren't consciously teaching me these things but all the years of overhearing their comments about others has lead to my own shame. I am glad there are people out there that can be overweight and happy. I don't know if it is even possible for me.
This sounds so very traumatic :( I'm so sorry you've gone through all of this.
I admire that you have accepted who you are. I think many of us struggle with that whether it be about our weight, feeling different, feeling stuck in bad relationships, etc. Thanks for your candor.
I lost 78 pounds I had gained from child birth. I did it by cutting my portions in half and drinking mostly water and or lemonade and only treating myself to a dessert once a week. I'm very proud about that. And I have PCOS and a bunch other problems especially with my thyroid. But I had my eye on the prize and boy it feels good to be thinner. Recently I'm working on losing about 30 pounds more. I go to snack has been almonds natural, and dried fruit. My husband and I are both doing the keto diet the best we can. Thanks for sharing your struggle. I think we both came to this conclusion that we just want to be as healthy as we possibly can be for our children. I recently joined a gym and I absolutely love going. My husband has a work out business located in the same area as his business and so he goes there three times a week to work out and talk about nutrition. It really is wonderful.
scientifically speaking- to lose body fat, you have to put your body in a caloric deficit. if you are maintaining weight or gaining, then you are consuming too many calories. it doesn't matter who you are or what you eat (healthy or processed) calories are calories and fat loss is 100% calories in bs calories out. calories consumed VS calories spent. I've lost over 100 lbs counting g calories in 1 year. I started at 320 lbs and am now 215 and still consistently losing 2lbs per week by putting my body in a caloric deficit. its science. the type of food doesn't matter. its portion size and portion control that is key when losing body fat.
OH GOD NOT 45 MINUTES OF EXERCISE PER DAY 😫 you have to push through it. Good diet and exercise IS THE WAY TO HEALTH FOR EVERYONE. You can’t just decide that healthy living doesn’t work for you haha.
Wow! Here I am tearing up at 2 am cause I can't sleep, you amaze me with how u see yourself and how you learned to accept who you are, I struggle with that daily, I have had very few positive influences in my life which caused me to hate myself more and more as I got older, again wow! We need more people like you, screw those trolls in your comments, your health isn't affecting their lives one bit, your weight isnt either, they are bored sad people who can't find anything better to do. Love your channel btw! Keep being you girl!
wow, your story is so scary. You make me want to go take a walk and forget the surgery.
You seriously are an inspiration to me! I’ve been really sick the past few years and have put on a lot of weight from it and I’ve been hiding from people because of it, but hearing you and seeing your videos I’m starting to go out and face people and not worry about what they think and I can be happy and have some cute clothes even though I’m heavy right now! I have my story and reason to why I’m heavy and it shouldn’t Matter to others and I see that now!! Thank you and keep being awesome please !! You are awesome and so beautiful!!
Kandy, hi! First, thanks for sharing. It's always good to share our story, experiences, victories and sorrows. It makes us embrace what happened and learn. But this isn't your "story". You are much more than your weight and, even though you have a hard time losing weight, it doesn't mean it's impossible! Though, the more you wait, the harder it'll be.
Try to think of this as not your image, but as your health. It's not only diabetes, but it's your heart, your joints, your lungs. Unfortunately, food will be a medicine for you, so you'll have to be very careful with it. Exercize is a great part of it and you have to know that when you gain muscle, you'll gain weight, cause muscle weights more than fat (which was probably what happened when you gained 5 pounds)
It's going to be a slow process, because your body is used to it. Have patience. Don't give up. You need at least one year for your body to get used to the new diet.
I watched the whole video and I saw what you said in the end. Still, I felt like leaving this message to you, because, sometimes, we need a little reminder. But, yes, you're awesome anyway.
Good luck.
MsSusiePan you are simply amazing for taking the time out to share this message with her. That was a beautiful thing to do 💖
I just need to say that you are so strong and brave for sharing your experiences. I think it's disgusting that people have to sit here and judge you when they don't even know you and haven't walked a mile in your shoes love!!
Stay strong, Stay healthy, and Stay kind❤️💙
You are lying pure and simple. There are no fat people in famines around the world and there were no fat people in concentration camps. Why? Because they were not eating too enough maintain weight. If 1600 calories (allegedly, I know you are eating much more) is keeping you fat, eat less. I have struggled with my weight for many years and have actual diagnosed thyroid issues and trust me.. eat too much for your body=FAT, eat much less=NOT FAT. Simple. Eating less work every single time, try it for real this time.
I listened to your story and I feel sorry that your life has not gone the way you hoped. I believe every word you said. Not all of us can loose weight no matter how hard we try, but there are many out there who tend not to believe thats true, and we try hard to convince them because they make you feel fat shamed and that you are a liar. Kandy I think your a great women, your strong and fierce and you face life head on. Don't change for anyone, and ignore the ignorant people, they add nothing to your life. Keep doing what you do, be happy and enjoy every minute because life is very short. I think you look great, your attitude is excellent and you seem to be a very nice person, I wish you the best life has to offer and I hope to see more of your blogs.
Thank you so much for your kind words. That means a lot to me!
We're going to need a food log that includes drinks, sauces, condiments, snacks, cooking oil. Five days at the gym could mean anything. Walking on a treadmill barely burns any calories. Also, everyone that has ever successfully became fit has encountered plateaus. Which they continue on until it passes. Nothing special.
Ackbar Norad lol.. so many people don't realize the soft drinks keep the weight on amd those condiments are full of fat and the way the food is cooked in oils . You're 💯 % right about the food log she probably wasn't watching all those little things that kept her from losing
No, we don't need a food log. What she eats is between her and her doctor/nutritionist, no one else. As for walking, it sure beats the heck out of laying in bed, watching UA-cam like I am right now. 😎
AngelKitty4OU you're not understanding why a food log is important when a person complains they tried dieting and exercise and never lose weight. There's a reason why and a food log helps a dietician to see why.
Walking on a treadmill will burn alot of calories for someone her size you fucking moron.
Yaass Queen if she burns more than what she intakes yes it will. Of course she's going to lose weight burning more calories than what she intakes. How do you figure not so?
Use the My Fitness Pal app! I have hypothyroidism and high blood pressure and I have been fat all my life. I use the app to monitor my calorie intake. My highest weight was 234 at 5'1" and I have issues with self-loathing and depression stemming from years of molestation done to me by different men throughout my childhood. I eat when I'm bored, sad, stressed, basically for any emotion though not really out of hunger. Sometimes I eat just to do something, to try and grasp pleasure. I feel like food is one of the few things I can control but the reality is _it controls _*_me_* ... it's as if I'm trying to physically fill a void that is present in my soul. It cannot be done through physical means.
I think about it every waking moment, but most of the time I derive no pleasure from it and only makes me feel worse. One day I had enough of this disgusting cycle so I got a gym membership and downloaded the app and thought what the heck, I'll try it out. I fucking hate physical activity 😂 I'm the laziest piece of shit on the planet but I despise being fat even more. I personally restrict my calories down to ~1,200 and go to the gym 4x a week. I've lost 40 pounds so far and my goal is to lose 100 total. You can do it! It's soooo easy to underestimate the calories one is ingesting, believe me. The app is free and it's a great tool and couldn't recommend it enough. Best of luck ❤️
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Kandy first let me say you are the BOMB!!! KA-BOOM KA-BOOM!!! love that you were able to share your story and that now all that matters is you.
You are awesome it took me a while (also my to my wonderful support my hubby)to get that thur my head that I'm a nice person and being plus size doesn't change who I am in the inside. unfortunately do that I am a severe diabetic I need to lose the weight it will help with the neuropathy in my legs and also the gurd pain that I have in my chest. I will never be a XL but I want to live a great and long life with my husband. Can't wait too see more videos. love ya.
What an honest and touching video. I relate so much about trying to lose and your body says, "hell no I'm staying here". Have peace with who you are because you're a pretty cool girl. I watch your video's because you encourage people to be kind, accepting, and it's important to remember you haven't lived anyone else's battles in life so stop judging. Good health, long life and joy to you sweety.
You lost 40 pounds in two months with only dietary changes before surgery. I think that should be the main point of this video. I hope that is something that resonates.
That was before I had surgery and my body changed. I wish it was as easy now as it was then.
It's not easy. I'm morbidly obese and I lost 50 pounds this year. This month I haven't lost an ounce. It's kind of normal to go a few months without losing weight. It's happened before. I restricted further. I was starving and my hair started falling out. Didn't move the scale and I almost fell off the wagon. This time I took a week to eat more calories instead of restricting to lower my stress level and went back to my normal calories (25 percent deficit no less) Sometimes the hardest thing to do is be kind to ourselves.
Familliar Nori Well done on your weight loss. I hope you're still doing well. I think sometimes people end up eating too little and the body goes into starvation mode. You sound like you found the answer by eating a bit more and giving yourself a break in every sense.
Your story is so moving! I also had insulin resistance after my daughter birth every time I ate it was sheer terror. Heart racing could not breathe.. I’m very proud that you are on your journey and wish you the very best ❤️
Bravo kandy girl,l loved this video.Thank God lm a new subby,and completely adore you.
I feel you for standing in your truth.
The only one you have to be honest with is you.Fuck all the haters,screw them.Baby girl l too have been fluffy for the majority of my life, age 63 and you're teaching me that you are a force to be reckoned with.Keep up the confidence,the strength,the love of one self and the l dont give a fuck attitude.Beautiful girl,you have no idea how inspirational you are.Love you girl.Keep those videos coming.
Hi Kandy, thank you for sharing your experiences with us! You continue to inspire me, keep doing what you're doing girl oh, I think it's wonderful to promote body positivity and self-love! I had the sleeve surgery a little over a year ago and I still have struggles too , due to many health conditions. Well I am rambling on I just wanted to say how great I think you are much love, please keep uploading your videos and Vlogs and keep inspiring us all!!
What do you mean "it's not as easy as calories in calories out" when you lost 100 pounds doing just that? So you stalled and gained 5 pounds... that's very normal. 1600 calories and starving? You are very misinformed. I weigh about a third of you (and I'm still overweight) and I eat 1300 calories or less to lose weight the healthy way. I'm not starving and I've gained small amounts during my journey but that makes me try that much harder. I feel sorry for you because apparently no one is being brutally honest with you. You will die. Your body isn't made to function like that.
She only cares about comments to which she can give pretty red hearts. Brutal honesty does not fit into her safe space.
Thank you for your story. As someone who lost half of her small intestine I know all about not absorbing nutrients from the food. I had a hernia...excuse me I have a hernia that had been fixed many times (5) and keeps opening up. It no longer can be fixed. In 2013 I had a severe pain that turned out to be a bowel obstruction and my small intestine was dying fast. The doctor said if I had of waited 2 more hours I would have died. Losing that much intestine is really bad for the body. I have to take shot for thymine and b12. I have to get iron infusion often and I developed hypothyroid problems. I fight daily just to keep my levels up. Vitamin d is a big problem too. I've had 4 blood transfusion because I was so sick from my levels being so low.
You stay strong❤
U r awsome,it takes a huge amount of courage to be this open. Thanks for sharing your JOURNEY
Girl you are so strong! Im 34 been married 13 years and have 6 kids. i had sleeve surgery march 2017. When i started i was 435lbs. i decided on surgery because with my last birth the dr messed up my back bad and i need back surgery and no Dr would do it at my weight. Day of surgery i was 365lbs, and im 9 1/2 months out and im 242lbs. Its by no means been easy. At 5 months out i had my gallbladder removed and was super sick from 3 months out until they took it out. then got bile reflux once it was out. then at 7 months out i got tons of kidney stones had to have them taken out and passed a few on my own fuckin awful pain. My hair is falling out like crazy and i have so much extra skin i could reconstruct a 5 year old. But i dont regret any of it! Its my journey. We all have a different journey to travel and while it may not be fun or easy its our to travel. And fuck the people talkin shit. As long as you are happy with yourself thats all that matters. I wish you nothing but the best and i really love your attitude towards life and what you are doing.
Lynn Pech Torres I’m reading this 2 years after you wrote it I hope you are still doing well with your weight loss but I had to tell you i literally laughed out loud about reconstructing a 5 year old out of the excess skin. 😂
1.600 calories is the maximum I can eat without gaining weight. I don´t have a car and run around a lot, additionally I work out every day. Without all the activity I can consume 1.150 calories to stay at my weight.
I´m sorry that you have to deal with this weight issues - I think if you are used to eating a lot you have a really hard time if you restrict calories and it must feel like starving. I get that. But it is a pretty normal amount of calories.
Anyway, I hope you manage to lose some weight and be more healthy.
Love your videos and honesty! I too lost about 125 pounds (and struggle with PCOS) doing EXACTLY what you described! I was obsessed, I had to be. Got pregnant gained most back, and suffered Postpartum Depression because of it. It's been 15 months, I'm trying so hard to love myself for the first time, losing weight didn't do it. Thanks for being a body positive role model.
Thank you for sharing your story! I have had very similar struggles. PCOS is no joke and has almost ruined many women's health, myself included. Those who think it's not possible to truly put in the effort and not lose weight, please research PCOS. It's real
Thanks for sharing your story! I had Gastric Bypass surgery 10 yrs ago. 🤣 My lowest weight was 175 lbs. I now weight 210. I know how it feels to eat next to nothing but can't lose weight. I have always been the fluffy one that reminded the rest of the family of the heavy side of the family. PISSES ME OFF! But I have had to realize that I will ALWAYS be the heavy one. 😕 😑 At 46 yrs old I had to have a pacemaker put in because my body wasn't absorbing enough nutrients to keep my heart going. SO... I just gotta "do me" the best I can & be grateful to be alive, no matter how much I really don't care to continue LIFE. I have a beautiful, intelligent 23 yr old son, so as he finishes his Ph. D. in Psychology/Sociology, I live life FOR HIM! *GOD BLESS YOU!* 😊
You're so beautiful I strive to be as confident as you❤.
You are awesome. Stay positive! Stay strong. Everything will work out if you love who you are!
Bigger people should be able to lose weight more quickly and easily than a person who is closer to their ideal weight. It's just very confusing that you would stop your weightless journey because you plateaued. Everyone plateaus, but you just have to change up your work-outs to work your body out in different ways. Trying a bunch of diets, but not sticking to it is what makes you not keep the weight off. There is just no way that you could be in the morbidly obese category and be healthy. That is a lie and whoever told you that should be out of your life.
The more you exercise the hungrier you become. At least in my experience. My 1st husband, when I gained weight from 125 to over 300 from Lithium within 4-5 months, was a feeder & narcissistic abuser. I divorced him, started jogging on a track at the Y & bike riding & lost some weight but was ignorant of what benzos really did & bulimia with episodes of starvation messed me up. I'd purge when only eating a piece of cake.
I held on to body dysmorphia even after getting to under 150 lbs.
Thank you for your honesty & beauty! You are helping so many people! I'm learning to enjoy food again despite hiatal hernia surgery soon...the TIF procedure. Some days I can barely eat when it acts up & will have to eat mush for a month or so.
I love your story! I have health issues myself, but I have trouble gaining weight and sometime needs feeds to help maintain my weight.. I have cystic fibrosis and we have absorption problems... thank you for sharing your story! 💕
You are very brave. I hear your struggle and frustration. We all should be compassionate and empathetic. I'm glad you have made the decision to be positive. You go girl.
I think you're SOFA-KING (see what i did there? Lol) AMAZING! You are incredibly beautiful, even more so within. I love the message you're spreading. Keep doing you Boo-boo. 😁🦄
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I follow your channel all the time. I FOUND this today and i have NO words to say. You have left me both speechless and loving MYSELF MORE!! TY so much for being who youbare, What yiu ave gine through and sharing!!
yoo.. it's just like.. 1600 calories is plenty of food and the reason that doctors thought you were lying is that would be the only logical explanation. its hard and food is an addiction for sure but once you learn to fuel your body and not your mind with food, its easier to control. people who comment here feel empathy for you and your situation but have a right to be skeptical of your story. the truth is that if you eat too much you gain weight and if you eat less you lose weight. it is that simple. you've been checked and re-checked for some medical anomaly that would excuse you from this rule but you aren't excused. living at a size like this is pushing your body to its farthest limits. push your mind in the same way to save yourself. your health can only decline at this weight--humans were not meant to live at such a large size. and it really is a simple fix. eat less. learn to have healthier relationships with everything around you, focusing on the way that you relate to food and body image. you have every right to be confident and feel good. but! it is crucial to face the music here because your life probably depends on it.
i wish you all the best
I've tried 1800 calories and I was lightheaded and hungry all the time ☹
Dawn Randazzo it depends on what kind of calories you’re eating! If you eat 1800 calories of fruit snacks, you’ll probably feel crabby and hungry. If you eat 1800 calories of lean meat, whole grains, fruit, and lots of veggies and drink an assload of water- 1800 is enough
Alli M I wasn't eating fruit snacks, I was eating all the right foods. Plain oatmeal and a banana for breakfast, Apple and peanut butter for morning snack, chicken breast salad with low cal dressing for lunch, handful of carrots with a tablespoon of light ranch, lean meat and veggies for dinner and a cup of skim milk and a sugar free pudding for evening snack. It was between 1800-2000 calories and I was miserable and hungry and lightheaded all the time and didn't lose a single pound.
Other than the cup of skim milk all I drink is water, and lots of it.
1600 calories is actually a low amount of calories for any adult woman. It's even at the lower end of acceptable during weight loss programs. 1600 calories per day will ALWAYS be a part of a very aggressive and non-sustainable weight loss program. You've got your basal metabolic rate that depends on a lot of factors, and it's just how many calories your body needs to keep functioning at a basic level. It's higher than most people think. I'm not disputing that her doctors are probably assuming that she's not being truthful, I just get worried when I see people who think 1200-1600 calories per day, is sustainable, because of weight loss apps that calculate things for fast weight loss versus permanent weight loss. 1600 may be doable for some people, but not for everyone, and definitely doesn't suit anyone long term in terms of maintaining ones weight.
I got PCOs too. Been struggling with being a bit overweight most of my life. But when I do make an effort, I lose weight. For me, a low carb diet is what works the best. At my highest, 320lbs, I found out I had diabetes, PCOs makes it easier to become diabetic due to insulin resistance. Lost almost 100lbs since. I build muscles easily, due to the pcos causing a bit of excess testosterone, so when I keep an decently strict exercise regime, I really notice how my body build itself up, and it happens fast! And that is so much fun! You got so much to win in being healthier. Food is still fun, but it's not supposed to be a comfort or something to turn to when things are hard. I love food, making food, talking and cooking food. But, I do not cry on it's shoulder anymore.
Erm, several things caught my attention -
1) a whole zuchinni for breakfast?
2) 1600 calories and starving? How? You name foods that just don't add up to 1600 - so you were eating smth else that gave calories and kilos but no energy
I remember watching this video, when you first posted and here I am again to refresh my memory.
Some people are just not meant to be thin. 2 friends of mine died after gastric bypass surgery. I wish they were here and fat rather than thin and dead. :-(
Thank you for sharing your story, I'm advocating for you, and I know you don't need me to but it makes me so angry that people feel entitled to offer you unsolicited "help" or are just plain mean. Keep up the good work, you are inspiring so many people just by living your truth.
I feel bad for laughing but when you said you were starving at eating 1,600 calories I was like... isn't that the amount of calories a woman is supposed to have
Ida Pickle Google and educate yourself. 1,600 calories is VERY low for someone her weight. She would be starving. As in the feeling of hunger.
Normal caloric intake for a woman is 2000 per day, actually. Google is your friend.
Isabella M. Actually it's not. That's for men. But really your caloric intake is based on your height. Someone who is 5'0 shouldn't be eating as many calories as someone who is 6'0.
1600 kcal is an average for women yes. Most women don’t need more than 1600-1800 kcal a day. Mens is at 2300 kcal. But yes, that is a totally normal intake, and you don’t need more than that.
Tiffany Little but considering she had the surgery that makes your stomach tiny, wouldn't it be different compared to the average person?
I have PCOS and no cysts either. It's a horrible disease or whatever it's called. By the time they diagnosed me, I'd had it so long that I had developed type 2 diabetes from the insulin resistance. I know the struggle. You are a very strong woman and brave and I send you lots of love.
lol you're lying. for sure. If you excersized 45 minutes a day 5 days a week and only ate 1600* calories you would lose weight
I absolutely did, at first. After 18 months, I didn't anymore.
Kandy Foxx then that means you need to change something
Here's the thing, you will lose on 1600 calories but it is very common for people to get into phases where they don't lose anything... It is referred to as stalls. These stalls can last a few weeks or a few months but if a person continues doing everything right the stall will end and they will go back to losing. That's why many doctors encourage their patients not to get too discouraged if they go through a long period of stalling. And, people can actually 'gain' weight during the stall but if you talk to the doctor the weight gained (2-5 lbs) is very commonly water weight an bloating and it isn't actual weight gain. That is why a lot of doctors tell their patients to not weigh themselves all that much especially during a stall because it does lead to discouragement and the person giving up.
hi. not 100% correct. there is me for example. i wasn't aware my thyroid wasn't even working. and i gradually started a weight gain even though i dont eat as much but always took in under 2,000 calories. I work 7 days a week and constantly moving. i went to the gym. then the symptoms became more known to me. and i went in to the doctor they said hey heres some thyroid medicine and heres some birth control to fix the other issues... hmmm im still rapidly gaining weight despite 1 hour in the gym and light meals throughout the day. fast forward these past 2 months i quit birth control i quit the thyroid medication.. and suddenly ive dropped 15 pounds. i really honestly can not even tell if i should trust doctors or not. they say my thyroid was bad and yet.. here i am losing weight... after i quit the drugs that were prescribed to me.
Eliza Georjeux thyroid problems are complicated. They put you on medication but they should have been having you come in to do blood tests toake sure you are on the right dosage. If you aren't on the right dosage the medication will not work. Also, sometimes getting a second opinion helps because your issue might not be solely thyroid related but once the doctor saw there was something wrong with the thyroid they centered on that and didn't look into anything else.
Oh come now. I find it a little too hard to believe; a person who is “outside all the time” and so sports-orientated can be so overweight. All that muscle building through baseball, volleyball, and wrestling would enable the body to burn it off easily. Unless they were eating like an elephant. I’m at the gym 5 days a week for strength training and cardio and I’m a size 6.
You have quickly become one of my favorite youtubers! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
You are so cool and super honest to your subs and most importantly, to yourself. Long tough road but happy you are happy with yourself now. Thanks for sharing! 🌸
There is no such thing as being prediabetic. Either you’re a diabetic or you’re not. YOU ARE NOT HEALTHY! Why do obese people think they are healthy? You’re far from it. You really need to watch an autopsy of an obese person. The fat is not just under your skin with your major organ sitting under your fat every single organ in your body is completely covered in fat. Your heart is the worst. Your heart is just swimming in fat. It’s like you take a plastic heart and then take some play dough and wrap it around the heart. That is what the heart and all other major organs are like. Yes you should be happy and live your life no matter your size but you need to be trying as hard as you can to keep trying to lose fat. I wish obese people would stop thinking they are healthy and stop being in denial how about their health. Believe it or not you have one food in the grave. If you don’t have serious problems now just wait! Those problems are right around the corner. So sad that your health and body don’t mean more to you. Good luck!
Thank you for sharing your struggles and so many others struggles, myself included. I know firsthand the craziness that PCOS can wreak on your body ~ emotionally, physically, and everything in between. You ARE awesome! And beautiful, inside and out. Love you, girl! 😘
How the hell can you have PCOS and not have cysts? It's PolyCYSTIC Ovarian Syndrome. Without the cysts, you just have what? Ovarian Syndrome? What is that?
Weight = calories in vs calories expended. Period. Even if you have PCOS or thyroid issues, that means an additional 20 or 30 pounds. Not hundreds. You are eating too many calories and not moving enough. That's the answer and it's not a mystery.
the ignorance is rampant in this feed isn't it? so many "experts" so little knowledge.
I was aware of the last bit, but I guess the name is misleading. Huh! I just know when I was diagnosed with it, I had all sorts of cysts in my ovaries.
I might be wrong about the PCOS thing, but I'm not wrong about everything else I said. :)
Aja Warnock the comment section is full of EXCUSES! I am a bit of an expert actually. A degree in kinesiology, personal trainer and nutrition and wellness training. You do not become this obese unless you are overeating and not moving. Calories in Vs Calories out! The people who have had true lasting success are the people who accepted this as fact and kept going when they hit plateaus.
unfortunately from a biology perspective, the notion that weight gain is strictly calories in v.s. calories out is very antiquated. it has it's place, and there is truth to it, but in the science world, is no longer considered to be the beginning and the end of the issue. The full understanding of the endocrine system and related dysfunctions, (endochrine triangle, hyperadrenia, insulinoma, Hashimoto's disease, Addison's disease... etc.) is needed to go beyond broad applications of nutrition advice and concepts that may apply to many, but will never apply to all. this is my field of specialty. i do believe that people should continue to exercise past plateaus, at least three days/ week, even if weight loss is not happening, because of the various benefits including, but not limited to, cardiovascular health, lung capacity, stamina, muscle building, bone density, digestive aid, and circulation, (blood and lymph).
Hey Kandy! I just subscribed to your channel. I enjoy your videos so much, you are such a beautiful person inside and out. Your confidence and positive attitude is inspiring for plus size women like myself who are struggling to have love and accept themselves. Thank you for sharing your story❤
Dont blame the pcos when your eating fast food everyday with every meal
Janis Ian what is your problem ? This is her story no one force you to listen , if you can’t be supportive then keep your mouth shut jackass
DungTuan Kenny it's a public comment section anyone can say whatever opinion they want so try keeping that in mind next time
She didn't blame the pcos lol
anothergrill yup you can comment whatever you want. But you are opening yourself up to reply’s also. There is absolutely no reason to comment nasty comments on this video. No reason at all. You open yourself up to the repercussions of commenting rude things. You are not above anyone. You are not above her. If you don’t like it...DONT. WATCH. It’s very easy to not comment. It takes a special kind of person to actively comment random useless mean comments for no reason except to be fucking rude.
well actually considering everybody has a right to do whatever they want there IS a reason to comment anything rude or not. I have some advice for you though, if it bothers YOU that much and YOU just hate seeing mean comments YOU can just NOT LOOK at the comment section at all! What a concept right? :)
I came across your channel a couple days ago, I have been binge watching your videos. I love love LOVE this video. You are such a kind, easy going person. Keep being awesome!!
I get the struggle. your story is a lot like mine.
I can totally relate to your story - thank you!! And you ARE AWESOME!!😀
I think you're an awesome person Kandy! It's DEFINITELY not EASY to lose weight! All we can all do is our BEST for ourselves and not worry about what other people think!
I think your awesome! All my life I was thin until I got put on antidepressants, I gained 100 pounds in less than a year. Serious. I have tried so many times to taper off my meds., but I can't handle it. I guess I need the drug for ocd. Makes me sad how people judge us by our appearance when they really have no fucking clue.
It seems to me that your doing everything right, your eating healthy and getting plenty of exercise. I'm not a thin fit lady by any stretch of the imagination. I will very briefly tell you my story. When I was 16 I almost broke my back, and for the next few years I found it very hard to exercise, but being young I did keep the weight down, fast forward 15 years and marriage and 2 children I was about 4stone overweight. My husband was invited to a colleagues wedding, he really wanted to go but no way was I going to let his work friends see me the way I was. So in four months I lost 4 stone. They way I did it almost killed me, my body went through so much trauma. I looked amazing for the wedding, but everyone said I lost the weight way to fast. My doctor told me my body would now store any fat it could in case I were to put it through this trauma again. I'm now sat with so much scar tissue of fat around the area of my back that I now take 8 strong pain killers a day, and even light exercise causes me intense pain. I'm about 5 stone overweight and can't do a thing about it. As soon as I started to eat a very sensible diet after loosing the weight, I gained weight, because I'd vertically starved myself for four months, as well as exercising for hours a day. My husband would scream at me to stop the diet, but I wanted to look slim for that wedding. Obviously there is a lot more to this story than I've written here. I only found your channel days ago, but I think your lovely with a great confidence I'd love to have. Xxxxxxxxxxx