She would say he was nothing, so she ruined her marriage for nothing? No, she ruined the marriage to get beefed down by 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III.
@@abbthedreamer8378 yes, I want the truth, not some half ass excuse that she thinks I want to hear. If you think otherwise you're just coping And failing with yourself.
It’s always “a mistake”. No. She started an emotional affair, texted AP, made plans, met up with him, had sex, didn’t come clean, tried to love bomb her husband to assuage her own guilt and intended to never confess. How is that “a mistake”? It’s a series of betrayals and acts of disrespect.
@@sanicinapanic4264 the point I’m making is that it is not “a” mistake as in one singular, stand alone, unaccompanied mistake. Her actions were multiple. Plural. Numerous. I’m not quibbling over her use of the word mistake, just the seemingly omnipresent usage of the term “a mistake” as a deceitful minimization. I hope that provides some clarity, I apologize if my original point was not artfully conveyed.
@@sanicinapanic4264 By that interpretation Ted Bundy "made a mistake" or are his intentional actions towards an end he desired somehow different from hers? as if she somehow didn't know having an affair was wrong.
It's a mistake if you actually regret it cuz at the end of the day you can't lie and convince your self your partner is the only attractive person we all know that's lies
She the worst kind of cheater. She didn't have bad marriage nor she was tempted by other men. She purposely search for other men. She will cheat again in the future that just her nature.
But she was supposed to reject him because she had a loving hasband I can tell that the hasband was also in the same situation with other women but he was still loyal so ain't justifying her actions@@NeoCreo1
Definitely possible that she made the post make her sound like less of a bad guy. But she did feel bad about what she did. It doesn't even count as a mistake, it was a choice but it's also a choice she regrets. She deserves anything bad that comes from this whole ordeal. But I understand his desire to continue the relationship. You have the person who you love more than anything right in front of you. She's a cheater and you'll never be able to fully trust her again, but you still love her. Just wish she confessed to him
@@-lord1754 It's sad. The quote that has stuck with me since I first saw it shared somewhere online a decade ago: "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."
You guys are dum What did you think the husband was doing without using protections? It's obvious the baby wasnt an accident lol, it was just something that happened
@@dukenukem1718 tell me where in the video the husband planned to use birth control. It was a shared choice to not bother. I dont agree with modern feminism and women either, but some of you have equally large biases.
@@leonardomeloni69, no where in the video it was said they didn't plan using birth control, sweetie. It's a given that any sane family will have child planning in this day and age. What are you smoking? Talking as if having a child is like having a play date.
How so? unless this is the exmept your logic is leave someone behind no matter what if they do you wrong by all means he has the right to leave but is no joke if he chooses to let her stay
@@sanicinapanic4264 to disrespect your partner, in such horrific way. To spit on a marriage like that. Is unforgivable to me. He has such low self respect he stays. He’s sad and weak. If the rolls were switched she would left him right away. She almost said as much. To stay dose not make him strong. It makes him a door mat to her forever.
Women don’t understand the pain a man goes through when their partner cheats. Most men in these relationships work long hard hours just to make enough money to keep everything going. They destroy their bodies and trade their happiness just so their family is safe and comfortable. Then the woman these guys sacrificed their lives for blame the guy for not fulfilling their needs, not making enough money, ex. These women sleep with other guys and often gaslight their partners. The cherry on the top is most of these guys get destroyed in the divorce, often having to support the person who destroyed their lives. Cheating is not a simple mistake.
Because the laws shouldn't be this far skewed in favor of women. Nor men, they shouldn't look at marriage legally as a merging of lives and in fact the state shouldn't be involved at all.
I really hope she posts another update after she cheats on her husband again, but I doubt she will. She wants the internet to think she’s a good person, despite being horrible and soulless
@@ruslanmamedaliyev3912 A Stay at home husband that never finished school and "never has time for himself" some how EARNS TRIPLE than a person working a 9-5? Yeah its 100% fake
As someone who got cheated on while deployed and found out about it over a ig story there is no redemption for cheaters in my eyes if u cheat ur out for good
She is goddamn lucky her husband forgave her and stayed with her. If my wife had cheated, I don’t think I would have done so. Also, a total hypocrite. Expects her husband to forgive her when, if the roles were reversed, she wouldn’t have forgiven him.
OP having regret because the AP is bad at sex. God forbid, what might happen if OP meet another guy with the same body type as the AP but good at sex? Also, I hate when people make active DECISIONS that might ruin their own life and called it MISTAKE
Another weak doormat… Edit: Turns out his father was also cheated on and decided to forgive her. This goes well with my theory that backbones are genetic. You can’t grow one if you don’t have one.
Thank you for saying that the dude is a doormat. I won't even care to see this video. This doormat thing has to be cultural, he saw his father forgiving and this made a bad example to him, he needed to man up and stop this cycle of humiliation.
Was just about to comment this Guess cucks run in the family. Cheating when there's a problem on both sides is 1 thing. Cheating when there is NO problem at all is another. She sounds so damn entitled "we weren't broken, I broke us, so now I must fix us". Hope he finds this post and comes to his senses
Apart of me thinks "doormats" Aren't doormats and some of them are stuck because they know how the Family courts are going to treat them. For all intents and purposes a man inside a family court is almost guaranteed a massive L.
Honestly, it's different when you have kids. It's sad, but I'm sure that's the main reason, and the pain sits in the back of his mind. One more sacrifice for family. The woman deserves full shame. But I think that making that sacrifice for the well being of your kids is noble, if sad.
The fact that she stated nothing was wrong with her husband or their marriage along with no fights or resentment kinda makes matters worse. How can they work on a marriage that wasn't broken to start with? She stated that her affair partner was taller and more muscular than her husband. That means her husbands was not enough and she was attracted to a better man. Aside from getting more fit, the husband can't get any taller. How can he compete? What's to stop her from wanting "more" again? How can he trust her?
logic and females dont mix. Dont try to understand them. Its futile. They say the most incoherent contra-dictionary stuff but to them it sounds logical.
This is one of the most popular reddit stories on the site. It's at least 4 years old. The theme is essentially "Confessions of a Female Overt Narcissist".
to anyone that cheats and asks how to keep their family together afterwards, I have a simple answer to that. build a time machine, go back, stop yourself from doing it, and the future should be better. oh yea, that's right. you can't. 2nd solution. don't cheat
My advice for OP on how to save her family is go for shared custody but give the father more time with the kids because he's clearly better at making good adult decisions. Stay civil with your ex and never meddle in his life again. You don't deserve to get him back it's not a "mistake" it was a decision. I'd also reccomend staying away from relationships for awhile atleast until you can grow up a bit as a person. Also admit you decided and planned this and not just blame the guy you found more attractive for being persuasive, just because you regretted it afterwards doesn't mean "oopsie!" If it was amazing you'd be singing a different tune and probably drop the husband instantly but now that it didn't live up to your expectations now it's a mistake.
The only one un this whole story who had balls was sister in law, no real man could see himself in a mirror after going back to a cheating wife that now wants to be perfect for her husband, this are horror stories disguised as hope or redemption fairy tails, a bit of hard love is needed because people learn after betrayals like this when there are consequences but what kind of people gives you advice like "don't break a marriage for a mistake". Cheaters don't deserve second chances and of course women shouldn't tolerate it either, counselors or pastors are doing the demon's job and shouldn't be trusted.
OP is one lucky sob. She wasn't even planning on telling her husband yet she got the best possible outcome she could while she deserved none of it. Even AP got shafted while she got nothing, smh.
Affairs are NOT mistakes they are CHOICES made with one aim which focuses on what YOU want not what's best for the family. Want to keep your family together? Keep your legs together outside of the marriage!
Husbands a good man, who saw someone he loves make a mistake. Takes a lot of courage to handle it like this, and not all situations lead to this. Hope she gets the help she needs, and the husband realizes the closure that’s needed.
People shitting on him for trying to mend things really don’t get how a marriage works. He’s not doing this just for her. It’s for the time he lost. It’s for himself. It’s for the kids. Marriages CAN be salvaged even through this kind of shit. It’s hard, it’s painful and it will never be the same again. But there’s a reason why so many people, especially after having kids, decide to stay together regardless. This whole “a happy parent makes for a happy kid” thing is bullshit. Kids who go through a divorce are OBJECTIVELY harmed by it. It’s statistical. If you have kids, considering not divorcing for them is perfectly acceptable. Your happiness doesn’t come before your kids. I’m sorry, but this is what being a parent means. I do not blame this man at all. He seems very mature. And, at the end of the day, even if we just talk about the marriage itself: It’s possible. Y’all have way too much black and white thinking.
@@conormccue2871 I’m having a hard time recognising how what I said is even remotely black and white thinking. You’re talking about the “stay together for the kids” part? I didn’t say that’s the only option. I said it’s statistically worth the attempt.
Statistics don't matter much as statistics also say cheating couples lead to more fights, divorce and more cheating. So no, its about self respect and taking the kids aways from the useless woman.
@@LFanimes333 The stats for raising someone in a bad 2 parent home aren't as favorable as a good 1 parent home. Bad lessons are learned from bad relationships done in front of kids. If you can't be good parents, it's best you split and become a good parent. And if you can fake love for your wife then like da duq? Your kids will be growing up in the fuckin Truman show. It's not real, it's manufactured. It's not a good example for kids to see fake love. All that said, you're a good man for putting your kids happiness before your own but you'll only make yourself and kids unhappy.
If they didn't have kids, he'd be outta there so fast. From what I can tell, it seems like he's primarily doing this for the sake of his kids. And for those that think cheating is a mistake, you are so wrong. It takes so much premeditation to get to that point that theres know way the cheater is clueless as to whats going on.
She is disgusting for this and most likely will do this again (especially after hearing how husbands parents are still together after multiple affairs) but this guy is a complete door mat and also at fault He put her above his own needs too many times according to what she wrote... he lets her go out with friends after work while he stays in with the kids and gets no time for himself??? what? And he took her back after this... He is just looking for trouble at this point. I'd take full custody of the kids and find a better woman to be with.
A way to keep the family together after cheating? Own up to the crap you did, and leave in shame. Other ways of leaving could lead the rest of the family to resent their dad if they're unaware of the backstabbing, while the cheater isn't part of that family to begin with, even if she gave birth to some of them and married the other.
She's only relieved that husband is still giving her money huh? Also if your partner is OK with you sleeping with someone else, no matter the reason, they don't actually love you.
i dont think he was ok with it as he was definitely saddened and angered by it. but that goes even more to show that the husbands a doormat showing how he'd still forgive her.
Amazing these women say they cheat cuz they can. Cuz he was taller. If the husband did it?? No way I'd forgive him. But now that I've gotten away with it?? Oohhh how this will make us stronger than ever!!! Why is it that if she cheats, it makes them stronger than ever?? But if he cheated, she'd be done with the marriage?? The way cheaters think is unreal to me
Let him go, he deserves a chance to find someone that loves and respects him. Let him have the kids, they deserve a role model that will teach them morals and healthy relationships
His problem was that he placed her on a pedestal. The amount of “perfect” husbands getting cheated on is staggering because the women don’t respect them. A you can’t love someone you don’t respect. OP husband made her needs the priority and she paid him back by cheating. If he stays with her then he deserves every bit of sorrow that comes.
I'd give him a "blank check" postnuptial for his lawyer's eyes only. People who cheat often leverage their situation, thinking if they dig their nails in for long enough, they will say the right mash-up of syllables. In truth, the cheaper went all in on a bet and needs to show the other person they can honor a foolish gamble and trust the other person believes in grace. If it was me, the only way a cheater can come back is if we they give me everything including the space and outing themselves. If we reconnect it is because they show they trust I won't take everything
All because the other guy was "like a model. Good-looking" How shallow. She actually thought after everything her husband sacrificed that she DESERVED to have an affair. What a piece of work.
Let him go. You can't possibly understand the pain he suffered from your actions. If you see your husband sleep with a younger more attractive woman, then you'd understand. Your relationship is over. Give him space and allow him to move on. That would be a kindness you could show him.
OP is very fortunate that her husband was willing to work through all their problems after 'the incident.' She didn't just 'dodge a bullet,' she dodged an atomic bomb.
A Stay at home husband that never finished school and "never has time for himself" some how EARNS TRIPLE than a person working a 9-5? Chat GPT needs to get their story straight
What a hypocrite women claiming she wouldn't forgive him if he did the same but wants to keep marriage when she does it😂women☕ the guy is weakling for continuing the marriage and the women didn't get punished enough at all
I really wish women would stop saying he’s a good provider. Especially as a first description. The first thing you relate to him about is the fact he makes money for you. That’s all that’s important
Just wash away your shame like samurai. And your family will be together. Btw, how her husband could be perfect if she literally found taller and more handsome?
OP: Broken trust for no real damn reason. If your husband will have you back, which isn't a garauntee, you've got a *lot* of work to do to rebuild that trust. He's a pretty solid person.
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Just a matter of time bro. Believe me. Just be strong. If you want to cry, CRY! But never beg her. Delete her from your life. You will not even think of her an year after.
He was perfect? They were together for 16 years? Well there goes my hopes of finding a loving wife and being a great father. I don't want to put a child through that or the current state of the world at large (crime and war games)
This is what every woman has the potential to do. Every single one without exception. When a taller, better man comes into her life, she WILL leave with 0 exception.
Moral of the story : Wanna win the game ? Don't play the game at all . Trust me you won't like being eithers . Players too go through consequences of their actions .
Assuming the story is true, the husband is pathetic. He lets his wife get away completly with nothing after breaking his trust in such an incredible way. He takes all the blame and "protects the honour of his wife" that didn't have any respect for him. He then makes the AP lose his job by complaining to HR. Complete doormat
No way its true. A Stay at home husband That never finished his studies, but for some reason has a job that is stay at home and makes TRIPLE his wife's (Assumed) 9-5 even though he also takes care of the kids. That just doesn't add up.
At least your husband should have insisted on a post-nup that states if she strays again, she will lose everything-money, house, and custody of the children. Actions do have consequences, and continuing the bad behavior has, in the end, this ultimate consequence, but I see positive hope for this couple.
should cheaters get a second chance? no. but she did, but i will give her credit that she apparently has put in sincere effort to make up for what i personally believe is one of the greatest transgressions a woman can commit against humanity, betraying her own family, and i hope she now understands what and why her sins are.
>taller than my husband >spend more time in the gym >perfect chiseled chin >handsome like a model >started to give me attention Definetly written by a women and not a fan fiction of some redditor lol. If you believe this is real you also think that Birds are robots designed by the goverment to spy on you.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS CHEATER. You can find some that will sugar coat it, but the trust never returns. You have to ask yourself do you want to settle for that and see how long you can stay together or just accept it's over and separate.
All I have to say is that I wish that the op didn’t get a second chance, she genuinely doesn’t deserve a guy like him and that she should have just suffered the consequences of her selfish actions
I bet when her husband asked her why, she conveniently omitted the part where she found the other man ‘taller and more handsome’.
He knows lol, He saw the reddit post that's how much of a weak man he is.
She would say he was nothing, so she ruined her marriage for nothing? No, she ruined the marriage to get beefed down by 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III.
cheating sloooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooot
I mean, if your wife cheated, would you want to hear that?
@@abbthedreamer8378 yes, I want the truth, not some half ass excuse that she thinks I want to hear. If you think otherwise you're just coping
And failing with yourself.
"I need advice on how to keep my family together"
You need advice on how to keep your LEGS together
She'll keep her legs together with the husband 👍
this comment 🤣
It’s always “a mistake”. No. She started an emotional affair, texted AP, made plans, met up with him, had sex, didn’t come clean, tried to love bomb her husband to assuage her own guilt and intended to never confess. How is that “a mistake”? It’s a series of betrayals and acts of disrespect.
A mistake is misjudgment that's all you don't have to thing it it's a mistake for it to be a text book definition mistake
@@sanicinapanic4264 the point I’m making is that it is not “a” mistake as in one singular, stand alone, unaccompanied mistake. Her actions were multiple. Plural. Numerous. I’m not quibbling over her use of the word mistake, just the seemingly omnipresent usage of the term “a mistake” as a deceitful minimization. I hope that provides some clarity, I apologize if my original point was not artfully conveyed.
@@sanicinapanic4264 Then by that definition the only mistake she did was her thinking she would enjoy the affair behind her husband's back.
I bet 100 dollar if she find him physically satisfied she will continue this affair no remorse what so ever. Lol marriage sucks today ages
@@sanicinapanic4264 By that interpretation Ted Bundy "made a mistake" or are his intentional actions towards an end he desired somehow different from hers? as if she somehow didn't know having an affair was wrong.
Say it with me now: CHEATING IS NOT A MISTAKE IT'S A CHOICE
It's a series of choices. Any one could be a mistake, but it's a choice to roll with it.
Also divorce is not a negative thing. And kids will be OK eventually.
@@gostavoadolfos2023actually it is a negative thing and a shii ton I f kids suffer from it and still are
It's a mistake if you actually regret it cuz at the end of the day you can't lie and convince your self your partner is the only attractive person we all know that's lies
@@Re-Bourne Just because you find other people attractive does not mean you want to sleep with them, what is this logic???
She the worst kind of cheater. She didn't have bad marriage nor she was tempted by other men. She purposely search for other men. She will cheat again in the future that just her nature.
And she will take that to the grave, too.
What do you mean she wasn’t tempted by other men? The dude courted her for months
But she was supposed to reject him because she had a loving hasband I can tell that the hasband was also in the same situation with other women but he was still loyal so ain't justifying her actions@@NeoCreo1
They are always sorry afterwards, sorry they got caught
Definitely possible that she made the post make her sound like less of a bad guy. But she did feel bad about what she did. It doesn't even count as a mistake, it was a choice but it's also a choice she regrets. She deserves anything bad that comes from this whole ordeal. But I understand his desire to continue the relationship. You have the person who you love more than anything right in front of you. She's a cheater and you'll never be able to fully trust her again, but you still love her. Just wish she confessed to him
Hypergamy - 1
Loyalty - 0
more like
hypergamy- 999
loyalty- -12
@@-lord1754 true🤣
@@-lord1754 It's sad. The quote that has stuck with me since I first saw it shared somewhere online a decade ago:
"You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."
:c
Dude if he stay with her he is just another doormat
What does doormat mean ?😢
Basically the dude is a simp in this case. It can also mean coward. Unless this was not a legitimate question.
I honestly feel like it's Caz of the kids@@Healer0079a
@@Prabhsimar-dp7fc the mat you step on infront of the door
@Prabhsimar-dp7fc no self respect
95% chance the baby is not an "accident" and she is definitely using it as a way to keep the relationship together
And was conveniently plotting to use the exact same justification she used in the video for more authenticity, in the event of pregnancy.
You guys are dum
What did you think the husband was doing without using protections?
It's obvious the baby wasnt an accident lol, it was just something that happened
@@leonardomeloni69 ever heard of birth control??
@@dukenukem1718 tell me where in the video the husband planned to use birth control. It was a shared choice to not bother.
I dont agree with modern feminism and women either, but some of you have equally large biases.
@@leonardomeloni69, no where in the video it was said they didn't plan using birth control, sweetie. It's a given that any sane family will have child planning in this day and age. What are you smoking? Talking as if having a child is like having a play date.
"Mr Mom at home", dude. When you already give him such a disrespectful nickname, then it's already over.
Only real reason for him not to file for divorce right away is knowing what family court would do to him.
He achieving the level of simpness we never thought possible.
That is not simpness thats cuckedry
No wonder the husband forgive her, the father was another doormat
😂😂😂😂true
In his genetics, brother couldn’t help it
It's sad but it happens... It's a good learning opportunity for future husbands and what you'll put up with...
He wouldn’t exist if his father wasn’t a doormat.
That husbands a joke. I would lose respect for somebody if they took back partner like that.
More likely he knows that he will be screwed over
How so? unless this is the exmept your logic is leave someone behind no matter what if they do you wrong by all means he has the right to leave but is no joke if he chooses to let her stay
@@sanicinapanic4264 to disrespect your partner, in such horrific way. To spit on a marriage like that. Is unforgivable to me. He has such low self respect he stays. He’s sad and weak. If the rolls were switched she would left him right away. She almost said as much. To stay dose not make him strong. It makes him a door mat to her forever.
@@demonvictim true
@@demonvictim true
Women don’t understand the pain a man goes through when their partner cheats. Most men in these relationships work long hard hours just to make enough money to keep everything going. They destroy their bodies and trade their happiness just so their family is safe and comfortable.
Then the woman these guys sacrificed their lives for blame the guy for not fulfilling their needs, not making enough money, ex. These women sleep with other guys and often gaslight their partners. The cherry on the top is most of these guys get destroyed in the divorce, often having to support the person who destroyed their lives.
Cheating is not a simple mistake.
I bet 100 dollar if she find him physically satisfied she will continue this affair no remorse what so ever. Lol marriage sucks today ages
Because the laws shouldn't be this far skewed in favor of women. Nor men, they shouldn't look at marriage legally as a merging of lives and in fact the state shouldn't be involved at all.
Not everywhere bro, this seems to be more common in America, whereas in Asian and Arab countries, this isn't quite common
@@AdeeSeshas far as we know at least
People cheat there
Just less
wth do you mean by today ages it's been sucking for like 200 years now maybe even further .
@@AdeeSesh lel, you do understand than about 40-50% modern japanese porn is cuck content, right?
I really hope she posts another update after she cheats on her husband again, but I doubt she will. She wants the internet to think she’s a good person, despite being horrible and soulless
I think it is not a real life story
Most probablya made up story for youtube
This is rage bait my friend. Don't get it that worked up
@@ruslanmamedaliyev3912 A Stay at home husband that never finished school and "never has time for himself" some how EARNS TRIPLE than a person working a 9-5?
Yeah its 100% fake
Abraham pimped his wife out to pharaoh.
As someone who got cheated on while deployed and found out about it over a ig story there is no redemption for cheaters in my eyes if u cheat ur out for good
She is goddamn lucky her husband forgave her and stayed with her. If my wife had cheated, I don’t think I would have done so. Also, a total hypocrite. Expects her husband to forgive her when, if the roles were reversed, she wouldn’t have forgiven him.
OP having regret because the AP is bad at sex. God forbid, what might happen if OP meet another guy with the same body type as the AP but good at sex? Also, I hate when people make active DECISIONS that might ruin their own life and called it MISTAKE
who is the AP? idk what Ap means sorry
@@suitntie8710 Affair Partner.
When they say that their husband was perfect & fulfilled them in everyway and proceed to cheat there's a detail being left out.
Another weak doormat…
Edit: Turns out his father was also cheated on and decided to forgive her. This goes well with my theory that backbones are genetic. You can’t grow one if you don’t have one.
They're all doormats in my opinion because this story is bad all around.
Thank you for saying that the dude is a doormat. I won't even care to see this video. This doormat thing has to be cultural, he saw his father forgiving and this made a bad example to him, he needed to man up and stop this cycle of humiliation.
Was just about to comment this
Guess cucks run in the family. Cheating when there's a problem on both sides is 1 thing. Cheating when there is NO problem at all is another. She sounds so damn entitled "we weren't broken, I broke us, so now I must fix us". Hope he finds this post and comes to his senses
Apart of me thinks "doormats" Aren't doormats and some of them are stuck because they know how the Family courts are going to treat them. For all intents and purposes a man inside a family court is almost guaranteed a massive L.
Honestly, it's different when you have kids. It's sad, but I'm sure that's the main reason, and the pain sits in the back of his mind. One more sacrifice for family.
The woman deserves full shame. But I think that making that sacrifice for the well being of your kids is noble, if sad.
Another 304 playing a good dude. Hopefully he wakes up sooner rather than latter.
The fact that she stated nothing was wrong with her husband or their marriage along with no fights or resentment kinda makes matters worse. How can they work on a marriage that wasn't broken to start with? She stated that her affair partner was taller and more muscular than her husband. That means her husbands was not enough and she was attracted to a better man. Aside from getting more fit, the husband can't get any taller. How can he compete? What's to stop her from wanting "more" again? How can he trust her?
How in the same sentence do you say " my husband is perfect but I found a taller more handsome man" like do you hear yourself woman!
logic and females dont mix. Dont try to understand them. Its futile. They say the most incoherent contra-dictionary stuff but to them it sounds logical.
"Why??"
"Because I could"
"You can in the future too"
👁️👄👁️
Smarter then most cheaters, though that's a low bar.
if you mean more devious? yes. Once a Cheat, always a Cheat. there`s always going to be another `taller, more handsome` out there.
This is one of the most popular reddit stories on the site. It's at least 4 years old. The theme is essentially "Confessions of a Female Overt Narcissist".
to anyone that cheats and asks how to keep their family together afterwards, I have a simple answer to that. build a time machine, go back, stop yourself from doing it, and the future should be better. oh yea, that's right. you can't. 2nd solution. don't cheat
My advice for OP on how to save her family is go for shared custody but give the father more time with the kids because he's clearly better at making good adult decisions. Stay civil with your ex and never meddle in his life again. You don't deserve to get him back it's not a "mistake" it was a decision. I'd also reccomend staying away from relationships for awhile atleast until you can grow up a bit as a person. Also admit you decided and planned this and not just blame the guy you found more attractive for being persuasive, just because you regretted it afterwards doesn't mean "oopsie!" If it was amazing you'd be singing a different tune and probably drop the husband instantly but now that it didn't live up to your expectations now it's a mistake.
The only one un this whole story who had balls was sister in law, no real man could see himself in a mirror after going back to a cheating wife that now wants to be perfect for her husband, this are horror stories disguised as hope or redemption fairy tails, a bit of hard love is needed because people learn after betrayals like this when there are consequences but what kind of people gives you advice like "don't break a marriage for a mistake". Cheaters don't deserve second chances and of course women shouldn't tolerate it either, counselors or pastors are doing the demon's job and shouldn't be trusted.
Cheating is not something you can fix.
Remember folks - she had put it back when it slid out.
OP is one lucky mf. She didn't deserve the 2nd chance, but I do hope she doesn't fk it up again for the sake of her husband and children.
well when you dont have self respect like op husband of cours he will give her a second, third, fourth, chances
nah OaC, AaC.
@@ianmoritzplatapino3684 Exactly.
OP is one lucky sob. She wasn't even planning on telling her husband yet she got the best possible outcome she could while she deserved none of it. Even AP got shafted while she got nothing, smh.
Accountability: ❌
☕
Affairs are NOT mistakes they are CHOICES made with one aim which focuses on what YOU want not what's best for the family.
Want to keep your family together?
Keep your legs together outside of the marriage!
Husbands a good man, who saw someone he loves make a mistake. Takes a lot of courage to handle it like this, and not all situations lead to this. Hope she gets the help she needs, and the husband realizes the closure that’s needed.
Why would a "perfect man" want an imperfect woman?
Her: “I am willing to allow him…”
Me: Ma’am…ma’am, he no longer needs your permission. (As if he ever did)
People shitting on him for trying to mend things really don’t get how a marriage works.
He’s not doing this just for her.
It’s for the time he lost. It’s for himself. It’s for the kids.
Marriages CAN be salvaged even through this kind of shit.
It’s hard, it’s painful and it will never be the same again.
But there’s a reason why so many people, especially after having kids, decide to stay together regardless.
This whole “a happy parent makes for a happy kid” thing is bullshit.
Kids who go through a divorce are OBJECTIVELY harmed by it. It’s statistical.
If you have kids, considering not divorcing for them is perfectly acceptable.
Your happiness doesn’t come before your kids.
I’m sorry, but this is what being a parent means.
I do not blame this man at all. He seems very mature.
And, at the end of the day, even if we just talk about the marriage itself:
It’s possible.
Y’all have way too much black and white thinking.
Everything you said is black and white thinking. You merely have the capacity to maintain complex arrangements in your thought processes.
@@conormccue2871
I’m having a hard time recognising how what I said is even remotely black and white thinking.
You’re talking about the “stay together for the kids” part?
I didn’t say that’s the only option.
I said it’s statistically worth the attempt.
Statistics don't matter much as statistics also say cheating couples lead to more fights, divorce and more cheating.
So no, its about self respect and taking the kids aways from the useless woman.
@@LFanimes333
The stats for raising someone in a bad 2 parent home aren't as favorable as a good 1 parent home. Bad lessons are learned from bad relationships done in front of kids. If you can't be good parents, it's best you split and become a good parent.
And if you can fake love for your wife then like da duq? Your kids will be growing up in the fuckin Truman show. It's not real, it's manufactured. It's not a good example for kids to see fake love.
All that said, you're a good man for putting your kids happiness before your own but you'll only make yourself and kids unhappy.
If they didn't have kids, he'd be outta there so fast. From what I can tell, it seems like he's primarily doing this for the sake of his kids. And for those that think cheating is a mistake, you are so wrong. It takes so much premeditation to get to that point that theres know way the cheater is clueless as to whats going on.
She said she cheated bc she thought she could. She was right 😂
She is disgusting for this and most likely will do this again (especially after hearing how husbands parents are still together after multiple affairs) but this guy is a complete door mat and also at fault
He put her above his own needs too many times according to what she wrote... he lets her go out with friends after work while he stays in with the kids and gets no time for himself??? what?
And he took her back after this... He is just looking for trouble at this point. I'd take full custody of the kids and find a better woman to be with.
A way to keep the family together after cheating? Own up to the crap you did, and leave in shame.
Other ways of leaving could lead the rest of the family to resent their dad if they're unaware of the backstabbing, while the cheater isn't part of that family to begin with, even if she gave birth to some of them and married the other.
"I decided to do what I could to repent"
"I had no intention of confessing"
Amazing how these people think
She's only relieved that husband is still giving her money huh?
Also if your partner is OK with you sleeping with someone else, no matter the reason, they don't actually love you.
i dont think he was ok with it as he was definitely saddened and angered by it. but that goes even more to show that the husbands a doormat showing how he'd still forgive her.
@@suitntie8710 I was talking about the missus.
NO Good Shutting the Gate AFTER the HORSE has BOLTED
when you take the gum out of your mouth, never put it back in. specially if it's been on the floor
It's revolting that he's falling for a cheater.
But at the same times, good men need to have doormats like him to occupy all the cheaters
Dudes a joke
Lol I find it funny how the internet still shits on OP despite her taking accountability and the family trying to work things out.
there are a lot of Incels on the internet and they will find any reason to shit on women.
Amazing these women say they cheat cuz they can. Cuz he was taller. If the husband did it?? No way I'd forgive him. But now that I've gotten away with it?? Oohhh how this will make us stronger than ever!!! Why is it that if she cheats, it makes them stronger than ever?? But if he cheated, she'd be done with the marriage?? The way cheaters think is unreal to me
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I hope he finds someone who actually respects him
Let him go, he deserves a chance to find someone that loves and respects him. Let him have the kids, they deserve a role model that will teach them morals and healthy relationships
Omits the part about this being totally premeditated and having gotten a hotel room after two month of an emotional affair.
her husbands dad is a doormat, so is the husband. 100% MIL never stopped cheating
His problem was that he placed her on a pedestal. The amount of “perfect” husbands getting cheated on is staggering because the women don’t respect them. A you can’t love someone you don’t respect. OP husband made her needs the priority and she paid him back by cheating. If he stays with her then he deserves every bit of sorrow that comes.
I'd give him a "blank check" postnuptial for his lawyer's eyes only. People who cheat often leverage their situation, thinking if they dig their nails in for long enough, they will say the right mash-up of syllables. In truth, the cheaper went all in on a bet and needs to show the other person they can honor a foolish gamble and trust the other person believes in grace. If it was me, the only way a cheater can come back is if we they give me everything including the space and outing themselves. If we reconnect it is because they show they trust I won't take everything
Marry a great person, cheat on them and then only worry about how your sins will affect you. Sounds like a super wife
I won’t be surprised if she baby trapped him
All because the other guy was "like a model. Good-looking"
How shallow. She actually thought after everything her husband sacrificed that she DESERVED to have an affair. What a piece of work.
Let him go. You can't possibly understand the pain he suffered from your actions. If you see your husband sleep with a younger more attractive woman, then you'd understand. Your relationship is over. Give him space and allow him to move on. That would be a kindness you could show him.
OP is very fortunate that her husband was willing to work through all their problems after 'the incident.' She didn't just 'dodge a bullet,' she dodged an atomic bomb.
A Stay at home husband that never finished school and "never has time for himself" some how EARNS TRIPLE than a person working a 9-5?
Chat GPT needs to get their story straight
It is blunt out, disrespect and betrayal. Anyone who treat someone like that doesn’t deserve happiness, blatantly simple
What a hypocrite women claiming she wouldn't forgive him if he did the same but wants to keep marriage when she does it😂women☕ the guy is weakling for continuing the marriage and the women didn't get punished enough at all
d-d-d-d-d-d-dooooormaaaat *airhorn sound*
There's something about this comment that made me laugh so hard 🤣
I really wish women would stop saying he’s a good provider. Especially as a first description. The first thing you relate to him about is the fact he makes money for you. That’s all that’s important
Just wash away your shame like samurai. And your family will be together.
Btw, how her husband could be perfect if she literally found taller and more handsome?
OP: Broken trust for no real damn reason. If your husband will have you back, which isn't a garauntee, you've got a *lot* of work to do to rebuild that trust. He's a pretty solid person.
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Just a matter of time bro. Believe me. Just be strong. If you want to cry, CRY! But never beg her. Delete her from your life.
You will not even think of her an year after.
All morals go out the window when Chad walks in
I wish these would end like true crime.
LOL
get her to sign a prenup, and divorce her as soon as the last kid is off to college.
Once a cheater always a cheater. He should get out and not look back.
"Husband is a perfect man, but I went for a taller, more handsome man"
Already contradicted herself in the first sentence
He was perfect? They were together for 16 years? Well there goes my hopes of finding a loving wife and being a great father. I don't want to put a child through that or the current state of the world at large (crime and war games)
Husband better get a paternity test on the traitor's spawn.
No guarantee the baby or any of the rest are actually his.
You out !!
You for da streets...that's yo family now
That man deserves better she's his mistake
This is what every woman has the potential to do. Every single one without exception. When a taller, better man comes into her life, she WILL leave with 0 exception.
Moral of the story: better to be the guy she cheats with than the one she cheats on
Moral of the story : Wanna win the game ? Don't play the game at all .
Trust me you won't like being eithers .
Players too go through consequences of their actions .
Assuming the story is true, the husband is pathetic. He lets his wife get away completly with nothing after breaking his trust in such an incredible way. He takes all the blame and "protects the honour of his wife" that didn't have any respect for him. He then makes the AP lose his job by complaining to HR. Complete doormat
Bro what the fuck? You are gonna call out the husband for getting that POS fired? Get the fuck out of here with that nonsense.
No way its true. A Stay at home husband That never finished his studies, but for some reason has a job that is stay at home and makes TRIPLE his wife's (Assumed) 9-5 even though he also takes care of the kids. That just doesn't add up.
Someone shouldn't suddenly become a good wife out of guilt, this man deserves to to have a good wife, not this one.
This story had quite unsatisfied ending, staying for the kids is a weak excuse
I’m afraid of this happening to me, so I don’t think I’ll ever get married or have kids. I never will.
Never take her back if she cheats. The relationship is over. She will most likely cheat again as well
Bro's a better man than me. The only reason I'd keep a woman around after she did that would be as a maid that I won't pay a dime to.
What to do? Jump in a tall lake and hold your breath 🫁 for 30 minutes. Lol
Cheater always be a cheater.. Nice this one find the right doormat 😂
She cheated on him because he has no balls
At least your husband should have insisted on a post-nup that states if she strays again, she will lose everything-money, house, and custody of the children. Actions do have consequences, and continuing the bad behavior has, in the end, this ultimate consequence, but I see positive hope for this couple.
That's not repenting. Repenting requires a confession first.
should cheaters get a second chance? no. but she did, but i will give her credit that she apparently has put in sincere effort to make up for what i personally believe is one of the greatest transgressions a woman can commit against humanity, betraying her own family, and i hope she now understands what and why her sins are.
4:07 goat husband... Leave her you deserve better.
This broad is VERY lucky.
I get it why this woman cheated. That guy has no spine.
What kind of mother chooses spending time with friends over spending time with their children?
Once a cheater is always a cheater", the only thing i can advise your husband is to file divorce, and abandon you
>taller than my husband
>spend more time in the gym
>perfect chiseled chin
>handsome like a model
>started to give me attention
Definetly written by a women and not a fan fiction of some redditor lol. If you believe this is real you also think that Birds are robots designed by the goverment to spy on you.
She knew her weak husband would take her back .
Once a cheater, ALWAYS CHEATER. You can find some that will sugar coat it, but the trust never returns. You have to ask yourself do you want to settle for that and see how long you can stay together or just accept it's over and separate.
All I have to say is that I wish that the op didn’t get a second chance, she genuinely doesn’t deserve a guy like him and that she should have just suffered the consequences of her selfish actions