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11 years in a relationship, 3 years married. 6 months ago we realized we were not happy. Watched "Jigsaw" last week and it really helped my cope with our upcoming divorce.
Helped me through understanding my separation and understanding it was the right thing. I'm now happier, more self-aware and no longer as insecure as I used to be as I understand myself better and how my behaviours impact me and myself.
This guy makes me laugh, I love how educated he presents himself but he still manages to cuss like a sailor. He's quite humble for how smart he actually is. Thanks for sharing with us.
I love Daniel. He’s legit. I tell my friends this all the time. Stop trying to fix people, like you feel in love with the person for who they were, why are you trying to fix that now.
i feel so relieved that i'm not the only one who thinks like this, thank you so much Daniel, you've given me hope in finding more like-minded, non-toxic people in this world, who understand that they should absolutely love there life and if loves comes around cool, but if it doesn't it's not the end of the world if you're not in a relationship.
This is fantastic chat, the whole jigsaw analogy hit me like a freight train when I first watched the special and it's something I've thought about a lot since. It's really helped me process a particularly painful break up both from my perspective and from her perspective too. Now I'm focusing on loving myself and being comfortable by myself again before I can open myself up to love again. It's not all straight forward but it's the right thing to do. Thanks for this interview, it's great content, really appreciate it!
I will say before I met my husband I was single for a long time after dating a lot. I loved it. I had no desire to be with anyone I had my ambitions and my goals. I met my husband at work and he was in the exact same boat. Didn't wanna date. And ya we are married and didn't have to compromise on our ambitions and our goals. If had to I'd have left him. I was very very happy being single. And I'm very very happy being married. I could not agree with him more. I was absolutely okay being single for the rest of my life rather than be with the wrong person. Be single have fun. If you find someone you find someone if you don't you don't 🤷🏼♀️ you make your own happiness.
I've always felt this way about relationships but never knew how to explain it to girls that'd always ask me "why are you still single?" Or "you still haven't found a man?", " Why don't you want to be in a relationship?". I've never been against dating people. I've just never understood forcing this "you NEED someone" ideology. Falling in love is a great thing, but I still never force it to fabricate a lifestyle.
Also, my mom was my dad's third marriage and longest marriage lasting almost 30 years until she passed away. He had the most kids with her, hasn't married since, and met her in his mid 30s. I've seen for myself that true love will come when it comes and setting marriage as a goal by a specific age doesn't mean shit.
A relationship is a friendship and the best friendships are the ones that last through the decades. If you have any old friends, you know that's the gold in life, when a simple look can bring about gales of laughter. You don't love your friends ALL the time, but who's lovable 24/7?
If you live in NYC, I'd say many relationships are in financial contracts together more than anything. I guess it takes 2 salaries to live anywhere, though these days.
This dude is awesome on so many levels. I grew up very different. Deep in SE Texas. My father was a good father. But as boys, me and my brothers weren’t allowed to cry. Whatever the circumstances, no crying! “Dry it up” I’d hear. So as adults it was very strange and weird to allow myself to actually experience emotions. Took me a long time to be comfortable with it. Daniel is so open about his thinking and emotions I respect that so much.
Hearing you talk positively about how hard empathy is but actively encouraging accessing your emotions in physical ways has me crying right now. It is so healing to hear grown men discuss crying and empathy because I too struggle with it and saw it as a weakness: I was vulnerable to the world and if I never cried then that made me stronger. I'm so happy to be connecting back to myself in important ways which I suppressed as a teenager to just get through school and trauma. I LOVE both of your philosophies and attitudes to issues, the human honest way you both bring to these principles is refreshing and much needed. I can't wait to go on an empathy dump after this! (and watch more Modern Wisdom/Daniel Sloss)
Why the hell is this the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard? And why am I sending this interview to my friends when they tell me they’re having relationship problems? And why do they agree that this is excellent advice?
This applies to more than relationships. A while ago, I got what I thought was gonna be my "dream job" and had a lot of big successes during that time that I barely posted about. I thought I was just being modest, but looking back I think I didn't want to brag about something that was shiny on the outside, but made me feel like crap on the inside.
This is an amazing interview. I totally understand it. Falling for my hubby was fucking inconvenient. But 10 years married, I am still so happy with my life. Jigsaw gave me a way to verbalize my thoughts on the subject and why our relationship works. We are both happy people separated, we just love being together, growing together. I wish my brother understood that you have to be happy single before you can ever be truly happy in a relationship. Thank you Daniel.
Minute 5:56. That was me! I was so happy being single and suddenly love came and fucked everything. I am happy now, but it was so life changing. It was so inconvenient. People was celebrating in my behalf while I was trying to learn how to share my life and I felt so angry when People said I should be happy cuz I was in a relationship. That is not the point. The point is to find your happiness no matter your status. Truth is Jigsaw is the best comedy show I have seen so far. I felt so good to be able to finish the show and look at my partner and know... We are ok.
One of the best interviews and podcasts with Daniel Sloss that I've seen. A lot of the time people quite don't feel like they can match him. You guys sparked really well off each other. Thanks for hosting!
Daniel is hilarious I wish he did podcasts more often, I think it suits him more than interviews lol Just bought my ticket to his AZ live show too, can't wait👍
Alexandra Sidorova because its not really against relationships, its against wrong relationships in favor of True love, which indeed makes it soo romantic. Also, when Daniel talks about empathy.. I found him attractive before, I find him extremely attractive now.
Just wanted to add it’s really beautiful when two fulfilled, emotionally healthy end up together because it’s not out of neediness or fear. They’re totally fine being alone, but they choose to be together because they have a shared vision and goals. That’s so much more powerful than two sad people who are together because they feel they need a relationship to find purpose.
omg and i was thinking sth was wrong with me being a girl and watching grey's anatomy and crying my eyes out. Thumbs up for showing toxic masculinity is rubbish on so many levels. Thanks to Daniel i got totally inspired to start knitting, that it's no point to stay in relationships just not to be alone. Saw both specials on Netflix and loved them, gallows sense of humor it is! Hope to see the live show in autumn!
@@ChrisWillx nopes, just wanted to make it clear that i'm not a guy because somehow people think my nick doesn't indicate that. I think being emphathetic among guys is totally cool and it's great when guys like you 2 can express their emotions . But also behaving in an adult way when the situation requires it (like when someone close you love dies and then need support not a crying puppy) is also a great personality trait, no matter what gender someone is. I'm just a fan of balance i guess :)
I'm glad that this bubble of illusion of love and relationship is finally being busted. I've practically always been single, managing my life quite well alone and not having the need of a partner. I am though very glad and fortunate not to have grown up in that Hollywood nonsense of fairytales and living in stereotypes, being forced to look for Mr/Ms Right and live happy forever after, as I grew up without tele in Africa and Europe and all that Americanism. We are all here to learn and experience to grow and not to be trapped in lies and lose ourselves with others.
There are millions of people who are in great relationships and you never hear about them because they're busy being happy! You only hear about the complainers.
That was the fastest 50 minutes I've ever had on UA-cam ! I felt like I was hanging with my friends. I totally get where Danial is coming from as far as being single. I'm 60 and have always stayed single other than an occasional relationship here and there, but I'll never shave my asshole for nobody. I did it once when I was younger and I couldn't walk or sit without pain because it irritated me SO much. Maybe a trim, but no shaving. I can't believe I'm telling this to the world !
That was EXACTLY how I felt when my partner popped into my life. I literally thought "ffs, are you kidding me?!" Because I didnt want to love someone, but here I am. 7 months into a relationship and still sickly in love
I knew it was love after I had to go to therapy to accept my feelings. It took me months to put it into words and had to change my life to fit someone else, but I regret nothing. We watched jigsaw a bit scared at first but then, yeah, we think we found a good thing. Thank you Daniel 💖
Omg this is so refreshing for me... a woman in her 30’s who spent her teens and 20’s in full on (years long) relationships and are happy (have been for years) on my own now. People cant comprehend it... I don’t know if its just society or that I’m not repulsive to look at (used to model) but I’m a city councillor now and would have never done this type of high level community work had I stuck in my old needy ways... I love my life and the time I spend (rarely) longing for others, is far outweighed by the time I spent miserable in ‘relationships’. It would take a pretty special person to even make that scenario appealing to me now.
I'm a that person that was raised from the age of 4 years old, watch a scary movie immediately followed by the making of that movie. It completely, ruined me for getting emotional watching TV & movies. Fastforward, now a grown up with 2 children. Show me a simple commercial of a baby reading a book, in a Cheerios Ad & I'm a blubbering mess. No for real, I need half a box of tissues. With age we stop caring what others think so much & feel the emotions. It's WONDERFUL! Thanks for sharing guys. Love to both ya's xo *Hugz
I am watching this right now because I feel like I need some perspective with everything and everyone telling me how important it is for me to get married and how otherwise I am an absolute failure in life. I really need to hear how it is alright.
You can be deeply empathetic and still have clear & strong boundaries. Empathetic does not equal week. You can be very empathetic and still a bad ass. It’s a beautiful thing.
I understand completely the idea that falling in love should be inconvenient. When I met my (now ex) wife 15 years ago, I was not at all looking for a relationship. Not whatsoever. I was recently out of a terrible break up as well as another bad relationship a few years earlier. I was fully committed to stay single for a while. Maybe even be a bit of a manslut. But then meet this incredible person 5h away. I go there to see if this thing was real. A bit hesitant because I had an incling of what was going on. And sure enough I got that aw-for-fucks-sake feeling. I was hooked and there was nothing else to do than to move and get going with the rest of my life. Lasted for like 13 years and resulted in 2 kids. We are still best friends. The reason for the breakup was almost entirely down to my own demons and clinical depression.
@@thefinster Well, I have a chronic depression and pretty debilitating anxiety. But I'm more or less adequately medicated now. I don't get super happy about anything, but in return I don't go into the deep sea trenches of abject despair either. I'm on the whole provisionally content with my situation apart from being poor as fuck.
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Damn you Daniel Sloss, I cried just hearing you talking about children taking the step-dad's second name... I use the same videos to get in touch with my emotions exactly because I grow up hold them down. Thank you for sharing it, fuck, I know I'm not the only batshit crazy...
That whole love must be inconvenient thing really hit home this past week. I’ve been doing pretty well, just got a second job and lost about 25 lbs. I’ve been talking to all sorts of girls. I wouldn’t say I’m living my absolute best life, but getting there for sure. And then out of nowhere I met someone amazing and it’s like a kick in the balls. Like “goddamn it, I’ve been out here just doing my thing and now I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you for the past 3 days.” 😩
A friend of mine was lamenting that he wanted to get married but couldn't for some reason. He asked me if I want to get married, I said no. He scolded me that marriage is about life partner and forced me to say yes to marriage (not to him, fortunately). We're not friends anymore.
LISTEN TO HIM! adjust your exoectation but a relationship has to feel easy. If it is hard its not right and for god sake, do not through kids in to the mix untill you have someone who is compatible with you and you can have an effortless good relationship and then have babys if you want and make it more chalanging.
@@ChrisWillx I think (hope) that's going to change with some power going back to content creators. These days you no longer rely on publishers and record labels for regular people to put out books, or music. I guess for a movie it would be a bit more complicated but not impossible. I'm really curious what kinds of movies we would be seeing from Daniel.
Life is hard. It's nice to give and have support through it. But everyone should go through at least a full decade completely on your own. No financial help from parents or anyone. Alone. We are biologically driven to find that "stable partner" to raise children. I hate when people say "Oh, you don't have children? Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Having kids for that reason is so selfish.
Hey. Excuse you. I went to the description of this video, expecting to be linked to things that would make me cry. I would appreciate it if you could follow up on your promises, please and thanks.
Curated selection of weep-inducing videos from myself & Daniel is finally here 💜 Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers - ua-cam.com/video/RKBcs9tNWg8/v-deo.html Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers #2 - ua-cam.com/video/d6kjZXwdyJs/v-deo.html People Hearing For The First Time - ua-cam.com/video/yZ6vSn7PaPI/v-deo.html Kids Surprising Parents With Adoption Papers - ua-cam.com/video/ZJXx0mNCFgg/v-deo.html
Extending on his jigsaw views, don't we do much the same for the four corners? Judge people for not filling them, or not filling them with the "right things".
Also, unrelated, but I thought I'd add the comment in case Daniel's keeping count of this statistic, as well as the # of breakups, I shaved down there for the first time after watching his special. Asexual, aromantic. Still recommend.
Modern Wisdom Ouch, that is a loaded question. But I will say it’s nice to see 2 guys having a constructive conversation about relationships and life. I don’t think I hear or see enough of it. Quite the opposite.
great show ! and yes, I figured it was bound to happen eventually. Humans used to have one job their entire lives. Today it's mandatory that you change many jobs and have more varied experiences, same with studies. Relationships are the only ones that we never worked on. We finally had divorced as kind of acceptable, but no one likes the facts. My interpretations of 55% of all couples get divorced is purely mathematically. We are literally worse at finding "the one" than flipping a coin !! just think about that for a second :D ))) it just goes to show, that it's not even that we are bad at it, we are terrible at it . If we'd flip a coin on our partners our chances, statistically would be better to find "true love" than left to our own devices. It's incredible ! And then you have an entire industry of "couple's therapy", WHY ?! those people finally accepted that it won't work, and then they get to pay you to continue the misery for yet another 10 years ?! it's like sending a gambling addict in recovery to a therapist who will explain to him the benefits of gambling ! Just stop doing it ! :D ))
"Falling in love" is the most inconvenient thing, because its all about passion. Passion clouds the mind. Like Duke Leto said to his son Paul: 'Never let sentiment cloud your judgement, son." If mate selection and acquisition is based on passion it will soon go off the rails. “… only rarely in history has love been seen as the main reason for getting married. When someone did advocate such a strange belief, it was no laughing matter. Instead, it was considered a serious threat to social order." --Stephanie Coontz “Success or failure in marriage depends not on whether husband and wife love each other, but on whether they want to merge their lives and fortunes.” --Dr Thomas Szasz
Wooooow im a new fan of the podcast been watching for a couple of months and I didn’t know that Chris had a chia pet hairstyle. Love the podcast and thanks for your service Chris
I love jigsaw analogy. bless Daniel for bringing this up. I felt that way for a long time. Loving relationships shouldn't be about possesion anyway, so I'll keep my damn jigsaw and you keep yours and if you're my true love then we could interconnect our individual pieces some day :P Otherwise I'll happily stay single
I think the opposite but is great to hear this point of view. You can make a choice and thats fine but for this time is great that you hear that you can broke up, dont marry now, be happy first.
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a tip: you can watch series on Flixzone. Me and my gf have been using it for watching a lot of movies lately.
@Bennett Angelo yea, I have been using flixzone} for since november myself :D
@Bennett Angelo yup, I have been using flixzone} for years myself :D
CANCELED. All my friends with terrible advice are canceled after watching this
Two men discussing relationships. Finally. It helps other men stop and think about it, open conversations.
Congrats.
It's called mgtow
Don’t speed for “men”; that’s Platonic twaddle.
11 years in a relationship, 3 years married.
6 months ago we realized we were not happy.
Watched "Jigsaw" last week and it really helped my cope with our upcoming divorce.
Reptile Nexus wait a minute.......
@@heliakahfizadeh3347 Yes?
Helped me through understanding my separation and understanding it was the right thing. I'm now happier, more self-aware and no longer as insecure as I used to be as I understand myself better and how my behaviours impact me and myself.
How's it going now?
This guy makes me laugh, I love how educated he presents himself but he still manages to cuss like a sailor. He's quite humble for how smart he actually is. Thanks for sharing with us.
I hope you’re talking about me here 🙋🏻♂️😂 But really, loved this episode, thanks for watching
Of course I'm talking about you lol but remember Im American so anyone with a accent from the United kingdoms sounds insanely intelligent.
He doesn't have to present himself as such, he is!!
I love Daniel. He’s legit. I tell my friends this all the time. Stop trying to fix people, like you feel in love with the person for who they were, why are you trying to fix that now.
His insight is very frank but I like it, I agree heavily! Check out our other Relationships Episodes if you enjoyed this one!
This podcast is just a breath of fresh air ! Two men discussing relationships. Being realistic and raw.
Thank you
totally agree on that!!!
i feel so relieved that i'm not the only one who thinks like this, thank you so much Daniel, you've given me hope in finding more like-minded, non-toxic people in this world, who understand that they should absolutely love there life and if loves comes around cool, but if it doesn't it's not the end of the world if you're not in a relationship.
Super relatable. Deep, abiding empathy and emotion but diluted with laughter. The perfect combination.
And today he proposed to his girlfriend, what a wild 2 years it's been. I'm so happy for you Daniel!
Wow!! Where did you get this from?
@@celikbr He posted a picture of the proposal on his insta 😊
@@Lea5379 hmmm then by his logic, he's lying about being happy, since he's bragging about it, instead of enjoying it... 😂
What a fool!
@@jenm6977 There's a difference between announcing and bragging
This is fantastic chat, the whole jigsaw analogy hit me like a freight train when I first watched the special and it's something I've thought about a lot since. It's really helped me process a particularly painful break up both from my perspective and from her perspective too. Now I'm focusing on loving myself and being comfortable by myself again before I can open myself up to love again. It's not all straight forward but it's the right thing to do. Thanks for this interview, it's great content, really appreciate it!
Same. It helped me cope with my current divorce happening.
I will say before I met my husband I was single for a long time after dating a lot. I loved it. I had no desire to be with anyone I had my ambitions and my goals. I met my husband at work and he was in the exact same boat. Didn't wanna date. And ya we are married and didn't have to compromise on our ambitions and our goals. If had to I'd have left him. I was very very happy being single. And I'm very very happy being married. I could not agree with him more. I was absolutely okay being single for the rest of my life rather than be with the wrong person. Be single have fun. If you find someone you find someone if you don't you don't 🤷🏼♀️ you make your own happiness.
I've always felt this way about relationships but never knew how to explain it to girls that'd always ask me "why are you still single?" Or "you still haven't found a man?", " Why don't you want to be in a relationship?".
I've never been against dating people. I've just never understood forcing this "you NEED someone" ideology. Falling in love is a great thing, but I still never force it to fabricate a lifestyle.
Also, my mom was my dad's third marriage and longest marriage lasting almost 30 years until she passed away. He had the most kids with her, hasn't married since, and met her in his mid 30s.
I've seen for myself that true love will come when it comes and setting marriage as a goal by a specific age doesn't mean shit.
A relationship is a friendship and the best friendships are the ones that last through the decades. If you have any old friends, you know that's the gold in life, when a simple look can bring about gales of laughter. You don't love your friends ALL the time, but who's lovable 24/7?
If you live in NYC, I'd say many relationships are in financial contracts together more than anything. I guess it takes 2 salaries to live anywhere, though these days.
Alone and perfect or coupled and flawed... that is the question.
This dude is awesome on so many levels. I grew up very different. Deep in SE Texas. My father was a good father. But as boys, me and my brothers weren’t allowed to cry. Whatever the circumstances, no crying! “Dry it up” I’d hear. So as adults it was very strange and weird to allow myself to actually experience emotions. Took me a long time to be comfortable with it. Daniel is so open about his thinking and emotions I respect that so much.
Hearing you talk positively about how hard empathy is but actively encouraging accessing your emotions in physical ways has me crying right now. It is so healing to hear grown men discuss crying and empathy because I too struggle with it and saw it as a weakness: I was vulnerable to the world and if I never cried then that made me stronger. I'm so happy to be connecting back to myself in important ways which I suppressed as a teenager to just get through school and trauma. I LOVE both of your philosophies and attitudes to issues, the human honest way you both bring to these principles is refreshing and much needed. I can't wait to go on an empathy dump after this! (and watch more Modern Wisdom/Daniel Sloss)
Children born in stable relationships grow up to be so emotionally mature. Look at Daniel. He gets it.
Why the hell is this the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard? And why am I sending this interview to my friends when they tell me they’re having relationship problems? And why do they agree that this is excellent advice?
This applies to more than relationships. A while ago, I got what I thought was gonna be my "dream job" and had a lot of big successes during that time that I barely posted about. I thought I was just being modest, but looking back I think I didn't want to brag about something that was shiny on the outside, but made me feel like crap on the inside.
I think is funny how Daniel keeps moving around all the time but the interviewer just stays there very calm
I gave him far too much caffeine before we started
I noticed that right away too!
He’s a smart guy
This is an amazing interview. I totally understand it. Falling for my hubby was fucking inconvenient. But 10 years married, I am still so happy with my life. Jigsaw gave me a way to verbalize my thoughts on the subject and why our relationship works. We are both happy people separated, we just love being together, growing together. I wish my brother understood that you have to be happy single before you can ever be truly happy in a relationship. Thank you Daniel.
Minute 5:56. That was me! I was so happy being single and suddenly love came and fucked everything. I am happy now, but it was so life changing. It was so inconvenient. People was celebrating in my behalf while I was trying to learn how to share my life and I felt so angry when People said I should be happy cuz I was in a relationship. That is not the point. The point is to find your happiness no matter your status. Truth is Jigsaw is the best comedy show I have seen so far. I felt so good to be able to finish the show and look at my partner and know... We are ok.
That’s lovely to hear. Daniel’s view is quite contrarian but it’s so useful!
Absolutely killer interview guys. Adore Daniel Sloss, one of the funniest comedians around and you bounced of each other with hilarity.
Thanks Mark, loved this episode! Have you checked out any of our others? And subscribed? 🙏
@@ChrisWillx Subscribed, yes and currently watching Sargon mate.
Enjoy dude!!
One of the best interviews and podcasts with Daniel Sloss that I've seen. A lot of the time people quite don't feel like they can match him. You guys sparked really well off each other. Thanks for hosting!
"Fancy a cry?" lol As someone who does from time to time this list made me smile. Amazing interview. Very eye opening.
Both these men and this whole conversation is just ridiculously attractive
Thank you both helping other empathetic men to feel normal, I'm following both of you fully! You guys are heroes!!
Daniel is hilarious I wish he did podcasts more often, I think it suits him more than interviews lol Just bought my ticket to his AZ live show too, can't wait👍
my empathy has also been my biggest gift and my most painful curse, glad to know there are other guys out there who get that too
It's like men are humans too, right?! Crazy thought!!
Fellow Empath here...I resonate.
These guys blend in so well with the background
How a conversation against relationship can be so romantic?
It's because woman love contrarians, aka bad boys, aka assholes, those who swim against the stream.
Alexandra Sidorova because its not really against relationships, its against wrong relationships in favor of True love, which indeed makes it soo romantic. Also, when Daniel talks about empathy.. I found him attractive before, I find him extremely attractive now.
@@ambraturci5731couldn’t have said it better myself.
Just wanted to add it’s really beautiful when two fulfilled, emotionally healthy end up together because it’s not out of neediness or fear. They’re totally fine being alone, but they choose to be together because they have a shared vision and goals. That’s so much more powerful than two sad people who are together because they feel they need a relationship to find purpose.
omg and i was thinking sth was wrong with me being a girl and watching grey's anatomy and crying my eyes out. Thumbs up for showing toxic masculinity is rubbish on so many levels. Thanks to Daniel i got totally inspired to start knitting, that it's no point to stay in relationships just not to be alone. Saw both specials on Netflix and loved them, gallows sense of humor it is! Hope to see the live show in autumn!
Does this make me & Daniel girls too with our overwhelming empathy?
@@ChrisWillx nopes, just wanted to make it clear that i'm not a guy because somehow people think my nick doesn't indicate that. I think being emphathetic among guys is totally cool and it's great when guys like you 2 can express their emotions . But also behaving in an adult way when the situation requires it (like when someone close you love dies and then need support not a crying puppy) is also a great personality trait, no matter what gender someone is. I'm just a fan of balance i guess :)
This was a really good interview. Thoughtful and intelligent conversation, no talking over each other, nice guys. Thumbs up!
Thanks Lauren! Was a blast to record. If you enjoyed that - check out some of the other Relationships episodes we’ve done!
I'm glad that this bubble of illusion of love and relationship is finally being busted. I've practically always been single, managing my life quite well alone and not having the need of a partner. I am though very glad and fortunate not to have grown up in that Hollywood nonsense of fairytales and living in stereotypes, being forced to look for Mr/Ms Right and live happy forever after, as I grew up without tele in Africa and Europe and all that Americanism. We are all here to learn and experience to grow and not to be trapped in lies and lose ourselves with others.
There are millions of people who are in great relationships and you never hear about them because they're busy being happy! You only hear about the complainers.
@@ArtsAlign you unfortunately didn't get my point.
@@staunch2207 Never was in South Africa only in Congo but thanks not looking for a match but what comes, comes.
That was the fastest 50 minutes I've ever had on UA-cam ! I felt like I was hanging with my friends. I totally get where Danial is coming from as far as being single. I'm 60 and have always stayed single other than an occasional relationship here and there, but I'll never shave my asshole for nobody. I did it once when I was younger and I couldn't walk or sit without pain because it irritated me SO much. Maybe a trim, but no shaving. I can't believe I'm telling this to the world !
That was EXACTLY how I felt when my partner popped into my life. I literally thought "ffs, are you kidding me?!" Because I didnt want to love someone, but here I am. 7 months into a relationship and still sickly in love
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I knew it was love after I had to go to therapy to accept my feelings. It took me months to put it into words and had to change my life to fit someone else, but I regret nothing. We watched jigsaw a bit scared at first but then, yeah, we think we found a good thing. Thank you Daniel 💖
Omg this is so refreshing for me... a woman in her 30’s who spent her teens and 20’s in full on (years long) relationships and are happy (have been for years) on my own now. People cant comprehend it... I don’t know if its just society or that I’m not repulsive to look at (used to model) but I’m a city councillor now and would have never done this type of high level community work had I stuck in my old needy ways... I love my life and the time I spend (rarely) longing for others, is far outweighed by the time I spent miserable in ‘relationships’. It would take a pretty special person to even make that scenario appealing to me now.
Well just keep your head up. They aren’t that rare.
I’m not sure you understood (my poorly written) sentiment there… my chins higher than ever.
Kitty Kat Yeah I didn’t read that properly at all. I didn’t mean to be rude. None of my business but don’t you ever want children?
I'm a that person that was raised from the age of 4 years old, watch a scary movie immediately followed by the making of that movie. It completely, ruined me for getting emotional watching TV & movies. Fastforward, now a grown up with 2 children. Show me a simple commercial of a baby reading a book, in a Cheerios Ad & I'm a blubbering mess. No for real, I need half a box of tissues. With age we stop caring what others think so much & feel the emotions. It's WONDERFUL! Thanks for sharing guys. Love to both ya's xo *Hugz
Big love from the empathy crew!! Don’t forget to hit subscribe 👊
@@ChrisWillx - I've learned that I _should_ have become a movie set designer. After the kids move out... Hollywood here I come? We'll see LOL
I have faith in you. Remember us when you’re famous please
Suitor: "I love you"
Me: "Aww, I'm sorry."
Ha!!!
man there's so much truth in this video. Recently broke up with my girlfriend and this guys talked about every single thing I felt.
I am watching this right now because I feel like I need some perspective with everything and everyone telling me how important it is for me to get married and how otherwise I am an absolute failure in life.
I really need to hear how it is alright.
You can be deeply empathetic and still have clear & strong boundaries. Empathetic does not equal week. You can be very empathetic and still a bad ass. It’s a beautiful thing.
This guy is wise. Braggers arent happy.
What is braggers?
@@ChrisWillx people who brag: what daniel was saying about people who post too much to social media
Yes of course. It’s taken me 5 months to realise that
I remember when I was younger all I wanted was for my parents to divorce and I actually felt relieved when they did.
Do you still feel that way now?
@@michaelfern4079 yep
Emily O'Neill must have been awful. I’m glad things are better for you now. I know divorces can be devastating. 👍
I understand completely the idea that falling in love should be inconvenient. When I met my (now ex) wife 15 years ago, I was not at all looking for a relationship. Not whatsoever. I was recently out of a terrible break up as well as another bad relationship a few years earlier. I was fully committed to stay single for a while. Maybe even be a bit of a manslut. But then meet this incredible person 5h away. I go there to see if this thing was real. A bit hesitant because I had an incling of what was going on. And sure enough I got that aw-for-fucks-sake feeling. I was hooked and there was nothing else to do than to move and get going with the rest of my life. Lasted for like 13 years and resulted in 2 kids. We are still best friends. The reason for the breakup was almost entirely down to my own demons and clinical depression.
Oh man! I hope you're doing better now.
@@aoutsky Thanks. I'm doing better, a bit at least.
How are you now?
@@thefinster Well, I have a chronic depression and pretty debilitating anxiety. But I'm more or less adequately medicated now. I don't get super happy about anything, but in return I don't go into the deep sea trenches of abject despair either. I'm on the whole provisionally content with my situation apart from being poor as fuck.
I tell my wife all the time that certain couples need to just break up and she thinks I'm evil. Now i feel less evil :D thanks mr sloss!
I bet that goes down brilliantly 😂
Fancy a cry?? Here's a curated selection of weep-inducing videos from myself & Daniel 💜
Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers - ua-cam.com/video/RKBcs9tNWg8/v-deo.html
Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers #2 - ua-cam.com/video/d6kjZXwdyJs/v-deo.html
People Hearing For The First Time - ua-cam.com/video/yZ6vSn7PaPI/v-deo.html
Kids Surprising Parents With Adoption Papers - ua-cam.com/video/ZJXx0mNCFgg/v-deo.html
Modern Wisdom , здравствуйте, а есть его монологи с переводом на русский язык?
I need a translator
If you want a deep satisfying cry watch the movie "What dreams may come". It will fucking end you, 😂
Hahahah. Thank you.
Cried laughing about your purposeful crying! 😉
5:48 - 6:32 is straight up facts. Damn this man talks like he has a window to my mind.
Damn you Daniel Sloss, I cried just hearing you talking about children taking the step-dad's second name... I use the same videos to get in touch with my emotions exactly because I grow up hold them down. Thank you for sharing it, fuck, I know I'm not the only batshit crazy...
soo glad I've found this! David is a legend been saying this for years
Who is David?
@@ChrisWillx I was wondering the same thing! Lol!
The BEST relationship advice.
I don’t know why I’m here; never heard of Daniel Sloss but I kind of like him
You must watch his shows.
looking for more Daniel Sloss content and came up to this, thanks for the content mate!
"Haha! That's a level of pettiness I aspire to" (100% solid gold)
I cried when Daniel talked about a small girl calling for her dad, of just the thought ..i- don't know where that came from
That whole love must be inconvenient thing really hit home this past week. I’ve been doing pretty well, just got a second job and lost about 25 lbs. I’ve been talking to all sorts of girls. I wouldn’t say I’m living my absolute best life, but getting there for sure. And then out of nowhere I met someone amazing and it’s like a kick in the balls. Like “goddamn it, I’ve been out here just doing my thing and now I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you for the past 3 days.” 😩
I like the aesthetic here. The interviewer’s shirt blends in with the red wall and Daniel’s pale skin blends in with the white wall
We planned that in advance
I agree with Daniel. Manual transmissions are best.
Incorrect
28:04 “girls have called me daddy before” 😂😂😂 I’m dead lmao sign me up!
Late to the party 🎉
I binge Daniel Sloss. His UA-cam obsessions are mine.
Can’t wait for Nov 2! #X
A friend of mine was lamenting that he wanted to get married but couldn't for some reason. He asked me if I want to get married, I said no. He scolded me that marriage is about life partner and forced me to say yes to marriage (not to him, fortunately). We're not friends anymore.
36:50 I came from Spotify to see wether they filmed this with a straight face. Well ... how ... inspirational.
I saw this New Year’s Day and ended it that day after Daniel talked about how it’s selfish I’m letting it go on and not wanting to hurt them
Good on you for realising it wasnt working and putting a stop to it. Hopefully you can both move on smoothly with the rest of your life 😊
LISTEN TO HIM!
adjust your exoectation but a relationship has to feel easy. If it is hard its not right and for god sake, do not through kids in to the mix untill you have someone who is compatible with you and you can have an effortless good relationship and then have babys if you want and make it more chalanging.
I agree with him so much on Why must there be a love interest in movies? I cringe when I see that when the original story had no romantic side to it.
That’s EVERY movie now
@@ChrisWillx I think (hope) that's going to change with some power going back to content creators. These days you no longer rely on publishers and record labels for regular people to put out books, or music. I guess for a movie it would be a bit more complicated but not impossible. I'm really curious what kinds of movies we would be seeing from Daniel.
My parents divorced when I was like 1 year old, now I'm 31 and already twice divorced. It's kind of like a family tradition.
I’m 30 and single as fuck. Does that make you feel any better?
Анастасия Кошакова lovely being you can BREAK all the traditions!!!! And I declare it because I lived through divorces (3 of my dad’s; 3 of my own).
this conversation was an absolute pleasure to listen to
Life is hard. It's nice to give and have support through it. But everyone should go through at least a full decade completely on your own. No financial help from parents or anyone. Alone. We are biologically driven to find that "stable partner" to raise children. I hate when people say "Oh, you don't have children? Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Having kids for that reason is so selfish.
Hey. Excuse you. I went to the description of this video, expecting to be linked to things that would make me cry. I would appreciate it if you could follow up on your promises, please and thanks.
Shit! Knew I’d forgotten something, I’ll text Daniel now and get a list of our best ones together. Check back tomorrow
@@ChrisWillx bahahaha perfect 😂 much appreciated. But in all seriousness, great chat posted here! Thanks for the discussion, you too! 😁
I need another day. Sorry, he’s flying atm & I don’t want to under deliver 😂
Curated selection of weep-inducing videos from myself & Daniel is finally here 💜
Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers - ua-cam.com/video/RKBcs9tNWg8/v-deo.html
Dogs Welcome Home Soldiers #2 - ua-cam.com/video/d6kjZXwdyJs/v-deo.html
People Hearing For The First Time - ua-cam.com/video/yZ6vSn7PaPI/v-deo.html
Kids Surprising Parents With Adoption Papers - ua-cam.com/video/ZJXx0mNCFgg/v-deo.html
Oh this was so fun! Loved it
Thank you!! Check out some of our other episodes
@@ChrisWillx Sure will! Nothing better than listening to discussions in 3 am
What I'm afraid of is deciding I'm going to break up with someone, but before I can do it they tell me they have cancer.
Damn, this whole conversation resonates with me so much! I'm definitely going to check out his Netflix shows asap! Thanks for sharing :)
Enjoy kate! Check out our Relationships series on this channel if you enjoyed this one too!
@@ChrisWillx Thanks, I have already they're great! Very helpful! Big fan of the podcast and channel, keep up the great work lads! :)
Thanks Kate! Big love x
I’ve been happy in relationships and I’m also happy single. I see no problem with this!
Extending on his jigsaw views, don't we do much the same for the four corners? Judge people for not filling them, or not filling them with the "right things".
Great point. Watch this & let me know your thoughts ua-cam.com/video/AtCR6P5rsXU/v-deo.html
Also, unrelated, but I thought I'd add the comment in case Daniel's keeping count of this statistic, as well as the # of breakups, I shaved down there for the first time after watching his special. Asexual, aromantic. Still recommend.
@@ChrisWillx Alain the Botton 🧡
Watching this knowing he's now engaged 😂
THANK YOU!!! Disney creates false expectations 🤦♀️
Suffering engraves those lessons, as a hot iron branding the brain. Growth is great and empowering.
great and insightful conversation lads! thanks for sharing it
Great chat, and totally re-instating my faith in the male population.
Thanks Jenney, why has it given you faith?
Modern Wisdom Ouch, that is a loaded question. But I will say it’s nice to see 2 guys having a constructive conversation about relationships and life. I don’t think I hear or see enough of it. Quite the opposite.
this was a great conversation. really solid interviewer
There were so many gems in this video is amazing ! Thank you !
I'm gonna die single happily because of Sloss, my jigsaw is complete :D
great show ! and yes, I figured it was bound to happen eventually. Humans used to have one job their entire lives. Today it's mandatory that you change many jobs and have more varied experiences, same with studies. Relationships are the only ones that we never worked on. We finally had divorced as kind of acceptable, but no one likes the facts. My interpretations of 55% of all couples get divorced is purely mathematically. We are literally worse at finding "the one" than flipping a coin !! just think about that for a second :D ))) it just goes to show, that it's not even that we are bad at it, we are terrible at it . If we'd flip a coin on our partners our chances, statistically would be better to find "true love" than left to our own devices. It's incredible ! And then you have an entire industry of "couple's therapy", WHY ?! those people finally accepted that it won't work, and then they get to pay you to continue the misery for yet another 10 years ?! it's like sending a gambling addict in recovery to a therapist who will explain to him the benefits of gambling ! Just stop doing it ! :D ))
Daniel Sloss is ENTP personality type. I’d bet money on it!
What characterises that personality?
I left my gf after his special and I'm glad
"Falling in love" is the most inconvenient thing, because its all about passion. Passion clouds the mind. Like Duke Leto said to his son Paul: 'Never let sentiment cloud your judgement, son." If mate selection and acquisition is based on passion it will soon go off the rails.
“… only rarely in history has love been seen as the main reason for getting married. When someone did advocate such a strange belief, it was no laughing matter. Instead, it was considered a serious threat to social order." --Stephanie Coontz
“Success or failure in marriage depends not on whether husband and wife love each other, but on whether they want to merge their lives and fortunes.” --Dr Thomas Szasz
Why the HELL did I go and look up the adoption-thing?? I was not mentally prepared to start bawling my eyes out, whilst on the toilet.
Check the pinned comment Caspar. The dog videos will end your world
where to find emotionally intelligent men like this wtf
Right? Men who can talk about relationships without any misogyny..
Painless hair removal awareness month: photoepilation or IPL (not laser). You are so welcome.
Gooooooood ! I LOVE DANIEL SLOSS ✨!
He’s the boss eyh
watching this in Feb 2021 after daniel just announced his engagement on IG haha
Oh wow! I would have never guessed Chris would have had hair like this!
I love this guy!
I watch the videos of colorblind people wearing those glasses for the first time too! Eyes well up every time.
Wooooow im a new fan of the podcast been watching for a couple of months and I didn’t know that Chris had a chia pet hairstyle. Love the podcast and thanks for your service Chris
I love jigsaw analogy. bless Daniel for bringing this up. I felt that way for a long time. Loving relationships shouldn't be about possesion anyway, so I'll keep my damn jigsaw and you keep yours and if you're my true love then we could interconnect our individual pieces some day :P Otherwise I'll happily stay single
sunk in cost fallacy
i am mind blown
I don't even know this guy that well but thus conversation is fantastic
Amazing chat! Felt like being there sharing thoughts :) Thanks!
I think the opposite but is great to hear this point of view. You can make a choice and thats fine but for this time is great that you hear that you can broke up, dont marry now, be happy first.
carla bagu how do you think then?
Some of the only straight men I could see myself being actual friends with.