What Happens When You Reject A Naricissist
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- Опубліковано 11 лис 2020
- There are times when you've decided that enough is enough, so you make the decision to part ways with a narcissist. Dr. Les Carter describes how to prepare your heart and mind because most narcissists are not capable of responding to rejection with any measure of maturity or introspection. You will need to stay strong, knowing a break up will not be easy.
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Why are there so many these days? It’s an epidemic. I was married to a narcissist for 47 years. It nearly killed my spirit. In the end he left me for a woman 23 years younger and during the divorce I found out nearly all the money was gone. I’m struggling financially and still working full time at age 70. I’ve never been happier in my life.
After I started divorce proceedings, my now ex husband said, I must tell you I never did love you. My response really threw him off. I said that’s okay, I know I went into this with the right intentions and I loved you. But as I know you didn’t ever love me, it makes how all this turned out (the divorce) all that much easier and a good thing, so thanks for telling me that.
Narcissism is an extreme overcompensation for extreme insecurity.
You can’t talk about anything with them they’ll never admit to anything!💯
narcissists will pick arguments, then accuse you of starting the argument, they'll even go as far as to accuse you of being a narcissist, they'll twist and distort and take everything you've said out of context.
I don’t hang around negative, abusive people. Period. Even if it is my “loving” family.
When you finally realize that you cannot help/ change a narcissist it is so wonderful!
When I told my narcissist husband I was getting a divorce, he laughed. He's not laughing now.
I chose to not tell the narcissist I had to deal with that I was leaving. I just left. No discussion, no fight. I just left.
They get extremely angry and tend to act like a spoiled child having a tantrum.
They damage us, they don't know what love means at all.
Common traits of a narc:
Very few people will come out of a relationship with a narcissistic person the same way they went into it.
I was married to a Narcissist for 58 years. Having led a very sheltered life, I married at age 19 and It only took about 2 months for me to realize that I had made a huge mistake and that in fact, the person I fell in love with never existed at all!! But being as young and naive as I was, I thought I could make it work and proceeded to have four, beautiful children which I raised more-or-less on my own, as their Father was emotionally absent and was of the opinion that the raising of the children was not his job. It wasn’t until more than 25 years into the marriage, which continued to become more and more difficult with time, that I heard the word Narcissist and began to educate myself via videos like this one. I read everything I could get my hands on and was most flattered to learn that I had been doing the right thing all along using only my intuition!! As an only child, there was no way I could leave him - I had nowhere to go and by that time I was too old to support myself. When he retired and was at home 24/7 things got a lot worse. He began to try to micro- manage me and to put me down in front of others and in public. I think this might have been because he realized I was onto his game and refusing to play it any more. He was losing control and reacted with more narcissistic rage than ever!! I even had to call the cops for him one night, as there were signs that he was getting physical. He was at the door all dressed up to meet them on their arrival, while I sat quietly on the couch and waited to be questioned. The cops saw right through the whole scene and warned him that two more calls of that nature and the City would file charges. It was the best thing I ever did, because that scared him to where he was very careful about what he did after that. His health began to decline (he was a diabetic) and it seemed as though he just imploded after that. I stood my ground, and the minute he began to throw one of his tantrums I would remove myself, go upstairs to my room (he moved out of the bedroom years earlier) and lock my door. By this time the kids were all grown and gone, thank goodness, so I looked after him until he passed away 10 months ago. But I remained aloof emotionally and felt only relief when he died. My reason for sharing my story is to prove than you CAN distance yourself even if you can’t leave for whatever reason(s). It takes strength and courage, but it can be done and you will come out of it stronger for the experience. You might ask why I am still watching these videos now that he is gone: for the sheer joy of validation!! It feels so good to know that I did the right thing and came out on top!! Not only was I the victim of emotional abuse for years, but of financial abuse as well. Money was his God, but he couldn’t take it with him and now I am comfortably taken care of, so it paid off in the long run. Thank you for your videos!! Knowledge is power and I often pass them along to others who I think would benefit from listening to your advice. As a matter of fact, I often find myself shaking my head in agreement of many of the things you are saying!! Validation can be as satisfying as revenge!!
The ultimate irony: WE seek counseling versus the narcissist. Poisonous, toxic people no one should be with/around.
They can’t laugh at themselves and have little understanding of humor.
And they will never Apologise for anything they do and mean it
They are great in believing that they are the victims when we walk away from them. What a joke.
I was stalked when I pulled away. Then I got a FOID card. Let's just say, don't be a fool. Narcissistic people can be crazy, but my gun is crazier!! 💯
I feel I have to walk on eggshells around the narcissist(s) in my life.