10 Signs of a Master Manipulator
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- Do you marvel at how some people are always able to get their way? These are people who have extremely high manipulative tendencies. The reason they are hard to identify is that they employ rather innocent tactics. However, any innocent act when used with ill intent turns into a tool for manipulation.
DISCLAIMER: Please note this is for educational purposes. If you find yourself relating to one, two, or any of the following signs, it doesn’t automatically classify you as a master manipulator. Please note this is not meant to discredit anyone. This video is not a substitute for professional advice or self-diagnosis. We advise you to seek professional help if you can relate to any disorders mentioned.
Do you relate to these signs and realized that you might be unintentionally manipulative? We have a video on that too: • 5 Signs You're Uninten...
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Garis MG (2019, Oct. 07). “3 Ways to Spot the Under-the-Radar Manipulative People in Your Life”. Well + Good. Relationship tips. Retrieved from
www.wellandgood.com/am-i-manipulative/
Hartley D (2015, Sept. 27). “What Makes Someone a Master Manipulator?” Psychology Today. Machiavellians: Gulling the Rubes. Schrader J, reviewed by. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/machiavellians-gulling-the-rubes/201509/what-makes-someone-master-manipulator#:~:text=When%20someone%20habitually%20responds%20to,does%20not%20excuse%20bad%20behavior
Johnson EB (2020, Aug. 05). “The common tactics of master manipulators”. Medium. Retrieved from
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How is everyone doing today?
Great...
Decent
Up and down, but I’m grateful for the ride 💓
sick bro
Working but I’m out in one hour! Other than that I’m good!
"The true manipulator never has a reputation for manipulating" - Gill Bates
Gill Bates that's funny 😅
Haha so glad I just got out of a manipulative relationship - makes all this current nonsense MUCH easier to navigate 😁
It's like smugglers or thieves, if you're known, you're not doing it right
Byll gaytes the man who said “if we do a really good job with vacc-ines, we can lower the world pop-ulation by 10, maybe 15%” in his 2010 Ted talk 😫🤦🏻♂️
yup
Sounds like master manipulators would fit the role of bosses very well.
They do
It's their job
Yeah really, I realized I apply a lot of these concepts while I'm at work as a manager of a lumber distribution facility. Taking control of some of these encounters especially with personel and customers is key in business.
Are you talking about the toxic bosses where they are thinking for purely self gain?
@@Psych2go there are other kinds?
The silent treatment, being unable to say no to them or talking in circles are the most common signs I’ve experienced! They’re so painfully obvious, and yet so effective - these videos are extremely helpful with recognizing these manipulation tactics! Thank you!
What does talking in circles mean please ?
@@dana-ky5mg Not getting to the point or successfully avoiding the subject (that they were probably asked about)
@@Jansku1111 i see thanks!
I remember that I used the silent treatment ( without knowing it was a manipulation tactic) because I was angry. Now I know better.
@@Skypop11037 But honestly, if feel like I don't wanna talk to someone because they did something that angered me, I think it's not that manipulativ.
Some people like to talk about everything and some choose to not talk in certain situations...
I used to speak my mind in the heat of the moment in most times just to quickly regret doing so.
Now I tend to do the "Silent treatment" not because I want to be passive aggressive but I don't want to speek before I think about it.
Great video!
From what I've noticed in real life, master manipulative people have a few very common traits :
1. Never say what they really think, they only say what they know you would like to hear
2. They come across as kind and good intentioned (it is the mask they wear)
3. They never get visibly angry and never argue directly
Master manipulators never show signs of ill intentions, this is what makes it even more insidious.
Very true
Isn't that just trying to not be rude??? Idk bc it's what I usually do
@@freyintears Do you usually act and say things so that you gain people's trust and they do what you want?
I will give you an example. My colleague from my previous work place (I worked there for 6 years and loved the job before she came in). She appeared nice and sweet and even offered to help with some things such as house hunting (which I didn't accept anyway as I like to do these things myself). Anyway for about 6 months I genuinely believed she was a sweet person. Then people's behaviour towards me at work started to change. Apparently she had befriended them too and knew exactly how to make them tick. She took about 20 phone numbers and would call them after work or before. I found out she would say things about me in an innocent way like for example.. She would pretend she is down and when people would ask her why she would lie that it's because of me, because I don't do my job properly and she has to work more. But then she would go ahead and say that she loved me and she didn't want to cause me trouble! I've known these people for years and many would believe all the suggestions and ideas she would implant in their heads.
Oh yeah also one day the director asked me if I was happy with my job. I said yes, I still like what I do, why? He said he heard that I wasn't happy with my job anymore. Basically she told him this in an apparently 'well-intentioned' way so that she would implant in his mind that I have become desinterested. She knew damn well that every single one of her actions would cause me trouble but she did them so innocently, saying in the meantime that she cared about me. Another example, when I had proof in emails that would contradict what she wanted people to believe, she would delete the emails from clients, they would just disappear the next day. And everyone believed she was nice and well-intentioned.
@@k.b.6844 yikes. I'd confront someone like this. I had a shitty older coworker like this too that told management she thought I should be demoted (I told my friend and coworker this who told me this woman had constant cash loss issues because of her shortcomings/incompetence and who would make remarks about my appearance because I had showered before work and my hair was still wet. Like no dug my hair is wet, I know that) I refused to speak with her after she told me she told management that she thought I needed a demotion and when she'd say hi only then would I bullshit a friendly hello back. I never wanted to be at that job and am so happy I don't work there anymore lol a few of my coworkers through out my 2 years there were miserable. 3/4 of them were awful but thankfully they all quit or got moved before I left.
@@iLoveTheBamx well at least your old coworker admitted that she spoke to management about you. This woman never openly admitted to saying anything but I found out it was her from some people. That's the thing with master manipulators, it's not in your face. And I did confront her twice and she played the victim or the innocent..as if nothing had happened. I've also noticed that with these people, confronting them makes you seem like the bad guy because by that point, they already turned everyone against you..
I would like to point out that the act of ignoring someone is not always manipulative. If someone is verbally abusing you and you didn't do anything to antagonize them, then ignoring that person actually is a reasonable response to verbal abuse. On the other hand, if you did something to antagonize the person and then ignore their response to it, preventing them from healthy resolution of their feelings, then yes, that's manipulative abuse.
This is currently being done to me. It's excruciating.
I couldn't agree more with this. Sad truth is in a lot of super religious or conservative places, many children are being manipulated by their greedy selfish ass parents, but being brainwashed that ignoring and or running away from the toxic parents/family are a bad thing, sinful. So a lot of people don't and won't get help, and living in a excruciating situation.
@@CatLevel ill get out of that sitipuation one day
It is manipulating always.
@@corpsepuppy427 No, the difference is getting someone to react and shutting down their ability to get a response that would allow them to be calm and not overreact versus getting someone to just stop mistreating you. The second one isn't manipulation that's more trying to avoid being abused. If you were to pick at someone and then refuse to respond to their anger when they get upset and don't acknowledge them in any way and just ignore them, it's kind of abusive. Ignoring someone can be manipulation, but not always, and that's the point. I think not making that clear might mislead people into thinking that all times a person might ignore another is manipulative or abusive rather than it's only abusive depending on what's going on.
@Vincent Lenart A lot of people are like this, and a lot of people go through this, and I've experienced it, too, more than once. I understand. I hope you can get away from it.
@Cat Level I'm not religious so I wouldn't know about religious households.
I just saved myself from a 6 year intimate relationship with a MM. When I ended it, he told me he thought it was a great decision that I was ‘taking control of my life’. And, hoped we could still be friends. He always said we could talk about anything, that I could ask anything but we never did. This was so accurate on all 10 signs!
These are great tips! I’ve been trying to become a better manipulator, and this video has been a big help. Great stuff!
wow..it's nice haha
In short, if they act like Rashta, they're a God at manipulating.
From: The Remarried Empress
Actually, I don't think that she's that good, just that Sovieshu is soo easy. Duke Ergi on the other hand...
*trashta
@@-a-1889 i find it hilarious that the spanish fans call her "Rata"
@@peterparker8462 truuuu Duke ergi has rashes(auto correct did that not me, im just letting is happen. If my keyboard thinks she's a rash, who am I to contradict 😌) wrapped around his little finger. I'm waiting for him to drop the act and watch how she tries to scramble out of the situation
@@lonlons4668 ratata :D
I spent the last 8 years of my life believing I was manipulative, when in actuality I was gaslit by a narcissist into believing so. Nearly this entire video resonates with what I believe about myself, except that I wear my flaws on my sleeve and am VERY quick to apologize. I'm starting to feel this entire thing finally unravel itself backwards, and I can't even begin to describe how better off I am.
It's a crazy feeling, isn't it?
In my case, the manipulator was a parent and I didn't start making the realizations until adulthood. And yes, being gaslit into feeling like you're a bad person or a manipulator is a terrible feeling.
I hope that you can easily transition into the kind of healing and love and peace that you need to get past this ❤️❤️❤️
Conversely, the people that actually do behave these ways, and the ones that are told so, tend to want to believe anything with the slightest sense of legitimacy, to convince themself that they are being gaslit/not gaslighting someone.
Gaslighting is such a horrible concept, as there´s no way of deducing whether it´s the case, without a long and very self-reflective open conversation about what´s going on to prompt the feeling of "gaslighting".
More often than not, people will use it to validate something that goes against objective reality, usually with an extremely shortsighted view to their intentions only.
This all goes as much for the person supposedly gaslighting, to the person supposedly being gaslightet.
One of the best ways to deal with this, is not to stigmatize another person one way or the other with the term, and have a long and introspective and open conversation about intend, actions, and consequenses etc.
I'm glad it's not just me that felt this way!
I’m in a similar boat to you. I’m sure my dad is a narcissist. I can’t tell if my last relationship the girl, or I was a narcissist but we brought out a lot of these behaviors. Some of my past relationships I’ve also brought some of these like “okay but if we…” not realizing I was doing that to get my way, instead thinking I’m just explaining different possibilities. It’s heart breaking to realize the subtle things you’ve done in the past or recently. At least when you realize some of these things you can work on changing them.
It will be the best day of your life when you let go these kind of people from your life.
There's tons of people out here that are so thankful for this channel.. it's changing lives everyday. The insight to apply what is said to our daily lives is simply remarkable. Thank all of you who put your time and effort into this. Your amazing..thank you so much
Thank you Psych2go, this video was really helpful for me. I dated a diagnosed sociopath. He would always dodge my important questions about him, and always ignored me when i stated things i would like from him in the relationship, like communication, and i see that it was a sign of how he was very manipulative. He would even make me question my own beliefs and morals. Now i understand more.
Would you like to hear something he'd say ?
" Does asking the right question make you question your beliefs "
First sign:
His name is Light Yagami/Kira.
HAHAHAHA THIS IS TOO PERFECT 😂
The second sign is that he eats potato chips too deliberately
@@guacamoleman3253 Third sign: He tends to have a killer smile.
@@HaloJumper7 hes studying way too much than usual.
@@doulikemyname1685 Fourth sign: Everything he does is just as he planned.
Manipulation is easy, the hard part is being a good person and not do it even though you know damn well it would save you problems.
Well said
Facts
It's much easier when you decide life isn't fun when you don't care for anyone.
Yep but that's society
It makes problems, too. People generally don't like being manipulated. Some people may not pick up that you're doing it, but people who have survived things like narcissistic abuse (or are themselves manipulators) will see through your tricks. I recently called out a former friend on his bad behavior (including manipulative BS), he responded by disappearing for a few weeks and then trying to tell all my friends that I'm secretly a bad person. Ironic.
Sometimes I come here just to listen to your voice 😂 it’s so warm and comforting. Thank you.
A manipulator can pretty much be summarized as one word: a coward. Someone who hides behind a shield of lies and deceit and avoids the consequences of their reality. You can tell they didn’t grow up with decent parenting in their life. Which is just as equally sad as them having to rely on cowardly behaviors in the first place.
Honestly, they’re more of a disappointment than anything.
*Truly Mr/Ms/Mrs Self-Proclaimed **_Dark Empath,_** your intelligence and wisdom is **_unquestionable._*
bro just described me
Dang, aha--
Considering theyre taking large risks to get what they want that would make them anything but a coward
@@nifLeftynot really because they would go in and out of their way to control their victims such as killing and possibly sexual abuse because I don't know what coward what commit both of these crimes in order to control their victim
Is- is that Rashta in the thumbnail or am I just imagining it? That's so fitting, I don't hate her but she definitely is a manipulator. I love this channel so much!
Edit: What I meant was I hate her actions not her as a person, though I'm starting to.With her past I can't blame her wanting to keep the safety she has, but her actions are still inexcusable. Sovieshu though-
Edit: 1K?! I'm famous now, hehe
Edit: 1.9K?? Jeez you all are inflating my non existent ego, ah thanks for the heart!
I think you mean Trasha 😏
Oh I knew she reminded me of someone and it’s her.
I thought the girl on the thumbnail looked familiar.
OMG FELLOW FELLOW EMPRESS FANS,
but yeah I'm pretty sure that's trashta
YES!!!!
Whoever is the animator, narrator, the people who run down this channel, etc. please know that ilyall
so much
i love her voice
Her voice is smooth
Manyyy
ive been going through so many emotions with someone... she makes makes me feel horrible about myself, and she is extremely passive aggressive... all my friends are supportive... but i must say, some of videos i've been watching from this channel has really helped for me. must say thank you!
Ur video and content quality has really improved a lot.
i never thought that i would see trashta as a thumbnail for psych2go 👁👄👁
Same.
Me too!
Fr
Same but I not complaining. She totally belongs in the thumbnail of this vid!
Call her Rashta
Heinley is the douchebag
This video was interesting to watch just like all the other videos, I love how they add anime or game characters sometimes too
I’ve been through tons of manipulation so I really appreciate these videos
If somebody is a master manipulator you will most likely never find out he/she is manipulating you
Or you only find out in hindsight.
Well I've lived with her for fourteen years
exactly!
Idk but I got allot of good from manipulating bad people
Or encourage others to manipulate you. Plausible Denial.
"They often use others for personal gain"
ME: OH MY GOSH! IT'S SOVIESHIT AND TRASHTA!!!!
Omg YESSS the WEBTOON of the Remarried Empress!! I freaking love it
The thumbnail gave me vibes of her and I’m like huh , that’s cool 😂
LOL last place I thought I would see this 😂😂😂
Just commented saying that the thumbnail looks like her lol. I love The Remarried Empress.
OMG I KNEW I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE WHO NOTICED THIS
The thing is... As a borderline that have a boderline mom and a boderline grandmother, I hate manipulation and I hate that people assume that I am trying to manipulate them. I almost never lie (if I try people just know, I am a terrible liar), and I try to always be empathetic, admit my mistakes, I never assume people are trying to be evil, I think they only don't think as me. But, I am really sensitive, cry easily and explain my reason and way of thinking in a deep way... And as I am a boderline and my bf know, he, sometimes, think that I am trying to manipulate him with my feelings! I hate that so much! I am just expressing how I feel! I not even trying to make him do what I want, I am just explaining my side. So I really hate this word and hate the assumption that borderline are manipulative. This is really confuse and make me feel terrible. I feel that If I tell people how I feel they assume that is a manipulation... This is really terrible.
i feel that. I do that to others cause im afraid what they might think so i just pretend to yk get to them, but then i realized its bad to change yourself just because you want to be with them or vibe with them
True manipulators don’t get caught for being a manipulator
If you find someone who is truly manipulating you (on purpose) they most likely wanted you to know.
_Timestamps_
0:55 - They don’t always seem intimidating
1:24 - They assume that humans are inherently evil
1:48 - They find a practical necessity for manipulation
2:22 - They like to embellish stories
2:47 - Their phrasing is ambiguous
3:15 - They use passive - agressiveness
3:52 - They often use others for personal gain
4:22 - You are scared to say no to them
4:49 - They talk in circles
5:24 - They are diagnosed with a personality disorder
Hope this helped :)
Thanks
thank you so so much i love the comments that have a timestamp on them
thanks lovee
Thank a lot
Thanks a million. That saves time. No pun intended. 🤭
Is that trashta?? Perfect reference
It does look like her
I was wondering the same thing! But tbh Trashta barely has the skill to be a passable manipulator by herself.
Omg I was just wondering who the thumbnail was. And I think it is Trashta!
Omg trashta from remarried empress
I WSS THINKING THE SAME
hey, i love your content and your way to draw thing, thank you for all your work :)
Thanks for the tutorial!!
My mother used to give me the silent treatment for days ever since I was 10. I would get on my knees and beg for her to just speak to me again. But eventually it just became normal and I find myself almost doing it to others, I have to stop myself because I remember how it felt. For awhile I thought I was secretly manipulative like her.
Thats terrible that happened to you. That kind of behavior by a parent is emotional abuse intended to punish for not meeting some unspoken or unreasonable expectation. Its not fair to you.
Relatable... My mom do that too but because I hate it I'm always self aware of my actions I don't want to become another her
@@taibatahir9704 That's where you just slap some sense into your mother for making you uncomfortable with the silent treatment. Otherwise, your dada would do so on your behalf.
@@MetalSStar196 my dad once caught her behaving like that and got angry on her but later she got angry on me that I'm pretending to be the victim and making my own parents fight... But now I've started to put distance between me and her . Like I don't care as much as I did before for the silent treatment, with time I will get better hopefully I'm making myself priority now I don't care what she feels I need to take care of what I feel now ..I'm exhausted and I can't take it anymore I love her but I need to love myself too ... Thank you for support it matters alot ❤️ all the support I get from online helps me to get better for myself ..
Please, don't do it to anyone. It's a learned behaviour. You can unlearn it.
You will never leave a tough discussion with a manipulator/narcissist and be like, “We really got somewhere with that talk.”.
My ex husband. Bleh!
Yuuuuuup
Hit the nail on the head OMG.
So fucking true.
Actually that's only narcissists. Masters manipulators trick you into the opposite, thinking that you reach to a conclusion but it was their conclusion not yours
Recently I stopped talking to a friend who had a lot of these tendencies, at the beginning of our friendship I always felt inferior to her, and when she would deploy these techniques I never really realised it. Later on though, after I started building up my confidence and a backbone, I did start calling her out whenever she was manipulative. At one point she tried guilt tripping me, which I called out, then she tried gaslighting and lying to me about it which I also called her out on. After that point it kind of wasn't the same. After she left my city, where she was staying for a couple weeks, she started taking hours to respond which was very unlike her and started lying about what she was doing and so I called her out on it and told her if she didn't want to talk to me then the least she could is just tell me, and the amount of excuses and lies she made. Like oh I'm just not in a social mood, or I haven't had any time, etc. And she finally admitted at the end that she didn't care about me anymore or want to talk to me anymore these days, and that was it. We stopped talking, then like 3 days later she sent me a TikTok out of nowhere and never said anything. At first I was kind of relieved because I still wanted to be friends with her. I valued the time I spent with her, I liked her personality when she wasn't manipulative and acted childish and excited about different things, so I responded and I sent her a TikTok back but she never responded so I got annoyed and deleted those messages and simply asked her if she sent that TikTok by mistake and she still hasn't responded 4 days later. Is this another manipulative technique to see if she still has my attention or could have this been a genuine accident and if so why wouldn't she say it was or why wouldn't have she deleted it after she sent it if it was by accident?
Aleena: i personally have BPD, and i used to be, well, pretty toxic and had a LOT of these traits, and i admit that i was indeed a master manipulator, at certain points i even had other toxic people in my life to "victimise me" and blow my reactions out of proportion to gain sympathy with other friends who were good, when in all actuality i was only mildly upset and used those toxic people for validation by having them "make it up to me", or sometimes for aid in helping me on a video game to gain a "profit" in the digital sense. eventually once i started cutting out the toxic people and getting more into psychology, i started redirecting those manipulations solely to people who were good to me and took advantage of their kindness, and eventually, i realised i was in the wrong, but i had been doing this for years that i lost sight of what was manipulation and what wasn't, it was second nature at that point, baked into my behaviours, and eventually, one of the good friends i took advantage of, Aubrey, i had asked her "what exactly am i doing wrong? explain it to me" and she said something along the lines of "you act like you always have an angle" i think it was, or "you just act in a way that always hurts me" and i thanked her and it was a real slap in the face and i started bettering myself. i went around and asked my friends and started second guessing everything i did, constantly worrying how it came off, if it hurt them, and eventually learned real quick who was still toxic to me, because they got mad at me for ludicrous things, and they wanted the stability, even if our friendship was toxic. eventually, after a couple years, i got pretty good at not being manipulative on a daily basis. i still had a long ways to go, but now, year upon years later, i'm a hell of a lot better, and now have only a couple symptoms of my BPD left that i need to fix, and work on with our therapist. it took a long ass time to get here, but now i can be proud that this story, is just the recounting of the dark, and black pages of the story of my life, written in blood ink to represent how much i hurt others, and myself, and that those pages now do nothing but collect dust, and serve as dark and ominous reminders of how bad i can be, and what to never, EVER become again.
Silent treatment can also be a trauma response because the person is afraid to voice their true feelings
That’s different
You are so wise. And people dont see this. I been emotionally and mentally abuse. and i find it hard for me to express my self so i say nothing. And i love to be alone cause i find peace in being alone. Cause i hate dealing with people. When im alone i know i have nothing to worry about. There's nothing external that can hurt me. There's no option for nothing external to hurt me. Cause its not there. But when something there it has a potential to do as it please. If its not there i have nothing to worry about.
True
But what is, if the person who is silent treating you also acts verbally passive-aggressive towards you (e.g. saying they would like to kill you, and then denying they did)?
Is it a Form of manipulation or something else?
@@kevinkevout95 Yes, what you describe is manipulation, abuse.
OH MY GAWDD Is that Trashta, from the webtoon The Remarried Empress, indicated at 3:57 ??? goshhh that was real smooth
Yeaahh, that's what I thought too. Btw its good to see a remarried empress fan here(•ө•)♡
The algorithm needs a subscription, believe it or not, charm is used to manipulate a situation, are humans evil, misleading others is fun, do you believe every word you hear, it's called exaggeration or embellishment, the passive aggresive used slander to cope with the truth, the pressure will cause a reaction, deflect personnel questions to avoid it,it's a disorder if it ruins your life🆘🚩💲✅⛔
It's so cool to see more Remarried Empress fans! I absolutely love it and got my friends hooked on it
I saw it and I was like, "yasss I watch this channel and they know remarried empress?!?"
My thoughts exactly! Such a good webtoon
The intro is a great way of manipulating viewers into subscribing. What a great example!
If someone tries to make you think that they deserve anything from you or get angry if you dont do something, or act like they are entitled to certain things. That is most likely a manipulative "friend"
And this is why I’m not friends with this girl anymore. She’s a GOOD manipulator
I feel in the same way
Who?
Please
Were you able to tell in the beginning?
@@Psych2go now i get it loolooll
“Charisma has three points. The nature of a hero or prophet, the ability to simply make you feel good when you’re around them, and the intelligence to eloquently talk about all sorts of things,” - Saiga Jouji (Psycho Pass)
Ever thought of making a Profiling video as I think this video is somewhat close to the meaning.
Yes, that would be a great idea! Now we just need a dedicated writer for that. Are you interested Eric?
@@Psych2go You've caught my interest about writing about profiling or a better way to say being "Clinical Psychology", but I must say I'm not that bright when it comes to something like this. Well, I technically already got parts written, but not like a script and I'm not sure myself when it comes to profiling somebody as I tried to self teach myself about it and it didn't work out.
I guess you could say it's a rough draft.
Crying from happiness cause it's so rare to see someone quote Saiga Sensei and Psyco-Pass in random videos like this!😭❤
@@Eric_Nguyen. It sounds like you have everything you need to write a script. Go for it! As an Anime fan, I'd love to see this happen.
Thank you for teaching me how to be a master manipulator, I now manipulated a lot of people and I always get what I want no matter what.
Loved the symbolic use of Chess pieces through the video. Best use of stylistic device, well chosen! :)
To the person who've suffered emotionally from manipulation, best to learn from it and move on. My experience tells me it isn't worth battling with manipulators because they will manipulate their way to winning. It won't make you less of a person to give up or avoid interactions on a manipulator. Manipulators mix well with manipulators and the earlier you recognize this, the better.
well but when the manipulator manipulates you, how are you learning from it? those "master manipulators" are most likely so good at what theyre doing that you wont notice unless they want you to. And afterwards you wont really learn from it bc its hard to cope for people who aint manipulating others. Also i must say this video isnt really true in my opinion. Manipulators, and even the really good ones tend to not manipulate everyone they know. Only the people they dont look at as "pure" are getting anal fucked with an 30" horse dildo lmao.
and also. Manipulators dont mix well with manipulators. Only if theyre both relativly bad at it. People who are very good with manipulating tend to go others out of the way bc they can read all they do or think when they talk.
@@Malik-hh4zq Thanks for sharing your opinion but what I said is aligned with my years of experience. If it isn't aligned with yours, then okay. Learning from the experience means being aware that they exist, early signs, and knowing better how to deal with it.
@@Malik-hh4zq this is so true. The manipulators always find a dumb side-kick who does all the dirty work at the cost of their own growth and progress. Sometimes these people never realise their own stupidity and others are too scared to point it out.
@@Malik-hh4zq That's not true, manipulators use manipulators when it benefits them. They use each other.
People who watched death note... Ohh yeah it's all coming together
omg i love death note :D
Glad someone else picked up on it too lmao
Love that show one of my favorite anime
It's my most favourite anime.
But there's an underrated masterpiece anime, *Monster* (it's completely realistic even if it's name is Monster) and it's antagonist, *Johan Liebert* , might be the best manipulator ever created.
@@TheManOfTomorrow after watching death note I really wanted to see more anime like this but couldn't find any cause most of em are underrated... I'll definitely watch these anime you've mentioned... Plz tell if there are more like that
i have learned so much about manipulation to the point that i call myself out whenever i do it and apologise and give myself a timeout in the corner.
Trait no. 9 matches with me a lot. I talk in circles when questioned. I choose my wording carefully, know how to change a topic (I'm a professional there), and the conversation is still normal, and kinda systematic too. Heavens
There's another good one an old "friend" used to use: he would sit there and pump up someone's ego by telling them how awesome they are, and everything they say is funny, and pretended he resonates with them so perfectly.. Subsequently, they'd drop thier guard
And then talk smack about them after they leave and make you feel like you're an accomplice for taking part in that conversation, at least that's what one of my ex friends did.
...This one bothers me a bit. See, I *love* complementing others and encourage them when they talk about something. But I do this because I genuinely like creating positive environments and making others feel better, not because I want them to “drop their guard”.
@Randomnamegeneratir If you're looking to scam someone, compliments and fictional vulnerable scenarios requiring urgent attention would work best.
@@Maria.Mirabella i agree. I feel like i should not even give a compliment at all
@Randomnamegeneratir it's all about intent. Someone being friendly to their crush is manipulation (as they want to be seen as nice). Dressing up for a job interview is manipulation (changing how you are seen to look good). Those kind of things aren't harmful, unless the user abuses it, hurting others intentionally. That's why compliments given to help people feel better aren't inherently bad unless the complimenter is intentionally using them to benefit in some selfish/harmful way
Me: *sees the title* ...hm.
Also Me: *sees character* Ohhh Christ, here we go again with the Empress of the Thotlands.
Is this really Trashta ??
@@alicel1738 Yes. Is she 🙄
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who saw that.
@@alicel1738 lmao
I was like, IS THAT TRASHTA ????
Thx for the tips was looking for more ways to manipulate 🙏
i love this artsytle!!
LOVE the Remarried Empress reference 🧡✨
Glad you like these references!
Should have been Heinley
@@SotraEngine4 no.
@@SotraEngine4 uhh Heinley is not a manipulator like Trashta
Me too
Love the Rise of the Shield Hero and Remarried Empress reference.
Omg i was thinking trashta sooo much
TRASHTA.
Also a reference to yanfei from genshin impact at 2:12
Trashta and Sovieushit the shit couple UvU
Yeah I don't like the pink haired sht girl from the shield hero I don't remember that girl's name but I don't even want to remember
This video has helped me realise I’ve been manipulated for many years now. But now I don’t know how to escape.
having been raised by a manipulative mother, i've learned to tell when someone's trying to manipulate me, it's actually easy for me to identify, but i show some of these signs in myself because i know how to avoid letting manipulation get under my skin
Omg is that Rashta and Soveishu? You guys are amazing lmao
my exact thought when I saw the thumbnail 😂
Ikr lol, they’re pretty cultured
Credit to the animator!
Yep I saw this rashta at the thumbnail I was like awww cute and I read the tittle so I clicked
Heinley is actually at least as bad as Rashta
It's just that Rashta is portrayed as the big bad guy in the series. She is in a kinda desperate position. Besides, she is pretty badly manipulated by Ergy and Rotteshu as she is surprisingly naive
Sovie is just a bit stupid and very bad at communicating. As his marriage with Navier was a political one, finding a concubine was actually something that was seen as perfectly OK. Navier even tells Heinley that she will be ok with him finding a concubine
Heinley. Where do I even start?
- he is planning a war against the Eastern empire, while courting (later marrying) the empress of the Eastern empire
- something about him doesn’t feel genuine
- some have commented that he always smiles to people
- he has a tendency to hold back the truth from Navier
- he pushes her sexual and romantic borders to what is absolutely not ok
- yes, he looks adorable, quirky and all that, but wasn't that the point of one of the points here? By how charming he is, I would bet HE is the main master manipulator in the series
I believe humans are born innocent and good, and it's our environment that shapes us.
I believe that humans are born egoistic and that the best thing to do ist teaching then that helping one another ist the fastest way of achieving your own goals.
I believe in both. We're just very complex little suckers.
a typical baby is a master manipulator. they need to be selfish to survive. Think of the weaker, less manipulative, baby birds that get pushed out of their nest.
Yes, not like babies were set out to end the world.
Not true. There are innately good and bad people. It is fixed right from our birth. Coz the same experiences shape up a narcissist and a codependent. The choice you make is based on your own values that you are born with. This is why only some people can live by values like honesty, kindness...and others see it as a weakness. Our values are innate and even if it is taught to us by parents and teachers we will abide by it only if it's in us. And psychopaths are born not made by the environment. They have a dysfunctional brain right from birth.
Very Good analysis
You style and voice and yanfei💥give me calming down while watching
Just want to note that manipulation can also be unintentional, a lot of people end up using manipulative techniques without realizing especially socially. I believe so long as they're not making it a trend or intentionally doing it to harm you it's not necessarily something to hugely worry about. In fact, it is very common in family dynamics, someone may sway you to do as they wish with your best interests in mind too unintentionally purely out of wanting the best for you. I'm not excusing people who are blatantly manipulative and actively use it as a means to get what they want.
But more avoid being too critical of others who may exhibit these traits on a subconscious level. It's very easy to get lost and start distrusting all those around you, I know I have a tendency to have trust issues around others. Best wishes to all of you, and if you are being quite rudely manipulated on a consistent basis, cut that person out of your life or don't fear saying no to them, try not to resort to emotional responses either, most people will tug you in their direction to get a reaction out of you, invoke a response and in that control, they can provoke the response they want.
Me, who has all the traits:
-It isn’t what it looks like I swear-
Wtf same 😂
If that's the case you NEED HELP 🗣️⁉️
@@dygkunuralya765
-I’m not like that I swear- 😭
SAME
Same, pretty much. My only excuse is that I feel completely incapable of handling people in any other way.
The simple thing to do is to treat everyone based on how they act. Because at the end of the day, we'll never really know whether they were truly manipulative, or it's just their personality. So we act based on how they act. That way we won't make a mistake. We won't mistreat them. We won't hurt anyone. And we won't hurt ourselves either. That's the best way to resolve anything. Respond properly, correctly, and not overdo it.
Nice, I have all the signals and the disorders symptoms, what a perfect personality and life :D
Bipolar isn't a personality disorder, it is a mood disorder. Like Major Depressive disorder.
Thank you for explaining. Because my daughter has been diagnosed with Bipolar. And I'm with Generalized anxiety disorder. Both are mood disorder, right?
@@raynatha4450 General anxiety disorder is an anxiety disorder which is different from mood disorders. It's more commonly a vague label used temporarily until your therapist can narrow down the cause of the anxiety. It can be related to phobias, past or present abuse, and/or PTSD, as well as with co-existing illnesses. Any sort of big traumatic experience can cause anxiety because of the sudden and violent event shocks all of your systems and can create anxiety from the fear of it happening again or having flashbacks of the experience (which can affect the lymphatic system among others, causing the mental stress to translate into physiological bodily stress), so it's just like being in a constant state of hyper vigilance or being overly sensitive to any number of stimuli triggers that will throw you into an anxiety attack in a worst case scenario.
So it's best to get into see a therapist appropriate to your needs as soon as possible so you can skip to the important part and figure out how to identify, discuss, and resolve the problematic bits. And remember, therapy is a safe place to express yourself in confidence and that your feelings and experiences are 100% valid and real. 😊💚
I was misdiagnosed as "Unipolar" or "major depressive disorder" depending on what doctor I had seen. Took me years before I was finally diagnosed with BPD. It's difficult to get a formal diagnosis unless a person displays a minimum of 5 out of 9 criteria requirements for the diagnosis. BPD is a mood and emotional dysregulation disorder. Due to the dysregulation, this makes us impulsive and hyper emotional/sensitive towards others with a irrational fear of abandonment.
My brother was diagnosed with type 2 Bipolar when he was younger. He's doing much better now, but it was rough in the beginning for him. He would be in a manic phase and giddy, then crash and sit bawling his eyes out. But his would last weeks with his manic phases while my emotions would change within hours of each other in emotional highs and lows.
@@raynatha4450 and you're quite welcome 😁 I hope I was able to help and I hope that you have a great night. Be kind to yourself, anxiety can and will go away once you get it sorted out through medication and work out your shadow work with talk therapy. Resolve the mental and heal the physical. This is purest goal of the field of psychology. 😊 Our brains are funny like that.
@@missfoxglove8989 I can't thank you enough for your explanations. It's really an eye opening. And I'm more aware now to deal with my daughter with her bipolar behaviour. For this 6 years already I'm battling GAD, it was right after I got serious reaction of allergic to a certain medicine. I got anaphylaxis reaction where I was almost had breathing failure. Since then, I experienced so many "phobias". Before, I was a quite brave person. After that, brave is an act that I have to choose forcefully to survive day by day. I'm under my psychiatry medication treatment now. And got anti depressant and anti anxiety pills. It helps me to stay calmer and relax. Hope one day I can be healed completely. And no more medication. Anw, hope you stay safe and healthy, my friend. :)
@FerzzyYou're quite welcome! 😊 well mood disorders can be managed through mood stabilizing medications as well as cognitive behavioral therapy to help reframe negative thoughts so that the patient can work on their self-awareness, building up their positive self-talk and self-esteem.
With personality disorders, they require intensive Dialectical behavioral therapy so that they can learn to better handle their own behaviors, self-talk, and how they can learn to interact in an ethical manner toward others outside of themselves. DBT is specifically designed for personality disorders treatment. It's a 3 month long group therapy where each patient is there to help support themselves and each other and to hold each other accountable for their actions in an honest manner with ourselves and others. (I'm a patient in this particular therapy style). From my experience, it's very useful and does work so long as the patient sticks it out and actually wants to better themselves. Which is true for all therapy types; it will only work if *you* want it to work and you're open to change occurring internally within you.
My little brother was a master manipulator. He’s adopted and had trauma from his biological family. Thank God that the trauma is gone!
How did he overcome the trauma?
My mom is one:( idk what to do
@@vappuluoma2918 maybe talk slowly while saying your opinion? Maybe tell her while standing up to show her that I mean it? Idk ask someone who knows what to do
@@vappuluoma2918 My mum is also one... She doesnt effect me anymore because I'm used to it. If she says something like i feed you everyday or I provide sheltor for you or something, just think about how that is the bare minimum for what a parent has to do for their child and how the law never says that a child needs to respect an adult.
@@Psych2go unconditional love from his new family!
It really hurts when you look back and truly see where everything was calculated from the very first conversation. And you just went along like the little puppet you were.
Actually, bipolar disorder is not a personality disorder. It often gets confused with borderline personality disorder.
in all honesty, i feel like everyone is a manipulator but in their own way haha
isn’t that thinking everyone is inherently evil 👀
@@kayeratonin yes i-
That's true
Agreed.
true words of a manipulator!
I had a friend who always said “everyone just uses everyone” which mad him think it was good to use other people. That made me mad cause no, I don’t have friends because I have an intent to use them. He would excuse his manipulating by the argument that he was “helping” me. I feel guilty cause he manipulated me for about 6 months or so and I just pretended i wasn’t aware
Mkay I usually hate those comments who thank for the likes but bro I was just venting so ty
It's sad how some people can just mask helping with manipulating just to gain information or leverage. The phrase "have you ever told someone something fearing they would use it against you" is pretty messed up and makes you think twice about trusting anyone
There are still good people in the world who care even for the manipulators
Some people probably adapted these habits from their surrounding (like family, parents school environment), their own insecurity, or their need for attention caused by abandonment or ignorance since their childhood. Give them a little empathy, tho its not on you to make them change, or wait for them to change, just hold them accountable if you can, and the rest is up to them whether they realize it or not.
Your weird
You're lying, you don't have friends because you're anti social.
And also, there are forms of manipulation which do not harm anyone at all not financially,not mentally nor physically. Maybe try those instead of this "will to manipulate"
This, explains me so much. Man.
I grew up with one, so I saw a lot of those things mentioned. Don’t wish anything bad to her, but I’m glad that I will never, ever have to deal with her again.
This is painfully relatable. My father's like this. And only now that I'm an adult did I understand my mother's sentiments of him.
I work with this type of person. For a time it was like torture, dude always tried to embarass me in front of other co-workers (especially when we had new ones for training), but later on I guess he realized that I'm not an enemy. We had many moments where I was just seconds from snapping, when it was noticeable, he suddenly stopped. This willingness to do psychological damage - instead of physical as you would normally expect out of someone who wants to hurt others - seems so devious to me. The guy is basically like a Chihuahua. Big talk, all the time, doesn't shut up. He must've went through a lot, but I'm not feeling sorry for him a bit after all I went through with him. I never really disliked anyone, I always tried to find something on a person to like, find a way to connect. With him, there's only co-existence. If anyone who's reading this is struggling with a similar person, know that what helped me was seeking a therapist and sharing it with my other co-workers. (In your case, it can be friends, family, classmates, anyone) Until I told them, I thought I was in the wrong, but I know I'm not. And I know you are not either. Share what you're feeling with someone, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and know that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
fake story
Thank you!!!!!
I just looked up the VO for the first time bc her voice is soothing and beautiful and I was curious what she looks like, and holy shit idk what I was expecting but it wasn't that! 😂😭🤩
This is a current thing that's happening in my life with my mother's relationship this video really helped
There's an entire profession that is built on manipulation in its entirety: marketing. Going by the comments here with so many references to anime and game characters, I think the manipulators are doing a splendid job of playing people for fools.
Knowing this actually aggravates my trust issues.
Interesting point there. Do you agree that not all manipulation or marketing is bad? For example, ethical marketing?
@@Psych2go if it benefit all sides then why not?
sorry for barging in
@@Psych2go I think of "ethical marketing" less of applied ethics, but rather an oxymoron.
@@redsusoverparadise2700 very well said.
What I find particularly difficult, is when others perceive you as manipulative, but you sincerely don't do so on purpose. Ultimately it feels like you're involuntarily toxic to the people around you.
For instance, as someone with ASD, social interactions are very hard and draining on me. Especially when I have to put on a mask to act socially desirable. As such, when I'm in my private, comfort environment, it becomes outright impossible for me to "fake" anymore. Meaning the loved ones who see me in my direct environment tend to see me at my worst; when I'm crying, when I'm clearly angry or moody, completely drained of energy or freaking out about stuff. Sometimes that gets me accused of manipulation in order to get my way, or to get sympathy from others. But by all means, other than just avoiding everyone altogether, I don't know what I can do to "not" make them feel that way. I hate having them see me that way as much as it must be unpleasant for them, but I cannot prevent it.
Also, when I truly have a breakdown, I reach a point where I become outright mute. It's weird and scary to me as well, it's like I forget how to talk. Like I can think of words, but they won't come out of my mouth. I just become completely unresponsive. These breakdowns always happen in situations where there's a lot of stress and anxiety, so often during fights with others. These people then take it as "me giving them the silent treatment" while again, it's not like I deliberately "ignore" them. Even when I explain my issues to someone, it is something that's incomprehensible to them, so such situations keep on being upsetting to them regardless.
Overall it's truly frustrating when you want to work through your issues, fail to do so, and know you're impacting the loved ones around you negatively in the process.
Since you’re self aware that you are difficult to have a friendship with because of these draining traits, you can use that self awareness as a launching pad to make slow incremental change. Perhaps a therapist would be better, but lots of times friends are willing to stick it out if there’s improvement, because they genuinely want what’s best for you, they just have their limits (everyone does). What this would mean is when you know you have behaved in a way that exhausts, stresses, or otherwise negatively affected your friends, you must spend at least an equal if not greater amount of time where it’s not about you. You ask them about their life, problems, feelings, what they need. You listen and empathize, you offer help and keep your thoughts away from you and your issues and give them the floor. This will recharge the friendship battery so it’s not so one sided. They will feel cared for if you take the actions necessary to care for them. If you don’t do this, you will start to see they care for you less and less. It’s hard to continue to care about someone and offer support when it’s not experienced as reciprocal. If YOU were venting about a difficult relationship that you had with someone where the other persons mental health was in worse condition than yours, and so you had to deal with all sorts of issues due to the health difference, your friends would notice the affect it had on you over time and compel you to leave because it would be negatively affecting YOUR mental health, even if the person you were with wasn’t a bad person. That is what friends should do for each other. Help us see pictures clearly and push us to make the right decision even when it’s not easy. You may believe that you care about your friends but that won’t matter if they can’t feel it, and you will know that they feel it when you make the effort truly and fully. If you don’t they will eventually conclude that either you can’t reciprocate or you don’t consider the friendship worth the effort to keep. And they’ll be right. Relationships to other people that are healthy and mutually beneficial are the best way to get your mental health under control. They will not be offered to you as gifts because they can’t. You have to be actively making them healthy even in your state of low health. It’s hard, but it’s worth trying, and you will get better and better at it with practice. Good luck.
Ultimately being manipulative (or being perceived as such) is not beneficial to myself either, seeing as it only fills me with guilt toward loved ones, and self-hatred over being like this and impacting others with it.
Form boundaries. Say I need time to myself please don't take it personal. Or this is me. Like me or not. Why are you wearing a mask..for who. If someone doesn't excepting of you then your around the wrong friends
Maybe you’re already doing this, but getting professional help (consistently) is one way you can show your loved ones that you are at least trying not to hurt them anymore.
@@chikaka2012 I've been in very intensive therapy for some 8-9 years now I think. Tried a variety of things; A psychologist, cognitive-behavioural therapist, hippotherapy, 2 different psychiatrists, had a longer period intake in a mental health hospital, and support from other specialized instances, to no avail.
Your advice is good and definitely something that aids in showing your loved ones "see, I'm trying!" But the drawback is that, overtime you lose faith that any of these things really help you (I've been trying for so long, so many different things, and nothing has changed), and you really seek out therapy for the sole reason of "this way others can't tell me -you are not even trying-"
Thanks for your videos they help 😊
I used to be quite manipulative in a general sense. Now, I still have those tendencies but I use them to support more reliable and honorable traits such as leadership. I’m very direct and thoughtful while remaining flexible and rooted.
I felt like a manipulator before, but i am not sure, if it is just because of me being an INTP. I mean, observing structures, for example social structures and being fascinated by trying to crack the code or understanding the system in combination with an own set of morals which often do not follow common belief seems like a solid foundation for a manipulator. If you add "thinking of yourself as smarter than others", that seems almost predetermined...
Are you diagnosed?
Hello, another INTP here. While you think you've been a manipulator at some point in your life, throughout my life I've been trying to help people identify a manipulator. Personally, I really appreciate and honor honesty. so when I sense some lie or falsehood from someone, a manipulation in action, i always question their statement and avoid interacting with them if they can't be honest about their intentions.
Our difference is probably how we use the knowledge of social structure. While you play the game, i prefer to warn people not to play the game.
I am an INTP too but the things you wrote dont really make sense or I just dont get it.
@@r-7498 WAAAAAAIIT I do the same without realising, likeee, some people are too blind that they are being manipulted just because the person they are talking with looks pure and funny and sweet.
I know right, I'm an intp and I feel the same way. Some ppl are blind thought
This was definitely a blast from the past. I used to be one of those manipulative people. I’m glad I’ve moved on from that stage in my life.
Good for you! ^^
I am happy you made a change!!! There is hope for people..
Do you have an idea how long you were in said stage and about how long it took you to learn how to leave it?
@@amandaslough125 I would say I was IN the stage for 1-2 years and it took about the same amount of time to get out of it. I still have my moments though. It you’re trying to learn how to avoid being manipulative it’s good to surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and work with you where you’re at.
Loved the animation btw
i love how you tried to manipulate me into subbing >:D
I’m curious to know why bipolar disorder. A mood disorder, makes people prone to being a “master manipulator”.
Bruh I kinda show signs of those
Addicts are often master manipulators as well. Often users of harder drugs are typically that type.
I'm guessing it is the manic side of bipolar. Although, manic people are often the ones to give away all their money, which is the opposite of what a manipulator would do.
personally, I fit a bunch of the manipulator traits, but I don't see my depressed anti-social self with no friends as being a manipulator. Maybe I am a manipulator that is extremely bad at it?
the "hate-you-when-you're-here" but "can't-live-without-you-when-you're-gone-please-come-back-or-i'll-kill-myself" kind of symptom/tactic?
have only read about BPD, so i'm armchair guessing (take this reply with salt)
1. They don’t always seem intimidating
2. They assume that humans are inherently evil
3. They find a practical necessity for manipulation
4. They like to embellish stories
5. Their phrasing is ambiguous
6. They use passive aggressiveness
7. They often use others for personal gain
8. You’re scared to say no to them
9. They talk in circles
10. They’re diagnosed with a personality disorder
Hope everyone is doing well, and if you’re not, keep your head up, you will be soon ❤️
Trust and honesty is the most important part about a relationship. It's sth that is built up over time from the moment folks enter a bond.
Every time there is a lie, one side will doubt the other person and become distrusting. It's a cycle of distrust fueled by a chain of untrue statements and people who need to involve themselves in a stranger's relationships by making unacceptable online comments.
And if this relationship happens to be a romantic one, one can be sure there will be a lot of arising problems if proper communication is missing, especially if both parties actually never met.
Gettin to know each other is a matter of mutual trust/interest and shouldnt take place online... At least not for that long and not in the eyes of the public.
I need to able to trust my friends and a potential partner. I cannot address potential lies etc. If both are not allowed to communicate like real people do. I wanna be able to sit down and talk honestly without the involvement of 3rd parties throwin rocks at us over the span of months...
All i wanted was an equal partner that knows how to communicate so we can build trust. Someone who asks me where my boundaries are.... respects them and doesnt make a game out of our feelings... The fact it happens in public makes it all worse cuz ppl dont know how to not stick their nose into other ppl's relationship. Some just dont approve and will say anything.
I am far from perfect and sometimes bottle up my feelings. Especially if the girl i like is involved cuz i wanna trust her in knowin what she is doin. I dont appreciate strangers stickin their nose inside my relationship to the point they need to make comments that come across as cyberbullying.
I dont want my relationships to be displayed in public for everyone to comment on.... especially when i know some folks dont like me regardless of what i do.
I wish i could ask her what her needs are. But there is no open communication. It's onesided.... and it is not a good foundation for any type of relationship if communication is missing. Even worse for romantic ones.... cuz it makes me doubt if they care for the well-being of our future.
Why not tell me what is goin on... why make us both fall asleep cryin when it doesnt have to be that way....
Where i come from people look each other in the eyes when start sth with one another. I am sure it is mostly like that in most parts of the world.
No idea what is happening. Genuinely. I cant tell u more than that...
My so called friend is a manipulator. He once implied he was gay maybe to identify whether or not Im gay as well. Now, I no longer see signs of it.
We've had numerous conversations where he narrated his manipulation skills and he also implied how much he knows of social situations. He never makes eye contact with me and always cuts me off when I speak. The guy is a great storyteller as well. I think my other classmates are also in it as well all targeting me. But it doesn't take me long to realize. Now, I'll play along and see how they'll manipulate me so I can learn something from them. You won't be harmed from manipulation if you know how to extract good in it.
I just act oblivious but deep inside I read them really well. They do not realize I am only using them as an environment to develop myself.
Now, I'll just act weak and play with them
He is NOT a good manipulator bcz he is not able to hide from you that he manipulates you
0:58
So... is no one going to talk about how they referenced Malty from Rising of the Shield Hero? Very good example of a charming manipulator.
Edit: 2:11 Yanfei reference from Genshin Impact.
Finally no one is talking about that
yup I too noticed malty
Thank you for noticing!
Yes
EXACTLY
7 out of 10. This video is no joke. Met a guy who seemed so shy, introverted and innocent. He had a good IT job and dressed normally but WOW what a monster he turned out to be. He emotionally abused me so hard I got sick and nearly died and while I was recovering, he continued and I was close to suicide but he accidentally stopped it by showing up right then. He ofc continued even after that, despite having pleaded that he hadnt understood how bad I was hurting and blaha. In reality he would tell me the most awful things about me and then smirk and wait for a reaction (he never got one, my intuition told me not to react so I waited until he left to break down) When I confronted him about it and asked why he told me he was after my reaction, he would blame it on the tv. "I saw it on hannibal, I didnt mean anything by it"
Manipulative people are MONSTERS. They have NO empathy which is why they can lie so easily, no empathy and NO consciousness.
wow im inspired by how strong you are to have overcome this terrible situation. youre amazing
@@memessquad4333 Thank you so much, sweetie.
So you are basically telling me that your IT friend is a fan of Hannibal?
@@purplevanilla Yup, he loved horrormovies and watching documentaries about serial killers aswell and after a binge on that he told me "Okay, Im a psychopath, I admit it" He wasnt, he was schizophrenic with covert narcissism although my psychologist (had to go to therapy afetrwards, I was like a ragdoll emotionally when he was done with me) also put the diagnosis psychopath or antisocial personality disorder. However they lacked the deep education in the differences between narcissism and psychopathy in my opinion as most swedish psychologists do.
As far as Ive read, he was a clear as day covert narcissist. "Boho..everybodys so mean to me but if I schred you, thats okay because I'm better than everyone else" To this day, and I am 47 years old, I have NEVER met anyone as disturbed as him.
2;53 oh my God! some family members told me the same phrase many times in one hour. They said that is my life and I can do whatever I want but kept insisting on telling me what I should do. SO toxic! The worst is when they mention the relationship you have (relative, friend etc) in order to convince you that they care for you, as if you are not more likely to be destroyed by the people closer to you
Got to be honest, this master manipulator role often landed to me in many cases. Yes, someone has to do this sort of job at times.. It doesn't always seem bad...
Most of the time, despite my protests, I am dragged into a position where people insisted me to lead them. I don't like leadership but mostly I am dragged into it.
So yeah, I often ask what their expectations, and I just don't offer my opinion unless needed..
I usually ask others with wide smile and politely and they would just go with my plan...
And when I had a conflict with some selfish people in the community, most people backed me up even when I did not rally everyone to do it.
But then again, I don't want to do everything for my own gain. Yes, I could be manipulative but I do that in accordance to people's expectations. And yes I keep asking others what they think as well...
Sometimes being manipulative is needed in order to get people agree for a greater good.
By the way, I suppose master manipulator can also be seen as "master strategist" too because part of strategize process is... To manipulate the factors against us to be used for our gain
Lived with a few of these manipulator types. This video has it spot on. I always tried to see things from the point of view of others, but it took me years to realise that some of the people close to me are just genuinely unpleasant.
No way, that last one really made it clear to me. She kept telling me her bpd2 was the reason why she made questionable choices and acted impulsively
As a person who experienced all those things for the past four years, this is very true, and I wish I found this video four years ago everything she did was based on this video she manipulated me into being her little doll and doing anything for her and the reason why was because I used to be very social and very interactive, and I used to sing and do karaoke and dance like basically the entertainment of the family and she was jealous. I multiple times told her that she can join me by singing and dancing, but she always denied for her. It was like a race, and she wanted me out and she got what she wanted but the thing is don’t let people get to you. It’s best to let it go the more you hold onto it the more it hurts. Trust me I know from experience and honestly I never thought I would be saying this but I’m kind of happy this happened to me
A girl I used known for almost 4years but getting close to a few months ago. Every time she makes up stories about her breakup and victimizes his boyfriend. And these upper mentions are matched with her characteristics. I am also scared to say sorry to her. This video helps me a lot to know things.
What's more worse is when they take full advantage of your vulnerability. Its always the first impression that deceives you.
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I once read somewhere that passive aggressive people find out what you want, then make sure you don't get it. I have found this to be true, and is very sneaky, it can take a while to pin point this, but once you do, you really understand what they are doing.
My dad has been a manipulator my whole entire life growing up and I didnt even know it. My husband told me about it one day and I went to do my research. He literally does all the above. Especially when my dad guilt trips me, using words like if I dont hang out with him he will "pass away" (hes in his 70s), and gives me the silent treatment. Ive been locked away by this my whole life and with my husbands support Im able to get help to defend against my dad. Hes very verbally abusive and he cant figure it out when either my husband or I confront him. Unfortunately he will never change and when I offer to get him help he refuses.