Remember. Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity. Furthermore, dont expect them to stay. Not everyone is happy for your growth and success. Finally, never forget that the loneliest experience in the world is not being alone. Its being with people who makes you feel alone. Choose your friends wisely.
@@alesgerbet3212 I had a narcisisstic classmate who claims im an asshole. Thats the reason why I only have a few friends. She said. I didnt retaliate. The last time I heard from her, (not exactly heard, I saw her profile before I blocked her. She kept verbally harassing me online so I had to) shes a single mom now. Welp! GG I guess. Shes the typical narcissistic woman who thinks her worth is above anything or anyone while constantly looking down on others. The type of woman who ends up being a single mom.
yeah, I feel you bro.. being a guy just means you have to put a smile on your face and suck it up.. like 90% of people don't give a crap when they see you crying or in obvious pain
Same. I’ve been hurt one too many times with friends in the past, so I don’t make many anymore. I have my boyfriend and small group of three people. That’s it.
Timestamp! -0:24 Stoic wisdom on friendships -0:55 You embrace your true nature -1:29 It might not be you, but them -2:22 Life is ever changing, so are you -3:11 You understand the essence of true friendship -3:50 Can signify inner peace and fulfillment
Other young people just seem so cold, rude and selfish these days.. Idk if it's because of social media but it makes me feel more disconnected and lonely for sure
Being a person who is constantly lonely and losing friends…this was kinda comforting. I do have a small circle of online friends, but the IRL circle is empty.
I am a very forgettable person when it comes to socializing, if I don't do anything people will just forget that I exist, but when I make myself known I suddenly become visible to those people, it's basically my superpower
@@NoobStudios414 it's worse for me, I am nice and really care about the people around me and they still forget about me and it always happens no matter what I do
I am a bad person and because I and up disappoint every person I get too close to, and the pain they get through by getting close to me it's better for me beeing alone.... I just got to a point where I realized I am just broken from a young age, and I don't have the money for a therapist or people who understand human nature as I do, and don't expect the too... so loneliness there be...
I can safely say I don't have friends as of today. The thing is, I completely understand the value of friendship and connecting with others (and I'm still figuring out what kind of friend do I want to be), but I've been walking a path where I'm not negotiating my worth, my values nor my well-being in exchange for not being on my own. Not anymore. I'm alone, yes, but never lonely.
For me, not having friends has actively made my life worse. I feel like I lead a very boring life, and don't do anything interesting, and that includes not hanging out with anyone, which just makes me feel empty. I live alone with my mother, but she's away a lot because she hangs out with her boyfriend, meaning that I'm often home alone for days if not weeks at a time. While I can handle being alone, after a while, I start to feel lonely, and as is important to know, there's a HUGE difference between the two. People say that forming connections, whether platonic or romantic, is best when it happens naturally, and while I agree with this, I always end up asking: "Ok, but where do I go to form them? Where do I find people?" This is what frustrates me the most about making friends or finding love, I have no idea what to do about it. I have considered dating apps (for friends too in cases like Bumble) but I hear so many bad things about them, especially from men, and since I am one, it really turns me off from them. As for going out, I feel screwed in that way too. I'm not attending school, where I live doesn't have a lot of "third spaces" or such to hang out with people, and while I'm starting a new job soon, it's completely up in the air if I'll have time to talk to people, and if there'll be people my age working there too. I don't mean to disrespect people who prefer being alone, but I just can't understand them at all. Like I said, not having friends just makes me feel worse, and I just don't know what to do about it. And even if I did find a place to make them, I also have social anxiety and am autistic, which makes forming connections even harder. Also, because of how boring my life is, I wonder if I'd be able to connect with others at all, since I feel I'd have no stories to tell about my life. Plus, people always say to work on yourself, and while it's good to do that, most of the areas in which I'd want to work on myself revolve around feeling lonely, and you can't fix that by yourself, that literally makes no sense. It's also ironic, I grew up on only child, so I never had to learn to share, but now more than ever, I want someone to share my life with. I also have a good life in terms of my hobbies (video games, music, UA-cam videos, etc.) which I'm happy about, but I would be so much happier if I could share them with others. I can't even remember the last time I played a multiplayer game with someone else. I really want to have faith that I'll find some great friends (or even love) one day, but it's really hard to with how my life has gone so far. I definitely won't give up and will try one day, and I do hope for the best, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up too much.
@@alesgerbet3212 Thanks, I appreciate the support! But yeah, having no friends does have an unsettling feeling, especially during my idle time where I do self-reflection, and when I think about the future, and if I'll still have this problem. But like I said, I will try my best at some point to form connections one day, just don't know when prime opportunities will come their way.
Same it used to be good but has slowly gotten very boring as time went on. I used to make friends easily but they were all backstabbers & I could get rid of them easily. It's the opposite now I can't make friends & everyone wants to get away from me when their in a group I'm in
@@IdkWhatToCallThisBruh Yeah, I get what you mean. For me, the feeling of people not liking me only comes from my own insecurities. I always fear trying to talk to someone or enter a conversation because I'm afraid they won't like me or think I'm weird. And it's a fear that's hard to get rid of since I can't exactly practice socializing everyday to get used to it. Either way, I also wish you luck in finding great friends as well!
I'm someone who had many friends though only 2 actually cared enough about me and my interests to stay. Everyone else just expected me to be like them so I cut my ties to them best choice of my life. I have 2 great friends
I've had the same thing happen recently, all the friends I had kinda drifted away and my close friends started lying to me so now I only have one close friend. The thing is this friend is the gf of who used to be my closest friend who I have recently found out is a habitual liar and may be cheating on her.
And during my college life, I got alienated for many reasons. One of them is this: I remembered I had to deal with a really emotional classmate of mine during group activities in a prestigious university (in my home country the Philippines). I was often labeled as a freeloader and a worthless student (when in reality, I did a fairly decent amount of work). Another day, she got so angry at me because of the same reason. We had a talk with my professor on that, and the blame was put all on me. When the whole class saw it, they gave me a negative look, I was unfairly humiliated. It is sad that my professor never saw my side of the story (only her side). After all of that, I am seen as worthless and I became a huge loser in my university.
Out of the way.. your not useless, don't let that ever get to your head. People work in different ways and speeds and not just that. You actually do your part.. If your still in that college, try talking to that professor. Telling your side of the story because that is not fair. Imagine a court without the other person to speak up. I'll be honest? I don't think even if you did explain to everyone your side of the story people wouldent change or care.. maybe a little understanding.. but that sort of stuff kinda sticks doesn't it? So in my opinion.. tell the truth, and if they don't care, you shouldn't either. If you have to do group projects, do help, prove to others you aren't a so called burden they say. Just remember not to go over board with the proving and helping- Second, if your out (thank God) it will be hard but.. move on, what they did was just not right and you know that. This may shake your self esteem or self worth but.. I know it hurts, but we can't change what happened and what they did... we can only change now. I promise you, you will find people you will socialise with, that respect you, care for you and don't say your a freeloader.. and you to them, likewise. Stay true to yourself, be kind to yourself, be yourself because like the video says, you can only find content with yourself. I'm sorry if I couldn't help as much but I dint want to make you feel alone- I live in the Philippines too, system here is stressing. Group leaders like that are.. sadly real, I had an experience- I dint know how to video edit but I did know how to draw. I was basically useless so I drew 5 images that, fully coloured with backgrounds and characters in a bustling plaza, she never used them.. in the end I got called out for being the slacker. I dint sleep that Sunday day and I had a fight with my parents just to finish this drawings in time over joining dinner.. I felt.. stupid.. but I tried my best, isent that wjay matterd most? We got a good grade anyway, and.. I am content with myself, for doing as much as I can.. i regret it though because.. it took my time with my family.. and made them worried.. that's why I said don't over due the help- I don't know if I can ever forget that, but I do know I can forgive and move on with what I want to do. It was very similar to yours my situation so.. I thought I'd come by and tell you something I would have wanted to hear. I hope it helps.. have a good day and again, I'm sorry if I was doin something wrong-
Wanted to chat with old school friends, but distance makes us fall apart... True Friendships doesn't end bcz of this reasons, but when uh r the only one, who is living elsewhere, it hurts you... They start to make uh feel lonely
I’ve reached 36 and can say I’ve honestly given up with people. Two of my closest friends became distant last year and I’d not changed. I just got fed up with me being the only one to plan to meet up and so I stopped and they stopped reaching out to me. People are exhausting 😅
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I don’t have one human friend, and the loneliness is getting to me!
Timestamps 1). Stoic wisdom on friendship 0:23 1.1). You embrace your true nature 0:54 1.2). It might not be you, but them 1:28 1.3). Life is ever changing, and so are you 2:21 1.4). You understand the essence of true friendship 3:10 1.5). A lack of friends can also signify inner peace and fulfillment 3:49 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I only have one irl friend, and we've known each other since 3rd grade. We still keep in touch since our graduation of highschool, and not a day goes by where I don't text them good morning and good night.
Pretty accurate, I just got away from a situationship, Like I'm fine with lesser friends as long as I have a woman to love and take care for, and It doesn't help that my shitty cousins have very loving gfs even tho they treat their gfs like trash, I hope they break up (Sorry for the yap lol)
I have friends, but like, I dont feel any special connection to them?? Idk. Its like i worry about them, im happy for them, but its like our friendship is nothing?? IDKKK, its like i dont feel like i belong with any friend group
It's so hard for me to make friends. I prefer being surroundee by family. And I'm good with it I was told many times before to be friends with people I'm surrounded with, because I go to church But for me, IT'S SO HARD TO FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. I even stress over it because I just can't I'm shy, not really good with interaction, socially awkward. Majority of the time my interests do not match with the people I'm surrounded with So I just distance myself and so do they. Which is also painful but I got used to it. But deep down I do want to have friends that I can share what I like and bond over that.
I have gotten used to being the one alone at the table, going places alone, doing things alone. Friends have gotten used to me not going along with everything and know I need time without people. I very seldom feel lonely even though I am alone much of the time.
I’m so used to being alone that I don’t know how to be a good friend. I’ve never felt like I fit in or was accepted anywhere, so I guess at some point I just stopped trying.
With this day and age, making friends is basically unheard of. I for someone who consistently tries too make sure others are okay, have a suprising lack of friends lol (probably because of anxiety). (eitherway, for those who look for friends in any sort of way, make sure you find the ones like you, the ones that have the same interests) Please do not go into websites too find friends, it can work but most of the time it leads too fake friends or people who use and manipulate you. ^ perosonal experience. Sorry for the long message but too those who read or didn't and will never know...i hope you have a genuinely great time and the best of luck!
I'm sorry to hear about your personal experiences. You sound like a good friend, definitely the kind i'd like to have. Mind if I ask what you're so anxious about that stops you?
@@morijin4034 Heya, sorry for the somewhat late response, where I am it's extremely hot and I have a rough time sleeping due too it. Mhm, I wouldn't consider myself a truly good friend too be honest, yeah i do actively check on people I'm friends with and make sure they're okay, if not then I'll happily talk too them and stuff, (but I also have times where I'm so just...down? Depressed?) I don't actually know, that I'll just not talk too anyone for quite a long time. Nothing against them, just me dealing with mental stuff. ^ that may or may not be one of the reasons I atleast try and help peeps. (my bio explains it very simply and better) but I try too help people i can relate too as its easier in conversation aswell as I would be speaking with knowledge on my side. Anyhows, my main reason for having anxiety is mainly due too my treatment from other people, I was bullied and judged for 7 years straight because I was small and didn't talk very much. (there's other medical reasons but those were the main ones). It's left a general impact on me since and I find it difficult talking too people, mainly afraid of judgement so I tend too not be friends with people and usually only give the bare minimum about me as too avoid said judgment. (I know this was way too long but still, that's probably the main reason for my anxiety minus I couple medical stuff as said) And lastly of course, if you did read this then of course like I said in my previous comment, I hope you have/had a genuinely great and best of luck!
I seriously agree with the online friends thing, because I personally have only one person that’s my friend online and we talked for about a year before we even knew each other’s real names XD Tbh it’s kind of the same thing with dating apps, most of the time I think. Also, good luck to you in your life (:
@@morijin4034 (I swear I responded too this sorry) anyhows, I mainly got bullied for most of my conscious life. (mostly too do with my size and a certain health condition) I'm simplifying it here as let's be honest "story of my life isn't all that fun lol" but long story short, it messed up my entire trust on people in general and basically crushed my self esteem wich I only got back around a year ago only too get it crushed again after my ex ditched me for generally unknown reasons. (the usual for me lol) Anyhows, I wouldn't mind being friends if that's what you would like, [stuffs in my bio] and eh, if I can help in some way I'll happily do so! And of course, have a generally great time and day/night!
As someone who doesn’t have any friends or a boyfriend I am still learning how to cope with being alone and learning how to be ok with being alone/single some days it is harder than other days but for me it is getting easier and some day I will find the right friends even if it’s a few or one person to be my friend I will still be grateful for it.
@GentlePiposaru Yeah I journal my thoughts before but now I rarely do it but sometimes I write my own quotes for wisdom to teach someone else not to make the wrong mistakes I made in my life.
I learned the hard way that its better to have no friends than bad friends. When I was younger, I used to be friends with people who I knew weren't good people because i had no one else to be friends with. All those friendships ended HORRIBLY. So even though i am painfully lonely nowadays, i am very cautious about who i allow in my life
I lost one of my best friends a couple days ago. I'm so incredibly heartbroken but I really hope that I can find friendship similar to the friendship I had with them again. Thank you psych2go, your videos help some of us more than you know.
I'm not sure if I get any respond, but does it also include online friends? Because I don't have friends in real life, but I do have some on the internet
This doesn't apply to me because im a natural introvert, I choose who I want to talk to and when I talk to someone new I never promise a friendship I spend more time with my mind and self than with anyone else, here is a written quote from me ''if your going to make friends choose the right people to hang out with because if you choose to hang out with bad people they will tempt you to do bad things so that they will like you, so be careful with who you hang out with.'' -Me
i feel bad also for not having a lot of "friends" since it's really hard for me as a sensitive individual (they, too, have said that) and part of me was trying to hide that side since i think no one would appreciate that or maybe just few peeps. it sucks tho.🤦🏻♀️
Usually friends are like lovers. Do they suit you or not...i'm constantly losing friends because they don't like to see me grieve for my mother which in reality is normal bcs i am an only child who is close to my mother. They rushed me to get over it, left and ghosted me. And i am having trust issues now because i can't seem to find a good and genuine friendships in my life. Some other time when i thought they are good for me and then poof they're gone and being lost contact with me. They don't communicate clearly, while most of them are toxics who like to receive gifts but never the one to give anything back
I'm really sorry to all of that. Taking time to process everything is important. If by chance you need to talk, i'm here. Anyways I hope things improve for you! Good luck!
Me being introvert makes everyone abit feel "not my vibe" because I'm surely surrounded by extroverts who likes to do things as if no one cares and sure enough, I don't like those things and I have different interests than them that makes me feel overwhelmingly unwelcome to any circle of friends. No one talks to me not untill they want something from me like a favor and just makes me even feel not okay. Add the fact that when everyone actually talks about my aura, they say I look gloomy and terrifies them. It kinda hurts on my part because I'm trying my best to atleast talk but eventually I just kinda go with it cauz no one's gonna like a different and wierd looking ghurl in class. But I'm still thankful for the one and only bff I have that stayed even in my lowest
Not friends tho, but idk if this happens with me only, like whenever I go out either in a mall or public place and whenever I see couples or just cute random girls. I automatically feel how lonely I am in life as none of this money and materialistic things matter when in the back of my mind I always wish that God please I need this, I need love like all these random couples I see have....
Whatever it means I'm tired of it. Any soul contract that involves losing people I love from my life should be changed into keeping them close and happily involved. I'm tired! I'm always a 2nd choice, nobody thinks of me, yet everybody likes me. I don't like that, I want to be actively involved, to be someone people want to make a lot of memories with. Yet I don't knoe how to meet friends in late 20s, all of them have established groups so I would again not be important enough. Plus I'm not into clubbing, plus my city has little to offer, plus I don't have hobbies, plus I don't wanna go anywhere alone. How does some universal law expect me to even make a friend?? I tried dating apps, for friendship, and nothing, tried checking groups on fb and members from my city but its like theres barely any, managed to find one my age but no response. I don't want to keep going in circles being loved but irrelevant.
I love this its exactly how i am a person whon cherishes true relationships over superficial friendships abd im indeed a lone wolf someone whom prefers time alone over time spent making other people happy just for apearences i also thought i was broken because no one would talk to me and would look at me like i was nobody not worth their time when in reality its the other way around they arent worth my time and efort to be someone im not thank you for this video 😁
I have a hard time making friends and I'm picky to. But sometimes people are trying to be friends with me and I want to be friends back but I'm quite so they assume I don't want to be friends With them I take a long time getting used to people so I think when you're going to be my friend you have to have patience with me taking long to get used to you. Also most things I want to talk about most people don't want to talk about I find it hard to find a topic to talk about. Sometimes I ask advice on how to make friends and most people just say go up and talk to them and that doesn't help me I get to nervous something I do that my Grandma told me about is Whan we are comfortable waving or saying hi to each other move on to the next step Whan we are comfortable doing small talk move on to the next. My Dad told me this one and people like it Whan you talk and ask about them but don't make it a interview that will make it awkward for them and Don't be to picky on who your friends are but be careful on who you became friends with. And I agree with the video quality not quantity.
I don't have anyone i consider a friend, despite my work colleagues telling my they are my friend. What is a friend? Can anyone give an explanation? Thank you.
Finding friends these days are impossible at least for me. I never really had friends growing up all my life I kept myself isolated from people because I was being bullied and picked on and I didn't want to talk to or deal with anybody and I was just miserable and I stay in the house for most of my life. Now I'm currently seeing a therapist and so far it has helped me to let things out and seek how to improve my social anxiety. I'm going out a little bit more but after what I went through in the past it's still difficult to actually talk to people because I'm very introverted, I don't trust anyone and the fact that most people in this world are still shitty. So I'm still going back in fourth in a way it would be nice to have one or two friends but I'm not a people person.
My issue is that people say they are my friends when i Don't hang out with them and they don't try to get me to talk to them. So i can't tell if they are my friend. Its only the people that hang out with me daily for a hour, i have a hard time approaching people myself because I'm shy. Or it might be my possible autism (light probably) or the person may be a bit annoying and that they are a bit way too extroverted. I feel like i can't go back to normal I'm weird i sometimes blurt out random words.
There were people who tried to be friends with me, but I knew it wouldn't work out. I'm just not interested in having friends, because I'm fine with my family. I see so many people who are desperate for friends, and I feel like something is wrong with me because I don't feel the need to have them.
The fact is that I know a lot of people but our friendships where at a different times and under different situations and even in different cities or countries. I been pondering why does it feel like I am losing contact with them and I have even started to ask why is this happening to some of them and distance is the answers I am getting. But I've also feel distant from friendships that I have in the same city where I live and it seems that my health issues are preventing me from joining them and it doesn't seem right to invite them to visit me all the time. I though that with internet and social medial I will be able to keep all these friends but I can't and it hurtsIt hurts not to be able to do the things I used to do, and suddenly becoming a pariah. Even though I agree with what is said in this video.
I have always struggled to keep friends I seem to make them easily but a lot of my friends never actually stay for that long so over the years I've kind of just given up making friends deliberately. I now leave up to the other person to approach me and then I put in the effort, I don't know if it's wrong but it's exhausting to put in so much effort only to have them drop you anyway. Edit: I do want to add that I do have a few friends but only one of them I can speak to about anything and everything. She's truly my heart and soul and it's funny because she became my friend right after my best friend of 7 years left me with no explanation. I was ready to just give up on everything and then this literal ray of sunshine came into my life and just showed me honest kindness and patience. It's now 6 years later and I have never been happier with someone being so present in my life before❤
I said goodbye to so many people in last weeks and i am happy for it. I was prepared everyday for them, and they always had excuse or ignored me so i said myself stop, wanna ignor? I am not going to be nice and get hell away from me, dont have time, ok i am able to give you date in 4 months and wait for it, you still have no time, then bye
I used to have many friends but after the pandemic I lost all of them, its hard to find a true and good friend nowadays. I feel so lonely I feel like Im cursed or the world hates me.
Thanks I needed this ,all my friends have pictures with each other and they never have me in them ,and I know social media is fake ,when I'm having fun last thing I want to do is take my phone out ,but i realize I don't need to change for anyone I am ambitious and don't need friends who bring me down
Well, I've recently had to let some friends go because of some things they did that deeply upset me. The idea of those friendships being complete feels at stark contrast to the wounds where the friendships used to be
This is why 2020 didn't affect me at all, I've always valued my solitude, it gaves me time to understand myself better. I have such a good relationship with myself that I don't even feel like I need friends, I respect myself more than others seem to do...
...that you're high standards and no longer accept breadcrumbing or unfullfilling friendships that just take from you without reciprocating. Yes, I know.
If I’m honest I thought I had friends but now thinking there not actually 😢 plus it’s hard keeping a relationship with someone, hope I find someone who will actually stay with me…
I won't say I lack friends cause i have a small group of friends. But at recent I started to realized that I don't fit in there group like they all are the toppers help each other, talk to each other but when it comes to me I'm just a average child trying to fit in there group. Whenever I asked them let's go out they always have a reason not to come like I'm sick, sorry my mother won't agree, not possible we will see on different day but if any other person of group will ask they will agree. I'm too tired being with me. I can't even be leave them cause I don't even have other friends to talk literally noone. If i feel down infront of them they will show sympathy but if others feel down they will care for them. I just hate it alot. Through my whole 2 Year they just treated me like a shit even because of them i even try to end my life cause i felt like a burden. I thought I'm just so dumb to be fit in this society. I'm just sharing this here cause i literally have noone to share. But i realized if they don't need you then you should not even care about it cause be yourself. Be alone and fight it down
I've been there too, though I'm a bit Studious but not a full-time geek. While the friends I had would chatter about studies and academic stuffs 24/7 i felt so.. unrelated. I can understand you, making new friends might be hard at first, but you've got this! Try to be around the people whom you are comfortable with, the people who you can relate to. It might help alot. But always remember you Matters the most. Being yourself is the most beautiful feeling never change that for anybody. You've got this
What I disliked about school, aside from being up so early, was having to say goodbye to my friends when I graduate. Sure, you might end up seeing two or three in highschool or college again, but for the most part, you and your friends are gonna go in a different direction. I have reached out to a few but they’re often more busy or have kids to look after. It’s understandable, but can be lonely. I don’t know why it’s harder as an adult to make friends. Maybe the world is just more dangerous now and you grow skeptical of who people are.
Haven’t you thought, ‘nothing could be friendlier,’ when you saw little dogs playing and fawning on one another? But just throw some meat in the middle, and you will know what this friendship is. (Epictetus, Discourses 2.22)
Im always shy/socially awkward when it comes to making friends i always think that maybe they wont like me, maybe they wont like the way i look, or sound. And i always feel awkward in conversations i always dont the right words to say and sometimes if people disagree with me or say something in a aggressive away i feel embarrassed and i have the like prickly feeling it just makes me feel so embarrassed but when i know a group or somebody just feels like there gonna be a good friend thats when i come out of my shell. Does anyone have some tips about socializing/making friends?
Remember. Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity.
Furthermore, dont expect them to stay. Not everyone is happy for your growth and success.
Finally, never forget that the loneliest experience in the world is not being alone. Its being with people who makes you feel alone. Choose your friends wisely.
Very Well Said! 👏🏾
Well put, so true. Quality over quantity indeed.
@@alesgerbet3212 I had a narcisisstic classmate who claims im an asshole. Thats the reason why I only have a few friends. She said. I didnt retaliate.
The last time I heard from her, (not exactly heard, I saw her profile before I blocked her. She kept verbally harassing me online so I had to) shes a single mom now. Welp! GG I guess.
Shes the typical narcissistic woman who thinks her worth is above anything or anyone while constantly looking down on others. The type of woman who ends up being a single mom.
Great advice and you're very right about it
There's no such thing for a lot of us
“Real friends are like diamonds:
Expensive and rare.
Fake friends are like autumn leaves.. *they are everywhere* “
Nice metaphors 😁
Got no diamond
@@pervertkun8152 same and personally I can't afford those diamons
I can’t even find autumn leaves
Autumn leaves with the G minor
I don't want YT aiming constantly at my weaknesses, I guess algorithm knows a lot about me
See for the bright side, at least you're not paranoic. ^^
algorithms know more about you than you know about you
I crave attention.
Look at the video... its positive
The algorithm helped me get diagnosed with autism and adhd
"Friendships come and go, but your relationship with yourself is forever." Those are golden words to me 😊
I don't know, depending on how you take it, those words feel very haunting.
@@ianr.navahuber2195 yeah same
Yikes. I’m not even sure I’m friends with myself. 😢
That sounds like something a narcissist would say…
@@goofyahdemoman1134Not really
Lack of friends means I'm a big boy who's gotta be tough everytime even if it kills me...
Same :')
yeah, I feel you bro.. being a guy just means you have to put a smile on your face and suck it up.. like 90% of people don't give a crap when they see you crying or in obvious pain
@tractorman7733 I really hope it gets better for you and everyone finds people who understands them and are loyal people :3
I'll recommend you stop calling yourself a boy, you are a man.
Well said bud
I don't feel comfortable with a lot of people, that's why I dont keep many friends
Same here
Same. I’ve been hurt one too many times with friends in the past, so I don’t make many anymore. I have my boyfriend and small group of three people. That’s it.
Timestamp!
-0:24 Stoic wisdom on friendships
-0:55 You embrace your true nature
-1:29 It might not be you, but them
-2:22 Life is ever changing, so are you
-3:11 You understand the essence of true friendship
-3:50 Can signify inner peace and fulfillment
Thank you❤
@@Vampire_cat13 :)
Thank you as always ❤
Thank you! 🖤
@@noonegirl😁
Other young people just seem so cold, rude and selfish these days..
Idk if it's because of social media but it makes me feel more disconnected
and lonely for sure
Same. Read up on more people being lonely after early 2000’s
This is exactly what I relate to...
It’s all the tech and crap like Tiktok
In general, younger folks and I will agree folks from my own age group just aren't all that friendly. Lot of folks just have really bad social skills.
@@jackofthecoke how young are you, what age group
Being a person who is constantly lonely and losing friends…this was kinda comforting. I do have a small circle of online friends, but the IRL circle is empty.
I can relate with this sm...losing friends to their toxic behaviors for me. No real life friends that i can hang out with
Yeah, me too.
Me too
Same I have 1 online friend that I met 7-8 years ago on Minecraft and he is my only friend
Im sorry but the narrator for this has a very nice voice very calming i need him to read a bed time story 😭
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Agreed 👍 I always imagined him voicing Disney cartoons or something like this. I didn't think there was anyone who thought similar to me. 😊
Listen to the “organic chemistry tutor” guy he also has such a nice voice.👾😭
I am a very forgettable person when it comes to socializing, if I don't do anything people will just forget that I exist, but when I make myself known I suddenly become visible to those people, it's basically my superpower
Same, it's horrible. Everyone leaves you until needed
Lucky I wish people would ignore me I’d rather do nothing then deal with people everyone hates me so being invisible would be great
@@NoobStudios414 it's worse for me, I am nice and really care about the people around me and they still forget about me and it always happens no matter what I do
The title just made me cry..
Pressing us where it hurts. Keep strong, mate 🔥🖤
I like boobs
One good thing about not having a family or friends is that after I die, nobody would feel sad nor even care about my nonexistence.
I think there's always someone caring for you at one moment or another :) you're worthy even if you don't believe it!!
After this comment , I will think about you everyday and wonder how you’re doing. And if I ever feel it’s been a whole, I’ll stress if you’re alive.
@@sarah-louise7527not true. No one cares for me and I’m alive
I am a bad person and because I and up disappoint every person I get too close to, and the pain they get through by getting close to me it's better for me beeing alone.... I just got to a point where I realized I am just broken from a young age, and I don't have the money for a therapist or people who understand human nature as I do, and don't expect the too... so loneliness there be...
Plz don't say this there always be the one who is always with you and that is God and your good deeds ❤
I can safely say I don't have friends as of today. The thing is, I completely understand the value of friendship and connecting with others (and I'm still figuring out what kind of friend do I want to be), but I've been walking a path where I'm not negotiating my worth, my values nor my well-being in exchange for not being on my own. Not anymore. I'm alone, yes, but never lonely.
For me, not having friends has actively made my life worse. I feel like I lead a very boring life, and don't do anything interesting, and that includes not hanging out with anyone, which just makes me feel empty. I live alone with my mother, but she's away a lot because she hangs out with her boyfriend, meaning that I'm often home alone for days if not weeks at a time. While I can handle being alone, after a while, I start to feel lonely, and as is important to know, there's a HUGE difference between the two.
People say that forming connections, whether platonic or romantic, is best when it happens naturally, and while I agree with this, I always end up asking: "Ok, but where do I go to form them? Where do I find people?" This is what frustrates me the most about making friends or finding love, I have no idea what to do about it. I have considered dating apps (for friends too in cases like Bumble) but I hear so many bad things about them, especially from men, and since I am one, it really turns me off from them. As for going out, I feel screwed in that way too. I'm not attending school, where I live doesn't have a lot of "third spaces" or such to hang out with people, and while I'm starting a new job soon, it's completely up in the air if I'll have time to talk to people, and if there'll be people my age working there too.
I don't mean to disrespect people who prefer being alone, but I just can't understand them at all. Like I said, not having friends just makes me feel worse, and I just don't know what to do about it. And even if I did find a place to make them, I also have social anxiety and am autistic, which makes forming connections even harder. Also, because of how boring my life is, I wonder if I'd be able to connect with others at all, since I feel I'd have no stories to tell about my life. Plus, people always say to work on yourself, and while it's good to do that, most of the areas in which I'd want to work on myself revolve around feeling lonely, and you can't fix that by yourself, that literally makes no sense.
It's also ironic, I grew up on only child, so I never had to learn to share, but now more than ever, I want someone to share my life with. I also have a good life in terms of my hobbies (video games, music, UA-cam videos, etc.) which I'm happy about, but I would be so much happier if I could share them with others. I can't even remember the last time I played a multiplayer game with someone else. I really want to have faith that I'll find some great friends (or even love) one day, but it's really hard to with how my life has gone so far. I definitely won't give up and will try one day, and I do hope for the best, but I'm not gonna get my hopes up too much.
Well... Goodluck man! Hope ya succeed. I can totally understand how lack of connection can be quite unsetteling to say atleast.
@@alesgerbet3212 Thanks, I appreciate the support! But yeah, having no friends does have an unsettling feeling, especially during my idle time where I do self-reflection, and when I think about the future, and if I'll still have this problem.
But like I said, I will try my best at some point to form connections one day, just don't know when prime opportunities will come their way.
This is me…. Really!
Same it used to be good but has slowly gotten very boring as time went on. I used to make friends easily but they were all backstabbers & I could get rid of them easily. It's the opposite now I can't make friends & everyone wants to get away from me when their in a group I'm in
@@IdkWhatToCallThisBruh Yeah, I get what you mean. For me, the feeling of people not liking me only comes from my own insecurities. I always fear trying to talk to someone or enter a conversation because I'm afraid they won't like me or think I'm weird. And it's a fear that's hard to get rid of since I can't exactly practice socializing everyday to get used to it.
Either way, I also wish you luck in finding great friends as well!
Forgotten.
I dropped off the face of the earth, and they all just let me.
I totally understand.
Arrived at the perfect time 😭
It just arrived where I thought I needed to hear.
I always loved having less friends! Tbh, big groups are chaotic and i get drained from socializing easily
When you said that friendships doesn't end, but actually they've been completed, it made me cry a few tears.
I have never had any friends at all because I find hard and annoying having someone outside your family and in this world, it's hard to trust people
That’s just trust issues at least you have a option to make friends I wish I could do that and you can trust your family even more lucky
Is it just me but this channel is like a therapeutic friend to me advising and letting me know about ppl
Mutual ching harts make good shoulders!
You are not alone man this a place where people can connect to each other without being judged and ignored a safe place in this toxic online world
I'm someone who had many friends though only 2 actually cared enough about me and my interests to stay. Everyone else just expected me to be like them so I cut my ties to them best choice of my life. I have 2 great friends
I've had the same thing happen recently, all the friends I had kinda drifted away and my close friends started lying to me so now I only have one close friend. The thing is this friend is the gf of who used to be my closest friend who I have recently found out is a habitual liar and may be cheating on her.
And during my college life, I got alienated for many reasons. One of them is this:
I remembered I had to deal with a really emotional classmate of mine during group activities in a prestigious university (in my home country the Philippines). I was often labeled as a freeloader and a worthless student (when in reality, I did a fairly decent amount of work). Another day, she got so angry at me because of the same reason. We had a talk with my professor on that, and the blame was put all on me. When the whole class saw it, they gave me a negative look, I was unfairly humiliated.
It is sad that my professor never saw my side of the story (only her side). After all of that, I am seen as worthless and I became a huge loser in my university.
Out of the way.. your not useless, don't let that ever get to your head. People work in different ways and speeds and not just that. You actually do your part..
If your still in that college, try talking to that professor. Telling your side of the story because that is not fair. Imagine a court without the other person to speak up. I'll be honest? I don't think even if you did explain to everyone your side of the story people wouldent change or care.. maybe a little understanding.. but that sort of stuff kinda sticks doesn't it? So in my opinion.. tell the truth, and if they don't care, you shouldn't either. If you have to do group projects, do help, prove to others you aren't a so called burden they say. Just remember not to go over board with the proving and helping-
Second, if your out (thank God) it will be hard but.. move on, what they did was just not right and you know that. This may shake your self esteem or self worth but.. I know it hurts, but we can't change what happened and what they did... we can only change now.
I promise you, you will find people you will socialise with, that respect you, care for you and don't say your a freeloader.. and you to them, likewise. Stay true to yourself, be kind to yourself, be yourself because like the video says, you can only find content with yourself.
I'm sorry if I couldn't help as much but I dint want to make you feel alone-
I live in the Philippines too, system here is stressing. Group leaders like that are.. sadly real, I had an experience-
I dint know how to video edit but I did know how to draw. I was basically useless so I drew 5 images that, fully coloured with backgrounds and characters in a bustling plaza, she never used them.. in the end I got called out for being the slacker. I dint sleep that Sunday day and I had a fight with my parents just to finish this drawings in time over joining dinner.. I felt.. stupid.. but I tried my best, isent that wjay matterd most? We got a good grade anyway, and.. I am content with myself, for doing as much as I can.. i regret it though because.. it took my time with my family.. and made them worried.. that's why I said don't over due the help-
I don't know if I can ever forget that, but I do know I can forgive and move on with what I want to do. It was very similar to yours my situation so.. I thought I'd come by and tell you something I would have wanted to hear. I hope it helps.. have a good day and again, I'm sorry if I was doin something wrong-
@@whosfredol5194, thank you so much for your message. Also, I hate it that I am called a spoonfed person.
Disconnect the fake friends, kick back, empower yourself, and enjoy whatever life throws at ya
I have my best friend's in my life. God, my kids, and of course myself.
Wanted to chat with old school friends, but distance makes us fall apart... True Friendships doesn't end bcz of this reasons, but when uh r the only one, who is living elsewhere, it hurts you... They start to make uh feel lonely
I’ve reached 36 and can say I’ve honestly given up with people. Two of my closest friends became distant last year and I’d not changed. I just got fed up with me being the only one to plan to meet up and so I stopped and they stopped reaching out to me. People are exhausting 😅
I don’t have one human friend, and the loneliness is getting to me!
Do you have a dog? Best friends!
Timestamps
1). Stoic wisdom on friendship 0:23
1.1). You embrace your true nature 0:54
1.2). It might not be you, but them 1:28
1.3). Life is ever changing, and so are you 2:21
1.4). You understand the essence of true friendship 3:10
1.5). A lack of friends can also signify inner peace and fulfillment 3:49
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I only have one irl friend, and we've known each other since 3rd grade. We still keep in touch since our graduation of highschool, and not a day goes by where I don't text them good morning and good night.
honestly sometimes a best friend is all you need
I have enough friends, but there’s just one thing I don’t feel complete without; a girlfriend. All I want is someone to love.
You're not alone. I'm in the same boat. I have plenty of platonic friends who are really supportive, but no significant other. 😞
Pretty accurate, I just got away from a situationship, Like I'm fine with lesser friends as long as I have a woman to love and take care for, and It doesn't help that my shitty cousins have very loving gfs even tho they treat their gfs like trash, I hope they break up (Sorry for the yap lol)
@@Pratt11 you can be jealous just don’t express it OK. It ain’t gonna make you feel better and it’s gonna make them hate you.
Wishing to have a girlfriend because of the experiences together is healthy. Wishing to have one because you feel incomplete without her is not.
@@LTono-iu9mg that and I’m also lonely.
I have friends, but like, I dont feel any special connection to them?? Idk. Its like i worry about them, im happy for them, but its like our friendship is nothing?? IDKKK, its like i dont feel like i belong with any friend group
It's so hard for me to make friends. I prefer being surroundee by family. And I'm good with it
I was told many times before to be friends with people I'm surrounded with, because I go to church
But for me, IT'S SO HARD TO FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. I even stress over it because I just can't
I'm shy, not really good with interaction, socially awkward. Majority of the time my interests do not match with the people I'm surrounded with
So I just distance myself and so do they. Which is also painful but I got used to it.
But deep down I do want to have friends that I can share what I like and bond over that.
Its like the only people that are there are in my head, some of those are dead and others are not even real.
I have gotten used to being the one alone at the table, going places alone, doing things alone. Friends have gotten used to me not going along with everything and know I need time without people. I very seldom feel lonely even though I am alone much of the time.
This video makes me feel a lot better about having few friends but if anyone wants a friend ill be one
I’m so used to being alone that I don’t know how to be a good friend. I’ve never felt like I fit in or was accepted anywhere, so I guess at some point I just stopped trying.
Am in the same boat
I always prefer quality over quantity....always...
poor generation Z/Alfa...they have 10 000+ facebook friends but not a single FRIEND...
With this day and age, making friends is basically unheard of.
I for someone who consistently tries too make sure others are okay, have a suprising lack of friends lol (probably because of anxiety).
(eitherway, for those who look for friends in any sort of way, make sure you find the ones like you, the ones that have the same interests)
Please do not go into websites too find friends, it can work but most of the time it leads too fake friends or people who use and manipulate you.
^ perosonal experience.
Sorry for the long message but too those who read or didn't and will never know...i hope you have a genuinely great time and the best of luck!
I'm sorry to hear about your personal experiences.
You sound like a good friend, definitely the kind i'd like to have. Mind if I ask what you're so anxious about that stops you?
@@morijin4034 Heya, sorry for the somewhat late response, where I am it's extremely hot and I have a rough time sleeping due too it.
Mhm, I wouldn't consider myself a truly good friend too be honest, yeah i do actively check on people I'm friends with and make sure they're okay, if not then I'll happily talk too them and stuff, (but I also have times where I'm so just...down? Depressed?) I don't actually know, that I'll just not talk too anyone for quite a long time. Nothing against them, just me dealing with mental stuff.
^ that may or may not be one of the reasons I atleast try and help peeps. (my bio explains it very simply and better) but I try too help people i can relate too as its easier in conversation aswell as I would be speaking with knowledge on my side.
Anyhows, my main reason for having anxiety is mainly due too my treatment from other people, I was bullied and judged for 7 years straight because I was small and didn't talk very much. (there's other medical reasons but those were the main ones).
It's left a general impact on me since and I find it difficult talking too people, mainly afraid of judgement so I tend too not be friends with people and usually only give the bare minimum about me as too avoid said judgment.
(I know this was way too long but still, that's probably the main reason for my anxiety minus I couple medical stuff as said)
And lastly of course, if you did read this then of course like I said in my previous comment, I hope you have/had a genuinely great and best of luck!
I seriously agree with the online friends thing, because I personally have only one person that’s my friend online and we talked for about a year before we even knew each other’s real names XD Tbh it’s kind of the same thing with dating apps, most of the time I think. Also, good luck to you in your life (:
@@morijin4034 (I swear I responded too this sorry) anyhows, I mainly got bullied for most of my conscious life. (mostly too do with my size and a certain health condition)
I'm simplifying it here as let's be honest "story of my life isn't all that fun lol" but long story short, it messed up my entire trust on people in general and basically crushed my self esteem wich I only got back around a year ago only too get it crushed again after my ex ditched me for generally unknown reasons. (the usual for me lol)
Anyhows, I wouldn't mind being friends if that's what you would like, [stuffs in my bio] and eh, if I can help in some way I'll happily do so!
And of course, have a generally great time and day/night!
As someone who doesn’t have any friends or a boyfriend I am still learning how to cope with being alone and learning how to be ok with being alone/single some days it is harder than other days but for me it is getting easier and some day I will find the right friends even if it’s a few or one person to be my friend I will still be grateful for it.
@GentlePiposaru Yeah I journal my thoughts before but now I rarely do it but sometimes I write my own quotes for wisdom to teach someone else not to make the wrong mistakes I made in my life.
I want friends but I’m tired of parasocial friendships rather have no friends
i don't have friends because i find most people are flaky. they say they care, but they really don't. #4 and #5 are so true for me
lack of friends just means your unwanted. thats my experiance
I love this I really needed something like this cause I lack friends myself
I learned the hard way that its better to have no friends than bad friends. When I was younger, I used to be friends with people who I knew weren't good people because i had no one else to be friends with. All those friendships ended HORRIBLY. So even though i am painfully lonely nowadays, i am very cautious about who i allow in my life
It’s better to have bad friends then none
I lost one of my best friends a couple days ago. I'm so incredibly heartbroken but I really hope that I can find friendship similar to the friendship I had with them again. Thank you psych2go, your videos help some of us more than you know.
Been there, exspirenced that! 😢 Hang in there; it does get easier.! But feels like it takes for-ever!
@@aaronthenorm5400 thank you so much, I appreciate that more than you know
It might be tough for you to move on, but i'm sure things will get better
I'm not sure if I get any respond, but does it also include online friends?
Because I don't have friends in real life, but I do have some on the internet
It hits hard when you're so early that you don't see the time stamp comments
As always, this video comes with the right topic at the right time... 👍🏻
i don't have desire for connection only thing i got from friends is disappointment.
I just feel like it’s hard to keep my friends nowadays, everytime I do something careless on accident, the friendship will be completed
This doesn't apply to me because im a natural introvert, I choose who I want to talk to and when I talk to someone new I never promise a friendship I spend more time with my mind and self than with anyone else, here is a written quote from me ''if your going to make friends choose the right people to hang out with because if you choose to hang out with bad people they will tempt you to do bad things so that they will like you, so be careful with who you hang out with.''
-Me
i feel bad also for not having a lot of "friends" since it's really hard for me as a sensitive individual (they, too, have said that) and part of me was trying to hide that side since i think no one would appreciate that or maybe just few peeps. it sucks tho.🤦🏻♀️
yk that feeling when you wanna be a heartless person but u just can't the moment you are in AAAAAAAAH
Usually friends are like lovers. Do they suit you or not...i'm constantly losing friends because they don't like to see me grieve for my mother which in reality is normal bcs i am an only child who is close to my mother. They rushed me to get over it, left and ghosted me. And i am having trust issues now because i can't seem to find a good and genuine friendships in my life.
Some other time when i thought they are good for me and then poof they're gone and being lost contact with me. They don't communicate clearly, while most of them are toxics who like to receive gifts but never the one to give anything back
I'm really sorry to all of that. Taking time to process everything is important. If by chance you need to talk, i'm here. Anyways I hope things improve for you! Good luck!
Me being introvert makes everyone abit feel "not my vibe" because I'm surely surrounded by extroverts who likes to do things as if no one cares and sure enough, I don't like those things and I have different interests than them that makes me feel overwhelmingly unwelcome to any circle of friends. No one talks to me not untill they want something from me like a favor and just makes me even feel not okay. Add the fact that when everyone actually talks about my aura, they say I look gloomy and terrifies them. It kinda hurts on my part because I'm trying my best to atleast talk but eventually I just kinda go with it cauz no one's gonna like a different and wierd looking ghurl in class.
But I'm still thankful for the one and only bff I have that stayed even in my lowest
His voice is so comforting 😌
“In a world full of noise, there is something truly powerful about embracing your own silence.”
WOOOOOOW!
Not friends tho, but idk if this happens with me only, like whenever I go out either in a mall or public place and whenever I see couples or just cute random girls. I automatically feel how lonely I am in life as none of this money and materialistic things matter when in the back of my mind I always wish that God please I need this, I need love like all these random couples I see have....
Few friends?
Hah pathetic.
Excuse me sir, let me introduce myself to you.
And show you what 0 friends apparently look like 😀
Whatever it means I'm tired of it. Any soul contract that involves losing people I love from my life should be changed into keeping them close and happily involved. I'm tired! I'm always a 2nd choice, nobody thinks of me, yet everybody likes me. I don't like that, I want to be actively involved, to be someone people want to make a lot of memories with. Yet I don't knoe how to meet friends in late 20s, all of them have established groups so I would again not be important enough. Plus I'm not into clubbing, plus my city has little to offer, plus I don't have hobbies, plus I don't wanna go anywhere alone. How does some universal law expect me to even make a friend?? I tried dating apps, for friendship, and nothing, tried checking groups on fb and members from my city but its like theres barely any, managed to find one my age but no response. I don't want to keep going in circles being loved but irrelevant.
I love this its exactly how i am a person whon cherishes true relationships over superficial friendships abd im indeed a lone wolf someone whom prefers time alone over time spent making other people happy just for apearences i also thought i was broken because no one would talk to me and would look at me like i was nobody not worth their time when in reality its the other way around they arent worth my time and efort to be someone im not thank you for this video 😁
Quality over quantity matters in friendship. 😊 I enjoy being alone after removing low-quality friends. ✂✂✂
Bruh the other comment say 3 weeks ago when it says as im watching 1 minute ago. HOW!?
I have a hard time making friends and I'm picky to. But sometimes people are trying to be friends with me and I want to be friends back but I'm quite so they assume I don't want to be friends With them I take a long time getting used to people so I think when you're going to be my friend you have to have patience with me taking long to get used to you. Also most things I want to talk about most people don't want to talk about I find it hard to find a topic to talk about. Sometimes I ask advice on how to make friends and most people just say go up and talk to them and that doesn't help me I get to nervous something I do that my Grandma told me about is Whan we are comfortable waving or saying hi to each other move on to the next step Whan we are comfortable doing small talk move on to the next. My Dad told me this one and people like it Whan you talk and ask about them but don't make it a interview that will make it awkward for them and Don't be to picky on who your friends are but be careful on who you became friends with. And I agree with the video quality not quantity.
I don't have anyone i consider a friend, despite my work colleagues telling my they are my friend. What is a friend? Can anyone give an explanation? Thank you.
Finding friends these days are impossible at least for me. I never really had friends growing up all my life I kept myself isolated from people because I was being bullied and picked on and I didn't want to talk to or deal with anybody and I was just miserable and I stay in the house for most of my life. Now I'm currently seeing a therapist and so far it has helped me to let things out and seek how to improve my social anxiety. I'm going out a little bit more but after what I went through in the past it's still difficult to actually talk to people because I'm very introverted, I don't trust anyone and the fact that most people in this world are still shitty. So I'm still going back in fourth in a way it would be nice to have one or two friends but I'm not a people person.
My issue is that people say they are my friends when i Don't hang out with them and they don't try to get me to talk to them. So i can't tell if they are my friend. Its only the people that hang out with me daily for a hour, i have a hard time approaching people myself because I'm shy. Or it might be my possible autism (light probably) or the person may be a bit annoying and that they are a bit way too extroverted.
I feel like i can't go back to normal I'm weird i sometimes blurt out random words.
making or keeping friends now that I am a mom is the hardest thing ever.
I'm always the one that makes plans to hangout with my friends irl but they never do. My friendship is always onesided. Maybe its them not me.
Me who have many *FAKE* friends: 😭
There were people who tried to be friends with me, but I knew it wouldn't work out. I'm just not interested in having friends, because I'm fine with my family. I see so many people who are desperate for friends, and I feel like something is wrong with me because I don't feel the need to have them.
The fact is that I know a lot of people but our friendships where at a different times and under different situations and even in different cities or countries. I been pondering why does it feel like I am losing contact with them and I have even started to ask why is this happening to some of them and distance is the answers I am getting. But I've also feel distant from friendships that I have in the same city where I live and it seems that my health issues are preventing me from joining them and it doesn't seem right to invite them to visit me all the time. I though that with internet and social medial I will be able to keep all these friends but I can't and it hurtsIt hurts not to be able to do the things I used to do, and suddenly becoming a pariah. Even though I agree with what is said in this video.
I have always struggled to keep friends
I seem to make them easily but a lot of my friends never actually stay for that long so over the years I've kind of just given up making friends deliberately. I now leave up to the other person to approach me and then I put in the effort, I don't know if it's wrong but it's exhausting to put in so much effort only to have them drop you anyway.
Edit: I do want to add that I do have a few friends but only one of them I can speak to about anything and everything. She's truly my heart and soul and it's funny because she became my friend right after my best friend of 7 years left me with no explanation. I was ready to just give up on everything and then this literal ray of sunshine came into my life and just showed me honest kindness and patience. It's now 6 years later and I have never been happier with someone being so present in my life before❤
I said goodbye to so many people in last weeks and i am happy for it. I was prepared everyday for them, and they always had excuse or ignored me so i said myself stop, wanna ignor? I am not going to be nice and get hell away from me, dont have time, ok i am able to give you date in 4 months and wait for it, you still have no time, then bye
I hear that; screw 'em!
Foe me making friends is really hard becauee no one wants to be friends with me and just make fun of me and i also love being alone at school
I used to have many friends but after the pandemic I lost all of them, its hard to find a true and good friend nowadays. I feel so lonely I feel like Im cursed or the world hates me.
Thanks I needed this ,all my friends have pictures with each other and they never have me in them ,and I know social media is fake ,when I'm having fun last thing I want to do is take my phone out ,but i realize I don't need to change for anyone I am ambitious and don't need friends who bring me down
It’s only because your not a good friend if you were good they would want you
Uplifting and if-not a little sombersome. But the latter is only because it is relatable =) I know I will find more friendships down the road!
Well, I've recently had to let some friends go because of some things they did that deeply upset me. The idea of those friendships being complete feels at stark contrast to the wounds where the friendships used to be
Ever be surrounded by your friends and still feel alone even if there not toxic?
I think this was the best time I got the notification 😭
This is why 2020 didn't affect me at all, I've always valued my solitude, it gaves me time to understand myself better.
I have such a good relationship with myself that I don't even feel like I need friends, I respect myself more than others seem to do...
I've completely given up. It hurts less. I turned my heart to stone.
...that you're high standards and no longer accept breadcrumbing or unfullfilling friendships that just take from you without reciprocating. Yes, I know.
Can you make a video on how to make friends
Btw
Thankyou 😊
I’m like this but I often tell people that being alone isn’t synonymous with being lonely some people prefer solitude
I am an infj type
The weird kid in my friend group said he tasted his own seem and it "tasted like egg whites" 💀
For me it's not a problem of few friends. I have none. Zero. Not one.
Psychtogo is depressed now, looks like our infections got to her
This is easily the most wholesome UA-cam channel I know of.
IF YOU HAVE A FEW FRIENDS? THAT MEANS THAT THE REST DOESN'T DESERVE YOU! ❤
If I’m honest I thought I had friends but now thinking there not actually 😢 plus it’s hard keeping a relationship with someone, hope I find someone who will actually stay with me…
I won't say I lack friends cause i have a small group of friends. But at recent I started to realized that I don't fit in there group like they all are the toppers help each other, talk to each other but when it comes to me I'm just a average child trying to fit in there group. Whenever I asked them let's go out they always have a reason not to come like I'm sick, sorry my mother won't agree, not possible we will see on different day but if any other person of group will ask they will agree. I'm too tired being with me. I can't even be leave them cause I don't even have other friends to talk literally noone. If i feel down infront of them they will show sympathy but if others feel down they will care for them. I just hate it alot. Through my whole 2 Year they just treated me like a shit even because of them i even try to end my life cause i felt like a burden. I thought I'm just so dumb to be fit in this society. I'm just sharing this here cause i literally have noone to share. But i realized if they don't need you then you should not even care about it cause be yourself. Be alone and fight it down
I've been there too, though I'm a bit Studious but not a full-time geek. While the friends I had would chatter about studies and academic stuffs 24/7 i felt so.. unrelated. I can understand you, making new friends might be hard at first, but you've got this! Try to be around the people whom you are comfortable with, the people who you can relate to. It might help alot. But always remember you Matters the most. Being yourself is the most beautiful feeling never change that for anybody. You've got this
Philosophy is just a copeing mechanism
What I disliked about school, aside from being up so early, was having to say goodbye to my friends when I graduate. Sure, you might end up seeing two or three in highschool or college again, but for the most part, you and your friends are gonna go in a different direction.
I have reached out to a few but they’re often more busy or have kids to look after. It’s understandable, but can be lonely.
I don’t know why it’s harder as an adult to make friends. Maybe the world is just more dangerous now and you grow skeptical of who people are.
Why don’t you know why it’s harder it’s not like you go to a classroom 5 days a week with 30 people in it anymore
Hello may you do a video about left out next I will definitely watch it!!
Haven’t you thought, ‘nothing could be friendlier,’ when you saw little dogs playing and fawning on one another? But just throw some meat in the middle, and you will know what this friendship is.
(Epictetus, Discourses 2.22)
I feel personally attacked by the title lol
Im always shy/socially awkward when it comes to making friends i always think that maybe they wont like me, maybe they wont like the way i look, or sound. And i always feel awkward in conversations i always dont the right words to say and sometimes if people disagree with me or say something in a aggressive away i feel embarrassed and i have the like prickly feeling it just makes me feel so embarrassed but when i know a group or somebody just feels like there gonna be a good friend thats when i come out of my shell. Does anyone have some tips about socializing/making friends?