ADHD Aha! | Toxic productivity, remembering to remember, and rejection sensitivity (Jesse's story)
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- Jesse Anderson wishes he'd had an ADHD manual when he was first diagnosed as an adult, so he wrote one. Before he was diagnosed, he never considered having ADHD himself. After his wife encouraged him to look into it more, his trouble with remembering to do things, time management, and anger started to take a different shape in his mind.
Today, Jesse is an ADHD advocate, writer, speaker and author of the book Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD. Join host Laura Key and Jesse as they discuss toxic productivity tips, prospective memory, and the magic of owning a white board.
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Jesse’s website, adhdjesse.com
damn! the whole juggling chainsaws thing is so accurate...
it's so hard to explain to neurotypical people how if you try to focus on one goal/task by stopping yourself from exploring "distractions" for too long, you often end up shutting down all together and feeling dead inside... rather than how it's "meant" to work by helping clear mental space to focus on the one task.
Unfortunately this doesn't change that the distractions are often very detrimental in their obvious way... but that's just how are brains are, and the world we have to work with.
We have to follow our interests, it's horribly unproductive from what most would consider an objective standpoint, but it's also one of the few times when we actually feel alive and thriving.
With ADHD, so much of it isn't about finding a solution/approach that's the best choice, but rather finding a compromise that's the least worse approach, and this can be infuriating to both you, and the people around you who struggle to understand.
I'm a literacy specialist in Barbados. I have many students with this condition and I find it very helpful understanding the attributes discussed. I'm more patient and more supportive of these kids now l know what challenges they are experiencing. Thank you for your contributions!
Yeah, the white board trick.....
But honestly it doesn't work for me like at all I just forget to write stuff on it and when I do write, I don't know why I don't really pay attention to it. It just passes by my eyes and I don't notice it although it's literally on the most visible place in my room.😅
Toxic productivity is an interesting term for me as someone who compensates for their ADHD by certain mental stuff that is pretty helpful in some ways... and very detrimental in others
The internal desire to explode.... so few people understand what I'm talking about. But that question of, "does my partner intend for me to feel this way?" That hurts, because I have to answer, "yes." They supposedly knew all along I had ADHD, but did nothing to be supportive, questioned why I couldn't remember, and criticized me over and over.
Great episode! I really relate to the analogy of needing to juggle multiple chainsaws to keep my mojo going; and the way that Jesse described his experience of RSD, that flip of the emotional switch… 😮💨 Also, some very useful tips for managing the challenges of ADHD, here. I’m off to buy his book.
Thank you for posting ! I’d like to know and it would be super helpful if podcast guest disclosed if they’re medicated or not.
In the show notes, dyslexia was mentioned, but how about dyscalcula. It's under discussed and a real thing! I have it, and its so frustrating, especially when i tell someone, and they say "thats not a thing."
Hi! Check out our topic page where you can find all of our content about dyscalculia www.understood.org/en/dyscalculia