I don't want kids at all. But it pisses me off to no end that all the things Kayla goes over aren't taught as part of the pregnancy process to people. These things are crucial for women to know, especially the prolonged bleeding and pain. Just seems dangerous that the HCPs don't try to patient teach or educate these pregnant people about what is to come.
I 100% agree. Im a first time mom in my 32nd week of pregnancy and its just astonished how much im not being told. Im still just as clueless about everything as i was before i conceived and when i ask questions im treated like a child who doesnt need to know or will find out later. Its extremely aggravating and disheartening. I can 100% understand why some women get bouts of depression both before and after childbirth.
@@feralmagick7177My doctor is opening to answering my questions, but it's interesting how little information they try to educate me with. The book What to Expect When You're Expecting has helped me learn. They have an app and website too with a lot of information. I get emails from them all the time with articles about different subjects. My husband and I took free hospital class about childbirth, breastfeeding, infant care, and one that took us on a small tour of the Labor and Delivery unit and Recovery area for moms. Maybe some of these things are available in your area? Good luck!
Possibly my area but there are many parenting classes and series that cover all of this information and more prior to having a child... I was very surprised to hear that this information wasn’t known before having your baby.
Androniki T. Hold on I’m gonna do that for myself: Am I an adult yet:NO Am I pregnant:NO Am I dating:YES Am I watching this video to educate myself:YESSS
I am almost 60 years of age and you brought back so many memories! I laughed at your wonderful sense of humor and transparency. I only wish UA-cam had been around when I gave birth to my son 30 years ago. You are doing a great thing. Thank you!
No epidural was even offered when I had my son 31 years ago. Experienced all she talked about....rectal pain, contraction pain, nausea, but just had to "breathe" my way through it.
Elyse Nordby Same here! Had my daughter 29 years ago with no epidural. Not going to lie, it was one of the most painful, but rewarding things I’ve ever done. Interesting enough, listening to this makes you realize that in all these years, things are always going to be the same when it comes to childbirth. 2 kids & to this day I remember it all like yesterday!🌸
Same, it seriously makes me so mad when people are like “you’ll change your mind” no I won’t, some people just don’t want to go through all of that and it’s completely fine.
I want kids, but I’m so scared to give birth and just everything that goes with it, it just all scares me. Listening to this gave me anxiety but I’m thankful that you shared this with everyone.
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge.
im a guy... i feel that its good to know how much pain my future wife would be in to appreciate her more. *UPDATE* Woah😲 I wasn't expecting all of this reaction to my comment lol.... Idk what to say... Thank you guys I guess🙈..... By the way, I came back here because my girlfriend and I are now expecting and wanted to re-educate myself about these things. Lol I was not expecting almost 1k likes
My stomach literally just fell into my butt hole at the snipping part, .. I had no idea that was a thing... I just squirmed at the thought of that happening... the nausea is real. Nobody can tell me women aren’t amazing
Stacie Garcia I’ve done some reading since then (and I’m also pregnant now) and apparently it’s something that not a lot of doctors practice because it’s beginning to be deemed barbaric. So I was told that it’s safer to rip and just heal naturally unless it is absolutely necessary to cut. In times where the baby simply would have no room to come out and to minimize bleeding etc. So I definitely do plan to talk to my doctor once I get closer to my due date about their preferred practices
This is the best video ever. Now you know what to expect so you can be ready and not worry if this is normal or not. Congratulations and enjoy your new baby. So exciting!
Guuurl this is the pregnancy lessons we need!! Postpartum is no joke! Also edit: I took many baths postpartum - I had a lot of Epsom salt baths to help with the healing.
Sierra Helton You're going to be fine. Honestly the pain goes away straight afterwards. The aftermath yes can be a little bit painful but you're body does an amazing thing! You're gonna be fine xxx
You should be but... it’s the most amazing experience you’ll ever have and remember every single detail with the utmost love and affection. In other words? It’s all going to be worth it and just keep telling yourself that as they grow old enough to cause other woes . Both my children were by C section the first by emergency because they almost lost us both. The second was because of the first we learned that I have a very tiny birth canal and my pelvic bones were too small to pass naturally. She was 7 1/2 and 21 inches long the second was 10lbs 3 and 1/2 oz’s and 19 inches long! No way was I ever having that second one normally. I feel like I missed out on not having them vaginally but at same time relieved! The first I was in labor over 40 hours with contractions starting at just 3 mins apart for that many hours. !! The epidurals and spinals were by far the worst pain until relief kicked in . The healing process was a lot longer due to the surgeries and metal stitches. I couldn’t stand upright for months and pain needs barely touched the pain . As long as we’re being honest here thought I’d share my experience 🤷♀️
Dont be once it comes you'll be in a labor mode and fears dont always stay just breathe and you'll be ok!! I delivered two babies and it will hurt but you'll be ok!! You will have a baby to pay for all the pain
You should not use drugs if you don’t need them. These lazy women on their backs moaning. Need gravity to get things going. Epidural should be a last resort but my god that ring of fire. Good job she didn’t go through it.
@@danielwilliams8698 just personal preference! There are potential complications- it could simply not work, the procedure itself can be very uncomfortable, there's the very slim chance of spinal fluid leaks, paralysis, etc. It limits your mobility which ironically most women are more comfortable when they're able to move around. Also it often delays labor- one because of the lack of mobility, and typically you're not very upright so you aren't able to use gravity, and also just the mechanics of the drugs all of which makes you more likely to end up with a c-section. It can cause baby's vitals to slow down (another risk factor indicating a c-section). Also, it can make the pushing phase more difficult (how she talks about guided pushing doesn't need to happen with unmedicated births) and again more likely for intervention such as vacuum, forceps, or episiotomies. Also, there are some statistics indicating babies gave a harder time latching to the breast after an epidural, they may also have a slight delay in breathing on their own. All just for the benefit of less discomfort.
@@danielwilliams8698 It's a personal choice. Ie : I don't want an epidural cause the fact you do not feel the pushing is elevating the risks of having an episiotomy. Episiotomy lead to a longer after birthing process (no sports for 3 months at least in my country), risks of infections and some of the older doctor do what we call here the "husband suture" in which they close your vagina tighter so your husband in happy, but that can lead to pain during sex afterwards. Although I respect any woman giving birth with or without an epi. It's just a question of personal wants and fears :) :)
Iam due next week I should have watched this before getting pregnant.. I cant do anything now😭😭😭 but Still waiting❤ Edit: Maashaallaah❤ My baby girl is now 59 days old😊
I’m 20 and don’t plan on having kids any time soon ( and I won’t have any surprises of a baby) but I still find myself watching these kinds of videos bc I’m terrified of birth 😂
Maci Renee I’m in the same boat! I’m only 20 and don’t plan on having kids any time soon but I find these videos so interesting cause I have to prepare for the future 😂😂
I was 2 weeks before my 21st bday when I gave birth to my now 6yo. He was an induced birth (emergency). I also found out I was allergic to the epidural medication! So that was a fun time. Those contractions were very very intense. My second birth (shes 9m now) was 100% med free and natural. Took a whole 30 minutes start to finish. The hardest part was pushing between contractions. They only got 1.5 minutes apart. With my first my body was pushing for me at the end. But I would do the second birth a million times over. They didnt make me poop after. They didnt measure my urine output or anything. I was up an hour after after birth to do whatever I wanted. She went to NICU because she was 34 weeks gestation. She was fine and huge. 19in and 6lbs 7oz. If you can go natural. C sections are also a major abdominal surgery. Many woman will swear by an elective c section. But why would you volunteer for a huge surgery!? Everything goes back to normal after birth too. It doesnt stretch out.
Good luck girly!!! I had my daughter four months ago and labor itself was incredibly easy. I had a harder time carrying my daughter then my actual labor. I was dilated to a 8 when I went to the hospital so I couldn’t get an epidural but it honest to god wasn’t bad. The only thing I struggled with was breathing. I didn’t know how to balance between breathing and pushing. I wish you the best of luck!!!!
Tahnee I've always been the same top! I'm 11 weeks now and terrified but I'm sure it will all be okay in the end. Just think of how amazing it will be to have that little mini you 😘 (also talking to myself here hahaha 😂 I'm bricking it)
I'm currently 37 weeks with my first child, I'm super nervous about delivery and this video has helped me feel more at ease at what's about to happen here soon than any other video! Thank you so much for sharing!
So the most vivid thing I remember was my first time walking after delivery. Your uterus is still large, but now it’s empty, so when you walk it kinda swings a bit. It grossed me out. Such a horrible feeling.
Samantha Beckhorn hugs Samantha! Be careful not to read too many horror stories bc the more relaxed you are the easier birth will go most likely. It's scary enough without worst case scenarios running in your head that you've read in preparation. Good luck!
Not everyone poops, it is very common, but it's nothing to worry about. theres usually a nurse(or 2) in there with the doctor, and if it does happen they have towels ready and just wipe it away with no worries.
I'm 8 months (33 weeks) currently... I'm worried about pooping everywhere. As it stands baby still hasn't turned around... There still time but I'm booked for natural but if by my 36/38 week scan baby still hasn't turned then it will be a c-section.. Which I hear for healing is 10 times worse... Omg what did I get myself into...
Dear, pooping is the least of your worries when you are on that birthing bed. I was so worried about it before I gave birth but when I was on the birthing bed I pooped a whole lot without any care in the world. P.S my husband was there and my sister and the doctor and nurses...
With my first I had second degree tearing and about a million stitches, could barely walk or sit for 2 weeks. Baby number two, I prepared for a rough recovery... ended with no stitches and I couldnt believe that I could actually sit up and walk straight after birth! I was so thankful for an amazing second labour and birth, after such a horrific first baby
Aimee Wainwright that happened to my with my first! Tons of vagina stitches and pain. I’m pregnant again and you’re giving me hope for a way easier recovery 😂
@@gamingwithgraciemae my gosh.... really? My baby - now toddler is beautiful, always has been, always will be..... I think it's quite obvious, at least to 60 other people that I was referring to the labour, birth and recovery when I say horrific, and not my actual baby 🙄
@@aimeeburke2087 yes i realize that but it was the way the comment was wired that people might not realize that. Cause the horrific is right before baby. Adjectives defines nouns
Farm Oribib, Congratulations! I'm due May 2020, first baby. So nervous and anxious about the delivery. I want to know everything I can. Hoping for the best for you and your baby.
itzkalani 4life well it’s also possible that she might just not even want kids right? Regardless of whether someone thinks they can withstand the ‘FUN’ side effects pregnancy, some people might just choose not to because they don’t even want kids in the first place
I pooped on the table 😂 I had a mirror so I could watch and the doctor was very professional she just folded it up in the bed pad. I was paranoid about pooping but when it happened I DID NOT CARE. Of course my boyfriend had to laugh tho 🤦♀️
They gave me a mirror too and I told them to get it away from me after taking a look lol I didn't care if I pooped or not or who was looking cause I was in pain....turned out I did not poop...but no one cares if the women do. The vagina no longer looks like a vagina either lol It's just a big hairy baby head coming out lol at least for me it was. :)
I thought my water broke in the middle of the night...turned out I peed my pants 🙃😂 modesty??? Yeah what’s that. Lmao i feel like you’re in so much pain you just don’t even care. great informational video mama
This video was amazing - you said things in the perfect way. Just matter-of-fact enough but also sensitive. Very informative. Don’t have kids yet, but plan too - so happy I came across this video!!
I'm super concerned about some of the information. It didn't seem like you gave consent when given the episiotomy. I'm so sorry you had that experience, it seems your recovery went well and thank you so much for sharing. I just want to encourage all those pregnant going to give birth in hospital that consent should never be assumed.
I didn’t have a choice either. My son had breathing issues as well and had to come out. I’m happy he did what he needed because it got my child out in time. If her daughter had breathing issues too there must have been some indication of fetal stress etc.
Miranda Martin I didn’t hear her mention the baby was in distress or the medical procedure was indicated. Some OB use this very invasive technique as a standard practise. If it was indicated than absolutely for the safety of mom and baby, but if it’s because that is how the OB does it than I caution all moms to get informed prior, or upon arrival to the hospital. If the OB does do episiotomies as a common practice and you do not want to be cut unnecessarily inform them only if required to do so.
Your first poop after a c-section is TERRIFYING! Also the “massages” on your stomach after having your baby-why does no one talk about how incredibly painful that is!!!
Yuji Kim it’s not really a massage, it’s where they pretty much press down on your stomach(uterus) to help with bleeding and cramping, it’s really painful!
Everyone needed this video like I never wanted babies because I knew there was more to it but thank for being honest unlike most people who make it seem like nothing
Great video!! I’m due really soon and nervous as hell, but I’d rather be fully prepared with the realities of it than to be surprised during the labor and delivery. ♥️♥️♥️
This has been so helpful but also terrifying. I'm 23 years old and 6months pregnant and soon to be a single mother... I'll have my dad helping with the baby a little bit.. but mostly I'm gonna be on my own.. so I hope and pray my recovery isn't a long process. I'm scared.. but your video has at least made me prepared.
Hemorrhoids are common after birth. I experienced it with two of mine. Also, the warm water bath pan that squirted warm water down there was the best!!!
Everything you just talked about is spot on! I'm a RN (not labor and delivery) and had no idea that it's normal to swell up AFTER you give birth! 🤦 My feet looked like sausages! 😂 Also, I just took for granted that since my daughter was full term and had been healthy the whole pregnancy that she was going to be fine when she was born. She ended up in the NICU for a week due to meconium aspiration. She's great now, but it was really hard at the time. I loved this video you seem so sweet but also super honest and funny! ♥️
I am 5 months pregnant and I saved this video to watch it later since you posted in July and planned to watch it whenever I was ready. I was a little nervous about it, but I would rather be prepared than not know what is going on while giving birth. So thank you for your lovely humor and honesty, no sugar coating it, and you gave great info. This will be so helpful to me. Thank you!
Jessica Gomez Both. Its hard to remember but it went better the second time. Probably bc i was more mature and handled the pain better. Labor went pretty quickly. I exercised during the pregnancy and ate well bc I developed gestational diabetes in first trimester. I followed a free postnatal youtube trainer glowbodypt I highly recommend bc I really think it helped me get in better shape and made delivery AND healing easier! Ended up having a drug free labor.
I teach child development at secondary level and I’m going to be honest...I’m SHOCKED by the amount of people that are saying that they didn’t know this information. This is basic information that I go over with my class all the time! I can’t believe that this isn’t common info! I’m so glad I talk to my kids about this.
Thank you so much for this honest and detailed video. As you were going through the list, I was repeatedly thinking: "Oh, yes, this too was so uncomfortable for me and nobody had told me it would happen". I feel like pregnancy and childbirth are scary for many reasons as they are and one shouldn't have to suffer being surprised in the critical moments. For all of you out there who haven't delivered yet: if the video scares you, it's only because you haven't been there yet. I've had a natural birth and everything that goes with it and I swear that the feeling of incomparable happiness when you see and hold your baby shadows everything else. Let this video prepare you mentally for some discomfort you will experience but don't think for a second that it might overwhelm you.
OMG I'm giving birth for the 4th time in about a month and I agree with almost everything you said. Now I pee unexpectedly often! My midwife stretched me alot while I was in labour and that hurt but I didn't need to be cut so in the end it was worth it.Also, love love love your cat!
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge. Every child birth is totally unique.
I believe in you. As she said in the video, you'll be so exhausted from the pushing that you wont care what happens next. Just, if you have a month before that pregnancy is due, I recommend getting into a calm "go with the flow" mindset so that everything that terrified you in this video, wont be as bad if it happens to you. And she did say it's only a chance some of those things could happen to you. So dont worry too much, you can do it! 😊
Thank you so much for talking about this like to be honest I’m not pregnant but if i do end up pregnant it helps a lot and yes i am 18 but i am not pregnant but it’s nice to know so when you do have a kid your not so scared so thank you for talking about this thank you💕
I'm a first time mom. 5 months in 4 to go. And the more I watch vids like this it does help knowing that I'm not alone and there's so many mothers out there with me.
hope4thesilentplanet mine too! My mom watched my cousin get one. I’m her second child. She saw the doctor grab the scissors during my birth. She said you better catch. She then proceeded to push me out at that moment without a contraction. She was not letting her cut her!
they do not need your consent... if they think you are going to tear up they should do it because you may tear very very deep and bleed like hell (aka dangerous) or they will have to stitch you up to your guts and you do not need that. some people need it some people don't and no one can know until the very moment comes and then they should act fast. so no, they do not need your consent if the need occurs
Something many of us never think about is educating ourselves on the laws applicable and our rights. But it is really important you do in order to make informed decisions. Something that you may consider to be an “obvious legal requirement” may not actually be. I think nowadays most hospitals have strict policies in place in respect of medical staff requiring your consent before any procedures are undertaken. But it is always worth educating yourself beforehand so that you know what is what.
Yes, especially because now there is quite a bit of evidence (studies of many women) that indicates that episiotomies often worsen the tearing. Someone described it as imagine trying to rip a piece of paper. It’s going to rip a lot more easily if there is already a cut in it....
@@krystanathompson9415 no it isn't. My mom went through childbirth. I know because I'm her daughter. And i had a son the past year so I should know. Its not all bad
Gracie Mosko just because it hasn’t happened to you or your mom doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen lol. My mom has had 6 children and she’s told me everything lol and I’m getting ready to have my daughter soon too.
I appreciate the TMI - these are the things that I feel more people should talk about and they don't. So thank you for being so real. It wasn't until a few years ago that I even knew about the whole "pooping on the delivery table thing" and I was (and still am) mortified about that. I also appreciate how real you were about your post-delivery body. No one ever talks about how they felt looking at themselves in the mirror afterwards and if they do its covered in fluff. Thank you for your honesty.
this vid helped me alottt i'm having my first in sept. and i'm 20 and clueless about childbirth. i know it's going to be painful and i'm prepared for that but knowing details about whats gonna go down eases my mind alot
The first postpartum poop was worse than my labor, and my labor was hellacious. I'm pregnant with my second and due in September - absolutely dreading that poop! And the hemorrhoids....ugh.
Dont be scared. Read the book ina may gaskin guide to childbirth. I gave birth to 4 babies naturally and 2 of them were breech. Birth is not something to be afraid of
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge.
Also, about the episiotomy, it's absolutely scandalous that your doctor didn't ask for your permission or at least WARNED YOU before performing it. He shouldn't be allowed to do that!!!
Oh em gee.. you poor thing, gosh 😮 I watched this thinking geez.. anything else? You should be so proud of yourself dear. Child birth is such a sacrifice.. mamas go through so much 💕 Thank you for sharing this x
Thanks for this very informational video! Good job on explaining all of this and thanks for not wasting your viewers' time jabbering about your experience like so many other UA-camrs... This video was super useful and will definitely help me and many others!
Hi Im A Flying Person well we’re all human... sex is a sacred thing and you shouldn’t just fuck whoever but if you feel ready you feel ready... it’s ur body, if you wanna wait you can if not than you don’t have to, up to you✌️
I see all yall saying that you will never have a baby, but dont freak out too much. I had almost everything she mentions in this video happen to me AND THEN SOME happen, and it was still 110% better than being 39 weeks pregnant. I just hope you have a loving, supportive partner to help you with your healing and the baby
Thanks for keeping it real and honest! I’m 38 weeks & 3 days! Ready for my baby but terrified of the labor. Hearing this stuff actually calms me down more cus I know what to expect at least. I’ve been doing my pregnancy journey and updates on my channel I wonder if my labor experience will be similar to yours? Congrats on your 6 month old 🥰🙏🏽♥️
I was super surprised that you had to deliver the placenta. I had triplets in when they told me after the third get ready to push I was so upset. I started crying and I was like, “There’s another one”
God bless you girl! My due date is in 3 weeks, I'm so scared but right know I'm laughing so hard, u have a very good sense of humor and probably you don't know it.
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Who else isn’t even pregnant or getting pregnant anytime soon but is still watching?
Me🤣 I'm only 14 but I love babys. Definitely NOT have one anytime soon🤣💀
Not me I’m in my last month and I’m scared lmao
im 11...
Yah I just wanna know in case hahah
I’m 12 but yeah
Not married, virgin, and too young to have children...
Yet here I am
Good information for the future though
@@chloeroberts2018 please don't do anything you'd regret under 18 too. A lot of people get pressured.
Same lol
I'm too young, in elementary, and I regret watching this
I'm 11 😂😂😂
I'm not married, not in a relationship, still a virgin but this is recommended for me UA-cam what are u trying to tell me
Byul JeonKimParkMin that you are the modern day virgin mary
@@zoeynett u didn't just- xD
IT’S A SIGN
E. B. Good or bad one it was recommended to me too
Byul JeonKimParkMin lmao
So I have 4 months left before I give birth but I've decided the baby is staying inside of me after watching this video hahaha
Soooo is the baby born yet ?
Wondering this as well
Yea...how is the baby?
How’s your baby?
LOOOL
I don't want kids at all. But it pisses me off to no end that all the things Kayla goes over aren't taught as part of the pregnancy process to people. These things are crucial for women to know, especially the prolonged bleeding and pain. Just seems dangerous that the HCPs don't try to patient teach or educate these pregnant people about what is to come.
I 100% agree. Im a first time mom in my 32nd week of pregnancy and its just astonished how much im not being told. Im still just as clueless about everything as i was before i conceived and when i ask questions im treated like a child who doesnt need to know or will find out later. Its extremely aggravating and disheartening. I can 100% understand why some women get bouts of depression both before and after childbirth.
@@feralmagick7177My doctor is opening to answering my questions, but it's interesting how little information they try to educate me with. The book What to Expect When You're Expecting has helped me learn. They have an app and website too with a lot of information. I get emails from them all the time with articles about different subjects. My husband and I took free hospital class about childbirth, breastfeeding, infant care, and one that took us on a small tour of the Labor and Delivery unit and Recovery area for moms. Maybe some of these things are available in your area? Good luck!
@@averybaker2900 thank you for the information. I will certainly see if therr are programs like that in my area. I didnt even think that was a thing.
Possibly my area but there are many parenting classes and series that cover all of this information and more prior to having a child... I was very surprised to hear that this information wasn’t known before having your baby.
@@feralmagick7177 No problem! I'm not sure where I heard about hospital classes. I hope you find free ones like we did!
The way your cat is lying in the background is giving me life
Haha right
Literally thinking the same thing😂
Right he’s just all stretched out like a damn human😂
Looked like he was lying on his back, scratching his belly. So cute lol
And in the beginning of the video he is so vigorously grooming himself :D
Girl this should not be TMI warning. Everything about this topic is natural.
So true 👏👏
Preach
AGREEE
Xdark_dreamsX shut the fuck up. No it shouldn’t, if they have a phobia of it, then don’t fucking watch it. Simple.
Made it 1k...999 didnt feel comfortable
Hands up. Who here's just staring at the cat in the arm chair grooming itself in the background?
Meeee!!
It is very interesting, was it licking its private while she was talking about crowning?
@@erinfinan3095 Don't know, but that would be funny if it's true!
Meeee! I have 6 cats...
HLeeV99 you’re not the only one
Advice that helped me- it took you 40 weeks for your body to grow this way, don't be concerned if it takes you 40 weeks to get "your body back"
Thank you!
Mz Jade wow!!! That’s the best explanation and motivation
Am i in a relationship: NO
Am i pregnant: NO
Am i watching this video for the information so that i can be prepared when i become pregnant: YES
Androniki T. Hold on I’m gonna do that for myself:
Am I an adult yet:NO
Am I pregnant:NO
Am I dating:YES
Am I watching this video to educate myself:YESSS
drawblah 😂😂👏🏻👏🏻
Monbebe?
Chelsea Hernandez You caught me 😁😆😎 You too?
Androniki T. Yea. I want Wonho back too :(
I am almost 60 years of age and you brought back so many memories! I laughed at your wonderful sense of humor and transparency. I only wish UA-cam had been around when I gave birth to my son 30 years ago. You are doing a great thing. Thank you!
I just said the same thing lol :) She was awesome. Covering every detail :)
Kelli Ashy awww love this comment
Kelli Ashy, this was a very wholesome comment...I love it
No epidural was even offered when I had my son 31 years ago. Experienced all she talked about....rectal pain, contraction pain, nausea, but just had to "breathe" my way through it.
Elyse Nordby Same here! Had my daughter 29 years ago with no epidural. Not going to lie, it was one of the most painful, but rewarding things I’ve ever done. Interesting enough, listening to this makes you realize that in all these years, things are always going to be the same when it comes to childbirth. 2 kids & to this day I remember it all like yesterday!🌸
I think imma adopt....
Same here sis
Ooof you need to have money and be at least 25 and married .
Same
Same, it seriously makes me so mad when people are like “you’ll change your mind” no I won’t, some people just don’t want to go through all of that and it’s completely fine.
Lol your choice, but noooo you can dooo it... Of I can do it... So can you 😂
I want kids, but I’m so scared to give birth and just everything that goes with it, it just all scares me. Listening to this gave me anxiety but I’m thankful that you shared this with everyone.
TaraKristjansson same!
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge.
Omg same i am sooo scared
Sameeee
Same.
im a guy... i feel that its good to know how much pain my future wife would be in to appreciate her more.
*UPDATE*
Woah😲 I wasn't expecting all of this reaction to my comment lol.... Idk what to say... Thank you guys I guess🙈..... By the way, I came back here because my girlfriend and I are now expecting and wanted to re-educate myself about these things. Lol I was not expecting almost 1k likes
Isaac Orelus so sweet of you 💛💛
Amen! Wish more man like you care and try to understand. Your future wife will be super grateful and lucky to have you!
This is awesome
Need more men like you.
That's... amazing I like this guy. YOUR FUTURE WIFE IS... BLESSED.
My stomach literally just fell into my butt hole at the snipping part, .. I had no idea that was a thing... I just squirmed at the thought of that happening... the nausea is real. Nobody can tell me women aren’t amazing
I think you can ask them, "if possible please dont do that" cause some doctors do it to speed things up when at times it isn't needed
Amina Love Fell into my butthole 😂😂
Have you heard about how horrible c-sections are ?
Stacie Garcia I’ve done some reading since then (and I’m also pregnant now) and apparently it’s something that not a lot of doctors practice because it’s beginning to be deemed barbaric. So I was told that it’s safer to rip and just heal naturally unless it is absolutely necessary to cut. In times where the baby simply would have no room to come out and to minimize bleeding etc. So I definitely do plan to talk to my doctor once I get closer to my due date about their preferred practices
J K Yes! I’ve read the same now that I’m actually pregnant and not just watching this video out of curiosity lol.
Your cat is chillin so hard in the background 🤣🤣🤣🤣
He soooo cute!!!😍😍😍😍😍
I told my nurse I was scared to poop on the table, she said “pooping is part of the progress” lol wasn’t worried after that lol
TheQueen is it tho? 2 babies and no poop here 🤷🏼♀️
Emmalancey I didn’t poop during my daughter’s birth. But apparently my sister did during all three of hers so it’s probably different for everyone
Octavia Blackthorn it’s always just a coincidence
If you poop it means your pushing properly. I pooped on my doctor. No shame. It happens all the time and they are used to it.
TheQueen That’s a good nurse right there😍🤰🏻
So real and straight to the point. I didn't feel uncomfortable listening to you at all. Due in 3 months, thanks for the info 🥰
Same
Me too! Let's do this 😰😭😷
This is the best video ever. Now you know what to expect so you can be ready and not worry if this is normal or not. Congratulations and enjoy your new baby. So exciting!
LoOk At Me Im pReGnAnT
@@danielle4971 Someone's jealous
Don't forget the shaking...If you are anxious, mixed with the epidural... I SHOOOOK...
Hormones cause labor shakes.
Yes! They said epidural can cause that. I shook so bad.
Guuurl this is the pregnancy lessons we need!!
Postpartum is no joke!
Also edit: I took many baths postpartum - I had a lot of Epsom salt baths to help with the healing.
Did it work?
She reminds me of Anna Kendrick.
Majestic Unicorn thank god I’m not the only one I thought it was epme hahah
OMG NOW THAT YOU SAY THAT, YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
They sound alike.
She reminds me of the lead actress in Killing Eve.
@@margueritemonka6440 Yep! Jodie Comer.
I am 8 months pregnant and TERRIFIED to give birth. And all the things that come with it.
Sierra Helton You're going to be fine. Honestly the pain goes away straight afterwards. The aftermath yes can be a little bit painful but you're body does an amazing thing! You're gonna be fine xxx
You should be but... it’s the most amazing experience you’ll ever have and remember every single detail with the utmost love and affection. In other words? It’s all going to be worth it and just keep telling yourself that as they grow old enough to cause other woes . Both my children were by C section the first by emergency because they almost lost us both. The second was because of the first we learned that I have a very tiny birth canal and my pelvic bones were too small to pass naturally. She was 7 1/2 and 21 inches long the second was 10lbs 3 and 1/2 oz’s and 19 inches long! No way was I ever having that second one normally. I feel like I missed out on not having them vaginally but at same time relieved! The first I was in labor over 40 hours with contractions starting at just 3 mins apart for that many hours. !! The epidurals and spinals were by far the worst pain until relief kicked in . The healing process was a lot longer due to the surgeries and metal stitches. I couldn’t stand upright for months and pain needs barely touched the pain . As long as we’re being honest here thought I’d share my experience 🤷♀️
Dont be once it comes you'll be in a labor mode and fears dont always stay just breathe and you'll be ok!! I delivered two babies and it will hurt but you'll be ok!! You will have a baby to pay for all the pain
Girl how was it x
Life with Melly My birth wasnt painful, and i come to the hospital 23:00 and my baby was in my hands 02:25🤷🏼♀️
I gave birth to my baby girl last year without an epidural. Trust me,the pushing, the "fire" ring.. god, that pain was really too much.
Why do some people not get an epidural?
You should not use drugs if you don’t need them. These lazy women on their backs moaning. Need gravity to get things going. Epidural should be a last resort but my god that ring of fire. Good job she didn’t go through it.
@@danielwilliams8698 just personal preference! There are potential complications- it could simply not work, the procedure itself can be very uncomfortable, there's the very slim chance of spinal fluid leaks, paralysis, etc. It limits your mobility which ironically most women are more comfortable when they're able to move around. Also it often delays labor- one because of the lack of mobility, and typically you're not very upright so you aren't able to use gravity, and also just the mechanics of the drugs all of which makes you more likely to end up with a c-section. It can cause baby's vitals to slow down (another risk factor indicating a c-section). Also, it can make the pushing phase more difficult (how she talks about guided pushing doesn't need to happen with unmedicated births) and again more likely for intervention such as vacuum, forceps, or episiotomies. Also, there are some statistics indicating babies gave a harder time latching to the breast after an epidural, they may also have a slight delay in breathing on their own.
All just for the benefit of less discomfort.
@@Ecoali05 alright thanks, useful info
@@danielwilliams8698 It's a personal choice. Ie : I don't want an epidural cause the fact you do not feel the pushing is elevating the risks of having an episiotomy. Episiotomy lead to a longer after birthing process (no sports for 3 months at least in my country), risks of infections and some of the older doctor do what we call here the "husband suture" in which they close your vagina tighter so your husband in happy, but that can lead to pain during sex afterwards.
Although I respect any woman giving birth with or without an epi. It's just a question of personal wants and fears :) :)
Iam due next week
I should have watched this before getting pregnant..
I cant do anything now😭😭😭
but Still waiting❤
Edit:
Maashaallaah❤
My baby girl is now 59 days old😊
Not expecting, not even married or in a relationship but still watching!
I’m 20 and don’t plan on having kids any time soon ( and I won’t have any surprises of a baby) but I still find myself watching these kinds of videos bc I’m terrified of birth 😂
Maci Renee I’m in the same boat! I’m only 20 and don’t plan on having kids any time soon but I find these videos so interesting cause I have to prepare for the future 😂😂
These types of videos are a form of birth control 😂
First poop after a baby- we should be given a MEDAL!
Evanescencechick180 Yes!!! I didn’t poop for a week! I was terrified and knew it would hurt! I literally refused to poop.
Yeah, me too 😅 I was like HOW DO I EVEN POOP I CAN'T REMEMBER HOW AND WHERE TO PUSH
At least a sticker xD
I felt so accomplished after I had my first poop lol they wouldn’t let me leave the hospital until I did, I think I did 2 days after
It was nothing for me 😬 I didn’t tear at all. Felt relatively normal afterward. It just felt a little sore but that’s it!
I’m 22 and two months pregnant. I’ve always had anxiety about labor since I was a little girl and I’m so scared, so I’m trying to prepare myself 🥺😅
Hey! Im 22 and 2 months pregnant as well!
I was 2 weeks before my 21st bday when I gave birth to my now 6yo. He was an induced birth (emergency). I also found out I was allergic to the epidural medication! So that was a fun time. Those contractions were very very intense. My second birth (shes 9m now) was 100% med free and natural. Took a whole 30 minutes start to finish. The hardest part was pushing between contractions. They only got 1.5 minutes apart. With my first my body was pushing for me at the end. But I would do the second birth a million times over. They didnt make me poop after. They didnt measure my urine output or anything. I was up an hour after after birth to do whatever I wanted. She went to NICU because she was 34 weeks gestation. She was fine and huge. 19in and 6lbs 7oz. If you can go natural. C sections are also a major abdominal surgery. Many woman will swear by an elective c section. But why would you volunteer for a huge surgery!?
Everything goes back to normal after birth too. It doesnt stretch out.
Good luck girly!!! I had my daughter four months ago and labor itself was incredibly easy. I had a harder time carrying my daughter then my actual labor. I was dilated to a 8 when I went to the hospital so I couldn’t get an epidural but it honest to god wasn’t bad. The only thing I struggled with was breathing. I didn’t know how to balance between breathing and pushing. I wish you the best of luck!!!!
Tahnee I've always been the same top! I'm 11 weeks now and terrified but I'm sure it will all be okay in the end. Just think of how amazing it will be to have that little mini you 😘 (also talking to myself here hahaha 😂 I'm bricking it)
Remember those days, I’m 37 weeks :’( good luck
I'm currently 37 weeks with my first child, I'm super nervous about delivery and this video has helped me feel more at ease at what's about to happen here soon than any other video! Thank you so much for sharing!
So the most vivid thing I remember was my first time walking after delivery. Your uterus is still large, but now it’s empty, so when you walk it kinda swings a bit. It grossed me out. Such a horrible feeling.
OMG yeah, that sounds like such a weird feeling 😂
I don't even know that how weird
Im 17 and having a baby im only 7 weeks along but im thankful for these types of videos because i wanna be prepared just like any mother to be.
Samantha Beckhorn hugs Samantha! Be careful not to read too many horror stories bc the more relaxed you are the easier birth will go most likely. It's scary enough without worst case scenarios running in your head that you've read in preparation. Good luck!
Damn that sucks
You're gonna be great girl! You got this!
You're gonna figure everything out and after it's all said and done, everything is going to be okay! I wish you the best :)
Bless you for keeping your child. 💙
I'm not married yet. The pooping part during child birth is the one I am most dreadful about. 😬😅
Not everyone poops, it is very common, but it's nothing to worry about. theres usually a nurse(or 2) in there with the doctor, and if it does happen they have towels ready and just wipe it away with no worries.
I'm 8 months (33 weeks) currently... I'm worried about pooping everywhere. As it stands baby still hasn't turned around... There still time but I'm booked for natural but if by my 36/38 week scan baby still hasn't turned then it will be a c-section.. Which I hear for healing is 10 times worse... Omg what did I get myself into...
I am terrified of tearing, lol
Dear, pooping is the least of your worries when you are on that birthing bed. I was so worried about it before I gave birth but when I was on the birthing bed I pooped a whole lot without any care in the world. P.S my husband was there and my sister and the doctor and nurses...
U won't care about it...
With my first I had second degree tearing and about a million stitches, could barely walk or sit for 2 weeks.
Baby number two, I prepared for a rough recovery... ended with no stitches and I couldnt believe that I could actually sit up and walk straight after birth! I was so thankful for an amazing second labour and birth, after such a horrific first baby
Aimee Wainwright that happened to my with my first! Tons of vagina stitches and pain. I’m pregnant again and you’re giving me hope for a way easier recovery 😂
Really???!! Horrific first baby?? How rude
@@gamingwithgraciemae my gosh.... really? My baby - now toddler is beautiful, always has been, always will be..... I think it's quite obvious, at least to 60 other people that I was referring to the labour, birth and recovery when I say horrific, and not my actual baby 🙄
@@aimeeburke2087 yes i realize that but it was the way the comment was wired that people might not realize that. Cause the horrific is right before baby. Adjectives defines nouns
@@gamingwithgraciemae 🙄 honestly. . . . Anybody who reads it correctly would understand. Your two cents is not required here, thanks.
Wanted a kid before this?: Yep
Want a kid after this?: Yep
😳😂
You gals are amazing, I'm working on the courage! Be there soon
Aww
Why am I laughing? I'm 5 weeks pregnant...this is still waiting for me.
Farm Oribib 7 weeks and go from laughing to oh sh*t every few seconds 😪
Farm Oribib, Congratulations! I'm due May 2020, first baby. So nervous and anxious about the delivery. I want to know everything I can. Hoping for the best for you and your baby.
@@christinam1513 I am due in August and this is my first. Good luck and enjoy the adventure!
6 months ago lmfao.
Are you ready for next month? 🤣
Alrighty then...I’m never gonna get pregnant now
Lol you don't need to hunny bunny
@@jadeikamorris480 I mean. We grow up. So she probably will.
Things happen
itzkalani 4life well it’s also possible that she might just not even want kids right? Regardless of whether someone thinks they can withstand the ‘FUN’ side effects pregnancy, some people might just choose not to because they don’t even want kids in the first place
Come on, cowgirls can do it. 👍😀
I pooped on the table 😂 I had a mirror so I could watch and the doctor was very professional she just folded it up in the bed pad. I was paranoid about pooping but when it happened I DID NOT CARE. Of course my boyfriend had to laugh tho 🤦♀️
I also got an episiotomy after pushing for 4 hours and it helped move things along real quick
He's a turd for laughing
They gave me a mirror too and I told them to get it away from me after taking a look lol I didn't care if I pooped or not or who was looking cause I was in pain....turned out I did not poop...but no one cares if the women do. The vagina no longer looks like a vagina either lol It's just a big hairy baby head coming out lol at least for me it was. :)
Living Free Forever - Melody & Ric Schafer wait so if you didn’t poop what was it 🤭
If my husband laughs when I poop during childbirth, I smack him (and I'm not a violent person at all).
I don't even want kids....lol...what took me to this video at 2:33am
That it was 2: 33 am LoL
After the video, you don’t want kids even more 😂
Same 😂😂
Katies Kreations lol i’m watching this at 2:33 am too haha
This is my exact situation right now 😂😂
I love how open you were about everything!!!! Truly appreciated
I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and I'm actually super glad I watched this. Its definitely something I would want someone to tell me
I thought my water broke in the middle of the night...turned out I peed my pants 🙃😂 modesty??? Yeah what’s that. Lmao i feel like you’re in so much pain you just don’t even care. great informational video mama
I thought i peed my pants but my water broke lml
Tristina Rose LMAOOOO I’m sorry that was funny 😂😂
The only thing that I’m scared about is the pooping story 😂😂
Edit: I meant pooping postpartum 😅
Why? Everyone poops.
Make sure you go before the hospital and don't eat
@@qeechy Oh..Call someone to help you
A R actually not everyone but i get your point
@@msaijay1153 It's freaky because you are pooping in front of the doctors, midwives and your family while giving birth! So it's really embarrassing.
A wounded animal dying in the forest 😂🤣😂
I love how lighthearted this was even though it was awful to hear all of the more negative parts of pregnancy!
Just did my delivery! I can relate every single thing you say! My first poop and pee were such huge events.
This video was amazing - you said things in the perfect way. Just matter-of-fact enough but also sensitive. Very informative. Don’t have kids yet, but plan too - so happy I came across this video!!
I'm super concerned about some of the information. It didn't seem like you gave consent when given the episiotomy. I'm so sorry you had that experience, it seems your recovery went well and thank you so much for sharing. I just want to encourage all those pregnant going to give birth in hospital that consent should never be assumed.
Melissa in what country?
Yeah I would’ve been horrified.
I didn’t have a choice either. My son had breathing issues as well and had to come out. I’m happy he did what he needed because it got my child out in time. If her daughter had breathing issues too there must have been some indication of fetal stress etc.
Miranda Martin I didn’t hear her mention the baby was in distress or the medical procedure was indicated. Some OB use this very invasive technique as a standard practise. If it was indicated than absolutely for the safety of mom and baby, but if it’s because that is how the OB does it than I caution all moms to get informed prior, or upon arrival to the hospital. If the OB does do episiotomies as a common practice and you do not want to be cut unnecessarily inform them only if required to do so.
@@heatherkeaneyrmt8389 She did mention her baby was in NICU for 3 days with issues breathing on its own. So I assume it would be related to that.
Your first poop after a c-section is TERRIFYING! Also the “massages” on your stomach after having your baby-why does no one talk about how incredibly painful that is!!!
Seriously. Nobody tells you about that. One or two women basically putting their hands inside and outside and pushing on you.... ugh. It hurts.
.....what is this? Why do they need to massage you? And wgat do you mean *inside* and outside?😨
Yuji Kim it’s not really a massage, it’s where they pretty much press down on your stomach(uterus) to help with bleeding and cramping, it’s really painful!
Skylar Susano this was the WORST part of the entire childbirth experience to me! Omg. So painful!!!
I had a baby 3 years ago and have never heard of this! Omg, so sorry for you!
I’m pregnant with our first baby right now, and your honesty is saving me! Thank you!
I'm pregnant with my 4th. Can relate to all this...I didnt experience it all personally but I couldn't help laughing at the frozen vagina part.
Bf twin ex wife.... why does it feel like there's an ice pack in my vagina
Because there is
Oh
Okay but is your cat laying flat on its back??😂
Everyone needed this video like I never wanted babies because I knew there was more to it but thank for being honest unlike most people who make it seem like nothing
Great video!! I’m due really soon and nervous as hell, but I’d rather be fully prepared with the realities of it than to be surprised during the labor and delivery. ♥️♥️♥️
Good luck! 💟
This has been so helpful but also terrifying. I'm 23 years old and 6months pregnant and soon to be a single mother... I'll have my dad helping with the baby a little bit.. but mostly I'm gonna be on my own.. so I hope and pray my recovery isn't a long process. I'm scared.. but your video has at least made me prepared.
I love how pets always sneak around in the background secretly listening pretending to clean themselves.
I had a c section for both births so was interesting hearing all this. And my recovery was pretty drama free
This really informed me on stuff I didn't know what to expect. Thank you for sharing.
Hemorrhoids are common after birth. I experienced it with two of mine. Also, the warm water bath pan that squirted warm water down there was the best!!!
Everything you just talked about is spot on! I'm a RN (not labor and delivery) and had no idea that it's normal to swell up AFTER you give birth! 🤦 My feet looked like sausages! 😂 Also, I just took for granted that since my daughter was full term and had been healthy the whole pregnancy that she was going to be fine when she was born. She ended up in the NICU for a week due to meconium aspiration. She's great now, but it was really hard at the time. I loved this video you seem so sweet but also super honest and funny! ♥️
I am 5 months pregnant and I saved this video to watch it later since you posted in July and planned to watch it whenever I was ready. I was a little nervous about it, but I would rather be prepared than not know what is going on while giving birth. So thank you for your lovely humor and honesty, no sugar coating it, and you gave great info. This will be so helpful to me. Thank you!
I’m a first time mom too and my baby girls name is Riley!! She’s still growing but that made me happy lol
I love your transparency. Hysterical. But all so true. Remembering everything about the day my daughter was born. The good the bad and the ugly.
Great tips. Im goung on 3rd child but its been 17 years since I've had baby. Good reminders. Thank you
Same I haven’t in 14 years ....
I had my second 16 years after my first!
@@properdoe3414 how was your labor? I mean was it quicker or like brand new?
Jessica Gomez Both. Its hard to remember but it went better the second time. Probably bc i was more mature and handled the pain better. Labor went pretty quickly. I exercised during the pregnancy and ate well bc I developed gestational diabetes in first trimester. I followed a free postnatal youtube trainer glowbodypt I highly recommend bc I really think it helped me get in better shape and made delivery AND healing easier! Ended up having a drug free labor.
Jessica Gomez Overall second time at 38 was better
I teach child development at secondary level and I’m going to be honest...I’m SHOCKED by the amount of people that are saying that they didn’t know this information. This is basic information that I go over with my class all the time! I can’t believe that this isn’t common info! I’m so glad I talk to my kids about this.
Thank you so much for this honest and detailed video. As you were going through the list, I was repeatedly thinking: "Oh, yes, this too was so uncomfortable for me and nobody had told me it would happen". I feel like pregnancy and childbirth are scary for many reasons as they are and one shouldn't have to suffer being surprised in the critical moments.
For all of you out there who haven't delivered yet: if the video scares you, it's only because you haven't been there yet. I've had a natural birth and everything that goes with it and I swear that the feeling of incomparable happiness when you see and hold your baby shadows everything else. Let this video prepare you mentally for some discomfort you will experience but don't think for a second that it might overwhelm you.
I loved the video... I am 6 months and I already woried about the labor and specially post partum... thank so much for so much honesty
CONFIRMED: Never having a baby.
Edit: Wow! Never had this many likes before lol
Mary Waters lmaoooo
I said the same thing and yet I’m due in two weeks😂🤦🏾♀️
@@taijcarter4538 😂
@@taijcarter4538 That scares me, but good luck!
Mary Waters right!!!
OMG I'm giving birth for the 4th time in about a month and I agree with almost everything you said. Now I pee unexpectedly often! My midwife stretched me alot while I was in labour and that hurt but I didn't need to be cut so in the end it was worth it.Also, love love love your cat!
Currently 5 months pregnant #ScaredAsFuck I’m so scared for labor 😂☠️
You'll be fine don't worry. Your body is meant for it. It's all natural. All the best, wishing you a smooth and safe delivery
Did you give birth yet? How was it? I’m 5 months and I’m terrified!😂
Mimi Matthews I’m 9 weeks and scared to death of delivery
im pregnant also, i’m finding out how many weeks i am tomorrow. i am scared shitless of having a baby. i pray to god it’s fast.
Savanah Currie currently 30 weeks pregnant talk about being SCARED
I love when you go shopping for yourself. You always buy nice things.
Realest postpartum video ever! I’m from Miami too-hi!
I'm pregnant but I cant stop watching these videos it scares and and makes me laugh Lord help me
Watch something totally unrelated. Like I wouldn't watch this if I was pregnant. I wouldn't watch anything to do with pregnancy lol.
You got this:)
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge. Every child birth is totally unique.
I believe in you. As she said in the video, you'll be so exhausted from the pushing that you wont care what happens next. Just, if you have a month before that pregnancy is due, I recommend getting into a calm "go with the flow" mindset so that everything that terrified you in this video, wont be as bad if it happens to you. And she did say it's only a chance some of those things could happen to you. So dont worry too much, you can do it! 😊
I hated every second of it. I wish I never had a kid lol.
Thank you so much for talking about this like to be honest I’m not pregnant but if i do end up pregnant it helps a lot and yes i am 18 but i am not pregnant but it’s nice to know so when you do have a kid your not so scared so thank you for talking about this thank you💕
I'm a first time mom. 5 months in 4 to go. And the more I watch vids like this it does help knowing that I'm not alone and there's so many mothers out there with me.
Every time I hear about an episiotomy without informed consent, my blood boils.
hope4thesilentplanet mine too! My mom watched my cousin get one. I’m her second child. She saw the doctor grab the scissors during my birth. She said you better catch. She then proceeded to push me out at that moment without a contraction. She was not letting her cut her!
they do not need your consent... if they think you are going to tear up they should do it because you may tear very very deep and bleed like hell (aka dangerous) or they will have to stitch you up to your guts and you do not need that. some people need it some people don't and no one can know until the very moment comes and then they should act fast. so no, they do not need your consent if the need occurs
@@ariantoula They have to ask your consent (legally and for ethics) If you prefer to tear, it is you choice to make. Your body
Something many of us never think about is educating ourselves on the laws applicable and our rights. But it is really important you do in order to make informed decisions. Something that you may consider to be an “obvious legal requirement” may not actually be. I think nowadays most hospitals have strict policies in place in respect of medical staff requiring your consent before any procedures are undertaken. But it is always worth educating yourself beforehand so that you know what is what.
Yes, especially because now there is quite a bit of evidence (studies of many women) that indicates that episiotomies often worsen the tearing. Someone described it as imagine trying to rip a piece of paper. It’s going to rip a lot more easily if there is already a cut in it....
Full credit to all mom's. Wow. So thankful.
Anybody realize the cat chillin in the back. It’s funny as frick
This just made me not want to have babies.
Its not all truth
Same
Gracie Mosko Yeah it is 😂😂
@@krystanathompson9415 no it isn't. My mom went through childbirth. I know because I'm her daughter. And i had a son the past year so I should know. Its not all bad
Gracie Mosko just because it hasn’t happened to you or your mom doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen lol. My mom has had 6 children and she’s told me everything lol and I’m getting ready to have my daughter soon too.
I appreciate the TMI - these are the things that I feel more people should talk about and they don't. So thank you for being so real. It wasn't until a few years ago that I even knew about the whole "pooping on the delivery table thing" and I was (and still am) mortified about that. I also appreciate how real you were about your post-delivery body. No one ever talks about how they felt looking at themselves in the mirror afterwards and if they do its covered in fluff. Thank you for your honesty.
I'm 41 and have had 4 babies. 2 vaginal delivery and 2 csection. Ur description of having a baby is perfect and very funny. I also love ur voice
this vid helped me alottt i'm having my first in sept. and i'm 20 and clueless about childbirth. i know it's going to be painful and i'm prepared for that but knowing details about whats gonna go down eases my mind alot
The first postpartum poop was worse than my labor, and my labor was hellacious. I'm pregnant with my second and due in September - absolutely dreading that poop! And the hemorrhoids....ugh.
Ask for stool softener
Yes omg I had those painful hemorrhoids too with both of my kids
Lyndsey Reed how do you avoid hemorrhoids during pregnancy???
the padsicle!! I LOVED the tucks pads they gave me in the hospital! It was amazingggg
So.... Dont have babies.
Got it. 😂😂
Am I the only one watching who’s actually pregnant lmao
Nope. I am, too
Nope 5 months and 3 weeks lol
Nope, me too. First time, currently traumatizing myself 😂😂
Nope. 36 weeks, first baby. Just now finding the courage to watch these & live birth videos.
26 weeks pregnant and so scared to watch all this but still here I am watching this
Thank you for this video. I'm 31 weeks and I'm excited and scared to give birth. I just can't wait for meet baby girl, and I want to do it naturally
Dont be scared. Read the book ina may gaskin guide to childbirth. I gave birth to 4 babies naturally and 2 of them were breech. Birth is not something to be afraid of
Tallya Kuzmin I love this response! I love that you’re empowering women! ✨
Tallya Kuzmin that’s beautiful
The joy and happiness far exceeds any suffering. If you work with your body and don't fear it's amazing power, you can have a peaceful birth. The contractions are intense, but I knew that they were bringing me my baby. Pain was basically gone when I started pushing, and I was happy and smiling while my body pushed her out. No epidural, just my own body pumped with endorphins. This was not my experience, but some women even have orgasms during birth. Wouldn't that be nice! Lol my second felt like fire coming out. He was huge.
Stool softeners 🙌🏻🙌🏻 it was still scary though 🤣
Can also take Fish oil capsules or castor oil.. lubricates the passage so it passes smoothly.
I love your hilarious depiction of birth 😂😂
Also, about the episiotomy, it's absolutely scandalous that your doctor didn't ask for your permission or at least WARNED YOU before performing it. He shouldn't be allowed to do that!!!
Oh em gee.. you poor thing, gosh 😮 I watched this thinking geez.. anything else? You should be so proud of yourself dear. Child birth is such a sacrifice.. mamas go through so much 💕 Thank you for sharing this x
Thanks for this very informational video! Good job on explaining all of this and thanks for not wasting your viewers' time jabbering about your experience like so many other UA-camrs... This video was super useful and will definitely help me and many others!
I’m 14, a virgin and watching this and I’m very scared... I think I’m always going to use condoms...
Hi Im A Flying Person condoms don’t always work, use over the counter birth control
Or an IUD. Most hassle free of all.
How about not having sex until you're married and prepared to have children ? trust me, that's the most precious advice you can ever receive.
Hi Im A Flying Person well we’re all human... sex is a sacred thing and you shouldn’t just fuck whoever but if you feel ready you feel ready... it’s ur body, if you wanna wait you can if not than you don’t have to, up to you✌️
@@janicegingerich3731 except for the insertion. Ouch. 😬
I AM PANICKING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW.
I see all yall saying that you will never have a baby, but dont freak out too much. I had almost everything she mentions in this video happen to me AND THEN SOME happen, and it was still 110% better than being 39 weeks pregnant. I just hope you have a loving, supportive partner to help you with your healing and the baby
Thanks for keeping it real and honest! I’m 38 weeks & 3 days! Ready for my baby but terrified of the labor. Hearing this stuff actually calms me down more cus I know what to expect at least. I’ve been doing my pregnancy journey and updates on my channel I wonder if my labor experience will be similar to yours? Congrats on your 6 month old 🥰🙏🏽♥️
this reminded me to take my birth control pill
Same lmao
I was super surprised that you had to deliver the placenta. I had triplets in when they told me after the third get ready to push I was so upset. I started crying and I was like, “There’s another one”
I give birth in September and this video helped soooo much I like that it’s blunt no sugar coating 😂‼️‼️
I also am due in september~ helpful video~
Same September 25th 😭 the frozen vagina was so funny
Congrats guys 😘😘❤️
Danielle Turner thanks same to you hoping everything goes well
I'm due October 1st. Very scared but also can't wait
God bless you girl! My due date is in 3 weeks, I'm so scared but right know I'm laughing so hard, u have a very good sense of humor and probably you don't know it.