Wow Kayla Buell! How far you've come lady! To hear you preach on freedom from fear and anxiety! Praise God for you and your platform and your growth! It's like watching my best friend grow up! You all have put in the work and it shows!
NFP-practing Catholic mom of 8 here!!! Being open to life and following the Church's teaching on marriage and children has been the best decision we've ever made!
Do you mind me asking if one of you had to be “persuaded”? We are converting as a family but my husband is less receptive to the idea of being open to life (coming around to the practice of NFP)
@@hannahhensley8497 God doesn’t call everyone to have 8 kids. We are catholic and use NFP and we have 3 kids 8,5 and 3. I am open to more however I do have some pelvic health issues currently so still abstaining on my fertile days.
@@daniellelm3 that’s of course understandable and I want to discern one by one, but I pray constantly for my husbands heart to be open to life like we’re called to be
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate your input. As a parent of a child with developmental challenges that didn't show up until elementary school age, I am hesitant to take the risk. Because as children grow, things change and if I have too many and all have higher that ordinary needs, i can't begin to imagine how I would be 100% present and available for each child. So if anything, I'm trying to space the years in between them as much as possible.
I am so glad that you have the choice to have the family you want! That is all anyone wants, a choice to have the type of family that is right for them 😊
Love this so much. So well said! I love what you said about being in Heaven with our kids someday 😍 We are used to getting everything the easy way these days and having kids is not easy, so our generation doesn’t want to have more than 1 or 2 (or any at all!). But it’s so worth it!!
I get what your saying. But respectfully I think it’s reasonable and fair though for parents to want to save money for the kids they have and be able to have good experiences like vacations and doing things. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have money to have fun with the family you have.
Money isn’t a bad thing! I also don’t think it’s wrong for parents to want to have money to do fun things with their kids! I totally get that! But I do think it’s something that needs to be consistently discerned because money very quickly becomes an idol and if you’re making decisions like this one in particular based solely on how many extra financial things you can have or give to your children, then I think that may not be the correct heart posture. Just something we all need to pray about and discern for ourselves 🤍
Sorry for blowing up this comment section but I love this topic. I want to add too that the more children we have had, the more we see how such a gift a new sibling is to our current children. Better than a vacation. Of course there are many many many other factors to consider. But we have four children currently and they truly are best friends. Yes they bicker and fight at times but when they’re older I can never see them saying they wish they only had 2 siblings instead of 3 or 4 and went on another vacation or two. Just another perspective for someone struggling with that dilemma as I have in the past!
@@youtubeacc oh I know! But it’s worth it to my husband and I to take a chance and raise them well so they can be. I have four siblings and we are all so close I love it. So grateful.
Thanks for sharing your story! We wanted to stop at 2 and then the Lord had other plans ! We are on #5 . God gives us grace through the chaos. Where did you get your shirt your wearing? Love it!
I got pregnant 5 month pp while ebf, I wasnt able to properly track my cycles as they were extremely irregular. I know this is going to be extremely challenging for us but we do have an amazing village. We are in Australia so cost of living is WAAAAYYY higher than in America and definitely something we have to be aware of. Purchasing a house when the average house is a million dollars is out of reach for many. The more kids you have the less likely you are to get a rental and being homeless with lots of children seems extremly reckless.
I’m also in Aus so your comment caught my eye - from the recent data I’ve seen the ✨average✨ cost of living in the US is actually higher, but also it’s hard to measure on an individual level as in both countries it’s very dependent on location and such. Moral of the story is that I think every family needs to make a personal decision. I agree with your general points, however!
@@motherthinks My husband is American and we lived there for 6 years before I came back to Australia in 2023 to be with my family, we lived in the Midwest in the states and moved to the Gold Coast. Both our properties in the USA were around 300-350k. Anything worth buying on the GC is over a million. We spend way more on petrol, food, car registration ($1000 vs $50 lol) BUT healthcare in Australia is universal so definitely much much cheaper than in the states. That being said, we are a year in and still saving for our house - my husband bought his first house in the US 7 years ago at the age of 22, I'm not sure many Aussies could have afforded that at 22 even 7 years ago.
@ I’m on the GC too, hey local 🫶 Yeah I agree that property market is something that the US is winning at - especially if you consider what you actually get for your buck vs just the price of getting into home ownership. Otherwise it’s a complex comparison, for example QLD is not the best when it comes to wages and while prices here are lower than, say, VIC, it’s not “proportional”.
My comment will seem strongly opinionated but maybe it will also give sth to think about. I’ve been following Kayla since Riley was 4 and I enjoyed her youtube channel anout everyday life with kids and in pandemic. Back then she seem fresh funny with energy. Eversince she moved to Miami all I see it’s been a gradual downhill - a exaggerated story about Jesus devotionals having more kids and more, growing longer hair dressing „ churchy look”. Life has shifted to religion centered one. It feels like watching amish family. it’s a change that i didn’t see coming and im afraid i will no longer watch this saga of 500 kids plus.
I love this comment , I’ve been watching her for a while and the clearly forced in your face 24/7 Jesus talk is offensive in my opinion, because it’s not genuine it’s just to push the more kids narrative and it’s so cringe to watch . It’s just all overkill. And it’s crazy because her channel is dead compared to when she wasn’t pushing religion down our throats . Been unsubscribed for a few years.
We’ve practiced NFP for our entire almost 10 years of marriage and I have four little ones and I have found that I tell myself I am “done” after each one, until we no longer feel like we’re done 😂 . I have mild HG during my pregnancies so it’s my way of coping lol. I have to let myself and my husband mentally prepare for each pregnancy. I love large families though
I love this video and your heart posture on this challenging topic. You're not insane! Your submission to Church teaching and your faith in God's plan is inspiring, you have a very sensible view on this. I'm hoping to begin RCIA next month and am due with my next baby shortly after I will join the Church at Easter this year, God-willing. My husband is agnostic and I wish we could be so aligned on this topic.
I love that you did this video on natural planning. I think more people should be educated on this. It's not just a Christian standpoint, but birth control is really horrible for our bodies. I haven't been on it for 10 years. I have 1 child, and it was planned.
My opinion is my reasoning for not having another child whether it’s because of health finances or wanting to be able to give the children I have a nice life its no one else’s business but mine and my husbands. Life is short I’m not worried about what other people think about my decisions.
I’ve been following you for a few years now and although I may not fully understand your form of living/parenting, I do respect you. I have 3 kids now and I am DONE!!!! 3 was too many for me. 😂
Thanks for sharing! We waited before trying for a second and we’ve been having unexplained infertility issues. Praying we will be blessed with some more littles soon
How did you guys get on the same page with NFP and being open to life? We’re new to Church teachings (and not confirmed yet) and I’m totally on board but my husband is dragging his feet. A lot of praying for his heart to be softened and turned towards Jesus rather than just letting me “be right”! Lol
I found out yesterday that I am pregnant with my second baby, my little girl is 3 weeks older then Sean, I'm watching you all the way from South Africa
It's kind of crazy to me how up in arms people get about how many kids someone else decides to have. It doesn't affect anyone but you and your family how many kids you have so people need to chill.
As a non catholic heavily considering getting my tubes tied this was a really interesting perspective. I appreciate you sharing your journey and being so open on a tricky topic!
I think you should open your heart to God and see the kind of wonders he can do for you. There is so much more to life that we don’t see, but with him a lot is possible. Much love and blessings ❤
I would love more children but my last pregnancy ended with a placental abruption at 30 weeks and an emergency c section, 6 week nicu stay and a lifetime of trauma. She was my 4th and I just can't put my life at risk for my other children nor can I handle the trauma again since I have an increased risk of future abruptions.
@@maureenhouriganas a Christian I will probably be getting my tubes tied after my current pregnancy. All high risk pregnancies and God has seen my struggles and too many close calls to death related to pregnancy.
Thanks for posting this Kayla. I’m not remotely religious (may be why I’ve had so much pregnancy loss 🙃) but I’ve always found it really interesting when you talk about your faith and in some ways I am very jealous of your commitment to God. I am sure you’ve educated a lot of people and I really appreciate learning about different beliefs/POVs. Wishing you all the best with this pregnancy 🩷
If you seriously think that you have had miscarriages because of your lack of religion in life I’d go speak to someone about that. You do realize people that are religious experience miscarriages too right?
@ Thanks Jenny. I’m sorry that you weren’t able to detect the sarcasm in my comment. I know many people who have been through recurrent pregnancy loss will relate to questioning every little thing they do and wondering if it’s ‘the’ cause of their losses.
Kayla do you listen to the Messy Family Podcast? You and Joe would love it! Loved this conversation!! We need more women talking about this. Thank you!
@@KaylaBuellIt’s amazing! They are a Catholic couple with ten children and they are so down to earth and practical. Perfect for your stage of life. They have changed mine and my husbands life on getting through these years of raising little kids! Plus tons of marriage and family advice.
Great video, thanks for sharing. You communicated that so clearly, I have been wondering about this exact topic. Side note, I found your comment about the worldview: money is a blessing and children are a burden, very profound.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this! Super helpful and all great reminders of truth. The world’s perspective won’t help us when discerning these things. I definitely needed to hear this today❤
Milenia is going on baby number 5 so hey if your able to maintain them and feel mentally ready to have a lot of kids I think it’s something that is personal to everyone God bless
I commend you and other parents who have more than 1 or 2 kids and make it work, and aren't completely crazy 😂 I'm a single mom (by choice) of an almost 2.5 year old boy... And I'm exhausted, he's so wild! I also can't afford another on my own.. So for now it's just us..
This video is quite all over the place. First thought: there’s a video (a few years ago) where you are packing for a road trip to Miami and mentioned the items going in your makeup bag/toiletry bag. You verbally said “my birth control” for one of the items you were packing. I’m confused. Were you not catholic then? Second: it’s okay (and responsible) to consider your own mental health when it comes to having more children. Especially for women who have a history of Post Partum Depression/Anxiety. It’s okay to take autonomy of your own life. It’s not selfish. Everything just can’t be up to Jesus. Your kids need a healthy mom over more siblings, any day.
That money analogy is right on point. It shows the unfortunate state of our society. As Catholics we’re so blessed to have the guidance of the church to fulfill our Lord’s will and as you said not stand in his way.
I was on the fence about having baby #3 and I thought we'd put it in God's hands and give it One shot. Boom 💥 pregnant! on the last day of the ovulation window.
Has anyone done NFP with irregular periods? My periods are so irregular its normal for me to skip a month with a period. It used to be normal for me to go a year without a period. This is why I didnt realize I was pregnant the forst time until 6 months. I didnt gain weight, I didn't look pregnant, I didn't have morning sickness, and I didn't feel my daughter move until 6 months. I would love to do this. It's not for religious purposes but just not wanting to put drugs into my system. I'm not ready for the whole tubes tied or vasectomy. I would like 1 more kid, but would like to wait until we are in a better financial situation.
So do you actively check your ovulations dates and stuff? Because sometimes our bodies can ovulate earlier and later. That’s a risk all the time, especially if you’re using absolutely no protection (not even pull out). So if that’s the case, that stuff can stay in you for up to 6 days. Don’t you have to be kind of perfect in not doing it certain days or do you completely abstain for long periods of time to prevent that?
@@sabrinatrammell2094 Yes I keep close watch on my cycles. Fertile mucous, ovulation strips and basal body temp. It’s not too difficult once you get used to it. We’ve practiced it for ten years now. Like Kayla mentioned there’s reasoning behind what we do what we do as Catholics . TMI but our sex life is still amazing and actually way better than if I was on birth control or manipulating my fertility. If we are avoiding pregnancy we abstain 6 days before my ovulation and then after that occurs we have many more days open for sex. If we are open to another child it’s easy to find my fertile window and try for pregnancy. I am 34 and have four children.
@@sabrinatrammell2094 yea when you’re actively practicing nfp and using an nfp method you’re checking daily for different things, depending on which method you’re using. When I used the sympto-thermal method for example, I had to check my temperature and cervical mucus at different times in the day so it’s not like you’re just looking at a calendar. You’re reading signs that your body gives you, and then using that to determine your fertile window and that’s what an NFP teacher/coach helps you do.
@ ahhh I see! That makes sense! I was thinking like ovulation strips everyday but yes body signs are a great way to keep track too, didn’t think about that 🤣 thank you for your input!
I appreciate your taking the time to make this video and explain, Kayla! I am not religious at all, my husband is Catholic but not practicing and so needless to say we don't practice NFP, but I appreciate your explaining everything! You do what works for you❤ We are done with baby #2 for many reasons, mostly financial but also support wise. We have almost no support and I need to work at minimum part time with two...childcare is tricky with only one grandparent near us to count on and literally no one else 😅
Hi! Honest question: is there any room for flexibility in terms of using contraceptive methods? For example, what if a woman can't get pregnant, like, getting pregnant would impose potentially deadly consequences, or the couple carries a rare gene that is not compatible with life, things like that, that technically wouldn't leave room for an "oops" baby (especially if they already have kids), can the couple still be part of the church even if medically they must use contraception????
@@24Maoli I’m not well versed enough to know what the church says in specific cases like that, but that would definitely be something a couple should sit and discuss with a priest 🤍
@@KaylaBuell Thank you for still answering, though! ☺️ I figured it was a way too specific question but I was still curious. I was raised catholic and I had never heard of NFP. Thank you for always sharing, I love learning about other people's pointsn of view 🙏
I agree with this. People can say money isn’t everything but honestly, it is. It’s selfish to not live within your means even for family planning. You also have to admit when you have more kids than you can mentally handle. I would rather give my 1 child the absolute best life rather than 2+ kids an ok life.
@@youtubeaccThis is an interesting take because every only child that I know grew up wishing they had siblings and now have to bear the sole responsibility for the care of their aging parents
It's your life and your family living by God! Don't let anyone's opinion steer you from what you believe is right. Love your channel! May God bless you abundantly.
As a Christian I guess it's hard for me to understand that if u can't afford more children, u must abstain from sex for most of the month. Even then, a woman could get pregnant. And if there are good reasons not to get pregnant- health reasons, cost, etc....then it would really be risky to have sex at any point in the month. That is not the natural way of things between a husband and a wife- in my opinion. The way u r explaining it, the sole purpose of sex is then to create a child. I am not expecting u to defend this at all- it is just hard to understand it.
Yea I totally get where you’re coming from and it’s hard! But 1000% at least as Catholics we believe that God created sex to be unitive between husband and wife AND procreative so you can’t separate one from the other. Not to say that every time you have sex you have to get pregnant but that’s the reason for intimacy between husband and wife. Again, a lot of the resources I linked in the description box explain it so much better than I ever will but I get that it’s hard to understand because i struggled with it for a whileeee!
I think what people miss in these situations is that NFP is actually like 99% effective. It takes a little work and knowledge to get up to speed with it, but it is very effective! Birth control is not 100% effective either.
@@clairesanders1456 yep! It does take a lot of work and you DO need to learn about it and learn your body and learn the protocols and then actually execute the protocols, but when done correctly, it can be very effective.
@@clairesanders1456 I think that if a couple decides that either mentally or financially they cannot support another child then I think they should be allowed to surgery to completely prevent that from happening. If having another child is detrimental in any way, surgery should be allowed.
Hi Kayla! Idk why but thank you for this video needed some advice I have 6 beautiful children and maybe want to be pregnant again but that’s how god works 😊
Thanks for sharing this with us😊 I loved hearing your perspective! (Currently pregnant with baby #3) found your channel when I was first pregnant with my 2020 baby ❤ anyways this pregnancy was unexpected and tbh did take me time at the beginning to fully be happy with this blessing god sent while having my hands full already. Seeing this video felt nice ❤
I also don’t use birth control for religious reasons. I currently have 4 kids 5 and under and i have a lot of people keep telling me to get my tubes tied. I feel like my husband and i hit max capacity, but i plan to use nfp. People can accidentally get pregnant using birth control as well.
Its too complicated but i respect your beliefs. Iam orthodox christian n Iam a true believer in god. N god want us to be near him talk to him he is our father he wont ask us to put our selves in a situation to bring too much babies. I have three children n iam happy to have n raise them. I red the bible many times. Jesus wants us to believe in him n to be like him as much as we can n Jesus will lead us. So the most important thing to be a believer in Jesus n thats it.
Love your videos Kayla and congratulations on ur pregnancy may the most high bless u with a beautiful healthy baby and keep u in the best of health Ameen🥰❤️ I am of Muslim faith and everything what u was saying is very similar in that sense regarding children. so I 💯 am with u and get u! im also pregnant now with my 5th but my last baby had passed away just over a year ago who would have been 2 in Feb 💙 babies truly are a blessing and wen u have faith and believe that everything is by god-will this is why we will view things in a diff way to most ppl without it. I kept saying after my 4th no more but after I had him I still had this maternal instinct of feeling like I would love to have another 1. Then due to the loss of my last baby I still knew i wanted another but was fearful understandably but the truth is we plan and god plans and god is the greatest of planners always 😊❤️ oh and the only diff regarding birth control with Muslims is that we can use natural methods such as condoms or pull out method phew 😅 lol but yes baby’s are really the greatest gifts of life. ur videos really do make me smile ❤️ p.s have been following u since you were pregnant with Jackson as I was pregnant with my 3rd at the time who was also a boy 💙
Pull out method is not natural? In my opinion it is. 🙂 And to be forbidden to have sex in fertile days around ovulation is torture, because it's natural to have the greatest desire to have sex. 🙂 So, this is just my opinion and I understand anybody can have different one. 🙂 And I wish you health. Health to you and your family.
@@daniellelm3 Or you can have as many kids as your body can handle. Enjoy. ;-) The changes of your body will surprise you. Not a best way how to stay young. And the man will stay the same. Have you heard that men are able to see much better than to think? Use your brain to grasp point.
Thanks for sharing.If u practice NFP, like do we get the time to be intimate with each other without having to worry about getting preg,can we have sex multiple times?
Hi Kayla 💐 Congrats on baby nr4!! I have been here since Riley 😄 My husband and I tried doing NFP, first heard about it on your channel.... and then my body decided to ovulate earlier than normal (that was confirmed by my doctor) and boooom baby nr3 made her appearance 😂 She is now 5 months old and wow, what an amazing little blessing. I am so glad I have the opportunity to know this little one. She is so sweet!! The Lord has His own plans 😁
Is abortion allowed under your religion if you accidentally get pregnant? What if you have a baby with genetic problems, if abortion is allowed in this situation? Just curious. I'm not religious.
@@jlt1160 I mean there’s no specific earthly consequences like most churches won’t kick you out for going against the church’s teachings. They might advise you against doing xyz that goes against what we believe. At the end of the day, we all sin. We’re all sinners. But if you know the teachings of the church and then just choose not to follow them because they’re inconvenient, you’re in a state of mortal sin until you confess the sin, and if you’re in a state of mortal sin, you also shouldn’t receive communion.
I feel like I’m at my max capacity with two! I feel like having more would take away from my other two but im also 40, I had energy for it two years ago, but now having a two year old sounds hard, and I’m happy to be done with the baby phase. I have anxiety and I mentally can’t handle anymore, so we do pull out. My husband will not do it inside because he doesn’t want another and with my daughter I ovulated on day 9 when I normally ovulate on day 14, so the woman’s body can ovulate when there is stuff there. Pull out has worked with us, but there is still a chance God willing. We are Christian’s not Catholics.
You have more fertile years left than you have calculated. In perimenopause and in menopause you can still get pregnant. The problem for those women is that the hormonal inbalance which makes natural birth control totally insecure. Should women at 45, 50 or 55 stop haveing sex because they're to old becomeing a mom or just dont want to get pregnant at such an age? Just thoughts,no offense. Everybody do as you like.
No offense taken! They’re valid thoughts of yours! I struggle with those thoughts too! The thought of being 45+ and getting pregnant is terrifying, but I’m trusting that if Joe and I work consistently with a good NFP instructor, and abstain during our fertile periods (not forever), we’ll be able to avoid pregnancy and if we don’t, then that’s God’s will for us. I actually know a very faithful couple in our church who has grown children and the mom is 45 and yes, she’s having a baby. I’m sure she’s also terrified, but it’s still a gift 🤍
Who else is an atheist but really enjoys Kayla’s content and perspective? 🙋♀️
@@motherthinks 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Wow Kayla Buell! How far you've come lady! To hear you preach on freedom from fear and anxiety! Praise God for you and your platform and your growth! It's like watching my best friend grow up! You all have put in the work and it shows!
I love this! I am not a Catholic, but I actually started practicing NFP after your first video about this. Thank you so much for this content ❤😊
NFP-practing Catholic mom of 8 here!!! Being open to life and following the Church's teaching on marriage and children has been the best decision we've ever made!
Do you mind me asking if one of you had to be “persuaded”? We are converting as a family but my husband is less receptive to the idea of being open to life (coming around to the practice of NFP)
@@hannahhensley8497 God doesn’t call everyone to have 8 kids. We are catholic and use NFP and we have 3 kids 8,5 and 3. I am open to more however I do have some pelvic health issues currently so still abstaining on my fertile days.
@@daniellelm3 that’s of course understandable and I want to discern one by one, but I pray constantly for my husbands heart to be open to life like we’re called to be
Love this video and the way you explain it all ☺️ thank you for sharing about this! I 100% agree with you!
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate your input. As a parent of a child with developmental challenges that didn't show up until elementary school age, I am hesitant to take the risk. Because as children grow, things change and if I have too many and all have higher that ordinary needs, i can't begin to imagine how I would be 100% present and available for each child. So if anything, I'm trying to space the years in between them as much as possible.
You’re such a wonderful mother being mindful of your child’s needs.
I am so glad that you have the choice to have the family you want! That is all anyone wants, a choice to have the type of family that is right for them 😊
Love seeing more of who your are. Thank you for this! Great video.
I cant imagine living that kind of life, but i really respect you for being open about why you giys do what you do.
Love this so much. So well said! I love what you said about being in Heaven with our kids someday 😍 We are used to getting everything the easy way these days and having kids is not easy, so our generation doesn’t want to have more than 1 or 2 (or any at all!). But it’s so worth it!!
I get what your saying. But respectfully I think it’s reasonable and fair though for parents to want to save money for the kids they have and be able to have good experiences like vacations and doing things. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have money to have fun with the family you have.
Money isn’t a bad thing! I also don’t think it’s wrong for parents to want to have money to do fun things with their kids! I totally get that! But I do think it’s something that needs to be consistently discerned because money very quickly becomes an idol and if you’re making decisions like this one in particular based solely on how many extra financial things you can have or give to your children, then I think that may not be the correct heart posture. Just something we all need to pray about and discern for ourselves 🤍
Sorry for blowing up this comment section but I love this topic. I want to add too that the more children we have had, the more we see how such a gift a new sibling is to our current children. Better than a vacation. Of course there are many many many other factors to consider. But we have four children currently and they truly are best friends. Yes they bicker and fight at times but when they’re older I can never see them saying they wish they only had 2 siblings instead of 3 or 4 and went on another vacation or two. Just another perspective for someone struggling with that dilemma as I have in the past!
@@clairesanders1456you can’t say this yet because they aren’t older. A sibling does not ever mean a friend for life.
@@youtubeacc oh I know! But it’s worth it to my husband and I to take a chance and raise them well so they can be. I have four siblings and we are all so close I love it. So grateful.
@@KaylaBuellI appreciate you giving this outlook. I don’t know what I think about it yet, but I’ll have to pray and discern more about it.
Thanks for sharing your story! We wanted to stop at 2 and then the Lord had other plans ! We are on #5 . God gives us grace through the chaos.
Where did you get your shirt your wearing? Love it!
I got pregnant 5 month pp while ebf, I wasnt able to properly track my cycles as they were extremely irregular. I know this is going to be extremely challenging for us but we do have an amazing village.
We are in Australia so cost of living is WAAAAYYY higher than in America and definitely something we have to be aware of. Purchasing a house when the average house is a million dollars is out of reach for many. The more kids you have the less likely you are to get a rental and being homeless with lots of children seems extremly reckless.
I’m also in Aus so your comment caught my eye - from the recent data I’ve seen the ✨average✨ cost of living in the US is actually higher, but also it’s hard to measure on an individual level as in both countries it’s very dependent on location and such. Moral of the story is that I think every family needs to make a personal decision. I agree with your general points, however!
@@motherthinks My husband is American and we lived there for 6 years before I came back to Australia in 2023 to be with my family, we lived in the Midwest in the states and moved to the Gold Coast. Both our properties in the USA were around 300-350k. Anything worth buying on the GC is over a million. We spend way more on petrol, food, car registration ($1000 vs $50 lol) BUT healthcare in Australia is universal so definitely much much cheaper than in the states. That being said, we are a year in and still saving for our house - my husband bought his first house in the US 7 years ago at the age of 22, I'm not sure many Aussies could have afforded that at 22 even 7 years ago.
@ I’m on the GC too, hey local 🫶 Yeah I agree that property market is something that the US is winning at - especially if you consider what you actually get for your buck vs just the price of getting into home ownership. Otherwise it’s a complex comparison, for example QLD is not the best when it comes to wages and while prices here are lower than, say, VIC, it’s not “proportional”.
My comment will seem strongly opinionated but maybe it will also give sth to think about.
I’ve been following Kayla since Riley was 4 and I enjoyed her youtube channel anout everyday life with kids and in pandemic. Back then she seem fresh funny with energy. Eversince she moved to Miami all I see it’s been a gradual downhill - a exaggerated story about Jesus devotionals having more kids and more, growing longer hair dressing „ churchy look”. Life has shifted to religion centered one. It feels like watching amish family. it’s a change that i didn’t see coming and im afraid i will no longer watch this saga of 500 kids plus.
I love this comment , I’ve been watching her for a while and the clearly forced in your face 24/7 Jesus talk is offensive in my opinion, because it’s not genuine it’s just to push the more kids narrative and it’s so cringe to watch . It’s just all overkill. And it’s crazy because her channel is dead compared to when she wasn’t pushing religion down our throats . Been unsubscribed for a few years.
me watching this with my husband making sure he’s listening 🐸😂
@@jigmama 😂😂😂
Crazy how I just asked god for a sign on if we should have another one and this popped up on my feed 🤔💕
@@Yamela21 the Holy Spirit tends to work that way 😉
As a conservative family, how do you both feel about sharing so much of your children online?
I answered that question in the last Q+A :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Have them babies. I love watching your journey 😂❤
We’ve practiced NFP for our entire almost 10 years of marriage and I have four little ones and I have found that I tell myself I am “done” after each one, until we no longer feel like we’re done 😂 . I have mild HG during my pregnancies so it’s my way of coping lol.
I have to let myself and my husband mentally prepare for each pregnancy.
I love large families though
I love this video and your heart posture on this challenging topic. You're not insane! Your submission to Church teaching and your faith in God's plan is inspiring, you have a very sensible view on this. I'm hoping to begin RCIA next month and am due with my next baby shortly after I will join the Church at Easter this year, God-willing. My husband is agnostic and I wish we could be so aligned on this topic.
I love that you did this video on natural planning. I think more people should be educated on this. It's not just a Christian standpoint, but birth control is really horrible for our bodies. I haven't been on it for 10 years. I have 1 child, and it was planned.
My opinion is my reasoning for not having another child whether it’s because of health finances or wanting to be able to give the children I have a nice life its no one else’s business but mine and my husbands. Life is short I’m not worried about what other people think about my decisions.
Love this video! We are at 4 and done ❤ I think 4 is enough especially in these days but that’s my opinion 😊
We have four and I got rid of all my baby stuff, but now almost two years later we are considering a 5th…😅😅
Explanation & your thoughts 👌🏻
Awesome video! ❤️
Thank you! 🤍
I’ve been following you for a few years now and although I may not fully understand your form of living/parenting, I do respect you. I have 3 kids now and I am DONE!!!! 3 was too many for me. 😂
Thanks for sharing! We waited before trying for a second and we’ve been having unexplained infertility issues. Praying we will be blessed with some more littles soon
Praying for you!! Hoping you can get some answers soon!
How did you guys get on the same page with NFP and being open to life? We’re new to Church teachings (and not confirmed yet) and I’m totally on board but my husband is dragging his feet. A lot of praying for his heart to be softened and turned towards Jesus rather than just letting me “be right”! Lol
I found out yesterday that I am pregnant with my second baby, my little girl is 3 weeks older then Sean, I'm watching you all the way from South Africa
@@AliciaBeck-j2t awwww yayyy!! Congratulations!!!!!
@@KaylaBuellthank you
I’m not religious but loved hearing your view! I’m contemplating on having my second😂
It's kind of crazy to me how up in arms people get about how many kids someone else decides to have. It doesn't affect anyone but you and your family how many kids you have so people need to chill.
Loved this! I have 2 boys and going back and forth. Out having a third. Definitely scary.
As a non catholic heavily considering getting my tubes tied this was a really interesting perspective. I appreciate you sharing your journey and being so open on a tricky topic!
I think you should open your heart to God and see the kind of wonders he can do for you. There is so much more to life that we don’t see, but with him a lot is possible. Much love and blessings ❤
I would love more children but my last pregnancy ended with a placental abruption at 30 weeks and an emergency c section, 6 week nicu stay and a lifetime of trauma. She was my 4th and I just can't put my life at risk for my other children nor can I handle the trauma again since I have an increased risk of future abruptions.
@@maureenhouriganas a Christian I will probably be getting my tubes tied after my current pregnancy. All high risk pregnancies and God has seen my struggles and too many close calls to death related to pregnancy.
Also NFP Catholic mama here, also pregnant with baby #4 🥰
Thanks for posting this Kayla.
I’m not remotely religious (may be why I’ve had so much pregnancy loss 🙃) but I’ve always found it really interesting when you talk about your faith and in some ways I am very jealous of your commitment to God. I am sure you’ve educated a lot of people and I really appreciate learning about different beliefs/POVs.
Wishing you all the best with this pregnancy 🩷
If you seriously think that you have had miscarriages because of your lack of religion in life I’d go speak to someone about that. You do realize people that are religious experience miscarriages too right?
@ Thanks Jenny. I’m sorry that you weren’t able to detect the sarcasm in my comment.
I know many people who have been through recurrent pregnancy loss will relate to questioning every little thing they do and wondering if it’s ‘the’ cause of their losses.
Kayla do you listen to the Messy Family Podcast? You and Joe would love it!
Loved this conversation!! We need more women talking about this. Thank you!
@@clairesanders1456 I don’t! But I’ll have to check it out!
@@KaylaBuellIt’s amazing! They are a Catholic couple with ten children and they are so down to earth and practical. Perfect for your stage of life. They have changed mine and my husbands life on getting through these years of raising little kids! Plus tons of marriage and family advice.
Great video, thanks for sharing. You communicated that so clearly, I have been wondering about this exact topic. Side note, I found your comment about the worldview: money is a blessing and children are a burden, very profound.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this! Super helpful and all great reminders of truth. The world’s perspective won’t help us when discerning these things. I definitely needed to hear this today❤
Milenia is going on baby number 5 so hey if your able to maintain them and feel mentally ready to have a lot of kids I think it’s something that is personal to everyone God bless
Thank you Kayla for sharing your wisdom about having children from a biblical perspective.
I commend you and other parents who have more than 1 or 2 kids and make it work, and aren't completely crazy 😂
I'm a single mom (by choice) of an almost 2.5 year old boy... And I'm exhausted, he's so wild!
I also can't afford another on my own.. So for now it's just us..
This video is quite all over the place. First thought: there’s a video (a few years ago) where you are packing for a road trip to Miami and mentioned the items going in your makeup bag/toiletry bag. You verbally said “my birth control” for one of the items you were packing. I’m confused. Were you not catholic then?
Second: it’s okay (and responsible) to consider your own mental health when it comes to having more children. Especially for women who have a history of Post Partum Depression/Anxiety. It’s okay to take autonomy of your own life. It’s not selfish. Everything just can’t be up to Jesus. Your kids need a healthy mom over more siblings, any day.
100% agree with this comment! A healthy mum is so very important to your already existing precious children.
@@amyrashid4106She talks about that in the video if you watched it all.
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That money analogy is right on point. It shows the unfortunate state of our society. As Catholics we’re so blessed to have the guidance of the church to fulfill our Lord’s will and as you said not stand in his way.
I was on the fence about having baby #3 and I thought we'd put it in God's hands and give it One shot. Boom 💥 pregnant! on the last day of the ovulation window.
Has anyone done NFP with irregular periods? My periods are so irregular its normal for me to skip a month with a period. It used to be normal for me to go a year without a period. This is why I didnt realize I was pregnant the forst time until 6 months. I didnt gain weight, I didn't look pregnant, I didn't have morning sickness, and I didn't feel my daughter move until 6 months.
I would love to do this. It's not for religious purposes but just not wanting to put drugs into my system. I'm not ready for the whole tubes tied or vasectomy. I would like 1 more kid, but would like to wait until we are in a better financial situation.
We are christian and we do natural family planning . We are pregnant with #2
Congratulations!!!
@@KaylaBuellI am also praying my hubby changes his mind. He said we can have 3 but I want 4 also.
So do you actively check your ovulations dates and stuff? Because sometimes our bodies can ovulate earlier and later. That’s a risk all the time, especially if you’re using absolutely no protection (not even pull out). So if that’s the case, that stuff can stay in you for up to 6 days. Don’t you have to be kind of perfect in not doing it certain days or do you completely abstain for long periods of time to prevent that?
@@sabrinatrammell2094 Yes I keep close watch on my cycles. Fertile mucous, ovulation strips and basal body temp. It’s not too difficult once you get used to it. We’ve practiced it for ten years now. Like Kayla mentioned there’s reasoning behind what we do what we do as Catholics . TMI but our sex life is still amazing and actually way better than if I was on birth control or manipulating my fertility. If we are avoiding pregnancy we abstain 6 days before my ovulation and then after that occurs we have many more days open for sex. If we are open to another child it’s easy to find my fertile window and try for pregnancy. I am 34 and have four children.
@@sabrinatrammell2094 yea when you’re actively practicing nfp and using an nfp method you’re checking daily for different things, depending on which method you’re using. When I used the sympto-thermal method for example, I had to check my temperature and cervical mucus at different times in the day so it’s not like you’re just looking at a calendar. You’re reading signs that your body gives you, and then using that to determine your fertile window and that’s what an NFP teacher/coach helps you do.
@ ahhh I see! That makes sense! I was thinking like ovulation strips everyday but yes body signs are a great way to keep track too, didn’t think about that 🤣 thank you for your input!
Where’s your shirt from? 🙂
How often do you initiate and how often does he initiate?
This video was just perfectly said 🥰
Omg I just started researching NFP lol and you just popped up
Yayy! Glad you found this!
I appreciate your taking the time to make this video and explain, Kayla! I am not religious at all, my husband is Catholic but not practicing and so needless to say we don't practice NFP, but I appreciate your explaining everything! You do what works for you❤ We are done with baby #2 for many reasons, mostly financial but also support wise. We have almost no support and I need to work at minimum part time with two...childcare is tricky with only one grandparent near us to count on and literally no one else 😅
Hi! Honest question: is there any room for flexibility in terms of using contraceptive methods? For example, what if a woman can't get pregnant, like, getting pregnant would impose potentially deadly consequences, or the couple carries a rare gene that is not compatible with life, things like that, that technically wouldn't leave room for an "oops" baby (especially if they already have kids), can the couple still be part of the church even if medically they must use contraception????
@@24Maoli I’m not well versed enough to know what the church says in specific cases like that, but that would definitely be something a couple should sit and discuss with a priest 🤍
If I was you I'd go ask your priest or preacher. She is no where near an expert on the matter and still supports Disney.
@@bossmama7069😂 I know, I’m truly the worst.
@@KaylaBuell Thank you for still answering, though! ☺️ I figured it was a way too specific question but I was still curious. I was raised catholic and I had never heard of NFP. Thank you for always sharing, I love learning about other people's pointsn of view 🙏
As one of five, I feel like my parents were selfish. It almost always boils down to money.
I agree with this. People can say money isn’t everything but honestly, it is. It’s selfish to not live within your means even for family planning. You also have to admit when you have more kids than you can mentally handle. I would rather give my 1 child the absolute best life rather than 2+ kids an ok life.
@@youtubeaccyes!!! Why not want to give all of your attention and love to the ones you have than give just enough to 3+
@@youtubeaccThis is an interesting take because every only child that I know grew up wishing they had siblings and now have to bear the sole responsibility for the care of their aging parents
It's your life and your family living by God! Don't let anyone's opinion steer you from what you believe is right. Love your channel! May God bless you abundantly.
As a Christian I guess it's hard for me to understand that if u can't afford more children, u must abstain from sex for most of the month. Even then, a woman could get pregnant. And if there are good reasons not to get pregnant- health reasons, cost, etc....then it would really be risky to have sex at any point in the month. That is not the natural way of things between a husband and a wife- in my opinion. The way u r explaining it, the sole purpose of sex is then to create a child. I am not expecting u to defend this at all- it is just hard to understand it.
Yea I totally get where you’re coming from and it’s hard! But 1000% at least as Catholics we believe that God created sex to be unitive between husband and wife AND procreative so you can’t separate one from the other. Not to say that every time you have sex you have to get pregnant but that’s the reason for intimacy between husband and wife. Again, a lot of the resources I linked in the description box explain it so much better than I ever will but I get that it’s hard to understand because i struggled with it for a whileeee!
I think what people miss in these situations is that NFP is actually like 99% effective. It takes a little work and knowledge to get up to speed with it, but it is very effective! Birth control is not 100% effective either.
@@clairesanders1456 yep! It does take a lot of work and you DO need to learn about it and learn your body and learn the protocols and then actually execute the protocols, but when done correctly, it can be very effective.
@@KaylaBuell I think that a married couple has urges and it's unnatural to withhold those urges- I don't think that's healthy at all.............
@@clairesanders1456 I think that if a couple decides that either mentally or financially they cannot support another child then I think they should be allowed to surgery to completely prevent that from happening. If having another child is detrimental in any way, surgery should be allowed.
What are your thought on ivf or iui due to not able to have more children naturally?
Hi Kayla! Idk why but thank you for this video needed some advice I have 6 beautiful children and maybe want to be pregnant again but that’s how god works 😊
Thanks for sharing this with us😊 I loved hearing your perspective! (Currently pregnant with baby #3) found your channel when I was first pregnant with my 2020 baby ❤ anyways this pregnancy was unexpected and tbh did take me time at the beginning to fully be happy with this blessing god sent while having my hands full already. Seeing this video felt nice ❤
Hey, we are Christian and do NFP. ❤ i could never imagine hindering my body's natural cycle that God created for a purpose.
I also don’t use birth control for religious reasons. I currently have 4 kids 5 and under and i have a lot of people keep telling me to get my tubes tied. I feel like my husband and i hit max capacity, but i plan to use nfp. People can accidentally get pregnant using birth control as well.
Its not issue if parents dont want to have more children if they're happy in giving a fulfilling life with the chidlren to have they do have.
Its too complicated but i respect your beliefs. Iam orthodox christian n Iam a true believer in god. N god want us to be near him talk to him he is our father he wont ask us to put our selves in a situation to bring too much babies. I have three children n iam happy to have n raise them. I red the bible many times. Jesus wants us to believe in him n to be like him as much as we can n Jesus will lead us. So the most important thing to be a believer in Jesus n thats it.
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Good morning friends! 🎉❤
Good morning!
Love your videos Kayla and congratulations on ur pregnancy may the most high bless u with a beautiful healthy baby and keep u in the best of health Ameen🥰❤️ I am of Muslim faith and everything what u was saying is very similar in that sense regarding children. so I 💯 am with u and get u! im also pregnant now with my 5th but my last baby had passed away just over a year ago who would have been 2 in Feb 💙 babies truly are a blessing and wen u have faith and believe that everything is by god-will this is why we will view things in a diff way to most ppl without it. I kept saying after my 4th no more but after I had him I still had this maternal instinct of feeling like I would love to have another 1. Then due to the loss of my last baby I still knew i wanted another but was fearful understandably but the truth is we plan and god plans and god is the greatest of planners always 😊❤️ oh and the only diff regarding birth control with Muslims is that we can use natural methods such as condoms or pull out method phew 😅 lol but yes baby’s are really the greatest gifts of life. ur videos really do make me smile ❤️
p.s have been following u since you were pregnant with Jackson as I was pregnant with my 3rd at the time who was also a boy 💙
Pull out method is not natural? In my opinion it is. 🙂 And to be forbidden to have sex in fertile days around ovulation is torture, because it's natural to have the greatest desire to have sex. 🙂 So, this is just my opinion and I understand anybody can have different one. 🙂 And I wish you health. Health to you and your family.
He’s pulling out at the best part. Lol that’s crazy IMO
@@daniellelm3 Or you can have as many kids as your body can handle. Enjoy. ;-) The changes of your body will surprise you. Not a best way how to stay young. And the man will stay the same. Have you heard that men are able to see much better than to think? Use your brain to grasp point.
Thanks for sharing.If u practice NFP, like do we get the time to be intimate with each other without having to worry about getting preg,can we have sex multiple times?
Also not true that those methods of NFP are highly effective. Absolutely notz
Scientifically yes it is.
@ if you base ” yr science” on what dr google will tell you …
Hi Kayla 💐 Congrats on baby nr4!! I have been here since Riley 😄 My husband and I tried doing NFP, first heard about it on your channel.... and then my body decided to ovulate earlier than normal (that was confirmed by my doctor) and boooom baby nr3 made her appearance 😂 She is now 5 months old and wow, what an amazing little blessing. I am so glad I have the opportunity to know this little one. She is so sweet!! The Lord has His own plans 😁
Is abortion allowed under your religion if you accidentally get pregnant? What if you have a baby with genetic problems, if abortion is allowed in this situation? Just curious. I'm not religious.
@@ruiwang3144 no, abortion isn’t allowed. The Catholic Church is 100% pro-life since we acknowledge that life begins at conception.
You’re amazing for explaining this. I do think children are a blessing and a gift and we should embrace it. God bless your family
Why don't you send your kids to school so you have more time on your hands
How about your and your husband age ? Having babies in your fourties is not fun
I’m 34 and Joe is 41
Thanks for sharing! What are the consequences from the church if you chose to have your tubes tied or use other birth control?
@@jlt1160 I mean there’s no specific earthly consequences like most churches won’t kick you out for going against the church’s teachings. They might advise you against doing xyz that goes against what we believe. At the end of the day, we all sin. We’re all sinners. But if you know the teachings of the church and then just choose not to follow them because they’re inconvenient, you’re in a state of mortal sin until you confess the sin, and if you’re in a state of mortal sin, you also shouldn’t receive communion.
@ thanks so much!
@@jlt1160anytime 🤍
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Can you link your shirt ☺️
I’m a Christian and I agree with everything you shared. Thank you!
Thank YOU for being here! 😘
Great video thank you🫶😊
@@Laney_L. thanks for watching!
I feel like I’m at my max capacity with two! I feel like having more would take away from my other two but im also 40, I had energy for it two years ago, but now having a two year old sounds hard, and I’m happy to be done with the baby phase. I have anxiety and I mentally can’t handle anymore, so we do pull out. My husband will not do it inside because he doesn’t want another and with my daughter I ovulated on day 9 when I normally ovulate on day 14, so the woman’s body can ovulate when there is stuff there. Pull out has worked with us, but there is still a chance God willing. We are Christian’s not Catholics.
You have more fertile years left than you have calculated.
In perimenopause and in menopause you can still get pregnant. The problem for those women is that the hormonal inbalance which makes natural birth control totally insecure. Should women at 45, 50 or 55 stop haveing sex because they're to old becomeing a mom or just dont want to get pregnant at such an age? Just thoughts,no offense. Everybody do as you like.
No offense taken! They’re valid thoughts of yours! I struggle with those thoughts too! The thought of being 45+ and getting pregnant is terrifying, but I’m trusting that if Joe and I work consistently with a good NFP instructor, and abstain during our fertile periods (not forever), we’ll be able to avoid pregnancy and if we don’t, then that’s God’s will for us. I actually know a very faithful couple in our church who has grown children and the mom is 45 and yes, she’s having a baby. I’m sure she’s also terrified, but it’s still a gift 🤍
Just a quick correction...you can't get pregnant during menopause. You are no longer fertile....at all. Perimenopause you absolutely still can.
Your a great mom
Thanks!
😮😨😨😨😨 the PULL OUT METHOD....THE PULL OUT METHOD!!!? I thought that was part of NFP cuz its natural..😅😢😭😭😭😩🫠🫠🫠cant believe it!
lol don’t kill the messenger 😂