Relationships, Shadow Love, Healing Trauma, Passport Bros, & Marriage with 19 KEYS & STEPHEN SPEAKS

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  • Опубліковано 31 тра 2024
  • 19KEYS presents High Level Conversations to bring you into the high frequency of speech and communication to elevate your mindset and value.
    S3E3 Ft. Stephan Speaks
    Featured Guest Bio: Stephan Labossiere, AKA Stephan Speaks, is a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. From understanding the opposite sex to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self-growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight help countless individuals achieve an amazing and authentic life. Dedicated to helping and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward yet compassionate delivery style attracts a varied clientele, including notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth! Stephan has been seen, heard, and chronicled in national and international media outlets, including the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few.
    This Episode:
    This episode goes high level into the conversation of our understanding of fixing the misconceptions of the dynamics of relationships, recognizing styles of attachment, developing a healthy self-view, identifying the root of past trauma and its correlation to our present lives, the importance of honesty and transparency in relationships, and creating strategies to attract and maintain long term relationships.
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    Website: www.stephanspeaks.com/
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    He is a believer in the unlimited human potential, and he aims to help more and more people realize their full potential. His mantra is “slaveship to ownership.” Growing up in Oakland, California as a Muslim of African-American origins, he had to face a lot of difficulties. Many people around him lost their lives due to poverty which motivated him to work harder and secure a better future.
    19KEYS is a global thought leader and one of the pioneers in the space of Web 3, business, mindset, holistic wealth, tech , metaphysics and financial literacy; having millions of followers across the globe. 19KEYS is known for his relentless efforts in matters of wealth creation, especially for the youth. One of his initiatives has funded over 5 million student investment accounts.
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    00:00 Intro
    04:33 No Nonsense
    06:11 The State of Healthy Conversations
    11:11 Exploring Our Shadow Self
    16:33 Connecting to the Real You
    17:55 The Baseline of Happiness
    20:48 The Arranged Self
    29:11 Anti-Love Culture, Rights of Passage, and the Logic of Love
    39:33 The Great Customization of Human Beings
    43:33 Making Peace with the Pain of Your Past
    45:55 Healing the Hurt: No Longer Triggered By Trauma
    50:22 Balancing Acts: Principles of the Divine Masculine and Feminine
    01:00:33 Going Against Yourself
    01:03:11 The Fall From Grace: Removing Hero Expectations
    01:12:00 The Multitudinous Styles of Attachment
    01:19:11 Promiscuous or Polygamous?
    01:33:11 Cohabitation: Shaking Up the Concept of Shacking Up
    01:43:55 The Effects of Microwavable Results
    01:48:44 For the Love of Love or Fetish?
    01:54:33 Settled Love
    02:01:40 Innerstanding the Flow of Energy
    02:06:44 Passport Bros and the Quest for Love
    02:09:11 The Globalization of Love
    02:11:33 Putting in Work
    02:19:55 Customization vs. Generalization
    02:28:44 Spiritual Compatibility
    02:33:22 Soul Ties and Shadow Love
    02:36:22 A True Reflection of Self
    02:46:11 The Power of the Provider
    02:54:00 Mind Sex: Reducing Stress to Enhance the Experience
    02:58:44 Feminine Flow: The Art of Seduction
    03:02:00 Appreciating the Beauty in the Differences

КОМЕНТАРІ • 1 тис.

  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks Рік тому +805

    Glad to have been able to join 19Keys for this high level conversation. I pray everyone finds this video helpful 🙏🏾

  • @thikknikk2289
    @thikknikk2289 Рік тому +328

    Women instinctively become masculine when we realize we’re not being protected.
    We can’t help it. I hear you guys saying we NEED to be feminine all the time but different circumstances causes a different response 🤷🏽‍♀️.

    • @nolaninger3942
      @nolaninger3942 11 місяців тому +73

      Yeah I noticed this with my woman. After I came into her life and provided that natural masculine energy she’s been able to step all the way into her femininity

    • @rl3069
      @rl3069 11 місяців тому

      I agree 100%. The powers that be (see sources like The Willie Lynch Letter and the Leopold from Belgium's letter to the missionaries.) have intentionally reversed the roles of the Black man& Black woman. They have destabilized the people, given them and idol god& sabotaging the original family structure designed by our Creator. The result has been effeminate Black men who are either homosexual (I say this in truth& not to harm anyone) or effeminate Black men who are heterosexual and/or brainwashed+ hypersexualized-want too many Black women but can't take care of self nor them OR doesn't want a Black woman at all and prefers non melanated women because he was not properly taught how to reproduce a 100% replica of himself. Those type of men are incapable of physically and spiritually protecting/providing for our Black women. This has caused Black women to become what they never were to be- masculine, homosexuals/lesbians/butches/ bad mouthing or rebellious towards the Black men, etc. It takes a wise man (husband) and spiritually conscious/awakened Black man to provide for/protect/cover/teach/shape/mold his woman (wife) so that she can righteously submit to her man and comfortably operate in her natural femininity that the Creator embedded in her DNA. When our people overstand this and stop engaging in gender wars our oppressors taught us to highlight, we can improve and rise as a nation of people world wide.

    • @camilleandriette
      @camilleandriette 11 місяців тому +6

      Agree!

    • @mizzneek518
      @mizzneek518 11 місяців тому +5

      Yes Sis,my thoughts exactly.

    • @Wingedlion111
      @Wingedlion111 11 місяців тому +6

      This💯

  • @TommyBright825
    @TommyBright825 Рік тому +459

    Love this, I’m 20 yrs old and I want to be good husband and father one day. I want to use my 20s to build the man I know I need to be when that time comes. It’s get hard and lonely sometimes but it will be worth it. This video made feel better about focusing on myself and trying overcome my problems so I don’t put them all on my partner. Thank you guys keep going!!!!

    • @carlosw22av
      @carlosw22av Рік тому +20

      Good job bro. You have a bright future ahead of you

    • @TommyBright825
      @TommyBright825 Рік тому +7

      @Palm Tr33 Goddess 🌴 thank you so much!

    • @Sarabimakeda
      @Sarabimakeda Рік тому +10

      Proud of you. I’m glad you can learn from what doesn’t work and focus on building you, knowing yourself so that you’ll know for sure that is right for you in a wife.

    • @greaterishe7197
      @greaterishe7197 Рік тому +8

      That's HONORABLE young man 💪

    • @Seznumerouno
      @Seznumerouno Рік тому +6

      Self awareness and self development is so important now. Preparing yourself for a wife. Understanding what your values are and learn and observe.

  • @Bunsinbundles
    @Bunsinbundles Рік тому +179

    Being authentic is best. Let a person love you for who you’re.

    • @elizabethbutler8641
      @elizabethbutler8641 Рік тому +3

      Scary thing. Lol. Learning to show ALL my parts...and OWN them.

    • @DominicWimbley
      @DominicWimbley Рік тому +3

      Facts definitely the best recipe for both parties' long run

    • @naimahx3643
      @naimahx3643 9 місяців тому

      My goofy ass thought you said being autistic smh 😂

  • @aworlds1
    @aworlds1 Рік тому +56

    “Not everyone is entitled to a relationship “ - POWERFUL.

    • @uka1100
      @uka1100 Рік тому +6

      Lol wow I literally read this comment soon as Stephen said it 🔥🔥

    • @growden100
      @growden100 8 місяців тому +1

      So true

  • @jazzmineloreal
    @jazzmineloreal Рік тому +85

    A high-level relationship event would be really great!

  • @lenasade
    @lenasade Рік тому +115

    Thank you Keys for always loving on us Black woman! We appreciate you

    • @marclewis102
      @marclewis102 Рік тому +14

      As a black man we love you to life. Ase’

  • @ItsDaz_duh
    @ItsDaz_duh 11 місяців тому +42

    The first half of this conversation really made me sad. The realization that we live in such a loveless, transactional world is heartbreaking. It’s hard for those of us who truly live in our heart chakra and view the world from a love centered perspective.

    • @MIZJEEZYBLEEZY
      @MIZJEEZYBLEEZY 8 місяців тому +7

      Manifest baby. -there is a man out there that will appreciate you. Be specific and grateful in your heart while visualizing WHO YOU NEED TO BE to attract that man that you desire.

    • @purposedpatience6597
      @purposedpatience6597 8 місяців тому +3

      Well said❤️ I overstand 🙏🏽

    • @csimmons8436
      @csimmons8436 7 місяців тому +3

      Seriously it’s so upsetting

    • @TomikaKelly
      @TomikaKelly 7 місяців тому +3

      Yeah, I got rid of those rose colored glasses in my early 20s. Life has become much less "lovely", but much more productive.

    • @isisinreallife3009
      @isisinreallife3009 3 місяці тому

      Honestly you should go and listen to PRINCELLA the queen maker, she will really open your eyes 👀

  • @Bunsinbundles
    @Bunsinbundles Рік тому +102

    We all have masculine and feminine in us. Embracing both and knowing how to bring them out at the appropriate times is definitely is necessary but sometimes we bring them out at the wrong time and it can come off offensive to your partner. So knowing your partner and accepting both and expressing them at the right times is definitely important.

    • @ldean9595
      @ldean9595 Рік тому +15

      Simple, it's that simple Idk why there needs to be 1000 podcasts about relationships, go where you're appreciated and equally yolked

    • @TamikaSmalls
      @TamikaSmalls Рік тому +9

      You are speaking facts and men are loosing their feminine energy and it's causing toxic relationships.

    • @judahlion3330
      @judahlion3330 Рік тому

      I want masculine energy to the max

    • @MsDeDe
      @MsDeDe Рік тому +1

      I agree 👏🏾

  • @thekhronichustla1959
    @thekhronichustla1959 Рік тому +43

    Been married to my husband since 22….. turned 33 this year and we are still doing our thang! We look at social media , look at our children and am FEARFUL of the current brainwash smh !!!! Great conversation

    • @global-novelty
      @global-novelty Рік тому +2

      That’s great and I’m happy for y’all. Also i think it is very nice that you shared that with the world. More people need to hear/see more of this type of love & relationships. And Know that it is realistic and could be the norm. Nowadays we see and hear more about the toxic and bad relationships that go wrong.

    • @charlesjackson6485
      @charlesjackson6485 Рік тому

      Bless up

  • @jenniferantigua
    @jenniferantigua Рік тому +53

    This conversation was extremely helpful for me. I am a woman who has had to live in her masculinity, & within this conversation I have realized why I have always attracted men that I eventually felt like I became the "mother" to. Thank you 19 keys & Stephen for doing God's work and bringing awareness to all of us! I am extremely grateful.

  • @janetlsackey
    @janetlsackey Рік тому +50

    19 Keys, with respect, please provide the space for your guest to talk more. We get that you are a Thought Leader but please ask them more questions. You legit go on monologues for 3 minutes - 10 minutes

    • @tkeycheskincare
      @tkeycheskincare 11 місяців тому +7

      Yesss he's asking a question, and then he answers for the guest. He talked way more than the guest.

    • @tkeycheskincare
      @tkeycheskincare 11 місяців тому +8

      ​@@michellepusey3613😂😂😂he's definitely interviewing himself

    • @1trudiva
      @1trudiva 11 місяців тому +4

      Didn’t even let the professional talk much.

    • @lulu07Lulu
      @lulu07Lulu 10 місяців тому +3

      Glad someone said it.

    • @aprillee2593
      @aprillee2593 10 місяців тому +11

      I agree He did this more with Stephen than any other guest because Stephen is not misogynistic but 19 key is. 19 keys has more work to do with the way he views women/relationships/marriages.

  • @ourtruth216
    @ourtruth216 11 місяців тому +21

    When he mentioned the suppressed shadow self as a child. It really hit me and completely changed my entire outlook on everything I do. I was extremely physically abused as a child and I had to always pretend I was okay. Always hiding bruises and scars and pretending my body was okay when I was in severe pain. I remember recently saying to myself I kind of lost track of who I was because I’m still pretending to this day. Working a job I hate being around dishonest hatful ppl at work. It makes me shut down and I keep quiet to myself to avoid it, just as I was a child. I couldn’t fight with my mother so I would try my hardest to stay as quiet as I possibly could to avoid it even though it never worked. I guess now I realize that, I get to get comfortable with finding my voice and using it.

    • @soldier_of_love
      @soldier_of_love 6 місяців тому

      Learning assertiveness and setting boundaries have helped me with how I show up authentically. Sending many blessings on your journey to rediscovery. 🎉❤

  • @lavenderknight872
    @lavenderknight872 Рік тому +26

    Stephen truly believes in love Keys is just worried about mating

  • @rachellepierre000
    @rachellepierre000 Рік тому +60

    19 Keys, allow the guest to answer and elaborate when you present the guest with a question. It will truly be High Level before you give your point of view.

    • @mzbrown6969
      @mzbrown6969 Рік тому +25

      Right because Stephen is way more informed on this topic and I would have rather heard him speak more.

    • @evolvinglove7786
      @evolvinglove7786 Рік тому +13

      I thought it was just me. Definitely not a strength. Stephen is a great listener.

    • @DnewNancy
      @DnewNancy Рік тому +21

      That is how I feel with all of these conversations… it’s always Keys monopolizing the conversation

    • @daR2daO2daZ
      @daR2daO2daZ Рік тому +14

      I thought it was just me I couldn't get through it cause Keys loves hearing himself talk When your guest is the expert Sir You simply can NOT be the expert on errrr single thing You learn when you listen Try It pppplease 🙏🏿

    • @herher8769
      @herher8769 11 місяців тому +5

      Yes! He talks too damn much. " ya understand me" 😂😂😂 Like dude shutup and let the guest speak.

  • @geminirising633
    @geminirising633 11 місяців тому +8

    This is where it gets REAL GOOD!!!!! These men just helped me heal decades of trauma and pain. 35:14

  • @iamcalledirenechaliz-lopez
    @iamcalledirenechaliz-lopez Рік тому +54

    I totally AGREE...children need at least one parent when they come home from school. I didn't do many "things" because my mother was home until I became an adult!

    • @clarkkent2005
      @clarkkent2005 9 місяців тому +2

      Can you please provide the time stamps to that part of the convo?

    • @ass4and8am
      @ass4and8am 7 місяців тому

      Also on which part that was?

  • @kila0419
    @kila0419 Рік тому +5

    The talk about the poly relationship is so mundane. When you are speaking on relationships on a spiritual level their is no room for more than the divine feminine and the divine masculine. Y’all letting these earthly pleasures fool y’all. So many unhealed and unawakened people giving advice from a wounded place . Never let any relationship be ruled by fear. Only guided by love

  • @MindYourOwn777
    @MindYourOwn777 Рік тому +41

    Yes please do create HLC love and dating events where high vibrational singles can meet. Just please make sure that there is an equal amount of men and women so that it's not just mostly women and that the people there genuinely are looking for love and commitment, marriage, etc.

    • @priestgirl
      @priestgirl Рік тому +3

      Indeed!!!😊

    • @NakedwithNakeda
      @NakedwithNakeda 11 місяців тому

      How do you suggest we get men to show up? Women appear to show up effortlessly. My guys I have to get creative for them to show up

    • @la-leopard-lady
      @la-leopard-lady 9 місяців тому

      THIS! As a woman who knows she is a Goddess and is living in a rural, all-vanilla, small town, I don’t know where I will ever meet a highly intelligent, traditional black man who knows he is a God and is in his empowered divine masculine energy. There aren’t even any black men of any kind where I live. I have started going on all-black dating apps and also ‘millionaire’ dating apps, but I have noticed that there are almost no men who are spiritually high level on these apps, even if they are high level in other ways, and that is absolutely a dealbreaker for me. Please start a Black Gods & Goddesses dating app or something.

  • @pinkclouds8291
    @pinkclouds8291 Рік тому +51

    I love how Stephan was able to stand ground on a lot of views that someone less articulate may have just nodded off. Great build!

  • @flatout1017
    @flatout1017 Рік тому +8

    This is deep. My first date with my lady I took her to see Shahrazad Ali. And we also read her book together. It was powerful.

  • @fredadthedisfordelightful9394
    @fredadthedisfordelightful9394 Рік тому +21

    God's and Goddesses both share the message 👍🏾👍🏾

  • @christy2504
    @christy2504 8 місяців тому +3

    19KEYS I can't believe you're in your early 30's! Your mindset definitely isn't on the average level of the young men that's your age today. You're definitely high level! I'm so thrilled of all y'all wisdom and knowledge! Your parents must be very proud of you. 😊 Continue to elevate and help many others. Continue to be the leader that you are 🎉❤

  • @shay8782
    @shay8782 Рік тому +18

    Interesting discussion here…This really goes to show just how messy things can get when there’s no standards in place, no character developed, no morals to observe. When left alone to develop our own rules of engagement, it’s not good.

    • @EButta71
      @EButta71 Рік тому +3

      I feel so bad because my 2 nieces and 1 nephew-all siblings aren't being taught ANYTHING by their Dad who is a single father because their Mom left years ago and my mom in law passed two years ago who really was their parent. Me and my husband try to intervene but my brother in law is arrogant so we backed off 😢 So sad, we check in on the kids often but their not being exposed to ANYTHING 😢 He's just creating low self esteem adults who will be thirsty from attention from others. We pray over them daily. Sorry just venting.

    • @theagaveway.990
      @theagaveway.990 11 місяців тому

      Yup up o
      U

    • @theagaveway.990
      @theagaveway.990 11 місяців тому

      Yyi

  • @richbabe7836
    @richbabe7836 Рік тому +9

    I love you 19! And I know, appreciate and understand that this is a “conversation”.. but I think Stephen maybe had 30% of the conversation. Ijs I would have liked to hear Stephen, you know, land his plane. ❤- with LOVE!! GREAT EPISODE ❤️ Thank you always for your content! I watch every episode!!

  • @TheBohemianFarmHealingRanch
    @TheBohemianFarmHealingRanch Рік тому +13

    I am so PROUD to see how ACCOUNTABLE you have become, how MATURE and I am here for it. Thank you for standing up for HEALING. It is good to see you encouraging our black men to accept that MENTAL HEALTH is necessary AND it will only achieve through intentional healing. Seeing a therapist to talk or vent about your issues is not something to be a shame about. It shows that as man you are taking accountability for your part in the BROKENNESS and the failure of our black communities across the earth.

  • @AChristianLife
    @AChristianLife Рік тому +5

    Yes polygamous relationships came from cultures that needed to have more than one woman assigned to a territory where more children were needed to profit the plan we are not in or on the plantation anymore, nor in the times or dispensation where women had to assign their dowry under the trust of their husbands as overseer and executor. It was a set up of more dowry more collaborative profit more wives more children thus a kingdom created. This is what we must understand about history of our ancestors and how some of our communities/kingdoms were established. Yahweh’s plan for one dispensation is not the same for all. Selah, my loves in the Holy Spirit.

  • @RenaissanceFM
    @RenaissanceFM Рік тому +21

    Stephan, this is the best conversation you’ve ever had! Everything in this video is absolutely true!

  • @MikeThaPhilosopher
    @MikeThaPhilosopher Рік тому +6

    Dr. Umar + 19 Keys.. would be fire

  • @Qumi222
    @Qumi222 Рік тому +68

    I was waiting for a high level relationship conversation, y’all didn’t disappoint 🔥🤝🏾

    • @ldean9595
      @ldean9595 Рік тому +2

      This not it ma'am

    • @Qumi222
      @Qumi222 Рік тому +3

      @@ldean9595 that’s your opinion & that’s okay sir

    • @DominicWimbley
      @DominicWimbley Рік тому +1

      top

  • @brainzbeauty
    @brainzbeauty 5 місяців тому +1

    Excellent high level conversation! Love how they stayed on the facts where men and women can show up better. Instead of bashing. More men need to hear this way of thinking, honest, true, differing opinions but a shared commonality of what role men play in the whole dynamic of a family/marriage/relationship. Love it!

  • @bossladyhustles6637
    @bossladyhustles6637 7 місяців тому +2

    What I did hear from this convo was the power of friendship and how it’s vital to building a successful relationship.

  • @WannettaMalcolm-lt5fz
    @WannettaMalcolm-lt5fz Рік тому +5

    It is so good to hear a man outrightly say he doesn't celebrate Easter or Christmas. I know that 19 Keys has done his research. Absolutely beautiful. Love the principles you stand on.

    • @rl3069
      @rl3069 11 місяців тому +1

      Say it again! Those are not holidays made for us nor our ancestors...

  • @robbin-wt8kr
    @robbin-wt8kr 10 місяців тому +4

    19 Keys has done it again. His guest speakers are always the best at the subject matter; and he provides us with something to which most of us would never have access, due to a lack of affordability; which is why the Blk community is falling apart. This was a most excellent broadcast! It was concise, conducive, and comprehensive, i.e., the best how-to guide to successful relationships. I wish that all Blk men, young and old, would take time out to listen to this content as it would greatly improve their understanding of relationships, women, and culture. Perhaps the awakening is really happening and there really is hope for the future; especially for Blk people, as it outlines the two things that have greatly affected the Blk community: the disfunction and disappearance of the Blk family. They say it takes a village to raise a child, but it is worth mentioning that great nations have risen from villages. More importantly, is the understanding that a village is a collection and extension of families. Family is a nation’s most valuable asset, and unity is its strongest fortress; coupled, they protect a nation of people from extinction.

  • @diffrentmeanings
    @diffrentmeanings Рік тому +16

    I love the mutual respect between the two of them

  • @Kingme1love
    @Kingme1love Рік тому +21

    Already excited for this one!
    Happy Mother’s Day to all you mommies doing your absolute best, you all are appreciated beyond measures❤🤲🏾💪🏾

  • @Thisisbeautyllc
    @Thisisbeautyllc Рік тому +13

    I would like to see 19keys and Tony Gaskins have a conversation

  • @marcuscarter472
    @marcuscarter472 Рік тому +20

    Truth, and 19 Keys always keeps it real and logical. Peace God!!!

  • @crystallize369
    @crystallize369 Рік тому +29

    Hats off to these two gentlemen 🎩🎩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I really enjoyed this conversation!! It made me analyze myself deeply 🤔💭 thanks for another high level conversation‼️ 💪🏾🧠👑

  • @obailey973
    @obailey973 Рік тому +8

    Stephan Speaks be on it!!!!

  • @aritalkstech
    @aritalkstech Рік тому +23

    Realistic conversation about relationships that we needed. I'll be rewatching this one as much as possible.

  • @natashaowens4559
    @natashaowens4559 11 місяців тому +2

    Working as a team . If he’s working to pay the bills, I’m working on saving and investing for our retirement. We can retire early!! That’s a good dynamic to me.

  • @aliviaa7480
    @aliviaa7480 8 місяців тому +1

    These men really understand love on another level. I’m glad to get a listen on the knowledge

  • @dobusinesswithkinard9941
    @dobusinesswithkinard9941 Рік тому +5

    Every African American needs this interview it’s biblical essential to have in your mental tool kit to navigate relationships of all kind family romance friendship associates etc

  • @stoneyhighhigh3677
    @stoneyhighhigh3677 Рік тому +31

    *THIS EPISODE CAME RIGHT ON TIME IT REALLY DID SPEAK TO ME ABOUT MY SITUATION*

  • @kamys6133
    @kamys6133 Рік тому +8

    That Shadow self is soooo real. Ive always felt like this but didnt know what to call it. This causes so much anxiety also. Its soooo real whew. Just working and paying bills can be so miserable. I have no idea what I should be doing. But this is definitely not it smh!!

  • @savvyroses4352
    @savvyroses4352 Рік тому +5

    People attempt to avoid the pain instead of critical view the purpose in the pain-- the release and forward movement !!! And yess the choice is being made by YOU, I, WE. It’s beautiful

  • @Ki-Yemaya
    @Ki-Yemaya Рік тому +4

    As far as the fitness aspect and some women not liking physically fit men........ I've never really been superficial in that aspect, so weight and fitness never was a factor. Now, having said that. I'm more in tune with myself and now and realizing that when a man loves himself and has worked and working on himself, he becomes conscious of what he puts in his mind and body. Naturally, that's going to reflect on his physical appearance. He's going to be active, You can't be your healthiest and not be physically active. Walking, jogging, gym, out in nature, playing a sport, something. And when you aren't healing, that can also show internally and externally on your body. For myself, if he's not actively loving himself, he can't love me in the way that I need to be loved. If he's in the gym that inspires me.

    • @infinitebarbie9967
      @infinitebarbie9967 Рік тому +1

      1000 % in agreement. How you love yourself internally mostly reflect outwardly.

    • @TomikaKelly
      @TomikaKelly 7 місяців тому

      So, in a few paragraphs, you DO care about a man's physique...?🙃

    • @Ki-Yemaya
      @Ki-Yemaya 7 місяців тому

      @TomikaKelly you'll have yo read it again.

  • @imani3987
    @imani3987 9 місяців тому +1

    We are not robots, and everything isn't transactional.
    Build healthy individuals, then we will make better decisions and build healthy families.

  •  Рік тому +2

    The way Keys describe black women 😍😍😍😍 . The fact that we don’t hear BM speak on BW as he did that much is sad, but I agree only healed BM and BW can truly experience and benefit from each other, and see the true beauty within us

  • @phoenix_sol_riseup2556
    @phoenix_sol_riseup2556 Рік тому +4

    It is really great to hear men out here doing shadow work.❤

  • @blakerussell
    @blakerussell Рік тому +5

    This was the best understanding conversation based on relationships. Congrats 👏 19 keys and Stephen I'm 28 and I love listening to you both. 🎉

  • @loveblue2422
    @loveblue2422 11 місяців тому +1

    Growing up in a Morris household learn about relationship.
    I am the second generation born in America😊.
    My family is from United Kingdom.
    My mother and father.
    Taught me the rules and regulations in a marriage.
    My father told me that my mother is the law maker.
    And my dad said that he was the enforcer
    I asked my dad why you don't make the laws of the house
    He said he doesn't run the house your mother do.

  • @susieblanco2722
    @susieblanco2722 7 місяців тому +1

    I was 10 sewing clothes , making cds & dvds, and taught myself to braid by 11… at 13 I wanted to be a model … but deep down I always wanted my own busuness… fast forward it took covid & me losing my job for me to get back to my roots.. now 3 years later & 3 millions later .. I have my own business & 100% OWN brand all from flipping my rent money

  • @dawnbrooks1309
    @dawnbrooks1309 Рік тому +8

    Another great interview, lots of light bulbs went off while listening! Thanks my brothers!❤

  • @godsgirl3175
    @godsgirl3175 10 місяців тому +2

    Can we just clone these two men goodness...we need this breed of men out here for us good women 🙏🏽...🙄 A gal can dream 😊..great discussion and insight Kings!!! Keep up the Light ✨ work!!!?? Gratitude 💪🏾

  • @rockstartonyx
    @rockstartonyx Рік тому +2

    The guest was spitting bars!

  • @chiefsire7231
    @chiefsire7231 Рік тому +9

    You brothers hit the nail dead center with this high level convo. This resonates with me 1000%. Salute for bringing this to the table, it shed light on a lot of things we are dealing with. ON MULTIPLE LEVELS. Multi dimensional high level frfr🫡

  • @obailey973
    @obailey973 Рік тому +14

    Definitely one of thee best conversations of life and relationships I've ever heard but it's two of the GOATs so didn't expect anything less!!💯❤✊🏽🙌🏾💪🏾🙏🏽

  • @ashleyallen9850
    @ashleyallen9850 8 місяців тому

    Imagine the world was full of 19Key(s). The world would be chef's kiss.

  • @trapoutwoedraggworld4422
    @trapoutwoedraggworld4422 Рік тому +3

    When there are both parents MOTHER AND FATHER; You learn Family organization, relationship skills, Unity, and countless other great things. In America, we miss out on these thing's , the home is non existent, fathers in prison or dead. And the way the our society has been going since late 80s the mother isn't there even if she is physically, mentally she out there or vice versa, she like most now on social media all day degrading herself. We must rebuild the STRUCTURE needed to build these kingdoms...

    • @blossombrown5408
      @blossombrown5408 Рік тому +3

      That's not always true. When 2 damaged people have kids their issues are now brought onto their kids. 2 parent homes does not always mean stability and safety, especially if 2 people are dealing with their own separate demons. All it does is bring chaos and adults who have issues. Everything always stems from childhood.

  • @OfficialMNIB
    @OfficialMNIB Рік тому +4

    - 25:36+ . . . Brother verbalised my life observations as a child of parents who were arranged in marriage - 💯

  • @Shibaby
    @Shibaby Рік тому +9

    Great mature conversation. Reason , understanding , non judgmental and non one sided! 👏🏽

  • @beatlessbeauty1106
    @beatlessbeauty1106 Рік тому +2

    This discussion requires more balance.
    Can appreciate the Host making his honest admission about his efforts with "addressing his shadow self"
    (Others may recognize this as challenging a Peter Pan complex) .
    What's important to note is these HLCs regarding intimate relationships need more balance in approach/expression.
    Invite a diverse panel of wisdom for the next talk , sitting and listening to men talk for longer than 22 minutes about anything is a long winded "mansplain"...
    Good topic, however they both should've invited their romantic partners to join the discussion .
    Men have not been naturally equipped with the tools to "teach Women to BE"... relationships have suffered simply because one partner does not allow space, room, time for the other to speak...

  • @Breeze2423
    @Breeze2423 11 місяців тому +2

    Differences in lifestyle and values is not a small thing

  • @user-pw3bl1zv4g
    @user-pw3bl1zv4g Рік тому +4

    This is the collaboration we needed. I thoroughly enjoyed these men and their intellect!

  • @DominicWimbley
    @DominicWimbley Рік тому +8

    This was a life changing conversation!

  • @rashidmuhammad621
    @rashidmuhammad621 2 місяці тому

    This is a great Conversation. I like how 19 Keys uses his skill of reciprocity. His platform is not here to interview,its to brainstorm. His platform is to mentally spar a soundingboard, to kill false ideas and ignorance thats rooted in traditions.
    You may be more of a fan ,of one of his guest to hear there philosophy. They have different styles of presentation but built a house together as brothers minus ego.

  • @karenvictor2355
    @karenvictor2355 9 місяців тому +1

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Keeping this in my library to watch again at a later date

  • @atlsongbyrd6084
    @atlsongbyrd6084 11 місяців тому +4

    😢 The lady that chose the social work over the ARTS reminds me of myself. I tell my daughter not to hide parts of herself from her boyfriend because he’s eventually gonna find out who she is.

  • @TrishaBurris
    @TrishaBurris Рік тому +3

    Great podcast; Please have @TonyGaskinsJr Next.

  • @backtolove
    @backtolove Рік тому +2

    19 always brings the best people

  • @kellykelly6692
    @kellykelly6692 10 місяців тому +1

    I have such a tremendous respect for @MeetStephanSpeaks. He is objective and honest in his thought processes and very intentional in his wording.

  • @deesolutionist1606
    @deesolutionist1606 3 місяці тому

    These High Level Conversations are so captivating! If a guy (i.e. my boyfriend or potential boyfriend) gave me a ticket to a 19 Keys event, it would please me to know that he and 19 Keys have things in common, he resonates with 19 Keys, etc. To me, that's a good thing. #POSITIVITY

  • @MerkabaChild
    @MerkabaChild Рік тому +6

    I needed this conversation so bad. That part of finding one self really hit home because i just ended a 20 year realtionship with a great woman, I did everything to ruin the relationship which on paper makes no sense but the truth was i never accept my true self. i am now in progress of finding my shadow self and embrace it.

    • @BodyRibbonz
      @BodyRibbonz Рік тому +1

      With a great woman* not women. Women is plural

    • @MerkabaChild
      @MerkabaChild Рік тому

      @@BodyRibbonz typo thx 🙏🏾

  • @UrAngelNDisguise
    @UrAngelNDisguise Рік тому +5

    Yess that’s so true some family can sabotage your relationship out of jealousy and unhealed traumas. Healthy family input is key 🔑

  • @iambubblez
    @iambubblez 11 місяців тому +1

    This was a powerful high level convo. As a black woman who has been divorced..chose not to have children..and being over 22mnths celibate and counting....I don't feel.the need to date. I believe no man is thinking like me as far as being in a relationship...men aren't building.. I don't want children nor a man who has children...I am very sapio and the intellect is not there either. I see me being alone not lonely for a long time.

  • @godlotusnyree_yoga9018
    @godlotusnyree_yoga9018 Рік тому +3

    RELATIONSHIP GUIDANCE IS KEY AS STEPHAN SPEAKS❤

  • @healinginpeace2859
    @healinginpeace2859 Рік тому +4

    I love him, he’s really helped me in my relationship just by watching his UA-cam videos.

  • @deedeeyeo4072
    @deedeeyeo4072 Рік тому +11

    This was a much needed high-level conversation. Keep it going 🙏🏾

  • @theawakeningofjascdy
    @theawakeningofjascdy 7 місяців тому

    This is the about THE MOST balanced conversation i ever heard in my life between two Alpha Males in my mofo in life! Salute to you brothers!!

  • @PhoenixGoddess
    @PhoenixGoddess Рік тому +2

    Great and much needed conversation. They should another 1 with a woman there to have even deeper conversation.

  • @TheBluefairy93
    @TheBluefairy93 Рік тому +12

    I'm so happy they're talking!!!!! I love both of them.

  • @kila0419
    @kila0419 Рік тому +2

    All respect to Stephen Speaks.

  • @joannehightower4242
    @joannehightower4242 4 місяці тому

    God Bless You! Stephan and 19 Keys...Community is the key; our mirrored reflection of who we truly are. Relationships are so separate and individualistic; however, Community can help you identify who we truly are. African Community! ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit

  • @Bunsinbundles
    @Bunsinbundles Рік тому +3

    I agree when you truly find love you would only have eyes for that person and that go both ways. Also true love is sacred between two people and no flesh can break that bond if you and the other person is strongly in true love with each other but this is just my own opinion.

  • @HopePryor
    @HopePryor Рік тому +6

    This was a Great Show! So many jewels being dropped! Thank you!🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

  • @ima1flirt
    @ima1flirt Рік тому +1

    Bruh these two just broke down everything in what this generation is experiencing, it’s mind blowing the knowledge I just soaked. Now it’s time for me to get my wifey lol

  • @Hizme.51249
    @Hizme.51249 Рік тому +1

    ... So I'm hearing, know/learn ALL your aspects of self, refine/heal/integrate, learn how to healthily chose a loving life-partner, and then learn AND commit to the systems that make a purposeful & prosperous marriage happen with a complimentary like mind...

  • @kingshipt7506
    @kingshipt7506 Рік тому +10

    This is going to be a great show 💯 I can just feel it 🔥🔥

  • @kaliahmeadows6164
    @kaliahmeadows6164 Рік тому +3

    Definitely a must watch more than once! So many valuable lesson spoken that it’s so many to catch! I had the opportunity to see 19 Keys high level tour in Philadelphia and I left feeling even more enlightened! Everything we must do to achieve success must be high level especially as it relates to relationships! We need a part 2! Lol 😊

  • @1Goddess76
    @1Goddess76 8 місяців тому

    Oh my GOD!!!! These two men get it! 100%!!! AND they are Black Men?!?!?! I will be honest with you. As a Black Woman, I have been dating outside of my race for 20 years because I did not think that these type of Black Men existed! I have also learned so much from these two Beautiful Men! “The Art Of Feminine Movement.” I am
    in awe! I love this so much!!! ❤️🙏🏽😊👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @incogdenise3545
    @incogdenise3545 11 місяців тому

    These are the conversations we need to have individually, prayerfully spiritually and collectively.
    Thus is high vibrational right here.
    This is the black I love respect honor.
    For this I wait to return to what is black. What is beautiful. Not about race … but the grandness of who we were created to be … I am

  • @jessicaevoundou5936
    @jessicaevoundou5936 Рік тому +7

    Powerful conversation, exactly what we needed to hear 🔥🔥🔥

  • @reneehenry1135
    @reneehenry1135 Рік тому +2

    Thank you🎉 I'm sharing this video with my 18 y.o. son❤

  • @emmanoel8513
    @emmanoel8513 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow. That man spoke nothing but the truth.

  • @rosbeyond6970
    @rosbeyond6970 Рік тому

    My Brother 19keys appreciate having Stephan Speaks on the show. It's like 2 Gods conversating on the betterment of the human race.

  • @asmeallah2490
    @asmeallah2490 Рік тому +3

    I'm so pleased to hear this informative information. Healing is the utmost wealth to the overall human anatomy. This was a great (E.F.T.)session and collaboration. Embracement on another level of "HIGH-LEVEL CONVERSATIONS." reaching out to the masses who genuinely believe that therapy is only for others, not us. "Deal To Heal" without "Shame Is Claiming Your Pain." Bro Keys❣, this is real F.O.I. "Soldiering" and tuning into self-worthiness. Thank you, Bro. Stephen Speaks❣ for leading and being led into shared reasoning. And always EYL❣

  • @Dargotsauce
    @Dargotsauce Рік тому +7

    Man I love Stephan speaks I already know it’s gonna be good and I haven’t even clicked play yet

  • @MzKriz26
    @MzKriz26 9 місяців тому +1

    This conversation really resonated with me and has given me some guidance on the conversation I need to have with my partner. DEEP!