Not once did she ever talk about the person going through the mental health crisis, or how he is doing now, or if he was even okay with her using his trauma for clicks
She keeps calling it their experience their story, yes it affected her but this crisis was her husband's not her's. The entitlement is astounding to me. The way she paints him as a villain and talks about his health problems like it's a movie. We're in a dystopia for sure.
Yeah she was just talking about herself and her grand vision for changing the world with this TikTok channel and tbh... sounds a lot like the way her "husband" was talking in the beginning. Super sketchy, I don't trust that any part of her story is real tbh..
@@dylanagoblin9298 Not defending her actions because she shouldn’t have lied about when it happened and yes she should have spoken more about him and if he was ok. But also she was alienated from her entire family, made to seem like she was crazy and was in genuine danger. Again not defending her but at the same time you can’t act like she was not also a victim in this situation. Her husband is a victim but victims can also hurt people
As someone who has had manic episodes similar to how she’s describing him behaving, if somebody ever took advantage of my disorder to post on tiktok for attention… That person would no longer be in my life.
forreal the way people describe manic psychotic behavior and then try to be like 'look how crazy they're acting!!! look how crazy they are and im normal!!!' girl..
No kidding! I have diagnosed bipolar disorder and had a manic episode two months ago. My psychiatrist and therapist noticed it quickly, so I was lucky enough to avoid being admitted.
My amazing mother in law has some pretty bad manic episodes that can be really destructive. The idea of someone turning that into content breaks my heart. She’s so kind. I have manic episodes too but hide it super well and tend to just self destruct so it’s not as obvious. We can’t control our manic episodes, it’s not our fault and we shouldn’t be treated like zoo animals because of it
She kept saying "we" when talking about know they wanted to share the story it's possible he consented to share it to bring awareness. Of course I don't know this I'm just pointing out her use of we seemed to imply that
I can speak a little from experience because I have a brother who had undiagnosed bipolar disorder while we were living in the house together. I'm not saying she's overdramatizing it but the way she tells the story just feels fake to me. And it's different for everybody so she could be telling the truth. People think bipolar is this Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde thing where you're a different person but that's not really what it's like at least for my brother. Like there are definitely times that I look back on as an adult and I think "oh yeah that was a manic episode", but it's just because he was like doing things he wouldn't normally do or say. Just like a more heightened version of himself not like a different person. And they were definitely like some scary moments but it wasn't this overly dramatic thing
I have many family members with type 2 bipolar as well as most of my exes (I have a type I guess 😂) and while their regular manic episodes aren’t this extreme, their psychosis absolutely was. I do believe this was psychosis triggered by a manic episode worsened by the medication he was taking and the way she explained it definitely tracked for me, but this isn’t the day to day experience of having bipolar. Some may experience psychosis more often than others depending on their own personal circumstances, medications, self care routines, support systems, etc. but others may never experience psychosis or experience it very rarely.
People who say "I have a passion for storytelling" after getting caught like this don't actually like storytelling. People who like storytelling STATE they are storytellers up front.
That’s a point I didn’t even think about because I watched several storytelling UA-camrs while I work….. they never really say the name of the person but they’ll tell their story! I felt like I was an ARG for a minute
I feel so dumb. I thought this video was gonna be about someone exploiting their pet bird with a disability or something. I didn’t know flightless bird was a username.🤔😭😭
I am bipolar and have manic episodes. If my spouse ever did this to me i would be absolutely devastated. There are anonymous groups on reddit and im sure other social media for spouses of people with disorders. I just cant imagine ever putting my loved ones worst moments online without at least doing it anonymously.
It's a problem for me even having people tell other people that I have a disorder, let alone going into any detail about it. Maybe he doesn't care about it, but I can't imagine that tbh
As someone who has bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms among other things, this whole situation is horrifying to me, honestly. If I found out one of my loved ones was talking about my negative symptoms online as if I'm the monster in some sort of horror story, to inspire "solidarity" in others who dealt with "people like me", the betrayal would be immeasurable. That is an evil thing to do, and it's unfortunately common, a la "autism moms". The neurodivergent people in your life are not a circus act you can parade around for attention and sympathy, and their stories aren't yours to tell, especially not to dramatize. This is not only a breach of trust, but the theatrical attitude she has during her entire retelling and how she acts as if it's currently happening and she's actively in danger, she truly is treating this whole situation like it's a horror movie. Unbelievable, tbh.
As someone who loved (and lost) someone to bipolar I am beyond horrified at the thought too…. I have a deep hatred for the people that exploit this illness for attention, I’ll never understand how these people have no shame..
We are so stigmatized people only want to see the "romantic" parts of our disability I have been labeled as dangerous and at risk I've lost my caregivers and a lot of support because when I'm manic it's scary... what is the point of getting diagnosed and having a crisis plan and being on disability if when I'm actually having a "medical episode" (I've never tried to harm someone else) all the support drops off....the part I feel people don't talk about enough is picking up the pieces of your life after you aren't manic anymore but you blew everything up and now you have to face the music....idk about other people but when I'm having an autistic meltdown or manic episode or a flash back ...afterwards I don't remember what I did/said there's been so many times when my care takers/therapists/social worker are expecting me to "explain myself" and I can't but they think I just don't WANT to like no I don't even remember why.....
girl please just write a book. i understand influencer vlogs have corrupted the genre of storytelling but she could be giving colleen hoover a run for her money versus the morsels of dopamine she gets from immediate online attention...
Please don't. She needs to just go see new friends, she needs a therapist, she needs to bloody just fucking go outside and touch grass. CH is a problem and so is she, so don't even give her a position in story writing because she needs to fucking be educated about boundaries and MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES
First, did she not think about how this could put her husband in danger? Like if someone was genuinely worried about her and her family they could have called the police. The police are not exactly known for handling people with mental health issues well. This whole "performance art" bs could have caused her husband's needless arrest or worse.
@@refinnej5302I can only imagine that would have validated her victimhood in ways she would over share all over tiktok. It's usually for the best when people get caught and called out for their lies.
Am I the only one that thinks it’s awful for the husband and any kids and family and a lil…I dunno, messed up(?) to air YOUR SPOUSES mental breakdown online for the world to see? I get “needing help” but…damn girl, if even half of this is true, you very easily could’ve basically ruined his life- career wise, kid wise, friend wise… I dunno. I can’t imagine doing that to my husband…
You make an excellent point. it’s just the biggest reason why I am got off of TikTok and social media in general now that I’m in my relationship with my partner. You start to realize that once you love someone you will do anything to protect them, including your business. Even if they’re not doing well mentally. If my boyfriend was having a manic episode, the last thing I would ever think about doing is telling the whole world about how hard it is for me to cope with it. I would be talking to him and helping him through his symptoms. That’s how healthy couples function. I think TikTok really blurs the line between healthy boundaries in relationships and what to post online. Thank you so much for bringing this up
My aunt has been going through psychosis (delusional parasitosis to be exact) for a year and my family is doing everything we can to get her help including reaching out to the police. It's so exhausting I can't imagine making social media posts about it. My family also doesn't want anyone to know who doesn't need to because we know if she ever gets better she'll be incredibly embarrassed. I'm not done with the video yet but I just can't imagine doing what this lady did.
@@xo1537 Just make sure you have your own support, someone you can tell your feelings to, who'd respect your privacy + your partner's. (I say that as someone with chronic illness; partners can burn out & you can be there for your partner better when you also have support.
This should be the LAST resort, if the police/court won't record such things. But in general, if done incorrectly, this can be used as Slander. So unless the whole county hates your family,.try to document offline. Only post online if you think the Mafia is out to get you 6ft Underground
My grandpa took his own life during a psychotic episode caused by his bipolar disorder last year. He had stopped taking his meds, probably due to stress over my grandmother’s declining health, and had been in psychosis for a week or so before ending his life. My grandmother was bedridden, heavily medicated and recovering from surgery. Disorders that alter a person’s reality are not a horror move trope, it’s real life. This is not how you bring awareness to a very real and potentially deadly situation.
@@girlypopgeek I was able to type in a few prompts and conditions and was able to generate logs that were nearly identical. But, what got me interested in even doing that, was, they honestly just read like some cringelord A.I. prompt to me.
What I heavily dislike about this story is that she believes a theatrical retelling of their crisis will educate people about mental health. She basically turned a very real event in their lives into an ARG. How can there be any education in that? This might be good story telling, but there is no need to make greater claims than that.
She knows there's no education in that, love. She fell back on "I want to educate and change the world" as an excuse because it's better than "I wanted to make money off it".
i'd even go as far as to say that she actively miseducated. her audience gave her some really sound advice, informed her about the urgency of keeping herself and the children safe, asked the right questions. but what she did was brush it all off with excuses and rationalisations, which is the exact thing that can get loved ones of a person suffering through a psychotic episode hurt or even killed. for example, "i would leave with the kids, but we're in a rural area and i have nowhere to go" .. and I'm like .. so what? call 911, explain that your s.o. is in a changed mental state and has said things that indicate they're a risk to themselves / you / your kids. leaving the person alone by themselves would be a terrible idea anyways. first responders / police would be obligated by law to detain the person, until a _professional_ declares the person safe, or has them admitted - against their will if necessary. sorry for the rant, but her whining and all the bad courses of action she took (if any of it is even true) just really makes me angry. my best friend has bipolar, and i've seen her suffer through heavy psychotic episodes a few times across two decades. and it's a simple fact that the sooner you have someone in that state detained, evaluated and admitted, the better. not just for safety, but simply because the sooner the person gets professional help the shorter their suffering. they'll need be admitted eventually anyway, why wait for things to escalate, when you can get them to safety right away?
The second video she posted is very odd to watch in retrospect, knowing that this was something that occurred months and months prior. Yes, she is a great storyteller. But there is no reason that she had to create such an element of fear in the viewers when the danger had already passed months ago.
@@mr.bingusthecat it’s gotta be a more clicks thing. When people are invested in your safety, they respond more and faster? BUT we had that 50 part series of “who the fuck did I marry” all told past tense and it did well. Birdie 100% should have stated it was a past event from the start
@@mr.bingusthecat Because that was an afterthought on how to "save" her reputation. She went into it thinking no one would ever question the veracity of her story.
because people will comment immediately and will keep engaging in comments and asking for updates again and again and again. Absolutely nobody should describe someone’s psychosis in such a detail. She’s not covering her face and it’s NOT hard to recognize her and her husband , her husband won’t EVER be able to find a job after her videos
That’s what watching as the story is told in this video feels so weird. Like Austin said in the beginning this wasn’t an active situation but it’s so strange that’d shed say “after I posted the first video… that these are symptoms of a manic episode” as if it was happening real time.
@@novalinnhe I feel like that would be very chill drama, all the birdwatching communities and people I've ever seen have been so welcoming and nice lol
@@pigeonaticawww!! As a birdwatcher this makes me so happy to hear :) truly is one of the most positive, supportive hobby communities out there, in my experience
I can understand why people were upset. No one wants to invest emotion and compassion and then find out they were duped. There was no reason she couldn't have told the story from the point of view that it happened in the past.
I'd give her a bit of benefit of the doubt. Present tense gives the experience similar to following an ongoing drama series, it just fits with the theme especially if this was actually meant for *her personally* to digest her own trauma throughout her fight. Maybe it was her way to find solace? Or maybe it was her way of finding more assurance to fight off her ongoing anxiety and negative thoughts because she still felt like she's going crazy eventhough the ordeal had passed? Different people digest their respective trauma in different form, for example a reflection in a form of retelling the story, a storytime series. Those who are successful at removing themselves from the emotional reactions will find that reflection works best for processing the trauma as they digest. But for those who kept on getting stuck in that traumatic period in their life, it took a whole different approach to walk out of it. I can say this much because I went through this too myself (not the situation, but the experience of being stuck in a frozen time) _But of course, those who felt like being used are still entitled to their emotions and deserve the apology._ But I personally would give her the benefit of the doubt, because my own experience made me relate to her way of digesting her trauma. To each their own reactions to her content.
The problem isn't just that she told it in present tense when it happened in the past, her posting and telling it at all is a problem. It's a clear exploitation of her spouse's mental health and beyond that it's stigmatizing bipolar/mania as something dangerous and to be afraid of. There are healthy ways to handle a partner's manic episodes and this is NOT it. Claiming he threatened their child is disgusting.
@@blaah9999ah yes because the only people who stigmatize other peoples disorders are people with other stigmatized disorders... armchair diagnosis has never been wrong biased or stigmatizing either..
The fuck can't people just start out with: "This is what happened to me/someone else back in blah blah blah." and then go into their skit? Or make the title/description clearly state that this is a recounting of a story and no actively happening? This seems to happen way too often. Where people "tell stories" by...faking it happening right now and not correcting ANYONE ANYTIME that is expressing clear worry for their current safety.
Had a manic episode once or twice. You know what my partner did? Held me and told me I was okay and that she was real and she was there for me, got me any food or drink I needed since I wasn't eating or drinking, and helped bring me "down." Not a single post about it to the internet despite us both being chronically online, wonder how she managed :P
I'd say she's managing her own mental health quite well. . Folie a deux can send all into poor mental health . So pleased your partner is able to recognize and support you 💞
My uncle started spewing all these weird philosophies and stuff out onto Facebook a few months ago and messaging the family odd things like this. He was diagnosed with schizophrenia and was having a manic episode. It’s so messed up that this woman would start sharing all these private, sensitive moments to the world. He needs help, not this weird form of public humiliation
Its abusive imo he should leave this lying person cause ya know this isnt the only lie she's told , i cant imagine being in the same room with this type of liar
I think the thing that really rubs me the wrong way is like. If I'm manic, my loved ones would describe me as a LOT of things but "charming mastermind" is NOT one of them.
Yes! I commented something similar, she was implying that he could turn his mania off to be charismatic to everyone but her. Doesn’t add up, much like the rest of her story lol
Yes! That gave it away. There's no way someone in that deep of an episode could convince that many people that their spouse was the one experiencing a mental health episode and not them.
When she was like, “I’ve been waiting for that man to wake up.” It caught me really off guard, because she knows he’s neurodivergent and has mental health issues. That’s so gross?!? To just say that so frivolously on the internet!
@@BakedBrain7100 with her saying she doesn't "believe in western medicine" she's almost certainly a spiritual woowoo hoping he gets opened to the cosmos or something
@@stabithavmf She said his parents don't believe in it. It was hard to understand her but Austin confirmed it later on in the video by repeating that his family doesn't believe in Western medicine.
Bipolar isn't neurological, it's mental. Not neurodivergence. Just see this conflated more and more and want to correct. (Note: you can have both, etc)
@@stabithavmf I think you confused it - the narrative she presented was that she was the more reasonable one, the one more likely to believe in western medicine, than him and his family.
She said his parents don't believe in it. It was hard to hear her the first time but Austin then confirmed it in the video by repeating that it's his family who doesn't believe in it.
My husband's first manic episode was triggered when he was put on effexor for the first time. He's also neurodivergent and extremely smart, so this plot line makes a little bit of sense to me but the execution is WILD. I absolutely cannot *imagine* splashing it all over the internet like that wouldnt absolutely devastate him and make him feel two inches tall... especially when she's making it seem like shes in current and imminent danger. My poor husband was absolutely crestfallen when he came out of that first episode and we started to speak in family therapy about the things that happened and how they made me feel. Those kinds of things are for him to share if he ever wanted to, not me. Its very clear that she came across someone elses story that got a lot of traction and either decided she wanted to monetize the situation that happened to her, or she wanted to exaggerate or invent a situation to capitalize on. Its sickening. Beyond all that, "i have not had any red flags about him with the children" is WILD...all of it is a red flag. 😑
This, all of this It reminds me of people on tiktok filming strangers clearly having breakdowns. It's so dehumanizing, and this feels dehumanizing too. People deserve privacy :(
Yeaaah claiming he was “closer to the kids than ever because of his mania” is such a glorification of bipolar disorder. As someone with it. I’m still me when I’m manic, I still like the things I like, and believe the same things, just a little more extreme and sometimes very black or white. I’m not “more intuitive with my emotions” because I’m manic. Lol I’m just hyper and impulsive. She does her part of demonizing us and romanticizing us at the same time? In my opinion. I d told many people I love that I hate them and they’re dead to me, but I’ve never worked with outside sources to manipulate them. I can’t be very manipulative because I don’t even have the power to manipulate my own thinking half the time honestly. lol idk.
@@jonh2798 I was honestly floored that she said he got it from the hims app. Idk when they started prescribing anti depressants but it started out just doing things like Viagra I believe. I don't take issue with telemedicine, but I think it's important that patients that use it also have in person access to those physicians. It's not abnormal for someone's doctor to just prescribe an SSRI if they say they're feeling depressed, but it IS dangerous to not be able to reach out to your prescriber in a crisis like that. I don't think she's being very truthful though, because it doesn't make sense that she said he didn't have access to a doctor because he got them through the app but then said their primary care gave him an emergency visit with absolutely zero notice... concierge medicine causes a lot of problems but it's also a necessary evil in this stage of the breakdown of the US healthcare system when a huge percentage of Americans can't afford to go to a psychiatrist, or they can't wait any longer (I've been waiting 8 months for a consult I scheduled while I was in crisis in January, I still have another month to go. I'm lucky my mom's a primary care doc and called in a favor from a colleague to get me in with one of her partners to medicate me until then)...I also had a mini stroke in May. When I was discharged from the hospital I was referred to neurology, and the soonest available appointment at a neurologist that accepts my insurance was in JANUARY. so patients turn to those apps that offer immediate, relatively affordable services for a specific problem. I do think it's inappropriate that hims has branched out from men's care into providing psych meds, but I also think concierge medicine is here to stay unfortunately.
@@BakedBrain7100 in my opinion, she 100% exaggerated in the very least. She mixed in elements of multiple disorders, and the choice to include the part about him isolating her from loved ones is a little off... that's exactly what someone with a narcissistic personality disorder would do. I think it's important to note the emphasis she puts on being "a good storyteller," because a lot of "good storytellers" will embellish or add details they think make the story more cohesive or exciting or relatable. I originally commented before the video was over, and after watching the whole video I honestly think she made up most of it. Maybe her husband did get a bipolar diagnosis and had a couple manic episodes before they knew what was happening but there's just so much that doesn't add up here it's hard to believe her.
Honestly the person I wanna hear from is her husband. In her "apology" she says "we wanted to do this" "we thought this", I want to know how much input he had on this
I posted a story saying I felt like she was lying and got so much hate and now 😅 lol she could have still told her story but in past tense so strange how she did this. She’s also a writer so I think she was wanting to make this a book
She literally admits that she was thinking of how to use the experience while it was still happening... this woman is sick. She herself needs help. This is not healthy. It isn't normal. If she gave a single care about mental health, she would have thought about how triggering this could have been for those who also went through something similar. Hearing someone tell their story in the past tense has a totally different effect than that of an ongoing story that someone feels they need to help with due to their own experience. This is absolutely wild.
Seems like she just used him to make the kids and is fine with an emotionally absent father figure which will lead to issues in all of them. Mother of the year 🎉
I’m in my last year of my Masters in social work, with a focus on being a therapist. It is actually terrifying to me that this individual is exploiting their partner’s comorbid mental illnesses in order to tell a story. If you’re so interested in fiction, write a book.
i have bipolar 1 with psychotic features and was dumped during a manic psychotic episode triggered by an ssri because i was "too much to handle". i was called abusive, manipulative, and villianized. i lost all of my friends, my job, and my house. people thought i was dangerous because i was delusional and paranoid. i wasnt, i was just so fucking scared the whole time. i have diagnosed ptsd from MYSELF. from my OWN psychosis. she had NO right to air these things out in the open as if he wasnt a patient in need of a f*ckn doctor. how DARE she. we are not tools for a dramatic story, were PEOPLE.
Damn I’m bipolar as well, not as extreme, I experience hypomania more than full blown manic episodes, I thought the way he manipulated her family and friends against her was totally demonization at its finest and doesn’t even track with what I feel like I experience. I’ve never had the organization skills to conspire against an enemy. Lol That’s just me though. I can’t even control my thoughts and feelings 98% of the time, to plan ahead in order to isolate her? I just don’t believe it even tracks. Completely agree with you as well, well said, keep on keeping on comrade!
Those are my exact thoughts. I haven't had anything like that happen to me, but I do have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and past substance use related to self-medicating. I would be upset if anything from that time was shared online, but I would be outraged if it was shared in the disingenuous, overdramatic, selfish, and tacky manner she did. She should be ashamed.
everyday I count my blessings that I'm bipolar 2 and not bipolar 1. hypomania is already so exhausting and embarrassing. I'm so lucky to not have full on manic episodes. I hope you're healing.
Literally thought she was going to break out into song. That would be the cherry on top of this absolutely insane sundae. I hope her husband is okay, but she seriously needs to seek professional help.
Birdie, this isnt performance art. Everyone who was concerned about her are most likely people who have been through it themselves so all she did was retraumatize people. She did nothing for "the conversation about mental health" other than center herself in it
Worse than doing nothing for the cause she claimed to care about- she actively hurt a lot of people and made it so other people legitimately in her shoes are less likely to be believed or supported too. It’s disgusting for her to make the claim she did it for awareness and all when she’s actively hurt the cause and so many of the people who are living it for real (both patients with mental health crises of their own and the loved ones and family of those who are). It’s honestly disgusting.
She could have told the same story but have a caption saying "Disclaimer this is a retelling of what happened to me and my husband back in January" and people would be 90% less p*ssed.
@@grapetex she didn’t point to anyone or bully / harass them. It was about herself, she learned a lesson. I think if anything, we should be worried about her getting bullied now and her mental health. This isn’t a kid. It’s a married woman supposedly, in her made up story.
The sing-song "Run! Run! Run!" around the 46th minute is indicative of how much of a performance this is for her. And her addressing "You, the audience" - ma'am. They did not know they were an audience. You asked people to vulnerably share their own experiences of mania in your comments section! This is wild.
I saw this go down in real time, from the first video. I was checking her profile every single day, I was so scared for her. I felt so foolish when I found out it was all fake.
@@inprogress9757Amen. That’s one of the worst things about fakers on social media- they end up hurting so many people. It makes it extra insulting she claims she did this for awareness or to share her story since when people do this crap they not only hurt people like OP who feel taken advantage of because they cared and worried or tried to help, they make it so people are less willing to help or believe people who really do need help too. So agree entirely there’s nothing stupid about having empathy and being concerned for someone you thought was in danger or need. Don’t let exploitative people like this bird woman make you doubt or turn off your very human emotion and care for others. You’re not stupid because a rather crappy person took advantage of your care and concern. 😔 And that sucks too. How much people who care so much for others tend to then blame themselves like this. Be mad at the tiktoker for what she did, but don’t feel stupid or mad at yourself for caring.
She took people on a week of FEAR FOR HER LIFE for a "journey/experience"? What in the EVERLOVING CAUCASITY. If you're trying to share how serious mental illness is, dont use it as a painful art experiment without audience consent.
@@nicloren2220that’s a very fair point, but it’s also worth noting that we *would* be able to believe all women (or all victims really, men and women) if people like her didn’t exist. Just saying
I don’t think she realizes how lucky she is… while in her story her husband made it out. my husband didn’t make it out. 3 years ago… every day has felt like a lifetime…While I use TikTok to talk about how I’m feeling, I’d personally never go about it in the way she did. This was an absolutely vile experience for me. I was genuinely worried about nothing. This changed the way I consume media from here on out.
I’m so sorry you went through all you have and so sorry you were hurt and exploited by this woman. That’s the worst part about her trying to claim she did this for awareness. She’s actively hurt so many people but especially those closest to the very cause she’s trying to claim she was raising awareness about or whatever. She’s made it less safe for people like you to receive support or even want to be involved in online communities in the same way. I have a lot of serious medical issues and have been taken advantage of by illness fakers pretending to have or overdramatizing my loved reality for attention and even money. I’ve been duped and I’ve had a faker even steal parts of my own story. And worse- because of how toxic people like this are to such vulnerable communities- I’ve also both radically changed how I use or interact with social media or talk about my own experiences AND one of the most devastating effects of this kind of exploitation is that not only do caring people now feel less willing to put themselves out there, some people deal with their pain from being hurt and used by people like this by kind of going on a witch hunt and doubting even legitimate people. There’s entire communities of people talking about who they think is faking illnesses, and often they spin out of this kind of thing. I’ve watched other sick people kind of turned toxic by their own pain and fall down rabbit holes of hours and months in those groups then, constantly viewing every other sick person online under the lens of “this person is probably faking it”. So now what once was a supportive corner of the internet for vulnerable and hurting people has become such a damaging and negative space. It’s devastating what people like her do and it’s so insulting she’s now trying to claim she did it for awareness or whatever. I’m really sorry she hurt you in this way and I hope you take care of yourself or have a friend or two you can talk to about this because there are multiple levels and ways this hurts and she’s changed your whole way of approaching social media and others who have gone through things like you have. It’s a double edged sword of betrayal. 😔
hey casandra, i'm so sorry you had to go through that and i'm even more sorry that this woman was so insensitive and had such an awful manner of "raising awareness" to a topic that is extremely serious and important to raise proper and well-educated awareness to. i wish she would've taken a different approach, as it is an extremely important subject to talk about, but she completely missed and it was honestly so awful of her to put her viewers through this, especially those who went through similar situations. i hope you are doing well and i wish you truly the best 🩷
i am so annoyed by her constant need for engagement in these videos(constantly asking for comments and ideas). First she talks about her husband situation, then its not really about the husband who is the focus but her (the family, the danger, the everyone is isolating me). It annoys me that she uses technical terms to explain her point, but also acts like she doesnt know whats going. It annoys me that she is obviously reading some kind of script in these videos. This whole thing is so exploitative and for what, some tiktok attention? disgusting
omg YES with the technical terms and shit. she was explaining it like it happened in the past or she already did extensive research on it, but also feigning ignorance about what was happening
"I couldn't really tell if my husband of 10 years was acting strangely, its a good thing tiktok users could see the signs in less than 60 seconds" "also my husband sent hundreds of messages to all of our friends and family at 2 am and they all agree im crazy"
I haven't looked into this and am not too invested to know, but do any of those crazy texts she shared show evidence that it was him sending them? Could it have been her sending them?
Oh man I was commenting on this one in real time. She actually directly responded to my comment saying she “didn’t consider how her videos would hurt future domestic violence victims” while at the same time praising herself for shocking people in her comment sections and deleting comments directly calling her out. I still have screenshots
Advocating for better understanding of mental health issues while potentially traumatizing your viewers into thinking you, your husband, and your kids are in immediate danger is certainly....a choice. I also feel a twinge of anti-antidepressant rhetoric bubbling under the surface.
I have bipolar disorder and when i get hit by manic episodes only thing i want from my spouse is for him to admit me into psychiatric hospital when things become dangerous. Thats why he has full rights to do it in papers. It doesn't matter if someone believes in medicine or no, when it comes to mental health its such a delicate topic... Better to hand it off to people that know what they're doing
I agree. I have schizoaffective bipolar type and my husband has helped me be committed three times and once I was involuntary committed by the police. It's so important to have someone who knows the signs and can get you help. I'm glad you have that.
i think my biggest issue with her last video is how it's framed as assuming that the audience does not include any mentally ill/disabled/Mad people. she claims to care about this group of people, but didn't take our safety, dignity, or autonomy into account when doing this. as many people have said in the comments, this is a nightmare for a lot of us. it's a breach of privacy to the extreme, and even if her husband did consent to this, they didn't take the wider ramifications into account. she claims she's raising awareness, but she's just doing what every other ableist profiting off their disabled/ill/mad/crip family member had done: making it into a spectacle
This is a good example of real narcissism. Long after her husband had a mental breakdown she decides to get pity and attention on the internet and pretend to be some savior and scared woman. It’s literally all a lie and manipulation and there is no aspect of storytelling to it it’s just attention farming. This lady is disturbed.
it's not Real Narcissism, it's just someone being ableist. "Narcissist" does not mean "someone doing something fucked up / being selfish". it means someone who is diagnosed with NPD. that's it. any other use is incorrect and incredibly damaging to people with NPD please don't stigmatize Cluster B disorders in general but ESPECIALLY not on a video about someone demonizing and exploiting a person's mental health crisis!
Watching this happen in real time was wild. I saw a similar situation around a divorce happen a few months ago with the same “this really happened but I wanted to pretend like it was happening now so you’d be worried about the safety of my child heehee” so I wasn’t toootally shocked. Also kind of wild the emphasis of her rosacea to look like she’s been crying
I had commented an experience of mine under one of her vids that I had NEVER told a soul…… just in case it would help her in the moment. When I found out it was literally all for naught , I was fr just ….. sad 😔 I mean I did choose to tell it but damn.
when I first saw her video many things threw me off but the main thing was that everyone was saying to move her children away and she was to insistent that she saw no point in separating him from the children and she didn’t want to because she was seeing the husband make “memories” with the children like she never had before. it baffled me 😭😒
Just a friendly reminder that antidepressants can be life-saving medications and should be monitored closely by a doctor frequently when you begin taking them. If one doesn't work for you, there are multiple alternatives to try.
Trying to figure out what made the WTF did I marry story so believable but this one so unbelievable. And I think it’s how Reesa’s story wasn’t always flattering to her.
15:55 If I had been following this in real time I would’ve known it wasn’t true by this story alone. Imagine a person having a manic episode and convincing their family and in-laws that the spouse needs to be institutionalized. She says her husband can be so charming to everyone but her, which would imply that he can conceal his manic behavior at will. That’s where I would have really started to doubt this woman had I been following her and listening along. That part of the storyline just doesn’t sound plausible.
As someone who has had this happen with family, if you see any of these signs, TAKE THEM TO THE HOSPITAL. Dont post videos, don’t take it to the internet, speak to a medical professional as soon as possible
Not only did she exploit her husbands mental health crisis she exploited her audience that have been through similar situations for engagement and sympathy. Clown behavior
My father had 2 psychotic episodes and it was incredibly scary. Her story at times sounded quite a bit like what we went through. I could never imagine turning it into a dramatization for social media, though. The one thing she has a point about is the instinct to run during episodes even though they are more likely to hurt themselves instead of others. Psychosis can happen to the best of us when stressed and we need to work harder to destigmatize it.
OMG, this reminds me of the youtuber who just posted about her "miscarriage" when she was never pregnant & the girl who lied about being Amish. This is NOT lonelygirl15; why tf do ppl keep faking *serious* shit.
When I took Zoloft I was experiencing a lot of symptoms of mania almost right away. I wasn’t able to sleep or eat. I was so hyper vigilant that I spent the nights on the couch so that I could see the staircase because I thought someone was coming for my family. My parents took me off it after three days because it became so bad, so quickly. Turned out that my depression wasn’t depression, it was bipolar 2. And taking anti depressants when you’re bipolar just isn’t going to help, because having depressive episodes does not mean that you have depression. It could mean a lot of things. The story she tells could absolutely be the story of someone who is bipolar but on anti depressants but I feel like there is something coming. I’m about 30 min into the video and feel like something is sus here
It’s crazy how differently the same medicine can affect people! When I was on Zoloft I was so numb and shut down, it made all my symptoms of depression worse and my anxiety just turned into chronic migraines 😭 so glad to be off of it
@@savannan.7603as someone with bipolar 2. This comment just makes me laugh. For people who don’t know what bipolar 2 is and what the difference with bipolar 1. It is a less severe form of bipolar. Instead of going through a straight up manic episode. You are going through a hypomanic one. When I do have those episodes, I am extremely hyper. I can’t sleep. I either can’t eat or can’t stop eating. I can’t control my impulses. I spend so much money that I almost went bankrupt once. The sad thing about these episodes is that I am actually happy. Like extremely ecstatic and life seems worth living. And then the crash happens and it’s freaking hard. While the hypomanic episodes are around 1-2 weeks. The depressive one can be as long as 2 months. I sleep a lot. Like 15-18 hours a day. I am in physical pain. And I’m practically bed ridden. I go completely catatonic for days on end and need someone to take care of me because I’m just incapable of doing anything for myself. I lost a Fulbright scholarship due to it. Once I started lamictal, I’ve been feeling much better. I still go through both but they’re far less intense and don’t stay for as long. It’s just extremely sad because I don’t feel that happiness anymore. And that’s the dangerous thing with bipolar in general, you yearn for that feeling and sometimes stop medication just to get that hit. I have stopped medication twice this year because of that. And it took a lot of willpower and support to get back on it. I am pretty stable now. But also quite numb. I don’t get angry, I don’t get sad, but I don’t get happy either. So no, it’s unfortunately not a choice cause I wish it was cause then I wouldn’t have to deal with this and can live my life normally instead of being a 29 years old who hasn’t been able to have a job and who lost a freaking Fulbright scholarship that would allow me to get a graduate degree on a full ride, including living expenses.
Freaking hell. I hate UA-cam. I made a whole comment explaining how bipolar 2 affects us and how serious of a condition it is. And that it is not a choice like the previous commenter stated but then it was swallowed 😭😭 oh well. It’s a serious issue, it had wrecked my life and practically made it non existent. The depression is debilitating.
I hope people who comment stuff like "it's so obvious she was acting, how did people fell for it" understand how much empathy blinds you. It's easy for you to think people were easily fooled since you have the hindsight. On another note, I'm glad I wasn't the only one who went into this video expecting another animal ab**er.
But this is a far too common of an occurrence, where people see something on SM, especially TikTok these days, and run with it. We live in a society dependent on technology, yet our internet and media literacy has plummeted. Of course, this situation is a bit different in that there wouldn't be anything to research with no information about them.
Exactly. I saw the first half of this in real time, and I spent the rest of the night feeling awful for this poor woman going through something really tough. Normally I'm pretty skeptical of shit online, but for whatever reason I didn't consider that someone would be lying about something so personal and series involving their own husband.
I’m incredibly torn. As the wife of a veteran with complex PTSD, memory issues, medicinal changes, and false memories, some of what she shared felt incredibly visceral and real to me. But to get online and dramatise it like that… I can’t help but wonder if she really was the one who had the break, and is trying to reframe it now?
It's no wonder he was spiraling with a wife who does something like this. I hope he has ACTUAL loved ones around him now because this is nothing short of sick and disgusting.
I really feel for all her followers who genuinely thought she was in distress. 'Art' and 'dramatisation' should be a consentual practice. The viewer should have the choice to put themselves through those emotions.
Yes! Great point bringing up consent! If I do an escape room for fun that's fine, if you kidnap me and keep me in your basement without my approval, that's a crime!
i think she would have been fine if she had just been honest from tbe beginning that it was a retelling of something that happened a while ago. there are other pages on TT that do this, and theyre clear that theyre not in immediate danger and they are acting this out to show how to get help in a DV or crisis situation/how easily something like that can spiral. like it isnt hard to be upfront instead of causing distress to people who are concerned that several people (including children) are at risk for immediate harm.
@@fishtick I don’t believe half the stuff she says 😂 idk id be upset at 10 years old and my mom spews personal info about my dad on tik tok. She was selfish in her posting.
@@christinagriz3736 i dont disagree about the selfishness, i just also know that even if someone isnt weird because of their disorder, they can still be weird by agreeing to let their spouse post worrying things on TT yknow?
It’s pretty wild to take what is already a pretty wild story and decide you’re not going to recount it but instead you’re going to re-enact it while telling everyone it’s currently happening. I think one of the most important things about telling these stories is that we are as honest and transparent as possible, and I say this as someone who dated someone who was diagnosed as schizo-affective for 8 years. If you’ve been with someone experiencing psychosis then you’ve seen the real damage that stories can do when they aren’t real - they alienate those around us and harm those close to us, so why you’d decide to inject insincerity into your retelling of your partners psychotic break is far beyond me. It would’ve been a good story just told as it is, but she decided to basically lie knowing many people would think it’s completely true which is NOT storytelling, when you tell a story people know it’s a “story”, that’s what that is. This is told as if it’s a currently ongoing reality, which it wasn’t. It calls into question her entire story, and it’s insane to me that she couldn’t see that coming.
All of this is bad. The exploiting of a partner’s mental health crisis, the traumatizing the audience, the bad acting… like, if you want to stigmatize mental illness, good job, you succeeded in looking crazy.
I feel so bad for the people who were vulnerable with her in her comments, those who offered help and support. Shes done the opposite of what she wanted, now people are likely to be more skeptical of stuff like this. Actively ASKING and PLEADING for people to be vulnerable and share their stories and for resources to then delete the account? I highly, highly doubt that her intention was to bring awareness
As someone who’s grandfather suffers serious bipolar and manic episodes, that have seriously affected me, my father and other parts of my family, wtf is wrong with this woman!?
Omg i skipped all her vids when they came on my fyp as they were too long and rambly for my attention span but when i saw everything start to come out i hoped you would do a vid on this as you explain and summarise so well!! Looking forward to this!!
why did she ask people to comment advice if she was just recreating the story??? that’s such a manipulative thing to do. I get she wanted people to share their stories and connect and whatnot but its just… ???? whyd she do that
As someone with multiple family members with Bipolar Disorder and having been with them during manic episodes this is incredibly harmful. On one hand, this a horrible thing to do to a loved one, not just the person who has the psychiatric disorder but also to spread this all over the internet for her children to find, even if it is years later. On the other, it is extremely dangerous to present this as a genuine manic episode. Everyone experiences them differently but there are several things that do not make sense. She seems to have decided to dramatize something that is already serious enough and is spreading quite a few misconceptions about a serious psychiatric disorder. Not to mention, having people fear for her and her children’s safety. All around this horrible idea on her part.
I just wanted to say that everyone who genuinely believed her story and was worried about her, should not allow someone like her to make you feel foolish. She was the one who decided that the best course of storytelling was to portray this as if it was currently happening and not once telling her audience that this was something that *had* happened. She could have even put it in the tags, but she chose not to. What she did was horrifically cruel and no one should feel awful for believing her. You are human and feeling empathy for someone else’s suffering is apart of being human. She, however, should feel *awful* for what she did to people who genuinely were scared for her and her children be it because they have experienced something similar or know of such sad cases.
even if this story is true are you telling me your man had a mental breakdown/had a manic episode for an ENTIRE week, threatened to have you committed, turned your family against you and made you fear for your life because he started tracking your behavior but 'oh hes getting along with the kids so well' I would have personally exploded on the spot.
Breaks my heart because I’m an advocate for domestic violence hotline and I literally had a client meeting for this lady who was terrified to turn on her own phone because her ex-husband is tracking her. And then you have this piece of shit was faking it for attention and there’s actual women and children out there who lives are in danger.
She could have just told her story without pretending it was an active situation!
that didnt fit with the marketing strategy. living through it provides 200% more engagement! /s
But its "an emersive experience" LOL
It's fake either way. So many holes in her story, and only claimed it wasn't actively happening as an excuse.
@@KellyRyan-k9kImmersive*
@@professorsugoithe who did I get married to woman did just fine telling her story in the past tense.
Not once did she ever talk about the person going through the mental health crisis, or how he is doing now, or if he was even okay with her using his trauma for clicks
literally I was hoping she'd give some kind of update on if he's okay but ig we're only supposed to care about her in someone else's mental crisis
She keeps calling it their experience their story, yes it affected her but this crisis was her husband's not her's. The entitlement is astounding to me. The way she paints him as a villain and talks about his health problems like it's a movie. We're in a dystopia for sure.
Yeah she was just talking about herself and her grand vision for changing the world with this TikTok channel and tbh... sounds a lot like the way her "husband" was talking in the beginning. Super sketchy, I don't trust that any part of her story is real tbh..
@@dylanagoblin9298 Not defending her actions because she shouldn’t have lied about when it happened and yes she should have spoken more about him and if he was ok. But also she was alienated from her entire family, made to seem like she was crazy and was in genuine danger. Again not defending her but at the same time you can’t act like she was not also a victim in this situation. Her husband is a victim but victims can also hurt people
Totally, her videos ended so abruptly
As someone who has had manic episodes similar to how she’s describing him behaving, if somebody ever took advantage of my disorder to post on tiktok for attention… That person would no longer be in my life.
forreal the way people describe manic psychotic behavior and then try to be like 'look how crazy they're acting!!! look how crazy they are and im normal!!!' girl..
No kidding! I have diagnosed bipolar disorder and had a manic episode two months ago. My psychiatrist and therapist noticed it quickly, so I was lucky enough to avoid being admitted.
My amazing mother in law has some pretty bad manic episodes that can be really destructive. The idea of someone turning that into content breaks my heart. She’s so kind. I have manic episodes too but hide it super well and tend to just self destruct so it’s not as obvious. We can’t control our manic episodes, it’s not our fault and we shouldn’t be treated like zoo animals because of it
THAT PART
same. i have bpd and i have some pretty wild manic episodes, my struggles aren’t content.
“mommy can you play toys with me”
not now, sweetie!! mommy’s doing performance art for the internet!!
Lmaooooo
this could be said for just about any actor, influencer, and artist
And then proceed to listen to your mother speak about your father this way. Wow.
😂😂😂 OMG I spite my coffee out
The way she went about this is so not healthy at all. Imagine violating your partners boundaries by DRAMATIZING their mental health crisis for TikTok
he will NEVER find a job in that rural area they live at. And he will never be able to prove she dramatized this
She kept saying "we" when talking about know they wanted to share the story it's possible he consented to share it to bring awareness. Of course I don't know this I'm just pointing out her use of we seemed to imply that
I can speak a little from experience because I have a brother who had undiagnosed bipolar disorder while we were living in the house together. I'm not saying she's overdramatizing it but the way she tells the story just feels fake to me. And it's different for everybody so she could be telling the truth. People think bipolar is this Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde thing where you're a different person but that's not really what it's like at least for my brother. Like there are definitely times that I look back on as an adult and I think "oh yeah that was a manic episode", but it's just because he was like doing things he wouldn't normally do or say. Just like a more heightened version of himself not like a different person. And they were definitely like some scary moments but it wasn't this overly dramatic thing
I have many family members with type 2 bipolar as well as most of my exes (I have a type I guess 😂) and while their regular manic episodes aren’t this extreme, their psychosis absolutely was. I do believe this was psychosis triggered by a manic episode worsened by the medication he was taking and the way she explained it definitely tracked for me, but this isn’t the day to day experience of having bipolar. Some may experience psychosis more often than others depending on their own personal circumstances, medications, self care routines, support systems, etc. but others may never experience psychosis or experience it very rarely.
@@t_ylryeah I think there are two types of bipolar, one being less extreme and the other looking more like paranoid psychosis.
People who say "I have a passion for storytelling" after getting caught like this don't actually like storytelling. People who like storytelling STATE they are storytellers up front.
Yeah, that’s just compulsive lying if you don’t. Lol
That’s a point I didn’t even think about because I watched several storytelling UA-camrs while I work….. they never really say the name of the person but they’ll tell their story! I felt like I was an ARG for a minute
Exactly lol @@BakedBrain7100
It's also usually someone else's deeply personal story....
@@morgansummers5803
Facts. I have a passion for storytelling but I write fiction lol.
I feel so dumb. I thought this video was gonna be about someone exploiting their pet bird with a disability or something. I didn’t know flightless bird was a username.🤔😭😭
You’re not dumb - just not chronically online. Never heard of this person either.
Nah I clicked on it for the same reason 😂 this isn't my usual content so I'm glad I checked comments first
Anyway i'm very happy that no birds were hurt 😂❤
Saaaaame 😂😂
I thought this was about... planes
I am bipolar and have manic episodes. If my spouse ever did this to me i would be absolutely devastated. There are anonymous groups on reddit and im sure other social media for spouses of people with disorders. I just cant imagine ever putting my loved ones worst moments online without at least doing it anonymously.
I hope her husband left her fr
If I had a spouse do this to me, I'd probably have an episode cause wtf. This is so fucked
Right? My husband has bipolar 1 and I cannot imagine putting him on blast like this. For SO many reasons. What if his employers see this? This is wild
@@lunatic5162i can only iMagine all of the dramatic bs this person has already created. Cause you dont just lie like this the first time u lie.
It's a problem for me even having people tell other people that I have a disorder, let alone going into any detail about it. Maybe he doesn't care about it, but I can't imagine that tbh
"something about this is setting off my hyper-vigilance" as if these weren't the most obvious symptoms of a mental health episode possible
the hypervigilance thing made me laugh for this exact reason
Exactlyyyyy lmao
seriously , what does she have the spiderman tingle ?
Not everyone is well versed in mental health symptoms.
*room is on fire* "Something about this is setting off my alarm bells."
As someone who has bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms among other things, this whole situation is horrifying to me, honestly. If I found out one of my loved ones was talking about my negative symptoms online as if I'm the monster in some sort of horror story, to inspire "solidarity" in others who dealt with "people like me", the betrayal would be immeasurable. That is an evil thing to do, and it's unfortunately common, a la "autism moms".
The neurodivergent people in your life are not a circus act you can parade around for attention and sympathy, and their stories aren't yours to tell, especially not to dramatize. This is not only a breach of trust, but the theatrical attitude she has during her entire retelling and how she acts as if it's currently happening and she's actively in danger, she truly is treating this whole situation like it's a horror movie. Unbelievable, tbh.
As someone who loved (and lost) someone to bipolar I am beyond horrified at the thought too…. I have a deep hatred for the people that exploit this illness for attention, I’ll never understand how these people have no shame..
EXACTLY it really has similar vibes to the "narcissistic abuse" community. they're on the same spectrum as the "autism parents" guys
Id be in jail cause nobody is getting Away with doing that to me
We are so stigmatized people only want to see the "romantic" parts of our disability I have been labeled as dangerous and at risk I've lost my caregivers and a lot of support because when I'm manic it's scary... what is the point of getting diagnosed and having a crisis plan and being on disability if when I'm actually having a "medical episode" (I've never tried to harm someone else) all the support drops off....the part I feel people don't talk about enough is picking up the pieces of your life after you aren't manic anymore but you blew everything up and now you have to face the music....idk about other people but when I'm having an autistic meltdown or manic episode or a flash back ...afterwards I don't remember what I did/said there's been so many times when my care takers/therapists/social worker are expecting me to "explain myself" and I can't but they think I just don't WANT to like no I don't even remember why.....
ALL OF THIISSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!
I have a love and passion for storytelling too that’s why I lie to everyone constantly
😂😂😂😂😂
I gotta use this line.
girl please just write a book. i understand influencer vlogs have corrupted the genre of storytelling but she could be giving colleen hoover a run for her money versus the morsels of dopamine she gets from immediate online attention...
Literally, this would be an amazing Colleen Hoover book (-a Coleen hater)
Bring back the days of ppl writing autobiographical tellings of their life disguised as fiction with all the names changed
Hoover would sue for plagiarism.
Please don't. She needs to just go see new friends, she needs a therapist, she needs to bloody just fucking go outside and touch grass.
CH is a problem and so is she, so don't even give her a position in story writing because she needs to fucking be educated about boundaries and MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES
I worked with a girl who would lie like it was her job. I told her she should just write a book and do something positive with her "creative mind."
Sadly this is not about a woman trying to take an ostrich on a plane claiming it's a support animal.
Didn’t something like that really happen! I swear it did.
Thank you- I kept waiting for it but it never happened, although I was hoping for a kiwi and not an ostrich.
I thought it was gonna be about a cassowary or something…
Bahahaha i live for the comments ❤
First, did she not think about how this could put her husband in danger? Like if someone was genuinely worried about her and her family they could have called the police. The police are not exactly known for handling people with mental health issues well. This whole "performance art" bs could have caused her husband's needless arrest or worse.
Absolutly! She's lucky this didn't end up with someone getting seriously hurt, or worse!!
Good point. I didn't even think about that!
Or someone with a savior complex coming to "free" her and the kids.
@@refinnej5302I can only imagine that would have validated her victimhood in ways she would over share all over tiktok.
It's usually for the best when people get caught and called out for their lies.
Yes if she felt in danger she should have called the police or removed herself and child.
Am I the only one that thinks it’s awful for the husband and any kids and family and a lil…I dunno, messed up(?) to air YOUR SPOUSES mental breakdown online for the world to see? I get “needing help” but…damn girl, if even half of this is true, you very easily could’ve basically ruined his life- career wise, kid wise, friend wise… I dunno. I can’t imagine doing that to my husband…
You make an excellent point. it’s just the biggest reason why I am got off of TikTok and social media in general now that I’m in my relationship with my partner. You start to realize that once you love someone you will do anything to protect them, including your business. Even if they’re not doing well mentally. If my boyfriend was having a manic episode, the last thing I would ever think about doing is telling the whole world about how hard it is for me to cope with it. I would be talking to him and helping him through his symptoms. That’s how healthy couples function. I think TikTok really blurs the line between healthy boundaries in relationships and what to post online. Thank you so much for bringing this up
My aunt has been going through psychosis (delusional parasitosis to be exact) for a year and my family is doing everything we can to get her help including reaching out to the police. It's so exhausting I can't imagine making social media posts about it. My family also doesn't want anyone to know who doesn't need to because we know if she ever gets better she'll be incredibly embarrassed. I'm not done with the video yet but I just can't imagine doing what this lady did.
Specially in the last video. It looks so bad
@@xo1537 Just make sure you have your own support, someone you can tell your feelings to, who'd respect your privacy + your partner's. (I say that as someone with chronic illness; partners can burn out & you can be there for your partner better when you also have support.
This should be the LAST resort, if the police/court won't record such things.
But in general, if done incorrectly, this can be used as Slander.
So unless the whole county hates your family,.try to document offline. Only post online if you think the Mafia is out to get you 6ft Underground
My grandpa took his own life during a psychotic episode caused by his bipolar disorder last year. He had stopped taking his meds, probably due to stress over my grandmother’s declining health, and had been in psychosis for a week or so before ending his life. My grandmother was bedridden, heavily medicated and recovering from surgery. Disorders that alter a person’s reality are not a horror move trope, it’s real life. This is not how you bring awareness to a very real and potentially deadly situation.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢❤
I’m so sorry for your loss
sorry for your loss ❤
So sorry ❤
I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you’re healing and it’s getting easier ❤️🙏🏻
It’s also funny that the husbands “texts” are just pulled from a ChatGPT log too. Very cringe.
TEA
Why do you say that??
How can you tell?
@@girlypopgeek I was able to type in a few prompts and conditions and was able to generate logs that were nearly identical. But, what got me interested in even doing that, was, they honestly just read like some cringelord A.I. prompt to me.
@@matthumes6192dangg that’s smart
This is one of the most theater kid things that a theater kid has ever done lol
The nose blush is definitely playing to the back wall.
"Background in theater" meaning, "I was once an understudy in Godspell for my high school drama class!"
chorus member
😂
it's always f-cking Godspell
@@picahudsoniaunflocked5426 Hahahahaha!!!
YUPPPP
What I heavily dislike about this story is that she believes a theatrical retelling of their crisis will educate people about mental health. She basically turned a very real event in their lives into an ARG. How can there be any education in that? This might be good story telling, but there is no need to make greater claims than that.
She knows there's no education in that, love. She fell back on "I want to educate and change the world" as an excuse because it's better than "I wanted to make money off it".
i'd even go as far as to say that she actively miseducated. her audience gave her some really sound advice, informed her about the urgency of keeping herself and the children safe, asked the right questions. but what she did was brush it all off with excuses and rationalisations, which is the exact thing that can get loved ones of a person suffering through a psychotic episode hurt or even killed.
for example, "i would leave with the kids, but we're in a rural area and i have nowhere to go" .. and I'm like .. so what? call 911, explain that your s.o. is in a changed mental state and has said things that indicate they're a risk to themselves / you / your kids. leaving the person alone by themselves would be a terrible idea anyways. first responders / police would be obligated by law to detain the person, until a _professional_ declares the person safe, or has them admitted - against their will if necessary.
sorry for the rant, but her whining and all the bad courses of action she took (if any of it is even true) just really makes me angry. my best friend has bipolar, and i've seen her suffer through heavy psychotic episodes a few times across two decades. and it's a simple fact that the sooner you have someone in that state detained, evaluated and admitted, the better. not just for safety, but simply because the sooner the person gets professional help the shorter their suffering. they'll need be admitted eventually anyway, why wait for things to escalate, when you can get them to safety right away?
i equate it to when people say something out of left field and then go “i was just making a joke”
Omg certain people just do these shitty thingz online and say but its for educational purposes.
@@augustaseptemberova5664 I HATE this person
The second video she posted is very odd to watch in retrospect, knowing that this was something that occurred months and months prior. Yes, she is a great storyteller. But there is no reason that she had to create such an element of fear in the viewers when the danger had already passed months ago.
i am a little confused as to why she didn’t just tell the viewers that this is a previous experience and not currently happening…
@@mr.bingusthecat it’s gotta be a more clicks thing. When people are invested in your safety, they respond more and faster? BUT we had that 50 part series of “who the fuck did I marry” all told past tense and it did well. Birdie 100% should have stated it was a past event from the start
@@mr.bingusthecat Because that was an afterthought on how to "save" her reputation. She went into it thinking no one would ever question the veracity of her story.
because people will comment immediately and will keep engaging in comments and asking for updates again and again and again. Absolutely nobody should describe someone’s psychosis in such a detail. She’s not covering her face and it’s NOT hard to recognize her and her husband , her husband won’t EVER be able to find a job after her videos
That’s what watching as the story is told in this video feels so weird. Like Austin said in the beginning this wasn’t an active situation but it’s so strange that’d shed say “after I posted the first video… that these are symptoms of a manic episode” as if it was happening real time.
i genuinely thought this was going to be about actual flightless birds😭 thought the bird-watching community was fighting
me too, and I wish it had been smh
Lmaooooo this would have been an amazing video! We have not yet seen bird-watcher tea
@@novalinnhe Ohhh there is bird-watching tea. The John Young night parrot scandal in 2013 is a good one to check out
@@novalinnhe I feel like that would be very chill drama, all the birdwatching communities and people I've ever seen have been so welcoming and nice lol
@@pigeonaticawww!! As a birdwatcher this makes me so happy to hear :) truly is one of the most positive, supportive hobby communities out there, in my experience
I can understand why people were upset. No one wants to invest emotion and compassion and then find out they were duped. There was no reason she couldn't have told the story from the point of view that it happened in the past.
If she really wanted to tell it in present tense, she should've put a disclaimer in the caption
trick question, she shouldve stfu because oversharing is the problem to begin with
and the exploitation of her spouse's mental illness
I'd give her a bit of benefit of the doubt.
Present tense gives the experience similar to following an ongoing drama series, it just fits with the theme especially if this was actually meant for *her personally* to digest her own trauma throughout her fight.
Maybe it was her way to find solace?
Or maybe it was her way of finding more assurance to fight off her ongoing anxiety and negative thoughts because she still felt like she's going crazy eventhough the ordeal had passed?
Different people digest their respective trauma in different form, for example a reflection in a form of retelling the story, a storytime series. Those who are successful at removing themselves from the emotional reactions will find that reflection works best for processing the trauma as they digest.
But for those who kept on getting stuck in that traumatic period in their life, it took a whole different approach to walk out of it. I can say this much because I went through this too myself (not the situation, but the experience of being stuck in a frozen time)
_But of course, those who felt like being used are still entitled to their emotions and deserve the apology._ But I personally would give her the benefit of the doubt, because my own experience made me relate to her way of digesting her trauma.
To each their own reactions to her content.
The problem isn't just that she told it in present tense when it happened in the past, her posting and telling it at all is a problem. It's a clear exploitation of her spouse's mental health and beyond that it's stigmatizing bipolar/mania as something dangerous and to be afraid of. There are healthy ways to handle a partner's manic episodes and this is NOT it. Claiming he threatened their child is disgusting.
Has she been seen by a doctor? This weird attempt at performance art is most certainly her own cry for help.
This. This is not normal/healthy behavior.
Borderline personality disorder comes to mind… 🙁
@@blaah9999ah yes because the only people who stigmatize other peoples disorders are people with other stigmatized disorders... armchair diagnosis has never been wrong biased or stigmatizing either..
I think it's desperate need for attention and validation, she doesn't have other attributes people would watch enmasse
or she’s just attention seeking and greedy
The fuck can't people just start out with: "This is what happened to me/someone else back in blah blah blah." and then go into their skit? Or make the title/description clearly state that this is a recounting of a story and no actively happening?
This seems to happen way too often. Where people "tell stories" by...faking it happening right now and not correcting ANYONE ANYTIME that is expressing clear worry for their current safety.
Because it never happened and she used it as an excuse for the holes in her story
Testing their acting skills I suppose
Had a manic episode once or twice. You know what my partner did? Held me and told me I was okay and that she was real and she was there for me, got me any food or drink I needed since I wasn't eating or drinking, and helped bring me "down." Not a single post about it to the internet despite us both being chronically online, wonder how she managed :P
I'd say she's managing her own mental health quite well. . Folie a deux can send all into poor mental health . So pleased your partner is able to recognize and support you 💞
My uncle started spewing all these weird philosophies and stuff out onto Facebook a few months ago and messaging the family odd things like this. He was diagnosed with schizophrenia and was having a manic episode. It’s so messed up that this woman would start sharing all these private, sensitive moments to the world. He needs help, not this weird form of public humiliation
Its abusive imo he should leave this lying person cause ya know this isnt the only lie she's told , i cant imagine being in the same room with this type of liar
I think the thing that really rubs me the wrong way is like. If I'm manic, my loved ones would describe me as a LOT of things but "charming mastermind" is NOT one of them.
Yes! I commented something similar, she was implying that he could turn his mania off to be charismatic to everyone but her. Doesn’t add up, much like the rest of her story lol
Yes! That gave it away. There's no way someone in that deep of an episode could convince that many people that their spouse was the one experiencing a mental health episode and not them.
Yeah I am paused at about that part because what? Either he's having a psychotic break or he's a manipulative sociopath they are mutually exclusive!
When she was like, “I’ve been waiting for that man to wake up.” It caught me really off guard, because she knows he’s neurodivergent and has mental health issues. That’s so gross?!? To just say that so frivolously on the internet!
Thought the same exact thing!! Like what do you mean??
@@BakedBrain7100 with her saying she doesn't "believe in western medicine" she's almost certainly a spiritual woowoo hoping he gets opened to the cosmos or something
@@stabithavmf She said his parents don't believe in it. It was hard to understand her but Austin confirmed it later on in the video by repeating that his family doesn't believe in Western medicine.
Bipolar isn't neurological, it's mental. Not neurodivergence. Just see this conflated more and more and want to correct. (Note: you can have both, etc)
@@stabithavmf I think you confused it - the narrative she presented was that she was the more reasonable one, the one more likely to believe in western medicine, than him and his family.
"im against western medicine" why is your husband on zoloft in the first place then dawg
THIS!
Yeah this whole production has some undertones of antidepressant/medication shaming, and I'm not here for it 😒
Because it's all fake
THIS like I was asking myself the same thing.. a lot of the details in the story are just too convenient or don't make any sense
She said his parents don't believe in it. It was hard to hear her the first time but Austin then confirmed it in the video by repeating that it's his family who doesn't believe in it.
My husband's first manic episode was triggered when he was put on effexor for the first time. He's also neurodivergent and extremely smart, so this plot line makes a little bit of sense to me but the execution is WILD. I absolutely cannot *imagine* splashing it all over the internet like that wouldnt absolutely devastate him and make him feel two inches tall... especially when she's making it seem like shes in current and imminent danger. My poor husband was absolutely crestfallen when he came out of that first episode and we started to speak in family therapy about the things that happened and how they made me feel. Those kinds of things are for him to share if he ever wanted to, not me. Its very clear that she came across someone elses story that got a lot of traction and either decided she wanted to monetize the situation that happened to her, or she wanted to exaggerate or invent a situation to capitalize on. Its sickening.
Beyond all that, "i have not had any red flags about him with the children" is WILD...all of it is a red flag. 😑
This, all of this
It reminds me of people on tiktok filming strangers clearly having breakdowns. It's so dehumanizing, and this feels dehumanizing too. People deserve privacy :(
Yeaaah claiming he was “closer to the kids than ever because of his mania” is such a glorification of bipolar disorder. As someone with it. I’m still me when I’m manic, I still like the things I like, and believe the same things, just a little more extreme and sometimes very black or white. I’m not “more intuitive with my emotions” because I’m manic. Lol I’m just hyper and impulsive. She does her part of demonizing us and romanticizing us at the same time? In my opinion. I d told many people I love that I hate them and they’re dead to me, but I’ve never worked with outside sources to manipulate them. I can’t be very manipulative because I don’t even have the power to manipulate my own thinking half the time honestly. lol idk.
It's wild that doctors prescribe such dangerous drugs without supervision
@@jonh2798 I was honestly floored that she said he got it from the hims app. Idk when they started prescribing anti depressants but it started out just doing things like Viagra I believe. I don't take issue with telemedicine, but I think it's important that patients that use it also have in person access to those physicians. It's not abnormal for someone's doctor to just prescribe an SSRI if they say they're feeling depressed, but it IS dangerous to not be able to reach out to your prescriber in a crisis like that. I don't think she's being very truthful though, because it doesn't make sense that she said he didn't have access to a doctor because he got them through the app but then said their primary care gave him an emergency visit with absolutely zero notice... concierge medicine causes a lot of problems but it's also a necessary evil in this stage of the breakdown of the US healthcare system when a huge percentage of Americans can't afford to go to a psychiatrist, or they can't wait any longer (I've been waiting 8 months for a consult I scheduled while I was in crisis in January, I still have another month to go. I'm lucky my mom's a primary care doc and called in a favor from a colleague to get me in with one of her partners to medicate me until then)...I also had a mini stroke in May. When I was discharged from the hospital I was referred to neurology, and the soonest available appointment at a neurologist that accepts my insurance was in JANUARY. so patients turn to those apps that offer immediate, relatively affordable services for a specific problem. I do think it's inappropriate that hims has branched out from men's care into providing psych meds, but I also think concierge medicine is here to stay unfortunately.
@@BakedBrain7100 in my opinion, she 100% exaggerated in the very least. She mixed in elements of multiple disorders, and the choice to include the part about him isolating her from loved ones is a little off... that's exactly what someone with a narcissistic personality disorder would do. I think it's important to note the emphasis she puts on being "a good storyteller," because a lot of "good storytellers" will embellish or add details they think make the story more cohesive or exciting or relatable. I originally commented before the video was over, and after watching the whole video I honestly think she made up most of it. Maybe her husband did get a bipolar diagnosis and had a couple manic episodes before they knew what was happening but there's just so much that doesn't add up here it's hard to believe her.
What a gross, disrespectful, insensitive way to handle the VERY serious issue of a mental health crisis. She should be ashamed of herself.
Honestly the person I wanna hear from is her husband. In her "apology" she says "we wanted to do this" "we thought this", I want to know how much input he had on this
This isn’t awareness, this is exploitation.
This puts it perfectly.
I posted a story saying I felt like she was lying and got so much hate and now 😅 lol she could have still told her story but in past tense so strange how she did this. She’s also a writer so I think she was wanting to make this a book
what was the smoking gun evidence just out of curiosity? or was it collective intuition and she just confessed when enough pressure was applied
literally, no sane person would do this instead of trying to help the other party
me, a birder, going into this: ehehheohoho
me, whos had experiences w their mom having a manic episodes from undiagnosed bipolar: uh oh
i do just wanna say that my mom is doing so much better now that shes correctly medicated and has even apologized for the harm shes caused me :')
@@MilkChocolateGeesei hope that you are safe and i hope that things continue to get better ♡
Love your comments. That's too funny. Glad ur mom is good. 💕
If this video isn't about a bird...
AAAAAAA
🤡
@@nekofrauLMAOOO
*The betrayal*
RIP 🪦
Surprise!
She literally admits that she was thinking of how to use the experience while it was still happening... this woman is sick. She herself needs help. This is not healthy. It isn't normal.
If she gave a single care about mental health, she would have thought about how triggering this could have been for those who also went through something similar. Hearing someone tell their story in the past tense has a totally different effect than that of an ongoing story that someone feels they need to help with due to their own experience. This is absolutely wild.
Your telling me her husband grew up in a traumatic cult like situation which made him detached from your kids. SO YOU HAD 4 KIDS?!
Seems like she just used him to make the kids and is fine with an emotionally absent father figure which will lead to issues in all of them. Mother of the year 🎉
@@Shribbleor she did not / does not understand attachment or cults or very much.
I have Bipolar I and if my partner aired one of my manic episodes on the internet for thousands to see I would be so heartbroken.
I’m in my last year of my Masters in social work, with a focus on being a therapist. It is actually terrifying to me that this individual is exploiting their partner’s comorbid mental illnesses in order to tell a story. If you’re so interested in fiction, write a book.
True and just wanted to say congrats, this world need all the ethical social workers we can get, thanks for your hard work (:
the fake crying with no tears is so agitating to listen to
Oh there were tears rolling down her cheeks, she can actually fake cry
there were actually visible tears
there were real tears, that's why it seemed genuine
And she’s clearly wearing blush in the apology/explanation video
Dude I’ve just been listening to the audio of this video and i accidentally just kept catching myself laughing when she was “crying”😫😫😫
I’m here early, haven’t watched yet. But I love reading titles literally and imagining that tiktok is really mad that some birds can’t fly.
how dare penguins exist 😡😡😡😡😡
how DARE kiwi exist!!! >:[
the way tiktok would also do this LMAO
after watching the full video i gotta say you were right!
•me reading title and crying for birds that can't fly• 😢 😂
Faking a family members mental breakdown for content is crazyyy 💀💀💀
i have bipolar 1 with psychotic features and was dumped during a manic psychotic episode triggered by an ssri because i was "too much to handle". i was called abusive, manipulative, and villianized. i lost all of my friends, my job, and my house. people thought i was dangerous because i was delusional and paranoid. i wasnt, i was just so fucking scared the whole time. i have diagnosed ptsd from MYSELF. from my OWN psychosis. she had NO right to air these things out in the open as if he wasnt a patient in need of a f*ckn doctor. how DARE she. we are not tools for a dramatic story, were PEOPLE.
Damn I’m bipolar as well, not as extreme, I experience hypomania more than full blown manic episodes, I thought the way he manipulated her family and friends against her was totally demonization at its finest and doesn’t even track with what I feel like I experience. I’ve never had the organization skills to conspire against an enemy. Lol That’s just me though. I can’t even control my thoughts and feelings 98% of the time, to plan ahead in order to isolate her? I just don’t believe it even tracks.
Completely agree with you as well, well said, keep on keeping on comrade!
Those are my exact thoughts. I haven't had anything like that happen to me, but I do have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and past substance use related to self-medicating. I would be upset if anything from that time was shared online, but I would be outraged if it was shared in the disingenuous, overdramatic, selfish, and tacky manner she did. She should be ashamed.
I'm also bipolar. I physically recoiled at some of what she was saying, it made me feel ill to even think of.
everyday I count my blessings that I'm bipolar 2 and not bipolar 1. hypomania is already so exhausting and embarrassing. I'm so lucky to not have full on manic episodes. I hope you're healing.
I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you have better friends now.
Her "cry" voice is so forced and faked. It sounds like a UA-camr apology.
Same I felt really bad for thinking it sounded fake or off before I knew it WAS.
I literally cannot stand listening to her. My brain just starts tuning her out
You'd think with all the cuts she'd use some eye drops to make her crying look more realistic
Hahhahahaha
It was SO annoying and obviously fake
She never sounded believable. soo -serving that theatre kid improve, mixed with a bit of delulu romance novel chick...lol.
fr her acting was so bad
Don't ridicule people who fell for it regardless of how smart you think you are for detecting that, though
@@asuka-ryothey didn’t?
@@Gumbyloomy that's why i added "though" at the end
dont demonize the or play with the word "delusional" on a video of bipolar manic psychosis maybe
When she said "...while also listening to the biological instinct to run, run, run 🎶" I was thinking 'oh dear god *please* don't become a musical!
I had the same fear
Literally thought she was going to break out into song. That would be the cherry on top of this absolutely insane sundae. I hope her husband is okay, but she seriously needs to seek professional help.
You know when kids scare themselves with their own stories? She comes across like that.
Birdie, this isnt performance art. Everyone who was concerned about her are most likely people who have been through it themselves so all she did was retraumatize people. She did nothing for "the conversation about mental health" other than center herself in it
Worse than doing nothing for the cause she claimed to care about- she actively hurt a lot of people and made it so other people legitimately in her shoes are less likely to be believed or supported too. It’s disgusting for her to make the claim she did it for awareness and all when she’s actively hurt the cause and so many of the people who are living it for real (both patients with mental health crises of their own and the loved ones and family of those who are).
It’s honestly disgusting.
They could’ve kept scrolling. It’s silly to be overreacting about people on TT. You have to assume that 99% of people are lying.
She could have told the same story but have a caption saying "Disclaimer this is a retelling of what happened to me and my husband back in January" and people would be 90% less p*ssed.
@@Sauronshieldare you aware of how many mentally ill people have lost their lives because of tiktok, or are you just intentionally being obtuse?
@@grapetex she didn’t point to anyone or bully / harass them. It was about herself, she learned a lesson. I think if anything, we should be worried about her getting bullied now and her mental health. This isn’t a kid. It’s a married woman supposedly, in her made up story.
The sing-song "Run! Run! Run!" around the 46th minute is indicative of how much of a performance this is for her.
And her addressing "You, the audience" - ma'am. They did not know they were an audience. You asked people to vulnerably share their own experiences of mania in your comments section!
This is wild.
It doesn’t take “hyper-vigilance” to recognize an obviously unwell person having a psychotic break like that, but okay girl sure.
I saw this go down in real time, from the first video. I was checking her profile every single day, I was so scared for her. I felt so foolish when I found out it was all fake.
You're not stupid - please never feel bad for having empathy and being a decent person! 💓
@@inprogress9757Amen. That’s one of the worst things about fakers on social media- they end up hurting so many people. It makes it extra insulting she claims she did this for awareness or to share her story since when people do this crap they not only hurt people like OP who feel taken advantage of because they cared and worried or tried to help, they make it so people are less willing to help or believe people who really do need help too.
So agree entirely there’s nothing stupid about having empathy and being concerned for someone you thought was in danger or need. Don’t let exploitative people like this bird woman make you doubt or turn off your very human emotion and care for others. You’re not stupid because a rather crappy person took advantage of your care and concern. 😔
And that sucks too. How much people who care so much for others tend to then blame themselves like this. Be mad at the tiktoker for what she did, but don’t feel stupid or mad at yourself for caring.
It isn't your fault you were lied to and then concerned for their safety.
Yall she’s not a great storyteller. She was motivated. Motivated to use something to get famous. There’s a difference.
She took a couple drama classes in high school and thinks she's an undiscovered Meryl Streep.
She took people on a week of FEAR FOR HER LIFE for a "journey/experience"? What in the EVERLOVING CAUCASITY. If you're trying to share how serious mental illness is, dont use it as a painful art experiment without audience consent.
She made it sound like a VR attraction at a theme park bro 😭
Do only white people do this?
this is why we can't and should never believe all women 🤷🏼♀️
@@nicloren2220that’s a very fair point, but it’s also worth noting that we *would* be able to believe all women (or all victims really, men and women) if people like her didn’t exist. Just saying
And that is the definition of pranks.
It's disgusting, *and I do not argue with that.*
I don’t think she realizes how lucky she is… while in her story her husband made it out. my husband didn’t make it out. 3 years ago… every day has felt like a lifetime…While I use TikTok to talk about how I’m feeling, I’d personally never go about it in the way she did. This was an absolutely vile experience for me. I was genuinely worried about nothing. This changed the way I consume media from here on out.
I’m so sorry you went through all you have and so sorry you were hurt and exploited by this woman. That’s the worst part about her trying to claim she did this for awareness. She’s actively hurt so many people but especially those closest to the very cause she’s trying to claim she was raising awareness about or whatever. She’s made it less safe for people like you to receive support or even want to be involved in online communities in the same way.
I have a lot of serious medical issues and have been taken advantage of by illness fakers pretending to have or overdramatizing my loved reality for attention and even money. I’ve been duped and I’ve had a faker even steal parts of my own story. And worse- because of how toxic people like this are to such vulnerable communities- I’ve also both radically changed how I use or interact with social media or talk about my own experiences AND one of the most devastating effects of this kind of exploitation is that not only do caring people now feel less willing to put themselves out there, some people deal with their pain from being hurt and used by people like this by kind of going on a witch hunt and doubting even legitimate people. There’s entire communities of people talking about who they think is faking illnesses, and often they spin out of this kind of thing. I’ve watched other sick people kind of turned toxic by their own pain and fall down rabbit holes of hours and months in those groups then, constantly viewing every other sick person online under the lens of “this person is probably faking it”. So now what once was a supportive corner of the internet for vulnerable and hurting people has become such a damaging and negative space.
It’s devastating what people like her do and it’s so insulting she’s now trying to claim she did it for awareness or whatever. I’m really sorry she hurt you in this way and I hope you take care of yourself or have a friend or two you can talk to about this because there are multiple levels and ways this hurts and she’s changed your whole way of approaching social media and others who have gone through things like you have. It’s a double edged sword of betrayal. 😔
@@TziporaRaphaella hey thanks for taking the time to write; that was super kind 🥺🩷🩷
hey casandra, i'm so sorry you had to go through that and i'm even more sorry that this woman was so insensitive and had such an awful manner of "raising awareness" to a topic that is extremely serious and important to raise proper and well-educated awareness to. i wish she would've taken a different approach, as it is an extremely important subject to talk about, but she completely missed and it was honestly so awful of her to put her viewers through this, especially those who went through similar situations. i hope you are doing well and i wish you truly the best 🩷
@@nevermoreartthank you ❤
i am so annoyed by her constant need for engagement in these videos(constantly asking for comments and ideas). First she talks about her husband situation, then its not really about the husband who is the focus but her (the family, the danger, the everyone is isolating me). It annoys me that she uses technical terms to explain her point, but also acts like she doesnt know whats going. It annoys me that she is obviously reading some kind of script in these videos.
This whole thing is so exploitative and for what, some tiktok attention? disgusting
omg YES with the technical terms and shit. she was explaining it like it happened in the past or she already did extensive research on it, but also feigning ignorance about what was happening
"I couldn't really tell if my husband of 10 years was acting strangely, its a good thing tiktok users could see the signs in less than 60 seconds"
"also my husband sent hundreds of messages to all of our friends and family at 2 am and they all agree im crazy"
She's not doing a very good job of convincing me that she isn't the one with the mental issues
I felt similarly
Maybe her husband wasn't too far off even when he was in a manic state.
I haven't looked into this and am not too invested to know, but do any of those crazy texts she shared show evidence that it was him sending them? Could it have been her sending them?
@@refinnej5302it probably was which is why she censored the time
Oh man I was commenting on this one in real time. She actually directly responded to my comment saying she “didn’t consider how her videos would hurt future domestic violence victims” while at the same time praising herself for shocking people in her comment sections and deleting comments directly calling her out. I still have screenshots
Advocating for better understanding of mental health issues while potentially traumatizing your viewers into thinking you, your husband, and your kids are in immediate danger is certainly....a choice. I also feel a twinge of anti-antidepressant rhetoric bubbling under the surface.
I have bipolar disorder and when i get hit by manic episodes only thing i want from my spouse is for him to admit me into psychiatric hospital when things become dangerous. Thats why he has full rights to do it in papers. It doesn't matter if someone believes in medicine or no, when it comes to mental health its such a delicate topic... Better to hand it off to people that know what they're doing
I agree. I have schizoaffective bipolar type and my husband has helped me be committed three times and once I was involuntary committed by the police. It's so important to have someone who knows the signs and can get you help. I'm glad you have that.
i think my biggest issue with her last video is how it's framed as assuming that the audience does not include any mentally ill/disabled/Mad people. she claims to care about this group of people, but didn't take our safety, dignity, or autonomy into account when doing this. as many people have said in the comments, this is a nightmare for a lot of us. it's a breach of privacy to the extreme, and even if her husband did consent to this, they didn't take the wider ramifications into account. she claims she's raising awareness, but she's just doing what every other ableist profiting off their disabled/ill/mad/crip family member had done: making it into a spectacle
“I was a theater kid” is a contender for least surprising plot twist of all time
Glad we could help! :)
Oh my god!! It's the guy!!
This is a good example of real narcissism. Long after her husband had a mental breakdown she decides to get pity and attention on the internet and pretend to be some savior and scared woman. It’s literally all a lie and manipulation and there is no aspect of storytelling to it it’s just attention farming. This lady is disturbed.
it's not Real Narcissism, it's just someone being ableist.
"Narcissist" does not mean "someone doing something fucked up / being selfish". it means someone who is diagnosed with NPD. that's it. any other use is incorrect and incredibly damaging to people with NPD
please don't stigmatize Cluster B disorders in general but ESPECIALLY not on a video about someone demonizing and exploiting a person's mental health crisis!
@@MayoiKatas3 it is real narcissism ...but not the diagnosis.. but definitely the word.
Narcisssism and npd are not the same thing, you can call someones actions narcissitic without diagnosing them. @MayoiKatas3
Watching this happen in real time was wild. I saw a similar situation around a divorce happen a few months ago with the same “this really happened but I wanted to pretend like it was happening now so you’d be worried about the safety of my child heehee” so I wasn’t toootally shocked. Also kind of wild the emphasis of her rosacea to look like she’s been crying
I had commented an experience of mine under one of her vids that I had NEVER told a soul…… just in case it would help her in the moment. When I found out it was literally all for naught , I was fr just ….. sad 😔 I mean I did choose to tell it but damn.
when I first saw her video many things threw me off but the main thing was that everyone was saying to move her children away and she was to insistent that she saw no point in separating him from the children and she didn’t want to because she was seeing the husband make “memories” with the children like she never had before. it baffled me 😭😒
Just a friendly reminder that antidepressants can be life-saving medications and should be monitored closely by a doctor frequently when you begin taking them. If one doesn't work for you, there are multiple alternatives to try.
My friend and I were watching in real time and I was sincerely worried he was going to be a family annihilator. But we were both hoping it was fake.
Right??? That is unfortunately not a super uncommon occurrence. I can’t imagine making so many people worry about me just for attention.
Trying to figure out what made the WTF did I marry story so believable but this one so unbelievable. And I think it’s how Reesa’s story wasn’t always flattering to her.
And she wasn't begging for engagement in every video.
"He told me to guard this information with my life"
LETS GO ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
15:55 If I had been following this in real time I would’ve known it wasn’t true by this story alone. Imagine a person having a manic episode and convincing their family and in-laws that the spouse needs to be institutionalized. She says her husband can be so charming to everyone but her, which would imply that he can conceal his manic behavior at will. That’s where I would have really started to doubt this woman had I been following her and listening along. That part of the storyline just doesn’t sound plausible.
Best word to succinctly describe this person is “selfish.”
I have bipolar disorder and I'm angry. This is not fun. I'm still alive by pure luck. It's not trendy or what.
As someone who has had this happen with family, if you see any of these signs, TAKE THEM TO THE HOSPITAL. Dont post videos, don’t take it to the internet, speak to a medical professional as soon as possible
Not only did she exploit her husbands mental health crisis she exploited her audience that have been through similar situations for engagement and sympathy. Clown behavior
My father had 2 psychotic episodes and it was incredibly scary. Her story at times sounded quite a bit like what we went through. I could never imagine turning it into a dramatization for social media, though. The one thing she has a point about is the instinct to run during episodes even though they are more likely to hurt themselves instead of others. Psychosis can happen to the best of us when stressed and we need to work harder to destigmatize it.
OMG, this reminds me of the youtuber who just posted about her "miscarriage" when she was never pregnant & the girl who lied about being Amish.
This is NOT lonelygirl15; why tf do ppl keep faking *serious* shit.
When I took Zoloft I was experiencing a lot of symptoms of mania almost right away. I wasn’t able to sleep or eat. I was so hyper vigilant that I spent the nights on the couch so that I could see the staircase because I thought someone was coming for my family. My parents took me off it after three days because it became so bad, so quickly. Turned out that my depression wasn’t depression, it was bipolar 2. And taking anti depressants when you’re bipolar just isn’t going to help, because having depressive episodes does not mean that you have depression. It could mean a lot of things. The story she tells could absolutely be the story of someone who is bipolar but on anti depressants but I feel like there is something coming. I’m about 30 min into the video and feel like something is sus here
It’s crazy how differently the same medicine can affect people! When I was on Zoloft I was so numb and shut down, it made all my symptoms of depression worse and my anxiety just turned into chronic migraines 😭 so glad to be off of it
Bipolar 2 is a choice sweetie
@@savannan.7603 ?????
@@savannan.7603as someone with bipolar 2. This comment just makes me laugh.
For people who don’t know what bipolar 2 is and what the difference with bipolar 1. It is a less severe form of bipolar. Instead of going through a straight up manic episode. You are going through a hypomanic one. When I do have those episodes, I am extremely hyper. I can’t sleep. I either can’t eat or can’t stop eating. I can’t control my impulses. I spend so much money that I almost went bankrupt once. The sad thing about these episodes is that I am actually happy. Like extremely ecstatic and life seems worth living. And then the crash happens and it’s freaking hard. While the hypomanic episodes are around 1-2 weeks. The depressive one can be as long as 2 months. I sleep a lot. Like 15-18 hours a day. I am in physical pain. And I’m practically bed ridden. I go completely catatonic for days on end and need someone to take care of me because I’m just incapable of doing anything for myself. I lost a Fulbright scholarship due to it. Once I started lamictal, I’ve been feeling much better. I still go through both but they’re far less intense and don’t stay for as long. It’s just extremely sad because I don’t feel that happiness anymore. And that’s the dangerous thing with bipolar in general, you yearn for that feeling and sometimes stop medication just to get that hit. I have stopped medication twice this year because of that. And it took a lot of willpower and support to get back on it. I am pretty stable now. But also quite numb. I don’t get angry, I don’t get sad, but I don’t get happy either. So no, it’s unfortunately not a choice cause I wish it was cause then I wouldn’t have to deal with this and can live my life normally instead of being a 29 years old who hasn’t been able to have a job and who lost a freaking Fulbright scholarship that would allow me to get a graduate degree on a full ride, including living expenses.
Freaking hell. I hate UA-cam. I made a whole comment explaining how bipolar 2 affects us and how serious of a condition it is. And that it is not a choice like the previous commenter stated but then it was swallowed 😭😭 oh well. It’s a serious issue, it had wrecked my life and practically made it non existent. The depression is debilitating.
Lmao why did she randomly throw in him having alters at the end???
I hope people who comment stuff like "it's so obvious she was acting, how did people fell for it" understand how much empathy blinds you. It's easy for you to think people were easily fooled since you have the hindsight.
On another note, I'm glad I wasn't the only one who went into this video expecting another animal ab**er.
Being deceived and manipulated should reflect poorly on the person/s doing so and not those who believe them.
Good point. People who witnessed this in “real time” also didn’t get to watch her complete series in the span of 50 minutes.
But this is a far too common of an occurrence, where people see something on SM, especially TikTok these days, and run with it. We live in a society dependent on technology, yet our internet and media literacy has plummeted. Of course, this situation is a bit different in that there wouldn't be anything to research with no information about them.
Exactly. I saw the first half of this in real time, and I spent the rest of the night feeling awful for this poor woman going through something really tough. Normally I'm pretty skeptical of shit online, but for whatever reason I didn't consider that someone would be lying about something so personal and series involving their own husband.
I’m incredibly torn. As the wife of a veteran with complex PTSD, memory issues, medicinal changes, and false memories, some of what she shared felt incredibly visceral and real to me.
But to get online and dramatise it like that… I can’t help but wonder if she really was the one who had the break, and is trying to reframe it now?
It's no wonder he was spiraling with a wife who does something like this. I hope he has ACTUAL loved ones around him now because this is nothing short of sick and disgusting.
She is dangerous.
I really feel for all her followers who genuinely thought she was in distress. 'Art' and 'dramatisation' should be a consentual practice. The viewer should have the choice to put themselves through those emotions.
Yes! Great point bringing up consent! If I do an escape room for fun that's fine, if you kidnap me and keep me in your basement without my approval, that's a crime!
i think she would have been fine if she had just been honest from tbe beginning that it was a retelling of something that happened a while ago. there are other pages on TT that do this, and theyre clear that theyre not in immediate danger and they are acting this out to show how to get help in a DV or crisis situation/how easily something like that can spiral. like it isnt hard to be upfront instead of causing distress to people who are concerned that several people (including children) are at risk for immediate harm.
Would only be fine if she got permission from her husband and family to share this. It wasn’t her experience alone to share.
@@christinagriz3736 from her saying "we" consistently in her last video i was pretty sure he had agreed.
@@fishtick I don’t believe half the stuff she says 😂 idk id be upset at 10 years old and my mom spews personal info about my dad on tik tok. She was selfish in her posting.
@@christinagriz3736 i dont disagree about the selfishness, i just also know that even if someone isnt weird because of their disorder, they can still be weird by agreeing to let their spouse post worrying things on TT yknow?
@@fishtick very true point
It’s pretty wild to take what is already a pretty wild story and decide you’re not going to recount it but instead you’re going to re-enact it while telling everyone it’s currently happening. I think one of the most important things about telling these stories is that we are as honest and transparent as possible, and I say this as someone who dated someone who was diagnosed as schizo-affective for 8 years. If you’ve been with someone experiencing psychosis then you’ve seen the real damage that stories can do when they aren’t real - they alienate those around us and harm those close to us, so why you’d decide to inject insincerity into your retelling of your partners psychotic break is far beyond me. It would’ve been a good story just told as it is, but she decided to basically lie knowing many people would think it’s completely true which is NOT storytelling, when you tell a story people know it’s a “story”, that’s what that is. This is told as if it’s a currently ongoing reality, which it wasn’t. It calls into question her entire story, and it’s insane to me that she couldn’t see that coming.
damn i thought this was gonna be about a fake bird rescue or something lmao
All of this is bad. The exploiting of a partner’s mental health crisis, the traumatizing the audience, the bad acting… like, if you want to stigmatize mental illness, good job, you succeeded in looking crazy.
I feel so bad for the people who were vulnerable with her in her comments, those who offered help and support. Shes done the opposite of what she wanted, now people are likely to be more skeptical of stuff like this. Actively ASKING and PLEADING for people to be vulnerable and share their stories and for resources to then delete the account? I highly, highly doubt that her intention was to bring awareness
As someone who’s grandfather suffers serious bipolar and manic episodes, that have seriously affected me, my father and other parts of my family, wtf is wrong with this woman!?
Omg i skipped all her vids when they came on my fyp as they were too long and rambly for my attention span but when i saw everything start to come out i hoped you would do a vid on this as you explain and summarise so well!! Looking forward to this!!
Thank you for covering this, I knew there was something but I couldnt be arsed to look thru so many videos on tiktok 💀
why did she ask people to comment advice if she was just recreating the story??? that’s such a manipulative thing to do. I get she wanted people to share their stories and connect and whatnot but its just… ???? whyd she do that
As someone with multiple family members with Bipolar Disorder and having been with them during manic episodes this is incredibly harmful. On one hand, this a horrible thing to do to a loved one, not just the person who has the psychiatric disorder but also to spread this all over the internet for her children to find, even if it is years later. On the other, it is extremely dangerous to present this as a genuine manic episode. Everyone experiences them differently but there are several things that do not make sense. She seems to have decided to dramatize something that is already serious enough and is spreading quite a few misconceptions about a serious psychiatric disorder. Not to mention, having people fear for her and her children’s safety. All around this horrible idea on her part.
I just wanted to say that everyone who genuinely believed her story and was worried about her, should not allow someone like her to make you feel foolish.
She was the one who decided that the best course of storytelling was to portray this as if it was currently happening and not once telling her audience that this was something that *had* happened. She could have even put it in the tags, but she chose not to.
What she did was horrifically cruel and no one should feel awful for believing her. You are human and feeling empathy for someone else’s suffering is apart of being human.
She, however, should feel *awful* for what she did to people who genuinely were scared for her and her children be it because they have experienced something similar or know of such sad cases.
even if this story is true are you telling me your man had a mental breakdown/had a manic episode for an ENTIRE week, threatened to have you committed, turned your family against you and made you fear for your life because he started tracking your behavior but 'oh hes getting along with the kids so well' I would have personally exploded on the spot.
Average theater kid behavior, scaring everyone around them to “get a point across”
Breaks my heart because I’m an advocate for domestic violence hotline and I literally had a client meeting for this lady who was terrified to turn on her own phone because her ex-husband is tracking her. And then you have this piece of shit was faking it for attention and there’s actual women and children out there who lives are in danger.