Reinvent Your Life Over 40 | Mindset Hacks That Work
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I had a similar incident where I couldn't let the conversation go on recently. I was in a meeting where we were working our way through some complex issues and one of my older Engineering colleagues made a comment about the younger people in the room being Millenials who expected a participation trophy. I just asked "Who gave them the participation trophies when they were kids that gave them that expectation? Who were the adults?" It stopped the conversation. I told everyone maybe lets stop assigning people personality traits just because of their age bracket and told the younger Engineers in the room that they were there because we think they can help us solve issues. It actually went over really well. Respect can go both ways.
I always just tell people that make these comments that they are part of the generations that raised the generations they are complaining about.
Well put Mike! Love how you handled that.
Great answer!
When you take action and you are consistent, success is inevitable. 44 here and just getting warmed up 😉
Love it!
John, what I appreciate about videos like this is the honest, no bs approach, and genuine compassion. I remember at 38 (58 for a week today), going on 39 when my marriage ended. I had 2 school age daughters living in a state with no family to fall back on. I learned who my friends where real fast and how strong, resilient and resourceful I actually am due to that challenge. In 2009, a tornado passed with in 50 feet of the apartment I was living in and destroyed the building behind mine. That was my second message. From those moments to today, I earned my master's degree, presented at academic conferences in places I never would have thought to travel to, and created goals that led to amazing accomplishments. To paraphrase Joseph Campbell in regard to challenging situations, one needs to find a way to be grateful in those moments because those challenges are gift from the universe for you to discover who you are. Again, appreciate your work, good sir.
Appreciate you! Thank you very much for sharing!
You present as someone who speaks as a cross between a trusted friend and mentor, John - never preachy or didactic, and always with a message of "I've been there", "we've got this". Many thanks!
Appreciate that! Thank you!
you the man John!
So are you! Thank you!
'The standard you walk past is the standard you accept'.
Courage takes on many forms. Having the courage to speak up against an injustice when you encounter it is one such form. 👏
Well said!
Nice, John. It is plain to see that you do indeed strive to put positivity and goodwill out into the world.
Always!
Great video. Today is my 40th birthday, and I’ve been in a 6-8 month process of reinventing myself to become the man I know I can be. Thank you for your inspiration!
Happy birthday!!!
@@40OverFashion thank you so much! It’s been a great day
So true i need to reinvite myself finically its all about self discipline Love your entire channel,
Thank you very much!
Thanks John. Consider making a separate playlist for your mental health videos. Just a thought. ☮
Good suggestion!
I'm at least partly here because of your messages about positivity and optimism. We all need more of that in our lives and I can always count on you to deliver that (even if you think I should tuck my shirt collars into my sweater!! 🤣)
A couple more things....I live by the adage of "stop thinking and start doing"...Also, what I've also learned is that I don't have to have an opinion about everything or give my energy to care about everything. It only leads to division and unnecessary negativity that no one needs.
Ha! Appreciate you Jeff! Thanks for sharing!
Another great video on such important topic. Great point at 6:21 !
Masculinity has been “under the gun” for so long, I find your take on men’s mental health refreshing and appreciate you continuing to address it in your content.
Thank you very much!
Good morning John, at this time it’s morning here in Louisiana, but you are my favorite guy on UA-cam because you are straight to the point and you are pretty much for all of us that we are not a millionaires and cannot afford super expensive branding clothes, like other, UA-camrs do all your videos always are a great help for us.
I have a lot of knowledge, but believe me, I learned a lot from you too
Thank you! I really appreciate that Eduardo!
Thanks for being there for us! 😊
Always!
Great topic John! I done a Self Mastery course to change my attitude/mindset to life, best thing I ever done!
And you’re 100% correct in saying no one is going to come and save you.
Thank you!
To the point of getting therapy, counseling or just plain help, remember you have to do the work to improve or fix your situation. It can help but ultimately “Just Do It” whatever it takes “Do It” Thanks you speak the truth….✌
Absolutely!
John, great subject. Ive been out of work for 2 years straight, living "off the state" so to speak, haven’t had a relationship with a lady since 2014 & haven’t had intimate relations with a lady since 2016. I'm 56+ and haven’t had a long term job since 1997. Lets just say things haven’t been the best.
You basically said "I'm not a professional therapist & am not really know how to help." John, youre doing the help by just having this UA-cam channel & talking about the different subjects that you do. I extremely appreciate. Just being able to vent on here helps a lot. You've helped me a lot.
So keep doing what you're doing and I'll keep watching & learning. Its "Legendary"
Appreciate that! Thank you very much!
Another excellent video that I sent a copy of the link to a friend!
Appreciate that! Thank you!
Cool and inspiring statements for a good and fresh headstart into 2024. Happy New Year 🎉🎉🎉
Happy new year!
I’m not the sort to quote scripture, but your words reminded me of one of my favourites so here goes, "And no man, when he hath lighted a lamp, covereth it with a vessel, or putteth it under a bed; but putteth it on a stand, that they that enter in may see the light."
- Luke 8:16-18
What you said (people change and our value change) is the truth، that is the problem, We need to realize it and accept it. It's very very hard, even if we realize it, we can't accept it, may by time we can, I don't know, only I know it's what it's.
Thanks John, always your videos help me and give me Optimism and realistic.
Thanks again buddy
You’re welcome! Thanks for watching!
Your comment about working with the smarter person is spot on. There is a great saying, "If you are the smartest person in the room, it is time to find another room."
Love that!
Great vid!! I'm 41 and hitting the gym 3 days per week, 2 days of cardio, so I'm a bit bulky and from 206 pounds, and right now im 197 fill bit light but looking to get in 190lbs is good for my health and keep progressing at my job keep the good work John!!
Congratulations! Keep at it!
100% Agree John on everything that you've said.
Always be kind because you never know what other people are going through
Great video, John. Very thought-provoking!
Much appreciated!
all well said, and thank you
Very welcome!
Thanks for the vid Jon. At 45 I finally decided no guts no glory and am starting my own business.
Congratulations!!
One is never too old to hear and learn what described. Thank you for the continued inspiration.
Thank you!
Love your videos. Always a source of inspiration.
Thanks again!
My pleasure!
Hello John. Thank you for this wonderful video. It was very uplifting and encouraging as well. As always, you gave us wonderful advices. I agree with you, it is better to have that "true, great friend that will be there always" rather than many friends that will find any possible way to put you down. I hope your week goes wonderful. Thank you again for a great video. Have fun and stay safe. Cheers!
Thank you very much! Cheers!
I want to suggest that you tell your subscribers from time to time to make sure that they are still subscribed. All this time I have been watching your videos and at some point was unsubscribed. I think the UA-cam bots do a scrub and will remove people. I have heard other channels talk about it. Something to think about.
Interesting! Thank you!
Thank you, John!
My pleasure!
Amen brother!!
Impactful quotes. Nothing like living in the present. Keep moving.
So true!!
Very good video John, it made a lot of sense. and I appreciate it.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
Thank you for this, sometimes a simple reminder can help adjust your path.
So true! Thanks for watching Jason!
Good advice thx John
Any time!
I didn't know I needed this in my life until now.
John great content well put together
As an older member of your subscribers I reiterate the value of true friendships also the statement that planning for the future and hard graft when needed is sometimes the only way forward struck a chord with me as my life has progressed
But don’t forget it is also important to have time for your family and friends as if something occurs that throws you off your path then these are the people we turn to to seek advice and bounce ideas off
Love your channel and look forward to your postings
Thank you Michael!
Great video John. You still continue to put out great content that inspires. Thank you for building a great community.
I appreciate that! Thank you!
John, you have so much quality content…. So much more than about fashion.
Appreciate that!
Nice work John
Thank you! Cheers!
Thanks for being a spark!
Any time! Appreciate your comment!
I guess that I have not been here long enough to hear about your brother, sorry to hear about that. I am always interested in what shirts you're wearing, particularly solid colors. I presume a lot of Jon Henric but could you please list them in the video descriptions? Epic hair you and your brother had!
Thanks for the feedback! The long sleeve polo I’m wearing in this video is from John Henric.
Thanks John for another great video. Always appreciated.
Very welcome!
Well said, thanks John! 👏🏽👏🏽
You’re welcome!
This video hits home for a lot of us guaranteed. Love this. #legend
Thank you Eric!
Great video….so sorry about your brother ❤
Thanks so much!
@@40OverFashion your welcome 🤗
You’re *
Thanks for the video! Watched till the end. Very Helpful
Glad to hear it! Thank you very much!
Awesome video! Thank you for your hard work and for sharing such an epic message of encouragement! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you so much!
Double thumbs up! 👍👍
Thank you! Cheers!
I saw a series (I forgot the name) that, at the end of each episode, gave a monologue of the lessons to be learned in that episode. One episode caught my attention: embracing life's pressures because "pressure makes diamonds." Sadly, in my case, it was more of hypertension and anxiety. 🤣
Another excellent video! Thanks John!
My pleasure!
Great quotes. Thanks john.
Glad you like them! Thanks for watching!
This video came at the right time as I just turned 40 today, October 25.
Happy birthday!!
Thanks Bro!
Any time!
Thanks for sharing this John. 👍🏻
My pleasure!!
John, I need one reasonable advice. This is a topic that most people are concerned about. I am 46, I am an architect BUT I don’t want to wake up every morning, go to the office, spend there a full day from 09:00 to 18:00 then go home and keep on the same routine the next day. I know I hate my job and want to be free and work just for myself. From one hand - I can’t leave my job just because I have a fixed and stable salary, from another hand I know that I’m wasting my time. I wish I could enjoy the rest of my life and have a job that I love and make the things that I want. But this is the reality, I am imprisoned because I can’t find another job. What a single man in his 46 can start doing to make himself happy or just satisfied and have sufficient financial income at the same time?
I think you need to answer that question. What else are you good at? What kind of problems can you solve for people? If you have answers to those questions, start working from home during the time you’re not at work. Get up a few hours earlier every day and find a way to make it happen.
@@40OverFashion thank you, John
This is chanel is for men but I have received a lot of good information on here
I appreciate that, thank you very much!
Philippians 4:13, Revelation 21:4 . Quick fix scriptures are psalms in the Bible
How does the person who earns over 200K have no money to pay their bills??? What kind of expenses do they have??
Maybe got fleeced in family court.
💯💯💯
John, I have to admit that the HOT cover pic got me to click on the video. Thought you had become the victim of some make-over program. Happy to see that's not the case and enjoyed the video! Thanks.
Ha! Thanks to AI!
Love the video John, but i respectfully disagree on your assertion about the reason for high divorce rate. People in many parts of the world marry young and stay married, as did our grandparents. We have undergone massive cultural and political shifts in the West in the last 50 years, and not all for the better. Anyway, will be taking your advicd regarding the last 2.5 months of 2023, cheers!
Cheers!
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don't.
Baz Luhrmann
Yep! Wear sunscreen!
I’m wondering what to do with my partner having a depression but not admitting it.
Arnold Schwartzeneger talk about this in his new book
Really? I’ll have to check it out.
@@40OverFashion it is called " Be Useful: 7 tools for life"
Thank you, this current. generation has complete aversion of personal responsibility. It is always someone else’s fault. I’ve never seen such a dysfunction population as what we see today in society. 😊
Most of them are fucktards, that is why!
Absolute nonsense. And, I'm an early Gen Xer.
@@tswierczekjust proved my point. Self obsessed about yourself and defensive. I’m talking generally about this generation that condones crime, violence and quits, safe spaces, handouts, freebies.
❤
I don’t get the stopping the conversation issue. I wasn’t there so I’m going to speculate from what you said. I could be off base but this is how I read it based on what I heard in your video. I assume these people were talking about some subject you didn’t like. Clearly they were content on discussing it and you interrupted them due to a problem you had. Was anyone else in the group not liking the conversation or just you? You may not like what others are saying but they have a right to say it. Unless they were personally attacking you, realize you were in the minority opinion in that situation. You may not have liked what was being said but you don’t get to be “that guy” that disrupts the conversation. You have a couple choices: (1) just keep quiet or (2) leave. If you can’t leave (I.e. with someone) then just realize sometimes we will be in uncomfortable situations but it doesn’t give you the right to stop a group conversation because you are the odd one out. Almost without exception when I find myself in situations like that I leave and go talk with other people.
Appreciate your input, but that’s not at all what was happening. I completely understand that people are entitled to their own opinions on certain subjects, and I would never try to change anyone’s mind, or stop the conversation because of that. This was completely different.
have you ever shared your story? I would like to know *how* you turned around. I have tired, but I feel like I don't want to anymore. as if the world wants me to just give up. when i say give up...I mean just end it all for myself.
Ya, go on a say all you want about being grateful. I am, but when I try to help other ppl. and they don't seem to care. I question the world we live in. Im dead serious, and mean it. the world wants some of us to just give it up. there is not enough for everyone.
just at the breaking point. ppl. pretend "oh, i care about you...ya as long as you get money or some sort of credit. otherwise, you are happy to watch ppl around you burn.
200k a year??? We earn in avrage In Slovenia 15k a year and soneone says he has 200k a year and is broke???
When I left the rat race, I came to know myself. You shouldn't have to retire to know yourself. Pay yourself first. You are your best investment.
Wow!
How can someone that makes about $200k a year be struggling so much?
I feel for them and hopefully they can get their life back in order.
Absolutely!
Time to downsize.
More self-help books than ever, yet also more mental health issues than ever before. Hmmm, a strange correlation!
Interesting.
Stop promoting sponsors for money. It kills your credibility. Either do the videos because you want to do them or simply…..get a job.
This is my job. I’ve always been transparent about that. If you don’t like the ad read, just skip past it.
Excellent video, as always, John. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
Great video as usual, thanks John
Glad you enjoyed it!
@@40OverFashion i always do