Ralph Harms Chooses a Death with Dignity
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- When an 85-year-old terminal cancer patient from Santa Rosa chose to end his life, he wanted his story told in the hope it would help others. He turned to the Press Democrat.
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He lost 2 daughters and then buried his wife? This man was ready to face death on his terms. I can 100% respect that.
God bless him.❤
Really he lost his kids and wife first?
@@Rogue_Wave5150did you even watch the video ?
Completely honest? I wouldn’t have made it near as far as him after those losses. I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for 28 years and we have a 26 year old child. I’m 50, my wife is 53. If she were to pass away before me, I doubt I’ll last a month before following her. She’s everything to me, and my kid understands this. I don’t really want to be here without her.
I did. what's your point?@@Herpetile
Reading his obituary he spent 12 years in the army as a green beret. What an absolute beast this man was.
only military people can get away with things. You people are so blind. This thing he did is sin against GOD, who he answered for doing it. military JESUS GOD ALMIGHTY! Since when in GOD'S eyes is being in the military excuse one from sin?
@@bethlehemeisenhour5807 Whatever. Go away.
@@bethlehemeisenhour5807 so you also believe the earth is flat..
@@bethlehemeisenhour5807 in 1 book he's all forgiving and in other versions he will smite you and strike you down.hmmmm
@@bethlehemeisenhour5807 seek help.mGod Bless
Ralph did not look 85 to me and his way of speaking was so calm and could put you at ease. He seemed like a real nice guy. He did it his way.
I missed that part where they mentioned his age. I thought he was in his late 60s. He looked good for 85. But looked like had the energy of someone much younger.
@@faa1412 its in the description
Wow he looked great for 85 lovely man.x
@@elliegoldie6140 indeed
He not only looked younger, he sounded and acted more youthful! If I didn't know he had cancer I wouldn't believe it! He seemed so energetic! You can tell he was a great guy, who pushed him self beyond the limits! Even if he did not feel well, he still kept pushing forward. What an Absolute Legend! My Respect to him and his Family. God bless them.
Hats off to the journalists that had the courage to go on this journey with Ralph.
Beautiful blessed story for a journalist ❤️🔥
Please, keep your hats on (skin cancer joke)
This was just so beautiful , he was a great man that lost a lot in his .life, but battled on strongly
So many great friends, close friends were with him, why suffer to get an extra week, what a great way to go, he wanted a it this way and I admire him , hope you are with you loved ones ❤❤❤
If it wasn't for his cancer, he looked like he could've lived well Into his 90s. He looked really good. RIP.
Easy, maybe a 100.
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Ya, that's what I found odd he still seemed so full of life. why do that when your still enjoying life?
@@michaelsmith2733 didnt you hear him? he was suffering with tremendous pain. He was a warrior, he battled through it tough as nails - i don't think he wanted his friends to see him suffering. He was a really cool guy.
Rest easy, Ralph xo
Guess ,you never know how long he could have lived, Dr's aren't God .
My father was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic prostate cancer 3 months ago. We were initially told 3-5 years, one doc said 5-10 maybe. Well here we are, 3 months later and he’s about to enter hospice. I went over the end of life program with him, and he thought about it. I think the fact that his sister committed suicide 14 years ago and how it effected the family….even though this is COMPLETELY different, I think he struggles with it all. But just knowing that he had the option is such a comforting feeling. So, he has decided to ride this out to the end. Over 80% of his bone marrow is cancerous, it’s in his liver and lungs now, and like this gentleman the cancer is in just too many spots. Watching him go through this with such grace and dignity, I couldn’t imagine a braver man to be able to call my father. I love him so much, he’s been such a great dad. Always been here in times of need, busted his ass working while I was growing up to give me a wonderful childhood. The world will be a little less bright of a place without him in it. Thank you to whoever reads this, saying these things out loud even to strangers helps me a lot. Please, if you have parents in your life you love, please spend as much time with them as possible. If you are maybe fighting with them, and haven’t spoke to them in years, please reach out and squash that beef. Life is too short. I love you dad
Reading this on 31st December,'22....What words for...this? Only tears here.
Reading this January 3rd 2023, Australia.
I lost my dad to stage 4 lung cancer june 2021 and I'm still shook. I'm gutted that was my last bit of family I had left to call my own.
Stay by his side 🙏
man I really needed to hear this.thank you god bless
So sorry for your dad he sounds like a great man..I would like to thank you for your comments as I haven’t spoke to my mum or dad for 10 years and I miss them a lot but it’s so complicated I can’t even begin to explain why but watching this is especially hard for me as it reminds me how precious life is..I will say a prayer for your dad today..So sad ❤
No
My Dad had multiple myeloma which is a cancer of the bone marrow. When it started to affect his kidneys he told the doctor, “I’m all done Doc, no more meds, just make me comfortable” he was gone two days later. One of the bravest men I had the honor of calling Dad. RIP to this gentleman as well.
I'm So sorry for your massive loss! I lost my Beautiful Mother in 09 she was only 42 and I feel for you brother or sister! God bless you.
I lost my Dad to MM 3 years ago. After 2 years they gave him 1 to 3 months. I was already engaged at the time, but I decided to speed the wedding up and we planned it in 8 days so he could give me away! This was my gift to him. My mom had to push him in a wheel chair up the aisle. It was a wonderful wedding. So sorry about your Dad. Hugs.
@@laland5752 That's such a sad, but Beautiful story! I am so glad your Wonderful Father was able to be there and give you away to your Husband. God bless you! I hope you are doing ok. Thank you for sharing such a private moment with us all, take care.
@@daviddaddy ❤️❤️❤️
@@daviddaddyI never answered your other question. I am doing okay. I lost a few other people since then and it’s been very hard. I keep going with family and good therapy. ❤
The saddest part of this was hearing he lost his two daughters and wife years before his death. Intense pain
I can't imagine the pain he went through.
@@james87367me either that’s a pain you can’t put in words
Eles morreram de que?
Can't even begin to imagine what this poor man has suffered in his life, rest good friend.
But happily he did not lose his SON!
My brother did this at 56. He had been battling cancer since he was 37. I was with him and it was hard but it was the right decision for him. He was such a strong man but the pain was just too much to endure. I love you and I miss you Chris
Damn...I'm 57. I can't even imagine. Shaking my head.
@@TheFrenchPug 😢50’s is still so young 🥹
@@LaLagunz187 Besides my 8 back surgeries and 3 fusions, I mentally don't feel like I'm in my 50s. You're right.
Can someone help me I’m trying to find out info how to do this I’m getting no where I will go to Oregon cause you don’t have to live there please can someone help me
I agree with death with dignity. The only part that kinda freaks me out and I know I would struggle with is the picking a day and saying goodbye. It's so final. How do you even do it?
As a hospice nurse and absolute believer in end of life choices that include a death with dignity I support this braves man's choice. Bless him.
Hospice needs to include people who are in bad pain and fatigue who don't tolerate pain meds yet life is such an unbearable struggle but aren't considered to have a terminal illness.
I watched my grandfather die of colon cancer, it was agonizing for him. It was a long, hard, slow terrible way to die. I support dying with dignity, way better then what he was forced to endure.
I bet you do. As a hospice nurse you don’t give lethal doses of medicine to the patients. You’re not allowed to. Instead a family member has to do it. I had to do it with my mother and now have to live with the fact that it was I who took her life. Never again will I do this.
It’s Gods choice
@@aaronmehki8015 We fix all sorts of problems and there is no reason why we shouldn't take action on suffering. There is no reason to force intolerable suffering on people.
I also worked in Hospice. What used to amaze me is is families who fought the use of morphine. Fearing that their dying loved ones would become addicted to it.
As a nurse, I see what happens at the end. I see bedsores, pain, wasting away to nothing, puking from medication..etc. I also see people suffer at the end, and the families knowing that they are suffering and not letting us give them pain meds, forcing food down their throats, forcing them to take a multitude of vitamins (even when they can barely swallow). We should be allowed to make our own decisions on how we want to die, with dignity.
I spent 30 years as a Nurse and saw the suffering that those with terminal conditions went through. I want the option to decide to call it quits , if I develope a terminal condition.
We allow our pets a death with dignity, but people object, when a human being asks for that same compassion.
Dr’s add the pain and shorten the life. The nurse makes you comfortable which means lethal dose.
So sad it’s so true
Ever hear of a living will? ;-)
I saw that too as 12 y.o. kid, when my grandma was passing away in our family house. My family was not able to let her go, she was after multiple strokes, without much contact to the reality, screaming at nights from bedsores. After my grandma was not able to breath on her own some night, my mother even brought some respiratory device, and she was ventilated 2 additional days in pain. Thankfully, our family doctor came and explained, that it does not make any sense, and she is causing more harm than good for my grandma.
I have a lot of respect for this man❤😢
So sorry. I believe in his choice but I feel before you can judge you need to put yourself in his shoes.
No one should ever suffer unimaginable pain when there is a much more comfortable way to die. This guy is incredibly brave to face his death in this way. Brave, Brave man. A dog is suffering and we put it to sleep, a human is suffering and we allow it to happen ! I wish I could have met you Ralph and had a glass of wine together. Rest in peace.
You are not a dog. You are a man and you should act like it. How could you ever implicate another person in an assisted death? That is different from one man choosing to take the life of an animal. Bravery is trying your best to survive. If you cant handle your life and you take it then its in vein.
@@Fish-cj4ub it is people like you that make the world a sadder place.
@@Fish-cj4ub I didn’t choose to exist and I won’t choose my way out. Dying will be my last living experience. Might as well see what it’s all about. 🤷🏼♀️ That’s just me. I’m not bothered by anyone who feels different about their life and situation though. Live and let live or live and let die… 🤔
Apples and oranges PAUL...🙄
Morphine works best rather than commit suicide now his soul is in pergotory
He went out on his own terms. Lived a full life. Legend.
with dignity
till the end.@@gustiable
He took his own life, that's suicide. From the video he didn't look like a person about to die. Did he think death is it? No hereafter? No God? People there is a judgment.
I hope he's with his daughters and wife🎉 he was a great man because I'm getting old now and it's a scary thing knowing you will not exist anymore but I still have hope that there's more to life then we see❤ love to all
Even if you're young you can get cancer even if you think you're healthy just be kind while you're here and do what you feel you should do when you have to leave, happy and sometimes death isn't the worst thing
I feel for him. In 2016 Dr's gave my sister 3 months. She kept fighting cancer it spread to her bones all the way up to her brain. Those 3 months we all spent as much time with her as possible. She is so strong, now 2022 she is still going strong!
Woow. She's really strong.
Kiss her from me.
Having seen four loved ones die from cancer I'm glad you and your family have had more time to spend with your sister..I pray GOD bless you all with many more days ahead with her
That’s awesome man! I’m so happy for your sister. I posted the situation I’m in above, here’s what it said…. suicide 14 years ago and how it effected the family….even though this is COMPLETELY different, I think he struggles with it all. But just knowing that he had the option is such a comforting feeling. So, he has decided to ride this out to the end. Over 80% of his bone marrow is cancerous, it’s in his liver and lungs now, and like this gentleman the cancer is in just too many spots. Watching him go through this with such grace and dignity, I couldn’t imagine a braver man to be able to call my father. I love him so much, he’s been such a great dad. Always been here in times of need, busted his ass working while I was growing up to give me a wonderful childhood. The world will be a little less bright of a place without him in it. Thank you to whoever reads this, saying these things out loud even to strangers helps me a lot. Please, if you have parents in your life you love, please spend as much time with them as possible. If you are maybe fighting with them, and haven’t spoke to them in years, please reach out and squash that beef. Life is too short. I love you dad
She could have been eligible for assisted suicide, yet she thankfully never did such a thing.
Wow! God bless her and your family❤
This makes sense. We allow more dignity for our pets. My sister and I are breast cancer survivors and have lost my 15 year old niece and my mother recently all to cancer. This man experienced more grief than anyone should.
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@@victoriapopaz5303 Dont judge people that take that decision it is a sin let god judge them not you, you are a sinner like all humans.
@@scothf1273 Listen don’t be a hypocrite as far as judging I’m not I’m throwing people a lifeline -Gods word in itself brings judgment and I am called to share the word of God to equip people with knowledge and truth to receive salvation in Jesus Christ to avoid future judgment .
Kjv[ Romans 10:14] How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?
@victoriapopaz5303 You will be judged by god so be silent.
@@victoriapopaz5303Shut up
My mom at 56 was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. Her tumor weighed twenty pounds it pressed on her lungs she struggled to breathe. She suffered so much she wanted to die and begged me to help her. I wish we had this option that Ralph has.
I am so sorry. My mom had stage 3 ovarian cancer, she fought almost five years, it was hard to see her in so much pain the last 6 months I wish she had this option. 💔😢
@@lward65 I am sorry for your loss also. I wish my mom had this option it bothers me to this day how she suffered.
I’m so sorry for your loss
@@bluesakura2092 Thank you for being so kind
@@p.s.5563 You deserve it.
My mom spent 11 months slowly dying of cancer in pain the whole time. I was young or I would have demanded better pain medication. The idea that doctors don't want to get you addicted when you're dying of stage 4 cancer is ridiculous. Love you lots, mom. Til we meet again someday.
Do doctors withhold pain meds out of fear of our addiction or their fear of being called on the carpet for any appearance of fostering addiction?
@@keithnichols7926 both id say
It's not the doctors. They are afraid of being sued and you can't blame them. The US is the only country that is ruled by torte lawyers and their outrageous lawsuits.
Facts! I'm stage 3 metastatic I have to drop. But taking cannabis help move my tumor markers from 7 to 1 cancer started in thyroid golf ball sized. They told me to choose until they saw for themselves it was a fact. They said remain on both medicines. They called it medicine. 9yrs living with this dis-ease,
@@keithnichols7926 getting in trouble with their license state made the law
Ralph is a man’s man a gentleman. He faced his last days like a badass champion. Sending lots of love and respect to his family. I didn’t know Ralph but that’s exactly the way I wanna go no fear and acceptance of death. A real badass to the end.
Agree
Just stumbled on this vid tonight…and I could listen to this brave man all day. I could feel him shining from the inside outward…those truly are the best kind of people.I wish there would be more like this gentleman. I don’t even know him personally and I’m missing him already!!!
I cant wait to die, to be with my family that are in heaven. If I was told I had terminal cancer, I would refuse treatment and do what this man has done. Much better than how my poor daughter died, she had cancer, but didnt know it, she was in Mexico, and none of the Dr's would help her. She died an agonizing death from Stomach cancer. She was in pain for 2 years, but no one knew why, then, in March, she started bleeding out from her stomach, it took her 4 days to die. It broke my heart. No pain meds, nothing.
@@dianasoto7011 I’m so sorry to hear that about your little girl. My daughter had cancer also at 3 years old I know the pain you are in always. I agree with you with wanting to die on your own watch cause that’s exactly what I want. I don’t want to suffer and be some Drs Guinea pig and have them and the hospitals make as much money off our sickness until while suffering to the very end. I want to go before any of the hardcore pain and suffering starts. Again I’m so sorry about your daughter if I could just hug you right now and hold you for a bit I would. Try and stay strong I know it’s hard. 😘
@@dianasoto7011 //// There are few Rx cautions in Mexico. She could have gotten meds herself.
My mum had a cancer in her womb which was removed but it came back in her stomach.she lost so much weight and literally starved to death. Mum was around 5 stone when her organs eventually shut down and she died. No dignity in her final weeks as she started to wet herself and was unable to stand, walk or even talk. It was horrible for her. I hope one day death with dignity becomes the norm. and people who are dying can choose when. God Bless Ralph’s family and congratulations to them all for having such a strong brave man in their lives. He deserves our utmost respect x
I have cancer and the thought of dying with dignity if I get to that point has crossed my mind. Now I know what I want. We have voluntary assisted dying laws where I live(Melbourne, Australia 🇦🇺). I am very sorry your mum went through that. Sorry for your loss. ❤ Cancer is a murderer.
@@iSheree hi, I’ve only just seen your reply. I want to thank you for your kind words and wish you well. My mum would say that cancer is a disease from the devil. x
@@marlenerichardson4429 aww thank you, I hope you’re at peace and know that your mum is always watching over you and you will see her again. ❤️
@@iSheree God Bless you. I can tell you are a really lovely lady, just from the words you use x Merry Christmas sister x
@@iSheree I am a breast cancer survivor (so far) and 10 years on from surgery. Today is my 39th wedding anniversary x is it ok to ask about your health and how you are?
I had a baby that was born with a fatal disease called infantile spasms. At 3 months of age I was told there was nothing more they could do. As I looked around her hospital room and all the tubes her little body was hooked up to, I asked myself, " why should we prolong her life if there's no hope"? She was suffering. I went to the Drs. And asked them if we could expediate her death as I could not see her suffer another moment longer. He agreed......
Sometimes we have to make decisions that is in our own best interest and certainly in the best interest of thoese unable to make that decision for themselves. I commend you sir. Rest in peace🙏
witholding fluids for 3-4 days brings death on rapidly. I do not want myself or my loved ones to die horrible deaths but death really is quite simple to achieve just by not giving fluids....there are multitudes of drugs that can make the last 3-4 quiet and restful
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I’m sorry for you loss. But my son had infantile spasms/west syndrome and he is 5 now and non verbal but he isn’t going to die… it depends on the reasons for the IS, I’m sorry your little girl was one of the unlucky ones 😢
So sorry for ur loss. Losing a child is one of the most painful things a human can experience. I might have some idea of how ur feeling, I lost my baby girl to SIDS back in 1993. May ur baby girl RIP
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I’m a nurse and I’ve seen a lot of bad deaths. I 100% believe this is the best way to go. I wish I lived somewhere that allows this.
Retired RN too. I hear ya, me too....
I’m also an RN, 67, still working. I’ve seen far worse things than death. Watched terrible suffering and have a wee bit of ptsd from it. Kudos to Ralph for choosing to keep his dignity and have control.
If you have then they didn’t love well or else they would have suffered well also
Well....in the Netherlands euthanasia is an article in the penal code that will exclude a doctor from murder as long as he is following strict regulations. Even in the Netherlands there will always be discussion about this topic but that's good because it affects us all.
As a Canadian, it is legal here, and - as I have incurable Stage IV cancer - it’s something I will consider if symptoms get worse and treatment no longer works. So happy for this lovely, brave man in leaving as he chose, and so glad I live in a country that allows this choice.
“It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.” Much respect for this man. I saw my father slowly wither from Liver Cancer. My mom passed quickly from Pancreatic Cancer. Both fought courageously.
He didn't fight he took the easy way out he was a coward
@@roundboyli7217 Accepting death head on and facing it is cowardly? Ok dude, whatever. I’m sure his corpse is real broken up some dipshit on UA-cam described him with a platitude.
@@roundboyli7217 The karma bus will run you over hard one day. Heartless SOB.
@@roundboyli7217 Tit for brains....how it dying in agony with shit in your bed and needing max pain meds to even function a life? What until it is your turn.
@@roundboyli7217He did fight back. He fought until there was nothing left for him but comfort care. He walked away courageously from resistance with dignity toward the end that was inevitably coming. He made peace with both his life and his death. He has my respect.
My dad chose Compassionate Euthanasia/Death by Dignity. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I was with him and it was very peaceful. He just didn’t have the strength or energy at the end. He was ready, he wasn’t afraid of death at all. He wanted to be with my mom and brother who had both passed away some years ago. I still think about every single day and miss him terribly ❤
Oh damn. I’m really sorry that you had to go through all that loss.
Suicide is wrong
I also thank Brittany Maynard, a woman that battled terminal brain cancer several years ago and fought so hard for California to have Death with Dignity. She was a California resident that moved to Oregon to obtain Death with Dignity rights in her final months. She fought, her family fought, for people like Ralph. I'm absolutely amazed at Ralph's strength, what an amazing guy. I'm so glad he could go out on his terms. These laws should be in every state.
Yessss Sweet Brittany Maynard. Ill never forget her story. She was most definitely a strong voice in getting this to California
Problem is anytime we want such laws passedand want the choice.. The government eventually steps in and starts making the choices for us. Best not to even go there.
@@jillbert40 Wrong answer, keep pushing! Why should we have to spend months and months suffering, withering away? My plan: When I can no longer wipe my own ass....it's go time! It's legal in Canada thank goodness...
It should be something that ALL of us have the right to do, religious politicians think that they know what’s best for us all, they DO NOT! Keep your religion to your damn self!
I knew Ralph when he was in his prime. I was a Rancho Coate runner and he was an Assistant Track Coach at Santa Rosa High. Ralph had a presence, that just commanded respect. I knew he was in the Army, but never knew he was in Special Forces. The Ralph I knew was always upbeat, positive, kind and friendly. It does not surprise me one bit that he chose to be in charge of writing his own ending.
And a friend who shares respect. That is what its abt -and kindness. I stumbled upon this and admire the bravery, independence and willingness to share. Rest in Peace Ralph. Triple rainbow for you and yours
Thanks for the back story.
Hand Salute to Ralph. We were both in the Army at different times (1968-1988) and never met. I have an idea of what a fine and loving person you were. Ralph, meet you at formation in due time.🇺🇲
In 2007 my father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that had metastasized to his liver and bones. He fought for 4 years in terrible pain and depression. He passed in 2011 after a slow deterioration. I watched my hero become a skeleton. If I knew this was an option… I would have told him that it was okay. That my little sister and I would be okay. It hurt more to see him hurt for so long.
Thank you Ralph ❤
I watched this in absolute tears for a person I didn't even know. I am a caregiver and I see death all the time yet it frightens me.
I admire his lack of fear and his decision to live and die on his own terms. He will no longer have pain and now he is with his wife and daughters. I am so glad I watched this. I am so glad he was able to make his own choice.
Thank you for helping people when they truly need someone who cares about them as people rather than a patient. May you have someone to look to your needs and help you live your best life.
If you’re a Believer in the gospel of Jesus Christ there is no fear…because you’ll know where ur going.
I really like this guy’s personality. And despite the cancer throughout his body, he still looks great and is in damn good shape for man in his mid 80’s! I would have thought he was quite a bit younger.
Looked 65
Yep, I can't blame him for not wanting to subject the remainder of his life to radiation and Chemo. He's doing it how I've always said I'd like to do it.
He was in his 80’s didn’t know thst great shape
He looked as old as his own son when they stood next to eachother.
I thought the same I would have said somewhere from mid sixties to early seventies at most!@@Podgey25
I have stage 4 melanoma as well. Spread all over quickly. Lots of treatment lots of surgery. It can be brutal and I wish I had the positivity this guy shows. It's so hard and what little time I was told I had left has dragged on for 9 years. I wish I could be grateful for the extra time but I've been taking chemo medication twice a day everyday for the past 8 years or so. The cancer pops up in new places from time to time and I have to have another surgery which are usually major surgeries with long, hard recoveries. It sounds so selfish to say when some people would give anything for that much extra time but it hasn't been a very enjoyable time. Don't want to die right now and I really enjoyed life before but I sometimes wish it had just taken me at the beginning. None of my friends have ever come to see me or call. In their defense I never tried to get in touch with anyone either but I wasn't really expecting that to happen. My wife left too. I know some people don't know what to say or how to act around someone that's sick so I don't blame them but it would be nice to have some support. There were never any fund raisers or benefits. No cards, get togethers and no thoughts and prayers. Not a single text. Lonely, depressed, sick and going through the painful motions.
Pretty intense when you seriously consider this as an option.
Will be praying for you mate. I think reading the bible might bring you the LORD's comfort. The King James Version is what I'd recommend (the standard 1611 version). You're definitely not alone. God bless you my friend♥️
@@MorgueVOID thank you and merry Christmas
@@davegordon6943 God bless you friend. You'll be remembered in my prayers
God bless my friend
@@krzysztofgocha4299 thank you
The amazing thing was that for an 85-year-old man with terminal cancer he looked much younger and in great shape. What a shame the cancer hit him so hard. RIP, Ralph, I hope you're in a much happier place now.
Also it's a tremendous shame that no Medical Provider chose to help him manage that horrible pain !
... they do in fact have the ability to do so, but all too often these days they choose not to,
... while leaving patients in agonizing pain.
@@raveninavaniam9438 Hi, I am so glad you brought up the subject of people in agonizing pain, and most Dr.'s unwilling to treat it with opioids. I can testify to this, as I am a 70 yr. old woman, who has been suffering with chronic debilitating pain, 24/7, for over 20 yrs. I wish the mainstream news would do articles and broadcast reports about this ongoing crisis happening here in the USA!! I'll bet most people are unaware that Millions of patients are being denied appropriate pain management, for the last 9 yrs. due to the CDC publishing false and untrue "recommendations" to the government, and medical community. Because of this, Many peoples lives have been destroyed, and Many patients have and continue to take their own lives because they can no longer deal with the constant, agonizing pain. This is morally and criminally wrong, and it is unbelievable that this is happening here in the United States of America, against it's own citizens!! Many Doctors are currently sitting in prisons, with long sentences, for the "crime" of treating pain patients with opioid medications. The Government has turned a blind eye to all of this, even though pain patients, their families, and many Doctors have petitioned the Government to reverse all of these outlandish changes, that has benefitted no one, and caused so much suffering, and destroyed so many lives! To those of you that have taken the time to read this, take it a step further, and get the word out to everyone that you care about. We are in an election year, and this is a major issue that needs to change and fast. Just consider this, that any one of you, or a loved one, could in a blink of an eye be in this awful situation of being in constant unbearable pain, due to disease, or a bad accident, or whatever, and be refused treatment for that very real pain. As it has been said many times, "there but by the grace of God go I." Please take this seriously. Thank You.
i feel this man married the love of his life and watched her die, raised 2 children and lived threw all of that. Ralph lived threw his own physical pain and watching him sit there telling us all about it, you just wanted to hug him. So strong. an upstanding, outstanding human being. i am happy he could have the party with his friends. RIP sweet man
And he watched 2 daughters die of breast cancer.
*Through , not threw.
I'm losing my father right now... And these stories are so very helpful. Ralph sounded like a very lovely man. I hope his family and friends still sit and talk about him with so much love. He is so brave
Hey There,
Can you give me an update about your Dad?
I find it disturbing that we allow our sick or ailing pets the dignity of painless euthanasia. Yet we force our elders to endure sometimes unspeakable pain until the last possible moment. As I grow older (approaching 70) these thought occupy bigger and bigger parts of my mind.
Yes, which is why I am hoping and praying that the death with dignity act eventually spreads to being nationwide. As it is a wonderful option to have for terminal people who are suffering greatly.
Totally agree!!!
I'm 65 and have survived two cancers plus other life-threatening afflictions. I prayed to God today for the right choice when the time comes. RIP Ralph. See you soon.
@@michaellake5269 i am also a cancer patient. God bless you!
Greg Fawcett, I certainly understand your views and respect them. I have peacefully and lovingly let my dearly loved fur-babies cross over in my arms and for those of sound mind should be allowed to decided. My concerns are for those that for whatever reason, cannot choose for themselves. Not everyone has the selfless loving of others at heart. Maybe seeing one more sunrise, a child's smile, listening to one more day of nature's concert or another sunset is worth the pain of living.
The thought of less than loving scenarios taking a life is frightening and tragic. Such a complex situation. We can choose to take our lives in less controlled and in more unsightly ways. This would seem to be a better option. Great caution and thought is required.
Thanks both to Ralph and the videographer for doing this. You’ve helped so many people see what dying with dignity looks like.
It is so important that people have that option.
Hope this man is reunited with his 2 daughters and wife and gets his peace he deserves.
No one is talking about where you will spend ETERNITY🥲
People are hopeless without HOPE. You can have hope and it’s found by accepting Jesus as your Savior. Please if you haven’t accepted Him into your ❤️ and your present and future is SECURE!
The A B C's of salvation:
A-Admit that you are a sinner
Romans 3:10
Romans 3:23
B- Believe that Jesus is Lord , died for your sins and rose from the dead.
Romans 5:8
Romans 6:23
C- Call upon his name.
Romans 10:9
Romans 10:13
Jesus Christ is coming back as promised. Rapture of church first, 7 years of great Tribulation then he returns. Do you know Jesus Christ as your savior? Where will you spend eternity? Please choose wisely.
Unfortunately he's most likely in hell right now.
@@charleneneisler7596 Amen sister!
Wow..... Aren't YOU judgemental. Emphasis on mental.
How do YOU know what Jesus would say? A bunch of books written by intolerant, biased HUMANS? 🤨 Books collated and put through an ecumenical meat grinder?
I myself don't like the idea of offing myself, but for people who prefer to not go through needless suffering it can be a blessing. Humans truly are cruel and selfish creatures. I find it amazing that He loves everyone as much as He does. And I pray for the sanity of everyone else in the World.
Regardless of what you believe that is different from me, God Bless. 🙏
@@prodigalpriest Who said anything about Christianity?
I watched and helped my 50 year old uncle die horribly from pancreatic cancer. Diagnosed and dead within 6 months. I'm glad we got to spend some great times together towards the end, but the final week was an absolute disaster. He stayed home after chemo failed, and my family and I took turns staying with him day and night. He basically lived alone. He was an absolute beast of a human. Ripped, still playing sports. Within the six months he looked like a skeleton. I think there's pros and cons to a quick death or a drawn out one. I'm 45, and have lost every close man in my life. Plus more. Life is precious, but if we want, we deserve the rite to decide
I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer in 1987 . Diagnosed & passed away in 3months .Sadly he didn't feel able to discuss it with his family .My dad was always a thin man but as in your uncle's case he was skeletal towards the end .in the UK .So sad .He was 60
I'm sorry for your loss.
@@christinehales4222 I'm sorry for your loss.
My daughter’s brother-in-law and our dear friend of only 48 years, died in 6 months of pancreatic cancer . At the end he was just a skeleton and was in horrendous pain . Absolutely heartbreaking 💔 I’m absolutely all for euthanasia …. to die with dignity and not with terror and pain 🙏
NO we don't have the right to choose our death. YAHUWEH has a time for each of us. However it's your choice to choose suicide but then that's the Day your real pain begins, and that, perpetually. Take heed my friend 😢😢😭
I can't imagine myself making this decision. I've had 9 brain surgeries. Lived through 7 rupurtured aneurysms a massive stroke and cancer. And MRSA of the brain. Had to remove right side of my skull and after a year they made a fake skull. I have had to fight for my life and I really don't know if I could be as brave as this man.I pray I never have to. Prayers for his family and friends and all who are ill.Rip sir. And thank him and all the other's for their service.
Kay. I salute you. You are the true definition of strength 💪 resilience, hope and courage. Stay well and take care 👍😌👍
You are a fighter on a level that very few can say
thank you for knowing about Jesus.putting you in his hands.RIGHT CHOICE.my dad sister brother past on to cancer.they new the LORDJESUS CHRIST.FOUGHT to the end. all new they were going on to heaven forever.they all taught me more .in showing me never give up.fight to the end.trusting in JESUS.
God bless you Kay.🌹
@ben bucy BS......that's an old lie they like to say to shame people who suicide. It takes much more balls to off one self
Ralph had a lot courage to choose Dying with Dignity. My father chose his final day on this earth. He was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer on a Monday and he chose the following Saturday. In Canada it is done thru an IV with 2 doctors and a nurse present. He said good bye to all his children and my mother was holding his hand when he passed.
So sorry god bless him x
Don’t ever say you have it worse than someone else. This man is a legend in my eyes and id say hats off to you brother wherever you are. Long live Ralph. A true man
He's in hell because he spat in the face of the creator God and then committed suicide like a coward
@@frogmanencountersradio5462 glad that God has more love and grace than a mere human
@@beam3819 Thats' right. And he will never let you down.
Oh, as an RN, I wish this law was in every state. No reason to have a long, lingering, painful death. My mom died that way and was it was traumatic.
it's called MONEY, from the Day we are born there is a Dollar amount placed on each and every one of us. the longer we are alive the more Someone is making from us.
You can be sure the bible states won't have this.
@@marksmith7054: You're talking as though there's no GOD! Sorry Mark, but guys like you DOES NOT DECIDE when a man's time is over.
@@jackiebourg6869 I never said anything about GOD, I stated that there is a Dollar Value placed on Every baby born because the entire Moment that baby is alive there is someone somewhere making money off of that person. the Government demands that everyone stay alive as long as possible because there is money to be made by someone and taxes will be paid.
@@marksmith7054 no no, not after they retire or are unable to work. Then government loses money.
My wife does CAT scan at large teaching hospital. She see patients everyday that are only really staying alive because of machines. All quality of life is gone and are in tremendous pain. The money paid out by insurance companies dictates wether they live or die really. God bless this gentlemen and I hope he’s enjoying heaven.
Suicide= No Heaven.
Sorry. Just don't do it
Do you get to heaven by killing yourself?
That’s a shame . Insurance companies make billions of $$ every year. Enough to keep everyone on life support & pay for anything & everything & still have tons of money to profit from……. It’s really sad that america up charges medical things by 1000% mark ups or more…… also very sad when most of my clients at my job refuse to go to hospital in an ambulance due to the price of it. When they really do want & need the help , but can’t afford $2,000 for a ride …..
Suicide is a one-way ticket to hell in most cases, but even God allows His People to put an end to their lives if the suffering is too great.
@@timefoolery don't be deceived.
Im a God fearing man. Im touched by his decision. My dad did a type of death w dignity. He was tired of heart meds etc. He quit taking them, ate biscuits and gravy every morning, pie and ice cream...lots of it. He did this a week untill his heart gave out for lack of meds...he was so happy. Oddly he arranged for me to show up 2 hrs after he passed. I didnt know he was that far along,
🙏🙏🙏 to your dear dad and ❤ to you.
God fearing? Your gullibility is astonishing 🤦♂️
God bless your Dad...he is enjoying his afterlife in heaven the way God intended him too, NATURALLY ...he was indeed a BRAVE MAN 🙏...
My mom and my brother in law both died miserably from cancer and should have been given this dignity. Thank you Ralphs friends and family for sharing this. More people should have this option.
“You don’t have to die like a dam dog.” I agree! I did the same thing for my dog. I have a friend who thought I was evil, but I wouldn’t do anything to my dog I wouldn’t want for myself. He passed away on Halloween 2021. His name was Ghost 👻, so it was fitting. I let him have every last day that he enjoyed, and when he was in pain and didn’t get up for his walk, it was time.
I’m so sorry that you lost ghost. You clearly loved him with all your heart and I bet he had a great life. You did the right thing. I lost my 2 dogs, Buddy 26 march 2020 and Missa on December 1st 2020. I had to make the same decision for them both. Buddy developed heart disease but wasn’t in pain and Missa got leukaemia. They both went peacefully but Missa had a beautiful death. The pure relief on her face made me know it was the right thing to do. I know your heart still hurts. I totally understand.
I see both ends of this. For me, I got my dog Bruce as a rescue from the Amish as an older dog. He was 13 when I got him. A breeding dog who was only $50(a steal, I paid $50 for someone who was priceless) I didn’t know what shape he was in health wise or if he’d be hard to house train etc. but what I did know was I had to get him. He’d never been in a car, slept in a house or played with a toy before I got him. Watching this old Beagle play with his biological daughters(my sister told me about him and got puppies from them) and my cat who thinks she’s a dog was the best reward I could have wanted for bringing him in. When Bruce died, I had him for 3.5 years and I felt very lucky that I had him in my life. I didn’t look at it as a reason to be sad because I was lucky that he was there when I needed him. Some people never have that. We’re all put on the earth for a reason and you never know when someone or something could be taken away from you, that’s one of the things and older dog taught me. While we’re here or while he was here you can make an impact on someone’s life and he made an impact on my life.
His last few days I tried to ride it out and realized that while he was having a hard time breathing and walking I was hoping it would pass, which wasn’t fair to him. I was being selfish and I knew it was time. I got a script for Lasix the day before from the vet to him him get that fluid out and help him breathe better so I could spend a day with him and I wanted him to be able to enjoy it. It was his day. We went and played with his daughters for the last time, saw my parents, went for a big walk, I got him two filets and some yams, we went to my neighbors who had his “girlfriend” for them to say goodbye. She was a pit lab mix and older as well, she died about 3 weeks before Bruce did.
The day of he was pretty weak and had an accident inside and had that look of “I’m sorry.” and I’ll never forget how hard it was for him to slowly walk to me and he probably though I would scold him, but I didn’t. I told him “I’m not mad buddy.” We went to the vet and they took him back to get everything ready while I wait in the car to go back with him(this was in peak 2020 covid in April) my daughter and also took our cat to say goodbye and We go back with him and we were just indescribably sad and we knew that it was the right choice. To go out with dignity and knowing that his favorite people were with him until the very end doubtlessly made him pass away feeling like the most loved dog in the world.
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@lenoreofstyria3582 thanks for sharing that!
Our dogs have died with dignity
To force a terminal patient to endure extreme pain and suffering is horrible. When hope is gone and the end is inevitable then why not let these people choose when they say goodbye? RIP. you are a brave honorable gentleman.
I agree. It's common sense. Being in touch with our humanity.
ABSOLUTELY! Tomorrow I meet with my TEAM at the hospital to learn my own fate. Yes! I'm a bit nervous, but certainly NOT at all afraid of dying. RIP RALPH ... we'll meet sooner than later buddy a far!
@@Annie-ZA I hope that it goes well. I came close to death last year, and I was lucky. I have some more time. I made it clear to my doctors, I am not afraid of dying. I just don't want to suffer needlessly to gain a little more time.
Hope is never gone, as long as you have, the Lord Jesus Christ, as your Saviour. 2 Corinthians 5:8
“We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.”
King James Version (KJV)
I completely agree
Lived on his own terms, died on his own terms, but peacefully and humanely. Rest in peace, Ralph.
Rest in peace Ralph, may we all have the courage you display in the face of our own challenges.
He was a coward he chose the easy way out rather than fight till the end God is most displeased with him
@@roundboyli7217 LOL, prove it
@@strikerone6991 don't have to
@@roundboyli7217 you are correct
@@roundboyli7217 You are a contemptible human being. I feel sorry for anyone who had to deal with you out in the real world.
Whilst it may not seem like it, Mr Harms was one of the lucky ones. Over here in the UK, our terminally ill patients have no 'Option B' and are FORCED do die in horrible agony, mostly in hospice/hospital care away from home and friends, unless they can afford to fly to somewhere like Dignitas. I watched my Grandmother die in agony from breast cancer in 1982, and my Father from lung and brain cancer in 2003, again in agony. I couldn't help but think afterwards, how many times these scenes were being replicated, in homes up and down the United Kingdom. We need to do MORE for our terminal patients, offering them that final choice....At the end of the day, voluntary euthanasia can STILL BE REFUSED, but it needs to be OFFERED TOO! Thank you for educating us, Mr Harms, and may you rest in eternal peace 😔
I will look to Dignitas if I have need and if I can afford it. In the States, thanks to the Biden admin, fentanyl is easily accessible.
@@starletsatori8933 Biden finally doing something right 😂😂
In many states in the USA, it's the same. Only a few states have the death with dignity act in place, allowing people to make this decision.
@@wyomingadventures yeah that is a lie don't belive fake news I have done a lot more then a grain of salt amount and been fine I have never seen or heard of anyone dying from a grain of salt amount
@@crystald3655 Oregon was the only one at first ( 2 decades!) but now several on the west coast & even Hawaii have it. This Dignity bill was the legislation that Dr Korvorkian wanted & went to prison over. Too bad he never saw it take root.
From watching my father die of brain cancer, I can tell you Ralph made the right choice. Cancer sucks.
BUT it was NOT YAHUWEH'S choice 😕
@@jackiebourg6869 Really? I didn't know. I mean Yahuweh told you??
I lost my my to brain cancer and my Dad to kidney cancer. It's devastating to watch.
I had skin cancer myself it wasn't a melanoma which is the most dangerous type of skin cancer but it was surgically removed from my chest and sent off to a pathology lab for histology testing (tissue testing) the tests showed it wasn't a melanoma but it was indeed a skin cancer a carcinoma. I was incredibly lucky the skin cancer was surgically removed before it spread, I therefore consider myself to be incredibly lucky. Huge respect to this courageous and brave gentleman who shared his end of life story and wasn't as lucky as me I hope he is enjoying his place in heaven
It really does I watched it eat my brother alive and that was just heartbreaking to see as it was probably for you to as well
friends of my father, both got cancer at the same time in their early 50s. With no option they went for a swim at the beach. These new laws are allowing beautiful souls to pass with dignity and peace. What an absolute legend, with the courage to share his story.
It should be a normally accepted part of the practice of medicine that we are allowed to chose our modality of death if we are terminally diagnosed with anything. Thanks for a wonderful article and exceptional opportunity to reinforce my beliefs.
What a very brave and courageous man
When I decide its my time, I don't need anybody's permission to take care of it......Any pharmacy should be required by law to sell the necessary drugs, on demand, to any adult...But that ain't gonna happen.
@@bobsullivan5714 Bob, the reason that it won't happen on demand is because many drug addicts would get the stuff because of the morphine just to get high. It should be able to be gotten with a prescription for anyone with a terminal illness. If I get diagnosed with cancer that's going to kill me and kill me painfully I will slit my wrists. I'm not going to make my kids suffer watching me suffer.
@@pegs1659
I am talking about chemical compounds that are FATAL. There are many of these drug that would provide fast painless death with nothing in their composition that would interest a addict.
However, I would encourage addicts to experiment......
I Agree 👍💯
Ralph's message and wisdom are very helpful to the living who live with terminal illness. 😢 It won't be easy but death with dignity is exactly how I want to exit.
Yeah I'm chronically sick and don't plan on going anytime soon cause of my kids. But when I truly can't take it anymore and when it's time I'll do it like this too. Need to travel to another country though. 40+🇫🇮 Finnishmama
@@annarasmus8737 Here is wisdom: Why don't you read the Bible instead of trying to be "GOD"? Suicide bring you into Hell. Accept JESUS and ask HIM to give you the Grace you need.
This man is a Champion. A life lived well. His hunger to be with his loved ones is admirable. A man’s man. My hat is off to you in your Heavenly home. Well done Sir.
You know you don’t go to Heaven when you commit suicide, or not?
Suicide, doesn't land one in 'HEAVEN'.
@@catzndolz61 well heavens fake so yea. Go believe you're fairy tale somewhere else
@@thomaselam2039 you are so wrong about heaven. There is no rest in peace with this option. You will find out the hot way. 🔥
@@kittydoggy2803 Heaven and Hell are made up places!!! Just like the notion of wizards and dragons are also made up!!!
Stop trying to foist your religious rubbish on others!
I have so much respect for this man.❤ May he rest not just in peace but in Power.
As a mortician. I have seen the cancer take over the body. One family actually asked me to cut it out of their deceased daddy as not to see it. It was huge. I did so. It helped them to see him normal again.
I can def say this is a option. I can't even begin to understand what he went through.
Wow..I can only imagine what cancer throughout the body looks like..and to cut it out?? I didn’t even realize that was possible, once it’s spread throughout the body!!
@@maureenjossick429in the living it isn’t, once the person is gone you can cut anything out or off and hide it with clothing, makeup and positioning
@@codename495 oh yea, I’m aware hair being set,make up, clothes can really help in this area! I just thought for some reason, that when cancer spreads into organs,etc..that it kind of grows into their healthy tissue,or in a way it couldn’t be separated! Lol I have no clue why! But yes, your pretty much just a meat bag at that point🤷🏻♀️🥴 mortuary sciences must be interesting…
@@maureenjossick429it does go into healthy tissues and entwines into everything! There is no way to "Cut it out" once it's spread so much. I think what the person is saying is they, cut off a big tumor maybe? Or cancer that was visible on the body. But even so, the cancer cells go deep into the tissue (Depending on the type of cancer) but they do spread sort of like a really bad infection or bad MRSA abscess! that keeps getting bigger and bigger and spreading further and further. Once it's in multiple spots it's really difficult to cure and your chances of survival dwindle, especially if it's in your lymph nodes. My Wife's Grandma had really aggressive Lung cancer. Before she passed away, she had it everywhere! It had spread into her kidneys and other organs and even into her brain! It's crazy how fast certain cancers grow. This happened in a couple of weeks, time. It grew that much! And was in her lymph nodes too. Cancer is such a Horrible illness! I truly wish "Big pharma" cared about people and allowed cures to be made! But they won't! because they want people on meds for as long as they can be! Because it gives them a nice, steady flow of massive income! If there were cures they would go out of business.
Look at her spelling, no way she is a real mortician.@@maureenjossick429
I watched cancer eat my mom’s body to the bones and the suffering she went through was horrific. I’m glad people can choose how they want to go before it gets so bad.
Only in certain states do we have much say
This man had the vibe, energy, and mental acuity/body language of a man in his 40's... What a truly great man.
No he was a coward who killed himself
Oh, you're going to so bravely waste away to nothing and endure senseless pain. You should get a medal.
@@roundboyli7217 I guess you'd rather watch a loved one die in unbearable pain and agony. My stepbrother James was groaning in pain even AFTER he'd been fully sedated on his deathbed.
We consider this the loving and responsible route for our pets. Why aren't we as kind to our humans? I'm a hospice nurse. We reduce the amount of suffering 100 fold, but we don't ever prevent it from ever happening in the first place. I admire and in many ways envy this man.
You're a very sick person
I watched my father die from colorectal cancer and vascular dementia, it was the most harrowing thing I have ever had to watch any human endure. At one point my dad said to a doctor “if I was an animal, you’d do the kind thing and end my suffering, why can’t you do that now.?” It was awful, and there was no dignity in it for him. He was such a proud person. I hope you rest In peace and rise in glory, you brave brave man x
Next to the fear of uncontrollable discomfort while dying the feeling of not being in control is terrifying to hospice patients. Ralph was able to control his situation and keep his dignity. May he rest in the arms of Jesus with his loved ones who have gone ahead of him. He deserves his peace. 🕊️
He loves his friends and doesn't want to leave them 💔 but has no choice. He is brave and beautiful and touched many
with his love.
He was the fittest dying person I've ever seen, walking up hill, talking at the same time and not out of breath!
That’s the point. Die while you are still in full control of your faculties.
I was thinking the same thing he’s in better shape than me lol but he was a green beret
Yea so he got a lot of skills ❤❤❤😊
We all deserve that option.
RIP Ralph. 💙
It’s super brave to call it quits when it’s time to call quits. Huge respect. I think I’d choose the same too ❤
Man he’s SO BRAVE. Watching him say goodbye to his best friend was tough. What do you say when you know it’s the last goodbye. I wonder how many more meaningful words and moments would transpire if we all got to decide our death day upon faced with terminal illness.
I thought that too, especially when the friend said "I'll call you tomorrow" to get that one last bit of everything is normal in.
No, brave is living until God says you don't! That's real courage!
You really have no clue, work a few years in long-term care or hospice, and see for yourself the loss of dignity and the uncontrollable pain. If your god is good with that then it's a monster unworthy of love or respect.
Not everyone believes in your God. Stop pushing that religious b.s. onto other people.
Excellent..thank you Ralph ..love this Californian end of life option act it makes perfect sence
Just had a dear friend make this choice several weeks ago. She was diagnosed with ALS. She was 62 years old. Heartbreaking.. and so very very brave.
Sorry to hear about your friend 😪🙏 I’m sure now she’s at peace and at least she was allowed to die with dignity …. Where I live (Italy) and where I was born (England) it’s illegal unfortunately. What illness is ALS ?
We only just passed the end of life bill here in New Zealand. Assisted dying was introduced Nov last year I believe. As a nurse I was relieved to see that people faced with such things as ALS - that would be an extremely scary end, I’m so pleased that she had the choice available to her, it must have been empowering for her to have that last bit of control. I’m very sorry for your loss. Hugs
Hugs for you and your friend, I will want to do this.
@@sallygard63 You may know it as motor neuron disease. My Dad died from ALS.
@@sallygard63 It is actually Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis. AKA Lou Gehrig disease. My dad died of it 27 years ago. Its said to be the front seat to your own death. Slowly deteriorate while you watch your demise. There's a 10% chance it is heredity.
What an amazing man. He really had a lot of suffering in his life but enjoyed what he could. I hope he is with his Wife and Daughters.
He made himself GOD the day he committed suicide. Lost soul. Sad.
@@jackiebourg6869 I will just agree to disagree. I’m a chronic pain sufferer. Just because I may choose to end my pain before my time of suffering is over doesn’t mean I am less than. You believe what you will. If you were in crippling pain you may think differently.
@@jackiebourg6869 What absolute rubbish 🙄🙄. He made a decision to end his suffering. God is as real as Mickey Mouse!! Why can’t you people let others make decisions without chiming in all the time with useless bible guff?
@@jackiebourg6869 I would say misguided soul. A Believer would trust God thru the process. Not everyone has the faith and strength to do that. His decision was between him and God. I pray he was Saved before he passed.
@@carolsaylor6151 everyone is saved.
Ralph was an ex professional boxer with a record of 45-8. He wasnt just a fighter in death but also life
Looks like he didn't fight at all.
This guy got it right. If my dog gets terminally sick, I do not let it suffer in agony, I have it euthanized. Why would I treat myself with less compassion?
It's the religious aspect that makes this so controversial. It's considered suicide by many. However, nowhere in the Bible, not one single time, does it say anything about you being punished in any way for suicide. It doesn't say you will go to damnation, it doesn't say God will be mad, it doesn't even say that you shouldn't do it. Nothing. The Bible says NOTHING about any consequences for suicide.
Thou shalt not kill. Also No murderer hath eternal life. That includes self murder.@@desertweasel6965
Exactly ❤
WARNING: UA-cam is deliberately linking/recommending pro-s*icide videos with videos on managing disabilities. Here are some groups fighting for your right to life and to a natural death:
American Association of People with Disabilities (AAPD)
American Disabled for Attendant Programs Today (ADAPT)
Association of Programs for Rural Independent Living (APRIL)
Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)
Autistic Women & Nonbinary Network (AWN)
Disability Rights Center
Disability Rights Education & Defense Fund (DREDF)
Disability Section, American Public Health Association
National Council on Disability (NCD)
National Council on Independent Living (NCIL)
National Organization of Nurses with Disabilities
National Spinal Cord Injury Association
Not Dead Yet (NDY)
TASH
The Arc of the United States
United Spinal Association
World Institute on Disability (WID)
TELL YT TO STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES TO K*LL THEMSELVES.
@@desertweasel6965 Fuck the bible
I love that he had control, and was able to say goodbye to family and friends, and wasn’t forced to suffer. I have been a nurse for years and have seen people suffering at the end. It’s so cruel.
Absolutely. I've seen people hanging on at the insistence of their family to fight on and its almost selfish in how torturous it is when they just want to move on.
Stargalaxy Universe.
The rich and famous don't have to suffer the dying process, they all take (self-administered) pentobarbital, which they keep a supply of in their luxury homes, without going to see someone!
this should be allowed for everyone who wants it right to live right to die
@@stephenfermoyle4578
Saying it will not make it happen; so what is the point?
Dignity in life, dignity in death, it’s the least we can do.
At 85 you can tell he was still spry and had energy, that cancer must have been hell for him. To get to that age and be that independent and then have cancer ravage your body and lose your ability to live a quality life is just terrifying. The fact anyone would let people die painfully with out the dignity they deserve is so misguided
You must tell that to God see what he says. It's not our choice to kill ourselves cause we did not give life so we should not take it.
This is murder and anyone who does this is hell bound. Read your scriptures. Christ already died for us so why should we kill ourselves
Did it look like he was feeble and in a living hell? I don't like pain either, and after 4 surgeries on my back, 1 on my shoulder, and 3 on my left knee, I know all about pain. There are ways to treat pain, with and without meds. And of course there's this- My father was given 3 months. He was so weak he could barely make it to the bathroom. That was over two and a half years ago, and he's doing better than he was before the cancer. This guy looks like was doing pretty damn good even the day before he decided to do it. I believe in the right to choose and die with dignity, but if I were his doctor, I probably would've held off a bit longer to see what happens. If he goes downhill, then by all means.
@@pamike4873 this is a video so his worst moments weren’t shared on camera. He seemed fine in the video but people rally when family is around and then when alone they experience their most vulnerable painful moments. Im sorry for what your dad went through. I don’t wish that on anyone.
with the guy in this video there is a bit of a difficult situation that doctors face because if he goes too downhill, by law he is forced to die without help because he wouldn’t have the faculty to decide for himself. It happens a lot with people with dementia who want to die with help, it progresses too much and they can’t make a decision that they understand. But i agree, if he was doing so well i would’ve waited a bit but also we don’t know what it is like when he is alone and not on a ton of painkillers.
@@pamike4873 I don't think you listened very well. His doctors told him he would die the first part of August. He did this on July 30th. And I'm sure these moments on video were His best moments. Everyone's pain is different. This man had cancer everywhere in his body. It had to be extremely painful! He did not look well to me. I've had many surgeries myself. One was from a ruptured brain aneurysm.
@@wyomingadventures You're sure these were his best moments, eh? Do you not understand some of this footage was the day before he ended it? Doctors told my father he had six weeks to live. That was over two years ago, and my dad looked like hell.
I've been watching assisted suicide videos for the last few hours. Even if they are only 20 minutes or so long, you find that you grow warm to the people they're about and feel genuinely sad at the end. Godspeed, Ralph, and may whatever comes next be a comfort and release.
He has my complete respect. Brave and taking charge! If ever I become terminally ill, I would like to have that option.
He has a great attitude. I belong to Dignity in Dying UK. Hoping and praying we have laws in place soon to choose our death.
It takes a strong man to die with dignity.
I'm not an emotional man I haven't even cried at my fathers death which was 7 years ago, not even to this day, he too died of cancer at only 64 and the suffering he encountered as this disease ravished him was pure torture. Since watching this film and even whilst I'm writing this post here in the uk, I'm not embarrassed to say that I'm letting my emotions run wild. This is such a personal way to choose to go when u know it's inevitable either way. This way however is dignified it's decided by you and it's a seemingly painless and peaceful way . This gentleman was a man of pure honour respect and everything which is good, all rolled in to one man. I at 44 wished I'd had the pleasure of having him in my world for as long as those who knew him had. The earth may of lost a true human being but heaven has gained a true angel. RIP sir X
Full on frontal face to face with death............Respect for his wisdom and courage.
I watched my mom die of ovarian cancer, it was very traumatic for my daughter and me. RIP Ralph.
Sleep well that man I am across the pond and am on the rollercoaster of being referred for suspected pancreatic cancer after a 2.8cm nodule found on CT . You have inspired me this day thankyou I would have been honoured to meet you.
Out of all of the TV and videos I’ve ever watched of bravery, courage and dignity, this man, and former Green Beret topped them all. May you rest in peace Sir. 🙏
I wish this was an option for people with debilitating chronic pain, spinal cord injury, unable to get out of bed, living alone, paralyzed with an awful quality of life. This is my experience, I’ve done as much soldiering through, I also deserve a dignified way to end my life without having to suffer so greatly. Rest In Peace Ralph.
I strongly support you!
There is that option. You would have to travel to Switzerland or the Netherlands. Don’t recall which but sign on to death with dignity there. They even offer assistance for people having healthy bodies but severe psychological depression. They require you to meet with several psychologists and involve family, and if you still wish your decision they will legally assist. Just can’t do it at home
Thank you, I would have to be a citizen of whichever country first though is that true?@@kylehanna522
god bless you! 🤍🤍
Both of my parents, my twin sister and another beloved sister of mine died with great dignity in hospice care.
What is deceiving is that he looks very alive, full of energy, raring to go, UNTIL he talks about the on. & off pain he is experiencing. I kept saying to myself why doesn't he wait a little longer? We can't feel his pain. Thank you for your service, sir. Rest in peace.
He was army special forces. He was probably in the worst pain imaginable but can smile through it and laugh when most other people would be crying. And on top of that he accepted his death decades ago when he joined
@@Willppyro Will you been watching a lot of movies aintcha?
When I was younger, one of my best friends was diagnosed with cancer at age 23.
His final weeks before his death were so horrific that I cannot go into detail here.
In hindsight, I think it would have been a good decision for him to choose the option which Ralph chose.
But assisted suicide wasn’t a topic yet in those years.
People who have never seen others dying of cancer or other horrible diseases should not judge others prematurely.
I agree wholeheartedly! My pain tolerance and your pain tolerance is very different AND IT’S PERSONAL! Ralph’s choice was a great choice for him; I’m researching this right now for myself!
They shouldn’t judge people regardless, but you’re right; people can’t know what it’s like to hear that diagnosis and go through the process of treatments, physical pain, emotional and mental pain, and everything else. Yet, it seems those with no clue are always the loudest, most opinionated ones.
I have cancer and I am going to make sure I have the option to die with dignity if I do become terminal. So sorry about your best friend. nobody deserves to go through that. Nobody deserves to see a loved one or friend go through that either. People have no idea.
I know he has already passed, but I’m in a divorce, and am in failing health, of the perfect storm, and my suffering everyday. I’ve exhausted my medical options only to know I will suffer more everyday. I believe I am making the right decision Appreciate every second and don’t waste a day. RIP
This human being should be emulated for the courage he has. I have stared some pretty serious situations in the face and prevailed. This is one thing I’ll never mentally wrap my head around until I die. It’s terrifying and the dignity and respect he showed, was absolutely heroic. Rest peacefully.
Such a brave man. And how kind of him to share his story. It will help so many in their journey.
Wait for God time instead of doing what he did, horrible way to die.
@@kal-os5391
That sentence was rather bad grammar. Could you clarify what you're trying to say?
Thanks!
If we can do it for our pets then we should be able to do it for our loved ones.
I would hope ones life would be having their heart right with God first .
@@conniepine8642 I would hope that one could die in peace without others pressuring them with their intolerance about their religion. Some of the most evil is done in the name of goodness.
@@bobs182 Perfectly stated 👌
I let my dog go naturally. My GOSH!! If that's how people die, it is HUMANE!! I'll never let another animal die naturally.
@@flxmkr sorry u had to go through that, it’s hard taking them to the vet to be put down too, you go through the whole range of emotions.
Strangely Uplifting and Positive. A good life and a great endgame Ralph
It’s our life. It’s our choice to die the way we want to die. Rest easy. Be at peace.
Ralph seems like he was a really cool guy I'm glad he's at peace
Wow. It was a bit of a tear jerker when I seen him tell his friend goodbye that he just happened to pass on this walking path while filming this😢
two real men right there, two friends saying goodbye
A very dignified passing at his own hands. Well done to the producer and editor for making it such a beautiful video to watch with none of the sad stuff. I hope this type of passing is made available across all of Europe. thank you very much guys.... lots of love from Ireland XXXXXXXXXX
Thank you, Ralph, for showing us there is another normal, loving, compassionate option. 💓
Fear God. Please don't promote this.
We actually treat our pets deaths much more humanely than our people.
Yes, we seem to think quantity of life is more important than quality of life.
I don’t know what that has to do with any of this.
Yes," dying like a dog" can be an easy way to die.
@@aaronmehki8015 when dogs are suffering from a terminal illness it’s okay to euthanize them so they do not suffer - but we do not give people the same choice
That's because they're not keeping the medical gravy train going.
RIP. I'm sorry for everyone's loss.
BEST video I've seen! FINALLY a normal, intelligent and sensible human being takes charge of his own life and death. And isn't afraid of showing it. It's about time that we start letting people decide these things for themselves. I've been to the brink and back and trust me when I say it's not an easy decision. So, here's to Ralph! ⭐🇺🇲🍾🥂🌹🌈🌈
Correct
here’s to ralph: *emoji spam* not only that but you were finally waiting for a video where we normal person dies ? kind of an odd comment but rest in peace ralph