@Plumbing Inspector Contractor As a woman speaking here, some of us women know exactly what we want but the frustrating thing is when you make it clear to the man and he wants to what he's wants to do and doesn't listen. I know exactly what I want and don't want and make myself clear to him but then get accused of being controlling just because I know how to express what I need. Makes me sad and frustrated.
Todd Bowles it’s very true but it is missing one thing. Many people don’t know what they need and require someone to show them, this is where the “knowing what you are doing” part come in. I think she is right about the problem but the solution still has some practical aspects.
This talk really hit home. She made me realize that I cannot be myself or concentrate on what I'm feeling because I am being judged and expected to perform. I don't know where I'll go from here but she gave me a starting point and a road map. Thanks.
shahrazade26 The expectations society has put on men to be high level performers inside and outside the bedroom are grossly unfair and largely unaddressed. We all must endeavor to release this damaging idea. Brené Brown has done some amazing research on ways to heal the shame that is at the root of this. I recommend her book, “Daring Greatly” for answers.
First time I watched this, I didn’t understand, I was like: but how?.. fast forward 3 years, and an amazing woman later, this completely makes sense. Thanks Sarah.
How did you guys miss her point? She was saying that you should just be present and try to enjoy the journey with your partner not rush to the end goal. The Journey is full of different sensations and experiences. You have to get out of your head and be aware of your body that is all.
Kev Man456 she's not suggesting anything specific because everyone has a different body and would like different things what she's saying to to find out what you really would enjoy instead of routine rushing to climax or faking enjoyment
@@gabriellesinclair971 It's an incomplete though, plus one that really ignores reality. No matter how much I enjoy different parts of a meal, at some point I will eat it just to be full. Every now and then you can stop to appreciate again, but it's not an experience that happens every time, nor should it.
Gabrielle Sinclair But creating practical examples, though it cannot be tailored to every individual in the audience because everyone has a different body, would at least give an idea of what she means by what she’s saying.
Kev Man456 she's wants them to discover it themselves it's better for people to feel than being told what to do. Also It's a ted talk also I don't think they would show anything that graphic.
I think this kind of talk makes sense to people who can easily improvise in the moment, like musicians who are used to showing up and jamming without any preconceived objective. Just putting the biggest pair of ears on and being willing to follow wherever the moment takes us. Of course there is no guarantee you'll make music, but that willingness to be open, fearless and sensitive to another makes for great lovemaking when the chemistry is there.
@@PhillMagGamerDad see will see you as one of her friends and loss all attraction for you. Who likes a leader that shows it's emotion? You think you would like to see it, but when you do, it is re-election time.
First, our purpose for being on this spiritual plane is to find out who we are. Second, when we understand that, our choices of lovers will be with those who want to be with us as much as we want to be with them. There will be no doubt. There will be no guilt or outside distractions.Just being in that moment.
Sense8 vibes, anyone? I think this is the same message this serie was trying to broadcast. Beautiful. Thank you so much for explaining a train of thought and emotions that should be elemental.
Media makes us feel like we’re doing it all wrong. When I just let things a flow and not think so much, disregard what I’ve seen and learned. It just happens.
Fantastic presentation on the topic of intimacy. Excellent information. She provides a wonderful lens, highlighting the misconceptions we have about the exchanges of love, pleasure, bonding, etc. Excellent work!
This is exactly why I can't forget! It was the one place I let all my inhibitions go, and I let myself be completely vulnerable with you...can you say the same?
Applause! A standing ovation from me. This talk is excellent. So well scripted and so well delivered. It feels like this first time in many, many years that somebody says it like it is. Thank you.
Love to see the link of emotions with our capacity for connection and then link it all back to the wisdom of pleasure as a guide (in essence the wisdom of our bodies). Thank you for sharing it through this lens!
I knew this was a top experience with my first love at 19. She figured it out a few years later with a couple of kids from someone else and let me know with tears.
Communication is the key, I try to please my partners to the best of my ability, by asking if they like it, you can get instant feedback, and go from there, sometimes it is important to pay attention to body language too. We are not telepathic after all.
Mindfulness isn’t treating feelings and emotions as messengers, being mindful is simply paying attention in a non judgemental way. Trusting the wisdom of the body involves more than just mindfulness.
This is amazing and aligns with what I had discovered for myself years ago. I hope this helps a lot of people understand the pleasure of being in that moment and feeling, getting closer. I suppose some people might be scared to feel vulnerable, but then there isn’t pleasure in simply performing the act.
Hi Tetyana how are you. Greetings from Ireland. Hope you’re safe from covid. It’s a good video. Your comment is very good. Best wishes for a lovely weekend 😊🙏 Michael
Just thinking about letting go with some of these heartless people in hook up culture is enough to make me want to cry. What she is describing is truth but difficult to do if you don't trust people.
I clicked on the Tedx link to find a familiar face on the screen. So lovely to see you and hear your words that resonate with me as Truth. What a great talk.
@@Warrior1Spartan If you think you were for whatever reason, you probably were. I work with Veterans with PTSD and I have felt they have been Spartan's in a past life. Mainly because they have shared with me, some unbelievable stories of fearlessness and brushes with death, that they can't explain. I have also dated a guy, we are in our 60's now and he was told by a teacher that he was a "leader" in another life, he also believed he was a Spartan. Pretty cool!
Yeah this is of course a wonderful point and I agree with it full-heartedly, but when she asks "are you close?" nothing kills the mood faster or says "I am present" than that.
SOmetimes it is so hard to appreciate the moment and the radiance of the other person and feel their energy and make a connection on that level that it holds you back. Whether that connection is there metaphyically or perceived in the brain in some other manner because of your history. It is easier to focus on assetics and function that feel that connection. You may never know you miss it.
Hello mam Sarah Barden how is your Martial life I hope it will be full of happiness I hope your husband your family children great happiness will be there may I correct????????
A lot of people here are saying this is a big revelation for them, but I've always kind of innately knew this. Just let your body and emotions guide you? Way ahead of you there, Ms. Byrden. Though, I'm glad this video exists, because now I know how to put this into words, and other people will be seeing this, as well.
From the Netherlands : Ik kijk geregeld naar TedX video's waarin bevlogen mensen hun passie, ervaringen en kennis delen over alle mogelijke onderwerpen die zij in hun leven beleven. Het onderwerp van deTedX lezing die ik met jullie wil delen kom ik op facebook niet of nauwelijks tegen, behalve soms in een "grap" die vaak meteen onze schizofrene verhouding tot sexualiteit weerspiegelt. Onderstaande lezing verwoordde voor mij precies waar het in dit leven over gaat en sloeg de spijker op zijn kop m.b.t. de fake cultuur waar wij door de vercommercialisering van onze "samen"-leving in terecht zijn gekomen. Niet alleen met onze sexualiteit maar ook met onze gezondheid. Ik hoop dat de moderators van facebook dit bericht toelaten. UA-cam gelukkig nog wel.
This isn't an assignment for her, it's her presentation. I think she said enough to hit her point home very well, in a few different ways. I think she did great.
Dear Sir or Madam, I am curious about the customs of your species. My limited observations have only caused more confusion for me. Would you be so kind as to explain to me how your noz and dingle function? As you generously explain facets of your species, I would be remiss in not divulging details about my own copulatory patterns. My pennies is bigger than yours. Once approximately every five of your Earth hours, it turns purple. It stays this way until I extract the code for generating new life and the longer I leave it unattended, the more painful it becomes. Some great philosophers of our species once attempted to forgo this process indefinitely and died as a result. In modern times, some juveniles have attempted this feat and had to have their pennies surgically removed. This procedure saves many lives but also prevents the individual from reproducing. Often, after the code of life is extracted, it is discarded in a container that holds photosynthesizing organisms and is broken down by smaller organisms into nutrients for the photosynthesizing organisms. However, on rare occasions, it is exchanged with other members of our species. Once or twice per lifetime, an individual is given the honor of nourishing a juvenile. That individual then organizes a celebration with other individuals they wish to contribute genetic code. The celebration is approximately twenty of your Earth hours, over the course of which all extractions performed by the guests are placed inside the incubation cavity of the individual who will nourish the juvenile. Thus far in my life, I have contributed code for seventeen juveniles and upon completion of my Earth research project, I will use my incubation cavity to nourish one. Thank you for listening. Telling you about my pennies means a lot to me. I appreciate your patience and understanding. Sincerely, RickDiculous
This had a lot of very good philosophical points. Unfortunately it was undermined by the editing. They seemed to have removed where she must have said "I think" before every single sentence. Because without those, her talk would have appeared as one long string of pronouncements and declarations about what is true for all of us and what we "should" be doing about it. And although her advice was often on target, I am sure she would have known better than to lay down the law in exactly the same way that she was lamenting that society does to us.
To all the guys who worry that they didn't last long enough, as I tell my husband: it's the most honest compliment, the most amazing thing that I make you feel that amazing that you just can't hold it back. Seriously.
Awwwwww that's so cute! I don't have that problem right now but I had it, and I would have loved hearing that and seeing that point of view. And besides, I want to add that you are right, there are women that don't like when you finish quick but there are other women that don't like when you last that long, so at the end of the day, every single person has different likes but the thing that I consider is more important is the attitude that both have! It's definitely everything
@@Jose-rj6nj I have experienced both sides, and I can tell you it's not at all funny when it takes 1.5h for him, especially if too often, it makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me tbh +it can literally be painful. I appreciate taking your time but on the other end(I mean long foreplay, making her feel like you really want her etc, there can never be too much of that:).
@@tanyatanu1 I don't want to give them the credit of being alpha males. I'd say they watched hoping to get pointers on how to be better performers, missing the point that it's not a performance
You know what's funny? I told the second guy he was to young for me. He told me that's fine he know what he doing. I said....."what?"..."what are you talking about"?....and we just started laughing and joking.😂😂😂 We had a great conversation.
Suzi, you are correct. I would love for my wife and I to have long lasting, teasing, playful lovemaking sessions. We have 10min. fucks so she can go to sleep.
I'm glad that I don't deal with that shit....I have never felt like I put myself in a box or not been myself...I love sex...I know what I am feeling and I am extremely expressive of that. ❤
She is absolutely correct. We're confused between our minds expectations and what down deep we really want and need.
@Plumbing Inspector Contractor As a woman speaking here, some of us women know exactly what we want but the frustrating thing is when you make it clear to the man and he wants to what he's wants to do and doesn't listen. I know exactly what I want and don't want and make myself clear to him but then get accused of being controlling just because I know how to express what I need. Makes me sad and frustrated.
I don't even know what I need -_-
>"We're confused between our minds expectations and what down deep we really want and need."
Nah.
I just want a cat girl waifu.
Todd Bowles it’s very true but it is missing one thing. Many people don’t know what they need and require someone to show them, this is where the “knowing what you are doing” part come in. I think she is right about the problem but the solution still has some practical aspects.
"what down deep we really want and need."
Then, unexperienced as we are, we let it out, it becomes awkward, and we get despised. And that's it?
This happens when you are genuinely connected to your partner, the souls just do their love making and it’s just the best feeling ever! Thank you :)
Thus is soo True! People are missing the soul lick, that connection that bonds💖
yes, happened with two girls, never with others. It's highly sought after.
This talk really hit home. She made me realize that I cannot be myself or concentrate on what I'm feeling because I am being judged and expected to perform. I don't know where I'll go from here but she gave me a starting point and a road map. Thanks.
What you write is so incredibly relatable!
shahrazade26 The expectations society has put on men to be high level performers inside and outside the bedroom are grossly unfair and largely unaddressed. We all must endeavor to release this damaging idea. Brené Brown has done some amazing research on ways to heal the shame that is at the root of this. I recommend her book, “Daring Greatly” for answers.
I focus on the beauty of her wrists and her back and transport each other somewhere else during the caressing.
@@ixxgxx damn you should write a poem
🔥🔥🔥
First time I watched this, I didn’t understand, I was like: but how?.. fast forward 3 years, and an amazing woman later, this completely makes sense. Thanks Sarah.
How did you guys miss her point? She was saying that you should just be present and try to enjoy the journey with your partner not rush to the end goal. The Journey is full of different sensations and experiences. You have to get out of your head and be aware of your body that is all.
Gabrielle Sinclair But that doesn’t say anything practical. Its an incomplete thought.
Kev Man456 she's not suggesting anything specific because everyone has a different body and would like different things what she's saying to to find out what you really would enjoy instead of routine rushing to climax or faking enjoyment
@@gabriellesinclair971 It's an incomplete though, plus one that really ignores reality. No matter how much I enjoy different parts of a meal, at some point I will eat it just to be full. Every now and then you can stop to appreciate again, but it's not an experience that happens every time, nor should it.
Gabrielle Sinclair But creating practical examples, though it cannot be tailored to every individual in the audience because everyone has a different body, would at least give an idea of what she means by what she’s saying.
Kev Man456 she's wants them to discover it themselves it's better for people to feel than being told what to do. Also It's a ted talk also I don't think they would show anything that graphic.
I think this kind of talk makes sense to people who can easily improvise in the moment, like musicians who are used to showing up and jamming without any preconceived objective. Just putting the biggest pair of ears on and being willing to follow wherever the moment takes us. Of course there is no guarantee you'll make music, but that willingness to be open, fearless and sensitive to another makes for great lovemaking when the chemistry is there.
Perfectly in tune!
What a gift is this lady at 75 a great awakening
Great speaker. Time for us to let go, no inhibitions, better self esteem. It’s not about the game, it’s about the journey
there is no "game". If you make it a game, it isn't real.
if we hold back emotion the body will hold back pleasure and our capacity for compassion!
Spot on
That’s beautiful
Yeah... And when you show emotion to a woman you know what will happen...
@@jasonhaveten5608 , no idea. What will happen?
@@PhillMagGamerDad see will see you as one of her friends and loss all attraction for you. Who likes a leader that shows it's emotion? You think you would like to see it, but when you do, it is re-election time.
This woman has gifted us all, through her presentation, with the essence for more radically fulfilling lives. In humble gratitude 🙏🏻.
Good❤
First, our purpose for being on this spiritual plane is to find out who we are. Second, when we understand that, our choices of lovers will be with those who want to be with us as much as we want to be with them. There will be no doubt. There will be no guilt or outside distractions.Just being in that moment.
Well said
Your purpose here isn't to find out who you are but to feel feelings and to conquer all things bad
Pointing out the internal points, she explained beautifully.... Great speach
We are living in a time where cell phones are becoming more important than an actual connection. Blessed are those who are mindful.
Blessed indeed are those who are mindful!
So true!
Lll
Sense8 vibes, anyone? I think this is the same message this serie was trying to broadcast. Beautiful. Thank you so much for explaining a train of thought and emotions that should be elemental.
Pointing out the internal points, she explained beautifully.... Great speach. Your explanation is so simple and simply beautiful. Thank you Sarah! .
Media makes us feel like we’re doing it all wrong. When I just let things a flow and not think so much, disregard what I’ve seen and learned. It just happens.
Religion is what made me feel like what lm doing is all wrong.
Fantastic presentation on the topic of intimacy. Excellent information. She provides a wonderful lens, highlighting the misconceptions we have about the exchanges of love, pleasure, bonding, etc. Excellent work!
This is exactly why I can't forget! It was the one place I let all my inhibitions go, and I let myself be completely vulnerable with you...can you say the same?
So eloquent and grounding. Wholesome in that it makes you think of the topic holistically rather than just being a slice of life
This is one of the most deeply open and revealing conversation of pleasure I have heard.
4:59 "What we are missing, is ourselves" Case and point.
It is never about the end results but rather true emotions and being connected. The examples we see say otherwise.
exactly, and it's always fun and pleasant to just be your real inner self and let it happen - sometimes it's super fulfilling
Applause! A standing ovation from me. This talk is excellent. So well scripted and so well delivered. It feels like this first time in many, many years that somebody says it like it is. Thank you.
…and just for once, the title is click-bait, yes - but it is absolutely authentic and delivers what it promises!
She is so right, you have to have your emotions engaged during that time of pleasure or you are a dead thing.
I literally clapped at the end. Well spoken.
Hopefully, a lot of men will listen and understand this. It always takes two to make things work.
You are right, but the woman needs to do something other than lay there silently saying "make it happen."
Such truth and wisdom. Lovely!
Love to see the link of emotions with our capacity for connection and then link it all back to the wisdom of pleasure as a guide (in essence the wisdom of our bodies). Thank you for sharing it through this lens!
Deeeep!!
I just played it, closed my eyes & kept crying
Wow, she is so right. Went from my ex Mr. 17 minutes of well that's another chore done, to now friend Mr. Cant get enough. He is amazing.
Thank you ,first time someone could express my feelings and why the people never guess this is a top experience.
I knew this was a top experience with my first love at 19. She figured it out a few years later with a couple of kids from someone else and let me know with tears.
Communication is the key, I try to please my partners to the best of my ability, by asking if they like it, you can get instant feedback, and go from there, sometimes it is important to pay attention to body language too. We are not telepathic after all.
Right, you need to be unwrapping your own and your partner's expectations and feelings at the same time
She is spot on…. Extremely insightful
Very honest and real talk. She had guts to say it!!!
Great speech! This is the best pill for 'low libido'. Thank you!
Absolutely loved this message...the only thing which felt out of place, however, was the projected picture of kids at an aquarium towards the end 😂
I got so emotional watching this and how true it is what you said ☺️
This is pretty pretty deep if you wanna listen and pay attention and apply to the real life
nah
Our hearts and our bodies are intimately connected for sure!
In a nutshell: Mindfulness.
Not quite. Although it is a major part of it!
@@maocharlisme hahah you talk like you'd know the answer and are not even giving any substance to your comment other than that.
Mindfulness isn’t treating feelings and emotions as messengers, being mindful is simply paying attention in a non judgemental way. Trusting the wisdom of the body involves more than just mindfulness.
YES!!!!
I could not agree more
Without a script!great!I liked the spontaneity of her speech, and knowledge.
Umm… is this satire?
Let this lady have the floor..
Absolutely amazing and nothing but the truth
It’s terrible
Floor, dining room table, washing machine, porch swing, the stairs......
This is amazing and aligns with what I had discovered for myself years ago. I hope this helps a lot of people understand the pleasure of being in that moment and feeling, getting closer. I suppose some people might be scared to feel vulnerable, but then there isn’t pleasure in simply performing the act.
Tetyana H interesting
Hi Tetyana how are you. Greetings from Ireland. Hope you’re safe from covid. It’s a good video. Your comment is very good. Best wishes for a lovely weekend 😊🙏 Michael
Just thinking about letting go with some of these heartless people in hook up culture is enough to make me want to cry. What she is describing is truth but difficult to do if you don't trust people.
Yes. Truth has to be combined with love . . . otherwise it leads to cruelty. I read that in a book called "Falling for Love"
Hook up culture is the antithesis of what she speaks of
Right on
I wish I could shake her hand. Preach on.
I clicked on the Tedx link to find a familiar face on the screen. So lovely to see you and hear your words that resonate with me as Truth. What a great talk.
In other words: "Happiness lies in the journey, not the destination."
Great journeys lead to great destinations!
Love your name, do you believe you were a Spartan in a past life?
@@humaneleaguelancPA I used to think that, or at least that I could've been.
@@Warrior1Spartan If you think you were for whatever reason, you probably were. I work with Veterans with PTSD and I have felt they have been Spartan's in a past life. Mainly because they have shared with me, some unbelievable stories of fearlessness and brushes with death, that they can't explain. I have also dated a guy, we are in our 60's now and he was told by a teacher that he was a "leader" in another life, he also believed he was a Spartan. Pretty cool!
We are all warriors in this life. The one who conquers hisself is the only hero to ever exist.
I resonated with "instead of calling their bluff"
Wonderful talk.... a blessing in Byrden 's clothing....
Thank you Madame.
Very truthfull accounts of most people's feelings.
"this is about going home" wow, love that
Yeah it should be nice to come home.. that's not the reality... 😳
Your explanation is so simple and simply beautiful. Thank you Sarah! 🙂
Very insightful, thank you!!
very deep things I feel now I know what my sticking point and how to bring it out. A great thank to you sarah
Yeah this is of course a wonderful point and I agree with it full-heartedly, but when she asks "are you close?" nothing kills the mood faster or says "I am present" than that.
This is poetry.
Bad poetry.
SOmetimes it is so hard to appreciate the moment and the radiance of the other person and feel their energy and make a connection on that level that it holds you back. Whether that connection is there metaphyically or perceived in the brain in some other manner because of your history.
It is easier to focus on assetics and function that feel that connection. You may never know you miss it.
This is the best example of the best example of togetherness that I've ever heard
Hello mam Sarah Barden how is your Martial life I hope it will be full of happiness I hope your husband your family children great happiness will be there may I correct????????
A lot of people here are saying this is a big revelation for them, but I've always kind of innately knew this. Just let your body and emotions guide you? Way ahead of you there, Ms. Byrden. Though, I'm glad this video exists, because now I know how to put this into words, and other people will be seeing this, as well.
It's a journey, not a job, so respect it and enjoy.
Thank u for this wonderful speech I loved it❤
This is beautiful and spot on. ❤
I'll hit ur spot
From the Netherlands : Ik kijk geregeld naar TedX video's waarin bevlogen mensen hun passie, ervaringen en kennis delen over alle mogelijke onderwerpen die zij in hun leven beleven. Het onderwerp van deTedX lezing die ik met jullie wil delen kom ik op facebook niet of nauwelijks tegen, behalve soms in een "grap" die vaak meteen onze schizofrene verhouding tot sexualiteit weerspiegelt. Onderstaande lezing verwoordde voor mij precies waar het in dit leven over gaat en sloeg de spijker op zijn kop m.b.t. de fake cultuur waar wij door de vercommercialisering van onze "samen"-leving in terecht zijn gekomen. Niet alleen met onze sexualiteit maar ook met onze gezondheid. Ik hoop dat de moderators van facebook dit bericht toelaten. UA-cam gelukkig nog wel.
Sounds amazing. Not a performance but an adventure and discovery
This is fabulous advice. It's taken me a long time to get to this place.
Props to the ladies who can absolutely let go during the journey of coitus
This was so on point Sarah! Really well thought out and true. Great to meet you and share the TEDx stage with you.
that was outstanding! Seriously!!
She's absolutely correct. Great commentary.
My life would change entirely. I would actually feel happy, joyful, energetic, confident, satisfied and grateful.
That was brilliant! Thank you so much.
Take away fear and you can do anything
Magnifique !!! merci beaucoup Miss Sarah Byrden !!!
Beautifully expressed. Thank you
This just spoke on everything that twenty years of f**king has been missing in my life -
Shh..best comment!
I'd smash
why do you think that is?
"F...omg" is what it ain't.
Tremendous talk Ma-am, thanks
When your essay needs 1000 words but you are only at 250
mike P lmao genius
mike P I don’t get it
@@John.K3 11 minutes video for something that could of been summed up in a few sentences.
This isn't an assignment for her, it's her presentation. I think she said enough to hit her point home very well, in a few different ways. I think she did great.
Dear Sir or Madam,
I am curious about the customs of your species. My limited observations have only caused more confusion for me. Would you be so kind as to explain to me how your noz and dingle function?
As you generously explain facets of your species, I would be remiss in not divulging details about my own copulatory patterns. My pennies is bigger than yours. Once approximately every five of your Earth hours, it turns purple. It stays this way until I extract the code for generating new life and the longer I leave it unattended, the more painful it becomes. Some great philosophers of our species once attempted to forgo this process indefinitely and died as a result. In modern times, some juveniles have attempted this feat and had to have their pennies surgically removed. This procedure saves many lives but also prevents the individual from reproducing.
Often, after the code of life is extracted, it is discarded in a container that holds photosynthesizing organisms and is broken down by smaller organisms into nutrients for the photosynthesizing organisms. However, on rare occasions, it is exchanged with other members of our species. Once or twice per lifetime, an individual is given the honor of nourishing a juvenile. That individual then organizes a celebration with other individuals they wish to contribute genetic code. The celebration is approximately twenty of your Earth hours, over the course of which all extractions performed by the guests are placed inside the incubation cavity of the individual who will nourish the juvenile. Thus far in my life, I have contributed code for seventeen juveniles and upon completion of my Earth research project, I will use my incubation cavity to nourish one.
Thank you for listening. Telling you about my pennies means a lot to me. I appreciate your patience and understanding.
Sincerely,
RickDiculous
Amazing lecture....
Sometimes I wish I could turn my thoughts off, especially during intimacy.
Try meditation
smoke weed
badlandskid same baby. Same
Notice you thought(s) and get your focus back on what you were doing
@@maghrath1 weed doesn't disconnect thoughts...it makes them paranoid...not a good advice.
Thanks for The Wisdom of Pleasure
Amazing I loved it!!
This had a lot of very good philosophical points.
Unfortunately it was undermined by the editing. They seemed to have removed where she must have said "I think" before every single sentence. Because without those, her talk would have appeared as one long string of pronouncements and declarations about what is true for all of us and what we "should" be doing about it. And although her advice was often on target, I am sure she would have known better than to lay down the law in exactly the same way that she was lamenting that society does to us.
To all the guys who worry that they didn't last long enough, as I tell my husband: it's the most honest compliment, the most amazing thing that I make you feel that amazing that you just can't hold it back. Seriously.
God bless but not every lady thinks like that
@@tahamalik5073 Propably not. But neither do all think it's always bad. The opposite problem for me is MUCH worse.
@@kuuttinen got it thanks
Awwwwww that's so cute! I don't have that problem right now but I had it, and I would have loved hearing that and seeing that point of view. And besides, I want to add that you are right, there are women that don't like when you finish quick but there are other women that don't like when you last that long, so at the end of the day, every single person has different likes but the thing that I consider is more important is the attitude that both have! It's definitely everything
@@Jose-rj6nj I have experienced both sides, and I can tell you it's not at all funny when it takes 1.5h for him, especially if too often, it makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me tbh +it can literally be painful. I appreciate taking your time but on the other end(I mean long foreplay, making her feel like you really want her etc, there can never be too much of that:).
To be honest, I am way more interested in the comments section than the speech itself
Interesting how the majority of the negative comments are from men who simply don't seem to get the message she was trying to convey.
I noticed that too.
Yeah, coz they are alpha males who are taught not to allow themselves to feel :/
Agreed
Maybe it is because the message is poorly conveyed?
@@tanyatanu1 I don't want to give them the credit of being alpha males. I'd say they watched hoping to get pointers on how to be better performers, missing the point that it's not a performance
yup - she has absolutely nailed it - and don't forget to go ahead and let your inner self express and manifest itself as well :)
That talk was so beautiful.
You know what's funny? I told the second guy he was to young for me. He told me that's fine he know what he doing. I said....."what?"..."what are you talking about"?....and we just started laughing and joking.😂😂😂 We had a great conversation.
She's really good at motherhood statements
No one's making love anymore.
Yeah, feminism fixed that.
I knew it you want that cave man love ! Come her moma !!
It ain't necessarily so...the question is, are you?
Do Milk
Suzi, you are correct. I would love for my wife and I to have long lasting, teasing, playful lovemaking sessions. We have 10min. fucks so she can go to sleep.
I'm glad that I don't deal with that shit....I have never felt like I put myself in a box or not been myself...I love sex...I know what I am feeling and I am extremely expressive of that. ❤
Good.
do you know what your partner is feeling? lol
@@coraleibowitz6954Yes
Hmmm...
I only wish my wife was like you
Thank you for this insight 100 percent correct
I like her. She's on to something. Top stuff 👌
DEEEEEPEST GRATITUDE from Belgium, Europe 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Love her voice!!
Facts!! Never rush a good thing. Enjoy the whole pie, not just a slice😋😋
Perfect! Thank you!
So wonderfully profound and wise. I applaud you!
What an interesting woman. She has some really pertinent points, I like her speech.
What got cut out at 3:11?
It feels like and sounds/looks like there are cuts all over the place. ???