Never assume that you are the only guy in her orbit. She's more than likely talking to other guys and you need to be ok with that as you have no control over it. If she chooses someone else over you then you then she's his problem, not yours.
Lmao there’s no assuming a girls talking to other guys she is definitely talking to other guys a girls never talking to 1 guy just not a thing a girls always talking to tons of guys
@@nicka404 That is so not true! Its usually the girl wanting to be your girlfriend that is only talking to one guy(you). Why do you think shes trying to commit(excluding opportunists/goal diggers if you are wealthy)?? The problem is, guys want the girl that is super chill on commitment, sleeps with him fast, and then still never even mentions relationships. This particular type of girl is usually the one that is talking to a slew(or at least a few) guys and likely also sleeping with a few guys which is why she is not worried about commitment(some are just focused on work or goals of course). These comments are so sad how men have it all wrong🤦🤦🏽 Who are yall getting advice from Kermit?? Kermit is green for a reason and it aint cause he's a frog!!🤦🏽🐸
@@Simplythetruthfulone hey what about me i invite a girl for dinner and i took her a expensive place but then a giy came and they talk and later he left and i thought it was a coworker or a friend if hers but she told me just a partner never talk to her again also before asking her for a date i told her if she was single she say yes and now she has sex partner friend with benefits good thing i left also she was a gold digger only come for me for my wealth
Also if you feel like just another one of a dozen guys she is messaging, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate why you are actually pursuing this woman.
@@jupanu9177 exercise,read a book,learn a language or pick up a hobby. Ex Girl wasn't really paying attention to me and I started working out consistently and started learning a 3rd language and after posting my fitness progress she hit me up. Didn't respond for a day and when I did she waited an hour to hmu. Started texting back and forth and started talking about how I'm studying to be a veterinarian it just peaked her interest more. Don't over text her and don't initiate anything if she stops texting you.
To be fair, women were talking to multiple men before Tinder existed too. Regardless of how you feel about it, traditional dating died with the invention of birth control pills.
@Dee Bee Not disagreeing with that fact either. Just because a technology is out there does not mean there aren't also people who are to lazy or stupid to use it properly. The Internet is another fantastic example of this. I'm just pointing out where the culture shift occurred. Pre-marital sex had an entirely different social context when everyone was risking conception when they had it.
@@ryanbarker3978 I don't think you understand the impact social media made in the lives of women when it comes to dating. There is no comparison between the number of choices a woman had in let's say 2001 vs 2020. No comparison.
@@boss4330 I'm not debating that dating apps are a much harder landscape for men to be successful but cold approach is very much still a thing in 2020.
That's the entire problem with dating....it SHOULDN'T be a competition. Guys shouldn't worry about a chick talking to other guys if she's not your woman yet.
Keep your options open, unless you really like the woman and she's also spending time with you and shows interest. If you feel there's a progress then talk about being exclusive.
Shouldn't, but it does! Women do it in subtle ways! It is women who create the competition among men around her! It is validation to her to have you fight over her! Telling men to stop worrying is the worst advice!
@@georginabrigs1891 hey what about me i ask a girl for a date dinner we knew each other and we went to this expensive place but then a guy came and they talk and then he left and i ask her who is he a friend she told me just a partner never talk to her again she was a waste of time
@@AlejandroP1980s i cant just easily judge her because i dont know the whole story. But how did she react before and after when she saw the guy? What does she mean a partner?
@Benny Goodman Yeah man thats a really good way to look at it, helps take the pressure off when you actually do go on a date or talk to a new girl. I go in it with the mindset of "what can she do for me?" "will i like her?" instead of "i hope im good enough for her" i wish you luck man you got a special girl on the way for ya
@Benny Goodman Damn right brother! Just gotta keep the faith and take full advantage of any and all opportunities you see to sharpen and hone your skills
Don't care about that, it's not of your business, you don't need her, if she wants you, she will stay in touch and if not, not important. YOU Don't need her it's completely unimportant, It's just important that you took action and did your best. That's it. Regards
What if she is managing two guys at the same time one for money and another for love ? By showing the same caring and attention to each of the two . What to do in this kind of situations
Guys pls listen me carefully, if any girl gives you this feeling just focus on the another girl and keep her on side or move on , don’t get stuck on the same girl , your comfort zone will kill you , get out off your comfort zone back to field and do what you got to do that’s it
Women really do pick up on the 'abundance mindset' like it's their 6th sense. Thanks to your videos, not only have I had the luxury of picking and choosing which girls I want to be with, but my first pick actually decided to be exclusive with me because she wanted to 'keep me for herself'. Work on achieving a true abundance mindset by being the best version of you and everything will fall into place. Thanks Lloyd, now I have a quarantine partner ✌🏽
How do I get to that abundance mindset though? I'm 19 still a virgin. I got to working out, now I have a great body and i'm pretty strong also (I get compliments from girls all the time), I am an artist and have opened my own page on instagram which is growing pretty well and I also play and practice my guitar daily. I have lots of great friends. But the thing is - I grind daily towards my goals but I still feel like I have this void inside of me, because I still haven't been in a single relationship. I'm not bad looking either, I constantly get told that i'm a handsome guy by both men and women. I can't seem to find my problem. I go out on dates occasionally throughout the year but most of the time we only get to a second date and nothing more. I am in need of some serious advice.
Who cares how many she is talking too? You should be doing the same thing with the ladies. The most Important thing is NOT BEING BOTHERED by what she is doing - That gives you value. She is NOT unique and should not be important until you actually start dating or at least spend time together. If you come across as needy she will drop you like a stone. Try NOT texting her and wait to see if she responds. You will soon find out your value. If she doesn't FORGET HER.....
I've gotten so good at living alone that my attitude with women is that I can take it or leave it. I'll talk to women or message them and if I don't hear from them, I just go about my day. I want them to enter my frame.
I like how you don't act like every woman is a success for you and you just keep it real. What I've found is that too many guys want everything to be perfect and to magically get whatever woman they want and thats not how it works... you have to play the numbers game and be confident to talk to girls and pick up on cues that they like you or don't like you... thats pretty much it. And have the mindset that if it doesnt work out oh well theres plenty of others out there
@@simon_a.j.7255 ayyee that's the right mindset I need to approach with lmao I'll see how that works out once I actually know how to initiate and carry the convo
Don't be the guy worried about other guys. Focus on you. Don't waste time. Know your values. If she doesn't choose you fine, move on. Have a deeper connection. Have common goals, interests. Become familiar with each other.
It's always a numbers game guys. One girl not liking you doesnt make you a failure. There are too many fishes in the sea. Try and try and you will find one. best of luck
You are the legend my guy. Everything was accurate except the part about common goals . In my experience , the girls that I connected with most were the one's where our goals were the same. It really makes it easy , about 80 % familiarity is done right then and there.
My experience: Love yourself first, earn your value and respect from not only her but also from the people around you. Be genuine, be yourself and never come across as fake. Try and bring out the best version of yourself. Women want to be with high valued men who makes her feel comfortable. Lastly, never chase them because you'll only show them that you're needy and desperate and this is a big turn off to women. If you're confident and successful, they'll seek you. Be focused.
There will always be someone with different attributes taller ,richer having more to offer regardless ... It’s just your turn .. realize this and be set free from all the hassle ,games and struggles Be ready to walk and completely ok with your own love and heart at any point during the relationship.. if she exhibits games ,boredom manipulation or lack of interest for you be ok with walking and whole within while continuing your passions in life.
If she's talking to other guys. Simple. You talk to other girls. Remember the instinct of monogamy and getting settled with one guy is more prominent in women than men. Who knows she's just evaluating the best available option. You can do same. Talk to multiple girls. And choose the best one. Remember attraction is easy and temporary. Deep connection is difficult and long lasting. Don't care whom she is talking too? The most Important thing is NOT BEING BOTHERED by what she is doing. She is NOT unique or special and should not be important to you until you actually start dating. If you come across as needy she will drop you like a stone. Try NOT texting her and wait to see if she responds. You will soon find out your value. If she doesn't FORGET HER.....
Perfect advice I just came here to make sure. End of the day u just gotta worry about yourself and if the girl rlly fucked with you she will come to you naturally. Never put too much effort when you don’t have to
Bottomline: If the girl is talking to other guys, that means you're only one of her options. Never try to compete in a relationship. It's not a job interview. It's a life long commitment. And you don't wanna be with a girl who treated you just as an option. Sure you can have fun with her for a while on bed but for long term relationship or marriage, only settle with a girl who sees you MORE than just an option out of the list of guys she's talking with.... but I would suggest find a girl who doesn't hangout with guys too much and has more female friends than guy friends.
I had recently like a first date with this cute girl, hooked up and then right away I went for two weeks on vacation. going crazy on my mind thinking I might lose her and that she would start talking to other guys in the mean time. She was so perfect to me and if she was like the only girl out there... Started watching this channel which helped me so much dropping that weight of my shoulders. thanks my man
Every woman online with a dating profile has like 100 messages of guys telling her how beautiful she is when shes like a overweight 4 on a good day lol
No fucking way man, this is unreal. I was just into this exact situation lastnight but I never cared about the guys she talking to because I know I am the guy she wants. This is crazy lol
Thanks Lloyd, you always bring top-notch advice on how to deal with dating, women and how not to literally drown yourself in a sea of doubts. The part in which you say, ME, I'm the important part is psychology stuff of the first order else many men can even destroy their lives for a woman they get too attached to.
She’ll tell u she loves u and you’ll always b her #1 but we all know it’s 2021 and she’s always gon talk to other guys everytime... work on yourself and go straight to the top, they always come back
Just found your channel. Wish I found it a lot sooner. Thank you for spreading your knowledge and wisdom, feel like topics like these aren’t spoken about enough. Appreciate your channel brother. Keep Prospering.
Anyone who is caring this much about a woman, needs to think about getting their own life in order. Have your own interests and goals and get on with them.
There's a difference between connection and intimacy. Although he uses the word connection he's really talking about intimacy. When you have a conversation that allows you to see each other under the surface it's a done deal.
So I was talking to a girl but she had a boyfriend. But we were texting back and forth a lot eventually she broke up with her boyfriend and I started to have feelings for her, after over 2 months of texting she asked me out and she said that she was in love with me. Now she’s my girlfriend and we’re planning to get married in a few years.
Women will talk with new guys and if that new guy makes her little bit laugh she will start forgetting you even though you made her laugh for a whole year and sound boring or okay in that period of time because they don’t really care, so just don’t catch feelings for any women and if you have had happened, just try to control because there are more better girls out there, you just need to step out of her world
ismine Me too.. I thought it would lead to being a friend.. Need clarification on that.. I guess there’s a right balance to maintain to not go there... Lloyed - please make a video on it 🙂
The difference between becoming a friend and building that relationship connection comes down more to the progress that's being made.....if you meet up with a girl all the time and she likes spending time with you....but your not building " sexual tension " then you and her will become really REALLY great friends....but that's it. She'll be to worried about losing that great connection to make a move ( if she's not a forward type of girl )
Relationships are all about building and maintaining connection, but if you play all of your cards too early or in the wrong way you will blow your chances. The central idea is that most people place a very high value on trust and believe that it needs to be earned. If you open your life story to a girl you've never met before in the first few interactions, you will come across as a needy, people pleasing doormat. Most people tend not to respect people who are too trusting because they don't have any boundaries. That's why this will likely kill any attraction that existed between you and a girl and leave her looking for an exit strategy. If it doesn't, she probably has boundary issues herself. The example Lloyd gave in the video is good if you're trying to win a girl you've been talking to over a longer period of time over, but if you want to be the most interesting person in the room to someone you just met in a bar, the secret is still connection, but there's a better way to go about it. The trick that not a lot of guys really understand is that attraction is a very emotional thing for women, and the best way to build it quickly is to get the girl thinking about you when you aren't with her. You can do this by playfully teasing a bit in the first interaction to make intentions clear. Then build rapport and display high value behaviors in a socially intelligent way that show you have passions and drive. Try to escalate from impersonal ("I") to personal ("You") to interpersonal ("We") conversation, gauge reaction, and try to learn about the girl you're talking to and connect with them over a shared interest or topic while you're doing it. Flirt a bit, but don't outright tell a girl you like them. Give them enough to be interested in you and what you're about, but when they think they've got you figured out and start shit testing you, pull away a bit and don't let their evaluations of your neediness get to you because you don't need someone else to make you feel happy or fulfilled. This is the part where most guys screw up and shift control of the man to woman interaction to the girl because they try to fake not being interested. Woman see right through this and if they catch you doing it, they'll generally lose interest. You have to be able to genuinely walk away to pass shit tests. The good news is you will know how you did pretty immediately from her reaction. If it's positive, continue building rapport and leave the interaction on a high note; ideally setting up a meet up if you can otherwise grab their phone number. Do not use the word date. This is all certainly a learned skill, but push pull like this is incredibly powerful and is how a man can maintain control of the entire man to woman interaction. If you do this well enough, instead of the girl thinking you're just another guy who is interested in her and will chase her like 90% of men she talks to, she'll wonder why you're one of the rarer guys that is socially intelligent, has their shit together, and can be forward/flirt with her but also is perfectly content without her. She'll find herself trying to rationalize if she should chase you, which is exactly what you want as a guy because it's going to build attraction for you in her faster than anything you can say to her directly. That means the next time you reach out, she'll be interested to see how you behave to see if it's all just an act or if you're the real deal. You won't have trouble getting her to the next date, and if you can keep up the behavior up, she'll become more and more comfortable around you and allow you to escalate your relationship with her. Once you've escalated is when building a deep connection in your relationship becomes important to make it last. The powerful feelings of attraction that got you this far are just that, but they're also temporary and do eventually fade over time. If you try to build connection too quickly before she's actually attracted to you, she won't be invested in the interaction because you haven't done anything to make her feel invested. The most important thing to understand here though is high value guys don't behave in this way because they're trying to manipulate a women into liking them. They behave in this way because it's just the way they naturally act because they have other passions and priorities in their life. They understand and practice self care, always put themselves first, and never put a girl they just met over their family or close friends because it's a low value thing to do. Dating should be maybe your 4th-5th priority in your life and if you build up a deep connection with a long term partner (multiple years) they can maybe move up to 3rd-4th.... 2nd max if you end up married. They also understand that you can do everything right and still sometimes things just don't work out. Rejection is just a part of life but there doesn't always have to be fault behind it. Again, above all, these guys prioritize their happiness first and approach these situations from the outlook of "how well does this woman fit in my life" versus the other way around. I know this was a long response, but hopefully it helps.
@@ryanbarker3978 those are really good advice! I have made those mistakes before also but I seem to have understand the concept of push and pull (it's a girl testing you to see if you'll chase them) pulling away would result to show that you're not needy and so that to see if the girls really into you I presume
A lady who talk to multiple guys is capable of cheating and sleeping with multiple guys.... Ladies who know what they want, pick a guy immediately and stop talk to any other guys... Only ladies who are capable of cheating needs chats from multiple guys.. know this and give your self peace
I did exactly as you said. That’s 100% accurate. Worked great. I screw up here n there but on the all truth be told, I go back re correct then works great.
If you are dating it’s fine. Just be the best version of yourself and she’ll pick you, if not that’s part of the dating scene. It’s only when you get into an actual relationship is when it stops, if it doesn’t then, well you got a whole other set of issues. Most good women and men won’t entertain orbiters while in a relationship, this day and age though you need to keep your eyes open. Trust but understand we are in 2024, it’s wild out here.
Mine is talking to other guy in tiktok for youtube video content they are live while talking its like a PRANK CALL... is it okay or should i stop her from doing that? Hope someone answer... appreciate alot im really need advice for this one
Oh my even in the profession she was in she was still a truly genuine person who is like everyone looking for a true person cause we can't live this life forever It will get tiring and want someone you don't have to analyze but all already know.
In the center of a global pandemic, text games etc least of my worries. Girl i was chatting to was all over me, i asked if she was ok (after we went into lockdown) immediately started acting cold. So i then told her “are you for real? Got no time for this, message me when youve grown up.” Shes apologized since but ive given her little to no attention. My point being lay the boundaries early on. Soon as she acts like an idiot, call her out on it and ghost
It's a horrible feeling. Worrying constantly. It makes one feel if she was talking to another guy, why doesn't she just admit it. How can you really trust another person until you've got to know them so much better.
I'm currently in this situation. Constantly chatting this girl at work. This bad thing is, it's very obviois that she is already sick of me over chatting. Basically she just pretty much lost interest because she really doesn't care about me. It's just that it is very challenging for me to not talk to her. I always watch these kind of videos about being a high value man, but with her I'm unconciously becoming this needy beta that keeps chasing her. I hate this feeling and I'm currently working on it. Hope i could get over her soon.
run if you find yourself in situation like. this a old game and not worth playing. no women worth your time and save yourself headache. women play that game to see which guy is willing to spend more money on them so they can get more free stuff. which one is better, working your ass off, or getting free stuff from nowhere?? if i was a woman i would the same too. free stuff always feel good.
- So what are your goals in life? - Well, I'm currently a stripper but I want to be rich and travel the world. - Nice. Europe would be great, so I definitely want to travel too. - Let's hook up Just like that? Lol.
Let me tell you that living your life where you're constantly worried if the girl you're talking to or the girl you're dating is talking to other guys is certainly no way of living your life! Me who had this stupid, weak worry every time and with every girl I talked with🤦🏻♂️😐: Tell me about it! 😂😂 Damn man, doing your best to have abundance and loving yourself will do the trick! Only to know that there is no trick and the only way to have peace is by loving yourself so much to constantly need to study, train, exercise, hit the gym, approach women, have fun with friends and with girls... Just to love and live your life!
I need some help. Basically, there’s this girl that I really like. I know her pretty well from school and she was at a party with me the other day. We bumped into eachother and got on really well. We made out multiple times at the party and it went great (as if things would continue). Anyway we continued speaking but then a few days later I found out about this other guy who she’d been on and off talking to for months (only over text but haven’t actually met in person). Apparently she said to him that it was just a one off thing at a party, but it felt like more than that and she still seems interested. I really want to pursue things with her, but I’m not sure what to do now. Any help?
Helps a lot. Honestly, it sounds like I've been doing what I need to do by being myself and following my instincts. Still a little worried but maybe I should get over it. A month ago, she said she wasn't ready to date because of her abusive ex, which is fair. We made a deal to revisit the subject a month from then (which is in a few days). Have I screwed up? Should I stay friends with her just to see what happens?
Why do guys get so attached to a girl they've never even had sex with? Of course she's talking to other guys. You never even met. Did you really think she was saving herself for you.
Ive been seeing this girl and hooking up for about 6months almost every day. She said she's only sleeping with me but lately this past lover from years ago that she said cheated her has been reaching out. She tells me she not going down that road again. And I respond "then why entrain it" it eventually started a fight and she pulled the "your not my bf card" yet she basically acts like my girl anywhere we go. Since this guy has been msging her I have felt that disconnect from her regardless of what she said. I like her but now I feel like I have to pull away as much as it hurt me. What should I do?
talk to other women, realize your worth, and process the anxiety that comes along with that kind of abandonment or competition. Hobbies, friends, and taking care of yourself to cope with that stress and value yourself.
In general you have to focus on people who say yes to you. With others you don't need to waste your time respectively you can spend the resulting time (if you stop hanging out with "friends"...) with people who definetly say yes to you (and you to them too).
If she’s talking to other guys then bin her off, your worth more, respect yourself and find someone that respects you, show her what’s she’s missing out on!
I follow 1 week rule...give her full attention for 1 week and then completely pull away and text her like you don't know her. Drives her nuts chasing you, you will always have the upper hand after. 🤣 it works every fucking time.
So guys im 18 and im in my first relationship ever, its beena bout 18 days and i think theres this guy she already is talking to i guess. She talks to this guy all the time and when i ask her she just says theres nothing going on. I dont know what to do its worrying me
I’m new to your channel and I met this female at the VA hospital on my appointment.She is a nurse and was taking my blood pressure-She came off as cordial and warm.We exchanged numbers and hit it off.We’ve been going out for 3 months and I’m now finding out she has a lot of male friends and I’m not one to date women with a lot of guy friends but I thought I’d give it a shot but I just keep getting the feeling that it’s more than she lets on.She says it is more than 25 guys!What is your advice.Oh and we live 45 miles away from each other.
I have a question for you: Do you have any particular advice for guys like me who are currently somewhat home bound after going through a disabling condition? I’ll get out and about soon but just wondering if you have something in particular for us. It’s been difficult.
So ik talking a a girl during this quarentaine and I really like her but idk if shes that into me, how can I get her more interested in me by text, and is it a good idea to ask her out by text during this quarentaine?
Stop worrying too much. Love, respect, value yourself first.
True words
Wira Sanjaya but what if she cheats her bf man
@@AshTheDuke Then he knows who she is, he knows what to do.
Wira Sanjaya I used to worry my ex but she gave shit to me and look down so much. Now I know more about value
Wisdom
Never assume that you are the only guy in her orbit. She's more than likely talking to other guys and you need to be ok with that as you have no control over it. If she chooses someone else over you then you then she's his problem, not yours.
Lmao there’s no assuming a girls talking to other guys she is definitely talking to other guys a girls never talking to 1 guy just not a thing a girls always talking to tons of guys
@@nicka404 That is so not true! Its usually the girl wanting to be your girlfriend that is only talking to one guy(you). Why do you think shes trying to commit(excluding opportunists/goal diggers if you are wealthy)?? The problem is, guys want the girl that is super chill on commitment, sleeps with him fast, and then still never even mentions relationships. This particular type of girl is usually the one that is talking to a slew(or at least a few) guys and likely also sleeping with a few guys which is why she is not worried about commitment(some are just focused on work or goals of course). These comments are so sad how men have it all wrong🤦🤦🏽 Who are yall getting advice from Kermit?? Kermit is green for a reason and it aint cause he's a frog!!🤦🏽🐸
@@Simplythetruthfulone hey what about me i invite a girl for dinner and i took her a expensive place but then a giy came and they talk and later he left and i thought it was a coworker or a friend if hers but she told me just a partner never talk to her again also before asking her for a date i told her if she was single she say yes and now she has sex partner friend with benefits good thing i left also she was a gold digger only come for me for my wealth
Amen
Beta mindset you got
Also if you feel like just another one of a dozen guys she is messaging, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate why you are actually pursuing this woman.
Clicked on this just to type what you typed.
There is no beautiful woman exist that doesnt get pursued by lot of other guys right now whether you like it or not.Competition is crazy
Exactly
First mistake right away, he was probaly texting to much. I know its hard sometimes but you gotta show yur a busy man. Chicks dig it.
I got blocked by being the busy man.
@@sleepyash9577 then she wasnt worth it.
how am i supposed to show her that im busy during quarantine? i literally lay in bed everyday and play csgo
@@jupanu9177 exercise,read a book,learn a language or pick up a hobby. Ex Girl wasn't really paying attention to me and I started working out consistently and started learning a 3rd language and after posting my fitness progress she hit me up. Didn't respond for a day and when I did she waited an hour to hmu. Started texting back and forth and started talking about how I'm studying to be a veterinarian it just peaked her interest more. Don't over text her and don't initiate anything if she stops texting you.
@@ivanrodriguez4754 You're very humble, lol
It's hard to find a girl that isn't on Tinder these days so yeah pretty much every girl is talking to other guys. It's ruined traditional dating.
To be fair, women were talking to multiple men before Tinder existed too. Regardless of how you feel about it, traditional dating died with the invention of birth control pills.
@Dee Bee Not disagreeing with that fact either. Just because a technology is out there does not mean there aren't also people who are to lazy or stupid to use it properly. The Internet is another fantastic example of this.
I'm just pointing out where the culture shift occurred. Pre-marital sex had an entirely different social context when everyone was risking conception when they had it.
Amen. Preach!
@@ryanbarker3978 I don't think you understand the impact social media made in the lives of women when it comes to dating. There is no comparison between the number of choices a woman had in let's say 2001 vs 2020. No comparison.
@@boss4330 I'm not debating that dating apps are a much harder landscape for men to be successful but cold approach is very much still a thing in 2020.
Put yourself at the top of your own list, and she will put you at the top of hers
That's the entire problem with dating....it SHOULDN'T be a competition. Guys shouldn't worry about a chick talking to other guys if she's not your woman yet.
Keep your options open, unless you really like the woman and she's also spending time with you and shows interest. If you feel there's a progress then talk about being exclusive.
dog, get real lmao this is probably the first thing we killed other men over.
Shouldn't, but it does! Women do it in subtle ways! It is women who create the competition among men around her! It is validation to her to have you fight over her! Telling men to stop worrying is the worst advice!
@@georginabrigs1891 hey what about me i ask a girl for a date dinner we knew each other and we went to this expensive place but then a guy came and they talk and then he left and i ask her who is he a friend she told me just a partner never talk to her again she was a waste of time
@@AlejandroP1980s i cant just easily judge her because i dont know the whole story. But how did she react before and after when she saw the guy? What does she mean a partner?
I love the whole concept of seeing myself as a high value guy, that shit is life changing.
Yeah, man!
@Benny Goodman Yeah man thats a really good way to look at it, helps take the pressure off when you actually do go on a date or talk to a new girl. I go in it with the mindset of "what can she do for me?" "will i like her?" instead of "i hope im good enough for her" i wish you luck man you got a special girl on the way for ya
@Benny Goodman Damn right brother! Just gotta keep the faith and take full advantage of any and all opportunities you see to sharpen and hone your skills
Don't care about that, it's not of your business, you don't need her, if she wants you, she will stay in touch and if not, not important.
YOU Don't need her it's completely unimportant,
It's just important that you took action and did your best. That's it.
Regards
Thanks brother thanks
Sheesh
You spoke the truth man!
What if she is managing two guys at the same time one for money and another for love ? By showing the same caring and attention to each of the two . What to do in this kind of situations
“You tried and and that’s all that matters.” My favorite quote.
Guys pls listen me carefully, if any girl gives you this feeling just focus on the another girl and keep her on side or move on , don’t get stuck on the same girl , your comfort zone will kill you , get out off your comfort zone back to field and do what you got to do that’s it
so what... Aquaman retired from DC UNIVERSE..??
Alec Scottfield he’s aquaman brother
@@adex_smith Hydro Man
@@adex_smith Water boy
He looks like that guy from entourage Vincent and Aquaman had a baby
He's not Aquaman.....yet. This is the prequel to Aquaman.
Women really do pick up on the 'abundance mindset' like it's their 6th sense.
Thanks to your videos, not only have I had the luxury of picking and choosing which girls I want to be with, but my first pick actually decided to be exclusive with me because she wanted to 'keep me for herself'.
Work on achieving a true abundance mindset by being the best version of you and everything will fall into place.
Thanks Lloyd, now I have a quarantine partner ✌🏽
Dude this makes me so happy
TheSingleGuy that stokes me out to hear! Have been recommending your vids to others, hope they help them like they helped me.
Julian Uribe woke man
How do I get to that abundance mindset though? I'm 19 still a virgin. I got to working out, now I have a great body and i'm pretty strong also (I get compliments from girls all the time), I am an artist and have opened my own page on instagram which is growing pretty well and I also play and practice my guitar daily. I have lots of great friends. But the thing is - I grind daily towards my goals but I still feel like I have this void inside of me, because I still haven't been in a single relationship. I'm not bad looking either, I constantly get told that i'm a handsome guy by both men and women. I can't seem to find my problem. I go out on dates occasionally throughout the year but most of the time we only get to a second date and nothing more. I am in need of some serious advice.
I could care less what women could pick up on. It is how women use what they sense that is the issue!
Who cares how many she is talking too? You should be doing the same thing with the ladies. The most Important thing is NOT BEING BOTHERED by what she is doing - That gives you value. She is NOT unique and should not be important until you actually start dating or at least spend time together. If you come across as needy she will drop you like a stone. Try NOT texting her and wait to see if she responds. You will soon find out your value. If she doesn't FORGET HER.....
What if you are dating and she still talks to guys and not friends
@@AlejandroP1980s she for the streets
Yes I always do it for happiness
Don't ever never be bothered by what she is doing , that's their chooses , I become cleaner fresher and healthier each single day !
Don't forget her , give women distance and patient , rise my own value more , become all area stable
And here we are, single and trying to beat out our competition with the one of our dreams over phone because of quarantine. What a great time to be in
I've gotten so good at living alone that my attitude with women is that I can take it or leave it. I'll talk to women or message them and if I don't hear from them, I just go about my day. I want them to enter my frame.
Damn perfect timing with this one, needed tips to keep connecting with these corona "pen pals" and stay high on their list
I like how you don't act like every woman is a success for you and you just keep it real. What I've found is that too many guys want everything to be perfect and to magically get whatever woman they want and thats not how it works... you have to play the numbers game and be confident to talk to girls and pick up on cues that they like you or don't like you... thats pretty much it. And have the mindset that if it doesnt work out oh well theres plenty of others out there
You're the prize. That's it. If they don't like what they see it's their loss
The numbers game is about approaching many women and facing plenty of rejection before you finally meet someone worthwhile
@@simon_a.j.7255 ayyee that's the right mindset I need to approach with lmao I'll see how that works out once I actually know how to initiate and carry the convo
If I feel like im being used as an option I bounce, Im nobodies option.
Ain't no lie in that
You are not fool sir
“I bounce” profile pic checks out
now that's the fucking mindset
Yeah I feel like crap too. Have any social media?
Don’t text too much. Better to be Busy and aloof then calling and texting too much. You end up taking about boring shit. Be mysterious.
Um... oops?
Don't be the guy worried about other guys. Focus on you. Don't waste time. Know your values. If she doesn't choose you fine, move on.
Have a deeper connection. Have common goals, interests. Become familiar with each other.
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It's always a numbers game guys. One girl not liking you doesnt make you a failure. There are too many fishes in the sea. Try and try and you will find one. best of luck
You are the legend my guy. Everything was accurate except the part about common goals . In my experience , the girls that I connected with most were the one's where our goals were the same. It really makes it easy , about 80 % familiarity is done right then and there.
My experience: Love yourself first, earn your value and respect from not only her but also from the people around you. Be genuine, be yourself and never come across as fake. Try and bring out the best version of yourself. Women want to be with high valued men who makes her feel comfortable. Lastly, never chase them because you'll only show them that you're needy and desperate and this is a big turn off to women. If you're confident and successful, they'll seek you. Be focused.
Leo Rex yeah bro
Yep bro
As a girl, I'm totally agreed with you...we all have our own values and don't let other people take that away from u.
"If I am ever just an option for you, don't choose me."
There will always be someone with different attributes taller ,richer having more to offer regardless ... It’s just your turn .. realize this and be set free from all the hassle ,games and struggles
Be ready to walk and completely ok with your own love and heart at any point during the relationship.. if she exhibits games ,boredom manipulation or lack of interest for you be ok with walking and whole within while continuing your passions in life.
If she's talking to other guys. Simple. You talk to other girls.
Remember the instinct of monogamy and getting settled with one guy is more prominent in women than men.
Who knows she's just evaluating the best available option. You can do same. Talk to multiple girls. And choose the best one.
Remember attraction is easy and temporary. Deep connection is difficult and long lasting.
Don't care whom she is talking too? The most Important thing is NOT BEING BOTHERED by what she is doing. She is NOT unique or special and should not be important to you until you actually start dating. If you come across as needy she will drop you like a stone. Try NOT texting her and wait to see if she responds. You will soon find out your value. If she doesn't FORGET HER.....
Genuine compliment from a straight man to a straight man, you’re good looking as fuck
Perfect timing I swear
Perfect advice I just came here to make sure. End of the day u just gotta worry about yourself and if the girl rlly fucked with you she will come to you naturally. Never put too much effort when you don’t have to
Bottomline: If the girl is talking to other guys, that means you're only one of her options. Never try to compete in a relationship. It's not a job interview. It's a life long commitment. And you don't wanna be with a girl who treated you just as an option. Sure you can have fun with her for a while on bed but for long term relationship or marriage, only settle with a girl who sees you MORE than just an option out of the list of guys she's talking with.... but I would suggest find a girl who doesn't hangout with guys too much and has more female friends than guy friends.
Just have fun , don't take girls seriously , be ease and go out more to meet more people and girls
Don't think , stop think ...
Change my mindset , I can't control a girl or two girls or three girls
I have girlfriends who have more female friends than male friends in Russia , I miss them so much .
First daily improve myself to become better version of myself , be lone wolf for awhile it can boost my strength
I had recently like a first date with this cute girl, hooked up and then right away I went for two weeks on vacation. going crazy on my mind thinking I might lose her and that she would start talking to other guys in the mean time. She was so perfect to me and if she was like the only girl out there... Started watching this channel which helped me so much dropping that weight of my shoulders. thanks my man
How to beat competition? Just drop them & move on.
Thanks but now I’m facing 10 years for assault charges…..oh u meant just forget about them…..oops👁👄👁
Every woman online with a dating profile has like 100 messages of guys telling her how beautiful she is when shes like a overweight 4 on a good day lol
No fucking way man, this is unreal. I was just into this exact situation lastnight but I never cared about the guys she talking to because I know I am the guy she wants. This is crazy lol
Thanks Lloyd, you always bring top-notch advice on how to deal with dating, women and how not to literally drown yourself in a sea of doubts. The part in which you say, ME, I'm the important part is psychology stuff of the first order else many men can even destroy their lives for a woman they get too attached to.
the point you start worrying is not a good mindset
Competition? This ain't no Disney movie, I'm blocking her.
You have literally change my dating life from seeing your videos! THANK YOU 🙏 for EVERYTHING!!!!
She’ll tell u she loves u and you’ll always b her #1 but we all know it’s 2021 and she’s always gon talk to other guys everytime... work on yourself and go straight to the top, they always come back
Just found your channel. Wish I found it a lot sooner. Thank you for spreading your knowledge and wisdom, feel like topics like these aren’t spoken about enough. Appreciate your channel brother. Keep Prospering.
Anyone who is caring this much about a woman, needs to think about getting their own life in order. Have your own interests and goals and get on with them.
This really came at the right time! Thank you man
I just cant stop watching your videos man. You're good at attracting your subscriber as well
There's a difference between connection and intimacy. Although he uses the word connection he's really talking about intimacy. When you have a conversation that allows you to see each other under the surface it's a done deal.
Yeah with a crying heart you are saying all of this 💔 I see your eyes man,
So I was talking to a girl but she had a boyfriend. But we were texting back and forth a lot eventually she broke up with her boyfriend and I started to have feelings for her, after over 2 months of texting she asked me out and she said that she was in love with me. Now she’s my girlfriend and we’re planning to get married in a few years.
BL3ND Yikes, once a cheater, always a cheater. It was his turn before you Quote: Won her. Someone else’s turn sooner than you think...
Anon Mouse u were right bro
@@BL3ND392 so what happened? Did she go for another guy/cheated on you too?
@@mooji2 oh i actually ended up dumping her cuz she was too clingy
man lloyd bro how do you do it man every video u post man is beautifully the true testimony truth
Women will talk with new guys and if that new guy makes her little bit laugh she will start forgetting you even though you made her laugh for a whole year and sound boring or okay in that period of time because they don’t really care, so just don’t catch feelings for any women and if you have had happened, just try to control because there are more better girls out there, you just need to step out of her world
Impacting an imprint or connection is major gems 💎 & key 🔑 YESSIR‼️
i thought too much conection might lead to "no chemistry"
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Me too.. I thought it would lead to being a friend.. Need clarification on that.. I guess there’s a right balance to maintain to not go there...
Lloyed - please make a video on it 🙂
The difference between becoming a friend and building that relationship connection comes down more to the progress that's being made.....if you meet up with a girl all the time and she likes spending time with you....but your not building " sexual tension " then you and her will become really REALLY great friends....but that's it. She'll be to worried about losing that great connection to make a move ( if she's not a forward type of girl )
Relationships are all about building and maintaining connection, but if you play all of your cards too early or in the wrong way you will blow your chances.
The central idea is that most people place a very high value on trust and believe that it needs to be earned. If you open your life story to a girl you've never met before in the first few interactions, you will come across as a needy, people pleasing doormat. Most people tend not to respect people who are too trusting because they don't have any boundaries. That's why this will likely kill any attraction that existed between you and a girl and leave her looking for an exit strategy. If it doesn't, she probably has boundary issues herself.
The example Lloyd gave in the video is good if you're trying to win a girl you've been talking to over a longer period of time over, but if you want to be the most interesting person in the room to someone you just met in a bar, the secret is still connection, but there's a better way to go about it. The trick that not a lot of guys really understand is that attraction is a very emotional thing for women, and the best way to build it quickly is to get the girl thinking about you when you aren't with her. You can do this by playfully teasing a bit in the first interaction to make intentions clear. Then build rapport and display high value behaviors in a socially intelligent way that show you have passions and drive. Try to escalate from impersonal ("I") to personal ("You") to interpersonal ("We") conversation, gauge reaction, and try to learn about the girl you're talking to and connect with them over a shared interest or topic while you're doing it. Flirt a bit, but don't outright tell a girl you like them. Give them enough to be interested in you and what you're about, but when they think they've got you figured out and start shit testing you, pull away a bit and don't let their evaluations of your neediness get to you because you don't need someone else to make you feel happy or fulfilled. This is the part where most guys screw up and shift control of the man to woman interaction to the girl because they try to fake not being interested. Woman see right through this and if they catch you doing it, they'll generally lose interest. You have to be able to genuinely walk away to pass shit tests. The good news is you will know how you did pretty immediately from her reaction. If it's positive, continue building rapport and leave the interaction on a high note; ideally setting up a meet up if you can otherwise grab their phone number. Do not use the word date.
This is all certainly a learned skill, but push pull like this is incredibly powerful and is how a man can maintain control of the entire man to woman interaction. If you do this well enough, instead of the girl thinking you're just another guy who is interested in her and will chase her like 90% of men she talks to, she'll wonder why you're one of the rarer guys that is socially intelligent, has their shit together, and can be forward/flirt with her but also is perfectly content without her. She'll find herself trying to rationalize if she should chase you, which is exactly what you want as a guy because it's going to build attraction for you in her faster than anything you can say to her directly. That means the next time you reach out, she'll be interested to see how you behave to see if it's all just an act or if you're the real deal. You won't have trouble getting her to the next date, and if you can keep up the behavior up, she'll become more and more comfortable around you and allow you to escalate your relationship with her. Once you've escalated is when building a deep connection in your relationship becomes important to make it last. The powerful feelings of attraction that got you this far are just that, but they're also temporary and do eventually fade over time. If you try to build connection too quickly before she's actually attracted to you, she won't be invested in the interaction because you haven't done anything to make her feel invested.
The most important thing to understand here though is high value guys don't behave in this way because they're trying to manipulate a women into liking them. They behave in this way because it's just the way they naturally act because they have other passions and priorities in their life. They understand and practice self care, always put themselves first, and never put a girl they just met over their family or close friends because it's a low value thing to do. Dating should be maybe your 4th-5th priority in your life and if you build up a deep connection with a long term partner (multiple years) they can maybe move up to 3rd-4th.... 2nd max if you end up married. They also understand that you can do everything right and still sometimes things just don't work out. Rejection is just a part of life but there doesn't always have to be fault behind it. Again, above all, these guys prioritize their happiness first and approach these situations from the outlook of "how well does this woman fit in my life" versus the other way around.
I know this was a long response, but hopefully it helps.
@@ryanbarker3978 those are really good advice! I have made those mistakes before also but I seem to have understand the concept of push and pull (it's a girl testing you to see if you'll chase them) pulling away would result to show that you're not needy and so that to see if the girls really into you I presume
@@-hopaej-4842 Nothing surrounding human behavior is binary or black and white, but yeah, that's the high level idea.
A lady who talk to multiple guys is capable of cheating and sleeping with multiple guys.... Ladies who know what they want, pick a guy immediately and stop talk to any other guys... Only ladies who are capable of cheating needs chats from multiple guys.. know this and give your self peace
The worst feeling ever is being on top of her list en then fall off near the bottom not knowing why
If I’m not her number 1 she’s free to do whatever she wants. But that doesn’t mean I have to be in her life
Man you are chill to watch and also so helpful.
I did exactly as you said. That’s 100% accurate. Worked great. I screw up here n there but on the all truth be told, I go back re correct then works great.
I think that if you want be with someone, be with someone who is unique for you and familiar to you (not exacly 100 percent).
If you are dating it’s fine. Just be the best version of yourself and she’ll pick you, if not that’s part of the dating scene. It’s only when you get into an actual relationship is when it stops, if it doesn’t then, well you got a whole other set of issues. Most good women and men won’t entertain orbiters while in a relationship, this day and age though you need to keep your eyes open. Trust but understand we are in 2024, it’s wild out here.
Mine is talking to other guy in tiktok for youtube video content they are live while talking its like a PRANK CALL... is it okay or should i stop her from doing that? Hope someone answer... appreciate alot im really need advice for this one
She's not worth it if you need to compete for her.
You remind me of a guy I used to be friends with, he had hella game but didn't like talking about it cuz he was very natural.
Well that story sure gives me hope.
Oh my even in the profession she was in she was still a truly genuine person who is like everyone looking for a true person cause we can't live this life forever It will get tiring and want someone you don't have to analyze but all already know.
In the center of a global pandemic, text games etc least of my worries. Girl i was chatting to was all over me, i asked if she was ok (after we went into lockdown) immediately started acting cold. So i then told her “are you for real? Got no time for this, message me when youve grown up.” Shes apologized since but ive given her little to no attention. My point being lay the boundaries early on. Soon as she acts like an idiot, call her out on it and ghost
It's a horrible feeling. Worrying constantly. It makes one feel if she was talking to another guy, why doesn't she just admit it. How can you really trust another person until you've got to know them so much better.
So humans shouldn’t communicate with one another?
I used to rush and want to get iton a relationship with women before connection,familiarity and common goals...sadly I failed terribly
First time seeing your channel, it really helped man thanks
"cause she was actually a stripper" 😂
I'm currently in this situation. Constantly chatting this girl at work. This bad thing is, it's very obviois that she is already sick of me over chatting. Basically she just pretty much lost interest because she really doesn't care about me. It's just that it is very challenging for me to not talk to her. I always watch these kind of videos about being a high value man, but with her I'm unconciously becoming this needy beta that keeps chasing her. I hate this feeling and I'm currently working on it. Hope i could get over her soon.
you probably already solved this but you got to find a path for you and only you.
"people that I'm dating" (how many?) What a champ
run if you find yourself in situation like. this a old game and not worth playing. no women worth your time and save yourself headache. women play that game to see which guy is willing to spend more money on them so they can get more free stuff. which one is better, working your ass off, or getting free stuff from nowhere?? if i was a woman i would the same too. free stuff always feel good.
Stop worrying about what she’s doing! Focus on yourself and she isn’t with that or trying to help you, keep it moving.
Bro you're a legend🥵🥵
- So what are your goals in life?
- Well, I'm currently a stripper but I want to be rich and travel the world.
- Nice. Europe would be great, so I definitely want to travel too.
- Let's hook up
Just like that?
Lol.
Strippers make much more money than in their own countries , ladies ! Now I started to becoming male stripper !
Спорт это сила 👌💪
i fw your content bro you real and don’t sugarcoat nothing best way keep it up my guy 🤟🏽💯
6:54 say what dude?
Very Interesting psychological facts you r giving in understanding people..Thx
Let me tell you that living your life where you're constantly worried if the girl you're talking to or the girl you're dating is talking to other guys is certainly no way of living your life!
Me who had this stupid, weak worry every time and with every girl I talked with🤦🏻♂️😐: Tell me about it! 😂😂
Damn man, doing your best to have abundance and loving yourself will do the trick! Only to know that there is no trick and the only way to have peace is by loving yourself so much to constantly need to study, train, exercise, hit the gym, approach women, have fun with friends and with girls... Just to love and live your life!
My best voice to you is if she's talking about other guys dropper go on to the next level that's it
I needed to hear this, thank you
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I need some help. Basically, there’s this girl that I really like. I know her pretty well from school and she was at a party with me the other day. We bumped into eachother and got on really well. We made out multiple times at the party and it went great (as if things would continue). Anyway we continued speaking but then a few days later I found out about this other guy who she’d been on and off talking to for months (only over text but haven’t actually met in person). Apparently she said to him that it was just a one off thing at a party, but it felt like more than that and she still seems interested. I really want to pursue things with her, but I’m not sure what to do now. Any help?
Bro where’d you get that shirt it looks pretty cool.
I agree, looks nice
Hey man i like the way you talk.... sweet, you do have that value
Helps a lot. Honestly, it sounds like I've been doing what I need to do by being myself and following my instincts. Still a little worried but maybe I should get over it. A month ago, she said she wasn't ready to date because of her abusive ex, which is fair. We made a deal to revisit the subject a month from then (which is in a few days). Have I screwed up? Should I stay friends with her just to see what happens?
Why do guys get so attached to a girl they've never even had sex with? Of course she's talking to other guys. You never even met. Did you really think she was saving herself for you.
But what if you are dating her
Dude where can I buy the shirt you have on this video? :D Awesome stuff thanks for the great advice.
You shouldn't need to fight for your position , if you know your loyal and she's playing games don't take any shit
Thank you bro, you helped with alot !
Always remember guys-you don’t own that girl
Ive been seeing this girl and hooking up for about 6months almost every day. She said she's only sleeping with me but lately this past lover from years ago that she said cheated her has been reaching out. She tells me she not going down that road again. And I respond "then why entrain it" it eventually started a fight and she pulled the "your not my bf card" yet she basically acts like my girl anywhere we go. Since this guy has been msging her I have felt that disconnect from her regardless of what she said. I like her but now I feel like I have to pull away as much as it hurt me. What should I do?
talk to other women, realize your worth, and process the anxiety that comes along with that kind of abandonment or competition. Hobbies, friends, and taking care of yourself to cope with that stress and value yourself.
In general you have to focus on people who say yes to you. With others you don't need to waste your time respectively you can spend the resulting time (if you stop hanging out with "friends"...) with people who definetly say yes to you (and you to them too).
If she’s talking to other guys then bin her off, your worth more, respect yourself and find someone that respects you, show her what’s she’s missing out on!
Really good advice. Thank you. 💛
I follow 1 week rule...give her full attention for 1 week and then completely pull away and text her like you don't know her. Drives her nuts chasing you, you will always have the upper hand after. 🤣 it works every fucking time.
So guys im 18 and im in my first relationship ever, its beena bout 18 days and i think theres this guy she already is talking to i guess. She talks to this guy all the time and when i ask her she just says theres nothing going on. I dont know what to do its worrying me
I’m new to your channel and I met this female at the VA hospital on my appointment.She is a nurse and was taking my blood pressure-She came off as cordial and warm.We exchanged numbers and hit it off.We’ve been going out for 3 months and I’m now finding out she has a lot of male friends and I’m not one to date women with a lot of guy friends but I thought I’d give it a shot but I just keep getting the feeling that it’s more than she lets on.She says it is more than 25 guys!What is your advice.Oh and we live 45 miles away from each other.
If shes talking to other guys i dont want to deal with it, too much stress
Start the morning since morning 6 , and do daily exercise
I have a question for you: Do you have any particular advice for guys like me who are currently somewhat home bound after going through a disabling condition? I’ll get out and about soon but just wondering if you have something in particular for us. It’s been difficult.
So ik talking a a girl during this quarentaine and I really like her but idk if shes that into me, how can I get her more interested in me by text, and is it a good idea to ask her out by text during this quarentaine?